i hate how society has made it seem like it’s weird to be by yourself in a restaurant or at the movies. it should be normalized its self-love and care. people shouldn’t feel pressured to hang out with others to be “happy”, so when i see videos like this, normalizing these types of things it really just warms my heart. (sorry i kinda went on a tangent)
Agree! I love going out alone and being with my thoughts, I think it’s an American thing though that you’re made to feel embarrassed. Where I’m from it’s normal and encouraged!
@@ChoxiaI don't think it's just an American thing but I do feel like in certain societies going places alone can seem odd to others within that society.
@@ChoxiaI don't think it's just an American thing specifically. I do think that in certain societies going out alone can seem odd to those within in that society.
i'm a young teen and i find it so ridiculous how everyone just NEEDS to have a significant other 24/7. They get together, break up, and then find someone else and it constantly repeats. but honestly seeing all the drama that goes on i've never once even thought about dating someone, and you further prove my point! it is really nice just doing things for yourself, and i'm glad there's someone who thinks the same way- so thankful for you :)
I was like that too as a teenager. I didn't even care about dating or needed it and didn't get why other were so into it and single people was desperate to find someone. Then when you grow up a little bit and become an adult, you understand that life is better when you share it with a soul mate, the good one. It's as natural as eating and everyone feel this need sooner or later even introvert. And what you feel with friends, family, yourself is totally different from what you feel in a relationship. Anyway my point is you're doing a good job by not being desperate to find someone and enjoying being by yourself, however if you find someone don't think it's ridiculous and give it a shot.
I didn't date as a teenager to avoid this kind of culture. I'm 18 now and I'd be willing to get into a relationship now that I'm at university, but even then, I'll be picky. I found the relationships at school to be silly and fleeting, or made to elevate the participants' social status, which I'm not interested in.
@@mollygraceeeI'm 20 but even younger than that, I wish I saw your original comment because I always thought the same thing and people would mock me or make me think that it's not normal like yeah no, I don't want to be around someone 24/7 and I love my company and solitude much more! Doing things by myself has been the best thing ever and I haven't though about relationships nor dating nor kids nor marriage like they just aren't thing that I want and I'm happy with my decision too!
honestly you're just a vibe. you make idk, feelings of isolation feel less lonely. if that makes sense. its just like yeah i feel lonely but at least i'm not alone in that feeling. and that brings a light of hope in life. so i thank you for that. i thank you for feeling comfortable in front of the camera, treating us like friends and enabling us all the embrace the beauty of friendship whilst also being comforable. you're insporing. I'm glad i found you when i did, but also i simply thank you for being there. keep fighting via, also pls know i absolutely love your Instagram stories lol.
stop this is literally such a sweet comment. it makes me so happy to know that my content help u guys🥹🌷🩷 thank u for also reminding me that i’m not alone in these feelings as well. ily🌷🌷🌷☀️☀️☀️☀️
I've always been so jealous of my friends cause they all had partners while I've never dated someone cause I think no one has ever liked me. However at the end I've understood that being by my own is also fun and I don't need someone to be happy like society made me think.
yesterday, I decided to have my first ever solo day. I went to the mall and got some new clothes, got burger and fries at Red Robin’s (WITH A MF MILKSHAKEEE), then I got a ticket to see a local theatre play. All in all…please know it’s okay to do things alone. I’m gonna make a note to have a solo day every week.
@@RadEmm Cool! Also a quick tip: don’t do anything you never did before. Do things that are in your best interest. Like go to the Aquarium or to a restaurant or thrift shopping. Notttt so much going to a night club by yourself. That’s a buddy system hangout lmao
as an introvert, I truly do love being alone,but being lonely and alone is just a different feeling. I very much relate to love doing basically everything by myself but I do get in that mood once in a while where I wish I could do certain tasks with an s/o. watching your videos help me a lot with realizing that alot of other people feel the same way I do⭐️🤍
⭐ I think when it comes to dating, one thing to keep in mind is that you cannot compromise who you are. If you are the type of person that enjoys living alone, or sometimes going out alone, or even travel alone, you should be able to do those things even when you're dating someone. If the other person cannot respect who you are (obviously it goes both ways), then it's not a relationship worth having. Relationships must be a plus, not a minus. At least that's my opinion. Dating can, and must be, fun! Or else what's the point? Anyway, great video as always!
I looked right into your eyes and said "I didn't enjoy this vlog" because you're so comfortable going out and having fun on your own and I can't do that without having a weird feeling that I'm missing something, that I shouldn't go out alone because I'd rather do the same thing at my home or maybe just not being that comfortable being on my own with my own thoughts as the only source of stimulation. I'm just kidding I did love the vlog and all the rest of them, it's nice seeing other people having the energy and enthusiasm to do that and still have a lot of fun, I'm happy you got out too bc staying at home for too long is never a good thing. So keep it up Via! I know you put a lot of effort into these videos, it shows in the editing so much love from Spain ⭐❤ Love your energy!
I love how now is getting normalized to take care of yourself and take yourself to dates, I'm single and I live alone as well so I understand how bad it can feel sometimes the loneliness and I don't know how would I've been doing without this type of content that motivates me to get out of my comfort zone and go out alone, I honestly enjoy that so much, I wish I can afford to do so more often! Btw, I love your videos⭐⭐⭐
Having a few friends who care about you and want to hang out with you is far more important than having a partner imo. With friends there isn't the expectation of romance/sex or an end point - you can just have fun and learn about one another!
I have issues with going outside and touching grass sometimes lol. So your statement that you can just go outside and sit on a bench really hit me in the feels. Just going outside and being in nature can really help improve your mood. Imma go sit on a bench outside now. Thanks again for another amazing video! ⭐
⭐ i totally understand you feeling lonely and sometimes jealous. I have never been in a relationship and I see my friends with their partners and wonder how nice it must be. And sometimes intrusive thoughts come into my mind saying i'm ugly, not good enought or even just not likable :) Thank you for the vlog 🌷
I recently followed you and I realize we are same on so many levels. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. We agreed that we kinda split up because of our busy schedule and our (well mostly mine) priority. I graduated from high school and I kinda lost all of my friends :') so I feel lonely af, I cry constantly and my exam results isn't announced yet but I feel like I failed and disappointed my family. I'm a perfectionist and I realize I just feel like I only value myself if I find myself enough so Idk I feel broken
oh no love, i’m so so sorry to hear this. I’m glad you were able to put your own priorities first tho! And i totally understand on the lonely aspect of it all. And it is healthy to let out your emotions (start journaling too!) and have a good session cry. but always remember to pick yourself up. if you fail, that’s ok! there’s so much more to life than just an exam. I used to be very focused on my exams too, but looking back now i can barely remember any of it. an exam is just an exam, nothing more. i personally think you can never fail as long as you don’t give up. sending you so much love bestie 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
@@via.ilyouu thank you 💖 I think you inspired me to get back journaling. I feel like your videos speaks to me on so many levels. You're like the big sister I've ever wanted. Love you too
That’s okay. Girls, remember being alone is the time for you to focus on yourself, do what you love, because when you are in relationship, you will need compromise with your bf or gf. I find myself as the best friend I ever have. It’s so fun spending time with myself. It does get lonely sometimes but the feeling will change and you will enjoy being by yourself again
⭐ Love the transition from describing the saturated baby blue sky, to then WEARING a saturated baby blue top. So cute, love your channel and your videos! Definitely helping me get through a break up and feel more comfortable on my own :)
I think if we all focused on being single and with ourselves in our early 20s we'd be much better humans in our 30s. Speaking from experience. You go Via, you're doing amazingly. 👏
Via is like the unspoken thoughts in my mind. I always felt bad knowing that I was the single friend in my group knowing that there are a lot of girls who feel the same loneliness that I do makes me not feel lonely. Your vlogs are really fun to watch !! I love how honest you are.⭐⭐⭐
I'm in a relationship but i always take myself on solo dates cuz I love my alone time too much and spending time with myself like going on solo coffee dates or solo museum dates makes me so happy, i think liking being by yourself is very important, I used to feel pressured to only go on dates with my bf but why do that when u can also enjoy time by urself? I think that's the healthiest mindset
Ik this video has a lot of YA who related to u, BecauseTheCreatorIsAlso BUTTT as someone who is still in my mid teens, 1st gen and never had an elder sister growing up, your channel is soo warm and comforting.... what am I saying idk but you really give the elder sister vibes that I never had sooo thank you . . . Idk how but I feel like I have managed to be awkward even from behind the screen.
i love these videos SO much. youve brought me so much comfort over this summer. ive been super down and lonely and bored all summer and ive found these videos to be one of the best cures. please keep being yourself and keep making these videos
i recently got out of a long term relationship and i’ve felt really lost being alone, but your videos have helped me feel better and makes me want to get to the point of taking myself out on “self dates.” always look forward to your uploads! ⭐️
Your videos are sooooo calming and comforting I always get a good vibe from them alsooo your clothing style is amazingggg ⭐⭐⭐⭐ your outfits always slayy
Your vlogs give me so much comfort. You're honestly my push to go out and hangout with myself. I struggle with going out and the anxiety that comes with it, but seeing you enjoy it always makes me feel like I would to. Thank you, Via! ⭐
as someone who feels lonely a lot, this video was very beautiul and inspiring to watch. also, i went shopping on my own today and even though i felt a little awkward sometimes, i'm proud of myself and i bought some rlly cool stuff! thanks for this video (:
your videos are like therapy for me, I'm literally watching this while my lunch break alone .. and now I have to go back to studying cuz it's currently a SUPER stressful/tense (kinda fateful for me 💔😖) exam season.. + also⭐⭐⭐⭐💞 LOVE YA
After a very stressful week, this is exactly what I needed. It’s legit 1am and I can’t stop smiling. This video was so wholesome ⭐️. Seeing Via enjoy herself makes me so happy for her and hope she continues to have good days like this 🌷. Also, y’all better be appreciating the hard work she’s doing to edit and upload videos for us. Slaying at cafés lol. Thank you for another great video! ❤ I’ll take it as my sign to take myself on a date. After how this week went, I need/deserve it 💃
videos like these are soo comforting. its so nice being reminded that you dont need other people or a fancy plan to enjoy your day; you can just go out and treat yourself. as someone whos really introverted and has absolutely atrocious social anxiety, i usually dont have the balls to go out and do things that i enjoy by myself bc im worried ppl will judge me for being alone, so watching you go on a cute self-date was so therapeutic
no way I was literally thinking about this like yesterday too, I had a depressive episode over how i feel like im always out of loop with everyone else, never even thought abt relationships until coming to college and seeing all my classmates getting together or having crushes on each other like its CRAZY. like ive been fine on my own my whole life ive never even had crushes on anyone before but i feel like im not as mature as most of my peers in college and i feel like im just a casual friend to everyone rather than a close and reliable friend to someone.. definitely gonna have to look into getting that weighted blanket you suggested lmaoo ⭐
Hi Via:) just wanted to say that there is no determined period to date, I'm 25 and I'm having my first dating experience.. it just feels like the right moment for me right now, after 2 years of therapy! I love your vids btw♥️
Hey there! Hope you're doing well 😊 That sounds hopeful, I'm 24 and just started therapy! Glad it helped you. Do you have any advice regarding therapy? Also, was it awkward telling your bf that you have no experience with anything? I've always felt scared of being judged and/or taken advantage of
Via I hope you know how many rough times in my life you have helped me through. You have really gotten me through the worst of it, I can always come back to your vlogs and you make everything feel safe again, all the pain and worry washes away I feel like I can breathe again. You're helping me once again even now so tysm!! We love you!
Im currently in a depressive episode and havent been able to do anything. Today was my first day picking up my phone to do anything other than just put it back down, and im glad this is the video I saw. I dont have many friends either and the lonliness sets in really quickly and lately its been hard to deal with, especially since i work from home its like being in a bow all the time.
⭐️ i’ve always avoided going out on my own because i feared crowds and public spaces but after coming across your videos, i can’t be prouder to say that now i regularly go out and treat myself! you’ve motivated and inspired me so much, thank you so much! ILYYY
⭐ as a Muslim girl i don't really date and I've never been in relationship but I love talking with new people and going out, I mean I love it but I don't do it cause I'm still working on my ability to make friends instead of waiting for someone to come, all the people that came to my life effected me somehow cause I always wanted to keep the people who came to me even though that they're not good for me (not anymore) and again I moved to another country so everything changed and the connection with people became harder because of the language that I'm still trying to learn, so the most of the time I'm feeling so lonely and wanting someone to talk with BUT you'll always find me trying to escape if I met someone new, I don't need them but I want them and that hits different.
this is so cute. wishing u the best w/ your mental health. you deserve a lot of love and i'm glad you're able to make the most out of a lonely situation
I love your vids and know you are not alone we are here Plus I don't understand why people make it that being alone at a restaurant or a cafe makes you a loner I can be alone if I want to It's like a therapy session with yourself (and that doesn't cost anything) it's always nice to have a silent moment with yourself and treating yourself is like a little reward 💕💕💕💕
i love this series sm! do you think you could make a fav boston cafe/spots video or instagram post? i just moved here and you always seem to go to the cutest places
It's so nice to see videos like this and realize I'm not alone in the world and there's someone out there with the same feelings and struggles, and it's normal! I'm new in the channel ❤
⭐️⭐️⭐️ i don’t rly have many (or any) friends so i often go out alone to thrift/eat/watch movies etc so this vlog brings a lot of comfort to me, means a lot 💕 love u!!!
I would love to go drawing with someone in a cafe or outside somewhere. I miss my adventures in UK where I lived for two years. Here in Finland the summer is so short and winter is long, dark and depressing. But I guess I need to change my mindset and try to enjoy the darkness. It is cozy also when you light up some candles and watch christmas lights. I never get bored of the sparkling snow. 😍 So many beautiful little things make me feel less lonely.
found this channel recently and i feel like i can relate to you in so many ways. it was nice to come along on your solo date! as someone who's never been in a relationship either (i turn 20 soon) i can agree that doing things alone and just spending time with yourself can feel a little lonely, but like you said, the freedom that comes along with it feels very rewarding
Girl I felt thisss! All my close friends got into relationships recently or are in the process of talking to ppl and I’m legit here like 🧍🏻♀️ like I don’t mind being a third wheel but sometimes it’s so awkward I just want to not go out with the couples lol because the loneliness is realll 😅I need to learn to take myself out on self dates I think that concept is so healthy!!! ⭐️❤
Im now at an age when everyone I know is getting into relationships, married or just busy. Its so lonely and I am just here permanently single and jobless lmao
Your channel always makes me feel motivated to go out to Boston alone. I feel like not having friends to go with really holds me back from having fun. I’m so happy I discovered your channel !🩵
Im currently in high school and I’ve been single my whole life which normally I’m good with but sometimes I crave that adolescent romance that everyone else has ya know but this video was very comforting and I might just take myself out in a date soon ⭐️
i started to eat out alone after few years of not doing so. i remember the first time i eat out last year was super awkward/ uncomfortable but after doing it constantly i felt comfortable to eat out alone already, and i even went to workout classes like spin, boxing that i wanted to try out always and i manage to do it alone, 8 months of eating out alone, exploring coffee places, workout classes i learned how to be alone, and enjoy my own company instead of waiting for someone to go with my interest. Now even if i don’t have any plans on a day, i can spend the day by myself doing things that i want to do
honestly this is so comforting, as a 20 year old woman who just had her first boyfriend ever this year, i used to constantly think that other ppl were living something that i am MISSING, when it’s absolutely not the case !! i grew up, went through maaany stages of life, all of this without having a partner. and now that i have one, i am still focused on myself and my friends and family, i am never making him my top priority bc i learned in those 20 years that i could do anything by myself!, i think that never having a partner for all of these years helped us so much especially in self growth and maturity:) i enjoy so much your videos, i wish u the best
when you crave intimacy and physical touch with another person but literally talk to no one and get very socially awkward around ppl, true life of an introvert 😔 lmaooooo ⭐️
to be honest, when it comes to art block i always heard (and agree with it) that you shouldn't force yourself to draw. consume other media, do other hobbies. try doing things that give you inspiration so that when your block is over you are ready to go. but ye don't force it is an advice ive always heard and gave other as well. it works well for many people. and ye honestly only the physical touch crave part gets me tbh. ive never been in a relationship, havent kissed in almost a year and things have been busy so i wasnt able to even get huggy with friends. tough world out there truly. ⭐
⭐ I literally love you and your videos, i have been feeling very lonely and out of place recently but this video cheered me up! And yes i took this as a sign to go out
i love how open and comfortable you are because it honestly makes me feel like im one of your besties and i love the vibes you're giving off ngl seeing ppl like you irl honestly makes me so like appreciative (??) idk the word im looking for but like id be all like damn okay one day imma be an independent girly like her today may not be that day but like ONE day i think its so cute that youre going on a lil self date cause i feel like we all need that also if you ever need someone to snuggle with you could always get like a lil fluffy fren like a lil kitty or a doggo
Heyy viaa I’m a 14 year old girlll , I’ve been alone and doing things myself and I really enjoy my own company , thank you so much for letting me know that being alone and doing things by ourselves is not a bad thing btw the vlog was really good and I really enjoyed it ✨🫶🏻
as someone who does weird noises, voices, moves, things...ect, I just wanted to say that you don't have to apologize everytime u do that too, not to assume that u do feel like that but, u might feel embarrassed but it's ok to have those tiny lil silly (but fun and carefree) moments of urself and it's all normal and natural. loveeee u 🫶
I am watching from England , We are the same age girl , literally you are me but across the sea haha , you make me feel less odd and less alone ! Thank you ❤ x
hahaha i love how u r able to talk so much so smoothly, filling any kind of awkward silence in the video like if i were beside you i would literally not feel awkward at all!!!
I'm happier when I'm alone to be honest😂 I just daydream too often and imagine the weirdest things that will never happen and then I'm sad again but other than that... I love being lonely😭👍⭐️
Hi Via, I'm also single like you and I'm 28 years old, female, sometimes looking at people with couples makes me cry and think maybe I'm so bad that no one accepts me but later when I watch videos about Buddhism has a saying like this, if you're single and lonely in life, it's not that you're disadvantaged but because you don't owe anyone, in Buddhism when you love someone, it's a predestined relationship and the person you love will give you a lot of energy both positive and negative. You are going through a difficult and confusing time that needs healing so being single is still the best, have a nice day
I am 21. I am having an episode of me spiraling to me feeling lonely .... It's not that I don't have friends. They are in different colleges also my friend in college she is not like, I am a very outgoing person but bcs of somethings I have been very closed in first few years off college. So now I don't appear inviting to people. Not a lot of people in class talk to me and my friend. So don't have college friends to go anywhere with. Also I am single, I see people with there friends everywhere or their boyfriends and it feels so sad to be sitting all alone. Bcs I want to go out have nice food I want to enjoy. Sometimes I feel I am ugly maybe that is the reason. I feel maybe if I had a bf I would not feel lonely. I am okay a lot of days but some days it is like a chasm of loneliness and i can't give myself out of it.
You're just so amazing. I really appreciate all the tips and lil things you say, it helps a lot. And yk what? I'll go outside to do nothing today :) just need to go outside and get a coffee and do nothing else :)
Sometimes I think it would be cool to meet you in person and chat on a park bench about our existential crises. (Because I have never had a partner either and it is difficult to meet someone who is similar to me in that regard). But at the same time I think we would stare at each other without saying a word because of how introverted we are 😂😂 Btw, I really enjoyed the video. 💕✨🌈
Ah she's back! I recently got stuck on your channel. I love all your videos and can see myself reflected on you. I also feel lonely sometimes and just wish I didn't feel that way, but I try finding ways to have fun alone. I'm glad you do the same! ❤
it’s mainly nice to have someone to talk about ur issues with and asking for advice on certain topics. My therapist mainly points out how some of the ways i think may be flawed or just really negative.
@@via.ilyouuyeah I know what you mean tbf mine is the same very negative or tries to put me in social groups but as an introvert that doesn't work that way 💞there's hope out there for us all 🙂
The past few days I have been very sad. Caz I have philiophobia and can't love no one and I feel like no one else is love me and yk I feel like nobody can't stay by my side. And I found this vlog. And I watch this. After watching this vlog I feel a little better. I feel like "nah I don't need nobody. I have me. What I need more. Nothing." Like this. Thank you for making this vlog gurl
I really love your vlogs and this one gave me an idea. I think you can make long videos like: reading with me or painting with me or study in a cafe/librery with me. This way we can put your videos in the background while we doing things. I think that it can be cool 😊
i hate how society has made it seem like it’s weird to be by yourself in a restaurant or at the movies. it should be normalized its self-love and care. people shouldn’t feel pressured to hang out with others to be “happy”, so when i see videos like this, normalizing these types of things it really just warms my heart. (sorry i kinda went on a tangent)
i love uuuu
@@via.ilyouuahhh i love u 2!! ur content is so relatable and comforting, keep being ur amazing self!
Agree! I love going out alone and being with my thoughts, I think it’s an American thing though that you’re made to feel embarrassed. Where I’m from it’s normal and encouraged!
@@ChoxiaI don't think it's just an American thing but I do feel like in certain societies going places alone can seem odd to others within that society.
@@ChoxiaI don't think it's just an American thing specifically. I do think that in certain societies going out alone can seem odd to those within in that society.
As someone who's just turned 23 and never even touched hands with a man...this made me feel a lot better lol
don't worry sis, there's many of us. we're just quiet and it's a taboo topic, especially with todays hookup culture
@@luna1r ty ♡
Me too😊 never kissed,touch and gave a man a hug🥲😂😂😂😂. You feel lonely but it worth it later😊 you will be fine
happy late bday!
indeed there's many of us waiting for the right person ☺. Don't worry you'll get there eventually!
Ok but fr you convinced me to finally go out and try on clothes alone for fun like last week and I ended up with literally the cutest dress ever 😭😭😭
OMG YES YESSSSS
This is a safe space for us 20 somethings struggling with relationships and self love. Thanks Via. Imma keep trying to enjoy life even after trauma.
i'm a young teen and i find it so ridiculous how everyone just NEEDS to have a significant other 24/7. They get together, break up, and then find someone else and it constantly repeats. but honestly seeing all the drama that goes on i've never once even thought about dating someone, and you further prove my point! it is really nice just doing things for yourself, and i'm glad there's someone who thinks the same way- so thankful for you :)
I was like that too as a teenager. I didn't even care about dating or needed it and didn't get why other were so into it and single people was desperate to find someone.
Then when you grow up a little bit and become an adult, you understand that life is better when you share it with a soul mate, the good one. It's as natural as eating and everyone feel this need sooner or later even introvert.
And what you feel with friends, family, yourself is totally different from what you feel in a relationship.
Anyway my point is you're doing a good job by not being desperate to find someone and enjoying being by yourself, however if you find someone don't think it's ridiculous and give it a shot.
@@Irland_mindset thank you for the advice! :)
I didn't date as a teenager to avoid this kind of culture. I'm 18 now and I'd be willing to get into a relationship now that I'm at university, but even then, I'll be picky. I found the relationships at school to be silly and fleeting, or made to elevate the participants' social status, which I'm not interested in.
@@mollygraceeeI'm 20 but even younger than that, I wish I saw your original comment because I always thought the same thing and people would mock me or make me think that it's not normal like yeah no, I don't want to be around someone 24/7 and I love my company and solitude much more!
Doing things by myself has been the best thing ever and I haven't though about relationships nor dating nor kids nor marriage like they just aren't thing that I want and I'm happy with my decision too!
honestly you're just a vibe. you make idk, feelings of isolation feel less lonely. if that makes sense. its just like yeah i feel lonely but at least i'm not alone in that feeling. and that brings a light of hope in life. so i thank you for that. i thank you for feeling comfortable in front of the camera, treating us like friends and enabling us all the embrace the beauty of friendship whilst also being comforable. you're insporing. I'm glad i found you when i did, but also i simply thank you for being there. keep fighting via, also pls know i absolutely love your Instagram stories lol.
stop this is literally such a sweet comment. it makes me so happy to know that my content help u guys🥹🌷🩷 thank u for also reminding me that i’m not alone in these feelings as well. ily🌷🌷🌷☀️☀️☀️☀️
I've always been so jealous of my friends cause they all had partners while I've never dated someone cause I think no one has ever liked me. However at the end I've understood that being by my own is also fun and I don't need someone to be happy like society made me think.
How old r u
yesterday, I decided to have my first ever solo day. I went to the mall and got some new clothes, got burger and fries at Red Robin’s (WITH A MF MILKSHAKEEE), then I got a ticket to see a local theatre play.
All in all…please know it’s okay to do things alone. I’m gonna make a note to have a solo day every week.
Also ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
@@RadEmm Cool! Also a quick tip: don’t do anything you never did before. Do things that are in your best interest. Like go to the Aquarium or to a restaurant or thrift shopping. Notttt so much going to a night club by yourself. That’s a buddy system hangout lmao
as an introvert, I truly do love being alone,but being lonely and alone is just a different feeling. I very much relate to love doing basically everything by myself but I do get in that mood once in a while where I wish I could do certain tasks with an s/o. watching your videos help me a lot with realizing that alot of other people feel the same way I do⭐️🤍
via li is my new comfort youtuber she's the elder sister i never had she's so cool omggg
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⭐ I think when it comes to dating, one thing to keep in mind is that you cannot compromise who you are. If you are the type of person that enjoys living alone, or sometimes going out alone, or even travel alone, you should be able to do those things even when you're dating someone. If the other person cannot respect who you are (obviously it goes both ways), then it's not a relationship worth having. Relationships must be a plus, not a minus. At least that's my opinion. Dating can, and must be, fun! Or else what's the point?
Anyway, great video as always!
it’s so amazing to see you doing this because being alone and treating yourself is a form of self care and should be normalized by society ❤️
Yup 🤗🫂
I looked right into your eyes and said "I didn't enjoy this vlog" because you're so comfortable going out and having fun on your own and I can't do that without having a weird feeling that I'm missing something, that I shouldn't go out alone because I'd rather do the same thing at my home or maybe just not being that comfortable being on my own with my own thoughts as the only source of stimulation. I'm just kidding I did love the vlog and all the rest of them, it's nice seeing other people having the energy and enthusiasm to do that and still have a lot of fun, I'm happy you got out too bc staying at home for too long is never a good thing. So keep it up Via! I know you put a lot of effort into these videos, it shows in the editing so much love from Spain ⭐❤ Love your energy!
I love how now is getting normalized to take care of yourself and take yourself to dates, I'm single and I live alone as well so I understand how bad it can feel sometimes the loneliness and I don't know how would I've been doing without this type of content that motivates me to get out of my comfort zone and go out alone, I honestly enjoy that so much, I wish I can afford to do so more often!
Btw, I love your videos⭐⭐⭐
Having a few friends who care about you and want to hang out with you is far more important than having a partner imo. With friends there isn't the expectation of romance/sex or an end point - you can just have fun and learn about one another!
I have issues with going outside and touching grass sometimes lol. So your statement that you can just go outside and sit on a bench really hit me in the feels. Just going outside and being in nature can really help improve your mood. Imma go sit on a bench outside now. Thanks again for another amazing video! ⭐
⭐ i totally understand you feeling lonely and sometimes jealous. I have never been in a relationship and I see my friends with their partners and wonder how nice it must be. And sometimes intrusive thoughts come into my mind saying i'm ugly, not good enought or even just not likable :) Thank you for the vlog 🌷
this makes me feel better abt being lonely. As an introvert i feel pressured to hang with other people even when i value my own company the most
I recently followed you and I realize we are same on so many levels. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months. We agreed that we kinda split up because of our busy schedule and our (well mostly mine) priority. I graduated from high school and I kinda lost all of my friends :') so I feel lonely af, I cry constantly and my exam results isn't announced yet but I feel like I failed and disappointed my family. I'm a perfectionist and I realize I just feel like I only value myself if I find myself enough so Idk I feel broken
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oh no love, i’m so so sorry to hear this. I’m glad you were able to put your own priorities first tho! And i totally understand on the lonely aspect of it all. And it is healthy to let out your emotions (start journaling too!) and have a good session cry. but always remember to pick yourself up. if you fail, that’s ok! there’s so much more to life than just an exam. I used to be very focused on my exams too, but looking back now i can barely remember any of it. an exam is just an exam, nothing more. i personally think you can never fail as long as you don’t give up. sending you so much love bestie 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
@@via.ilyouu thank you 💖 I think you inspired me to get back journaling. I feel like your videos speaks to me on so many levels. You're like the big sister I've ever wanted. Love you too
That’s okay. Girls, remember being alone is the time for you to focus on yourself, do what you love, because when you are in relationship, you will need compromise with your bf or gf. I find myself as the best friend I ever have. It’s so fun spending time with myself. It does get lonely sometimes but the feeling will change and you will enjoy being by yourself again
her vlogs literally heal me
⭐ Love the transition from describing the saturated baby blue sky, to then WEARING a saturated baby blue top. So cute, love your channel and your videos! Definitely helping me get through a break up and feel more comfortable on my own :)
I think if we all focused on being single and with ourselves in our early 20s we'd be much better humans in our 30s. Speaking from experience.
You go Via, you're doing amazingly. 👏
Via is like the unspoken thoughts in my mind. I always felt bad knowing that I was the single friend in my group knowing that there are a lot of girls who feel the same loneliness that I do makes me not feel lonely. Your vlogs are really fun to watch !! I love how honest you are.⭐⭐⭐
I'm in a relationship but i always take myself on solo dates cuz I love my alone time too much and spending time with myself like going on solo coffee dates or solo museum dates makes me so happy, i think liking being by yourself is very important, I used to feel pressured to only go on dates with my bf but why do that when u can also enjoy time by urself? I think that's the healthiest mindset
Ik this video has a lot of YA who related to u, BecauseTheCreatorIsAlso BUTTT as someone who is still in my mid teens, 1st gen and never had an elder sister growing up, your channel is soo warm and comforting.... what am I saying idk but you really give the elder sister vibes that I never had sooo thank you
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Idk how but I feel like I have managed to be awkward even from behind the screen.
i love these videos SO much. youve brought me so much comfort over this summer. ive been super down and lonely and bored all summer and ive found these videos to be one of the best cures. please keep being yourself and keep making these videos
i recently got out of a long term relationship and i’ve felt really lost being alone, but your videos have helped me feel better and makes me want to get to the point of taking myself out on “self dates.” always look forward to your uploads! ⭐️
Your videos are sooooo calming and comforting I always get a good vibe from them alsooo your clothing style is amazingggg ⭐⭐⭐⭐ your outfits always slayy
Your vlogs give me so much comfort. You're honestly my push to go out and hangout with myself. I struggle with going out and the anxiety that comes with it, but seeing you enjoy it always makes me feel like I would to. Thank you, Via! ⭐
You are officially my favourite comfort TH-camr
as someone who feels lonely a lot, this video was very beautiul and inspiring to watch. also, i went shopping on my own today and even though i felt a little awkward sometimes, i'm proud of myself and i bought some rlly cool stuff! thanks for this video (:
your videos are like therapy for me, I'm literally watching this while my lunch break alone .. and now I have to go back to studying cuz it's currently a SUPER stressful/tense (kinda fateful for me 💔😖) exam season..
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LOVE YA
After a very stressful week, this is exactly what I needed. It’s legit 1am and I can’t stop smiling. This video was so wholesome ⭐️. Seeing Via enjoy herself makes me so happy for her and hope she continues to have good days like this 🌷. Also, y’all better be appreciating the hard work she’s doing to edit and upload videos for us. Slaying at cafés lol. Thank you for another great video! ❤ I’ll take it as my sign to take myself on a date. After how this week went, I need/deserve it 💃
videos like these are soo comforting. its so nice being reminded that you dont need other people or a fancy plan to enjoy your day; you can just go out and treat yourself. as someone whos really introverted and has absolutely atrocious social anxiety, i usually dont have the balls to go out and do things that i enjoy by myself bc im worried ppl will judge me for being alone, so watching you go on a cute self-date was so therapeutic
I love how you are always so open about ur feelings and stuff! It helped me understand myself alot!
no way I was literally thinking about this like yesterday too, I had a depressive episode over how i feel like im always out of loop with everyone else, never even thought abt relationships until coming to college and seeing all my classmates getting together or having crushes on each other like its CRAZY. like ive been fine on my own my whole life ive never even had crushes on anyone before but i feel like im not as mature as most of my peers in college and i feel like im just a casual friend to everyone rather than a close and reliable friend to someone.. definitely gonna have to look into getting that weighted blanket you suggested lmaoo ⭐
Hi Via:) just wanted to say that there is no determined period to date, I'm 25 and I'm having my first dating experience.. it just feels like the right moment for me right now, after 2 years of therapy! I love your vids btw♥️
Hey there! Hope you're doing well 😊 That sounds hopeful, I'm 24 and just started therapy! Glad it helped you.
Do you have any advice regarding therapy?
Also, was it awkward telling your bf that you have no experience with anything? I've always felt scared of being judged and/or taken advantage of
Via I hope you know how many rough times in my life you have helped me through. You have really gotten me through the worst of it, I can always come back to your vlogs and you make everything feel safe again, all the pain and worry washes away I feel like I can breathe again. You're helping me once again even now so tysm!! We love you!
Im currently in a depressive episode and havent been able to do anything. Today was my first day picking up my phone to do anything other than just put it back down, and im glad this is the video I saw. I dont have many friends either and the lonliness sets in really quickly and lately its been hard to deal with, especially since i work from home its like being in a bow all the time.
Hope you get better soon, depression is really hard
I get you on many levels alone to in my own thoughts up all night can't sleep just feeling empty
⭐️ i’ve always avoided going out on my own because i feared crowds and public spaces but after coming across your videos, i can’t be prouder to say that now i regularly go out and treat myself! you’ve motivated and inspired me so much, thank you so much! ILYYY
⭐ as a Muslim girl i don't really date and I've never been in relationship but I love talking with new people and going out, I mean I love it but I don't do it cause I'm still working on my ability to make friends instead of waiting for someone to come, all the people that came to my life effected me somehow cause I always wanted to keep the people who came to me even though that they're not good for me (not anymore) and again I moved to another country so everything changed and the connection with people became harder because of the language that I'm still trying to learn, so the most of the time I'm feeling so lonely and wanting someone to talk with BUT you'll always find me trying to escape if I met someone new, I don't need them but I want them and that hits different.
this is so cute. wishing u the best w/ your mental health. you deserve a lot of love and i'm glad you're able to make the most out of a lonely situation
I love your vids and know you are not alone we are here
Plus I don't understand why people make it that being alone at a restaurant or a cafe makes you a loner I can be alone if I want to
It's like a therapy session with yourself (and that doesn't cost anything)
it's always nice to have a silent moment with yourself and treating yourself is like a little reward 💕💕💕💕
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i love this series sm! do you think you could make a fav boston cafe/spots video or instagram post? i just moved here and you always seem to go to the cutest places
⭐ As someone trying to enjoy time by myself and being okay with being single, this was so nice to watch 💗 sending you lots of love and warm hugs :))
It's so nice to see videos like this and realize I'm not alone in the world and there's someone out there with the same feelings and struggles, and it's normal! I'm new in the channel ❤
⭐️⭐️⭐️ i don’t rly have many (or any) friends so i often go out alone to thrift/eat/watch movies etc so this vlog brings a lot of comfort to me, means a lot 💕 love u!!!
After seeing your vlog I don't feel loneliness, love you and your vlogs via Li ⭐🌟
I would love to go drawing with someone in a cafe or outside somewhere. I miss my adventures in UK where I lived for two years. Here in Finland the summer is so short and winter is long, dark and depressing. But I guess I need to change my mindset and try to enjoy the darkness. It is cozy also when you light up some candles and watch christmas lights.
I never get bored of the sparkling snow. 😍
So many beautiful little things make me feel less lonely.
found this channel recently and i feel like i can relate to you in so many ways. it was nice to come along on your solo date! as someone who's never been in a relationship either (i turn 20 soon) i can agree that doing things alone and just spending time with yourself can feel a little lonely, but like you said, the freedom that comes along with it feels very rewarding
Girl I felt thisss! All my close friends got into relationships recently or are in the process of talking to ppl and I’m legit here like 🧍🏻♀️ like I don’t mind being a third wheel but sometimes it’s so awkward I just want to not go out with the couples lol because the loneliness is realll 😅I need to learn to take myself out on self dates I think that concept is so healthy!!! ⭐️❤
from now on you are my fav content creator 🌟‼
Thank you so much for existing i love you💗💌
thank u for existing 🌷🌷🌷
@@via.ilyouuyou are making me cry fr❤
Bro who wouldn’t wanna have u ur personality is amazing 1 of a kind and ur’re beautiful . You look cute when you’re happy 😊. Love you 💗💗💗
⭐️ Thank you Via, just seeing your videos makes me feel better and makes my day better
i'm glad there are people like me who don't need a relationship to be happy, you just can be a lot happier by youself 💓
Im now at an age when everyone I know is getting into relationships, married or just busy. Its so lonely and I am just here permanently single and jobless lmao
Your channel always makes me feel motivated to go out to Boston alone. I feel like not having friends to go with really holds me back from having fun. I’m so happy I discovered your channel !🩵
Im currently in high school and I’ve been single my whole life which normally I’m good with but sometimes I crave that adolescent romance that everyone else has ya know but this video was very comforting and I might just take myself out in a date soon ⭐️
i started to eat out alone after few years of not doing so. i remember the first time i eat out last year was super awkward/ uncomfortable but after doing it constantly i felt comfortable to eat out alone already, and i even went to workout classes like spin, boxing that i wanted to try out always and i manage to do it alone, 8 months of eating out alone, exploring coffee places, workout classes i learned how to be alone, and enjoy my own company instead of waiting for someone to go with my interest. Now even if i don’t have any plans on a day, i can spend the day by myself doing things that i want to do
I was just missing her 😭❤️
missed y’all too
honestly this is so comforting, as a 20 year old woman who just had her first boyfriend ever this year, i used to constantly think that other ppl were living something that i am MISSING, when it’s absolutely not the case !! i grew up, went through maaany stages of life, all of this without having a partner. and now that i have one, i am still focused on myself and my friends and family, i am never making him my top priority bc i learned in those 20 years that i could do anything by myself!, i think that never having a partner for all of these years helped us so much especially in self growth and maturity:)
i enjoy so much your videos, i wish u the best
when you crave intimacy and physical touch with another person but literally talk to no one and get very socially awkward around ppl, true life of an introvert 😔 lmaooooo ⭐️
to be honest, when it comes to art block i always heard (and agree with it) that you shouldn't force yourself to draw. consume other media, do other hobbies. try doing things that give you inspiration so that when your block is over you are ready to go. but ye don't force it is an advice ive always heard and gave other as well. it works well for many people.
and ye honestly only the physical touch crave part gets me tbh. ive never been in a relationship, havent kissed in almost a year and things have been busy so i wasnt able to even get huggy with friends. tough world out there truly. ⭐
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I literally love you and your videos, i have been feeling very lonely and out of place recently but this video cheered me up! And yes i took this as a sign to go out
i love how open and comfortable you are because it honestly makes me feel like im one of your besties and i love the vibes you're giving off
ngl seeing ppl like you irl honestly makes me so like appreciative (??) idk the word im looking for but like
id be all like damn okay one day imma be an independent girly like her today may not be that day but like ONE day
i think its so cute that youre going on a lil self date cause i feel like we all need that
also if you ever need someone to snuggle with you could always get like a lil fluffy fren like a lil kitty or a doggo
Heyy viaa I’m a 14 year old girlll , I’ve been alone and doing things myself and I really enjoy my own company , thank you so much for letting me know that being alone and doing things by ourselves is not a bad thing btw the vlog was really good and I really enjoyed it ✨🫶🏻
as someone who does weird noises, voices, moves, things...ect, I just wanted to say that you don't have to apologize everytime u do that too, not to assume that u do feel like that but, u might feel embarrassed but it's ok to have those tiny lil silly (but fun and carefree) moments of urself and it's all normal and natural. loveeee u 🫶
I am watching from England , We are the same age girl , literally you are me but across the sea haha , you make me feel less odd and less alone ! Thank you ❤ x
hahaha i love how u r able to talk so much so smoothly, filling any kind of awkward silence in the video like if i were beside you i would literally not feel awkward at all!!!
i turned 14 today and it gets frustrating when ppl in my year group go through each other like chips, self-love is always the best!
you have no idea how much i needed a video like that rn
I'm happier when I'm alone to be honest😂 I just daydream too often and imagine the weirdest things that will never happen and then I'm sad again but other than that... I love being lonely😭👍⭐️
I swear the food you get when go out always looks sooooooooooooooo GOOD!!! 🌷🌷🌷 I wish I went out for food more often... ⭐⭐⭐
you never need a plan! just get some sunlight and take yourself out! everything else will follow!
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@@via.ilyouu !!!
Hi Via, I'm also single like you and I'm 28 years old, female, sometimes looking at people with couples makes me cry and think maybe I'm so bad that no one accepts me but later when I watch videos about Buddhism has a saying like this, if you're single and lonely in life, it's not that you're disadvantaged but because you don't owe anyone, in Buddhism when you love someone, it's a predestined relationship and the person you love will give you a lot of energy both positive and negative. You are going through a difficult and confusing time that needs healing so being single is still the best, have a nice day
⭐ ur vlogs are so comforting :')
I am 21. I am having an episode of me spiraling to me feeling lonely ....
It's not that I don't have friends. They are in different colleges also my friend in college she is not like, I am a very outgoing person but bcs of somethings I have been very closed in first few years off college. So now I don't appear inviting to people. Not a lot of people in class talk to me and my friend. So don't have college friends to go anywhere with.
Also I am single, I see people with there friends everywhere or their boyfriends and it feels so sad to be sitting all alone.
Bcs I want to go out have nice food I want to enjoy. Sometimes I feel I am ugly maybe that is the reason. I feel maybe if I had a bf I would not feel lonely. I am okay a lot of days but some days it is like a chasm of loneliness and i can't give myself out of it.
I can't wait to take myself on a date after I finish my finals 🌟⭐
⭐I love your vlogs there just so stress revealing 😊
Inspiration person🤍💗
You're just so amazing. I really appreciate all the tips and lil things you say, it helps a lot. And yk what? I'll go outside to do nothing today :) just need to go outside and get a coffee and do nothing else :)
Patiently waiting for a “what’s in my make up bag“.❤😊 Also I’ve never had a boyfriend at the age of 21 so I feel you.
Thanks for the reminder! My first blog just might be taking myself out on a date! 😁😁 🌟
i loveeee your content!! i found your channel like 2 hours ago and i cant stop watching. your videos are so amusing!˚ ༘♡ ⋆｡˚
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Your vlogs are honestly so comforting ⭐
Sometimes I think it would be cool to meet you in person and chat on a park bench about our existential crises. (Because I have never had a partner either and it is difficult to meet someone who is similar to me in that regard). But at the same time I think we would stare at each other without saying a word because of how introverted we are 😂😂
Btw, I really enjoyed the video. 💕✨🌈
🌟 I'm an introvert and I can resonate with you ❤️
⭐ I've been feeling so lonely these days cus my 'friends' suck and i cut them off. Your videos brings me so much comfort ily
we love our single dates
as an introvert and adventurous person like u who goes out by yourself, I can relate to ur videos I love it!!!!
the pandemic really did a number on all our social skills
Ah she's back! I recently got stuck on your channel. I love all your videos and can see myself reflected on you. I also feel lonely sometimes and just wish I didn't feel that way, but I try finding ways to have fun alone. I'm glad you do the same! ❤
Glad youve done another video im going through the same thing i do wonder you said your getting therapy what do they help u with? 💞
it’s mainly nice to have someone to talk about ur issues with and asking for advice on certain topics. My therapist mainly points out how some of the ways i think may be flawed or just really negative.
@@via.ilyouuyeah I know what you mean tbf mine is the same very negative or tries to put me in social groups but as an introvert that doesn't work that way 💞there's hope out there for us all 🙂
The past few days I have been very sad. Caz I have philiophobia and can't love no one and I feel like no one else is love me and yk I feel like nobody can't stay by my side. And I found this vlog. And I watch this. After watching this vlog I feel a little better. I feel like "nah I don't need nobody. I have me. What I need more. Nothing." Like this. Thank you for making this vlog gurl
if shes single we have no hope 😭
I really love your vlogs and this one gave me an idea. I think you can make long videos like: reading with me or painting with me or study in a cafe/librery with me. This way we can put your videos in the background while we doing things. I think that it can be cool 😊
I always do enjoy ur vlogs, they're very calming and perfect for when I'm drawing