how to document your life in a meaningful way

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  • a little look at how I've been documenting my adventures the last few years :)
    find me here:
    Instagram:
    🔗 / ottiliedijkstal
    🖊️ @ottiliedijkstal
    TikTok:
    🔗 / ottilie.d
    🖊️ @ottilie.d

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  • @cenkagram
    @cenkagram 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +256

    Thank you algorithm for bringing this kind of content. I love this way of life 😍

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Glad you enjoyed it! 🤗

  • @jemi_
    @jemi_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +239

    I'm finally learning this lesson myself. As a Finn living in the US, when I recently visited Finland again I wanted to make a vlog about it, but I didn't know how to express the feeling of returning to an old home, and how I'd forgotten about the slow living habits I used to have when I still lived in Finland. I'm now in the process of scripting a voiceover to describe those feelings. This was a beautiful video & I hope you do indeed make enough income from TH-cam eventually to keep traveling and adventuring! 💕

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you 🤗 I hope you can translate those feelings in your video!!

    • @kassiaviva
      @kassiaviva 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I hope you can translate the feeling! I'm originally from Germany but have lived in many different countries in Europe and now in the US I totally get it. Whenever you return home, you still somehow feel like this is the place you are from but it also feels a little foreign because living abroad changes you. You might not notice it at first but you definitely feel it when coming back to the country you are from.

  • @shrikhan2215
    @shrikhan2215 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    NOT AT ALL WHAT I WAS EXPECTING.
    THIS IS CINEMA. I THINK THIS HAS CHANGED ME AS A PERSON FOR SOME REASON. THIS WAS ABSOULTELY CRAZY.

  • @colitzea
    @colitzea 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    wow, that 5 min video felt like a movie, keep going you're doing a fantastic job 🥰

  • @juliedrakeArtist
    @juliedrakeArtist 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    With such a beautiful 5 minute film you could easily add 5 minute films as well as your paintings and that way instead of a load of random clips you would have one film per each adventure plus one painting. How cool would that be. I can paint but I can't make films like that. It was very beautiful and I love the concept. For some reasons my sketchbooks make me remember the events of my life much more vividly then photos or writing a journal does. The sketches are much more evocative.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great idea! :)

  • @ImTomSimak
    @ImTomSimak 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    I love this! People for some reason strive to work to live and get consumed in consumerism, we should be talking about working enough to get by without stress, and just spend on things that make us happy

    • @gray6430
      @gray6430 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes the devil is a lie!🩵

  • @TheUnlazyWay
    @TheUnlazyWay 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    wish I could paint like that😩 love it!

    • @ArvilVonPoney
      @ArvilVonPoney 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Get onto it pal, start training today

    • @bedhead-studio
      @bedhead-studio 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      how often do you paint?

  • @paolovisi
    @paolovisi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    I won't try in vain to use mince and half-ass words to describe it. This was the most eye-opening and best video on creativity that I could find on the internet! Very inspiring, thank you!

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you for the kind words!! :)

  • @mubshirabasheer8324
    @mubshirabasheer8324 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    OMG🥹🥹Thanks to the algorithm, for bringing this to my feed today! This is the content I want, the ones that do not overwhelms you, but calms your nervous system!

  • @bio_kath
    @bio_kath 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Beautiful 🥺 life is about collecting and valuing those simple moments in which we are in nature without worrying about anything else. Thank you for sharing!

  • @HIR0SE
    @HIR0SE 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    My problem is that I documented too little. Due to some health issues, my memory is deteriorating and I struggle to live in the moment, remember the past, and hope for the future, so I decided to hold on to as much as I can. Now I take dozens of photos every week, film random moments that seem mundane today, even record "interviews" with my friends and family, so I can have a reminder for the future.
    My younger brother even got mad at me for dumping all the 4 terabyte of stuff I have on the shared family cloud.

    • @Fenne-K
      @Fenne-K 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This sounds wonderful and I hope it will help you. Maybe print some books with the images, and notes?

  • @YarnUnion
    @YarnUnion 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I just know you are going to have a ton of subscribers one day. You deserve it. This content is so well made🤩.

  • @rudrakshjawade1253
    @rudrakshjawade1253 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I relate to this 100%. Ive been focusing on “making” photos instead of just taking photos. ig it’s important to realise capturing meaningful photos is what matters in the end. To be able to look back at them and feel what I felt when I took it.
    Beautiful video.

  • @SameenShahzad
    @SameenShahzad 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What a refreshing and inspiring perspective. Thank you for this video!

  • @UsatMVS
    @UsatMVS 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Wow! What an absolute magnificence! I have been documenting my life by writing a journal everyday for that past 6 years now. I write down raw facts, emotions and random thoughts there but mostly facts and recently I started feeling that I really don't make use of this journal and I just write to write. But instead I should do something with it. I love your video, it was well structured, beautifully said and put together, it kind of inspired me to do something more with the journal. However I don't know what exactly...yet. ~Usat

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to hear that!! 🤩

    • @annapooranis4955
      @annapooranis4955 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You should read your journal, you will learn a lot by reflecting on your experience , by reading your journal you will reflect a lot. You will start loving yourself more, this is what happened to me.

    • @michellevision3146
      @michellevision3146 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I like to write short poems when I feel any profound way or experience something fascinating. I think it’s an easier way to know exactly what I was going through without reading a bunch of scribbles :)

  • @ImTomSimak
    @ImTomSimak 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this! People for some reason strive to work to live and get consumed in consumerism, we should be talking about working enough to get by without stress, and just spend on things that make us happy

  • @AnalogDave
    @AnalogDave 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    great storytelling! I really like how you put this video together.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! :)

  • @ClearDiscussion
    @ClearDiscussion 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful paintings. My mom used to paint a decent amount, and we had a few up in my childhood home. I'm terrible at it, but these took me back.

  • @AseemaAjay
    @AseemaAjay หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved this. ❤
    P.s: if like me you have absolutely no idea what to do with a canvas and a paint brush, you could just frame the most suitable photo that best describes whatever your experience or adventure was. Or that at least elicit the emotions you felt at the time, the most.

  • @niamhtaylor8530
    @niamhtaylor8530 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so beautiful and inspiring it literally bought me to tears. You are a talented story creator, through words, video, and paint. Thank you for sharing with us.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much 🤗

  • @broodingbrook
    @broodingbrook 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Besides the beautiful visuals and the voice over, this was so soothing to watch. Thank you for putting this out. Very well done 👏👏👏

  • @driandelacruz2392
    @driandelacruz2392 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love the way you document your adventure and the way you film this video. So beautiful. Hoping for more adventures in the future.

  • @gyselbequer
    @gyselbequer หลายเดือนก่อน

    this was unexpected and profoundly beautiful

  • @DENADAGRACIA
    @DENADAGRACIA 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    "What kind of videos would you like to make some days?" Well, this.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      what a compliment!! 🥹

  • @twoofftracks
    @twoofftracks หลายเดือนก่อน

    this was beautiful! Thank you 🥹

  • @laura.m19
    @laura.m19 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had thought about doing the same thing, painting with watercolors all the inspiring, beautiful and worth remembering moments of my life. And today your video reminds me of this idea that I had and that I should not let go of. I also want to paint my adventures. I am excited to begin. THANKS!!

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amazing!!

  • @scoppyeah
    @scoppyeah 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow your paintings are breathtaking

  • @randyparran
    @randyparran 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How beautiful 🥺 It's very inspiring. Thank you ♥

  • @PRBOUNDLESS
    @PRBOUNDLESS หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    loved the video! Which mic do you use? We love making voiceovers on our videos but currently using my iphone for that... And the quality isn't the best :L x

  • @DimSimmo
    @DimSimmo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a stunningly amazing video. I am thinking of starting my own form of artistic documentation through collages and this has really inspired me :)

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      so glad to hear :)

  • @umamamlk
    @umamamlk 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You deserve millions of subscribers

  • @paulisjanovs
    @paulisjanovs 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    These videos are soooooo impressive!!! Every video makes me want to live my life to its fullest!! LOVE your videos!!

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      so glad to hear that!! :)

  • @mapasova88
    @mapasova88 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh so lovely. Thank you for sharing. I wasn't expecting this, but its a really great idea

  • @susanharkema2888
    @susanharkema2888 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your acrylics are really great! Such glorious captures. I think I need some small canvases!! I have a Dutchie man too. LOL

  • @vidhiwadhwani841
    @vidhiwadhwani841 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a beautiful video. Makes me want to paint all day for some reason.

  • @ChrisBranch
    @ChrisBranch 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is such a beautiful video! I like to draw, but I never make time for it. This had inspired me to draw some moments from my own adventures. Thank you 🙏

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! Glad to hear 😊

  • @SuzyTurner
    @SuzyTurner 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a beautiful video! And such a lovely and deeply meaningful way to keep your memories close x

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much!☺️

  • @andrewd8026
    @andrewd8026 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    This is such a great idea and feels like the exact thing I want to start doing with my memories. I've thought of having a big scrapbook, and who knows, I might still do that, but this is really what I need for my special memories. I find it cool that you just make the painting based off the photo from your phone: it doesn't need to be as realistic as possible, just captures the essence. Also by painting at the end of the trip rather than doing it live during the hike or whatever, you can actually gauge what was important looking back on the trip.
    I haven't painted in over a decade and I wasnt great back then as a kid, so it would probably be much better off with something like colored pencils, but seems like a cool opportunity to learn a new skill also and find my own style.

  • @phieulink91
    @phieulink91 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your voice's amazing and so is your story

  • @migueltrio
    @migueltrio 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are one hell of an artist. This was great!

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you! ☺️

  • @tamarravestein2403
    @tamarravestein2403 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolute piece of art - i LOVE it!! so so well done

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🥰🥰

  • @Justin_Ly
    @Justin_Ly 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Keep it up Ottilie!! Love the style and message! You are going places! 😄

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much!!

  • @clarkbyparraguirre
    @clarkbyparraguirre 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful film! Truly enjoyed it, thanks for making this.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad you enjoyed it!🤗

  • @SincerelyGwendolyn
    @SincerelyGwendolyn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So happyy I found your channel :)❤

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me too!! 🤗

  • @Average-Manuel
    @Average-Manuel 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Great idea to paint 🎨 the memories, instead of filling harddrives (I’m guilty of that, too)
    Sidenote: I really enjoy the calm tone of your videos. It has something really relaxing to me.😊

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you! :)

  • @lakshaamotiani
    @lakshaamotiani 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i love this!

  • @aakanshakar4960
    @aakanshakar4960 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The way I smiled through the entire video, thank you so much for sharing something extremely precious with the world :')

  • @coreyapotter
    @coreyapotter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    How to document your life:
    "Just paint little pictures"
    She says, in her documentary quality vlog.

  • @TeddyRaconte
    @TeddyRaconte 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    A wonderful story

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      much appreciated! :)

  • @pb8569
    @pb8569 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love your paintings

  • @johannaflowers_
    @johannaflowers_ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    that's such a beautiful way of documenting your adventures, can't even imagine how aweinspiring it will be with even more paintings on the walls to look at. also really beautiful video 🥰

  • @BlackLabel544
    @BlackLabel544 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I found your channel by chance. I love the way you describe your journey. I could listen to you endlessly. Your words are simple but have a deep meaning.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thank you so much!!

  • @bnsgokugreat
    @bnsgokugreat หลายเดือนก่อน

    All the best for a great future ahead!

  • @FilmwColleen
    @FilmwColleen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Keep going girl! btw link your songs? :)

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      thanks!!
      these are the songs I used (all from epidemic sound):
      - The Trace of You by Taylor Crane
      - The Landslide by Martin Hall ft. Julia Holström
      - Just Bones (Instrumental) by Zorro
      - In Times I Think of Us by Travis Kowalski
      I think that's all :)

  • @jeannegestas
    @jeannegestas 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That was so beautiful! Really touched me. Thank you for that! Also, it made me really think about how I want to capture my life. So glad the algorithm brought up your video ❤

  • @tamaa_naufal
    @tamaa_naufal 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    another version of life of riza. youre great too

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      the biggest compliment!!

  • @Nino4ek
    @Nino4ek 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    And if you can’t draw?

  • @AveEndGermany
    @AveEndGermany 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This hits on a so much deeper level.
    On the one hand, like Jonne, you have to live life and feel it.
    On the other hand, you have to make it meaningful by picking moments and give them a sense.
    As i'm also a hoarder of moments, i always thought: life passes just by.
    And going all the pictures and tickets I got a glimpse of the past, you made me realize, that i have to pick the best moments and have to present them to have the moments live on.
    Thank your for the awesome food of thought.

  • @grantharrison2432
    @grantharrison2432 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Such a beautiful film and concept. Thank you for making it.

  • @berlost
    @berlost หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this video!!! Thank you. Very inspirational

  • @lucascoelho2900
    @lucascoelho2900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow. Stunning!!

  • @oscarblas3517
    @oscarblas3517 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Can you guys give me recommendations to what to do with all the photos and videos that i take idk how to have all of them, my phone dont have more space and my google photos also :(

    • @aphreyy
      @aphreyy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Buy an external hard drive.

    • @theallmaterialrejects
      @theallmaterialrejects 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Pick the ones you love the most, print them out and put them in a photo album or make a scrapbook 🙆‍♀️

  • @tinajudal
    @tinajudal 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a beautiful video! You are so talented.
    PS What camera(s) do you use to film?

  • @SAGE1991
    @SAGE1991 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Kudos to the algorithm who brought me to this amazing video content. Subsrcibed to see many surreal and amazing experiences❤

  • @pablobecoecheabanos2242
    @pablobecoecheabanos2242 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What a video! Beautiful storytelling, images, lesson...Just incredible.

  • @themorgansophia
    @themorgansophia 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This video is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

  • @mgehrisch
    @mgehrisch 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That is such a cool idea! I’ve been thinking about ways to try to document my life better beyond my journal, and this gives me some inspiration. Thank you for sharing!

  • @spqrr311
    @spqrr311 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wooow i like this perspective. i think i'll be doing it too! thanks for sharing!

  • @tamarravestein2403
    @tamarravestein2403 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    queen!!

  • @t3br00k35
    @t3br00k35 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’ll be happier if you don’t document it.

  • @butlayf-dy2sj
    @butlayf-dy2sj 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This styled like Our Generation and Culture is weird

  • @Friction181
    @Friction181 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Those drawings are so damn cool and pretty! i was so impressed at the moment where you showed the actual way of "meaningful" documenting everything, by those paintings. such a cool and inspirational idea! thanks :)

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you!! ☺️

  • @mr.alishahzad
    @mr.alishahzad 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    HI ALI HERE FROM PAKISTAN DO U NEED VIDEO EDITOR ? I AM AVAILABLE ONY 5 DOLLAR

  • @ThePurpleForest
    @ThePurpleForest 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Such a beautiful film and adventure, you've inspired me to start painting again 🙏💜✨️

  • @rupamsinhaa
    @rupamsinhaa 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Nowadays i m loving my youtube feeds

  • @BrianaisGoingPlaces
    @BrianaisGoingPlaces 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love love love that you paint your adventures! So lovely!

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thank you!! 🤗

  • @NavinKhunte
    @NavinKhunte 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi such a lovely and inspiring video.. Subscribed :) What gear do you use?

  • @aotisnotamasterpiece1880
    @aotisnotamasterpiece1880 หลายเดือนก่อน

    how are people this good at videomaking

  • @vonsassy
    @vonsassy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love this. And may I say, you are so pretty!

  • @ivannatravels7454
    @ivannatravels7454 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This video has so much beauty! Thanks for sharing this way of documenting life that you have :)

  • @PadamaaPaadamaa
    @PadamaaPaadamaa 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    l love the idea of painting the travel//

  • @jeremyude
    @jeremyude 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Beautiful! The video, the landscapes and the paintings! Also the sentence about not caring how much money you'll make, as long as you'll be able to go on trips like this that remind you what living life is all about, really resonates with me.

  • @mattwalker3
    @mattwalker3 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A beautiful thing that we all have a unique perspective. Our own painting of the same thing. Great video!

  • @AliJardz
    @AliJardz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is lovely.

  • @BatOrgilBatsaikhan
    @BatOrgilBatsaikhan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Please share the songs used in the video. They are wonderful :)

  • @Hi_Im_Dominik
    @Hi_Im_Dominik 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Damn i rly need to learn to draw xd

  • @katutasichilongo3057
    @katutasichilongo3057 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Such beautiful shots and scenery! Your painting skills are also so great and having inspired to try and take up landscape painting to capture adventures. Thank you so much for sharing this! Big love from Zambia 🇿🇲

  • @icyjaam
    @icyjaam 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Even i have the problem of over documenting my life, i do not share it on social media, just document it and way up my storage space. I wrote daily journals. I think i might need to make a discuss versions of my history to make them meaningful.

    • @icyjaam
      @icyjaam 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This video was lovely. Captures so much of my heart

  • @Amirabbaskrs
    @Amirabbaskrs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful😍

  • @rosannevanvelthoven8986
    @rosannevanvelthoven8986 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So cool! I started with a similar project during covid lockdown, but never made it past some sketches...as I still feel like I'm not good enough yet with water colors. Love your paintings! They motivate me to start working on this again and give watercolouring another try :)

  • @brandonbraden910
    @brandonbraden910 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved your video! You did an amazing job and very well put together. May I ask what camera you used for filming?

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks :) I used the canon R6!

  • @HankLeukart
    @HankLeukart 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    beautiful.

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you!

  • @roosvandormael8936
    @roosvandormael8936 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is beautiful!!! do you mind telling me what camera you filmed this on?
    would love to start documenting all my future adventures someday

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      that’s so nice to hear 😌 it’s mostly filmed on the Canon R6!

  • @MartinTabanag
    @MartinTabanag 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I really love this! What a great film! The storytelling is soooo good and love the paintings you did! I might try and do that as it really does make it more meaningful and memorable

  • @melaniegriesemer
    @melaniegriesemer 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The beauty isn’t in the outcome, it’s the process ❤️ love this!! I just had the thought I need to paint more then I stumbled across this video

  • @wavepicturesfilm
    @wavepicturesfilm 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wow

  • @evodevo3133
    @evodevo3133 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is it necessary to document the events just live at the moment and remember it with just one photo 🤷‍♂️

    • @OttiIie
      @OttiIie  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ofc not necessary for everyone, whatever floats your boat ⛵️

  • @Joshetcetera
    @Joshetcetera 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent video😁👌 makes me evaluate the sad fact that I have yet to spend days on end trudging through whiteout-level snowy conditions

  • @Taylorvanluven
    @Taylorvanluven 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    wow i just loved this

  • @jamestopp8054
    @jamestopp8054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Aaaand I'm crying