PSA 📣: Hi everyone! I want to clarify that the ex I mention in this video is NOT “D”. But you’re close, alphabetically speaking. I appreciate ya’lls eagerness to back me up, more than I can even express. After hiding my experience for so long and having so much shame, it makes me tear up to feel this support. I love you guys. Thanks for having my back. ❤ #alittlelessalone
Ughh I had a feeling :( I also want to upChuck (I had to steal that one lol) That said, even though we didn’t REALLY know and whether Ben was in your videos or not, there was a lightness about you that wasn’t there before even though we didn’t see that relationship. I think I can speak safely for all of us when I say we are so happy to see YOU so happy!!!
I very rarely comment on you tube. I am a 60-year-old man and watched my mother split wood by the cord and carry it in by hand. Just remember you never have to explain yourself for what you do. Just be happy and do whatever you want. I watch your channel because you are so self-sufficient. Don't ever change for anybody. I hope you and Ben have a terrific life together.
Yep! The best thing about aging (i just turned 61) is that you are able to be more authentic with your emotions and get over shit easier. I grew up living my life to others measures eg a people pleaser. Strict parents that would ask me to jump, and i would ask how high? Teachers and employers would reprimand me when others were at fault cause i was the "Im sorry" girl. Im no longer like that. As you said, you tell it as it is with a smile on your face. Im a slow learner lol but heck! It's better late than never. 😊
Wow. I sensed something deep was going on for, now we know. Now move on girl and enjoy your new open love with Ben. He is your man a keeper. Ben, keep her love alive as you have got your hands and heart on a treasure. Both of you build a wonderful life together now. ❤❤❤❤
I went through an unexpected divorce after 50 years of giving myself honestly and faithfully to my high-school sweetheart. I have been through deep depression and after two years,I am resetting my house and my life. I am alone. He was definitely a true narcissist. Now I wonder how many years he was cheating. I found that he was living with a woman for 14 years... during work travel. This was after I found he was spending tons of our money on women. AND during the time I was at the death beds of first my younger sister, then my younger brother and then my mother , all within 9 months. My life has been turned upside-down. I am purging my home and resetting, but I need to work on ME, too. I am getting there. I love you and your content! And I am 68 years old! KEEP GOING GIRL! I AM TOO! Deb in GA.
All the very best to you Deb. Remember his actions don't diminish you as a person or change who you are. Stay the person you are. Your loyalty alone speaks volumes about your character. Stay strong and sweet, don't allow any bitterness or resentment change you. ❤
Deb you weren’t living the life meant for you…..now the path has cleared for you to do whatever makes YOUR heart sing. Sending you positivity, hope and blessings.
Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard. Choose your hard. Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard. Choose your hard. Being in debt is hard. Being financially disciplined is hard. Choose your hard. Communication is hard. Not communicating is hard. Choose your hard. life will never be easy. It will always be hard. But we can choose our hard. Sending love and continued strength. I spent 36 yrs with a narcissist. It’s very crushing.
Erm. You know what’s really hard? Working hard, spending very very little…and still being in debt. Not everything is a choice. Welcome to late stage capitalism in the U.S.
@@brianasamuels this is such a gaslighting, shallow comment. Many people ARE successful, yes,…many deservedly, and many not. Luck, circumstance, good parenting, genetics, environment, etc…also play roles in how our lives turn out. But the OP comment is simplistic, reductive, and fails to see the reality of how the majority of Americans are faring under the economy we have inherited from decades of post industrial exploitation. Accountability? Are you serious? We have a convicted felon taking the highest office in the nation in nine days. In four decades we’ve transferred more wealth from the bottom 50% to the top 1% than our nation has ever held collectively. Hard work and accountability are virtues that SHOULD be rewarded, but often aren’t. That’s my point. Of course it’s good to lean into some stoicism, I’ll grant you that. I think I’m a little over the toxic positivity atm as I see so much despair and devastation around us, happening to hardworking, virtuous, honest, and innocent people. Meanwhile literal criminals are handed the keys to the fattest treasury on earth. Tired of it, and you should be too.
My husband and I watched this video and as we were listening to what you have gone through with your ex, how you personally feel and your new relationship…he said this is you… stalkers and all, I’ve been happily married for 15 years so I promise you will rise above all the pain.
I was married for 24 years. I was married to a girl who lived a couple miles down the road on another ranch. She was 4 years younger than I so we never dated till I returned from college, but I remembered seeing her riding her horse in her front yard as I would ride my dirt bike up and down the road sometimes. She was my best friend, the mother of our children and somebody who was able to be trusted with anything. Then one day she got sick and in a whirl wind god had taken her from us. When I hear these kinds of stories of cheating, deceit, abuse and disloyalty I get pretty turned off by the thought of ever going out and meeting a new companion. When you find the right person I don't think all the b.s. can find a way in, because you aren't able to be distracted from whatever goals the two of you are working on. I want this for you and Ben, I hope you guys can have a great life together and have all the good things life can hold for you, you guys both deserve it. You just have to let the demons of the past wallow in their negativity and moral turpitude.
My son walked out in us 5 years ago and we live him so much. He wanted me to choose between him and God. Never heard from again. Just because he hates God doesn’t mean you force people around you to give him up. I cry daily over it, missing him so much. I’ve finally given up. My health is bad. He’s a 40 year old. Time for him to grow up. He missed his grandfathers last wishes, his twin brother’s wedding . I find the trend hateful and selfish. What does it solve?
Thank you for sharing these incredibly personal issues that you have been dealing with. I honestly could not tell you were under so much pressure. I am so happy for you and Ben... you seem so happy and that is all that matters.
I didn't talk to my dad for 7 years after he left my mom for a woman half his age and then the new woman lied to my dad and claimed I said and did a bunch of things that were provably false. Fortunately, my dad eventually left her and we rebuilt our relationship. My dad lived with me the last 9 months of his life before he passed away.
Just dropping a quick note to say I have been following your journey since the beginning. I am very proud of your growth and vulnerability. I have learned so much from you and you are literally half my age! Know that you have nothing to explain about how cruel and manipulative people can be and how it affected your self image. In the end, it made you the strong, empathic, loving person you are today! I am so glad you found the man you deserve, and yes, it was very obvious to us (I was rooting for the two of you). You are very loved by us all!!
Hi Alyssa, I came across your channel a couple of months ago and binge watched all your videos to date. I love the poetic vibe of your videos and how you set up some videos as if we’re right in the room with you sharing whatever goodies you cooked up. This latest video made me cry when you were talking about the impact your relationship struggles had on you. There was a quality to your videos and your mantra “to feel a little less alone” that resonated for me. Everything you shared in this latest video made that vibe make sense. Narcissistic abuse is insidious and soul crushing so it made me understand even more clearly that you’ve been “through it.” Be very grateful of your outlook on life, the importance of integrity and all the adventures you’ve had in spite of some truly debilitating life experiences at such a young age. I’ve had issues with family and have been forced to go no contact to save my sanity, have dealt with life-altering betrayals, and losing myself in the process to the point I can’t recognize my reflection in the mirror. The shame and heartbreak had crushed my spirit and I’ve lost 20+ years of my life to depression and debilitating health issues from the stress. I turned 60 this last October and it is REALLY hard to start from scratch all over again. However, I’m working on myself to find peace in my soul that has been missing for so long. Your videos help me feel that peace and feel a little less alone, too. You've also inspired me to consider getting my own bus at some point. ;) Thank you for your videos, your spirit, and all you’ve shared. I feel like I’ve met a kindred spirit even if it’s only via video. I truly wish all the best for you, Ben, and the pups. Looking forward to watching more videos from you in 2025. Happy New Year!
Thank you, Lyss. Your authenticity, sharing the hard topics, and putting in the time is powerful. You’re gorgeous inside and out and we’re blessed to have you in these trying times. I’m old enough to be your mom and couldn’t be more proud of all your accomplishments and personal growth. Keep doing you; we adore you❣️
5 years no contact with my parents. It's super sad because open and clear communication can clear anything, but if both parties are not willing, capable, and open to listen; no contact can be very rewarding 🤷♂️
You rock! I am 57, watched your channel from the beginning and love to watch you emotionally grow as a person. I like to know the challenges and the lifestyles of the younger generations and the issues they face today, which are different, obviously from when I grew up. Keep being honest because I think people today, crave that and can definitely sense it too.
Its very very important for "social media creators" to hold their personal cards close to their chest and not share everything. If you over share with friends, social media etc it always back fires. Just because you are on social media, doesnt mean you have to share so much. Many social media personalities share very little about their personal life & they still have a large following. Im proud of you for healing from a narcissist. This is a painful journey to walk. Im glad you understand who he really is and you know to stay clear of him. For those that do not know what a narcissist is = look this term up with the word traits. Get educated because narcs want to destroy good kind people for fun. BEWARE. Happy New Years hon. Wishing you, Ben & the pups all the best in 2025!! 🎉
i felt the connection with you and Ben from the door.. i remember when you cried in the sand.. i cried with you.. this journey is amazing! and Ben is YOUR man girl! We are ALL in support of it! 🥰💜💗💖
You are so incredibly honest and truthful. It is so refreshing. I was determined to be single after my second failure. Both were devastating and nearly destroyed me. Then I met a girl who to make long story short melted my heart. I truly believe it was destiny. She has made me the man that I truly was. I thank God every night . I can really relate to this video. Thank you for your honesty and bravery. Love your channel and wish you the very best to both of you as your lives unfold. Thank you🥂
You rock! I can't even begin to count how many times I have saved one of your videos into my "Inspirational" playlist. I appreciate your authenticity and that you share as much as you do so other folks can relate and feel less alone. I've followed for almost 4 years now and have to tune in as soon as I see you've uploaded. I still remember the video at the sand dunes and am happy to see you're in a much better place now. F*** the haters!
Find your peace and happiness. Unfortunately it is during difficult times that we find out who our “friends” really are. Sometimes we just have to let people go…or even kick them to the curb. Hope this is your best year !
I love your evolution and total honesty. I love your channel content- I love how you include us as if we’re there with you. It makes me feel not alone. Thank you for all you do! P.S. love to see your relationship with Ben. You two are adorable together! ❤❤
You hit on something I have always lived by and raised my kids by it and now my grandkids! It is OK to be firm but fair. You are allowed to be firm in what works for you and what doesn’t, but always be fair. Don’t make it an attack, be fair in how you handle it, but handle it! You go girl! You are perfect just the way you are!!
YOU GO GIRL!!!! I love the healthy way you have embraced you. You have done the work and earned the respect and love that you have in your life now. For such a young woman, you really seem to get it. Good for you! And if you ever find yourself slipping back into the dark place, (cause let's face it- you're human) go back and watch this video. It's empowering!
I want to address the tea because I, well, we all have been wondering. The most Difficult part of narcissist when they can't control you, they control the narrative and rewrite history .. is to be patient and let it all come out. You are a high integrity person and it sounds like even though it broke you in some ways, you came through with grace. I'm so glad you reunited with Ben as your friend, and that something deeper developed. The previous event paved the way for this high level love in your life. Alyssa, I hope 2025 is a year of healing and forgiveness and finding new prospects in life that set your soul on fire. So glad Ben is there as your talented, intelligent, funny, sensitive, caring partner. Be blessed!!!
I’ve watched many of your videos. This is the first one I’ve seen that amazes me with the messages here. Self integrity matters, and provides the space for self accountability. All of this leads to growth, healing and more. I pray you keep progressing the way you are demonstrating here. You are inspiring me to keep progressing and I’m grateful for this video.
Always watch, rarely comment. Please, please ignore negative comments. Anyone who spreads a speck of negativity is sadly wasting time and energy. You and your family of friends seem to be lovely people, and you help to sustain my belief in the goodness in humanity. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending positive energy your way.
I'm loving💜 you even more now, girlie! I am with you on going no-contact with a parent(s), I am 48 yrs old and went no-contact (for life) with my mother when I was about 31, my mother is severely mentally ill and was mentally and physically abusive, so I know how difficult no-contact is - you do what you need to do for you. I'm sorry you've been stalked, I know what that is like (in person and online), so good on you for taking the steps necessary for your safety. You are loved, you are capable of everything and anything, and please keep doing what you're doing!!!! You are helping so many people, especially young women. 💃You deserve your happiness with Ben!💞
Girl! You are loved out here on the internet by hundreds of thousands of viewers!! We love what you're doing, we love your vulnerability, and we love your honesty. Stay strong. You have a complete army of support ❤❤❤
Could not have said it better! You are so beautiful from the inside out,whether alone or with Ben (altho gurl.....he is awesome! With or without you!) I watch you because you are genuine. I sensed you were holding part of your life but everyone is entitled to their choices....for self protection and self love! Keep learning, keep loving, and laughing, keep succeeding and failing....it's LIFE!!!! Thank you for sharing what and when you can!
First time commenting here 😊- I very much appreciate you sharing about your body image and self confidence struggles - a very relatable topic for the pressures women constantly feel. It’s so refreshing to witness your honesty and raw authenticity. I absolutely LOVE LOVE your personality. You are gorgeous, inside and out. ❤
Im so sorry you’ve had to deal with those painful experiences and glad you’ve overcome them. I was able to resonate with a lot of those experiences. As a much older woman I would advise you to just concentrate on the love you have found and give it your all as long as you are feeling valued. Ignore rumors and nasty comments and live your beautiful life. One of my favorite videos you made was the one you took your grandmother to (Alaska??) and I hope you still have her in your life.❤
I know it's not easy to ignore the haters but FUGGGUM! I'm 62 and I have had more than my share of crap like this happen to me. YOU are way better than I am at letting shit go lol I love love love your channel and your positivity is infectious. Oh and I love you and Ben together so so so much!!! You two go together like peas and carrots
I also went no contact with mine. My mom was abusive in every sense of the word and my dad wasn’t but knew what she was doing with/to us and is still enabling her. Then I found out at 22 I was adopted when my biological mom contacted me so it also added a level of distrust and feeling like I had been lied to my whole life, though it made a lot of her behavior make more sense. Despite all that, I still carry immense guilt for cutting them out. It’s such a strange thing to experience and so many people who hold on to that old bs that you have to let them hurt you just because they are your parents do not help.
This trend of no contact can be super hurtful to the parents. They are blindsighted and confused. Not knowing why your kid is mad is horrible. After you love them and nurture them their whole life then they grow up and become cold. Parents are just human. With faults. They aren’t perfect b growing away from a parent is a right of passage but no contact can also be abuse. Make sure you pay attention and know that you can be loving and kind to your parent while also keeping up boundaries. Re access if no contact is really necessary. A loving parent doesn’t deserve ghosting.
@@JewelySandollarthat is such a damaging comment to leave for a victim of abuse. I can assure you that they are not blind sided or confused. People do not just go no contact out of the blue on a whim. They do it after YEARS of trying to having conversations and initiate healing with them first. No one owes their abuser a relationship and if it were my husband and not my mother you’d be telling me to leave him. Also what part of my comment led you to believe they are kind and loving? Was it me saying they abused me in every sense of the word?
@@JewelySandollarthat is such a damaging and silly comment to leave a victim of abuse. What part of my comment led you to believe my parents were in anyway “loving”? And I can assure you they are not blind sided. People do not just go no contact on a whim. They do so after YEARS of trying to have healthy conversations and getting no where and just re-hurt over and over. Such a silly comment and if I stated it was my husband who abused me you’d be telling me to leave him.
Truly recovering from a narcissist relationship is hard, heartbreaking work, but once that's done, the good thing is that you will never allow someone to use or abuse you again. Been there and done all that, so I know. All of those people who ganged up on you with the narcissist are called "flying monkeys" by psychologists for a reason. I am proud of you for all you have achieved. Oh, and Ben is a keeper for sure!
Healing from narcissists takes a while. But once you do... You become bulletproof. There's a wisdom there yet freedom that you can get through anything!
I just looked up ‘flying monkeys’ in the context of psychology and Wow, I had no idea there was a term for this! This is incredibly validating. That’s for the little bit of education. Thanks for being here :)
I haven’t talked to my mom since 2013. I don’t plan on ever talking to her again. I don’t know what your personal circumstances were but mine were their religious cult and I just couldn’t deal with all that Cray. My life is so much better now I’m freeof all that guilt.
I remember your Lucky Bus videos and seeing you go through the solo bus building phase all the way to finding love phase has been so heartwarming! I find your videos so inspirational! Love the love you found with Ben for you. And sharing what you shared today takes a lot of courage! Sending so much love❤❤
When we rely on others to define our identity exclusively, we are likely to be deeply disappointed and devastated. Because the general tendencies of others is to be judgmental and negative. One-up man ship is rampant because of jealousy. Alyssa, glad you have discovered the truths that we must define our own selves, come to love ourselves, and this is the basis of a real person-to-person relationship! Congrats on you and Ben! 😘
Been following you from the very beginning when you bought the Canterbury bus. Love your channel. ignore the haters. So glad that you are happy with Ben. Make more soup.
Having strained relationships with parents or going/wanting to go no contact is so relateable even though it often feels like we are the only ones with those feelings. You are definately not alone in this one ❤
Sweetie you didn’t hide it well I saw it and the change in you, you became a different person. Friends make the best husband, the best therapist, and an awesome lover. Deal with the parent issues I just buried my mother and it’s not easy I was an exploited child. Watching you let’s the free girl run wild in me.
Time out from parents is healthy. It doesn’t have to be cruel, just a time to live your own life without extra stress. Love the joy Ben brings you. Happy New Year!!
Im no contact with my mom- covert narc…feels so good not trying to pleaaassee her (all of my life- good girl syndrome also). Married and dated narcs… no one understands the web of lies they create to bring you down. Congratulations for recognizing and allowing true love to come into your life. I have a man’s name (my cat) for my handle to ‘hide’ from the stalkers). Life is a process~ enjoy the unraveling and the creation of each day 🎉❤
I didn’t realize you were no contact with your mother since she visited you at the cottage and you had visited her. Mother Daughter relationships are hard. I was hard on my mum for years because she would not acknowledge my abuse. Then I realized that she too must have been but was unable to face it. Now she is old and frail and depends on me to be her caregiver. We are all just learning and it’s hard. Life is hard. I’m just trying to be better for my son. XO to you. I appreciate you ♥️♥️
No one ever talks about going no contact with their parents. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and the internal battle one has to go through to make this difficult decision. I went no contact with my father 2 years ago and I can relate to so many things you have said. It’s not easy but it’s very brave. Thank you for helping me feel not alone.
Thankyou. I could write an essay right now. I 💯 am relating to your journey of heartbreak and the effects afterwards on ones body and spirit. Ive always been a big supporter of time will heal my wounds but im missing some steps. Your story has given me hope i will bounce back a stronger and better woman. ❤
Alyssa, you truly are an amazingly inspirational young woman. Not only do you live your life Regretlessly but you are strong enough to face challenges that for some would seem insurmountable. I have watched your videos from the beginning and I am proud to be a part of your journey. Keep doing you girl!!! I wish you and Ben nothing but happiness, adventures and love!!!❤❤❤
I understand about no contact. It’s so sad but sometimes necessary. You have to be in that kind of relationship to understand it. Prayers for you and your family.
I’m a Colorado native and I have gone no contact with both of my parents. I’m a 38 year old female and I feel like you and I have so much in common. I wish in another world we could have just met naturally and became friends but now that I have seen your TH-cam I know that’s not possible lol anyway you have someone in your same state that gets it and you aren’t alone!
Good for you mija! You & Ben are good together & for each other. I hope & pray the distance in communication with your parents comes from a place of sincere love to gain peace, and hope you don't allow ill will or hurt to taint your beautiful heart and soul. Learning to be better instead of bitter is not easy, but it is worth your peace.💜 I've been happy to see your path, growth, and success over these last couple years. Prayers for continued Blessings over you, Ben, your fur babies and family/friends. Dios te bendiga ✝️
Hi lyss, That was a very raw and honest talk about things, but i felt sad for you!! when you talked about your insecurities and how it affects you because you are a wonderfully amazing woman, so thanks for sharing 👍 and keep up the good work
I’m low contact- medical emergencies only- and sometimes no contact. Narc abuse from my mom with my dad sometimes contributing or doing nothing to help. It made me sick what they have done and said to my sister and myself over the years and how we thought it was okay. No more.
Loved this candid video. I am old enough to be your mother so speaking from this angle, I knew it wouldn't be long until you found someone for yourself. And I'm glad you did. I am proud of your accomplishments with your personal growth, your house, and your relationship (which is paramount). You deserve someone as wonderful as you are. And I have had years and years of personal therapeutic journey so I speak from experience. You are a bright, beautiful, strong, sensitive female with all of the right things for any man, woman, or child to adore. I'm so proud of you. Mommie hugs!~❣
You are quite incredible. To share all of these truths and make yourself so vulnerable in front of sooo many nameless, faceless people on the internet is incredible. I’m sorry to hear about the relationship with your mom. I remember when she came and was helping you with your house. You both seemed so happy. I’m glad you were able to define something that wasn’t working for you that you needed to step away from for the time being (I’m proud of you for acknowledging that it may not be forever, but if it is you will deal with that as time progresses). As for the stalkers that’s just CREEPY! Stay safe!! You (as does everyone) deserve all of the good and right things in the world. 🌎 I’m happy you’re happy 🫶🏼
Happy New Year and doubly happy to see you back! Thank you for sharing this. I have also had no contact with my folks and still struggle with lectures to stop this “because they’re my parents.” Just no. Really resonated with most if not all of what you said from my own experiences. Again, so much gratitude for you doing you and continuing to show up despite all that you have been facing. ❤
I don't comment alone. But I have to now! You have done such a good job!!! You rock girl!! I love your content, you have rocked it girl!! Don't ever feel you have to explain! Your content speaks for itself. Love you girl!!❤❤😊😊😊😊😊
I’ve watched you for a couple years. Never commented until now. I am so happy for you to have found Love. I was married for 16 years to a narcissist. It’s so hard to trust someone after you come out of it. So happy for you and Ben. Beautiful testimony ❤️
I feel like if anyone bothers you, I know Ben makes you feel safe, but he has backup. They are known as teeth and more teeth. I would not want to run into those 2 in a dark porch. This year ended with an unholy mess for us. My husband had a tumor and has now been in the hospital or rehab for 4 months. Let me say his is healing and will hopefully be home soon. But during all of it, I have had my dog Ricky at home with me. He makes me feel safe,keeps me sane, and gives me love. I could not have made it without him. My husband and I have been together for 52 years, this was hard, but we made it thru. I hope you and Ben grow old together, it is beautiful.
I love this. Your chosen transparency is uplifting, and a real breath of fresh air here on “TheTube”. You’re not alone in your struggle with separating yourself from a toxic parent/parents. Give yourself space for as LONG AS YOU NEED without guilt or being guilted. Life too damn short. In my Mid 50’s now dealing with a VERY SIMILAR ISSUE. (For those of you that think this stuff goes away as you get older… nope. We’re all human. Anywho, blessing to you and you partner, enjoy EVERY SINGLE SECOND girl!
A few years ago I adopted the phrase "You can't fix STUPID". I'll be 62 next week and I have never "cared" about what people think about me. But over the last few years I have paid more attention to what others are saying and I can't believe how so many BULLIES hide behind their computers so they can feel better about themselves. Sad really. You!!! Are doing AWESOME!! Sorry you have to go through these things, but I look at all trials as character builders. My trials have made me who I am today💕😁
Your authenticity is why I started tuning in to watch your videos. I love that you have grown and feel more comfortable with who you are. I also love that you don't make up stuff just to get a following. I think you found the key to success online and offline - just be yourself. Wishing you (and Ben) many years of happiness!
I rarely, if ever leave a comment on a youtube video, but I recently discovered your channel and after watching a few of your videos appreciate the authenticity you radiate. I am excited to tune in regularly now to see your adventures and hear your insights Alyssa!
I have been following you since day 1 and absolutely love how genuine you are, how open you are and the fact that you always consider the watcher as a friend and share with us a cup of tea or wine! All I can day is congratulations and wow! I love watching you grow and you have helped and inspired me along the way. Thank you you for sharing your loneliness with us, so we are all a little less alone❤
You’re a Boss Lady and You Inspire and encourage so many. Your raw vulnerability is what makes me keep watching and learning from you. Cheers to the best 2025 ever Girl!!
I have no contact with my Mom for over half my life she never wanted to be there for me at all in my life So I don't speak or see her for 20 years now because of her choice so I'm doing ok without her
Just watched your latest video.... loved it! Always take care of yourself first! Can't wait to see what you and Ben accomplish this year! After marrying someone in my early 20's that I settled for.... after being stuck in a loveless marriage for 30 years 13 years ago I had the courage to leave, reconnected with my high-school sweetheart...we built our own house by ourselves ...and got married 4 years ago . Always believe in yourself. ❤️
I like your attitude regarding the haters. It seems like every youtuber out there will have haters of all types covering any criticism that you can ever imagine. It seems like this is true for youtubers of many topics. You handle all that the best way possible. I hope you take in the positive comments, and fully ignore all hates. Thanks for the all the inspiration.
Many people do not see their own beauty. It's wonderful when people can be honest and vulnerable. No one is screwed, it just means we all need to be kinder to each other and ourselves.
I’ve seen your dad videos and I can categorically say I love your happy videos and personally I’m loving the fact you have evolved and have Ben in your vids! It’s so nice to see people genuinely happy! And also it’s a good decision not to share everything- it’s your life this is just yt
Sweet girl...first I need to offer my apology because I am one of the people that questioned how DIY friendly your Mr Cool was. Please know that my statement was not at all a jab at you or your abilities. I was just questioning Mr Cool's advertising this as a DIY project when you really do need the knowledge that only someone who knows construction and electrical could bring to the table. You are extremely blessed to have great friends that can help you in those areas. I admire how hands on you are and how you never back down from a challenge. Please never let comments get you down...some of us just have problems texting our voices. It just comes across wrong sometimes. I am a 59 year old MiMi and when I grow up I want to take on challenges like you do. Anyway.... sorry again if my comment caused you any stress!!!
You had some validity, though. For me as a single 57 yo female, its more than DIY. I don't have a Mr. Handy around to help install. But many do, and they are fortunate. 🙏❤
Your comment got me curious, what was it about Chuck that didn't go over well with you ( and no I am not him LOL, just someone in Canada with the same nickname ). And as to who she is referring to, good question but will admit I felt a vibe going on between them as well during and just after her bus build.
@charlesb4267 THE dude is a narcissist, he thought he was all that, best bus builder etc. He's not. She doesn't hide things very well. I bet my last buck he was the ex.
@@kevinstenholm40 Your guess is as good as mine, but the very fact that he never mentions her anymore or at least on whatever videos I have seen of his, nor have I seen him mention Ben either, just makes me wonder if there wasn't a falling out caused by .... not the first time I've seen a female with certain ways about her walk into a business and gain employment or substantial interaction and end up causing a big ugly mess in a business due to latching on to one of the higher ups.
@charles, she brought her bus in to be worked on. She was NEVER an employee. She was a paying customer. I have watched every video she has ever put out. She didn't cause any issues. She worked her ass off learning and doing as much of the work herself that she could. Think twice before you throw shade at her.
you are one of the good things about the internet, I enjoy being your friend even if you never know who I am. I follow several youtube folks and you are one of the ones who talk to me instead of the general public. I like that, seems more relaxed. To quote Randy Newman, You've got a friend in me.
I went no contact with my parents also. I’m 49 years old and I stopped speaking to my mother about 15 years ago and stop speaking to my father about six years ago. I gave my father the opportunity to apologize and explain why he did things he did when I was younger, but he completely turned the tables and turned it all about him. All I wanted was for him to apologize. Say he was sorry and we could move on, but he chose a different route. He has missed out on so much but for my own mental health, I had to do it for myself. My mother was a drunk and didn’t care about us kids. Only caused trouble when she was around and my father was physically and mentally abusive. I ran away 15 years old by 17 I was pregnant and getting married to my husband who I am still with to this day. Alyssa, continue to keep being yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
I love watching your story in life. So proud of you letting go of the narcissistic ex. It is so hard, but the most rewarding in the end. I spent over 20 yrs before I finally knew that I had to walk away. Stay strong and keep being your beautiful self with your love, Ben❣️
Hey Alyssa, just sitting here watching the live and had a realization when you were talking about stalkers. You know what might be fun for us and useful for you is to turn those of us who see you as a little sister loose on the stalkers. I'm sure that I'm not the only one with experience dealing with people like that.😁 As always, BIG HUGS from Tennessee!
Great update and watched every bit of it! My wife and I have been following you for a while now, we always wanted to be able to chat with you more about things, but we know how hard that is to keep up and I am sure we are all pretty much suspect until proven safe (which is impossible). One time I commented on your eyes, thinking it would be a nice thing to say, and my wife kicked me and said it was just creepy! That's the problem with this weird place called social media, all the anonymous chat with no way to know who is safe or not! I have friends with a YT channel and for all the reasons you mentioned, and they warned about, we decided our idea of having a channel was NOT going to happen! We encourage your amazing attitude and encourage you to continue to heal and grow and love!
Here for alllll this energy ✨🤍✨ Always forever here for your soul and girrrrl your outter beaty has always made me jelly beyond. I feel you in more of this than I could possibly cover. The betrayal, the campaigns, the hating yourself while editing (still haven’t released me own content) and also finding the love of my life in the midst of it all. The stable magic is everything. Girl I feel you. And I adore you 🤍🤍
As you first tackled house projects together on video, it was pretty obvious something was going on. Respected your privacy at the time. You are great together.
PSA 📣: Hi everyone! I want to clarify that the ex I mention in this video is NOT “D”. But you’re close, alphabetically speaking.
I appreciate ya’lls eagerness to back me up, more than I can even express. After hiding my experience for so long and having so much shame, it makes me tear up to feel this support. I love you guys. Thanks for having my back. ❤ #alittlelessalone
Hearing this news makes me want to upChuck. 🤮
Ughh I had a feeling :(
I also want to upChuck (I had to steal that one lol) That said, even though we didn’t REALLY know and whether Ben was in your videos or not, there was a lightness about you that wasn’t there before even though we didn’t see that relationship. I think I can speak safely for all of us when I say we are so happy to see YOU so happy!!!
hey hunnnney
I love guessing games! Figured it was him due to the dynamics in your video history, and his.
Well said my dear.... Loves 💗 💗 💗 💗 you and Ben and your babies 🐶🐶.... Wishing y'all a beautiful blessed 2025...
I very rarely comment on you tube. I am a 60-year-old man and watched my mother split wood by the cord and carry it in by hand. Just remember you never have to explain yourself for what you do. Just be happy and do whatever you want. I watch your channel because you are so self-sufficient. Don't ever change for anybody. I hope you and Ben have a terrific life together.
Yep! The best thing about aging (i just turned 61) is that you are able to be more authentic with your emotions and get over shit easier. I grew up living my life to others measures eg a people pleaser. Strict parents that would ask me to jump, and i would ask how high? Teachers and employers would reprimand me when others were at fault cause i was the "Im sorry" girl. Im no longer like that. As you said, you tell it as it is with a smile on your face. Im a slow learner lol but heck! It's better late than never. 😊
Wow. I sensed something deep was going on for, now we know. Now move on girl and enjoy your new open love with Ben. He is your man a keeper. Ben, keep her love alive as you have got your hands and heart on a treasure. Both of you build a wonderful life together now. ❤❤❤❤
I think you do a great job on you tube and love that you and Ben are a couple…much happiness to you both!!
Exactly! 62 year old self sufficient woman here. Could not have said it better myself.
@@normak63 Me too!
I went through an unexpected divorce after 50 years of giving myself honestly and faithfully to my high-school sweetheart. I have been through deep depression and after two years,I am resetting my house and my life. I am alone. He was definitely a true narcissist. Now I wonder how many years he was cheating. I found that he was living with a woman for 14 years... during work travel. This was after I found he was spending tons of our money on women. AND during the time I was at the death beds of first my younger sister, then my younger brother and then my mother , all within 9 months. My life has been turned upside-down. I am purging my home and resetting, but I need to work on ME, too. I am getting there.
I love you and your content! And I am 68 years old! KEEP GOING GIRL! I AM TOO!
Deb in GA.
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@deb8377 I'm so sorry you went through all of that!! Sending (((hugs)))
Deb, you are officially ready to claim your warrior status. You, like many of us have survived everything life sent our way.😊❤
All the very best to you Deb. Remember his actions don't diminish you as a person or change who you are. Stay the person you are. Your loyalty alone speaks volumes about your character. Stay strong and sweet, don't allow any bitterness or resentment change you. ❤
Deb you weren’t living the life meant for you…..now the path has cleared for you to do whatever makes YOUR heart sing. Sending you positivity, hope and blessings.
Marriage is hard. Divorce is hard.
Choose your hard.
Obesity is hard. Being fit is hard.
Choose your hard.
Being in debt is hard.
Being financially disciplined is hard.
Choose your hard.
Communication is hard.
Not communicating is hard.
Choose your hard.
life will never be easy. It will always be
hard.
But we can choose our hard.
Sending love and continued strength. I spent 36 yrs with a narcissist. It’s very crushing.
This comment is hard.
This comment is true.
Erm. You know what’s really hard? Working hard, spending very very little…and still being in debt. Not everything is a choice. Welcome to late stage capitalism in the U.S.
@@oliviakahlo1 and yet many people are successful. Stop blaming other things. Take accountability for yourself and your life will turn for the better.
@@brianasamuels this is such a gaslighting, shallow comment. Many people ARE successful, yes,…many deservedly, and many not. Luck, circumstance, good parenting, genetics, environment, etc…also play roles in how our lives turn out.
But the OP comment is simplistic, reductive, and fails to see the reality of how the majority of Americans are faring under the economy we have inherited from decades of post industrial exploitation. Accountability? Are you serious? We have a convicted felon taking the highest office in the nation in nine days. In four decades we’ve transferred more wealth from the bottom 50% to the top 1% than our nation has ever held collectively. Hard work and accountability are virtues that SHOULD be rewarded, but often aren’t. That’s my point.
Of course it’s good to lean into some stoicism, I’ll grant you that. I think I’m a little over the toxic positivity atm as I see so much despair and devastation around us, happening to hardworking, virtuous, honest, and innocent people. Meanwhile literal criminals are handed the keys to the fattest treasury on earth. Tired of it, and you should be too.
What a healthy, centered perspective on your life. You are AMAZING. Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
Thank you for seeing me ❤
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My husband and I watched this video and as we were listening to what you have gone through with your ex, how you personally feel and your new relationship…he said this is you… stalkers and all, I’ve been happily married for 15 years so I promise you will rise above all the pain.
I was married for 24 years. I was married to a girl who lived a couple miles down the road on another ranch. She was 4 years younger than I so we never dated till I returned from college, but I remembered seeing her riding her horse in her front yard as I would ride my dirt bike up and down the road sometimes. She was my best friend, the mother of our children and somebody who was able to be trusted with anything. Then one day she got sick and in a whirl wind god had taken her from us. When I hear these kinds of stories of cheating, deceit, abuse and disloyalty I get pretty turned off by the thought of ever going out and meeting a new companion. When you find the right person I don't think all the b.s. can find a way in, because you aren't able to be distracted from whatever goals the two of you are working on. I want this for you and Ben, I hope you guys can have a great life together and have all the good things life can hold for you, you guys both deserve it. You just have to let the demons of the past wallow in their negativity and moral turpitude.
So sorry for your loss! Hugs! ❤
No contact with your parents doesn’t necessarily have to last forever. You are the author of your life. You get to decide.
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My son walked out in us 5 years ago and we live him so much. He wanted me to choose between him and God. Never heard from again. Just because he hates God doesn’t mean you force people around you to give him up. I cry daily over it, missing him so much. I’ve finally given up. My health is bad. He’s a 40 year old. Time for him to grow up. He missed his grandfathers last wishes, his twin brother’s wedding . I find the trend hateful and selfish. What does it solve?
Thank you for sharing these incredibly personal issues that you have been dealing with. I honestly could not tell you were under so much pressure. I am so happy for you and Ben... you seem so happy and that is all that matters.
I didn't talk to my dad for 7 years after he left my mom for a woman half his age and then the new woman lied to my dad and claimed I said and did a bunch of things that were provably false. Fortunately, my dad eventually left her and we rebuilt our relationship. My dad lived with me the last 9 months of his life before he passed away.
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Just dropping a quick note to say I have been following your journey since the beginning. I am very proud of your growth and vulnerability. I have learned so much from you and you are literally half my age! Know that you have nothing to explain about how cruel and manipulative people can be and how it affected your self image. In the end, it made you the strong, empathic, loving person you are today! I am so glad you found the man you deserve, and yes, it was very obvious to us (I was rooting for the two of you). You are very loved by us all!!
I have no words but thank you. Thank you so much 🥹
Hi Alyssa,
I came across your channel a couple of months ago and binge watched all your videos to date. I love the poetic vibe of your videos and how you set up some videos as if we’re right in the room with you sharing whatever goodies you cooked up.
This latest video made me cry when you were talking about the impact your relationship struggles had on you. There was a quality to your videos and your mantra “to feel a little less alone” that resonated for me. Everything you shared in this latest video made that vibe make sense. Narcissistic abuse is insidious and soul crushing so it made me understand even more clearly that you’ve been “through it.”
Be very grateful of your outlook on life, the importance of integrity and all the adventures you’ve had in spite of some truly debilitating life experiences at such a young age. I’ve had issues with family and have been forced to go no contact to save my sanity, have dealt with life-altering betrayals, and losing myself in the process to the point I can’t recognize my reflection in the mirror. The shame and heartbreak had crushed my spirit and I’ve lost 20+ years of my life to depression and debilitating health issues from the stress. I turned 60 this last October and it is REALLY hard to start from scratch all over again. However, I’m working on myself to find peace in my soul that has been missing for so long. Your videos help me feel that peace and feel a little less alone, too. You've also inspired me to consider getting my own bus at some point. ;)
Thank you for your videos, your spirit, and all you’ve shared. I feel like I’ve met a kindred spirit even if it’s only via video. I truly wish all the best for you, Ben, and the pups. Looking forward to watching more videos from you in 2025. Happy New Year!
Thank you, Lyss. Your authenticity, sharing the hard topics, and putting in the time is powerful. You’re gorgeous inside and out and we’re blessed to have you in these trying times. I’m old enough to be your mom and couldn’t be more proud of all your accomplishments and personal growth. Keep doing you; we adore you❣️
Not be getting teary eyed! Thanks for those motherly words of encouragement. Need them right now. Thanks for being here with me 🥰
Yep! We saw through it 😊 I could sense the dynamics between the two of you. Your relationship is so precious ❤
5 years no contact with my parents. It's super sad because open and clear communication can clear anything, but if both parties are not willing, capable, and open to listen; no contact can be very rewarding 🤷♂️
You rock! I am 57, watched your channel from the beginning and love to watch you emotionally grow as a person. I like to know the challenges and the lifestyles of the younger generations and the issues they face today, which are different, obviously from when I grew up. Keep being honest because I think people today, crave that and can definitely sense it too.
Its very very important for "social media creators" to hold their personal cards close to their chest and not share everything. If you over share with friends, social media etc it always back fires.
Just because you are on social media, doesnt mean you have to share so much. Many social media personalities share very little about their personal life & they still have a large following.
Im proud of you for healing from a narcissist. This is a painful journey to walk. Im glad you understand who he really is and you know to stay clear of him. For those that do not know what a narcissist is = look this term up with the word traits. Get educated because narcs want to destroy good kind people for fun. BEWARE.
Happy New Years hon. Wishing you, Ben & the pups all the best in 2025!! 🎉
Omg this is why i love this kid! Fake assed social media is tedious, and boring and (I fancy myself prophetic 😂)OVER. Bring on the overshares!!!!!!
i felt the connection with you and Ben from the door.. i remember when you cried in the sand.. i cried with you.. this journey is amazing! and Ben is YOUR man girl! We are ALL in support of it! 🥰💜💗💖
You are so incredibly honest and truthful.
It is so refreshing.
I was determined to be single after my second failure. Both were devastating and nearly destroyed me.
Then I met a girl who to make long story short melted my heart. I truly believe it was destiny. She has made me the man that I truly was. I thank God every night .
I can really relate to this video. Thank you for your honesty and bravery.
Love your channel and wish you the very best to both of you as your lives unfold. Thank you🥂
You rock! I can't even begin to count how many times I have saved one of your videos into my "Inspirational" playlist. I appreciate your authenticity and that you share as much as you do so other folks can relate and feel less alone.
I've followed for almost 4 years now and have to tune in as soon as I see you've uploaded. I still remember the video at the sand dunes and am happy to see you're in a much better place now.
F*** the haters!
Find your peace and happiness. Unfortunately it is during difficult times that we find out who our “friends” really are. Sometimes we just have to let people go…or even kick them to the curb. Hope this is your best year !
I love your evolution and total honesty. I love your channel content- I love how you include us as if we’re there with you. It makes me feel not alone. Thank you for all you do! P.S. love to see your relationship with Ben. You two are adorable together! ❤❤
You’re almost at 200,000 SUBS! Exciting, Lyss! ❤
Cheers to 2025!! 🎉
You hit on something I have always lived by and raised my kids by it and now my grandkids! It is OK to be firm but fair. You are allowed to be firm in what works for you and what doesn’t, but always be fair. Don’t make it an attack, be fair in how you handle it, but handle it!
You go girl! You are perfect just the way you are!!
YOU GO GIRL!!!! I love the healthy way you have embraced you. You have done the work and earned the respect and love that you have in your life now. For such a young woman, you really seem to get it. Good for you! And if you ever find yourself slipping back into the dark place, (cause let's face it- you're human) go back and watch this video. It's empowering!
I want to address the tea because I, well, we all have been wondering. The most Difficult part of narcissist when they can't control you, they control the narrative and rewrite history .. is to be patient and let it all come out. You are a high integrity person and it sounds like even though it broke you in some ways, you came through with grace. I'm so glad you reunited with Ben as your friend, and that something deeper developed. The previous event paved the way for this high level love in your life.
Alyssa, I hope 2025 is a year of healing and forgiveness and finding new prospects in life that set your soul on fire. So glad Ben is there as your talented, intelligent, funny, sensitive, caring partner. Be blessed!!!
This means so much to me. Thank you for being here❤
Girl, that all sounds sooo traumatizing. What a life you’re livin’! I’m soooo glad you are feeling better!! Beautifully introspective. Solid advice.
I’ve watched many of your videos. This is the first one I’ve seen that amazes me with the messages here. Self integrity matters, and provides the space for self accountability. All of this leads to growth, healing and more. I pray you keep progressing the way you are demonstrating here. You are inspiring me to keep progressing and I’m grateful for this video.
Always watch, rarely comment. Please, please ignore negative comments. Anyone who spreads a speck of negativity is sadly wasting time and energy. You and your family of friends seem to be lovely people, and you help to sustain my belief in the goodness in humanity. Thank you so much for sharing. Sending positive energy your way.
I'd go no contact with my entire family if I could... 90% of conversations with them are unpleasant.. 90% of being in their presence is unpleasant
I'm loving💜 you even more now, girlie! I am with you on going no-contact with a parent(s), I am 48 yrs old and went no-contact (for life) with my mother when I was about 31, my mother is severely mentally ill and was mentally and physically abusive, so I know how difficult no-contact is - you do what you need to do for you. I'm sorry you've been stalked, I know what that is like (in person and online), so good on you for taking the steps necessary for your safety. You are loved, you are capable of everything and anything, and please keep doing what you're doing!!!! You are helping so many people, especially young women. 💃You deserve your happiness with Ben!💞
Thank you for sharing your heart, thoughts, and life with us. You are amazing!
Girl! You are loved out here on the internet by hundreds of thousands of viewers!! We love what you're doing, we love your vulnerability, and we love your honesty. Stay strong. You have a complete army of support ❤❤❤
and we love your laughter!!!
Yes!!!😄🙌🏼❤️
Could not have said it better! You are so beautiful from the inside out,whether alone or with Ben (altho gurl.....he is awesome! With or without you!) I watch you because you are genuine. I sensed you were holding part of your life but everyone is entitled to their choices....for self protection and self love! Keep learning, keep loving, and laughing, keep succeeding and failing....it's LIFE!!!! Thank you for sharing what and when you can!
Yup! What they said!
Hey! 😊
First time commenting here 😊- I very much appreciate you sharing about your body image and self confidence struggles - a very relatable topic for the pressures women constantly feel. It’s so refreshing to witness your honesty and raw authenticity. I absolutely LOVE LOVE your personality. You are gorgeous, inside and out. ❤
Im so sorry you’ve had to deal with those painful experiences and glad you’ve overcome them. I was able to resonate with a lot of those experiences. As a much older woman I would advise you to just concentrate on the love you have found and give it your all as long as you are feeling valued. Ignore rumors and nasty comments and live your beautiful life. One of my favorite videos you made was the one you took your grandmother to (Alaska??) and I hope you still have her in your life.❤
I know it's not easy to ignore the haters but FUGGGUM! I'm 62 and I have had more than my share of crap like this happen to me. YOU are way better than I am at letting shit go lol I love love love your channel and your positivity is infectious. Oh and I love you and Ben together so so so much!!! You two go together like peas and carrots
I also went no contact with mine. My mom was abusive in every sense of the word and my dad wasn’t but knew what she was doing with/to us and is still enabling her. Then I found out at 22 I was adopted when my biological mom contacted me so it also added a level of distrust and feeling like I had been lied to my whole life, though it made a lot of her behavior make more sense. Despite all that, I still carry immense guilt for cutting them out. It’s such a strange thing to experience and so many people who hold on to that old bs that you have to let them hurt you just because they are your parents do not help.
“Immense guilt” is so bad for you. I do it to myself too, but hope you can release it.
This trend of no contact can be super hurtful to the parents. They are blindsighted and confused. Not knowing why your kid is mad is horrible. After you love them and nurture them their whole life then they grow up and become cold. Parents are just human. With faults. They aren’t perfect b growing away from a parent is a right of passage but no contact can also be abuse. Make sure you pay attention and know that you can be loving and kind to your parent while also keeping up boundaries. Re access if no contact is really necessary. A loving parent doesn’t deserve ghosting.
@@JewelySandollarthat is such a damaging comment to leave for a victim of abuse. I can assure you that they are not blind sided or confused. People do not just go no contact out of the blue on a whim. They do it after YEARS of trying to having conversations and initiate healing with them first. No one owes their abuser a relationship and if it were my husband and not my mother you’d be telling me to leave him. Also what part of my comment led you to believe they are kind and loving? Was it me saying they abused me in every sense of the word?
@@JewelySandollarthat is such a damaging and silly comment to leave a victim of abuse. What part of my comment led you to believe my parents were in anyway “loving”? And I can assure you they are not blind sided. People do not just go no contact on a whim. They do so after YEARS of trying to have healthy conversations and getting no where and just re-hurt over and over. Such a silly comment and if I stated it was my husband who abused me you’d be telling me to leave him.
@@JewelySandollar He said his mother abused him. He was very clear about that. She wasn't a loving parent.
Truly recovering from a narcissist relationship is hard, heartbreaking work, but once that's done, the good thing is that you will never allow someone to use or abuse you again. Been there and done all that, so I know. All of those people who ganged up on you with the narcissist are called "flying monkeys" by psychologists for a reason.
I am proud of you for all you have achieved. Oh, and Ben is a keeper for sure!
Healing from narcissists takes a while. But once you do... You become bulletproof. There's a wisdom there yet freedom that you can get through anything!
I just looked up ‘flying monkeys’ in the context of psychology and Wow, I had no idea there was a term for this! This is incredibly validating. That’s for the little bit of education. Thanks for being here :)
I haven’t talked to my mom since 2013. I don’t plan on ever talking to her again. I don’t know what your personal circumstances were but mine were their religious cult and I just couldn’t deal with all that Cray. My life is so much better now I’m freeof all that guilt.
I remember your Lucky Bus videos and seeing you go through the solo bus building phase all the way to finding love phase has been so heartwarming! I find your videos so inspirational! Love the love you found with Ben for you. And sharing what you shared today takes a lot of courage! Sending so much love❤❤
Always here for you Lyss! So happy to see you thriving! Can't wait to see what you're up to next. Sending lots of love. 💖💖💖
When we rely on others to define our identity exclusively, we are likely to be deeply disappointed and devastated. Because the general tendencies of others is to be judgmental and negative. One-up man ship is rampant because of jealousy. Alyssa, glad you have discovered the truths that we must define our own selves, come to love ourselves, and this is the basis of a real person-to-person relationship! Congrats on you and Ben! 😘
Been following you from the very beginning when you bought the Canterbury bus. Love your channel. ignore the haters. So glad that you are happy with Ben. Make more soup.
Having strained relationships with parents or going/wanting to go no contact is so relateable even though it often feels like we are the only ones with those feelings. You are definately not alone in this one ❤
Sweetie you didn’t hide it well I saw it and the change in you, you became a different person. Friends make the best husband, the best therapist, and an awesome lover. Deal with the parent issues I just buried my mother and it’s not easy I was an exploited child. Watching you let’s the free girl run wild in me.
Time out from parents is healthy. It doesn’t have to be cruel, just a time to live your own life without extra stress. Love the joy Ben brings you. Happy New Year!!
Im no contact with my mom- covert narc…feels so good not trying to pleaaassee her (all of my life- good girl syndrome also). Married and dated narcs… no one understands the web of lies they create to bring you down.
Congratulations for recognizing and allowing true love to come into your life. I have a man’s name (my cat) for my handle to ‘hide’ from the stalkers). Life is a process~ enjoy the unraveling and the creation of each day 🎉❤
I didn’t realize you were no contact with your mother since she visited you at the cottage and you had visited her. Mother Daughter relationships are hard. I was hard on my mum for years because she would not acknowledge my abuse. Then I realized that she too must have been but was unable to face it. Now she is old and frail and depends on me to be her caregiver. We are all just learning and it’s hard. Life is hard. I’m just trying to be better for my son. XO to you. I appreciate you ♥️♥️
Wow! What a wake up call ! The lights just came on.Thank you,30 yrs of living for someone else.Narcissist behavior is real.
No one ever talks about going no contact with their parents. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and the internal battle one has to go through to make this difficult decision. I went no contact with my father 2 years ago and I can relate to so many things you have said. It’s not easy but it’s very brave. Thank you for helping me feel not alone.
Thankyou.
I could write an essay right now. I 💯 am relating to your journey of heartbreak and the effects afterwards on ones body and spirit.
Ive always been a big supporter of time will heal my wounds but im missing some steps. Your story has given me hope i will bounce back a stronger and better woman. ❤
You will!!!
Alyssa, you truly are an amazingly inspirational young woman. Not only do you live your life Regretlessly but you are strong enough to face challenges that for some would seem insurmountable. I have watched your videos from the beginning and I am proud to be a part of your journey. Keep doing you girl!!! I wish you and Ben nothing but happiness, adventures and love!!!❤❤❤
I understand about no contact. It’s so sad but sometimes necessary. You have to be in that kind of relationship to understand it. Prayers for you and your family.
I’m a Colorado native and I have gone no contact with both of my parents. I’m a 38 year old female and I feel like you and I have so much in common. I wish in another world we could have just met naturally and became friends but now that I have seen your TH-cam I know that’s not possible lol anyway you have someone in your same state that gets it and you aren’t alone!
Good for you mija! You & Ben are good together & for each other. I hope & pray the distance in communication with your parents comes from a place of sincere love to gain peace, and hope you don't allow ill will or hurt to taint your beautiful heart and soul. Learning to be better instead of bitter is not easy, but it is worth your peace.💜 I've been happy to see your path, growth, and success over these last couple years. Prayers for continued Blessings over you, Ben, your fur babies and family/friends. Dios te bendiga ✝️
Hi lyss,
That was a very raw and honest talk about things, but i felt sad for you!! when you talked about your insecurities and how it affects you because you are a wonderfully amazing woman, so thanks for sharing 👍 and keep up the good work
I’m low contact- medical emergencies only- and sometimes no contact. Narc abuse from my mom with my dad sometimes contributing or doing nothing to help. It made me sick what they have done and said to my sister and myself over the years and how we thought it was okay. No more.
Loved this candid video. I am old enough to be your mother so speaking from this angle, I knew it wouldn't be long until you found someone for yourself. And I'm glad you did. I am proud of your accomplishments with your personal growth, your house, and your relationship (which is paramount). You deserve someone as wonderful as you are. And I have had years and years of personal therapeutic journey so I speak from experience. You are a bright, beautiful, strong, sensitive female with all of the right things for any man, woman, or child to adore. I'm so proud of you. Mommie hugs!~❣
We love this channel because the drama is real.
You are quite incredible. To share all of these truths and make yourself so vulnerable in front of sooo many nameless, faceless people on the internet is incredible. I’m sorry to hear about the relationship with your mom. I remember when she came and was helping you with your house. You both seemed so happy. I’m glad you were able to define something that wasn’t working for you that you needed to step away from for the time being (I’m proud of you for acknowledging that it may not be forever, but if it is you will deal with that as time progresses). As for the stalkers that’s just CREEPY! Stay safe!! You (as does everyone) deserve all of the good and right things in the world. 🌎 I’m happy you’re happy 🫶🏼
As a male, I enjoy your honesty when sharing things that are part of you! Best of luck to you and Ben🥰
Happy New Year and doubly happy to see you back! Thank you for sharing this. I have also had no contact with my folks and still struggle with lectures to stop this “because they’re my parents.” Just no. Really resonated with most if not all of what you said from my own experiences. Again, so much gratitude for you doing you and continuing to show up despite all that you have been facing. ❤
I don't comment alone. But I have to now! You have done such a good job!!! You rock girl!! I love your content, you have rocked it girl!! Don't ever feel you have to explain! Your content speaks for itself. Love you girl!!❤❤😊😊😊😊😊
I’ve watched you for a couple years. Never commented until now. I am so happy for you to have found Love. I was married for 16 years to a narcissist. It’s so hard to trust someone after you come out of it. So happy for you and Ben. Beautiful testimony ❤️
I feel like if anyone bothers you, I know Ben makes you feel safe, but he has backup. They are known as teeth and more teeth. I would not want to run into those 2 in a dark porch.
This year ended with an unholy mess for us. My husband had a tumor and has now been in the hospital or rehab for 4 months. Let me say his is healing and will hopefully be home soon. But during all of it, I have had my dog Ricky at home with me. He makes me feel safe,keeps me sane, and gives me love. I could not have made it without him. My husband and I have been together for 52 years, this was hard, but we made it thru. I hope you and Ben grow old together, it is beautiful.
I love this. Your chosen transparency is uplifting, and a real breath of fresh air here on “TheTube”. You’re not alone in your struggle with separating yourself from a toxic parent/parents. Give yourself space for as LONG AS YOU NEED without guilt or being guilted. Life too damn short. In my Mid 50’s now dealing with a VERY SIMILAR ISSUE. (For those of you that think this stuff goes away as you get older… nope. We’re all human. Anywho, blessing to you and you partner, enjoy EVERY SINGLE SECOND girl!
You are lovely inside and out, I hope you and Ben have that happily ever after!
I’m glad you found Ben and happy with him hopefully many years of happiness. I love the editing look!
A few years ago I adopted the phrase "You can't fix STUPID". I'll be 62 next week and I have never "cared" about what people think about me. But over the last few years I have paid more attention to what others are saying and I can't believe how so many BULLIES hide behind their computers so they can feel better about themselves. Sad really.
You!!! Are doing AWESOME!! Sorry you have to go through these things, but I look at all trials as character builders. My trials have made me who I am today💕😁
Happy Birthday!
Your authenticity is why I started tuning in to watch your videos. I love that you have grown and feel more comfortable with who you are. I also love that you don't make up stuff just to get a following. I think you found the key to success online and offline - just be yourself. Wishing you (and Ben) many years of happiness!
Can we just appreciate the subtle jumpcut of "raise your hand if youve been personally victimized by ChRegina George"? Legend editing.
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I rarely, if ever leave a comment on a youtube video, but I recently discovered your channel and after watching a few of your videos appreciate the authenticity you radiate. I am excited to tune in regularly now to see your adventures and hear your insights Alyssa!
Love this video already! 😊
I have been following you since day 1 and absolutely love how genuine you are, how open you are and the fact that you always consider the watcher as a friend and share with us a cup of tea or wine! All I can day is congratulations and wow! I love watching you grow and you have helped and inspired me along the way. Thank you you for sharing your loneliness with us, so we are all a little less alone❤
Got here late, 8 minutes in and I 100% relate. Heyyyyy! 👋
This is a video we needed, your honesty is a breath of fresh air, Thank You Alyssa
I just love your channel. You are real and very sweet. Im so glad Ben is a part of your life. Your do happy and it shows. Keep doing you!!
No hate or negativity of any kind .Only understanding and calmness
You’re a Boss Lady and You Inspire and encourage so many. Your raw vulnerability is what makes me keep watching and learning from you. Cheers to the best 2025 ever Girl!!
Oh I'm LOVING this already. YES!
Thanks for just being real. I've been watching you for a long time. You inspire and uplift me ❤
I have no contact with my Mom for over half my life she never wanted to be there for me at all in my life So I don't speak or see her for 20 years now because of her choice so I'm doing ok without her
Just watched your latest video.... loved it! Always take care of yourself first! Can't wait to see what you and Ben accomplish this year! After marrying someone in my early 20's that I settled for.... after being stuck in a loveless marriage for 30 years 13 years ago I had the courage to leave, reconnected with my high-school sweetheart...we built our own house by ourselves ...and got married 4 years ago . Always believe in yourself. ❤️
Lovely lovely Ben. You are both so beautiful together ❤
I like your attitude regarding the haters. It seems like every youtuber out there will have haters of all types covering any criticism that you can ever imagine. It seems like this is true for youtubers of many topics. You handle all that the best way possible. I hope you take in the positive comments, and fully ignore all hates. Thanks for the all the inspiration.
If you feel ugly the rest of us are screwed
Many people do not see their own beauty. It's wonderful when people can be honest and vulnerable. No one is screwed, it just means we all need to be kinder to each other and ourselves.
I’ve seen your dad videos and I can categorically say I love your happy videos and personally I’m loving the fact you have evolved and have Ben in your vids! It’s so nice to see people genuinely happy! And also it’s a good decision not to share everything- it’s your life this is just yt
Sweet girl...first I need to offer my apology because I am one of the people that questioned how DIY friendly your Mr Cool was. Please know that my statement was not at all a jab at you or your abilities. I was just questioning Mr Cool's advertising this as a DIY project when you really do need the knowledge that only someone who knows construction and electrical could bring to the table. You are extremely blessed to have great friends that can help you in those areas. I admire how hands on you are and how you never back down from a challenge. Please never let comments get you down...some of us just have problems texting our voices. It just comes across wrong sometimes. I am a 59 year old MiMi and when I grow up I want to take on challenges like you do. Anyway.... sorry again if my comment caused you any stress!!!
You had some validity, though. For me as a single 57 yo female, its more than DIY. I don't have a Mr. Handy around to help install. But many do, and they are fortunate. 🙏❤
I am so sorry for the last winter journey for you. Wow! I think you are 100% genuine. What a frikken inspiration for young women. You keep doing you!
What about Chuck? Pretty sure it was your ex. I always hated that guy.
Your comment got me curious, what was it about Chuck that didn't go over well with you ( and no I am not him LOL, just someone in Canada with the same nickname ). And as to who she is referring to, good question but will admit I felt a vibe going on between them as well during and just after her bus build.
@charlesb4267 THE dude is a narcissist, he thought he was all that, best bus builder etc. He's not. She doesn't hide things very well. I bet my last buck he was the ex.
Was Chuck (the bus guy) her ex?
@@kevinstenholm40 Your guess is as good as mine, but the very fact that he never mentions her anymore or at least on whatever videos I have seen of his, nor have I seen him mention Ben either, just makes me wonder if there wasn't a falling out caused by .... not the first time I've seen a female with certain ways about her walk into a business and gain employment or substantial interaction and end up causing a big ugly mess in a business due to latching on to one of the higher ups.
@charles, she brought her bus in to be worked on. She was NEVER an employee. She was a paying customer. I have watched every video she has ever put out. She didn't cause any issues. She worked her ass off learning and doing as much of the work herself that she could. Think twice before you throw shade at her.
you are one of the good things about the internet, I enjoy being your friend even if you never know who I am. I follow several youtube folks and you are one of the ones who talk to me instead of the general public. I like that, seems more relaxed. To quote Randy Newman, You've got a friend in me.
I went no contact with my parents also. I’m 49 years old and I stopped speaking to my mother about 15 years ago and stop speaking to my father about six years ago. I gave my father the opportunity to apologize and explain why he did things he did when I was younger, but he completely turned the tables and turned it all about him. All I wanted was for him to apologize. Say he was sorry and we could move on, but he chose a different route. He has missed out on so much but for my own mental health, I had to do it for myself. My mother was a drunk and didn’t care about us kids. Only caused trouble when she was around and my father was physically and mentally abusive. I ran away 15 years old by 17 I was pregnant and getting married to my husband who I am still with to this day. Alyssa, continue to keep being yourself. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
This channel has such good vibes. I saw some of the blogs during those bad times. you're wonderful. keep being awesome.
I'm currently No Contact with both of my parents. Prioritize yourself, your well being!
I love watching your story in life. So proud of you letting go of the narcissistic ex. It is so hard, but the most rewarding in the end. I spent over 20 yrs before I finally knew that I had to walk away. Stay strong and keep being your beautiful self with your love, Ben❣️
Hey Alyssa, just sitting here watching the live and had a realization when you were talking about stalkers. You know what might be fun for us and useful for you is to turn those of us who see you as a little sister loose on the stalkers. I'm sure that I'm not the only one with experience dealing with people like that.😁 As always, BIG HUGS from Tennessee!
Great update and watched every bit of it! My wife and I have been following you for a while now, we always wanted to be able to chat with you more about things, but we know how hard that is to keep up and I am sure we are all pretty much suspect until proven safe (which is impossible). One time I commented on your eyes, thinking it would be a nice thing to say, and my wife kicked me and said it was just creepy! That's the problem with this weird place called social media, all the anonymous chat with no way to know who is safe or not! I have friends with a YT channel and for all the reasons you mentioned, and they warned about, we decided our idea of having a channel was NOT going to happen! We encourage your amazing attitude and encourage you to continue to heal and grow and love!
Hey boo…. Unpopular Opinion but Your EX’s toxic positivity is giving Justin Baldoni. I don’t believe his zen ways for one second 😅
Babe you nailed it
@ ❤️❤️ I got your back girl! xo
Here for alllll this energy ✨🤍✨
Always forever here for your soul and girrrrl your outter beaty has always made me jelly beyond. I feel you in more of this than I could possibly cover. The betrayal, the campaigns, the hating yourself while editing (still haven’t released me own content) and also finding the love of my life in the midst of it all. The stable magic is everything. Girl I feel you. And I adore you 🤍🤍
I think we all went through it lol😅
As you first tackled house projects together on video, it was pretty obvious something was going on. Respected your privacy at the time. You are great together.