DANGERS OF BEING SINGLE TOO LONG!! Part 1
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ธ.ค. 2023
- Let's dive deep exploring the Dangers of being single for too long! This one is dear to my heart . I would also like to hear your thoughts regarding this one, lets connect in the comment section below
The only danger of being single for too long. Is realizing that a relationship has no benefits for you. I think that's part of what you are saying. But when you become happy with who you are. Then a relationship feels more like a cage.
Interesting! Theres value in what you are saying, thanks for sharing Fam
Couldn't agree more. Been in a lot of relationships. But I finally can say I'm good alone
@@cyberdelI’m glad you have inner peace. Now fill your cup and whatever happens from here , you’ll be coming from a full cup
I bet you can just go out and get laid anytime you want, right? So, that can't be the reason you're single. No, it's your _choice,_ right. I mean, you _do_ have a choice here, right. Right???
I agree
If you're single too long you realize that you don't need another person to feel complete.
You learn that no "love" is worth more than your dignity.
Powerful thought right there Sirg. Respect for the value added
There is a difference between needing and wanting. Eventually you will want someone. Lonliness is BRUTAL. And thats the trap. For the first few years its great but what they wont tell you is you will devolve into lonliness after many years of being alone.
Interesting perspective indeed@@villen2020
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I have a few years of single solitude behind me. It gets easier as time goes on.
its better to be single than to be married and miserable
That’s absolutely true. I’m thrilled that you ain’t in that position Chief
I gave up on dating due to depression/burnout. To much effort all in all and risk with small chance of succes.
It surely can be a roller coaster ride. I hope you continue to keep connected with me and this channel as we elevate together DailyRide94
If ure in a developed country
Try to workout and become a passport bro
I am 46 and I am single forever. Never been in any relationship.
And I do not want to change that.
If this decision(evens if it changes) makes you feel most content , anyone else’s opinion has little weight. All of the best moving into the new year Dexter. Head up , shoulders back & continue to Thrive !
Same here brother!!
@@Andy-uj1fe Respect
Same age and single, I love being alone, with no attachments, love is a lottery and I will not play.
Single for 18 years now, i'm 43. Lost the love of my life & now i just don't care anymore. But i still have lust. But i just don't act on it...
If you are single, you are only a danger to the dating con artist coaches trying to sell you their course online😂
C.S. Lewis had this to say:
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
He is right though. However, the environment out there has grown cold, very cold. Instead of being vulnerable, don more layers. Look, dating has priced itself out of it's own market. Bills do not pay themselves, a great many of us have to work, ALOT. I had to tell my own family, "With what money?" when they tried to pressure me to be more diligent in the pursuit of a relationship. They had nothing to say after that.
The C.S Lewis quote is undoubtedly fascinating! Thanks for sharing. I’ve got no doubt that with the right environment, circle and mindset we will make this the best time of our lives
@ 63 years old & married for 40 of those years all I can say is the happiest days of my life were those when I was single & just dating women.
Quite the journey fam . You’ve got a wealth of experience right there
Toast to that.
@@laroyrichardson cheers 🍻
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This implies that you can attract someone to start with. At 73, I can count the partners I 've had literally on one hand.
I'm a plain guy. No physique to talk about, modestly intelligent, no degree and pretty well poor.
My career was mostly freelance, in construction, working as a site engineer (Staker)
My whole life has been a struggle holding down jobs so in the end, I plumbed for itinerant work, doing the initial set out and moving on. When at work, I was pretty profligate and did things I am not proud of.
It really is too glib to suggest we all can find a mate. There are literally thousands worldwide who tread a very lonely path and are caught in a bind. The only way forward is really little more than damage limitation.
“Wanting a relationship more only emphasizes the gap between one's reality and one's desire,” Kislev says.14 Feb 2023.
An interesting perspective with some solid points. I respect your Journey & respect for spreading the good vibes . Welcome
Its only dangerous IF you think you want to hook back up. If you want to stay single, no harm, no foul.
Valid Point 💯 an interesting perspective….
People are not meant to live life alone. We’re social creatures and it’s sad there’s this growing movement of “people are so [insert negative comment here] so be by yourself”.
We should all aspire to be a person others want to be around and do life with. That starts with not viewing others in such a negative way.
@@JB-kx9bx Yes we thrive when we have others around us. Like they say, no man is an island
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Just write a list of things troubling you and you will see how many of those problems are due to other people. The older i get the better i understand lone hermits living in a cabin somewhere in the woods.
So many thoughts this is a convo worth having..if you cant live with yourself you cant live with anyone else.
True, I think a part 2 of this may be needed
Any topic you’d like me to touch …
There are so many...do the part 2 but then maybe try and have people call In if possible.
@@GameOn71213 are u saying you’d like to be one of those folks that calls in ?! Great idea btw
@@randallmitchell6326 have your audience weigh in in the convo, they may have different ideas, I'm always gonna come with a Christian point view lol but yeah I would not mind
Single 15 yrs love it but yes i definitely have walls up. Busy im busy healthy & active. I love my space & quiet time. I will always be single probably do have few gd friends but very content. I do struggle financial but work hard so all is ok. I have all i need
What you currently have is priceless and that is a few good friends that you can trust. You currently have the world, Cherish that !💯
1) How is doing things your own way, in a manner that works for you, “dangerous”. If you’re not hurting anybody, who is being put in jeopardy?
2) Being single is the best time of your life; it sure beats being in a bad relationship. As you pointed out, you get to know yourself. How are those bad things?
3) Someone who is not in a good mental state should not be in a relationship. Period.
4) I’ll add something you didn’t think of. Being single means not being married, which means you can’t get divorce-graped. That doesn’t sound like “danger” to me
I’m 38 years old never married reason for that is because. I’m legally blind with low vision I couldn’t hind a woman to except me for who I am. So now I think of relationships is odd vs when I was 18. Not saying I won’t find a wife but after being single so many years it’ll be a huge adjustment for me. It’s not my fault I’m single women were picky.
I hear you Kevin. One thing im glad for is that it sounds as if you are still continuing on with life irrespective of what has transpired! I want you to continue the journey , stick with me. Continue to thrive Chief
@@randallmitchell6326 Thsnks man I choose too have a great outlook in life didn’t wanna be like. The angry bitter single guys I saw in my prime
Major Respect Kevin, Continue to thrive@@kevindavis4709
My mom was sight impaired and found her man in the church choir.
@@randallmitchell6326thank you I will keep trucking for sure 😊
Thank you for the talk brother. Hair left my head and came out of my ears. Missus had enough and booked it. 18 years gone. Thank you for the words. God bless.
Quite the journey my brother. I’m glad that you resonate with this video. You already know, hang in there and continue to Thrive !
Was that really the only reason? My ex wanted a divorce after 4 years married. She didn’t want kids anymore, I still did. Reflecting back on it I was not the kind of husband that created an environment where a woman should want to bring children into it.
@@JB-kx9bx
No it was not. She wanted a child as late as this autumn. I kept putting it off. It went downhill quite rapidly after that. Within about two months she started cutting me off and being away. Two weeks prior I knew it was the end.
I think it was still salvageable a year ago. Just sat on the sidelines too long. Still miss her dearly, she is my life still. I am not hers...
@@JB-kx9bx This is major self-awareness right here. major respect for being transparent. Thank you for sharing Fam
As a victim of narcissist parents... and working with them in a business for to long.
Being damaged to much.. i have accepted at 40, its over.
Respect for sharing this . One thing I’m glad for is the fact that we get to connect. It may seem like it’s over , keep it moving you never know what 2024 may have in store fam
@@randallmitchell6326
You want to go down a rabbit whole.. there may be a 2025, but there is no 2026 for us. When I say its the great reset, the sun will be going micronova.
I wish I was wrong but u can show you enough evidence..
Time to meditate and go inside.
This guy is going to be big. His energy is contagious.
Keep it up and God bless for the new year beyond.
First time being here.
Major Respect to you fam. Im so grateful for ppl like you at that show love. Top of the year for you Champ
I have been single for almost 31 years. I am turning 31 years old in a few months. I don't know if i am in a cage or if i am experiencing utter freedom. I am used to going for my goals alone. All my biggest goals - quitting drugs, smoking, cutting out alcohol, quitting gambling, finding a good career despite being a college dropout... God helped me through all these things in my life He has been a faithful friend to me. But I what I have always wanted is to be in a good relationship with a pretty girl. I am not sure if it is possible anymore... What do you think?
All things are possible. This is a mindset you need to have .(ofcos with in reason e.g cannot be a basket nba Player and your 4 feet tall), however when it comes to relationships and love , this mentality is needed.
The dangerous of being single for too long, = you are able to be the most genuine version of yourself enjoying your hobbies and interests to your fullest extent~
Àwsome "single and celibate" yes sir God is good ! Time being single learned alout,i hope you get your girl soon bro im waiting on God to get me mine too!
I’m glad you resonate with it A! Keep the faith my G💪
Wholeheartedly agree, nearly ten years now, I couldn't imagine living another way.
I hear ya . I’m glad you’re connected fam . There’s so much in store for you this year and for the years to come
In my previous relationship, I learned that it is the absolute WORST for someone who enjoys their own company too much and someone who simply cant be without company to date each other. A recipe for disaster. However, over these last few years, I’ve slowly opened up to the idea of enjoying someone else around me. I’m willing to dedicate my time to someone else, within reason.
This is a massively underrated point that’s massively overlooked
Man, my dude you've got a voice of gold, it nearly put me to sleep. Just stumbled upon this video as I'm trying to figure life out, thank you for your wisdom and insight!
Major Salute to you Chief. I’m glad you resonate with this msg(voice), continue to stay connected fam
let’s go Bishoppp. Very wise words.
Salute to u fam , have a solid start to the new year
Im 34. Had a few relationships, but I’ve been single for several years now. Like virtually all men today battled with depression and severe anxiety, but I’ve found that therapy really can help if you truly want to make it work. And sometimes, rarely, Ativan can help too. As a Christian I try to avoid hookups or casual sexual encounters. I know they would feel good in the moment but still leave me feeling empty and regretful. I’ve been working on my second book for a couple years now and I’m almost done. I think once it’s complete I’ll actually feel capable of being in a relationship, but sometimes God puts you on a journey and you can’t have that “balance” that people talk about until the journey is through. What is “balance,” btw? Does anyone know?
Appreciate you sharing your journey. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders just based off your comment Fam. My opinion is , since we live on earth and with all its unpredictability , balance is something not often achieved or even considerably worth pursuing. Let me put it to u like this , when u can delegate , where you don’t feel overwhelmed, then you’re onto something. When u don’t take on more than you can handle, then you into something . U see where I’m going…. All the best going into the new year and thanks for locking in Fam
@@randallmitchell6326 lets analyse the lies which are world wide believed and origin from masons:
lie: schools are of use (fact. schools keep slavery alive and stands for dumbing down the population of mankind)
lie: moon and mars landings, (fact: even masons know they cannot leave - earth is closed system, unless you want to drown, there is no other place created for us to live in.)
lie: news channels share truth (fact: these are for politic propaganda)
lie: voting matters (fact: politic propaganda)
lie: money has a value of its own (fact: it is just a tool of this world, which value has been agreed upon world wide, it should be not loved, only used as needed.)
lie: NASA lies (globe and all....) (fact: NASA stands for TO DECEIVE and 2 members expose their own lies, one is still alive, the other (Wernher Von Braun) place a clear clue on his own gravestone) - you havn´t searched - have you?
lie: the lgbtq++++ propaganda (fact: it is a part of masonry depopulation agenda, 500 000 000 souls, thats their goal - Georgia Guidestones!)
lie: Evolution and the dinosaurs. (fact: mankind is not hybrid kind)
to keep stating that there was an evolution, then we ain´t humans, we aint then mankind, we are then hybrids. Are you a hybrid?
Lie: holidays (xmas, Halloween, new year eve and so on) (fact: PAGAN HOLIDAYS, to praise BAAL, the god of this world)
lie: U.F.Os (fact: they are demons/evil spirits in high places, against whom we fight daily = spiritual warfare)
lie: rules and laws rule the world (fact: signs and symbols of masonry do)
lie: believe in being educated (fact: found daily living with the lack of knowledge)
lie: religions are ways to heaven (fact: JESUS CHRIST is only way to heaven. Religions, no matter its name = masonic garbage)
lie: our dead loved ones stay around to “ghost” (fact: hunting and ghosting is job of demons, not of humans. We, humans, come from GOD and return back to HIM and all the stories of having been seen a ghost - terrifying, scary, dark, cold - again no job of analysing been done here by you- right?)
Lie: Humans have no immune system and we need vaccines as these save lives (fact: humans HAVE IMMUNE SYSTEM and vaccines are created for one or two purpose: to kill or to cripple. If you took all their poison shots then later in life comes all kinds of medical diagnoses = vaccines crippled you - remember that)
lie: there is no GOD (fact: There is GOD, who redeems sinners and created us directly from the dust of the earth: Psalms 139:14 (KJV)
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.)
to keep claiming that there is no GOD and we aint created directly from the dust of the earth, we soon run out logic, regardless to we place “evolution” in our claims or not and our dead, whats happening to them as they sleep in their graves? - they decay away, becoming the dust form which they were taken, if it ain`t so then we are simply reality deniers.
lie: 911 was terror attack (fact: 911 was an inside job, meaning the work of your loved government)
lie: Tv watching is of use (fact: television (TV) = tell a lie vision, a weapon for our minds, keeping it under MK ULTRA)
half lie/half truth: earth is a stage where everyone plays rolls (fact: earth is stage, a freemasonry checkerboard, where both side, black and white are masons and humans both in politics and regular souls = the naive public gets daily played)
lie: children are government to raise (fact: children are parents to raise, it takes 2 to make them, it takes 2 to raise them).
Lie: we live already in the matrix (fact: we live since birth in BABYLON which is to become “matrix” as Man - us, must merge with machine aka take the mark of the beast and then matrix aka false reality becomes to be 100%)
lie: humans are not intelligent enough (fact: it is forgotten fact, we all are intelligent, many have suffered the illness from this world, being indoctrinated by masons, cause who give us the school system which we have? masons did, because they need slaves.
Lie: love is low standers and = lust (fact love is high standard as love means>
John 15:13
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Lie> do what thy wilt there is no body who has the right to judge you (fact> GOD SHALL JUDGE YOU AFTER YOU HAVE DEPARTED ON EARTH and Christians are also called to give out righteous judgment, therefore repent * born again * go and sin no more)
lie: slavery is over (fact: slavery was never over, it just changes a little as we are no longer buy`d or sold, still prepared through school systems for our future slavery, succumb to our slave lives based on our free will)
24 lies, should i go on?
This world ain´t deceived, out there to deceive?
9 - 5 working industry was created, because masons wants slaves. Schools systems prepared us for our future slavery. Wise ones reject this and seek GOD and start relying on HIM fully. it is unwise to count on the governments of this world. Didn´t they proved in 2020 how badly far are they from reality? slavery turn no soul rich, the price for such slavery is opposite:
you lost:
time (1st 20 years = childhood, then comes 40 years for slavery = your 20s, your 30s, your 40s, your 50s, then comes 50 years of being elderly = 60 - 100)
health = all these vaccines, which slowly turns you a cripple + man made fake food ( we are dust and should consume which comes directly from dust)
life = no time and no health = early grave
Each of us shall lose 3 times, gain nothing more then illusions.
When reading THE BIBLE (KJV) and complaining abut the slavery in the past, know then this, that
9 - 5 working industry = slavery of our day.
You want to know the past - read bible, you want to know present - read bible - you want to know future - read bible.
I've been single for 3 years now and I'm starting to find a balance, a peace. I absolutely don't want to get back into a relationship because I don't see any benefit from it, not even sex. It's all about unnecessary drama, spending extra money and feeling suffocated. I realize there are many unfortunate people with the opposite sex who use it as a coping mechanism, but you have to go through the hell of certain relationships to understand that the only real relationship you have to have is the one with yourself.
The only real relationship is with yourself.
Thats right.
dude this is honestly such a great and relatable video
I’m glad that you resonate and relate with this . Based on the feedback from this vid, would u like more of this content ….
I agree with the main point that being single, you exercise the single muscle. I think I have good perspective on this also. I'm 38 and have been single for many years because I moved around too much. But now I just started a relationship. We're both being mature about it. I'm communicating to her that I need to get used to this slowly. And she's being so understanding and great about going through that with me.
For others that have been single for a long time: First off, enjoy the time. There's nothing wrong with it. Work on yourself. Secondly, once you do start moving towards a relationship, be really direct and clear in your communication. Don't try to fake it as if you're a relationship pro. Be vulnerable and be honest. "Hey, I like you a lot and I want to be with you. But at the same time, it's been a while for me so I'll need my space sometimes. I'll need to relearn how to be in a relationship. But hey, I'm want to learn that with you."
I am 67 and still single. I have had a few girlfriends over the years. I have no problems. I know guys who cannot do single,one associates wife died and he was incapable of cooking himself a hamburger😅. They went from Mom to the wife. Quite pathetic really. If you can't do single you are going to get led around like a dog. As for intimacy the married guys might get a few good years then she develops a severe case of fukdindaheaditis.
I just say NEXT. Life is to enjoy not cater to a miserable other half who makes up idiotic drama.
Life is too short specially at my age.
I am glad that you are content Allan. Life can be Fulfilling single. Ofcos we cannot deny that life with a partner can also be as equally fulfilling. May the rest of your 2023 and 2024 continue to bring you peace of mind and a fun adventure
@@randallmitchell6326 I have been seeing a widow that we have an agreeable conversation with. So I knew her and her husband who was a good fellow. After he died we grew a little closer. It may progress, you are as old as you feel.
You were made to move.
You will rust out before you wear out. Cheers.
@@allanpatterson7653 sounds like a promising situation. And yes we are made to move ! All of the best 💯
Yes yes!
Marriage doesn't automatically mean no sex. I had a great sex life for the entire 26 years I was with my ex.
Find the right woman and do it right and there's no reason for sex to dry up.
I have been single for 20 years and to be honest. I would rather be alone than in a toxic and hateful relationship. I love myself for who I am and nothing else matters.
Very interesting subject
Thank you for taking the time out to watch. Any immediate thoughts that pop up for you ....
@@randallmitchell6326 lots of thoughts, you gotta be whole within yourself and Christ so when you meet your future spouse you'll be a blessing to them and they'll be a blessing to you.
@@GameOn71213 profound thought
I think relationships get corrupted by society, and social media. I think the Amish people have better relationships that are more stable because they don't have external corrupted forces trying to destroy their relationships.
I hear ya fam. If only we still had that way of thinking. however we are now in the state that we are in. All we can do now is keep our head up, shoulders back, and continue to Thrive. I'll be dropping more vids this week, holla at me if theres anything specific youd want me to touch on ...
31 and have never been in a relationship
i am curious how it feels but as you have pointed out,i have become so accustomed to being by myself that having another person beside me would drive me insane because i am used to my own routines and ways of doing things...i am just not adaptable and i hate compromises.
Welcome to the channel my man . I totally hear where you coming from. Stay tuned , I’d love to do a response video regarding this
35 I am the same i love my peace too much .
Wow! Your video randomly popped up and although I find most youtubers annoying I clicked and am glad I did. You're a couple of years younger than me but you have some great wisdom and a deep character, a thinker like myself. I've gladly subscribed, cheers from Sussex, England.
I've been single for 15 years, currently 39. I'm enjoying my life to the fullest and I intend to keep it that way.
I’m thrilled that you’re in a good space overall. Continue to thrive Fam
The loneliest I've ever been was in my second marriage. For a man being single is peace and prosperity.
I’d also like to add that it’s also dangerous for someone who has never been single. My older brother was in and out of relationships for nearly two decades to where when he finally was single he was a mess.
I am 64 and have been divorced and had a few brief, but fulfilling relationships afterwards. I have been single for about 8 years now. I have found there is great value in having peace in your life vs. happiness all the time. I have just about everything I wanted to achieve professionally and financially, but I do still challenge myself. I wish I could find a good woman now, but I feel that ship has sailed for me.
Lots of very sound advice here. Also, amazing biceps!
I've been single throughout my life, I was the ugly kid at school, bullied and disliked, as I got older, still ugly, short, invisible to women, i had a few very short term relationships, the longest relationship lasted 28 days, I think that I would be exaggerating if I said that I have been in relationships for a total of three months throughout my life, my last relationship ended in 1991, I don't want or need to be in a relationship to be content with my life, I have worked in various different places, i own my own house which is just big enough for me, I ride a motorbike, drive a small car, all bought and paid for outright, I work out when I can, I travel when I can afford it, I live what many would see as a boring life but it suits me, being truthful, I don't think that I would know what to do now, I've been on my own for so long, I don't think I will ever be in a position to be in a relationship this late on in my life
The danger is NOT being single.
I also think that it's important to understand one's inner self before even diving into relationships. Learning about what limerence is opened my eyes and taught me a bit about myself.
Julien Blanc said that most people experienced neediness instead of real love. What's your opinion on this?
Absolutely you’re spot in . So much to explore . Continue to Thrive Chief
@@krystianurban5421 this hit home for sure. It’s such a fine line that needs to be detected early otherwise lots of time could be wasted. Strength to you in your journey Fam
I can honestly say with being single for a long time, is dealing with that loneliness of not being with someone, because I still deal with it myself. I’m in my early 30’s and only been one relationship before but it didn’t work out like I wanted. They way I was raised and taught to be was a God fearing family man.
Now with that being said; the biggest problem I’ve had my whole life is getting friend zoned; being told that I’ve more of a good friend or a brother they never had. And with each year I find women in general are going for that toxic relationship where the guy treats them wrong, and don’t go for someone like me. And to this day I don’t understand why it’s like that.
What’s worse is; that it leaves me wondering; what am I doing wrong, what am I doing that makes them reject me like that. Over time, you start hating it, and you start being hard on yourself because you’re not doing enough in some way or another. And to make it worse you start hating yourself more and more. So it makes it hard to love yourself, when you hate yourself so much.
Despite being referred to as a ‘rarity’ in today’s world, it’s really hard to accept that is what the world is like now. But now it leaves me wondering; with the kind of man that I am, is getting into a relationship really worth it? Even after finding my inner peace, and God helping me letting go of these burdens that I have. Am I really meant to be in a relationship with a woman?
Thank you for your openness and honesty in this response. i will be sure to make a response video to this. What i will say for now is that you are at the right place. Keep your head up and continue to stay connected
Better to be single and desire to be married
Then
Being married and desire to be single.
Ive been single all 20 years of my life. I dont think i have a chance brother. 😢
My Brother, you and I both know, as long as we’re breathing there’s a chance for everything in this lifetime. Business, dreams, desires. We may not achieve them but as long as we have breath, there’s a chance. Keep the faith fam 💪
Really 20 years boy if you don't stop..😂
@@sonyvalencia 🙏
it's true. all the women i know who never married or had children are far happier than most of us who married and/or had children. widowed after 40 years of marriage i have really come into my own. i loved my husband, but i'm doing fine.
The worse part is getting fals accusations from a girl and end up broke and homeless or locked in jail... Thats worst. Being single is GOOD😊
That can be crazy for sure 💯
When you allow someone to disrespect you, you disrespect yourself in the process. Cut disrespectful people out of your life, NOW!
I'm 37, have been single my entire life, no dates never tried, don't want kids, I'm going to buy a home soon, and I'm not going to be that runaway truck ramp for them to save their downhill life.
I just hate the whole meta
I've been single for years and I have to say, I love it. I can't see the benefit of a relationship, for myself, anymore at this age. Life is too short to be unhappy and stressed, (my opinion).
I value your opinion. Sounds like youve come a long way, Continue to Thrive Robbie! Only up from here!
So you just hook up with peeps on town at your own leisure then? You just get sex wherever you go? I mean, in that case I'd be single too! Or are you just happy being celibate?
Exactly, I'm separated after 12 years marriage, before I got married I had long term girl friends and single periods between these relationships ... when I was single back then, I would meet old buddies from school, skateboard, play video games, listen to doom metal; all those things that I had skipped during the relationships - the desire to do those things had been there all the time in a surpressed way. Enjoy being single, after a long relationship (and especially if the relationship has been bad or sour in the last stages) you can enjoy the freedom, sure keep looking, now you are allowed to flirt again ... so being single is certainly more fun than being in a dead relationship where everything has become mediocre - including an extinct love live.
"I dont like people that much, they kind of eff me up" - Jake Chambers
Interesting quote from Jake
I do believe that it is possible to be single for too long--and that many people are in denial of this fact. The truth is that marriage at 20 or 30 is very different from marriage much later in life. People don't want to talk about this. But I believe that our Victorian forbearers were much more honest in this area than we are. Especially for women. They quite frankly acknowledged that there was a "sell-by" date for women when it came to marriage and they did not hold out false hope that if a woman wasn't married by the time she turned 25 that she would eventually marry. They were also much more honest about what constituted a marriageable woman or man and what kinds of behaviors or traits would disqualify someone. For example, women who were considered "bluestockings"--intellectual, well-read, well-educated--could look forward to a life of involuntary spinsterhood. Because those traits were not sought after by the average man in looking for a wife. I'm not saying we should go back to that kind of thinking, only that they were in some ways much more realistic.
What nobody tells you about marrying later in life is that by that time neither one of you is a blank slate. Even if you yourself have never married, chances are the other person has been, and maybe even more than once! So there may be baggage in the form of exes, children, grandchildren that someone marrying in their 20's does not have to deal with. There may also be elderly parents in the picture that require a lot of care. Both of you may own your own homes and be otherwise established financially so there is that to consider. Not to mention the fact that you can end up being penalized by Social Security (if you live in the US). It's much, much, much more complicated than marrying in your twenties. If you are used to being independent and doing things on your own, all of a sudden now you have to take another person's wants and needs into consideration, and that can be very hard. If you have a age/mobility mismatch, that can also create stress. And there may be sexual issues to deal with as well. I really think it is better to marry at a younger age when you are much more resilient.
Maybe the single muscle is the only muscle that makes sense to exercise in a gynocentric entitled feminist society. Foundational happiness emanates from within, not in seeking such in externalities or people. Freedom is priceless. 64, look and feel 10 years younger and still single, no kids.
It is indeed a joy seeing you happy and looking 10yrs younger. You gotta share some health tips hey :)! Respect for sharing your journey, continue to Thrive fam
After being in two long term relationships 1st(24-30)2nd(32-37) i realized that it ain't for everybody.I have two kids from my wild days (before the relationships) who i am currently focused on putting through college and then after that i can finally enjoy my freedom ☺singlehood seems like the best things for the moment as a 37 yr old father with 18 yr old twins.
You’ve surely come to a few key Distinctions in your journey. My desire is that you may continue to stay connected and more strength your way fam
I've never been not single and I can't imagine not being single in the future.
Interesting. I hear ya …
You have a peace of mind.
Indeed, welcome to the channel 💪
imagine being actually able to attract someone and create a relationship, that would be crazy
It doesn't even enter my mind. I'd gladly start a business relationship with the right person, if we had common interests and goals, but not an emotional one.
What makes people think a complete stranger will come into their life, and do good, even improving it?
For me, it's the exact opposite: people cause me tremendous nuisance and bother. They regularly irritate me. It's even worse than not adding anything, they actually rob me of my contentment, peace of mind and just attempt to dump all their issues on me. People come into your life to take from you for their own benefit, not to give. Don't be delusional!
So I prefer to steer clear, and let others fall for the garbage dressed as a blessing that's out there.
The dangers of being single too long…you’ll learn to like it too much
The more i get older the more I wanna keep myself out of relationships!!! Greetings from Colombia South America.
I’ve been single for as long as I can remember. At first it was difficult now it seems as if is meant to be. I do all the hobbies and play in bands , ride dirt bikes ,workaholic. I have finally become so comfortable in my own skin it’s scary. Yes I truly miss the intimacy of being with a women and sharing my thoughts and feelings along with providing support and protection. I just don’t get consumed by it.
Hardest thing is filling the void and constantly trying to tell yourself it’s alright and no there is nothing wrong with you.
Last girl hurt me so bad I just took that long to recover that it’s hard to give your heart again.
There is a girl that I think ticks all the boxes in what I’m looking for, sent her a beautiful bunch of flowers and heart felt poetry anonymously but now dropping little hints. Well she is packing up and moving to another city. Oh well. Try again.
One thing im glad for is that you are comfortable in your own skin. Keep your head up Fam. I'll be sure to make a video on this topic . keep your eyes peeled
For a lot of people having a relationship isn't an option.
True , there are multiple factors for certain individuals
😄 i have been single all my life and mostly alone all my life. Don't you worry you get use to it 😁💪
Amen 🙏🏾 🤐, as much of a loner as I am I often sit & think do I really fully want to be always alone.
I’m glad that you resonate with this. Stay Strong and continue to Thrive Dev
Single? I’ve been alone my whole life. It is better to not have loved while still living a full life
Welcome to the channel fam. Do u think it’s better to not have loved…..
@@randallmitchell6326 whole heartedly. You can become whole without another. Honestly I can’t stand people. Too many sour experiences
Allow me to ask,(it's a bit long)
Personally I had a very hard year from 2022-2023 certain things were not in my control but with God's grace I was able to work through all of it. I was never "romantically" involved before and I do show I don't want to be, but I do. During that rough patch, I made a beautiful lady friend who I love spending time with, and as I was told by her girl bestfriend wants me to "make the move". But I know I am not ready mentally, financially and am Physically exhausted from the sports training I endured to escape from the fact that I was becoming depressed.( I am very young too). I have never been in a romantic relationship before and should I go for it, or is there a time I should wait for.
If she wants you to make a move, it means she already thinks you're good enough. I say go for it, just don't become needy and make sure to balance your time and continue becoming the best version of yourself. If it doesn't work out , there are plenty of other fish in the sea so don't sweat it.
Hey Fam, this is a great question, a text reply would do justice. I’ll make a video response to your question. Keep ur eyes posted 💪💯(I’ll ofcos keep identity’s private), let me know if that’s something you’d appreciate….
@@randallmitchell6326 Thank you sir, waiting eagerly
@@Jerry-mf1yx respect for your response Jerry. Solid stuff
@@Jerry-mf1yx Thank you brother I'll come back to you with results
The concept of "other half" is a Pagan concept (Hindu/Greek) so unless you are Pagan enjoy single life. Each one of us is born as a whole person
I am almost 60 and happily single, and never pictured myself married.
As long as you’re genuinely content 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Dating is sooo cooked So being single is fine
respects for coming to this channel fam!
Like MOST men I just got tired of the narcissistic games and overinflated egos women play.
Once I hit 30 I quit dating entirely just like every man I know.
I'm 53 no children or pets and I am fine
Respect! Being content and being at peace . Priceless ! Salute for spreading the good vibes
im alright on my own thanks! yeah can get bit boring but 100% freedom, nobody coming in and messing me around. im in charge of what i do and when!! excitement of sex comes and goes, once theyve had the best, they're off!
I totally get you .
i've been in relationship with this girl for almost 4 years (turned into a long distance one in the last year) and we just brokeup like 5 days ago becuz she didnt want me anymore becuz of the distance our feelings for each other kinda deminished ...but i still did try to keep her into the relationship trying to convince her we can still make it (which i shouldnt have and i regret doing it)... and she was determined to breakup nevertheless... the thing is i am having a wave of different emotions sometimes i feel good and happy about the breakup and free and the very next moment i miss her and wanna get back but i do know breaking up was the best thing we could do... now i dont know how to get over the relationship i hope i get over it soon.
Maybe it's different for some because I'm 42 and I've been happily single for 5 years or maybe I haven't been single long enough to experience those dangers.
Thank you for watching , what are your thoughts 👇
my bra dankie vir die,eks n personal trainer,nog altyd lief vir staal platte en groot pumps.eks nog altyd een om my eie kak te wil doen en soek vreiheid,eks onlangs single,ek wou met haar trou en haar red van haar ouers,maar sy ondersteun nie wie en wat ek is en wil doen nie.SO FOK HAAR,dis my tys die.
I've always wanted to be a husband. I grew up watching Leave It To Beaver and wanted a family, but dont want kids of my own so I just want a wife. If she hss kids than yay
I tend to find myself angery that noone wants to be with me as a couple. I'm always just a friend, and boundries are very difficult with female friends. The only good thing about being single is that I have no rolemodles in real life that taught me to be a good husband
It brings me joy to see you on the channel fam. Look , i know it is tough, and im thrilled that you have had good role-models in your life. I want you to keep your head up , shoulders back , and continue to Thrive Chief. Imma be dropping more videos this week on. this topic, let me know if theres anything specific. you'd like me to touch on...
@@randallmitchell6326 I couldnt find the video on gotter youtuve thinks Im looking for videos on fixing gutters
Most men live lives of quiet desperation, being single for long ain't a choice for most of us, we are invisible.
It’s certainly a reality for some. Continue to live with ya head up fam , with purpose & salute to you for vibing out here in the comments
Being social is instinctive, like becoming a parent. Thus, there's no such thing as 'being single too long.' If you're forced to live with someone, or socialize, it'll come as easy as breathing.
Interesting point . Something to consider! Welcome to the channel 💪💪
Verry good brotha
Major Respect Fam
I had that puppy love in highschool. It was great right up until they ended abruptly without warning. Fell in love with Marry Juana for 15 years. Eventually realized it was an abusive relationship and left. Now I'm 42 and trying to figure out if I can handle, or even benefit from, being in a relationship.
Major Salute to you for stopping by. For some reason i can still sense the determination coming from your vibe. REMEMBER as long as you are still breathing, As long as you have a Pulse, you have a purpose. Weather that includes woman or not, remember how valuable you are Fam.
I'm still waiting to hear the downsides of being single. Is that in the next video?
It's really sad that we have come to this moment in history... We are more connected then ever before , yet we are more disconnected then ever ! Most women's hypergamy has gone wild from all the bs online and social media... unrealistic expectations ! Most of us want to find someone and build a life together , sadly most women just wait @ the finish line expecting that they deserve only the best just for existing ! Even a man like Tom Brady and many others... the best of the best cannot keep a woman happy ! Very sad times
People want everything now. No one wants to build a life slow and steady with hardships. But i think a big change is coming soon. Men and women will be forced to come together again . Hard times are coming and they will test women and men.
I am single my entire life.
In America as a man, none!
There's comfort with familiarity.
So true , for the better and for worse. Continue to Thrive Fam
Great video
Thanks for the like
Thank you Sahil. Im glad you resonate with it , thanks for spreading the good vibes
@@randallmitchell6326 🙌
Agreed. Men cannot change millions of evolutionary history, even with all the copes (alcohol, video games, drugs, porn, etc.) that exist out there. Long-time singlehood is a fine line between sanity and craziness for the most part, with very few individuals being able to make the best out of it without living a life of "quiet desperation". One that can be easily as miserable as that of the coupled man.
Such an important point that you've made. Thank you for highlighting it. My desire is that you will prosper in all you put your mind on this year and for the years to come fam
& Thank you joining the fam !
I think it depends on the person and sometimes circumstances. For me im single not by choice because i would love to be with my babys father but he is not consistent and some of the dudes who come into my life just wants sex and i dont want that. So im waiting to see what the babys father will do until get my life together the best way i can before the baby comes. So im waiting on the relationship part because there are other things i need to focus on.
Hey Tiffany, i fully hear ya . Sometimes things are out of our control . All you can do now is keep your head up & keep the faith. 'll be dropping more vids this week, holla at me if theres anything specific youd want me to touch on ...
I've been single pretty much all my life. 35 now, only had a 3-month "relationship" (more like fling) and that's that. All hope is lost for me
Welcome to the channel fam. Remember in the grand scheme of life you’re young . Because you have a pulse you have a purpose
I"m 31, never been in a relationship, never taken a woman on a simple date so yeah i've been single for 31 years encounting. i'm kinda at the point might be ready for possible relationship, but no woman wants to date me. why? every single woman i've ever tried asking out would reject me, saying i'm ugly, and not attractive enough. I might have at this point hit the men go there own way status. dating just does not seem to be worth it anymore this day and age.
Hey Chris, welcome to the channel, and respect to you for your comment. I'll be sure to do a video on this. What i will say to you now tho is, Remain content, i cannot stress this more , you've gotta become so comfortabe in your skin that ppl around you find that attractive. I'll touch more on this in the video. Keep you're head up Fam
Danger of being single: you will save a lot of money! 🤣
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I don't think there is a danger of being single. Contrary, relationships seem to be more risky and dangerous. But I do believe that social interactions are important for one's tranquility and happiness.
Yes relationships can be a major blessing and the opposite can be true too. its one of the paradoxes of life. Keep your head up fam & respect for making your way to the channel
Well I don’t want to be single but I have to bc no one wants to be in a relationship but want all the benefits n that it’s a no for me. If we r f buddies that what I r to me. Plz don’t ask me to cook for u since u don’t represent me. So I’m single since I was 23 I’m 37 now. Few things but sexless life for the most part. I’m content
Elizabeth, Respect for stopping by and sharing your journey. Im thrilled for the fact that you said that YOU ARE CONTENT! To me thats all that matters, and I hope you are proud of who you have become, The lessons you've learnt along the way , The people you've met and growth that came from it. Continue to thrive E!
@@randallmitchell6326 thank you
This is my fear. Been single my whole llife. Already stuck in my ways. 😅
All things are possible . It might sound oversimplified and easy said than done , but it truly is the mindset you gotta have. Stay strong & keep the faith
im sorry bro i tried that ´´compromise ´´ thing with women and its a waste of energy and resources i chose the single path and its been paradise ever since
I’m glad you’ve found what works for you fam. Continue to Thrive
Single now 2 years. Last relationship ended Very Badly. Just used me for attention later found out she was knobbing some other geezer while seeing me. After being played by woman in the past more than once before im better off reprioritizing other things in life. Lifes too short to be screwed over multiple times
I try some dating systems but it’s a lot of energy and toxic. I meet a girl at work where I have feelings for but turn out she’s lesbian and only care about money and from outside my country. I missing to have a real sexual relationship but all the energy from the feminist women know these days it’s difficult to find a decent and normal thinking women where you can build a future on it
my issue is am single but over enjoying it like its honestly by choice to the point where im detered from ever wanting to be in a relationship i enjoy my independence to the point when am with girls they try to pursue a relationship with me and one even when to the point of calling me gay even if am straight just because i didnt pursue going out with her and sealing the deal🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m glad you are content with life , you can smile and be light hearted. You’re in a good position Fam