In keeping with the first interview I never take notes in front of the client while engaging with them. I find that clients will disengage quickly or feel the power difference in the conversation which tends to shy away from the self empowering technique that solution focus therapy tries to entail.
She does have a clipboard in her lap. It is out of the way and almost nearly unnoticeable. She makes eye contact, nods her head, smiles and is engaging. VERY NICE.
"What gives you the idea that saving this marriage is going to be a good thing." I just don't like the phrasing. "What is motivating you to save this marriage." "What will be the result of saving the marriage?" "Why do you think so?" "How do you think this marriage will look when it is saved. " I just thing there are some better ways to phrase the question. The inquiry is still appropriate.
Very professional .. Thank you .. I'm studying to become a counsellor and I found this video to be very clear.. This was so far one of the best videos that I have watched .. 😊
Back to the Husband... Still hiding behind his clipboard, legs crossed, protecting himself, and using that fake therapist voice. He might as well just stand up on the chair and shout, "I am the therapist in this room."
I hope she comments on the client's body language. Closed, Hands clasped. "Is it difficult being here/" "Would you like some water?" "Being here is not easy, what could make you more comfortable. We are just two people having a conversation." The obviously appears to be in mild distress. Still he is participating and In Soo is so ingratiating. i love her style.
It is kind'a disturbing when the counsling lady says "aha, aha, aha" everytime the guy says something and she also repeats what he says to much, you should do that (confirm) but not that much. Also she says "its that so?" very often.
I love her affect. Very appropriate to the content of the client. Great reflection skills. Uses natural body language and hand gestures. Not hiding behind crossed legs and a clipboard like her husband. This woman is impressive and she has skills.
Love their therapy interaction style. Very non-judgmental and they were able to draw out the information from the clients. Good reflection questions, and confirmation of the client's narrative. Thanks for being a good example. I can use this in my classes. Cool.
The Therapist suffers from BTD. Automatically he is reserved, legs crossed, pad in front of him, no eye contact, scribbling on paper. None of this demonstrates Real Human Being interacting with Another Human Being. Intentionally modified voice, therapists voice. Nothing about this looks good. (Beginning Therapist Disease.)
I tend to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. More lack of responsibility that would not exist if the session had been framed and the client given power right at the beginning.
I like, what could change in this hour. "Let's say something did change." This is in fact an excellent question but it is on top of a horrible frame where they client is not responsible.
I really wanna thank you for sharing this.Im reading a diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy and this really helped me with my studies on Solution Focused therapy .Thanks So much!
Does not pay attention to the answer. Great place to make eye contact and empathy. Instead he stairs down at the pad and scribbles. This guy is actually emotionally unavailable to his clients. He is more concerned with the right technique than with the right response. His wife is wonderful and know how to show up as a human being first and allow the theory to flow through her. The husband is busy doing therapy the right way and focused on techniques and getting the questions right. He needs to toss the tie, lose the clip board, unbutton his top button, and stop being afraid of his clients.
if case of solution to substance abuse, there cant b no codependence professional fulfilment use n gain for therapist left unrecogniced. .. but thats k@'s eye... chissa? .. maybe diciplin work for dogs. there is a method to the madness thst worked until problem w what now project on alL 'help'. fact. dont change just coz angry w me or i do 'wrong'
Pick your battles. What could change? I don't see anything that could. This occurs only because the context of the therapy session has not been established. The client is being forced to come by the probation officer. This is the clients perspective and it just isn't true. He walked into the office for a reason. He chose to come into the office to avoid the negative consequences of his own behavior. He is whole, complete and powerful enough to make good decisions. The fact that he is in counseling proves it. Coming in is smarter than facing the consequences. He chose to be in the session.
She makes the Positive goals important by writing them down. The last one... "So you want to quit drinking?" I would explore that. 'How much time do you spend drinking?" "What would you do instead of drinking?" "If you stop drinking you may have to come up with some new goals to keep you busy. What do you imagine you could do." Still... she does continue and it is easy to sit outside and comment. This would not be an error but possibly an area for future inquiry/
It was interesting to view a video like this for the purpose of identifying steps of the interview, because you can see the different styles that counsellors use and how they speak to clients. Some clients also need goal formulation, while some just want to talk and get some thoughts off their chest. Overall, it was a really good learning tool.
"I'm here so I might as well try to get something out of it." I do not believe this is a real client at this point. Suddenly the client takes some responsibility? Why? I think you are using an actor. There is no reason for the client to shift focus to himself after blaming the PO. If it is a real client, which I doubt, it was chosen for the fact that this client happened to do this and no other reason. In my experience, once a client defines himself as helpless in the session and referred by courts or PO, he or she will dig in and resist. The session has been improperly framed IMO.
"You got to be here because...." Client frames, "Probation officer." NO! Your probation officer is not in this room. You walked in here on your own two feet. Your probation officer has nothing to do with this. Why are you here? You do not have to be here. I am happy to write a letter to the court telling them that you do not think you need to be here. The client is responsible for walking into the room and for getting his own counseling. The court is not his mommy and the PO not his daddy. Letting this slide allows the referred patient to avoid responsibility for his own problems and success. There should be an intervention here.
A little history taking goes on here. "You just got out of jail?" A good time to congratulate the client for being responsible enough to pay his debt to society. (Instead of "are you finished") When will you finish? Will you have a celebration after that? What will you do? (I am thinking of maneuvering them both into celebrating and thus get them working together.) Get them both thinking about a goal. Still, just another direction. Nothing wrong in the session but that flat "I am the therapist voice and attitude." This guy needs to loosen up and be human.
I think what they want to demonstrate are the techniques but I totally agree with the human part of it and thank you for pointing that out! :) I guess he's too shy or something.
Thanks for making this video. It is a great tool to learn from. The sessions were a kind of reflection therapy for the clients, they sought for the solution and come up with a decision.
In keeping with the first interview I never take notes in front of the client while engaging with them. I find that clients will disengage quickly or feel the power difference in the conversation which tends to shy away from the self empowering technique that solution focus therapy tries to entail.
Me neither. I feel the same way...
She does have a clipboard in her lap. It is out of the way and almost nearly unnoticeable. She makes eye contact, nods her head, smiles and is engaging. VERY NICE.
"What gives you the idea that saving this marriage is going to be a good thing." I just don't like the phrasing. "What is motivating you to save this marriage." "What will be the result of saving the marriage?" "Why do you think so?" "How do you think this marriage will look when it is saved. " I just thing there are some better ways to phrase the question. The inquiry is still appropriate.
That phrasing was very accusatory and if I were the client, I would have got defensive and rapport would have been damaged.
Very professional .. Thank you .. I'm studying to become a counsellor and I found this video to be very clear.. This was so far one of the best videos that I have watched .. 😊
Back to the Husband... Still hiding behind his clipboard, legs crossed, protecting himself, and using that fake therapist voice. He might as well just stand up on the chair and shout, "I am the therapist in this room."
I hope she comments on the client's body language. Closed, Hands clasped. "Is it difficult being here/" "Would you like some water?" "Being here is not easy, what could make you more comfortable. We are just two people having a conversation." The obviously appears to be in mild distress. Still he is participating and In Soo is so ingratiating. i love her style.
I love clipboard guy's style - what is his name?
It is kind'a disturbing when the counsling lady says "aha, aha, aha" everytime the guy says something and she also repeats what he says to much, you should do that (confirm) but not that much. Also she says "its that so?" very often.
I love her affect. Very appropriate to the content of the client. Great reflection skills. Uses natural body language and hand gestures. Not hiding behind crossed legs and a clipboard like her husband. This woman is impressive and she has skills.
Love their therapy interaction style. Very non-judgmental and they were able to draw out the information from the clients. Good reflection questions, and confirmation of the client's narrative. Thanks for being a good example. I can use this in my classes. Cool.
The Therapist suffers from BTD. Automatically he is reserved, legs crossed, pad in front of him, no eye contact, scribbling on paper. None of this demonstrates Real Human Being interacting with Another Human Being. Intentionally modified voice, therapists voice. Nothing about this looks good. (Beginning Therapist Disease.)
Okay, "What will be helpful for you today." Good opening question. Frames the session well.
I tend to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. More lack of responsibility that would not exist if the session had been framed and the client given power right at the beginning.
I like, what could change in this hour. "Let's say something did change." This is in fact an excellent question but it is on top of a horrible frame where they client is not responsible.
I really wanna thank you for sharing this.Im reading a diploma in Counselling and Psychotherapy and this really helped me with my studies on Solution Focused therapy .Thanks So much!
Does not pay attention to the answer. Great place to make eye contact and empathy. Instead he stairs down at the pad and scribbles. This guy is actually emotionally unavailable to his clients. He is more concerned with the right technique than with the right response. His wife is wonderful and know how to show up as a human being first and allow the theory to flow through her. The husband is busy doing therapy the right way and focused on techniques and getting the questions right. He needs to toss the tie, lose the clip board, unbutton his top button, and stop being afraid of his clients.
if case of solution to substance abuse, there cant b no codependence professional fulfilment use n gain for therapist left unrecogniced. .. but thats k@'s eye... chissa? .. maybe diciplin work for dogs. there is a method to the madness thst worked until problem w what now project on alL 'help'. fact. dont change just coz angry w me or i do 'wrong'
Pick your battles. What could change? I don't see anything that could. This occurs only because the context of the therapy session has not been established. The client is being forced to come by the probation officer. This is the clients perspective and it just isn't true. He walked into the office for a reason. He chose to come into the office to avoid the negative consequences of his own behavior. He is whole, complete and powerful enough to make good decisions. The fact that he is in counseling proves it. Coming in is smarter than facing the consequences. He chose to be in the session.
In Soo is 100% better. Open posture, Relaxed. Natural voice. Conversational. No clip board protecting her. This looks so much better.
She makes the Positive goals important by writing them down. The last one... "So you want to quit drinking?" I would explore that. 'How much time do you spend drinking?" "What would you do instead of drinking?" "If you stop drinking you may have to come up with some new goals to keep you busy. What do you imagine you could do." Still... she does continue and it is easy to sit outside and comment. This would not be an error but possibly an area for future inquiry/
Thanks for making this public. Such an honoring approach to relationships.
It was interesting to view a video like this for the purpose of identifying steps of the interview, because you can see the different styles that counsellors use and how they speak to clients. Some clients also need goal formulation, while some just want to talk and get some thoughts off their chest. Overall, it was a really good learning tool.
I enjoyed the videos. Thanks for posting them.
thank you for sharing this video; very handy in my MSW internship =)
Great! I was able to use this information in my "Counseling Class."
nice to see Inso on video. I owe a lot to her and Steve de Shazer.
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"I'm here so I might as well try to get something out of it." I do not believe this is a real client at this point. Suddenly the client takes some responsibility? Why? I think you are using an actor. There is no reason for the client to shift focus to himself after blaming the PO. If it is a real client, which I doubt, it was chosen for the fact that this client happened to do this and no other reason. In my experience, once a client defines himself as helpless in the session and referred by courts or PO, he or she will dig in and resist. The session has been improperly framed IMO.
"You got to be here because...." Client frames, "Probation officer." NO! Your probation officer is not in this room. You walked in here on your own two feet. Your probation officer has nothing to do with this. Why are you here? You do not have to be here. I am happy to write a letter to the court telling them that you do not think you need to be here. The client is responsible for walking into the room and for getting his own counseling. The court is not his mommy and the PO not his daddy. Letting this slide allows the referred patient to avoid responsibility for his own problems and success. There should be an intervention here.
A little history taking goes on here. "You just got out of jail?" A good time to congratulate the client for being responsible enough to pay his debt to society. (Instead of "are you finished") When will you finish? Will you have a celebration after that? What will you do? (I am thinking of maneuvering them both into celebrating and thus get them working together.) Get them both thinking about a goal. Still, just another direction. Nothing wrong in the session but that flat "I am the therapist voice and attitude." This guy needs to loosen up and be human.
I think what they want to demonstrate are the techniques but I totally agree with the human part of it and thank you for pointing that out! :) I guess he's too shy or something.
Thanks for making this video. It is a great tool to learn from. The sessions were a kind of reflection therapy for the clients, they sought for the solution and come up with a decision.