My first child was a biter. I was mortified. A friend of mine who had 5 kids said “I would never blame a parent for having a child that bites. It’s just part of the personality of the child and how they communicate. she will outgrow it.” It was such a blessing to hear that, and I want to pass that onto you. I wouldn’t blame you for his biting habits. As he learns to process and communicate better he will outgrow it ❤️
@@tinasoblessed6350 of course it's always upsetting. But that still doesn't put the blame on the mother. I can almost guarantee that they are mortified.
I am a nursery group teacher and I can say one thing for sure: biting is normal. Your child cannot express his feelings in other way yet. Biting is an easy way for a young child to let the steam out and show the one who's causing his emotions his frustration . It is important to react and show him that you do not like it when he bites you. Have him look at the bit mark and apologized by giving you a hug, but do not focus your attention to much on it. As your child is young as it might also become an easy way for him to get your attention. It is just a phase that many children go through, so do not get upset about it nor take it personally. You're definitely a wonderful job, you need to be very proud of yourself. ❤️
This doesn't teach empathy. It just taught you not to mess with mama or she would hurt you. Sometimes babies get frustrated trying to express a need & bite, other times they need a sensory to be met & need to figure out how to express that need. So of course we should not ignore or hurt them, we should let them know it's inappropriate behavior & guide them on how to tell us (or sign language) what they need. If they are bored & just want to bite, then tell them "I won't allow you to bite me, but ask me for something to bite on & I will give you something to bite on. Just say 'Bite, please'." They make objects for this sensory need that is developmentally normal for this age range.
You're not allowed to do that anymore because it might hurt his little feelings and God forbid we let that happen. The first time my kids bit me I bit them right back and your mom was right - they never bit anyone again. I certainly didn't bite them hard enough to truly hurt them - but it shocked the bejesus out of them and they knew immediately that Mama was not happy. We need to quit worrying about being our child's friend and start being parents again - hurt their feelings, hurt their bottoms if necessary, you can discipline a child without abusing them. Proper discipline is not abuse, it's love - It's loving them enough to make sure they grow up to be decent human beings and not whiny little brats who's feelings get hurt every time someone looks at them wrong.
Years ago my oldest son (who was not a biter) went to a daycare where the owner's daughter was a biter. Owner was always extremely mortified until one day her daughter bit my son & he reached over & literally pulled out a huge hunk of her hair. She never bit him again.
Then could it be kids could learn not to bite when someone else's frustration is turned on them. In this case aggression was met with aggression and taught the little girl, "Oh, this boy will hurt me if I hurt him when I am upset. I will not do that again."
@@MsStrangeEmilie sometimes, but not always. My younger sibling was a violent child, and even when I defended myself in kind to their assaults they never stopped, so I just turned into a violent defender (never attacked, but I always hit back). Some kids just choose violence, and parents need to address it and nip it in the bud so it doesn't become a long term issue.
I work at a daycare, there's a few biters. A huge thing is lack of communication, I would try to teach him some baby sign language. And noticed the times that he does it, there is usually a correlation. Is it when he's tired? Frustrated? We had a therapist come in and show us what to do. We were told to do something startling, like a shriek or clap or a loud noise. Then separate from the child, basically put them in their own secluded area and give them time alone. Because for many kids that negative attention is still attention and we'll make them keep biting. And when they aren't biting, give him lots of love and affection. I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's really hard . Best of luck
You’re right. This mom should consider therapy soon. Just so the child doesn’t make it a habit. As normal as it gets, we shouldn’t wait for something extreme to happen. We had a biter baby in our family, he would have issues communicating or expressing and all he would do is hit or bite / scratch. Thankgod therapy helped him. I do feel bad for the poor babies who struggle. And definitely bad for the parents because it’s embarrassing and sometimes the other party is not as understanding or co operative.
@VaultAmelia101 are you asking specifically? The child in my family took speech / communication therapy and occupational therapy ( for mind and body co ordination )
When my son was biting in preschool, the caregivers would remove him to a playpen and give all attention to the child that was bitten. He was able to see them give the other child attention, while he was ignored. It worked, as he stopped biting.
The only reason my daughter didn't bite people other than me and her dad is because it was the pandemic and we kept her home for the first two years. I used to work in a daycare and most kids go through a biting phase. I taught her baby sign language to help reduce the frustration and yelling. (I have ptsd and needed to keep the yelling down for my sanity.) Once she started talking and signing more it got better. She's going to be 3 in October and thankfully the biting was short lived. I know how awful it feels when your kid does something, but he's still a good kid and you're still a good mom.
That's how it's done back In Africa or mum at times will give the baby a small slap on the thighs and it shocks them off and they don't repeat it again. My children didn't bite
Especially if he's going to daycare or having a babysitter or nanny, a bite mark from an adult could lead to CPS very quickly. I'm not commenting on my personal opinion on it, but that could absolutely be seen as abuse and you could lose your child. Especially if your child goes to a public daycare, we are mandated reporters! We have to tell when we see marks, especially something that is clearly for an adult. And "he bit me first" will not go very well. Please be careful.
@@AnaHaze777how hard do you think the parents that bite back, are biting their kids? Marks?? No. I put my lips around my teeth when I did it to my daughter so it wasn’t even actual teeth on her skin. No one is saying bite as hard as you can. Or even how hard THEY bit YOU. Just enough that they realize it doesn’t feel good and then they know “hey that hurts. I won’t do that again”. People really get parenting and abuse confused these days.
@@alimarie4170 I am not saying anything about my personal opinion on it, even very light bites leave marks. and other people just in these comments said that they bit back even harder. Just because you did it one way it doesn't mean that other people did. I work at a daycare and were forced to report. Doesn't matter my opinion. Just looking out for people, getting CPS involved is extremely traumatizing and awful. They can be very unfair. I'm not saying that you abused your kid , sorry if it struck a nerve. That wasn't the point behind what I was saying.
Biting, swatting, pulling, pushing , even in moments of laughter and play, getting over excited along with obviously frustrated and unable to express feelings and emotions when there strong…whether positive or negative is ALL NORMAL with toddlers. I really would not beat yourself up or be overly concerned unless it really escalates when there older. He’s so stinkin cute and you’re doin great mamas ! 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I am dealing with this also with my 1 year old. We had to change how we reacted to him when he bites us. It will happen mom and he will stop as long as you make the changes to teach him. ❤
As a former childcare teacher for 10+ years, it's ok mom, I promise. There are so many reasons why a kid could bite. We just have to be more diligent in watching him. I would try always having a chewing toy around. Maybe a teether that's frozen. I would also make sure you're redirecting, allow him to bite, just show him what he's allowed to bite and what he's not.
my advice to you as an educator is to tell him "Ouch that hurts" when he bites or when you see him try to bite becuse then it helps with social emotional, also re direct him whith movements and say "I'm mad" so the new action is coupled with words and an emotion ge can understand.
It happens hun. I have 6 kids, three would bite till they could communicate better. Reacting loudly can help them know it hurts, but a lot of the time they just don’t know how to express themselves.
Kids bite & stick things in their mouth as a part of their development untill around 2-3 years old. A way to enstill empathy is to not bite them back. Avoid Authoritarian harshness, but also avoid Permissive neglect to handle the issue. The best course is Authoritative reaction where you do not ignore the biting but enstill the boundary "No I will not allow you to bite me, if you need something to bite on then tell me. Just say 'bite' & I will give you something to bite on." They make teething toys to bite on, & often times people don't understand that kids are frustrated trying to learn how to express something to us. Enstill the boundaries, figure out a correlated consequence to any broken boundaries, & guide them on how to make better choices or use their words or sign what they need to express. This isn't spoiling, everything in life comes with correlated consequences (our bosses don't hurt us if we run late, our spouses don't hurt us if we don't do the dishes). But to let them bite & ignore or distract is a Permissive tactic that doesn't really work. Authoritarians who hurt their children in order to teach them not to hurt: do not enstill empathy through genuine respect, just fear of the parent, a loss of trust, & a feeling of "might makes right" meaning if kiddo feels they are in the right they should be allowed to hurt other little ones smaller than them. They look to you as the bigger more experienced human to understand & guide them. I recommend the TH-camr LauraLove who has demonstrated this exact biting advice with her Autistic Toddler. Her toddlers are not only well behaved, but very self aware & empathetic towards one another. They respect each other's boundaries & demonstrate high levels of empathy. Remember Authoritative is not Permissive, & Authoritarian is not reactionary its abusive & pointless.
I was a biter. I was two when the pediatrician told my mom to bite me back. I still remember her biting me on the arm after I bit her leg while she was in the kitchen. I never bit anyone ever again lol. Obviously I was mildly traumatized as I still remember that she was wearing khaki shorts and the floor was checkerboard and we only lived in that apartment for like one more year. 😅
I'm sorry. You probably were trying to explain something but were being ignored & felt frustrated. But instead of your parents trying to figure out what you were trying to express & guiding you on how to get what you needed, they got Stone-aged advice from a pediatrician who was not knowledgeable in child growth & development nor how to best nurture a child's emotional control.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611 Oh please. Here you are trying to undermine advice that clearly works when you haven't even been a doctor nor probably even graduated from any medical college to have any say on raising kids - no less have any of your own OR worked with them. I'm sorry you wasted your parents' money on outdated wild-child rearing advice, but everyone else who has kids or works with them knows your advice is the outdated one. If you have kids, then I feel sorry for anyone that has to deal with them because obviously they're out of control and never reprimanded, just told that they're "normal".
ooooof biting! i was an early educator for 5 years and let me tell you, there is always a biter in the toddler classroom, almost always. there's a book called 'teeth are not for biting' - super helpful. they tend to bite when their teeth start coming in. baby orajel + hyland baby teething tablets will save you. when my toddler had her few week biting phase, chewies were very helpful for her while she was at school. she re directed to her chewy (they make necklaces + handhelds that are soft and silicone to help soothe) by herself shortly after i introduced them. good luck mama, don't beat yourself up! 🤍
Biting is super common momma…it’s definitely heartbreaking to hear and obviously to feel bad for the other child. You’re not alone and he will learn 😊 your idea to react and teach him should work great! 👍🏼❤️
It is normal, don’t beat yourself up. Remind him that “teeth are not for bitting” the best way you can and feel he understands. You are amazing and strong, keep up the good work💙
People confuse common with normal a lot these days. Common that children do this? Yes, normal? No. End of the world? Nah...he just needs his Momma to be more sharp in her response when he does it again so he begins to understand "no- not ok" then consequences if it continues which at his age it is simple things such as no screen time (which should be very limited at his age anyway).
My late mother told me that I bit her once on the shoulder as a baby. So, she bit me back. I never bit anyone again. She told me when I was older. It made sense because in the back of my mind I thought that biting people was the nastiest, worst thing you can do. I guess I learned from that lesson.
None of my little ones were biters, but I've known plenty of moms who have had biters. Best thing is to let the child know that biting hurts. I don't recommend biting them back, but if it gets to that point you may have to. They sometimes don't realize it hurts to be bitten.
She definitely doesn't want to be biting him back, or even hinting she did that on social media...that's a sure fired way to have 1000 people call cps and report her, sadly.
Im a child developmental specialist and work in a school. All the parents telling you to “bite him back” are just wrong. It may technically work, but quickly literally every single study shows that children who recieve pain related punishments don’t grow up with any better morals than children who didn’t, and are more likely to grow up with worse ones (Basically children will say that stealing and violence ars wrong but will do it anyways). Your kid will grow out of it as he gets older and he is able to speak more. If he’s reached beyond speaking age (2.5-3 years old) and he’s still biting, have a talk with your pediatrician who may recommend therapy or an examination of your child’s teeth. If this is a super frequent problem, talk to your pediatrician. When he bites showing him something that is ok to bite might help, teaching him some sign language to use instead might also work, there are lots of methods that work they just don’t work fast. You know your child better than anyone in these comments, and there is not really a “correct answer” but there’s definitely a wrong answer and those answers are “painful punishments” and “doing nothing.”
I'm reading all these beautiful comments, saying "it's just a phase", that may be "cute" to you, but it isn't cute to the child who is being bitten! Do you realize how many germs your mouth has! Like she said, he has been biting her at home, so he thought it was okay to bite other people, we,as parents have to accept responsibility, and correct our children! And, yes I might sound upset, I'm just remembering how my granddaughter was bitten, her skin was broken, her arm was swollen, to the point she had to be seen in Urgent Care. If a child bites at home, I truly believe, as a parent, you should tell the baby sitter,so they can be aware.😢😢
My oldest was this way! Some of my others have bitten while teething but he'd bite when he got frustrated and couldn't communicate what he wanted. It got much better once he started being able to communicate better but continued for awhile. It was difficult!
Biting happens when a child is frustrated with their limited ability to communicate. Language acquisition, then, is the best way to prevent and remedy biting behaviors. Here are some things you can do to improve your child's language acquisition: - Speak in full sentences around your baby, and speak as much as possible. Narrarate everything, and be as descriptive as you can. - Read. Read, read, read. Read to your baby from the beginning. - When your child is frustrated and you manage to figure out and resolve the problem, explain to the child what the problem and solution was. Give them the words to communicate their needs. - When your child starts communicating their needs in an appropriate manner, give lots of praise! Reinforce that that was the correct thing to do. - If you're able, you might find it helpful to teach your baby sign language. You don't have to worry about learning the whole language, but some simple signs like yes, no, hungry, thristy, potty, etc, can be very helpful for you both, as it gives your child a way to tell you their needs, even before they're ready to talk yet. Babies are able to use sign language much sooner than they are able to speak. - Should you have another language you know and are able to use, do NOT be afraid to use it! Bilingual babies have better language acquisition in the long term than monolingual babies. If you're ever afraid that it will make your child less assimilated, don't be. It is an incredibly valuable skill to pass onto your children. Yes, this also applies to sign language if you know it.
Awwww. I get why you’d feel the things. But he’s SO little still. And definitely learning what’s acceptable. Just be consistent. Ask how they deal with it there. And either modify or ask them to follow your plan. This phase doesn’t last forever. Hit it definitely challenging
Biting I'd a perfectly normal phase for kids to go through. Most of my childhood, my mom was a daycare provider out of our home & most of my adult working life I've worked with children in some capacity & I've seen it a lot.
Biting is normal toddler behavior. Parenting is not for the faint of heart. It’s your responsibility to teach him not to do the biting and good for you for stepping up.❤
It’s a sensory issue and not anger. They put everything in their mouths The babysitter may need to be a bit more vigilant when the kids are playing. One mom at playgroup used a plastic spoon handle or a tooth brush and everytime she thought he was going to bite she stuck that in his mouth and redirected him without reaction. He is the most beautiful soul, he just went through a phase. He is almost 7 and my oldest wants to marry him. I was reactive to my biting daughter and she’s 3 and she is a little aggressive monster. I suggest taking the lesser reaction and utilizing the phase to redirect his mouth to something he can bite rather than a person.
As a daycare teacher biting is such a common stage and we never judge the parents of a child that bites, it’s just a phase that’s part of growing up for a lot of toddlers, Don’t focus too much on the biting focus on language skills, sign language can be a great tool for littles that bite out of frustration but don’t ever feel like you have done anything wrong just because your child bit
I had a biter, my foster son had such a hard time with everything going on he would get so angry and biting was part of those behaviors. He's doing much better now that he's back with mom and dad, he's actually sleeping over here at the moment because he missed me hehe. Ultimately they're all good boys they just sometimes have big emotions.
If you haven't started yet, try learning ASL together. Doesn't work 100% of the time, but most of the time biting/hitting/screeching are all signs of frustration. Kids take YEARS to get the muscles and coordination in their mouths to communicate their needs. Whether hungry, thirsty, itchy, overstimulated, mad, sad, ASL offers a way to communicate that reduces that frustration to almost zero. If you start reacting negatively when he bites, regardless if you show anger or silence, his brain says "It worked! I got your attention!" and it becomes a game. Time-outs work when a kid figures out that you tune him out entirely when he behaves a certain way, acting as a deterrent. He's young, and tiny, but he's figured out he gets his way (or at least takes control of a situation) if he bites.
I run a daycare. Currently have 3 who are biting. 🙈 It’s perfectly normal. Not at all a reflection of who you are as a parent. Babies and toddlers can’t communicate their needs. And some express their anger or dissatisfaction through biting. He’ll outgrow it.
From a country mom perspective, young kids & animals sometimes bite to get attention, from boredom, playfulness, etc. They communicate their needs in different ways & have to learn cuddles & kisses are more appreciated than biting does. ❤😊🎉
Preschool teacher, best biting advice is of course separate the children temporarily and make a huge deal out of the one that got bit ignoring the biter. Not much you can do but keeps good eye on them and try to step in before issues such as wanting the same toy etc. I know it’s not helping now but it is a phase they outgrow as they get more verbal.
Feeding therapist here! But keep in mind this is essentially a guess and it’s all trial and error since I don’t know your child personally. Children do things for a reason, meaning that he is getting something out of biting. Some of the best ways to change negative sensory seeking behaviors like biting is to still allow him to get what he is seeking from it, but in a way that is safe for him and others around. I would suggest giving him chewy tubes when he’s in a biting mood (refrigerating is even better because cold temperatures reduce the need to bite typically) or purée foods that are cold or have a cold spoon. If he can handle firmer foods or as he ages, I would suggest foods like cold carrots, cold crispy apples, or having him drink thicker colder liquids through a straw.
So many parents think they will never have a biter but it is much more common than you think. Kids get frustrated when they are toddlers and cannot voice what they want so they lash out with biting or hitting sometimes it can also be teething as well. As long as you let them know in a way they understand like react sadly or hurt when they do it and say ouch they will soon realise its not okay.
Don’t worry. Every kid bites. I thought it was the end of the world and he was a kid that wanted to hurt other. I didn’t react nor did the other parent. The next few days he stopped and never did it again. 23 years later and I couldn’t ask for a more loving and caring man. It will be fine. You have a wonderful person there waiting to get out.
It’s actually a developmentally norma part of a child’s growth and learning patterns to bite. They explore their surroundings with their mouths. It’s complicated OK as long as he’s being redirected to something else. My son bites when he’s over stimulated as well, so make sure to pay attention to what’s going on /when/ he bites. It doesn’t make a kid a bad kid.
Thank you for sharing this, my 10 month old has been biting me loads since she was around 8 months and I am always afraid she will bite another baby when we go out. I have asked so many people but it seems being a biter at a young age is quite rare so thank you this has made me feel less alone in the struggle of having a vampire baby ❤
My oldest got bit a few times at daycare. Then my youngest bit a couple times at daycare. It’s much more upsetting to be the mom of a biter than the bitten. My kiddo got bitten back and that put and end to it. Most kids do it or other acts of frustration and they grow out of it. ❤
My son went through a biting stage too. One day he bit my arm really hard, so I got his arm and lightly but him back till his face changed. It really upset me, but he never did it again. I never once smacked my son, but I think once he realised biting hurt people he knew then to stop.
i was a biter, my parents and babysitter used time out severely, i obviously stopped but isolation and a stern talk looks like it did the trick. sometimes frustration can be extra energy they need to put into something they CAN do, maybe evaluate toys
U need to bite him back, it shows him that biting hurts, both physically and emotionally. He won't want to intentionally hurt someone so he'll stop biting once he understands the damage biting does
It sounds harsh because we're bigger and have teeth, but I mean the motion of biting with a little pressure. Certainly not enough to cause a bruise or crying. Just enough to get his attention
Do NOT bite him back. As someone who works at a daycare with 1 year olds I hear parents saying that they bite back and it doesn’t work, if anything they make it worse. The most common thing I’ve seen to cause the biting with kids is teething or a underlying problem. We had a really bad biter in my class but they just recently had tubes put in because their ears were so bad that they would have been pretty much deaf. They were biting as a way to get the frustration out from not being able to hear. I’ve also seen kids that are behind (not saying Deacon is) but because they can’t talk. However in this age it’s normal to bite because toddles are still learning that they have teeth and how their mouth works. A frozen teether and soft toys are a lift saver!
Retired education worker was taught to push into the bite. Decreases the force and shifts pressure to the biter. Leave no trace but seemed to rapidly get the message out that biting was not allowed.
Don’t feel bad my first baby was a biter .. only when she was frustrated .. I didn’t understand her she was frustrated, but she grew out of after 2 when she started to understand biting was bad ..
Oh definitely be stern and tell him biting is a no No biting hurts get some chewy necklaces to keep on hand and redirect with one when he’s biting you or others
As a foster mom of almost 100 I have discovered the most effective solution is to get him a vibrating teether and whenever he bites anyone he has to rock in a chair and bite on it for a minute or two. It is usually a combination of needing to bite, release stress and frustration and figure out a different way to solve their problem. After the rocking and biting on the teether, see if there is a problem you can solve together... is he hungry, tired, wants attention, or did she make him mad by taking a toy or something?
Hey girl I work in a daycare and when we have kids who bite others we tell them that mommy and daddy would be so sad if they were to be biten too. When a child bites us we say ouch in a louder voice and say that wasn’t nice it hurt me and made me sad. I do the same with my daughter and it works.
my son was a biter and I worked at the daycare with my son he almost was kicked out!! There was such a sweet boy Noah he was in foster care and had such a hard life by age 2 and my son bite him 3 times in a row on his back!! I cried to his foster parents who were almost 70 years old my son is 20 now lol It very hard to stop a biter!😮
I had two biters out of 3 kids and let me tell you they all grow out of it. They are just learning their surroundings at that little age. Don’t worry mom your doing a great job❤
What my mum did when I started biting was she gently (NOT HARD) bit me on my shoulder or anywhere doesn't matter. And I stopped biting completely. It might not work for him but it did help teach me it wasn't nice
My daughter had a biting issue at one time.. It may not be appropriate for all children.. However, I bit her back.. The biting stopped... Explaining that biting hurts..
It is very difficult since children are learning how to communicate their emotions but also aren't old enough to understand when you tell them no. My mom used to say to bite them back 😂 She's from another era obviously, but a large reaction if he bites you will help hopefully.
Chewlery. My son went through this. It's because they get instant gratification. If they're doing it because they are angry or annoyed, they get instant gratification by hurting the other person, while also winning the toy. Even if they get that toy taken away in the end it's still for them instant gratification. So I looked up some videos on TH-cam about redirection. And of course we hear that word a lot but I don't think that a lot of people know what real redirection means. So it gives kids the opportunity to still be angry and upset, and get out their frustrations in a different way rather than hurting others. Chewlery. It was like this little silicone bulb on a necklace. So they taught him to use it when he got angry and he could growl and stomp his feet and be angry while biting down on something. It allowed him to get out his frustrations, then laugh about it. It was a game-changer after two days he wasnt biting anyone anymore. And eventually we were able to get him off completely I think after a couple of months. he's never bitten since.
My son was bitten by another child, ive never heard him scream in pain like that, i was absolutely furious, the child bit right through his clothes! Luckily the mother dealt with it quickly, i cant stand biting.
Every baby goes thru that face. Just keep gentle/firm. "No, no biting," and whatever else you want to say, he will get it, and he'll stop. You got this momma bear 🙌👏🥰💯❣️
I’ve heard for biters, bite them back, not hard but just enough to make them realise ‘oh sh**- that don’t feel nice-‘, I’ve heard they never do it again
A few of your videos have been recommended to me this morning and I just wanted to say, I'm not a mom, but I can already tell that you're such a good mom to your son ❤ I know it's hard to not beat yourself up over things but just so you know I (and many others based on the comments) can already tell just from your videos that you're an incredible mom and doing a great job ❤
Some of you people are horrible. Biting a baby or popping them in the mouth is child abuse! He is not even two yet. Keep y’all’s horrible parenting advice to yourself.
Imagine how much longer it felt like your child would never be taught not to bite their well mannered child it is called parenting and although it is natural to bite out of teething biting out of anger or frustration or not getting their way and this works for them after the first time they bite out of anger rage tantrum you grab their hand and bite their arm not hard but enough to teach them this is what you are doing and this is what happens when you bite someone else but harder and with a snack or a kick to the face by other toddler trying to get his finger back!
My baby is currently suspended from daycare for the 2nd time. She will be expelled soon if it doesn't stop. We have tried everything to get her to stop. It has been so stressful for us and for her! Prayers for you 🙏
You need to bite him back. Not real hard, but hard enough to slightly hurt. Then say no biting. That the only thing that stopped my oldest from biting.
One of my children was a biter , It was terrible no idea why. She’s been in daycare and even bit me on the shoulder sometimes when I picked her up. A friend told me to bite her back and I was bloody horrified well, the next time she bit me and she made marks I acted very upset and I took her arm and I bet her back, but I left no marks, and it wasn’t hard, but it was enough to make her look at me like what the hell mommy. She never bit again. I said, how do you like it lol it’s all I could do nothing else worked.
This is 100% normal, it rly sucks! I work at a day care, I’ve been doing so for about 6/7 years now. One technique that we found rly works is remove and replace, where we separate the children and remove them from the situation and give them some on thing else to do, replace. Then we go over what we CAN use our teeth for via books and stuff like that.
This sounds crazy but a long time ago my nephew was a biter. His pediatrician recommended we bite him back gently bc in his mind he doesn’t realize it hurts or what he was doing . Tbh it worked like a charm. A few days in and he stopped
Its completely normal for kids to hir or bite That dosent mean we shouldnt tech them not to obviusly the behaviur is wrong But some kids just go trough that stage while some dont Its in no way a reflection of bad parenting But how you handle a biting or a child that hits orhers is what reflects it Some parents ive worked with will do nothing or not belive that their lil angel would do such things While others are way to strict and punnish the baby to harsh Its a teavhing moment yes and how you go about it is really the only telling sign of being a good parent or not The fact you arent calling them a liar or denying it is already making you better than most parents Also some kids simply just want chew toys i as a kid really liked chewing or biting so i used to ruin my barbi dolls by chewing on their arms and legs Other kids do it as a way to try and comunicate wich id a bit harder to correct
I’m 33 and I still want to bite 😮 not out of frustration but more out of excitement but it’s definitely something I am aware of. When I was a kid I would always get in trouble though
I worked in preschool for 9 years before moving to elementary. While not appropriate behavior biting at his age is entirely normal. Don’t beat yourself up. Definitely react to him biting. Tell him it hurts and make a big deal about it. It may take a few times since you have let him do it in the past, but he will get the idea. Also work on communication: often biting is an expression of frustration when they don’t have the words to verbalize it.
Okay I’m new to the mama world what do you mean by it’s bath day? Like are you not supposed to wash them every night or does that make them more prone to become sick? Someone help me out 😅❤
Sometimes, children that bite and acts out has trouble with communication. So a tip is to use pictures and some sign language signs, like emotions, food types.
My first child was a biter. I was mortified. A friend of mine who had 5 kids said “I would never blame a parent for having a child that bites. It’s just part of the personality of the child and how they communicate. she will outgrow it.” It was such a blessing to hear that, and I want to pass that onto you.
I wouldn’t blame you for his biting habits. As he learns to process and communicate better he will outgrow it ❤️
Thank you! He’s the sweetest baby boy but doesn’t know how to handle his frustration 🥺 just hope this phase passes quickly!
I hope it passes quickly for you too. ❤️
Unless, it's your child being bitten, my granddaughter was bitten, her skin was broken to the point, where she had to go to Urgent Care! 😢
@@tinasoblessed6350 of course it's always upsetting. But that still doesn't put the blame on the mother. I can almost guarantee that they are mortified.
My mom said I bit her once and she bit me back harder and I never did it again. Probably not the best way to teach your 1 year old what not to do.
I am a nursery group teacher and I can say one thing for sure: biting is normal. Your child cannot express his feelings in other way yet. Biting is an easy way for a young child to let the steam out and show the one who's causing his emotions his frustration .
It is important to react and show him that you do not like it when he bites you. Have him look at the bit mark and apologized by giving you a hug, but do not focus your attention to much on it. As your child is young as it might also become an easy way for him to get your attention.
It is just a phase that many children go through, so do not get upset about it nor take it personally.
You're definitely a wonderful job, you need to be very proud of yourself. ❤️
I was about to write the same!
Thank you!
It is still not ok
@@khaciabarrett9779 Yes, I know
@Khacia Barrett well if you knew how to read, you would see that the commenter said that.
My mom told me I bit her and she bit me back 😂 I was no longer a biter 😂😂
This doesn't teach empathy. It just taught you not to mess with mama or she would hurt you. Sometimes babies get frustrated trying to express a need & bite, other times they need a sensory to be met & need to figure out how to express that need. So of course we should not ignore or hurt them, we should let them know it's inappropriate behavior & guide them on how to tell us (or sign language) what they need. If they are bored & just want to bite, then tell them "I won't allow you to bite me, but ask me for something to bite on & I will give you something to bite on. Just say 'Bite, please'." They make objects for this sensory need that is developmentally normal for this age range.
Same! I bit my brother and my mom chased me and bit me back and I never bit again LOL
Yep! They won’t be scarred for life. It will teach them a valuable lesson.
I was literally thinking about this when she said he bites her 😂😂
You're not allowed to do that anymore because it might hurt his little feelings and God forbid we let that happen. The first time my kids bit me I bit them right back and your mom was right - they never bit anyone again. I certainly didn't bite them hard enough to truly hurt them - but it shocked the bejesus out of them and they knew immediately that Mama was not happy.
We need to quit worrying about being our child's friend and start being parents again - hurt their feelings, hurt their bottoms if necessary, you can discipline a child without abusing them. Proper discipline is not abuse, it's love - It's loving them enough to make sure they grow up to be decent human beings and not whiny little brats who's feelings get hurt every time someone looks at them wrong.
"to get some energy out" *holds him the whole time*
😂😂
it was less than 10 seconds of a video lmao she probably didnt hold him the entire time
Seeing a lot of things can tire out a child
He’s like 6 months old dude, he probably isn’t even walking or crawling yet.
@@laracolanino7541 hes crawling in the video but ok
Years ago my oldest son (who was not a biter) went to a daycare where the owner's daughter was a biter. Owner was always extremely mortified until one day her daughter bit my son & he reached over & literally pulled out a huge hunk of her hair. She never bit him again.
Then could it be kids could learn not to bite when someone else's frustration is turned on them. In this case aggression was met with aggression and taught the little girl, "Oh, this boy will hurt me if I hurt him when I am upset. I will not do that again."
Lolol
@@MsStrangeEmilie sometimes, but not always. My younger sibling was a violent child, and even when I defended myself in kind to their assaults they never stopped, so I just turned into a violent defender (never attacked, but I always hit back). Some kids just choose violence, and parents need to address it and nip it in the bud so it doesn't become a long term issue.
kids do kid stuff!
@@Izzy-cp8yt OH my, I'm sorry about that,
I work at a daycare, there's a few biters. A huge thing is lack of communication, I would try to teach him some baby sign language. And noticed the times that he does it, there is usually a correlation. Is it when he's tired? Frustrated?
We had a therapist come in and show us what to do. We were told to do something startling, like a shriek or clap or a loud noise. Then separate from the child, basically put them in their own secluded area and give them time alone. Because for many kids that negative attention is still attention and we'll make them keep biting. And when they aren't biting, give him lots of love and affection.
I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it's really hard . Best of luck
You’re right. This mom should consider therapy soon. Just so the child doesn’t make it a habit. As normal as it gets, we shouldn’t wait for something extreme to happen. We had a biter baby in our family, he would have issues communicating or expressing and all he would do is hit or bite / scratch. Thankgod therapy helped him. I do feel bad for the poor babies who struggle. And definitely bad for the parents because it’s embarrassing and sometimes the other party is not as understanding or co operative.
@VaultAmelia101 are you asking specifically? The child in my family took speech / communication therapy and occupational therapy ( for mind and body co ordination )
When my son was biting in preschool, the caregivers would remove him to a playpen and give all attention to the child that was bitten. He was able to see them give the other child attention, while he was ignored. It worked, as he stopped biting.
Ooo good idea!
Took him on a walk around to get energy out but you carried him the entire time ❤
I love how it’s like I took him on a walk but she just walked with him and he just sat there.
We love the book Teeth are not for Biting. I read it all the time with my daughter and she really likes it!
The only reason my daughter didn't bite people other than me and her dad is because it was the pandemic and we kept her home for the first two years. I used to work in a daycare and most kids go through a biting phase. I taught her baby sign language to help reduce the frustration and yelling. (I have ptsd and needed to keep the yelling down for my sanity.) Once she started talking and signing more it got better. She's going to be 3 in October and thankfully the biting was short lived. I know how awful it feels when your kid does something, but he's still a good kid and you're still a good mom.
I worked at a daycare for 5+ years. The biting kids always wanted to show dominance, they were always the leaders😂
I wouldn't say leaders but i agree on dominance. That's why the bite back is important
@@anunnakicrown Leaders is correct
My son bit me once so I bit him back and he never did it again.
Right? My kid bit once and one time only. You can totally stop this behavior.
That's how it's done back In Africa or mum at times will give the baby a small slap on the thighs and it shocks them off and they don't repeat it again. My children didn't bite
Especially if he's going to daycare or having a babysitter or nanny, a bite mark from an adult could lead to CPS very quickly.
I'm not commenting on my personal opinion on it, but that could absolutely be seen as abuse and you could lose your child. Especially if your child goes to a public daycare, we are mandated reporters! We have to tell when we see marks, especially something that is clearly for an adult.
And "he bit me first" will not go very well. Please be careful.
@@AnaHaze777how hard do you think the parents that bite back, are biting their kids? Marks?? No. I put my lips around my teeth when I did it to my daughter so it wasn’t even actual teeth on her skin. No one is saying bite as hard as you can. Or even how hard THEY bit YOU. Just enough that they realize it doesn’t feel good and then they know “hey that hurts. I won’t do that again”. People really get parenting and abuse confused these days.
@@alimarie4170 I am not saying anything about my personal opinion on it, even very light bites leave marks. and other people just in these comments said that they bit back even harder. Just because you did it one way it doesn't mean that other people did.
I work at a daycare and were forced to report. Doesn't matter my opinion. Just looking out for people, getting CPS involved is extremely traumatizing and awful. They can be very unfair.
I'm not saying that you abused your kid , sorry if it struck a nerve. That wasn't the point behind what I was saying.
Biting, swatting, pulling, pushing , even in moments of laughter and play, getting over excited along with obviously frustrated and unable to express feelings and emotions when there strong…whether positive or negative is ALL NORMAL with toddlers. I really would not beat yourself up or be overly concerned unless it really escalates when there older. He’s so stinkin cute and you’re doin great mamas ! 🫶🏻🫶🏻
I am dealing with this also with my 1 year old. We had to change how we reacted to him when he bites us. It will happen mom and he will stop as long as you make the changes to teach him. ❤
As a former childcare teacher for 10+ years, it's ok mom, I promise. There are so many reasons why a kid could bite. We just have to be more diligent in watching him. I would try always having a chewing toy around. Maybe a teether that's frozen. I would also make sure you're redirecting, allow him to bite, just show him what he's allowed to bite and what he's not.
my advice to you as an educator is to tell him "Ouch that hurts" when he bites or when you see him try to bite becuse then it helps with social emotional, also re direct him whith movements and say "I'm mad" so the new action is coupled with words and an emotion ge can understand.
Yes agreed. I learned this in child growth & development classes as well.
It happens hun. I have 6 kids, three would bite till they could communicate better. Reacting loudly can help them know it hurts, but a lot of the time they just don’t know how to express themselves.
Kids bite & stick things in their mouth as a part of their development untill around 2-3 years old. A way to enstill empathy is to not bite them back. Avoid Authoritarian harshness, but also avoid Permissive neglect to handle the issue. The best course is Authoritative reaction where you do not ignore the biting but enstill the boundary "No I will not allow you to bite me, if you need something to bite on then tell me. Just say 'bite' & I will give you something to bite on." They make teething toys to bite on, & often times people don't understand that kids are frustrated trying to learn how to express something to us. Enstill the boundaries, figure out a correlated consequence to any broken boundaries, & guide them on how to make better choices or use their words or sign what they need to express. This isn't spoiling, everything in life comes with correlated consequences (our bosses don't hurt us if we run late, our spouses don't hurt us if we don't do the dishes). But to let them bite & ignore or distract is a Permissive tactic that doesn't really work. Authoritarians who hurt their children in order to teach them not to hurt: do not enstill empathy through genuine respect, just fear of the parent, a loss of trust, & a feeling of "might makes right" meaning if kiddo feels they are in the right they should be allowed to hurt other little ones smaller than them. They look to you as the bigger more experienced human to understand & guide them. I recommend the TH-camr LauraLove who has demonstrated this exact biting advice with her Autistic Toddler. Her toddlers are not only well behaved, but very self aware & empathetic towards one another. They respect each other's boundaries & demonstrate high levels of empathy. Remember Authoritative is not Permissive, & Authoritarian is not reactionary its abusive & pointless.
I was a biter. I was two when the pediatrician told my mom to bite me back. I still remember her biting me on the arm after I bit her leg while she was in the kitchen. I never bit anyone ever again lol. Obviously I was mildly traumatized as I still remember that she was wearing khaki shorts and the floor was checkerboard and we only lived in that apartment for like one more year. 😅
I'm sorry. You probably were trying to explain something but were being ignored & felt frustrated. But instead of your parents trying to figure out what you were trying to express & guiding you on how to get what you needed, they got Stone-aged advice from a pediatrician who was not knowledgeable in child growth & development nor how to best nurture a child's emotional control.
@@Gamer_Mama_0611 Oh please. Here you are trying to undermine advice that clearly works when you haven't even been a doctor nor probably even graduated from any medical college to have any say on raising kids - no less have any of your own OR worked with them. I'm sorry you wasted your parents' money on outdated wild-child rearing advice, but everyone else who has kids or works with them knows your advice is the outdated one. If you have kids, then I feel sorry for anyone that has to deal with them because obviously they're out of control and never reprimanded, just told that they're "normal".
ooooof biting! i was an early educator for 5 years and let me tell you, there is always a biter in the toddler classroom, almost always. there's a book called 'teeth are not for biting' - super helpful. they tend to bite when their teeth start coming in. baby orajel + hyland baby teething tablets will save you. when my toddler had her few week biting phase, chewies were very helpful for her while she was at school. she re directed to her chewy (they make necklaces + handhelds that are soft and silicone to help soothe) by herself shortly after i introduced them. good luck mama, don't beat yourself up! 🤍
Biting is super common momma…it’s definitely heartbreaking to hear and obviously to feel bad for the other child. You’re not alone and he will learn 😊 your idea to react and teach him should work great! 👍🏼❤️
Communication! 🤗 “Simple” sign language, especially between kids may help with all the non-verbal frustrations.
It is normal, don’t beat yourself up. Remind him that “teeth are not for bitting” the best way you can and feel he understands. You are amazing and strong, keep up the good work💙
no its not normal, like slapping, hitting, and bullying TEACH your child how to behave,
People confuse common with normal a lot these days. Common that children do this? Yes, normal? No. End of the world? Nah...he just needs his Momma to be more sharp in her response when he does it again so he begins to understand "no- not ok" then consequences if it continues which at his age it is simple things such as no screen time (which should be very limited at his age anyway).
My late mother told me that I bit her once on the shoulder as a baby. So, she bit me back. I never bit anyone again. She told me when I was older. It made sense because in the back of my mind I thought that biting people was the nastiest, worst thing you can do. I guess I learned from that lesson.
None of my little ones were biters, but I've known plenty of moms who have had biters. Best thing is to let the child know that biting hurts. I don't recommend biting them back, but if it gets to that point you may have to. They sometimes don't realize it hurts to be bitten.
She definitely doesn't want to be biting him back, or even hinting she did that on social media...that's a sure fired way to have 1000 people call cps and report her, sadly.
Don’t worry it happens I hope the sitter was kind and tried giving some valuable advice.
Im a child developmental specialist and work in a school. All the parents telling you to “bite him back” are just wrong. It may technically work, but quickly literally every single study shows that children who recieve pain related punishments don’t grow up with any better morals than children who didn’t, and are more likely to grow up with worse ones (Basically children will say that stealing and violence ars wrong but will do it anyways). Your kid will grow out of it as he gets older and he is able to speak more. If he’s reached beyond speaking age (2.5-3 years old) and he’s still biting, have a talk with your pediatrician who may recommend therapy or an examination of your child’s teeth. If this is a super frequent problem, talk to your pediatrician.
When he bites showing him something that is ok to bite might help, teaching him some sign language to use instead might also work, there are lots of methods that work they just don’t work fast. You know your child better than anyone in these comments, and there is not really a “correct answer” but there’s definitely a wrong answer and those answers are “painful punishments” and “doing nothing.”
I'm reading all these beautiful comments, saying "it's just a phase", that may be "cute" to you, but it isn't cute to the child who is being bitten! Do you realize how many germs your mouth has! Like she said, he has been biting her at home, so he thought it was okay to bite other people, we,as parents have to accept responsibility, and correct our children! And, yes I might sound upset, I'm just remembering how my granddaughter was bitten, her skin was broken, her arm was swollen, to the point she had to be seen in Urgent Care. If a child bites at home, I truly believe, as a parent, you should tell the baby sitter,so they can be aware.😢😢
I never thought it was cute
My oldest was this way! Some of my others have bitten while teething but he'd bite when he got frustrated and couldn't communicate what he wanted. It got much better once he started being able to communicate better but continued for awhile. It was difficult!
Biting happens when a child is frustrated with their limited ability to communicate. Language acquisition, then, is the best way to prevent and remedy biting behaviors. Here are some things you can do to improve your child's language acquisition:
- Speak in full sentences around your baby, and speak as much as possible. Narrarate everything, and be as descriptive as you can.
- Read. Read, read, read. Read to your baby from the beginning.
- When your child is frustrated and you manage to figure out and resolve the problem, explain to the child what the problem and solution was. Give them the words to communicate their needs.
- When your child starts communicating their needs in an appropriate manner, give lots of praise! Reinforce that that was the correct thing to do.
- If you're able, you might find it helpful to teach your baby sign language. You don't have to worry about learning the whole language, but some simple signs like yes, no, hungry, thristy, potty, etc, can be very helpful for you both, as it gives your child a way to tell you their needs, even before they're ready to talk yet. Babies are able to use sign language much sooner than they are able to speak.
- Should you have another language you know and are able to use, do NOT be afraid to use it! Bilingual babies have better language acquisition in the long term than monolingual babies. If you're ever afraid that it will make your child less assimilated, don't be. It is an incredibly valuable skill to pass onto your children. Yes, this also applies to sign language if you know it.
Awwww. I get why you’d feel the things. But he’s SO little still. And definitely learning what’s acceptable. Just be consistent. Ask how they deal with it there. And either modify or ask them to follow your plan. This phase doesn’t last forever. Hit it definitely challenging
Biting I'd a perfectly normal phase for kids to go through. Most of my childhood, my mom was a daycare provider out of our home & most of my adult working life I've worked with children in some capacity & I've seen it a lot.
Biting is normal toddler behavior. Parenting is not for the faint of heart. It’s your responsibility to teach him not to do the biting and good for you for stepping up.❤
It happens. Welcome to Motherhood.
I think biting is a sign of frustration. Most babies grow out of it when they’re able to talk and be understood by those around them.
Biting is normal, it’s hard I know , but I know you are a good mother and you are going to get through this!❣️you have a beautiful baby boy❤
biting is never normal you not a teething ring
It’s a sensory issue and not anger.
They put everything in their mouths
The babysitter may need to be a bit more vigilant when the kids are playing.
One mom at playgroup used a plastic spoon handle or a tooth brush and everytime she thought he was going to bite she stuck that in his mouth and redirected him without reaction.
He is the most beautiful soul, he just went through a phase. He is almost 7 and my oldest wants to marry him.
I was reactive to my biting daughter and she’s 3 and she is a little aggressive monster.
I suggest taking the lesser reaction and utilizing the phase to redirect his mouth to something he can bite rather than a person.
As a daycare teacher biting is such a common stage and we never judge the parents of a child that bites, it’s just a phase that’s part of growing up for a lot of toddlers, Don’t focus too much on the biting focus on language skills, sign language can be a great tool for littles that bite out of frustration but don’t ever feel like you have done anything wrong just because your child bit
I had a biter, my foster son had such a hard time with everything going on he would get so angry and biting was part of those behaviors. He's doing much better now that he's back with mom and dad, he's actually sleeping over here at the moment because he missed me hehe. Ultimately they're all good boys they just sometimes have big emotions.
Why did I think you were gonna fling him into the water as punishment for biting, lmaooo. What is wrong with me?! 😂
If you haven't started yet, try learning ASL together. Doesn't work 100% of the time, but most of the time biting/hitting/screeching are all signs of frustration. Kids take YEARS to get the muscles and coordination in their mouths to communicate their needs. Whether hungry, thirsty, itchy, overstimulated, mad, sad, ASL offers a way to communicate that reduces that frustration to almost zero.
If you start reacting negatively when he bites, regardless if you show anger or silence, his brain says "It worked! I got your attention!" and it becomes a game. Time-outs work when a kid figures out that you tune him out entirely when he behaves a certain way, acting as a deterrent. He's young, and tiny, but he's figured out he gets his way (or at least takes control of a situation) if he bites.
I run a daycare. Currently have 3 who are biting. 🙈 It’s perfectly normal. Not at all a reflection of who you are as a parent. Babies and toddlers can’t communicate their needs. And some express their anger or dissatisfaction through biting. He’ll outgrow it.
From a country mom perspective, young kids & animals sometimes bite to get attention, from boredom, playfulness, etc. They communicate their needs in different ways & have to learn cuddles & kisses are more appreciated than biting does. ❤😊🎉
Every time I hear her keep overly repeating this kids name, I just keep thinking about the best friend on King of Queens 😂
Preschool teacher, best biting advice is of course separate the children temporarily and make a huge deal out of the one that got bit ignoring the biter. Not much you can do but keeps good eye on them and try to step in before issues such as wanting the same toy etc. I know it’s not helping now but it is a phase they outgrow as they get more verbal.
Feeding therapist here! But keep in mind this is essentially a guess and it’s all trial and error since I don’t know your child personally. Children do things for a reason, meaning that he is getting something out of biting. Some of the best ways to change negative sensory seeking behaviors like biting is to still allow him to get what he is seeking from it, but in a way that is safe for him and others around. I would suggest giving him chewy tubes when he’s in a biting mood (refrigerating is even better because cold temperatures reduce the need to bite typically) or purée foods that are cold or have a cold spoon. If he can handle firmer foods or as he ages, I would suggest foods like cold carrots, cold crispy apples, or having him drink thicker colder liquids through a straw.
So many parents think they will never have a biter but it is much more common than you think. Kids get frustrated when they are toddlers and cannot voice what they want so they lash out with biting or hitting sometimes it can also be teething as well. As long as you let them know in a way they understand like react sadly or hurt when they do it and say ouch they will soon realise its not okay.
Don’t worry. Every kid bites. I thought it was the end of the world and he was a kid that wanted to hurt other. I didn’t react nor did the other parent. The next few days he stopped and never did it again. 23 years later and I couldn’t ask for a more loving and caring man. It will be fine. You have a wonderful person there waiting to get out.
It’s actually a developmentally norma part of a child’s growth and learning patterns to bite. They explore their surroundings with their mouths. It’s complicated OK as long as he’s being redirected to something else. My son bites when he’s over stimulated as well, so make sure to pay attention to what’s going on /when/ he bites. It doesn’t make a kid a bad kid.
Thank you for sharing this, my 10 month old has been biting me loads since she was around 8 months and I am always afraid she will bite another baby when we go out. I have asked so many people but it seems being a biter at a young age is quite rare so thank you this has made me feel less alone in the struggle of having a vampire baby ❤
My oldest got bit a few times at daycare. Then my youngest bit a couple times at daycare. It’s much more upsetting to be the mom of a biter than the bitten. My kiddo got bitten back and that put and end to it. Most kids do it or other acts of frustration and they grow out of it. ❤
My son went through a biting stage too.
One day he bit my arm really hard, so I got his arm and lightly but him back till his face changed. It really upset me, but he never did it again.
I never once smacked my son, but I think once he realised biting hurt people he knew then to stop.
ALL kids do SOMETHING. No mommy shaming.
i was a biter, my parents and babysitter used time out severely, i obviously stopped but isolation and a stern talk looks like it did the trick. sometimes frustration can be extra energy they need to put into something they CAN do, maybe evaluate toys
U need to bite him back, it shows him that biting hurts, both physically and emotionally. He won't want to intentionally hurt someone so he'll stop biting once he understands the damage biting does
It sounds harsh because we're bigger and have teeth, but I mean the motion of biting with a little pressure. Certainly not enough to cause a bruise or crying. Just enough to get his attention
Do NOT bite him back. As someone who works at a daycare with 1 year olds I hear parents saying that they bite back and it doesn’t work, if anything they make it worse. The most common thing I’ve seen to cause the biting with kids is teething or a underlying problem. We had a really bad biter in my class but they just recently had tubes put in because their ears were so bad that they would have been pretty much deaf. They were biting as a way to get the frustration out from not being able to hear. I’ve also seen kids that are behind (not saying Deacon is) but because they can’t talk. However in this age it’s normal to bite because toddles are still learning that they have teeth and how their mouth works. A frozen teether and soft toys are a lift saver!
Retired education worker was taught to push into the bite. Decreases the force and shifts pressure to the biter. Leave no trace but seemed to rapidly get the message out that biting was not allowed.
What a cutie!!!!! And don't worry, his biting phase will pass.
Don’t feel bad my first baby was a biter .. only when she was frustrated .. I didn’t understand her she was frustrated, but she grew out of after 2 when she started to understand biting was bad ..
Oh definitely be stern and tell him biting is a no No biting hurts get some chewy necklaces to keep on hand and redirect with one when he’s biting you or others
As a foster mom of almost 100 I have discovered the most effective solution is to get him a vibrating teether and whenever he bites anyone he has to rock in a chair and bite on it for a minute or two. It is usually a combination of needing to bite, release stress and frustration and figure out a different way to solve their problem. After the rocking and biting on the teether, see if there is a problem you can solve together... is he hungry, tired, wants attention, or did she make him mad by taking a toy or something?
Hey girl I work in a daycare and when we have kids who bite others we tell them that mommy and daddy would be so sad if they were to be biten too. When a child bites us we say ouch in a louder voice and say that wasn’t nice it hurt me and made me sad. I do the same with my daughter and it works.
my son was a biter and I worked at the daycare with my son he almost was kicked out!! There was such a sweet boy Noah he was in foster care and had such a hard life by age 2 and my son bite him 3 times in a row on his back!! I cried to his foster parents who were almost 70 years old my son is 20 now lol It very hard to stop a biter!😮
I had two biters out of 3 kids and let me tell you they all grow out of it. They are just learning their surroundings at that little age. Don’t worry mom your doing a great job❤
What my mum did when I started biting was she gently (NOT HARD) bit me on my shoulder or anywhere doesn't matter. And I stopped biting completely. It might not work for him but it did help teach me it wasn't nice
My daughter had a biting issue at one time.. It may not be appropriate for all children.. However, I bit her back.. The biting stopped... Explaining that biting hurts..
Every African said "BATH NIGHT?!" 😂😂
It is very difficult since children are learning how to communicate their emotions but also aren't old enough to understand when you tell them no. My mom used to say to bite them back 😂 She's from another era obviously, but a large reaction if he bites you will help hopefully.
Chewlery. My son went through this. It's because they get instant gratification. If they're doing it because they are angry or annoyed, they get instant gratification by hurting the other person, while also winning the toy. Even if they get that toy taken away in the end it's still for them instant gratification. So I looked up some videos on TH-cam about redirection. And of course we hear that word a lot but I don't think that a lot of people know what real redirection means. So it gives kids the opportunity to still be angry and upset, and get out their frustrations in a different way rather than hurting others. Chewlery. It was like this little silicone bulb on a necklace. So they taught him to use it when he got angry and he could growl and stomp his feet and be angry while biting down on something. It allowed him to get out his frustrations, then laugh about it. It was a game-changer after two days he wasnt biting anyone anymore. And eventually we were able to get him off completely I think after a couple of months. he's never bitten since.
My son was bitten by another child, ive never heard him scream in pain like that, i was absolutely furious, the child bit right through his clothes!
Luckily the mother dealt with it quickly, i cant stand biting.
Every baby goes thru that face. Just keep gentle/firm. "No, no biting," and whatever else you want to say, he will get it, and he'll stop. You got this momma bear 🙌👏🥰💯❣️
Your hair is gorgeous
I’ve heard for biters, bite them back, not hard but just enough to make them realise ‘oh sh**- that don’t feel nice-‘, I’ve heard they never do it again
Every kid did this, some hit, some swear, some bite, they are just curious and love reactions
Hey mama I love your outfit thats so cute
A few of your videos have been recommended to me this morning and I just wanted to say, I'm not a mom, but I can already tell that you're such a good mom to your son ❤ I know it's hard to not beat yourself up over things but just so you know I (and many others based on the comments) can already tell just from your videos that you're an incredible mom and doing a great job ❤
Some of you people are horrible. Biting a baby or popping them in the mouth is child abuse! He is not even two yet. Keep y’all’s horrible parenting advice to yourself.
I actually bit as a small child (past toddler age)
I even had to go to anger management. Hindsight for my situation is the abuse I was put through.
Your jumper is so cute! Where did you get it from! And you are doing an amazing job!
my son was a biter. he is now 5 & 1/2 and a very well (for the most part) behaved child. it felt like it would never end
Imagine how much longer it felt like your child would never be taught not to bite their well mannered child it is called parenting and although it is natural to bite out of teething biting out of anger or frustration or not getting their way and this works for them after the first time they bite out of anger rage tantrum you grab their hand and bite their arm not hard but enough to teach them this is what you are doing and this is what happens when you bite someone else but harder and with a snack or a kick to the face by other toddler trying to get his finger back!
my daughter bit me once... i bit her back, she never did it again. lesson learned
My baby is currently suspended from daycare for the 2nd time. She will be expelled soon if it doesn't stop. We have tried everything to get her to stop. It has been so stressful for us and for her! Prayers for you 🙏
You need to bite him back. Not real hard, but hard enough to slightly hurt. Then say no biting. That the only thing that stopped my oldest from biting.
where do you get your jumpsuits from? i love them 😍😍 they just look extra cute and comfy
One of my children was a biter , It was terrible no idea why. She’s been in daycare and even bit me on the shoulder sometimes when I picked her up. A friend told me to bite her back and I was bloody horrified well, the next time she bit me and she made marks I acted very upset and I took her arm and I bet her back, but I left no marks, and it wasn’t hard, but it was enough to make her look at me like what the hell mommy. She never bit again. I said, how do you like it lol it’s all I could do nothing else worked.
as a kid my way of saying hi and stuff was biting😭
This is 100% normal, it rly sucks! I work at a day care, I’ve been doing so for about 6/7 years now. One technique that we found rly works is remove and replace, where we separate the children and remove them from the situation and give them some on thing else to do, replace. Then we go over what we CAN use our teeth for via books and stuff like that.
This sounds crazy but a long time ago my nephew was a biter. His pediatrician recommended we bite him back gently bc in his mind he doesn’t realize it hurts or what he was doing . Tbh it worked like a charm. A few days in and he stopped
I need your overalls!
Its completely normal for kids to hir or bite
That dosent mean we shouldnt tech them not to obviusly the behaviur is wrong
But some kids just go trough that stage while some dont
Its in no way a reflection of bad parenting
But how you handle a biting or a child that hits orhers is what reflects it
Some parents ive worked with will do nothing or not belive that their lil angel would do such things
While others are way to strict and punnish the baby to harsh
Its a teavhing moment yes and how you go about it is really the only telling sign of being a good parent or not
The fact you arent calling them a liar or denying it is already making you better than most parents
Also some kids simply just want chew toys i as a kid really liked chewing or biting so i used to ruin my barbi dolls by chewing on their arms and legs
Other kids do it as a way to try and comunicate wich id a bit harder to correct
Off topic, but your outfit is really cute
Give him a good old fashion poppin on the buns
Jazz put a whole turkish delight in her coffee, it’s just jelly covered in powdered sugar so not too much of a big deal.. We Stan for her..❤❤😂😂
Aww he will stop soon don’t worry…it’s so normal and common ….he’s such a tiny person…just learning
I’m 33 and I still want to bite 😮 not out of frustration but more out of excitement but it’s definitely something I am aware of. When I was a kid I would always get in trouble though
I worked in preschool for 9 years before moving to elementary. While not appropriate behavior biting at his age is entirely normal. Don’t beat yourself up. Definitely react to him biting. Tell him it hurts and make a big deal about it. It may take a few times since you have let him do it in the past, but he will get the idea. Also work on communication: often biting is an expression of frustration when they don’t have the words to verbalize it.
Okay I’m new to the mama world what do you mean by it’s bath day? Like are you not supposed to wash them every night or does that make them more prone to become sick? Someone help me out 😅❤
Sometimes, children that bite and acts out has trouble with communication. So a tip is to use pictures and some sign language signs, like emotions, food types.
I want your jumpers they are cute .