Julie, Bruce, Sarah, isaac.... thank you so VERY MUCH for sharing this story. Obviously, you have chosen the path of love and kindness for yourselves and for each other. It is the narrow path. It is a difficult path. It brings us joy and leads to life! Thank you.
Awesome video. Thank you to the Etter family - your strength and vulnerability in sharing this story is a gift to us all. You’re doing important work. Looking forward to the next episode!
I foster-to-adopted my sibling group of 3 who have mixed heritage and my youngest 2 seem to not struggle with this, but my oldest has struggled with it from the first day she enter our home. Being a foster child adds a whole other layer to what you describe. My theory has always been that my oldest experienced more with biological family (unfortunately more trauma) and that was why it impacted her and not her siblings, but you said you were adopted at 2 and struggle with this. My youngest was 2 when she was placed with us, so perhaps i need to discuss this with the younger two (now 15 and 17, oldest is 18) as well? As they never acted out or voiced their struggles with this, in fact would often scoff at sister when she did, I just assumed they didn’t have issues with it!
This is a cautionary story for parents wanting to adopted, after they are grown they won't look at you as their Mom, Dad there always be the birth family they want to connect and have a relationship with, I am not saying they don't care about the adoptive patents because they do, but not in the same way they think of the birth parents. If you are looking to adopt you need this information about the adult adoptee's issues. It can be very painful to go through this, if you don't understand this maybe adoption is not for you.
Julie, Bruce, Sarah, isaac.... thank you so VERY MUCH for sharing this story. Obviously, you have chosen the path of love and kindness for yourselves and for each other. It is the narrow path. It is a difficult path. It brings us joy and leads to life! Thank you.
Awesome video. Thank you to the Etter family - your strength and vulnerability in sharing this story is a gift to us all. You’re doing important work. Looking forward to the next episode!
Sooo feel this! Well done, Team Identity 🎉
Also looking forward to the next video. Especially as an interracial family of two adopted boys.
I foster-to-adopted my sibling group of 3 who have mixed heritage and my youngest 2 seem to not struggle with this, but my oldest has struggled with it from the first day she enter our home. Being a foster child adds a whole other layer to what you describe. My theory has always been that my oldest experienced more with biological family (unfortunately more trauma) and that was why it impacted her and not her siblings, but you said you were adopted at 2 and struggle with this. My youngest was 2 when she was placed with us, so perhaps i need to discuss this with the younger two (now 15 and 17, oldest is 18) as well? As they never acted out or voiced their struggles with this, in fact would often scoff at sister when she did, I just assumed they didn’t have issues with it!
Every adoptee processes differently. I think opening up the conversation is a great idea!
This is a cautionary story for parents wanting to adopted, after they are grown they won't look at you as their Mom, Dad there always be the birth family they want to connect and have a relationship with, I am not saying they don't care about the adoptive patents because they do, but not in the same way they think of the birth parents. If you are looking to adopt you need this information about the adult adoptee's issues. It can be very painful to go through this, if you don't understand this maybe adoption is not for you.