Unfinished business - unresolved grief

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  • @rathishri7336
    @rathishri7336 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is so enlightening to me ! Somethings stay with u for a very long time. Until u get to the root of it ! It sticks like a gum !! I can't believe y people around me don't understant that !

  • @flamingrobin5957
    @flamingrobin5957 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    this sounds very true to where I'm at and the people around me that I perceive might care don't understand how to help and might even trigger more grief and loss and woundedness. reaching out for support is risky. the worst thing that keeps happening is when you tell people about what you are going through and they say "well everyone is going through the same thing" this sort of minimizing what you are going through and comparing you to other people is really just a strategy to push away your need that they don't care about , understand or know how to enter in without getting lost by their own experiences. in a sense they project their own self centerdness onto you as if you are selfish for grief.(obviously grief can be a self centered place but its not a "Selfish" place. the reality is people who say this have no ability to go there because they themselves are unable to empathize so they try and diffuse your needs and grief by minimizing, invalidating, as a way of excusing themselves from any responsibility to listen to you or help you. FOR ME STUCKNESS IS PERPETUATED BY THE FACT THAT YOU STUMBLE AROUND TRYING TO BUILD NEW PLACES TO GET YOUR NEED MET AND FIND THAT YOU CANT or don't know how, SO you stay stuck by past relationships wounds. I don't think you can let go of the trapeze until you have another safe place to grab onto. Grief is not a place to make stable decisions from so you fumble along looking for a safe place until you have no choice but to go back and deal with things at the core.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html

    • @dorianr4770
      @dorianr4770 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @flaming robin thanks for saying this. I can relate and empathize...

  • @johnvallance6870
    @johnvallance6870 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I cant move on from a relationship with someone who loved me as a teenager . i cant seem to get intimite with someone for fear of rejection the pain is just to much . infact it makes me all the more determined to find my own independence

  • @2Bonita08
    @2Bonita08 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    No One wants to love someone who doesn't love them in return.

  • @Author_Kharisma
    @Author_Kharisma 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I'm dealing with mostly guilt and regret due to unresolved issues with a close friend. We grew apart over the last year or so, due to an argument. And then recently dies and I'm not sure how to let go of the guilt of not doing my part to fix the friendship. So instead of blaming him, I'm blaming myself. How do you let that go?

    • @genuinedelusionsmusic
      @genuinedelusionsmusic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I feel that strongly. I had a toxic relationship but I know we both loved each other. I pushed him away after we broke up for the second time. I refused to reach out for a year then he passed away in an accident. I still feel mad at him, while also feeling guilty for not trying harder. Its definitely some complicated grief.

  • @ModernGoddess81
    @ModernGoddess81 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My friend died last week out of nowhere...I have so many regrets...never thought I’d be feeling this way...I just want to rewind time to one month ago...the last time I saw him😿

  • @microdosingmagic7742
    @microdosingmagic7742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So simple yet profound! Thank you!

  • @202triciae
    @202triciae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Yeah I would have to say the suicide death of my youngest daughter at the age of 32 ....2 years and 10 months ago action will never be resolved. I lost my daughter her 3 older siblings lost a very loved younger sister. So actually you're counseling is great for people who Felt like they weren't didn't get the need from the person who died. I lost part of my heart when my daughter died there's no resolution to that period there's no logical sense to suicide. Especially unexpected totally out of the blue. They say you grieve for as long as you love the person that means I'll grieve for 32 years and 9 months. I won't even be alive By the time I'm done missing her

    • @Amandasbarros
      @Amandasbarros ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing that, I'm so sorry. Learning how to remember someone you love without relieving these memories as you were there is extremely hard but an important process to go through it. Talking about the memories + the emotions within these memories, the thoughts and the sensation of your body as you speak about your daughter are things that might help to take back the control of your memories, emotions and thoughts related to your relationship with her. Remember that you don't have to go through this process alone, the therapist is going to be there guiding you! I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you can find rest within your memories❤

  • @VictoriaMadeira
    @VictoriaMadeira ปีที่แล้ว

    My mom died when I was 13 years old, my father was a total narcissist… I have a disorganized attachment style, I didn’t know how to process the grief so I shut down my emotions… now I’m re living all the trauma

  • @BUBBLESPOGO
    @BUBBLESPOGO ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes, To you it may be an old relationship but the dead loved may have been everything to the living spouse or family member. Yes, I want my precious husband back. I miss him with all my heart and I am never going to get over his death until the day I die.

  • @sayaya1304
    @sayaya1304 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    so helpful and profound that it made me actually cry, thank you doctor

  • @yerejun
    @yerejun 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Was wondering, assuming the unmet need cannot be met by the original source or other relationships, how does one try to meet that unmet need from yourself via self soothing or self provision? Most people in unmet need circumstances are already in a state of depression, hence likely do not have much self resources to input into self…

    • @frodo0901
      @frodo0901 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The therapist can help to give these words to the client, until the client can let these words come in, can accept these words, and starts to say these words to himself… Working with the empty chair is helpful for that. But it’s a process, of course, that need to be tailored to the specific client and to the stage he or she is in…

  • @knowledgeberakah1728
    @knowledgeberakah1728 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I got unresolved grief n it dont feel good

  • @CG-no7js
    @CG-no7js 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How to get rid of Intermittent Anger at narcissistic abusive, cheating deceased spouse

  • @Cool_boy258
    @Cool_boy258 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What are some ways to meet unmet needs in broken relationships, and/or death of father?

  • @dariomargeli
    @dariomargeli 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Sooo.... he doesn't say what the self soothing process is! Lets see it! Where can I see that?

  • @zahraamanah8366
    @zahraamanah8366 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very well said, thank you

  • @ideas_my_style
    @ideas_my_style 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Maaaaa.....why did you leave me....I need u.....I know u r with God but I need u too....

  • @CastIronCooking
    @CastIronCooking 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    *What are you got for the short term? Or people that recognize their own mental problems without needing an explanation. I came to this video for help I already knew everything you said. That is why I came here to get the answer. Like when you get an argument with the friend over something stupid and you will obsess over it until the problem is solved. That is unresolved issues that I deal with. Or it can be something as simple as getting overcharged at the grocery store. I have always done it my whole life.*

    • @stacypo3427
      @stacypo3427 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have some issues 💖💖💖

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html

  • @danielabonfanti4398
    @danielabonfanti4398 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What is this guy's name? I don't see it anywhere?

  • @ancabostinariu6550
    @ancabostinariu6550 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What if the person was abusive?

  • @heather-vs9qe
    @heather-vs9qe 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    So true...thanks for this

  • @heather-vs9qe
    @heather-vs9qe 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes!!!! l had the same experience with my husband.
    Not able to move on to date some one else and move on...

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re.

  • @jenniferackerman5628
    @jenniferackerman5628 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is how I am feeling

    • @richardmcguinn732
      @richardmcguinn732 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ☹️That’s so touching and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all loss our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but death is just inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday, and every of our love ones we’ve loss will want to see us happy wherever they’re.

  • @g_jkitchen4698
    @g_jkitchen4698 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you

  • @elhamabbasi4032
    @elhamabbasi4032 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing

  • @sophiaageitos2763
    @sophiaageitos2763 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That’s true

  • @allysoobratty7565
    @allysoobratty7565 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very True

  • @shadowman7408
    @shadowman7408 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This means nothing... We need a practical approach to grief.

  • @mcjs8640
    @mcjs8640 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There's nothing unresolved. I have been grieving for 13 years.

    • @kelleymcfadden9675
      @kelleymcfadden9675 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
      Family Story
      Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
      My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
      That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
      a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
      Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
      His Story
      Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
      “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
      “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
      He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
      “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
      “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
      Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
      “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
      “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
      Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
      Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
      “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
      Your Story
      What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
      The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
      “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
      We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
      “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
      “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
      “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
      ******************************
      This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
      Tribute to Ethan Lakey
      th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html

    • @AngelinaX23
      @AngelinaX23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@kelleymcfadden9675 You are not leading people to Jesus by constantly posting this overwritten story that no one will read.

  • @tinlaa7519
    @tinlaa7519 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    'if only' is very dangerous.

    • @ka5269
      @ka5269 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It will kill me

  • @GoldenSheenObsidan
    @GoldenSheenObsidan 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Finally

  • @shonamalika8442
    @shonamalika8442 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Jika saja mereka tidak melakukan kejahatan itu pada saya, mungkin saya tidak setakut ini skrg, mgkn saya tdk menjadi trauma, mungkinnkehidupan karir saya akan jauh lbh baik, mungkin saya tdk akan antinoleh jabatan, mgkn saya tdk akan merasa paling bodoh, mungkin saya ...what if..what if. Ingin memaafkan, melupakan..tapi belum bisa, karena itu spt sdh mendarah daging berpuluh tahun lamanya membekas.

    • @shonamalika8442
      @shonamalika8442 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kalau dlm Islam manusia perlu menyadari bahwa apa yang terjadi adalah kehendakNya sudah seijinNya, maka itu sesuatu yg harus kita terima toh rela gak rela itu udah terjadi juga, mau dendam, mau bedarah² ga akan bisa berubah atau dihapus.
      Maka jawabannya adalah redha menerima takdirNya.
      Karena jika tidak, hal itu hanya menyakiti diri sendiri.
      Mungkin org yg telah menyakiti kita di masa lalu udah lupa atau orgnya sdh ada yg meninggal dan sudah mendapat hukuman dari Tuhan sesuai kejahatannya padamu, maka ikhlaskan.
      Setelah menyadari bahwa itu takdir dan kita hrs redha, maka hal kedua adalah forgive..maafkan.
      Maafkan dirimu, maafkan mereka.

  • @kelleymcfadden9675
    @kelleymcfadden9675 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with anyone else's, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you!
    Family Story
    Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day.
    My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening.
    That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of
    a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are.
    Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you.
    His Story
    Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God.
    “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23)
    “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12)
    He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell.
    “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price]
    “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8)
    Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today!
    “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)
    “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9)
    Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him.
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b)
    Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour!
    “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28)
    Your Story
    What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son.
    The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven.
    “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6)
    We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready?
    “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b)
    “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13)
    “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c)
    ******************************
    This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless!
    Tribute to Ethan Lakey
    th-cam.com/video/EhobcQZ6Qb8/w-d-xo.html

    • @AngelinaX23
      @AngelinaX23 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you post this on every TH-cam grief page?

  • @grtzam4184
    @grtzam4184 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is what you think Complicated Grief is....Really??

  • @heather-vs9qe
    @heather-vs9qe 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    20 year's wasted on this...pain and anger of ex partner...no moving on...letting go with the unmeet need..

  • @foton-pn7gn
    @foton-pn7gn 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    617017

  • @Slidehhy
    @Slidehhy ปีที่แล้ว

    This life is a joke