Our recent miscarriages and thoughts on birth control

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  • @elisabethhopkins4453
    @elisabethhopkins4453 ปีที่แล้ว +407

    I've been married 20 years and have not yet been able to get pregnant. Yet, still i believe God can work a miracle in mine and my husband's body. While we've been waiting, we have adopted 3 beautiful children ❤.

    • @keshahenry8449
      @keshahenry8449 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Amen I’m in agreement with you

    • @k.downing3663
      @k.downing3663 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Believe! I had mine after 20 years of marriage 3 adoptions multiple miscarriages. Im 47 with a healthy 16 month old I birthed!

    • @dianaott2662
      @dianaott2662 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@k.downing3663 Wow that is so wonderful! Congratulations! ❤🎉

    • @chriskoenig6513
      @chriskoenig6513 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I just celebrated my 18th anniversary and am 8 months pregnant. Don't give up!

    • @gaylekerr5769
      @gaylekerr5769 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wish you the best of luck,don't ever lose hop,it will be in God's own time.My aunt was married 3 times.She never got pregnant,she was in her 40s,God decided it was time❤️

  • @allisonbd
    @allisonbd ปีที่แล้ว +141

    "Not making decisions out of fear, but out of faith" love that!

    • @Travelwithamberrae
      @Travelwithamberrae ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too!

    • @ctgctg1
      @ctgctg1 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How about respecting that God gave us a brain and medical break through. It’s called contraception. Why keep having babies when God enabled contraception through empowering humans with personal choice. If these individuals are having 13 kids, then they are deciding that. It has nothing to do,with God. It’s their choice.

  • @morganpierpont
    @morganpierpont ปีที่แล้ว +520

    I’m pregnant with my first after 4 years of infertility. I’m so excited! Children are such a blessing 💛

    • @mizpahsarah9840
      @mizpahsarah9840 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 as someone on the same journey, I'm so excited for you. Praying for God's blessings on your journey.

    • @windy42305
      @windy42305 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Congratulations!!!!!!! (From someone who has never been able to conceive). God bless your family!! ❤

    • @carmarasmussen8118
      @carmarasmussen8118 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wonderful!! 😊

    • @kelseyteter7217
      @kelseyteter7217 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! 💜💜

    • @connihudson1578
      @connihudson1578 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Praise the Lord 🎉

  • @agathareimer2924
    @agathareimer2924 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    Last year we decided we were done with having more children. We hadn't had a baby in almost 5 years and the last birth was hard and traumatic for me. When our oldest who was 10 at the time passed away from a tragic car accident we changed our minds. We realized how blessed we were and that we wanted more blessings. I miscarried this year as well but we're praying that we'll be blessed with another baby again. So yes we shouldn't make decisions to soon. Sometimes we've gotta wait 5 years for the trauma of birth to pass. Thank you so much for your encouragement.

    • @brookidy
      @brookidy ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Oh I am so very sorry for your loss.

    • @martyburrows288
      @martyburrows288 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    • @suzysantana6033
      @suzysantana6033 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am so very sorry for the loss of your child I pray the lord blessed you with hearts desire to have another child

    • @maricelaflores8674
      @maricelaflores8674 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you Sarah and Solo for sharing your loss of your precious blessings. I know it ain't easy. I lost 2 of my blessings. One a full term beautiful baby boy whom we named Emmanuel born sleeping in 03/1988 and our second was our youngest I was carrying identical twin boy's born at 8 months born on 08/1995 we named baby a Ezekiel and baby b was born sleeping 4 mins after we named him Angel. I was 27 years old at the time. To me it still feels like it happened yesterday. I know god had better plans for my 2 boy's. I know my angels are always with me. God bless you both and your family. ❤

    • @agathareimer2924
      @agathareimer2924 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for all your kind words.

  • @chrisna336
    @chrisna336 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    When I first tuned in, I was looking for home tips from large families, not because I have one, but because nothing else seemed to work. I fully expected to see somewhat of a freak show, but a functional house. I'm not even Christian, but I stayed because of the peace I felt watching without drama or scandal. From you I've learned that chaos doesn't have to be chaotic in your mind. You can just lean in and enjoy without being perfect. You can always make time whether you have 1 child or 20. I've become a much more patient mother and wife since I found your channel. Your family has been such a blessing for my mind and my heart.

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thanks so much!

    • @serena201288
      @serena201288 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I don’t believe in god either; I believe in evolution and the power of the mind and energy - what you put out is what you receive. I find listening to them trusting in something I don’t believe in is difficult at times, but I stay for the peace and smiles too 😁❤️
      Beautiful family regardless of their beliefs!!

    • @Ebeez504
      @Ebeez504 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Im also not a Christian, but I love the way they all love each other. Yes, the way you describe the peace in their household is so true…it inspires me with my 3 children and my husband❤️

    • @rebeccasible6631
      @rebeccasible6631 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's wonderful to hear! Social media can encourage and educate us. I, too, have gained perspective on my home and family from watching Sarah.

  • @meganb6543
    @meganb6543 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    I'm so sorry for your losses. I have a beautiful almost 24 yr old daughter with 2 babies of her own. I always wanted more, but unfortunately miscarried my 2nd, and never got pregnant again. I am thankful every day for my daughter, grand babies, and can't wait to meet my lost child when the good Lord takes me home.❤

    • @Imthebrownunicorn
      @Imthebrownunicorn ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I have an only child too (a beautiful daughter). We chose not to have more because I experienced severe issues during pregnancy that even affected my sight. I am still very confident in our decision and I love every minute of being Faith’s mom (that’s my daughter’s name).

  • @carolynmeaux6356
    @carolynmeaux6356 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    I love my extended family! My dad came from a family of 16 children. Only 12 made it to adulthood and all of them have died now. My mom was one of 6. We have so many cousins and it’s wonderful. I had fertility issues and was never able to conceive and I adopted 2 children who are siblings and have been a true blessing in my life. I am 70 now and I love our large family.❤

  • @juststeph6940
    @juststeph6940 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for making this video. I just found your channel and I have been just going back and watching your videos.
    I’m a Christian and I’m a shamed to say that my attitude about motherhood has been my kids are a burden, I have been hating motherhood, I have 2 kids with very hard behavioural challenges and I’m also chronically ill. Motherhood has been so hard and frustrating and so many days of crying out saying I don’t know what to do with them.
    This video just struck me when you said if you keep your mind as they are a burden it will catch up to you, yes they are a blessing I struggled with infertility and all I wanted was children and now I’m sitting here wishing I didn’t have kids.
    So thank you this video is really showing me my heart issue. I also ask if anyone is reading this is a Christian please pray for me and my family.

  • @soniauk4284
    @soniauk4284 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    As a Christian single woman of 51 yrs young. I'm still hopeful that I will find a Christian man who is filled with the Holy Spirit and we will be joined together. I am no longer able to have children biologically but the Lord has given me such a heart of hospitality for all ages.
    God is good whether married, single , children or childfree. As long as we are serving him wholeheartedly and walking in obedience and humility xxxx
    Lots of love to you dear brother and sister ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @eagledice2008
      @eagledice2008 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There’s no Holy Spirit that is bringing you a husband darling go out and socialize

  • @marieneu264
    @marieneu264 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I love when Solo does Q&A’s with Sarah. He always shares so much wisdom. I would love to be a member of their church if I lived in Nebraska, but the church TH-cam channel will have to suffice, and it’s great!

    • @Travelwithamberrae
      @Travelwithamberrae ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Agreed!

    • @medinatabor6492
      @medinatabor6492 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hi, hun! If you don't mind, could you share the TH-cam Church channel? I always feel a sense of peace and calm when I listen to Solo's enlightening words.

  • @Babylandy1
    @Babylandy1 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    I believe whole heartedly that my children were meant to be here. I used three different types of birth control and because pregnant on each of them. After that I just stopped using birth control. I now have 6 kids and they are all such a blessing.

    • @kindnessmatters4068
      @kindnessmatters4068 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I had a IUD and it moved on me... so I miscarried 2021... We had our rainbow baby at 31 weeks gestational, August 10th... she's been home a month now.❤ My 2nd girl (4yrs) was a twin... I lost her twin Christmas Eve at 10.5wks.❤
      I am not using birth control, unless the doctor tells me I can not safely have anymore. All my pregnancies have been high risk... But if the Lord wills, I would like one more.❤

    • @faukerconsulting835
      @faukerconsulting835 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was pregnant when on 2 different birth control methods and my kiddos were complete blessings in more ways I could have ever imagined😊

  • @danidavis3716
    @danidavis3716 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    First of all, thank you for letting the world into your private lives. Creating content, editing, posting, following TH-cam rules, and more all while raising a family is commendable!!
    I apologize for those in the world who ask far too personal and inappropriate questions.
    I don’t understand others who feel justified to leave nasty comments!!
    I hope you don’t allow such negativity to get to you!!
    You’re amazing people and I don’t feel should be required to address such hateful things!!
    ❤️🙏

  • @tracismith7247
    @tracismith7247 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I'm sorry for your losses. Thank you for being so incredibly open. I always dreamed of a large family but infertility and miscarriages happened instead. Finally came to some peace and understanding about it with the grace of the Lord that this isn't forever. Remarried as an older person and became a stepmother, grandmother and great-grandmother. Never imagined these blessings in this life but have learned to stop thinking I know everything and control it. Thank you❤

    • @kimberly25christinesmith72
      @kimberly25christinesmith72 ปีที่แล้ว

      Letting God decide the sizzle of ur family is like letting God decide ur health and not going to the Dr ever. The duggars believe that too

    • @carolinacooper7068
      @carolinacooper7068 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@kimberly25christinesmith7. No there is no correlation there at all. I chose to have 5 live children though I had many miscarriages. We took them all to the doctor and saw them all through to adulthood. What the Duggars do or don't do have nothing to do with the decisions of others who choose large families.
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  • @Tia-vj9ox
    @Tia-vj9ox ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Thank you for sharing such personal incites! So much guilt and mis conceptions have been imposed on people. Your sensitivity and empathy are gifts to many❤

  • @LargeFamilyHomestead
    @LargeFamilyHomestead ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Thank you for your candid responses as always! As a momma of 10 in a small house, I completely understand the noise and the need to find a quiet place. When we did full-time missions work, we all lived in a small RV for five years! Our house feels like a mansion. 🤣
    Also, I have to tell you that the snow is refreshing to look at, but I am happy that I live in Texas. We are originally from Pennsylvania, and we don't miss shoveling snow at all. ❄❄ May the Father continue to bless your path.

  • @ewafredriksson5826
    @ewafredriksson5826 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    After depression two times during pregnancy and one psychosis, and endometriosis I decided to not have any more. I believe God does not see that as a sin.

  • @tiffanytenney9514
    @tiffanytenney9514 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Such a beautiful video. I had my first child when I was 20 and was terrified to tell my parents because I was not married and I was 19 when I became pregnant. Fast forward a couple years and my husband and I were trying nh to conceive and could not. We/I saw many specialist but were told to be calm because we were both in our 20’s and we had already conceived once on our own that it will happen. After 12 years I finally found a doctor who listened and ran tests and found out I had severe endometriosis and that my husband had a low sperm count so we would probably never conceive on our own again and the fact that we had was a miracle and that I had carried full term was also a miracle. We embarked on IVF and now have 2 more children. All 3 of my children are miracles in my eyes. When we decided to embark on IVF I was again terrified to tell my parents. My father responded as I expected, we shouldn’t do it because we can’t afford another child, but my mom reprimanded him and explained that if we waited till we could afford a child financially we would never have children. My mother dotted on my first 2, unfortunately she passed from cancer when I was pregnant with my third child and my father who was against has seen his grandchildren maybe 6 times since she passed away 9 years ago. This is his loss because my kids are AMAZING and he will never know them.

    • @vickyCA1643
      @vickyCA1643 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is so sad and heartbreaking for your father to embrace your children! You are right, he is really missing out!!

  • @jacklynnsmith5668
    @jacklynnsmith5668 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    You guys are so Spirit- filled and truly make this conversation Spiritual.
    Thank you!
    I am sorry for your losses.

  • @vanessavanderkramer6588
    @vanessavanderkramer6588 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Your heartfelt chat yesterday was very open and one that could have been difficult for many, but you both have such a wonderful down-to-earth way of handling things it didn’t seem awkward. I’m sorry you’ve suffered some miscarriages. Your eleven children however are all such lovely young people and the tiny tots, Seth and Peace are so very sweet. I loved seeing the photos and clips of the children when they were younger. ❤

  • @shavonnegovender7333
    @shavonnegovender7333 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I have been following your videos for a long time but this one made me so emotional. I was a married adult woman who felt ashamed, guilty telling my parents i was pregnant with my third child. I received so much negative comments from friends and family since i already had 1 son and 1 daughter. 5 years later i have so much regrets about not enjoying that pregnancy but rather hiding it and feeling embarrassed telling people i was having my 3rd child.

  • @deannadieckmann196
    @deannadieckmann196 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love how you look at and speak to one another. You can feel the love and respect in your relationship.

  • @tracydownie169
    @tracydownie169 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    So sorry for your miscarriages.
    Love that there are not accidental children but accidental parents.
    I was adopted as a baby and I am blessed with the family that chose me.
    I had many years go by & not fall pregnant…ended up going IVF and had twins born on Christmas Day…they were definitely my blessed and gift from God

  • @teresamiller8861
    @teresamiller8861 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My mother was one of 16 and Grandma went from having the 16th, she went right into menopause. I guess their quiver was full. When Grandpa passed away, there were still 11 at home. She was a precious and godly woman, and my grandpa was a pastor as well. I just came across your channel tonight and intend on following you. God bless you dearly and Happy New Year, a bless year.

  • @ginastannard9614
    @ginastannard9614 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Hi guys , it does not matter how many children you have , as long as you bring them up to have respect and lots of love and compassion , then you can’t go wrong ❤

  • @LeahFairfield
    @LeahFairfield ปีที่แล้ว +751

    This is why people need to STOP asking if she’s pregnant or when she’ll have baby #12! It’s not okay!!! You do not know what someone is going through that they’re not talking about! Do better!!

    • @linhaton4957
      @linhaton4957 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      I wouldn’t care because it’s not my business. 11 or 12 children makes no difference to me. I’ll watch Sara anyway. However, when you put yourself out there, others can ask whatever they want to. Remember it’s their job and they earn money from this channel. That’s the downside of this job. No job is perfect.

    • @corianne2099
      @corianne2099 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@linhaton4957but this is personal and nobody's business so it does cross the line

    • @saphahmelkisedek9762
      @saphahmelkisedek9762 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Absolutely!!!

    • @linhaton4957
      @linhaton4957 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I don’t know why anyone would ask or care. Sara’s channel is interesting to me. I love watching the children and the move to farm keeps me watching. When you put yourself our there, I would guess you get lots of comments and questions that you might not like. I don’t think you can stop it, but you don’t have to answer rude questions. Have a wonderful day.❤️

    • @encyclopediaofelizabeth
      @encyclopediaofelizabeth ปีที่แล้ว +22

      This. This. This. I can't make my mother understand how rude it is to comment on a couple needing to have kids. She argues that it's just a cute funny joke. And it's just not.

  • @deniseclendening5381
    @deniseclendening5381 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE watching your family. I’m the second of 10 siblings, now reaching older age (70’s). I have five of my own children, nine grandkids and two great grandchildren. As we watch you, my husband will say “how do they do it”. I remind him I came from a huge family. We just did it, it was our normal ordinary life.

  • @TracyShead-Stamey
    @TracyShead-Stamey ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I got pregnant twice on hormonal birth control. When my son was born I got my tubes tied. There was no way we could have supported more than the three we had. On the subject of birth control my body didn't process it right. I'm just happy I'm through menopause now. Thank you for sharing.

  • @megroux
    @megroux ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My condolences to you both. We suffered a miscarriage after my husbands’s vasectomy. It was so heartbreaking. Wishing you peace.

  • @mollysmall8581
    @mollysmall8581 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    My parents were criticized for having five children. My husband and I have two, as did almost every one in our generation. Gratefully, our two have given us ten grandchildren! Every child is special, unique and a blessing, born for a purpose.

    • @carolynrandle5454
      @carolynrandle5454 ปีที่แล้ว

      I only had 3 children .and I am one of 4 children.

    • @carolynrandle5454
      @carolynrandle5454 ปีที่แล้ว

      God gives you how many children he thinks you can take of.

    • @carolynrandle5454
      @carolynrandle5454 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your children are very respectful.

    • @carolynrandle5454
      @carolynrandle5454 ปีที่แล้ว

      Take care of yourselves

    • @carolynrandle5454
      @carolynrandle5454 ปีที่แล้ว

      I now have 7 grandchildren and 3great grandchildren.

  • @melissasallard7642
    @melissasallard7642 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I am here because I was pregnant and afraid. My Elias is one month older than Seth. When I didn't know how to navigate a milestone I checked this channel. You have gotten me through a lot ❤❤

  • @lisamartin8606
    @lisamartin8606 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I was only pregnant once and had miscarriage..my mom said she didn't need anymore grandchildren when I told her I was pregnant..I was really hurt over comment and than I had miscarriage..I had to really pray hard to forgive her..

    • @carolm1800
      @carolm1800 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sometimes mother's say mean things. Don't take it to heart. Follow your heart and do what pleases you for yourself.

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So glad you have forgiven her and thanks for sharing this.

  • @gal1l33
    @gal1l33 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    God bless you all!!! I love seeing your beautiful family and hearing about how you've trusted God with your fertility.
    My husband and I have been convicted by God to trust Him with our fertility as well. It is SO counter-cultural (even counter church culture) and it breaks my heart that as believers, so many of us have allowed the culture to define our view of fertility instead of allowing God to.
    My mom is a believer and adores her grand babies, but she's made a few strange remarks when we've told her we're going to have more as God allows. It's very heartbreaking. Currently pregnant with number 4 and my husband and I and our other children are so excited!!! Praise Jesus!
    Our first pregnancy was unexpected, my husband and i werent following the Lord at the time. We decided soon after she was born that we werent going to have any more. My husband got a vasectomy. Within a year of the vasectomy, God convited us each separately that we were supposed to have more babies. So he had the vasectomy reversed. After awhile he got tested to see if the reversal worked. We waited for the results. I took a pregnancy test and it was positive!!!! The next day, the doctor called and said "the reversal was successful, but barely.... youre probably going to need to rely on fertility treatments to get pregnant" and my husband said "really?? Bc we just found out yesterday that my wife is pregnant!!"
    😂 God is so good!!! Pregnant for the third time since the "barely successful" vasectomy and have had no problems getting pregnant. Thank You Jesus.

  • @Theshoemarkable
    @Theshoemarkable ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this chat. I am so sorry for your losses. I love your perspective and beliefs. I also love that you added that some women do need to be in control of pregnancy’s with birth control, for example, their own health or mental health. Women know deep down what is right for their bodies and families. Thank you for always sharing ❤

  • @Onewiththewindd
    @Onewiththewindd 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Honestly my heart SMILESSSS. You have a man that loves you unconditionally and his family!! ♥️♥️♥️
    God BLESS YALL 🎉

  • @gracecoffeeandchaos.3446
    @gracecoffeeandchaos.3446 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    We're expecting #5, and we're so thankful. We only ever anticipated 4. 😂😂

    • @cjdflkj
      @cjdflkj ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Congratulations!

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Congratulations!

  • @JustKeepSwimming1224
    @JustKeepSwimming1224 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Have never watched your channel… only 2:00 minutes in and already you seem like a lovely couple… such a sweet spirit. 🙏 Thank you for sharing yourselves.

  • @tammycwik718
    @tammycwik718 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I understand what you mean about being grateful for a tiny house. I am fighting to keep my house from someone that tried and still is trying to steal my house long story please remember my family and I in your prayers. I am grateful for my tiny house and I am also getting very sick from the fighting for it and yes I would love for it to bigger but I am still very grateful

  • @annmcevoy9299
    @annmcevoy9299 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    With so many people not having children, I love seeing big families!❤❤❤

  • @teacherstreet
    @teacherstreet ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Having 6 kids myself, I definitely sense that we are different. So many people say, “Wow, you’re busy!” So thankful for each of them and the love they have for each other, can’t imagine not having each one.
    ❤ from Iowa

  • @alanalambert9693
    @alanalambert9693 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I had 3 beautiful babies. We had a miscarriage with our 4th at 6 weeks. My husband and I were devastated. I prayed to God and accepted that there was a reason God needed that baby more then we did. We have came to accept and count our blessings. Everybody was healthy I was healthy. We accepted that 3 was our number. 2 years later God blessed us with baby #5 and I carried to full term and he's 9months now. Never give up. If it's meant to be God will deliver 😊

  • @celinaholguin9950
    @celinaholguin9950 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    We struggled with infertility for 3 years and now my beautiful baby girl is 3 months ❤️ we went through so many treatments and always ended up with a negative test. We finally gave up and 5 months later, I found I was 7 weeks pregnant. the thoughts of having more kids have been so difficult because of fear. Either fear of having another traumatic birth or fear of not being able to conceive again. Thank you for this video. It brought so much peace to my spirit that even though I may not know what the next few years will look like in my family, God does. Thank you for the reminder to not make long term decisions during short term problems ❤️

  • @icunurse1976
    @icunurse1976 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have been watching your family for years. I absolutely love the purity you represent and your kids are all adorable!

  • @jjs2080
    @jjs2080 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I'm so sorry about your losses! Years ago you shared a book called "I'll hold you in heaven" and it has been such a blessing and tool on my healing process of miscarriage. Hope our Lord will bring you comfort and peace 🙏🏻 Also, just wanted to say how happy you guys make me to be able to see the amazing family that you have and that the impact of your legacy to this world is beyond belief! Imagine how each one of your children will be such a light out there, having had the opportunity of being raised in a loving Christian home, with unbelievable parents who are bringing up wholesome children. Oh my, hallelujah, yes bring on more babies please!!! It makes our hearts happy and hopeful and I'm sure it puts a huge smile on God's face. I love it! Thank you for being you and for blessing us in more ways than you can imagine 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 May your light continue to shine bright ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Love that book! Thanks for sharing.

    • @carolchapman9320
      @carolchapman9320 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have that book and a stack of others that I used for my journey just in the last three months!

  • @mmec.3554
    @mmec.3554 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing your hearts and scripture! I’m sorry for your losses.
    We currently have six children and we have not heard from God one way or the other about more children so we are content and listening. One thing I wrestle with when it comes to discussing the blessing of children and God providing, is that there are cases where children starve, people struggle to live each day, etc. I have more thoughts but am leaving it here because I don’t know how to finish. We continue to pray and as Solo said, there are things we won’t understand this side of eternity. God bless you all!

  • @thesimplelifewife3
    @thesimplelifewife3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I was DONE after 3, but then I started watching your channel and my thinking and desires changed. Number 4 is on its way now!

  • @vickihoughton1123
    @vickihoughton1123 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Great video. I had two children while taking the pill. I’ve always said they are my miracle babies not mistakes. I believe god decided two children wasn’t enough for me. My husband and I are now 65 years old and are so very happy that we were blessed with 4children, soon to be 9 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. Our life is very full and wonderfully happy.

  • @anahiirios3046
    @anahiirios3046 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I’m 15 minutes in and I’m sobbing 😭 I NEEDED this video. I have been struggling with my faith & im currently pregnant with my second child and was considering abortion because of how much I’m struggling financially right now, but this is the video I needed. Thank you so much, I have to have faith and trust in GOD.

    • @melindahernandez1224
      @melindahernandez1224 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How wonderful for your new precious life within you. You are a courageous mother. May God Bless you!

    • @naturaldyer
      @naturaldyer ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bless you! Sending love.

    • @melindahernandez1224
      @melindahernandez1224 ปีที่แล้ว

      Since I posted this , our newest grandson was born...the very first night he started having a seizure. He is at a NICU at a big hospital about an hour and a half from where we live. God is good. There is always a human struggle of some kind. People we don't know are praying for him. It is amazing that we are feeling God's love being pored out amongst us and the healing of our grandson. Thank you to everyone out there! ❤️

  • @maraemartinae5772
    @maraemartinae5772 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I truly believe our stories have already been written and we’re just here to turn the pages. We certainly don’t have the control we like to think we do. You two were blessed with your beautiful family, if another baby is in your story,the lord will provide. My Great grandmother had 24 kids ( that made it to adulthood) and one grandmother had 16, the other 13. I’m so thankful for the crazy amount of relatives I have. My kids are always amazed when I show them their cousins on Facebook they didn’t know they were related to. Last count there were 14 sets of twins.

  • @Aiko2-26-9
    @Aiko2-26-9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Praying for God's direction and trusting him with the outcome is always the best way, isn't it? Not everyone is meant to have a large family but it's so good to hear your positive experiences. You do not have special needs children and I think that really affects couples' decisions to be finished having more. Or parental health, physical or mental. Not just finances. The key is to pray about your own decisions and don't judge others.

  • @imashaw
    @imashaw ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I appreciate this message and your transparency. You are incredible communicators.
    Major life gems in this video:
    1. Don't let fear dictate our decisions to follow God's guidance for our life.
    2. God provides.
    3. Let faith and wisdom guide our decisions.

  • @myimperfectlifewyattfamily1079
    @myimperfectlifewyattfamily1079 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I follow you because we also are a large family we have 10. I love seeing how other families work.

  • @MissyDcherrydaisypie25
    @MissyDcherrydaisypie25 ปีที่แล้ว

    Having walked thru 7 miscarriages on the way to our 3 children here on earth I can so relate. Will put you on our prayer list and pray for Gods blessing again

  • @AndreaMom2Many
    @AndreaMom2Many ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I love your advice! I’m a mom of 9, but I almost missed having a large family. I had a tubal ligation at the birth of my third and had a reversal when she was almost 2. And your advice to pray when your spouse is not on the same page is spot on. My husband was NOT in favor of the reversal when I first mentioned it. I spent the next several months praying for his mind to be changed and the Lord did the work. I also agree with you guys that family planning is not a sin. We were both in complete agreement that we were done when I found out I was pregnant with my 9th. The only regret I have about that is that he has Down syndrome and I dislike it that people think we stopped because of his diagnosis. So completely untrue! He’s such a huge blessing to our family! Thank you for sharing your family and your advice! May God continue to bless you both!

  • @susanr791
    @susanr791 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I liked what you said - no accidental children but accidental parents. Thank you for that.

  • @NenaNenaNenaNenaNena
    @NenaNenaNenaNenaNena ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Oh my goodness! The old clips of the kids made my heart melt. Seeing Judah so small was such a wow moment. Haha

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +18

      He was so small!!!! These clips make me so happy I started vlogging. ❤️😭🥰

  • @megred7364
    @megred7364 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Your family is a living testimony to the goodness and provision of God and of His love for children! God bless you all!

  • @eileenparthemore5456
    @eileenparthemore5456 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    78 year old. 2 boys 3 grandsons. As I look back on my life I wish we would have had more children. It was our decision to stop at 2. They live 3 hours from us and we don’t see them often.. grandson is 23 and a nurse so he is working. 20 year old going to college so is busy. 17 year old in high school. Must just live our lives together and be thankful when we do see them. Oh, will be married 59 years in January.

  • @ashleywalker9746
    @ashleywalker9746 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was blessed with 1 child. She just turned 16 and I have watched yall for YEARSSS! I wish God had given me more than 1 because I don't want her to be alone when we are gone. I have a very small family and that's my fear. However our God is an awesome God and I know there's a reason for everything and he will take care of her when I can't 🙏

  • @juliamikeg413
    @juliamikeg413 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We have 7 children and in the process of adopting our grand child to make 8, I love your big family. God bless you all

  • @janicerhoades8851
    @janicerhoades8851 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After my first born was two we started trying for another baby. Dr said no more babies. I went to a specialist and took fertility drugs. He said it would take 4 months to 4 years. After 4months I became pregnant. When #2 was 5 months old I was pregnant with number 3. We have 3 sons. We wanted 6 but God had other plans. I had to have emergency hysterectomy. I mourned for a longtime. We were thrilled when I became pregnant with #3. My mother cried and screamed and had a fit. Also need to add I am an only child. I am blessed to have two grandsons and another on the way in Jan 2024. God is Good and In control. Blessings

  • @katiebrower5552
    @katiebrower5552 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you so much for sharing. We have struggled to get pregnant. We have two wonderful blessings in our arms and I'm very sure we lost one last Oct. We would love a house FULL of children but the Lord is in control❤.

  • @johannaduran6910
    @johannaduran6910 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am sad for the babies you've lost. You are very blessed my sister and I never had children. We married in our late 30's she's #4 and I am #5. I think that's why I watch your videos you all remind me of my family. We are all very close. My sister and I are happy with our many nephews and grandnephews some we have helped raise. My two youngest sisters never had kids either but we have no regrets, God is good, Praise God

  • @sarahbarr99
    @sarahbarr99 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Love these videos! Thank you for sharing!

  • @suzannetaylor9110
    @suzannetaylor9110 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think you are one of the sweetest couples I have ever seen. God Bless and keep you an your family.❤️

  • @Missbayka
    @Missbayka ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Its been 5 years since my last child and while we havent been activly trying for another I still find myself greiving that I may not have another.
    I really do want more children ❤

    • @carolinahenn3126
      @carolinahenn3126 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I think every woman has a “child she never had” and carry it inside her forever and ever. Because there is just some abiding kind of sadness once you have had your last pregnancy.

    • @cynthiafisher9907
      @cynthiafisher9907 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@carolinahenn3126I felt that way until I had my fifth and last child. Then I felt fulfilled and done.

  • @rosemaryshumway9170
    @rosemaryshumway9170 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love your beauty family. You both are always grateful n it truly shows. I use to follow u but since my husband of 48 yrs died in 2022 I've been defestative. I use to share your videos with him. Today I watched your video. I truly love your family. Would u keep me in prayer. I miss my husband's terribly. Thank you ❤

    • @goingbananas581
      @goingbananas581 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm sorry for your loss 😢 I can't imagine the pain you are feeling. Prayers are coming your way. You will see him again soon. And he is always with you watching over you.

    • @rosemaryshumway9170
      @rosemaryshumway9170 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you both so much. Love to your beautiful family

  • @jenniferking3119
    @jenniferking3119 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    We had a miscarriage between our third and fourth children. The number of times I heard from others that it was ok or no big deal because I already had three children didn’t make it hurt any less. We struggled to get pregnant again after the miscarriage and when we had given up (actually given up to the point that we gave away our crib) we found out one month later we were expecting our fourth.

  • @melissastark3003
    @melissastark3003 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Soooo sorry to you both on your losses. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. I’m one that wants children…. But can’t. Praying for a miracle! I’ll never give up!

  • @vickimontgomery5271
    @vickimontgomery5271 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We raised 2 of our children and had 9 losses. It was truly hard to end on a loss but God is our comfort. Thank you for sharing so openly and removing the judgement that so many put on others. From the time my mom had my brother (I was 3) I couldn't wait to be a mom. I wanted a dozen. Even with my 2 we always had a houseful of homeschool and church friends' children in our home and I LOVED the chaos of all those boys. Now we are praying for wisdom for our children as they start their families. Four grandbabies so far. God bless you all richly! And Sarah, from my experience, progesterone levels dropping were an issue for me very early. My gyn told me to NEVER use hormonal birth control again but we felt the damage was done and played a role for us to have so much loss.

    • @bethtube5997
      @bethtube5997 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You have 9 children waiting for you at Jesus feet! ❤

  • @karenkissick6884
    @karenkissick6884 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen Solo and Sarah....so we'll spoken. I always say I love you all and
    My thought first and foremost follow your heart.
    There were 7 of us and momma said everybody had something to say about how many children they had in 10 years BUT that she never felt complete until my baby brother who is 6 years younger than me. Speaking of which he came and spent the afternoon with my husband and me, he is a blessing to me. I have told him of you all. Today you all made me very happy in your message.
    Sarah the picture of you view out the window of yours and Solos quiet place needs to become a Christmas Card ....simply beautiful.
    All ways in my prayers and extra for Juda to come home filled with all the goodness one receives from spreading God's word and love.

  • @anarhlia
    @anarhlia ปีที่แล้ว +11

    So sorry for your losses Sarah and Solo, doesn’t matter how far along you are it still hurts ❤❤ We have 3 beautiful daughters and have also lost 3 precious babies. ❤❤ After each miscarriage one of our girls has been born and I can see how God has really been with us through all the losses and I’m grateful for those pregnancies as they have brought me closed to God and taught me to trust him more. ❤

  • @tess5564
    @tess5564 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for so openly and honestly sharing your thoughts and experiences in life. It in so valuable to me. I truly find so much strength comfort and happiness in your videos

  • @edithwarria4794
    @edithwarria4794 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Hello Sarah and Solo , good you to see you both👍🌈🌺🦋❤️💙🙏🏻from Edith in cairns Queensland Australia 🇦🇺

  • @rt3156
    @rt3156 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was very nice. Im a mother of three and was told i would never be able to concieve. I was 29 when i had my first Son, 32 when i had my second Son and 34 when i had my daughter. I thank God for the gift of life

  • @heatherdeatherage163
    @heatherdeatherage163 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’d love to visit your church! I go to an Assembly of God church, Mineola First Assembly. Im in Texas, my family and I had started back in May and myself and 3 out of 4 kids have gotten baptized and my husband who was fighting an alcohol addiction has been saved as well!

    • @joannathesinger770
      @joannathesinger770 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hmmm...my dad was raised in Upshur County, although all of his generation has now passed on.

  • @tiffanygerke9063
    @tiffanygerke9063 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for sharing your views and core values. I personally have been struggling with the idea of another little one and the thought of starting over. Your words have touched me in such a uplifting way I can't even explain it in a few words. I just wanted to express my gratitude for being here at this time to hear what you and your husband explained. Thank you

  • @christyathome8585
    @christyathome8585 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    Our culture truly doesn’t value children. When we adopted our 4th child we had family comment things like “well, you shot yourself in the foot with this one.” It was so hurtful because we were so excited and felt so blessed to become parents again. It’s all about perspective I guess.

    • @cjdflkj
      @cjdflkj ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Damn, that’s cold.

    • @kalonmontgomery8213
      @kalonmontgomery8213 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I agree. People's opinions can be hurtful. All children are a blessing.

    • @blissfuljoy6049
      @blissfuljoy6049 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Isn't it sad? Children are absolute blessings.

    • @mymemories237
      @mymemories237 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That's a spiteful reaction if you are happy and they are truly not and have a sour heart they will say things that hurt you and make them feel better about their sad self. Ignore them comments and pray for them.

    • @dzejnalukovic9920
      @dzejnalukovic9920 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@mymemories237 I would add....... keep your children away from those negative commenting ninnies. Adoptees have enough to deal with without pure and true love and unconditional support.

  • @pamchacon5412
    @pamchacon5412 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am not one to comment a lot on anyone's videos. But I do watch your videos on a regular basis. But I just really wanted to tell you that this video tonight was incredible. I really enjoyed hearing you both speak on your beliefs, for your husband to talk about the Bible and the scriptures around these topics. I think the advice you gave about always including the Lord in your decision is the best advice ever. Thank you for sharing your family! ❤❤

  • @eiffeltower1266
    @eiffeltower1266 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Definitely! "Always question authority" and do your own research before trusting any "professionals". They may not like it, but at least you're discussing important issues with some knowledge, at end "whose life is it anyway!". Taking responsibility of our lives is a must. With some professional opinions and advice of course!

  • @brittanyhunter9813
    @brittanyhunter9813 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I needed to hear that about finances. I am pregnant with my 3rd and have been worried about finances. But I know God will provide.

  • @autumnj6397
    @autumnj6397 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The grocery story was so touching ❤

  • @kathleengreen9660
    @kathleengreen9660 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Don’t let people make you feel like you aren’t grateful for what you have. You don’t owe them anything.
    I am so sorry about your lost babies. I love your big wonderful family ❤

  • @debbiemize2269
    @debbiemize2269 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, experiences, and thoughts on family size. My husband and I both came from families of three children, our parents from families of five, six, and ten children. We wanted to have a minimum of three.
    I became pregnant six months after we married. We were so excited about this! It was a difficult pregnancy for me, morning sickness all day long throughout the entire pregnancy. But holding that beautiful baby girl was worth every bit of the sickness, bed rest, and everything else! When she was a year old I talked to my doctor about my next pregnancy and what I would need to do to avoid being so sick! That’s when he told me that due to the complications I had during labor and delivery that I would not be able to have more children. I was devastated! I cried constantly but would not accept that Lori would be an only child. When I did finally come to grips with my emotions I prayed constantly for another child, as did my husband. Our second child, another daughter, was born three years and ten months after our first! I had the same complications during labor and delivery and came close to death. But I would not believe that God would give me this beautiful little girl and then not let me hold her! I came very close to losing her during my third month of pregnancy, just as I did with the first one. I survived, and so did my baby. God granted me a miracle!
    Baby number three, another girl, was born six years later. Another miracle! And again, a very difficult pregnancy that almost resulted in loss. But by the Grace of God, all three of my daughters have made it adulthood! They are now 50, 46, and 40! And I thank God for blessing me with these babies! After the birth of our third, my husband and I felt so content with our family, and apparently so was God.
    If I had to this again, complications and all, I would in a heartbeat!

  • @pamfrey6785
    @pamfrey6785 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you, I really enjoyed this topic and I really enjoy watching your family. There is so much love in your home. Yes there is a lot of love and joy being expressed to you. I just love seeing Noelle peeking over your shoulder making faces, doing bunny ears. There were 6 children in my home growing up. I remember hearing well they have so many children I know this was hurtful. Merry Christmas

  • @jamieliik4927
    @jamieliik4927 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Even if you don’t have a large family medical people are not always accepting of family size. I have 2 kids who are very close in age (Irish twins, 11 months and 1 day apart) when I went back to my OB for my second pregnancy, one of the OB’s in the practice definitely made it known that she was not supportive of having back to back babies.

  • @stephaniedosier7854
    @stephaniedosier7854 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This video was definitely amazing I felt like I was sitting and having a conversation with the both of you and getting to know u a bit. I believe in a lot of what u guys spoke on and I have ppl tell my husband and I that we have enough kids and don't need to have anymore. But I feel that I was made to be a mother to more and I am so happy when I bring new life into the world and the fact that I was blessed and chosen to be the mother to each one is the greatest feeling. Only have 4 kids now ages 16, 13, 11, 5. Only God knows what is going to happen in our life and I'm always ready to embrace whatever he has in store for me.❤

  • @cheriepanter9333
    @cheriepanter9333 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Coming from someone who can’t have children, I love your family vicariously 😅🇦🇺

  • @Jane5720
    @Jane5720 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this conversation

  • @evieartsandcraftlover1079
    @evieartsandcraftlover1079 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Announcing my fifth pregnancy and seeking health care for my pregnancy is really difficult for me, thankfully so far my experience is ok so far - but I haven’t told many people yet 😂

    • @agathareimer2924
      @agathareimer2924 ปีที่แล้ว

      Congratulations! Such a great blessing!❤️🫂

    • @danik1146
      @danik1146 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congratulations, I'm so happy for you!!!
      (We had 4 and then stopped, I've regretted it ever since)

    • @evieartsandcraftlover1079
      @evieartsandcraftlover1079 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We lost our baby last week at 24 wks,

  • @reneephilmon
    @reneephilmon ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm so sorry for your losses.
    Thank you for sharing everything that you did in this video.

  • @thisnthatmamma1617
    @thisnthatmamma1617 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Children are a blessing for sure. I have the utmost respect for large families as well as the people who don't want kids. There are some people who should never have been parents, my mother was done being a parent when I was 10 . I'm the oops baby and the youngest of three, I'm 10 years younger than my sister. Happy Holidays

  • @sallymonroe7767
    @sallymonroe7767 ปีที่แล้ว

    Before I started watching your channel, I felt that having more than a couple of children was irresponsible no matter what. But you have changed my mind - the way you make decisions is so thoughtful and based in your beliefs. And you are wonderful parents and make a wonderful home for your family. And your children are such wonderful people, I can’t imagine a world without any of them. I have let that viewpoint go completely. I send you positive energy and prayers to support you and your children as you live out your beliefs. Go, OTOM family!

  • @7ArrowsFarmstead
    @7ArrowsFarmstead ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I so appreciate you sharing this. We too allowed the Lord to choose the size of our family. We didn’t set out that way. In our premarital counseling, my husband said he wanted 1 or 2 children and I wanted 4. I always joke that we compromised and had 7. 😂 But that was because I had an encounter with God. Our 2nd baby was just 6ish months old & it was ROUGH. I had undiagnosed PPD & baby was super high needs. He barely slept and screamed if he wasn’t physically touching me. I had an appointment scheduled with my midwife to discuss my permanent birth control options and schedule it. But the Lord called to me. He said “There are still more children for your family, if you will have them.” I was hard “NO WAY!!!” But then the Lord showed me thousands of people coming to Him. My heart is for missions and I asked “Are these people that I am going to reach for You?” He said “No. These are people that your children who aren’t born yet will reach.” I was broken. How could I say “No” to that? My husband took awhile to come around to the idea but in the end he said “How can we say no to God? He knows what’s best.” We sought the Lord about birth control and His answer to us was “Do what you feel is best but when the time is right, there will be more.” And boy did He do that. 5 more boys in the next 7 years. It has not always been easy but God has been faithful through it all! When we had our last one, I had suffered 2 miscarriages just before he was conceived. I struggled to even be happy to be pregnant. My pregnancy was incredibly difficult physically too. But as hard as it was, his birth was so very healing. We knew he was our last.
    Sorry this is such a long comment. I just wanted to share our story with you and hopefully it helps encourage others.

  • @karynkelly-michael4089
    @karynkelly-michael4089 ปีที่แล้ว

    Each of you are beautiful beings; together you are breath-taking!

  • @mrsharoldsoblessed
    @mrsharoldsoblessed ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My husband & I have a lot of kids too. We have also suffered loss. Losing a child is beyond hurtful, devastating, & traumatizing. My heart goes out to y’all.❤❤❤

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sorry for your loss also. ❤♥

  • @rubyhodgson6429
    @rubyhodgson6429 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I didn't realise how much I needed this video! I have been fearful to get pregnant recently, just finished my study and about to start my career as a midwife which I've worked so hard foe and feel like a baby would be an 'inconvenience' 😢 BUT THEY ARE A BLESSING! Our 2 boys are amazing, I totally want more, this video is a reminder to trust God and involve him is the process!
    Thanks ❤️ (also from New Zealand!)

  • @mlm7598
    @mlm7598 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Loving and considerate video. I love the way you look at each other and chat and laugh together. What a blessing. Your family is so beautiful and just look at the two of you and you just exude love and caring!!!
    Blessings to you all and have beautiful Holydays!!

  • @sherrieoday6848
    @sherrieoday6848 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Sarah, I loved you and Sol talking like this… the love Sol has for you is extremely evident ❤ and the way you look at him❤.. the both of you are just so very blessed on many levels❤

  • @reneemoran8574
    @reneemoran8574 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Imagine had you only had 4. You'd almost be empty-nesters. Have you ever sat back and thought of all you'd have missed had you kept to a max of 4 kiddos.
    My husband and I have 8 children collectively. His, mine, an angel, and ours. When our daughter was born, we thought she would be our blender baby. Bringing our family together, but she died at 10 days, 10 hours and 20 minutes old. We couldn't end our family on a tragedy, so we tried again and had a sweet baby boy. This was followed by another baby boy and a decision that our family was complete. Only to be surprised by the Lord with our beautiful daughter.

    • @OurTribeofMany
      @OurTribeofMany  ปีที่แล้ว +8

      We talk about if we had stopped at 4 what our life would be like and it makes us happy we didn't!

  • @andreasmith2467
    @andreasmith2467 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey Sarah. I am 62. Had my first child at 17,while being a senior in High School. She was born in February, I turned 18 in April and Graduated in June. i have 4 children. There is so much more to my story. I will have to email you about it one day.