I love the honesty. Hearing an awakened being like Helen admit to having been jealous at one point and allowing that to be one of the drivers to awakening is amazing. It helps me accept myself and others a lot more. Thx Helen.
I was deeply convinced that something is just WRONG with me but couldn't figure out what or why. In group therapy, i learned how to HONESTLY examine my upbring & REMEMBERED that it all began with very abusive, condemning, guilting & SHAMING messages & influences that my own damaged/shamed parents & others had sent to me early on & i UNWITTINGLY believed them & then made their DESTRUCTIVE messages about me into my own DESTRUCTIVE messages about myself!! Dad said "You are just useless." bcame: "i am just useless." ...and on and on as i unwittinly took in all their negativity about me & turned it into UNQUESTIONED CONTEMPT FOR MYSELF...and mysteriously FORGOT what happened by my early teens! Therapy taught me how to reverse their shaming messages back to healthier ones but it's very hard work to undo early conditioning & make it healthier! Nonetheless, I'm glad i now know how to change. "I'm just no damned good!" Back to "Im OK!" or "I'm good enough!" 😂
Really appreciate the person who wrote the question. So honest and brave. Also for the people who shared, especially the one who mentioned CPTSD (complex trauma) which seams to be an epidemic but very few mental health professionals have even heard the term. Such a small word but which carries such devastating consequences. I actually wrote in a question about karma and free will recently but I think it was answered on this video. I intend to sign up for the course. Just have to find the motivation. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak… Thank you so much for Helen’s authentic sharing of her life and what she has learned which I think has come at a great cost but offered freely. So very generous. ❤️🙏🏻
Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting, hugging the eponymous Will and repeating insistently: “It’s not your fault, it’s not your fault” comes to mind. What this satsang stirs up and releases in love is way beyond any words I can currently find. Our one shared being is so palpable here. Oh my goodness, thank you, Helen, thank you every One!
Thank you for this. It was excellent. And, I would like to thank the brave person who asked the 1st question. The question and answer applied to so many of us. 🙏
Thank you for the question and answer❤️ I can’t really write anything that someone else didn’t write already. At a very lonely moment I found this. It was very helpful. A way out. To understand what is going on. How to deal with dark thoughts. Acceptance is not liking. But a way to end resistance to what showed up. To see it, which will transform it. And that thoughts are not mine, but a frequency in the collective that we resonate with. And instead of agreeing, start contemplating, questioning. So grateful for all your help, thanks🙏
Immense gratitude Helen for your love and generosity! Your words were like rhema (revelation), healing my heart from a suffering that until then I considered impossible to overcome, bringing a lot of peace! I am also immensely grateful to the person who sent this letter. Wonderful!!! Much love!❤🙏
I've been looking into foods. Having developed allergies to certain things. It's a much bigger picture than coming from a spiritually energetic dilemma. Even though, a disturbance in the body is in part a disturbance in the emotional body...including ancestral energy. Our foods, such as wheat, have been altered, processed and have grown being sprayed with chemicals. Bodies have their wisdom, they are starting to reject these chemicals. They aren't just lumps we carry around. As I've discovered, the body is important for Awakening. After being dissociated for many years, including within meditative practices. Connecting with the body has been a beautiful doorway in. Through the body we express our Awake, living humanity. How amazing. Thank you for what you offer.
I think it bears mentioning that every theory we have about how and why we come into this lifetime is a theory/concept...nobody alive KNOWS! Thankfully, my concept matches Helen's theory but we cannot KNOW...
I have found myself resisting self-inquiry questioning tremendously, it seems like a hastle, a doing, forced. Yet every day I regularly, habitually watch the emotional sensations in my body feel a tingle on my crown as they slowly dissipate (if I maintain focus), or ask myself what emotion and sensation in my body a thought derives from, watch that emotional sensation within my body, and the same happens. So I do mindfulness and somatic 'work' all the time, but find myself highly resistant to 'doing' self-inquiry. Is this holding me back and how is this to be resolved?
Also, my ego feels like saying "if my mind is just egoic illusion and has no answers, why the fuck should I use my mind to awaken, why can I just observe my emotions in my body instead?" Like, I feel tempted be be like "screw self-inquiry its bullshit anyway!" except that i know that people get results from it. So I then think thoughts of inadequacy. And then I feel angry at people 'doing' self-inquiry or advocating it. I suppose thats the envy you mentioned.
The memory work i did on myself & my family & mostly my parents showed me that i was born with natural, built in & automatic self respect, love & authentic self worth & acceptance BUT.. my parents were already carrying deep Toxic Shsme & self CONTEMPT from their family/parenting so they & a few (damaged) others quickly FORCED me to lose my natural self acceptance & soon adopt THEIR toxic shame & self contempt before i reached 8 yo. This is NOT theory or book teachings. I REMEBER exactly how & why i, like many others, started life so well & then was quickly knocked down & seriously DAMAGED when i had NO defenses. I do not understand how or why Nature or Divinity creats this crippling pattern in many humans but I'm gjad therapy showed me exactly how it happened in my family & also some ways to UNDO that damage. Please do not let this seem like parent blaming or attacking. I have no idea how the multi-generational patterns of toxic shame & self contempt started in humans BUT am very glad psychology figured out ways to repair the damages. This is not to attack or dismiss your teachings on this subject. I can only go with what is TRUE for me...for now & it often changes.
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I love the honesty. Hearing an awakened being like Helen admit to having been jealous at one point and allowing that to be one of the drivers to awakening is amazing. It helps me accept myself and others a lot more. Thx Helen.
🙏🏻❤️
I was deeply convinced that something is just WRONG with me but couldn't figure out what or why. In group therapy, i learned how to HONESTLY examine my upbring & REMEMBERED that it all began with very abusive, condemning, guilting & SHAMING messages & influences that my own damaged/shamed parents & others had sent to me early on & i UNWITTINGLY believed them & then made their DESTRUCTIVE messages about me into my own DESTRUCTIVE messages about myself!!
Dad said "You are just useless." bcame: "i am just useless." ...and on and on as i unwittinly took in all their negativity about me & turned it into UNQUESTIONED CONTEMPT FOR MYSELF...and mysteriously FORGOT what happened by my early teens! Therapy taught me how to reverse their shaming messages back to healthier ones but it's very hard work to undo early conditioning & make it healthier! Nonetheless, I'm glad i now know how to change. "I'm just no damned good!" Back to "Im OK!" or "I'm good enough!" 😂
🙏🏻❤️
Thank you all for your courage. All the honesty was beautiful and helpful. ❤️🤗
You’re welcome!❤️❤️
Really appreciate the person who wrote the question. So honest and brave. Also for the people who shared, especially the one who mentioned CPTSD (complex trauma) which seams to be an epidemic but very few mental health professionals have even heard the term. Such a small word but which carries such devastating consequences. I actually wrote in a question about karma and free will recently but I think it was answered on this video. I intend to sign up for the course. Just have to find the motivation. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak… Thank you so much for Helen’s authentic sharing of her life and what she has learned which I think has come at a great cost but offered freely. So very generous. ❤️🙏🏻
🙏🏻❤️
SO powerful Helen & brave Soul. I'm eternally grateful for this gift to my life. Thank you, thank you thank you!
You’re welcome 🙏🏻❤️
Thank you Helen ❤️🙏🥺
You’re welcome 🙏🏻❤️
Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting, hugging the eponymous Will and repeating insistently: “It’s not your fault, it’s not your fault” comes to mind. What this satsang stirs up and releases in love is way beyond any words I can currently find. Our one shared being is so palpable here. Oh my goodness, thank you, Helen, thank you every One!
You’re welcome!🙏🏻❤️
Thank you for this. It was excellent. And, I would like to thank the brave person who asked the 1st question. The question and answer applied to so many of us. 🙏
Thank you for the question and answer❤️ I can’t really write anything that someone else didn’t write already. At a very lonely moment I found this. It was very helpful. A way out. To understand what is going on. How to deal with dark thoughts. Acceptance is not liking. But a way to end resistance to what showed up. To see it, which will transform it. And that thoughts are not mine, but a frequency in the collective that we resonate with. And instead of agreeing, start contemplating, questioning. So grateful for all your help, thanks🙏
This changes EVERYTHING! Thank You Helen. Lovely Lovely Lovely
Did I write that? Sheesh. ❤
Immense gratitude Helen for your love and generosity! Your words were like rhema (revelation), healing my heart from a suffering that until then I considered impossible to overcome, bringing a lot of peace! I am also immensely grateful to the person who sent this letter. Wonderful!!! Much love!❤🙏
So glad! You’re welcome!🙏🏻❤️
This was so lovely and helpful. Thanks to you all. 🙏🏻⭐️
I've been looking into foods. Having developed allergies to certain things. It's a much bigger picture than coming from a spiritually energetic dilemma. Even though, a disturbance in the body is in part a disturbance in the emotional body...including ancestral energy. Our foods, such as wheat, have been altered, processed and have grown being sprayed with chemicals. Bodies have their wisdom, they are starting to reject these chemicals. They aren't just lumps we carry around. As I've discovered, the body is important for Awakening. After being dissociated for many years, including within meditative practices. Connecting with the body has been a beautiful doorway in. Through the body we express our Awake, living humanity. How amazing. Thank you for what you offer.
I think it bears mentioning that every theory we have about how and why we come into this lifetime is a theory/concept...nobody alive KNOWS! Thankfully, my concept matches Helen's theory but we cannot KNOW...
I have found myself resisting self-inquiry questioning tremendously, it seems like a hastle, a doing, forced. Yet every day I regularly, habitually watch the emotional sensations in my body feel a tingle on my crown as they slowly dissipate (if I maintain focus), or ask myself what emotion and sensation in my body a thought derives from, watch that emotional sensation within my body, and the same happens. So I do mindfulness and somatic 'work' all the time, but find myself highly resistant to 'doing' self-inquiry. Is this holding me back and how is this to be resolved?
Also, my ego feels like saying "if my mind is just egoic illusion and has no answers, why the fuck should I use my mind to awaken, why can I just observe my emotions in my body instead?" Like, I feel tempted be be like "screw self-inquiry its bullshit anyway!" except that i know that people get results from it. So I then think thoughts of inadequacy. And then I feel angry at people 'doing' self-inquiry or advocating it. I suppose thats the envy you mentioned.
Maybe neurotypical seekers find self-inquiry easier?
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The memory work i did on myself & my family & mostly my parents showed me that i was born with natural, built in & automatic self respect, love & authentic self worth & acceptance BUT.. my parents were already carrying deep Toxic Shsme & self CONTEMPT from their family/parenting so they & a few (damaged) others quickly FORCED me to lose my natural self acceptance & soon adopt THEIR toxic shame & self contempt before i reached 8 yo. This is NOT theory or book teachings. I REMEBER exactly how & why i, like many others, started life so well & then was quickly knocked down & seriously DAMAGED when i had NO defenses. I do not understand how or why Nature or Divinity creats this crippling pattern in many humans but I'm gjad therapy showed me exactly how it happened in my family & also some ways to UNDO that damage.
Please do not let this seem like parent blaming or attacking. I have no idea how the multi-generational patterns of toxic shame & self contempt started in humans BUT am very glad psychology figured out ways to repair the damages.
This is not to attack or dismiss your teachings on this subject. I can only go with what is TRUE for me...for now & it often changes.
🙏🏻❤️
This is the opposite of therapy were you take responsibility for how you feeling