I rarely comment but I felt compelled to tell you “Girl, do you.” I love your content and your unboxings! I hate negative comments couched in advice. You are a grown woman who work hard. You are entitled to do what ever you choose to do! Besides, I enjoy looking at your bags as much as you do and those people who purchased your bags were blessed to get such well cared for bags at a discount. ❤
Never dismiss genuine concern from people who mean well as negative comments. That being said: always 'do you' hand in hand with a healthy dose of self-reflection. I believe my comment for that video read: If you are not wearing certain things, let them go and keep the lesson. The lesson being whatever lesson she wants to keep. We all have (had) items in our closets with the tag still on. Personally I keep the lesson each time, yet new accidents keep occurring. The encouraging thing being they become less frequent 😅.
Who cares what anyone on the internet thinks! It's your hard earned money and you can spend it as you please...always makes me laugh when people on line think they have the right to make you feel bad about how you spend your own money! Buy all the bags you want Amelia...if it makes your heart sing 💕
Don't be too hard on yourself, we've all done it....At some point we all reflect on our actions. I would also like to say that these brands play a part in our behaviour too. They have studied us most carefully 💜
@@ameliarosescloset Yes this is what I mean by 'be kind to yourself' because punishing only leads to a bigger blowout, like denial of self, of gratification in a diet leads to a binge. The cycle of deprivation, binge, self castigation, and then repeating... this has to be broken, and the way out is compassion and kindness not harshness. A lot of the time we're trying to fill an inner emptiness, and we each need to look inside to see what that is, and deal with loss, and unresolved emotions so we can become healthier and more self aware , not just to have moments of insight and self awareness, but at all times. It's very difficult to do this without support so whatever your chosen way is try to reach out and be aware that others might trivialise your issues, for the sake of their own comfort. Getting support: It's a valuable step to take. There's a lot of love in the room.
I have… never done anything like this. The worst I’ve done is let some broccoli or spinach go bad in the fridge without using it, occasionally. I’ve never even returned a clothing item, let alone sold something without wearing it a ton first.
This video is so raw and a testament to how much of a badass you are to put yourself out to unkind internet strangers for critique and harassment. Thank you so much, this channel is sooo different than everyone on TH-cam and I’m so glad you’re discussing this. We need this.
I can relate. Idk what happens to us, it’s like I get possessed. I recently sold several bags and listed 22 more to sell. All of a sudden my shelves looked empty (to me) and I went crazy over a two week span purchased 11 bags. I am so glad you posted this. Time to take a break from buying.
I love your transparency and your accountability. Some of us are dealing with our shopping addictions too. I am also on a no buy with luxury. Sometimes, you just have to be honest with yourself when you are doing too much. Keep the great content coming. It's so easy to get caught up in the next pretty thing. But enjoying what we have is even better and less maintenance.
Fabulous video. I also engage in frequent reflection, and I think that there is a real courage in considering the comments of others. We don't always need to agree, but I love that you used those messages to think more about your habits. I am right there with you. I'm working on developing a healthier approach to purchasing/consumption. I definitely appreciate this video and your willingness to share your thoughts. xo
I’m sorry but you do NOT need to explain yourself to anyone. It’s your money and you spend it anyway you want. People can either watch or NOT if they feel uncomfortable( which is ridiculous) I’m sorry. Love you channel and all the content you put out!
I think she knows. She only wants to be responsible content creator and to put out inspiring message to her audience. It takes so much strength to do a content like this. Very empowering.
Trying not to sound patronising, well done. It takes a good level of strength to handle comments that may make you question yourself well. It also takes strength to come back and deal with it the way you have. ❤
Mate, if you feel out of control and need a minute to re-centre, I absolutely support you in that. But if this is someone forcing their opinion and making you feel ashamed, I don’t support that. We live in a world where everyone has an opinion and is happy to provide it without thought of how it will be received. The frenzy comes from all the spinning plates we have. We are essentially a circus act spinning plates and trying desperately not to let any drop. If you have too many plates and shopping is one you can let go for a while, take it down. But if you’ve got all your plates spinning nicely, then don’t let anyone make you feel like you should take it down. Your kids are alive and well, your business is doing well, and you get up and dressed every morning. That is amazing. Anything above that is success!
thank you my friend, I do think the comment made me think, but if I am honest, I was obsessing a lot, and I feel a bit too much for the last while, I think a pause is good for me, I want a chance to use and enjoy the ones I have and the ones that I still need to unbox are fab - I am excited to see what you think of the bag this Saturday!
I have a new level of respect for you. Not because you’re capable of introspection, but because you’re willing to share with us and we could all use a little of the same about our own actions. We do what we want, but it’s good to consider the cause of our desire so we can actually quench it. 😁 thank you
Only you know if you honestly need to cut back for awhile. That’s very personal and your honesty and vulnerability are heartfelt. Be kind to yourself. Many of us have done this in different ways. We know you do not buy just to reveal bags. We know you are a real bag lover. 💖 in the end it’s entirely your business!
This is a vulnerable video, and bravo to you. One person's shopping addiction can be merely "mindless consumption", and another's can lead them into financial straights and difficult situations that have nothing to do with bags/clothing/whatever. Round of applause for your honesty and putting your authentic self out there. 👏👏👏
I love travel, and I too used to focus on buying something to remember from the trip. Now, I bring home matchbooks and the electronic keys from the hotel rooms. I label each with the dates of the trips so they sync up with the photos in my library. I have a big decorative bowl in my dining room, and the kids and now the grandkids love pulling out a matchbook and asking about the trip. Upside -- no regrets and no customs duties.
My friend… I’m feeling conflicted…. I’m always so impressed when I see people take a message and really consider it and how it may help provide insights…. But, also, knowing you, you have the capacity to be more adventurous with what you buy and how much and that can be confronting for people. You don’t have to be accountable to us and what you say here, just yourself, so if you’re happy I’m happy. If you’re not, I’ll help support you too!
That is such an excellent self reflective post. There were good insights that can be applied to other collection, not just luxary bags. Thank you for sharing. 😊
Amelia, thanks for this video. Thank you for being so honest and for reflecting on comments that, warranted or not, help you with your thought process. Whatever anyone says, if you wish to take a break, do that. If you wish to buy more, do it. Personally, this video comes at a great time, struggling with post partum I have thrown myself into shopping for accessories and I want (and need) to take a step back. So, thank you. This video made me cry, not for the bags but for the awareness and self reflection it sparked.
Excellent and honest video! It’s okay to slow your roll regarding new handbag purchases!! For me, instead of chasing the next hot handbag which most likely will go out of style. I will continue to shop in my closet or buy preloved.
Great video once again. Use what you have. What helps me stop the crazy shopping is by helping others. Donating my time. This year was a life changer for me. Only bought one bag this year I’ve never been more free. You got this!
You’ve given me so much to think about. I have a lot of anxiety as it is and the decision fatigue of what bag to wear, or make sure you use this to get your cost per wear, will it get dirty because of my two toddlers, etc etc gives me a headache sometimes and I just end up grabbing my old faithful - the Speedy B 30. I recently sold a lot of what was in my collection (and was collecting dust) and feel so much better.
Wow. Thank you for being so transparent and honest, and self-reflective. As an influencer, for you to openly discuss this inner conflict that I have also been contemplating lately is so refreshing and healing…. There is definitely a mysterious condition occurring lately of “frenzied buying” of bags that is so overpowering. I want to be more mindful about what I purchase, and break free from this affliction. Thank you for this video!
I commend you for your bravery in making this video and addressing the difficult comments. I’ve mentioned this before but I have cut my shopping almost in half this year and I plan to stick to it next year. I only plan to buy one more bag this year and it is a birthday bag.
Amelia, I will miss you unboxing, not everything we buy is meant to keep forever. It's your hard earn money buy what you like, I love seeing the bags some of them inspire me to want a few. I hope you get back to bing yourself soon.
Im so happy to have watched this. I had actually stopped watching yours and other channels. Yes i love my Chanel etc however when i had all the colours and styles /sizes i wanted i stopped. It was making me feel a tad sick watching several luxe channels and the total overabundance didnt make me jelly it made me so happy that i wasn’t like that. Yea ive bought a few i dont wear and yea ive sold a couple but i have a lovely collection ( as do you and all the others) without aimlessly looking for the next. One channel in particular actually made me want to sell all of mine and be done with it due to the amount of boxes WEEKLY. I was like OMG i love my bags but i dont want to be thought of this way. Possibly that was a blessing as i stopped and sat and looked at my display and thought it is actually complete. I maybe have one too many blacks of the same size which i will address. I love to shop. I love to buy. We are blessed to be able too however i totally agree that we should still LOVE AND ADORE every purchase. Huge hugs and i hope this hasnt come over the wrong way as i love watching your channel but i was just “ over it” haha. Xx
no I get it completely, I actually feel very settled in my decision at the minute and don't feel the need to buy anymore. There are still 3 bags to come and some bits of pieces, but the last purchase was mid June, so I am 6 weeks in now x
Well I certainly relate. I recently bought a Valentino Roman stud bag only because it was cute and on sale. It came but I had zero excitement for it. I threw it on my shelf feeling unsettled. I ended up returning it a week later. I promised myself to never do that again. When I see a luxury item I want to fall in love with it and anticipate getting it. I also need to let time pass between purchases to really enjoy them before I allow myself to move to the next thing. 💗
I just wanted to say that I'm proud of you. I also have a shopping addiction and doing a no-buy summer, which is going fine so far. I feel like there is a freedom in stepping outside from the endless cycle of buying and selling items. I believe you might find this process liberating. Still, do what's best for you, and try not to care much about the comments. My bests.
I agree that you should pause if that is what will make you feel better and I think it’ll be a good experience to practice self control that you can also apply to other areas of your life. However, I can’t help but feel your frustration with yourself and I just want to send you some love and strength❤️❤️ please don’t feel like you’re a failure or feel less than because of this, you’re an Amazing person and I enjoy your channel very much
I totally appreciate your honesty with self and the willingness to self reflect. I hope these next few months bring you clarity, peace and fulfillment that a PURSE can never give us.
@@ameliarosescloset your welcome. And watching your video has made me look at myself as I have been acquiring more bags as of late. And rather than enjoy what I have I’m thinking of the next one to get. So thank you for sharing your video.
Kudo to you Amelia. It’s rare to see such a content like this. So nice to see my favorite TH-camr is so open-minded and willing to reflect . Wishing you all the happiness. ❤
I loved that green fendi its gorgeous, but i have been in that buying frenzy, i love love love shop your closet videos! I love seeing how you use your bags and why you love a bag or if its just okay, the the reviews in the world does not always let you know how it works for you. I like bag swaps and trades because we all have a bag that does not work for us. I do not think it always has to be a buy sell.
I have been focusing on other topics for the past couple of months so I missed your recent videos, otherwise, I would have unsubscribed. This is the EXACT reason why I stopped watching TH-camrs that buy multiple Hermes handbags and other mid and high dollar luxury items in a short period of time like within 1 week or 1 month. Luxury is to be enjoyed and preserved for years and years not treated like fast fashion. Happy for this journey for you. Please enjoy your existing items for a year or two before getting another item. I will stay subscribed. I’m excited to hear about longterm wear and styling for your luxury items.
i have to say, i have really been enjoying using my bags and focusing on them, it has brought back a lot of the joy as when i first bought them, today for eg, i took the neverfull to a meeting, the graffiti chanel mini shopping and the pink petite malle to lunch, i am really loving it
Amen, you are saved. I could tell from earlier videos that you had unconscious worries and guilt about your shopping practices. It is great that this comment has brought this to the fore and that you have reflected on your habits and taken the action needed. Very brave and it shows strength of mind and good judgement.
I have just recently found your channel & I have to say that you Amelia, are my new favorite. I don't believe you know how many of us you are helping with this video. "Frenzy", as you have mentioned, is the perfect description for the state of mind many of us have found ourselves in. I look forward to watching all of your videos in the future, including your next unboxing. I am sure many of us would also enjoy you showing and talking about your collection with mod shots, etc. from time to time.
A reminder, regardless what we think, you doing what's authentic to you is all that matters. Some of the other ladies I follow/ followed are shopping more than ever. Call it collecting, but that hyper focus and space we allow to take up our minds, still has obsessive/ addictive energy to it. You being real made me subscribe. It's helping me with my own relationship with shopping. Thank you for your vulnerability.
Greetings from 🇨🇦. I discovered your channel some time ago. There is no way on God’s green earth can I afford or want to collect designer bags. I do not understand the addiction however, I follow your channel because I enjoy your videos and I enjoy your personality and naturally that lovely accent! As the main comment you referenced in this video stated, it gave you pause and we and we all have our addictions.I’m guilty as charged but thank you for the wake up call we all need from time to time. Good luck with your resolve for the rest of the year. I too will do some soul searching to my own failings. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing.
All I know is the green Fendi baguette you sold is living her best life in Australia! I follow the lovely lady who bought it from you and I love the photos she takes of the baguette 💚💚
Thank you for explaining this. I didn’t ever think that you bought for content but I’m glad that you don’t. You recognize a problem and I’m glad that you are addressing it. I love dishes and realized that my collection had gotten too big. A lot was purchased during the pandemic. I decided rather than feel guilty for lack of self control, I’ll chalk it up to covid coping and pass them on to my charity shop.
I can certainly relate to everything you said. Great video as always. I carry my NF to work everyday, that leaves the weekends to carry all my other designer bags. Some bags don’t get used much because I feel like they are seasonal so I only carry them in the summer months or winter months. But I’m still shopping. That makes no since what so ever so I have decided to shop my closet. I haven’t bought any bags in awhile even though I love the new Dior bags. After you unbox your new bags maybe you should do some styling videos with all your bags. I would love to watch them.
You are such a refreshingly honest presence, especially in this luxury space here on the TH-cams! I think anyone who buys luxury has experienced buyers remorse and made an expensive mistake, for whatever the reason. Good on you for selling the bag and moving on from your mistake. A hard decision but a wise one when you’ve gone through a period of overspending. I would love to hear more about how you navigate not buying after a buying spree. Shopping for me is very addictive and I’m going through a similar period of trying to take a pause and enjoy what I have. I’m finding it extremely difficult at times. Often I substitute online browsing for handbags with other habits that spur consumption, like browsing Pinterest and then wanting new clothes. Or I buy new hand towels or something random and unnecessary. Please pass on anything you do learn that helps you to stop the shopping bug. I am similar to you and I am sometimes overcome by my cravings for things. I would love videos about how you navigate those impulses. And also how you style your bags! It’s rare to see an influencer embrace color the way you do - so much content is very minimalist and austere. While you’re on your no buy it would be so fun to see how you pull together outfits and get use out of what you do own. Thank you for sharing your passion and wisdom and for your authenticity. And good luck with the no spend! It can be tough but also so enlightening when we pause.
Hi Amelia! Really enjoyed this video and your honestly! But I have to give you some grace. At the end of the day you know what you can afford and have free will to spend your money how you wish. If a video makes a person feel "uncomfortable" then they can click off. Nobody is forcing someone to watch something that makes them feel uncomfortable. At the end of the day I support whatever choice you make but I don't feel like it someone's place to tell you what to do and what to purchase.
Love your bravery in addressing the over buying issues. And all respect to the person making the comment but no one have the right to shaming you on your spending habits. It's your money. You worked hard for it and you should be able to enjoy the excitement of the purchase. If you change your mind later that is completely fine. You deserve to feel the excitement even if it's just for a short moment. You deserve your joy without the shame. You share your journey with us on you tube. You don't have to justify that to anyone. This is a wonderful community that you have encourage comments and conversations around different topics. But please don't need to justify yourself to us. You owe us nothing. It's your money. Your joy, your pleasure. Even if it's short lived. You still deserve to enjoy the frenzy ❤❤❤
I am so very conflicted.. you touched on some very specific feelings. I completely respect you for not only sharing this, but to have the insight to share. I too have been caught up in the ‘frenzy’ and found myself with bags I do not use. The fact that you sell them shows us that you have some introspective. I have stopped shopping for the same reason.. however the FENDI. was just a bit of an impulse buy . We have ALL done that. You will enjoy switching up your bags(I k ow I have) .. many blessings and liking forward to just ‘chatting’ 😊
First of all, I’d like to commend and appreciate you for being able to process that comment without getting defensive. It’s incredibly hard to have multiple people point out a behaviour that most of the time, we are aware of subconsciously. I am someone who thinks we should be free to spend our money now we wish, but also, acknowledge when our spending becomes addictive. I have the same issue with impulse shopping and spending. It’s not recognised like a food, alcohol or drug addiction, but I think a lot of fashion and beauty influencers have a compulsive shopping addiction to fill either an emotional void or to fuel their social media success. Going cold Turkey will be difficult, but limiting your consumption is the first step! Giving you all the love and support ❤
Thank you for this video. I relate to everything you said. I have a lot less bags than you do but at my own scale I have experienced the same issues. I have bought too many bags this year and then I sold almost all of them because I felt overwhelmed and I realized they were not great purchases for me. I don’t want to consume luxury bags like fast fashion; I want them to last in my closet. So I am going on a major low buy and I am implementing the rule I had when I started buying luxury: one bag per year.
This must have been a difficult yet cathartic video to make. Congratulations on the courage to share with such insight and candor. Your insight and candor is what originally drew me to subscribe to your channel. I look forward to seeing your new purchases. More importantly, I wish you success in overcoming your struggle ❤ I believe, now that you've come to this realization, you will find a healthy balance.
I very much respect this post and wish you success. I have found that sometimes shifting my focus to one thing else and then coming back and looking at my collection makes me reappreciate my bags. On London- the exchange rates are total crap- don’t buy in London! That being said, a trip 😢o Bicester village is a great day to enjoy luxury shopping of all sorts with one great deals. I recently visited Europe for two weeks with my mom, kids and each kid brought a friend. We spend a day at Bicester while in london and found some lovely things- all of which were on a pre-thought out shopping list. I was only looking for one bag- a Jimmy choo raffia tote- and did not find it, so I didn’t buy any bags there.
If this is a decision you have to come to of your own accord then this is entirely your prerogative but it's your hard earned money and you should be able to spend it however you feel fit. It really is none of anyone else's business. I can't understand why people watch a channel about luxury handbags and then feel the need to shame you. I personally love watching your videos and admiring your stunning bag collection. You have bought me a lot of joy. So you made a mistake with one bag and sold it on- big deal. Even if you made a loss selling it on, it probably balances out with gains made on other bags in your collection. I really don't see what the problem is... As long as you aren't hurting anyone else do what makes you happy 😃
The comment she read wasn’t shaming. She asked the question most of us answered. She’s a smart lady she knows inside what the deal is. Remember if you feel shame their might be a reason why you feel that way. Otherwise you blow off the comment. We have all had to hear hard truths in life. Not shaming.
I love this vlog, because you are addressing what a lot of people fall into ... and a lot of it has to do with "retail therapy." Sometimes it's the impulse to buy something new, buy something that will be used for an upcoming event, etc, and we just haven't found the right things yet. We think we have, but in total, we haven't found the means to the end. I say, if you have the money, and can afford it, mistakes can happen, and impulse buys can happen. Look at the supermarkets, and how they add items near a cash register. If you have limited funds, think purchases over prior to purchasing to avoid feeling ill post purchases. And if it just wasn't right, return it prior to using if you can. I think what you do works for you and your budget? No need to feel bad, and I agree with other users, selling items post the return date isn't necessarily a bad idea. Sell it while you can get the most money return as possible. I say, enjoy your life, and purchase what you can afford. If you can afford the items you purchased, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You've earned the right.
I adore your collection, especially your unabashed love for colours and seasonal designs, and was partially inspired by you (and other YTers) to buy a rainbow mermaid reissue too (mine is in the woc). It brings me such joy! I thought the Fendi fit in well in your collection but the thing is that with so many brands putting out products every season, there are many things that will go well in our collections. It’s good to have a reset and examine what you really love and must own. It sounds like your vlog sale was a rather stinging experience but maybe it’s a useful reflection for all of us. Agree with others that I would enjoy styling vlogs for each bag in your collection. Might help people who find colourful bags hard to style!
I have said it before and once again, kudos to your positive attitude. I love how you take feedback/ critism. Even the ones that are aggressive and unkind. I really enjoy your content and have shared with friends. Very refreshing.
I am on the same boat as you. I still have 1 dream bag I haven't bought yet but I think it can wait. I would like to curate my collection first. I am willing to let go of those that I haven't used in a long while. I will shop my own closet. Then maybe I can buy my dream bag on my birthday on Oct or if I can still wait a little longer, on Christmas 😊 Thanks for this video, Amelia 💜
We've all had impulsive decision, I've bought clothes that have sat in my wardrobe never worn. It doesn't matter if they are luxury or highsteet. I've had to do the same thing and take a step back on what I'm spending my money on. Don't be too hard on yourself 😊
Much respect for you to admit your faults and even better that you didn't take comments as a criticism and was open. I'm wishing you strength 💪 and willpower as you take a break from your shopping. ❤
Thank you, Amelia - I've looked to your channel often for inspiration when it comes to spending and control of finances. I hope that these decisions come from a place of accountability to yourself and your family only (because that's what matters, and not what any of us say on the big wide web!) Best of luck with your resolution, and for what it's worth I'll be rooting for you to keep it! ❤ i hope you'll still keep the content going though, because i love watching your videos and hearing your views
This was a great video which I think we are all guilty of to some extent and your honest thoughts on shopping and not thinking about purchases is spot on. When one door closes, another one opens - maybe you will vlog about all the bags you do have and show us that you are actually using them and how. And maybe hold a competition for people's experiences with shopping addiction - give away a few of your bags!
I bought 5 luxury handbags during covid and I have not worn any of them since . I keep carrying my contemporary and cheap bags. This video has inspired me to sell them as they are just collecting dust
I was so excited to watch you pop off on the commenter and have you put them in your place as you are the one funding your “addiction” but I actually admire you so much more now after seeing how mature u are for reflecting in yourself wow so powerful!
Great video , has definitely made me think about my spending . Although as the previous poster said it's really nobody's business but we can all learn from constructive criticism cant we . Well done . X x
You are truly a thoughtful and considerate person. When you read the comment, my first thought was you should tell them to mind their business and if they feel uncomfortable, feel free not to watch. lol However, as you got into your perspective on their comment, my second reaction was ok, I get that. I applaud your willingness to consider constructive criticism. It shows wisdom and security within oneself. I too have been in a shopping frenzy with all the various semi-annual sales. I enjoy luxury content and own only a handful of luxury bags, but my personal favorite handbags to collect are Coach bags. I love hunting for the most htf ones. In the last 2 weeks, I bought 8 bags, returned 3, and sold a few I already had to even out my collection. It is exhausting when I think about it. I think we all can use a break from compulsive shopping. This was a great reminder for me.
Amelia love yr video. I have stuck to my “bakers dozen” principle (only started collecting bags in last 2 years), they’re enough for me & my lifestyle. I equate luxe bags to being on a “diet,” just because you are doesn’t mean you can’t look @ the menu. Look after yourself & the family. Best wishes from Adelaide; South Australia🇦🇺💐
You are amazing. It takes a whole lot of strength to reach this point, let alone share it so openly. Love how far you've come and your honesty. Some suggestions on the way forward: Try doing some styling vlogs and show us what you are including in your wardrobes to make those bags work. Focus on getting your skin colours done and work through the clothes in your wardrobe considering your lifestyle, occasion dressing and shoes. Takes us on that journey and talk about how you are managing your triggers.
@@ameliarosescloset I'm afraid some bad feeling in here has led me to take a break from subscribing to the channel. It has nothing to do with you, but it is unfortunate that there's been an overzealousness of fans claiming to support you and therefore ending to order me out. I'm not "a fan", as such and it's a mistake to assume that we all need to be one. Explaining myself and appealing to reason has been a waste of time, it is imagined I want to impose values on you when nothing of the kind. Overall, there is so much going on in the world I just am wasting my time when people order me out of social media for supposedly attacking you. or not being enough of a fan. I did nothing of the kind, but can't waste my time defending or explaining any further. This is a bit too much like high school! I need to focus on what's important and it's not about trying to compete with who is the most devoted fan. See you later.
@@deborahcurtis1385 oh I am so sorry this has happened, I have clearly missed all of this in the comments. I definitely don't want a hostile environment or anyone to be made to feel not welcome. I am the one who invites constructive criticism in the comments, and I have only ever found you to be entirely supportive and kind in your comments. I am so sorry you have been made to feel like this x
@@ameliarosescloset THANKS!!! I swore off the comments and even unsubscribed...but just read your post. I realise you've been busy and just ticked the highlighter not realising I'm being trolled. NP. People can check my history on Dayle's addiction, as I have supported Dayle when she was being attacked for buying luxury, because those posters could't afford the bags. This is ridiculous I told her to carry on and ignore them! It has been very High school and even mean girls in here ..and I'm like: I can't believe this...LOL! But typical me, I over explained when it's best to just not feed the trolls. I'm sure they are convinced they're doing the right thing. But it's immature they just don't read carefully nor listen. Never mind! I'm always conflicted about luxury, I love it but there are downsides too. Personally I keep tight reign on my spending because I'm invested in the stock market and when I think of making a big purchase I'm thinking of the opportunity cost. So I get a kind of a thrill out of what others like Dayle, Meredith and you are doing. Sometimes I get triggered and have to go away because I want to spend!! LOL
Thank you for your honest video; the ‘situation’ is recognizable…buying a bag does something in your brain, a reward system/hormone that makes you wanna feel like that again and again…I totally agree with you to use and enjoy the bags that you already have and refrain from buying at a high pace because of the kick (rewardsystem in your brain) make’ s you do it…🙏❤️
I appreciate your ability to reflect on your behavior and your very mature reaction to the comments you’ve had. I see you as a financially responsible woman. Having a vlog sale is apparently very unsettling for some people, but I think it makes perfect sense to make space for other things. If you can sell a bag on without a loss, good for you! Please don’t change for our sake, people are always going to critique, no matter what you do.
By coming forward and showing us this comment and talking about your impulsive shopping and recent purchase, you are doing such a huge service to your community and all that watch you. As you see in comments below others are realizing through you that they too need to reflect and perhaps slow down (hit the brakes as you say) before that next purchase. It's just so easy and mindless to whip out a card or swipe you phone in front of the point of sale, "bing" and you purchase this new object. But then you get it home and reality sets in, especially when you see so many "similar" ones already hanging or sitting in your closet. Brava for talking about this subject and I hope that it sure helps others to taper off as well. xoxo ~Life According to Maria~
This was a really good one. Your videos are both entertaining, informative and you let me se my bagshopping in a new way. I have been there once or twice, buying to fast and regretting it because something unique comes up the next day. I bought my first Diorbag in 1984 or 85 and I stopped buying luxury bags when I retired last year. Nowadays I don’t buy expensive bags at all (over 1000 €😜). I am lucky that I have some fantastic bags that I can use or sometimes sell so I can by new not so expensive bags 😂. A girl always needs a new bag 😇. Don’t be to hard on yourself but take a break and enjoy what you have. And please make more videos 🤗.
I think many of us deal with this issue, me included. I have to force myself to use what’s on my shelf. Just remember, you don’t owe anyone on here anything. Do what you want. I would love to see videos of your current bags. they are beautiful and unique.
Thank you for showing up and holding yourself accountable. I also have the potential to buy without self control (not from a financial point of view, but, like you, I get attracted by pretty things!). I think the designer stores also create the hype of "buy it now, you might not find it again" or "we're having a price increase in X days!". In a way, I feel like the frenzy they create is dangerous for anyone, but especially those of us who have the tendency to buy without thought.
Thank you for your honest Video. Refreshing to say the least. Why walk around with a 2,000.00 to 10,000.00 dollar and up handbag to carry $10.00, just to impress someone that you may have money? I have never figured this out. Status is character of your being not baubles that some fashion designer says makes you the person in "Style" while they are laughing all the way to the bank. When it is all said and done and you are headed for the crematory or graveyard who is going to care or remember you by saying she carried a Chanel Handbag and I remember it so well. People don't remember you all the time by what you wear or have, but they will remember how you made them feel when they were with you. Great Video though.
Sigh, I myself have sold quite a lot actually. I'm with you take stock and be happy with what we have. Do a Marie Kondo if need be (Spark Joy. Tydying Up books). Thanks for sharing ☺️
I have stopped watching any YT luxury channels. I got caught up in it last year. I was suffering from so much anxiety being a caretaker for my mom and not handling it well. I spent a lot of money to fill the hole I was feeling. I am now digging myself out from the money I spent. Watching the luxury channels makes me so uncomfortable now because I know how I can easily spin out of control. Amelia thank you for your honesty. I'm really here for your lovely personality and perspective so I will continue to pop on from time to time ((hugs))
This is such a good video. I am so happy you have unpacked this topic. I believe a number of u tubers have a shopping addiction and this is unhealthy. We need to cherish what we already own rather than focusing on the next purchase. There is one Australian utiber that I have stopped watching as the amount of consumption does not seem normal at all to me and feels like a pretty serious addiction. Sometimes beautiful clothes can give the same joy as a luxury handbag at a fraction of the price. When I added the value of my collection a few years ago I started to also feel uncomfortable. I have never sold or let go of any of my purchases and am now trying to just enjoy what I have. I have many bags that have only been used 3-4 times and this is just not right. I feel Quilty about this.
Respect, to hear a content creator acknowledge and address a possibly uncomfortable but genuine comment is a breath of fresh air.
Thank you x
Yes
Right,
Investing in amzlv is investing in timeless elegance. These bags never go out of style and can be passed down as heirlooms.
*#amzrepx* There is no competition in the world of fashion dups. These sacks are on a whole new level.
I love how you hold yourself accountable in face of criticism. I always try to be the same way.
Thank you x
It's courageous.
I rarely comment but I felt compelled to tell you “Girl, do you.” I love your content and your unboxings! I hate negative comments couched in advice. You are a grown woman who work hard. You are entitled to do what ever you choose to do! Besides, I enjoy looking at your bags as much as you do and those people who purchased your bags were blessed to get such well cared for bags at a discount. ❤
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you so much
exactly!!!!!
Never dismiss genuine concern from people who mean well as negative comments.
That being said: always 'do you' hand in hand with a healthy dose of self-reflection.
I believe my comment for that video read: If you are not wearing certain things, let them go and keep the lesson.
The lesson being whatever lesson she wants to keep. We all have (had) items in our closets with the tag still on. Personally I keep the lesson each time, yet new accidents keep occurring. The encouraging thing being they become less frequent 😅.
Sometimes you are perceived as negative when you are being honest and care about others. Grown ups realize this
Who cares what anyone on the internet thinks! It's your hard earned money and you can spend it as you please...always makes me laugh when people on line think they have the right to make you feel bad about how you spend your own money! Buy all the bags you want Amelia...if it makes your heart sing 💕
Thank you so much!
And if the person making the comments want to see what buying bags for content is, they need to skip over to Chase Amie! 😂
*amzrepx* I love it so much, it sparkles in the sun, has so many positive reviews, can always wear it with any outfit! Thanks!
Don't be too hard on yourself, we've all done it....At some point we all reflect on our actions. I would also like to say that these brands play a part in our behaviour too. They have studied us most carefully 💜
Thank you so much
@@ameliarosescloset Yes this is what I mean by 'be kind to yourself' because punishing only leads to a bigger blowout, like denial of self, of gratification in a diet leads to a binge. The cycle of deprivation, binge, self castigation, and then repeating... this has to be broken, and the way out is compassion and kindness not harshness.
A lot of the time we're trying to fill an inner emptiness, and we each need to look inside to see what that is, and deal with loss, and unresolved emotions so we can become healthier and more self aware , not just to have moments of insight and self awareness, but at all times. It's very difficult to do this without support so whatever your chosen way is try to reach out and be aware that others might trivialise your issues, for the sake of their own comfort.
Getting support: It's a valuable step to take.
There's a lot of love in the room.
I have… never done anything like this. The worst I’ve done is let some broccoli or spinach go bad in the fridge without using it, occasionally. I’ve never even returned a clothing item, let alone sold something without wearing it a ton first.
This video is so raw and a testament to how much of a badass you are to put yourself out to unkind internet strangers for critique and harassment. Thank you so much, this channel is sooo different than everyone on TH-cam and I’m so glad you’re discussing this. We need this.
thank you so much!
Would love to get the same bags ! *amzrepx*
I can relate. Idk what happens to us, it’s like I get possessed. I recently sold several bags and listed 22 more to sell. All of a sudden my shelves looked empty (to me) and I went crazy over a two week span purchased 11 bags. I am so glad you posted this. Time to take a break from buying.
Exactly!!it is, I am 6 weeks in and feel good
I love your transparency and your accountability. Some of us are dealing with our shopping addictions too. I am also on a no buy with luxury. Sometimes, you just have to be honest with yourself when you are doing too much. Keep the great content coming. It's so easy to get caught up in the next pretty thing. But enjoying what we have is even better and less maintenance.
Thank you so much x
Fabulous video. I also engage in frequent reflection, and I think that there is a real courage in considering the comments of others. We don't always need to agree, but I love that you used those messages to think more about your habits. I am right there with you. I'm working on developing a healthier approach to purchasing/consumption. I definitely appreciate this video and your willingness to share your thoughts. xo
Thank you so much x
I’m sorry but you do NOT need to explain yourself to anyone. It’s your money and you spend it anyway you want. People can either watch or NOT if they feel uncomfortable( which is ridiculous) I’m sorry. Love you channel and all the content you put out!
I totally agree 100% with this
True that! 👍🏻
Yes.
I think she knows. She only wants to be responsible content creator and to put out inspiring message to her audience. It takes so much strength to do a content like this. Very empowering.
Thank you x
Trying not to sound patronising, well done. It takes a good level of strength to handle comments that may make you question yourself well. It also takes strength to come back and deal with it the way you have.
❤
I appreciate that!
I look for bags every single day. I think I have a major addiction. Thank you for your honest video. I need to follow what you're doing.
you are not alone x
Mate, if you feel out of control and need a minute to re-centre, I absolutely support you in that. But if this is someone forcing their opinion and making you feel ashamed, I don’t support that.
We live in a world where everyone has an opinion and is happy to provide it without thought of how it will be received. The frenzy comes from all the spinning plates we have. We are essentially a circus act spinning plates and trying desperately not to let any drop.
If you have too many plates and shopping is one you can let go for a while, take it down. But if you’ve got all your plates spinning nicely, then don’t let anyone make you feel like you should take it down.
Your kids are alive and well, your business is doing well, and you get up and dressed every morning. That is amazing. Anything above that is success!
thank you my friend, I do think the comment made me think, but if I am honest, I was obsessing a lot, and I feel a bit too much for the last while, I think a pause is good for me, I want a chance to use and enjoy the ones I have and the ones that I still need to unbox are fab - I am excited to see what you think of the bag this Saturday!
I have a new level of respect for you. Not because you’re capable of introspection, but because you’re willing to share with us and we could all use a little of the same about our own actions. We do what we want, but it’s good to consider the cause of our desire so we can actually quench it. 😁 thank you
thank you x
Only you know if you honestly need to cut back for awhile. That’s very personal and your honesty and vulnerability are heartfelt. Be kind to yourself. Many of us have done this in different ways. We know you do not buy just to reveal bags. We know you are a real bag lover. 💖 in the end it’s entirely your business!
Thank you so much x
This is a vulnerable video, and bravo to you. One person's shopping addiction can be merely "mindless consumption", and another's can lead them into financial straights and difficult situations that have nothing to do with bags/clothing/whatever. Round of applause for your honesty and putting your authentic self out there. 👏👏👏
thank you so much x
I love travel, and I too used to focus on buying something to remember from the trip. Now, I bring home matchbooks and the electronic keys from the hotel rooms. I label each with the dates of the trips so they sync up with the photos in my library. I have a big decorative bowl in my dining room, and the kids and now the grandkids love pulling out a matchbook and asking about the trip. Upside -- no regrets and no customs duties.
oh I love this bowl idea!
Props to you! You’re super self-reflective and have a lot of insight into your own behavior and thought processes. I really respect that
thank you so much!
This video is such a reflection of your grace and honesty. As always love listening to you!
thank you so much!
I love your openness and honesty. I also had to face my shopping addiction. It’s hard and it hurts. But it’s worth it.
thank you so much!
My friend… I’m feeling conflicted…. I’m always so impressed when I see people take a message and really consider it and how it may help provide insights…. But, also, knowing you, you have the capacity to be more adventurous with what you buy and how much and that can be confronting for people. You don’t have to be accountable to us and what you say here, just yourself, so if you’re happy I’m happy. If you’re not, I’ll help support you too!
Thank you my friend, i just need a little break, a little pause, i know i've been a bit frenzied lately and very caught up in it x
That is such an excellent self reflective post. There were good insights that can be applied to other collection, not just luxary bags. Thank you for sharing. 😊
Glad it was helpful!
Amelia, thanks for this video. Thank you for being so honest and for reflecting on comments that, warranted or not, help you with your thought process. Whatever anyone says, if you wish to take a break, do that. If you wish to buy more, do it. Personally, this video comes at a great time, struggling with post partum I have thrown myself into shopping for accessories and I want (and need) to take a step back. So, thank you. This video made me cry, not for the bags but for the awareness and self reflection it sparked.
That's a very emotional time, be kind to yourself x
@@ameliarosescloset thank you ❤️
Sending love to you and wishing you get pass this difficult time quickly. 🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼🌼
@@amuthita9170 many thanks ❤️
Excellent and honest video! It’s okay to slow your roll regarding new handbag purchases!! For me, instead of chasing the next hot handbag which most likely will go out of style. I will continue to shop in my closet or buy preloved.
thank you so much!
Taking breaks is so nice … bc when u give yourself a break and then go back to shop something u love , it makes it that much more fun ❤
I love your channel
@@nakia8710 oh thank u ☺️ u r so sweet ❤️
Oh yes i love this!
Great video once again. Use what you have. What helps me stop the crazy shopping is by helping others. Donating my time. This year was a life changer for me. Only bought one bag this year I’ve never been more free. You got this!
Thank you! I'm actually excited
It is exciting. Seeing all the money I’ve saved it’s almost a new high.
You’ve given me so much to think about. I have a lot of anxiety as it is and the decision fatigue of what bag to wear, or make sure you use this to get your cost per wear, will it get dirty because of my two toddlers, etc etc gives me a headache sometimes and I just end up grabbing my old faithful - the Speedy B 30. I recently sold a lot of what was in my collection (and was collecting dust) and feel so much better.
that sounds like a lot of work and not much fun, glad you feel better for selling some
Wow. Thank you for being so transparent and honest, and self-reflective. As an influencer, for you to openly discuss this inner conflict that I have also been contemplating lately is so refreshing and healing…. There is definitely a mysterious condition occurring lately of “frenzied buying” of bags that is so overpowering. I want to be more mindful about what I purchase, and break free from this affliction. Thank you for this video!
thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing!!! This also is something I needed to hear and was very helpful.
Thank you!
I commend you for your bravery in making this video and addressing the difficult comments.
I’ve mentioned this before but I have cut my shopping almost in half this year and I plan to stick to it next year. I only plan to buy one more bag this year and it is a birthday bag.
Thank you so much! I love you have managed to cut down so much
Can’t wait to see the new spectacular beauties. And, I think we all go through this from time to time in this community XOXO
Absolutely!!
THANK YOU Amelia!! LOVE your honesty! Great video!
You are so welcome!
Amelia, I will miss you unboxing, not everything we buy is meant to keep forever. It's your hard earn money buy what you like, I love seeing the bags some of them inspire me to want a few. I hope you get back to bing yourself soon.
Thank you so much! Next video is an unboxing!! X
Im so happy to have watched this. I had actually stopped watching yours and other channels. Yes i love my Chanel etc however when i had all the colours and styles /sizes i wanted i stopped. It was making me feel a tad sick watching several luxe channels and the total overabundance didnt make me jelly it made me so happy that i wasn’t like that. Yea ive bought a few i dont wear and yea ive sold a couple but i have a lovely collection ( as do you and all the others) without aimlessly looking for the next. One channel in particular actually made me want to sell all of mine and be done with it due to the amount of boxes WEEKLY. I was like OMG i love my bags but i dont want to be thought of this way. Possibly that was a blessing as i stopped and sat and looked at my display and thought it is actually complete. I maybe have one too many blacks of the same size which i will address. I love to shop. I love to buy. We are blessed to be able too however i totally agree that we should still LOVE AND ADORE every purchase. Huge hugs and i hope this hasnt come over the wrong way as i love watching your channel but i was just “ over it” haha. Xx
no I get it completely, I actually feel very settled in my decision at the minute and don't feel the need to buy anymore. There are still 3 bags to come and some bits of pieces, but the last purchase was mid June, so I am 6 weeks in now x
@@ameliarosescloset looking forward too seeing the ones you love that are new woohooo xx
Well I certainly relate. I recently bought a Valentino Roman stud bag only because it was cute and on sale. It came but I had zero excitement for it. I threw it on my shelf feeling unsettled. I ended up returning it a week later. I promised myself to never do that again. When I see a luxury item I want to fall in love with it and anticipate getting it. I also need to let time pass between purchases to really enjoy them before I allow myself to move to the next thing. 💗
In this together!
I just wanted to say that I'm proud of you. I also have a shopping addiction and doing a no-buy summer, which is going fine so far. I feel like there is a freedom in stepping outside from the endless cycle of buying and selling items. I believe you might find this process liberating. Still, do what's best for you, and try not to care much about the comments. My bests.
Thank you, i think it will be liberating! X
Thank you for speaking out about this. It’s all about finding the right balance and sometimes we need to make changes to find our equilibrium.
thank you so much!
Wow. I get it. I really do. Thank you so much for taking the time and for being honest. I really appreciate you sharing.
You are so welcome!
Thank you for this video, it’s what I needed to hear right now regarding my own shopping habits
You are so welcome!
I agree that you should pause if that is what will make you feel better and I think it’ll be a good experience to practice self control that you can also apply to other areas of your life. However, I can’t help but feel your frustration with yourself and I just want to send you some love and strength❤️❤️ please don’t feel like you’re a failure or feel less than because of this, you’re an Amazing person and I enjoy your channel very much
thank you so much, my last purchase was actually mid June, 6 weeks in and I feel good about it x
I'm so proud of you for acknowledging the helpful criticism, evaluating your life choices, and correcting it on camera ❤
Thank you!
I totally appreciate your honesty with self and the willingness to self reflect. I hope these next few months bring you clarity, peace and fulfillment that a PURSE can never give us.
thank you so much!
@@ameliarosescloset your welcome. And watching your video has made me look at myself as I have been acquiring more bags as of late. And rather than enjoy what I have I’m thinking of the next one to get. So thank you for sharing your video.
Kudo to you Amelia. It’s rare to see such a content like this. So nice to see my favorite TH-camr is so open-minded and willing to reflect . Wishing you all the happiness. ❤
Thank you so much!!
I appreciate your honesty and you taking accountability. This couldn’t have been an easy video to film 💛
thank you x
I 👏 your honesty making this video babe thank you so much, this is gonna be so helpful for most of us behind the screen
Thank you!
I loved that green fendi its gorgeous, but i have been in that buying frenzy, i love love love shop your closet videos! I love seeing how you use your bags and why you love a bag or if its just okay, the the reviews in the world does not always let you know how it works for you. I like bag swaps and trades because we all have a bag that does not work for us. I do not think it always has to be a buy sell.
Thank you so much!!
I have been focusing on other topics for the past couple of months so I missed your recent videos, otherwise, I would have unsubscribed. This is the EXACT reason why I stopped watching TH-camrs that buy multiple Hermes handbags and other mid and high dollar luxury items in a short period of time like within 1 week or 1 month. Luxury is to be enjoyed and preserved for years and years not treated like fast fashion. Happy for this journey for you. Please enjoy your existing items for a year or two before getting another item. I will stay subscribed. I’m excited to hear about longterm wear and styling for your luxury items.
i have to say, i have really been enjoying using my bags and focusing on them, it has brought back a lot of the joy as when i first bought them, today for eg, i took the neverfull to a meeting, the graffiti chanel mini shopping and the pink petite malle to lunch, i am really loving it
Amen, you are saved. I could tell from earlier videos that you had unconscious worries and guilt about your shopping practices. It is great that this comment has brought this to the fore and that you have reflected on your habits and taken the action needed. Very brave and it shows strength of mind and good judgement.
thank you so much!
I have just recently found your channel & I have to say that you Amelia, are my new favorite. I don't believe you know how many of us you are helping with this video. "Frenzy", as you have mentioned, is the perfect description for the state of mind many of us have found ourselves in. I look forward to watching all of your videos in the future, including your next unboxing.
I am sure many of us would also enjoy you showing and talking about your collection with mod shots, etc. from time to time.
thank you so much!
A reminder, regardless what we think, you doing what's authentic to you is all that matters. Some of the other ladies I follow/ followed are shopping more than ever. Call it collecting, but that hyper focus and space we allow to take up our minds, still has obsessive/ addictive energy to it.
You being real made me subscribe. It's helping me with my own relationship with shopping. Thank you for your vulnerability.
thank you so much x
Total respect love for being so honest x
thank you so much!
Greetings from 🇨🇦. I discovered your channel some time ago. There is no way on God’s green earth can I afford or want to collect designer bags. I do not understand the addiction however, I follow your channel because I enjoy your videos and I enjoy your personality and naturally that lovely accent! As the main comment you referenced in this video stated, it gave you pause and we and we all have our addictions.I’m guilty as charged but thank you for the wake up call we all need from time to time. Good luck with your resolve for the rest of the year. I too will do some soul searching to my own failings. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing.
Thank you!
All I know is the green Fendi baguette you sold is living her best life in Australia! I follow the lovely lady who bought it from you and I love the photos she takes of the baguette 💚💚
awh thank you so much!
Thank you for explaining this. I didn’t ever think that you bought for content but I’m glad that you don’t. You recognize a problem and I’m glad that you are addressing it. I love dishes and realized that my collection had gotten too big. A lot was purchased during the pandemic. I decided rather than feel guilty for lack of self control, I’ll chalk it up to covid coping and pass them on to my charity shop.
I love mugs, i have far too many!
I can certainly relate to everything you said. Great video as always. I carry my NF to work everyday, that leaves the weekends to carry all my other designer bags. Some bags don’t get used much because I feel like they are seasonal so I only carry them in the summer months or winter months. But I’m still shopping. That makes no since what so ever so I have decided to shop my closet. I haven’t bought any bags in awhile even though I love the new Dior bags. After you unbox your new bags maybe you should do some styling videos with all your bags. I would love to watch them.
Thank you, i've had a few request for these
You are such a refreshingly honest presence, especially in this luxury space here on the TH-cams! I think anyone who buys luxury has experienced buyers remorse and made an expensive mistake, for whatever the reason. Good on you for selling the bag and moving on from your mistake. A hard decision but a wise one when you’ve gone through a period of overspending. I would love to hear more about how you navigate not buying after a buying spree. Shopping for me is very addictive and I’m going through a similar period of trying to take a pause and enjoy what I have. I’m finding it extremely difficult at times. Often I substitute online browsing for handbags with other habits that spur consumption, like browsing Pinterest and then wanting new clothes. Or I buy new hand towels or something random and unnecessary. Please pass on anything you do learn that helps you to stop the shopping bug. I am similar to you and I am sometimes overcome by my cravings for things. I would love videos about how you navigate those impulses. And also how you style your bags! It’s rare to see an influencer embrace color the way you do - so much content is very minimalist and austere. While you’re on your no buy it would be so fun to see how you pull together outfits and get use out of what you do own. Thank you for sharing your passion and wisdom and for your authenticity. And good luck with the no spend! It can be tough but also so enlightening when we pause.
6 weeks in and feel good, and thank you so much!
Amazing! I am trying to make it EIGHT DAYS and it’s a struggle. Thank you for the inspiration!
Hi Amelia! Really enjoyed this video and your honestly! But I have to give you some grace. At the end of the day you know what you can afford and have free will to spend your money how you wish. If a video makes a person feel "uncomfortable" then they can click off. Nobody is forcing someone to watch something that makes them feel uncomfortable. At the end of the day I support whatever choice you make but I don't feel like it someone's place to tell you what to do and what to purchase.
Thank you so much x
There is nothing anyone can tell you about yourself that you already don't know. Kudos to you for reflecting on your choices. ❤
thank you so much!
Love your bravery in addressing the over buying issues.
And all respect to the person making the comment but no one have the right to shaming you on your spending habits. It's your money. You worked hard for it and you should be able to enjoy the excitement of the purchase. If you change your mind later that is completely fine. You deserve to feel the excitement even if it's just for a short moment. You deserve your joy without the shame.
You share your journey with us on you tube. You don't have to justify that to anyone.
This is a wonderful community that you have encourage comments and conversations around different topics.
But please don't need to justify yourself to us. You owe us nothing. It's your money. Your joy, your pleasure. Even if it's short lived. You still deserve to enjoy the frenzy ❤❤❤
thank you so much x
I am so very conflicted.. you touched on some very specific feelings. I completely respect you for not only sharing this, but to have the insight to share. I too have been caught up in the ‘frenzy’ and found myself with bags I do not use. The fact that you sell them shows us that you have some introspective. I have stopped shopping for the same reason.. however the FENDI. was just a bit of an impulse buy . We have ALL done that. You will enjoy switching up your bags(I k ow I have) .. many blessings and liking forward to just ‘chatting’ 😊
Thank you so much x
First of all, I’d like to commend and appreciate you for being able to process that comment without getting defensive. It’s incredibly hard to have multiple people point out a behaviour that most of the time, we are aware of subconsciously. I am someone who thinks we should be free to spend our money now we wish, but also, acknowledge when our spending becomes addictive. I have the same issue with impulse shopping and spending. It’s not recognised like a food, alcohol or drug addiction, but I think a lot of fashion and beauty influencers have a compulsive shopping addiction to fill either an emotional void or to fuel their social media success. Going cold Turkey will be difficult, but limiting your consumption is the first step! Giving you all the love and support ❤
thank you so much, I am 6 weeks in and so far, feel good!
@@ameliarosescloset well done! Keep it up 💕
Thank you for this video. I relate to everything you said. I have a lot less bags than you do but at my own scale I have experienced the same issues. I have bought too many bags this year and then I sold almost all of them because I felt overwhelmed and I realized they were not great purchases
for me. I don’t want to consume luxury bags like fast fashion; I want them to last in my closet. So I am going on a major low buy and I am implementing the rule I had when I started buying luxury: one bag per year.
Thanks for sharing!!
This must have been a difficult yet cathartic video to make. Congratulations on the courage to share with such insight and candor. Your insight and candor is what originally drew me to subscribe to your channel.
I look forward to seeing your new purchases. More importantly, I wish you success in overcoming your struggle ❤ I believe, now that you've come to this realization, you will find a healthy balance.
thank you so much!
I put off watching this vid, because I thought the title was just click bait. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable with us! 🥰
thank you x
Love your transparency Amelia. Always love the authenticity of your videos, keep being you and loving what you love 💗
Thank you so much!!
I very much respect this post and wish you success. I have found that sometimes shifting my focus to one thing else and then coming back and looking at my collection makes me reappreciate my bags. On London- the exchange rates are total crap- don’t buy in London! That being said, a trip 😢o Bicester village is a great day to enjoy luxury shopping of all sorts with one great deals. I recently visited Europe for two weeks with my mom, kids and each kid brought a friend. We spend a day at Bicester while in london and found some lovely things- all of which were on a pre-thought out shopping list. I was only looking for one bag- a Jimmy choo raffia tote- and did not find it, so I didn’t buy any bags there.
I have never been there, I def need to go
If this is a decision you have to come to of your own accord then this is entirely your prerogative but it's your hard earned money and you should be able to spend it however you feel fit. It really is none of anyone else's business. I can't understand why people watch a channel about luxury handbags and then feel the need to shame you. I personally love watching your videos and admiring your stunning bag collection. You have bought me a lot of joy. So you made a mistake with one bag and sold it on- big deal. Even if you made a loss selling it on, it probably balances out with gains made on other bags in your collection. I really don't see what the problem is... As long as you aren't hurting anyone else do what makes you happy 😃
The comment she read wasn’t shaming. She asked the question most of us answered. She’s a smart lady she knows inside what the deal is. Remember if you feel shame their might be a reason why you feel that way. Otherwise you blow off the comment. We have all had to hear hard truths in life. Not shaming.
Thank you so much!
I love this vlog, because you are addressing what a lot of people fall into ... and a lot of it has to do with "retail therapy." Sometimes it's the impulse to buy something new, buy something that will be used for an upcoming event, etc, and we just haven't found the right things yet. We think we have, but in total, we haven't found the means to the end. I say, if you have the money, and can afford it, mistakes can happen, and impulse buys can happen. Look at the supermarkets, and how they add items near a cash register. If you have limited funds, think purchases over prior to purchasing to avoid feeling ill post purchases. And if it just wasn't right, return it prior to using if you can. I think what you do works for you and your budget? No need to feel bad, and I agree with other users, selling items post the return date isn't necessarily a bad idea. Sell it while you can get the most money return as possible. I say, enjoy your life, and purchase what you can afford. If you can afford the items you purchased, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You've earned the right.
thank you so much!
I adore your collection, especially your unabashed love for colours and seasonal designs, and was partially inspired by you (and other YTers) to buy a rainbow mermaid reissue too (mine is in the woc). It brings me such joy! I thought the Fendi fit in well in your collection but the thing is that with so many brands putting out products every season, there are many things that will go well in our collections. It’s good to have a reset and examine what you really love and must own. It sounds like your vlog sale was a rather stinging experience but maybe it’s a useful reflection for all of us. Agree with others that I would enjoy styling vlogs for each bag in your collection. Might help people who find colourful bags hard to style!
thank you so much! I can do those
I have said it before and once again, kudos to your positive attitude. I love how you take feedback/ critism. Even the ones that are aggressive and unkind. I really enjoy your content and have shared with friends. Very refreshing.
thank you so much! I really appreciate it
I am on the same boat as you. I still have 1 dream bag I haven't bought yet but I think it can wait. I would like to curate my collection first. I am willing to let go of those that I haven't used in a long while. I will shop my own closet. Then maybe I can buy my dream bag on my birthday on Oct or if I can still wait a little longer, on Christmas 😊 Thanks for this video, Amelia 💜
thank you so much!
We've all had impulsive decision, I've bought clothes that have sat in my wardrobe never worn. It doesn't matter if they are luxury or highsteet.
I've had to do the same thing and take a step back on what I'm spending my money on.
Don't be too hard on yourself 😊
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Thank you so much, i've done this too! X
Been there…done that!!! Thanks for sharing your experience and plans!!! 💖
You are so welcome!
Much respect for you to admit your faults and even better that you didn't take comments as a criticism and was open. I'm wishing you strength 💪 and willpower as you take a break from your shopping. ❤
I appreciate that thank you so much!
Thank you, Amelia - I've looked to your channel often for inspiration when it comes to spending and control of finances. I hope that these decisions come from a place of accountability to yourself and your family only (because that's what matters, and not what any of us say on the big wide web!) Best of luck with your resolution, and for what it's worth I'll be rooting for you to keep it! ❤ i hope you'll still keep the content going though, because i love watching your videos and hearing your views
thank you so much!
This was a great video which I think we are all guilty of to some extent and your honest thoughts on shopping and not thinking about purchases is spot on. When one door closes, another one opens - maybe you will vlog about all the bags you do have and show us that you are actually using them and how. And maybe hold a competition for people's experiences with shopping addiction - give away a few of your bags!
lol!
I bought 5 luxury handbags during covid and I have not worn any of them since . I keep carrying my contemporary and cheap bags. This video has inspired me to sell them as they are just collecting dust
No point keeping them not to use them at all x
You’re amazing. Thank you for your honesty
Thank you!
I was so excited to watch you pop off on the commenter and have you put them in your place as you are the one funding your “addiction” but I actually admire you so much more now after seeing how mature u are for reflecting in yourself wow so powerful!
thank you so much!
Great video , has definitely made me think about my spending . Although as the previous poster said it's really nobody's business but we can all learn from constructive criticism cant we . Well done . X x
Thank you x
You are truly a thoughtful and considerate person. When you read the comment, my first thought was you should tell them to mind their business and if they feel uncomfortable, feel free not to watch. lol However, as you got into your perspective on their comment, my second reaction was ok, I get that. I applaud your willingness to consider constructive criticism. It shows wisdom and security within oneself. I too have been in a shopping frenzy with all the various semi-annual sales. I enjoy luxury content and own only a handful of luxury bags, but my personal favorite handbags to collect are Coach bags. I love hunting for the most htf ones. In the last 2 weeks, I bought 8 bags, returned 3, and sold a few I already had to even out my collection. It is exhausting when I think about it. I think we all can use a break from compulsive shopping. This was a great reminder for me.
Thank you, i need to just slow down for a while and enjoy what i have
Amelia love yr video. I have stuck to my “bakers dozen” principle (only started collecting bags in last 2 years), they’re enough for me & my lifestyle. I equate luxe bags to being on a “diet,” just because you are doesn’t mean you can’t look @ the menu. Look after yourself & the family. Best wishes from Adelaide; South Australia🇦🇺💐
thank you so much!
Loved this! I'm excited for you. It's amazing how much of your mind this stuff can take up. A change is always good. Hopefully see you soon xx
thank you lovely x
You are amazing. It takes a whole lot of strength to reach this point, let alone share it so openly.
Love how far you've come and your honesty.
Some suggestions on the way forward:
Try doing some styling vlogs and show us what you are including in your wardrobes to make those bags work.
Focus on getting your skin colours done and work through the clothes in your wardrobe considering your lifestyle, occasion dressing and shoes.
Takes us on that journey and talk about how you are managing your triggers.
such good suggestions, thank you!
@@ameliarosescloset I'm afraid some bad feeling in here has led me to take a break from subscribing to the channel. It has nothing to do with you, but it is unfortunate that there's been an overzealousness of fans claiming to support you and therefore ending to order me out. I'm not "a fan", as such and it's a mistake to assume that we all need to be one.
Explaining myself and appealing to reason has been a waste of time, it is imagined I want to impose values on you when nothing of the kind.
Overall, there is so much going on in the world I just am wasting my time when people order me out of social media for supposedly attacking you. or not being enough of a fan.
I did nothing of the kind, but can't waste my time defending or explaining any further. This is a bit too much like high school! I need to focus on what's important and it's not about trying to compete with who is the most devoted fan.
See you later.
@@deborahcurtis1385 oh I am so sorry this has happened, I have clearly missed all of this in the comments. I definitely don't want a hostile environment or anyone to be made to feel not welcome. I am the one who invites constructive criticism in the comments, and I have only ever found you to be entirely supportive and kind in your comments. I am so sorry you have been made to feel like this x
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THANKS!!! I swore off the comments and even unsubscribed...but just read your post.
I realise you've been busy and just ticked the highlighter not realising I'm being trolled. NP.
People can check my history on Dayle's addiction, as I have supported Dayle when she was being attacked for buying luxury, because those posters could't afford the bags. This is ridiculous I told her to carry on and ignore them!
It has been very High school and even mean girls in here ..and I'm like: I can't believe this...LOL! But typical me, I over explained when it's best to just not feed the trolls. I'm sure they are convinced they're doing the right thing. But it's immature they just don't read carefully nor listen. Never mind!
I'm always conflicted about luxury, I love it but there are downsides too. Personally I keep tight reign on my spending because I'm invested in the stock market and when I think of making a big purchase I'm thinking of the opportunity cost.
So I get a kind of a thrill out of what others like Dayle, Meredith and you are doing. Sometimes I get triggered and have to go away because I want to spend!! LOL
Thank you for your honest video; the ‘situation’ is recognizable…buying a bag does something in your brain, a reward system/hormone that makes you wanna feel like that again and again…I totally agree with you to use and enjoy the bags that you already have and refrain from buying at a high pace because of the kick (rewardsystem in your brain) make’ s you do it…🙏❤️
thank you x
My stomach fell out of my fanny at the title 😂
😳 Fanny means something else in the UK 🤣😉💜
@@katcankan7129 I know that as well and I'm from Paris 🤣
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@@katcankan7129 I’m from London 😜🤭
Lol!!!
I appreciate your ability to reflect on your behavior and your very mature reaction to the comments you’ve had. I see you as a financially responsible woman. Having a vlog sale is apparently very unsettling for some people, but I think it makes perfect sense to make space for other things. If you can sell a bag on without a loss, good for you! Please don’t change for our sake, people are always going to critique, no matter what you do.
Thank you so much x
By coming forward and showing us this comment and talking about your impulsive shopping and recent purchase, you are doing such a huge service to your community and all that watch you. As you see in comments below others are realizing through you that they too need to reflect and perhaps slow down (hit the brakes as you say) before that next purchase. It's just so easy and mindless to whip out a card or swipe you phone in front of the point of sale, "bing" and you purchase this new object. But then you get it home and reality sets in, especially when you see so many "similar" ones already hanging or sitting in your closet. Brava for talking about this subject and I hope that it sure helps others to taper off as well. xoxo ~Life According to Maria~
thank you x
Hi Amelia ! I like how honest you are and this is one of the reasons I follow you .
Same. She’s honest
I appreciate that!
same
I respect your maturity Amelia. I think you set a good example that just not going explosive on genuine good comments. ❤
thank you so much!
Thank you for being so honest.
My pleasure!
No judgement here. I really appreciate your content. Whatever you choose to do, I will still look forward to your videos.
thank you so much!
This was a really good one. Your videos are both entertaining, informative and you let me se my bagshopping in a new way. I have been there once or twice, buying to fast and regretting it because something unique comes up the next day. I bought my first Diorbag in 1984 or 85 and I stopped buying luxury bags when I retired last year. Nowadays I don’t buy expensive bags at all (over 1000 €😜). I am lucky that I have some fantastic bags that I can use or sometimes sell so I can by new not so expensive bags 😂. A girl always needs a new bag 😇. Don’t be to hard on yourself but take a break and enjoy what you have. And please make more videos 🤗.
Thank you so much x
I think many of us deal with this issue, me included. I have to force myself to use what’s on my shelf. Just remember, you don’t owe anyone on here anything. Do what you want. I would love to see videos of your current bags. they are beautiful and unique.
Thank you so much x
Thank you for showing up and holding yourself accountable. I also have the potential to buy without self control (not from a financial point of view, but, like you, I get attracted by pretty things!). I think the designer stores also create the hype of "buy it now, you might not find it again" or "we're having a price increase in X days!". In a way, I feel like the frenzy they create is dangerous for anyone, but especially those of us who have the tendency to buy without thought.
very true
Thank you for your honest Video. Refreshing to say the least. Why walk around with a 2,000.00 to 10,000.00 dollar and up handbag to carry $10.00, just to impress someone that you may have money? I have never figured this out. Status is character of your being not baubles that some fashion designer says makes you the person in "Style" while they are laughing all the way to the bank. When it is all said and done and you are headed for the crematory or graveyard who is going to care or remember you by saying she carried a Chanel Handbag and I remember it so well. People don't remember you all the time by what you wear or have, but they will remember how you made them feel when they were with you. Great Video though.
some very good comments
Sigh, I myself have sold quite a lot actually. I'm with you take stock and be happy with what we have. Do a Marie Kondo if need be (Spark Joy. Tydying Up books). Thanks for sharing ☺️
Deal!
It’s so rare for a content creator to take on comments and genuinely reflect and then to express it so openly in a video. So impressive. Xx
I appreciate that, thank you so much! x
I have stopped watching any YT luxury channels. I got caught up in it last year. I was suffering from so much anxiety being a caretaker for my mom and not handling it well. I spent a lot of money to fill the hole I was feeling. I am now digging myself out from the money I spent. Watching the luxury channels makes me so uncomfortable now because I know how I can easily spin out of control. Amelia thank you for your honesty. I'm really here for your lovely personality and perspective so I will continue to pop on from time to time ((hugs))
I hope you and your mum are doing well x
@@ameliarosescloset Thank you. We're on the other side of it. She's 81 so I am just learning certain things I can't control and to just be there.
This is such a good video. I am so happy you have unpacked this topic. I believe a number of u tubers have a shopping addiction and this is unhealthy. We need to cherish what we already own rather than focusing on the next purchase. There is one Australian utiber that I have stopped watching as the amount of consumption does not seem normal at all to me and feels like a pretty serious addiction. Sometimes beautiful clothes can give the same joy as a luxury handbag at a fraction of the price. When I added the value of my collection a few years ago I started to also feel uncomfortable. I have never sold or let go of any of my purchases and am now trying to just enjoy what I have. I have many bags that have only been used 3-4 times and this is just not right. I feel Quilty about this.
I am focusing on using what I have, it has been fun making sure to rotate the bags more