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  • Hi faves gang ♥️
    I’m back with another video .
    Let’s chat about teenage pregnancy
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ความคิดเห็น • 486

  • @noxolomkhwanazi4072
    @noxolomkhwanazi4072 4 ปีที่แล้ว +904

    I fell pregnant when I was 15, I was a child with irregular periods I didn't think of it that much I also found out at 6 months and 11 years later, I'm a qualified scientist, have my dream job, house car and an amazing husband and step dad to my son, to the 18 year old girl it is not over till God says so keep pushing, keep your head up and your dreams are valid

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Come onnnnnn !!!!! Yerrr I’m so proud of you mamah !!

    • @BBRealTalk
      @BBRealTalk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yours is a testimony thank you for the added faith

    • @zolacumbane9294
      @zolacumbane9294 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Omg ♥️🙌

    • @kimberlyndou4541
      @kimberlyndou4541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What a wow 🔥🔥

    • @ElsieRatshitang
      @ElsieRatshitang 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So proud of you ❤️❤️

  • @Kamoomonslay
    @Kamoomonslay 4 ปีที่แล้ว +259

    The way ladies are supportive of each other down here, keep it like that in public or other social platforms. It’s amazing.

  • @palesamotaung5415
    @palesamotaung5415 4 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    Xoli is so good at story telling. I can literally see everything happening
    As a teenager I was so scared of falling pregnant, I think it’s because our parents made us believe that having a baby at an early age ruins our lives entirely.

  • @amuvlogs8500
    @amuvlogs8500 4 ปีที่แล้ว +608

    I fell pregnant in my first year, I was 18 years old and I couldn’t be a mother! I made the decision to abort! It was hard but it was a good decision for me and my future

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Amukelani Charity Mathebula so proud of you ♥️♥️

    • @thatolebea3145
      @thatolebea3145 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      fetus deletus 🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂❤️

    • @janesadiki1279
      @janesadiki1279 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      that is brave of you to take that decision

    • @GuguladiM
      @GuguladiM 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you for sharing this.

    • @phelelanicollin4000
      @phelelanicollin4000 4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I also felt pregnant when I was 18 years I did abortion I also thought that was the best decision ever but trust me it wasn't coz now m in a serious relationship its been four years now and m struggling to have children

  • @samkelomathebula9201
    @samkelomathebula9201 4 ปีที่แล้ว +188

    As a guy this truly showed me the importance of being present and taking responsibility at all times. Thank you soo much for this 🙌🏾

  • @LaMaziyah
    @LaMaziyah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    I fell pregnant at 16 it was really hard, she changed my life physically, mentally I had to make huge life changes, and I thank God for my mom yoooh that woman was supportive after giving birth, I finished school got my honors, I'm working today I have a 11 years old daughter, married, Now trying for baby no 2 💖😍 it was hard shem yoooh I could even write a book.

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Congratulations mamah 😭😭♥️♥️♥️

    • @ElsieRatshitang
      @ElsieRatshitang 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ❤️❤️

    • @Olivia-rm6si
      @Olivia-rm6si 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's the way to go congratulations hun

  • @zandilethys2411
    @zandilethys2411 4 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    You remind me so much to my Pregnancy in Matric and Failing Matric 💔 💔 💔 💔, I think it is up to us to share such stories because Teenage pregnancy is not the Kylie and Travis Scott! 🙌

    • @thandolwamingubani5285
      @thandolwamingubani5285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      'It's not the Kylie and Travis vibe'💕💕💕💕💕💖💖💖💖Amen to this🙏🏾

  • @ayabulelasigenu6057
    @ayabulelasigenu6057 4 ปีที่แล้ว +174

    I relate to this so much. I was pregnant with twins when I was 18 years old. Now they 7 beautiful beings. It was hard, if I had to turn back I would do things differently. Fortunately I did get support from their father till today

  • @faithm3597
    @faithm3597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    😂😂😂😂not the ‘bhut John’ meme 😭😭😭
    Your honesty is admirable ❤️
    You are a great story teller, how your energy changes when you get to different parts, I love it so much. Love you ❤️

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Faith M I’m crying in the club 😭😭😭♥️♥️♥️

    • @snothando_dhladhla
      @snothando_dhladhla 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yho bhut John yena, Yho killed me😂😂😂😂😂

  • @suthunazo9582
    @suthunazo9582 4 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    😂😂😂😂The doctor was definitely not reading the room haybo.

    • @DeksDee
      @DeksDee 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I swear, only black Dr's read the room. 😂

    • @philm1781
      @philm1781 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂😂

  • @sihle5927
    @sihle5927 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    Because of you i can't watch other TH-cam story tellers. You're so authentic and very honest. Which comes through to us. Its not easy what you do,we appreciate it. Your content is amazing. 😍

  • @Xolile_Gcabashe
    @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Sorry you guys couldn’t comment I changed it now ♥️♥️

  • @shazzytawirah
    @shazzytawirah 4 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Got pregnant when I was 21 when I was about to go to Germany it was a disappointment to me and my family but I got married to him his a good man right now I'm studying law and I'm happy

  • @Iam_Nelisa
    @Iam_Nelisa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I love how you control the energy in all you videos. The energy was at a high when you were relaying the doctor story and then when you deliver the message the video is intended for, you are somber! Thank you for pulling at our heart strings and your honesty, it’s refreshing!

    • @faithm3597
      @faithm3597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amazing narrator

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yo I’m crying Haibo 😭♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @baecyngee8928
    @baecyngee8928 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Girl thank you for this video. I got pregnant at 24 by my high school sweetheart, he promised to be there and the baby is 7 months now and I've been doing it all on my own. I also thought I wasn't going to get pregnant and looking back I was stupid. I still have my breakdowns because being a single mother is not easy, especially when you don't have a support system. But I'm going to be great and my future didn't end

  • @bkapwata
    @bkapwata 4 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Bathong sis , I just want to thank you for being relatable, I'm one of your followers rooting for you bbes you are destined for great things ....

  • @didintlemmusi1585
    @didintlemmusi1585 4 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    High-school sweethearts are so dangerous and I'm in that kind of relationship right now.This has beeeen a huge eye opener thank you sooo much.❤

    • @NaturalNomvula
      @NaturalNomvula 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They not dangerous you just need to make sure you make the right decisions both you and your partner. I am still with my high school sweetheart and we are expecting our first child after 9 years of being together 😊. Like Xoli says we need to think and not do things because of "love" and not think about the future.

  • @sinegugudube4956
    @sinegugudube4956 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Me letting all the ads play in-between the video use Xoli gotta get this Coins..💸Lovely video and so honest. I pray for the 18 year old girl to find strength and know that all things will work out for good. Love and Light!!🙌🏾💛

  • @michellemnisi7795
    @michellemnisi7795 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Watching this video I was just thinking about how lucky we are to have people like you to advise us this early on in our lives. I’m sure things would’ve turned out differently for you if you had someone like you say all these things you’re telling us at that point in your life. Thank you Sis’Xoli ❤️❤️

  • @LumzM
    @LumzM 4 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    This is coming from someone who isn’t a mom yet - thank you for sharing this ♥️. And to every mom here - young or old, planned or unplanned, as a mom you play a big big role and with no manual in place, you are doing amazing jobs and your little people love & admire you. You are a superhero to that little person. We appreciate you.
    To the 18 year old and many like her - I wish you strength. Do what’s best for you.

  • @relebohilekhumalo9474
    @relebohilekhumalo9474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I think every relationship hits this rocky place at some point, pregnancy or not. I remember how my parents also told me that there is life beyond high school and high school is just a small fraction of your entire life. Now that I’m older I’ve realized how important it is to listen to the elderly but with a very cautious mind . To every young mama , I take my hat off to you. Juggling a baby , emotions , hormones ??? School and life ??? Wow ! ❤️Good advice for young people in relationships , be careful and don’t just think for the NOW. There is tomorrow and 2 years later .

  • @SimmieMkhize
    @SimmieMkhize 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    What I love about this video is that she didn't pretend it was all sunshine and rainbows as most teen moms do. She was so honest about it and I appreciate that.

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you mamah ♥️♥️♥️

  • @nonkuanimated3328
    @nonkuanimated3328 4 ปีที่แล้ว +107

    As women we are always on our own young women need to know this. No matter how in love you think you are wamitha nje⁉️Once you fall pregnant you are on your own! Preventa!!

    • @nomfundohlongwane2376
      @nomfundohlongwane2376 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I can’t stress this enough

    • @sengzither82
      @sengzither82 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Watwakala

    • @michellemabaso7771
      @michellemabaso7771 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Yoh futhi! It doesn't even matter how old you are

    • @lebohangm7252
      @lebohangm7252 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      While we at this may we please make it a thing to publicly support women who decide to terminate

  • @ladyschezmokwena7080
    @ladyschezmokwena7080 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for your video babes , went through the same thing was doing my last year in high school , worse was living in my apartment managing life on my own , I still find it challenging accepting because now there’s college and so many responsibilities. I’m grateful for my mom for her support but emotionally it’s exhausting and can take a toll on your mental health. He’s 8 months now and I’m still going strong . Love from Ireland ❤️❤️❤️🇮🇪

  • @kamogelomorontse3320
    @kamogelomorontse3320 4 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    Resenting your child is a thing , I didn't understand what that feeling was when I had my daughter at 18 . You can never be fully prepared emotionally to be a mom , it's worse when you're just a teenager.
    Kuzolunga for anyone who is going through this at the moment ❤

  • @ashleymude4482
    @ashleymude4482 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    2024 I'm rewatching this video😂😂😂😂 always been funny but look how these sit downs have always been your thing. ❤

  • @tshenollolesegotshetlo843
    @tshenollolesegotshetlo843 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Being a young mother is hard, so I totally agree on the point of waititg until circumstances are conducive for one to raise children the best way they can. Having life come to a pause and growing up quicker than you need to isn’t cute, so don’t rush the process and enjoy your youth. Marriage and babies will come when the time is right, don’t let that time be in your prime.

  • @mbalimntungwa7018
    @mbalimntungwa7018 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Im 27 not pregnant but still took alot from this ❤️ especially looking beyond someone

  • @mapulemdletshe1581
    @mapulemdletshe1581 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I sent this to my 17 year old sis. Thank you for being so authentic

  • @nicolletteutloa8249
    @nicolletteutloa8249 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    That doctor was not reading the room man 😂😂😂 mess! You’re doing an amazing job Xoli!

  • @naleditaioe2300
    @naleditaioe2300 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Yoh Xoli big ups to you for being a big sis to the 18 year old and for being honest in telling your story. These things happen we've all had to pick ourselves up and be the best we could be. Love you doll you're doing an amazing job😘

  • @Sandiswaa_ntuli
    @Sandiswaa_ntuli ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m now 19 turning 20 this year doing my second year at university and I feel like I have been a burden to my mother . I have seen her going up and down with me as she got me at a very young age . But she never gave up in her dreams and being who she is now , I really appreciate this 🤍

  • @bongabotha8211
    @bongabotha8211 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This is so heartfelt 🥰.... you touched on the necessity to wait, but went on to duly applaud young moms 🥺

  • @nyeletinkuna7721
    @nyeletinkuna7721 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    [2022] I had to search for this video because I am 11 days post-partum. And I relate to every single thing Xoli said. My daughter's father has been a ghost since mid pregnancy. If it wasn't for my mom as well, I would of have been in a dark space. I simply came on the video to gather comfort. ❤️

    • @mino.maryjane
      @mino.maryjane 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      All the best mama, you got this!❤❤

  • @fatimam.1578
    @fatimam.1578 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You've taught me so much sisi. I'm so proud of you for healing to this point where you're able speak so wisely to young girls with and without children. Talk your talk sis. I love you.

  • @Ndeepah_m
    @Ndeepah_m 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    "A granny?! A granny?! Uthini lomlungu?!"🤣🤣🤣

  • @barbaramanjoro5260
    @barbaramanjoro5260 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    It’s beautiful to read and hear so many stories you can relate with i was 17 when I got pregnant, people talked shame I lost all of my friends I was so ashamed and scared by my mom stuck by me the sad part of my story is my baby died when he was 1 of liver failure, but getting pregnant isn’t the end of the world it gets better and never worry about people they will always talk and be hateful I’m in a better place now and I’m doing so well so let’s pull each other up ladies❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️I love love your channel because of this story time! You’re my new fav

  • @katlegomasenya1471
    @katlegomasenya1471 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This was so open and honest. I think we can all appreciate it regardless of which stage of life we are in. Thank you♥️

  • @abygalekgwadi4338
    @abygalekgwadi4338 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    So relatable....had mine when I was 17,missed my prom and all the experiences I was supposed to have as a teenager..BD gone and it was me and my parents tbh and they had been amazing but I was so depressed and felt robbed but I knew I had a part to play...but 7 beautiful and hard years later we are great,my baby is beautiful and intelligent♥️ relatable content♥️♥️♥️

  • @zilungileolifant2231
    @zilungileolifant2231 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The honesty in you is the only thing that keeps me coming back to your channel 💕

  • @katjinaapollos3316
    @katjinaapollos3316 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Its really the honesty and realness for me.Alot of us mothers don't often speak about the reality of having a child at a young age and all of the things you said I true.It's not always shiny.

  • @ruvimboangelinemujere6786
    @ruvimboangelinemujere6786 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    The advice I love cause it applies beyond your teen years , even in your 20s or 30s be mindful of your partners and birth control all the way ❤ thank you

  • @aobakweseleka2053
    @aobakweseleka2053 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Noise of other people should never keep one from moving. So much more in life to focus on. "Gotta be the best" ❤❤❤

  • @ladybirdlb
    @ladybirdlb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Mara I love you man. Your transparency is EVERYTHING!!!! So glad I came across your channel. I'm hooked!

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It’s the “ Mara “ for me 😂♥️♥️

    • @ladybirdlb
      @ladybirdlb 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Xoli gcabashe 😂😂😂🙈🙈🙈

  • @mysibaar8465
    @mysibaar8465 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Ngiyabonga Xoli For The Advice, Beyidzingeka Shame. I Don't Have A Baby But I've Learnt Something ❤

  • @mmapulax3120
    @mmapulax3120 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thoroughly enjoyed how real this was and how open and honest you were❤️

  • @sibabalwetuluma5215
    @sibabalwetuluma5215 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I relate to this so much yho. My baby is also 6 years now and through all the challenges of being a teen mom all I can say it was worth it. His is a lovely boy right now my personal angel who reminds me everyday that he loves me and those moments are the moments where I know I'm doing a good job at this parenting thing.

  • @lesa8855
    @lesa8855 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Oh wow. I actually had a similar experience, also found out I was 6 months pregnant, while my mom was in the room. I went through similar emotions and everything that you mentioned. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤.

  • @nqobilemkhwanazi250
    @nqobilemkhwanazi250 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your story telling is on fire!!! I'm glad you being real about what you you went through...great content

  • @gontseamo7953
    @gontseamo7953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    "Be careful who you get pregnant with" financial wise and maturity, stop dating di bari. I got impregnated by a bari and I'm never looking that way again EVER.

  • @anittanxusa
    @anittanxusa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Young moms do the DAMN THING!! We sure do! Thank you for sharing❤️

  • @olebogengsebogodi8177
    @olebogengsebogodi8177 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You’re such a breath of fresh air❤️ thank you for this❤️

  • @natashanosipho8015
    @natashanosipho8015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you so much for this. Young mothers are really doing well for themselves and children... It really isn't the end of the world.

  • @sihle_khums
    @sihle_khums 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is such a hectic story but your lovely personality brought lightheartedness and humour. Intense, yet so beautiful ❤
    To the teenagers, babes put yourself first. Do what's best for you. Always stay optimistic no matter the situation and lastly, always learn to forgive yourself. ❤❤❤

  • @londiwemntungwa7165
    @londiwemntungwa7165 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thanks you Xoli I relate to your story, when I was pregnant I had no symptoms not even morning sickness and I went to my periods, I found out at 4 months 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. It was tough but I had to get up and keep moving. I have 7 months son now😍😍😻

    • @lebohangm7252
      @lebohangm7252 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You had your periods all 4 months?

  • @marthamabaso8245
    @marthamabaso8245 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just came across this video,the logic of story telling is on another level.Xoli you are indeed the best ❤ Keep shining to greater heights aunty darling.I've found a sister in you,love you ❤❤❤❤

  • @excellentthobeli8218
    @excellentthobeli8218 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I saw your video once but couldn't watch all of it because I ran out of data. Today I came across you and I was so happy because I had forgotten your name. I've been glued to your channel. Girl thank you for empowering myself and other women. I'm grateful i came across you and i admire your strength. #Strong_Black_Women ❤️

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May we know them and may we be them ♥️♥️

  • @elizabethmgobozi932
    @elizabethmgobozi932 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    First time watching and learnt a lot from u ur transparency just watched ur first video of plan B and now this. I have never came across someone who is so honest and not ashamed bout her past u are such an inspiration love u bbe.

  • @lynettenkosi9310
    @lynettenkosi9310 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I have never laughed!!! 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 especially when Mom was on the floor! And you’re a great Mom ♥️

  • @amogelangleshabane7006
    @amogelangleshabane7006 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    It's so weird how when everyone doesn't know about the pregnancy yet the tummy doesn't show but as soon as they know Yooo... Happened with me also

    • @dineotladi1117
      @dineotladi1117 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm sorry if this sounds stupid but were your periods still regular and how far along were you?

  • @oratilemalotle8232
    @oratilemalotle8232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    I’m 20 turning 21 this month and my pregnancy journey is hell I even feel like taking my own life 💔😣 all my dreams GONE 😔

    • @magugubhengu7444
      @magugubhengu7444 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Be strong my sister it will all my sense once u have the baby in your arms

    • @lomalungelomabuza7379
      @lomalungelomabuza7379 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Your dreams are valid my love you will be fine trust me ♥️

    • @nokukhanyankomo6254
      @nokukhanyankomo6254 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Love and light Tshiamo❤️😢

    • @oratilemalotle8232
      @oratilemalotle8232 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Thank you 😣♥️ I found out just at 4 months I’m almost done but I’m exhausted by family drama from the guys side 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ pressure’s of school because only one year left then I graduated the one thing I actually look forward to 🙃🙃. Thank you for the love♥️♥️

  • @nelly_n8888
    @nelly_n8888 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really love how real you are with your stories and you take in the situations you’ve faced.❤️

  • @kabelolove
    @kabelolove 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I am single and I do not have a child….. phela I was a good girl with very strict parents.
    My family didn’t have much, my mum sold sweets and snacks at a college and guess I knew deep down that having a baby was not a good idea because of my background.
    Fast forward ⏩
    I became a nurse and I waited patiently for Mr Right, he never came.
    When I turned 35 I realized that I have ran out of time ⌛️
    I tried finding a potential “baby daddy” with no success.
    Today I am 39 years old and I wish I could turn back the hands of time, because I am childless.

  • @leratomalope7749
    @leratomalope7749 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Surely I can’t be the only one who rolled on the floor at 11:55 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @moloisisebelebele108
    @moloisisebelebele108 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    It also becomes hard to bond with that baby. And my mom was happy shockingly because the Dr told her that it's a boy. But 2019 was the worst year of my life, I was so depressed and I had to pause my studies and I'm just glad that the baby came out just fine. Apart from that im still angry at the father for wanting me to keep the baby but he's nowhere to be found now.

  • @DimphoM
    @DimphoM 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    When i found out i was pregnant my world crumble down.
    was turning 20 at college "Beacon of hope"
    I lost weight i became depressed, i didn't eat , it was alot to take in , i had to grow up from an early age till this day i'm in no communication with my baby daddy , and my son is 3years 9months.
    I had early labour 35 weeks , he was born prematurely 😭.
    I struggle to come out i lost weight. Ngahletswa , kwakhuluma ngatsi till this days I'm single mom who's 23 ❤️🥂

  • @mandisamabanga4426
    @mandisamabanga4426 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    You're such a great story teller Sis Xoli, this is such an eye opening video, thank you so much 💕💜

  • @phelokazingamlana26
    @phelokazingamlana26 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you Xoli for sharing this.
    Kids grow up nyani and be amazing 💕. Mine is Turning 13 years and she is an amazing part of my life i was never ready for ❤️..

  • @zinangoni297
    @zinangoni297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really enjoy how raw your channel is. It is a breath of fresh air. You are doing well.

  • @mulalomfamadi4184
    @mulalomfamadi4184 4 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    "I thought I was a bhozza" 🤣❤️

  • @nafetina8371
    @nafetina8371 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    You are so amazing. I love how honest you are. i also fell pregnant at 19 in second year ,my daughter is now 2yrs old and i don't regret it at all. It takes one to be really strong and share their story of what they went through. Its beautiful to see someone like you be able to share her story cause alot of young girls out there are struggling with such issues. Thank you so much for sharing......

  • @didimolaoa5609
    @didimolaoa5609 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Xoli i love you, you remind me of the relationship i have with my mom ...i also have my son at 20...life afterwards was a puzzle i couldn't solve... but God has been amazing, life neh

  • @khomotsoditsela8254
    @khomotsoditsela8254 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Had my son at 22 he is 6 now. Baby daddy is kak nje but we move... strength to her.

  • @akhilehope6412
    @akhilehope6412 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Honestly your strong for sharing it's a taboo thing to talk about even if it shouldn't it is and the fact your talking about it ❤️

  • @FufuSithole
    @FufuSithole 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    You guys were very much in love. The whole school knew 😂. I really enjoyed this video and I hope it reaches someone who needs it the most.

    • @Xolile_Gcabashe
      @Xolile_Gcabashe  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s crazy how people go from that to what we are now 💔

  • @jessicabhembe6923
    @jessicabhembe6923 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    So real, so pure, so true! Thank you for your honesty Xoli

  • @aliciankosi7279
    @aliciankosi7279 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thanks Xoli for great advice one thing I might say to all women out there once you fall pregnant it's 99% chances that you end up with that baby daddy our man in this generation are afraid of responsibility but that doesn't take away the power of a woman a mother we are so strong if there's someone strong I've ever seen in this world that's a woman but let be careful as too whom we make babies with

  • @rebaoneseichokelo3734
    @rebaoneseichokelo3734 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love how honest and sincere you are ❤️❤️❤️

  • @ABCDEFG12163
    @ABCDEFG12163 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Listen, your authentic and honest story telling 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @Embula_Nomsa
    @Embula_Nomsa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “ mom ,I just did it once 😂😂”
    Xoli Ure so inspiring.
    I’m subscribing 🥺

  • @princessskosana1372
    @princessskosana1372 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Eish babe, I'm sorry you had to go through all of that... but at the end of a tunnel there's always a LIGHT. ❣💟💞 much love😘😘😘

  • @dorcasnonhlanhla8553
    @dorcasnonhlanhla8553 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Kabza is still releasing songs, we still need to dance Amen!!! I heard that.

  • @kmanamela082
    @kmanamela082 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you very much for this video. I've never related to a video as much as this one🤞I too have just given birth as young as I am (20 years) and I've been going thru the most💔. This helped me realize that it's not the end. Umntana uzokhula and I'll also be fine. I'll finish school and graduate. The future is still bright.

  • @danielamadzonga9318
    @danielamadzonga9318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Fave TH-camr.
    All the way from Botswana ❤️❤️😭

  • @silindilebongiwemakhaza
    @silindilebongiwemakhaza 4 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    😂😂😂😂😂 when she imitates her mom 😂😂😂😂

  • @snethembamswane7988
    @snethembamswane7988 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Hey Xoli! I love your channel so much! ❤️ I'd like to suggest maybe getting a mic just so that it's easier to hear you. ❤

  • @yolisa444
    @yolisa444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's so sad that people get kicked out of church or feel so ashamed that they leave the church when they do something bad or when they're at their worst because that's the best time to connect with God and let Him take care of you and the things around you. God wants us to come as we are and even at our lowest, and He wants us to be honest and transparent with Him because He understands... He always understands🤍
    No mistake/sin is u unforgivable and it is never late to run back to Him

  • @lukona_melento
    @lukona_melento 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was a great view, really glad you used your platform to speak about it 💜

  • @kakoleonthatile6632
    @kakoleonthatile6632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    The way you telling the story it’s like i was there , imagining it in my head!

    • @lebommatjie
      @lebommatjie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Onthatile😂😂You're also a fan of this channel❤love to see it

    • @kakoleonthatile6632
      @kakoleonthatile6632 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lebo Mmatjie 😂😂 girl i am here for the tea ☕️ & who wouldn’t be a fan!😫

  • @kholofelomalapela9164
    @kholofelomalapela9164 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love your channel so much💫 thank you for this video…I really needed it♥️

  • @pearl1459
    @pearl1459 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I love you so much for your honesty. Thank you for sharing your stories with us so honestly and in a such a relatable way. You are a pleasure to watch♥️

  • @princessntsolo6034
    @princessntsolo6034 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm 17 and my mom is exactly like your mom, she's my bestfriend and I tell her everything 😂😂the advices she gives are the best

  • @lomalungelomabuza7379
    @lomalungelomabuza7379 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Road to 17K!!!! You deserve this so much Xoli! 🇸🇿

  • @panashes9313
    @panashes9313 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Nelspruit gang 🔥😭✌🏾

  • @magugubhengu7444
    @magugubhengu7444 4 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    I relate i use to hate my baby also she'd cry and id be like nxa, cause i resented the daddy. Much strength to the 18 year old 💓

  • @olwethupakati2791
    @olwethupakati2791 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 "Don't shout at her she's pregnant.... Bhut John"
    You're so funny 😂
    This was very inspiring ♥ ♥
    I'm glad that you were able to up on your feet.
    I was also in same position of not thinking ahead of me, I was just blinded by love

  • @modjadjisekgobela6951
    @modjadjisekgobela6951 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm here in 2022 and I can just see that Aunty darlin has grownn🥺😍❤️❤️

  • @mathompilemonyamane
    @mathompilemonyamane 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was never ready for my son but financially I am not so good but am copying kodwa aiy when it comes to life in general am literally counting water angikhoni...I needed that Light🙌🏾💛

  • @lulamaboyce7096
    @lulamaboyce7096 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your honesty is a breath of fresh air really

  • @pontshophiri2786
    @pontshophiri2786 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's not always easy to pull of motherhood duties at a young age, but we doing the damn things and we acing it hard... Strength and light to all the single young mothers... Here's To US🍾🥂❤️...