My dad used to always tell me your friends aren't always your friends. He said in life, you're going to have hundreds, maybe even thousands of acquaintances. But then years from now you'll be lucky to have 5 out of those thousands be true friends. I always thought he was just a hatin ass old nigga but at 21 I already see how right he was.
Damn, I'm 21 and I never had best friends. Just a set of close niggas that that I have known my whole life, and I can always count on, even when my family isn't there for me. I don't differentiate between people I know. I know a lot of people.
Everyone I got to know has never betrayed me. They were simply unavailable at times when I needed them. Shit happens, but they with you till the end. I guess you and your dad have a different perspective on life than me.
Thank you Kia!!! When I was 8 years old, I was sexually abused by my best friend, a little girl!!! No, nobody has "friends". People need people, but most relationships are toxic. If you have a loving family, love them, and treasure them, especially your parents!!! When I was at school, everybody rejected me, and someone said; " How can you survive without friends?". I replied, "Iam a loner, and your friends CAN abuse you and let you down". So true, most relationships are toxic. Please reply to me.
I really think she knew these girls weren't her friends. She was just at a place in her life where she felt she needed friends. This was a life lesson.
I totally agree. I’m in the process of teaching my 9 year old who is and who isn’t. She’s going to a new school and it’s tough. I’m going to show her this video
Exactly right you can know of somebody for many years that doesn't mean that they won't cross you at anytime and just because you have been around them numerous times doesn't mean you know them cause people change and they can be a whole different person around you and others I totally agree wit you on that
richard Williams Jr she is trying to minimize their involvement to make it easier to deal with their betrayal. Even if she is presented with proof she will still try to make an excuse for them. That’s better than admitting that these girls don’t like her, don’t care about her and are not good people.
The fact she knew she had to lock her doors because of what her “friends” were capable of. Let that sink in...this wasn’t their first crazy act. They were probably all bullies
She knew that they were going to be in her family home she let her friends come in her house and party while she was gone that’s why she still friends with them
They were never charged because they showed the cops text messages from her wich proved she left the door open and knew they were gonna come..i lefy early that party was overwhelming and to mature for my eyes...
gotta be careful with that. at that age and stage of development, she might miss your wisdom, flip it and internalize that to mean that she specifically 'ain't got no damn friends' because she isn't worthy. I'm sure that's not what you're implying. You just want to keep her safe. Better to teach her now how to develop her best self so that she will attract trustworthy respectful friends and quickly dismiss anyone who disrespects her. Otherwise, she'll go on believeing she's unworthy of friends and grow to become forever dependent on mom. ANd that will be one hell of a therapy bill down the road.
She’s better than me, I could never forgive someone who did that It’s so dangerous to keep jealous people in your life, because they will try to destroy you.
Roberta H Forgiveness means letting the hurt pain and anger of what was done to you go. It doesn’t mean let them back into your life and act like their good people. Most times you forgive and go about your business and stay away from them.
Tee Frazier exactly. If I said no to my “friends” having the key to my PARENTS HOME... and they go ahead & break in & have a party anyway... it’s a wrap for them! No is no! They violated my trust & home. That’s no friend and now you gotta go!
I wouldn’t forgive the dudes that made it all possible either and I’ll say f#ck the folks that helped however if she’s SMART (This chick here) she’d make sure that her next time having one of those situations she’ll have the right folks around her”
I had fake friends like that. I found out later that so many people at school disliked me because my "friends" were going around making up lies about me and telling them to random people at the school. They even had teachers bullying me. It's a terrible feeling. I've been out of middleschool for years now but thinking about it still hurts bad and still affects me negitavly even as an adult.
What's sad is that many of them never outgrow this behavior. This same situation is happening at my job between 2 female coworkers over some guy. And none of them is his actual girlfriend. These women are in their late 30s.
Same ish at my.job ...only.these heifers here I'm their 40's ...they can be my momma and they act like little ass petty girls smh everyday im disgusted
kuunami : Age is just a # some people just get older but their mindset is the same darn thing. I know people in their 40s with the behavior of teenagers, low self esteem, jealousy, always dying for attention etc etc
I feel her when she said her friends said she is distant. Some of these females think you are they man. Like girl we don’t have to talk everyday all day. They are mind draining and needy and when you think differently they will set you up and hate on you secretly. People are really evil out here
Such a beautiful girl! I can totally relate to this story...not to this extent but females always being insecure even though I’d be such a good friend to them. Once I reached my mid 20s I just started cutting everyone off because I got tired of being a friend to those who weren’t a friend to me. Now I’m in my mid 30s and the only person I call my friend is my husband. The less people you deal with, the better...drama free and no stress!
Dothlyn Delores Good for you hunny! It’s like a weight off of your shoulder! The crazy thing is that those same people you cut off, you may see them later in life and they’ll say how much they miss your friendship. Happened to me several times and I’m like “oh, ok...that’s wassup” and I keep it moving 😂 Congrats on graduating! 🎉 You’re the same age as my daughter ☺️
It's like I have typed this myself. That's exactly where I am at in my life. I am 35 and I had to cut out a lot of women as well. I think a lot of women definition of friendship is different for them it's about taking. I got so tired of going above and beyond for people who wouldn't do the same. My best friend now is my husband and life is beautiful.... no stress or drama.
Same. I got tired of always having to reach out and make plans to meet up. I started treating people how they treated me and they disappeared. And my husband used to ask me about the “friends” I had when we started dating. I told him they weren’t real friends to begin with I guess 🤷🏾♀️.
Fact That's why now if I'm somewhere and some shit come up missing, I sit my blk tail right were I am play in phone , whatever but don't offer finger one to help look for shit. It may look messed up from the outside, IDC! I just know that let me help u look is always suspect. And 9xoutta10 guilty af...
When people show you who they are, believe them. She said thr first red flag was them asking for the keys, but she then said that she knew their character was untrustworthy, so that wasnt the first red flag
@@wise4124 yeah i never said i didnt like the music, I love it I actually think it is very creative, but it is way too loud that makes it very distracting
I love how she kept saying, "I know how these girls are" and how these were her "friends." No sis, you know how YOU are. If these were your "best friends", who were over your house every weekend, and you all were mean girls together. Then this was you too. They just did you first. Not saying you deserved this but you need to choose better "friends".
Inspired Coils I LITERALLY WAS THINKING THIS. You are the company you keep. It’s my experience that girls with the “bitches were always jealous of me” attitude were in drama, catty, and valued the wrong crowd.
It’s ok to forgive and not hate but that doesn’t mean you start hanging out with the person that showed you they have pure hatred for you. You gotta know when to forgive but move on
Bc shes jus like them..this chick was going in and out of phases thru this video. It's like she wanted 2 b the victim but she also wanted 2 b a boss ass bitch. It made it hard 2 empathize with her. Shes trash jus like her friends
She is very gullible even hearing her speak it seems like something is missing why would u not automatically know that they had something to do with this
I thought it was explained exactly why she didn't think her friends trashed her house.. Unless were thinking two different things.. Not everyone is like you and easily spots stuff or puts two and together. In the moment, I'd think the same way. Though, when the girls told her about the get together the group had and a the boyfriend pic I would have picked up on everything immediately.
@@boxofawkwardness u seem u took it personal. She knew who her friends was . She thought they wouldnt do it to her. Its a diffrence. But everyone has there own opinion. Birds of the same feather flocks together.
Damn this made me so emotional. Hats off to you, Jeffrey, for creating a platform in which Ornella can share her story. Tremendous job. And I also noticed some of the b-roll was filmed in Brooklyn College so that’s dope lol
It’s funny cause at 6:29 she says I knew my “friends” were gonna try something. Baby it sounds to me like these were never your friends from the beginning... 🥺
This is why I speak to my teen daughters about what true friends are. Your friends should not mistreat and violate you! These are frenemies not friends my dear..
This couldn't have happened to my sister or cousin.. Those *bullies* would've received their issue..I would've cleared the air for them since they wanted smoke🤷🏾♀️
Lord cover me in Yo blood cause I swear I'm not a bad bitch but I swear my child, I'll burn tha house down and but they asses out w/ gasoline eat they ashes and go right back to the looney farm and sit on my time. This girl upsets me shit forgive and move on don't forgive and forget. She gave them the gun and the bullets.
Always pay attention to how your friends treat other people, because if they do it to others they'll do it to you. It doesn't matter if you're "different" or a good friend, they will always find something in the end to screw you over with. Some people just don't share the same values as you and you can't force them to.
So true. I knew someone who always would talk badly about other people and tell stories about what was wrong with them. It turned out that she was the problem. She started spreading lies about me and we fell out.
I always hear people talk about how the best years of their life were in high school and the things they did. To me, high school was the peak of childhood trauma. I've literally erased from my mind the years between 14-18. I've only ever had 2 best friends in my life, one I met in college and the other I met in my career. I don't take the word "friend" lightly. 95% of the people you associate with don't meet the minimum requirements to be labeled "friend."
CzarJuliusIII agree, I would NEVER want to relive those years. I would have been better off allowed to stay home and read my books than be forced to go to school. It was like prison to me.
I agree with you except my trauma started when I went to a different middle school from 6-7th grade m. But it was a ripple effect which caused lots of problems in high school. I remember getting bullied and the people I thought were friends were laughing at the jokes and what not.
Baby believe me if she set you up once she has told you who she is. I would stay as far away as you can from her. She is jealous of you then and now. Believe someone when they tell you who they are. She is a monstrosity evil don't forget that don't go back around her ever next time she would do something to you much worse
She would have done anything they told her to do. She is a follower & easy to be manipulated. The perfect pawn smh. That's why they played her like a fiddle.
That's the girls who claimed to be besties with Kenneka Jenkins and ended up killing her. Please be careful cus you're being a dummy in this situation with these females.
Camille Ward Imao y'all continue to give those dumbass kids too much credit. Her friends we're shitty and they didn't care about her but they didn't kill her. She was murdered by someone who works at that hotel.
The thing about forgiveness is it’s a personal thing. You don’t need to be cool with the person that you need to forgive. Love them from a distance or don’t love them at all. 🤷🏽♀️
This all started over A BOY... It's feelings of inadequacies that are just turned into rage, over a boy... You are so right people need to learn how to deal with negative emotions
michalovesanime One of my friends when I was in elementary school was definitely the same way she was incredibly jealous of me because I got more attention from boys. She was extremely boy crazy. I on the other hand wasn’t honestly so I didn’t care either way. But yeah she never went so far to do anything that the girl in this video did but she was very phony/ would tell my secrets to others. After that I’d was heart broken ever since. Women will do a lot to get with a guy who doesn’t even like them. It’s sad really 🤷🏽♀️
Simple: "Bitches Was Mad Jealous Of Me" 🤣 It's such an unknown pain when people are insecure of themselves an can't honestly tell you truth so instead it's reciprocated in an unhealthy wave.
She said " we were the mean girls" no, they were the "mean girls" she was used by them as their fool. However, I do believe they were "mad jealous" of her, just as she stated.
@@nikradik you clearly missed my whole point. She was not a part of their "mean girl" clique. She was beimg mean to fit in with them and they didn't accept her.
@@nikradik Exactly.You have to read between the lines.They do wild shit together,but,she did not think that they would do wild shit to her.Even with the friend's boyfriend situation.There is some shade there with her as well.
I’m so confused so she never went to the cops on the girl that broke into her house. I have to listen again. Sorry everyone because she would had been handcuffed.
My parents didn't want me to bring friends to their home Thnk the Lord Plus i dobt deal with jealous people I hope her father forgive her Mine wouldn't
wow like im speechless. you really outdid yourself with this one tbh. this story was so heartbreaking but relatable for so many people and I have to give ornella her props for being such a great storyteller. i really enjoyed the music as it helped to really set the mood and the clips you included do an amazing job of illustrating the story and pull the viewer in & keep you invested. keep up the great work, i love this series.
That was a normal thing 15 to 20 years ago! I remember when I could leave my door unlocked all night even when everyone was asleep. This day in time you better lock your doors and have dead bolts not to mention guns and ammunition.
@@melbadickey7488 Maybe where you live, but where I grew up we left everything unlocked. We didn't lock our house or car doors even if we all left, and it wasn't nothing for me to leave the front door open all night while we were sleeping. I tell you one thing I would NOT do it now because I don't trust no-one not even next door neighbors.
She is still hurting in side even tho it was a while ago. She needs counseling, also she still in shock mood in side hurting too. These was the fake friends she thought was her besties. I will pray for her.
@Amy Sometimes we don't understand why things happen until later.. that so called friend was removed from your life for a reason..be thankful because she probably would've had you in some messed up situations...
Ornelllaaa! omg wow i never knew she went thru this, we went to the same school, I'm a couple years older but she wass always so freakin sweet and pretty, and really good vibes to be around. Wow ! sorry that happened to you nella
@@leslieannantoine5232 no sis, she's not acting dumb. she's acting out of a place of a deep need for love and affirmation. unfortunately that set her up for this type of abuse. no sense dumping more on her. this is like yelling at a person to run faster even though they have a broken foot. i'm not calling her broken, but there is some pain deep in her subconscious that primed her for this whole series of events.
Sometimes i don't ununderstand relationship if your partner cheated on you don't blame it on the person they cheated with blame it on your partner they cheated!!
This is so sad 💔 I completely can relate to her story. My only advantage is I had siblings. The saddest part is as an adult this jealousy and cattyness doesn't change.
Where Brittney live at. I just wanna talk... n throw a party...in her house. Edit: Lol subscribe for good content 🤪 everything from finding happiness n life hacks
I'm coming too.... But I'm coming to stab couches break dishes and pour cheap liquor all over.... And point some other ppl n that direction that love to Rob n steal.... Fkn bitches
Thank you! She is in on everything that is why she could NOT report them because it could back 🔥. She said she didn't tell the police that they had asked for the keys because "she didn't remember" 😱 convenient amnesia 💩
This is how you get really hurt . Darling ur gullible and won’t except the truth. Please stop being so forgiving . Some people doesn’t deserve your friendship.
My dad used to always tell me your friends aren't always your friends. He said in life, you're going to have hundreds, maybe even thousands of acquaintances. But then years from now you'll be lucky to have 5 out of those thousands be true friends. I always thought he was just a hatin ass old nigga but at 21 I already see how right he was.
It's nice to have a lot of friends, but in my 37 years I've learned it's better to keep your circle small, and always stay observant. 💜
Damn, I'm 21 and I never had best friends. Just a set of close niggas that that I have known my whole life, and I can always count on, even when my family isn't there for me.
I don't differentiate between people I know. I know a lot of people.
Everyone I got to know has never betrayed me. They were simply unavailable at times when I needed them. Shit happens, but they with you till the end.
I guess you and your dad have a different perspective on life than me.
Hatin ass old nigga 🤣🤣 nah pops new da shit
Just wait until you hit 30 lol
My grandmother always told me I didn't have friends. I didn't believe her. At 38, there's not a friend I lost that I want back.
Kia Jones Sis!!!!!!!!!You preaching.Thats some real shit there.Not one.
Kia Jones Same
OMG yes!! Grandma ALWAYS said that, and now I understand 💯
Thank you Kia!!! When I was 8 years old, I was sexually abused by my best friend, a little girl!!! No, nobody has "friends". People need people, but most relationships are toxic. If you have a loving family, love them, and treasure them, especially your parents!!! When I was at school, everybody rejected me, and someone said; " How can you survive without friends?". I replied, "Iam a loner, and your friends CAN abuse you and let you down". So true, most relationships are toxic. Please reply to me.
Claire Daniels What??
I really think she knew these girls weren't her friends. She was just at a place in her life where she felt she needed friends. This was a life lesson.
Donnea Smith-Ross agree
Yes it should be but not a lesson if she’s still friends with them.
A life lesson she didn’t learn. How she still end up being cool with these ppl. Talking about she wasn’t mad. I just don’t understand 🤦🏾♀️
Donnea Smith-Ross she did but wasn’t strong or leader enough. Peer pressure, feeling she needs friends a bit intimidated by them
I totally agree. I’m in the process of teaching my 9 year old who is and who isn’t. She’s going to a new school and it’s tough. I’m going to show her this video
Let sis be!!! Stop criticizing her for her makeup let her do her... listen to the story and learn from it
Finally somebody said it❗❗❗😒🙄
Well said Emily. People just don't get it. This young lady is saying how she was treated and people come on here doing the same thing. SMH
Emily Mckenzie exactly... many of those criticizing were/ are the same mean girls.... what goes around comes around and Karma doesn’t forgive!!!
So sad,tears in my eyes, prayers for my sister... bunch of bullys
Two lessons to learn here; don't choose dick over ya friends aaand highlighter goatees are a NO-NO.
Whew chile, the demons of low self esteem, jealousy, and anger are plentiful in this story.
Linda Moore for real it’s giving me anxiety!
Yeah and its starts with her, still!
What u said Linda
I agree
BLACK PEOPLE SUFFER WITH NUMEROUS ISSUES. FRIEND SHIP IS HARD TO HAVE IN THE BLACK RACE. WILLIE LYNCH IS ALIVE AND STILL RULE THE BLACK COMMUNITY
Even when you know someone, you really don't
Exactly right you can know of somebody for many years that doesn't mean that they won't cross you at anytime and just because you have been around them numerous times doesn't mean you know them cause people change and they can be a whole different person around you and others I totally agree wit you on that
Roam yes goodness!
For real 😢
Roam exactly👏🏾👏🏾
Roam I’m always saying THIS to PEOPLE, you only know what they show you!!
“I don’t think it was them who did that.”
Sweetie, it was them. It was all them.
Yeah I agree. They asked for the key to her house! They're so evil.
Yes! It's crazy how she is defending them.. I feel bad for her.. they betrayed the fuck out of her
Janelle Guild they definitely didn’t ask for it so they can clean it up. Evil monsters
richard Williams Jr she is trying to minimize their involvement to make it easier to deal with their betrayal. Even if she is presented with proof she will still try to make an excuse for them. That’s better than admitting that these girls don’t like her, don’t care about her and are not good people.
Momo W I know I just wanted to shake her. And stop calling them heffa’s your sisters!!!!! The girl that went into the bathroom wasn’t innocent either.
The fact she knew she had to lock her doors because of what her “friends” were capable of. Let that sink in...this wasn’t their first crazy act. They were probably all bullies
Yeah.She really told on herself with that one line..that she repeated 110 times.
She said that they were mean girls...
who needs enemies when you got friends like these! 2 for the price of one!
Forgiveness doesn’t mean friendship. Be careful.
💯
Facts
The key is Forgive & move on. There’s no need to become friends again or hang out. Let go & move on.
Exactly
@@beauty4717 Amen
Ain't no way in hell I could be friends again with someone who broke into my house and trashed it. Then gets me jumped and laugh about it . No way!
Right...I'm pressing charges like yesterday.
Paula Currie thank you!
Amen!
nick p Friends? They my enemies for liiiiiife
No foreal !
Things like this is why I am a loner and don't trust anyone but God!
Exactly. Now that im 31 ,i dont feel about being this way.
I kno that right sweetie me too
@@feliciaweathers294 yes mam
Indeed I only trust 3 ppl in this world and they blood
@@lbeauty528 that's great I wish I had some people to trust but nope not a soul
I’m disappointed she got back cool with someone that was never her friend.
True
I mad she didint get the rematch
@@johanperez1681 I'm mad she didn't try to beat her ass after she got done feeling better
You can forgive, but no need to become friends again or hang out just move on.
You don’t understand it? Yo you must not be street smart! Keep your enemies close
People use that word “friends” loosely but we live and we learn 👊🏾💪🏽
Agreed
Then Takes A Trip To NYC With Them 🤦🏽♀️ I Could Never
@@lynnnicole8299 Exactly. It's as if she didn't learn the first time smh.
Shomari Frett I tell my babies you don’t have no f friends
Yes facts 💯😮
Forgiveness is one thing, but to befriend her again. Now that’s crazy!🤦🏾♀️😳
It's not 'crazy' it's called trauma bond. google it. ..tho i get what you're saying totally
She knew that they were going to be in her family home she let her friends come in her house and party while she was gone that’s why she still friends with them
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page,
So damn stupid, the mindset that she was on is common. A lot of people are like this
when she said "I have five best friends" I was like yep that's the problem
Myzzlyn B Me too😨
Exactly
Real talk. Alla them???!? Mane hell no!
Right, no such thing.
Exactly. Too many best girlfriends.
Why were they never charged with the break in. Who ask for keys to your parents home. WTF.
lmaooo
Major red flag
That what I’m saying... why weren’t they charged she had evidence through that picture 😑
Thank u that's what I'm saying.
They were never charged because they showed the cops text messages from her wich proved she left the door open and knew they were gonna come..i lefy early that party was overwhelming and to mature for my eyes...
Empaths attract narcissists 🤷🏾♀️
Sad truth.
I'm starting to realize that😔😥
Omg so true....I lived around 2 of them...
Yes we do. Cuz we always ready to help and they always ready to take advantage
Exactly 😔💯
One of her mistakes is calling all those people friends and BEST friends.
Right! Those were not friends!
She's somewhat in denial, she's emotionally scarred and shocked, be patient with her she's in disbelief, wow.
FACTS!!!!
Me: I'm goin out of town for break
Friends: Give me the key to your house
Me: Say what ni?🤔🤔😒😕
Michelle Warmick 💀😂😂😂😂😂
💀
Michelle Warmick RIGHT!!!
😂😂😂 RIGHT
Lml
Quit calling them your best friends 😴
Right
That’s her truth. She gotta put it in that perspective for younger ppl whose ‘best friends ‘ have negative motives for them
She’s dumb for STILL being cool with ol girl tho I just wanna be clear
Kayla Overstreet she not dumb she was a child
Yanique McDonald pissing me off
I know sis didn't know what to call those girls but these girls weren't her friends.
I hope you were able to find better friends.
I’m showing this to my 14 year old because I tell her every day she ain’t got no damn friends
Right showing this to both my girls, sad truth is you can’t trust everybody!
Monet Blue and my daughter think everybody is her friend
@@monetblue2321 Please do that!! Tell them also, the gift of discernment is REAL. God gave it to all of us for a reason.
gotta be careful with that. at that age and stage of development, she might miss your wisdom, flip it and internalize that to mean that she specifically 'ain't got no damn friends' because she isn't worthy. I'm sure that's not what you're implying. You just want to keep her safe. Better to teach her now how to develop her best self so that she will attract trustworthy respectful friends and quickly dismiss anyone who disrespects her. Otherwise, she'll go on believeing she's unworthy of friends and grow to become forever dependent on mom. ANd that will be one hell of a therapy bill down the road.
😂
Jealousy is the ugliest thing, people with good hearts can’t see it sometimes... This here was a lesson learned 💯
She's in denial about who her friends are. Sad.
Im sorry no shade but y would she follow her in the bathroom tho
@@feliciaweathers294 young, dumb, and needy..
Right that's was crazy😳😳😳
She didn't believe they wrecked her house that's the craziest thing. She's in complete denial.
Right girl who else will do that
I guarantee they were jealous of her. Smh
S Cole obviously, very obvious
I mean look at her she’s such a pretty brown skin girl some girls can’t handle that
@@floradabella she's so pretty
True jealousy is a bad thing
Exactly...jealousy is extremely dangerous. I have dealt with jealous friends since college. I now only have 3 friends!!!
She’s better than me, I could never forgive someone who did that
It’s so dangerous to keep jealous people in your life, because they will try to destroy you.
So ture
Roberta H Forgiveness means letting the hurt pain and anger of what was done to you go. It doesn’t mean let them back into your life and act like their good people. Most times you forgive and go about your business and stay away from them.
Right! Trust me I know. Been there done that!
Wish she would stop calling them "friends"
Such a sad story and this type of behavior goes on through adulthood.
Very disturbing
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page
She has some deep issues....delusional....
Ain't no way in HELL imma forgive a chick that robbed my house and got me beat up...
Tee Frazier exactly. If I said no to my “friends” having the key to my PARENTS HOME... and they go ahead & break in & have a party anyway... it’s a wrap for them! No is no! They violated my trust & home. That’s no friend and now you gotta go!
I think she forgave for herself to move pass it.... That girl will have her karma ...
Truth
Period
I wouldn’t forgive the dudes that made it all possible either and I’ll say f#ck the folks that helped however if she’s SMART (This chick here) she’d make sure that her next time having one of those situations she’ll have the right folks around her”
I had fake friends like that. I found out later that so many people at school disliked me because my "friends" were going around making up lies about me and telling them to random people at the school. They even had teachers bullying me. It's a terrible feeling. I've been out of middleschool for years now but thinking about it still hurts bad and still affects me negitavly even as an adult.
Thank you for sharing your story may you be blessed with nothing but success and hopefully one day you will be able to move forward from this
Been there
@@fun_ghoul 😂😂 cancer of the anus
@@Sweetjunglequeen
Same, I understand this all to well. This happened to me
What's sad is that many of them never outgrow this behavior. This same situation is happening at my job between 2 female coworkers over some guy. And none of them is his actual girlfriend. These women are in their late 30s.
kuunami That is indeed very sad
Same ish at my.job ...only.these heifers here I'm their 40's ...they can be my momma and they act like little ass petty girls smh everyday im disgusted
YES I SAID IT!! Wtf does that mean. Racist!
kuunami yikes....that’s so cringy
kuunami : Age is just a # some people just get older but their mindset is the same darn thing. I know people in their 40s with the behavior of teenagers, low self esteem, jealousy, always dying for attention etc etc
I feel her when she said her friends said she is distant. Some of these females think you are they man. Like girl we don’t have to talk everyday all day. They are mind draining and needy and when you think differently they will set you up and hate on you secretly. People are really evil out here
TiffanyB TV Exactly. Those high maintenance friends 😑
Such a beautiful girl! I can totally relate to this story...not to this extent but females always being insecure even though I’d be such a good friend to them. Once I reached my mid 20s I just started cutting everyone off because I got tired of being a friend to those who weren’t a friend to me. Now I’m in my mid 30s and the only person I call my friend is my husband. The less people you deal with, the better...drama free and no stress!
Dothlyn Delores Good for you hunny! It’s like a weight off of your shoulder! The crazy thing is that those same people you cut off, you may see them later in life and they’ll say how much they miss your friendship. Happened to me several times and I’m like “oh, ok...that’s wassup” and I keep it moving 😂 Congrats on graduating! 🎉 You’re the same age as my daughter ☺️
I feel you!
It's like I have typed this myself. That's exactly where I am at in my life. I am 35 and I had to cut out a lot of women as well. I think a lot of women definition of friendship is different for them it's about taking. I got so tired of going above and beyond for people who wouldn't do the same. My best friend now is my husband and life is beautiful.... no stress or drama.
Same. I got tired of always having to reach out and make plans to meet up. I started treating people how they treated me and they disappeared. And my husband used to ask me about the “friends” I had when we started dating. I told him they weren’t real friends to begin with I guess 🤷🏾♀️.
FACTS! I FOUGHT CALLING MY HUSBAND MY BESTIE FOR A LONG TIME. BUT NOW I KNOW That he is my one true friend.
“the ones who stole/took yuhr stuff , will help yuh look for it” 🤦🏽♀️
Fact
That's why now if I'm somewhere and some shit come up missing, I sit my blk tail right were I am play in phone , whatever but don't offer finger one to help look for shit. It may look messed up from the outside, IDC!
I just know that let me help u look is always suspect. And 9xoutta10 guilty af...
Aaliyah babby speak it gurl!!!
🗣💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
I had a brother like that
Facts
Forgiveness is one thing but I could NEVER be cool with her.
Right i could never trust her after this
I would have stomped her out
Sounds like another kenneka Jenkins case. She just made it out Alive
kev w oh shut up! You don’t have to be from somewhere to speak on something! This shit happens everywhere and this DOES sound like KJ.
The Real Evvonne i agree! Happens in every city!!
Girl this has nothing to do with that story shut that dumb shit up
nothing like kj's case..
Lataivia Rea'Chelle are we serious rn tho ? Ppl fight everyday .. where she from fuckin Pluto child cheese
Sometimes being a beautiful woman is a literal curse in this world
Dom HONESTLY
PERIOD! 👏
Yes
Dom and I ain’t even that cute 😂and felt this 😂😂
So many of us are just normal girls and weve experienced the ugly jealous friends
When people show you who they are, believe them. She said thr first red flag was them asking for the keys, but she then said that she knew their character was untrustworthy, so that wasnt the first red flag
She should have never told them she was going anywhere.
Orange Blossom Exactly
AnastasiaLUVSU right
Her: i knew my friends, I knew they was gonna try something.
Me: how is that a friend? girl bye
Beca7se I believe she was on the same mess as them before and she knew
True
Exactly!
I dont fool with folks I feel uneasy about.
Absolutely. My thoughts exactly
This should be called "my friend's betrayed me and then I betrayed myself." What was the purpose?
🤣🤣🤣
Lmaooo
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page
@@jessieals4423 really? We why?
That camera man shadddddy letting her keep talking with that dramatic chin glare. Either fix her makeup or fix the LIGHT ANGLE.
fo ko THANK YOU!!!!🗣👏🏽
XOXO
I thought it gave her a dramatic glow ✨✨
fo ko I think it’s too much highlight makeup
fo ko I’m fucking screaming girl 😂😂😂😂😂
Now I can't unsee it.
The extra sounds are not needed. Make it hard to hear her talk
Harley Wheelock honestly ... I can't stand the music 🤦🏾♀️
I like it I just wish he would turn the volume down...
Girl right
Fr I almost had to just leave the bideo
It’s too loud and abrasive
You gotta lower down the background music bro, its too distracting
Yeah over edited
I kinda like the music it goes with the story...but he could lower down just a little
@@wise4124 yeah i never said i didnt like the music, I love it I actually think it is very creative, but it is way too loud that makes it very distracting
reggie DEFINITELY
The laughs was not it
Hopefully she's grown out of being so gullible and gain some discernment.
Facts.
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page
Honestly, she seem like a follower that allows people to run her over. I hope she develops a backbone soon.
To good people become often victims, she seams sweet to me
That's a bit harsh sis. She's a sweetheart and its unfortunate that those kind of ppl get taken advantage of
Blac Indo victim blaming/shaming is so unnecessary
Totally agree. Is it actually possible to be that naive and easily manipulated? I think this girl needs a psychiatric evaluation...
Yeah...real weak! Especially because she keeps calling these bitches her “friends” SMH! 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Background noise was WAAAYYYYY too loud 🙉🙉🙉🙉🙉
Seinna Vardi right I had to mute it to see if I was trippin
OMG YESSSSSSSSS AND UNNECESSARY
I had a pause this video twice just to make sure there wasn’t another video playing in the background!!!
I love how she kept saying, "I know how these girls are" and how these were her "friends." No sis, you know how YOU are. If these were your "best friends", who were over your house every weekend, and you all were mean girls together. Then this was you too. They just did you first. Not saying you deserved this but you need to choose better "friends".
Inspired Coils I LITERALLY WAS THINKING THIS. You are the company you keep. It’s my experience that girls with the “bitches were always jealous of me” attitude were in drama, catty, and valued the wrong crowd.
And she said “WE WERE THE MEAN GIRLS “.... not they 😒
Girl this started her freshman year of high school she’s 20 now I’m sure she learned the lesson tf that’s the beauty of life you live you learn
When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Absolutely!
She doesn't realize that the girl knew she never said anything about her, it was all part of the set up for the fight.
Exactly!
Chase Rider and got mad when she made a point and it was recorded smh .
It’s ok to forgive and not hate but that doesn’t mean you start hanging out with the person that showed you they have pure hatred for you. You gotta know when to forgive but move on
This.
Bc shes jus like them..this chick was going in and out of phases thru this video. It's like she wanted 2 b the victim but she also wanted 2 b a boss ass bitch. It made it hard 2 empathize with her. Shes trash jus like her friends
Zay Jay right! I would never hang around that person again! Why would she take such a chance ? The girls hate and jealousy blinds her !!
@@quetta561 danm the trash part.lol
@@eva.maneva5843 she is trash I don't feel bad 4 her she's the type 2 think that everybody is jealous of her
She is very gullible even hearing her speak it seems like something is missing why would u not automatically know that they had something to do with this
My thoughts exactly!!!
Hit the nail on the head!
Nah she not gullie. She did stuff like this with them. She is the same as her friends. They know her lies. Why do u think shebis sugar coating it.
I thought it was explained exactly why she didn't think her friends trashed her house.. Unless were thinking two different things.. Not everyone is like you and easily spots stuff or puts two and together. In the moment, I'd think the same way.
Though, when the girls told her about the get together the group had and a the boyfriend pic I would have picked up on everything immediately.
@@boxofawkwardness u seem u took it personal. She knew who her friends was . She thought they wouldnt do it to her. Its a diffrence. But everyone has there own opinion. Birds of the same feather flocks together.
I was hoping a lesson was learned. That is not the feeling I got from this. Discernment!
Monette T Right! Looks like this story of frienimies is still been written with this girl. Smh!
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page
Damn this made me so emotional. Hats off to you, Jeffrey, for creating a platform in which Ornella can share her story. Tremendous job. And I also noticed some of the b-roll was filmed in Brooklyn College so that’s dope lol
P
God showed you who was for you and who wasn’t don’t make him have to show you again
Ayy Nia GIRL I NEEDED TO READ THIS!!! THANK YOU!!
I know thats right
AMEN
OKAYY !!!!
Girl, you spoke a word. 🙌
That's why as a grown man now I dont use the word FRIEND loosely or label anyone with Best friend anymore
Someone i know
It’s funny cause at 6:29 she says I knew my “friends” were gonna try something. Baby it sounds to me like these were never your friends from the beginning... 🥺
This is why I speak to my teen daughters about what true friends are. Your friends should not mistreat and violate you! These are frenemies not friends my dear..
Yep
she is so relatable, and beautiful.
This couldn't have happened to my sister or cousin.. Those *bullies* would've received their issue..I would've cleared the air for them since they wanted smoke🤷🏾♀️
🗣🗣🗣🗣 PERIODDDDDDDDDDDDDAHHH
Facts!
Girrrllll I can literally see me and my cousins f”ing up their homes one by one!!
Most corniest annoying shit I’ve ever heard🙄
Lord cover me in Yo blood cause I swear I'm not a bad bitch but I swear my child, I'll burn tha house down and but they asses out w/ gasoline eat they ashes and go right back to the looney farm and sit on my time. This girl upsets me shit forgive and move on don't forgive and forget. She gave them the gun and the bullets.
Always pay attention to how your friends treat other people, because if they do it to others they'll do it to you. It doesn't matter if you're "different" or a good friend, they will always find something in the end to screw you over with. Some people just don't share the same values as you and you can't force them to.
So true. I knew someone who always would talk badly about other people and tell stories about what was wrong with them. It turned out that she was the problem. She started spreading lies about me and we fell out.
silvermoonstone6076 yes and you can know someone for many years and never truly know that they are evil hearted
She’s in denial. She needs help, some reallllllll help.
Nobody
That stupid😂😂😂😂
gosh those laughing noises at 24:29 makes it a little hard to hear what she is saying
Exactly
Abby94 omg yeah
I agree. They need to reduce or remove the background noises because it's super distracting
All over a damn dude. *Girls are crazy.*
PFilmsStuff lmao
PFilmsStuff Society is crazy and sexist. Girls are raised to value males to a stupid degree.
@@AddBowIfGirl Thank you.
Add Bow If Girl umm no. Do not blame this on everyone else/ “tHe pAtRiArChY” the girl was just crazy.
@@antereaw6178 no she's right
I always hear people talk about how the best years of their life were in high school and the things they did. To me, high school was the peak of childhood trauma. I've literally erased from my mind the years between 14-18. I've only ever had 2 best friends in my life, one I met in college and the other I met in my career. I don't take the word "friend" lightly.
95% of the people you associate with don't meet the minimum requirements to be labeled "friend."
CzarJuliusIII agree, I would NEVER want to relive those years. I would have been better off allowed to stay home and read my books than be forced to go to school. It was like prison to me.
FACTSSSSS
@@foxayfox same
I agree with you except my trauma started when I went to a different middle school from 6-7th grade m. But it was a ripple effect which caused lots of problems in high school. I remember getting bullied and the people I thought were friends were laughing at the jokes and what not.
CzarJuliusIII mine started in jr high school
The sad music being played was so unnecessary. This story just wasn’t deep deep like that. Dad should’ve pressed charges though...Periodt!
B G it’s dead not even sad music .... put it on a meditation 432 hz tracklist and you won’t bat an eye.
😂
Lol
The music just starded for me..it us so not helping
Lol i know right...
She’s not your friend. Please stop being naive before you end up in a similar situation again.
Seriously. Or dead. Smh jealousy is a very evil trait. So sad.
Right? When she was like " yea we went to nyc together recently" i was like how?? Make it make sense🤦♀️🤦♀️
Oh she will. Only a matter of time..
Yeah u being naive, blaming the boys, they not friends of yours no respect whatsoever..
@@jonitawoods8188 Exactly! or dead. She needs some intense therapy to sit with someone who can hold space for her to heal.
Quote "...You're enemy can't harm you, but watch your closest friends. "
“Smiling Faces sometimes, they don’t tell the truth”- Eddie Kendricks of the Temptations
That's by Undisputed Truth another Motown group.
Thts why my parents dont entertain friends arounds
This whole story legit gave me anxiety
Baby believe me if she set you up once she has told you who she is. I would stay as far away as you can from her. She is jealous of you then and now. Believe someone when they tell you who they are. She is a monstrosity evil don't forget that don't go back around her ever next time she would do something to you much worse
I feel like she was just like them until she had this experience
Agreed
#sideeye....me too...bazaar
Yelp but she got fucked over in the end 🤷🏾♀️
She would have done anything they told her to do. She is a follower & easy to be manipulated. The perfect pawn smh. That's why they played her like a fiddle.
@@APRMinistries you right
you saw the plaque and you did not report it? best friend?? please, rephrase your statement "I BETRAYED MY DAD!"
Exactly! Half way through and I'm wondering why she hasn't told her Dad?!!
presmom11 exactly
till this day your still making excuses for them, you didn't learn smh
That's the girls who claimed to be besties with Kenneka Jenkins and ended up killing her. Please be careful cus you're being a dummy in this situation with these females.
@@camilleward9163 you can't trust anyone smh
Camille Ward really wow that’s crazy
I'm trying to tell you baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaabbbbbbyyyy......👀.ah! god speed to that
Camille Ward Imao y'all continue to give those dumbass kids too much credit. Her friends we're shitty and they didn't care about her but they didn't kill her. She was murdered by someone who works at that hotel.
The thing about forgiveness is it’s a personal thing. You don’t need to be cool with the person that you need to forgive. Love them from a distance or don’t love them at all. 🤷🏽♀️
This would make a good Netflix movie or series
Lifetime movie
Brianna Maia YESSSSSSS! I'm so annoyed, but interested..
ikr!
Lifetime
The lifestyles of the mentally challenged???
Why she highlight her chin like that??? I'm distracted 2 mins in...
💯💯💯💯
Hell I thought it was a band-aid
@@takneiyaneal7814 😭
Man
Me too
I’m sorry that happened. I hope you’re still healing. A lot of girls need to seek therapy and learn to properly deal w/ those negative emotions.
This all started over A BOY... It's feelings of inadequacies that are just turned into rage, over a boy... You are so right people need to learn how to deal with negative emotions
michalovesanime One of my friends when I was in elementary school was definitely the same way she was incredibly jealous of me because I got more attention from boys. She was extremely boy crazy. I on the other hand wasn’t honestly so I didn’t care either way. But yeah she never went so far to do anything that the girl in this video did but she was very phony/ would tell my secrets to others. After that I’d was heart broken ever since. Women will do a lot to get with a guy who doesn’t even like them. It’s sad really 🤷🏽♀️
preachh
“We went to New York together “ girl bye you can forgive but to be friends and traveling together ain’t the move but then again you’re 20
Don't blame her age on her being that gullible. It's embarrassing and I'm certain her dad was and is livid.
Sounds like the girl was obsessed with her!
Girl she just telling her story Dang!!!! 😒
Right
@@LovenLight34 That is a scary thought, but highly possibly true.
Simple: "Bitches Was Mad Jealous Of Me" 🤣 It's such an unknown pain when people are insecure of themselves an can't honestly tell you truth so instead it's reciprocated in an unhealthy wave.
Right it was something she did
Them females is 🐍🐍🐍 and ur vids are great you going somewhere
This girls beautiful, articulate and smart - bet my bottom lashes it was pure jealousy. Massive horrific lessons.
Lmfao at your bottom lashes😂😂😂
She said " we were the mean girls" no, they were the "mean girls" she was used by them as their fool. However, I do believe they were "mad jealous" of her, just as she stated.
She was mean too
@@nikradik you clearly missed my whole point. She was not a part of their "mean girl" clique. She was beimg mean to fit in with them and they didn't accept her.
@@nikradik Exactly.You have to read between the lines.They do wild shit together,but,she did not think that they would do wild shit to her.Even with the friend's boyfriend situation.There is some shade there with her as well.
This man is an abuser check out @sol.3ssence Instagram page,
Once sis had the pic you had evidence take that mess to the police 😨
Omg I'm so proud of youuuuuu. I remember watching your old videos thinking omg he is a true visionary. So happy your hard work paid off.
She keeps saying “I don’t think it was them.” Girl it was obviously them tf. 🤦🏾♀️
Exactly people always trying to give a suspect an excuse or lie so they don't get in trouble.
But didn’t she say she seen a pic and it was her house 🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
I believe she knew it was them but she didn't wanted it to be them.
You know this is a common tactic in the black community. Especially within the family. It’s toxic and deadly.
This could’ve been wrapped up in 5 mins.
And your comment could also be deleted in like 5 seconds
JJTOP SMILE do what you do! My opinion won’t change.
STFU
Why u mad? 💀 big ugly ass . ... u get bullied don’t you 😂
@@elviseinstein5944 you dead bullying her right now though 😂 fuck outta here
I’m so confused so she never went to the cops on the girl that broke into her house. I have to listen again. Sorry everyone because she would had been handcuffed.
yeah, seems like she didn't go to the cops because she most likely would've been taken out of school and in jail or juvie.
My parents didn't want me to bring friends to their home
Thnk the Lord
Plus i dobt deal with jealous people
I hope her father forgive her
Mine wouldn't
1. The highlight on her chin is distracting AF
2. Who the f asks for a key to someone’s house
3. Iesha dry snitched
Charles Stay ikr I can’t stop looking at it
I agree. That bitch held on to that picture as a trump card. She knew where that pic was taken.
How did Iesha dry snitch ? They were in her house without permission am confused
@@parisgotback "am confused"? 😂😂😂😂
Lol..
wow like im speechless. you really outdid yourself with this one tbh. this story was so heartbreaking but relatable for so many people and I have to give ornella her props for being such a great storyteller. i really enjoyed the music as it helped to really set the mood and the clips you included do an amazing job of illustrating the story and pull the viewer in & keep you invested. keep up the great work, i love this series.
15i
“Y’all usually leave the front door open”?????? WHATTTTT
That was a normal thing 15 to 20 years ago! I remember when I could leave my door unlocked all night even when everyone was asleep. This day in time you better lock your doors and have dead bolts not to mention guns and ammunition.
Amanda Barber funny, but sad reality. You can’t trust anyone even in a safe neighborhood.
@@angeleyes2941 Nope honey you wrong here. This was normal 60+ years ago. But you are so right this day and time.
@@melbadickey7488 Maybe where you live, but where I grew up we left everything unlocked. We didn't lock our house or car doors even if we all left, and it wasn't nothing for me to leave the front door open all night while we were sleeping. I tell you one thing I would NOT do it now because I don't trust no-one not even next door neighbors.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I k right😂😂😂😂😂😂
When you hear people talk about beauty as a curse, this is the crux of it.
Paesan Control Centre exactly
She is still hurting in side even tho it was a while ago. She needs counseling, also she still in shock mood in side hurting too. These was the fake friends she thought was her besties. I will pray for her.
Birds of a feather flock together..I'm sure she was helping them bully other people but she ended up getting the shit end of the stick...
@Amy Sometimes we don't understand why things happen until later.. that so called friend was removed from your life for a reason..be thankful because she probably would've had you in some messed up situations...
Ornelllaaa! omg wow i never knew she went thru this, we went to the same school, I'm a couple years older but she wass always so freakin sweet and pretty, and really good vibes to be around. Wow ! sorry that happened to you nella
They were jealous of her and brittttttt needs her ass whoopeeeddd
She is acting dumb
@@leslieannantoine5232 no sis, she's not acting dumb. she's acting out of a place of a deep need for love and affirmation. unfortunately that set her up for this type of abuse. no sense dumping more on her. this is like yelling at a person to run faster even though they have a broken foot. i'm not calling her broken, but there is some pain deep in her subconscious that primed her for this whole series of events.
She is beautiful. The chin highlight could be less, still pretty.
Ka tonic simply I agree
I thought that was a bandaid
She is very pleasing to look at but I also feel that she is a good person.
SAY IT AGAIN!!! So distracting!!🤷🏾♀️
Shay A damn
Sometimes i don't ununderstand relationship if your partner cheated on you don't blame it on the person they cheated with blame it on your partner they cheated!!
Add Bow If Girl So true
Exactly what I said.
If you’re a friend to that girl that changes the dynamic of it.
I Never Had Friends My Cousins Are My BestFriends Thanks God
@linamoh....
Yes my cousins were too. But you gotta watch family too. They can be jealous as fuck. Smh sad but true!!!
Yes sometimes family can be the worst, learned the hard when my father died, my sister is evil.
I’d trust an outsider quicker than family. Family are the worst if you ask me smh
@@gigilou1219
Yes depending on who they are. For some of my cousins and aunts I definitely would trust outsiders more.
@@gigilou1219
And we grew up together. And.... it be the ones you love the most.
This is so sad 💔 I completely can relate to her story. My only advantage is I had siblings. The saddest part is as an adult this jealousy and cattyness doesn't change.
I've learned my lesson as well, I will never call or consider anybody in this world my friend or bestfriend never again!
Big facts sis
Not all females are like this, I hope you will find good friends, we all need friends x
Me either. Toxic people are dangerous 😒.
Where Brittney live at. I just wanna talk... n throw a party...in her house.
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Sign me up!!!
Let's be Brittney's new
BEST FRIENDS!!
I'm coming too.... But I'm coming to stab couches break dishes and pour cheap liquor all over.... And point some other ppl n that direction that love to Rob n steal.... Fkn bitches
I’m in! Brittney, drop your location girl!!
@@tanishamangope1670 wtf shit don't leave me l will wait in my truck when we get there 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Let's roll bitches😂😂😂😂😂
Lesson 1: Not everyone is best friend material!
Sooooooo they still yo “friends”!!!!! We wasted our time listening to your story.
VICTORIA POYNTER 🤦🏾♀️🤭
VICTORIA POYNTER “past tense”
VICTORIA POYNTER 😂😂 seriously
LMAO
Thank you! She is in on everything that is why she could NOT report them because it could back 🔥. She said she didn't tell the police that they had asked for the keys because "she didn't remember" 😱 convenient amnesia 💩
This is how you get really hurt . Darling ur gullible and won’t except the truth. Please stop being so forgiving . Some people doesn’t deserve your friendship.