Rezooming A Marriage
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ธ.ค. 2019
- Once in a while, I get really up close and personal with a vlog. This is one of those weeks. So if you’re looking for straight-up weight-loss tips, this week’s vlog isn’t it. If you love the personal stuff, the stuff that gets deep and gritty and super-revealing, then this one’s for you. And of course, this vlog has lessons for your Bright Line Eating journey (and they’re not insignificant ones). It isn’t just about food around here. Often, we eat because of how we’re living our lives. This week’s vlog is an inside look at my life right now, and the take-home lesson is valuable for most anyone who has struggled with food.
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This is not the weekly vlog. This is the vlog of the year! Thank you so much Susan ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you for your transparency and for being so raw and real. I don’t think too many people are as brave as you are when it comes to transparency. It just shows how committed and how selfless and sacrificial you are to the cause. Changing lives through putting a STOP to food addiction. This was stellar. Much respect for you. Christina
Oh my God!!! I loved the message in this so much!! I have been in tears the past few days because I do everything and I do mean everything for my husband! In addition to my husband I am supporting my daughter emotionally and financially. No one ever reaches out to me unless they need something. I just want someone to care about me for just a minute. I come from a family like Davids where everyone had a lot going on and I had to handle my own life and learned from an early age to keep my needs to myself. I don't know what to do anymore. I am tired and just want everything to stop.
Sending so much love to you dear, Jeannie! 💙
So sorry Jeannie. Have you read Co-dependency No More. I found myself in those pages and need to re-read every so often :-)
@@TheMijas07 , I haven't but will check it out. Thank you
I just wanted to say bless you my dear! I understand this well.be good to you today. Treat yourself for a change. Hugs💗
Your first work ministry is your family. Don’t squander a good for the better.Maybe you need a wife/mommy time out for yourself. Thanks for all you do! You helped me more than you know!
SPT, I admire your vulnerability, your realness, your honesty, your willingness to share which allows others to grow. There's a lot in here - Nonviolent Communication, IFS Parts, 12 step groups, the power of recovery, the impact of being spiritually centered, clear communication, relationships, codependency and so much more. And yup, all of this impacts what, where and when I put food in my mouth. Highly recommended video. I was moved seeing how moved you were as you spoke about these very intimate topics. Thank you. ❤️
I’m new to brightline eating and the vlog, but you made me feel like a best friend.
Weight can be so much more than pounds.
I’m so glad to be on this journey with you and to get to know who you are on a deep level.
Welcome Blessed Mom Life! We are thrilled to have you! 😍
This lovely vlog reminds me of the common "spoilt outing" phenomenon: you take your kids out for a wonderful day, lavish them with attention, everyone has fun, then on the way home some huge upset or fight, tears or tantrum erupts, often over something trivial. The closeness and attention during the day has built up enough connection and safety for feelings your children have been sitting on to bubble up to the surface - their subconscious is hopeful that there is enough clarity around for these feelings to be expressed and resolved. If you can stay present and relaxed at those times, not erupt into reactive or punitive anger, and listen well and thoughtfully, such times can be a wonderful opportunity for healing and growth. Of course, you have to have your own tank full to be able to stay present and be thoughtful. Well done Susan, for showering David with closeness and attention, which allowed space for his suppressed resentment to bubble up. Well done for staying present and sovereign and setting clear boundaries when that resentment erupted as anger. Well done for your thoughtfulness and clarity around the healing that needed to take place. Well done for keeping your tank full. I think especially women, and especially mothers, need to be reminded that acts of self care are not selfish, they are acts of generosity towards everyone in our environment, who will all benefit from us having a full tank.
Thank you for sharing this, Joy. Terrific insight. 💕
I opened this video because I wanted to get inspired by one of the BLE vlogs.. BUT... I've just not only got inspired, but moved to tears, deeeeeply shaken with your authenticity and honesty.. . Susan, what you've been doing is so true, so powerful and so helpful! And now I know why - you have that beautiful connection with the Source, and I'm going to stick to you and follow your example. You are such a beautiful soul and I'm so grateful I've found you and I'm trying by best in the Boot Camp and in my life. Thank you from all my heart!
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You have no idea what a God moment landing on this vlog today was for me. Thank you for being brave and being you. This helped me so much.
I just found you 3 days ago and I started BLE today. Last week my husband of 25 years and children were in NYC and experiencing a lot of anger and drama. I felt so many words you were saying on here. Thank you for being so open and sharing this.
Welcome Devann! 🧡
Thank you - I needed this! My therapist told me I need to work on my boundaries, you were a great example of this. I find so much comfort in listening to your blogs so please keep going. I wish I could have found you sooner but I'm not worried about that just would about today and being bright!
I’m coming to this blog some time after it was posted, but thank you so much Susan. I had not seen the line between me being a support person, going above and beyond etc etc etc as many partners, mothers do; with then turning to food for relief- my ‘me time’ I suppose. But I also get that I am accountable for my choices- if I don’t set boundaries or speak up then that is indeed on me. I want to have clean, bright lines across all of my life Thank you again for this sharing
This whole vlog was incredibly powerful. Vulnerable and Authentic. Thank you.
Just watching this 4 years later. Thank you for being so real. David sounds like an adult child!?!
Conscious contact....do the next right thing. 👍🏻. Thank you. So much available for free in the fellowship. ☮️
Your honesty and integrity right down to challenges in your marriage makes us see a real person SPT. We thank you for this as it highlights difficulties we experience in our marriages. Food addiction for comfort relief, it is a disease of codependency. Very damaging, thank you. Lots of love, from Naomi Susan (too) Baatjes from South Africa. Speaking your needs into the space ( good heading for this vlog).
Tears and profound gratitude. Thank you for modeling what it means to be healthy on literally every level. Mad respect and much love.
Thanks for sharing. I am so appreciative of your authenticity. Yup, marriage is challenging and growth is uncomfortable and often painful but you just showed why its totally worth it.
This was powerful and relevant for me and my own marriage as well as BLE journey. All I can say is THANK YOU.
You're welcome, Erin! 😉
Susan, thank you for your raw words of wisdom and candid truth about your marriage and marriage in general. I really needed to hear this today. I appreciate your courage.
Love your "realness"! Happy 2020! I can so empathize with David; I grew up in a similar family!
Ohhhhh my, Susan.
Thank you for sharing.
I think this resonates with more people than you'd think.
You're in a position to reach many,...and you're using this ability, Exactly as God would have you do.
Keep listening to that "God voice"😊 The closer you listen,...everything will iron itself out. You and David are two wonderful people, Learning a lot together.
As long as you don't forget to communicate in the Spirit of love, and honesty and tenderness toward each other, everything will work out! You two will be a fortress, and a force to be reckoned with. And both receiving what each needs to be happy in this life. You'll learn on a deeper level what each other's "creature comforts" are. And will make the effort to facilitate those things, out of a deeper love for each other...
Yes, the vulnerability is appreciated.❤️❤️❤️
We all can learn something from each other!
Wow Susan you really got to me. I was crying with you. Ouf! Heavy stuff but glad you did this, you are so inspirational. God bless xoxo
Thank you so much for sharing your insights about boundaries. Very powerful stuff here. So very grateful...I very much needed to hear this.
Your honesty is incredible, this vlog made up my mind about trusting the Bright Line process, really looking forward to it.
Susan, I love how you being so open and inspiring at the same time. My husband and I are married for 28 years, I can totally related to your story. This outcome is so powerful and I really appreciate you share the experience with us.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! Your real-ness is so wonderful to hear ❤️
I’m stuck on the “settle down Beavis” 😉. Love ya Susan :)
But seriously, thank you so much for your vulnerability. Bless you ♥️
Thankful for you and finding your channel today. You’re ability to share is a gift that I needed and has reminded me of somethings very meaningful.
So glad you found us, Mary! 😘 Welcome!
Thank you! That was truly authentic and relatable. It touched my heart and gives me hope.
What a treasure of a Vlog
I’m learning so much about my own journey from your story Susan.
Now at the end of your blog...I'm glad I shared with myself, so not to forget and Super glad I listened. Y-H bless you and yours.
This is a beautiful share. Thank you so much for this. It really resonated with my relationship as well... As I'm growing at a different pace, different path than my partner. This is what I needed to hear. Listening to you today I realized i need to step back a bit and let my partners path be hers. Lots of great things to think about in this vlog. Thanks again.
Thank you for sharing such intimate, hearfelt truth! I just love you so much, and appreciate the positive influence you have had in my life. I'm inspired and motivated to keep showing up because of your example. Hugs Susan!
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Wow thank you, new to BLE and watching as many Vlog’s as I can.. real truth!! No Hollywood here. 🙏
Welcome, Michelle! 💖
Darling you are a guardian angel with all the golden glorious power that brings. He is only a man with the basic needs they have. Don’t let him stop you flying but try not to burn him too much in your ascendence.
Wow. Thanks for being so vulnerable. It made me realize how selfish I have been in our marriage. I'm working so hard on me that I've put my husband too the side. I will now make him just ass much of a priority as I do for myself.
Susan, I'm without my spouse ( killed active duty when we were both 25 ). I am watching because this subject is vital, thanks for doing it.
Oh, Deborah! So very sorry to hear this. Sending so much love and peace your way, friend. ♥️
Wow, can’t tell you how much you sound like me and your husband like mine. I recently realized my husband has OCPD. Finally it has helped me to understand him and he just can’t change..... maybe smooth his edges. It helps me....... just understanding that. He has zero boundaries and even after a lengthy 3 month study on them just doesn’t get it. He loves and adores me. After 39 years of marriage, 4 daughters, 15 grandchildren. I think I am finding my healthy food boundaries.
Great video..... thankful you are real.
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I can remember our youth and every day intimacy, then later three times a week and now less but still happening regularly at 64 (me) and 71 her.
Yes, Susan, you are married to an amazing man, who is willing to think about what you have said and is willing to grow and change. I was very happy to see, at the end, that you were--together--able to identify that the things you were doing to focus on each other and your marriage had gone by the wayside and that you have come to a renewed commitment to those things that keep your relationship strong. We, out here in BLE-land, root for your marriage to remain strong and healthy, so keep hanging in there and working out those kinks!
Thank you both for a very relevant vlog post!
Thank you, Denise! 💙
I found BLE yesterday. I miss God. Which would not be so ironic unless you know what I do for a living. I am 50 this month. I know "God" brought me this video. Thanks for being honest in this even though it is a year past. It has helped :) Thanks for sharing your truth.
Happy to have you with us, Queen Of The Aries. 🧡
So beautiful, brought me to tears.
“Just for today I will not try to improve our regulate anyone but myself.“
It's hard life for both of you Susan .. having three kids, leading BLE program .. of course individual problems will appear, which of course influent your relation .. maybe both of you should go to therаpist to check what makes him mad and what can he do to help himself and how you can understand him better .. why would you move from the house Susan? Thanks God love won! Love for you and David and your family!
Thank you for your honesty. I didn't feel it was TMI. It helped to give us a good picture of his things were with you.
I'm absolutely over care taking. Mom of six. Full time working. Married to a man for 20 years who won't help with the every day in and out for the kids activities, school etc and the house chores. It all falls on me. He also happens to be an alcoholic who refuses to get treatment. Moving out for me isn't nearly as accessible but oh so tempting. I'm tired of being stuck.
Sending love, courage, and strength to you, mama. You have a lot to manage. May you do it with confidence and grace. 🧡
God, I love you Susan,thanks for sharing.
I know this is going to sound stupid....or ..... crazy... but: I love you and David both....and God bless you both!....
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Oh my dear Susan! This was precious!! I needed to hear this so very much!! Thank you, thank you!! (I’m getting married Jan26!?)
Congratulations!!! 💛
Girl I was on my couch for about 4 months. Still working it out but back in the bed. We are funny. Life is funny. We are all hard to live with.
Wishing you well, friend! 🧡
So much I can relate to. Thank you.
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I think you are a powerhouse Susan. I think most men don't want to to tell their wives they feel inadequate when their wives are so independant, maybe he is fine in that way but maybe not...
There is no point in building your business if you lose your marriage. And even if you do, you will lose half in the divorce. Slow down and figure it out. For your kids sake and for both of yours.
Just watched this amazing, need my husband to watch
Wishing you and your husband the absolute best, friend. 🧡
You touched my heart.
I had angry outbursts and got trauma therapy. I had alcoholic parents and it's called childhood ptsd. I did emdr and brainspotting to help heal it.
We are happy to hear you are finding healing and hope, dear Tonya. 🧡
be well
Beautiful! So real and transparent. You have no idea the impact you have made today with your honesty and vulnerability. David seems like a prince and like so many men find it difficult to express how they really feel. You gave him the opportunity to learn how to do that, and it's okay. The best blog yet because it speaks about real life and how it affects how we deal with our emotions. And who can best show us the better way than the teacher!
Oh Susan
Oh they do mean and will not stop to cease meaning that women's "role" is the well known "home one". It's convenient. It is the nature of their energy. There's nothing wrong with hiring help. It's better to use someone's talents for what they are talented for, rather then housejobs.