I say he is emotionally unavailable and noone is too busy for you. It simply means you dont hold so much value to him and the best thing to do is leave.
I dated a man for almost eight months worked seven days a week (self-employed) and we went out every week or weekend, even if he got straight off work to take me out. He proved to me that NO ONE IS EVER THAT BUSY, PEOPLE CHOOSE WHAT OR WHO THEY WANT TO PRIORITIZE PERIOD! When his pattern change with no valid excuse, I was out of there, ha! Nice knowing you, but I'm a high valued woman who deserves God's best.
@@shekinahfire5936 same with me, 7 months and one day he switched up on me and ghosting. one week later he wanted to talk to me like nothing happened, i just stopped talking to him completely, i told him to just leave me alone.
Not able to text you every day? C’mon...how much time that takes? Don’t fool yourself, if a guy can’t be bothered to even talk to you is because he doesn’t want to
Women should learn not to waste time in life. If he is too busy for you it is very simple. It means you are not the one for him. Move on with your life. Go where you are appreciated.
And the worst feeling is that he has time to be online to chat with someone else in the midnight but doesn't have time for me to just say hello🙄 really, is that part of businesses?
he is busy but he texts me everyday or calls when he gets off work or on break.. i once got so defencive and told him, he tells me his reasons of how his day went and what made him busy that day. he tries his best i can feel it i can say communicating is the most important thing. we communicate on things each of us can work on because i too have issues, he listens and work on them. so i hope it turns out well in the end
Great video as usual yes there is a big difference between a reason and excuse a great reason would be I can give you the best time that I should right now because I just had a death in the family stuff like that that’s understandable but like you said we spend time on what we consider is valuable when I look for in a guy and especially in the beginning when they’re supposed be on their best behavior is consistency communication and commitment
Thank you so much. This makes so much sense. Been dating someone for 3 years now and I get the “ busy “ a lot. Granted he does have is own business. He is also divorced but still having a problem with his x wife. I have tried to talk to him about it. Things are good for awhile and it just slips back to the way it was before our talk. Realized now he is not ready for a relationship and is emotionally unavailable .
We’ve been dating for four months. We saw one another every week and then his business partner said that our relationship is interfering with him being available for the business. He says he’s doing this for our future.
I disagree, there’s no one who’s so busy that they can’t take 3 minutes in their day to text someone important in their lives. So I wouldn’t accept such an excuse that says, ‘I might not be able to text you everyday…’
No one is too busy for what they really really want! PERIOD. Make time find time when a top surgeon can find time to call his wife in the middle of the surgery yes!! to check on her they can too! There is always way around it if heart wants it. So busy is that busy forever when you dealing with more high roller men high income earners? I don't understand this.
I always wanted to tell you now is a great time ,whenever I comment on any of your videos in any area I do not expect a fast response ,I really don’t you have a wonderful son, and a life to live,Please trust me when I understand it’s called boundaries
Lonje Marie thank you lovely and it’s so funny that most times when you comment I’m free to respond. No pressure honestly! I enjoy your feedback and cherish your opinion 😉😘
At the beginning he was always messaging me in the morning and evening and throughout the day, calling me his Queen and saying I'm so special (he still says I'm special now). As soon as he'd be online he would message back. I would respond as well in a timely fashion. Then I started seeing he'd be online and not respond to me, but once he'd "see" my message he'd reply. Then he stopped messaging good morning... then the good night messages went away. He started a new job and I was very understanding. The evening messages returned once I said I enjoy getting them, but only for a couple of days. Yesterday I asked him of he's ok (he'd not responded to my evening message reply), he said he's a bit busy with work. I told him to take his time and have not heard from him since. No "ok" no goodnight message no good morning, no updates, no cute memes. I still see he's online, but he's not getting in touch. I will leave it at that, but what should I say when he eventually gets in touch? I'd like him to call me and plan a date. It's been almost a month since he started this new job and hasn't had time to meet.
Because of what’s going on in his life that’s understandable ,In other words because of a very important life event he doesn’t have a lot of time, if we schedule a date even though he had a very good REASON and he flakes ,out or cancels, dealbreaker,I know a young lady who is married ,but the same man many years ago was very very flaky ,now fast forward to the future he presented unflaky,,Now of course they’re married
Hi Chengi! Your video was really enlightening and I enjoyed listening to you. I’ve been seeing someone for about 3 months now. It started kind of rocky with my feelings of insecurity and uncertainty, but his actions have shown that he wants to be with me. He just moved to my city a few months ago and he’s in a managerial position. I know for a fact that he really is busy and he talks to me about the frustrations of his job. I’m also busy with grad school and work so it actually does not really bother me because I like to have less distractions. Only issue now is I asked where our relationship was going and he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment right now but he’d like to be married in 2 years. I tried to leave that night but he tried everything possible to make me stay. The next time we had a conversation, he said he wanted to be with me and we are together but he needs more time. What confuses me is that we’re doing everything people in relationships do. He’s emotionally supportive and available and I love that he is ambitious. Should I give him more time? I feel like I should also consider other guys since he said he wasn’t ready. But then again, I don’t get to meet a lot of guys who has all the qualities I see in him where I live. Should I continue to invest or end things?
Lena Bambo sounds like he is stringing you along and his exit strategy is to say he wasn’t ready for a commitment but he could also want to settle in and get himself together. I suggest you start dating other people and have an honest conversation with him about it. Tell him that you are enjoying dating him and as you are ready for commitment you will start to date other people with that view and be ready for him to do the same.
Video is nice but Sorry not many guy or men will sit down and be realistic about being busy or not into you conversation the world would be. Better place if men had the conversation. Most want to pull away and disappear or slowly fade away. This is the TRUTH
If he’s too busy to text or call, then he’s not the one God has for you. A good woman should not be treated like a token when she is the prize
Its not that Complicated if hes intrested he will make time 4what he wants in his Life❗
Exactly
I say he is emotionally unavailable and noone is too busy for you. It simply means you dont hold so much value to him and the best thing to do is leave.
I agree with you. If you truly love someone you can spare at least 5minutes per day to hear how they are doing. Nothing like "too busy"!!
I dated a man for almost eight months worked seven days a week (self-employed) and we went out every week or weekend, even if he got straight off work to take me out. He proved to me that NO ONE IS EVER THAT BUSY, PEOPLE CHOOSE WHAT OR WHO THEY WANT TO PRIORITIZE PERIOD! When his pattern change with no valid excuse, I was out of there, ha! Nice knowing you, but I'm a high valued woman who deserves God's best.
@@shekinahfire5936 same with me, 7 months and one day he switched up on me and ghosting. one week later he wanted to talk to me like nothing happened, i just stopped talking to him completely, i told him to just leave me alone.
Not able to text you every day? C’mon...how much time that takes? Don’t fool yourself, if a guy can’t be bothered to even talk to you is because he doesn’t want to
All i know is that people always make time for what they want to make time for.
Omg Thank you thank you
I am going through this right now. I am walking away can't deal with this any more.
Sandra Roberts this is a very difficult place to find yourself. I’m so sorry to hear it but you are worth a man who can be all in. Sending you hugs 🤗
This is how I feel about “ friendships “ too
Women should learn not to waste time in life. If he is too busy for you it is very simple. It means you are not the one for him. Move on with your life. Go where you are appreciated.
Amen 🙏🏾
Im sure each case is different but I think this open doors for him string you along. Too busy? Find a guy who isn’t
Date once a month!!!..Really...Oh hell no...If he's into you he will make time..End of story its not that complicated.....
Jacqueline Knight absolutely
And the worst feeling is that he has time to be online to chat with someone else in the midnight but doesn't have time for me to just say hello🙄 really, is that part of businesses?
I feel you on this. Caught him and it’s the worst experience to go through
I wish if men would start listening to u too
If he is so busy then he wont even realise if he gets ghosted.😎
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he is busy but he texts me everyday or calls when he gets off work or on break.. i once got so defencive and told him, he tells me his reasons of how his day went and what made him busy that day. he tries his best i can feel it i can say communicating is the most important thing. we communicate on things each of us can work on because i too have issues, he listens and work on them. so i hope it turns out well in the end
I love and want your accent it's classy and calming. I needed this video thanks
Lani Lavender thank you 🙏🏾
@@blackswanrelationshipacademy you are very welcome I ran into your channel at the right time
Great video as usual yes there is a big difference between a reason and excuse a great reason would be I can give you the best time that I should right now because I just had a death in the family stuff like that that’s understandable but like you said we spend time on what we consider is valuable when I look for in a guy and especially in the beginning when they’re supposed be on their best behavior is consistency communication and commitment
Lonje Marie absolutely 🙌🏽😘
I love your advice! You are really a pro!
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Thank you so much. This makes so much sense. Been dating someone for 3 years now and I get the “ busy “ a lot. Granted he does have is own business. He is also divorced but still having a problem with his x wife. I have tried to talk to him about it. Things are good for awhile and it just slips back to the way it was before our talk. Realized now he is not ready for a relationship and is emotionally unavailable .
Spot on, ALL facts.
He told me he will tell me everything next time when we meet the next more month. He keeps giving me the busy excuse. Sigh!
Thank you for this! I needed it!😘😘❤️
Great video! Thank you 💕
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We’ve been dating for four months. We saw one another every week and then his business partner said that our relationship is interfering with him being available for the business. He says he’s doing this for our future.
I disagree, there’s no one who’s so busy that they can’t take 3 minutes in their day to text someone important in their lives. So I wouldn’t accept such an excuse that says, ‘I might not be able to text you everyday…’
No one is too busy for what they really really want! PERIOD. Make time find time when a top surgeon can find time to call his wife in the middle of the surgery yes!! to check on her they can too! There is always way around it if heart wants it. So busy is that busy forever when you dealing with more high roller men high income earners? I don't understand this.
Totally agree. Where there is a will there is a way. But some of these men ....
Chengi you look amazing 👌
you are so lovely!
Thank you 🙏🏾
I always wanted to tell you now is a great time ,whenever I comment on any of your videos in any area I do not expect a fast response ,I really don’t you have a wonderful son, and a life to live,Please trust me when I understand it’s called boundaries
Lonje Marie thank you lovely and it’s so funny that most times when you comment I’m free to respond. No pressure honestly! I enjoy your feedback and cherish your opinion 😉😘
My goodness you are so beautiful!! I just watch to gaze at your beauty
Awww bless you! Thank you 🙏🏾 ❤️
Chengi let's talk about blocking some time. When we should we block them and when we should not? Is it appropriate to unblock them? 😅😘
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I don’t want any relationship anymore lam busy studying and focusing with my work iam done with dating anybody until. After l turn 50years .
For me, I can say both. I'm so tired
When they’re too busy they’re just not THAT interested- there may be other women and that’s y they just won’t plan that weekend getaway 1x month
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At the beginning he was always messaging me in the morning and evening and throughout the day, calling me his Queen and saying I'm so special (he still says I'm special now). As soon as he'd be online he would message back. I would respond as well in a timely fashion. Then I started seeing he'd be online and not respond to me, but once he'd "see" my message he'd reply. Then he stopped messaging good morning... then the good night messages went away. He started a new job and I was very understanding. The evening messages returned once I said I enjoy getting them, but only for a couple of days.
Yesterday I asked him of he's ok (he'd not responded to my evening message reply), he said he's a bit busy with work. I told him to take his time and have not heard from him since. No "ok" no goodnight message no good morning, no updates, no cute memes. I still see he's online, but he's not getting in touch.
I will leave it at that, but what should I say when he eventually gets in touch? I'd like him to call me and plan a date. It's been almost a month since he started this new job and hasn't had time to meet.
He is not that in to you. Don't waste your time.
I hope you got a better man & are happy
Because of what’s going on in his life that’s understandable ,In other words because of a very important life event he doesn’t have a lot of time, if we schedule a date even though he had a very good REASON and he flakes ,out or cancels, dealbreaker,I know a young lady who is married ,but the same man many years ago was very very flaky ,now fast forward to the future he presented unflaky,,Now of course they’re married
Lonje Marie wow! This is an awesome testimony x
I really love you :) ur so good in this ☺️
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you are sooooo true!
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Hi Chengi! Your video was really enlightening and I enjoyed listening to you. I’ve been seeing someone for about 3 months now. It started kind of rocky with my feelings of insecurity and uncertainty, but his actions have shown that he wants to be with me. He just moved to my city a few months ago and he’s in a managerial position. I know for a fact that he really is busy and he talks to me about the frustrations of his job. I’m also busy with grad school and work so it actually does not really bother me because I like to have less distractions. Only issue now is I asked where our relationship was going and he said he wasn’t ready for a commitment right now but he’d like to be married in 2 years. I tried to leave that night but he tried everything possible to make me stay. The next time we had a conversation, he said he wanted to be with me and we are together but he needs more time. What confuses me is that we’re doing everything people in relationships do. He’s emotionally supportive and available and I love that he is ambitious. Should I give him more time? I feel like I should also consider other guys since he said he wasn’t ready. But then again, I don’t get to meet a lot of guys who has all the qualities I see in him where I live. Should I continue to invest or end things?
Lena Bambo sounds like he is stringing you along and his exit strategy is to say he wasn’t ready for a commitment but he could also want to settle in and get himself together. I suggest you start dating other people and have an honest conversation with him about it. Tell him that you are enjoying dating him and as you are ready for commitment you will start to date other people with that view and be ready for him to do the same.
Chengi's World thanks so much for the prompt response! That’s such great advice
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Can you make a video on how to deal with the guys you like mom adding on social media
The Linguist Addict your question is not clear Angel.
Video is nice but Sorry not many guy or men will sit down and be realistic about being busy or not into you conversation the world would be. Better place if men had the conversation. Most want to pull away and disappear or slowly fade away. This is the TRUTH
Obama made time for Michelle n kids lol