3 Things: Lonely menz have no frenz, Rough secks and bruising, Affair baby and a mess
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- Lonely menz have no frenz. And they don't wanna fix it. 😢
"My husband hit me during secks and bruised my face"
"I had a baby as a result of an affair and the man's wife is contacting me."
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The guy that said " having relationships within the same gender is not as fulfilling as with the opposite sex" is really telling on himself... He's basically saying that not even men like men. Why should women like men then?
Exactly
They can't dominate their friends the same way they try to dominate women
Same thing I was thinking. If yall don't like each other why should we waste our time with you. They can't even be good friends to each other but are suppose to be trusted as husbands and boyfriends 🤦🏾♀️
He’s basically saying that all men want is s*x. And they can’t get that from their homies.
He’s basically saying that all men want is nookie. And they can’t get that from their homies. Smh.
Men experience pain and loneliness in this world because they aren't attracted to each other, and this is how they treat people they aren't attracted to.
They treat women they're attracted to even worse.
This is a good observation!
You just nailed that. I’d they aren’t attracted to you then they aren’t nice or considerate.
This is how they treat everything and everyone... they destroy everything they see as valuable.
That is the bare naked truth!
Are they just trying to equate loneliness with horniness? If the only thing that can cure it is a romantic partner then I’m pretty sure it’s not friendship they’re looking for.
Fax!
Right! They want sex and free labor. THE END🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾
Good point
they want a free hooker and various ebooks tell them it's possible for other men (it isn't)
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They are literally saying men are too awful to be friends with. Yet they think the solution is to get a woman. Like, do you hear the words that are coming out of your mouth?
Right, so logical of them 🙄
Hahaha I'm glad so many women are figuring this out. Women fought hard for the right to an education and career, now we don't have to financially depend on men, what do they bring to the table aside from weaponized incompetence and the increased risk of abuse and murder?
@@AIBot929 Yeah, like the incels "women who have sex before marriage are whores!" and then the whine "why don't women want to sleep with me?" Seriously, the disconnect is ridiculous.
No! They talk but don't have the comprehension skills or understanding to compute their own conversations. These clowns are lost in the House of Mirrors 😹😹😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️🤡🤛🏾
@@AIBot929I hollered 😳😹😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
The laziness of these men is appalling. They won’t even try to improve their own life, just looking for a woman to do the work smh.
Their lives only improve when they have seggxual access to women. This is their main goal and motivation in life lmao
One guy told me I needed to remind him to walk. We weren't even dating. He said he wanted to get a thousand steps in. He wanted me to nag him basically, to chide me later for nagging. I refused, he complained, so I accused him of nagging. Flawless victory.
@@seabreeze4559 👌🏽 perfect response
Men don’t see the use in having connections with each other because there is no one to exploit… simple 🤷🏽♀️
There’s no benefit in exploiting another man.
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@@rainbeauxunicorn5237 They exploit weaker men for labor. That's what the elites (males) do to working class males.
men get revenge, women don't
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That slimy husband was MARKING his wife before a public event knowing that she was confident, felt good about herself and was looking forward to an amazing event.
The slimy husband's behavior was inexcusable and will ESCALATE! This behavior will continue. This man was in his element! All the wedding pictures will look as if you are a loving couple; please get out now!
Which is why it is not worth doing anything rough with males
He is so disgusting i feel sick
This story made me sad... I probably would have had a break down.
@@videofan1010a break down? Divorce his behind immediately. I hope that’s what she does after reading all of the comments. She’s married to an abuser.
bruises are ABH in England likely America too
They say that’s just how men are wired, then at the same time say the world and women don’t care about their feelings. Which one is it? The lack of accountability for how they choose to show up in the world and show up for women and friendships is exactly why they will remain where they are and society will continue to pass them by.
Yeah that's the scary thing about men there very unpredictable and if there wired that way they probably shouldn't be looking for a relationship but they do it anyways because they think there choices are right they tell women to choose better when there the one's that selected you.
@@RebelNutts-gg1xfshe mogged tf outta u😭
On one hand they want to lecture us about how they built the world. They can build houses and jets. They can negotiate international treaties. But connect with other men for support and social intimacy? Absolutely not.
Men also say "Men love unconditionally and not shallow unlike women" Men live in de lu lu land.
They whine that we don't care about their feelings but also say they only need +18 activities from us, no emotional connection or anything else
I love how they like to accuse women of crying and being emotional. If a woman is lonely she will get up and take the necessary to make friends. Instead they sit there and cry “I’m lonely” and blame everyone else. Pathetic.
They want it to be like school where women HAVE to spend time around them.
If it’s not women’s fault then it’s the fault of society 🤦🏾♀️. Always have an excuse but no solutions.
Arguably, it *is* due to society. But instead of proposing solutions for how men can change, they demand that women become their unappreciated support-humans and houseslaves.
What society has taught them is entitlement, and it shows in how they say "they don't have time" for male friendships.
Which is their roundabout way of saying it’s men’s fault without actually saying it.
It's merely another way to try to avoid accountability: It's Society's fault, as if they are entirely separate from.
Who exactly do they always brag built the world?
But I thought that men *created* our society... isn't that why we're supposed to be grateful, because they "built everything?" /s
They hate doing self work. It's to much like being in school having think and read. That rather run thru women like a Carwash🤡🤛🏾👹🤛🏾
Toys! No bruising, no degradation, no diseases, no cheating, no grape...continue the list...
No arguing No losing yourself No mental torture, No draining of money,
No loss of current financial control, assets, nor loss of retirement income d/t lost quarters taking care of others
@@kayshawnsimmons5585 Depends on the size, and/or quality of your toy collection. My collection has definitely drained a bit of my finances. 😂
@@martibee8984 I don't use toys I like to take the Hands On approach 😹😹😹😝🥰
This
🙄The “nobody cares about men’s problems” is not the justification they think it is. In a patriarchal society, where a man is the foundation of all framework and the first to receive consideration, compensation, and the benefit of the doubt in just about all aspects… it’s like saying the world, that’s set up just for me, doesn’t care about me. It’s laziness and BS of Super Sayin proportions.
I see men do these types of conundrums all the time, scenario hypocrisies is basically what they are and I usually like to just lay out for them kinda like an ultimatum either or question and it’s always met with deflection or angry😂
So like for example what you were saying, means they either are lying or they completely Fed themselves in a society they “created”
It really don’t get no goofy than this🤦🏾♀️
Like lol this is why I let men talk because theyll eventually just tell on themselves and talk themselves into a circle
Yeah, it's all one big cop out. When someone shows that they do care and offers a solution to male problems, all they say is, it can't be changed because society or biology or some other bs excuse.
They failed in a society made to accommodate them.
@@ellegmye vulnerable narcissism, no solution is ever good enough for the WOE IS ME damselling routine
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Male loneliness is just an euphemism for men not having the ability to have sex as much as they want and with whoever and however they want.
That would help to explain why they are unwilling to build friendships. They don’t want companionship. They want sex.
Nor free labor from women
Sex doesn’t automatically equal intimacy either and they know this. They’re always going on about how it isn’t emotional for men. But now it is and it can make you feel less lonely? Men ALSO criticize women who feel lonely with male partners, saying that women should seek all that support from other women. But we should be willing to fill their cup. Tuh! 🙄
They’re being emotionally manipulative. They want to guilt trip women into being their unquestioning doormats again.
@@TheePrincessBrat good point! “We are so lonely!” Plays on women’s compassion.
I think its a little more complicated than that. Men not having any friends is another big part of it. You can be single but if you have a great circle of friends you won't be alone.
Idk why people devalue friendship so much. Bonds with friends can be just as close as romantic partners. You don't have to have sex with someone to have emotional intimacy. Idk why people don't understand this concept.
Exactly
Friendships are underrated
That’s because they aren’t capable. Asking a man to genuinely love someone is like asking a fish to climb a tree. The only language they speak is hanky pankynese
they do know, they're in denial
I value friendships over relationships any day.
These guys aren’t even willing to openly discuss solutions. 🤦♀️ they are so used to be catered to that they scoff at having to solve their own issues. Also, most of these guys are on the younger side, yes? They likely have blood relatives that are still living. I am a single woman, and I am introverted, so I do not have lots of friends, but I do have family. It’s on me to build those connections to family, though. These guys have to do the work to make connections.
They don't want to discuss solutions because they don't want solutions. They want to whine and complain.
So they won't befriend one another either 😂😂 Ok.
So childish smh. Grown men acting like legit school children on the playground
Because deep down they know they’re trash too.
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They know they're not likeable
Now the Bears looking good to them too. Bears protect their people😹😹😹😹🐻🐻❄️🐨🐼🥰
Lmfao OMG these dudes don't even want to be close friends with each other..... WHY CAN'T THEY SEE THE CONNECTION?! These guys are maddening. "We are terrible at being vulnerable with others so we can't have friends, but women must put up with our lack of emotional intelligence because we're men!!!!!" What bloody babies!
they view us as second class citizens so if they failed with men, women MUST bail them out and kiss their booboo
So what I'm hearing is "women carry the relationship"...because if men admit they can't even manage being friends with each other what are the alternatives ?
@@stephe1506 if men can't be friends with each other how can they expect women to want relationships with them? Friendships are very important to the human experience, and emotional development.
😂😂 the men in AskMen are always so salty and hate ANY whisper of accountability. Why can’t they answer a direct question?
So basically their solution is, find us more bangmaids. They blame everything on singleness but then also say relationships are a ball and chain. Not having time for a relationship doesn’t matter to them because they’ll be selfish and breadcrumb regardless
Omg YES. You can show them that 2 + 2 is 4 and they'll say, "Is it, though?" 😂
@@Prismatic9008 or something nonsensical like “but if it were a negative 2, it would be 0”. Anything but addressing the topic at hand.
@@Prismatic9008 there was a post asking about why men are so cold. It was a girl who was currently going through heartbreak lol. She was young but I can’t remember the exact age. They were still snarky and awful regardless. They’ll spend energy on being offended and gaslighting, but not finding viable solutions.
the common denominator of their misery is them
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These dudes are so terrible that they don't even like each other but expect us to put up with them. I saw a post from a lonely man in the lonely subreddit. He was sad because he had tried to befriend a man on Reddit & the man responded back and told him he was only interested in friendships with women. Sad existence to have 😂 They don't even know how to be friends. To love and be with a woman, friendship and connection are needed. They don't even possess the fundamentals needed to sustain relationships with women but wonder why they're lonely. I cannot 🙄😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I’m screaming! I know his lil hemotions were all over the places lmaooo
@alexajay6896 Omg yes & he was dead serious. Now I gotta find the post so I can laugh again 😂😂
I saw a discussion in the r/lonely subreddit. Some guys only want to befriend attractive women. They play stupid when you call them out for looking for dates, not friendships.
"I just feel more comfortable with (attractive) women." They think other people are stupid.
LMAOO that’s crazy. “Sorry, no soliciting, unless you’re a woman I can exploit for energy and resources”. They did it to themselves.
That’s so sad, and also I’m laughing. 😂 why are they so mean to everyone?!
Part of the problem is men equate intimacy with sex. They don't see friendship as a type of intimacy.
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They know most of them are not good friends, activity partners at best. "I want outsource my social life to a woman" They will do anything but the work.
They want a Pepper Potts. That's literally it. As I said up top, one guy told me I NEEDED TO REMIND HIM TO WALK.
I've noticed that a lot of men like to have rough grape-like action. what is up with that????
They like to feel powerful, which IRL they are not
They're abusive and think p*rn is educational
I believe that the majority of men hate women. Some of them really can't resist the urge to physically assault women. So they use sex as a cover up for that. They'll say it's a kink. Some women are into it. The problem is that this type of guy won't get consent prior to doing this stuff. His intent is to harm.
They want to hurt women.
They are just awful in general
The “man” who SA’ed and left a bruise on his wife’s face deliberately did this before a major social event because when she tries to expose him publicly, no-one would believe her. These 🆎 users are calculated. People at the wedding all saw her with no bruises at the party and she was all smiles. Women’s socialised compliance in public settings can be to our own detriment. Choose to make a scene, wipe your makeup off at the party, show up with your wrinkled/ripped dress. Don’t cover for him. Choose problems. ALWAYS.
We fear looking crazy but he'll call us that anyway?
Look up cases of men unaliving their mistresses because they got pregnant, or might do something else, that would risk their marriage. Do not mess with married men.
Felt like grape sorry for that wife
It was. She only consented to appease him, then expressed concern to no avail, and then was disconnected for the rest of it because of his violence.
The appeasement part might slide for some people, but I think it still falls under cohersion (sp). He should have left her alone when she first said that she didn't want to mess up her makeup and clothes before the wedding.
She was speaking up to say not to be rough, even if it was just to stay looking fresh, she still told him not to do it like that. Once he continued to stay rough he was forcing it on her because he did not have consent for that.
Of course, once he became violent so he could continue it was flat out grape no question about it.
@@martibee8984 they do it to form a trauma bond on purpose since the victim can't escape so fawn response kicks in it's biological
Wouldn't hookup culture actually exacerbate loneliness? I thought hookup culture was about sex without any intimacy.
And also, how is this a stupid question? I think it's a really good question. A smart question. Why aren't men working to have a greater sense of community among their male friends? If you have a solid group of guys who will hold you accountable, support you, check on you after you've had back surgery, wouldn't that literally make you less lonely?
I commented this under another post. A lot of men have been complaining about hookup culture and xes work. They said that’s what’s making them lonely. Idk if they understand the difference between feeling lonely and feeling xesually frustrated. Cause it doesn’t make sense to say xes is both the reason for your loneliness and the cure??
@@TheePrincessBrat they're used to being entitled to a woman, without giving anything back, so they really think sex==emotional care, but also recognize that *they* need more from women; it's just that before hookup culture (and for a while during it) they were getting all that, while giving nothing back.
@@unturned6066 very true. hookup culture stopped being fun, when women started matching their energy and stopped trying to earn a “title” lol. Guys are a lot less gung-ho when they see you won’t behave like that.
Because the question makes too much sense and requires thinking skills
Depends on how they define loneliness in their heads. Online, the complains are primarily about lack of romantic relationships with women, but then from the way they speak about the desired women, they tell on themselves that they primarily just want sex with as little effort as possible. I don't think either of them would be frustrated or complaining if they got sex with no strings attached like they want to.
I think, porn is making men at large believe people are having way more sex, the casual kind especially, than they actually do. My age group (consisting of younger millenials and older zoomers) in particular is the LEAST outgoing and has the LEAST sex. So, they feel like they get less tail than everyone else and direct their resentment on women. Another thing is that the average het couple in porn is a very conventionally unattractive man and an absolute bombshell of a woman with a lot of obvious work done, so it skews the perception of who they can actually get with. It's hurt entitlement all around.
The man hitting his wife.. this is abuse. Of course he was nice to her afterwards. That’s what abusers do. They harm you, then the cycle is that he’s nice and kind and caring. He hit her.. the only acceptable level of abuse in a relationship is none. She needs to leave. It will only get worse.
She needs to call the fucking police
A few generations of males are going to have to actually do the work to better the future for their sons and grandsons. The original feminists fought, got arrested, protested, and literally died so us women could have the rights we have today. I think a few males today can risk being called gay for sharing their feelings to secure a better tomorrow for their sons. Nothing will ever get better if they just keep passing the buck.
These guys are basically saying they don't want to do the emotional labor of maintaining the most basic of relationships... They just expect a woman to do that for them, smh
They want to be mollycoddled but even our mothers nope out at 18.
They are only open when they want to go to war or harm others....
They choose what they want.
Nah...that is marital rape. She needs to make steps to leave.
Nah, they always choose "the boys" aka "the homies" over their wives, gfs, children and families. Let them be happy together
They want emotional support 🐈. They get on my nerves with intentionally misunderstanding what women are asking for. 🙄🙄
They are emotionally screwed without a wife or girlfriend but marriage only benefits women. The irony!
Of course he was nice after he abused her... they always are.
That's so horrible.
Nothing about that interaction should be normal. These men do not deserve to get away with this disgusting behavior.
A lot of people in middle school-present have outright called me a “B” or implied it, for no other reason than me being quiet… The thing about not being bubbly is so true. Now I’m super outgoing and social. I only experience those negative assumptions when I’m being reserved.
I saw it happen to another girl too. Because she was pretty but refused to date or hang out with any of the popular kids. Once again, men don’t have an issue being rejected or isolated from women as a whole. It bothers them when attractive women do it. The same could be said about society as a whole tbh
it's just rank entitlement, I was called all kinds of crazy for hiding in the library because people wouldn't leave me alone
I bet the wife was looking really nice & the husband was upset . Most likely, b/c other men were " checking her out ." So to clip her " shine " he hit her . He wants her at the wedding with HER head down & not attracting attention. 😢 # age old story
So, instead of asking HOW to make friends, they insult her. It's hard to make friends as an adult. Having an SO is not a substitute for connections with friends.
What is stupid about the question??? I'm so confused??? This is definitely reflective of their overall mindsets.
They will do and say ANYTHING to get that sick demonic Pleasure from humbling a woman and using her as a foot stool 👹🤛🏾
1st part: But, men go around talking about “My bro, my bro, my bro!” all the time? Like their gf/wife/kids take second place. Plus, one person cannot handle their entire emotional load. That is too much expect of a SO.
It's their own fault that they are alone. I come from a small area and there is this bus driver who keeps saying that young girls need to keep their legs together and now he wonders why nobody wants to enter his bus. Ppl will not enter.
Moral of the story is if you talk sh!t you will be disregarded like it.
didn't you ask why he isn't telling men to keep it in their pants?
@@seabreeze4559 Well that's the problem. Men are never held accountable for what they are doing. Women are from getting knocked up from abuse it's always the woman's fault so that men don't have to be seen as the bad guy.
@@seabreeze4559 I did say it takes two to tango. Instead of shaming women why not raise your son's better?
@@AutumnAprodithe yep men need shame for men's own actions
This is exactly why I’m not bothering at all with trying to help. No advice, no suggestions, no inquiry. Now if a man tells me he’s lonely, I stare blank-faced. Not wasting my energy on hopeless, selfish individuals.
I've asked several that've came to my campsite, do they need a chit to see the chaplain?
But then, I'm old & wearing either my WAC or Chem Corps cap. I have no problem channeling my inner E7 when they start on that conversation.
I ask "what did you do?"
And they're like what? No, you're SUPPOSED to give me sympathy.
I pointed out they must have had people PREVIOUSLY so what did they do to drive EVERY SINGLE ONE away?
They huff and storm off or insult me.
I remember in another post that I observed that the last time most men had true friendships dated back to HS because of sports. These interactions were directed by someone other than the men/boys. This seems to be the recurring problem; they want someone else to lay the groundwork and maintain their friendships so as not to be “lonely” but seem to resent when others say, why not try XYZ?
Menz Response: “Men aren’t women. We don’t function like you. You do things so much better so why won’t you do it for us?”
You mean, they want us to LEAD?
#1 The men have spoken and they are basically united in agreement that they need women to keep them from being lonely.
They have no concept of any other way to live.
2nd story: My mouth is wide open! #GETOUT
Exactly
Once the woman gives the creepy father paternity, she wont be able to travel with her child through any airport without his permission anymore.
Since she doesn't need his child support, and doesn't want anything to do with the dude, why bother?
The rough husband in the story wanted to humiliate his wife and "slept" her before the party to show ownership and to diminish her confidence, which resulted from looking great for the evening.
Truth is, they treat each other the same way that they treat us..
Hence all of the violence between each other on their parts..
The 2nd OP knew exactly what he was doing it was a passive aggressive move, he was probably mad about something she did or said and took the opportunity to make her pay.
Domestic violence. That’s the word. There is no other word.
That man is really disgusting
Ladt story: this is why women need to get everything in writing and legally documented. He should have signed off his rights!
1. The first one just made me increasingly annoyed. They will get the life they deserve.
2. Air her husband out. Get out of there. Also, him telling her, "You're okay Babe, I've been rough before." Really missed me off and shows the lack of care he has for her. Of it was unintentional, he would have checked in w/her once je saw she wasn't okay, apologized etc.
3. Just don't relocate to his state. Hopefully, you have proof of the threats etc to defend your decision. Lawyering up was the best move.
He's probably alone and since he lost his family, his kids might not want to deal with him and he's trying to rope y'all in. Stand firm.
I dated a guy a year ago,and I noticed how the men he called friends,never made time,had excuses why they couldn't help,and they never invited him anywhere.. although he was annoying lol, he wanted me to be around all the time, citing he had been alone for years,aI was like I have things to do..like hanging out with my own friends 😂
they try to steal our friends
The first thing my now-husband did when he moved was to try and find a social group to be part of. He gained several friendships, and because of that, we were invited to the same guy's birthday party. That's literally why we met - because my husband made a close male friend. 🙄
That slap was escalation. This is completed right before an event so if she acts 'off' and he does the whole 'she's crazy' song and dance when she leaves he will have random incidents where she was out of sorts. Events where drinks are served can blame her behavior as a drunk or her 'headache' is blamed on the alcohol instead of his bad behavior. It was rape by coercion. She didn't want to and he punished her through physical force. The physical abuse will go down hill if she stays. She needs to speak to a domestic violence counselor and start making an exit strategy
set up
For the last case, she needs to get a psychologist/psychiatrist involved so that there can be an official statement of her reaction to the things said to her. This is what caused her to cut him off to begin with, so it could help her case.
If a man doesn’t want to be involved in your child’s life, MAKE HIM sign over his parental rights if you don’t care about child support.
If I'm feeling lonely, the response I get is to put myself out there, introduce myself, join clubs, and I can't expect people to just like me instantly without knowing me and I need to make the first move.
If a man is lonely, it's society's fault, and by society, we mean women's.
Like a pity shag (coercion) or a pity date (coercion) they want pity therapy for free (coercion). If we refuse, they try to intimidate us, another crime.
@@seabreeze4559 omg this
It amazes me how so many deeply selfish and lazy men, who can’t even be bothered to _pretend_ to be nice people or lift a finger for anyone but themselves say they want to start families. And then if you ask them what they plan to do as husbands and fathers they’ll give a confused look and say, “Go to work and make money.”
That’s it, that’s the full answer. That’s all they intend to do as far as raising their children or supporting their spouse goes. But then when they cheat and leave they’ll do quadruple backflips through rings of fire and move a mountain while they’re at it to avoid financial responsibility, and will happily leave knowing full well that their refusal to pay child support will harm their child and make their lives significantly harder on top of no longer having a father.
And they are COOL with that, that all sounds great to them.
I asked men how many HOURS they intended to spend with their kids, including daughters, and what they would do. They had literally never considered it. "That's your job." I reminded them neglect is ABUSE and ILLEGAL.
That last one... He was taking her away to unalive her. Sorry.
And there’s that logic of men/ you love your wife, don’t want anybody but her/ yet you still have to go out and use other random women for “ s3x”… as opposed to waiting until the one you want so much simply gets off of work?
Where is the logic? How are men continuously allowed to get away with being like this? And women are blamed, shamed and lives taken- even children.
If my husband ever struck me like that.... OMG. I am so sorry for that poor woman. What a horrible man!
Not even men want to deal with other men. And somehow shocked women don't want to either.
Love this discussion.
I use to provide the emotional support in all my friendship but since the death of my mother and the apparent lack of support from so called friends, I’ve pulled back. Better investment in communities with other women and spaces like this. Thank you for your amazing content.
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Trauma bonds are hard to break ⛓️💥
How are the most desirable so lonely? How are males with sooo many options considered lonely?
Knowingly sleeping with a married man raw is nasty work! Ma’am take the L.
And he can take that L as well…because why is he doing it to begin with? Oh because “ he’s a man” and they aren’t required to have any human decency or self control? Only women are..
And they always lie about their marital status to get you first anyway… the truth comes out when some sort of responsibility rears its head.. like a BABY.
These dudes hide STDs and hiv- so long as they can take some medicine and cover it up.
I don’t have a lot of close friends. I didn’t value and cultivate many of my female friendships when I got into relationships. I really regret that.
Quality friendships and relationships take time and reciprocity of effort and respect. Men's friendships are mainly surface level over common interests.
I absolutely don't like rough sex or intimate encounters. That's an automatic turn off and deal breaker. I want to be cared for relatively gently. It's so important to recognize when males don't like you as a person.
Seems like all these excuses why men can't have men as friends, are just another way of saying they want women to fix their problems because they are too lazy to do anything for themselves. Good on young women for seeing this for what it is and stepping back and saying "No Thanks, I'm good." It was something it only took me 26 years in a bad relationship to learn.
The men are choosing the bear over other men 😂 Grizzle Grizzle
The 2nd story is rape. I am really anxious for the update because she needs to leave as soon as possible
The story about the woman getting hit in the face. They had a nice time because he put his mask back on for the public so if she tells someone they won’t believe it because “he’s such a nice guy”
Who wants to bet that the cheater husband is going to go after her for damages... for keeping his son from him.
Imagine…if men are allegedly soo bad at friendship, being emotionally intimate with each other, and can only get their emotional needs met with a woman, does that mean women aren’t getting their needs met from the same men (and just rely on each other?) Is this not an example of men admitting men are the problem?
"I've tried nothing, and I'm all out of ideas!!"🙄
Oh heck no. I would instantly leave him. Then charge him to the fullest extent of the law. 🤬
Some men also only want ‘friends’ or peers in their life that boost their ego actively or passively. They perceive other men as competition and threats to their identity and stature rather than inspiration.
My ex for years would complain about having crummy friends, but never actively pursued a friendship with the type of man that on paper should inspire him. And the few times such a man would try to befriend him, he’d manufacture an excuse to never foster that relationship.
The affair baby: it feels creepy probably because the man might be trying to creep back into her life using the baby as a tool; he might have missed her and told his wife in order to end his marriage to be with her. If his wife found out on her own and divorced him he might be using her to rebound because he doesn’t want to be alone. I hope she stays in her peace because he’s probably trying to solve a problem for himself and her peace will most likely be destroyed. The more I learn about men, the more they seem unworthy of anyone’s effort. He wrecked 2 women’s lives plus his kids (how will the illegitimate child feel if he finds out how hard his father tried to get rid of him), and now he’s probably trying to make things better for himself.
I'm an introvert i an not lonely eventhough i'm single 😌. What hurts me most societal expectations of women to social, talkative, networking and do all emotional bonding and manage the whole workplace just because i'm a woman.
I'm autistic and introverted. Man is that tiring..........
There are lonely women out there too difference is we aren’t blaming men for it. We get on and figure it out. We point out how men are crap but we don’t blame them for being lonely.
There is no "male loneliness epidemic." Where were they when their sisters were isolated in marriages that cut them off from family, friends, and a support network. I didn't hear them crying about the female loneliness epidemic.
If you're that damaged, how are you going to be a good partner? Men like this just take. Women are opting out of relationships with users like this. They truly are DBR
BDSM is a thing and some women like it rough, but all of that should always be communicated and consented to. You were NOT annoying. He shouldn't have wanted to have sex then. There wasn't time. It was abuse followed by love bombing. It's a common pattern
It was grape and assault.
BDSM is not an excuse nor what she described. BDSM talks about the whole scenario beforehand.
The woman who had a child with a married man just didn't want the truth to come out. It's easier to say that your father didn't want you, opposed to having to admit you had a child with a married man.
The man didn't want the baby tho. He planned for her abortion.
@silververnallbells191 ppl are allowed to change their minds or adapt. I have not wanted a child and changed my mind. That is okay.
She's treating the child like a designer handbag she bought for herself which has become a personal possession without stopping to consider his needs and wants. Has she forgotten she is not immortal?
That child will grow up and want too know his father. She has 3 yrs roughly before he starts asking. My 7 yr old asked me how I met his dad lmao it caught me by surprise. I don't think I ever asked my mom that😂
@@TheMiss600if you built a house, provided all labor and materials, while a stranger gave you HALF a blueprint 3 years ago--- will you allow that stranger equal access to YOUR house? People like to think children are incomplete without a father, but it's just financial stability they actually need. Most women are single married mothers.
I bet a million bucks that the last dude wants a relationship with the 2 year old bc his teenagers hate him
The more friendships you have with people, men or women, the more you get to go out and do things with them, which makes it more likely to meet someone you could potentially have a relationship with
No, indeed . Something 's fishy, he's sick . They most likely want bone marrow or blood from the baby . Someone hit her up & tell her to move to Canada with her child . If they are divorced, WHY is the ex-wife taking the lead ? Then , one minute he was sooooo sick , next min he's writing a hand written letter . Naaaww fam # run 🏃♂️ . He was so mean before , men don't soften , they get meaner 😢.
The ex fool is in competition mode. Some women have relationships and marriages with men for years and endure cheating and all kinds of misuse by the man- and the only thing that makes up for it to them, is to ensure he is harming the other woman and her kid at the same rate or worse.
She’s in victim mode and trying to get back at the girl/ and still viewing the husband as some prize or either he owes her a lot .
I remember the baby and married guy story. I told her it was iffy af and the guy behind it. She said he's states away so she isn't too afraid... Maybe she's now.
The marriage story is wild. He only did that because she must have looked really good and she did the equivalent of peeing on a lamp post to keep her away from other men at the wedding. When I hear these stories I do not understand how any of these women 'keep it together'. I would draw attention from China, I would have asked every woman if they can see my bruise and do I need more make up? just to make sure Everyone at that wedding knows I have been beaten.
The second woman needs to leave. She was graped. LEAVE!
I tell people you cant buy my love. You cant just be nice and think ill sweep it. Nope i hold grudges. Bad memories never leave. So why should i pretend i forgot them.
Holy crap I was thinking the question was worded so well that it was bound to get answered. It wasn’t confrontational and was seeking insight. And to have the moderator call it stupid right out the gate is so wild😮🤯🤯. It’s an excellent question that obviously needs to be answered. Why are they all so damn lonely?
They aren't lonely. Lonely is what xx's experienced after being married and isolated from friends and family. Just because xy's claim it doesn't mean it's true.
@@kdphotos4691 I think I agree with you. I think there is something else going on and lonely isn’t it.
I'm a bit of a hermit myself, but I feel so sad seeing these men just not being able to have deep friendships with each other... I'm not sure why they got so mad tho... there's simply more to community than having a romantic partner...
Actually, having quality platonic connections will only make you a better partner!
Even as a pretty antisocial woman, I have several high quality platonic relationships & I feel lucky for that.
I am so pro bear!!! And story #2 is why!
Regarding men's friendships or lack thereof, that thread is proof that men don't know how to be friends with anybody. They consider each other enemies and they view women as being beneath them. I learned this the hard way when my last ex had no other friends besides me. It was exhausting AF to act as his therapist and event planner. The patriarchy really screws up men's ability to express many emotions and denies them the ability to display their full humanity. It also conditions men to be lazy, because they expect women to act as therapists and event planners for them, so they don't get to learn how to do the work to cultivate friendships on their own.
I'll also say that making friends in adulthood is difficult for everybody-men as well as women. These days, not everyone experiences the same life stages at the same time, people move around, etc. I'm also introverted, so I'm more discerning about who I allow in my circle than extroverts are. I met most of my friends through Meetup groups. I met my BFF at a bar I frequented in a neighborhood I used to live in. My friends have met their other friends through volunteering, through acting in community theater, hiking, and so on. Basically, you can't expect to make friends by sitting in your house. You have to be active in order to meet people. But a lot of men don't understand that. They whine that they don't have friends but won't take the steps needed to meet people and make them. Lonely women are less likely to be passive and are more likely to take steps to meet people. Men are conditioned that they are entitled to people and things simply by having a pulse and that they don't have to do any work to get what they want. And that's sad. The lonely men's crisis is a public health issue because lonely women don't beat, grape or unalive people for not wanting to be with them. Lonely men do.
The ex mistress and baby is very sad. The father DOES NOT WANT TO PARENT he wants to stalk HER. It seems like he's trying to do the right thing but he's insisting because she doesn't want him. HE WILL PUNISH HER through the baby.
My dad got leukemia and his homeboys ghosted him after he couldn’t run the streets with them anymore
Someone mentioned empathy. She does have empathy she’s asking how this issue can be resolved. If she didn’t care the question wouldn’t have been asked in the first place. I see why they are lonely.
The last lady is such a pickme and so toxic I just can't 🤦♀️
Wow!
Just wow!
All three are bad however the second story brought tears to my eyes....
Whether she wants to believe it or not Beloved was graped.
Point blank!😢
when I was a kid, my uncles used to go fishing with his boys.. They also used to work on cars or shop for car parts. Where we lived they would go deer hunting. Women can get together to go to the salons, brunch, movies, and a whole host of things together, Men need to find guy things to actually do together.
My brother went and did therapy. I was so proud of him. He is black too. It gave me hope for the younger generation. Some Men can learn. My Father on the other hand is stubborn as a mule. I pray for him but not with much faith.