6 Causes Of Sex Addiction (Revealed) | How Did They Become A Sexual Addict? | Dr. Doug Weiss
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- There are 6 causes of sexual addiction. This video explains how someone becomes a sex addict.
For more information and solutions, buy Dr. Weiss' book, "The Final Freedom" at: www.drdougweis...
The definition of sex addiction. What is it?
Sex addiction is the active use of a sexual behavior, whether it is masturbation, an internet porn addiction, fetishes and/or behavior with self or others in a compulsive life-destroying pattern. When you are addicted to sex it is called a sex addiction.
This is a real issue impacting millions of individuals, marriages, and families around the globe.The impact is felt in the life of the addict and his or her surrounding family members and friends. You and the one you love can recover from the damaging effects this can have on your relationship. Whether you are an addict or the partner of an addict: you are not alone and there is hope!
There are six different types of a sex addict. The more you know about what type you are, the more successful you can be in recovery. Dr. Doug Weiss takes a look at each type, what the associated sex addiction is, and what behaviors go along with that type of addict. Visit drdougweiss.co... for more information.
The six types are:
#1. Biological
#2. Psychological
#3. Spiritual
#4. Past Trauma & Sexual Abuse
#5. Intimacy Anorexia
#6. Mood Disorder
All of these types can be treated. Dr. Weiss has been treating sex addiction of all kinds for over 30 years after recovering from his own sex addiction. Dr. Weiss takes yearly polygraphs to verify his freedom from sexual addiction.
You can be free too! If you would like to find out more information, you can call 719-278-3708 or e-mail us at Heart2Heart@xc.org
Also, if you're unsure if you have a sexual addiction, you can take the tests on our website.
Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction Tests
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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, “Partner Betrayal Trauma™”.
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Email us at heart2heart@xc.org or call my office at 719-278-3708.
We have several resources available, including the 6 types test at sexaddict.com available (which provides some recommendations afterwards), our free app (with daily tips) you can download, or the free Clean Class you can watch (teaches principles on sexual purity).
www.drdougweiss.com/our-app/
www.drdougweiss.com/class/
For books and DVDs, we have "The Final Freedom", "Clean: A Proven Plan for Men Committed to Sexual Integrity", and "Lust Free Living".
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If you are a teen dealing with this, along with porn and sex addiction, you can check out this video for additional guidance: th-cam.com/video/hHA2A4-y9LE/w-d-xo.html
If you need support, you can try a phone counseling session, or join a phone group or local group to aid in the path of recovery. We don't get better by ourselves.
719-278-3708
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Having an accountability partner of the same gender or a counselor/pastor/etc. or a support group to confide in helps as well in the struggle.
"Real heart needs met in a false way" is a brilliant way of putting it.
The trauma of being married to a sex addicted partner who has the “intimacy anorexia” is horrifying, it destroyed me, our marriage, our family and our very profitable business, today he has nothing, not even a car!!!😢
I’m a grad student studying clinical mental health counseling and I’ve found these videos so helpful. Thank you!
You're welcome. I hope you continue to do well in your studies.
Wow, this hits on the nail. I understand what happened with in my marriage now. Unfortunately, we are divorced now. He is chasing his addiction. But now understand myself better on why I couldn't connect even though I loved him SO MUCH. But the verbal abuse kept me away. I experienced that as a child too. 💔It's heartbreaking💔 I want to be whole again. I pray he can do the same. Thank you, Dr. Weiss. Prayers are being answered. I'm going to tell my therapist about this video and all the others I have watched. This is very clear. Doing the test. 🙏 receiving my healing!
I'm sorry to hear about your pain. It is a legitimate issue to deal with. If you need more information or direction on what to do next and steps to heal, you can call my office at 719-278-3708. I hope you get the help you need.
@@DrDougWeiss Thank you, I will call.
@@nickijaneking1706 Praying for him to be set free. And for God to heal both your hearts! In. Jesus. Name.... Amen
* you both should be checked for STDs and the herpes viruses. They don't include that with the STDs. I pray you are both free from this. God has blessed me with freedom from it. Unfortunately, many are not. It's a part of cheating. 💔
@@nickijaneking1706 its because i want you truly happy, i would leave him. You deserves better, not a man who is addicted
You should work it out with him
I’m only 13 and I’m already hooked on this disgusting habit. I’m trying to stop please pray for me!!
Praying for you🙏
Seek out help little one. God is our present help in time of trouble. Confess your sins one to another and you will be healed. Seek God through the people He has given you to. Praying 🙏🏾 for your spirit man to be strong in the LORD and the power of His might. ❤
Praying for you!!
@@smartiemart252 I'm over 30 and it still tormenting me.
I am 31 i started when i was 13.. i wish i could have stopped in the early years
Thanks and praise to our Lord God Heavenly Father for blessing us with this knowledge through you Dr Weiss. May the Holy Spirit continue guiding us in living righteously through Christ Jesus Amen.
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@@rebeccahermes9970 GOD loves you all, GOD bless you all in JESUS name Romans10-9:12 "that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, "Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him." Luke 13-2:3""Do you suppose that these Galileans were worse sinners than all other Galileans, because they suffered such things? 3| tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish."have trust and faith in GOD✝️❤️
GOD loves you all, GOD bless you all in JESUS name Romans10-9:12 "that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture says, "Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him." Luke 13-2:3""Do you suppose that these Galileans were worse sinners than all other Galileans, because they suffered such things? 3| tell you, no; but unless you repent you will all likewise perish."have trust and faith in GOD✝️❤️
Some people simply do not care about their partners or the destruction they cause. One and done should be the mantra for the neglected partner dealing with secrets and lies.
Awesome speaker!!! Will help many people.
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I love my husband, he confessed to me over a year ago he had a problem. I urged him then to get help and told him I would walk through it with him. He hasn’t and we are separated 20months now. I want to share this help with him but don’t know if he will receive it as love or judgment. But it is 100% from a heart of love.
Did you reconsile?
He’s decided he’s for the streets. I wouldn’t send it. Give love to those who can receive it.
I grew up in a satanic foster home & I suffer from PTSD. I’m trying so hard to stop masterbating, i don’t do it much & I don’t watch porn (haven’t since 2019) but I want to stop Masterbation completely. I’m going to try what you’ve recommended. 💘
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Update : JESUS SET ME FREE ✝️✨🙌🏼
Wow!!! What an amazing update!!! Praise Jesus✝️🙌✝️ I am very proud of you!
🙏🏻 Thank you Jesus! Keep up the good work!!!
Even monkeys do it.
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You’re ok! The Life Force (GOD) loves you anyway. Stay away from porn though - literally changes the brain and numbs the ♥️/ 🕊️ .
This information is absolutely timely, coming at the right time to fix myself before getting married.
Dr. Weiss this is really helpful, God bless you.
THIS IS SPIRTUAL BATTLE!!!!
I went through 25 years as a sex addict, love addict, and drug addict. Those three aren't all separate addictions, really, as one begets the other.
My sex addiction wasn't about the release. Orgasm was similar to the come-down from drugs, and meant the fantasy was finished and reality would intrude yet again.
I have to be honest that there are days where I grow wistful about those days.
That's scary for me....the partner of the same addictions as yourself. They are big shoes to fill for a real person.
Thank you for your honesty.
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Thank you so much for this information. It has helped me understand what what is wrong with him and why.
I am here to learn how to be here for my husband. He hasn't sought out help specifically for this. I am not sure if he's aware of any of this. I believe he tried talk therapy, but that he's not able to keep up with it, due to work life. It's been seven years together and 3 beautiful boys (Children) we have together, but I am exhausted from his behavior which I believe is linked to this topic. Even though it gets lonely even when he is home, I don't see it being any better pulling the family apart to become single parents which I see only leaving our children more to a disadvantage and even vulnerable/ danger to stuff most have experienced in childhood like this topic for example etc... I want to help in any way possible, but he needs to want it. Good day.
Danielle, you have a beautiful heart! If he knows how kind you are, maybe he will open his heart to you and get help like this from dr Weiss. Praying for you
@@roneldreyer1688 Thank you. Take care.
It's "very treatable", but many many men don't WANT to stop. They are perfectly HAPPY to continue!
My ex boyfriend is a sex addict and has no desire to change at all. Thus being my ex. He has lied to and cheated on every woman that has ever cared about him
Thank you for setting all this out so clearly and giving real hope. I will follow up with your other links.
You're welcome and I hope all goes well with you on your journey towards recovery, healing, and freedom.
thanks for what you are doing. I am just beginning to understand this addiction and am trying to fix myself
Thanks Dr. Weiss. I'm currently finishing the AASAT training and look forward to starting the supervisory period. This model has been such big help to me and the men I coach. Thanks for your wisdom and example of sexual integrity.
You're welcome. I'm glad you are healing others!
Do you need any prior experience or education before pursuing something like this?
I am a cheater. I don't know why I do it. I don't know if I'm an addict or not. I'm tired of hurting people. I just want to be a better person.
I would do a phone session with a counselor to get started. You can call us at 719-278-3708 to get more information on that and to set it up.
You can do better - you know this already. Go for it.
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here after this addiction destroyed my relationship fully and being at edge of suicide. Everything this guy is saying is hitting like a bulldozer. thank you for making this, today is my first day towards sobriety!
Dont do this journey alone. Look for a SA PA group in your area. You need accountability partners with whom you create a non judgemental yet vulnerable road to recovery. You can do this :)
This is changing the way i think about things thanks
My husband is several of these. I’m at my wits end and strongly considering leaving. I do not know if he will get help. I’m so neglected . Very much intimacy anorexia. We had a problem with him allowing other women older women to flirt with him publicly on social media.
Thanks for the video Dr Doug. I can relate myself to at least 4 of them, psychological being right at the top. Hope somebody had educated me about this a decade ago things would have been different but anyways better late than never. Sex education in my country back then was non-existent and it still is non-existent. Dr Doug, again thanks for spreading this wisdom. God bless you.
Feels like I’m paying a high price for a low life. Reaching out for help, I’ll take any advice and I’m willing to go to any lengths. Looking for a therapist who specializes in this. Hope to hear back soon.
We have several options available for you from individual counseling to DVDs and books. Call us at 719-278-3708 for more information.
Did you try? How’s it going now? Don’t give up
Started porn and self sex at age 3. I'm 50 now. I've ruined my marriage and every other relationship. I tried things to help but failed. Seeing Dr. Weiss's videos has given me hope for the first time. Thank you for posting this info.
I want to encourage you. Recovery is possible. If you'd like to get set up in a telephone support group you can call my office at 719-278-3708
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Age 3, that screams abuse. I hope you reached out for help here.
Dr. Weiss, I will retire from the military in just a couple of years. I am CSATP and absolutely love ushering men to freedom. However, it has been quite a few years since I routinely counseled and ran groups. Do you offer CEU sessions? I need to update my skills and fine tune my practice. As always, I appreciate the work that you do. Thank you for staying in the fight.
Thank you and I'm glad that you want to help other men. We don't have the CEU sessions that you're looking for, however, you are welcome to take the sexual recovery/sex addiction course. It is full of practical tools at aasat.org
Thanks for the knowledge and information keep sharing good for humanity love and respect from Pakistan
WOW!! Great advice....
Nicely said👍👍
Wow I’m so relived that I’m not the only one that’s going through this.but my question for you is what do u do when they deny doing it just so they don’t have to stop
You can ask your partner to take a polygraph to verify whether they stopped or not.
I didn’t know what was going on with my ex husband until after we got divorced. I didn’t know until I watched your video. We were married for 30 yrs. He has intimacy anorexia. You described him to a T. There’s no way that he would have ever admitted to it or done something about it. He’s totally disconnected! 😢
I'm glad to hear that this video was able to bring clarity to your situation. I'm sorry that you have gone through this in your marriage, the disconnection and withholding of intimacy are indeed painful. If you need support, please reach out to my team at 719-278-3708 and get connected with one of our therapists can help you find healing.
You might also find the book Married & Alone useful as it helps provide validation and understanding on the situation: www.drdougweiss.com/product/married-alone-ebook/
Hello Dr Weiss, My wife and I are pastors and she is a full-time minister. I have allowed myself to be cornered with a bewildering and often overwhelming situation in the sexual area. I am married and my wife is fully aware of the situation and she is absolutely amazing. I really really want to find resolution and could really use a confidential conversation. Any suggestions?
Hi Brent. You can call my office at 719-278-3708 to set a telephone appointment with a counselor. You can also e-mail us at heart2heart@xc.org.
Thank you I'm suffering from this addiction and am in need to get better but it's hard in my city needing help
If you've already tried looking in your city for any local counseling centers or support groups, you could search in another city or state. You could also try doing phone counseling, join a phone support group, or you can come to us for a session:
719-278-3708
www.drdougweiss.com/groups/
www.drdougweiss.com/sex-addiction-counseling/
We also have sex addiction books and DVDs available, our free online Clean Class series, and our app with daily tips as well:
www.drdougweiss.com/?product_cat=&s=final+freedom&post_type=product
www.drdougweiss.com/?product_cat=&s=clean&post_type=product
www.drdougweiss.com/class/
www.drdougweiss.com/our-app/
Doing any better?
I love your info! Sadly, a close family member became a sex addict. It was so painful.. always watched pornography daily at night into wee hours of the night. He isolated himself, pulled away from family, lost employment a high ranking position, he started to be sloppy with his addiction.
I am having same problem porn at night
Thank you for validation. I'm a recovery since 07. I still have my struggles. I fell into acute situational depression that was almost deadly. I found that if I slept with someone that I felt attracted and desired.
Thank you so much for giving all this information!
A 13 yr old teen have the mind to want to change and see the need to stop, but my 52 yr old disrespectful husband is an intrigue addict and never saw the need to change his ways even though it causes many problems in our marriage!
WOW Im So Disgusted By It ALL....
I been fooling myself for so long , trying to convince myself that I’m not addicted to sex until now I’m 30 and I can’t escape it . I feel so disgusted of myself . It’s like a drug , no matter the time no matter place no matter the person . If I don’t do it I end up hurting myself
Dr I heard everything you said and I really want to change from this person who I've become, I don't know how I will do it because I've never had to but all I know is I need to, and I am extremely willing, Please help me, someone, I'm strong but I'm scared Thank you
You can get in a support group or meet with a counselor and start from there. The book "The Final Freedom" can be a good start as well.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-book/
Thank you very much Bro! It is so important what you do! Blessings to you!
You are very welcome. I'm glad you enjoyed the video.
@@DrDougWeiss Of course i did theire is so much wisdom. And this comes from God. Be blessed Brother.
I’m a sex & love addict and my last partner was a sex addict. He might be a love addict as well, he’s also an alcoholic and it was just messed up.😢💔
He told me he loved me, but now I don’t even know if that’s true -
He cheated on his wife for years now he just dumped me 😢
He masturbates several times a day - he said it keeps his anxiety down & with the alcohol as well
He would withhold sex and intimacy, and not talk about his feelings EVER !
He’s been a sex addict since he was young - he slept with older women when he wasn’t even of age I think - he says he doesn’t have any trauma, and I kept asking him about it, but he denied it
I have trauma, and I’ve worked through a lot of mine in SLAA & counseling
I’m so hurt 😢💔
We are in NO CONTACT right now
My h is IA, PA, and sex addiction. He's 72 years old and he still fantasizes about a girl who showed up at his door one night for sex back in 1973. Its a psychological connection for sure. Before he met me ALL his " relationships were picked up in bars. I had no idea of this. He put on a real act and always respected me. My question is ------- is he in love with this girl from his past. He has told me some pretty hurtful things. Thank you Dr.
He is probably not in love with her as a person because he didn't even knew her really. He has reinforced ideas of her as a sex object not as a person in his sex addiction.
The pain and trauma you have experienced from this are valid. We have a Partners of Sex Addicts phone group and Facebook group that can give you support if you wish to join.
www.drdougweiss.com/groups/partner-groups/
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
I wanted to be a sex addict but there were barriers. I was a guitar player. I am a veteran. I listen to my caregiver. I wanted to be a home owner. I wanted to be single. I didn't want all the problems I anticipated. I thought it could be like substance abuse. I saw that every hero I had according to what the internet said there seemed to be some deal breaker problems I didn't want.
What an advice ..Dr ..well explained about the fantacies..n how it is impacted..root cuse should be cured.!👍👌👌
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Currently waiting for your Freedom book.
My former spouse was a porn addict that progressed horrifically to using underage sex trafficked females and having his own pictures taken, which he hid in our home. I divorced him but got only minimal help through the courts in protecting my sons from his behaviors. Eventually, both my sons became addicts themselves, and although they are now in their 30s, they are emotionally still about 13 years old. It’s so very sad.
I'm sorry to hear about what the pain and trauma that you and your family have experienced from this. However, healing and recovery are still possible.
You can contact our main office at 719-278-3708 and we have therapists available who can help with partner betrayal trauma and sex addiction recovery.
Regarding the sex addiction, we have a lot of helpful resources that you can check out at sexaddict.com
I mean you could just find a partner that's a "sex addict" and then you could live a happy fulfilled life together with all the sex you want instead of feeling like your high sex drive is a problem... Now with that being said if the man wants multiple women and one women isn't enough for him then he's just a jerk that can't be helped... But a guy who has a very active sex drive doesn't mean he wants to or should for that matter cheat. Some guys just really like sex and want it more often than most. I'd say meet a woman who can and will satisfy those needs. Or vice versa. I feel the Dr. Making this video fails to elaborate on the difference. I've never cheated on anyone personally however I have a high sex drive and it led to many arguments in my first marriage. I never cheated but I was always frustrated. Now 6 years later I've found that compatibility of sex drives is actually VERY important in a relationship and often leads to a happier relationship in the long run.
I’ve been having non intimate sex with who wants to be “friends” for 18 years.
It’s only been a few years now that we have been going to social gatherings.
I noticed he treats me indifferent. His energy gets at a high I’ve never seen in him before, he’s so focused on all the women around, saying sweet things about and to them, playful touching them. When I start to show signs of being hurt. He gets really angry, starts criticizing me for feeling weak, I’m the angry one, starts telling everyone I’m insane. In the 18 years, has never once told me sweet things or that he loves me. Yet it comes so easily given to other women around and in front of me. I’ve always believed him, when he says that I have a cold heart for others, a witch from hell, dark spirited. I always focused on my internal healing. Anyways, I’m still confused. Now he’s telling me that I’m a sex monster that’s why I’m searching about sex addiction.
This does not seem like a healthy relationship. I recommend you get counseling to understand why you accept so little in a relationship.
He does not deserve you
My husband opened up to me a few years back he was sexualy abused as a child. A few months back, i found he cheated on me many times. He is in denial and not sure what to do from here forward.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with this in your marriage. I would suggest getting counseling for the two of you to address his sexual abuse and current sex addiction, as well as the partner betrayal trauma you have experienced from his actions. Even if he is unwilling to address this, you can still get healing and support for yourself. You can contact our office at 719-278-3708 to schedule with one of our certified therapists to help you work through this. We offer individual and couples sessions (in person or virtually), support groups, and even our intensive program, which provides a lot of counseling over the course of 3 or 5 days.
The Partners book and workbook would be helpful for you as they provide both validation for what you have experienced and guidance in the healing process.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-healing-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/partners-recovery-guide-ebook/
He can utilize the book The Final Freedom and 101 Freedom Exercises to better understand his sex addiction and work through the recovery process.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/101-freedom-exercises-ebook/
I really only do it because it feels good. I don’t have depression or sadness or anything. I just think it feels good. Should I still stop? I’ve been doing it for 1 year
Yes. You should stop. Nothing is healthy about it at all. The worse part is it will hurt your relationship with your life partner to the point where you will quickly lose sexual interest in them and only want to sexual satisfaction produced by yourself
@@a-youngrocky8541 ok I talked to my dad about it and he said it’s ok but I shouldn’t watch videos or look at pictures. I still been doing it tho. It’s hard to drop it.
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I recommend you to search for it damages, because its harmful.
Great video..
Thank you .
Wish if you add arabic translation , alot of Arab need this information
Do you take insurance? There is mother-son enmeshment tendencies (awareness but no real internal work) not sure if you can help with the addictions that have come from this trauma. Thanks!
Are long term affairs object relationship? My ex has left and is marrying the affair partner, now I wonder we’re both the affair partner and I are object.
Hey I came across this really good marriage helper channel that talks about this. Statistically they failed 98% of the time.
It's no wonder I ended up at a treatment centre. I identify with all of these except the sexual abuse. My acting out was mostly cerebral though. It was all about the fantasy. Fantasy about women, a new job, new friends, new wife. The fallout was no different. I'm getting better.
my wife was abused as a child for years and shes an addict...she betray me a few times...im at the edge..its so hard now..any advised??
I believe I’m in a flatline (the term I found online), my sexual drive has completely gone after 4 months of recovery with only 3 relapses. The last one was 60 days ago. What is going on in your opinion? 45 year old married male. My addiction has been a problem from the age of 12.
Thanks and God bless!
This could be several things. I recommend the DVD "Sexless and Married"in which I go over several reasons and solutions. It would take too long for me to write a proper response.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/sexless-married-dvd/
I’m all six. This is depressing. The worst part is the unknown. Am I going to get better? I just started a new job not knowing what to do where to go how to start it feels like a 10,000 pound boulder is on top of me. I’m 2 1/2 years clean from alcohol and crystal math and cigarettes. When I don’t watch the porn, that’s when the food addiction rears its ugly head. It’s a back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth back and forth. Where does someone go who is broke with no health insurance and no hope?
Start in a local 12 step support group or find community service counseling. You can also use our free app at www.drdougweiss.com/our-app/
You are not alone. We don't get better by ourselves.
Hi Dr Doug. My name is Rachael. i am 33 and my husband is 42. We have been married 10 years and i found out he is not just an alcoholic but also a sex addict. I really need some help. I am so traumatised and i am worried about my stress and health i cant leave but i need to. We have an 8 yr old son.
Sorry that you are in this situation. If he doesn't get help with this, it can get worse.
Counseling and support groups can help you better make sense and find healing with this.
You can join our Partners of Sex Addicts phone group and Facebook group for support.
www.drdougweiss.com/partner-group/
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
@@DrDougWeiss Thankyou. - Rach
Could a long term “sexless” marriage be a cause of sex addiction?
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Doug. My question for you is this: is the method of treatment different for each type, or are some the same? Ex: biological vs phsycological.
Each is unique but most people have several types, so there are combined treatment strategies they need.
Well my husband is all of them but the intimacy anorexiL .. you know before I wish I would of know of his behavior but honestly now its way to late his just not my type and what his put me through i can't and won't try to do this with him I already wasted 4 years on this all 4 years of his cheating putting me at risk and doesn't even value my health ... he won't reach out and get his self help plus his a acholic this is why he don't care about anything but his own needs achol is what makes this happen.. and he well not stop drinking always lies saying his gonna stop but I know what kind of man I married a nightmare hopeless divorce tired feed up. But I am glad I got to see this video it was interesting thank you
I'm sorry for all this trauma and pain you have been dealing with. We have support groups available if you'd like to join. You can also call our office at 719-278-3708 and make an appointment with one of our therapists.
www.drdougweiss.com/groups/
www.drdougweiss.com/facebook-groups/
2 in the beginning, then for work a bit of 3), then 6 (current, and becoming worse, neurological disorder due to work) and becoming also 5.
Hi ı just find out my husband is sex addiction and cheat on me several times. How can I convince him to take therapy, how should I talk? And do you give online therapy? Thanks
You said its treatable for your brain to go from liking 'objects' to liking real people. I relate to this - I can't get an erection with actual people. I feel like i'm going crazy and hijacked by these demanding sexual rules. What exactly is the process treating this or does stopping masturbation automatically re-wire you?
I am one of those guys. She caught me. Several times in fact. Even after she tried to get involved. I feel horrible about it. I'm trying my hardest to kick it. I'm gross I know. But at the same time when it comes up she'll attack me and weaponize my short comings. I love her but I feel alone in the fight. If I bring up the fact that I feel alone she'll attack me. Trying to kick an Addiction while being with someone you still feel alone with is like trying to mop a floor with a towel. It can be done but there's an easier way and you don't wanna do it that way. Any advice on what I should do?
Can you still be a sex addict either psychological or trauma or a combo of the two that stopped acting out (having sex with random people indiscriminately of both sexes) over 20 years ago, with one relapse 15 years ago? But since getting married to a porn addict over 20 years ago refrained from acting out aside from that one time has not done so since? Furthermore sought counseling afterwards and slowly learned a new way of viewing or valuing sex with my spouse? Am I still a sex addict or was I just never really one? I don’t struggle with it at all anymore and feel my sex drive is likely a healthy one as I am very attracted to my husband and would love to be intimate with him every day in some way. Unfortunately because he is also a sex addict, that has continued to act out, I feel incapable of being intimate with him due to the fact that he is unfaithful. It brings back all the sex abuse trauma from my past along with feelings of abandonment, lack of worth, and just flat out FEAR… not all of the time, but when I have discovered that he has been unfaithful again. While I am terribly hurt by his betrayals or unfaithfulness the deceitfulness, lies, and neglect are by far the worst aspect of this all. He is remorseful and ashamed but also angry and resentful… as am I but we both desperately want to save our marriage and family… is that even possible anymore?
If both of you are willing it is possible to work and heal your marriage. You could do an intensive or some phone counseling. Your trauma from the betrayal you have experienced is real. As for groups, we have several phone groups for women who are married to SA/IA. You can call us at 719-278-3708 for more information about these groups and about counseling.
Please help me, I want to change and have a meaningful , real relationship with someone. I suffer a 6. It's terrible. Problem is I am controlled by it, but I know I need the natural medicine, natural cure, want to be normal and feel good again, emotionally numb, disconnected.
The 6 types of sex addicts test on sexaddict.com can be informative. Also, we don't get better by ourselves. Group or individual counseling can be good as well.
Same here. I relate
Amazing Thank you!
You're welcome.
Why does a sex addict rarely have a good sex life with their spouse? Why do they push away their spouse?
Addiction robs a person of emotional intimacy which is necessary for a great sex life. The book "Upgrade Your Sex Life" could be helpful.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/upgrade-your-sex-life-3/
My husband has a sex addiction... everybody in the world wants me but my husband has always rejected me with women who are not attractive. I finally found this out after 7 years of being with him and 2 beautiful healthy children. He repented to God finally after getting CAUGHT but change won’t happen overnight. What is the solution for him to change?
You could do an intensive. At the very least he could be in a group and do a polygraph to verify that he is clean. You could also join our Partners Facebook group.
719-278-3708
facebook.com/groups/partnersofsa/
Thank you for this!
You're welcome
Hi sir. I was assaulted during my high school days by my uncle. now I have a boyfriend and I feel like I am a sexual addict and my partner seems to have no interest on it causing me to feel frustrated and lonely.
I would see a counselor for the past trauma. If your partner is not interested you can end this relationship.
Causal is like a match ignites gas. Possible “reasons” not cause. Many have these experiences, but may not “cause” this, which disproves a cause connection. It’s a habit with negative consequences but with an indoctrination of a belief of “loss of control”. You choose every time, because if you’re honest with yourself, you like it.
Maybe change the website name so anyone can visit it
I’m addicted to pornography and I have ocd (obsessive compulsive disorder). I was bullied many years in school and I was very unhappy in that times. Is there a connection between porn, bullying and my mental illness (ocd)?
OCD is usually a chemical imbalance so if you haven't already, see a psychiatrist for that. WIth the rest, trauma or the lack of emotional skills are a possible connection to addiction. I recommend the book "Emotional Fitness" for that and the "Final Freedom" for the porn addiction.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/emotional-fitness-book/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-book/
im 15 its been a year Ive been trying to stop it and I keep failing I need help from someone that knows what to do. I usually due it out of boredom because I want to stop feeling, cause right after I do it IM drained and fall asleep but right after I regret it. I need help respond to me thanks
You can try talking to a pastor, counselor, or someone you would trust as an accountability partner (to hold you accountable for stopping), or join a support group. Also try to engage in other positive activities when the feeling arises. The tips in this video as well as guidance you can get from taking the 6 types test at sexaddict.com can prove useful.
The tests aren't available on your site, unfortunately.
i wanna get help but i don’t wanna be know in any way
I need your advise as to why my partner was so outrageous and promiscuous in her life.
She would need to be evaluated to answer that. Your pain is real and you might want to talk to a counselor about this betrayal to lessen the impact in your future.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Hebrews 13:4 NIV
I have all 6 is that possible to get clean, what do I do?
Even if you have multiple causes for sex addiction, recovery and healing are still possible for you.
If you haven't already, the first thing you can do is get accountability for yourself through a certified sexual recovery therapist and a support group. This way, you can have someone with whom you can confide in, receive guidance from, and be encouraged as move towards being clean.
If you're interested, you can contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 and my staff can help you get started with this.
You can also get more educated regarding sex addiction so that you can better understand what you are dealing with and take the right steps towards freedom.
I have a Sex Addiction recovery playlist and a Clean Class playlist that you can watch here for additonal insight and guidance:
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There's also the Final Freedom ebook and 101 Freedom Exercises workbook that you can get for yourself.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/sex-addiction-101-freedom-exercises-ebook/
For additional sex addiction recovery resources, check out: www.sexaddict.com/
My partner is 56years old. He's addicted to porn "transgender". We always argue about that. I don't know what to do with him. What do you suggest? Thanks
So from what iam hearing, Intimacy Anorexia, and Narcissism, are quote simuler, can a person have both of these? And r they really capable of love?
Your trauma of living with this pain is real. I spend about an hour explaining this answer in the DVD "Narcissism, Sex Addiction, and Intimacy Anorexia".
www.drdougweiss.com/product/narcissism-sex-addiction-intimacy-anorexia-dvd/
It is possible to have both and learning or choosing to love would be on an individual basis.
www.drdougweiss.com/married-and-alone-group/
facebook.com/groups/MarriedandAlone/
Thank you 🙏🏼
My husband is addicted to porn. He said, he will not change.
I am so sorry :( he is disrespecting your feelings and oath he made to you. You will end up having to either accept and be unhappy compromising your morals and values OR you need to start preparing yourself to leave...I understand if you have kids but I've been down the SA road (my spouse) and they will NOT change unless THEY WANT to and are sincere about how they have hurt you and are willing to whatever is necessary to be better, not just for you and family but for themselves as well...I am incredibly Blessed that my spouse is on this road and he is so very dedicated and at times I am left beside myself when I watch him doing his work book, reading his material and reading his Bible...the level of our conversations are incredibly hard and could be hurtful if I don't set my hurt aside and LISTEN as he is figuring these issues out with me in an effort to discover why for himself and still being totally transparent with me to restore trust...
See the difference?
@@KayceeVal Thank you. I pray he will turn around yet will take a long time. Its already been 10 years of dealing w this. Yet, he never got n recovery. I pray God softens his heart to get into recovery.
@@KayceeVal I've got to stay focused on building a new life. It's hard for me to stay focused. Mainly, my husband needs to accept Jesus.
@@amandaquintos8767 very sorry
@amandaquintos8767 how are you doing? Were you able to build a new life?
What do i do . I want to focus on finding me. I want to focus on perusing my dreams and goal . But i stop dating but i turned int musturbation . when ever i i do it i always think of my x girl friend . but i do want to focus on my dreams without holding someone back. H ow do i stop musturbation?
If you haven't already, you can watch my TH-cam video that has tips to stop masturbating: th-cam.com/video/XUWmyvxWtQ8/w-d-xo.html
Regarding this behavior, one of the best things you can do is to get accountability with someone and confide with them about this. That way they can encourage you and give you guidance as you work through this addictive behavior and move towards freedom and pursuing your life goals. This would be a person of the same gender that's honest and trustworthy like a counselor, coach, pastor, mentor, etc.
You can do this locally or contact Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 to get connected with one of our sexual recovery counselors and even one of our support groups. We don't get better just by ourselves.
You can also get the Final Freedom ebook and 101 Freedom Exercises that can educate you more on the matter and help you navigate a way forward.
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/101-freedom-exercises-ebook/
@@DrDougWeiss Thank you very much DR i appreciate your help and i will just do what you have told me.
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My husband is a SA and bipolar 1, and we are just starting on our journey of healing. How do you deal with the mania that causes them to be complete narcissists, even when they’re trying to recover?
Bipolar is a medical condition so seeing a doctor who specializes in that would be best. As for the narcissism, get a psychological test first to verify it and if so, follow the required treatment and therapy. Also if you haven't already do counseling and a support group for the addiction.
Thank u so much
@drdougweiss how about someone who exposes themselves in public or rapes someone. Is that part of sexual addiction or is that different?
These are both criminal acts. They might be influenced by an addiction but their treatment would be different, especially in the sexual assault situation.
Hi Dr Weiss I have struggled with sexual addiction for years. I’m 58 years old and am married and I have beat this loving beautiful woman down both spiritually and emotionally with my addiction, I just watched the 6 causes and I definitely have 1,2,4,5,6
Sex addiction is a struggle but it can be overcome. I'm glad to see that you are wanting to make steps towards recovery. You can call us at 719-278-3708 and we can get you scheduled with a counselor/coach as well as join a support group. You can also check out sexaddict.com which has a lot of helpful resources including books, workbooks, and DVDs.
My partner is like 4 out of the 6 🤷♀️ I’m in so much pain. My pain is my problem apparently. He’s been doing this to me for 13 years. We have an 11 year old son. I’m sick of the fucking bullshit secrets behind my back. I used opiates for 7 years because that’s how I was coping with it. But I’ve been clean for 5 years. So I understand addiction but he watched me swallow my pills. Everything was out in the open and knew very about my addiction and my recovery but I can’t get ANY information from him. I just wanna die
Is it a problem if ponography don't turn you on ?
plzz help me !!! I have a mustrubating addiction from past 2 years and i really want to stop it but i cant controll myself even if i try to distract myself but i also dont have any friend or someone with whom i can share or disscuss my feelings and i also think it can harm my future i have seen ur videos but still plzz recomment few tmore tips rather than keeping it a secret cuz i dont have any friends so im stuck . and i always decide to stop it each time i mastrubate but somehow i get distracted . what should i do if im stuck in this kind of situations plzz help me dr . doug weiss
You should get in a group for support. You can join one of the Freedom Groups over the phone or join a local SA (Sexaholics Anonymous) group.
If you need help finding one, you can call us at 719-278-3708.
I Really Appreciate you and your Techniques to Overcome Addiction or M****rbation........ But Still Dr. Doug I have a problem...... I cannot Overcome it and End up in False Quitting Situation..... Please Help me and I need Your guidance Dr.!!!!
I'm glad you are working towards overcoming this behavior. Although it may seem impossible, it is possible. You are not alone in your struggle. Many who have committed towards breaking free did struggle at first, but were able to do so in the end.
It helps having someone to confide in, someone who can encourage you but at the same time hold you accountable whether it be a counselor, a pastor, a support group, or a trusted friend or relative.
Aside from this, you can utilize several of my other resources, including taking the 6 types test at sexaddict.com ,using our free app that can provide daily tips on sexual purity, or watching our free Clean Class series which gives guidance on living free from lust.
www.drdougweiss.com/our-app/
www.drdougweiss.com/class/
It may not be easy, but if you use the available resources, have the right people and are intentional in breaking free, you can do so.
@@DrDougWeiss Thank You So Much Dr. Doug, I am Much Obliged and I am Grateful That you Guided me And Gave me Suggestion or tips that Could Help me!!!
Am francis from Ghana
Please i need help
I have been married for 9 yrs now and i have a problem of cheating and sexual addiction on any girl i meet
I feel like sleeping with them for fun
And it eventually happens that way and after i regret and move to the next table which keeps going on my life
Its distrusting my my marriage
Thank you for sharing this. Sex addiction is indeed a struggle, but it is possible to break from it. I have broken free from it and have seen thousands over the years do the same.
You can start by getting guidance in navigating the journey towards freedom and having accountability for yourself. We don't get better just by ourselves. You might want to connect with a local sex addiction therapist and support group or call Heart To Heart Counseling Center at 719-278-3708 to get scheduled to do a virtual session with one of our therapists and join one of our phone support groups.
www.drdougweiss.com/freedom-group/
You can also educate yourself to better understand sex addiction and receive helpful principles to overcome it through resources like the Final Freedom book and 101 Freedom Exercises:
www.drdougweiss.com/product/final-freedom-ebook/
www.drdougweiss.com/product/101-freedom-exercises-ebook/
How do keep up the commitment?