The Secret to Stopping Fear and Anxiety (That Actually Works) - Jordan Peterson
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Batman makesmore sense all of a sudden.
Bro 🤣
Damn I just said that.
Late to the party 😂 but you got spirit
We’ve kinda known this for a minute…it’s beyond that but includes that definitely.
batman is still a childish idea of a "hero". already a thousand times in many works his philosophy has been ridiculed for very rational reasons.
Fear is no joke, it is crippling and tormenting.
It really really is. It’s so hard to live when the fear is constant.
@@Misanthrope144 it is! It can really take control in a big way if you let it!
Only at the start. Once you see that fear is only a sensation in the consciousness, it became more and more neutral. You can even find it amusing. What make fear worst is the narrative build around fear, not the fear itself.
@@ThommyB I absolutely agree!! Well said!👏🏻👏🏻
Overcome the fear of death and Realise the Eternal Present moment again, 'like a child'
Sometimes having companion to face those is better than doing it alone--either with friends or companion pets--until you can brave it enough to face it alone
Yeah, it's like u run the part just to show them u can do it just alright
Nah. I’ll do it on my own.
"Fear is temporary, but regrets are forever"
Face your fears. It sucks, but it will make you much stronger.
So, the fear you have may even remain at the same level, but your bravery can become so great that it dwarfs the fear by its sheer magnitude.
Reframe your fear and anxiety as excitement and opportunity. It's a simple but powerful way to overcome them.
Well said!
This is fascinating. I have a lot of fears and anxiety. Spiders, heights, rejection, drowning, being murdered, crashing my car, failure.... Heights would probably be the most predictable one to tackle.
Fear of failure? How do you want to succeed in life while failure is a major component of success?
@@ivomaltine1327 I didn't say I was proud of having an anxiety disorder. I started a new job a few months ago and the first day everything in my brain was screaming at me to leave because I was new and making mistakes. I spent my whole first break calming my brain down from panic. I didn't walk out and I like my job now. I've gotten decent at it and I make less mistakes. Overall, I'm still afraid of failure but hopefully having this experience made my brain understand that it's a little more okay than it was before.
@@april4657 I mean that's great! You made a lot of mistakes and improved those to not make them again. Failure is something to search and embrace, the earlier you have it, the better, so you can grow faster.
I listened to one of his classes about going to the edge of your fear and waiting until you recognize boredom. He said it's important that the feeling is boredom then you advance. I successfully used this technique to have my son super affraid of cicadas to holding a live in his hand withing an hour!
@@april4657 everyone makes mistakes…do mindfulness and meditation daily…be present every moment…
Thank you for sharing this. Jordan P. Is a wise man. This video inspired a new idea. I’m abroad, life isn’t always easy, there are many challenges. Adjusting to a new culture and learning a new language is one of them. I will use art to embrace this new culture and language I’m being exposed to by bringing it together and making it apart of my art, making it apart of who I am. I am not an outsider any longer. I am apart of this new society and I want to be apart of it.
Love is a fruit of The Spirit. "There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear is by suspicion, but he who fears is not grown up in love." 1 John 4:18 Aramaic
AMEN!!!
SO TRUE...
Bullshit
@@Nangoncrazy Ok believe what you like.
Ever heard of trauma based responses?? Please
@@jomartin7566 How is speaking the truth a trauma based response?
I thank God he is as humble as he is. I do honestly think this man is doing God’s work, if not just speaking incredibly important and deep truths. He is necessary to this world, I hope he knows this in his most doubtful moods. I truly hope that.
I feel largely the same way. Revisiting this I can notice him looking into the camera, by extension looking the viewer, specifically me, in the eyes. He lacks a pretension a lot of educators do, he’ll always have an impact because of this.
You can also remove things to confront fear...like removing god, so you can quit fearing reality.
I have agoraphobia and I can't get over that. . I don't even know a logical way to explain it to people but I can't do many things unless I'm close to a building. Many years ago, I couldn't even leave the house. I was narcissistically abused for years but didn't realize it until 20 years later. Not one therapist even went there.
May i ask how come you did not realise you were been abused, and if you realised it later what made you realise it?
I ask this bcz i find myself in a similar situation, i have extreme fear of talking in front of people so i remian quiet most of the time and that is impeding my career.
Been there.
@@mohammedsaifb4771 narcissistic abuse is a subtle kind of abuse and it messes with your mind. I thought I was just stressed out. He was also abusive in other ways like cheating on me. After 10 years of marriage is when my agoraphobia got so bad I couldn't leave the house. The doctor put me on Zoloft and it subsided quite a bit so I at least could drive and go out. I'm fine in a vehicle but I can't go for a bike ride or go on a hike. Next year we are suppose to go to Rome and my daughter said it's a lot of walking and I'm afraid of that. Also, if we go boating, the boat must be big with a cabin or I can't go on it. Now, I understand your fear of public speaking because I could never do that. I'm too self conscious. Maybe if you got on Zoloft and also took a public speaking class that would help you. There might be help for that online also. Maybe have close friends help you with it. But many actors have that believe it or not. Some actors can only act in front of a camera but not on stage for that reason. I could not have got remotely better without medication. It was truly so helpful. Every day I took the medication, the anxiety got less and less.
@@mohammedsaifb4771 one thing l did to get over that was l realized on a scale of 1to 10....who is really smart..like is anybody way smarter than me. Then l found it easy to talk sitting down as opposed to standing so l didn't feel like the center of attention. Gradually l got better at speaking. One time is h.s. l was forced to stand up & speak . That heliped a lot.
@@willytompkins8115 thanks for the tip, i now got opportunity to expose myslef to public speaking in a controlled manner whare i know what to say, but simply can't gather the courage to do so, if i did that will give an advantage in my career..but for some reason my heart rate goes up when i even think about it. I hate this feeling.
I think this is true. Dealing with PTSD and this rings true.
Thank U Jordan Peterson! 🙏💯 I agree 💯 THIS doesn't take away the fear but it allows that fear 2 not overpower me personally.... I don't want to act like I have no fear anymore but I become more grateful and learn from the fear by embracing it and exposing myself via feeding the hypothalamus and it makes me feel stronger! I love the term "symptom substitution!" Thank U for always teaching me something new and explaining something w/o sugar coating it as I appreciate U immensely as U inspire me to continue to keep being authentic even though it comes w/ a price even though I merely ask thought provoking?'s I am called terrible names and blocked on Instagram?? Anyhow, I adore, admire, and appreciate U for SO much Inspiration I derive from U but 1 of my favorite quotes of yours is "we all have an ethical duty to speak up when something isn't right." (Jordan Peterson, a Great mind of our time)
Thank U!!! 😢🙏💯✌️💛
Only way to overcome your fear is to face it.
ive had to do this. My life has never been the same since, but ive become alot more brave and learned self compassion and know my self worth. I now demand respect and ignore all the toxicity. God gave me courage and and showed me that i had to tend to my inner child. Comfort that inner child and convince the child that it might not have been safe in the past, but with that said, you convince that child thry will be safe from here on out
What was life changing for me getting over major fear,thoughts,anxiety was extremely profound and life changing litterally was looking at that fear,thoughts or emotion. Relax and observe it. Bring yourself to actually observe it instead of resisting that thought or negative emotion it will be the most uncomfortable feeling ever at first but sooner or later things get so much better and you might not even realize it
Thank you, this is a thousand times better than lofi. I really enjoyed the experience.
I think i’ve been telling that in my own way to others since I was a kid. I am the youngest and my 5siblings were often asking me to be their shield for something. Talk to mom for this, get something done out in the dark at night, be in the public spotlight, prove that alone and fending for oneself doable etc. I never believed in impossibilities. I felt disrespected by things in my way in life and I feel I have been a warrior since day one in so many ways. Its been so hard always but you get used to it and I am so proud of who I am, things i’ve done!
Eventually you can all evolve to shed your fears. It's a totally different world. I'm not saying I don't get nervous or don't avoid certain situations, but I am not afraid of what ever happens. As for spiders, I like to pick them up in a cup, jiggle it around lightly so they can't climb up, and then let them go outside.
me too next doors garden
I've been out of a relationship long enough. I'm scared that subconsciously scared of being in one now. I'm worried I'm going to be self-sabotaging.
Me too.
the best thing I heard today is that fear is a fantasy... it's your fantasy about what worst hurts could happen and the worst you could feel... even so, it's still just a fantasy.
Anxiety and Fear are cousins but not twins.
Fear sees a threat. Anxiety imagines one.
Thank You And God Bless You
Courage isn't the absence of fear, it's the taking of action despite the fear.
Jordan Peterson is a wise and knowledgeable man.
...or is he jus a dad figure to people who are too lazy or cowardly to form their own opinions? just askin'.
Such a wise man. My grandfather once asked me: what’s the difference between wisdom and knowledge. I didn’t really know he said wisdom is more than knowledge, knowledge is information but wisdom is knowing and the ability to overcome your fears no matter what life throws at us. He said the difference between knowledge and wisdom is .. experience.
I used to wear a spider necklace and it did help to transcend the fear. I am a huge fan of exposure therapy. I grew up an only child who spent most of my childhood believing my house was haunted. On top of that my mother loved scary movies and had me watching them from a young age. Freddy K felt real. My exposure therapy lately... Making my bedroom as creepy as possible. Also, I love horror movies. Better than my former mo of dating psychopaths.
I don't like spiders, but I have never been afraid of them. I wonder if you had a bad experience as a child. Freddy Kreuger was fun, that's when I first got the idea in my dreams to be a copycat amplifier. If Freddy wanted to attack me, he would find I'm Freddy and twice as big as him. I haven't had a nightmare in 40 years. My favorite dreams are flying or falling dreams.
you're still insane
@@r0e404 who ?
@@CatherineMarshall69 op for dating psychopaths
Horror movies, the killing of people and other aweful things. I hate horror movies, not out of fear, but out of despise for what they represent, besides having zero positive effect in anyone's life.
this is so wise for a teenager like me
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There is a wold of difference between consciously facing your own fears, and being forced into a situation. It's not a bad thing to fear being controlled.
I wish i could meet Jordan b 4 i die. Hes a hero of mine and many others im sure. Hes answered alot of questions for me
I have noticed that when I was shopping , the other day, parking the van, I was going into a semi-underground parking where the ceilings were low . I had to get out of that and go out side , I could feel an over whelming aspect to my body. I had lived in a condo with underground parking several years ago and loved it, no problem. This is all recent in my elderly years. Who would have ever guessed I’d be this way . I think it must be a pile up from something. I do remember the week my husband died , I was going on every floor to park the car to visit my husband in hospital, only to find that he was dying as I was trying to find a parking spot
Sorry for your loss, I hope you can heal your traumas. ❤️
Don't avoid. It will get worse. You put your finger on why it's happening in the last lines. Go to the hospital where your husband died and park there. Bring a friend. Have a cry.
@@JordanBPeterson last night , June 21 , on my way home from Oshawa, I stopped by Brampton Civic hospital . @ around 12:00 midnight where my husband died . 👍
@@yourcanadianscotsauntynanc9946did that help?
@@JordanBPeterson I approached the hospital at around midnight driving , I whimpered 💧up , but I didn’t go crazy crying as I did all the time. I think I ran out of tears …. I parked reminisced by myself , no friend . I have no friend that close I can ball my eyes out over . That’s ok, I prefer it alone anyhow. I appreciate your input . Someday someone on comments may be in the same boat . This is a place you know you can come to spill your guts, at least I can , lol . Feel free , you’ve got a “Doc that won’t quit” . 24 hrs. Plus… he does house calls on the web . All these videos , free . That’s generosity at its height . Luv ya, Doc . We all do… yup, it helped , the last chapter is closed with silence .
This background music fits this video of JPs wise and words here so well.
The right kind of fear is a virtue, according to Aristotle. Too much is a coward. Too little is reckless. Just right is BRAVERY
Do the things that cause you fear...
BE BRAVE & DO IT!
Oh! We get braver!!!
thank you Everlasting father
🙏♀️♂️ ThankYou for sharing !! Amen Amen, hallelujah !!
Thank you!!
Wise guy!
Kind of like how Batman is afraid of bats so he makes a suit of it and wears his fears on him becoming the Batman - that which he fears. The best stories always translate realistically to real life’s workings.
Man jordan - can dress man look at this suit 🔥
Right on Jordan!
Definitely one of the saviors towards civilization.
This man is the living definition of the word “bombast”.
I got over agoraphobia by taking a long look at what I believe happens when we die. Then realizing that God is infinitely merciful and forgiving. Then realizing that we all are going to heaven if we are sorry for our sins. Then realizing I was no longer afraid of death. Not the manly "I'm not afraid to die" but the actual trully full feeling of "not afraid to die". Then realizing that it's quite ridiculous to have agoraphobia while trully not being afraid to die.
I do. I rebuke the spirit of fear and align myself with what’s good and right.
He's right I was agoraphobic for 4 years and I overcame that, but now I have another terrible phobia that affects me every single day of my life.
I am glad u overcame your agoraphobia!! That's a HUGE deal and What strength! 🙏💯💛💪💯💛💛💛✌️
I apologize u had 2 trade ur fear or "symptom substitution " (JUST learned that was a term from THIS video) 🙏 I STILL see U as brave but won't diminish ur fear or pain just saying how I see U but what matters is Ur opinion not mine! Thank U 4 being so brave and sharing this! 💯🙏
Man I wish I had him as my therapist would pay my life savings for it
I find this true given my hobby is rock climbing. I became less fearful in all sorts of encounters as I learned to manage fear through practice.
I'm scared of black widow spiders because they are so venomous -- not of most other spiders -- even though i know black widows are very timid and would much rather run away than bite. I'm also scared of people walking behind me on a sidewalk, and scared of saying "the wrong thing" in a social setting, even though i know people walking behind me are harmless, and what i may have to say socially would not offend anyone who is rational. Black widows are easy to kill with a broom, but that doesn't kill my fear of them. I cannot kill the object of my social fears. though.
Facing fear is one of the most counter-intuitive thing ever. To overcome fear is to face it head-on, and not run from it. I've seen people who run from it for their entire lives. Never ended well for them.
And ironically, anger helps. Anger against one's fear. After all, how can you not be angry that the thing is tormenting you while you fear it? How can you not be angry when fear itself, control so much of your life. You should hate it. You're suppose to hate it. And hopefully from anger comes something of courage that help you face it, or at least try to. It may not be successful for the first few times. But each time will definitely get easier, until you no longer fear it.
If many and I have done it, so can you, regardless whoever you are, wherever you may be.
This man frustrates me so much. I think his ability to come up with an answer for almost every issue, aggravates me??? Nice jacket Dr Peterson.
Just face your fear. Got it.
Very logical ❤
Ya you can be afraid and brave of something at the same time so you can be more brave with exposure
Spiders is a great example because learning that animals traits such as weaving
It can show you something you might be good at
Spider medicine
He refers to claustrophobic people as people who are afraid of death. In a very unscientific survey I asked several people I know are claustrophobic if they almost drowned as a child and they all said yes. Me too.
How would this work with fear of being physically assaulted?
It could be to make yourself capable of handling physical threat, either with musculature or arming yourself, or with finding someone else, say a husband, who can do that for you, or moving somewhere that's less likely.
As far as how to expose yourself to something like that to become less afraid, then you can join a fight gym. Do a version of the thing that scares you that is safe enough that it isn't harmful, but still feels scary to you, and practice bravery.
In other words just do it afraid and experience the courage of reward! YES AMEN
That's Batman logic! Love
What about trauma, ADHD, depression, suicidal thoughts? (Not me, friend that has all of that, how can i help?)
I'm using my job working as a garden associate to get over my revulsion of certain bugs, and fear of spiders. It sems to be working.
If your afraid of doing something like traveling alone like me. Do it anyway, it will make you braver the second time.
Your bigger but is stronger
thank lots for sharing your valuable knowledge brother 👍💚💜❤️
Wow !!! Awesome information!!!❤
This is true , was terrified of snakes until I was bitten by a copperhead, cleaning, a flower bed. Now I’m not terrified I will take that snake out where ever I find him and I fine a lot of things I was afraid of. I will never be afraid of again..
quite smart
Amen!❤❤❤
I have faced fears that I didn't know I could but overcame so those things, people, situations have no power over me and I 🙏 that fear doesn't show bc it makes me a target to predatory human beings and I agree 💯 with something U said about the danger of insecure men and I agree 💯 bc there r more and more coming up so the key is learning negotiation tactics but mostly how to recognize red flags to avoid toxic people such as Narcissistic personality disordered people, Psychopaths, or Controlling people who mask as caregiving people which pop up more and more! I like 2 believe that credibly sourced knowledge is 1 if our biggest power & want 2 believe that not projecting any fear of any human beings which I can do public speaking in front of (name the #/audience)
True. i had severe claustraphobia..couldnt even go into an automatic carwash. i rode up a skyline elevator 5times. 49 stories, no stopping. of course i started on my knees in a corner!
Exactly you would have to think Hmmm? I have to experience weakness in order to gain strength or experience fear to gain courage to go forward!
The thing with fear is that it's hinders you from truly doing your hearts desire.
I just now realized that Jordan Peterson and Bob Odenkirk (actor that played Saul Goodman) have absolutely identical voice.
Both very distinct! Both HARD workers at their different crafts .... Interesting
...without fear, there is no bravery....
What an excellent short clip. And it's interesting that you should mention fear of spiders. When I was 16 years old my parents retired and moved to Puerto Rico. I had the worst case of arachnophobia anyone has ever heard of. All I have to do is see a spider and I start screaming and running. Now my cousin told me that's not going to work in Puerto Rico there spiders everywhere you have to overcome your fear. I started by just looking at the spider. And then touching the spider. And then allowing the spider to walk on my hands. Once the spider walked on my hands I was cured.
dear Jordan, I am a afraid of hurting people. whatever I try to overcome my fear , I end up kicking some evils and that makes problem for me after facing my fear. I'm not afraid of death even for myself but I am afraid of hurting anyone. it's been five years agoraphobic, needs advice and would be highly grateful
This is so interesting!!
doesn't seem to work if you are afraid of regrets, you face it and then feel a great regret.
Of course, you can face regret. You do it by taking full responsibility and forgiving yourself. Easier said than done, but it's not impossible.
Woah this is the only thing I've heard this guy say that wasn't total bullshit. Ok but seriously i learned something.
Rare Jordan W💪😂
Amen ❤️ 🙏 ❤️
One of my biggest fears is meditating in front of people and feeling judged. I think I’ll try it in the park next time! :)
I have acrophobia (fear of heights) how do does one go about facing that fear to get over it.
You will get symptom substitition, that means, if you don't go to the root of the fear, but, through ie exposure, you get rid of this fear, you will get big (!) problems because then the subconscious will create a bigger problem in another area. Because the root of the symptom wants to heal.
I went from screaming in panic near a snake. I now rescue them from homes worse than hell.
“Yes, man can get used to anything, just don't ask us how.”
Exposure therapy is a phenomenal way to treat people. It shouldn't be complete exposure, but exposing them to their fear, little by little, the fear subsides to a tolerable amount of fear.
I have 2 fear responses. Flight and total immersion. Neither 1 ever has actual positive results. If flight will work I'll take it. Seems like that's rarely the case though. I'll flee from interaction with people that will ultimately be harmless. But in real danger I'll run right into it willingly and unafraid. I'll make a decision, and burst into it even if I know I'll be severely injured. But interpersonal relationships, and the fear of that seems way more frightening than running head on into a speeding vehicle. Because the former continues to torment you, the latter is over in seconds.
remind me of the scene in batman begins
I am afraid of heights so I went skydiving. Most wonderful moment of my life! (Despite of getting a compression spinal fracture due to bad landing. ) Maybe my fear was well-founded. 😆
Love understanding this guys views
Life and death are one entity
I think this unfortunately only works for fears that correspond to some concrete thing in the outside world, not for more abstract fears like fear of losing your job, fear of homelessness, loneliness, sickness, mental illness etc.
Fear Is Also The Sharpest Weapon .
As a long time student of the mind, I have a problem with these analogies. First of all, in exposure therapy, it is most optimal to expose them to the actual source of their fear-to the 'memory trace' not a car in actually in motion that simulated running them over in the first place, though that would be most ideal.
I hope the readers here will understand the difference between a 'unconditioned' source and response and a 'conditioned' source and response.
In this experiment- Behaviorist Dr. John B. Watson determined that 'fear,' is learned. He put a few animals in front of 9 month old Little Albert. A rabbit, a rat and Little Albert seemed happy about them, as he touched them and smiled and everything was fine and John let him sit there enjoying the company of these animals for a while, then the moment little Albert reached out to touch them, Dr Watson rang a very loud bell and it startled Little Albert with a jolt, and he jerked back from them. After a few moments, little Albert reached out again to the animals and Dr. Watson rang the bell loudly at the moment Little Albert was reaching for them. This occurred a time or two more and this time when John rang the bell, Little Albert started crying and from that moment on he wanted nothing to do with the animals. John put the rat in front of him and he pulled back and started crying again. John put on a furry mask and drew close to Little Albert, and he pulled back and started crying. John's nurse laid down a furry coat in front of Little Albert and he squirmed and started crying.
Of course, today they wouldn't do an experiment like this. But According to Dr Watson, the experimented proved that 'fear' is a learned behavior.
How would a Psychoanalyst go about treating a child or an adult with a fear like this. What is the real source of fear? Would a therapist 'run exposure therapy on some animals or something that represents an animal and try to desensitize the individual?
The fact is, the real source of fear is often hidden from view. If you think the animals in this experiment are the real source of fear, then you are incorrect.
Little Albert didn't have an issue with the animals, but he did have a problem with the sound of loud bells. Now to discover this without knowing the story, requires some different kinds of training.
If someone says their afraid of spiders, I'd look for a mischievous brother who slipped a spiders or tow down their shirt- or into their bed. The stimulus is rarely what you think it is going to be.
Oh man this is so interesting
I thought they thought making guys like JP back during Lincoln's time!
I got bullied during primary school because I was scared of cockroach. My sister told me that act like you ain’t scared of it so those people won’t bring the cockroach to me again. This is make sense. Don’t let fear define who you are. Also like Tyrion said Wear it like armor.
What about with kids? Does it work for them or does it damage them?
If your ready for a change for god sake let yourself be uncomfortable and face those fears and what Ever negativity’s it’s the only way through it
All this cryptic language could be explained in two simple words: "face it"
I faced my phobia of driving - I decided I would rather die than be stuck isolated on the farm.
Do or die.
The incentive was high enough that to me the risk of death from driving didn’t matter. I was guaranteed death if I didn’t.
If fear is stopping you from having the life that you want. Then you’ll never live unless you overcome it.
I’d like to live before I die.