TELLING MY FRIENDS & FAMILY I HAD A BABY | teen mom story time

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  • @aliesefitch1099
    @aliesefitch1099 2 ปีที่แล้ว +850

    After seeing quite a few comments saying she should've told her boyfriend earlier, I must say I'm shocked at how judgemental you all are. She couldn't just say "hey I'm in labor". She had to say "hey I just found out I'm pregnant, I'm actually 40 weeks pregnant, and I'm actually having the baby right now." Proper communication is impossible when you're in labor without medication. It is painful and traumatic for anyone, LET ALONE someone dealing with the trauma of finding out you're pregnant and pushing the baby out in the same moment. Her only obligation was to focus on having her baby. After she had her, she was exhausted, recovering, accepting the shocking news, and had crazy hormones. It was absolutely her right to take as much time as she needed before telling anyone anything about it, even her boyfriend and/or the baby's father. All a new mother needs to do is rest and be with baby

    • @Jac-Jay
      @Jac-Jay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      While I agree with the effects of medication, exhaustion etc,I do think he deserved to know right away,he most likely would have wanted to be there especially that their daughter was so sick..her parents could have called him and called his parents also.its something he's missed out on through no fault of his own.

    • @powers6253
      @powers6253 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@Jac-Jay maybe in an ideal /perfect world but this situation sounds like it was just a whirlwind of surprises and uncertainty and the more people in the room she'shaving to communicate with while having had no preparation for what was going on, the harder it all would probably have been. Plus maybe he would have gotten really stressed out and maybe his reaction would have brought more stress for her. In such a surprising situation, she did an excellent job managing it all. I do see your point, though.

    • @naomipower9166
      @naomipower9166 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@Jac-Jay ohhh give over. This poor kid had to actually get her head around everything that has just happened to her. So lovely that she had a very loving supportive family. She needed a moment to just breathe. Be kind and understanding. If this was my daughter,I only hope myself and our fantastic family did and acted like hers. I’m actually very impressed.

    • @Jac-Jay
      @Jac-Jay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@naomipower9166 Calm down there,I wasn't questioning how good her family was one bit but he's the father of her child,he's the first person that should have told even before her mum,people are always quick to knock fathers not being around and here's a young guy deprived of seeing his daughter being born because his girlfriend didn't want to disturb him from work,in what world is that right?and yes I have given birth 3 times so I know how difficult it is and how our minds play tricks before you start mouthing off about that.

    • @Jac-Jay
      @Jac-Jay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@powers6253 She had time and energy to think he was in work,then to think she need not disturb him,then to think she would wait another day,her dad called her mum,then her siblings, surely the child's dad should have been top of the list,just my opinion and its all worked out for them so that's most important.

  • @susanlassiter6494
    @susanlassiter6494 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I know this is a year later but you are the sweetest girl. Your daughter is blessed to have you as her mommy.

  • @reneeca5696
    @reneeca5696 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    You have such a soft and tender disposition. How kind and beautiful your decision was to protect your boyfriend from such shocking news! It’s so wonderful that you and Graycen are surrounded by love.💕

  • @AerinK97
    @AerinK97 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I actually think you did the right thing by being so considerate about when to tell people, especially your boyfriend. People might disagree but as you mentioned, during covid they couldn't have been around for those first days. You strike me as a wonderful person but you also have a very mature approach. So happy for you that everyone was positive!

  • @KAStodgell
    @KAStodgell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    I love your non drama choice in telling the world. I am glad you are doing a TH-cam video. Support is so important. Sounds like the LOVE part is huge.

  • @whitneylivingston5706
    @whitneylivingston5706 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It’s remarkable how differently pregnancy effects people. It’s clear that you have so many people who you are close with and they were all with you right up until the birth and none of them could tell and were shocked. I am so happy you had such a large support system. Most people have months to prepare and tell folks, you handled the entire situation so maturely. Your little girl is so lucky to have such a strong momma!

  • @Angie-jg4nz
    @Angie-jg4nz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Your parents, boyfriend, friends, are the BEST!!!! Especially your dad, jumping in, under pressure and shock, I’m sure but still able to be that strong dad for you and making you at ease. You can’t get a better dad than that🥰

  • @shanynrobbins1943
    @shanynrobbins1943 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am completely blown away by this story! You are such a joy to watch and listen to. Your baby is beautiful, and you are going to be a wonderful mom. Always follow those mommy instincts no matter what the world tells you! ❤

  • @apriltownsend8463
    @apriltownsend8463 2 ปีที่แล้ว +243

    I'm so glad Nathan took the news of being a young father so well. Not many college-aged men would take well to the news that their girlfriend was pregnant much less the news that the baby was already here. You are one lucky girl.

    • @jenaaaay3150
      @jenaaaay3150 2 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      I am confused because she says "boyfriend"....but she does not specifically say he is the father of the baby.

    • @lko5434
      @lko5434 2 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Me too.. Is he the father?

    • @d0omslug
      @d0omslug 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      She makes it pretty clear. She says something like “Yes, I’m still with my boyfriend” or something like that

    • @user-mp4zs2by9m
      @user-mp4zs2by9m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      He’s the lucky guy to have such a lovely young woman in his life & a precious baby girl. She was so sensitive to his needs, delaying telling him until what would be the best time for him. Lots of goodness in both of them. 💖

    • @xorayne_
      @xorayne_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@jenaaaay3150 I’m confused why you wouldn’t assume the bf is the dad lol that’s literally common sense

  • @9384cows
    @9384cows 2 ปีที่แล้ว +159

    I am so, so happy that you have so much love and support from your family and friends. When I got pregnant and had my daughter 50 years ago things were so much different. It was a very difficult time for me and I had very little support and love from my family, especially my mother. She held it against me until her death 2 years ago. People were very mean. I was pressured to give up my daughter for adoption which I refused to do. (I was 20) It took me over a year just to find a job to support us and I was advised by a head hunter to say that my husband died in Vietnam instead of the truth. My "fiance" left us before she was born and I later found out he was seeing 4 other girls. ( We were High School Sweethearts. I thought) (After 25 years of having nothing to do with my daughter she connected with him and they have a relationship now.) I was treated like I had some horrible disease or committed a crime. It was very hard. But I held my head high and I raised my daughter and she is now almost 52. I kept most of the awful things people said about us away from her because I never, ever wanted her to feel unwanted and unloved. I wish you the very best. And please tell your parents Thank You.

    • @merveceren97
      @merveceren97 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Wow I have tears on my eyes reading your comment 😢 You are such an amazing mother! Maybe I wouldnt be able to do it like you handled the situation 👏🏼👏🏼 Women are so strong. And I think now is a better time for those type of things I guess. But to be honest I live in middle east and here that would still be a big problem for me :( we are still so closed minded

    • @lorib4516
      @lorib4516 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh Sharon....my heart hurts for what you had to endure. I remember those times and am so happy that the stigma of an unwed pregnancy has changed. My friend had to leave her Senior year in high school in 1976 because they wouldn't allow pregnant students in high school.

    • @carinawessels7232
      @carinawessels7232 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So glad times have changed. Sorry for all you’ve been through. I don’t know you, but I am proud of you.

    • @jojoply
      @jojoply 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My sister got pregnant out of wedlock. My dad beat her, they told her she had ruined her life…my mom became a grandmother at 34. My niece called my parents ma and daddy.

    • @9384cows
      @9384cows 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Joy Plyler and Co
      I'm so sorry your sister was treated so badly. I was beat too but by my mother. She told me that I "ruined" her life and treated me like I had committed murder for the next 50 years. She did some pretty awful things to me and always said very hurtful things to me always out of earshot of others. She was a very cruel, nasty, mean woman. Just because I had a baby. Funny thing, 3 of my siblings also had babies out of wedlock and she didn't treat them as horrible. When she died I mourned the mother I should have had. She made my life very difficult by telling lies about me and even deliberately told my daughter lies to cause trouble. But she went to church every Sunday pretending to be a Good Christian. Not even close!
      I really hope your father apologized to your sister and supported her when she had her baby and loved his precious granddaughter.

  • @theahartley6885
    @theahartley6885 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Q&A question: how long have you and your boyfriend been together? I'm so happy for your family and I think it's awesome that you're telling your story !

  • @madisonlarue2343
    @madisonlarue2343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Questions!! :))
    Is your bf the father of the baby?
    Do y'all plan to stay together?
    Could we see more pictures of when you were pregnant?
    During your pregnancy since you didn't know did you do anything that could harm the baby? Drink alcohol etc. And if so did they affect her in anyway?
    You didn't feel her moving at all?
    Do you still live in your parents house or do you have your own place?
    Did you switch colleges?
    I mean no judgement in any of these questions!! I'm just genuinely curious! You and your daughter are so precious!! 🥰🥰🥰

    • @Sasssskkk56
      @Sasssskkk56 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’d love for these questions to be answered as well 😁

  • @Meant2BCrowneD
    @Meant2BCrowneD 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Its crazy to think you can be walking around with a baby inside you and not know it! It definitely happens. There are many stories of it happening. You are so blessed to have such a large support system! I pray you and your family continue to be blessed!

    • @geoffcaflisch1352
      @geoffcaflisch1352 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She did hang symptoms and said that. I think that there may have been some denial.

  • @jennifermaley9589
    @jennifermaley9589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    I'm so thankful to hear how supportive everyone was! I'm also thankful to hear you and your boyfriend are together! I can't believe how tiny you are and how you truly did NOT look pregnant! That's absolutely crazy! Congratulations again!

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Baby was probably back towards her spine which can happen in some pregnancies :) they're very obscured so they're easy to miss lol. I'd like to learn more about Harmony and why she never had periods!!!

  • @Marshlilly
    @Marshlilly ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I became a Mom unexpectedly in College also. I commend you and your family for the way you all handled it. It's impossibly hard to understand the range of emotions you feel when this happens to you. I did know I was pregnant, and was upfront w my friends, family, and his Father, BUT I did not get the support you recieved. Most of my family did not support me, I was told I would be fat and ugly after I had this baby and no man would ever want me. My Mom tried to force me to have an abortion even later into the pregnancy. The Father of the child began seeing someone else and never wanted him, which he has since told my Son. I moved in with my Dad and his wife shortly after giving birth bc of the day situation w my Mom. My Dad was one of few people excited. I lost a lot of college friends who just ghosted me. My siblings were nice but never came to meet him... Writing this I feel like it sounds like I came from a trashy background. But thats not the case actually. We are an upper middle class family. My Mom is a lawyer, My father was a Director for over 30 years of a foundation. We are regular white middle class people. That didn't stop the hate towards me. At the time I felt I deserved it for becoming pregnant. I recently turned 40, my son is now 17. I lived with shame and feeling less than for years because of my choice to have him outside of marriage. Despite all of this he has always been the best thing to ever happen to me. We are very close. I love him completely and endlessly. I would never change it even if I could and I used to feel guilty for that too. Like I did something bad to other people for chosing life. Still, I see now it wasn't right what happened to me. I am do happy your experience was filled with love and support. P s. My Mom eventually came around and even apologized after spending some time w Ayden. She thanked me for not listening to her. So I have had close family support in the end. But the words of those who said those things to me... I believed them for years. I felt like such a loser. Anyway, I'm thrilled its different for you. I wish it was this way for all young women who give birth. Its a baby, not a virus

    • @charlenenewberg3529
      @charlenenewberg3529 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      OMG! I am so sorry that you were treated so poorly. When I became pregnant with my third child, I was told I was nothing but a baby-maker by my own family members...and I was married. It's a shame that women are subjected to ridicule over producing new life. Btw, my 3 kids are now great parents. Your son will be too. And you'll be so proud. :)

    • @giftofthewild6665
      @giftofthewild6665 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      The fear of this exact same thing happening to me is why I chose to terminate my pregnancy when I was 19. I regret that now. I wish I had been brave enough to keep it, despite all the social stigma I no doubt would have felt.

  • @triciafotheringham9447
    @triciafotheringham9447 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Babies are such a wonderful blessing. Shes a lucky little girl to have you as her mommy. God bless you and your family💞

  • @juliakent2560
    @juliakent2560 2 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    I am so glad everyone was kind and loving to you! What a HUGE blessing! Every child is a gift from God no matter what 😀

  • @heyitslibbyyy
    @heyitslibbyyy ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i love the respect she has for anyone especially her toward her parents. ❤

  • @danirae7722
    @danirae7722 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I couldn’t imagine having a baby like that. I was stressed at 20 weeks when I didn’t have things for the baby. You’re so strong! I’m so glad life turned out great for you🤍

    • @Xqzvzz
      @Xqzvzz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s bc her parents were there to clean up the mess for her and take care of everything for her

  • @teresahamilton7801
    @teresahamilton7801 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    your video popped up & after watching I subscribed because young people like you need support & love from the world. you handled telling everyone the news in a very mature way & please ignore any rude comments. you are the only one who knows what is best for you and your baby. may God bless you both as you continue to grow & learn together.

  • @camilleshepherd2652
    @camilleshepherd2652 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    you are beyond precious! graycen is so blessed to have you as her mamma! I cannot imagine but praise Jesus for giving you so much strength, peach & the sweetest family!

  • @AlyssaHeaster
    @AlyssaHeaster 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I’m so thankful all the love and support it sounds like you had ❤ ❤ congratulations mama!!!
    Is your bf her dad? (If not tmi)
    Was your bf upset not being at the birth and his daughters birth?
    How did his parents (grandparents) react? 😍😍

    • @tylersmart697
      @tylersmart697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Of course hes the father she didnt have to nessicerially call him gracens dad its kinda a given when she said yea hes still in there lives

    • @lakyamonee
      @lakyamonee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@tylersmart697 I don’t think it’s that obvious from the video. Simply because I had the same question. I think you are assuming that he’s the dad. She never said that & never said anything about his family.

    • @missakialexandria
      @missakialexandria 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm assuming he's not the dad. I think if he was the dad, she would've called / texted much sooner. And she would probably say something about how she looks like him. Or asked him about the name before she picked it. I bet she was no longer dating the dad and had found someone new by the time she gave birth.

  • @sbgrace12
    @sbgrace12 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I’m happy for you that everyone took the news so well, especially your parents and boyfriend. You are truly blessed! ❤

  • @shellcshells2902
    @shellcshells2902 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    You're such a remarkable young woman. I was 20 when my first child was born. I love your videos!May God continue to bless you and your little family ♡

  • @businesszeus6864
    @businesszeus6864 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    you seem so sweet and charming, and your whole family seems so supportive. Graycen is lucky to be born into such a wonderful group of people! you have the emotional maturity and the smile of a good mother. i wish you the best ❤

  • @findmeintime
    @findmeintime 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    What a lovely story! No hardship here at all, just all support from everyone.

  • @ChellenBobby
    @ChellenBobby 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    How did his parents and family take the news.. it's great that everyone was so supportive that's takes such a huge weight off your shoulders.. She is just adorable..

  • @user-mp4zs2by9m
    @user-mp4zs2by9m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Hi Harmony, You have such a lovely voice & demeanour for vlogs, I’m delighted to be a subscriber. I can only imagine how traumatizing it would have been to hear you were having a baby, together with immediate birthing & the need for NICU would naturally lead anyone to be in shock. You genuinely offered gratitude to your medical staff (you deserved the best of care & support) but I also wish to reflect back your own strength, resilience & kindness in such a critical condition. I do believe your daughter was born in just the right time in just the right way. We may not understand all but God doesn’t make mistakes. Bliss & Blessings to You. ✨💖✨

    • @shipse1
      @shipse1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agreed! Also, this is such a kind comment to leave ❤

  • @justlottie
    @justlottie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I just binged your videos and can't wait to hear more! It's so heartwarming to see you in such a loving community of friends and family ❤️ you and your story are incredibly awe-inspiring

  • @JessBoyd_
    @JessBoyd_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Wow what an amazing story! You seem to be coping so well with such an experience and your positivity is inspiring! I love your choice of her name ! She is so precious and your interactions you've shown in your videos are so heart warming! Way to go new mama! I'm so glad you have a wonderful support system surrounding you and your little one and your bf. Thanks for sharing your story!

  • @milikoshki
    @milikoshki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Q: Only if you feel like sharing, obviously! How was the inital adjustment from college kid to new mom for you? Having such an insane thing happen must've triggered a lot of complex emotions, and it seems that it'd be really difficult to accept at first! You seem like you are handling it super well!

    • @kc4948
      @kc4948 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I was going to ask something similar! I second this question. In addition to the mental/emotional changes, I'd also love to know how her life has changed from a practical standpoint: how is school, life, her relationships, etc. different now?

  • @odessav3066
    @odessav3066 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Q&A: what are your hobbies, and how do you find time for yourself while juggling school and motherhood? Graycen is so cute!

  • @purrsandwhispers4521
    @purrsandwhispers4521 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So happy you had a loving support system!!!! Congratulations on becoming a mom!! Gracyn is beautiful!!!!

  • @pama.6410
    @pama.6410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Your presentation of your story is so well done. It is calm, mature, well thought out. You seem to have a lot of innate wisdom. So happy for your daughter that she has such a special mom and dad! And so happy for you that your biggest fears did not come true. You said you are living at home. Did you have to leave school or are you taking courses remotely? How does this change your goals for your life? How did your boyfriend's parents take the news? So glad you realized that your unexpected child is really a blessing. God bless!

    • @peachygal4153
      @peachygal4153 ปีที่แล้ว

      Her professors agreed she could do that semester online. she went back to college full time in the fall with her daughter. Her roommates supported der well on that. Her boyfriend was attending a nearby college, but he spent a lot of time with her and the baby on weekends.

  • @christiestewart5321
    @christiestewart5321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I still think it’s wild and crazy that this happens. So good to hear family and friends are supportive. Keep going strong with school. Don’t stop now. It will be hard to juggle, but you’ll be great up you stuck it out and completed school. Praying for you and Graycen( hope I spelt her name right) and your relationship with your boyfriend. So good to hear he is still in the picture and sounds like taking responsibility for her and you. praying for the best for the three of you.

    • @RedRoseSeptember22
      @RedRoseSeptember22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed, I see a lot of stupid comments (from mostly men) on other channels that say "How can a woman not know?" Like they really don't understand our bodies and how confusing it can be!!! Especially when periods and pregnancy have such similar symptoms.

  • @savannahdean9585
    @savannahdean9585 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m really happy for you that you have a caring & loving family, no matter what’s going on. Just know how blessed you are. Lots of women thru the generations wld’ve been turned away or cast out on their own. I’m so happy you have the family you have & just as importantly, a boyfriend who stepped right up to be the father he should be. It makes my heart smile that you have the family you needed right at that moment & every day since. Love your vlogs! It’s a rollercoaster, so hang on, but it’s worth every minute of it.

  • @amelimagnon3146
    @amelimagnon3146 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are so well spoken and your personality definitely shines through!! You are beautiful and so happy for you!! You are doing an amazing job!!

  • @steadfastinthefaith.
    @steadfastinthefaith. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    It's truly beautiful how you seemed to take on motherhood and loving your daughter with such ease after having no idea or preparation for her arrival. ♥️ I did wonder, I know you said you didn't really have any symptoms, but did you ever notice or have an increase in appetite?

  • @majahansen2532
    @majahansen2532 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Congratulations on the sweet and beautiful baby 💕💕
    It’s crazy to me that you couldn’t stay in the NICU with your daughter. I work as a nurse in the NICU at a hospital in Denmark, and we have family rooms so you can be with your child all the time that they are there. It really helps with bonding. I think it should be like that all over the world ❤

  • @chloewarrell3055
    @chloewarrell3055 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I’m watching this at almost 39 weeks pregnant, 23 years old (first time mom) and you are incredibly inspiring! Thank you for sharing your story. I just watched all 3 videos in a row. I cannot wait for more content from you, as being a young mom is so intimidating, and just overwhelming at times! 🫶🏻 so happy for you.

    • @madisonlarue2343
      @madisonlarue2343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby at 19 years old!! I feel the same way! So happy I found her channel 🥰

    • @jeanieolahful
      @jeanieolahful 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You’ve got this! Had my first at 23. I loved being a young mom!

    • @chloewarrell3055
      @chloewarrell3055 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@madisonlarue2343 💛 congratulations!! You got this, we’re gonna be great!

    • @chloewarrell3055
      @chloewarrell3055 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jeanieolahful thank you💛 I am beyond excited!

  • @leegregory3974
    @leegregory3974 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your video popped up, I watched it and I am amazed what a wonderful young lady you are, your maturity is just breathtaking! I watched three videos and definitely subscribed! Like to say your daughter is beautiful and strong like her mommy, I think your blessed as is Graycen gosh hope I spell that correct! Your parents must burst with pride and they should they've raised you so perfectly. Thank you for sharing your story, your amazing x

  • @okerryoh
    @okerryoh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Amazing story! Glad you’re doing a q and a….I totally have questions: When you look back do you remember times when you may have been feeling baby kick or move but just didn’t know it? Have you begun to have a normal cycle? Is your boyfriend the baby’s father? How did the baby’s father’s family react when they found out? Are you finishing school on campus?

    • @shelliea4621
      @shelliea4621 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have the same questions. lol
      Harmony, please answer all of Kerry's questions.

  • @ms.g1709
    @ms.g1709 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Please remember, that you did the best you could with the information you had. Don't take the criticism and speculation to heart. Congratulations, Harmony!!

  • @loricreed
    @loricreed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So sweet. It let me relive when my babies were small. It’s true they do grow up so very fast just keep the love flowing!

  • @siennakay3922
    @siennakay3922 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    i’m obsessed with your content, just watched your videos and binged watched everythingggg

  • @sandratull1852
    @sandratull1852 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a surprising story. Im so glad your boyfriend love your baby .he must love you also. Your family and friends are very understanding and caring . I really enjoy your videos.
    God bless you and those who love you and your daughter.

  • @highc21
    @highc21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are so mature and I feel so very proud of you even though I don’t know you. Really impressed, wishing you all the best.

  • @racheljulianna8503
    @racheljulianna8503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Q&A : Did you not feel the baby kick at all? I can’t imagine not feeling baby move especially towards the end. Also what symptoms looking back can you now identify were pregnancy symptoms?

    • @powers6253
      @powers6253 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She touched on that in her first video.

    • @chp4822
      @chp4822 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Some women have a uterus that is located a little further back than others. Some have a tilted uterus. With a uterus that is further back the mother will not feel the movements of the baby. However, just as she experienced, their labor will be felt very heavily in their back (because that’s where the uterus and baby are).

  • @sicidamara7061
    @sicidamara7061 ปีที่แล้ว

    So fortunate to have had such a supportive and capable family, boyfriend and friends.

  • @bonniehess816
    @bonniehess816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I think a lot of ppl are wondering if your boyfriend is the father of the baby. My question is does it matter? As long as he loves here that's all that matters. It's wonderful you have such support.

    • @tylersmart697
      @tylersmart697 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you thats what ive been telling people but just fyi he is she sorta answered it in a way just didnt say the exact phrase he is her father she said it very briefly saying that she just didnt want to drop that info and ruin his workday and make him upset that he wasnt with them that very clearly or so i thought was clear was he is the father

    • @MoreCoffeePlease.
      @MoreCoffeePlease. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      My first thought is giving him the opportunity to be present for the birth and also, naming her. It appears he’s not the biological father as she takes great strides not to call him her dad or mention fatherhood. I think it’s normal for people to be curious, as she shares her story.

    • @sarah-beruriahbattzion28
      @sarah-beruriahbattzion28 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      The way she is telling the story looks like he is not the baby daddy but a real daddy is the one being there for the baby and the mother in the good and bad moments that is a real daddy .

  • @dianewillson4535
    @dianewillson4535 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You are an amazing young woman. I'm so happy that you had such wonderful support not only from your family but from Nathan. Baby Graycen is gorgeous. Wishing you all the best ❤

  • @suehorn4182
    @suehorn4182 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bless you sweetie. You’re doing what’s best for you and your baby. ❤

  • @Kera.S.
    @Kera.S. 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think you should be very proud of yourself through all of this. Yes you had support but the friends we choose have so much to do with who we are. Your family and friends were/are supportive because you made good decisions before this happened. Congratulations! 💙

  • @maryhomsey8487
    @maryhomsey8487 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m so glad you were supported because I know that could go differently especially in high school

  • @missloretta
    @missloretta 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm so happy for you. Babies are shocking and hard but SO WONDERFUL! You and your boyfriend look so happy! Congratulations!

  • @fionanicolson2021
    @fionanicolson2021 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I wish both the young couple & to their beautiful baby all the very, very best. Much love & administration ❤❤

  • @anitahaviland3036
    @anitahaviland3036 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are well named, Harmony. You have such a great family, and Nathan is just totally wonderful!
    It was so different years ago! I was married for 2 years before my first pregnancy, and I loved every day of it.
    Enjoy your baby, enjoy Nathan and his relationship with her. Allow him his ideas. My mother and I were letting my baby boy by to see if he then sent to sleep. We were pleased that it happened so quickly, until.I found my husband in the living room in the rocking chair rocking the baby. All he said was, "He's my baby and he was crying." I was ready to cry with the emotion that he took hold so quickly. Beautiful!

  • @kpeggysus
    @kpeggysus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your energy is amazing, hearing you talk made me so happy!!

  • @Msfinable
    @Msfinable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It speaks volumes about the US working culture that her first thought was not to tell her boyfriend during the day because "He had prior commitments at work". Like what is more important, a day at work or becoming a dad. I'm not blaming her, but the culture.

  • @LauraSmith-pf7ho
    @LauraSmith-pf7ho 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m so glad you were/are supported in the way that you need. Says a lot about the kind parents, family and friends you have. The negative comments are always going to be out there just keep being you and love that sweet little baby with all your heart.❤

  • @gwendolynrobinson3900
    @gwendolynrobinson3900 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    It's incredibly amazing that you both are healthy and safe after such a surprising birth ♡

  • @Chelbsn
    @Chelbsn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    What a huge blessing that your family has been so accepting and supportive!

  • @lindapearson3411
    @lindapearson3411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are very mature for your age! I am very impressed you held off telling your boyfriend and thanks for telling us why! 😊

  • @lorienpatmore3520
    @lorienpatmore3520 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    What an amazing story. I’ll so glad you had such a loving community. Congratulations! What a blessing your baby girl is

  • @daleyjungers9262
    @daleyjungers9262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I am so proud of you!! So grateful that you and graycen are in my life!!

  • @ChristinaBiava-zw6wi
    @ChristinaBiava-zw6wi ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm so happy that you have been able to navigate the emotions and the connections with family and friends in this incredible journey. May God continue to bless you.

  • @ciarajohannessen204
    @ciarajohannessen204 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m so glad everything worked out and that you both are healthy! And it’s even better that you had such great support 🥰♥️

  • @osjdf9i
    @osjdf9i 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank God for your loving parents!

  • @emmag.12
    @emmag.12 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i got pregnant & found out right away when i was 18 with ~2 months left as a senior in high school. my boyfriend and i got married the weekend after my high school graduation… and i felt similarly! i was so nervous about what everyone would think… im sure some people said unkind things, but never to my face. my whole family & all my friends at school were so supportive. now my husband and i have been married for 5 years and our little surprise baby just turned 4 years old and another little one is about to be 1 year old. i was not only worried about other’s opinions, but i was worried if i was qualified or what our future would look like… you always hear about unexpected teen pregnancy/young mom pregnancies having a hard time staying with their partners, but it has been amazing! thanks for sharing your story, i relate to so much of it. we might be young, but we are just as qualified & loving as someone older.

    • @harmonyblaim
      @harmonyblaim  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love this!! Blessings to you and your family💕

  • @albin2232
    @albin2232 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I think you're amazing Harmony. You're a package of sweet, loving vibes ❤

  • @collytwin535
    @collytwin535 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Baby Graycen is beautiful! I'm glad your fam/friends were so great.
    Q/A: how's your health now? You mentioned that even after birth you still had blood pressure issues.

  • @pmc8119
    @pmc8119 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    A BIG congratulations 🎉 to you both, you seem to have taken it all in your stride, although it must have been such a shock! This precious wee soul is a real gift to you all. Sending much love from Queensland, Australia 🇦🇺

  • @LaraA55
    @LaraA55 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh wow, you are so lovely and I am so happy you have so much love from your family, boyfriend and friends. Your story is so beautiful to me

  • @Drew-pz4cf
    @Drew-pz4cf ปีที่แล้ว

    Aw this video and your birth story made me emotional! I'm so happy for you! I have a little girl too and just love being a mom.

  • @eden-caledoniajohn3168
    @eden-caledoniajohn3168 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You are incredibly brave! I’m a Mum to a teenage daughter, and a teenage son, I’ve told them both that a baby is always a gift from God, he or she will be loved, cherished and welcomed into our family no matter the circumstances. I’m so glad to see how loving and supportive your family, friends and boyfriend are.
    My question/ s are, have you moved to a college closer to home - or have you and Graycen moved to your college together. If the latter have your college been supportive, is there onsite childcare? Are your parents supporting you with childcare? Has your boyfriend managed to transfer to a college closer to you both? Or are you still in a long distance relationship?
    I’m wondering if your doctors were able to work out why your periods hadn’t happened prior to you having Graycen? Has having Graycen triggered your body to start a normal cycle? Also how was your mental health postpartum- I can imagine that it must have been a rollercoaster of emotions!
    And lastly, if you are Christian/ from a Christian family did you encounter any judgement/ or disapproval when you returned to church? As a Christian it’s my hope that you absolutely haven’t, unfortunately I know not all churches are loving and non judgemental.

    • @baciperugina836
      @baciperugina836 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      isnt having sex and getting pregnant before marriage against your religion?

    • @eden-caledoniajohn3168
      @eden-caledoniajohn3168 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@baciperugina836 absolutely and my children know my stance on that, they know that I would prefer they wait until marriage, however they also know that I value life - innocent life highly! And that if a situation like this happened, they would have my love, support and guidance without judgement. Jesus is loving and forgiving, and so am I!

    • @patriciakeats1621
      @patriciakeats1621 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I love your viewpoint. I believe in sex before marriage, but I like how you can feel differently but be so forgiving, and loving. I bet you are a lovely person.

    • @patriciakeats1621
      @patriciakeats1621 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@eden-caledoniajohn3168
      I love your viewpoint. I believe in sex before marriage, but I like how you can feel differently but be so forgiving, and loving. I bet you are a lovely person.

    • @eden-caledoniajohn3168
      @eden-caledoniajohn3168 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@patriciakeats1621 that’s very kind of you to say! I had sex before marriage with my husband, before becoming a born again Christian - it seemed wonderful at the time but I regret it now, even though my husband is the only sexual partner I’ve ever had - I believe something as sacred as sex within marriage should be protected. I definitely believe sex as a married couple is more meaningful. Watching the young people in my church show restraint and saving sex for marriage has really changed my view - there is something incredibly moving about a young Christian couple and the nerves and excitement on their wedding day. The bible teaches that when you become one, your souls are joined together too, so you become one person. When you join together with person after person and then are torn apart each time, you lose a part of yourself. They call this a soul tie and it can leave you connected spiritually for years unless it’s broken. Our souls were meant to join with one person (our spouses) and I believe it is harmful to your soul to join with soul after soul, always leaving a tiny piece of your heart and soul with each sexual partner.
      I’m no hypocrite and my children know that we didn’t wait until marriage, they also know I wish I had done differently. They know I will always love and support them, I pray they growing up as Christians are able to experience the pure joy and love that God designed as a gift for all married couples.

  • @ginnab777
    @ginnab777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    How did your boyfriend's family respond ?

  • @LiteraryLani
    @LiteraryLani 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have such a beautiful spirit. I’m subscribing for that very reason. Congratulations on your blessing🥰!!

  • @sarahpollick269
    @sarahpollick269 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amazing story!! I'm so glad you have supportive family and friends!! You all handled everything perfectly. 💗 Congrats on the beautiful baby girl!!

  • @evekary319
    @evekary319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    questions: How was your schooling affected after having your baby? You said looking back there might have been some symptoms you missed because you didn't think you could be pregnant, what were they? What were the reactions of your boyfriend's parents? Are they involved at all in the baby's life? Thank you for sharing so much and being so vulnerable!

  • @maryhomsey8487
    @maryhomsey8487 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope you have a wonderful life with that sweetheart .

  • @valjo15
    @valjo15 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Curious the medical explanation for how and why you didn't show or feel baby move at a the whole time as Im 37 weeks with baby 5 I've never made it past five weeks without feeling pregnant/ different

    • @Desert_Dreamin024
      @Desert_Dreamin024 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      If you watch the other video she explains she’s never had a period before. She was supposed to go to a specialist about it but felt too embarrassed. She said thinking back she had little signs but nothing that made her think it was time to take a test. She could also have a retroverted uterus which could explain her not showing or feeling very light movements.

    • @valjo15
      @valjo15 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Desert_Dreamin024 I did watch it and my comments are true curiosity not meant to be rude but she doesn't look like an extra large girl so just curious how her body didn't show at all till delivery

    • @drabby7925
      @drabby7925 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Possibly denial?

  • @sandilejourdan5959
    @sandilejourdan5959 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    More pics of the baby please. 🙏😁

  • @uncutjems
    @uncutjems 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Amazing story . Honestly wondered how on earth you were not showing and thought maybe you were really overweight and I was shocked to see you really weren’t showing in the pic you put in there ! Amazing ! Go girl !!

  • @christinawickham4543
    @christinawickham4543 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was 19 when I had my daughter. She did the same thing as your daughter did with the 1st poop. I had to have csection cause she was 10 pounds, but she is 18 a senior in high school. She is as healthy as she can be ❤️ it’s hard work but it’s the most rewarding too

  • @thisfruitfullife4453
    @thisfruitfullife4453 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Such a precious girl, with a precious family and a precious baby 💖 Blessings

  • @RoosmarijnvanEs
    @RoosmarijnvanEs 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a beautiful story. you are glowing i hope you keep posting. I would love to follow your story

  • @jacquelinesinek8231
    @jacquelinesinek8231 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    May God bless you, your boyfriend and your beautiful little girl!

  • @Angelaperez_4
    @Angelaperez_4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My son was born on February 14th back in 2005 and like you said time really does fly. He’ll be 18 this February ❤

  • @samhartford8677
    @samhartford8677 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mind blowing but such a lovely story. You are very mature for your age and have a lovely family and friends too. I am sure you will do fine. Also, nice to hear that the father is in the picture and very mature on his part too.

  • @janicebattle6456
    @janicebattle6456 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi from Australia, congratulations and many joys for you and your baby girl. You are amazing and made the decisions you did with thoughtfulness and consideration. Enjoy your beautiful gift of Graycen, she will being endless love and happiness into your family and you are an incredibly lucky lady to have the health and love you have after all the trauma you had in giving birth. Love and best wishes for an amazing life.

  • @marisamartinez3801
    @marisamartinez3801 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, what a beautiful couple , you all are truly blessed ! Gonna be great parents to that princess !

  • @janislyn2745
    @janislyn2745 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is such a wild story! I’m so glad everyone in your life was there for you when you needed it the most ❤ great people attract great people 😊 Having your life change over night must have been so overwhelming, most people get 9 months to come to terms with impending parenthood and you had about 5 min 😮. You seem to have handled it with so much grace & confidence, a true baddie. Looking forward to seeing more content from you and watching you and Graycen grow ❤

  • @isabellenash4360
    @isabellenash4360 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I was wondering if I missed that the boyfriend is the babies dad? Totally okay if you aren’t ready to talk about that. But I love that you two are still together! That would be some shocking news!

  • @shelley6746
    @shelley6746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Q&A I know it was mentioned in your birth story….do you finally have a cycle now that you’ve had Graycen? She’s beautiful ❤😊🎃

  • @xochilguevara3429
    @xochilguevara3429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You’re very considerate. I think I would called my bf at the first real contraction and said Get here now! If it inconveniences me it’s gonna inconvenience you!

  • @InTheStudioWithMyrna
    @InTheStudioWithMyrna 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are very mature and have handled this amazing. I wish you all the best.

  • @christinafletcher635
    @christinafletcher635 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was 19 when I had my first child although now I feel it’s accepted more than when my kid was born in 1997 but that could be that we were a strict catholic family living in rural wv. Your little girl is so beautiful and I’m glad you have a lot of support.

  • @samanthaplustwo5964
    @samanthaplustwo5964 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You are such a good mum!

  • @Chaos-Unboxing1025
    @Chaos-Unboxing1025 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God Bless you and Graycen what a true BLESSING from God!!! You are so blessed to have such an amazing family to support you both!! Kiddos to you Daddy what an awesome father you are and such a great leader for your family!!! Im so happy all turned out well for y'all ... And thank you for sharing your special story. It's so nice to see something so good on You tube.

  • @Dwoww1568
    @Dwoww1568 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is amazing! Congratulations 🎉crazy happy story ❤