The best career advice that I learned is don’t ever attach your-self to a PERSON, a place, a company, an organization or a project. Only Attach your-self to your mission in life and your PURPOSE. That’s how you keep your power and keep your peace!
100% i feel like i am my own brand/product i have to promote and i have seen people attached to a company work long hours weekends then the so called company which would take them on holiday and be nice late gives them the chop. No loyalty. Unless you running the comp. Even when people expect things from you or you have obligations i know what i gotta do and i put that ahead. Always.
I had this problem for years. I finally realized that all my friends were losers and they were holding me back. So I stopped taking their calls, stopped accepting invitations, stopped hanging out with them at all. I had no friends for a while, but eventually my life improved.
I just got your book, about halfway through it. I'm 6'3" and have been lucky to look way younger than my age. At 58 people guess my age at 40 so I've always had hot women, last girl I dated was 25. My problem is that my focus has always been women and not myself. I'm in the process of changing that. I quit my lame job and starting back up with Masonry, basically doubled my income for starters. I have a piece of property that I'm building my own house on that I'll either rent or sell. Rambling a bit here but I'm fed up with myself and plan on spending what precious time I have left on this planet working on myself and learning from men like you. I'm a hard worker but not a smart one. My plan was always build a house, sell it, and do it again. Having the Blue Pill mentality my whole life a woman owns the last one I built! I've wasted a lot of years but I'm done. Thanks for your videos helping men wake the Hell up!
To the guy that called in, if she turns up again get some video evidence of her being there then start your audio recorder and keep it in your pocket and tell her to never come back. This will give you evidence if she ever starts making up shit about you which unfortunately does happen.
Loved your book Rich. Left a review and I'm certain it's gonna be a constant on my reading list. I'm also looking into the other books you recommended. Thank you.
A man must unfuck his mindset at a certain point. By 30 or 40, you know right from wrong. You’ve got to have some trust, faith - whatever you wanna call it - in that fact, and take a plunge. You must live intuitively.
The anchors vs sails analogy is probably the advice from you that I dispense the most to my friends...also joined a Jiu Jitsu Gym today and got rocked for 2 hours...so worth it. Thank you for Rich for your content.
In essence, quit playing little games. If you need to cut people off just do it. Be direct in your approach so you aren't wasting your time and thoughts on what isn't serving you and your pursuits.
keep a record of your text messages and emails all the time. Force them to text message you rather than calling you. Always force them to leave a paper trail.
I left a group of anchors over a decade ago now and have been working a high pay job for about the same amount of time. One of the anchors decided to spill whatever dirt he could to my boss like 8 years after I ever talked to the anchor. My boss hints at it one day like he knows more about my past, but kinda beat around the bush. I know exactly who told him what. It's the very definition of an anchor, something you left years ago and is still trying to bring you back down.
What if those anchors are your own family, and you financially support them such that if you leave the chance of them becoming homeless is basically guaranteed?
Tell them you can't support them all their life. They gotta step up. If they don't then it is what it is. Some people gotta experience things before they understand. You can only help them so much. Past a certain point, they gotta do it for themselves. If they won't help themselves, why would you?
Whilst your support sounds noble, you should be wary you’re not being taken advantage of, family or not. Is there any reason why they couldn’t be bread winners themselves? Excluding bone idle laziness as that’s a choice on their part.
@@pittrollmosh7572 Extremely high rent area. I dropped out of college and took on whatever job paid the most, no matter how soul-sucking, so we could put my older brother through medical school. He's been trying to make a living as an independent clinic since graduating (It's been about 5 years). My younger is studying to become a nurse and hasn't graduated yet. Parents are not independent either, as they don't earn enough to make rent. That's the frustrating part, they could do more, but they're not doing so little as to make it more worth it to move out on my own, but while I'm here supporting everyone I feel everyone could afford to work a little harder, as I pay at least 40% of the expenses every month, which between 5 people is at least double my fair share. I guess at the tail end of it I just don't feel appreciated and I feel like my sacrifices are invisible and taken for granted. And I definitely don't want to be the one person they can place all the blame on for things not working their way, as my leaving could give them an excuse that I "swept the rug" out from under them right before their big breakthrough or something. If I leave my younger sibling will likely have to drop out. My older brother might have to move cities and start all over, and my parents might have to leave the country, in which case it's likely I'll literally never see them again.
@@bigtimbolim Holy shit dude. Again, there’s no denying how noble your support is for your family. Put in a similar position, many of us would likely do the same thing. However, when I read between the lines of your reply there’s already a little resentment beginning to build because you’re having to work jobs you hate and for the financial strain which is no doubt hindering some of your ambitions. That’s very toxic and will be taking a toll on your mental health. At the very least I would be having a conversation with all the family members concerned and trying get them to agree to a time table where they no longer require your support. You’re not just cutting them off in an instant, pulling the rug out as you put it, explain that you’ll give them assistance during this period, be it helping find alternative accommodation, helping them relocate (Can cheaper rent be found?) They should also start liaising with their own circles of friends, ideally not for financial support but for other forms of assistance. Are there no relevant government agencies or other organisations you can talk to? Bottom line is, they need to appreciate your support was never meant to be a forever deal. If they want what’s best for you they should understand.
I had a stalker GF that i put a restraint order on her. The police would show up and she would sweet talk her way out of it and make the police think they were going to get lucky with her. this went on for a year she even slashed the tires on my jeep and got away with it because a beautiful girl could never do such harm the policeman said quote "if you give me anymore trouble i'm talking you to jail" i even had to move across town she finally got bored and went away
@02:06 You have three females so you say, 1 starts to stalk you, because either you where not very clear to her that you are not interested in any kind of relationship. (I remind you: If you think this was the other way around don’t fool yourself, you would be in a cop car.) If you break any sort of relationship up, make it very clear you are not in for any continuation anymore(to reason is let the other person speak up as well, and as you might end up repeating yourself that you are serious in no continuation), this is the righteous way to do it. I personally do not promote guys to date more than 1 woman, stay serial monogamous is the easiest way of life. No lies no games no nothing. It keeps you focus hardcore on your job into your well being. It’s more gratifying but if you want to stir up more crap in your life fold your time around more women, you will end up doing yourself short and the one you’re spending any time with regardless of any outcome.
to deal with these type of woman, best is to become undesireable i.e: Talk to her about politics, race, religion. Play dumb and throw radical ideas into conversation. Play victim that life is unfair to you, having depression , getting lost. The idea is to make her loose interest in you.
She could be BPD, rum from her, sounds good but will destroy you, was with one for 4 years, only 3 years after i left her i realized what happen to me and that she has BPD, still wish her the best.
It's funny when people don't understand their unconscious thoughts are actually displayed hardcore on TH-cam, the contempt does not hit any pay dirt (Pay attention by asking the right Questions) it does not popup just like that. The various more effective ways to play is have options, if you’re really that smartest guy in the room none of this would be applicable. "The smartest guy in the room would not be in a room with a bunch of stuck individuals, he would have to leave the room because he WOULDN'T have made another bad choice!" If you’re a really really smart guy, you do not write books with smart attempts and overlook there is ton's of better ideas out there because that’s what smart guys keep track off, otherwise said, with the best communicative person in that same room at your availability, would you probably have that righteous capability of understanding each other for even 20% of anyone’s given time. And are they even able to tell the story afterwards. So many things are even happening without people knowing, what is really going on as realistic as it seems. You cannot keep up with the information nowadays, that’s how insane fast it’s goes, but it’s not a riddle, it’s when you need yourself to step in to take control, there is always another option available. Smart people aren’t limited, their only limit exists because they know, that they know less.
This dude is lost. Keep them as friends just dont spend time with them. Jeesus..and this dude must be over 30. Stop asking stupid advise.. you a grown man
The best career advice that I learned is don’t ever attach your-self to a PERSON, a place, a company, an organization or a project. Only Attach your-self to your mission in life and your PURPOSE. That’s how you keep your power and keep your peace!
100% i feel like i am my own brand/product i have to promote and i have seen people attached to a company work long hours weekends then the so called company which would take them on holiday and be nice late gives them the chop. No loyalty. Unless you running the comp.
Even when people expect things from you or you have obligations i know what i gotta do and i put that ahead. Always.
I learned that shit from Robert DeNiro in Heat.
@@Aldo7899 why are all the goodies in the 90's
@@Aldo7899 oh man I just rewatched Heat recently...freakin fantastic film!! 👍🏻👍🏻
I agree except for blood related family
Personally I select my friends based on loyalty. A friend who has your back goes a long way
True. I don't care if this person is hella successful and kills it with the women. If your gut tells you something is off, listen to it and move on.
A loyal Delta male is a better friend than a flaky Alpha male.
According to the picture the anchor has his back
just slowly stop talking to them as much
Don't know what that means!!!!!
Women love & hate simultaneously being placed low on the priority list.
Done it myself….no drama, just quietly create some distance. Don’t be available
Your channel is a savior for young men, Just turned 30 and your knowledge is invaluable man !
I had this problem for years. I finally realized that all my friends were losers and they were holding me back. So I stopped taking their calls, stopped accepting invitations, stopped hanging out with them at all. I had no friends for a while, but eventually my life improved.
I see what Rich is saying here. You need to be resolute in life. You can't afford to be scared of making decisions.
I just got your book, about halfway through it. I'm 6'3" and have been lucky to look way younger than my age. At 58 people guess my age at 40 so I've always had hot women, last girl I dated was 25.
My problem is that my focus has always been women and not myself.
I'm in the process of changing that.
I quit my lame job and starting back up with Masonry, basically doubled my income for starters. I have a piece of property that I'm building my own house on that I'll either rent or sell.
Rambling a bit here but I'm fed up with myself and plan on spending what precious time I have left on this planet working on myself and learning from men like you.
I'm a hard worker but not a smart one. My plan was always build a house, sell it, and do it again. Having the Blue Pill mentality my whole life a woman owns the last one I built!
I've wasted a lot of years but I'm done.
Thanks for your videos helping men wake the Hell up!
Here's me at 31 in a similar position. You're an inspiration dude. Good luck!
Brother ... I'm 50 ... ditto ...
(Note to self) Don’t waste time with losers.
To the guy that called in, if she turns up again get some video evidence of her being there then start your audio recorder and keep it in your pocket and tell her to never come back. This will give you evidence if she ever starts making up shit about you which unfortunately does happen.
Loved your book Rich. Left a review and I'm certain it's gonna be a constant on my reading list. I'm also looking into the other books you recommended. Thank you.
A man must unfuck his mindset at a certain point. By 30 or 40, you know right from wrong. You’ve got to have some trust, faith - whatever you wanna call it - in that fact, and take a plunge. You must live intuitively.
The anchors vs sails analogy is probably the advice from you that I dispense the most to my friends...also joined a Jiu Jitsu Gym today and got rocked for 2 hours...so worth it. Thank you for Rich for your content.
This was just a 4 min humble brag. And you can hear it in the tone of his voice.
Solid advice i needed to hear today as I again spiral into feckless drama. Thanks Rich.
Great video mate...
In essence, quit playing little games. If you need to cut people off just do it. Be direct in your approach so you aren't wasting your time and thoughts on what isn't serving you and your pursuits.
Love your channel man. It has helped me so much in life
One thing to add - as the bloke, video evidence can be very handy...
keep a record of your text messages and emails all the time. Force them to text message you rather than calling you. Always force them to leave a paper trail.
Yeah. Not a lot of ambition in the bar scene.
I Never miss my reality fix from Richard videos
I left a group of anchors over a decade ago now and have been working a high pay job for about the same amount of time. One of the anchors decided to spill whatever dirt he could to my boss like 8 years after I ever talked to the anchor. My boss hints at it one day like he knows more about my past, but kinda beat around the bush. I know exactly who told him what. It's the very definition of an anchor, something you left years ago and is still trying to bring you back down.
What if those anchors are your own family, and you financially support them such that if you leave the chance of them becoming homeless is basically guaranteed?
Tell them you can't support them all their life. They gotta step up. If they don't then it is what it is. Some people gotta experience things before they understand. You can only help them so much. Past a certain point, they gotta do it for themselves.
If they won't help themselves, why would you?
@@EjaeA Soild advice. Some people will just keep taking and never give anything back in return. They need to be cut off, permanently. Family or not.
Whilst your support sounds noble, you should be wary you’re not being taken advantage of, family or not. Is there any reason why they couldn’t be bread winners themselves? Excluding bone idle laziness as that’s a choice on their part.
@@pittrollmosh7572 Extremely high rent area. I dropped out of college and took on whatever job paid the most, no matter how soul-sucking, so we could put my older brother through medical school. He's been trying to make a living as an independent clinic since graduating (It's been about 5 years). My younger is studying to become a nurse and hasn't graduated yet. Parents are not independent either, as they don't earn enough to make rent.
That's the frustrating part, they could do more, but they're not doing so little as to make it more worth it to move out on my own, but while I'm here supporting everyone I feel everyone could afford to work a little harder, as I pay at least 40% of the expenses every month, which between 5 people is at least double my fair share.
I guess at the tail end of it I just don't feel appreciated and I feel like my sacrifices are invisible and taken for granted.
And I definitely don't want to be the one person they can place all the blame on for things not working their way, as my leaving could give them an excuse that I "swept the rug" out from under them right before their big breakthrough or something. If I leave my younger sibling will likely have to drop out. My older brother might have to move cities and start all over, and my parents might have to leave the country, in which case it's likely I'll literally never see them again.
@@bigtimbolim Holy shit dude. Again, there’s no denying how noble your support is for your family. Put in a similar position, many of us would likely do the same thing. However, when I read between the lines of your reply there’s already a little resentment beginning to build because you’re having to work jobs you hate and for the financial strain which is no doubt hindering some of your ambitions.
That’s very toxic and will be taking a toll on your mental health. At the very least I would be having a conversation with all the family members concerned and trying get them to agree to a time table where they no longer require your support. You’re not just cutting them off in an instant, pulling the rug out as you put it, explain that you’ll give them assistance during this period, be it helping find alternative accommodation, helping them relocate (Can cheaper rent be found?) They should also start liaising with their own circles of friends, ideally not for financial support but for other forms of assistance.
Are there no relevant government agencies or other organisations you can talk to?
Bottom line is, they need to appreciate your support was never meant to be a forever deal. If they want what’s best for you they should understand.
BabyReindeer on Netflix comes to mind😂😂😂😂
After watching your few video
In one way you make sense
So in this case im gonna buy your book
Well Said- 🌹
Lost it on "They will do weird shit to you dude" 💀
I had a stalker GF that i put a restraint order on her. The police would show up and she would sweet talk her way out of it and make the police think they were going to get lucky with her. this went on for a year she even slashed the tires on my jeep and got away with it because a beautiful girl could never do such harm the policeman said quote "if you give me anymore trouble i'm talking you to jail" i even had to move across town she finally got bored and went away
What a weird ass flex
I like being the smartest guy in the room. Then I'm in control of the variables
Yea OK....but then you don't learn anything.....
Excellent! 💪🏻
There’s anchors and sails
@02:06 You have three females so you say, 1 starts to stalk you, because either you where not very clear to her that you are not interested in any kind of relationship. (I remind you: If you think this was the other way around don’t fool yourself, you would be in a cop car.) If you break any sort of relationship up, make it very clear you are not in for any continuation anymore(to reason is let the other person speak up as well, and as you might end up repeating yourself that you are serious in no continuation), this is the righteous way to do it. I personally do not promote guys to date more than 1 woman, stay serial monogamous is the easiest way of life. No lies no games no nothing. It keeps you focus hardcore on your job into your well being. It’s more gratifying but if you want to stir up more crap in your life fold your time around more women, you will end up doing yourself short and the one you’re spending any time with regardless of any outcome.
to deal with these type of woman, best is to become undesireable i.e:
Talk to her about politics, race, religion. Play dumb and throw radical ideas into conversation. Play victim that life is unfair to you, having depression , getting lost. The idea is to make her loose interest in you.
my first dislike was me haha :)) great video rich
I bet she's a Scorpio. I had a stalker
Lol don’t bring up astrology in serious conversation.
@@jackbauer580 I'll do what I want, mate.
She could be BPD, rum from her, sounds good but will destroy you, was with one for 4 years, only 3 years after i left her i realized what happen to me and that she has BPD, still wish her the best.
why tell them at all? never explain never complain
It's funny when people don't understand their unconscious thoughts are actually displayed hardcore on TH-cam, the contempt does not hit any pay dirt (Pay attention by asking the right Questions) it does not popup just like that.
The various more effective ways to play is have options, if you’re really that smartest guy in the room none of this would be applicable.
"The smartest guy in the room would not be in a room with a bunch of stuck individuals, he would have to leave the room because he WOULDN'T have made another bad choice!"
If you’re a really really smart guy, you do not write books with smart attempts and overlook there is ton's of better ideas out there because that’s what smart guys keep track off, otherwise said, with the best communicative person in that same room at your availability, would you probably have that righteous capability of understanding each other for even 20% of anyone’s given time. And are they even able to tell the story afterwards.
So many things are even happening without people knowing, what is really going on as realistic as it seems.
You cannot keep up with the information nowadays, that’s how insane fast it’s goes, but it’s not a riddle, it’s when you need yourself to step in to take control, there is always another option available.
Smart people aren’t limited, their only limit exists because they know, that they know less.
If you find your the smartest guy in your group, time to find a new group, nothing against your old group, but you can't learn and grow from them
Investing is how you create wealth,I started investing from pandemic crash 👍
Most intelligent words I've heard.
Crypto is the new gold
I wanted to trade Crypto but got discouraged by the fluctuations in price
I heard that his strategies are really good
@@borton7746 Yeah, My first investment with Mr Jordan Hill. earned me profit of over $25,530 US dollars, and ever since then he has been delivering
He's got 3 girls but doesn't know how to get rid of one. Sounds like BS.
Not really. I had 4 girls and I had a hard time getting rid of them to enter a relationship with one. It was a hell.
It does happen.
I was just about to say this
Like how the fuck ? In what world does he live ?
Daniel B. Simp
Good luck, I hope you follow his advice so you can be Daniel B. Man now.
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No common sense? Why do you ask why should you do if she shows up at your door? 🤦♂️
like, like, like
This dude is lost. Keep them as friends just dont spend time with them. Jeesus..and this dude must be over 30. Stop asking stupid advise.. you a grown man
Not hating but this guy sounds like he is too scared to tell people to move on. Grow some balls and be decisive.