Dating as a trans girl is scary
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 1 มิ.ย. 2024
- When you're early in your transition and you're super excited about dating but you have no idea what you're stepping into - this video is for you. I hope this will help you avoid some very bad people. Enjoy, G #dating #advice #transgender
You see there's this narrative that men don't want to date trans girls but reality has shown me different. Based on what I've seen and experienced it's not that they wouldn't want to but they're afraid of how they'll be perceived by others and with reason because it seems there's a massive missunderstanding. The ones who feel that way don't really understand us to be women but rather maybe something like a man who looks like a woman? It should be obvious to anyone that this is a rather serious medical condition. Why would we get medical help otherwise? Why would doctors who studied medicine for decades, help us, if we were just crazy? It seems most people never read a single book on biology or a biological study on transsexuality. If you did you'd know there's many chromosomal variations, not just your typical xx and xy, and sometimes things simply go wrong. You've got scientist proving to you in black and white that our brains are different than of a regular male and looks more like that of a regular female, but people keep regurgitating this stupid conclusion that we're men pretending to be women. Why the hell would any man want to put themselves through this? You're not happy to see us in a loving relationship but you're happy to see us in adult movies where MEN have turned this medical condition into a profitable fetish. I wish everyone would start using their minds for once, and maybe your hearts too so you could have some sort of compassion for how strange this is, even for us who are directly experiencing it.
I am honestly very attracted to trans girls, and I don’t care what others think.
This is honestly heart breaking to hear. I’m sure you’ve developed a thick skin, but still, I’m sure this stuff hurts. The narcissism, the control, feeling used, or being strung along. There’s a lot of horrible people out there.
For some reason TH-cam recommended this to me and it's very interesting to hear things from this perspective. I didn't know much about the subject before.
Another reason not to date a guy who has a wife/gf: if he's cheating, he's dishonest, and he can't be trusted.
(Same goes for cheating women, obv.)
As a transfem, thanks for sharing this so openly and clearly.
The first point is such a good one and worth following! ❤
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@@thebookofgloryi think you are very beautiful and I would like to talk to you more i love your videos
@@thebookofgloryyou’re my best friend I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
just found your channel, these videos help a heck of a lot as an mtf woman ❤️
This was great, and as always messages like this to trans women, or anyone for that mater I suppose, also apply to cis women needing to watch out for bad men.
Also, on a totally different note, don't worry about the lighting, its surprisingly pleasant.
That was a really great video. I will check out your other content.
For me, As a single man, my first priority is friendship. Opening a dialogue and finding some common ground. Taking it easy. Years ago, I did a few dates just for sex and I realize that it's not for me. I do love sex but having an intimate wonderful relationship is more of a priority. It's more respectful and I end up with better results.
For almost 8 years now I have been in two different relationships with transgender women. I've grown to have a lot of empathy and feel very comfortable with this gender. Mentally and physically.
I get really sensitive and sometimes I worry that I am going to get put in the "chaser "category when I try to meet somebody. So I learned how to be really careful on what I say and how I act. So far I'm doing pretty good ha ha and I hope more men can learn and understand.
Thanks for the video once again .
Gad you're talking about this topic. It's near and dear to me. Have a great Saturday
I can tell you went through a lot of toxicity in dating, gosh thanks for sharing, I'm so glad I could avoid all of this and found the good one straight away, though I HOPE many T girls will watch this and listen to what you said and put it in practice cause I've known a bit of it when I was like 16/17 not transitionned yet but had a real feminine boy looks and when you're a boy looking like a girl it's the same you attract a LOT of weirdo that will have no problem with F'cking but will NEVER go out with you or assume being attracted to you. Bless you sweetheart, and thanks for sharing. We're so strong having to go through all of that. Bless xoxo
I almost got sad and had to change the video but your singing voice at the end ❤❤
wow thank you, just amazing insight. sending positive vibes ur way
Thanks for your honesty I for one look for love companionship I would love to just have someone that I can enjoy life with
Great advice. I would add, know what you want out of a relationship. Also, protect yourself.
Thank you for this ❤️
I'm transbian sooo 😶
But yeah. I've had some fellow trans women be creeps about sex even. I don't get the mentality. I don't want to
Gloria, how insightful was that, honest and true.
Once again Gloria knows what she’s talking about! This lady is hitting the nail right on the head! I hope trans women heave her red flags! Thank You!❤️
Thanks for this. ❤
Great heartfelt advice🎉🎉🎉🎉!!
Such focus ❤
You made good points. Why general would anyone all things considered use dating apps to begin. Yes there is convenience in it, and among other things. But at the same time it gives people in general the excuse to sleep around in general. Plus prefer to meet someone in public myself because for starters both parties are more comfortable around each other in general and plus it's a good way to establish boundaries. Good advice for people are wanting get to know each other in general.
You are very beautiful, I also love that you know who Anthony Joshua is lol one thing I would say is, don't keep it a secret but don't let everyone know are trans, that's private, if you want him to see you as a woman act like one and truly consider yourself one. I adore trans girls for the extra femininity.
Thanks
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You make my smile
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always options.....don't date?!!!
I don't think that dating in its current form is healthy but what exactly do you propose instead?
I don’t think I can watch this video just yet. I haven’t transitioned yet and I’m a lesbian but obviously this is probably pretty important for me to watch, I just can’t handle any more reasons that my brain will use to tell me to not transition, who knows maybe I’ll be back soon
It's a very positive video though, I think, I'm not scaring people or anything so don't worry.
❤ you are so stunningly beautiful and gorgeous, I hope you have a wonderful day and anyone who has a chance with you should consider themselves lucky and should cherish and respect you and be thankful to be apart of your life. You deserve nothing less than complete happiness ❤
I don't really know what to say about you. I am kinda like you, im mtf in my mind but had not talk about it with anyone yet. And im 41 year old 190 cm tall male outside for now and probably rest of my life. But you look so beautiful atm ❤
Hey there! :) I've just had someone tell me in real life that their brother who is your age started their transition. I think it's a very hard thing to do the older you get but I've seen some people be truly happy. I've also had people older than you tell me that they decided not to follow through but they can never get rid of the feelings anyways. It's a tough thing, it's not easy either way but it's your life, you get to decide what's going to happen.I hope whatever you decide to do is something you can be happy with. Hugs x
I started thinking about transitioning the past few years. My body was good, I was very thin, long hair I grew out. Can't commit.
@@WayneKoster-yl6mn Talk to someone about it, like a therapist! See if that's what you actually want and need. Don't put off important things like that! Hugs x
666'th like! ☺ Thanks. I think I needed to hear this. I'm sorry for your pain.
I think u look very amazing 💜
The issue with many trans woman is that they dont respect themselves, but expect others to respect them. As a transwoman, that's nonsensical to me and personally I would never associate with someone like that. People like that usually tend to drag drama along with them.
@@sophiab.282 I think this can be applied to any gender. I think it has a lot to do with how people have been brought up. Whether they were loved properly or not. Sure you can build that on your own too but it takes time and in the meantime it might look like you’re not respecting yourself. But yeah I agree it would be nice if all of us respected ourselves fully.
My son would love to date u he's autistic he's a pro wrestler threw a wrestling camp and he's also a musician
That made me laugh :) Thanks though! It's cute x
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL LADY
Good advice many of us need to remember. Don't be someones patsy.
1:49 I resent such filth being compared to pigs. Pigs are intelligent animals. They're more like sunfish. Not even worth eating
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So beautiful so gorgeous 🤗❤️
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I don't even bother with it.
Sensible lady ❤
Don't mistake fetishization for genuine affection.
im so lnoely
awww baby, I'm so sorry! You aren't alone though! Plenty of us here!
Yeah, I think this video is spoken from a position of power. It’s difficult to keep to these guidelines when you’ve got nothing atm.
@@bannedmann4469 You always have something. Do you have hands and legs? You have something. Can you breath with ease? You have something.
I could actually listen to you all day long Gloria ... Anthony Joshua ??? Pffff.... May I ask where you are from Gloria??
Tony, this isn't a dating website lol
@@thebookofglory I totally understand this Gloria ...when someone really impresses you ,I think it's only normal to attempt to engage...I'm sorry if I've annoyed you...I asked where you were from because i cant place the accent
@@swisstony5237 Well, keep watching Tony and you may find out one day :) lol
@@thebookofglory see...I made you laugh..were a match made in heaven! I'm very much looking forward to you next video Gloria and I'm sorry if I crossed the line
East European and if I'd have to make an educated guess... Russian.
The thing is that i don't see nothing wrong with a hookup or one night stand, but i guess you need to tell that to her immediately, that you just want to experience something new, and if she's agree then great, and if not then move on
That would be the ideal scenario but most men aren’t compliant. 🤣
The reality is though that most people don’t just want to be *an experience* for some random dude they just met, so a lot of guys looking for that feign deeper interest and then cut and run after they get what they want.
@@lif6737 I agree with you 100%. Also men are more likely to think this way about one night stands regardless of what kind of woman they want to sleep with - trans, black, latin, white etc. - they just care about sex. They don't seem to understand how much damage they do behaving this way.
At least you can get a date.
lol right, feels a little out of touch almost.
@@bannedmann4469The only thing out of touch here is that you value yourself based on whether someone wants to date you or not. Others shouldn’t determine your value. You are valuable whether you’re in a relationship or not.
@@thebookofglory I didn’t say all that, you’re putting words in my mouth. Please revise and rethink.
@@bannedmann4469 But am I not right? I'm usually very good at sensing where certain comments come from. If you value yourself then you shouldn't have any issues dating at all, right?
@@thebookofglory You shouldn’t value yourself based solely on others, but we need to face the fact that it’s a strong indicator. You can do everything right and still have issues dating. I think you always have to keep this in mind, otherwise you could feel entitled.
Good discussion, looking forward to more videos and replies.