I knew she was my friend when she arrived in my village, a place she’d never been, in the middle of the night, in pitch darkness and getting lost several times just to stand by me as we laid my dad to rest. Waithera Moriah, you’re my sister from another mother ❤️❤️
Murugi and Lydia are a match made in heaven. Did y'all see how she didn't even remember she sent Lydia gifts?🥺 It's giving "friends don't count favors, celebrate your wins as theirs, and would do that more."💓
About being a people pleaser. I trace it back to growing up and my mum complaining about me all the time. I never did anything right in her eyes. Hardly ever a kind, complementing word about me. Until I got a great job and was showering her with LOADS of money. And then it was all praises about me. I extended it to friends and other people. Their praises made me feel like I am a good person. Until I lost my job during covid. I was so broke. Had to move back home and the praises and compliments vanished. It was a very reflective time for me. I got a great job mid-last year. Moved out of home. Now, I prioritize myself and my goals. I have financial boundaries. I give what I can, when I can. And I know that I know, I am a wonderful person. I am enough. ❤
You're a good person with or without praises. As long as you're not hurting yourself or other people... You're good. Am happy that you define yourself now on you're own terms.
Sometimes parents tend to hurt us more,and friends I'm glad you prioritize yourself now people will always be there for you when they know you have sth they want!Trying to figure myself out and let go friends too tho it's hard
Woi😢 Pole sana for what you went through. Its very hurtful get that feeling especially from a Mom. Good thing the experience made you see the dynamics of your relationship with your Mum and people around you. Choose you first always ❤️
I knew she was a true friend when she came after I gave birth, bathe my baby, and took her away for me to sleep due to fatigue , she did this for a while 2 weeks😢❤.
I love this part of Murugi being surprised that she's the one Lydia is actually talking about.... If you agree like this comment,,, nmerudia iyo part❤😂
I knew she was a true friend when she held my hand when I was fighting rejection. She was also there throughout my pregnancy journey and she stayed with me in the hospital during labour for hours and later that night she waited for hours outside the theatre...Am blessed to have her. She came to the hospital everyday, could hold my crying baby and force me to sleep just to rest😢...priceless!!I hope and pray to never fail this one!❤❤❤B for blessed!
I love love Murugi, how she articulates herself you can tell she is aware of her strengths and weaknesses. I also struggle with people pleasing thing more of I want to be a hero in everyone's story. Murugi is a force,I always admire how she shows up in life and her perspective on everything.
People pleaser is HARD Work...I had to stop being overly giver and People pleaser because it didn't bring joy to me anymore. Its like a self- abuse and it doesn't add value to oneself. Now, I have decided to just be Kind and not confuse People pleasing to Kindness. To have a friend is always good thing ...to have a good FRIEND is a blessing for sure❤ I wonder how Santa feels about this😂. He is the King of Givers 😅 Good topic 👏
I knew they were my true friends when I went bitching how a relative had refused to help me with something financial for my sister & she offered me the help and wondered why I was stressing and she was there and had what I needed! The most generous, thoughtful and funny bestie anyone would ever ask for!❤
The friendship series helped me put into perspective my now trying to reconcile friendship. It validated my feelings in so many ways, and also helped me look at things from the other person's perspective, after I watched part two I texted her and asked to chat. We're still uncovering and digging through the dirt. Though I'm scared to trust again, there's a glimmer of hope somewhere in the mess. Thank you, TMI.
I knew she was a true friend when I over heard a convo between her and her mum (the mum was backbiting) and my friend stood up for me behind my back and against her mum !!
I knew she was my best friend when she took care of me when i was sick.When she traveled with me for my wedding ,sat through a whole bridal shower in another language smiling and making sure I was okay even though she had no clue what the aunties were saying😂Chipo words will never be enough sweetest ❤❤❤❤
One day I'll talk about love, pure love from one of my life sustaining friendships. Among other things, this lady gave me Kes 100k to boost my business when i lost my job and business was crumbling. Unprovoked, with no repayment timeframe! Aaah I really won the friendship lottery. Important to add that I am very intentional with my friends so yeah 😊
There have been many instances over the last 7/8ish years that showed me she’s a true friend, but I knew she was a true friend when she drove to my house to surprise me on my 24th birthday when I was deep in the dumps with depression. Planned a whole eventful day for me when my whole family forgot my birthday. My love language is acts of kindness and quality time and she’s nailed that to the T over the years. She’s been the constant in both my ups and downs. She pushes me to be and live my best life ❤
you know you are a real TMI friend when you watch over 30min of the Idea Generation ad where they interview Ari. Granted, it is THE Ari. What a smart yt move to put out interviews as ads. Because if an oprah interview is in the ad break …. why won’t i watch it haha
I don't you says this,"There's always something for everyone" , I feel like that line was meant for your podcast, like you can't leave here without something to learn about... especially about the giver talk and also when you guys talked about what's your your real real intention when you do something good or sacrifice sth for smn.those two areas were enlightening for me.. ...I have learnt quite a lot from this....Gracias xx
Whenever I feel lo, I just run to TMI to listen to them, especially when struggling with friendships and it's a bare thing that I can talk about. Thank you so much TMI
Joh! You are so ME. I'm on a journey of healing from people pleasing. Everything you said on the subject applies to me. Oh, it's such a struggle for me but I'm enjoying the liberation that comes with the little wins.
I am here repeating the part where you are talking about "givers"/ people pleasers. It makes so much sense and I absolutely in consensus with ya'll. I have been called out fr!
I really enjoyed the friendship series. I have learned alot and for sure I will be a better friend henceforth. I related with Lydia's point that overcoming people pleasing makes you ready to leave. Thats me.
My friends tell me I sacrifice alot, always ready to give and help people out... My man thought I was a people pleaser... But when I give or do stuff for people, it makes me feel happy that they are happy .... I'm I a people pleaser?
Always among the first here.....even though i didn't get the giveaway n the way I needed it.....but listening to these babes it's always therapeutic. I love 😍 😍
I knew she was my true friend when I told her I broke up with her cousin and she sent me this 21min long voice note empathizing and making sure it doesn’t bother me up coz she’s there for me
That's so sweet about the shoe story Lydia,,I had a similar one where we went out with my current best friend Lily❤ and I had heels on so we got drunk and going home my feet hurt so much,,she gave me her flat shoes and she walked barefoot as we walked home from the club and it was our first time going clubbing together
I knew she was my friend when i lost my phone and she gave me her late husband's phone. The husband had just died like 3 days ago. I didn't want to take it but she really begged me to take it. Ii didn't have a job by then and was waiting for a call from a job i had just come from an interview.
I knew she was my friend ,she really supportive during my pregnancy … another occurrence,i lost a thousand shilling in a mat and she gave me sh 500 so as I don’t go looking for the mat😢😢😢 its the small things ily Lillian
I knew she was my friend when she decided to get a second piercing just to give me company as I get my first ear piercing and the whole treatment journey
Don't mind giving cz i give when necessary not when am asked so i can give all i want and I do it not to expect anything from anyone... there's good in giving anyway.
The truth about people pleasers!! That was me!!! I agree I was a people pleaser in a friendship and it broke my spirit from exactly what you described….hoping they would see me as a friend. Nope
Am that kind of a person who people can tell me anything even men and strangers sometimes even my bosses and am I ask myself " why me"? 😂😂 I think it's because am open minded maybe but i don't like people telling some deep secrets stuff 🤦🏿♀️ cz i don't even know how to handle just don't tell me your secrets am not ready to handle that... there's a guy i schooled with we hadn't seen eachother for years then boom we start chatting he opened up about his marital struggles and i was like " don't you have friends or your fellow men to open up to"?...being an openminded person is a struggle weeuh🤦🏿♀️ ...I met a guy through a friend who is the UK in a club the guy started opening up to me about his deepest secrets and i was like " nigga you don't even know me " 🤦🏿♀️ he told me he feels like he can trust me and those secrets were deep 🙆🏿♀️ i had to take shots of tequila to unload all the stuff he told me.
I knew she was my friend when she arrived in my village, a place she’d never been, in the middle of the night, in pitch darkness and getting lost several times just to stand by me as we laid my dad to rest. Waithera Moriah, you’re my sister from another mother ❤️❤️
❤❤ love her for you.
Same story @celestinebitutu....you will be in my heart forever
Such kind of friends❤
The fact that you can stay with your friends in silence with no awkwardness is really underrated
Murugi and Lydia are a match made in heaven.
Did y'all see how she didn't even remember she sent Lydia gifts?🥺
It's giving "friends don't count favors, celebrate your wins as theirs, and would do that more."💓
About being a people pleaser. I trace it back to growing up and my mum complaining about me all the time. I never did anything right in her eyes. Hardly ever a kind, complementing word about me. Until I got a great job and was showering her with LOADS of money. And then it was all praises about me. I extended it to friends and other people. Their praises made me feel like I am a good person. Until I lost my job during covid. I was so broke. Had to move back home and the praises and compliments vanished. It was a very reflective time for me. I got a great job mid-last year. Moved out of home. Now, I prioritize myself and my goals. I have financial boundaries. I give what I can, when I can. And I know that I know, I am a wonderful person. I am enough. ❤
This is so eye opening...thanks for sharing hunny
You're a good person with or without praises. As long as you're not hurting yourself or other people... You're good. Am happy that you define yourself now on you're own terms.
You are Enough! You are Worthy!❤
Sometimes parents tend to hurt us more,and friends I'm glad you prioritize yourself now people will always be there for you when they know you have sth they want!Trying to figure myself out and let go friends too tho it's hard
Woi😢 Pole sana for what you went through. Its very hurtful get that feeling especially from a Mom. Good thing the experience made you see the dynamics of your relationship with your Mum and people around you. Choose you first always ❤️
I knew she was a true friend when she came after I gave birth, bathe my baby, and took her away for me to sleep due to fatigue , she did this for a while 2 weeks😢❤.
This is priceless...First time moms can attest
I love this part of Murugi being surprised that she's the one Lydia is actually talking about.... If you agree like this comment,,, nmerudia iyo part❤😂
The level of self awareness that these two besties have is so admirable😊
I knew she was a true friend when she held my hand when I was fighting rejection. She was also there throughout my pregnancy journey and she stayed with me in the hospital during labour for hours and later that night she waited for hours outside the theatre...Am blessed to have her. She came to the hospital everyday, could hold my crying baby and force me to sleep just to rest😢...priceless!!I hope and pray to never fail this one!❤❤❤B for blessed!
I love love Murugi, how she articulates herself you can tell she is aware of her strengths and weaknesses. I also struggle with people pleasing thing more of I want to be a hero in everyone's story.
Murugi is a force,I always admire how she shows up in life and her perspective on everything.
I knew she was my friend when she cried so emotionally during my graduation and the day she first held my baby girl!mbeki you are God sent😍
People pleaser is HARD Work...I had to stop being overly giver and People pleaser because it didn't bring joy to me anymore. Its like a self- abuse and it doesn't add value to oneself. Now, I have decided to just be Kind and not confuse People pleasing to Kindness.
To have a friend is always good thing ...to have a good FRIEND is a blessing for sure❤
I wonder how Santa feels about this😂. He is the King of Givers 😅 Good topic 👏
I knew they were my true friends when I went bitching how a relative had refused to help me with something financial for my sister & she offered me the help and wondered why I was stressing and she was there and had what I needed! The most generous, thoughtful and funny bestie anyone would ever ask for!❤
The friendship series helped me put into perspective my now trying to reconcile friendship. It validated my feelings in so many ways, and also helped me look at things from the other person's perspective, after I watched part two I texted her and asked to chat. We're still uncovering and digging through the dirt. Though I'm scared to trust again, there's a glimmer of hope somewhere in the mess.
Thank you, TMI.
I knew she was a true friend when I over heard a convo between her and her mum (the mum was backbiting) and my friend stood up for me behind my back and against her mum !!
Amoding nakupenda Sana !!! I love you and you have a sister in me forever ♾️
Wednesdays feel like therapy❤... absolutely love it here. Murugi's make up is on 🔥🔥
Ikr wow
Thank youuuuuu
i knowwwwww!
She's so pretty😍😍... Murugi is one of the most beautiful women in KE
I knew she was my best friend when she took care of me when i was sick.When she traveled with me for my wedding ,sat through a whole bridal shower in another language smiling and making sure I was okay even though she had no clue what the aunties were saying😂Chipo words will never be enough sweetest ❤❤❤❤
One day I'll talk about love, pure love from one of my life sustaining friendships. Among other things, this lady gave me Kes 100k to boost my business when i lost my job and business was crumbling. Unprovoked, with no repayment timeframe! Aaah I really won the friendship lottery. Important to add that I am very intentional with my friends so yeah 😊
i knew she was my true friend.... when she warned me never to suffer alone, never to go through depression while she was there.
There have been many instances over the last 7/8ish years that showed me she’s a true friend, but I knew she was a true friend when she drove to my house to surprise me on my 24th birthday when I was deep in the dumps with depression.
Planned a whole eventful day for me when my whole family forgot my birthday. My love language is acts of kindness and quality time and she’s nailed that to the T over the years.
She’s been the constant in both my ups and downs. She pushes me to be and live my best life ❤
Orange always looks good on black skin please, mnaglow sana😍😍😍😍😍 Love love color on black skin
Constantly torn between calling my friends out and understanding that we all love our lives differently!!!😚
I knew she was my friend when she showed up for me in all my memorable moments, good or bad.florence sialo,I love you endlessly
You have an awesome friendship...real is rare if you find it keep it and hold it dearly
Love ua friendship u both so intentional n present in each other's lives
you know you are a real TMI friend when you watch over 30min of the Idea Generation ad where they interview Ari. Granted, it is THE Ari. What a smart yt move to put out interviews as ads. Because if an oprah interview is in the ad break …. why won’t i watch it haha
For me, my husband is everything; the friend, the best friend, the business partner, theee everything..i don't trust bisheeees! Period!❤
Love that!
It's definitely TMIIIIIIII🎶💃🏿😄. Si munakaa poa😍👌🏾🔥🧡🧡. True friendship is mutual, feels like family😇.What a series👏🏾💐tutangoja season 2😊. #WCW❤️
I don't you says this,"There's always something for everyone" , I feel like that line was meant for your podcast, like you can't leave here without something to learn about... especially about the giver talk and also when you guys talked about what's your your real real intention when you do something good or sacrifice sth for smn.those two areas were enlightening for me.. ...I have learnt quite a lot from this....Gracias xx
Lydias hair.....so nice...
I really love murugi. You sound like a great friend! ❤ Love watching TMI
Whenever I feel lo, I just run to TMI to listen to them, especially when struggling with friendships and it's a bare thing that I can talk about. Thank you so much TMI
Joh! You are so ME. I'm on a journey of healing from people pleasing. Everything you said on the subject applies to me. Oh, it's such a struggle for me but I'm enjoying the liberation that comes with the little wins.
The way i have grown in some many ways since i discovered this podcast i have literally watched all 99 episodes thank you gals
I love it here
I am here repeating the part where you are talking about "givers"/ people pleasers. It makes so much sense and I absolutely in consensus with ya'll. I have been called out fr!
Oohh Murugi. That was so sweet. Sending her gifts and now you don't remember.
I really enjoyed the friendship series. I have learned alot and for sure I will be a better friend henceforth. I related with Lydia's point that overcoming people pleasing makes you ready to leave. Thats me.
I'm addicted to this channel,I love it here❤️
My friends tell me I sacrifice alot, always ready to give and help people out... My man thought I was a people pleaser... But when I give or do stuff for people, it makes me feel happy that they are happy .... I'm I a people pleaser?
Simple simple reminder that you promised a live experience in Uganda by the end of this year😚
Manifesting such a friendship like yours girls. LOVE❤
I love you guys always looking forward to Wednesdays at 12:00😂. Ya'll look great❤
Always among the first here.....even though i didn't get the giveaway n the way I needed it.....but listening to these babes it's always therapeutic. I love 😍 😍
Another week another fun and informative episode🎉🎉Happy TMI Day inbetweers😂
You're the best Lyd and Jo❤❤.I pray and trust by the time youre on 100th ep will be 100k...
I knew she was my true friend when I told her I broke up with her cousin and she sent me this 21min long voice note empathizing and making sure it doesn’t bother me up coz she’s there for me
I love Lydia! Me and her are so much alike!
As a healing people pleaser...I have been shouted at na nimeskia😊. Dope conversation 🙌
The beginning gave me goosebumps i tired up just listening ,i wish i had your kind of friendship ,😢
I thought I would be the first to comment even after putting an alarm , Kwani mnalala huku 😢
You guys are good example of friendship ❤ im really learning alot
That's so sweet about the shoe story Lydia,,I had a similar one where we went out with my current best friend Lily❤ and I had heels on so we got drunk and going home my feet hurt so much,,she gave me her flat shoes and she walked barefoot as we walked home from the club and it was our first time going clubbing together
I knew she is a true friend when she nursed My wounds(cleaned and applied in December after being involved in an accident in December 2022
You guys are actually hilarious😂..(effortlessly)
I came all the way from Instagram story to subscribe ❤
I knew she was my friend when i lost my phone and she gave me her late husband's phone. The husband had just died like 3 days ago. I didn't want to take it but she really begged me to take it. Ii didn't have a job by then and was waiting for a call from a job i had just come from an interview.
I knew she was my friend ,she really supportive during my pregnancy … another occurrence,i lost a thousand shilling in a mat and she gave me sh 500 so as I don’t go looking for the mat😢😢😢 its the small things ily Lillian
TMI is awesome ......... What's important to me is important to you
I knew she was my friend when she decided to get a second piercing just to give me company as I get my first ear piercing and the whole treatment journey
Not for friendship,but l know l love TMI because l click like before l watch the episode😝because definitely…. l will love the content.😅
Please leave a like because you have learned how to be a good friend ❤❤❤❤❤
New subscriber ,,,,am loving it here ❤️ ❤️,,,wish I could subscribe twice❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Loved this episode very much, very informative, keep up the good job ladies❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ooh I love you both so much❤. I love this podcast.
Don't mind giving cz i give when necessary not when am asked so i can give all i want and I do it not to expect anything from anyone... there's good in giving anyway.
It's definitely TMI🙌🏾
Maaan I miss my friend..Long distance sucks..Can't wait to go home in November to make more memories 😢
I just love this ladies so much.
The truth about people pleasers!! That was me!!! I agree I was a people pleaser in a friendship and it broke my spirit from exactly what you described….hoping they would see me as a friend. Nope
yall are the sisters ive never had
It's definitely tmiiiiiiiii
People pleasers, you have been put on notice. Listen to 39:10 to 42:47 for pure gems
Loved this episode ❤️
I knew they were true frds when they didnt judge me from my background
I love you two❤
Joan I hope you’ve invited Lydia over 😂🫢
That hour 😂🎉❤
Going to episode 100 with 100ksubscribers...I love it here.
I love you so much ❤❤❤❤❤
Paul pole 😂😂😂😂😂
the friendship series has been triggering to me,but i know im the problem😢😂
That trusting a friend with my man am confused. Why is my friend n my man even that close to know her place , is he visiting her or what?😅
God bless you Lydia and Murugi 🌼
Almost the first 😅
first hereee
I knew she was my friend when she fulizad some money to buy me medicine ❤
Am that kind of a person who people can tell me anything even men and strangers sometimes even my bosses and am I ask myself " why me"? 😂😂 I think it's because am open minded maybe but i don't like people telling some deep secrets stuff 🤦🏿♀️ cz i don't even know how to handle just don't tell me your secrets am not ready to handle that... there's a guy i schooled with we hadn't seen eachother for years then boom we start chatting he opened up about his marital struggles and i was like " don't you have friends or your fellow men to open up to"?...being an openminded person is a struggle weeuh🤦🏿♀️ ...I met a guy through a friend who is the UK in a club the guy started opening up to me about his deepest secrets and i was like " nigga you don't even know me " 🤦🏿♀️ he told me he feels like he can trust me and those secrets were deep 🙆🏿♀️ i had to take shots of tequila to unload all the stuff he told me.
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Are you an empath? That happens to us (empaths) all the time😅😅
Wednesday 💃💃💃
So where am I crying and am on min. 8. Watch with tissues guys.
Mmmmm......Deep content!!😘
I love love love you guys❤❤❤❤❤
Intention vs Impact .
It’s Wednesday 🤙🏽
This series has truly been so helpful…Thanks for putting it up for us ❤
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Baby garliess💋💋💋💞💞💞
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Atiiiii infinix 1🤣🤣
and another one♥♥