Antinatalist interview-Amanda

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  • @exploringantinatalismpodcast
    @exploringantinatalismpodcast ปีที่แล้ว +1789

    Before I say anything else, I want to take a moment to say my most sincere thanks to Mark for welcoming me on to the channel, and for allowing me to speak my Antinatalist worldview. I have been a huge fan of Soft White Underbelly for a long time now, and so to be a guest on a channel that I respect & love so much is a huge honor, and a dream come true, thank you!
    I addition, I want to thank all those that have left comments - even the nasty ones - I appreciate all of you for listening, and for engaging with the idea at all, even if you find that you hate it and that it disgusts you. Antinatalism is a difficult, uncomfortable, controversial subject, but one I believe to be of the utmost importance - it is perfect prevention - and so once again, I thank you all for listening.
    A couple of things that I keep seeing in the comments that I would like to address -
    “These are just first world problems” - No. Antinatalism is a global phenomenon - we are everywhere. I have met Antinatalists from nearly every walk of life, race, creed, religion & socioeconomic status. Some of the biggest AN communities online originate from Lebanon, India & Egypt, and some of the best and most well know contemporary Antinatalist philosophy comes from places such as South Africa, Finland & Brazil.
    “Why don’t you just go kill yourself?” - This is hands down the most common response that Antinatalists receive when the subject comes up, so for anyone who thinks that this is some kind of cleaver response, I’m afraid you couldn’t be more mistaken. Killing myself will not end suffering, it will not end procreation, & it will not fix any of the problems here on planet earth that Antinatalism seeks to address. In addition to being an Antinatalist, I am indeed also a Right to Die activist, so yes, I do believe that people should have the right to exit existence, just as much as I believe they should have the right not to have existence imposed in the first place - But there is nothing at all illogical or hypocritical about an Antinatalist remaining alive once we are here - someone else decided that I should exists - I am alive, and once we are alive, the desire to continue to exist is strong, life becomes an addiction, and not one so easily severed. In addition to this, Antinatalists have an important job to do in protecting the unborn from being brought into existence - and so I will remain alive as long as I can to continue that fight.
    Live your life, so that perhaps by your efforts, someone else will not have to endure theirs.
    “She must be miserable!” - I have lived and continue to live a very good and happy life. I’m an artist, I’m a toy collector, I have love in my life, friends, meaning, and I get to live my dreams by being an activist for someting I am passionate about, and doing awesome stuff like being a guest on Soft White Underbelly : ) The point is, when we create someone, we impose the risk of creating someone who will not enjoy being alive, who may experience great suffering, and who will inevitably die - and we do so for no other reason than our own selfish desires - that is not an ethical or necessary risk to take with someone else’s sentient welfare.
    “Is she vegan??” - I have been a vegan for 8 years. Yes, there are fat vegans, what do you know? ; )
    “I love my children and it was the best thing I ever did.” Please love your children, be the best parents you possibly can be. But please also know that by bringing someone else into existence, you have imposed tremendous risks on to the new beings, that they may not in fact be nearly as happy about. You are not in control of who that person will be and or is, and you can not control what they will experience. This is not about YOU, it’s about THEM - those you will create - their suffering, their welfare, their experiences & their eventual death.
    If anyone would like to learn more about Antinatalism, I invite you all to check out a recent essay by Antinatalist philosopher Matti Häyry & I called, Imposing a Lifestyle: A New Argument for Antinatalism, you can find it here: www.cambridge.org/core/journals/cambridge-quarterly-of-healthcare-ethics/article/imposing-a-lifestyle-a-new-argument-for-antinatalism/D31CFBA4E8BB207D7C24A68E415A8AB0#article
    And I also have a show called The Exploring Antinatalism Podcast, which has been running for almost 5 years strong now, and is one of the best places to learn all about the subject and hear from Antinatalist philosophers, artists & activist from all over the world:
    th-cam.com/channels/A8FKcLhdLOHkZtrsGJGUoA.html
    Thank you again Mark for having me on SWU! : )

    • @thuggwaffle8825
      @thuggwaffle8825 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      You’re great.. I’ve had this thought for years now and didn’t know it had a name until now.. I agree with you but I also don’t judge anyone for choosing to reproduce.. If there is a specific name for this version please let me know! Appreciate you!

    • @watkins7086
      @watkins7086 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      Youre doing great work Amanda

    • @Raziel433
      @Raziel433 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      @@thuggwaffle8825 hands down, people are absolutely up for criticism if they know the risks and continue to reproduce regardless of the consequences. I understand situation, but situation and whether you can provide doesn't negate whether the life you create will suffer. At the very least when you create someone, you are committing them to death. And that alone is enough for humans (nay all sentient life) to consider not reproducing.

    • @anniesmomfirst
      @anniesmomfirst ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I have an honestly sincere question-- how do you "culturally mandate" an instinct? It's my understanding that an instinct is, literally by definition, an innate, or natural tendency towards something. Is "instinct" another word that has had the definition changed/updated?

    • @thuggwaffle8825
      @thuggwaffle8825 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      @@anniesmomfirst I don’t think the goal is to mandate.. I think it’s to have more people reconsider if they’re having children for selfish reasons or not

  • @cassandra9581
    @cassandra9581 ปีที่แล้ว +715

    Honestly I think her point of view stems from a lot of compassion, she's so against suffering that she wants to prevent it completely outright by not even allowing an environment for it to exist.

    • @youtuba6711
      @youtuba6711 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well, you're not very nice @@ChiefHandler444

    • @benisboop
      @benisboop ปีที่แล้ว +65

      I think it comes more from self loathing. People like this wish they were never born themselves, and perhaps out of compassion, they wish to see the curse of being lifted from future generations.

    • @happinesstan
      @happinesstan ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Protecting us from [perceived] suffering, is what weakens the individual.

    • @MilahanPhilosophersCorner
      @MilahanPhilosophersCorner ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Life is a trial but worth living.

    • @biglazerz
      @biglazerz ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Probably just a ton of neuroticism. I feel bad for her tbh.

  • @michellestonier2571
    @michellestonier2571 ปีที่แล้ว +734

    I had never heard of this before. Whether you agree or not- she explained her ideas eloquently and it was a fascinating interview!

    • @Taeodoestech
      @Taeodoestech ปีที่แล้ว +9

      r/antinatalism

    • @BoneyRasputin
      @BoneyRasputin ปีที่แล้ว

      She has severe Blue Balls....

    • @mdstanton1813
      @mdstanton1813 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ​@@Taeodoestechdamn right! ❤️✌️

    • @vintagevirgo
      @vintagevirgo ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolutely fascinating, remarkable - she's incredible!

    • @MattyLiam333
      @MattyLiam333 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly. I went into this thinking this will sound crazy, and I won't last 5 mins. 2 mins into it, she had me mezmerized. I had not heard of this either, but hot damn, she nailed it. I think there really is no need for doing what nature will naturally do. Humans are soooooooo temporary. We aren't going to escape the same fate of every other species in the universe. We will inevitably go extinct. It's impossble math literally for us to escape those odds. No need to speed it up, but I sure can't argue with her.

  • @justbe_kind
    @justbe_kind ปีที่แล้ว +92

    I love that your channel is showing more people off of the skid row/drug addict stereotypical past. While their stories deserve a platform, there are so many others who do as well. This is so well done!

  • @amybraun5924
    @amybraun5924 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +75

    I have never heard Mark interrupt a guest this much

    • @b.alibaba
      @b.alibaba 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I was thinking the same….

    • @heatherstewart5260
      @heatherstewart5260 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      it took away from the beauty of this channel. The name of the channel is akin to vulnerability and I don’t think he gave this guest the same opportunity to be vulnerable, without question, as he does other guest.

    • @rhythmoflove2
      @rhythmoflove2 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      He does it ALL the time

    • @morezombies9685
      @morezombies9685 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This chick wants to interrupt the entirety of human existence so I think its fair.

  • @NickiTurano
    @NickiTurano ปีที่แล้ว +788

    Great interview. While I enjoy all the skidrow residents, these philosophy/thought-provoking interviews are fantastic. Keep 'em' coming, please!

    • @RameshRao-w5h
      @RameshRao-w5h ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I agree with you, and I enjoy the diversity and am grateful for you sharing mark.

    • @louern123
      @louern123 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      i wonder if Mark thinks she has mental health issues as many of the others he interviews 😶

    • @Bartgoeschurch
      @Bartgoeschurch ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ⁠🎉
      The human condition is…

    • @jonathaningram8157
      @jonathaningram8157 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      it doesn't provoke any thought in me. It's just a sad person.

    • @DS-oopa
      @DS-oopa ปีที่แล้ว +21

      ​@@Utah.76what in the goddamn hell are you talking about? 🤣

  • @mollyds4528
    @mollyds4528 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    For what it's worth: anybody out there who is unemployed but busy being a caregiver should check with their State Health and Human Services Dept to find out if they can become certified as a PCA (Personal Care Assistant) and then officially get PAID for every hour of caregiving work. Don't do it for free, unless you're independently wealthy!

    • @thesimulation9651
      @thesimulation9651 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      There are people who need care who cannot afford it

    • @1976mcfarlane
      @1976mcfarlane ปีที่แล้ว +19

      ​@@thesimulation9651she means see if there is state funding to get paid. Sometimes there is.

    • @bernicehopkins7747
      @bernicehopkins7747 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      she may be getting paid, but does not consider it employment, considering her high level of education.

    • @JenX1111
      @JenX1111 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No she lives with her mom calls her self a caregiver and is doom and gloom bring everybody into her level of deep depression.. somebody this intelligent should not be unemployed-activism for doom and gloom is A waste of her talents she could be a multi millionnaire with that brain and actually do something beneficial to the planet and truly help others besides shaming people from having kids 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @mollyds4528
      @mollyds4528 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thesimulation9651 Whoops - I guess I failed to mention that the payments can come from a variety of sources, not the person being cared for. PCAs can be paid via a number of insurance plans. In my home State of MN: "Depending on your specific situation, you may receive direct payments from Medicaid or from the state as a family caregiver. As a PCA, you may receive payment directly from the state after submitting some forms, or you receive payment from a qualified home care agency. In the state of Minnesota, PCAs receive payment from a home care agency after their relative or friend has been approved for PCA services." www.dli.mn.gov/pca-cfss

  • @mypromisee
    @mypromisee ปีที่แล้ว +380

    “What is it about the winners that justifies the creation of all of this loss?” Such a valid question that I didn’t realize I was pondering all along. I am a therapist and social worker whose primary job is hearing about some of the worst experiences of people’s lives. I’ve had so many existential questions, but I try not to get lost in finding solutions for all of humanity bc I simply can’t focus on that. While I can only help one person or family at a time, the trajectory for that person could continue long after I’m gone... This was SUCH an interesting video bc it bravely attempts to solve a question many of us have. I love to hear other perspectives bc I don’t have a desire to limit myself to one way of thinking. Thanks for giving me more to think about! ❤ Let’s not forget the point of the channel isn’t to convince anyone of anything, just to see how vastly different other people on this earth can be. We can all agree to disagree respectfully while still appreciating a different perspective.

    • @zigzagwilly
      @zigzagwilly ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Fellow therapist here- & same

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@zigzagwilly You guys get to see all the suffering hidden from the view of most.

    • @reefshadow1
      @reefshadow1 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Simplistic minds will answer this question with religion. Too fearful to allow for other possibilities, and never to allow for the answer that "It's not worth it."

    • @operationsolo2764
      @operationsolo2764 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Why would the existence of loss justify the extinction of victory?

    • @operationsolo2764
      @operationsolo2764 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Or why do inherent realities of the universe need justification?

  • @BeachLover263
    @BeachLover263 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    This is my favorite guest of all time & I completely agree with her. I wish the interviewer would let her speak more without interrupting.

  • @kashmirlamarch5377
    @kashmirlamarch5377 ปีที่แล้ว +1321

    I love that she keeps saying, "I believe" and "this idea." She is not shoving it down your throat. She's stating what she believes very to the point and clear.

    • @Parrotgirl-tattoo
      @Parrotgirl-tattoo ปีที่แล้ว +58

      She clearly stated that she is an activist. So, she most definitely is shoving it down our throat. I have no issues with someone believing a different philosophy, but let the rest of us live our lives our way.

    • @MusicJunkie37
      @MusicJunkie37 ปีที่แล้ว +145

      ​@@Parrotgirl-tattoo Who is preventing you? Gosh you're exaggerating

    • @PeanutButter-19
      @PeanutButter-19 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Yeah, but look what she is saying, not how she's saying it.

    • @cmwh8474
      @cmwh8474 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MusicJunkie37we

    • @gregoryv000
      @gregoryv000 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      exactly!

  • @RasmusKarlJensen
    @RasmusKarlJensen ปีที่แล้ว +555

    This is the angriest I’ve ever seen SWU comments get; even actual, literal violent felons have gotten more sympathy. Her words must’ve really touched a nerve.

    • @Sweatyhorsecock
      @Sweatyhorsecock ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Absolutely agree!

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      @@dannyg52 There is no evidence for any devil, and faith is the excuse people give to believe in something when they have no evidence.

    • @MrJonFerraro
      @MrJonFerraro ปีที่แล้ว

      Any kind of questioning of a mindless societal narrative will do that to people. We live in a world where the phrase "when are you going to have children" is way more often said than "are you going to have children" and even that is said way more often than "do you think it's a good idea to have children".
      This is the response that you get when someone actually puts a mirror up to society and request that it do some thinking about the consequences of the story they are just used to hearing.
      Notice.....most of the angry comments don't actually provide any kind of counterpoint to anything that she said. It's just your typical standard, copy-paste, ad hominem rhetoric. Kind of like children when they hear Santa Claus isn't real. No real substantive counterpoint from the child, just simply anger.
      I don't know of the felons videos that you are referring to, but I'm guessing that those videos don't ask John & Jane Q public to actually think about their behavior and actually CHANGE (which is something that the average person hates).

    • @enhancedutility266
      @enhancedutility266 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No she's been on Reddit for too long and her life sucks that's why she says these things

    • @eh86055
      @eh86055 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      i think for most people, it just comes down to disagreeing with the premises that either a) life is, on average, a negative experience or b) that it's unethical to impose the risk of a negative experience without consent.
      for a), i think most people enjoy life and don't regret being born. even if this isn't the case, the potential for it to become true is always present. antinatalists give more weight to the possibility of negative events, whereas natlaists will give more weight to the possibility of positive ones. (if you don't give weight to either, then you should by default accept the current trajectory, be it positive or negative)
      for b), i'm going to use an analogy. i'm horrible at these so it might not make sense, but i'll try anyway. if i handed you a package and said it either contained ten dollars or ten cockroaches, would you gift it to someone else or throw it in the trash? there's no right answer. if you dispose of it, you're an antinatalist and that's okay, but most people would want to take the risk.

  • @jennifers6560
    @jennifers6560 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I was adopted into a horrible family and wished I was never born many times.

    • @castirondude
      @castirondude ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I did too as a child, but as an adult you have a lot of agency over your life and you don't have to put up with any of these things.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว

      whats that? @@brokenfractal

    • @birdybirdy846
      @birdybirdy846 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It seems to be a very common feeling among adoptees.

    • @jennifers6560
      @jennifers6560 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @birdybirdy846 The problem is that as long as you own a home and have an income, they will literally let anyone have children with absolutely no regard for the education level or mental health status of the parents. My mother was a literal psyco with serious issues and she was a foster parent for like 30 years. She would only foster young children who couldn't talk yet or defend themselves against her. A baby even died in her care and all she got was a 6 month suspension.

    • @oranges557
      @oranges557 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      ​@castirondudethe thing is. The end product you become as an adult is mostly just genetics + upbringing in the first 7 yeara of your life. Most of the time people just run on the autopilot that was installed in them via upbringing and gentics. Most people will basically mever change and if you look closely at the people you know since childhood, youll see more and more characteristics in thel that havent changed at all since childhood. Free will is very limited.

  • @A3Kr0n
    @A3Kr0n 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

    Nobody mentioned Arthur Schopenhauer and his idea that the most moral thing a person can do is not have children.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      whats ur opinion on Schopenhauer?

    • @adamant5906
      @adamant5906 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Schopenhauer was a great thinker. I'm grateful to him.

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It is a lousy opinion.

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The Ultimate form of Love and Compassion is sparing the unborn this Horrible Existence ✅

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@joejackson7601 if this existence is so horrible why are you here

  • @lovethyneibor22736
    @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +180

    “Not having children derives not from dislike, but from love too great to bring them into this world, too limited, too vain, too cruel.”
    ― Michel Onfray

  • @LawrenceAnton
    @LawrenceAnton ปีที่แล้ว +134

    Antinatalism is a compassionate philosophy that wants to see no one come into existence to suffer harm. They never existed to want the life they would have had were they existed, and are not deprived by never coming into existence.

    • @mollyswanner1607
      @mollyswanner1607 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      This whole idea is frightening. I think if she didn't live with this philosophy she might take her own life. We come here to live and have the human experience,,however that may be.

    • @bernicehopkins7747
      @bernicehopkins7747 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      But why live if living brings suffering?

    • @bernicehopkins7747
      @bernicehopkins7747 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not my philosophy, but I think what is an antinatalism thought.

    • @mollyswanner1607
      @mollyswanner1607 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bernicehopkins7747 because we chose to be here and have thus experience!!!

    • @RadRedhead222
      @RadRedhead222 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@bernicehopkins7747Because it also brings love, joy, happiness...

  • @Jaleningle
    @Jaleningle ปีที่แล้ว +289

    You can't help but admire the amount of knowledge and research she accredits this philosophy with.

    • @jackmiddleton2080
      @jackmiddleton2080 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree. It is a strange character trait. There are definitely brilliant people out there that cant accredit anything.

    • @KasumovMedia
      @KasumovMedia ปีที่แล้ว +6

      No

    • @seniorjohnl
      @seniorjohnl ปีที่แล้ว +6

      If it's true that there is a fine line between genius and insanity, she's definitely leaning more into one than the other.

    • @premierecommunications2324
      @premierecommunications2324 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      she has no life so why not spend all of your time just reading and talking and not being productive and curing anyone who is. the most productive thing a person can do is to make life. thank GOD the great inventors and scientists of the past 2,000 years didn't believe this.

    • @christophermd216
      @christophermd216 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wtf are you people talking about she has no clue what she's talking about and what research. Her opinion lol that obviously has huge blind spots to say the least.

  • @MKatyOK
    @MKatyOK 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    It's liberating to even think about Antinatalism. I had never heard of it before today, but the ideas that Amanda talked about made me feel like I DO have some element of control in this seemingly out-of-control suffering-fest; I can choose to make kind compassionate choices regarding those of us who are already here, and at the same time NOT to bring more life (suffering) into the mix. Awesome - Thanks Amanda

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      wow i feel like u enlightened me!
      lets discuss!!

  • @abcdaphne
    @abcdaphne ปีที่แล้ว +130

    As a 31 year old woman, I struggled my whole life with guilt because I knew from a young age I never wanted to be pregnant or birth a child. I’ve always said there are already enough babies in the world without loving families, why would I create another?

    • @Braeden2002
      @Braeden2002 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      Why feel guilt? It’s narcissistic for people to think they are so great they should reproduce when they live pointless lives

    • @JooganJaeger
      @JooganJaeger ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You should go tell that to Africa, India, and China if you feel so strongly about overpopulation

    • @skittlesmcgee
      @skittlesmcgee ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@Braeden2002 Because women get guilt heaped upon them when they decide they don't want to reproduce. Ask me how I know.

    • @richXPT707
      @richXPT707 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What do u mean by that? China doesnt suffer from over population, actually quite the opposite...

    • @JooganJaeger
      @JooganJaeger ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@richXPT707 hahaha yeah sure, Chang.

  • @PlayinWithGhosts
    @PlayinWithGhosts ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Man, this interview and Gummo are my favorites. I think it's awesome that you are branching out into different interviews. Fascinating stuff.

  • @littlebrowngirl4
    @littlebrowngirl4 ปีที่แล้ว +351

    I've never heard of Antinatalism.. but in less that 27mins she's explained it so well and it kinda makes sense in a sad way!

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Glad you liked the video!

    • @beerwolf8518
      @beerwolf8518 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Why is it sad?

    • @accord_aero_r
      @accord_aero_r ปีที่แล้ว

      The sadness comes in the brutal honesty in the fact that humans are the cause of every problem on this planet. Good or "bad," everything else that happens outside of direct human influence is nature. I don't know why people don't consider _human nature_ to be part of that nature when they talk about it, but it is what it is. The only real solution (shrinking our population, at the very least) goes against our innate drive to survive. I'm not an antinatalist, by the way. @@beerwolf8518

    • @littlebrowngirl4
      @littlebrowngirl4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@beerwolf8518 just kinda sad how in 'saving the planet from our harm, and saving future people from harm' basically involves us all just dying out....pretty sad.

    • @beerwolf8518
      @beerwolf8518 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @littlebrowngirl4 I might be able to see that. I'm not sure, though. I've had similar thoughts to antinatilism my whole life and I don't know if having a hypothetical planet without anyone on it is necessarily a sad thing. If we weren't here to experience a planet without people, then I don't think we'd be able to assess it as being sad. Of course these thoughts are hypothetical. There's good and bad in the human experience, so wouldn't getting rid of both just be neutral and practical and not sad?

  • @Kuato
    @Kuato 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Not having kids has more objective reasoning to it. Having kids is ONLY subjective. Subjective = Selfish

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      can i ask you a question?????????

    • @nazberg445
      @nazberg445 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bearing a child and giving birth takes a lot of effort lol, hardly selfish

    • @KatrinaDancer
      @KatrinaDancer 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@nazberg445 But nobody has to do that so it is selfish in the sense that the one doing it has all the power to make that decision. All the pros and cons are weighed by them. The one being birthed had no choice.

    • @nazberg445
      @nazberg445 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@KatrinaDancer You do in fact have to put a lot of effort in, in order to properly bear a child. You must put alcohol and drugs off, and physically care for your womb for circa nine months in order to bear a child - and at the end of it, you must go through excruciating pain in the process of labour. What kind of 'selfish' act carries with it nine months of care, and hours/days of agony?

    • @zyyl1949
      @zyyl1949 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The genes are selfish, a human is just the vehicle for the genes to replicate, the same as any living organism

  • @morinyoung4533
    @morinyoung4533 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    WOW! mark I watch your videos every day, and many others on TH-cam and I’ve never ever commented, this one has struck me the most,
    Thanks Amanda for this, all my life I have felt just as you, yet I never knew about this community, always feeling utterly alone in these thoughts because whenever I bring them up to others they cannot understand, you’ve worded my feelings so clearly, and thanks so much mark for these interviews❤️

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      please please check out « stop having kids » it’s an activist group

    • @melissas.236
      @melissas.236 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My thoughts word for word. I watch SWU daily. I enjoy these videos tremendously. This idea has been floating in my head and I have tried to explain as an animal lover and having a sister in DCF. I have found my calling.

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว

      See my comment @@melissas.236

    • @relaxedyou4059
      @relaxedyou4059 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ridiculous people

  • @ninamo3523
    @ninamo3523 ปีที่แล้ว +213

    "Why are we laying eggs in a broken nest?" -- wow. I'm impressed with her knowledge of so many philosophies. Great interview.

    • @liamford1516
      @liamford1516 ปีที่แล้ว

      no thats just negativity. you can make a piece of turd sound poetic if you tried hard enough. theres no broken nest, just her shitty outlook on the world. imagine thinking evolution is wrong and amanda is right

    • @GetRightOrGetLeft7
      @GetRightOrGetLeft7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@cnambdwas thinking the exact same thing.

    • @haretyper4954
      @haretyper4954 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is baffling to me when all I hear from her is grossly misinformed and misguided uneducated views from an incel basement nerd who knows nothing of human connection because she spent decades on the internet instead of seeing the beauty of living life.

    • @ganemrahman3424
      @ganemrahman3424 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@cnambd If you're a man, you don't have eggs

    • @apolloniusbeitsman5444
      @apolloniusbeitsman5444 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      ​@@cnambdMany people think their nest isn't broken while it is. Most parents are unfit for the the job.

  • @TarotLadyLissa
    @TarotLadyLissa ปีที่แล้ว +207

    As someone who suffers from a chronic pain disorder (CRPS) which causes me 24/7 pain, I can see her point of view very clearly. I deal with suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety and chronic insomnia. All stemming from my CRPS. I do blame my parents sometimes for bringing me into this world. Im 40 now, and as my pain progresses I want doctor assisted euthanasia.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Can we talk more about this philosophy?

    • @TarotLadyLissa
      @TarotLadyLissa ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@lovethyneibor22736 Antinatalism or Euthanasia?

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Both, and not only those two. It seems like "society" is deliberately trying to force people not discuss these types of topics with each other and tbh i don't really understand true reasons behind that, seems like they are trying to make us live certain way and impose things on us
      @@TarotLadyLissa

    • @jessicaxhumari4483
      @jessicaxhumari4483 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I’m so sorry to hear that. I never usually comment on TH-cam but I didn’t see anyone responding yet. So I just wanted to say, I’m sorry you’ve been dealt these cards in life and it may seem like there’s not much to look forward to being in such a difficult position. However, you still have the possibility to make something meaningful come from it. I noticed you have a channel where you talk about your experiences going through crps. Perhaps you can honor the pain you’ve gone through and the person you are today and make something of it by helping others going through the same thing. Also, it depends how open you are to this but as psychedelics are being researched more and more, they’re finding it has a profound ability to help people find bliss in even in extreme pain and near death such as cancer patients. These effects are also possible with advanced meditation. This should be done in a controlled setting but I urge you to research more and try something before giving up. You are young but it is always possible to have a life worth living. I hope you find peace. Sending love

    • @AuroraMeansDawn27
      @AuroraMeansDawn27 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Hugs and love to you hun.

  • @rsmith4407
    @rsmith4407 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I think anyone who feels triggered by what’s she’s saying hasn’t cared for someone for a long while, particularly an older person or a vulnerable person. It’s easy to be pro-natalist is you feel like your good and easy life will always be good and easy. It’s less easy when life is hard and painful or loved ones are suffering. It’s less easy when you can see the plastic, pollution, sickness, exploitation and consider what will happen as your children are adults.

    • @pootuber
      @pootuber 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Gotta really call out the specifics, like all the water damaged sick buildings and mold and the disease toting ticks and debilitating post viral illness and autoimmune disease and the govts enslaving and abusing and robbing people, and the foster system to prison labor pipeline, and low wages and unemployment while the rent keeps on going up, I'm sure the kids will cure all that once they cured their own cancer
      It's not easy, they are simply careless, self serving and willfully ignorant. Their children are their little retirement plans.

  • @nanetten6238
    @nanetten6238 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Wow, this is fascinating and provides a lot of food for thought. It is so nice to hear someone intellectually explain his/her point of view, without screaming and being angry (which is what usually occurs nowadays). Thank you Amanda.

  • @tracygriffiths1960
    @tracygriffiths1960 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I had to watch this to find out what a antinatalist was. A very interesting interview and very thought provocing.

  • @erinerinerinOOO
    @erinerinerinOOO ปีที่แล้ว +291

    I could not disagree with her more on almost every point she made, but I thoroughly enjoyed this interview. I would love to hear more philosophical interviews on this channel. We need more practice listening to people we disagree with.

    • @tammic2016
      @tammic2016 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Love this comment! Our world needs more dialogue.

    • @smellysock4260
      @smellysock4260 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      start a discussion. List some paints on which you disagree. It could be interesting, assuming th ecomments don't get deleted.

    • @dbradford259
      @dbradford259 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You won't see any non-trolls believe in these things.

    • @Miakatzisoverparty
      @Miakatzisoverparty ปีที่แล้ว +17

      What are your counterarguments then?

    • @smellysock4260
      @smellysock4260 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It looks like it has become a social issue that attracts activists, but I don't know much about it. I was hoping somebody would start a discussion without imbeciles trying to disrupt it. I don't know anything about it other than what's in this video. @@Miakatzisoverparty

  • @jamieluce5960
    @jamieluce5960 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    As a society we aren't caring for the human life that already exists. I do wonder why we are compelled to create more.

    • @jennifergreen6109
      @jennifergreen6109 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      exactly

    • @grapesodabanked
      @grapesodabanked 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Speak for yourself, buddy.

    • @classygentlemangaming8400
      @classygentlemangaming8400 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      so humanity doesn't go extinct

    • @robertrainford6754
      @robertrainford6754 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Humans haven’t evolved past there primitive reproductive instincts.

    • @LucyMorningstar999
      @LucyMorningstar999 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Nobody is "compelled" to do anything. It is a personal choice. If you want kids great, of you don't great. Live and let live. It's really that simple.

  • @PageantQueenPixie
    @PageantQueenPixie ปีที่แล้ว +139

    I’m childfree and a big reason for that is because I don’t want to give a child my generational trauma, my mental issues, or sign up them for suffering/having to survive in this society when they really didn’t sign up for any of it. I often feel like I didn’t sign up for the things I was born with/born into (even though I know from a spiritual sense we choose our families and lives). This was a really interesting conversation. I’m glad other people want to populate the Earth but it’s a no for me lol

    • @stephybabs3233
      @stephybabs3233 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      You were created for a reason and with a specific purpose. I pray that you find that purpose in your life.

    • @discernment9279
      @discernment9279 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I totally understand you. In time you may change your mind and many people don’t have children for a similar reason and other reasons. I love your honesty Lil Sis

    • @VinluvAntonHandesbukia
      @VinluvAntonHandesbukia ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sounds like a skill issue really.

    • @MultiLex101
      @MultiLex101 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@VinluvAntonHandesbukia exactly but at least she admits it, well implicitly that is. The problem is people who have kids without a second thought but have seldom pondered what it takes to be a good parent.

    • @mintyblue3819
      @mintyblue3819 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      We do not choose our families or what we are given, God does. I hope you will know him before it's too late ❤

  • @missymaier8954
    @missymaier8954 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I’ve had thoughts along these lines for years. I didn’t know there was a term for it. Thank you.

    • @potter5647
      @potter5647 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      do you believe that life is a "gift"?

    • @potter5647
      @potter5647 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ... of krap

    • @Whocares158
      @Whocares158 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Welcome.
      😊🩷🩵

  • @heathersutherland8225
    @heathersutherland8225 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    Totally agree with a lot of things she has expressed. My husband and I are childfree. We don’t believe there is a necessity for us as couple to create our own offspring. We don’t follow the need to procreate. There is already enough suffering in the world.

    • @AsturiasCeltic
      @AsturiasCeltic ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Procreating in humans seems to be all in the ego and think it's brings them everlasting life in procreating and keeping their human-made surnames to carry on. I am child-free also.

    • @SalMcc20
      @SalMcc20 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Same!

    • @candaceewell9582
      @candaceewell9582 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Sure we should not try to change our ways….let’s just all die! Sounds normal 🤨

    • @niaglasgow2807
      @niaglasgow2807 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@candaceewell9582 we’re all gonna die anyway (duh). And is there a way to magically fix all of humanity’s issues within 9 months?

  • @FeistyMimi024
    @FeistyMimi024 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    One of your MOST interesting interviews!! Would like to see more on this topic.

  • @wildlifegardenssydney7492
    @wildlifegardenssydney7492 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Thank you for your interview Amanda. Your thoughts and views were so calmly, concisely and well articulated. I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts, and the details of your thought processes; indeed I was was enriched by them.

  • @marthajohnston4334
    @marthajohnston4334 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    As someone who's experienced excruciating suffering, I would agree with Schopenhauer that the happiness and pleasure of someone else or a collective does not justify the excruciating suffering of any undeserved. I am certain that there is suffering so extreme that the idea of there being a self-justifying antithesis to this serves as being a wholly self-deceptive and self-deceiving presupposition.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      wow i feel like u enlightened me!
      lets discuss!

    • @marthajohnston4334
      @marthajohnston4334 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @lovethyneibor22736 sure. What do you want to discuss?

  • @graciesmom62
    @graciesmom62 ปีที่แล้ว +315

    I learn something each time I watch an episode. This “anti natalism” is a totally new concept to me. Thanks for the education, Mark and Amanda !

    • @jonathaningram8157
      @jonathaningram8157 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      She is basically saying she doesn't want you to exist and you are ok with that ? Do you consider your life so little ?

    • @adelMN2
      @adelMN2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@jonathaningram8157 you clearly don't understand the point, so i invite you to try harder when arguing against antinatalist because saying that she doesn't want you to exist is disregarding the argument and therefore dishonest.

    • @richardsmall5265
      @richardsmall5265 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@jonathaningram8157 that’s not what she’s saying at all. Did you watch the video?

    • @tracey0820
      @tracey0820 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@jonathaningram8157she’s not saying she wants ppl to pass away. Listen

    • @fufurabumbacka
      @fufurabumbacka ปีที่แล้ว

      ​​@@jonathaningram8157I dont want you to exist, as you are kind a stupid.

  • @Nubbby
    @Nubbby 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    She is captivating to listen to. She makes great points. I don't know where I sit with this idea but damn... Please bring her back to talk more.

    • @badmedgirl
      @badmedgirl 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      What are your concerns with the idea? I’d love to know ❤

    • @Nubbby
      @Nubbby 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@badmedgirl Good question, but first, tell me yours. I'm interested to know!

    • @badmedgirl
      @badmedgirl 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Nubbby I don’t have concerns. I think it’s a very moral reasonable philosophy.

  • @careya
    @careya ปีที่แล้ว +186

    I’ve never heard of this before. Fascinating guest and I loved her non-combative presence.

    • @quentinkumba6746
      @quentinkumba6746 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Is it really non-combative or it a steel fist in a kid glove. At the end of the day she wants everything of value to be done away with and that includes you, your family, your friends, even your pet. What is more she likes her own life enough, not to end it, but she believes that all other life has only negative value, and that your assessment of your own life on your own value is worthless, because no matter how much you think you want to live, her opinion, is it on balance you’d be better off dead. And your opinion and your experience is meaningless to her.
      From a psychological point of view (and I am a psychotherapist). She is full of self hatred and because she is mainly unaware of it she is projecting it out onto everybody else, and her conclusion is that all life must end.
      She is one messed-up gal!

    • @Montezuma0
      @Montezuma0 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@quentinkumba6746You’re completely wrong. She’s not some psychopath that wants other people to die. She said this explicitly. Her goal is to convince people to not procreate. You need to develop some better critical thinking skills and listen non-judge mentally instead of assuming the worst of people.

    • @quentinkumba6746
      @quentinkumba6746 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Montezuma0 - hey chicken, I think you’ve got me mixed up with someone else, I never said that she was a psychopath and I don’t think she is one, I think she’s a misanthrope, that is she hates people, starting with herself, that is not psychopathy and I’m not saying it is, psychopaths do not hate themselves on the contrary they are very often highly narcissistic.
      And also it’s a little naive to think because someone says they are not full of hatred but wants to end all life that they are telling the truth.

    • @Montezuma0
      @Montezuma0 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@quentinkumba6746 Ok fine, but your initial comment saying that she thinks life only has negative value is incorrect. Antinatalism doesn’t reject the idea that life can also be great, they just say that overall the suffering outweighs the good. A key component of antinatalism is also that not procreating is better than procreating because not experiencing suffering is better even if it means not experiencing joy as well. It’s a pretty solid argument. Maybe she does hate life, but that doesn’t make antinatalism less attractive.

    • @quentinkumba6746
      @quentinkumba6746 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Montezuma0 - you are wrong about the basis of antinatalism, you are close but you have not quite understood it. You need to look up Benetar’s asymmetry argument. It is not about the balance of good and bad in life at all, it’s about this:
      1. the presence of pain is bad;
      2. the presence of pleasure is good;
      however
      3. the absence of pain is good, even if that good is not enjoyed by anyone;
      4. the absence of pleasure is not bad unless there is somebody for whom this absence is a deprivation
      The first of many problems with this argument is it’s logical conclusion that a life that would be 99.9999999% pleasure and 0.0000001% pain is a life that is still not worth living. That seems like a very extreme position and hardly credible.
      It also boils the whole of the future of life in the universe down to an asymmetrical cost-benefit analysis of pleasure and pain, where all that matters is pain, but for most people life is about a lot lot more than that. It seems extremely arrogant for anyone to assume that from their little planet in the middle of nowhere after being a toy reviewer on TH-cam they have the wisdom to know to stop the next few billion years of evolution and know that they have done the right thing.
      Let them have spaceships and they will travel the universe destroying any planets that look like they may ever develop life. What a legacy to be proud of!
      For those who see life in such a reductionist and nihilistic way though, I can imagine that it can become pretty miserable. However it is certainly the case that antinatalists, despite their misery, all want to ensure that they are not the ones who miss out on life. That’s just for the unmade, you know, the ones with no voice, who without consent the antinatalists claim to speak for.
      It is purely and simply a projection of unconscious self-hatred onto the rest of life, it’s moderated just enough not to have their own lives destroyed by it (they fall short of killing the living), but it is the same self-hatred that drives school shooters and incels to run amock, just with less commitment and courage.
      Finally it’s atheism and materialism gone mad. It’s throwing religion out but throwing the baby out with the bath water. It’s what Nietzsche was warning us about when he spoke about the death of God it’s what Carl Jung was warning is about when he spoke of man’s need to embrace the feminine and have a myth to live by. This is the opposite - despising the feminine, despising the body, leading a sterile and meaningless life. Elevating simplistic all or nothing thinking and giving it the power of a God, to destroy the world. All these people care about is pleasure and pain. What about love? What about connection with others? What about growth and transcendence or at least transformation. All of these things, that elevate us and make life worth living are worthless garbage to these people.
      There is something deeply sick and perverse about this philosophy. I am an atheist from a long line of atheists and I don’t like to use the word evil, but this comes close to deserving that name. They are one small, obvious logical step away from wanting to kill everybody and end all life on the planet. Their philosophy inevitably leads to that conclusion, to save the unborn those that would give birth must die. Give them AI and bio-weapons and how long do you think we would last? To properly understand their philosophies danger imagine what might happen if they had the levers of power. It would not be pretty. It would be a holocaust like the world has never imagined.
      These people are not your friends, they are in fact like the Cenobytes, enticing you with a pretty puzzle whilst they lead you through the doors of hell.

  • @meagon1020
    @meagon1020 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    What an intellectual being. I enjoyed listening to Amanda and learning about anti natalism. Never knew there was a formal name to this.

    • @adamant5906
      @adamant5906 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Read Schopenhauer, Epicurus, Zapffe for more information on the history of antinatalist thought.

    • @zigzagwilly
      @zigzagwilly ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ditto

    • @Chris-Ian
      @Chris-Ian ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@adamant5906Also Julio Cabrera, David Benatar, Thomas Ligotti

    • @adamant5906
      @adamant5906 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Chris-Ian I've read Conspiracy Against the Human Race several times. Excellent book. I'm also familiar with Benatar.

    • @Chris-Ian
      @Chris-Ian ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@adamant5906 I'm sure you are, I was just helping you with the list of authors that the op should read

  • @lavinjustesen9863
    @lavinjustesen9863 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Thank you so very much, Amanda and this channel for sharing this perspective. Incredibly well articulated and thought provoking. I cannot thank you for that enough!

  • @HND505
    @HND505 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    As a fellow long-time antinatalist here, I am beyond ecstatic to see someone of like-mind speak so articulately and intelligently on the most important topic. It blows my mind daily in the world to see how few people get it. Thank you Amanda!

  • @Mamacita-6
    @Mamacita-6 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    As a child I recall being so angry for being born without my permission.

    • @lucioh1575
      @lucioh1575 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Anger often comes from a feeling of injustice.

    • @susanw489
      @susanw489 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you still feel angry today?

    • @shadowsinmymind9
      @shadowsinmymind9 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @pamelaliegh
      @pamelaliegh ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I’m still pissed my bio Mom was too much of a coward to get an abortion. The world does not need more children , there are too many to protect adequately.

    • @Lalaafastroli
      @Lalaafastroli 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@lucioh1575 Actually…no. Anger simply does not emerge from injustice. Trying to sound deep and intelligent is really cringe. It’s perfectly normal feel angry at the thought of being born.

  • @honeythunder
    @honeythunder ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Mark - this is a great interview. I’d love for a follow up - I have so many questions. I find this concept fascinating. Thank you both!

    • @inkling1788
      @inkling1788 ปีที่แล้ว

      FOLLOW-UP with a SEQUEL, please---more AMANDA!! She is a modern-day warrior and HER mind is definitely NOT for rent to any God or Government!!!

  • @argoshikan
    @argoshikan ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Thomas Ligotti for the win. The only way to truly end human suffering is to stop having humans to experience suffering.

  • @veganatheistandmore
    @veganatheistandmore ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I love my children too much to have them.
    Thanks for having Amanda on the show!

  • @oturan22
    @oturan22 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I had similar thoughts, but from a Christian perspective. At an early age, around 8 or so, I was convinced hell was a real place and through behavior a real consequence, I was angry with my parents for having a child knowing that eternal suffering was a real possibility. I held on to that anger for years

    • @sebp9882
      @sebp9882 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Well at least as a Christian you can lead a life that will avoid this eternal suffering

    • @isobel64
      @isobel64 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      but as a Christian you know how to avoid that

    • @grapesodabanked
      @grapesodabanked 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Well, that's only a convincing argument if you believe that eternal suffering in hell outweighs eternal joy in heaven. They gave you an equal chance at both.

    • @cyrusthe0ther795
      @cyrusthe0ther795 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@grapesodabanked how is it equal if different people have different desires, and the proclivities for enjoyement in things are high in sinful activity

    • @oranges557
      @oranges557 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@sebp9882no he wont because its all fake

  • @allisonnicole7311
    @allisonnicole7311 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    It’s really nice to see a happy intellectual for a change. It was nice to feel light watching your channel instead of feeling heavy like usual - keep it up!

  • @SecretSquirrelDunDun
    @SecretSquirrelDunDun ปีที่แล้ว +135

    My first pregnancy was ectopic and I almost died. My next two pregnancies were lost because my blood is too thick (antiphospholipid syndrome) and resulted in pulmonary embolism- blood clots in both lungs and I almost died again. My heart was so heavy. I think some of us are programmed with chemical responses and instincts to procreate, while others are not. I had someone I love present this idea and while I didn't completely agree, I still welcomed and respected their views. That's love, underlying. The root of what I took from it was their attempt at love. That friend has since left this world and passed away, but I love them even more for trying to comfort me. We can love and respect each other. Take a deep breath...

    • @amber76OH
      @amber76OH ปีที่แล้ว +8

      This is, though quite sad, a very beautiful sentiment. 🖤

    • @TheScotian82
      @TheScotian82 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      thats really sad and I wish you well in the future, you deserve it.

    • @queball685
      @queball685 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@merrynothing3204 if you have health issues that will get passed down to your children and cause them to live a life of misery then i can understand that. But if you're a completely healthy adult that has the means to provide for a child i don't think it's selfish to have children. If anything, i could even make the opposite argument that it is selfish NOT to have kids. Every individual has the power to reduce suffering in the world. If you truly want to reduce suffering in the world, the best thing you can do is dedicate your life to making the world a better place, and to have kids and raise them in the best possible way and instill values in them that their duty in this planet is to lessen the suffering around them. Off course it's not that simple and things can go wrong, but it's still the best course of action as humans are not going to die out any time soon.

    • @the_courtneyb
      @the_courtneyb ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I agree. Sorry you went through that. I lost 4 pregnancies, and had to find a way to understand “why me.”

    • @calliecollins7702
      @calliecollins7702 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I have APLS too. Nine pregnancies, four living children. I got there with medical help and am now a foster parent. There are many paths. I hope you find peace.

  • @lovethyneibor22736
    @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +249

    “To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house.”
    ― Peter Wessel Zapffe

    • @CosmosArchipelago
      @CosmosArchipelago ปีที่แล้ว

      Bullshit.

    • @debhurd8898
      @debhurd8898 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes.

    • @SixSonn
      @SixSonn ปีที่แล้ว +14

      He could have never had that thought if he weren't born nor could have you left this comment of his quote.
      Do you not see the irony in this entire belief?

    • @redhouse3994
      @redhouse3994 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@SixSonn What's your point? Are you saying suffering is justified because we get to quote things?

    • @taliaspencer9093
      @taliaspencer9093 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      The other side of suffering is love & joy. Through the hells i have survived, i have said thank you to the universe for all of them because they have given me a stronger ability to love. They have put me in a place to look into the eyes of others & share that love. Love makes suffering worthwhile.

  • @tangie06_33
    @tangie06_33 ปีที่แล้ว +286

    I was SO prepared to be mad about this because I completely disagree with antinatalism on every level but I'm not mad. Amanda represents her beliefs very well. She's affable, well spoken and approachable. So many people are so confrontational especially if their beliefs go against the grain. It's nice to see someone so calm and reasonable.

    • @ikimus
      @ikimus ปีที่แล้ว +48

      So you like the suffering and struggles that goes on in this life?

    • @JoeyPerp
      @JoeyPerp ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@ikimus Through suffering and struggles, we can find meaning. It's not that suffering and struggling is ideal or even a good thing, it's what you make of it that matters.

    • @Sarahizahhsum
      @Sarahizahhsum ปีที่แล้ว +65

      ​@@JoeyPerpBefore we were born, we had no need for pleasure.

    • @carolynharmon7074
      @carolynharmon7074 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      All anyone should do is share their belief's, you can't or should not Bullie someone to believe what they believe.

    • @JoeyPerp
      @JoeyPerp ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@Sarahizahhsum and when we die we won't have any need for it either. Make the most of it while you can.

  • @blueninja115
    @blueninja115 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You learn something new with every SWU video.
    I'd argue that SWB is the best channel youtube has seen in a long time. Mark gets them rolling, and they take it the rest of the way. Open, low pressure, and raw.

    • @austinr.5989
      @austinr.5989 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Too bad YT doesn’t agree with you and actually completely deleted Amanda’s original antinatalist channel, with hundreds of videos..

  • @TaylorBKnits
    @TaylorBKnits ปีที่แล้ว +167

    She is so well-spoken and I love how well she handles Mark constantly interrupting her 😅

    • @kevinholcomb292
      @kevinholcomb292 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @christinag91686
      @christinag91686 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Facts! That was really annoying. I always enjoyed these interviews… this one made me truly dislike Mark.

    • @elliotw3904
      @elliotw3904 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      He wasn’t that bad 😂

  • @RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea
    @RealMexFoodShouldntGiveUDrrhea ปีที่แล้ว +82

    Interesting. I’ve never heard of this. I vowed to never have children at 10, and I’m 35 still without kids. I don’t see the point for myself. But this woman pushes it further. Very interesting interview

    • @Whocares158
      @Whocares158 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Embrace Antinatalistsm.
      To spear children from Suffering, Pain and Death.

    • @sjp4u338
      @sjp4u338 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @user-tn6ec1ud8mhow did you know so early on that you wanted no children?

    • @debbiemohekey1509
      @debbiemohekey1509 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @user-tn6ec1ud8m One of my daughters pretty much said the same thing. Her little sister decided to have her share as well as her own. Didn't help the environment,or mankind, or the possibility of a less-than-perfect human being born who might end up suffering because of some surprise medical condition. Only refrain from having kids if you don't want to be a parent, cos someone will make up for your shortfall, especially with abortion laws changed.

  • @Sabrina-LosAngeles
    @Sabrina-LosAngeles ปีที่แล้ว +229

    Fascinating interview! It is amazing to learn how people think, what drives them and how they look at things without judgement. The intellect is a powerful thing ~

    • @TheScotian82
      @TheScotian82 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      its also very dangerous which is why "with great power..."

    • @antmanv05
      @antmanv05 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      We all judge. There's nothing wrong with judging. It's an important thing to judge, in fact. Otherwise how would you decerm anything? When you make a decision, you're judging. It's normal and imperative to judge.

    • @Sabrina-LosAngeles
      @Sabrina-LosAngeles ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TheScotian82 100pct

    • @Sabrina-LosAngeles
      @Sabrina-LosAngeles ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@antmanv05 agree, but in my view there is a difference between judging for yourself vs passing judgement on somebody else without being curious what led them to have certain view points. I personally may or may not agree with it but I don't judge them how they think.

    • @leneo1731
      @leneo1731 ปีที่แล้ว

      @montecarlo
      I'm all about freedom of speech.
      Being who you are no matter what.
      For instance I've been trying to argue with all the people who feel the need to point out that Rebecca is a man. So many people in here have a problem with Rebecca being referred to as she, her and so on.
      I've tried to ask them why it even bother them so much but I don't really get an answer.
      In mu head it's as easy as if someone calls them self Rebecca and wants to be called she, I do that.
      It's just as easy as calling them he.
      It doesn't matter if the person has beard and looks like the most masculine person. If they see themselves as a she, fine by me.
      However.
      There are certain things and views I have a hard time to accept.
      One example is Sweden at the moment. There's a lot of burning of The Book of Allah. (I hope that's the correct name in English. If not, I very much apologise to everyone.)
      As I said I'm all about freedom of speech.
      I just don't see what burning The Book of Allah, the Bible, or a country's flag has to do with freedom of speech.
      When you take something that's so important to so many people and you violate that thing, that's just not okay.
      I judge them because I feel like they do this ha like that for one reason alone and that's to provoke. And I don't like that.
      I don't sympathise with that kind of provocation.
      I used to think it was fine to use the t-shirt Sid Vicious used to wear with the huge swastika symbol on it.
      In all reality the swastika is just an old agent symbol for the sun or something. So I didn't see the problem.
      Hitler took some old symbol and made his own meaning to it.
      We all know it ment something else before. So what's the big deal?
      The big deal as I understood after a while is that thousands and thousands of people lived through the hell of World War II where countries were occupied by the Germans.
      Those countries flags were taken down during the war. They were replace by Hitler's swastika flags. All important building had those flag on them and the symbol was used to a lot of things. So obviously it's horrible for the people who lived during 5 years of war and saw that symbol everywhere.
      Can yiu imagine going through such an horrible thing as war and then meeting a person wearing a t-shirt with the same symbol which is representative of the horrors Hitler stood for?
      So in my opinion yiu just can't go through life totally without judgement of people.
      It's not a good thing if you do that in my opinion.
      Some people need to be judged because their thoughts are so dangerous is can actually hurt lots of people.
      Like people who become radicalised.
      It's dangerous.
      They need to new judged.
      But then again we need to show understanding because we need to try and not push them even further away then they are.
      This is such an incredibly difficult and enormous topic it's almost impossible to know what's right.

  • @laurak2971
    @laurak2971 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    Wow, shocked and glad to see Amanda up here on mainstream internet. Not a lot of people know about Antinatalism and a lot of us find it difficult to talk about because the backlash from people around you is substantial. I've been Antinatalist for about 5 years and people look at me like I've got 2 heads for saying I think it's morally wrong to have children.

    • @sisypheanexistence8955
      @sisypheanexistence8955 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I've literally never dared to say it IRL in the 10 years I've known about (and agreed with) AN. 😧 but yeah that's the reaction I'd expect

    • @watkins7086
      @watkins7086 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Ive found people to be more open to it in real life than I would have guessed

    • @lisasafiullah8774
      @lisasafiullah8774 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Makes sense. My perspective was there were already enough kids existing who needed parents. Why bring more into the world. I don't have kids myself didn't want the responsibility of potentially messing some one up or passing on Crohns disease which I have.

    • @TrollHunterxXx
      @TrollHunterxXx ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Just because you don’t want kids … doesn’t mean it’s morally wrong for people to have children 😂. So dumb

    • @jansmitowiczauthor78
      @jansmitowiczauthor78 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      ​@@TrollHunterxXxIs that all you got from this-- simple *personal desire*? The inherently unethical nature of breeding in a country filled with orphans is quite obvious-- not to mention, maybe listen to the thing first before criticizing it?

  • @DebyNieto-kq2ci
    @DebyNieto-kq2ci ปีที่แล้ว +110

    I agree with a lot of what she says. All of the child abuse, animal abuse, elderly abuse, hate, rape, murder, prejudice, etc., that is quickly and progressively growing worse by the day, and for what ? Because of bodies filled with hate, insecurities, jealousy, mental derangement. We have created our own non caring world that we are trashing, abusing and murdering everyday.

    • @andrethevegan_
      @andrethevegan_ ปีที่แล้ว +8

      well don't procreate

    • @themoonsharksquirrel8937
      @themoonsharksquirrel8937 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      And yet the world is safer than it ever was. Freaking internet makes us think we're in constant danger ✌️

    • @therivergiveth
      @therivergiveth ปีที่แล้ว +26

      What evidence do you have that those things are getting worse? You might try cracking a history book.

    • @TheScotian82
      @TheScotian82 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      😭😭😭
      That is so outstandingly shortsighted.
      "created our own non-caring world"
      Open your eyes. "We"(some of us) have created all varieties of beauty and actual GOOD in this world.
      You choose to only look at the negatives...I thought I was a pessimist.

    • @TheScotian82
      @TheScotian82 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@therivergivethObjectively better in nearly every way and yet..😬

  • @bluelove33
    @bluelove33 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    I relate to parts of the concept. Especially feeling different from everyone else as a kid. I remember my grandmother giving me a handmade quilt as a small child and one of my older sister’s friends saying “now you can pass it in to your kids when you’re older”. 😳 The impending doom I felt as a small child thinking I HAD to have kids was so heavy! I actually cried and ran to my mother to confirm it and thank goodness she said I didn’t have to have kids if I didn’t want to. WHEW! 😅 Throughout my life, it never made sense to procreate and I always looked at it as there are already so many unloved & uncared-for kids. If I really want one, I could save one of them. Never happened, but I’m 50 now & happily kid-free! 😂

    • @austinr.5989
      @austinr.5989 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      You’re a gem 💎

    • @Boho_Gypsy
      @Boho_Gypsy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Same! I was that little girl too. I grew up and became a childfree environmentalist. But in my 40s I decided to adopt a 6 year old who is my world now! There are so many children already here that need homes! ❤

  • @missytheiss266
    @missytheiss266 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    She is very articulate. I have never considered this.

  • @elsugga3736
    @elsugga3736 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    When she said that most people just want to have sex and don’t necessarily want kids I felt that because you can tell when a parent hates their kids

    • @sickofemo
      @sickofemo ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Yeah, it breaks my heart how often I hear parents talking shit about there own children, it really pissed me off, those kids didn't ask to be born.

    • @tinasmith7630
      @tinasmith7630 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@sickofemo U correct. It's extremely selfish n true narc behaviour. Abusive n leaves life long scars on innocent children's lives.

    • @TheFabFarmer
      @TheFabFarmer ปีที่แล้ว +11

      We evolved to find sex so pleasurable so we will continue to procreate. That’s it….that’s why we have sex not the other way around.

    • @elsugga3736
      @elsugga3736 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TheFabFarmer we have birth control tho, also you don’t need to ejaculate inside the woman everytime you penetrate her

    • @shake1602
      @shake1602 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      HARD truth

  • @mothmustardseed1858
    @mothmustardseed1858 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    More philosophers as well versed as amanda, please! This was an intellectual treat- I love being exposed to new worldviews

    • @natalidolll
      @natalidolll ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah as Nietzsche was crazy too...

  • @Sippy2118
    @Sippy2118 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    “What are the winners achieving?”-- great question.

  • @r0guedoll
    @r0guedoll ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I’m so grateful I got to hear Amanda’s perspective; she speaks very clearly and respectfully. I have shared similar thoughts since I was very young and still do.
    I experience mixed feelings when I hear someone is expecting or has given birth because I can see both the beauty and tragedy of life. I prefer to focus my efforts on encouraging people to make sure they provide their children with the best lives they possibly can; emotionally, financially, and mentally.
    When I was a kid, I asked my parents if I could have a younger sibling and after some time my little brother was born! Anytime I see him sad, sick, or in any sort of pain I can’t help but think he wouldn’t have to be experiencing that if we didn’t bring him here to begin with
    It’s a very bitter-sweet reality we have to deal with

    • @beerwolf8518
      @beerwolf8518 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It's good to see more people comment on their antinatalist belief. I had formed this belief as a kid and have heard only the most vitriolic ridicule from family and friends. It's comforting to know there are others that understand what it is I'm thinking here.

  • @HenningHitzDingerz77
    @HenningHitzDingerz77 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    THIS is the most fascinating interview I've seen you do, Mark! I actually stopped following on FB because, although you are a fantastic interviewer, there's only so much addiction and sex work and sadness I, personally, can take. Amanda's interview popped up on my Tiktok, and I saw several clips on the tiktoks you posted and they brought me here! I would love more interviews with these types of interviewees!

    • @joshklaver47
      @joshklaver47 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Many sex workers genuinely enjoy their job. It's a mistake to think that they're all exploited or miserable. People have every right to use their own bodies to make a living.

    • @brijmsn
      @brijmsn ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@joshklaver47 Have you used a sex worker?

    • @joshklaver47
      @joshklaver47 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@brijmsn You don't use a sex worker. You pay them in exchange for their services, same as any other contractor. No different from seeing a doctor or therapist.

    • @brijmsn
      @brijmsn ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@joshklaver47 If you are so wealthy that what they are charging is chump change to you, I would argue, yes, you are "using" them. You pay them to let you do whatever you want to them essentially. Sure they may have some limits but for the most part, especially if its a woman, she just wants to survive the encounter so she will be as agreeable as possible. Paying a sex worker, especially a female sex worker is exploitation because you know she is in a compromising situation, she might have kids to feed, she is being used like a rag doll by YOU.

    • @joshklaver47
      @joshklaver47 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brijmsn Wow, I don't know how you fit so much ignorance in one comment. Clearly your only knowledge of sex workers is the propaganda spread by conservatives and religious groups. Most sex workers enjoy their work, and choose to do it instead of other jobs. They aren't being used or exploited, and claiming they are is just condescending. They're adults, doing what they want with their own bodies, and generating income at the same time. There is nothing wrong with that. Save your religious crap for people who care. Sex work is a totally legitimate occupation.

  • @johntirado-glover3574
    @johntirado-glover3574 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Fascinating conversation & individual. We definitely need more time with her.
    Thanks Mark.

  • @michellemuenich7432
    @michellemuenich7432 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I love being a parent, but I also think a lot of people who yearn to be parents won't consider adoption, which tells me that parenting isn't what they long for, but continuing their genetic line.
    Adoption is a great way to love children without increasing the population.
    And for anyone who will accuse me of preaching something I don't practice, I have two children via adoption 😊

  • @David_four_twenty
    @David_four_twenty ปีที่แล้ว +27

    What an an awesome thought provoking interview. Thanks Mark and Amanda.

  • @EricGarringer
    @EricGarringer ปีที่แล้ว +87

    A fascinating, well-spoken and knowledgeable interviewee.
    I love this channel because it allows us to hear and appreciated these incredible stories even if we don’t personally adhere to the same viewpoints. Mark, you’re a treasure to the world.

  • @austinr.5989
    @austinr.5989 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Amanda is absolutely a winner in the Antinatalist community!

    • @thepostofficeprince8819
      @thepostofficeprince8819 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      What an accomplishment, lol

    • @snowviolet508
      @snowviolet508 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      What’s ironic about your comment is, if what you hope for happens, there is no point to you or Amanda ever having existed.

    • @austinr.5989
      @austinr.5989 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@snowviolet508 Yes, and tragically so. Are you trying to imply that somehow refutes the goal of preventing mass suffering..? Or that if the inverse happens and life continues to exist forever, we will have had a “point”..? That is too silly.

    • @austinr.5989
      @austinr.5989 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@thepostofficeprince8819 the prevention of unnecessary suffering certainly is great thing! Spread the good word friend!

  • @kyliemack1131
    @kyliemack1131 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Ive felt this way for a long time but never had a name to put to it.... very interesting and validating to hear it described so eloquently. Thank you for this.

  • @llg3pe
    @llg3pe ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I can’t blame her. Life is nothing but bullshit, pain, and suffering.
    It’s all about entropy. In the end, entropy wins.

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน

      when you say "Life" you just mean "my life"

    • @llg3pe
      @llg3pe หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jacktinney no I mean yours too

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@llg3pe prove it

    • @llg3pe
      @llg3pe หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jacktinney prove what? Why don’t you prove my life is when you said “yours”.
      You don’t have anything better to do than reply to my comment? Don’t like what I write then scroll on by.
      Re-read my last sent in my original comment. It’s a truth of physics and natural science.

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@llg3pe You can only experience your own life. so if "Life sucks", you mean "my life sucks"

  • @PleaseDoNotLOL
    @PleaseDoNotLOL ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Amanda! So glad to see you on here! I'm an efilist living in Chicago as a caregiver too.

    • @combinero.YT_deletes_comments.
      @combinero.YT_deletes_comments. ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Good to meet efilist. I am efilist too, from Ukraine, live in Kiev, but just for studies, my true home is in Pryluky.

    • @Darkendlezzz
      @Darkendlezzz ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m also an efilist

    • @JenniferRusso5
      @JenniferRusso5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm also efilist.

    • @russiansoul6919
      @russiansoul6919 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We are all efilists^°^

    • @leiapeison
      @leiapeison ปีที่แล้ว

      Keep going!

  • @imakitty1797
    @imakitty1797 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I think one of the first steps is for us to accept that we only procreate for selfish reasons. If people understood that, then maybe they could consider if it’s the moral thing to do.

  • @capt_howdy
    @capt_howdy ปีที่แล้ว +31

    HOLY SHIT IT'S THE DRAGON BALL LADY!!!! I knew I recognized her. She was always very well-spoken and articulate, but I didn't realize just how _smart_ she was! ❤

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว

      hi bro hru!

    • @nikibu1
      @nikibu1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you happen to know the name she went by when she was making those videos? I searched but couldn't find her videos...

    • @nikibu1
      @nikibu1 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TheVisualNovel thank you!!!!

  • @kellz1377
    @kellz1377 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It's refreshing to hear someone express their views that are so well thought out Amanda. I'll be thinking about this when I walk away from the computer for sure. Awesome stuff.

  • @Darniros
    @Darniros ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I did not expect to see her on this channel! Fantastic interview. She is one of the people who have inspired me to have a vasectomy. Thank you

  • @iota4612
    @iota4612 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    This is incredible. And from what I'm perceiving, the most at peace person interviewed on this channel. Much love to Amanda

    • @s0lid_sno0ks
      @s0lid_sno0ks 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This person is in a constant state of misery and self loathing.

  • @latinaluisa
    @latinaluisa 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    My identity as a younger women was to marry and have a family. There was a lot of pressure from society, family, and some of it was self imposed. I spent so much time crying, suffering, trying to fulfill something that couldn't happen. It was so amazing to her her speak about this in a non judge mental way. Thanks so much for the interview ❤

  • @leklekjasmine416
    @leklekjasmine416 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    Really cool interview! I’ve always felt that life is full of suffering from birth til death and I’m glad that there’s a word for those who feel that way

  • @thuggwaffle8825
    @thuggwaffle8825 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    This one hit me because I have had this feeling for years now and didn’t know it even had a name.. I thought I was alone with this feeling and concept. I also know that this idea is coming from my lense and is not to be applied to anyone else’s.. I just see the world and what it’s becoming and genuinely see more suffering and pain around me than true happiness.. She mentioned that she knows this will never take hold on society and that it will go unlistened to by most.. And that’s just how I feel. I believe this theory but also know it’s probably a waste of time to preach it

    • @Xuevium
      @Xuevium ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It is a waste.. period. Don't let these jaded idiots who Hate themselves and Hate thier Own life influence Yours.

    • @kierraburrows8072
      @kierraburrows8072 ปีที่แล้ว

      If that's what you truly believe then have at it but you don't need to preach anything to me!

    • @thuggwaffle8825
      @thuggwaffle8825 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@Xuevium I really don’t think it comes from a place of hate at all.. Through my lens it comes more from a place of compassion.. If I choose to have a kid there is no way to guarantee they will live a happy life.. We’ve gone the wrong way as a society the last 30 or 40 years especially in North America.. Social media is having a devastating affect on the youth and somehow certain people aren’t recognizing that.. Parents are failing at a ridiculous rate nowdays.. I genuinely feel there are more bad people than good and I understand that’s anecdotal.. But it is my choice to not reproduce and I don’t judge anyone for not doing the same

    • @thuggwaffle8825
      @thuggwaffle8825 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kierraburrows8072 I’m not sure if you didn’t read the entirety of my comment of what but I explicitly said it’s a waste of time to preach it lol

    • @StephieGsrEvolution
      @StephieGsrEvolution ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ​@@thuggwaffle8825it's not a waste. It's thought provoking and many will at least hear her and give it some thought.

  • @jasmin.Mason1990
    @jasmin.Mason1990 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Mark, I'm truly enjoying growing intellectually with the recent interviews you have been recording lately, highly interesting and fascinating for me to follow along and understand, opinions, perspective, feelings, and thoughts of the mind different from mine. Thank you for sharing Amanda ☀

  • @strayvermin
    @strayvermin ปีที่แล้ว +133

    She seems nice. I wish there were more people like her

  • @markj5054
    @markj5054 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    She's so correct, its so ironic that this channel is about broken people and people suffering so badly who would absolutely love a peaceful exist to this shit show of an existence but these poor people are just for the public entertainment and forced to suffer for longer so people can "learn" something from them. To not create another life in the first place would absolutely prevent this but people just shit out kids even if they are in circumstance's that will guarantee a future suffering and future corpse. This life is an imposition and everybody should have the bloody right to peacefully and gracefully exit this shit show if they bloody wish.

    • @scvman992000
      @scvman992000 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Yep

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Better words can't be said!

    • @jacktinney
      @jacktinney หลายเดือนก่อน

      even if she is correct, the entire philosophy is doomed to failure because all the antinatalists will not have kids and make themselves extinct. The more it spreads, the more it extinguishes itself.

  • @amyg8761
    @amyg8761 ปีที่แล้ว +168

    I love listening to smart, well spoken people like this whether I have the same views or not. Super interesting! Also, any mother will tell you we've all worried about bringing children into the world with all the suffering they may endure throughout their lives. I just never let myself get this deep about it. I'll never forget this quote I heard a few years ago " life IS fair because it's unfair for everyone" this interview made me think of that.

    • @benwilkonski8635
      @benwilkonski8635 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      do you think that life is unfair to everyone equally?

    • @shanbraz6011
      @shanbraz6011 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Mmm that quote is rather tone deaf tbh. You’d have to be very far removed from the issues folks face in this country or globally to truly be able to hold to that statement without feeling a bit uncomfortable.

    • @lifeisoverrated96
      @lifeisoverrated96 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Life is unfair... I'll force someone into that situation...
      Makes sense smh

    • @skateranddancer
      @skateranddancer ปีที่แล้ว +15

      So you acknowledge your desire for the personal emotional benefits of being a parent outweigh the concern you had. You are saying you recognize the truth in antinatalism, but found it too painful to truly dig into your own feelings about it so you hushed it away to have babies.
      This is exactly the problem. What kind of parent would that person be? Not one I would want a child to have tbh.

    • @bryan123483
      @bryan123483 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​​@@skateranddancerAgreed. I think there's a lot of people that feel that way. They know that bringing a life into this world is adding to the violence, racism, sexism, bloated population etc etc. If it's them having a kid those truths don't apply. The potential love they'll feel for a child allows them to willfully ignore those truths. It's easy to think that one person's impact on the world is too small to matter compared to the human population. The old "do what I say not what I do" saying".

  • @thenameless1896
    @thenameless1896 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Loved this interview so much!
    Haven't seen anyone in many years explaining their philosophy as eloquently as her. Reminds me a lot of when I was in school and read about Schopenhauer; it's good to see that these philosophies are not forgotten and that there's people still able to properly exercise them

  • @amandareedy9786
    @amandareedy9786 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +97

    I never knew there was a name for it, but this is exactly how I've always felt. I absolutely refuse to have kids, and people in my small conservative town think that makes me selfish. The complete opposite is true.

    • @ijustneedmyself
      @ijustneedmyself 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      I'm a parent. It is absolutely bizarre to me that people think it's selfish to not have children 🤔 Like, what? Lol.

    • @minnesconsinprepping7856
      @minnesconsinprepping7856 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      I agree. I actually think HAVING children is one of the most selfish things you can do. You're literally doing it for yourself.

    • @bluejay9890
      @bluejay9890 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Oh I hate how smug some procreators are. I didn't have any children because I honeslty think it's better not to be born, yet I have to listen to procreators talk about how they "sacrificed" so much for their children and blah, blah, blah. Well, I sacrificed too by not having children. I gave up the joy of being a parent to spare someone the pain of living. Yet, I'm considered selfish.

    • @lokhaxz803
      @lokhaxz803 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Enjoy population collapse then. lol

    • @DrMontgomeryMontgomery
      @DrMontgomeryMontgomery 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@bluejay9890 - You cannot spare something that doesn't exist. Prevent might be the better word. Yet you must also entail the idea that you prevented creating someone who could experience the joy too.
      Your expressions also remind me of someone who makes themselves the victim of being around a vegan/vegetarian which I find quite ironic. "I hate how smug some [...] are" as well as "yet I *have* to listen to [...] and blah, blah, blah". It just seems as if you're really sensitive around 'natalists' which is always going to make it hard for you to even have a productive dialogue or self-refection about it.

  • @amethystamanda
    @amethystamanda ปีที่แล้ว +47

    This is so interesting, I’ve never heard of this philosophy before. I don’t think I would go so far as to tell someone who wants a child that they shouldn’t have one, but for me personally I’ve always had a hard time with existence, I’ve had panic attacks and existential dread for my whole life, and I can’t see myself bringing children into this world because of that.

  • @francojvelasquez
    @francojvelasquez 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Suffering is wasted on humans. So few learn or grow from it. Most just manufacture suffering for others.
    I'm sure Amanda speaks from a deep awareness of such a reality.

    • @bachiak1
      @bachiak1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ppl spend their entire lives avoiding pain, be it physical or emotional. The idea that they would acknowledge this is counter-intuitive as they will suffer with this knowledge. So they carry on with their simplistic lives and bring about more ppl to do the same, and worse, they are proud of this, and the more you test them on it they become weirdly vehemently proud of this.
      You start to see the emergence of the pain behind their desperately designed life, the anger starts to emerge, that very thinly, tightly woven safety cocoon they have worked so hard to maintain - their silly jobs, their walks in the park, their tv shows, their hill walks, their contrived marriages and relationships, their mindless chitchat and bad humour, all of it is a thin veneer to the reality. Test their lives and they would gladly put you in a coffin. Its either them or you, whether they know it or not.

    • @olivialillegard2540
      @olivialillegard2540 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      oh wow this gave me chills

    • @miaa7097
      @miaa7097 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@bachiak1deep

  • @gingerbread1212
    @gingerbread1212 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    Finally I have a name for my views on life and suffering. Thank you both for this fascinating interview!

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what is ur opinion on current state of the world and society?

    • @Vash98980
      @Vash98980 ปีที่แล้ว

      You will turn to ash and will not be missed.

    • @turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174
      @turquoiseturquoiseturquois1174 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lovethyneibor22736can a hole have a hole inside it

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@deerheart87 hi brother

    • @Milobolo
      @Milobolo ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lovethyneibor22736probably antinatalism

  • @harlstbarkley3227
    @harlstbarkley3227 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Amanda, you are spot on. Even without greed we'd still have suffering because of illness. Birth is a traumatic experience for everyone involved. I'm glad to have found this.

    • @potter5647
      @potter5647 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      what's your opinion on the philosophy of gnosticism?

  • @meganngeorge
    @meganngeorge ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I learn so much from watching your interviews, Mark. Thank You.

  • @judysteadman799
    @judysteadman799 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    Amanda has certainly enlightened us . Especially when many of Mark's interviews are suffering and see no hope from childhood abuse and trauma 😢😢😢

    • @surfergirl2943
      @surfergirl2943 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Absolutely. Super ironic !

    • @melaniep8377
      @melaniep8377 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      People refuse to entertain the thought that their child could end up on skid row just like any of the people Mark interviews. They don't want to have to feel guilt, and that's why this philosophy makes them so angry.

    • @osteogenesisdev5268
      @osteogenesisdev5268 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Judging from some of the comments, it seems more that people so intensely disagreed that Mark had to delete their comments, makes the comment section seem a lot more in agreement than it likely really is. Part of the reason it seems that way as well is that I had a few comments left under different comment threads that seem to be gone as well now. So it is a bit of a manufactured/curated agreement.

  • @kturner1015
    @kturner1015 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    the comment along the lines of 'what is it about the winners that makes any of this ok? its a bad game' hit me REAL hard. god thats poignant.

    • @arifeannor9573
      @arifeannor9573 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is from Inmendham, he has great metaphors.

  • @hamidehjedari7546
    @hamidehjedari7546 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I wish everyone was thinking like this bright lady

  • @Jriddle
    @Jriddle ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I’ve never even heard of this term before. I LOVE watching these videos. I learn something new every time. Thanks Mark!

    • @KellyDFlynn
      @KellyDFlynn ปีที่แล้ว

      Same-so interesting

  • @misanthrophex
    @misanthrophex ปีที่แล้ว +102

    Absolutely with her on this one. I remember hearing someone say that not wanting to have kids is selfish, the irony was sad and hilarious at the same time.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      hi bro lets discuss

    • @caddieohm7059
      @caddieohm7059 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Well it is. It's not ironic but from a different philosophical perspective.

    • @lovethyneibor22736
      @lovethyneibor22736 ปีที่แล้ว

      sorry but can you elaborate? i wanna understand your point @@caddieohm7059

    • @jn2400
      @jn2400 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I never wanted kids, never had any and very happy.

    • @mdstanton1813
      @mdstanton1813 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I'm still yet to hear a genuine, non selfish reason to breed humans

  • @Emily-m9u8y
    @Emily-m9u8y ปีที่แล้ว +35

    This was really brave. Thank you for speaking on this difficult to broach topic. This is a really challenging topic for most people, as it really requires rewiring a lot of the way we are made to think and process the world. I think the natural primary reaction to such ideas is to push back. But just the same as any growing philosophy, that pushback by nature implies it is being heard.

    • @jonathaningram8157
      @jonathaningram8157 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      you also need to reject God to have such a view because it isn't compatible.

    • @angelagreen1266
      @angelagreen1266 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      💯

    • @arifeannor9573
      @arifeannor9573 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jonathaningram8157 Not exactly but reject god all the same, hes an asshole.

    • @pamelapoulos5019
      @pamelapoulos5019 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What was brave about it, just curious. I find it bafflingly interesting but there's nothing heroic about this new world belief. She does seem like a nice lady. I wish her well and respect her beliefs but I don't think there's anything she's doing that's brave. Just my opinion.

    • @arifeannor9573
      @arifeannor9573 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pamelapoulos5019 I wouldn't call it new world. But yeah, not brave and I am an antinatalist. Maybe it would be brave if you go to a place that hate atheists and such, deep south or saudi arabia and started telling people.

  • @nadiastar6264
    @nadiastar6264 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    When you choose to have kids you choose the consequences that having kids will bring. The child will always suffer more than the mother. It’s up to the parents to realize the chances of their child suffering is too great to bring into this world.

  • @sweetcandubandu
    @sweetcandubandu ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I really enjoyed this interview. I feel neutral about the subject tbh. Amanda was very well versed and seems like a very educated person. I knew nothing about antinatalism before this video. Thank you Mark for sharing this!

    • @Miakatzisoverparty
      @Miakatzisoverparty ปีที่แล้ว

      How can you feel neutral about literal ethics?

  • @KaylaBuhdayla
    @KaylaBuhdayla ปีที่แล้ว +62

    What an incredibly interesting video. I’ve felt strong feelings when it comes to my disappointment in mankind and how we’re having children in such a time of turmoil. I never thought I would be SO Proud to be a 90’s kid. I’ve lived the before and after. I yearn for the past. It wasn’t all good, but it was MUCH more secure and easy going. She’s so intelligent and informative. I love my 15 year old. I definitely don’t want to be a teenager right now. I see people having kids and I cringe. Life as a good parent is SO Difficult when it comes to rearing a faithful, strong, self-loving, good person. WAY too much extra input. Sorry for my rant. Must have needed to get that out.

    • @brijmsn
      @brijmsn ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You cringe at people having kids when you did the same thing?

  • @alisong799
    @alisong799 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    Fascinating interview. Thanks for your perspective, Amanda. You've clearly done you're research and have thought thoroughly about this which I really appreciate.

    • @sqwk2559
      @sqwk2559 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Congratulating idiocy.

    • @lynnzephyr563
      @lynnzephyr563 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ​@@sqwk2559She's definitely not an idiot. The idiocracy is the fact that people continue bringing children into the world when they can't even take care of themselves. I don't agree with all her views but there are over 8.1 billion humans on the planet and we're destroying just about everything in our path. Plus, I'm so sick and tired of seeing children suffer that didn't ask to be born. She made some excellent points even though I don't agree with all of it.

    • @sqwk2559
      @sqwk2559 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lynnzephyr563 complete nonsense