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I’m going into my 4th year now. When I put boundaries in place it feels so bad,so wrong. I think I am living in a low level trigger state as my limbic brain just cannot understand why my cortex has done this. In reality I had no choice, I was collapsing under it all. My cortex brain is finding all this really hard.
@@joellynshort3949 Wow. I'm a little surprised seeing Claudia Ann Brandon named here, and I didn't know she has been helpful to so many people too, this is amazing, I'm in my fifth trade with her, and it has been super
15 years in a relationship with a diagnosed narcissist. When I met him, I was a strong woman who had raised two beautiful humans, as a single mom. He managed to isolate me from my family and friends, who all lived 150 miles away. Then he took over all of the duties that I had always done myself...at first, it was fantastic, to have a partner that seemed to enjoy taking care of me. I had never had that. But about 2 years in, when my inherited money ran out, everything changed. I took a job, but he did everything he could to sabotage my success. He finally was hauled off to jail for domestic abuse. Now I am 63, trying to remember how I managed on my own. But the longer he's gone, the stronger I get.
Message to all emphats you think most of the time your here to help others but it would be good for you to be of service to yourself instead of others it will change a lot specially if you have trauma ore trauma bonds make it a life goal ore a higher purpose to be of service to yourself
An important topic, well presented. I appreciate that you used IFS for clarity -- we need ways of holding our wounded parts with compassion and love. The hardest thing to let go of is being “sick” -- it gave me a place to hide for so very long...
Ooooooo. Love this. For him it felt excruciating in the moment, but he was able to move on. LOTR has so many metaphors about the hero’s journey! My favorite scene is Frodo deciding to cross the river alone at the end of Fellowship. That, too, is so symbolic. Committing to self-love and going it alone if need be. Committing to courage and the unknown with a higher purpose and calling leading the way.
1:30 - "We can't FORCE ourselves to let go of something we have a strong bond with". How incredibly thankful I am to Hear this. We are only ready, when we are ready. For some it may be 'easier', for others more difficult, for whatever reason. Be patient with yourself. It's okay. You'll get there. Recovery is a process. Letting go is a process. Such confirmation, and gentleness.
I love this. I've been practicing your series for awhile now, and yes there is pain, but I rather have that and be healed and happy than go back to the nightmare of my life that was before. So I Thank You for sharing these. You have no idea how much it's changing My Life! Thank You Thank You Thank You!😊
“Fear becomes something I need to walk through.” Man. So much yes. Holy hell. It’s like I’ve been walking through it for 2+ years. This life, past life, generational layers of unsafety and survival defenses. It’s such big work but I see it now. The light. The love. The little child that hid so far back in a corner, and gets to walk back out of it, through the darkness, into the light. The poetry of the hero’s journey and all of our journeys back to love and wholeness…. That keeps me going. God is a poet and he’s writing the most gorgeous epic poem, in real-time, for all of us.
You and Ask Courtney have literally saved my life. For about 5 years I’ve followed you guys and everything you post relates. I’ve had decades of complex trauma. Thanks to you guys, this year I’m finally coming out of the dark healing and into the healing light of living. I’ve never been in this mindset. It’s been very very hard and so many tears and emotions, but the validation and explanations have made me almost whole. I would say “made me whole again”, but this is the first time to come this far. THANK YOU 🎉 💜
I find that my body reactions, are extremely helpful when I am trying to hard intellectually to work out what needs to go. Avoidance through overthinking, is one of my biggest default settings. I find listening to my body has helped tremendously with discernment.
Thank you for putting this life-changing information online. It is a great relief to be given the keys to understanding my behavior. Making these changes isn’t easy, but your advice helps make it seem possible.
This really helped a lot. I've been in and out of therapy for the past year and beyond that in and out of therapy since I was 17 and my mom left. I'm in my 50's now. This past year, one trauma after another and I have lost my joy and hope. I just want to feel something good again. I've felt shame all my life and now I feel a deeper level of shame because I keep attracting in men who betray me, and I knew better. I'm so done with all the childhood trauma and relationship trauma.
My trauma made me a people pleaser and I also would freeze and still do. People just take advantage of me. I feel incapable of healthy relationships. I’m so isolated. Is this gonna be my life? How do I move on? I’m 39, single, no children. I’ve been lonely from a young age, guess that’s just how it is for me.
Nope. You’re already in the right place to make the changes. If we had a chance to talk, I could tell you my story and how I was once you- and how I work every day to stay out of where I was before.
Brilliant! absolutely brilliant! Thank you for the clarity of my current state I feel much safer now in the decisions I’ve made trusting my intuition now. 🙏🏽❤️
3-6 MONTHS??? It’s been 3-6 YEARS and I still have this going on. I’ve had EMDR and therapy for 6 years now. I work on my cptsd every day throughout. Sometimes I feel like I’m pushing myself to heal too hard… but overall my limbic system has improved significantly. I don’t care how long it takes I will not quit this healing process
@@megandavis324 hi, am thinking of trying emdr for mild anxieties over sensitivities, would love to hear how it helps, and how long? here it's very expensive so thinking of trying few sessions.
This is awesome! I'm not sure if you've heard about Internal Family Systems, it has helped me tremendously. Also watching videos by Jay Reid who speaks on how narcissists scapegoat and abuse their children, has also helped me a lot. All the very best to you, and happy healing. 🎉
In Al-Anon, I remember the suggestions that the person use chocolate hard candy and a non-alcoholic beverage like ice tea or lemonade to satisfy the habit of consuming a high carbohydrate beverage.
I used to see healing as a way to become a whole person but once I set boundaries with my family and the fallout from that showed me I was a whole person all along and it was just the narrative I learned from them that told me I wasn't worthy and I should be accommodating to be loved.
I have so much buried pain that my eyes leak tears and I have no control. The pain in my chest and heart hurts so bad it’s physical pain 😢🙏🏼🥺 I don’t think it will ever heal or end.
Dear Jennifer - I know that it is possible to bear the pain and grieve the losses as you build healthier connections and activities. 12 step groups are helpfull for many in recovery. I am sorry for all your pain yet it will inform your path to joy.
I so identify with your pain! My body is stuck in fight or flight. I've reached out for so long and nothing has born fruit. People are too busy. I've tried church, 12 step groups, volunteering, you name it. I have no family and 68. What's the point? I genuinely want to love others and take my eyes of of myself. How, where? Who cares what I have to offer? I have found no one!
He's absolutely right about that first positive negative. I was working with a guy that's also a close friend. But for months he was wasting my time, taking advantage of me, blowing off work and I wasn't able to accomplish anything. So I decided to take a philosophy class in college, and didn't want to tell anyone, because I didn't want any criticism. Then all of a sudden we had a big job come in. And I wasn't available. I avoided him for a couple weeks. And so he got really angry about it and it ruined our friendship. Even though it would be perfectly fine if he wasted my time for two weeks or delayed paying me. I wasn't there for him like I always was and he didn't want to accept the new me that wouldn't allow him to waste my time or belittle me after I say what I have going on. So our friendship is ended and my brother stepped in and took my job and they had a nice character assassination against me. But I'm the one sober and trying to improve my life and situation. I got betrayed in a terrible way and now I'm alone. But I'm continuing with education with no job or friends. It was a positive change followed by a negative disaster.
🙏🏽Breaking “STRONGHOLDS” brought on through generational curses and sin, as well as our own sinful nature that we constantly open up these doors “HAS” to be implemented first, from there the work truly begins and healing is brought to Light and quickened💜🙏🏽🤲🏽 i am so grateful for you Tim and your healing you bring to us all, God Bless you!!!
6:20. 💯 this is where I’m at. Questioning whether the change (which is I think good s as nd necessary) is worth it but the stakes seem too high and unfamiliar triggers panic. As they say we choose a familiar hell over the unknown often. 😢
If you see this- I understand your suffering. I wish you didn’t have to suffer any longer. There are ways out of this. You’ve GOT to gift the ways to yourself. Only YOU can let go….and finally move on with your life.
I’ve become used to this and almost addicted to survival mode, trauma and avoidance. Anything outside that feels like it just can’t be done/achieved so I stay stuck and don’t live. Please can you tell me what this could be? All I feel I can do is get through each day but there isn’t help for what I’m going through (Benzo withdrawal, neurological damage, memory issues and dissociation) so I’m trapped. You can’t recover from trauma if you’re still in it.
I like this VDO but I that there’s a balance of what to let go and what to keep as a default position. Clearly, pleasing people is one of the things to change, but a level of ruminating or reminding ourselves of past suffering and how it’s impacting us today can be OK to keep. Family systems is one theory or concept.
This is so good. It’s been 3 years of letting go of people I love. 1st the boyfriend then 2 Sisters, a stepson and someone I was mentoring. The pandemic was a scary time and people were not coping well, I get that but I was holding on while they were acting out in mean ways. I let go and other people came in my life that see me and love me just the way I am. They are not trying to drain me emotionally. It’s been a painful journey but necessary. Thank you
Maybe a way of finding the answer to this question, is to see it as letting go of it, and watching it dissipate into the abyss of nothingness like a powder that breaks down into nothing . Visualisation is a powerful tool for some.
A thought came to my mind, what if someone doesn't have a strong visual ability. Also, to visualize real and painful subjective memories to dissipate into an abyss is sort of a LIE that I am telling myself. Because there's no 'non-fictional' abyss for my 'non-fictional' painful memories. Helpful if this can be further explained or explored.
That’s a very good question, as visualisation as you say, is not something that works for everyone. It could be something you could ask yourself how it might work for you as a non visual Person? Could it be a feeling or an energy rather than a visual experience that you could ‘let go’ of?
well apperently I am the one guy that figured out after 3 years that my latest relationship caused a trauma upon and within trauma and just let everything go, and then this popped up 😢😮❤
Depending, it can take multiple lifetimes. In other words, it never heals. Hence, why it can’t be let go, especially when doing it by yourself. Having a friend or relative that has your back, can help with the process of letting go and eventually healing. 🙏🏻😊💫☀️
maan they melted my brain 3 times at 23yrs old using the sleep cure method and this shit still lives in me, i have changed everything i could possibly change, i have everything i ever dream thanks to hard work but my depression just wont go away, it never ends, i believed, lost 50 kgs,have stable job,live alone, muscles, a flashy car,different women every week and all the stupid toys most people see as valuable and yet still here i am venting and lamenting, full of rage like when i was at the psyche hospital in my worst moments, im going crazy, running away from the voice, but it just wont shut up
@@mariodebenedetti9276 start meditating... It's frustrating to begin with and not really enjoyable, but over time it slows and decreases the racing negative thoughts.
@@MishMacky just run! its hard first but then you will start to enjoy it! but miss.. i dont have legs! you dont understand a thing about this disease, go away
The people in my life that are no good I tend to go back to or want the approval. The people who want good for me I run away from when one red flag comes up. Why do I label everyone is my life as untrustworthy? I feel a huge lack of trust for myself.
Yeah the 3 to 6 months thing was ridiculous. Especially because it's a long, ongoing process that occurs over and over again with many issues that unfold in a non-linear way.
I am starting to find great comfort in your voice/channel. I’m sorry I missed Friday night Live, I was in a guilt + shame cycle. Everything you are talking about relates to me. I appreciate the msgs contained herein. Go easy on ourselves, change won’t happen overnight. Thank you Pastor Tim!
Keep working on yourself- you may not see it YET, but you WILL realize it when you start to heal and feel the everyday gift of freedom. You are enough. Find your path. Much love
Its hard to navigate oneself around people, and Ive now limited people intersction. Yet I have multiple anxieties that wreck my minds balance. Not sure what to let go or how.
Please define let go. By let go do you mean to heal? Cuz the definition of to let go means to drop something on to the floor, but to heal means to make whole.
In order to let go one has to feel safe. I'm feeling unsafe all the time (and it's not because I'm not in dangerous circumstances). In the room I share with my abuser, and, on the streets due to violence. 😣😵💫😔😕
Sad how so many videos like this just assume we have the privilege of healing. A sick society does not enable healing. And so much about society is sick.
What about my limbic brain that is dissociated? I have no contact with it. I’m unable to feel a bond. I have bonds but I don’t feel them. I have been about 90% unable to grieve my beloved pet who passed cuz of no contact with my limbic brain.
But is the culture supportive of this? Seems like most people like to dunk their heads in cakes and grow grumpy when old. Then am I too special to work sooo hard to change myself?
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3-6 months? I’ve been on this journey 8 years now, and still feels wrong. But it’s changing, just really, really slowly. I didn’t start til i was 50.
I have been recovering for 7 years. It's been hard work. I find that betrayal from immediate family members is the hardest.
I’m going into my 4th year now. When I put boundaries in place it feels so bad,so wrong. I think I am living in a low level trigger state as my limbic brain just cannot understand why my cortex has done this. In reality I had no choice, I was collapsing under it all. My cortex brain is finding all this really hard.
@@joellynshort3949 🙏🏽🤲🏽
I'm feeling really motivated.
Could you share some details about the bi-weekly topic you brought up?
@@joellynshort3949 Wow. I'm a little surprised seeing Claudia Ann Brandon named here, and I didn't know she has been helpful to so many people too, this is amazing, I'm in my fifth trade with her, and it has been super
15 years in a relationship with a diagnosed narcissist. When I met him, I was a strong woman who had raised two beautiful humans, as a single mom. He managed to isolate me from my family and friends, who all lived 150 miles away. Then he took over all of the duties that I had always done myself...at first, it was fantastic, to have a partner that seemed to enjoy taking care of me. I had never had that.
But about 2 years in, when my inherited money ran out, everything changed. I took a job, but he did everything he could to sabotage my success. He finally was hauled off to jail for domestic abuse. Now I am 63, trying to remember how I managed on my own. But the longer he's gone, the stronger I get.
Keep going - it gets better and better!
@@stacyrosa6672 Good for you. Find your peaceful place within yourself and continue to get stronger. That part of your life is over❤️
It can be a slow healing journey over a lifetime for some people.
Forgetting those things are behind and pressing onward to the things ahead. ❤
Message to all emphats you think most of the time your here to help others but it would be good for you to be of service to yourself instead of others it will change a lot specially if you have trauma ore trauma bonds make it a life goal ore a higher purpose to be of service to yourself
Agreed!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Absolutely. Well said.
❤
Just what I needed to hear. Letting go is difficult when what you are letting go of brings you joy as well as misery.
I am so incredibly grateful for this man.
@@Charlotte_breathes_fire same
An important topic, well presented. I appreciate that you used IFS for clarity -- we need ways of holding our wounded parts with compassion and love. The hardest thing to let go of is being “sick” -- it gave me a place to hide for so very long...
Your program is healing me. Much gratitude!
Image evoked: Bilbo leaving the ring behind.
Ooooooo. Love this. For him it felt excruciating in the moment, but he was able to move on.
LOTR has so many metaphors about the hero’s journey!
My favorite scene is Frodo deciding to cross the river alone at the end of Fellowship.
That, too, is so symbolic. Committing to self-love and going it alone if need be. Committing to courage and the unknown with a higher purpose and calling leading the way.
1:30 - "We can't FORCE ourselves to let go of something we have a strong bond with".
How incredibly thankful I am to Hear this.
We are only ready, when we are ready.
For some it may be 'easier', for others more difficult, for whatever reason.
Be patient with yourself.
It's okay.
You'll get there.
Recovery is a process.
Letting go is a process.
Such confirmation, and gentleness.
Perfect timing. Struggling so hard with letting go.
You’ve got this. Give yourself the GIFT of freedom. Much love
I love this.
I've been practicing your series for awhile now, and yes there is pain, but I rather have that and be healed and happy than go back to the nightmare of my life that was before.
So I Thank You for sharing these.
You have no idea how much it's changing My Life!
Thank You Thank You Thank You!😊
“Fear becomes something I need to walk through.”
Man. So much yes. Holy hell.
It’s like I’ve been walking through it for 2+ years.
This life, past life, generational layers of unsafety and survival defenses.
It’s such big work but I see it now. The light. The love.
The little child that hid so far back in a corner, and gets to walk back out of it, through the darkness, into the light.
The poetry of the hero’s journey and all of our journeys back to love and wholeness….
That keeps me going.
God is a poet and he’s writing the most gorgeous epic poem, in real-time, for all of us.
You and Ask Courtney have literally saved my life. For about 5 years I’ve followed you guys and everything you post relates. I’ve had decades of complex trauma. Thanks to you guys, this year I’m finally coming out of the dark healing and into the healing light of living. I’ve never been in this mindset. It’s been very very hard and so many tears and emotions, but the validation and explanations have made me almost whole. I would say “made me whole again”, but this is the first time to come this far. THANK YOU 🎉 💜
I find that my body reactions, are extremely helpful when I am trying to hard intellectually to work out what needs to go.
Avoidance through overthinking, is one of my biggest default settings. I find listening to my body has helped tremendously with discernment.
I literally feel nauseated and gag when with toxic types - a big and instant message from my body.
Thank you for putting this life-changing information online. It is a great relief to be given the keys to understanding my behavior. Making these changes isn’t easy, but your advice helps make it seem possible.
This Man is My Hero .
So clearly explained.. thank you Tim!
Thanks!
This is such great guidance. Thank you Tim
I do miss the Friday Night Christian piece, this also helped me.❤
This really helped a lot. I've been in and out of therapy for the past year and beyond that in and out of therapy since I was 17 and my mom left. I'm in my 50's now. This past year, one trauma after another and I have lost my joy and hope. I just want to feel something good again. I've felt shame all my life and now I feel a deeper level of shame because I keep attracting in men who betray me, and I knew better. I'm so done with all the childhood trauma and relationship trauma.
Sorry to hear. I don’t want for you to suffer any more. It was not your fault. You deserve better. You deserve to give yourself the gift of freedom.
You’re a complete natural at this
My trauma made me a people pleaser and I also would freeze and still do. People just take advantage of me. I feel incapable of healthy relationships. I’m so isolated. Is this gonna be my life? How do I move on? I’m 39, single, no children. I’ve been lonely from a young age, guess that’s just how it is for me.
You are still young there is still hope for you❤ learn and apply. There is so much info and resources now!
Nope.
You’re already in the right place to make the changes.
If we had a chance to talk, I could tell you my story and how I was once you- and how I work every day to stay out of where I was before.
I feel the same :( i hope that we ll learn how to let go ❤
@@Job.Well.Done_01 is it possible to benefit from your story too? Thank you in advance. ( Sorry though for my english, it is not my first language)
Brilliant! absolutely brilliant! Thank you for the clarity of my current state I feel much safer now in the decisions I’ve made trusting my intuition now. 🙏🏽❤️
3-6 MONTHS??? It’s been 3-6 YEARS and I still have this going on. I’ve had EMDR and therapy for 6 years now. I work on my cptsd every day throughout. Sometimes I feel like I’m pushing myself to heal too hard… but overall my limbic system has improved significantly. I don’t care how long it takes I will not quit this healing process
@@megandavis324 hi, am thinking of trying emdr for mild anxieties over sensitivities, would love to hear how it helps, and how long? here it's very expensive so thinking of trying few sessions.
I am going into my fourth year now. I wonder how much longer it will take? Like you, I will not quit, but it is HARD work every single day.
This is awesome!
I'm not sure if you've heard about Internal Family Systems, it has helped me tremendously. Also watching videos by Jay Reid who speaks on how narcissists scapegoat and abuse their children, has also helped me a lot.
All the very best to you, and happy healing. 🎉
Love your spirit! I’m near my 6th year too, every day it still gets better 💪🏻 ☀️ 🎉 love these video! They help so much. ❤ 🙏🏻
@@megandavis324 Ahmein!
In Al-Anon, I remember the suggestions that the person use chocolate hard candy and a non-alcoholic beverage like ice tea or lemonade to satisfy the habit of consuming a high carbohydrate beverage.
Really good video
Thank you for this knowledge. It is greatly appreciated
I used to see healing as a way to become a whole person but once I set boundaries with my family and the fallout from that showed me I was a whole person all along and it was just the narrative I learned from them that told me I wasn't worthy and I should be accommodating to be loved.
I have so much buried pain that my eyes leak tears and I have no control. The pain in my chest and heart hurts so bad it’s physical pain 😢🙏🏼🥺 I don’t think it will ever heal or end.
Dear Jennifer - I know that it is possible to bear the pain and grieve the losses as you build healthier connections and activities. 12 step groups are helpfull for many in recovery. I am sorry for all your pain yet it will inform your path to joy.
I so identify with your pain! My body is stuck in fight or flight. I've reached out for so long and nothing has born fruit. People are too busy. I've tried church, 12 step groups, volunteering, you name it. I have no family and 68. What's the point? I genuinely want to love others and take my eyes of of myself. How, where? Who cares what I have to offer? I have found no one!
He's absolutely right about that first positive negative. I was working with a guy that's also a close friend. But for months he was wasting my time, taking advantage of me, blowing off work and I wasn't able to accomplish anything. So I decided to take a philosophy class in college, and didn't want to tell anyone, because I didn't want any criticism. Then all of a sudden we had a big job come in. And I wasn't available. I avoided him for a couple weeks. And so he got really angry about it and it ruined our friendship. Even though it would be perfectly fine if he wasted my time for two weeks or delayed paying me. I wasn't there for him like I always was and he didn't want to accept the new me that wouldn't allow him to waste my time or belittle me after I say what I have going on. So our friendship is ended and my brother stepped in and took my job and they had a nice character assassination against me. But I'm the one sober and trying to improve my life and situation. I got betrayed in a terrible way and now I'm alone. But I'm continuing with education with no job or friends. It was a positive change followed by a negative disaster.
🙏🏽Breaking “STRONGHOLDS” brought on through generational curses and sin, as well as our own sinful nature that we constantly open up these doors “HAS” to be implemented first, from there the work truly begins and healing is brought to Light and quickened💜🙏🏽🤲🏽
i am so grateful for you Tim and your healing you bring to us all, God Bless you!!!
Thank you ❤
Thank you, Tim!
"BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF." 🙏
6:20. 💯 this is where I’m at. Questioning whether the change (which is I think good s as nd necessary) is worth it but the stakes seem too high and unfamiliar triggers panic. As they say we choose a familiar hell over the unknown often. 😢
Thank you! 🙏🇸🇪
❤ thank you for this
If you see this- I understand your suffering. I wish you didn’t have to suffer any longer.
There are ways out of this. You’ve GOT to gift the ways to yourself.
Only YOU can let go….and finally move on with your life.
Spot on
I agree. Thank you for this video.
I’ve become used to this and almost addicted to survival mode, trauma and avoidance. Anything outside that feels like it just can’t be done/achieved so I stay stuck and don’t live.
Please can you tell me what this could be? All I feel I can do is get through each day but there isn’t help for what I’m going through (Benzo withdrawal, neurological damage, memory issues and dissociation) so I’m trapped. You can’t recover from trauma if you’re still in it.
Please don't give up on yourself, i have the same problems but i will not defeat❤
Gracias Tim ❤❤❤
I like this VDO but I that there’s a balance of what to let go and what to keep as a default position. Clearly, pleasing people is one of the things to change, but a level of ruminating or reminding ourselves of past suffering and how it’s impacting us today can be OK to keep. Family systems is one theory or concept.
My lambic brain perceives fear in everything.
@@lieagain mine too 😢
It's the devil who spreads fear , especially in news ,fear of God is healthy and helping
♡ thanksthanksthanks!
This is so good. It’s been 3 years of letting go of people I love. 1st the boyfriend then 2 Sisters, a stepson and someone I was mentoring. The pandemic was a scary time and people were not coping well, I get that but I was holding on while they were acting out in mean ways. I let go and other people came in my life that see me and love me just the way I am. They are not trying to drain me emotionally. It’s been a painful journey but necessary. Thank you
Good for you❤
A new level, means a new devil. But so worth the hard work 😊
I have BPD would i still be able to do this?? I have a lot of anger
🤍🕊️🕯️🫶 THANK YOU FOR THIS ❤ Authentic healing IS POSSIBLE. Your channel EDUCATES the HOW❤❤
Grieving.
I've been grieving for well over 7 years.
It hurts.
It's excruciating.
Deep wounds take a long, long time to heal.
A genuinely curious question......."TO WHERE" should I let go of what I want to let go?
Maybe a way of finding the answer to this question, is to see it as letting go of it, and watching it dissipate into the abyss of nothingness like a powder that breaks down into nothing . Visualisation is a powerful tool for some.
A thought came to my mind, what if someone doesn't have a strong visual ability. Also, to visualize real and painful subjective memories to dissipate into an abyss is sort of a LIE that I am telling myself.
Because there's no 'non-fictional' abyss for my 'non-fictional' painful memories. Helpful if this can be further explained or explored.
That’s a very good question, as visualisation as you say, is not something that works for everyone. It could be something you could ask yourself how it might work for you as a non visual
Person? Could it be a feeling or an energy rather than a visual experience that you could ‘let go’ of?
well apperently I am the one guy that figured out after 3 years that my latest relationship caused a trauma upon and within trauma and just let everything go, and then this popped up 😢😮❤
Depending, it can take multiple lifetimes.
In other words, it never heals. Hence, why it can’t be let go, especially when doing it by yourself.
Having a friend or relative that has your back, can help with the process of letting go and eventually healing. 🙏🏻😊💫☀️
maan they melted my brain 3 times at 23yrs old using the sleep cure method and this shit still lives in me, i have changed everything i could possibly change, i have everything i ever dream thanks to hard work but my depression just wont go away, it never ends, i believed, lost 50 kgs,have stable job,live alone, muscles, a flashy car,different women every week and all the stupid toys most people see as valuable and yet still here i am venting and lamenting, full of rage like when i was at the psyche hospital in my worst moments, im going crazy, running away from the voice, but it just wont shut up
@@mariodebenedetti9276 start meditating... It's frustrating to begin with and not really enjoyable, but over time it slows and decreases the racing negative thoughts.
@@MishMacky just run! its hard first but then you will start to enjoy it! but miss.. i dont have legs! you dont understand a thing about this disease, go away
The people in my life that are no good I tend to go back to or want the approval. The people who want good for me I run away from when one red flag comes up. Why do I label everyone is my life as untrustworthy? I feel a huge lack of trust for myself.
People in general are untrustworthy. It's built into "society".
Yeah the 3 to 6 months thing was ridiculous. Especially because it's a long, ongoing process that occurs over and over again with many issues that unfold in a non-linear way.
I am starting to find great comfort in your voice/channel.
I’m sorry I missed Friday night Live, I was in a guilt + shame cycle.
Everything you are talking about relates to me. I appreciate the msgs contained herein. Go easy on ourselves, change won’t happen overnight.
Thank you Pastor Tim!
Keep working on yourself- you may not see it YET, but you WILL realize it when you start to heal and feel the everyday gift of freedom.
You are enough. Find your path. Much love
Its hard to navigate oneself around people, and Ive now limited people intersction. Yet I have multiple anxieties that wreck my minds balance. Not sure what to let go or how.
We all wired different
Please define let go. By let go do you mean to heal? Cuz the definition of to let go means to drop something on to the floor, but to heal means to make whole.
It's so difficult
I sat in shame and wrongness the majority of my life. I'm in recovery but question myself about what healthy looks like for me.
How do I turn off my narcissist interject
In order to let go one has to feel safe. I'm feeling unsafe all the time (and it's not because I'm not in dangerous circumstances). In the room I share with my abuser, and, on the streets due to violence. 😣😵💫😔😕
Sad how so many videos like this just assume we have the privilege of healing. A sick society does not enable healing. And so much about society is sick.
What about my limbic brain that is dissociated? I have no contact with it. I’m unable to feel a bond. I have bonds but I don’t feel them. I have been about 90% unable to grieve my beloved pet who passed cuz of no contact with my limbic brain.
How do you let go when you were born afflicted with hyperthymesia? It seems to be impossible
If you want to speed up your limbic brain "letting go” I recommend the book “The Emotion Code” by Dr. Bradley Nelson.
I do I turn off the narcissist interject
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Did I give enough chances? always bugs me
The answer: Yes you did. More than enough.
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It take years, and of course depend on the circustames of person, and how the brain works, definetly not a quick process lol!
I feel underneath my anger and sadness is me saying ' I am worth more than how you treated me goddam it. Would that be right?
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“A new level means a new devil”! Yes!
But Whyyyyyyy?!?
My parents have died and i am trying to forgive them
God damn why does life have to be so hard.
The limbic brain needs time to catch up to the cortex - 3:00
Now i dont have time left for a job😅
Retirement Papers😁
But is the culture supportive of this? Seems like most people like to dunk their heads in cakes and grow grumpy when old. Then am I too special to work sooo hard to change myself?
Nobody is missing you.
No more parents, no new partners, no problems now 💔❤️🩹♥️
Had to begin to leave toxic family. No friends only.aquantices. end up.not.talk.for.alot.of hours in the day. All new not people pleasing.
I had to do the same thing