Mandi he isn’t scared to lose you , he’s scared to lose what you can do for him. Human beings are intentional. Anna said she knows he loves you but he just doesn’t show it. He’s showing you exactly how he feels. Mandi, you have 2 choices settle in it and accept this is who he is or leave and find better ❤️
‘I know he loves you but he just doesn’t show it’ should never be in the same sentence. It’s this simple: he loves what you can DO for him. Ladies let’s stop settling and allowing bs just for the sake of being in a relationship out of fear of being alone. Love is not chaotic and toxic there’s something so much more beautiful and fufilling out there for all of us we just need to do the work and realise it. Your boyfriend is not your child you shouldn’t have to put up with nonsense, ‘teaching’ them how to behave properly it’s absolutely ridiculous and immature these are 30 odd year old men
Toxic relationships psychologically always feel like “we love each other so much” bc there’s so much pain and pleasure coexisting in the relationship. The intensity is what makes you feel so good in the good moments. It’s important to be able to make that distinction. Healthy love exists Mandi, whether that is with your current partner or someone else is only for you to decide. But you both have to make conscious to love each other well. It’s very difficult to get there but worth it. Wishing you well Mandi❤ thank you for being vulnerable with us. I always watch on my lunch break at work 😂
Mandy, I speak for myself and I think so many if not the large majority of your audience in that we don’t come here to be entertained, we come here to hear two authentic women talk completely unguarded, openly; authentically & with vulnerability. You guys seemed to have harboured your own little community here and I hope you feel safe to never have to fake anything. You are not paid to cover up your sadness. And you never should. Trust me that your community here would rather you be real and express your feelings than try and put on a fake smile. I hope you feel better Mandy 💜 you are both such special, authentic, real, honest women.
I think Mandy is the one who loves her partner more than he loves her. Women let’s start looking at mens actions and holding them accountable. If spending less time with his friends is something that you ask for (which is so easy to do) a man who genuinely clears will easily do that. Not doubt. Look at his actions Mandy. Not everything is about love love love, love can only take you so far. If it upsets you to the point you guys are having massive arguments why can’t he adjust his ways to make you more comfortable?? I’m sure you know deep down that you deserve better..
First of all, thank you for being so REAL! Secondly, I don’t want us to normalise this sort of treatment and excuse it by saying “everyone argues in relationships” yes that is true but no man should be shouting or talking down to you, to the point where you can’t express your feelings without this happening? Sorry that is not a good relationship! Please let’s not normalise TOXIC relationship and saying that he still loves you when he treats you this way Mandi! You can do so much better! And also Anna, as much as you are trying to help your sister, telling her that she needs to work on herself does not change this relationship cos there’s TWO people in it, they both need to work on themselves. Please let’s not make this seem normal because a MAN that truly LOVES a woman will listen to her and never raise his voice!! Let’s normalise being with a man that considers our feelings not only when we are happy but when we are in disagreement, that’s a real man.
Love how real you girls are, please do start the extra episodes! Mandi I’ve been in very similar relationship and I promise you it doesn’t get better. Leaving is the best thing no matter how hard it is, you will be happier xx
Anna, it's wonderful to see you smiling again after such a long time. Well done for being there for Mandy. A note for Mandy, please keep in mind that we're not only expecting you to make us laugh. It's normal to face difficult times and situations in a relationship, so don't be too hard on yourself. Also, remember that sometimes the worst arguments occur, but they don't have to be the end of the world. Look beyond them and consider where you see yourself with Ginger Beard in the next five years. If you can envision a future together, then these struggles are worthwhile. Additionally, couples therapy is highly recommended and can be very beneficial to help you both deal with these outbursts
The members subscription sounds like a great idea! Maybe you could do live show once a week and have the members be able to join and ask advice/dilemmas?? Omg how fun would that be?! A lot of people are starting to stream/go live on TH-cam now and I think that would be amazing being able to have that vip access to a live show ❤ You girls are the realest podcasters, very relatable, pls don’t ever change or fake the happy! Raw is why we love you girls so so much 🥰 Hope Mandi feels better.. the look in her eyes was heartbreaking 🥺 GINGERBREAD BETTER GET HIS ANGER IN CHECK 😤 tf
Idk if you’ll do this but I know as a viewer in my early 20s figuring things out you guys make the journey relatable and real. I would love to see a video you guys speaking on your journey from 23-27, what’s changed, advice you’d give yourself etc.
He does that to you again and again because he knows you wont walk away mandi. Hes seen hes done that to you multiple of times so he’s taking advantage of you. Your allowing him to disrespect you. Deep down u know the truth but its hard to admit it. Eventually ur gona be so drained u will lose yourself and losing yourself isnt worth anyone on this earth.
Big difference between loving someone and being used to someone. Anna is so right when she said if you love someone you want to be around them. Toxic love is not love.
Love you guys. Mandi, you deserve the world. Someone who is thoughtful, someone who respects you, loves you and genuinely cares about you. Based on what I've heard, I don't believe Gingerbeard values you for YOU. you deserve soo much better. Love you ❤
Omg MANDYYY !!! you literally remind me of myself ! And let me tell you what helped me ! Recognising 1. you’re codependent which is unhealthy for you not him ! So you have to work on you and not him don’t worry about him focus on you and learn to be happy in your own company. This takes time and is really hard but you have to keep working on it. There’s good books on it 2. Understanding your attachment style. Sounds like you’re anxiously attached which is why you get annoyed about trivial things. You have to work on becoming secure and once you get there you’ll notice things that bother you now will no longer bother you. There’s great resources out there.
I really love how raw and emotional you guys are because it gives us comfort that we aren’t alone when we feel sad, even when I’m down, and you guys are down too, it brings me happiness knowing I’m not the only one social media can be so fake sometimes ❤
Amazing advice Anna, controlling our nervous system takes so much strength! What a super power you have to not allow anyone to make you feel inferior! That is exactly why your bf changed his behavior 👏🏽 love to see it sis! And Mandi, babe you are gorgeous, hilarious and have such a big heart, I know you know that you deserve more! Sending Love you girls are My sisters in my head! Xo love the pod!
Definitely do some vlog style content so we can see a different angle of your lives! Loved this episode super raw and honest. It’s so nice to hear you guys talk about how life actually is, instead of being like every other influencer who fakes how great their life is💕❤️
Mandi, please know that you're deserving of the love you desire. The hardest part sometimes is believing this for yourself enough to take the actions to find it. This may be a case of you both having different love languages so worth you both taking an online test to find out and discussing the results. As others have said, the truest relationships come down to more than love. You both need to feel valued and appreciated in your relationship and feel you have a safe space to express your feelings. If you both want this to be longterm and see it as something worth working on then couples therapy could also help with communication issues.
Another thing, Mandy, I know you feel the pressure sometimes to be funny but from reading the comments, your audience doesn’t demand that of you. All though you are absolutely hilarious, I come here every episode because I find you to be interesting and raw and vulnerable. Of course it’s great that we can laugh along with you guys but you’re so much more than the funny one. Take that pressure off. Please 💜💜
I would subscribe to the extra episode a week. Tbh I love the episodes where yous talk about your relationships or past relationships or dating etc because it’s something I can personally relate to or brings me comfort that we all go thru the same things.
I also think a bit of both would be good, maybe some weeks you do catch ups or some weeks you could do vlogs or show us around your flat or a day in the life of Mandi and Anna. I don’t think anyone is going to be overly fussed we just enjoy your vibe and whatever yous are doing is obviously going well but there are some ideas I could think of that I would want to watch
Yes would 100% be happy for extra episodes like vlogs,your tips and hints with make up skin hair, outfits. Also mandi your hair is sooo long now keep going😍 with your relationship, I was in a similar situation as you a few years ago and my friend told me to sit down and right down all the pros and cons of us then you can sit and look and see if it’s worth all the cons or not! Please put your mental health first and don’t loose who you are!! Love you girls💗🌸
Mandi don’t worry because everyone goes through really really hard times in a relationship. When relationships get so intense, you just have to work on it and not give up. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have had really really difficult times where we were on the brink of breaking up multiple times. We just worked on it and communicated what we wanted from each other. I think it’s really important to see the problem as the problem and you’re a team with your partner to deal with the problem together. It’s important to be very honest about how you feel. It’s also important to have those feelings validated by your partner and for you to validate his feelings too. People definitely give up on relationships really quick nowadays and give up because everyone has expectations and nobody remembers that people can’t read your mind, speak those expectations to your partner and also be prepared to compromise. Everyone has childhood trauma nowadays and you learn so much about yourself being in a loving relationships and sometimes it’s really a lot to handle. I’m rooting for you guys and I think your relationship is very similar to mine as we also both have explosive personalities. You just need to communicate deeply and remember that you will not always understand each other. And that’s okay, you should just try to validate and empathise with each other ❤❤
Firstly, love these episodes❤️ But I don‘t fully agree with your advice Anna. You can only leave something in the past and not dwell on it if you have dealt with it first. If the root cause (you not feeling heard/understood/valued in your relationship) is not healthily worked on, nothing will change in the future on its own. You both will fight again when these issues come up or you will bottle up your emotions and explode at some point💔 Wishing you all the best❤
I spent 2 days deep cleaning the house and listening quite a few episodes. 99% of them Mandi had an argument. Mandi it’s time to go. You don’t love him you are in love with the idea of him and how your relationship could be . The providing it is his way of keeping you there. You are such a smart ,beautiful and strong woman. You deserve way more than this.
Aww Mandi ❤❤❤ Anna is right- we love your authentic self, so it’s fine to feel down one episode. But don’t force yourself to do them- taking time is fine!!!
Mandi, they way you are in this episode is worrying because it seems like you are just empty, there is no energy in you or life left, please dont take it the wrong way, it makes me sad, that you are in such relationship, what causes you to feel in this way! There is many type of addictions and one of them is feeling severely sad and having big drama, once your body gets used to it it craves it and that intense feeling, it is difficult to change, but not impossible! Please read Dr Joe Dispenza! If you wont do something drastic about your relationship it will end up very bad, I understand its difficult to change things and especially with somebody you love, but this is so unhealthy. Wishing love and peace
I really have been obsessed with you girls and the strong women you are for years and how loyal and real you both are So I say this with love if I were telling my own friends Mentally take it back a second . Forget you are in a relationship for a sec Think about the things you expect from your ideal partner ( emotionally and mentally to begin with . ) write it down as a list and get him to do the same Think about if this man is giving you that , and is capable of doing so with some planning and timetabling You both go out to dinner to s nice place where there is no room for yelling or defense Read it out to each other With no ego and no tone ! Go from there . You both are princesses and deserve the princess treatment . But to receive that we have to be in ready to receive it. The princess treatment is your standard You can work it out But the screaming and shouting or swearing at each other needs to be forbidden I hope this helps
Anna made a good comment there about leaving it in the past and not dwelling on the argument if you know that truly u can’t leave him and he won’t leave u! Sending you my love Mandy 🥹💖
I think i would subscribe to extra episodes each week! i look forward to listening to this pod every tuesday. I would prefer podcasts than vlogs for the subscription service
I think ginger beard is so used to these arguments that he thinks that by lashing out and being nasty in the moment is temporary and you will both forgive and forget. But this cycle of just going back to normal has made these arguments normalised and you need to snap him out of it and make him realise that your starting to think you can’t see a positive future with him. Maybe get a bit of couple therapy as well like only a few sessions just to get some advice on how to change mindsets.
Listening to this podcast and a few other videos, about how your relationship is going with gingerbeard, I can sooo relate to this myself. This guy is not good at communicating in a relationship, and actually taking in your feelings. Yes, when your partner comes to you about how they feel towards being prioritised less over others like their friends (especially when they’re obsessed), they get defensive as they’re not ready to commit to the person they’re in a relationship with. They will not accept it until they realise one day, that their own friends have moved on with their girlfriends. If he LOVED you, he would definitely see all the effort you put in for him, and it would be reciprocated by spending time with you and prioritising you. But when you do love him, we have this idea that they do love us back, even if they show it in other ways, and that makes us subconsciously guilty about leaving. Think about what matters more though, taking you out for meals and buying you gifts, anyone can do that. But as women, we need a man that can communicate and be attentive to our needs. If they’re draining you just because you’re telling them how you feel, it is not worth it. Like you said yourself, he can replace you for the things you do for him, but if so, he doesn’t see you as someone he’s scared to lose. It’s the hard truth that we have to accept at some point. Your sister is giving you the right advice, and should take it into consideration. You deserve better! Hope you feel better soon.
Absolutely love your podcast! I look forward to them every week!! So real and raw, please keep it as it is ❤️ maybe you can have a guest appearance once a month? Would also love to see some vlogs here and there too haha I know I’m asking for a lot 😩 or maybe more day to day stuff on your ig stories if that’s easier x
Mandi you're being soo disrespected. No man should be shouting and swearing at you. Relationships should not be that stressful and emotionally draining. He should know your needs to how to serve them, he if can't do that he shouldn't be with you. I know Anna is saying don't fuel the fire, to help protect your mental health...but if your personality is firey you shouldn't need to dim your self or change for a man that isn't suited. I know you love him but love yourself more.
I love this episode!! So raw and real, thank you for sharing & I hope you feel better soon mandi 🥹🥹🥹❤️love the podcast & love u guysss loads. I would defo pay for the extra episode!!! You should 100% do it, (make it worth it haha ) 😅 I would like story times!!! I think it’s so fun and funny & it lets us know you better ❤️story times for sure for an extra episode!!
Love you both so much!! Mandi be strong, you know what’s in your heart. Never shrink yourself to avoid his anger, it’s not right. Perhaps both of your approaches to arguments can change but if he’s not willing to meet you there you may have to let it go. Wishing you both well, looking forward an update on the next one xxx
Love the hair Mandi!!, I’d subscribe for sure (the cheaper the better lol due to being a student) but like I’d love to see more episodes like this and catch ups etc and like you guys usually do rather than day in the life videos and vlogs!
I think the whole Mandi and Gingerbread thing is he loves her but he doesn’t know how to love her in her love language so it comes off as if he doesn’t care for her or love her but if this is an ongoing issue then he needs to consider that things need to change because the issue that bothers you the most about your partner gets x10 worse if you don’t fix it before marriage 💓
I’m going to be honest, the paid thing puts me off a little, I’ve watched every single episode you have and support you guys so much but we’re all out here having to pay for every single subscription, so as a loyal watcher it would put me off from watching 😭
Hey Mandi, hope you are feeling better🫶🏼 I’m in the same place with my boyfriend, the first year was perfect and now I’ve realised how our personalities clash and we do argue. It’s so hard when you’ve merged your lifestyles together too and there’s pressure for it to work. Hope that you find the clarity you need🙏🏼 lately I’m constantly questioning my relationship too, just know this feeling is temporary and everything will work out in the end✨xx
Lots of intelligent women and solid advice in the comments. You should both be proud you've cultivated such a beautiful community of 'Besties in the City'. 💕
Awhh! mandi ur so funny and good vibe but you're so much more than just funny! Sometimes love isn't enough to be with someone & I think when the other person knows you love them and will stay with them they're kinda programmed to continue the cycle. know ur worth sis
I LOVE how real and open you guys are about your relationships! It’s so relatable and so helpful to others going through the same things. Love you girls bad ! Found you on IG & been obsessed. Also I too had a HORRIBLE first year with my boyfriend but now we’ve learned eachother and changed and have been together 5 years now, 2 dogs and bought our first house together.
Honestly Mandis relationships gives me PTSD, hope she gets out sooner rather than later cause in hindsight you start to realise how delusional you were in these toxic relationships. It's NOT this intense love she keeps mentioning, it's just abusive.
Mandi I disagree with what you said about you being down might bring others down it’s the opposite for me. I feel if you actually are down others gonna relate more cause someone might be going through the same shit
Aww Mandy don’t worry guys are like this. Even my boyfriend prefers spending time with his friends and family. I guess their way of loving is different to our.
Also Mandi I’m sorry but that level of arguments that intensity is not healthy. I think what Anna is trying to say is that it’s common but it’s definitely not normal. You should flourish in your relationship and feel like ur growing after big arguments.
I think extra episode would be great but I don’t like the idea of having to pay for this! Supporting by watching liking and subscribing should be enough! Especially when alot of your audience are young people.
I love you guys, your podcast always brightens up my week 🫶🏼 I have to be completely honest I wouldn’t pay the extra although I do love your content ❤ I pay so much extra for Netflix, Disney, Amazon prime, Spotify, now tv 😅😅😅 theses so many subscriptions flying out my bank account 🙈😂 love you girls
I’d pay for more eps but 4.99 for just one seems a bit steep? Can we get 2? And personally I’m not interested in vlogs, but I kill for the pod 💖 love you guys
Awww this made me cry. Toxic love is definitely the best and worst kind of love. Honestly these type of relationships bring out the worst in us and we usually have alot of evolving and growing to do as individuals. It's like holding up a mirror to our partner. We end up mirroring eachother. This type of relationship is meant to teach us, show us ourselves.. The good the bad the ugly and we need to shed that skin.. I have experienced this kind of relationship and it never lasted becuase it should never be that toxic. Good luck sweety x
Mandy I think these fights will continue if you don’t address the root cause. It seems your needs are not being met and both your communication styles are not aligned. He has needs and you both need to address your needs from a safe place. I don’t believe in sitting and telling your friends because everyone talks from their insecurities and tbh most people answer ohh leave him etc…. Address the root cause and it’s apparent you are just coming at it from an angry place. If you both love each other then Work through the tension. You are scared and he is retaliating only way he knows how….. 💕 When you say it’s cheaper to get a cleaner than me… you are clearly not valuing yourself and maybe because of this you think I am replaceable and sabotaging and if it ends you have will think yeah that’s what I thought…. I hope that makes sense….. Mandy don’t keep thinking I should leave, he is this and that….. find a way through this tension and come to a middle place. He likes his friends and you can’t change that…but if you say three times a week it’s just you and …..
Similar situation to Mandi. I express my feeling when I’m upset with something the BF does. I don’t shout, scream or swear I talk and sometimes I cry depending on what it is. My BF just listens says nothing, goes mute and doesn’t know what to say or doesn’t want to say anything in case he hurts my feeling but because he does this I feel like what I’m saying isn’t registering or what I’m feeling doesn’t bother him. What does this mean?
omg im so down for people showing their true moods, i dont want acted out positivity, positivity is overvalued, there is day and night in life, our obsession with being positive is what is abnormal, anyway just trying to say please continue be real, thats very attractive
Mandi he isn’t scared to lose you , he’s scared to lose what you can do for him.
Human beings are intentional. Anna said she knows he loves you but he just doesn’t show it.
He’s showing you exactly how he feels. Mandi, you have 2 choices settle in it and accept this is who he is or leave and find better ❤️
I actually do like the real and emotional episodes. Social media is so much ‘my life is perfect’ that it is refreshing to see people u can relate to
‘I know he loves you but he just doesn’t show it’ should never be in the same sentence. It’s this simple: he loves what you can DO for him.
Ladies let’s stop settling and allowing bs just for the sake of being in a relationship out of fear of being alone.
Love is not chaotic and toxic there’s something so much more beautiful and fufilling out there for all of us we just need to do the work and realise it. Your boyfriend is not your child you shouldn’t have to put up with nonsense, ‘teaching’ them how to behave properly it’s absolutely ridiculous and immature these are 30 odd year old men
Toxic relationships psychologically always feel like “we love each other so much” bc there’s so much pain and pleasure coexisting in the relationship. The intensity is what makes you feel so good in the good moments. It’s important to be able to make that distinction. Healthy love exists Mandi, whether that is with your current partner or someone else is only for you to decide. But you both have to make conscious to love each other well. It’s very difficult to get there but worth it. Wishing you well Mandi❤ thank you for being vulnerable with us. I always watch on my lunch break at work 😂
Mandy, I speak for myself and I think so many if not the large majority of your audience in that we don’t come here to be entertained, we come here to hear two authentic women talk completely unguarded, openly; authentically & with vulnerability. You guys seemed to have harboured your own little community here and I hope you feel safe to never have to fake anything. You are not paid to cover up your sadness. And you never should. Trust me that your community here would rather you be real and express your feelings than try and put on a fake smile. I hope you feel better Mandy 💜 you are both such special, authentic, real, honest women.
I think Mandy is the one who loves her partner more than he loves her.
Women let’s start looking at mens actions and holding them accountable.
If spending less time with his friends is something that you ask for (which is so easy to do) a man who genuinely clears will easily do that. Not doubt.
Look at his actions Mandy. Not everything is about love love love, love can only take you so far. If it upsets you to the point you guys are having massive arguments why can’t he adjust his ways to make you more comfortable?? I’m sure you know deep down that you deserve better..
^*genuinely cares
Facts
First of all, thank you for being so REAL! Secondly, I don’t want us to normalise this sort of treatment and excuse it by saying “everyone argues in relationships” yes that is true but no man should be shouting or talking down to you, to the point where you can’t express your feelings without this happening? Sorry that is not a good relationship! Please let’s not normalise TOXIC relationship and saying that he still loves you when he treats you this way Mandi! You can do so much better! And also Anna, as much as you are trying to help your sister, telling her that she needs to work on herself does not change this relationship cos there’s TWO people in it, they both need to work on themselves. Please let’s not make this seem normal because a MAN that truly LOVES a woman will listen to her and never raise his voice!! Let’s normalise being with a man that considers our feelings not only when we are happy but when we are in disagreement, that’s a real man.
Love how real you girls are, please do start the extra episodes! Mandi I’ve been in very similar relationship and I promise you it doesn’t get better. Leaving is the best thing no matter how hard it is, you will be happier xx
Anna, it's wonderful to see you smiling again after such a long time. Well done for being there for Mandy. A note for Mandy, please keep in mind that we're not only expecting you to make us laugh. It's normal to face difficult times and situations in a relationship, so don't be too hard on yourself. Also, remember that sometimes the worst arguments occur, but they don't have to be the end of the world. Look beyond them and consider where you see yourself with Ginger Beard in the next five years. If you can envision a future together, then these struggles are worthwhile. Additionally, couples therapy is highly recommended and can be very beneficial to help you both deal with these outbursts
The members subscription sounds like a great idea!
Maybe you could do live show once a week and have the members be able to join and ask advice/dilemmas??
Omg how fun would that be?!
A lot of people are starting to stream/go live on TH-cam now and I think that would be amazing being able to have that vip access to a live show ❤
You girls are the realest podcasters, very relatable, pls don’t ever change or fake the happy! Raw is why we love you girls so so much 🥰
Hope Mandi feels better.. the look in her eyes was heartbreaking 🥺
GINGERBREAD BETTER GET HIS ANGER IN CHECK 😤 tf
Idk if you’ll do this but I know as a viewer in my early 20s figuring things out you guys make the journey relatable and real. I would love to see a video you guys speaking on your journey from 23-27, what’s changed, advice you’d give yourself etc.
He does that to you again and again because he knows you wont walk away mandi. Hes seen hes done that to you multiple of times so he’s taking advantage of you. Your allowing him to disrespect you. Deep down u know the truth but its hard to admit it. Eventually ur gona be so drained u will lose yourself and losing yourself isnt worth anyone on this earth.
We shouldn’t mistake love and obsession as the same thing…….true love is not unkind, selfish, mean, rude, impatient or aggressive
Big difference between loving someone and being used to someone. Anna is so right when she said if you love someone you want to be around them. Toxic love is not love.
Love you guys.
Mandi, you deserve the world. Someone who is thoughtful, someone who respects you, loves you and genuinely cares about you. Based on what I've heard, I don't believe Gingerbeard values you for YOU. you deserve soo much better.
Love you ❤
Omg MANDYYY !!! you literally remind me of myself ! And let me tell you what helped me ! Recognising
1. you’re codependent which is unhealthy for you not him ! So you have to work on you and not him don’t worry about him focus on you and learn to be happy in your own company. This takes time and is really hard but you have to keep working on it. There’s good books on it
2. Understanding your attachment style. Sounds like you’re anxiously attached which is why you get annoyed about trivial things. You have to work on becoming secure and once you get there you’ll notice things that bother you now will no longer bother you. There’s great resources out there.
I really love how raw and emotional you guys are because it gives us comfort that we aren’t alone when we feel sad, even when I’m down, and you guys are down too, it brings me happiness knowing I’m not the only one social media can be so fake sometimes ❤
This was such a real and relatable ep. I hope Mandi is good and puts herself first. Anna is such a good big sis ❤❤
Amazing advice Anna, controlling our nervous system takes so much strength! What a super power you have to not allow anyone to make you feel inferior! That is exactly why your bf changed his behavior 👏🏽 love to see it sis!
And Mandi, babe you are gorgeous, hilarious and have such a big heart, I know you know that you deserve more! Sending Love
you girls are My sisters in my head! Xo love the pod!
I guess that’s why they say love is not enough. You have to treat each other right.
Definitely do some vlog style content so we can see a different angle of your lives! Loved this episode super raw and honest. It’s so nice to hear you guys talk about how life actually is, instead of being like every other influencer who fakes how great their life is💕❤️
Mandi, please know that you're deserving of the love you desire. The hardest part sometimes is believing this for yourself enough to take the actions to find it.
This may be a case of you both having different love languages so worth you both taking an online test to find out and discussing the results.
As others have said, the truest relationships come down to more than love. You both need to feel valued and appreciated in your relationship and feel you have a safe space to express your feelings. If you both want this to be longterm and see it as something worth working on then couples therapy could also help with communication issues.
I literally look forward to Tuesday mornings to sit quickly before work and watch this, pleaseeee don’t change to Thursdays!!!
Another thing, Mandy, I know you feel the pressure sometimes to be funny but from reading the comments, your audience doesn’t demand that of you. All though you are absolutely hilarious, I come here every episode because I find you to be interesting and raw and vulnerable. Of course it’s great that we can laugh along with you guys but you’re so much more than the funny one. Take that pressure off. Please 💜💜
I would only pay for another podcast ep because i love these sooooo much and really want more 😭❤️
I would subscribe to the extra episode a week. Tbh I love the episodes where yous talk about your relationships or past relationships or dating etc because it’s something I can personally relate to or brings me comfort that we all go thru the same things.
I also think a bit of both would be good, maybe some weeks you do catch ups or some weeks you could do vlogs or show us around your flat or a day in the life of Mandi and Anna. I don’t think anyone is going to be overly fussed we just enjoy your vibe and whatever yous are doing is obviously going well but there are some ideas I could think of that I would want to watch
Yes would 100% be happy for extra episodes like vlogs,your tips and hints with make up skin hair, outfits. Also mandi your hair is sooo long now keep going😍 with your relationship, I was in a similar situation as you a few years ago and my friend told me to sit down and right down all the pros and cons of us then you can sit and look and see if it’s worth all the cons or not! Please put your mental health first and don’t loose who you are!! Love you girls💗🌸
Mandi don’t worry because everyone goes through really really hard times in a relationship. When relationships get so intense, you just have to work on it and not give up. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have had really really difficult times where we were on the brink of breaking up multiple times. We just worked on it and communicated what we wanted from each other. I think it’s really important to see the problem as the problem and you’re a team with your partner to deal with the problem together. It’s important to be very honest about how you feel. It’s also important to have those feelings validated by your partner and for you to validate his feelings too. People definitely give up on relationships really quick nowadays and give up because everyone has expectations and nobody remembers that people can’t read your mind, speak those expectations to your partner and also be prepared to compromise. Everyone has childhood trauma nowadays and you learn so much about yourself being in a loving relationships and sometimes it’s really a lot to handle. I’m rooting for you guys and I think your relationship is very similar to mine as we also both have explosive personalities. You just need to communicate deeply and remember that you will not always understand each other. And that’s okay, you should just try to validate and empathise with each other ❤❤
Firstly, love these episodes❤️
But I don‘t fully agree with your advice Anna. You can only leave something in the past and not dwell on it if you have dealt with it first. If the root cause (you not feeling heard/understood/valued in your relationship) is not healthily worked on, nothing will change in the future on its own. You both will fight again when these issues come up or you will bottle up your emotions and explode at some point💔 Wishing you all the best❤
Also, not everything is on 1 person. I believe both people in the relationship should have to work on their behaviour
I recommend couples therapy
I spent 2 days deep cleaning the house and listening quite a few episodes. 99% of them Mandi had an argument. Mandi it’s time to go. You don’t love him you are in love with the idea of him and how your relationship could be . The providing it is his way of keeping you there. You are such a smart ,beautiful and strong woman. You deserve way more than this.
anna has learnt a lot! you’ve hit the nail on the head when it comes to men and anger 👌🏻
I actually prefer episodes like these! I love how open and vulnerable you are on the podcast
Aww Mandi ❤❤❤ Anna is right- we love your authentic self, so it’s fine to feel down one episode. But don’t force yourself to do them- taking time is fine!!!
Mandi, they way you are in this episode is worrying because it seems like you are just empty, there is no energy in you or life left, please dont take it the wrong way, it makes me sad, that you are in such relationship, what causes you to feel in this way!
There is many type of addictions and one of them is feeling severely sad and having big drama, once your body gets used to it it craves it and that intense feeling, it is difficult to change, but not impossible! Please read Dr Joe Dispenza!
If you wont do something drastic about your relationship it will end up very bad, I understand its difficult to change things and especially with somebody you love, but this is so unhealthy.
Wishing love and peace
This is the sort of episode I’d like in the subscription xxx
ABSOLUTELY NOT EXPECTING POSITIVE VIBES ALL THE TIME WE WANT REALNESS THATS WHY WE LOVE YOU ❤
Omg I’ve just watched this. Mandi, you’re the best! You make me cry with laughter and we want you to remember how amazing you are x
I really have been obsessed with you girls and the strong women you are for years and how loyal and real you both are
So I say this with love if I were telling my own friends
Mentally take it back a second .
Forget you are in a relationship for a sec
Think about the things you expect from your ideal partner ( emotionally and mentally to begin with . ) write it down as a list and get him to do the same
Think about if this man is giving you that , and is capable of doing so with some planning and timetabling
You both go out to dinner to s nice place where there is no room for yelling or defense
Read it out to each other
With no ego and no tone !
Go from there .
You both are princesses and deserve the princess treatment . But to receive that we have to be in ready to receive it.
The princess treatment is your standard
You can work it out
But the screaming and shouting or swearing at each other needs to be forbidden
I hope this helps
Anna made a good comment there about leaving it in the past and not dwelling on the argument if you know that truly u can’t leave him and he won’t leave u! Sending you my love Mandy 🥹💖
I think i would subscribe to extra episodes each week! i look forward to listening to this pod every tuesday. I would prefer podcasts than vlogs for the subscription service
I ❤️ this podcast love how real and funny you guys are, When mandi called cowslick homosexual I spat my water out 🤣 hilarious!
I think ginger beard is so used to these arguments that he thinks that by lashing out and being nasty in the moment is temporary and you will both forgive and forget. But this cycle of just going back to normal has made these arguments normalised and you need to snap him out of it and make him realise that your starting to think you can’t see a positive future with him.
Maybe get a bit of couple therapy as well like only a few sessions just to get some advice on how to change mindsets.
Listening to this podcast and a few other videos, about how your relationship is going with gingerbeard, I can sooo relate to this myself. This guy is not good at communicating in a relationship, and actually taking in your feelings. Yes, when your partner comes to you about how they feel towards being prioritised less over others like their friends (especially when they’re obsessed), they get defensive as they’re not ready to commit to the person they’re in a relationship with. They will not accept it until they realise one day, that their own friends have moved on with their girlfriends. If he LOVED you, he would definitely see all the effort you put in for him, and it would be reciprocated by spending time with you and prioritising you. But when you do love him, we have this idea that they do love us back, even if they show it in other ways, and that makes us subconsciously guilty about leaving. Think about what matters more though, taking you out for meals and buying you gifts, anyone can do that. But as women, we need a man that can communicate and be attentive to our needs. If they’re draining you just because you’re telling them how you feel, it is not worth it. Like you said yourself, he can replace you for the things you do for him, but if so, he doesn’t see you as someone he’s scared to lose. It’s the hard truth that we have to accept at some point. Your sister is giving you the right advice, and should take it into consideration. You deserve better! Hope you feel better soon.
Absolutely love your podcast! I look forward to them every week!! So real and raw, please keep it as it is ❤️ maybe you can have a guest appearance once a month? Would also love to see some vlogs here and there too haha I know I’m asking for a lot 😩 or maybe more day to day stuff on your ig stories if that’s easier x
Also, I’d totally do memberships on your channel! An extra episode would be cool but I’d also be down for vlogs as well!!! Love you ladies ❤❤❤❤
Mandi you're being soo disrespected. No man should be shouting and swearing at you. Relationships should not be that stressful and emotionally draining. He should know your needs to how to serve them, he if can't do that he shouldn't be with you.
I know Anna is saying don't fuel the fire, to help protect your mental health...but if your personality is firey you shouldn't need to dim your self or change for a man that isn't suited. I know you love him but love yourself more.
we need a BBL storytime episode pleasee 🙏🏻🤞🏼💕
Omggg you girls definitely need a reality TV show even if your men don’t wana be on it.. just you guys would be wicked ❤ Could lit watch you all day
Happy to be getting my working week started off with you guys. Getting ready and you're on
Thank you Mandi for being vulnerable and raw with us. Anna, your advice was second to none and spot on ❤
Your just his trophy mandi.
Your too funny and beautiful to lose but doesnt respect that he has you..
❤❤ best podcast
I love this episode!! So raw and real, thank you for sharing & I hope you feel better soon mandi 🥹🥹🥹❤️love the podcast & love u guysss loads. I would defo pay for the extra episode!!! You should 100% do it, (make it worth it haha ) 😅 I would like story times!!! I think it’s so fun and funny & it lets us know you better ❤️story times for sure for an extra episode!!
Love you both so much!!
Mandi be strong, you know what’s in your heart. Never shrink yourself to avoid his anger, it’s not right. Perhaps both of your approaches to arguments can change but if he’s not willing to meet you there you may have to let it go.
Wishing you both well, looking forward an update on the next one xxx
Would love an extra catch up episode! Or long story times ❤️❤️
Love the hair Mandi!!, I’d subscribe for sure (the cheaper the better lol due to being a student) but like I’d love to see more episodes like this and catch ups etc and like you guys usually do rather than day in the life videos and vlogs!
You’re not there to entertain us Mandy. Just be honest & yourself. That’s why I watch! 🫶🏾
I think the whole Mandi and Gingerbread thing is he loves her but he doesn’t know how to love her in her love language so it comes off as if he doesn’t care for her or love her but if this is an ongoing issue then he needs to consider that things need to change because the issue that bothers you the most about your partner gets x10 worse if you don’t fix it before marriage 💓
I’m going to be honest, the paid thing puts me off a little, I’ve watched every single episode you have and support you guys so much but we’re all out here having to pay for every single subscription, so as a loyal watcher it would put me off from watching 😭
extra episode a week! i would love that :)
Podcast style rather than normal yt videos ❤
Yessss 100% want more episodes 🥰
u guys so should make another episode each week, something easy and fun, stress free.
Hey Mandi, hope you are feeling better🫶🏼 I’m in the same place with my boyfriend, the first year was perfect and now I’ve realised how our personalities clash and we do argue. It’s so hard when you’ve merged your lifestyles together too and there’s pressure for it to work. Hope that you find the clarity you need🙏🏼 lately I’m constantly questioning my relationship too, just know this feeling is temporary and everything will work out in the end✨xx
Love this podcast, would def enjoy more episodes 😘
Love is just not enough sometimes.
Do more tiktok clips and your podcast will rocket. You guys are amazing❤❤❤ Anna you gave so much great advice in this episode xxxx
Lots of intelligent women and solid advice in the comments. You should both be proud you've cultivated such a beautiful community of 'Besties in the City'. 💕
I’m very interested in an extra episode or extra content from you. I think another podcast
A weekly vlog of your week all the days combined xx
Awhh! mandi ur so funny and good vibe but you're so much more than just funny! Sometimes love isn't enough to be with someone & I think when the other person knows you love them and will stay with them they're kinda programmed to continue the cycle. know ur worth sis
Love this episode . So genuine , sending lots of love 🤍🤍
Not the water … we don’t find it jarring. We find it funny 🤣 ps love the pod ❤
I LOVE how real and open you guys are about your relationships! It’s so relatable and so helpful to others going through the same things. Love you girls bad ! Found you on IG & been obsessed. Also I too had a HORRIBLE first year with my boyfriend but now we’ve learned eachother and changed and have been together 5 years now, 2 dogs and bought our first house together.
I think different love languages. He might show his love with act of service and Mandy feels loved with quality time
Yessss do an extra episode
Love you girls so much! You both deserve the world❤
Honestly Mandis relationships gives me PTSD, hope she gets out sooner rather than later cause in hindsight you start to realise how delusional you were in these toxic relationships. It's NOT this intense love she keeps mentioning, it's just abusive.
You girls need to have a reality tv show 😍
Mandi I disagree with what you said about you being down might bring others down it’s the opposite for me. I feel if you actually are down others gonna relate more cause someone might be going through the same shit
Aww Mandy don’t worry guys are like this. Even my boyfriend prefers spending time with his friends and family. I guess their way of loving is different to our.
Naa I love the podcast raw and real ❤
And I also have a princess complex sorry but if u upset me your making it up to me simple lol 😂
Also Mandi I’m sorry but that level of arguments that intensity is not healthy. I think what Anna is trying to say is that it’s common but it’s definitely not normal. You should flourish in your relationship and feel like ur growing after big arguments.
I think extra episode would be great but I don’t like the idea of having to pay for this! Supporting by watching liking and subscribing should be enough!
Especially when alot of your audience are young people.
I think a vlog would be really good would love to see what you guys get up to in a week ♥️
I love you guys, your podcast always brightens up my week 🫶🏼 I have to be completely honest I wouldn’t pay the extra although I do love your content ❤ I pay so much extra for Netflix, Disney, Amazon prime, Spotify, now tv 😅😅😅 theses so many subscriptions flying out my bank account 🙈😂 love you girls
Wow man anna’s advice is amazing
yesss, reality tv show!
Mandi we're all here for you !!
I’d pay for more eps but 4.99 for just one seems a bit steep? Can we get 2? And personally I’m not interested in vlogs, but I kill for the pod 💖 love you guys
Awww this made me cry. Toxic love is definitely the best and worst kind of love. Honestly these type of relationships bring out the worst in us and we usually have alot of evolving and growing to do as individuals. It's like holding up a mirror to our partner. We end up mirroring eachother. This type of relationship is meant to teach us, show us ourselves.. The good the bad the ugly and we need to shed that skin.. I have experienced this kind of relationship and it never lasted becuase it should never be that toxic. Good luck sweety x
Mandy I think these fights will continue if you don’t address the root cause. It seems your needs are not being met and both your communication styles are not aligned. He has needs and you both need to address your needs from a safe place. I don’t believe in sitting and telling your friends because everyone talks from their insecurities and tbh most people answer ohh leave him etc…. Address the root cause and it’s apparent you are just coming at it from an angry place. If you both love each other then Work through the tension. You are scared and he is retaliating only way he knows how….. 💕
When you say it’s cheaper to get a cleaner than me… you are clearly not valuing yourself and maybe because of this you think I am replaceable and sabotaging and if it ends you have will think yeah that’s what I thought…. I hope that makes sense….. Mandy don’t keep thinking I should leave, he is this and that….. find a way through this tension and come to a middle place. He likes his friends and you can’t change that…but if you say three times a week it’s just you and …..
Awh it’s Ramadan againnn, nice hearing that girls x
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Similar situation to Mandi. I express my feeling when I’m upset with something the BF does. I don’t shout, scream or swear I talk and sometimes I cry depending on what it is. My BF just listens says nothing, goes mute and doesn’t know what to say or doesn’t want to say anything in case he hurts my feeling but because he does this I feel like what I’m saying isn’t registering or what I’m feeling doesn’t bother him. What does this mean?
I think this is the only podcast that is the realist…
It's your attachment styles. Read the book attached, and you will see both your patterns and understand what's going on for you both.
you girls are my comfort ❤
omg im so down for people showing their true moods, i dont want acted out positivity, positivity is overvalued, there is day and night in life, our obsession with being positive is what is abnormal, anyway just trying to say please continue be real, thats very attractive
Hate seeing Mandy upset :(
We want more or your daily lives, cooking, make up, workout etc))))))
Your extra vid should be a vlog, a day in the life 🎉