I grew up around whites and went to white schools but I never lost my identity. They never had influence over me because I loved my blackness. My parents did something right with me.
It starts with the parents. They should have made sure she spent time around her people. White people are taught from birth that they're better than us. When they find out they're not they can be dangerous.
One thing I can proudly say is I have neverrrrrrr had a thought of wanting to be white or be in the company of white people to feel good about myself. I also never felt the need to date a white woman to be able to love myself, I think it's weird how some of our people think when it comes to white people.
In her defense though she is in the Chicago area where black people are known to kill each other in high numbers. She actually has a much smaller chance of getting shot and murdered by whyte people.
I grew up the same way. My mom thought sending me to the majority low melaninated schools was sending me to "better schools". I remember the very things she speaks of. I was able to educate myself out of that just like it sounds like this young lady has. Not everyone can shake the programming.
@@kenziepeace6096 I would say MOST of the time they are better schools. Which school is going to get better funding and have more resources? A predominantly black, low income school in the hood, or a predominantly white upper middle class school in the suburbs? I agree with Phil on keeping your black children connected to black people and culture even if you don't live around many black people, but let's be real now...
Actually, I kinda feel sorry for white people, I know when they looks at my beautiful brown skin they wish it was theirs, this is where the jealousy and hatred comes from, be proud brothers and sisters, they wanna be you.
@@TheEviIOyo Lol oh how wrong you are. If you read the Bible you can tell right away those are black people. They were going through the same troubles and plagues as black people of today. Went into captivity many times before for the same reasons. Define our facial features and skin colors. Because our skin tones are like the rainbow. And our facial features are some of the best in the world.
Thank you for uploading this video. This young lady shedded light on some critical points. I remember when I was in my early 20s having a discussion with this white cowork who was around my age. I mentioned 400 years of slavery. Her réponse: "You are just like the rest of them." When you speak truth that they want to hide you lose your "one of the good ones" status. Any of them can revoke it on the spot. So, don't try to please them to be accepted."
I admire, VERY MUCH, this young sister. It is not easy to look at self in the mirror & be honest with yourself. Can you imagine if we all could stop & check ourselves like this ? I truly believe the world would look & feel better, congrats sister !
Thank you for sharing this message. The young lady in the video is on point. We need to love ourselves, learn our history and thankful to our ancestors. Thank you again…❤️
excellent comment, but most american black people will never do what you wrote. look how proud they are of using european names to identify themselves! look how enthusiastic and comfortable they are about giving their children european names! people who sincerely love themselves and embrace themselves, which means they love their own ancestors and embrace their own ancestors, name themselves and their children after their own ancestors and not after the people who enslaved their ancestors.
This is one of the various reasons why I live in and will continue to live in a predominantly black place. I don't want my kids to start acting like their oppressors and think highly about them while denigrating their own ppl.
I have another question. Was she uncomfortable around Black People that mirrored her upbringing? Or Black People that didn’t? African Americans have to realize we’re not a monolith. Sometimes we’re not gonna relate to ghetto, country, suburbanite or rich kinfolk. That’s perfectly fine.
Black people love to combine hood/HipHop/ghetto/rap black folks with the normal black folks. I'm black myself and I've always gotten along better with her type than the HipHop hood type females. This lady is gone to come back to the black side and find herself fighting, getting robbed and ducking bullets.
I believe it's Black people in general. Because she was indoctrinated by her white peers and culture to see Black people no matter what sub culture you represent within it as being beneath her and her white peers/culture. She and only she was given that token status. It really sad and a form of mental slavery that there are still Africans, Africans of the diaspora and other people of color out there that seek their validation and approval. When being a good human being is enough. We need to build our own table instead of trying to sit at theirs.
Crystal's Place. .I feel highly uncomfortable around white people period no matter the income bracket, because I don't trust them. I also do not feel comfortable around a certain demographic of black people. I hate the hood mentality crab in the bucket mentality. Black people who are deep thinkers who exhibit self awareness is who I feel the most comfortable around.
You said nothing but FACTS! Knowledge of Self is the game changer. It will turn your perceptions around. It will make you see the reality of being a Brotha or Sista. It will delete the brainwashing from your mind. There is so much to having KoS.
Candice hate her skin she is so brainwashed she and Kanye, when you hear him coming with all these talking he went in denouncing his own people and because things don’t work out for him he wants black people to stand up for him, next thing he and the leader of white supremacy hand in hand gone to dinner putting all these black people to shame , the both of them hate thier own people
Great video coverage Philip I'm elated that our sister got her wake-up call reality check and know who she really is and to be happy and proud of it kudos to her and in the words of Kathleen cleaver black is beautiful
I grew up in an all white community, but our parents kept us grounded so I never felt uncomfortable being around blacks and got into several fights over racism. I never denied myself n never dated WW b/c of bad experiences early on. It all boils down to experience
it boils down to choice. location is used as an excuse by weirdos like this all the time. nobody has to try and assimilate to a hostile culture to fit in, that's what weaklings do. notice this particular issue is only present in non white people that wanna shimmy and shuck their way into the good graces of white power structures and white people.
One of the GOOD ONES!!! I've heard that before after I MOLLY WHOPPED someone who referred to someone else black as a nicca.He said he wasn't talking about me and that I was ONE OF THE GOOD ONES.
Raised in Colorado since age of 7, more than 40 plus years now. I lived the same reality; only blk woman or person in most of my work and college life. Still, I never shunned my people and never was attracted to white men. The blk population in Colorado has always be around 4% of the state’s population. Life has been weird living in this state.
@@bobfaam5215White ppl have a negative birth rate, meaning they die more than they reproduce.. And if it wasn’t for abortion, homicide and involuntary sterilization, the blk population would be doubled.. So it wouldn’t make sense that a ppl who are infertile (whites) would be able to breed out a race.. and also, white ppl don’t have a monopoly on lighter skin. You can be lighter brown naturally.. 2 Blk continental Africans can also birth an albino baby. The concept that 100% of blkppl would be super dark if they didn’t mix is elementary at best.
@@PrinceInawRakah White people are having a negative birth rate in just the last 40 years . Before that White people had large birth rates . Check the data . Or else how would their population double and triple from 19th century onwards 😂 And BTW , now every American ethnicity including Blacks , Asians and Latino have a negative birth rates . Check Census report . Population of every ethnicity is going down in USA
I like this channel. It used to be my dream to be a news broadcaster and I like how this is a channel doing what it wants to do, delivering news the way it wants to. ❤
@@sisterkamilah4373 I would watch your show and keep watching throughout ur growth. Sometimes the fear is from comparing but u will grow into it. I always give new channels a chance and it turns out really good and i sray sunscribed. I hope ur dreams come true soon.
My husband had the same upbringing he also had a difficult time until he went to college. His parents did keep him in their black church that was the only constant and their family.
Me a (black male) grew up like this and I know another black male and 2 black females that were the same way. We all turned pro black after years of adult life experiences, one of the girls is now practicing African spirituality.
I grew up the same way in a gated community, and was the only black person at my school. My parents did not like the "ghetto blacks" and was more conservative. Its hard for me to make friends with other black people because I am always being judged by the way I talk, my table manners, the way I dress or I got the job because I'm lighter. I am definitely a introvert, I don't like anyone.
Just learn how to code switch, it's like speaking another language. Navigate how you need to. Plus, travel the world with some good friends. If Black, even better. Be a citizen of this Earth. Those stereotypes are all media driven.
My daughter is 22 years old and son is 29. Both of them were always told that they “talked” white and dressed white. My husband and I drilled into them their worth an to never allow anyone, whether black or white define you. When they tell you that you sound white, tell them that white people are not the source speaking the correct way, dressing nice etc… My son rose up one day to a group for bullies (black guys) and told them that, and they finally stopped bullying him. Our people have really have to be ourselves regardless of what other people think about us. White people are not the standard. We drilled that into them and now they are very comfortable with being themselves. They do not care what anyone thinks of them. I think as parents we did something right. I wish you well on this journey called life. There are other black men and women who feel just like you. Like I tell my kids one day you will find your tribe (the ones who you click with) until then always be your authentic self. Merry Christmas!
I grew up in an all black neighborhood and I speak "The king's English" and i went to a public school & my grades were excellent. I was always accused of "acting white". This "ghetto black" now owns her own successful business, owns several rental properties in and out of the "ghetto" and sent all three of her now successful children to college while living in the same "ghetto" I've asked this question for 54 years .. Since when did we associate being smart with acting White? Because the last time I was in school, my grades scores were higher than the white kids..
Keepin it 💯 P Scott, unfortunately my parents divorced when I was a baby . My mom sides is like this lady's parents (mostly ran by women), my dad side is like this channel (strong men and women). Unfortunately growing up as a kid on my mom side, I was mislead like this lady, as i grew older, i learned my history, I jumped to the my pops side, became like them happily. The women on my mom side looks at me like I'm hood, however they respect me as a man, but they don't respect their men in the same manner as me. It's unfortunate that they think this way.and I notice the men want to be leaders but don't know how. Fear of looking like me. Black Nation unite.
We not only have white supremacy to deal with and overturn buy we the black man must overturn the toxic matriarchy and restore the natural order. Stay IBMOR for now.
Is it really a simple as thinking you are better than a community? Sometimes you aren’t insecure that you don’t know as much as you should about a community.
AT LEAST MEGANS HUSBAND THOUGHT ENOUGH OF HER AND HIS BABIES TO PROTECT THEM BY MOVING THOUSANDS OF MILES AWAY FROM HIS HOMELAND.HE MADE THAT SACRIFICE AND ISNT LOOKING BACK.STRONG LOVING MAN.HE DESERVES OUR RESPECT.0
As someone who’s job required me being the only poc in many many situations, I found there are 4 things that will get you “reminded” you are black: Alcohol, Anger, Envy and to a lesser extent-fear. Oh, you will be reminded no matter how high up the food chain you get. Embrace that “life time membership.”
Nah. All skinfolk ain't kinfolk. And it truly depends on your personal life experiences. For me, I know precisely why I intentionally keep my circle small and never based on color. Throughout life, the people who have done me DIRTIEST look exactly like me. So when I get ready to choose who I share time, space, and life with--CHARACTER is the prerequisite, not blackness. Bump that. This right here has been a HARD bought lesson. 😪
To the people who hate their race or gender within their race, listen to this video. All the "you are one of the goods ones" don't change your blackness and the African ancestry of your biracial/multiracial children.
This is clearly the parents fault. I'm from a working middle class family and had moms side of the family are the country folks and dads side of the family are city folks. I grew up into heavy metal, goth/vamp cultures and im a computer geek as my job field. I went to PW schools growing up. But I have NEVER EVER felt out of place either in the hood or out with the country side of my families. My parents made sure we spent time growing up with both sides.
I was raised in the suburb - very few black people around but thankfully when I got into high school there were another 3 black girls and two black guys that looked like me in my year. I never struggled I was happy. However, what I didn't realize is that when it came to dating after school I didn't want a black guy though my step-father is black and my younger brother is black. Crazy or what. But thankfully not too long I started dating my race and I love my race.
I understand somewhat; I was bussed into another neighborhood for high school, but it was another minority neighborhood. Although there were Black people at my school, we were definitely a small minority. I tried to fit in with them but the activities I was drawn to were not the ones most of the Black students participated in. When I got to college, I was far more comfortable with my own because the minority group I was used to was more aligned with the white students. I mixed it up later with other cool minorities, but I could never, ever dream of having to hang out with a group of "them". I tried even as a grown woman with mommy groups and just knew it was not for me.
I grew up in the 80’s predominantly white neighborhood. I went to school with other white kids, mexican’s, and blacks. Mostly white. We had fun. House parties at beautiful homes, the whole nine yards. We got along with each other it was a different time back then, and beautiful peaceful time as well. I always new who I was. I was happy to be a black person. I do believe happiness comes from within.
She went to a private school then on to college probably. Listen to her talk, she grew up privileged do to her parents hard work! I grew up in Detroit,violence was a part of daily life, drugs and prostitution everywhere. Needles and bottles littered the play grounds, we had no football field. I doubt she ever saw a murder or even know someone whose been murdered. I moved to the suburbs too! My children won’t live the life I did
@@sz3314 I too grew up in the city, Bronx New York. My parents moved to t he south when I was younger to get away from the crime , because my father didn’t want his kids in that environment. We moved to South Carolina his and my mothers hometown to a predominantly black neighborhood without all the crime. Not all black neighborhoods are riddled with crime. My street in the south was bussed miles away to a predominantly white school and the racism was ridiculous. I really didn’t understand it because I was so young but I can tell you I let my kids know to always be proud of being black and don’t change to be accepted by anyone especially white people.
There is a saying "We're our own worse enemy " The community has to focus on sound principles to correct the self destructive behavior that is crippling their own progress. Until then, it's just a waste of energy.
My dad must have seen this in us.He moved us to Charlotte NC after growing up on the West Coast, we were the only ones in the neighborhood,school etc etc. He moved us to the South.
I went to predominantly white schools and university growing up. My parents were professionals who did not neglect to let us know who we were. I was around black people in my community and church. When I went to an HBCU to further my studies it was a very different world...no pun intended (for those who know the show). Lets just say the best experiences I had were at the "other schools". However, I personally prefer a mixture of all races as that's what the world is. I don't like being around one particular race of people at all times.
It depends on who you fk with really. You gotta pick and choose is what I learned early on, know who you hang around with. If you around ignorant ninjas that don't know the difference between they, their and they're you in the wrong place. If you around smart ninjas that act like racism don't exist or everything is our fault, you in the wrong place. You gotta move with discernment, and that's not something you learn that comes from experience and knowing yourself.
I went to a private school, PREDOMINANTLY WHITE for four years and had "some" Black Students there as well, but later on I felt the need to be apart of the Black Experience, which motivated me to attend an HBCU, becoming a part of the alumni and DEFINITELY HAVE NO REGRETS!!!!
I kinda feel what she is saying, but at the same time there are lazy, ghetto, low iq, whatever individuals within all ethnic groups. That does not mean you have to identify with them, surround yourself with them, or have any sense of loyalty to them at all simply because you’re the same ethnicity. I grew up very similarly to this young lady as a black woman, but I love being around other black folks, or anyone who on a similar level of culture as myself. But I don’t believe in co-signing to any form of non-sense culture regardless of what color they are and to me that’s a problem with Black Americans. They think they are supposed to co-sign or excuse and form of behavior that comes out of black culture, simply because it’s black people doing it.
She said “retired token” ❤. I understand. I grew up in an over 90% Caucasian rural town in Ohio. The saving grace was summertime spent with cousins in Cleveland, family, church, and books 📚. I’m so thankful I embraced my skin tone, hair texture, and our culture/history. Quite Frankly, I hate that we’ve been lied to about our history. I hate these negative stereotypes/narratives about us. I cringed when she said “ one of the good ones”. It just means that you’re not a threat to WHyte Supremacy.
I grew up in a predominantly white suburb in New Jersey during the 80s and 90s. I never lost my identity. My parents, ESPECIALLY my dad, made sure that we knew who we were and we stayed connected to Black people/culture. Also, facing DAILY microaggressions from teachers, neighbors and the local society at large played a part in that as well.
@@timothythomas2705 Yep! My experience spurred me to attend an HBCU. My guidance counselor had the nerve to ask why I ONLY applied to HBCUs. I told him: "Look around. Why WOULDN'T I?" LOL. I know that man was glad to see me graduate. 🤣🤣🤣
This is take the cake, I call it counter racism, this is a perfect, she need to write a book, this attitude that help the supremists out a suppress the civil rights agenda, which the fight has fizzeled out. You've got a good show which make me feel not so alone. I've been a victim of community gangstalking
Being around black people all the time isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You don’t have to be raised around all white people to not feel comfortable around your own. Some in our own community are uncouth and loud and divisive. If you don’t speak like they do or dress like they do then they’re looking at you sideways. Like you’re an outsider. I don’t have time for that. We’re not monolithic so everybody don’t conduct themselves the same way but I’m black at the end of the day. I feel it every time I leave the house.
Your going to feel it in this neighborhood or that one. If you dress upscale to WP they will say you think your Uppity too & if you dress the opposite, you will be looked at as "Ghetto" so looks like you will be judged regardless! It's not just your own people, it's all people !
@norahelaine6041 I gotta be around mixed company too wherever I'm at. It's not comfortable being the only black person somewhere, you either a token or you a villain and that's from own experience.
Once watched this episode of My Strange Addiction where black parents sent their black daughter to an all white school! This gjrI was viewed as ugly to the point that she was bleaching her skin! This made her parents appear very cuenish! Then, they also did not understand why their daughter felt this way! REALLY?!
Atlanta is rough. I have a friend who is atriums the same age as I am (51). She moved to Atlanta after a bitter divorce and she regretted it. She said our people are so unpin the work place and that the white managers are scared of them. She also got her carry permit due to the crime in Atlanta. She keeps a firearm on her at all times and she has one in her home. She never had to do that when she lived in Kentucky.
That’s good that she took the time to evaluate herself, and realize who she is. That’s real. Like Lawrence Fishburne said, “we can’t afford to be scared of our own people”.
I grew up in the northwest Chicago suburbs in the late 1980s and 1990s. So I can relate to some of what she is saying. What made it worse is that my parents sent me to private, predominantly white evangelical Christian schools. I never developed feelings of being uncomfortable around other Black people, but I can say it contributed to me developing an introverted and loner personality. I guess those types of environments affect us in different ways.
I can heavilly relate on the loner part. Grew up in East Africa and went to different bougie boarding schools with my sisters. I excelled right through to top US uni. Thing is boarding made super independent & comfy in ambiguity , hence excelled in corporate US. Great thing , but dont care much for attachments like dating etc.
@@beforeyourimmigrants8471 and most likely are ran thru by white men 🤣that’s why I laughed most blk girls who are in the suburbs are pass around chicks for white men , you a whole cuck for messing with them
I grew up around whites and went to white schools but I never lost my identity. They never had influence over me because I loved my blackness. My parents did something right with me.
It starts with the parents. They should have made sure she spent time around her people. White people are taught from birth that they're better than us. When they find out they're not they can be dangerous.
One thing I can proudly say is I have neverrrrrrr had a thought of wanting to be white or be in the company of white people to feel good about myself. I also never felt the need to date a white woman to be able to love myself, I think it's weird how some of our people think when it comes to white people.
This is what happens in an all white setting. Or can happen.
Because your mind is not colonized.
Facts
POC have been conditioned to pander to them or we need them to like us.
Eff them
God bless u
A lot of black people have those problems but it's too embarrassing to admit it.
So righr
Thats why our community is so off code
amen
HERE parent are to blame
Yuuuup
This sister is very grounded and humble to acknowledge her negative behaviors and change them.
She is not grounded to stop cursing. Being well grounded is being holy and a Christian that many wordly people do not want to be.
In her defense though she is in the Chicago area where black people are known to kill each other in high numbers. She actually has a much smaller chance of getting shot and murdered by whyte people.
@@blast4me754 Anybody can kill.
@@Mimi24177 But black folks do it everyday in Chicago. We like to act like we're angels and saints. This lady is better of staying where she's at.
@@blast4me754 She doesn’t belong amongst the opposite race
I grew up the same way. My mom thought sending me to the majority low melaninated schools was sending me to "better schools". I remember the very things she speaks of. I was able to educate myself out of that just like it sounds like this young lady has. Not everyone can shake the programming.
Same.
Yes not everyone I've met some people that are so deep in the sunken place they can't get out
Sometimes they are the better schools as they have better facilities.
@@kenziepeace6096 I would say MOST of the time they are better schools. Which school is going to get better funding and have more resources? A predominantly black, low income school in the hood, or a predominantly white upper middle class school in the suburbs? I agree with Phil on keeping your black children connected to black people and culture even if you don't live around many black people, but let's be real now...
Actually, I kinda feel sorry for white people, I know when they looks at my beautiful brown skin they wish it was theirs, this is where the jealousy and hatred comes from, be proud brothers and sisters, they wanna be you.
I agree with Phil. It’s the parents fault for not making sure their kids had friends like look like them. I can relate to the girl in the video.
Definitely the parents fault
Why does everyone hate black people? I LOVE BEING BLACK ❤❤❤
It’s a curse. Everywhere we go we are looked at as a mockery, proverb and or byword. It’s no coincidence.
@@alimctaven7417 it's not because of disobeying some bs laws it's because of your facial features and skin color. It'll never stop ever
@@TheEviIOyoif it’s because of facial features and skin color, why are so many women of other nations pursuing brothers?
@@TheEviIOyo we have 9 strands of dna in our body while white people have 6. Let that sink in. Its deeper than that
@@TheEviIOyo Lol oh how wrong you are. If you read the Bible you can tell right away those are black people. They were going through the same troubles and plagues as black people of today. Went into captivity many times before for the same reasons.
Define our facial features and skin colors. Because our skin tones are like the rainbow. And our facial features are some of the best in the world.
Thank you for uploading this video. This young lady shedded light on some critical points.
I remember when I was in my early 20s having a discussion with this white cowork who was around my age. I mentioned 400 years of slavery. Her réponse: "You are just like the rest of them."
When you speak truth that they want to hide you lose your "one of the good ones" status. Any of them can revoke it on the spot. So, don't try to please them to be accepted."
Lol....that is SO true. I think the entire relationship in those cases is about perpetuating a fantasy.
At least this sister figured out that being divested from her people is not the sure way to go.
real talk
Yup
I admire, VERY MUCH, this young sister. It is not easy to look at self in the mirror & be honest with yourself. Can you imagine if we all could stop & check ourselves like this ? I truly believe the world would look & feel better, congrats sister !
I feel you on this girl. It's hard when you don't see anyone else as yourself.
Thank you for sharing this message. The young lady in the video is on point. We need to love ourselves, learn our history and thankful to our ancestors. Thank you again…❤️
How you let white folk convince you to hate yourself ?
Stupidity that severe cant be corrected .
excellent comment, but most american black people will never do what you wrote. look how proud they are of using european names to identify themselves! look how enthusiastic and comfortable they are about giving their children european names! people who sincerely love themselves and embrace themselves, which means they love their own ancestors and embrace their own ancestors, name themselves and their children after their own ancestors and not after the people who enslaved their ancestors.
This is one of the various reasons why I live in and will continue to live in a predominantly black place. I don't want my kids to start acting like their oppressors and think highly about them while denigrating their own ppl.
🤝🤝🤝🍷
I have another question. Was she uncomfortable around Black People that mirrored her upbringing? Or Black People that didn’t? African Americans have to realize we’re not a monolith. Sometimes we’re not gonna relate to ghetto, country, suburbanite or rich kinfolk. That’s perfectly fine.
Black people love to combine hood/HipHop/ghetto/rap black folks with the normal black folks. I'm black myself and I've always gotten along better with her type than the HipHop hood type females. This lady is gone to come back to the black side and find herself fighting, getting robbed and ducking bullets.
I believe it's Black people in general. Because she was indoctrinated by her white peers and culture to see Black people no matter what sub culture you represent within it as being beneath her and her white peers/culture. She and only she was given that token status. It really sad and a form of mental slavery that there are still Africans, Africans of the diaspora and other people of color out there that seek their validation and approval. When being a good human being is enough. We need to build our own table instead of trying to sit at theirs.
Crystal's Place. .I feel highly uncomfortable around white people period no matter the income bracket, because I don't trust them. I also do not feel comfortable around a certain demographic of black people. I hate the hood mentality crab in the bucket mentality. Black people who are deep thinkers who exhibit self awareness is who I feel the most comfortable around.
I agree with you. I feel comfortable around suburbanite and free thinking Black Americans.
Best response! I just get excited when I see another black person but not all of them think like that. All of our hair is COILED by default. Lol
I'm waiting for Candace Owens to have a wake-up call and also Larry Elder
They should have learned with OJ!
For sure! It's coming.
Never going to happen. They are reprobates.
What did they do wrong
Plus kanye
Absolutely 💯. Keeping yourself grounded with one's own culture and ancestors is essential, and the normal thing to do
We have to have “Knowledge of self”
You said nothing but FACTS! Knowledge of Self is the game changer. It will turn your perceptions around. It will make you see the reality of being a Brotha or Sista. It will delete the brainwashing from your mind. There is so much to having KoS.
MANY black people still don't but I'm so glad I'm woke and know who I am. I fear no one but God, wp are not Gods .
Candice Owens needs to see this.
Candice hate her skin she is so brainwashed she and Kanye, when you hear him coming with all these talking he went in denouncing his own people and because things don’t work out for him he wants black people to stand up for him, next thing he and the leader of white supremacy hand in hand gone to dinner putting all these black people to shame , the both of them hate thier own people
🎯🎯🎯
We just too far gone in Babylon, forced to bath in dirty oily water and expecting to be clean
It's too late for her
She not black she Caribbean!
Great video coverage Philip I'm elated that our sister got her wake-up call reality check and know who she really is and to be happy and proud of it kudos to her and in the words of Kathleen cleaver black is beautiful
I lived in the suburbs and never acted like that, my true. I love.being black !
Tokenism is very real…… it Sucks!!..
I don’t blame her…….
I grew up in an all white community, but our parents kept us grounded so I never felt uncomfortable being around blacks and got into several fights over racism. I never denied myself n never dated WW b/c of bad experiences early on. It all boils down to experience
Same here
it boils down to choice. location is used as an excuse by weirdos like this all the time. nobody has to try and assimilate to a hostile culture to fit in, that's what weaklings do. notice this particular issue is only present in non white people that wanna shimmy and shuck their way into the good graces of white power structures and white people.
One of the GOOD ONES!!! I've heard that before after I MOLLY WHOPPED someone who referred to someone else black as a nicca.He said he wasn't talking about me and that I was ONE OF THE GOOD ONES.
Or, "not a TRUE Blk".
I experienced that as well.
Raised in Colorado since age of 7, more than 40 plus years now. I lived the same reality; only blk woman or person in most of my work and college life. Still, I never shunned my people and never was attracted to white men. The blk population in Colorado has always be around 4% of the state’s population. Life has been weird living in this state.
Time to relocate
But the black people in USA , most not all look mixed and not pure black with 100% black features
@@bobfaam5215White ppl have a negative birth rate, meaning they die more than they reproduce.. And if it wasn’t for abortion, homicide and involuntary sterilization, the blk population would be doubled..
So it wouldn’t make sense that a ppl who are infertile (whites) would be able to breed out a race.. and also, white ppl don’t have a monopoly on lighter skin. You can be lighter brown naturally.. 2 Blk continental Africans can also birth an albino baby.
The concept that 100% of blkppl would be super dark if they didn’t mix is elementary at best.
@@PrinceInawRakah White people are having a negative birth rate in just the last 40 years .
Before that White people had large birth rates . Check the data .
Or else how would their population double and triple from 19th century onwards 😂
And BTW , now every American ethnicity including Blacks , Asians and Latino have a negative birth rates .
Check Census report .
Population of every ethnicity is going down in USA
You must be white.
I like this channel. It used to be my dream to be a news broadcaster and I like how this is a channel doing what it wants to do, delivering news the way it wants to. ❤
It's never too late ma'am ☺
@@freeross371 you’re right! 🤗
You are beautiful, I could see you as a good News broadcaster 👍🏽
@@sisterkamilah4373 I would watch your show and keep watching throughout ur growth. Sometimes the fear is from comparing but u will grow into it. I always give new channels a chance and it turns out really good and i sray sunscribed. I hope ur dreams come true soon.
Every black women and man get that wake up call
My husband had the same upbringing he also had a difficult time until he went to college. His parents did keep him in their black church that was the only constant and their family.
I can relate
I appreciate her honesty.
Me a (black male) grew up like this and I know another black male and 2 black females that were the same way. We all turned pro black after years of adult life experiences, one of the girls is now practicing African spirituality.
Facts! Welcome back Sis!
I grew up the same way in a gated community, and was the only black person at my school. My parents did not like the "ghetto blacks" and was more conservative. Its hard for me to make friends with other black people because I am always being judged by the way I talk, my table manners, the way I dress or I got the job because I'm lighter. I am definitely a introvert, I don't like anyone.
Yeah I was told I "talk white" and all that other horse 💩. I paid them absolutely no mind.
Just learn how to code switch, it's like speaking another language. Navigate how you need to. Plus, travel the world with some good friends. If Black, even better. Be a citizen of this Earth. Those stereotypes are all media driven.
My daughter is 22 years old and son is 29. Both of them were always told that they “talked” white and dressed white.
My husband and I drilled into them their worth an to never allow anyone, whether black or white define you.
When they tell you that you sound white, tell them that white people are not the source speaking the correct way, dressing nice etc…
My son rose up one day to a group for bullies (black guys) and told them that, and they finally stopped bullying him.
Our people have really have to be ourselves regardless of what other people think about us.
White people are not the standard. We drilled that into them and now they are very comfortable with being themselves. They do not care what anyone thinks of them.
I think as parents we did something right.
I wish you well on this journey called life. There are other black men and women who feel just like you. Like I tell my kids one day you will find your tribe (the ones who you click with) until then always be your authentic self.
Merry Christmas!
@@michellew4737 Honestly, I hope that they are able to find partners to reproduce with, smh.
I grew up in an all black neighborhood and I speak "The king's English" and i went to a public school & my grades were excellent. I was always accused of "acting white". This "ghetto black" now owns her own successful business, owns several rental properties in and out of the "ghetto" and sent all three of her now successful children to college while living in the same "ghetto" I've asked this question for 54 years .. Since when did we associate being smart with acting White? Because the last time I was in school, my grades scores were higher than the white kids..
You can receive your wake up call from anyplace on this planet.I trust that more shall be revealed
Keepin it 💯 P Scott, unfortunately my parents divorced when I was a baby . My mom sides is like this lady's parents (mostly ran by women), my dad side is like this channel (strong men and women). Unfortunately growing up as a kid on my mom side, I was mislead like this lady, as i grew older, i learned my history, I jumped to the my pops side, became like them happily. The women on my mom side looks at me like I'm hood, however they respect me as a man, but they don't respect their men in the same manner as me. It's unfortunate that they think this way.and I notice the men want to be leaders but don't know how. Fear of looking like me. Black Nation unite.
We not only have white supremacy to deal with and overturn buy we the black man must overturn the toxic matriarchy and restore the natural order. Stay IBMOR for now.
Well that's how it goes when you think you're better than your community.
self hating, self proclaimed token...🤡
Nothing ever comes good out of hating people who look like you or who are in your same Community /Genetic background...that's insanity.
Is it really a simple as thinking you are better than a community? Sometimes you aren’t insecure that you don’t know as much as you should about a community.
Glad she finally woke up👀👈🏽
I doubt it lol she ain't telling the whole story
@@jeffrey-Epstein00 What do you think the whole story is?🤦🏾♀️
I am too. I have patience with black people as I really love my people... I'll wait on many of them to wake up & see the beauty in themselves.
Look At What Happened With Meghan Markle.
What happened
@@ajl2232 She has been reduced to a doormat to the Queen's Palace.
SHE IS LUCKY SHE WAS RAISED BY HER BLACK MOTHER.
AT LEAST MEGANS HUSBAND THOUGHT ENOUGH OF HER AND HIS BABIES TO PROTECT THEM BY MOVING THOUSANDS OF MILES AWAY FROM HIS HOMELAND.HE MADE THAT SACRIFICE AND ISNT LOOKING BACK.STRONG LOVING MAN.HE DESERVES OUR RESPECT.0
@@coconut5002 🤣🤣 "our respect"?? Speak for yourself lol who's us?
As someone who’s job required me being the only poc in many many situations, I found there are 4 things that will get you “reminded” you are black: Alcohol, Anger, Envy and to a lesser extent-fear. Oh, you will be reminded no matter how high up the food chain you get. Embrace that “life time membership.”
I spent some time in the burbs but when we moved to East Atlanta I got a rude awakening.That said I will always be of our Ancestors 🖤
Thanks you for sharing this information beautiful stated
Nah. All skinfolk ain't kinfolk. And it truly depends on your personal life experiences. For me, I know precisely why I intentionally keep my circle small and never based on color. Throughout life, the people who have done me DIRTIEST look exactly like me. So when I get ready to choose who I share time, space, and life with--CHARACTER is the prerequisite, not blackness. Bump that. This right here has been a HARD bought lesson. 😪
I am happy this young beautiful Sister has finally had this epiphany. She has saved herself a lot of future heartache and trouble.
She had to learn the hard way, but that was the best way 😊
She had to learn the hard way because of her parents
Many black people are hard headed so yes we learn the hard way. I've always been wise and never really saw non black people over my own as superior .
Great stuff as always. Thanks for the updates. Peace and love
To the people who hate their race or gender within their race, listen to this video.
All the "you are one of the goods ones" don't change your blackness and the African ancestry of your biracial/multiracial children.
Great speech... never denie your culture never denie your people amen
This is clearly the parents fault. I'm from a working middle class family and had moms side of the family are the country folks and dads side of the family are city folks. I grew up into heavy metal, goth/vamp cultures and im a computer geek as my job field. I went to PW schools growing up. But I have NEVER EVER felt out of place either in the hood or out with the country side of my families. My parents made sure we spent time growing up with both sides.
I was raised in the suburb - very few black people around but thankfully when I got into high school there were another 3 black girls and two black guys that looked like me in my year. I never struggled I was happy. However, what I didn't realize is that when it came to dating after school I didn't want a black guy though my step-father is black and my younger brother is black. Crazy or what. But thankfully not too long I started dating my race and I love my race.
The honesty is so appreciated 🤎🙌🏿. So many blk people lack the courage to admit these things.
I understand somewhat; I was bussed into another neighborhood for high school, but it was another minority neighborhood. Although there were Black people at my school, we were definitely a small minority. I tried to fit in with them but the activities I was drawn to were not the ones most of the Black students participated in. When I got to college, I was far more comfortable with my own because the minority group I was used to was more aligned with the white students. I mixed it up later with other cool minorities, but I could never, ever dream of having to hang out with a group of "them". I tried even as a grown woman with mommy groups and just knew it was not for me.
I grew up in the 80’s predominantly white neighborhood. I went to school with other white kids, mexican’s, and blacks. Mostly white. We had fun. House parties at beautiful homes, the whole nine yards. We got along with each other it was a different time back then, and beautiful peaceful time as well. I always new who I was. I was happy to be a black person. I do believe happiness comes from within.
Same.
Same
Same
Damn, almost sounds like my childhood just in the 90s.
This sister is beautiful but I would never want to be around the enemy with nothing in common just senseless
She went to a private school then on to college probably. Listen to her talk, she grew up privileged do to her parents hard work!
I grew up in Detroit,violence was a part of daily life, drugs and prostitution everywhere. Needles and bottles littered the play grounds, we had no football field.
I doubt she ever saw a murder or even know someone whose been murdered.
I moved to the suburbs too! My children won’t live the life I did
@@sz3314 I too grew up in the city, Bronx New York. My parents moved to t he south when I was younger to get away from the crime , because my father didn’t want his kids in that environment. We moved to South Carolina his and my mothers hometown to a predominantly black neighborhood without all the crime. Not all black neighborhoods are riddled with crime. My street in the south was bussed miles away to a predominantly white school and the racism was ridiculous. I really didn’t understand it because I was so young but I can tell you I let my kids know to always be proud of being black and don’t change to be accepted by anyone especially white people.
There is a saying "We're our own worse enemy " The community has to focus on sound principles to correct the self destructive behavior that is crippling their own progress. Until then, it's just a waste of energy.
@@sz3314 Yes , no ambitious person would want to stay in such toxic environment
@@mistic6628 facts
My dad must have seen this in us.He moved us to Charlotte NC after growing up on the West Coast, we were the only ones in the neighborhood,school etc etc. He moved us to the South.
I went to predominantly white schools and university growing up. My parents were professionals who did not neglect to let us know who we were. I was around black people in my community and church.
When I went to an HBCU to further my studies it was a very different world...no pun intended (for those who know the show). Lets just say the best experiences I had were at the "other schools". However, I personally prefer a mixture of all races as that's what the world is. I don't like being around one particular race of people at all times.
Thanks for this!!!
I grew up in Chicago and I have no regrets
That’s cool. Chicago is very segregated. Her story made so much sense.
Honestly phill you r a awsome channel these things need to be addressed for real
It depends on who you fk with really. You gotta pick and choose is what I learned early on, know who you hang around with. If you around ignorant ninjas that don't know the difference between they, their and they're you in the wrong place. If you around smart ninjas that act like racism don't exist or everything is our fault, you in the wrong place. You gotta move with discernment, and that's not something you learn that comes from experience and knowing yourself.
Great Coverage. Have you covered the Muscogee Creek & Seminole Freedmen & their struggle for membership after beinf ousted?
I went to a private school, PREDOMINANTLY WHITE for four years and had "some" Black Students there as well, but later on I felt the need to be apart of the Black Experience, which motivated me to attend an HBCU, becoming a part of the alumni and DEFINITELY HAVE NO REGRETS!!!!
Good for you
@@ernestspaights8858 THANKS, BROTHER!!!
Nice! This is great for you! 💐
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HBCUs are Very Expensive, but I agree ..I wish I had the Opportunity to attend a HBCU.
There are safe black communities out there.
I know people like this and they basically enjoy being pets
The Megan Markle affect….
What's that
Pls,that woman is 75% white
@@aliukehinde3906 only need 1% to be black, if you believe me go mix some paint
@@eddiewilson3724 😧😦😮😯😲
@eddiewilson3724
That's a load of crap👌, and you've bought into WHITE SUPREMACISTS idea😄, Megan is biracial, so her father 1% black huh🤣
She is right
A whole lots of people are like that....mind manipulations!
Brother Phil, you are THAT Brotha for *REAL*!💯🔥
Shalom,
Raise our children in the Truth, and this type of rubbish doesn't happen!
The conquer and divide methodology is work at work in the most extreme form
I kinda feel what she is saying, but at the same time there are lazy, ghetto, low iq, whatever individuals within all ethnic groups. That does not mean you have to identify with them, surround yourself with them, or have any sense of loyalty to them at all simply because you’re the same ethnicity. I grew up very similarly to this young lady as a black woman, but I love being around other black folks, or anyone who on a similar level of culture as myself. But I don’t believe in co-signing to any form of non-sense culture regardless of what color they are and to me that’s a problem with Black Americans. They think they are supposed to co-sign or excuse and form of behavior that comes out of black culture, simply because it’s black people doing it.
That feeling of superiority is ingrained in them. Every white or "other" friend or associate I've had has eventually shown me their hand.
Right.
Nicely said.!!
I totally have been there in my life and am glad that I got the wake-up calls needed to snap out of it!
She said “retired token” ❤. I understand. I grew up in an over 90% Caucasian rural town in Ohio. The saving grace was summertime spent with cousins in Cleveland, family, church, and books 📚. I’m so thankful I embraced my skin tone, hair texture, and our culture/history. Quite Frankly, I hate that we’ve been lied to about our history. I hate these negative stereotypes/narratives about us. I cringed when she said “ one of the good ones”. It just means that you’re not a threat to WHyte Supremacy.
I grew up in a predominantly white suburb in New Jersey during the 80s and 90s. I never lost my identity. My parents, ESPECIALLY my dad, made sure that we knew who we were and we stayed connected to Black people/culture. Also, facing DAILY microaggressions from teachers, neighbors and the local society at large played a part in that as well.
I grew up the road from you in a white town to back in 66to74 when i split. so i KNOW what you been through.
@@timothythomas2705 Yep! My experience spurred me to attend an HBCU. My guidance counselor had the nerve to ask why I ONLY applied to HBCUs. I told him: "Look around. Why WOULDN'T I?" LOL. I know that man was glad to see me graduate. 🤣🤣🤣
This is take the cake, I call it counter racism, this is a perfect, she need to write a book, this attitude that help the supremists out a suppress the civil rights agenda, which the fight has fizzeled out. You've got a good show which make me feel not so alone. I've been a victim of community gangstalking
lol that’s true growing up as kid we couldn’t stay our white friends crib but only at the black ones I never understood until I got older
I have always made sure my kids would never be the only Black kids in the class.
Unfortunately she was sheltered too much 🤦♂️🚫😪
Being around black people all the time isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You don’t have to be raised around all white people to not feel comfortable around your own. Some in our own community are uncouth and loud and divisive. If you don’t speak like they do or dress like they do then they’re looking at you sideways. Like you’re an outsider. I don’t have time for that. We’re not monolithic so everybody don’t conduct themselves the same way but I’m black at the end of the day. I feel it every time I leave the house.
Well said.
Your going to feel it in this neighborhood or that one. If you dress upscale to WP they will say you think your Uppity too & if you dress the opposite, you will be looked at as "Ghetto" so looks like you will be judged regardless! It's not just your own people, it's all people !
@norahelaine6041 I gotta be around mixed company too wherever I'm at. It's not comfortable being the only black person somewhere, you either a token or you a villain and that's from own experience.
I don't deal with them outside of work hours.
Once watched this episode of My Strange Addiction where black parents sent their black daughter to an all white school! This gjrI was viewed as ugly to the point that she was bleaching her skin! This made her parents appear very cuenish! Then, they also did not understand why their daughter felt this way! REALLY?!
snarky little devilish comments is all they will do toward our people it's natural to many of them
I LOVE U SO MUCH. U WOKE UP, I WISH THOSE DOMINICANS / CAPE VERDE,S WILL WAKE UP ALSO.
He speaking facts 💯
I know more "hood" black ppl that think like this
I agree with her and I can truly relate!
I met a couple of black and Latinos like that. I couldn't stay around them.
I moved to Atlanta and realized that I dont feel comfortable around my own people too. This place is scary af. Lol
Atlanta is rough.
I have a friend who is atriums the same age as I am (51). She moved to Atlanta after a bitter divorce and she regretted it.
She said our people are so unpin the work place and that the white managers are scared of them. She also got her carry permit due to the crime in Atlanta. She keeps a firearm on her at all times and she has one in her home.
She never had to do that when she lived in Kentucky.
Excellent story. Yes black private schools are great!
Learn your own family history. It goes with you wherever you go. Problem solved!
Damn sista up on it I wish all our people would be like this
That’s good that she took the time to evaluate herself, and realize who she is. That’s real. Like Lawrence Fishburne said, “we can’t afford to be scared of our own people”.
I grew up in the northwest Chicago suburbs in the late 1980s and 1990s. So I can relate to some of what she is saying. What made it worse is that my parents sent me to private, predominantly white evangelical Christian schools. I never developed feelings of being uncomfortable around other Black people, but I can say it contributed to me developing an introverted and loner personality. I guess those types of environments affect us in different ways.
I can heavilly relate on the loner part. Grew up in East Africa and went to different bougie boarding schools with my sisters. I excelled right through to top US uni. Thing is boarding made super independent & comfy in ambiguity , hence excelled in corporate US. Great thing , but dont care much for attachments like dating etc.
Yes there is residue from the trauma of being raised in white spaces. I feel you.
Thank you God for my lifetime subscription!!1 🙏🏽
Did she lie and say she never seen herself on tv?
Those black girls outside of Chicago in the suburbs are the best black women in the US.
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@@naga7461 it's funny they all come to Michigan for college. Shout out to Schaumburg Illinois
@@beforeyourimmigrants8471 and most likely are ran thru by white men 🤣that’s why I laughed most blk girls who are in the suburbs are pass around chicks for white men , you a whole cuck for messing with them
ONE of the good ones .
MESSAGE!!!!
She's just went through what Africans think of Black Americans.
The sista learned her lessons & glad she came out clear with it & precisely...
Like el hajj Malik el Shabazz said:
Who taught you to hate yourself?