Why NIGERIAN WOMEN “hire” Under-aged helps!..AN EXPOSE’!

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  • @reginauwalaka1695
    @reginauwalaka1695 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    I am a Nigerian living in the west. Another area that we need to address is birth control. I remembered going home one year and telling a young woman that I stopped having children because I had my tubes tied (tubligation) she looked at me like I had committed a crime. Education and health information are lacking for men and women in Nigeria. You have one or two children that you can afford instead of having 10 children and looking for someone to help you raise them

    • @Nezeville
      @Nezeville  9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      💯

    • @favourafinni
      @favourafinni 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Exactly. The thing is most of these kind of parents you mentioned only see their kids ad a retirement plan that's why they have them plenty. At least if 5 out of the 7 they birth doesn't takes care of them at old age, the other 2 might. It's crazy but that how these people see. They see having kids as their retirement plan even when they don't have anything to invest in the lives of these kids.

    • @NileGoddess
      @NileGoddess 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol 😢

    • @kandisphere8828
      @kandisphere8828 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Well said! I don't understand how one can have 5 children or more and they cannot even earn $500 per month.

    • @fa9183
      @fa9183 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If I had my way, I'll implement a 2 child policy in Nigeria. They breed stupidly.

  • @MercyUmokaso
    @MercyUmokaso 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    Thanks Neze. You are right, the "house help" matter in Nigeria is supposed to be a support system for both the "house help" & the family where he/she helps by doing chores. Problems arise if either of the parties show bad behaviors.
    When all my children left home for the university, I brought in a 12-year old girl whose parents couldn't afford her Secondary School education, to help in my house. She has been a good girl, so I sponsored her through secondary school & made her take JAMB. Now she is in the university where I am still the sole sponsor. On the day she started at the University, she said that her people couldn't still believe that her university education was true. The mother is overwhelmed with joy. If the girl had been brought up back home in the slum, her secondary school education and current good virtues couldn't be guaranteed.
    However, I have also had house maids who couldn't adjust to our Christian family pattern for one year, or even three months, whereas we have also had some sponsored through vocational trainings.
    So it is not really a bad system, but the functionality depends on both parties.

    • @jenniferobeng3761
      @jenniferobeng3761 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you for ur kind hearted ❤❤

    • @momoftheJohnson4
      @momoftheJohnson4 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Being from the states I now have better understanding of what is going on. Thanks for your explanation

    • @peaceogbomede1044
      @peaceogbomede1044 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Well explained. Both parties needs to function together to get the maximum benefits and when the house help or the madam is bad, we hear terrible stories.

    • @timothyekong481
      @timothyekong481 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Correct!!.I grew up to see my mum do the same things like you..

    • @IjeomaGloriaAnopueme
      @IjeomaGloriaAnopueme 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Awesome❤❤❤

  • @ijewhite
    @ijewhite 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    I lived as a maid, Neze and I don't pray for my child to experience it whether been treated good or not, I can't and won't give any of my child as house boy or girl. I had twins but never have a house help because I can't even feed the child properly. Please if there's a way to shut it down completely in Nigeria, it will be a stepping stone.

  • @christinechineke8843
    @christinechineke8843 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    Neze, your husband is blessed, he should be one million times proud of you. Your intelligence is topnotch!

  • @Rosine-yx5zf
    @Rosine-yx5zf 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    We have the same situation and even worst in Cameroun. L’Afrique a besoin d’un changement profond de mentalité. Sans cela on n’ira nul part. Merci pour vos enseignements.

  • @iyabobello6041
    @iyabobello6041 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Oh Neze . No one tells it as well as you do. I bow to you. Well done girl

  • @vicuz432
    @vicuz432 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    This is an understandable perspective. Poverty has really damaged the psyche of many

  • @ifeyinwaokolo1246
    @ifeyinwaokolo1246 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    I am Nigerian living in Nigeria and it has always been weird to me. It's only acceptable when the adults adopt these kids as one of theirs. At least, regard them as humans. I am that friend or family member that has called out a lot of nonsense as little as cutting of hair. I saw my friends help (13yrs) with bald hair suddenly and when I inquired my friend said she didn't have time to be sending the girl to do her hair. 😡😡😡.
    As a teenager even in your parents house, one of the few things you feel like you look to will be your clothing, hair, friends... how many minutes every 2 weeks or even a month will affect the help helping you is beyond me. I don't even want to start with the more serious grievances.

    • @dialalaura2865
      @dialalaura2865 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Some people are just wicked naturally, such person will be seen as a good person outside and at home they are vampires.

    • @aishaahmed4553
      @aishaahmed4553 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Your friend is mean.... if that girl was her child she will have time.

  • @mummytriple_J
    @mummytriple_J 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    This video brought tears to my eyes 😭😭 as a person who's still traumatized with a childhood abuse 😢

  • @iya2871
    @iya2871 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    We had some maids at my house while growing up, some were being exploited by their own families for money. My mother put some in school and some in apprenticeship. Some were successful while others were withdrawn by their families because they didn’t believe in upgrading the child. To this day I have so many aunties that used be maids in our household who are living successful lives. One even followed us abroad on vacation, that was how much my mother trusted and respected her to the jealousy of the others. I had great respect for her, she was a human first and not a maid.

  • @Jen-Inspired
    @Jen-Inspired 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    You are not wrong. I have a personal stand against "hiring" children. I need help, not another child...if a child can do the work, then my children will be doing the work!

    • @mokubebenedicta-gh7we
      @mokubebenedicta-gh7we 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God help us in Africa😂😂😂❤❤❤😢😢😢😢😢

    • @fa9183
      @fa9183 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nigerian women should just invest in extra gadgets. Why can't they do that instead of enslaving an underage child?

  • @richardosi2073
    @richardosi2073 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perspective on the issue of hiring under-aged helps in Nigeria. It's indeed a complex and sensitive issue that requires careful consideration.
    You rightly pointed out the unfortunate reality of children from impoverished backgrounds being given out to work as helps in hopes of a better life. While the intention may be noble, it's essential to ensure that these children are treated with dignity and assigned age-appropriate tasks.
    I completely agree that the root of the problem lies in the wickedness of some individuals who exploit these vulnerable children. It's heart-breaking to hear that some children come with vices learned from their harsh circumstances, but it's crucial to address these issues with compassion and support rather than resorting to abuse.
    Your emphasis on the importance of treating all children equally, regardless of their background, is commendable. Indeed, the notion of "one man for himself" perpetuates this cycle of inequality and mistreatment. We need collective efforts to create a more just and compassionate society where every child is valued and protected.
    Thank you once again for bringing attention to this critical issue. Let's continue to raise awareness and work towards positive change for the well-being of all children in Nigeria.

  • @bloucrick
    @bloucrick 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    This is so upsetting to hear. I live in the Caribbean and cannot imagine Nigeria is in such a state. When Tinubu stole the elections devastated me, just hearing it. This is upsetting.

    • @reina-knasz
      @reina-knasz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Seriously my Dear 📌

  • @catherineaudu3824
    @catherineaudu3824 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This video needs to be aired in Nigeria 🇳🇬 ❤❤❤

  • @namagembe67
    @namagembe67 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I am an African based in the UK
    It is illegal to employ children as househelps in my country. Nigerians have to stop finding excuses for bad practices. My country is poorer than Nigeria. However, we have communties that look out for one another. There are no food bank or shelters however, we believe in supporting those who are less privileged without expecting anything in return. Those who are blessed with more are willing share. In my country, it is people in your neighbourhood that would hold you accountable before even contacting the authorities. If there is going to be any change in Nigeria, values have to change. I own a school in Ghana that gives scholarships to 20% of the pupils who come from poor families. I provide uniform and stationary plus lunch free of charge.

    • @namagembe67
      @namagembe67 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @adannapaul8248 I do not need to watch it again. I am an African too and, we have poor people however, we do not enslave them. Please, it is my opinion. You do not have to agree with. Are you aware that there are countries in Africa that never took part in slave trade?

    • @namagembe67
      @namagembe67 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @adannapaul8248 please if it is working for your country, keep it up. Have you ever wondered why there is insecurity and gruesome incident taking place. These people are resentful and will always retariate in ways that will affect society as a whole. So because someone is poor then the way forward is to exploit them. Whether you like it or not, there will be repercussions that will affect everyone if vulnerable people are oppressed.

  • @aleroalero
    @aleroalero 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    Nigeria is rotten from the top to the bottom, and the system is not working for every citizen. Those in power make sure of that and the corruption is on a higher level.☹️

    • @oneofYAHSCHOSEN366
      @oneofYAHSCHOSEN366 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

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    • @kindnessobehiaghe4854
      @kindnessobehiaghe4854 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Abeg, Nigeria is not the only rotten country, every country has its own corruption please stop acting like you’ve not seen corruption at all in other countries

    • @aleroalero
      @aleroalero 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kindnessobehiaghe4854 9ja own too much, the system has failed many citizens maybe na because e never reach your turn.

    • @KahinaAbayatara
      @KahinaAbayatara 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      lol wait for them to say “it’s not only Nigeria” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 LEAVE THOSE NIGERIANS IN THEIR BUSINESS BECAUSE THEY ARE ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLL (INCLUDING NEZE) to say “it’s not only in Nigeria” BUT I WILL SAY UNLESS You all accept the fact that Nigeria has a problem-it will never change!!!!!!!

    • @nnekairoegbu2360
      @nnekairoegbu2360 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      ​@@kindnessobehiaghe4854Is that the standard? Nigeria is rotten from top to bottom, if you don't feel that way go and live there permanently.

  • @labelle65
    @labelle65 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thanks Neze. You've done it yet again. Brilliantly disected!! Keep up the good work. I'm not Nigerian, but my husband is, and what is going on in that country really saddens me😢. The SYSTEMATIC CORRUPTION is sometimes too much for me to bear. Only God can help that country. The rot is too deep 😢.

    • @Toksgg
      @Toksgg 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Every country has it's rotten side

  • @chinweaniche-hall3895
    @chinweaniche-hall3895 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This child labor issue is another reason Nigeria will not progress. If a child can't be valued and protected but rather abused and traumatized then how can they have a bright future that can lead into a successful adulthood. This is why the white man will always have to rescue Africans. I really do hope that laws are put in place and enforced regarding child labor. Since there's a lot of wicked people who will never treat another person's child as their own then the system needs to be eradicated. However, I know what seems to be working for years can't just be ended because of a few people. I am just Glad happiness is finding justice, has been taken away from that wicked woman and she's going to court to face questioning and possible jail time for her crimes.

    • @NileGoddess
      @NileGoddess 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not many people will like what you just said but it’s the absolute truth

  • @ayuma4747
    @ayuma4747 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    🇰🇪🇰🇪 my in-laws let me tell you... In Kenya we are poor but the community leaders are assigned to check the well being of children. We have 'nyumba kumi' neaning 10 houses, so we have many people who are responsible for this and only a whisper you will by tomorrow morning they will be at your door, even if its your own but not schooling. Also NGO come in and are trying to give back to society. Please wake my in-laws up and let them stop palaces and invest in humanity. We are not there but at least we are trying.❤

    • @aishaahmed4553
      @aishaahmed4553 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wow! That is great. I think its a good approach the kenyans have adopted.
      I hope other Africans can follow-suit

    • @ayuma4747
      @ayuma4747 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@aishaahmed4553 thank you, we will get there slowly only sacrifice for us able and strategies for our leaders 🤲

    • @NileGoddess
      @NileGoddess 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Mbona wakenya wanapenda jujihaibisha?We are poor yawa?We are not poor in Kenya,that’s so
      Wrong to declare publicly

    • @kandisphere8828
      @kandisphere8828 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      True. In my village in Kenya, the Chief makes sure every child attends school. If a child is above 4 or 5 years and the chief is informed by anyone that your child is not in Nursery school, the Chief will pay you a visit, and you will be given a warning if it's due to negligence. Even an arrest can be made. I've not heard a child in my village who has not gone through primary school since 2003, and now they are pushing to make sure even the poor attend day secondary schools.

    • @reina-knasz
      @reina-knasz 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're right 👍🏻

  • @nnekairoegbu2360
    @nnekairoegbu2360 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You are absolutely right, you can't compare a country that has structure with a country that hasn't got any. I live in the UK and no matter how poor a family is, they will always get food, shelter and good medical care including education. That is the basic human needs, and they even get paid for the children.

  • @favouradepeju5885
    @favouradepeju5885 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You've explained it well. I have a girl staying with me, someone was talking about her then because she wanted to go to school and the parents can't afford and school is even very far from their village, so they track a long distance to the school. Out of pity I told the person that knows the parents I will take her and she has been living with me since 2019 and going to school. Last year she sat for ssce and jamb. She didn't make all the papers but had 192 in jamb, we have to regulate her for private neco , the results came out last week and she passed, we've registered her for jamb again and I believe she will make it by the help of God. So I think people that are financially stable can bring them in but have to be kind to them instead of being in their parents out. In fact the girl I'm talking about was damaged emotionally from her home but I bless God for His help and that's why we could help too

  • @beatricenabwire6862
    @beatricenabwire6862 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    What is sad here in Africa is we pay taxes but never see the taxes put to good use 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @eteneshtefera2582
    @eteneshtefera2582 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Child labor laws need to be in place , not just in Nigeria, all over Africa. UNICF is supposed to address this issue. Thank you. You present it well.

    • @eteneshtefera2582
      @eteneshtefera2582 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@adannapaul8248 😭😭😭😭

    • @fa9183
      @fa9183 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@adannapaul8248 yes the foundational problem is breeding without a plan.

  • @simplydemii
    @simplydemii 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I am a product of staying with families , aunties because I grew up as an orphan, my eyes see sege, I will leave it that way. I give God all the glory.🙏🙏🙏 in my opinion 10 years old is too young as a help in the house because it’s very rear for someone to treat a help fairly and equally as their own children except the person have the fear of God in them.

  • @julietogu5810
    @julietogu5810 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Neze!Oh Neze!No one else tells it as well as you do!And your sense of humour 😅😅?Its something else!Keep it up girl!Beauty&Brains❤!

  • @rosettahollywood6869
    @rosettahollywood6869 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    One of the reason I love listening to you is because you always speak the truth ma 🙏🏽

  • @ceciliadeparis7317
    @ceciliadeparis7317 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    No body explains like you, Neze.to me you’re the best, keep up the good work 😍😍

  • @T41ScentQueen
    @T41ScentQueen 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I would say 15 would be a good working age. Because, there are things a child will need to learn from their mother.
    A lady was just arrested in the US for having her 5-year-old working in her shop. She was performing waxing services on customers. A child should be a child.

  • @irenelusweti5674
    @irenelusweti5674 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Truth be told Nigeria produce the best in everything worldwide. Doctors ,engineers ,entertainment name it they are the best.
    Their government is a big let down.

  • @olivia5032
    @olivia5032 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Neze, you are a very intelligent lady, I think, there is no anyone who will watch your analysis that would not want to subscribe to Nezeville. You are so sweet.

  • @Akosua_Owuor
    @Akosua_Owuor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This is why I tell people to have kids they can afford, we Africans love having kids that we can take care off which puts kids in situations like this. a 10 year old should be in school not working 😮as for that woman she will get her Karma, shebi she has kids?

  • @vuyot7396
    @vuyot7396 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Corruption is a plague in all of our African countries Neze and it destroys FAST and surely. 😢 😢

  • @stichtingcured5961
    @stichtingcured5961 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am not Nigerian and I've stumbled upon your channel a while ago and it has gotten me 'hooked'. A personal study of Nigeria has taught me that: With its rich natural resources, Nigeria should be a country in which the basic needs of life are guaranteed by the government. But this is a country whose population suffers the horrific effect of corruption and institutional social privilege.

  • @nikkii2941
    @nikkii2941 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My name sake -Chineze. Well said my dear. That’s why people are leaving in the droves. The situation is pathetic

  • @HadassahNtuli
    @HadassahNtuli 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’m from South Africa rural areas, schools are free,government schools cook food everyday for kids,grants for children,elders and unemployed is provided. Government health care free,water free in rural areas, sometimes free houses. I thought everyone has that

    • @bernicechedozie1746
      @bernicechedozie1746 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My sister, South Africa cannot be compared with other African countries, the White Man is still there, so their influence is still working there. We are talking Wholely Black countries.

    • @HadassahNtuli
      @HadassahNtuli 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@bernicechedozie1746 suppose to be better you all know the struggle and you can relate, why not make your brothers lives easier

    • @ehigold1358
      @ehigold1358 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Government primary schools are free in Nigeria and in some states secondary school are free or subsidies. But who will want to send their children to these schools apart from the poor people.

  • @cherishedoliviaTV
    @cherishedoliviaTV 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Well said Neze, it was intentionally designed to help the less privileged children, but unfortunately some people are wicked

  • @namagembe67
    @namagembe67 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    There is corruption throughout Africa. The problem in Nigeria is much deeper than that.

    • @gh_blaqsoap2846
      @gh_blaqsoap2846 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's food for thought! It's easy to put the blame on politicians, but they are a reflection of the collective values of the society as a whole. That's why nothing changes even when leadership and crop of politicians change.

  • @joyitohan
    @joyitohan 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As you explained the reality of Nigeria so well, I CRIED . How did we get here 😔. You are the best Neze

  • @tnshikongo2429
    @tnshikongo2429 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Neze I am Namibian. thank you for opening up my eyes of understanding. You are the best.

  • @mashrohingya9397
    @mashrohingya9397 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Neze for addressing this issue of hiring a 10 year old. I am one of the people who asked that question from Botswana. We don’t do that over here even though we are an African country in Southern Africa 🇧🇼

  • @ej2507
    @ej2507 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    They want to be big men and women but on a budget. So they look for cheap helps they can call maids

    • @MissFirstlady
      @MissFirstlady 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not just at home, also abroad. They'll bargain and even fail to pay. Some Nigerian women are just serving the devil out here. Very evil

  • @bbforreal2755
    @bbforreal2755 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Neze,
    I hope you're doing fine and your family.
    First, I really admire the way you speak and the way you analyse stories in detail. It makes one to understand it well.
    Knowing the kind of person I am, I still find it difficult to understand the type of wickedness some people do carry out. I do hope justice will be served.
    Thank you beautiful Neze for always bringing it 100%.
    You are such a good storyteller indeed.

  • @zimmeidai6754
    @zimmeidai6754 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for analysing this matter
    Poverty is wicked 😢

  • @charlottemandeilunga6465
    @charlottemandeilunga6465 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Poverty has reduced many people to a very low level of functioning properly

  • @sarahscorner08
    @sarahscorner08 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hello Neze, I appreciate your take on topics as always, as a senior colleague you inspire me to be more eloquent. My take on this after living in Nigeria for over 5 years is that I understand your perspective which will work in a perfect world where everything being equal, people are actually human and treat everyone equally. However the reality is very far from this. In everyday interactions and in your environment (estate and general place of living), almost all Nigerians can point out someone that is known for maltreating the children staying with her, and where it is not extreme cases it is a very rampant case of poor treatment of the child and a very obvious difference between this child and her own children, such that negates the initial intention. In conclusion I will say if the majority tend to miss-use the system then it’s better to scrap it entirely and formalize the process of adoption and custody homes, such that it will be subject to government supervision. In the absence of which, everyone should employ legal and consenting adults and pay them salary for the work done, and where possible they can still do all those things for this person if the means permits. Thank you

  • @sandrakavenandjamo3531
    @sandrakavenandjamo3531 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a mother my heart goes to this child. In the first place why is a 10 years old employed ? Why is she not in school? How can a child fall and get hurt like that as she is saying. This is the horrible thing ever that can happen to a child. A child needs caring , loved, take care off not working and being abused. Even the guardian of this girl must be questioned how this child come to work for this lady . God protect and watch over our children.

  • @omalicha7388
    @omalicha7388 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Like you rightly pointed out, the Nigerian situation is such that children from these impoverished homes will always be given out to work as helps in exchange for a better life. As long as they are treated well and assigned age appropriate chores, it’s fine. The problem is that some people are just wicked and practice their wickedness on these helpless children. Some of these kids too come with vices they have learnt over time for survival, stealing, cheating, lying, etc,but if you can’t put up with such then kindly return them to their parents instead of resorting to abuse.
    The problem is with the people who consider their children to be more precious than that other child.

  • @ChristineKabiri-zn4sq
    @ChristineKabiri-zn4sq 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Well studied and well researched, you are such an intellectual.

  • @coolislandbreeze9906
    @coolislandbreeze9906 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks for explaining.. Think birth control methods need to be taught and encouraged. The citizens should not have more kids than they can Afford.

  • @ucheokpala1362
    @ucheokpala1362 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Nwa m I love u so much. Most times i listen to you i have these chills all over my body, some times goose bumps because i marvel at the amount of intelligence you amass, i am yet to see someone who is "complete" as you are. I love you so much.
    Sometimes I am speechless and I watch only without comment but mustn't fail to like before watching.
    I love my dear Neze and I don't even know if i am capable of birthing you lol don't be offended by the way i called you Nwa m. { I am only but 39yrs}.
    I am still watching when I am done watching , I will drop my due comment regarding the video.

  • @mamaboy4304
    @mamaboy4304 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you so much for bringing up such a sensitive social issue.
    I will say the situation will depend on different factors.
    As You rightly said , if the child is treated the same way as the biological children of the woman, I think it is ok. I personally grew up with my maternal aunt. I had no authority in the house. We would all eat at the table as one family. Whenever I asked her son to do something and he didn't do it, she would reinforce that. My aunt would wash my clothes among her children's. One day, my cousin insulted me, ( my aunt ) beat the he'll out of him. That if he could insult me, the one day he would insult her too - he never again. Till today, when it comes to anything that concerns me, my aunt doesn't joke/ play with it. She loves and always introduces me as her first child. I am very much certain that if I had grown up with my mother, I would have been a spoiled brat, too much petting.
    Today I too have a child that I adopted - no blood link, I treat him like mine. The first time i washed his clothes he stood at the door and started sobbing that as small as he was below 8, he used to wash his own clothes ...Today he is a graduate. let me not talk much about him. However, I always tell him that whatever I am doing for him is so he can assist others tomorrow, especially his direct family.
    - In my case, I lived with my aunt not because of hardship but because I needed more discipline and focused schooling. It was like a joke to me, so I could also learn French for better opportunities where bilingualism was the 97% guarantee for employment then.
    - In my son's case, I took him because of hardship, which resulted to ....
    HIS IS THE PRIDE OF HIS FAMILY TODAY.
    SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST GOD'S INSTRUMENTS TO IMPACT CHANGES IN OTHER'S LIVES.
    Child maltreatment in any form should be treated seriously and should be everyone's responsibility.
    Keep up the good work Nez.

  • @beonceeadababe1150
    @beonceeadababe1150 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Nwanyi Oma, all what you said is on point. God bless you.

  • @beatricebenstowe3229
    @beatricebenstowe3229 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    It's crazy. I wish this was not our story because it's such a shame....system in check...working system is our ultimate challenge. I believe that one day we will tell our sweet story...where people from out longs to return home, we are on a daily basis losing human powers...brains left untilised. God bless Nigeria
    Nze thanks for this video

  • @pattinahukah3146
    @pattinahukah3146 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Neze, you have said it all as it is❤. Wicked & evil people have deviated from the original concept of taking in another person’s child. I wish we have a better government that will provide for all….so these children can remain with their parents😢.
    .

  • @abikayministries8043
    @abikayministries8043 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Seriously, Africa we have a long way
    We seriously need great leaders
    Father, please help us

  • @heather5479
    @heather5479 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Nigeria needs a complete overhaul,if the Government was working as it should giving away your under age children for a better life would not happen.Because corruption is running rampant in Nigeria despite all its resources many will be left behind ,and most often the vulnerable.All underage children should benefit from a basic education.Where is the child rights advocate of the world?

  • @Allwell823
    @Allwell823 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "Unfortunately, there's an iron-clad round the ankle of a great swimmer - poor leadership & stinking corruption...hence chronic Systems decay...lack of Citizens Support System"
    Laws definitely, need Structures and Systems to be implemented.
    But the Chronological Systems Decay, lack of veritable Structures - result in abject skin-piercing poverty; hence, the Lack or Beg...Survival Efforts! "
    Cry My Beloved Country...!
    Neze, as usual in your analysis...you're awesome! ❤

  • @AnnieSpecial92861
    @AnnieSpecial92861 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love all your videos on this channel but this one!😢😢... educational and emotional...im tearing up!....Nigeria why!!?

  • @wattamadave2262
    @wattamadave2262 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Neze I usually do not comment but I love you so much. I am a follower on your channels. You are so smart and do it so well. Thumbs up to you❤

  • @oratile7205
    @oratile7205 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you Neze, I still think a 10 year old is too young.

  • @sweetbadd9852
    @sweetbadd9852 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sis, you explained everything beautifully. Thanks for the education.

  • @nubianqueen09
    @nubianqueen09 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Neze for this vid! I understand the logic you give on why ppl in Africa take in house helps/ maids. I guess this system is better than doing nothing but I wonder statistically how effective it is. Unfortunately, a country like Nigeria should by now be on a level similar to Dubai. I personally do not buy the idea of getting house-helps within the age of (10-15) I hear some are even as young as 8 yrs old😱 This just sounds like slavery days! This practice should have evolved into something more effective and appropriate with today’s times.

  • @virtuouswoman4516
    @virtuouswoman4516 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Neze, you gave a beautiful description of this topic. You are so right. Thanks for explaining this to everyone especially non- Nigerians.

  • @AFRICMYSTICFOLKLORES
    @AFRICMYSTICFOLKLORES 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My Sister, you are an epitome of beauty with brains ❤Loved your approach to the subject matter.

  • @folukeubong6286
    @folukeubong6286 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Kai!
    Listening to your analysis of the deplorable state of things in Nigeria makes me have goose bumps. Unfortunately, that is the reality of things in Nigeria. We have so called leaders who are self-centred, callous, and wicked. I left Nigeria with my family to the UK in 2022, and I must tell you, this is a sane environment, where the lives of citizens mean a lot to them.
    As regards taking a 10 year old as a maid, I do not support it at all. Growing up as a child, we've had maids but not less than 15 years old. The barrister is just a terrible person cos from your earlier explanation, she also has a child of same age as the maid. Why not groom and teach her kids to do house chores rather than endanger another child's life. I sincerely love what you are doing, keep it up

  • @UzomaBetty
    @UzomaBetty 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Barr. Neze, in Nigeria, we have a long way to go!
    You are 100% right!!
    Nawao!!!

  • @ezecletus6465
    @ezecletus6465 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Chineze. You’re simply too much. You expertise is being missed not only in the court rooms and the law faculties but classrooms of adults in need of lessons on common sense. Ada Igbo, jisie ike. You’re a treasure trove of knowledge and recondite wisdom .

  • @mtagem1478
    @mtagem1478 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am from Tanzania we have balozi wa nyumba kumi. That person look for 10 houses so of a child don't go to school the parents will be called and asked why. Because the school is free.

  • @sopuruchidaniel3562
    @sopuruchidaniel3562 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow!!!
    We need to make this video go viral till it gets to the Nigerian government, maybe God will touch their hearts.

  • @funmilayookechukwu5148
    @funmilayookechukwu5148 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Every Nigerian is a federal government on his or her own. You provide all your needs. It is well with Nigeria.

  • @ceciliadeparis7317
    @ceciliadeparis7317 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    It’s a good idea to take a 10 year to help , but should be treated like you’re own children,even though, there will always be the wicked ones that will be maltreating.that is why when caught red handed, there should face justice, in my opinion.

    • @favourafinni
      @favourafinni 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What do mean that it's a good idea to take a 10yrs old as a help.
      A 10 year old is still a child for gods sake. Can you give your own 10yrs old child to someone to do house help? Whatever you can't allow for your children, don't do it to other people's children.
      Besides what work do you expect a 10 year old to be doing, a child that should still be in school. Mtchewww 🤧

  • @idawilliams7689
    @idawilliams7689 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Neze, excellent demonstration of the differences in societies as compared to Nigeria. There are a few cases of child labour within extended families or close friends in 🇯🇲 and instances where unregulated businesses use child labour although it is illegal. Thanks as always for the enlightening discussion.

  • @tashachirands7897
    @tashachirands7897 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It’s called fostering it’s a good thing as long as a child does chores that is age appropriate. There should be no excuse for abuse, if you take anyone child to uplift them from poverty that is a good deed! However the focus must be to care and love these children not to maltreatment even if they make mistakes because they are children!

  • @julietlove3831
    @julietlove3831 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You are very right, I agree with the opinion you can take a child and treat the child as your own Also you don’t take advantage of the child situation present situation to start treating the child that is very demonic

  • @msrussia9757
    @msrussia9757 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    De Law tnx so much for d awesome lectures it's overwhelming. U too kno book o😊
    Listen to U just melts my heart..... I luv U ma❤❤

  • @aanuefunnuga7073
    @aanuefunnuga7073 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Wow, wow wow,well researched topic brain and beauty🙏🏽😀,my personal lawyer😀wishing you more knowledge,wisdom and understanding, please 🙏🏽 God.

  • @udochiihuoma
    @udochiihuoma 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What an emotional discovery. God bless you my Beloved Bairster Neze

  • @Justbarbara.B
    @Justbarbara.B 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Yeah I think it's because of cultural differences. While here in Kenya we also have needy relatives come to stay with us from time to time, they're usually considered family, and not the help. As I speak, we have a girl who's been staying in our home since class/grade 5, she's now in form 4 (grade 12).

    • @buzzharbor
      @buzzharbor 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      💯agree, my cousin lived with us for years, any chores that were to be done was for all of us, if we misbehaved we were all punished, there was no difference between him and us. We all went to the same school etc.

    • @LLittleLessons
      @LLittleLessons 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not all. There are thousands who work as maids from childhood. Its just in kenya we are very good at hiding our sins.

    • @Justbarbara.B
      @Justbarbara.B 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@LLittleLessons Maybe you are. But I can only give an opinion based on my experience and where I come from. Most people don't take children as maids.

  • @bensonaderemi1537
    @bensonaderemi1537 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You're great as an illuminator of knowledge and l sincerely applaud your fantastic and outstanding disposition in your professional areas of illumination.
    Would constantly be part of your twitter.
    Weldone.

  • @omnibrain8
    @omnibrain8 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The same thing happens here in Ghana.

  • @lynn-madomadolyn1270
    @lynn-madomadolyn1270 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    HEARING THIS TEARS IS JUST ROLLING DOWN MY CHEEKS. IN THE REAL SENSE THOSE POLITICIANS' CHILDREN ABROAD ARE THE ONES TO STAY BACK HOME AND THE PPOR MAN'S CHILD TO BE ABROAD TO BE CARED FOR. INSTEAD, THEY ARE THE ONES ABROAD TO BE CARED FOR. DOUBLE ENJOYMENT IN LIFE.

  • @gecolon
    @gecolon 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    At one point in time, it was the same here and in those other countries as it is in Nigeria. These things were not given , the people had to fight and die for those rights to make the changes we now benefit from. Nigerians have to stand up and fight without fear, because those in power never give up their power without a fight. Just an observation.

  • @estherlagbomare2484
    @estherlagbomare2484 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My lady thank you so much,u have said it all, what u have just said is d truth ,so 😭

  • @okoloarobuye8502
    @okoloarobuye8502 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Love the way you analyze issues. Well done Bar. Neze

  • @julietlove3831
    @julietlove3831 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thanks so very kindly for this information ❤God Bless you 🙏

  • @bolaaremu4622
    @bolaaremu4622 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow! Your English is getting better by the day. I mean the way you express yourself with multiple high sounding adjectives.
    I love your new looks and weight.

  • @soniaabim108
    @soniaabim108 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Neze, you are the best 👏.
    Thank God that I live in Spain and I have my three daughters here. Oh God I can't imagine ...

  • @sweetiepie4983
    @sweetiepie4983 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s so hard for those children and I’m sure there’s others who have the financial stability to provide for some of these children because they are barren or unable to carry pregnancy full term. Why don’t we find these families who are willing to give them the love and support, the care and concern they need?

  • @oberriesdishes9418
    @oberriesdishes9418 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    @my brilliant I concur with you, no structure in the Zoo, while over here in UK where I resided nearly 40 years children are their heritage and Human Resources treated with care and love 💕, Anyways I’ve never respected Nigeria justice in the first place 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @ya12347
    @ya12347 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really feel sorry for this girl and thousands of others children that some people take advantage to them due to poverty 🤦🏽‍♀️, the main issue here is the corruption of the government and leaders, each branch has a minister in charge but they don’t do their work, instead they steal and make inocente kids 😢to go through this

  • @el-rayjapheth6287
    @el-rayjapheth6287 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Our schooling is merely an alphabetized education measured by our ability to read and write in the English alphabets.

  • @Beebaby8254
    @Beebaby8254 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think its a fantastic system but social workers should be deployed to monitor this system and the children in it to make sure they are not abused

  • @patriciaokoghenu9157
    @patriciaokoghenu9157 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Neze Neze I salute you. You are the best. May GOD ALMIGHTY help our great Nation.

  • @lyndalee5829
    @lyndalee5829 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’re absolutely right. I live in the US if your child get to the age of schooling and you withhold them you might go to jail a parents
    .

  • @nneamakaakamigbo7565
    @nneamakaakamigbo7565 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Always explaining in detail. Remain blessed

  • @shakiyagotdreams2299
    @shakiyagotdreams2299 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Interesting. Thank u for explaining

  • @noroshut1082
    @noroshut1082 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you Barrister Nezeville for this exposé. I currently have a neighbour who is a widow; she often brings underaged girls, maltreats them to the point these girls look traumatized and from what I asked, I was told these girls are mostly orphans: I informed my mother that I was going to report her to social welfare but she pleaded I don't; she drove the last girl last October and claimed she steals from her, accusations we cannot proof. She's a senior citizen but very harsh on the young girls.

  • @Wineanddinediva
    @Wineanddinediva 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is cultural issue in many countries. And honestly for boys or girls ,some culture do it as an informal adoption.but as a subservient role ,in exchange for education,feeding,etc. and it works for some....dont let any oyino tell you they dont abuse children!!! They are number one. ., due to drugs and careless parents ..,foster care...... Unfortunatrly whether its a foster family or a family member ,helping. To train your kids , you cant trust others to care for your kids like you would... So be careful,protect and treasure your kids...

  • @chiomadebbieorji5027
    @chiomadebbieorji5027 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Neze nwa, you're 200% correct about the setting in Nigeria 🇳🇬 laws don't operate here .No rule of law.looting yes insecurity, yes increase in fuel and foodstuffs, yes , kidnapping top. Notch, it's so sad.