Why do Koreans eat so much seaweed soup after giving birth..? | British+Korean couple Vlog
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- We've been married for five years and now have a second child, but there are still some "culture differences." I thought we'd gotten over it, but it's hard to calm her down when she's a little depressed after giving birth.
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Air date : Feb, 2008
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Her brother is so nice, caring and comforting. They should use him as a mediator because he's understanding of both sides.
She is so bless to havve her family and husband that take care of her.
I do not understand how she views her husband as a 3rd child? He's such an amazing man, husband, and father. My husband and I have 4 children. In America, the mothers stay in hospital 2 days and then sent home after having their baby, unless more care is needed for the mother or baby. But after each of my children, I still had to come home and do everything. My husband did not even do a fraction of what her husband does for her to make sure she can rest. I had to come home to clean, cook, care for my other children, and still necessary run errands. No rest. This was so hard and resulted in many quite moments of me breaking down crying from the mental and physical exhaustion. If I had him as a husband and close family to help care for me and my children, any tears shed would be tears of joy. I had no one to help me, no one to happily welcome me home, no family or friends, and got help from my husband when his work schedule would allow. She does not know how blessed she really is. Or at least I hope she realizes eventually.
We actually don’t know much of that side of Gareth, maybe this video doesn’t show everything. Mi Kyung knew her husband best since they married until today. Plus they have cultural differences, so it will be harder to tackle. In this video she’s having a second child and has a mild depression, so her thinking can be deeper and become more emotional and sensitive. Probably something happened when they were coming home with the baby, Gareth think it’s not a big deal and she got upset. This thing can happen. I think after the end of the post-mortem, she would be healthy again, both physically and mentally. Gareth will also try to be considerate. If today they are still together, that probably from their own forgiveness, love and compassion towards each other. This show shows their personal life and they know it.
Mi-Kyung is correct, Gareth is a child. He is so immature and insensitive. He did not use his body to create a life and then suffered childbirth to bring it into this world. He not only doesn't tend to her needs but ridicules her for it. He thinks women being neglected after delivery is fine. Asian culture understands the body is depleted from making a new life. It needs to be rebuilt. 30 days confinement is normal for Asian mothers. The West knows nothing of this important process. Just because another woman has a horrible husband does not mean Mi-Kyung should accept inferior treatment as good treatment.
Your sad sorry husband is not the bar by which everyone else needs to make comparisons. Are you competing with her for sympathy? It’s a shame in the US that there is no post partum or parental leave protections, and you suffered, and yet you still had it better than the women abandoned completely by the father.
We’re US, my husband stepped up doing the domestics, grocery shopping and cooking for 6 weeks post partum, with me helping as I healed, and by the end of post partum I was able to take over. I’m week 9 now, and doing PT to address mobility problems. This wasn’t “amazing”, cooking, cleaning, and shopping was something he did when he was unmarried. Most of us work and run our homes. It’s sad that you have such a low estimation of what men are capable of handling. (Let alone for a brief time period!)
@@uhnschlek8827, He doesn’t have the option, nor the abilities to carry a child, so let’s not go down that ignorant road. This BS of the drama women go through in having a child needs to stop, IT IS NOT THAT DRAMATIC.
@@elsands9774 Oh, but it is. Every woman and girl's life is in danger the moment she conceives. Read up on some medical books and you might learn something.
Remember, before they got married, her condition was that he do all the cooking. So that’s what he does even though he works full time. Says something.
Her husband treats her so great why did she say that about him? I literally don’t think an Asian husband would’ve done the same to her. I believe depression is a serious problem but still her husband is a good husband and not a third child
Asian husbands can be very caring.
We are only seeing them through YT, but don't know how it actually is in their daily lives. Maybe, she knows something that we don't.
This couple is almost 50 years old now. They should make an update.
I understand her being depressed but she's also lucky to have a great husband who's there to help with the housework and cook. Now that he has a new job, he can't cook and clean a lot for her like he used to do for her. She's so used to him doing the cooking and cleaning. But I think her family spoiled her being the baby of the family.
No, she is just a normal mother recovering from childbirth. In many cultures, new mothers are expected to rest and recover from the stress of childbirth.
3rd child? Well, that's something she should have considered before marrying. I had a c section, 3 days in hospital then I am home taking of a baby by myself with stapled stomach. Lol. She seems a little spoiled.
It was your choice to treat yourself like trash
@@junglesuperstar9270 what's trash? Taking care of the baby and do what I had to do at that time? Guess you came from a privileged life. Lol
@@peits8480 from a NORMAL family who understands what a mother needs helps
Childbirth can be a very stressful thing. That is why it is expected for new mothers to rest after childbirth in Korea and many other places.
For those concerned about her eyes being puffy and dark, it’s called “postpartum swelling” and also pretty common after childbirth.
if you take a look at toddler face she also have little bruises on her face i don't know the reason but that was suspicious based on the father anxiety
He is a good husband he is nice humble helping her at house and she is good mom she just need to be patient and he need to understand the postpartum thats it
She may be having post partumn depression or just need some attention from her husband but she is considered lucky to have her mother & SIL nearby to help her. She should not expect too much from her husband as he has to work.
Her husband won't like it if her brother always interfere. From her actions with her brother, it seems that she still think she needs to be consoled. I don't think hubby can tolerate always.
well said! Anyway this program is so old..Mi Kyung is probably going through menopausal swings at the moment hahaha
Menopausal?? Wtf
@@izamarina Menopause? She looks way too young for that and she just had a baby...
I see most don't get that she's twenty years older than when this was filmed. The boy is now twenty some years old already and the little girl is like twenty three or more. Now granted I didn't notice the p production date of this, but if what y'all are saying is true then yeah the kids are both fully grown.
This is post partum depression. She needs to fight it. Fortunately she has a good support system and Gareth really tries hard but as a man he doesn't understand the physical and mental trauma that a woman goes through a childbirth. He needs to read more about babies and post pregnancy.
Anyway, the children must be in their teens now. I wonder where are they now?
Wow it’s crazy the differences. We wished our hospital had a nursery at least for the first night. We got discharged after a day in a half at the hospital. She had to stay a week.
In Korea, these post-birth resort centers are not only not unusual they're the norm. It'd be unthinkable for a Korean woman to come up the day of or after birth. They all stay 1-2 weeks at a post birth care center. And many you talk to cite avoiding inlaws and the extended family that descends upon them like this video
I personally wouldn’t want my newborn in a nursery, away from me, but I do love the idea of staying in a specialized section for mom after care. Not having to cook or clean, access to lactation consultants, easy midwife follow ups etc. all sounds great. I would have definitely used that for my first born.
Second born was a totally different experience and I happily discharged us 2 hours after birth.
I believe the video said she came home after 10 days. She should be more thankful. In the U.S. it’s 1-2 days after giving birth that you’re sent home.
@@bpxl53yewz29if Americans are idiots , it is their problem
@@bpxl53yewz29 In Korea, this is common practice. Mothers are expected to recover from childbirth for weeks. It is not a privilege, but a necessity.
Too much meddling from her family is not good. I feel sorry for her husband.
I can't believe she talks negatively about her husband when He's the one doing all for her & kids, very ungrateful lady😡😤
This was filmed almost 20 years ago. How is this family doing today? Any updates??
This is from someone else. Apparently, Gareth works for the British Embassy in Korea now, and they are all still together and a happy family.
She's lucky to have such a great brother and sister-in -law.
She seems too obsessed with her family and not her husband! She is no longer a child...
Remind me of my son when I just gave birth to him. How time flies. 😊
I see why she cried it’s not that he did anything wrong it’s just at some point she’s going to give care to 3 people instead of 2 now so she’s feeling a bit overwhelmed
I’ve been really enjoying these videos and will be sad when it’s over. I wonder what happened to the dog, though! I hope Gareth wasn’t made to give him away.
I thought the same thing. He disappeared when Megan was born. So sad.
Same.
I'm sure the wife made him give the dog away.
Such a wonderful brother!
Agree! You described me after giving birth.
Update vids would be great
Think she's just a lazy person just coz her family lives close by. Poor guy never has any privacy, her family wily nily comes in & out!! I would have a fit!!
This is not about cultural differences! The wife seems immature, selfish, and ungrateful!
Good advice
The level of DRAMA BS is high! Viewing her husband as a “third child”? Mind you he works, cleans the house took care of his child and is videotaped washing dishes continuously. The third child just maybe her, cause she’s the only adult asking a child
Pregnancy care is top notch!
When she said that her hus is like a 3rd child, it is true. He acts like one since they got married. He complaints about everything.
Almost 30 degrees in the baby's room 😠???
저도 한국인 이고 아이 세명 낳고 제왕 수술을 3번 해도 신생야 아이들 30도 장 온도를 하지 않아도 우리 아이들 건강하게 잘 자랐고 제왕수술 하고 3일 만에 일어 나서 나 자신 스스로 샤워 했어도 아이들 셋 돌보고 전 50이 넘어도 한국 친구 같은동기 보다 더 건강하고 튼튼 합니다. 우리 아이들 따듯하게 하지 안게 했어도 셋다 너무 건강 합니다.
wonder if she would say the same to a Korean husband…
Koreans are not like that. They might want to work inside the house. Even washing, laundry, cleaning, they can't do it because they believe it's the wife's job. That's why they don't help. My husband is Korean, but in our five years of marriage, he never helps with cleaning, laundry, or washing because he's always working. He's very opposite to what Gareth does for his wife.She's so lucky lol
@@meltingkisses0720 i know Korean man yeah not a lot of help …
Why is some people choosing to live in Korea, it’s hard life 😢
Post partum depression? I hope Mi-kyung gets better.
And it doesn't help with her mental state when they are arguing all the time.
Or when family are interfering all the time because they live in the same building.
Koreans are obsessed with the rooms being warm. I was so the postpartum care center, turned the heat off and they freaked out lol
Gareth is a good man, a good husband. Thank goodness my wife didn't have postpartum depression or put the heat up in the house. I'm Korean-American and even I'd be so annoyed, she doesn't know what shouting is.
shes fucking sensitive BECAUSE SHE GAVE BIRTH! both sides are understandable. also i feel bad for your wife.
@@lightwings346 I feel sorry for you, but not really. Can't imagine any dude tolerating you.
the manchild speaks@@TDK2K
not you blaming the wife for hormones she can't control!!!! maybe your wife didnt complain bc she knew how bad youd take it... @@TDK2K
@@lightwings346My wife also give birth to our son but she don't have this me me me attitude this women she was just a very selfish women...
I wonder if they’re still together👀
LOL truth.
This guy is forever cleaning and cooking lol.
그러니 게러쉬 부인 너무 걱정 마시고 남편도 이해 해주세요 자신이 선택한 영국 남자이고 가족과 아이들 때문에 한국 와서 사는데 더 잘 해주지는 못해도 그냥 영국인들은 고등학교 때부터 빈부 상관 없이 모두 자녀들을 어릴때 부터 독립적으로 키우기에 그런면 나쁜것이 아니니 이해 해주세요.
are the husbands allowed in the delivery room with their wives/partners in South Korea like they do here in the United States or no?
Yes they are
I don't feel comfortable to watch them having all those unnecessary conflicts, they behave all like little kids!
They could live such a good life!
i wonder how they are doing now
Seem to be doing okay and still together. Good news
Now please excuse me, why do commentators quickly say "it's the cultural differences. I don't agree there at all. But why? Notice I'm from the north USA. My wife is from the South USA. Our differences right off is temperature. She's always cold, and I'm hot. First sign of cooling off she lights a fire in the fireplace,I come in surprised and start sweating. Guys please stop saying culture. Every Marriage has to give and take, no matter where they live, no matter where their from learning to enjoy their differences and decide together what works is how we show we love our mate. This is first of a very beautiful family handsome daddy, beautiful mom. And adorable beautiful children.
Love, love, love. Love covers a multitude of sins. I also believe and recognize it covers foibles, idiosyncracies, quirks, twitches, etc. Etc.
What a lovely family
Guys, learn to love and you will flourish
Don't stop loving,
Let your middle name be love, and live it.
God is love, doesn't say has love, but, IS LOVE.
I agree that it's not the cultural differences between this couple.
He’s a good husband but just lacks a little bit of understanding of the culture and she’s just way too inconsiderate.
omg im craving 미역국 now. time to call mom
Seaweed is good for u
Gareth needs to give her pampering and thanking her for carryibg nd birthing thrir baby show her some life, every woman after birth goes through moments of depression carrying 9 months going that pain nd emotions can be traumatic, in Africa the one family member stays with the woman helping her with baby nd chores support etc. This husband is something else where did she get him from, however its not all whites, who behave like this man whst a shame
I'm concerned about Mikyung, I personally think Garreth is too harsh.
I'm no doctor, but it's probably to replenish the vitamins and minerals that were depleted while pregnant.
Yes.
Is this in 90s everything look old
Not 90’s
Good morning 😊
She can wear a jumper he can’t stay in the heat
She doesn't count her blessings!! Had she married an asian, don't think she's gonna get homecooked meals ready for her every time she walks in the door!!
Some Asian men do cook for their families.
SoTrue 👍👍🌹100 %100
They don't like each other...
Seaweed is a cultural myth for centuries, it does not do anything extreme health wise because if it did women all over the world would be eating it.
No, it is not a cultural myth. It contains fiber and nutrients which are helpful to new mothers. Women in many other countries do not eat seaweed. Korean food is not familiar to everyone despite its recent popularity.
She should be more grateful. She was in the hospital where they took care of her and her baby for 10 days. In the U.S you’re sent home after 1-2 days. Also, her husband cooks and cleans for her. She seems to always look at the negative things, not positive.
The US is not really the best model to follow in this case. Childbirth can be very stressful, so mothers should be able to rest afterwards. It’s not pampering to take care of yourself.
Blood circulation
That Girl 😱dont have Her fathers Hair or Her mothers Hair
As a husband you should be understanding not complaining every little thing because everything has a solution...she give birth to your children so be a man stop acting like you're in pain because you don't know how ladies feel after giving birth
What happened to her eyes 🥹
..Suffers from anemia...seaweed is loaded with iron which is good for her.. Needs medical attention though.
She gives some sociopath vibes
Perhaps she is experiencing some postpartum depression 🫥. Why would she say she feels like she has three kids, I watched the other 3 videos on this family, and her husband Gareth was always helping with the cooking and housework.
corcodeil Tears fool 😏
Why is no one talking about what happened to her eye … like someone hit her eye ?
It’s called postpartum swelling. It’s pretty common… childbirth is pretty taxing on the body, and then there is the lack of sleep that comes after.
@@suno8911 pregnancy keeps getting scarier and scarier
There’s something ‘off’ with this guy. He gives off a abusive and controlling type ‘vibe’….
That's my concern completely.
Who wudnt b depressed with a control freak for a husband
Gareth is the good guy but sometimes women are just too emotional in everything!
And men are too unemotional and unloving.
Oh, I don’t like the father very much.