Dare to be Sensitive | Kapil Gupta | TEDxLambeth
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 เม.ย. 2021
- In this thought-provoking talk, Kapil speaks of how most men are socially conditioned from a young age to hide their emotions and see their vulnerability and sensitivity as weakness; and the impact this has on their life and personal relationships. Narrating stories from his own life and his work with men, he calls upon men to embrace their sensitivity in order to heal the wounds in our collective psyche and our lineage. Kapil Gupta is a Master Coach, co-author of ‘Being Fine: the other F word’, and founder of Nibana.life - company dedicated to help people move from a Performance to a Presence driven life. Kapil helps entrepreneurs and business executives realign to their own blueprint and find joy, purpose, intimacy, satisfying relationships and fulfilment. Kapil went through major personal transformation after a 15+ year successful corporate career, an MBA from University of Edinburgh, and a failed marriage. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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This is the Kapil Gupta with prescription 😂😂
When I first read the title "Dare to be Sensitive" I was so confused 😂
HHHHHHHHHH
this cant be him
Nice talk!
Also, well, there can be 2 Kapil Guptas and both can be good. Kapil Gupta MD (which Naval mentions at a lot of places) is different. This Kapil Gupta is another person.
I am going through "this" Kapil Gupta's work currently and find it damn insightful and useful. :)
I like this guy. Kapil Gupta MD is a total fraud.
Nice talk
Nice talk
@@djtmaga639 "Total fraud". Quite the statement. It's safe to say that your stark and oversimplified judgement of his character, and by extension his discourses, means you haven't seriously considered what he talks about, and that also lends itself to your seemingly limited knowledge of eastern philosophy, because you'd quickly know that nothing he says is new or conceptual and it's been written about for thousands of years, and unfortunately, there is no top 10 list or 5 step programs for the masses to understand what is being said because that's the problem in the first place - people trying to intellectualize and conceptualize every possible thing and if that can be done, only then will it have "merit". It takes quite the personal experience and journey, along with a nonobjective and nongrasping sense of being, to let any of it land. Almost a relaxing and readiness without the anxiety and tensing or perking up to "download" information, and only then will any of it possibly land on you in its own unique way because ultimately if you're out for your own truth, you'll inherently know what is and what isn't. Think of every aspect of say Zen or Daoism or even Buddhism in that nothing can be easily explained away, and how often it gets to the far reaches of any sense you can possibly make of it from your everyday experiences, that the only way to "point" to things is through allegories and analogies (i.e. your everyday "reality" and how you perceive it to be). I wouldn't be so quick to judge, my friend. There is a wealth of insight in the conversations, however there is absolutely no knowledge to be gained in it either. In the same vein, have a go of any of the lectures from Alan Watts or Krishnamurti... it may be entertaining for you or more.
@@fantasiasalmoni9541 Those looking for top 10 list or 5-step program are the real problem. I am glad that you have found some inner peace listening to him. I was neither looking nor do I find anything meaningful in what he says.
i said to myself "he can't be same kapil gupta" , lo and behold , comments were full of this.
Good that you found men who modelled with vulnerability is strength
Very powerful thought
Expressive 👏👏
i like your books. so true
Wonderful✨😍
True
I loved this! I resonate so deeply with shutting down my emotions to appear strong and to avoid pain. It’s ruined so many of my past relationships.
Thank you David
it's wonderful the sort of change we start to observe in our lives when we figure out how to make big changes like this!
Thank you! 🙏
Kapil, I so appreciate you and your super power of sensitivity.
Thank you! 🙏✨❤️
Much to unpack from this heartfelt talk and passionate speaker.
Thank you!
You spoke your heart out....lot of respect,love and care to you.... proud of you bhaiya 🙏🙏
Thank you Naini :)
When we allow ourselves to be more sensitive we also open up a lot of space for acknowledging other peoples feelings and what they might need from us. It really is so rewarding and it makes me very happy to see a man like Kapil talk about it.
Thank you! 🙏❤️
Kapil, you LEGEND. This is so good.
Thank you!
awesome talk, Kapil. very insightful!
Thank you! 🙏
We need more vulnerable men like this.
Thank you for your kind words 🙏❤️
Thank you for sharing Kapil
Thank you Chris
The part in the talk bio about healing our collective psyche and lineage is just so spot on. Yes doing this will help the individual male but there is such a huge wound in our overall society that needs this in order to heal
Thank you! 🙏✨
Really good talk, thank you for sharing these intimate periods of your life and learning
Nice n Good
A valuable message for all men and the women who care for them
Thank you!
the timing of finding this talk is incredible. Thank you Kapil
Thank you! ✨🙏
Thank you Kapil for an inspirational talk. One to share with everyone.
Thank you! 🙏✨❤️
This is brilliant and I am 100% here for it.
Thank you for your kind words! 🙏
Warms my heart knowing that we are finding balance as a species :)
Thank you! 🙏
Oh my stars his story around the 7:14 mark had me in tears, instantly. What a horrible feeling.
Thank you! Tears can be healing and cathartic. Sending love ❤️
I watched, thanks for sending to me.
you touched n shook the chords man. Feeling proud to b friend of u who has learnt to learn himself n spreading the same positivity across humanity....sad to hear abt ur grandparents and father...but thats what destiny is all abt....it takes courage and self conscience to open ur emotions to the world and that too being a man of so called world...proud of u my friend...keep growing with inner peace 🙌🏻👍🏻👌🏻
Thank you brother. Love to you!
Kapil thanks for the take home message that "vulnerability is a strength" but a weakness.
Thank you! *not* a weakness :)
Aamazingly described 👍🏻
Thank you!
Oh its tough to be sensitive. Very good story, wonderful speaker.
Thank you Loris
Congratulations on having the courage to explore your suppressed emotions. The description of your journey was inspiring.
thank you!
Ahhhh Kapil this talk is amazing!! Thank you, thank you for spreading this message
Thank you! 🙏✨❤️
As some one who was consistently told I needed "thicker skin" and that I needed to "stop being so sensitive", I am so so pleased that life's hardships have not dampened this strength of mine. I'm also grateful that there has been a shift in conversation - to be sensitive is not a weakness.
Thank you! And well done
I loved your Ted talk Kapil.
Touched by your sharing and inspired to allow myself more to be sensitive.
Thank you! 🙏
this is a very good talk. more people need to hear these ideas...
Thank you 🙏 😊
Wonderful 👌👌
Thank you!
man this is so true, my dad was always angry, from the moment I was born until he was gone.
Congratulations Kapil for the courage to share your story.
Thank you for your kind words 🙏✨
I once had a psychiatrist (yes, psychiatrist, not psychologist!) Tell my mum that I was just ‘too sensitive and off with the fairys’. I remember how very confused I was to think that me being just who I was is apparently wrong. No one ever told me my sensitivity could be a strength.
Thank you for the comment. I am sorry to hear you had to go through that
I am telling you it is!
Great TEDx Kapil
Thank you Jon
Enjoyed this Ted Talk, thanks for sharing.
Thank you!
Was searching for Kapil Gupta MD but this pops up, thought of watching it
Very good video.. specially in context of Depression
Thank you! 🙏
We need more programs for children to help them understand this spectrum.
Agreed.
Take home message from Kapil make "connection and relationships" a practice.
Thank you! That’s a great summary 🙏✨
Watching the talk, reading the comments and bio- I wonder how I haven’t heard of this guy before.
Thank you!
Yes dare to be sensitive, and compassionate, and empathetic!
Indeed! Thank you!
Me: mom i want to see Kapil Gupta speaking at Ted x
Mom: no we have Kapil Gupta at home
Kapil Gupta at home:
🤣
I love the cathartic event and existential enquiry of 'I don't know who I am'
The things we despise in others are the things where there's room for our own growth...
So relatable...about our conditioning..about our vulnerability..about our suppressed emotions..leading to failures in relationships and health issues. An area generally not addressed not only in men but also women..Also helping us all to understand ourselves and our partners better.👍 thanks for sharing
Thank you Renuka for your kind words
'numb and kind of proud of it' certainly describes a few people I've met.
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Excellent👍👏
I said this to myself as well. "I'll never feel that way again." I remember saying it but I can't remember the childhood event.
Sending love
I'm touched by your heart rendering storytelling Kapil.
Thank you
As someone who grew up being called 'too sensitive' I relate to this story. It's refreshing to know that we are bringing more awareness to the table when it comes to honouring all our different emotions.
Thank you for your kind words 🙏✨
Yes and also that we're making it okay for men!
Dare to be Sensitive! What a mic drop moment
There has been no shortage of people in my life telling me to "get over it" and "you're too sensitive" - here's hoping we are getting closer to open vulnerability.
Amen! 🙏✨
such a heartbreaking story about his father's death
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I can relate to Kapil's experience with personal transformation seminars. Some are barbaric and I paid to be there.
Hopefully young men are being brought up to feel their feelings.
Thank you! Certainly hope so 🙏
Hmmm I think I was there! Or one similar.
The toughen up talk by a parent generally leaves a child tight and unemotional.
Thank you for sharing your story with such vulnerability.
I think this is a really important message, to support men to break free and for women to be aware of what might be holding back the men in their lives.
I hope men can feel that it’s ok to own their emotions and look forward to a world where there is so much more permission and approval for men around this spot.
Beautiful ❤️
Thank you for the kind words Claire 💛
I really hope we are past the point of pushing stereotypical characteristics onto people. It's a strength to show emotion, it's a super power to be able to identify emotions and grow from them.
Agreed. Thank you for your comment
I’d like to see a conversation between Kapil and @Andrewtate …
Err…do I have a choice in the matter? 😬
I don't think this is Naval's friend, Kapil Gupta MD
No we don’t think so. This person is far too naive
No, he is not.
No he's a different Kapil. Naval's friend hasn't made any public appearances.
Nope this guy seems too societal and soft spoken 😂
@@ntiisw I fear this is the only correct prescription 😂🤣
I'm interested to know how many less 'non-binary' people there would be if men were just given the freedom to have and express their emotions. Because a lot of "thems" that I know prefer those pro-nouns simply because they don't wish to be associated with the toxicity of what a man is 'meant' to be like.
interesting point!
It's hard to be sensitive though when you've never been shown how to do that.
The fan base of kapil gupta md is so different that after knowing that he is someone else they just un-heard him
I wouldn't be able to count all the times I was told to just get on with things by my very unemotional mother. Maybe it's a generational thing but a lot of my friends have similar stories about the complete lack of empathy from parents.
Sending love! I think it may be a generational thing and cultural conditioning that they went through
Yes, but be wary of who you're sensitive around. Some people - even wo men - are just calloused on the inside, will perceive your sensitivity as weakness and make you feel awful for it
nice, but in reality my parents want me and train me to be emotionless man, that is our culture
Dare to be Sensitive !
A seminar to free your inner "animal". Limits your choices, what if your animal was a butterfly or a bee?
Is this the same Kapil Gupta from Truth Seeker Podcast?
siddha performance 👌👌
This is not that guy. This is another Kapil Gupta.
@@bhogal83 I'm so confused lol.
@@bhogal83 if you want videos on the kapilguptamd, there is a channel called "Seeker" that pumps quality ones
just search "seeker kapil gupta"
No, it’s not
Nope, different guy. Like someone else mentioned this is yet another "prescription"
the way society conditions men to be unemotional is so damaging.
Thank you for your comment. I think conversations like this and awareness are changing things for the next generation
It's so sad that to be seen as grieving and inconsolable is akin to being seen as out of control. When did expressing your emotions become so looked down upon that it means you're not in control?
Thank you for your comment. The issue is that being out of control is looked down upon. There’s nothing wrong with being out of control. Life is uncertain and we cannot always be in control
This is not Kapil Gupta. This is just another prescription
Haha
😂
Amazing.!!!!!!
Lol
Haha😆
My inner animal is a polar bear and likes to hibernate for eight months a year. It's not going to come our for a seminar.
😂 fair enough
How sad for Kapil to have that experience as a child, to deny his true feelings.
Thank you for your comment. I think it goes to say it’s an inter-generational issue. Hopefully with more awareness things can change
We've really done a number on m3n haven't we? I mean as hard as it is being a lady, at least we're 'allowed' to have feelings, show empathy, get upset...
🙏❤️✨
Interesting he thought his father's vulnerability was a weakness.
Is this guy kapil guptamd the guy preaches sidddha perfomance??
No
No
Hahaha this kapil gupta md will definitely NOT change your life 😂
I don’t get it. Why is something so brutally obvious that it’s downright silly, just because he had to come to realize it as a result of a cathartic experience, become poignant. Vulnerability is the most abused and bastardized idea these days. Jeez.
Lol okay i got fooled. This is not siddha.
The fact that it is a man doing this talk makes it all the more poignant. That's not a dig at women in any way, just that when men see men being open and vulnerable in this way it grants a different kind of permission
Thank you for your kind words 🙏