Should You Get an Epidural..or Not? How to Make the Epidural Decision for Your Labor | Sarah Lavonne

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  • Oh the dilemma! Whether or not you chose to get an epidural, the ultimate goal is to have a happy birth memory. I guide you through how to make the decision about whether or not to get an epidural.
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  • @dianamazlan2285
    @dianamazlan2285 5 ปีที่แล้ว +543

    Can't stand family members who decide for you whether or not you CAN have an epidural. It's always our own choice at the end of the day.

    • @LaVenderlocx
      @LaVenderlocx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Diana Mazlan Sarah is a dope nurse if it where me I would of told them to SHUT UP IM TALKING TO MOM TO BE...NOT MOMS THATS BEEN!!🤬
      Now lets remain calm...☺😷

    • @alauracollis6520
      @alauracollis6520 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I’ve decided to go non epidural, most of my family does not support this decision. So my Aunt has taken it upon herself to be my ‘birth choice guardian’ to keep all of my family off my back.

    • @alauracollis6520
      @alauracollis6520 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ashlie while I see where you’re coming from it’s not that, (from multiple injuries sustained in the military we know that isn’t true) they think it’s stupid of me to be concerned about health effects of epidurals.

    • @ycl2911
      @ycl2911 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I wouldn't pull a tooth without anesthesia so why should I push out a baby without drugs?
      But at the end of day, it is the decision of the person who is giving birth, nobody else!

    • @CuleChick11
      @CuleChick11 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Had a co-worker ask my husband if he was going to let me have an epidural or not. He was an absolute champ and told them he was going to let me have whatever I thought I needed. He said "I'm not the one in pain so I can't really decide what she needs. Her job is to figure that out, and my job is to make sure it happens." Love my guy so much!

  • @juhnesa1
    @juhnesa1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +240

    Love this! The woman who taught our birthing class talked about coping vs. suffering a lot and after 30 hours of labor I very clearly recognized that I had crossed over into suffering. I realized that if I pushed through for the “natural” experience I would have no joy in meeting my son and be too exhausted to be present.
    After the epidural, I slept completely blacked out for three hours and my body progressed rapidly. I went from 4-6 while I slept then was at a 10 about 1.5 hours later.

    • @briannconn2552
      @briannconn2552 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Janessa Orwig 😊

    • @kshirelle
      @kshirelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks for sharing!! Due in 3 weeks & still going back & fort on pain meds. Coping v suffering is a great thing to remember.

    • @mrs.g.35
      @mrs.g.35 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I used hypnobirthing after my induction and did fine even on pitocin until I reached transition. Once I started vomiting during each contraction I was done, it was time to stop suffering and get the epidural. At least I know I could do it next time without that God awful pitocin lol.

    • @raylenegonzales4782
      @raylenegonzales4782 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Always listen to ur body and ur doctor my first son I was in active labor for 40 hours then was told epidural or c section most likely got the epidural had my baby 6 hours later.
      My second son got epidural asap and had him in 7 hours now due in 9 weeks with my 3rd :)

    • @notbeingsarcastic5947
      @notbeingsarcastic5947 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Also if your water has broke I think there is a time limit, if your body cant relax it can put baby in danger so epidural can help avoid a c-section

  • @alexandriakaitlynrauchle9119
    @alexandriakaitlynrauchle9119 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    THANK YOU for calling it pain!!! Because it is! You have such a realistic take on unmedicated birth, and I appreciate that so much because I've done the unmedicated VERY painful delivery! You are truly a blessing to pregnant women, no matter what their preferences!

  • @annadavis7046
    @annadavis7046 5 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I got induced and got an epi, had a 7 hour labor total and it was fantastic. Got to relax and talk to family and rest before pushing. 10/10 will be doing again.

    • @ilovejesus9303
      @ilovejesus9303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Any side effects thereafter

    • @zua240
      @zua240 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      what were side effects like and how long was recovery? Also, did you get a catheter?

    • @kimslice9993
      @kimslice9993 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zua240 I had an induction and an epidural too I was being induced for 4 days so I desperately needed the epidural as for side effects none during birth but shoulder pain and back pain started a few weeks after birth but it since has went away and yes I needed a catheter for recovery

  • @amandafletcher4379
    @amandafletcher4379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    Everyone keeps telling me "omg you're gonna want an epidural" "you just don't know how painful it is" etc.
    ....
    I really don't want an epidural unless I absolutely need one. They're talking about inducing me so depending on how that goes I might need the epidural, who knows. But honestly I hate that people don't just let you make your choice. Either way, I figure everyone should do what works for them. Great vid! ❤

    • @shanequalove2966
      @shanequalove2966 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Amanda Fletcher screw them!!! You are a STRONG WOMAN!!! U got this!!!!😍😍😍😍😍 congratulations and have a safe delivery!!!!!

    • @drac.y2820
      @drac.y2820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I had an induction. It took around 3 hours for the pills that they pushed up my vagina to start working but the labour itself only took 7 hours, but it was extremely painful. My face and fingers went numb and I thought I was going to die XD. I asked for pain meds, but they said it's too late. Breathing exercises didn't work and neither did walking around, it was too sore. But the moment I felt the urge to push, the pain went away. I pushed about 3 times and the baby popped out, not even the tear was really painful. My second baby I am so terrified of re-experiencing the pain again. So I'm watching youtube videos to try and put my mind at ease. This time though I am not doing an induction. So maybe it will be better.

    • @rebekahallen388
      @rebekahallen388 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I've been induced three times and gotten the epidural twice. It didn't work for me. So, with my last one, I went into it knowing that I wasn't going to get it. What really helped me was just staying calm and letting the contractions do their thing. Yes, it hurts but you can do it and if you decide that you do want the epidural after all, get it and have no shame. Do what you need to to get your baby out safely.

    • @88maddiemartin
      @88maddiemartin 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amanda Fletcher i feel the same way

    • @brendasollers9750
      @brendasollers9750 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel you Amanda,I feel the same way.my doctor said I'm getting it like I told him not getting it you don't decide for me

  • @Megannayy
    @Megannayy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    39 weeks in two days and I’m so thankful for your Chanel 🙏🏼 as a first time mom I really needed this

    • @kaykamayy
      @kaykamayy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Megan Renee did you have your baby??☺️

    • @Megannayy
      @Megannayy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Kayla Cortes yes I had him on 11/7/18
      He’s 6lbs 8Oz of perfection, loving every moment of motherhood 👶🏼💙

    • @saralabra7730
      @saralabra7730 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Megan Renee Did you use an epidural?

    • @Megannayy
      @Megannayy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sara Darstein after 39 hours in Labor and not sleeping my Dr. advised me to get it so I could fall asleep, however I didn’t not like it. It made be very uncomfortable worse than feeling the contractions to the point that it made me cry. For my next baby I’m praying for a fast delivery so I won’t need it. I did love labor though so I should be good with out it.

    • @verdugofamilia4724
      @verdugofamilia4724 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Megan Renee saaaame

  • @sadieelizabeth2507
    @sadieelizabeth2507 4 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I have no desire to “experience the pain” AT ALL I’m due in October this is my first pregnancy 🤰 and I’m planning on an epidural birth

    • @michelinethompson4696
      @michelinethompson4696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Get the epidural girl its nothing wrong with it. An epidural was the best decision of my life I thought I was dying LITERALLY FUCKING DYING when I was having contractions. I had to coach myself through it. All these women want you to be superwoman and for what? Trust me I was told by family members dont have one and if i would have listened I would have suffered for sure. Do what is best for you, not your spouse or family members!! I'm pregnant with my second and I already know I'm getting an epidural lol
      Oh and Congratulations hunnie

    • @anwarsaid9960
      @anwarsaid9960 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Micheline Thompson is Is getting an epidural painful? Please answer me I’m terrified😭😭

    • @michelinethompson4696
      @michelinethompson4696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@anwarsaid9960 No the contractions are so bad you dont even feel it nor are you worried about any needle

    • @ciararivera1280
      @ciararivera1280 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I feel you in due too in October 😭. But I’m terrified of needles to the max. I freak out. It’s a huge fear of mine so I don’t even know what to do.

    • @sadieelizabeth2507
      @sadieelizabeth2507 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ciara Rivera I’m kinda scared of needles too and I’m not looking forward to the epidural but I know I want one. I think since it numbs after it will be better to have it than be without but that’s just my thought. All births are amazing

  • @BridgetTeyler
    @BridgetTeyler 5 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    My contractions weren't really painful as much as they were intense pressure... I think a lot of the "pain" that comes from contractions is our mind not resting through contractions to fully allow our bodies to work that baby out. All the research that I've done told me that the more we rest and be calm through contractions the easier and quicker your labor can go. I can definitely attest to that truth! First baby, all natural, no epidural, only labored 6 hours and pushed for 15 minutes! At one point I thought I needed an epidural mostly because I was exhausted; not from the pain of the contractions. I'm thankful for epidurals in circumstances where women really really need them though. Also, PENNY SIMKIN IS THE BOMB! I loved reading The Birth Partner. It helped me more than my husband! Haha

    • @xkokonati
      @xkokonati 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I found my contractions more intense pressure as well rather then pain

    • @nourhafez2531
      @nourhafez2531 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      What do you mean by intense pressure rather than pain? I'm 34 weeks and I'm trying the get know all things releted to birthgiving and so. Thanks 💗

    • @BridgetTeyler
      @BridgetTeyler 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Nour Hafez the pain mainly happens when you tense your body up when contractions come on. The more relaxed you are the easier the contractions are! Check this video out about pain and tension during labor m.th-cam.com/video/c1UcxSUDNP4/w-d-xo.html

    • @mymak-jq1hy
      @mymak-jq1hy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Everyone is different. How it feels for you is much different than what others may feel.

    • @inalaska1208
      @inalaska1208 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Umm maybe maybe not. I had my third last year and the contractions where not painful but where pressure. However she was my first baby to come out the "right" direction. My older childern where both Sunny side up babies and I had awful back labor they were painful contractions and the babies where not engaging properly due to there position. The contractions we're literally 60-90 seconds apart (from start to start) and 45 seconds long for hours. There was no rest period other then a single breath. After 20 hours with the first and only being at 6 cm we got an epi saved me because had another 16 hours to go and I need to be able to rest.

  • @Carrielooo
    @Carrielooo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    The pain vs. suffering explanation is the best thing I’ve ever heard. Thank you so much for this video! I have been somewhat wrestling with the idea of needing an epidural when the day comes, and you totally put my mind at ease.

    • @denaimullet8427
      @denaimullet8427 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Carrie Koster had an epidural with my son. The bones in my back are funny apparently so I ended up getting stuck twice.Wasn’t as painful as I though I’d be. I ended up with a c-section though.

  • @DreamDeeply37
    @DreamDeeply37 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I wasn’t 100% against an epidural. I wanted to try to go without but if I needed it, I would get it. My daughter was stuck behind my cervix and my OB was reaching up(sorry, TMI) trying to turn her. It was so painful. I wasn’t just in pain, I was suffering. I decided to go for the epidural but I told them I only wanted a little bit and I would add more if needed. It was awesome. I could still feel everything except for the pain! I could feel pressure of my OB, and the nurses/my husbands hands on my legs, the contractions coming on and even the need to push. When I started to feel pain again, I asked for a tiny bit more and they gave me a tiny bit more. If you don’t want to go completely numb because you don’t want it to ruin your birth experience(which is what I was nervous about), insist on less!!!! They gave me half of what they usually give people. I am smaller so half might not work at all for you but just be sure that they know what YOU want. Don’t let them use their status as a doctor to talk you down. Also, the epidural calmed me down a LOT which also made the birthing easier. DO NOT LET PEOPLE DISCOURAGE YOU FROM DOING WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY! I had a horrible experience with my last birth and this one was so much better because I spoke up for myself! Also, watch Sarah’s breathing video!!! That helped a ton!

  • @staciguerrette5248
    @staciguerrette5248 5 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    You should make a video about what happens to the placenta after birth (second birth) as well as testings done on the placenta and baby

  • @alexburgess4527
    @alexburgess4527 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I love your style. Thank you so much for these videos. I’m 40+2 and waiting for this to get going! Your point about suffering and soul suffering is a good one. There is a huge difference between an experience of pain that you can step back from and observe and the experience of suffering that is all encompassing and gnaws at your heart. Keep being awesome!

  • @shegs1257
    @shegs1257 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I live in Spain and no where near me speaks English and my Spanish is not good enough to attend the local antenatal classes. But with your channel I have learnt so much and what a great idea with your business online. I will be checking it out- thank you

  • @lboyd5862
    @lboyd5862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Okay... I can't stop looking at your hair!! I love it!

  • @LisaLee123
    @LisaLee123 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I don't know how I found your channel but I'm glad I did. I'm almost 8 months pregnant and binging on your videos.

  • @joanaramas7450
    @joanaramas7450 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    There's this discrimination with women ending up getting a painless delivery or a Csection. I love Sarah for not discounting anyone's pain.

    • @Lolee56
      @Lolee56 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Joana Ramas women who bash on women who have c sections epidurals are just losers honestly

    • @beth90
      @beth90 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Joana Ramas discrimination happens against women who have “natural” births too, believe it or not. I had a 100% unmedicated water birth, and the second I talk about my experience I’m automatically seen as “holier than thou” by so many people. I attend a local mom’s group in my town and I’m also part of a community for mothers online - I can’t mention my daughter’s birth without eyerolls and comments like “you know you don’t get a medal for going natural” ... I’m like I know lol I have never once asked for a medal, nor do I believe in any way, shape, or form that I’m better than women who have epidurals or get c-sections. It’s sad that I can’t talk about my birth experience, express my feelings about it, or show any evidence that I’m proud of it without other women getting offended and/or believing that I’m on some high horse. Shouldn’t we all be proud of bringing life into the world? I sure as heck am, and I would hope that everyone else is as well. My experience is my experience, your experience is your experience. There’s no reason for me to be offended by yours, and there’s no reason for you to offended by mine 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @neb-roqket8739
      @neb-roqket8739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@beth90 well its wrong but I'm sure woman do it out of defense, for YEARS woman who didnt have natural birth got shamed and ridiculed. Woman who have had natural birth rub it in your face and literally say "you and your baby will never have that true special connection". So Woman have just learned to stand up for themselves for being shamed of not being "woman" enough.

    • @hithere141
      @hithere141 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It's like people want us to feel the pain and suffer. Were told to have a painful birth without drugs instead of epidural or c section. I'm sick of it

    • @hithere141
      @hithere141 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      C section is painless. At least your numbed and under anesthesia the whole time

  • @aaachika
    @aaachika 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Watching this video totally changed my mind! I'm nearly 38 weeks now, and I am so scared on giving especially listening to experiences by nearest family members. And TEARING part is the scariest of all. But listening to your video that it is a good pain, anything that your body is doing is kind of exercise, preparing you for your greatest i.e. your baby is soo comforting. I am now changing myself to positive mode for everything to come, including tearing. If that really happens, then still it's gonna be worth it. Thank you so much for your advice! 😘

  • @HankAndHolly
    @HankAndHolly 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Beautifully put! I’m excepting my third and I’m still 50/50 on pain meds. This was sooo helpful! Thank you!

  • @pascalepascale4398
    @pascalepascale4398 5 ปีที่แล้ว +144

    Having birthed 3 children , the first of which was with an epidural and the subsequent two with zero medication, I feel that the only horror story was with the epidural. That entire experience and the effects after giving birth and the long painful recovery.... horrendous. By contrast my two natural unmedicated water births were indeed the best most rewarding and most amazing days of my life so far.

    • @EtherealMermaid8
      @EtherealMermaid8 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      P H I swear, same experience. The recovery after natural birth was so much easier and the experience was better. I felt so drowsy with the epi.

    • @annadavis7046
      @annadavis7046 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I got induced and got an epi, had a 7 hour labor total and it was fantastic. Got to relax and talk to family and rest before pushing. 10/10 will be doing again.

    • @kaylamcmahon8648
      @kaylamcmahon8648 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can’t wait! No pain medicine yay!

    • @chumpeesworld8973
      @chumpeesworld8973 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I absolutely agree..

    • @sadieesther9721
      @sadieesther9721 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Pascale Pascale I’ve only heard bad experiences about them! I don’t want to get one

  • @Marcellestanley23
    @Marcellestanley23 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm a new subscriber to this channel and I love your videos! I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child and I had natural unmedicated births with both but your videos are so informing and interesting and I love that sense of humor! 😁❤️

  • @budgetnutritionist
    @budgetnutritionist 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is so helpful!! Thank you for sharing the pain/coping vs. suffering concept!

  • @ashleyarneson8328
    @ashleyarneson8328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You hear this all the time! So informative, thanks Sarah!!!!!

  • @GRichardsonMusic
    @GRichardsonMusic 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I wish I could like this more than once. Super uplifting!! I’m being induced on Sunday and this is incredibly helpful.

  • @jessdontdoit
    @jessdontdoit 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for creating this channel and the videos, I'm currently 7 1/2 months pregnant with my first child and they have really helped me further educate me ❤️

  • @sacredsiren
    @sacredsiren 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video was so helpful... women need advocates and educators like you, this is so important... so often we try so hard to meet other people's expectations, especially when it is family... it has to be about your personal wellbeing, and sometimes we need someone to step in and remind us of this.

  • @dansu9385
    @dansu9385 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    changing the mindset is terrific advice. Bring it on! I'm 37 weeks today and am so looking forward to the delivery!

  • @briannconn2552
    @briannconn2552 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Great video! I have watched sooooo many!!! Mama of 6, birth coach, and labor support person 👍🏻 love mamas and birth and love all your information!!!

  • @diamondaleese
    @diamondaleese 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are amazing!! Thank you for all of your wisdom and encouragement. ♥️

  • @yorkshireseamstress
    @yorkshireseamstress 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We can’t thank you enough for your informative videos! Im going to be a first time mum soon and your vids have helped me so much! Thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge and give me a clear understanding of what to expect 💓

  • @amytownsend6491
    @amytownsend6491 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was so helpful! Thank you so much! I’ve learned so much from your videos and they’ve really helped prepare and calm me down for labor. I’m 39w5d and just waiting for everything to get started! ❤️

  • @hildakemy
    @hildakemy 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ah, I love your videos!!! You're so compassionate. I'm 17 weeks and trying to mentally prepare for birth. My first birth, I ended up taking an epidural and it was the most amazing feeling, but I also wouldn't trade the hours of intense labor and pain that led up to that point. I ❤️ how you empower women. To make their own choices with no judgment 😇.

  • @LibbyRoseITM
    @LibbyRoseITM 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this! I'm doing hypnobirthing and a lot of the things link really well with what your videos express :)

  • @yuliyapike669
    @yuliyapike669 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was brilliant. So many other epidural vs no epidural videos are more of a comparison of cons and pros BUT I have never heard of it explained so simply. Love this. Much needed video. Thanks Sarah

  • @charlissaberry2391
    @charlissaberry2391 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    For me when I was having my first child I tried to go without pain medication but I got so uncomfortable with pain that I was puking and crying from the pain, so I got the epidural and was so happy that I did because the rest of my labor went smoothly was much more special and stress free.

  • @toriiinicolette
    @toriiinicolette 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    35 weeks and this was definitely a much needed video for a first time mom

  • @meganmaria24
    @meganmaria24 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    WOW! This has been literally the most informative most important video I’ve watched so far and I’m 5-6mths pregnant ! THANK YOU SOO MUCH! Ugh wish you were my nurse !

  • @jessicapatchett6161
    @jessicapatchett6161 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this! I really appreciate your informative and neutral video on epidurals. It seems there are a lot of videos that demonize epidurals, and it’s so refreshing to see your video. I love that you explain that it really depends on what kind of experience you want, and that both an unmedicated birth or using an epidural are generally safe options. Can’t thank you enough for putting this out there.

  • @michelleturcotte141
    @michelleturcotte141 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This has been one of the most helpful videos I have watched on the "epidural question". Thank you so much!

  • @marieloa5119
    @marieloa5119 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this was the best and I really mean the BEST epidural video I've watched on youtube so far. Everything else I've seen was natural birth this, natural birth that and if you end up with an epidural that's okay but none of them helped me make my mind up on the bounderies I'd like to set for myself and my wellbeing, thanks for that, I'm a lot more confidant now

  • @katieg970
    @katieg970 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love the P. A. I. N acronym thank you :)

  • @nennyferfer2969
    @nennyferfer2969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Seriously tear’d up that her “soul hurt!” Thanks for this video, truly.

  • @celinehanson3523
    @celinehanson3523 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video is so helpful! Thank you so much for posting.

  • @marabookstagram
    @marabookstagram 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    If you're planning to deliver unmedicated, I'd highly recommend reading a lot about labor and watching positive birth videos! It helped me mentally prepare for it. That being said, you really never know what to expect with a first labor. It is a real, grueling marathon! If you end up having pitocin administered, I'd recommend an epidural as the contractions are a lot more intense.
    I'm 33 weeks now with my second and will plan to labor naturally until it is uncomfortable and then get an epidural. I'd like to be able to rest until it's time to push. With my first birth, the transition contractions were incredibly intense and took a lot out of me, so pushing took a really long time. I wish I'd been able to rest!

    • @brendasollers9750
      @brendasollers9750 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Iam 36 weeks and my first baby and it's a 💙💙💙

  • @lanabear2707
    @lanabear2707 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The explanation about pain vs suffering just lifted the clouds for me!! Thank you! I was sure I was going to get an epidural, then not sure as I've been doing so much prep work and feeling better about it, now I know - I'll make the decision when I get there! If all I feel is pain and I can manage it with breathing, mental clarity, and positioning then great, if I feel an emotional heavy and soul hurting emotion - which I can easily recognize then epidural it is!! Thank you!!

  • @Chelsea1987ism
    @Chelsea1987ism 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had to pose the video just to say, i love your positive spirit and empowering women to own those contractions! I think i just found my new favourite channel but for the next 5 weeks or so as i prepare for my VBAC...SOOOO yesssss, bring those contractions on!!!!

  • @KatrinaMarie
    @KatrinaMarie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This video was SO helpful. I almost started crying when you were talking about suffering vs pain and your mental health. I relate to that so much. Thank you for making me feel so much better about my experience with having my daughter (almost a year ago). ❤️ binging your videos!

  • @alexiswoodall792
    @alexiswoodall792 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Omg I love your videos! I have been having soooo much anxiety about giving birth. This is my first baby, I’m half way through, and you make me feel sooo much better ❤️❤️ Love love love!

  • @emilyrobinson9092
    @emilyrobinson9092 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Also just wanted to say the more educated you are making me the less afraid I am. Thank you!

  • @vikavika5636
    @vikavika5636 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you! This has really put in perspective all the contradicting advices I have been given.

  • @atDrinkH2o
    @atDrinkH2o 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I had an epidural and I still felt EVERYTHING. This includes me screaming" I'm in the ring of fire." I'm now 33 weeks with my second amd just going to decide in the moment if I can manage or not. Personal choice always

  • @jessicac.8288
    @jessicac.8288 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love everything about this video! Thank you for all the information and for being so amazing!

  • @laurenalmeyda6916
    @laurenalmeyda6916 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    My first birth was completely natural. I planned a natural birth and since we were at home, we didn't have the option for an epidural. It was a very long and PAINFUL process and if I were in a hospital, I would have been begging for an epidural. Second birth was also natural (silly me) but ended up needing to go to the hospital for an emergency situation and getting an epidural (and eventually a c-section). The difference between natural birth and having an epidural is EPIC. I'm pregnant with my third and I'm planning on getting an epidural!!

  • @ChristalBrownTv
    @ChristalBrownTv 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your videos.. new subbie.. thank you for this!

  • @aisyah8910
    @aisyah8910 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg I’ve never thought of this... thank youuuu, 5 more weeks!!

  • @N3r1k0
    @N3r1k0 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this! "Yass bring it on!"

  • @Natasha-tu5qs
    @Natasha-tu5qs ปีที่แล้ว

    Your description of pain/coping vs suffering was very apropos. I went through a relatively speedy unmedicated 1st labour and delivery a couple of months ago. Happily I felt the pain was endurable up until we went to the hospital, at which point I was fully dilated anyway. But had that not been the case I was ready to have an epidural. So I would really encourage all expectant mothers to stay flexible and just see how things progress and how well they are coping.

  • @mariaragaoprates.
    @mariaragaoprates. 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg, when I have a baby I’m so going to call you 😂❤️ seriously, you are so positive, and makes me feel better about labor

  • @AliceHasenkohl
    @AliceHasenkohl 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is super insightful!

  • @shaddiawalton9712
    @shaddiawalton9712 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You look extra pretty in this vid and your hair looks glorious!

  • @The_mrs86
    @The_mrs86 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I’m currently 35.3 weeks with second child. I had an epidural with the first with no problems and plan on having an epidural with my current. Thanks for all the great info!

  • @mrsmutawa6210
    @mrsmutawa6210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    It was crazy when i had my natural birth. I was thinking (Epidural) during the contractions but (wow that’s easy) in between them. I managed to go natural all the way and I enjoyed it.

    • @bkbeya77711
      @bkbeya77711 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can u request it if u can't handle contractions?

    • @suelaamisandwich
      @suelaamisandwich ปีที่แล้ว

      This is exactly how I felt. The breaks in between contractions made it possible. Once it got to the point where the contractions were super close and basically unbearable, it was time to push.

  • @chantelle7275
    @chantelle7275 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video blessed me so much!! Hope it's ok to give you a mention in my blog newsletter. 😊 I loved everything you said.

  • @liz99dk
    @liz99dk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    For medical reasons, I couldn’t have an epidural- I would have tried without one anyway, but I really think that it not being an option made laboring that much easier. Knowing that I didn’t have any other option, I wasn’t constantly thinking about “is this the worst pain, do I need to go with an epidural” and I was able to take my labor one contraction at a time. And it was STILL the most amazing thing I have ever done in my life and I have all good positive feelings about it. I also had an amazing midwife and doula, which doesn’t hurt 😊

    • @rebekahallen388
      @rebekahallen388 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      May I ask why you can't get one? I've had two births with and one without. Based on my experiences, I'm a big fan of going without. I'm just curious.

  • @iloveucarolinee
    @iloveucarolinee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I’m always scared that by the time I decided wether I’m suffering or in pain, it will be too late to ask for epidural 😩

  • @charlottemeyseman7834
    @charlottemeyseman7834 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video helped me so much! Thank you.

  • @nicoleagostorodriguez5007
    @nicoleagostorodriguez5007 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    OMG you are awesome, I am new subscriber looking for baby #2, not pregnant yet, my first labor was HORRIBLE, I tear so badly I do want an epidural with my second. I love the way you talk. I am going to watch every single video in your channel

  • @littleomissoash1
    @littleomissoash1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Your videos make me feel more prepared and less scared of giving birth. Which honestly idk if it just hasn't hit me yet or what but I havent had that terrified feeling. I'm 100% sure my husband is more scared than me and he's usually the calm and collected one. Maybe I should force him to watch your videos... you should do a video for partners if you havent already!

  • @ntntntntnt
    @ntntntntnt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I really wanted an epidural but I didn’t have time. My contractions were very painful but were not close together. They were about 7-10 minutes apart. The closest one was 6 minutes apart as my husband called the hospital letting them know we were coming in and lied about the contractions being 5 mins apart for an hour. I’m glad we lied and went to the hospital because I was 10 cms when they checked me in the ER. It was crazy. The last contraction I timed was 6 minutes apart and my daughter was born 45 minutes later. So glad I didn’t follow the 5-1-1 rule or I would’ve had her in my bathroom.

    • @wioletaw7682
      @wioletaw7682 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg. Was this your first baby?

    • @ntntntntnt
      @ntntntntnt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wioleta W second baby. First was induced.

    • @wioletaw7682
      @wioletaw7682 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh, maybe that's why it went faster. You really scared me though because here where I live (Poland) they actually send you back home very often if they decide you're not dilated enough (3-4cm according to them) and I might not make it back in time if the labor progresses....,especially in the rush hours... :) Well... :)

    • @queenc8280
      @queenc8280 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Woah OMG! I'm 33 weeks pregnant now, and depending on that rule but now I'm not sure if I should :/

  • @kristinbaker8310
    @kristinbaker8310 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow, this was VERY helpful. Thank you.

  • @Emmy.D97
    @Emmy.D97 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    This video definitely helped me through my labor without an epidural. I kept asking myself if I was truly suffering or just experiencing pain, and before I knew it, that question made me get to 10 cm! When I was in transition, I had so much pressure and pain that I asked for an IV med that put me right to sleep. I woke up and dealt with every contraction, but fell right to sleep once it was over. I woke up at one point said “I NEED TO PUSH” lol ,and sure enough, I was ready. I definitely would recommend that iv med to anyone just wanting to take the edge off, but not get the full epidural.

    • @evaherrera160
      @evaherrera160 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Emily De Naples does the IV med affect the baby at all?? I believe I read somewhere that the medicine could reach the baby but not do damage it’s just a con they had listed but I don’t want the epidural at all

    • @zzevonplant
      @zzevonplant 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@evaherrera160 Yeah, it definitely can affect the baby, but it basically just makes them sorta sleepy, it's not a huge deal. Because the baby only gets a proportional baby-dose of it because of the way your body processes it, so it's not like the baby is getting a large amount of the medication. If they were, hospitals wouldn't give it to anyone, ever.
      And a lot of the time, the point at which the give you the IV pain meds is early enough that, by the time the baby is actually out, they're not really sleepy anymore anyway.
      If it worries you, talk to your doctor about it, but, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

    • @euniceann5645
      @euniceann5645 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Was it during your first birth?

    • @courtneylee5633
      @courtneylee5633 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don’t you miss the whole pregnancy experience if your half asleep? The epidural just takes away pain doesn’t put you to sleep. Just wondering

    • @mircidansowaa4442
      @mircidansowaa4442 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Courtney Lee a lot of women don’t want to have their pregnancy turn into a whole medical event. An epidural changes your entire labor

  • @mariatsaturova7003
    @mariatsaturova7003 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Came to this video looking to learn more about epidurals, I’m 33 weeks pregnant and have had the mindset that I kind of want to experience an unmedicated childbirth, but also thinking that maybe getting an epidural might be a good option too. Most women I know that have had kids had epidurals, and they kind of look at me funny when I say I don’t really plan on getting one. After watching this video I feel inspired again to opt out of it :) I love how you distinguish pain and suffering, that just makes so much sense. And I like how you approached this positively. Originally I didn’t want an epidural because I thought the potential side effects of it may outweigh the benefits for me personally, but after watching this video, the idea of the epidural was “undemonized” in my mind lol. Thank you so much for the informative video!

  • @NikholaRichter
    @NikholaRichter 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just had my baby a week ago, she is my second and i was far more confident in knowing how and when to ask for pain relief. My plan A was if i went natural, i would not get an epidural because i wanted that natural, primal experience. My plan B was that if i did need to be induced, i wanted an epidural with the Pitocin. We had to go with plan B, and i was so happy with that decision. The epidural did fail after a while, soooo i ended up with Pitocin and no pain relief, so i got both experiences, and i am thrilled with how it went.

  • @Aztecadr
    @Aztecadr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video. It is so helpful💌

  • @barbarasanchez.andleo
    @barbarasanchez.andleo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Loooooove this video, so glad I found your channel !! :-) I am here at home watching your videos having contractions every 6 min, not sure is pre-labor or not hehe ? It started over an hour ago and has been always kinda every 6 min between 30-1min long I guess. Today's feeling: I was all day particularly very tired and sleepy and haven't felt baby moving as much like usual, but he some days he just does it.

  • @alexmorse3969
    @alexmorse3969 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was incredibly helpful! Best talk on epidurals ever!!! Thank you so much:)

  • @courtneygottlieb5789
    @courtneygottlieb5789 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is by far the best video I've seen on making this decision, thank you so much, Subscribed. I'm due in Feb. With my first.

    • @sarahlavonne
      @sarahlavonne  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yay! Welcome to the family!

  • @gagandeepahluwalia5545
    @gagandeepahluwalia5545 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for the valuable information.

  • @tiarramason4484
    @tiarramason4484 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your hair looks great

  • @aprilrabesca7984
    @aprilrabesca7984 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this u make my heart happy!!!

  • @rutholuwole9742
    @rutholuwole9742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have always wanted an epidural. This video just strengthened my desire to get epidural ASAP

  • @delaneyspaulding5362
    @delaneyspaulding5362 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Can you do a video on maybe other pain management options during labor other than an epidural?

  • @authenticleigh_
    @authenticleigh_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you! I was on the fence with baby # 2 due in 2 weeks and this video was very helpful.

  • @SarahdayZ
    @SarahdayZ 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There’s nothing worse than getting epidural but it doesn’t work… cause you’re left with all the back pain but still had to deliver naturally. Also your hair looks gorgeous in this video

  • @angelheu9376
    @angelheu9376 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm from the US and I have 4 kids. 3 girls and 1 boy. My first 3 girls I got an epidural, the last , my baby boy I didn't get an epidural. The experience was really different with him. I never felt any pain at all with my first 3. And my boy I dialated 10cm with no pain at all. I felt nothing until he was there and ready to come out. But the pain was real. It hurt so bad
    But I loved giving birth. The connection is so real and so strong. And you , I felt so strong after giving birth. I learned to love myself and cherish my woman parts. I would recommend to not get the epidural. Experience the lovepain . Your giving birth to your own flesh. God created us to be amazing to create life and give birth.

  • @Lexlou9523
    @Lexlou9523 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're awesome ! Thank you :)

  • @saved_by_grace7919
    @saved_by_grace7919 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That was so helpful! Thank you !

  • @toxopidtom5199
    @toxopidtom5199 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    "You, woman!" Lol felt like she was talking to me.

  • @almaskhurshid8743
    @almaskhurshid8743 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    In a cutest way u explained it all... loved it...as I'm stuck to choose it right now...to go for painless delivery or natural one....

  • @verogurak4062
    @verogurak4062 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    😂😂😂 the bring it on I love it I really want to love it thank you it is a great video

  • @makaylanicoson235
    @makaylanicoson235 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “ yesss I love this “ 😭😂

  • @Queen-of-the-Burbs
    @Queen-of-the-Burbs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would prefer not have one but I’m open to the possibility. It’s really helpful to be educated on it so that I can make the decision when the time comes.

  • @lynnikki2303
    @lynnikki2303 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I’m due in Feb with my first and at this moment in time, I’m saying no to an epidural. BUT I’m also open to changing my mind when the time comes depending how I feel. NO ONE should tell you that you can or can’t do something. It is YOUR body. They don’t feel your pain.
    If I was that patient, I would’ve kicked my whole family out personally. You’re there for support not to make me suffer.

    • @xomisscaitlinox
      @xomisscaitlinox 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      lyn nikki samw. Baby girl due feb 23. I’m not againsf the drugs but I’m tryin to do it without

    • @thehappysouledwomen7832
      @thehappysouledwomen7832 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m due feb 24th and this is my 4th and all my others I got an epidural and the last time it only worked on my left side... so I’m going to really try to stick it out and not get one. Good luck to you ladies with your labor and delivery ❤️

    • @kayladekraker8917
      @kayladekraker8917 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Reading this 10 months later, what did you end up doing??

    • @lynnikki2303
      @lynnikki2303 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Kayla DeKraker I ended up having an epidural. Was induced because of high blood pressure. After about 9 hours my water broke (on it’s own) and then the contractions moved down to my knees. Regular contractions I could handle. The constant charlie horse pain in my legs, I could not lol.

    • @kayladekraker8917
      @kayladekraker8917 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      lyn nikki thank you for sharing! I’m glad it worked out for you. I’m TTC and have no clue what I’ll end up doing lol

  • @taleagriseta
    @taleagriseta 5 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Birth doesn't have to be painful even without an epidural if you have the right mindset. Look into hypnobirthing. That is the BEST thing I could have done during my pregnancy.

    • @Lovaa85
      @Lovaa85 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I've been hearing about it I'm 34 wks and would love more info about it

    • @taleagriseta
      @taleagriseta 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Lovaa85 Look up The Positive Birth Company. They have TH-cam videos and on their website they have an inexpensive online class you can take. It's super beneficial. Congrats on your new adventure! So exciting! 🤗

    • @PrettyAsAPeach96
      @PrettyAsAPeach96 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did hypnobirthing work for you? I’m hoping to start trying in about a month and i know I’ll be looking into programs like that :)

    • @kitschyd
      @kitschyd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I did hypnobirthing but still needed the epidural 😂 It was helpful but didn’t take away the pain for me. I don’t regret either the hypnobirthing or the epidural!

    • @elenaep703
      @elenaep703 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kitschyd what do you mean it didn't take away the pain ? The epidural is supposed to do exactly that. If it doesn't work then why having it anyway? Just to hurt more?

  • @destinyc1446
    @destinyc1446 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I give birth in like 5 weeks and I am TERRIFIED of labor 😭😭😭even though my pain tolerance is high it’s like I didn’t have a hard life so Is my tolerance really high ? 😂I’m definitely team epidural. No need to suffer if I don’t need too

    • @Ayvid87
      @Ayvid87 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Destiny C I am also 35 weeks pregnant. Have you looked into hypnobirthing? That is what I plan to do to cope with labor. Also, I recommend getting yourself a doula to support you through the entire process.

    • @Biologyjess83
      @Biologyjess83 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Wondering how the births went....

    • @ycl2911
      @ycl2911 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      How did your births go ladies?

    • @toxicteezy8310
      @toxicteezy8310 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Destiny C right 😂😂getting it too

    • @Lex161Lexi
      @Lex161Lexi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣the “I didn’t really have a hard life” part is hilarious and relatable!

  • @intalmdr4627
    @intalmdr4627 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What!? No dislike, I am amazed!

  • @cnukem
    @cnukem 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think besides tearing, the pain is what I fear most. I'm 33 weeks

  • @toxicteezy8310
    @toxicteezy8310 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Definitely getting it this time...

    • @alleytovar1194
      @alleytovar1194 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same after 4 natural births 🤗🤗🤗 but not the epidural a different pain medication

  • @TaylorTatorbugHansen
    @TaylorTatorbugHansen 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really like this video. I received an epidural and I think it helped my body to relax and progress. I was induced due to pre eclampsia and had contractions that wouldnt ease up. I felt like if I could have been able to move or take a bath that I could have lasted longer without one or handled the pain. However, i was hooked up to monitors and an iv which made it hard to move around. The best reason I heard someone say they liked birth without the epidural is because the recovery was better. Best reason ive heard for not getting one. I am all for women giving birth without one if that's what they want, but I dont think we should make women feel bad for getting one if it helps them feel better. You made a good point about mental health and that's the best reason ive heard for getting an epidural.

  • @thecoleclan3209
    @thecoleclan3209 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    loving your videos. I'm a mom of 2 and pregnant now as a gestational surrogate. its been a few years since my last birth (10years) so im trying to freshen up on everything lol...

  • @andreaobeshaw6727
    @andreaobeshaw6727 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have 3 weeks to go (if that) and I'm binging all of your videos 😅 I keep getting pains, but your videos have eased my worries. I plan on having an epidural, I know myself well enough that I wouldn't be able to handle the pain 😅😅