Question : how to deal with elderly care when parents are very dependent and other siblings don’t help - all responsibilities coming on only daughter - sons do nothing
Coming from a 22 y.o I totally agree with Mama Jee when she says that kids these days don’t help with house chores. I believe it’s everyone’s duty in a family to help around the house.
Actually, I agree with your mom today. Why men in our society don’t like to help in house chores? I work & provide Is not an excuse. Because there are working women too especially in the West. I’ve noticed it’s mostly Pakistani men who don’t like helping. So I certainly believe it’s the upbringing. They’ve seen their moms doing everything so they expect they do all. I live in Canada & I have seen all other cultures helping their wives & parents in household chores except Pakistani or someone coming from those cultures where men feel authority & feel ashamed to work. Wajah it’s kindness to help in house chores. Tomorrow your wife would need help too & there would be certain expectations so start getting to it now 😁 For mama g don’t be over protective or over demanding. Let your kids learn. Let them have their experiences. Good or bad, they have to learn on their own. Anxiety won’t solve issues infact they can ruin alot.
I’m loving these podcasts, they’re so relatable it feels like i’m living through a therapy session😂 Wajeeh you’re literally voicing out the frustration of all us asian children. Edit - Also, I agree with Mama Jee here, children should help out in doing the house chores especially even more when your parents are elderly. Whoever you live with whether its your spouse or parents, you are living in the house together and its also your responsibilty to help out such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes as mentioned.
I found myself agreeing with mama jee for the first time - but only in the first half about not getting help around the house lol. The second half brought up triggering memories of getting interrogated by my parents every time I step out the house😭 How old do I have to be for them to be confident that I won’t die just because I’m outside
This week, im only 15 mins in and Im completely with mama ji. Its not okay if elderly parents are taking out the trash and washing dishes while kids are on the sofa. If they're resting from work/school/studies then its okay i guess but def do something every day.
Yes abs right! My brothers have to do the groceries (there are 21&22 years old). Our parents don’t have to do such things, when there are grown childern. There have more energy than our parents. Also it‘s kind of respect & ehsaas karna
Team Wajeeh on this one. What more do you want as a mom? Your son is like a gem, very rare these days. He's become a lawyer as per his moms wish, bought parents a dream home still living with them. How come aiman doesnt help?Mahmood doing his thing which is great too, Wajeeh needs to do same live your life too bro..mom needs to appreciate and be thankful for such an amazing son. Uncle on next pod
For Mama Jeehs question on doing chores around the house. I think it really comes down to how you were raised. I am born and raised in the US, I always grew up helping my mom with chores around the house. My sister is 8 years older and she never helped around the house for anything. I work full time and still help. It just comes down to priorities.
Parents worry because their life is cantered around their kids. Desi parents don’t know how to make that separation, and give their kids space, and for them to have their own interests and hobbies…
ive been watching your podcasts with my mum and honestly we end up arguing and agreeing on some parts its so funny 🤣im 24 and im like this is how i feeeeel and so do the rest of us brown kids 🤣🤣🤣
it’s so funny because i save these podcast episodes for my cleaning days so i can listen to them in the background. so whilst mama jee was complaining about kids these days not cleaning, i was literally cleaning the kitchen😭 meanwhile my mama jee is asleep so just let her know some of us do clean, aab ek jaise nahin hain🥲 love these podcasts! jummah mubarak to you both!💛
Nice talk again! "then just eat grass" Mama jee is so funny mA! Part of the reason why kids these days don't do some chores etc is because parents enable the kids by doing everything for them since they were young so they don't learn to do these things and also don't become accustomed to doing these things as they get older. However as Mama jee explained how she grew up and some other people, they were left by themselves to become independent and learn things by themselves instead of becoming dependent on parents' and therefore they automatically do a lot of these things on their own.
I 100% agree with mama jee on this one. Our parents have sacrificed so much for us, the least we can do is make their lives easier for them buy helping them in the house. Especially if they’re elderly! Even now that i’m married, its still possible to help them. Do their groceries, take food round to them, spend time with them. Its not hard. Plus we get lots of reward for it inshallah ☺️
I wish our parents would understand that when you come from a place of love and respect, especially when your children are adults, we would do the chores willingly or without making a big deal out of it. A lot of us that continue to live with our parents (for whatever reason it is) have to struggle with finding balance in our lives while our parents always want us to pour most of our time/energy into them. It's understandable since you raised us, but growing up in this country we have already struggled a lot as kids, students, teens, and college students being first gen immigrants on our own and it's just so much we can have on our plates. We continue to struggle, some of us having to beg our parents, for personal time or a social life without them reacting negatively. Chores need to be done by everyone in the house imo ( not just the girls, which is a whole other topic as to how sons are daughters are treated so differently.) I don't get when there are grown men/sons in the house who refuse to wash dishes, cook, clean, make their bed, scrub toilets, do laundry etc while the mom/daughters do it no matter what. It's not our job to do so, we are naturally nurturing, but we ALL live here. And if it is our job, kindly pay us accordingly. (:
Im curious as to what mama jees story was to coming to America at such a young age, because even now its still taboo for a "unmarried" women to go alone to even a resturant let alone a comepletely different country in Pakistan.
Please carry on with these, I literally wait for the end of the week to watch a new episode. It’s so diff to usual podcasts it’s educating but also a good laugh to!! U guys are the ultimate duo!! ❤
Agree with mamaji 100% kids do work! #Mamaji make a #rule #nothing #in #the #sink every person who uses any utensil they have to wash & keep it to dry they cannot keep it in the sink. This rule applies to me too. And it has made my life sooo easy because I never have a sink full of dirty dishes. #Agree with #Wajee Mamaji give the kids a little space & Wajee it’s not such a bad thing just to tell your mom when you are going out, put her mind to rest, it’s as simple as that.
MAMJI stop talking about YOUR TIME, what you were allowed to do and not allowed to do. This is 50 years forward from the time you were raised, world has change and so is this generation, you gave birth to them because you wanted to, now let them live their lives and let them enjoy their time, love you.
I think that parents do in built in their children that their studies are important from start then doing chores and then when you start earning that seems itself a big task. so mostly kids do nott end up doing chores when they are older. i am myself a girl and cook and clean on weekends only.
I as an Indian agree with her on that household chore concept. Even I hated the household chores and was heavily pampered since childhood but I try to help parents in whatever way I can coz whatever they are doing is out of love and affection, and we need to respect their efforts and they need their space as well. Your bond with ur parents is exactly the case in our Indian household, as a single daughter to my parents I totally get it, our parents are so much dedicated and worrried for us and the part of checking on u to see if u r okay or not. Not letting me go out much alone😂 and everything else resonated, even I believe that they need to learn the art of detachment for real, and they cannot be so much attached everytime but if u make them understand and revolt, they will eventually give up and learn. Loved this chit chat.
Wajeeh I usually agree with you but unfortunately bro in this instance I don’t. I think parents at the very least have the right to be told where their kids are going because when a cop, God forbid comes knocking on their door about where you are or what’s happened to you, they have to bear that brunt. You’re not living in a hotel where you just check in and check out whenever u want with no formality of Atleast a salaam I’m going out with so and so… these are your parents man… it’s their house. Insha’Allah when you move out you won’t have to acocunt for this, but if you’re married you’ll have to have the decency to tel your wife one day so what is that any different to telling your parents. It’s how relations are built, it’s how trust and communication is structured. Parents are our biggest blessings! When I lost my dad I learnt that the hard way. May Allah SWT protect our parents and give us opportunities to help them because there is nothing we could do to repay them … ever! So small things they ask from us like telling them where we’re going, is the least we can do.
Wajeeh, its hard, not a parent but can relate. It is shaytan’s waswas but also think about this, a child is like your heart walking outside of your body. Its overwhelming and exhausting.
I used to have the same perspective when I was younger ...now as a Mom I get Mama jee totally Would love to see how you rviews change when you become a dad You would be suprised how worried you get Its crazy
With help thing in desi households there is a problem we don’t involve kids at early age so they never offer any help later and when we get exhauster with same routine and complain their attention switches to parents tone or aggression rather the actual problem so problem get ignored
I partially agree with mama jees viewpoint. im a millenial. With south asian family children typically remain in their parents household until theyre married. Whilst we are children they cater for our needs but as we grow into independent adults we do hold a repsonsibility to contribute to the household and give back in a way. I appreciate as working adults after a long day its hard to get to chores etc but its what we would have to do if we lived independently. Almost like training us to be able to run our household. Thats not to say wajeeh hasnt contributed to his household. Its just my general perspective on the matter.
So hard to watch! I grew up in America both parents old fashioned! Extremely protective even didn’t let me pick a college of my choice! Not until I got married I was able to live independently. I am a proud mother of 2 little boys and now I understand why my parents were the way they were! The extent of hardship a father and mother goes through to raise a child! The level of dedication! Financial support! Health concerns parents especially a MOTHER has to put in just for 1 kids is not describable in words! Your mom clearly LOVES you!!!! Boy if she didn’t care lol you would be having a podcast about how your mother is out n about and has never spent a second to worry about you! Kudos to you for getting that law degree however, this woman taught you how to walk TALK and wiped your ass! You owe her for life! The way you speak to her I know your marriage won’t last, no woman and I mean NO woman wants to be told don’t ask me where I am going! You are going to face true relationship challenges if you call this relationship a purest form of love “toxic”. Hope you count your blessings and appreciate and apologize for such disrespect to your mother. My 8 and 11 year old have more respect for me than what’s on display here and my kids are above average in school. Wait til you lose her then you will see her worries and concerns came from love not control. She deserves better!
I am also mother of 4 young children under 15 but I totally support wahjee tone of voice really matters mama jee should be thankful that her children have no physiological problems !!!!
Mashallah it's nice you guys allowing to express and understand each other's point of view. You both are like carbon copy of each other how you speak and using hands while and getting angry but with love.
If you’re still living at home, you have to help take care of the home. That’s how I’ve been doing it and it’s just nice to take care of your parents too who are also getting old and need the extra help.
Not trying to me a old aunty 😂. But I do agree with mama jee. Im an only child and im 21 years old, I do feel for her bc although my mum doesn’t work, I still feel that I should take the responsibility to also take part in house hold chores. If I make something I make sure to make extra even if one parent may have already had food. I offer and make sure that they know there is extra in the fridge. It’s just that small things that can help our parents relax, it’s not about if it’s my job or not but it’s important to make sure that we share the work and ease our parents. My parents deserve the absolute best, with my 9-5 job my income is something I enjoy with my parents. They don’t ask for it, but I pay for food, groceries, and little things. Things just matter. Love the podcast and you both. Bless you. Praying to allah daily for you guys❤.
Cherish that your mom worries about you and looks for you. The day she will not be around and there wont be anyone to ask those questions to you, you will understand and remember her and regret for you attitude towards her.
i agree w/ mama jee. im indonesian, I always tell my parents, at least tell the people at home wherever I go, so that if something happens to me, the people closest to me know quickly where to go and maybe also because I'm a Muslim, getting a blessing is something important so that nothing unwanted happens when we leaving the house
At the end of the day bro, a mother will always worry for their kids regardless of the situation, age, career etc, this is due to their protective nature. We will understand when we become fathers and will miss their nagging when our parents die.
I just Love Chai Talk!! Love you both!! Because these are the things I talk about with my kids(teenagers.). You both are my driving partners as well. I really enjoy your podcast" Chai Talk"while driving ❤❤❤...Keep growing!! Stay blessed and happy,Ameen.
Really enjoy these conversations its also interesting to see the dynamic between you two. It feels like this is a safe space for both mama jee and wajeeh can let out their frustrations wit each other. However I dislike how wajeeh is condescending and is constantly talking over mama jee
Hi Wajeeh, I enjoy your work a lot and I truly believe that the success and fame (particularly regarding videos) you have is because of your mother. She is a strong headed woman, much like my own. Its a bitter sweet relationship one shares with their mother as you love them the most yet you fight with them the most as well. She has seen the world and is growing as well with experiences. When she speaks about her perspective I guess it makes us (particularly the 90s kids) understand why desi mothers are the way they are. Im not saying I would agree with her thinking all the time, but I definitely understand and respect it. Cheers to both you of, especially her. You are a lucky man to have a mother who loves you so much. Take care my man.
Awww thank you mama g for giving parents perspective from old era for that reason kids misunderstood them for their whole life because sometimes they don’t share it or may be they don’t know how to express it ❤
Nothing wrong with helping out around the house. Your parents need a break too. If you’re an adult, and you still expect your parent to pick up after you? Shame on you. Ones you became adults, your parents cooking for you should be a luxury not an entitlement.
Also, Wajeeh, because you’ve bought your parents a home doesn’t exclude you from basic parental act of service and kindness. You always find a way to bring it back to the financial. Mama just wants a break some time.
Just suppose wajeeh God forbid you went out and you told nobody and something wrong( God Forbid) happened to you. Your parents wont know where to find you, where to look for you. I am your age and I understand where mama jee is coming from. My brother goes out and doesn’t tell us where he is going. And if he is late, we get so so worried for his well being honestly.
I’m team mamajee!!!!! I do blame mamajee for not giving kids the skill to do it from a young age. Moms need to teach their kids from a young age to contribute in the house. When they are in 2-8th grade when the homework load isn’t overwhelming add on more responsibilities in the house like how to load a dishwasher, empty it out, fold their own laundry at age 5, make socks pairs, etc…. Eventually you Don’t help your mom…. You make it your responsibility to take on something in the house without being told. Once you acquire the skill there’s not much teaching to do. You see dishes, go ahead and load dishwasher, you see mess on floor pick it up. It doesn’t have to be a chore
i agree so much with mama jee as the oldest in my house i dont understand why my siblings dont help out in the house when i was there age and still at my grown age i still help but the younger siblings they act like its a burden on them subhallah
I do a lot of what mama jee is talking about, but if parents want us to continue and motivate us to make them happy, be appreciative, if we clean show appreciarion
As a mom, when u have birthed and raised a child to this day, in the world we live in today it is not a safe place, all it takes is wrong place wrong time and seconds for something happen, you dont want to think like this but naturally when you are watching the most beloved precious ppl go away into this world its uncomfortable and your heart becomes uneasy, your mom just knows what this world is today x
46:07 wajeeh mama jee has a point here and when she asks you is because she's worried i know it's the approach but try to understand her if she can't understand you
"Less oil" "Dont cook food thats not healthy" tbh i was like that until i was the one who had to cook for my diet (after getting married ) whilst cooking for everyone else at home .... its hard cooking 2 different meals , tab koi bhi khana chalega
I agree with mamajee on this. if you live in the same house you should contribute. I dont even like the word "help" because it sounds like you're doing your mother a favor. And yea, if you are already cooking for yourself, you can just make a bigger quantity of it and feed your entire family, right? I mean it's not like it takes more effort.
awww i love the part where wajeeh reassures his mom that she’s the reason why people watch them and they’re ‘one’ that was so cute wajeeh thank you! we love you mama jee 🥹🥹🥹
Wajeeh u have to understand she is desi mom and all desi mom put her heart and soul in their kids she will worried about u guys till they end of her life take care of her u will find all relationship in this world but parents u can't. She is so pure Love your mom.
Wajeeh you should be thankful that your mother has a life of her own. Appreciate it. She'd be depressed if she was just living in home and qaiting for her kids to give her time
Watching with my 20 year old son and arguing 😂 My son helps a lot Ma’Sha’Allah. My 18 years old son is just like Wajeeh. Even talk like Wajeeh. I am duplicate of mama ji 😂
Nice podcast you have. Been following you for a long time. Love mama g. Much of what mom says that young people don't do and do today is true. You're not wrong either. Today's youth take a lot for granted, your parents have worked hard for you. They have let their desires come after you. They have done a lot for you, asking for respect, time and a little care is not much to ask for. Think that they have spent a lot of time and care for you. We know you are adults, but to us parents you will always be kids. Love from Norway 😍🥰❤️🇳🇴.
Mamma Jee is right in this one, all ppl living in a house should helping take care of the house, if mum and dad where not there you wouldnt let your house become dirty, you would not ignore cooking and starve, these are life tasks that need doing to survive, but this is only learned when mom and dad are not there, it is learned when u have to run your own household and multiple ppl are depending on you, then you wish they helped you, appreciate mama jee now and help her you will get Allahs blessings, you will never understand what mothers go through xx
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get ahmed on here bro
like there was a time yall stopped posting together and like his experience being the oldest
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Question : how to deal with a parent that shows outright favoritism between son versus daughters . How to remain respectful and not take personal.
Question : how to deal with elderly care when parents are very dependent and other siblings don’t help - all responsibilities coming on only daughter - sons do nothing
Coming from a 22 y.o I totally agree with Mama Jee when she says that kids these days don’t help with house chores. I believe it’s everyone’s duty in a family to help around the house.
Speak for yourself 😂 my mum raised me well and instilled good enough values in me lol.
Actually, I agree with your mom today. Why men in our society don’t like to help in house chores? I work & provide
Is not an excuse. Because there are working women too especially in the West. I’ve noticed it’s mostly Pakistani men who don’t like helping. So I certainly believe it’s the upbringing. They’ve seen their moms doing everything so they expect they do all. I live in Canada & I have seen all other cultures helping their wives & parents in household chores except Pakistani or someone coming from those cultures where men feel authority & feel ashamed to work.
Wajah it’s kindness to help in house chores.
Tomorrow your wife would need help too & there would be certain expectations so start getting to it now 😁
For mama g don’t be over protective or over demanding. Let your kids learn. Let them have their experiences. Good or bad, they have to learn on their own. Anxiety won’t solve issues infact they can ruin alot.
I’m loving these podcasts, they’re so relatable it feels like i’m living through a therapy session😂 Wajeeh you’re literally voicing out the frustration of all us asian children.
Edit - Also, I agree with Mama Jee here, children should help out in doing the house chores especially even more when your parents are elderly. Whoever you live with whether its your spouse or parents, you are living in the house together and its also your responsibilty to help out such as taking out the trash or doing the dishes as mentioned.
I found myself agreeing with mama jee for the first time - but only in the first half about not getting help around the house lol. The second half brought up triggering memories of getting interrogated by my parents every time I step out the house😭 How old do I have to be for them to be confident that I won’t die just because I’m outside
“Leela bhansali ass” 🤣🤣🤣
This week, im only 15 mins in and Im completely with mama ji. Its not okay if elderly parents are taking out the trash and washing dishes while kids are on the sofa. If they're resting from work/school/studies then its okay i guess but def do something every day.
Yes abs right! My brothers have to do the groceries (there are 21&22 years old). Our parents don’t have to do such things, when there are grown childern. There have more energy than our parents. Also it‘s kind of respect & ehsaas karna
“I can’t translate all this” 🤣🤣🤣
Seriously I’m thinking about the editing as she’s talking 😭😂
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Team Wajeeh on this one. What more do you want as a mom? Your son is like a gem, very rare these days. He's become a lawyer as per his moms wish, bought parents a dream home still living with them. How come aiman doesnt help?Mahmood doing his thing which is great too, Wajeeh needs to do same live your life too bro..mom needs to appreciate and be thankful for such an amazing son. Uncle on next pod
Such a good point. The least they could do is give us some breathing space.
For Mama Jeehs question on doing chores around the house. I think it really comes down to how you were raised. I am born and raised in the US, I always grew up helping my mom with chores around the house. My sister is 8 years older and she never helped around the house for anything. I work full time and still help. It just comes down to priorities.
45:17 your mother is absolutely right that is why it is important to tell parents where you are going. People at your home should know.
Parents worry because their life is cantered around their kids. Desi parents don’t know how to make that separation, and give their kids space, and for them to have their own interests and hobbies…
This is the only podcast I actually chime into asap when a video is released 😭❤️you guys are so funny and i lobe learning about Desi culture 🫶🏾
ive been watching your podcasts with my mum and honestly we end up arguing and agreeing on some parts its so funny 🤣im 24 and im like this is how i feeeeel and so do the rest of us brown kids 🤣🤣🤣
it’s so funny because i save these podcast episodes for my cleaning days so i can listen to them in the background. so whilst mama jee was complaining about kids these days not cleaning, i was literally cleaning the kitchen😭 meanwhile my mama jee is asleep so just let her know some of us do clean, aab ek jaise nahin hain🥲
love these podcasts! jummah mubarak to you both!💛
I do that to lol
Nice talk again! "then just eat grass" Mama jee is so funny mA! Part of the reason why kids these days don't do some chores etc is because parents enable the kids by doing everything for them since they were young so they don't learn to do these things and also don't become accustomed to doing these things as they get older. However as Mama jee explained how she grew up and some other people, they were left by themselves to become independent and learn things by themselves instead of becoming dependent on parents' and therefore they automatically do a lot of these things on their own.
I 100% agree with mama jee on this one. Our parents have sacrificed so much for us, the least we can do is make their lives easier for them buy helping them in the house. Especially if they’re elderly!
Even now that i’m married, its still possible to help them. Do their groceries, take food round to them, spend time with them. Its not hard. Plus we get lots of reward for it inshallah ☺️
This dynamic is tooooo good❤😂 keep em coming! Hope you guys get as much out of this podcast as much we get.❤
I wish our parents would understand that when you come from a place of love and respect, especially when your children are adults, we would do the chores willingly or without making a big deal out of it. A lot of us that continue to live with our parents (for whatever reason it is) have to struggle with finding balance in our lives while our parents always want us to pour most of our time/energy into them. It's understandable since you raised us, but growing up in this country we have already struggled a lot as kids, students, teens, and college students being first gen immigrants on our own and it's just so much we can have on our plates. We continue to struggle, some of us having to beg our parents, for personal time or a social life without them reacting negatively.
Chores need to be done by everyone in the house imo ( not just the girls, which is a whole other topic as to how sons are daughters are treated so differently.) I don't get when there are grown men/sons in the house who refuse to wash dishes, cook, clean, make their bed, scrub toilets, do laundry etc while the mom/daughters do it no matter what. It's not our job to do so, we are naturally nurturing, but we ALL live here. And if it is our job, kindly pay us accordingly. (:
Im curious as to what mama jees story was to coming to America at such a young age, because even now its still taboo for a "unmarried" women to go alone to even a resturant let alone a comepletely different country in Pakistan.
Please carry on with these, I literally wait for the end of the week to watch a new episode. It’s so diff to usual podcasts it’s educating but also a good laugh to!! U guys are the ultimate duo!! ❤
Mama jee is the one and only reason I watch this. She is bomb❤️❤️❤️
Agree with mamaji 100% kids do work!
#Mamaji make a #rule #nothing #in #the #sink every person who uses any utensil they have to wash & keep it to dry they cannot keep it in the sink.
This rule applies to me too. And it has made my life sooo easy because I never have a sink full of dirty dishes.
#Agree with #Wajee Mamaji give the kids a little space & Wajee it’s not such a bad thing just to tell your mom when you are going out, put her mind to rest, it’s as simple as that.
MAMJI stop talking about YOUR TIME, what you were allowed to do and not allowed to do. This is 50 years forward from the time you were raised, world has change and so is this generation, you gave birth to them because you wanted to, now let them live their lives and let them enjoy their time, love you.
Loving the content, can you host one with your father one day. Would love to hear his perspective on similar topics
Love the podcast! But desi food really isn’t that unhealthy, if you reduce the oil then it’s actually a lot healthier than other cuisines
I think that parents do in built in their children that their studies are important from start then doing chores and then when you start earning that seems itself a big task. so mostly kids do nott end up doing chores when they are older. i am myself a girl and cook and clean on weekends only.
I as an Indian agree with her on that household chore concept. Even I hated the household chores and was heavily pampered since childhood but I try to help parents in whatever way I can coz whatever they are doing is out of love and affection, and we need to respect their efforts and they need their space as well. Your bond with ur parents is exactly the case in our Indian household, as a single daughter to my parents I totally get it, our parents are so much dedicated and worrried for us and the part of checking on u to see if u r okay or not. Not letting me go out much alone😂 and everything else resonated, even I believe that they need to learn the art of detachment for real, and they cannot be so much attached everytime but if u make them understand and revolt, they will eventually give up and learn. Loved this chit chat.
I love watching thissss!! Though Wajeeh gotta admit Mama Jee had some solid points this podcast!! 😂💯
I've been waiting for the new episode all week! 🎉 So excited, this is my favorite podcast!
😂😂😂 "You need to respect him from head to toe"
Because they work .
"Who tells you to cook" Literally my every response to my mum
Wajeeh I usually agree with you but unfortunately bro in this instance I don’t. I think parents at the very least have the right to be told where their kids are going because when a cop, God forbid comes knocking on their door about where you are or what’s happened to you, they have to bear that brunt. You’re not living in a hotel where you just check in and check out whenever u want with no formality of Atleast a salaam I’m going out with so and so… these are your parents man… it’s their house. Insha’Allah when you move out you won’t have to acocunt for this, but if you’re married you’ll have to have the decency to tel your wife one day so what is that any different to telling your parents. It’s how relations are built, it’s how trust and communication is structured. Parents are our biggest blessings! When I lost my dad I learnt that the hard way. May Allah SWT protect our parents and give us opportunities to help them because there is nothing we could do to repay them … ever! So small things they ask from us like telling them where we’re going, is the least we can do.
35:33 Whenever mama jee says ummmm it reminds me of trish paytas saying mmmm at the end of every sentence 😂
I definitely agree kids should help out esp if theyre living at home. We all work and have our responsibilities but shud still help out
Wajeeh, its hard, not a parent but can relate. It is shaytan’s waswas but also think about this, a child is like your heart walking outside of your body. Its overwhelming and exhausting.
I love your phrase , child is like your heart walking outside of your body ❤❤❤
This conversation really gives perspective of our desi parents background and thought process.. ❤
I used to have the same perspective when I was younger ...now as a Mom I get Mama jee totally Would love to see how you rviews change when you become a dad You would be suprised how worried you get Its crazy
Enjoyed this episode. Thank you f9r being so open ,transparent and vulnerable. This helps.
amazing episode as always wajeeh! appreciate the effort you put into these and wishing you lots of success
I look forward to these podcasts every week! They’re really good
With help thing in desi households there is a problem we don’t involve kids at early age so they never offer any help later and when we get exhauster with same routine and complain their attention switches to parents tone or aggression rather the actual problem so problem get ignored
I partially agree with mama jees viewpoint. im a millenial. With south asian family children typically remain in their parents household until theyre married. Whilst we are children they cater for our needs but as we grow into independent adults we do hold a repsonsibility to contribute to the household and give back in a way. I appreciate as working adults after a long day its hard to get to chores etc but its what we would have to do if we lived independently. Almost like training us to be able to run our household. Thats not to say wajeeh hasnt contributed to his household. Its just my general perspective on the matter.
Desi families are way too enmeshed, it gets harder after marriage. As a millennial I break this cycle.
Seriously….. I only watch this for Mama Jee …. She is so funny. May Allah grant all her wishes , Ameen ❤
So hard to watch! I grew up in America both parents old fashioned! Extremely protective even didn’t let me pick a college of my choice! Not until I got married I was able to live independently.
I am a proud mother of 2 little boys and now I understand why my parents were the way they were!
The extent of hardship a father and mother goes through to raise a child! The level of dedication! Financial support! Health concerns parents especially a MOTHER has to put in just for 1 kids is not describable in words!
Your mom clearly LOVES you!!!! Boy if she didn’t care lol you would be having a podcast about how your mother is out n about and has never spent a second to worry about you! Kudos to you for getting that law degree however, this woman taught you how to walk TALK and wiped your ass! You owe her for life!
The way you speak to her I know your marriage won’t last, no woman and I mean NO woman wants to be told don’t ask me where I am going! You are going to face true relationship challenges if you call this relationship a purest form of love “toxic”. Hope you count your blessings and appreciate and apologize for such disrespect to your mother.
My 8 and 11 year old have more respect for me than what’s on display here and my kids are above average in school.
Wait til you lose her then you will see her worries and concerns came from love not control. She deserves better!
Wajeeh you are wrong, it's respect if you just tell them where u are going.
It's for safety reasons, n it doesn't matter if you tell her where are u?
Oh this is so true. I am watching this as my parents go for a dinner and I sit home and still get yelled.
I am also mother of 4 young children under 15 but I totally support wahjee tone of voice really matters mama jee should be thankful that her children have no physiological problems !!!!
Mashallah it's nice you guys allowing to express and understand each other's point of view. You both are like carbon copy of each other how you speak and using hands while and getting angry but with love.
If you’re still living at home, you have to help take care of the home. That’s how I’ve been doing it and it’s just nice to take care of your parents too who are also getting old and need the extra help.
Not trying to me a old aunty 😂. But I do agree with mama jee. Im an only child and im 21 years old, I do feel for her bc although my mum doesn’t work, I still feel that I should take the responsibility to also take part in house hold chores. If I make something I make sure to make extra even if one parent may have already had food. I offer and make sure that they know there is extra in the fridge. It’s just that small things that can help our parents relax, it’s not about if it’s my job or not but it’s important to make sure that we share the work and ease our parents. My parents deserve the absolute best, with my 9-5 job my income is something I enjoy with my parents. They don’t ask for it, but I pay for food, groceries, and little things. Things just matter. Love the podcast and you both. Bless you. Praying to allah daily for you guys❤.
Cherish that your mom worries about you and looks for you. The day she will not be around and there wont be anyone to ask those questions to you, you will understand and remember her and regret for you attitude towards her.
i agree w/ mama jee. im indonesian, I always tell my parents, at least tell the people at home wherever I go, so that if something happens to me, the people closest to me know quickly where to go and maybe also because I'm a Muslim, getting a blessing is something important so that nothing unwanted happens when we leaving the house
At the end of the day bro, a mother will always worry for their kids regardless of the situation, age, career etc, this is due to their protective nature. We will understand when we become fathers and will miss their nagging when our parents die.
I just Love Chai Talk!! Love you both!! Because these are the things I talk about with my kids(teenagers.). You both are my driving partners as well. I really enjoy your podcast" Chai Talk"while driving ❤❤❤...Keep growing!! Stay blessed and happy,Ameen.
My story, my kids don't eat my food, same they have a bad habit of eating out. I can relate to you and feel your frustration
Really enjoy these conversations its also interesting to see the dynamic between you two. It feels like this is a safe space for both mama jee and wajeeh can let out their frustrations wit each other. However I dislike how wajeeh is condescending and is constantly talking over mama jee
Hi Wajeeh,
I enjoy your work a lot and I truly believe that the success and fame (particularly regarding videos) you have is because of your mother. She is a strong headed woman, much like my own. Its a bitter sweet relationship one shares with their mother as you love them the most yet you fight with them the most as well. She has seen the world and is growing as well with experiences. When she speaks about her perspective I guess it makes us (particularly the 90s kids) understand why desi mothers are the way they are. Im not saying I would agree with her thinking all the time, but I definitely understand and respect it.
Cheers to both you of, especially her. You are a lucky man to have a mother who loves you so much. Take care my man.
Hahahaha we are ur naukar, we are ur ghulam. This is funny
Excellent pod cast.. ❤❤❤ I think mum just want to be informed when your out ...
Awww thank you mama g for giving parents perspective from old era for that reason kids misunderstood them for their whole life because sometimes they don’t share it or may be they don’t know how to express it ❤
Nothing wrong with helping out around the house. Your parents need a break too. If you’re an adult, and you still expect your parent to pick up after you? Shame on you. Ones you became adults, your parents cooking for you should be a luxury not an entitlement.
Also, Wajeeh, because you’ve bought your parents a home doesn’t exclude you from basic parental act of service and kindness. You always find a way to bring it back to the financial. Mama just wants a break some time.
Wajeeh you are lucky to have a mother who cares for you. Clearly MaMa Jee would give her life for you …. Literally ! Not all mothers are like this
Just suppose wajeeh God forbid you went out and you told nobody and something wrong( God Forbid) happened to you. Your parents wont know where to find you, where to look for you. I am your age and I understand where mama jee is coming from. My brother goes out and doesn’t tell us where he is going. And if he is late, we get so so worried for his well being honestly.
I’m team mamajee!!!!! I do blame mamajee for not giving kids the skill to do it from a young age. Moms need to teach their kids from a young age to contribute in the house. When they are in 2-8th grade when the homework load isn’t overwhelming add on more responsibilities in the house like how to load a dishwasher, empty it out, fold their own laundry at age 5, make socks pairs, etc…. Eventually you Don’t help your mom…. You make it your responsibility to take on something in the house without being told. Once you acquire the skill there’s not much teaching to do. You see dishes, go ahead and load dishwasher, you see mess on floor pick it up. It doesn’t have to be a chore
i agree so much with mama jee as the oldest in my house i dont understand why my siblings dont help out in the house when i was there age and still at my grown age i still help but the younger siblings they act like its a burden on them subhallah
I do a lot of what mama jee is talking about, but if parents want us to continue and motivate us to make them happy, be appreciative, if we clean show appreciarion
maturing is going from how wajeeh thinks to how mama ji thinks especially with the going out part!
Agree with your mom!! Wonderful session. I have a teenage daughter & i can relate this.
I am your follower Mamaji, you are crazy in love with your kids...it's amazing 😍...
Buy a dishwasher!! Life saver, technology can help 😂
As a mom, when u have birthed and raised a child to this day, in the world we live in today it is not a safe place, all it takes is wrong place wrong time and seconds for something happen, you dont want to think like this but naturally when you are watching the most beloved precious ppl go away into this world its uncomfortable and your heart becomes uneasy, your mom just knows what this world is today x
So true about the parents asking where were etc in that way....lol
46:07 wajeeh mama jee has a point here and when she asks you is because she's worried i know it's the approach but try to understand her if she can't understand you
I laughed so hard, that my stomach is aching. You slayed it mama when you were on phone and ignored wajeh…….😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love your conversations! So relatable. I have the same conversations with my children 😂Keep up the good work. Your mom and her spunk 😂😂
"Less oil" "Dont cook food thats not healthy" tbh i was like that until i was the one who had to cook for my diet (after getting married ) whilst cooking for everyone else at home .... its hard cooking 2 different meals , tab koi bhi khana chalega
I agree with mamajee on this. if you live in the same house you should contribute. I dont even like the word "help" because it sounds like you're doing your mother a favor. And yea, if you are already cooking for yourself, you can just make a bigger quantity of it and feed your entire family, right? I mean it's not like it takes more effort.
awww i love the part where wajeeh reassures his mom that she’s the reason why people watch them and they’re ‘one’ that was so cute wajeeh thank you! we love you mama jee 🥹🥹🥹
Wajeeh u have to understand she is desi mom and all desi mom put her heart and soul in their kids she will worried about u guys till they end of her life take care of her u will find all relationship in this world but parents u can't. She is so pure Love your mom.
Mama jee 26:27 speaking facts
I guess every mom is same about worrying for their childrens. My mom don't sleep until my brother is at home.
favorite podcast 😭
Mama jee is amazing the way she gives perspective to parent's behavior and attitude towards us. Love her 💓
If you want to lose weight, just eat grass 😂😂😂😂 Oh I want that cup
I LOVEEE THESEEE WE NEED MORE
i relate to you podcasts even tho not being brown but black
Please buy mama jee a dishwasher
Wajeeh you should be thankful that your mother has a life of her own. Appreciate it. She'd be depressed if she was just living in home and qaiting for her kids to give her time
Hahaha. With this arguments all the time, I wonder why Wajeeh is still living in that house and not packing his bag. 🤣🤣🤣
Beautiful podcast
Watching with my 20 year old son and arguing 😂 My son helps a lot Ma’Sha’Allah. My 18 years old son is just like Wajeeh. Even talk like Wajeeh. I am duplicate of mama ji 😂
😂 Wajeeh I'd very disrespectful
Nice podcast you have. Been following you for a long time. Love mama g. Much of what mom says that young people don't do and do today is true. You're not wrong either. Today's youth take a lot for granted, your parents have worked hard for you. They have let their desires come after you. They have done a lot for you, asking for respect, time and a little care is not much to ask for. Think that they have spent a lot of time and care for you. We know you are adults, but to us parents you will always be kids. Love from Norway 😍🥰❤️🇳🇴.
that's absolutely right, respect to Papa G when it's truly deserved, AllahumaBariklahum!
Mamma Jee is right in this one, all ppl living in a house should helping take care of the house, if mum and dad where not there you wouldnt let your house become dirty, you would not ignore cooking and starve, these are life tasks that need doing to survive, but this is only learned when mom and dad are not there, it is learned when u have to run your own household and multiple ppl are depending on you, then you wish they helped you, appreciate mama jee now and help her you will get Allahs blessings, you will never understand what mothers go through xx
I 100000 agree with Mama ji! Kids should help out with the house chores regardless if your male or female
Lots of love wajeeh and mama ji from Sweden 🇸🇪❤