Getting ready to propose my arse. Love him or not I'd have dumped him after 2 years MAX. Definitely wouldn't waste 4 on someone who hadn't made his mind up yet.
@@keinvm There isnt anything to replace God with 😉😉😉 He is the only wether u believe in Him or not, seek Jesus he can give u peace, any hurting, depression, anger can be taken away by Him, u just got ask. God bless, be safe ☺️☺️✌️✌️✌️
My personal experiences with Love...when it's true, honest to goodness Love...the thought of touching someone else is inconceivable...not possible.. absolutely, just the thought makes you nauseous...So if they cheat...It was NEVER genuine Love!
I agree with you 110%. Every Therapist, most your friends n family will say (it was a mistake give him a chance) I never got that, how they call it a mistake?. Like you said just thought of it (being with some else) makes one nauseous. 🙌🏼
Relationships are complex, sometimes the person can actually change for the better and that can make the union stronger. The old relationship dies so that a new one can take its place.
Cheating is never a “mistake” it’s a “mistake” that you got caught. Cheating is always a CHOICE. It’s a choice that’s not made in the second oh happens. It’s a choice that has been building up.. thought about, fantasised about, flirted with for months.. it’s never ever a “mistake or accident” It’s a clearly considered CHOICE. Never let anyone minimise it and tell you otherwise. Stepping on your toe or spilling a drink is an accident. Doing the most intimate activity two humans can do, the thing that creates life and your very existence isn’t an accident. even if the event happened the same night the two individuals met.. the thought, notion and potential has been fostering in your partners mind long before the deed takes place. Do not accept the gaslighting and minimisation or victim blaming of cheating and betrayal. The words “sorry I made a mistake” or “you neglected me, you are partly to blame” just don’t cut it. When trust and respect are gone in a relationship, you can not get it back. I’ve never re-respected anyone in my life. Even if you take them back you will forever be sleeping with one eye open and watching your back. The minute you feel the need to even check your partners phones, you can’t be with that person. Deep down already you have no trust for them. That may be a personal issue and either you shouldn’t be with anyone until you can trust or it’s just them that can’t be trusted. Either way.. it’s over. Let them go.
@@dragonslayer7199 glad my words help at least one person. If you are going through this right now I send you strength, self love and healing. He/she is not for you and this is the universe’s/god/alláh (or whoever you pray to) way of showing you their true colours and removing them from your life. It’s a blessing in disguise. Live well ✌🏽🌟
This brings a new pov for me. I cheated at the time I was so detached from everything I didn’t think twice about what I was doing not even in a sense of I didn’t care just totally unattached to everything. I eventually told my partner and my god the tears and cries I heard that night where heart breaking. This girl stayed and gave me a chance to prove myself to prove I’m worth the investment and risk and chance and time. I can genuinely say this girl showed me love and care when she should have ran away and for me she gave me a new outlook on things if she could stay with me after what I did then I can be a better person. I had many insecure reasons for doing what I did I won’t mention them here but she genuinely showed me love care empathy and pureness and it changed me from the inside out. I’d do what ever it took to see this girl smile. And I know I should have always known that my girl was a queen and it should never have happened but I can’t take back the past I can only show her the future. I wish people didn’t cheat I genuinely wish things where more simple and everyone was loyal and caring from the start. All I can say is I’ve changed and for the better. Could I cheat again ? Possibly who knows I guess so … but that comes down to my choices I know I’d make the right choice if ever even close to those scenarios again. Love is a choice you wake up day in day out and choose to remain in love we don’t pick when we fall in love but we do pick when we stay in love. I used the same terminology it was a mistake I’m sorry I love her etc I just don’t think there is a better way to explain things. For me my mistake was because I hurt her and I genuinely didn’t attach the two together once I saw the hurt I caused my god it hit home. We’re together but it’s not easy I made it so much harder now for selfish and scared reasons. If I just fixed things with her I’d never have went outside for help that’s on me and it’s my fault. There was issues from both ends but she stayed loyal I’m the idiot who made the choice to do what I did regardless of reason. Just don’t do it guys and girls it’s not worth it. Fix what you have or leave and no one gets hurt. I still see the damage I caused 2 years on it sucks that I’ve did this to her so please be better and don’t do what I did. If I eventually lose her then I know it’s my own fault she deserves happiness and I stole it from her. I just hope she can find it in me once more because I know I won’t let her down again
This is the most honest comment I have ever seen. I'm happy you are fixing it. She stayed because she loves you. To hear there's no end, she sees you as the one. If you really love her, you'll stop thinking about cheating on her or breaking up. Can't you see, she stayed, she wants you. Understand this and take care of her. If you are truly considering a break up in the future then stop wasting her time. If you cheat on her, you'll break her God you'll hurt her worse
@@joymbiu7917 I would never ever hurt her again my friend. I have seen what it does to innocent people and they don’t deserve it. Now is my chance to show her I am the man she dreamt I was when she met me
@@shiro9950 alright, that's very good. She might never forget what happened. But your actions will either cover her insecurities or make them worse. Love her back, pamper her, treat her well.
Hey ma’am I’ll like you to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
A marriage counsellor once told me that cheaters find it easier and easier to cheat. He was right. I divorced my cheating first wife and have been with my second (faithful) wife for 27 years.
@@addya4011 I was with my ex for 20 years. She is an alcoholic who progressed to cheating. Our 2 sons have had nothing to do with her for 17 years. They are in their 30s and doing very well.
Bro, that’s the best thing that EVER happened to you! You dodged a marriage, kids, shared bank accounts, and splitting a home / family with this unfaithful chick! You dodged a bullet! Buy her some roses and say THANKS & now GO!
@@sam-wm2dd time is not wasted. Think of the lifetime he saved by NOT marrying a cheater. When people think like you they stay in relationships that are going nowhere.
"Oh sorry dear, it's a mistake..." Naah bruh. She actually admitted that it was a MISTAKE that you found out that she cheated on you. Sorry bruh. There are tons of gals out there who are far more better than her. Like there's an old saying, "to find a girlfriend is easy, but to find a 'wife-to-be is difficult". Good luck bruh.
Its easy to say someone who already been through this situation. But tough for someone who is going through all this . It takes time, and time heals everything
@@mobiloyuncu9398 thats exactly what a cheater would say. there are billions of women out there and a decent portion of them are loyal. why piss your life away with someone who cant even keep her legs closed to other guys while in a relationship with you? no man or woman that respects themselves and values their time are going to give a cheater a 2nd chance
I think what everyone needs to understand is cheating is NEVER a “mistake”. It’s not an isolated occurrence; it isn’t accidental, it’s a SERIES of CHOICES. A choice to hide, a choice to lie, a choice to lie about hiding, a choice to hide texts & calls over a period of time… & how often are those choices being made, leading up to the physical act of meeting up, buying condoms, getting a hotel room, getting undressed with the person & exchanging bodily fluids, etc. etc. those are all individual CHOICES. it wasn’t just cheating & “that’s it”… you didn’t “just” meet someone & hop into bed with them; you made conscious decisions along the way leading up to the act. People need to not be afraid to speak their truth when it comes to their boundaries within a relationship. If your boundaries don’t work for that one person, then don’t get caught up in lowering them for that person. Go find someone who will respect them & have complementary boundaries themselves, where you can feel safe in trusting this person with your mind & your heart. Cheating should be nonnegotiable in every relationship, because regardless of whether it’s a committed relationship or a marriage, you’re still committing your time, your energy & your body to that ONE person & trusting them with it. Not including your mental & emotional well-being, as someone who truly & genuinely loves & cares about you, will NOT jeopardize those things for anything or anyone. If for some reason the relationship doesn’t end up working, you just be honest with each other and go your separate ways if you’re no longer compatible. Breaking up may be hard to do as the song goes, but it’s a lot better to end something that’s already heading towards a dead end, instead of trying to drag a dead horse to water. You know there’s no amount of shoveling water into the horses’ mouth, that’s going to revive it. So If you don’t want to be commuted, then be single. This isn’t complicated. If y’all don’t have honesty between each other & the ability to have MATURE communication, conflict/resolution, then MOVE ON. I think he needs to get a refund on that engagement ring, if he hasn’t already & realize he dodged a bullet. He’s a good looking guy, obviously values lifelong commitment & seems like a really sweet, good hearted guy too. He’ll find a good girl.
this brought me to tears. you put it exactly how it is. i’m trapped in a relationship where he constantly cheated on me and he now swears he will never do it again. i just can’t forgive him for lieing to me for years and watching me be pregnant and still blaming me for his infidelity. i hate him but i love him. when he says he loves me i can’t help but say i love you back.
@@mindless143dl wow ,that's really rough...but if you stay..it's just guarantees more rough roads ahead...best to find a new path..and maybe at least have a chance to find your destiny..
I was thinking about the same thing. No wonder they left him. But he also preached in one of his own programs that men change. What made him change for Marjorie and be loyal to her that his previous 2 wives couldn't do?? I'm curious
My grand uncle on my father’s side always gave me solid advice growing up, however at times they came from a period of uncertainty, i.e. world war 2 era, like you have to eat fast or else the enemy will attack you during your meal. But one piece of advice that always stuck out was that when you’re dating, you have to show the other person the front door and the back door. The implications of such is the other person has to know that just as easily you welcomed them to your home, which also is your heart, that there’s an exit if they choose to leave or if they are unfaithful you can escort them out. Life is too short wasting it on people who don’t genuinely care and I’ve learned(the hard way) that love should be free from constraints, but intimacy has a price. He was a great man and an actual captain of the high seas in the Mariana’s. Rest In Peace Capt
i dont get cheating, you have the free will to end the relationship and then do whatever and it's not cheating, it tells me they dont really care they just want to be with you for ur stuff
It’s the fear of being alone. People that cheat usually are narcissist wanting validation but are afraid to end current relationship because they fear the ability to be alone.
Well it’s more to it . It could be a abundance of things.. I’m not saying it’s right, because it’s most certainly NOT. But people cheat rather than break up.. because they either still may want you, but are testing the waters. And are not sure . 2. They are CHEATERS.. Meaning that’s what they do and think it’s ok. Or just don’t care. 3 have been in the relationship or marriage for an extended time- and don’t know how to end it / or are scared to end it. 4 may be other reasons … ALTHOUGH cheating is wrong either way!
My dad told me and my brother when we were teenagers and I got my heart broken due to similar circumstances, that “If a person you care about can hurt you like that once, they can definitely do it again. It’s up to you to decide whether you feel like taking a risk and being content with being hurt again”. It sit with me and my brother to this day.
Indeed. This comment section would have been filled with « forgive him, or you’ll go to another cheater etc… » it’s just once, chill etc…. The hypocrisy is even reflected in the number of likes your comment has received compared to the other ones.
Dafuq? I've never seen this happening but seen majority of y'all women on tiktoks admitting cheating and other women in the comments be like "You go queen", " You deserve better ", etc if you're misandrist just say that!
I can’t imagine the pain he is in, how will he trust someone again with a full heart, I am sorry for him, please don’t break hearts because it’s the only place if clean and pure, where The Almighty God lives within us, just be loyal , loving and always be part of the soul of your significant other, life is too short to fulfill the wishes, so why not live by being humble and honest with the loved ones, what else or more can we ask for?
Just for a second imagine when women have to go through when alot of men these days are involved in extra marital relationships. You can deny the fact that percentage of men cheating on their wives is far more than vice versa. I am not justifying cheating by that girl but i am just saying men have to have taste of their own medication.
@@javeriamasood3328 You seem biased, if you read above carefully than you might understand the fact that I am not defending any gender in such situation , just sympathizing for that man, ,and I would have done the same for a woman, and you definitely need to see the percentage of women cheating on men these days, 80% of the women are chasing men with money but not for their loyalty and humanity, than how can you expect positive results when your own intentions are not right, you have no idea that what kind of mental pressure do men have to bear these days. Very true words said but someone that” women and children are loved unconditionally but a man is loved for being a provider”
@@javeriamasood3328 so we're all Pakistanis here discussing Gora's problem. Let me tell you something, girls cheat more than men and this is a fact, even if you take the example of Pakistan you'll see men who get a lot of girls and tell every girl that he's with her but everyone knows he's just screwing around with them, yeah in this case boys outnumber the girls. But when it comes to cheating in a stable, working relationship or marriage it's the girl who outnumber men by a mile and funny thing is that most of them doesn't even regret it. Note : Pakistan I'm talking about is cities like Karachi, Lahore, Islamabad, Gujranwala and etc.
@@farhadmalik5593 It's perfectly okay for a girl to chase a man with money, it's built in our (human) evolution. Evolution has made sure that girl would pick a man who can take care of their offsprings in the future. Problem arises when we can't control our instinct.
I totally agree he should let her go but this comment section has taught me men don’t forgive cheating as women do so lesson to self never forgive a man’s cheating.
Im honestly surprised a lot of women forgive cheating, a man will only forgive cheating in two situations: 1. He's extremely gullible or 2. They're married with kids and he *has* to stay to protect the kids. Don't get me wrong, you can forgive if that's what you want but cut him/her loose and save yourself the trouble & time
Not always, God can change someone’s heart. Look up Joe Beam, he once did a lot of bad things but he repented and now him and his wife have been remarried for a longgg time and have a non profit to save marriages in trouble
I was given this advice 12 yrs ago, and didn't listen. Now I learned the hardest lesson, and 44 yrs old, and soon to be alone. The worst of it is he is 57 yrs old. I am heartbroken, and now desire to remain single for the remainder of my life. To be cheated on is horrible, and even worse when your husband is 13 yrs older. 😪
Hello pretty lady when there's life there hope there is still real love out there with faith and believe you can find it... please can we write to know more about each other? Greetings 👋👋👋👋👋👋👋
@@mtell620 if you cheat on your partner, regardless of gender you do not respect them. Stop trying to convince yourself and others that it is appropriate to cheat on and harm women. That’s wrong. If a man cheats, breakup/divorce him. Do not forgive and forget. You will never be able to trust him again.
It wasn’t the first or only time it was the first time you caught her if I was truly in love I couldn’t cheat leave man don’t be dumb they don’t change we just wanna believe
Lol! I know.. u can change tho. Unfortunately you already have this stigma on yourself that follow you for decades.. consistency is the key never detour again and practice that pattern on someone who don’t know your past. That’s how you start over the right way.
@@danutahavercroft2850 What? 😂So if Steve Harvey can change then maybe this guys girlfriend can change too. So it would have been nice for him to say that people can change. Not just saying leave her.
Together for 16 year's with my hubby, but if either one of us would cheat.. Game over.. Trust would be gone.. You just can't say, I love you to your partner, after you cheated. your love is just BS than.
@@m.s9146 what you’ve just said is -It makes more sense to lie in this committed relationship -just because you haven’t been before a priest it makes it more okay
my dad said it with the first marriage he said it with the third marriage and with the forth marriage. he kept repeating what he called " a mistake " and left a lot of people damaged for life. don't give second chances
He could’ve been horrible af to her but if he was good and treated her good, respected her, spent time w her, offered her emotional safety and she still cheated then that’s fucked up but if he was trash and now he’s playing victim well…. Cry ab it lol
@@Pagalchhagal people tend to merge the two together. A dude will know he’s being horrible to a woman and act shocked when she breaks it off to either spend time alone or she eventually find someone some guys will still call it cheating. In a beautiful relationship where there’s no problems and someone cheats.. I think that’s a bit more cold hearted
@@SA-ju5rn a woman can be horrible to the man as well and that's what compels her to cheat as part of her abusive behaviour. You're obviously imposing your own made up idea on this particular video. It says the woman still wants to apologize and work things out, not break it off for whatever reason
@@Pagalchhagal regardless I feel men are so used to being able to do whatever they want and expect to be forgiven. When women match their energy they cry ab it lol
I don’t believe he was getting ready to propose. I think after 4 years, you would have gave some direction. Men in love, move mountains. She may love you but couldn’t get you to move forward. I would question his love for her.
It’s a lose lose for you stay and lose her respect leave and watch her play victim to anyone who cares to listen and believe. Your sanity is at the line at this point
My church counselors told me “you can stay and accept him, but he won’t stop cheating. He will just realize that won’t make you leave. And he will keep doing it more. They don’t stop”. Every counselor has pretty much said the same. I. Their experience they won’t stop cheating. You allow the line to be drawn there and they will gladly stay and keep stepping on it.
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He was getting ready to propose and found out she was cheating that the universe telling him she ain't the one.
nailed it
Even the universe knows, that she belongs to the streets!
Not the universe, GOD
Getting ready to propose my arse. Love him or not I'd have dumped him after 2 years MAX. Definitely wouldn't waste 4 on someone who hadn't made his mind up yet.
@@juliaw7533 you would dump someone for not proposing quick enough? Wow.
"cheating isn't a mistake. Its a fucking choice"
And if anyone believes otherwise is a fool
100%
Never heard more truthful words
I am the fool 😔
Technically all mistakes are choices 🤷♂️
That's just like a stepfather saying I accidentally got my stepdaughter pregnant! Cheating is not an accident it's a choice!
“I get another chick”
My man
Mah Man👍🏼!!
Hello I'm signing
“If she cheats, she belongs to the streets!!!”
If he cheats, he belongs in the shits.
Works both ways.
Gender-free.
Same goes to men
@@commonbeing9359 dosent Go to men
@@augen8819 I mean it does, it's a two-way street.
Master oogwgay
This is the literal definition of “God, show me a sign”
God was like *ight bet*
replace god with anything else. ty
@@keinvm no
@@keinvm or what😅
@@keinvm There isnt anything to replace God with 😉😉😉 He is the only wether u believe in Him or not, seek Jesus he can give u peace, any hurting, depression, anger can be taken away by Him, u just got ask. God bless, be safe ☺️☺️✌️✌️✌️
The dude looks heartbroken. Don't let that happen again by keeping her.
I wish women would do this also. I think it's the best thing for men and women.
Yer and the trust gone anyway from both parties so it’s dead in the water
TH-cam gave me a survey on how I feel about your comment 😂😂
He is a gift from God. His time for his soul mate will be soon.
My personal experiences with Love...when it's true, honest to goodness Love...the thought of touching someone else is inconceivable...not possible.. absolutely, just the thought makes you nauseous...So if they cheat...It was NEVER genuine Love!
Waaaooo sooo soooo True !!!
100%
If you are in love with a girl, she is always the prettiest and the onlyone.
Yep, but narcissists are not ever really in the relationship
I agree with you 110%. Every Therapist, most your friends n family will say (it was a mistake give him a chance) I never got that, how they call it a mistake?. Like you said just thought of it (being with some else) makes one nauseous. 🙌🏼
So true that’s statement is just wow
Relationships are complex, sometimes the person can actually change for the better and that can make the union stronger. The old relationship dies so that a new one can take its place.
That is true. Anything is possible with faith in God
Keep thinking like that simp
Shaarrraaap
Cheating is never a “mistake” it’s a “mistake” that you got caught.
Cheating is always a CHOICE. It’s a choice that’s not made in the second oh happens. It’s a choice that has been building up.. thought about, fantasised about, flirted with for months.. it’s never ever a “mistake or accident”
It’s a clearly considered CHOICE. Never let anyone minimise it and tell you otherwise.
Stepping on your toe or spilling a drink is an accident. Doing the most intimate activity two humans can do, the thing that creates life and your very existence isn’t an accident.
even if the event happened the same night the two individuals met.. the thought, notion and potential has been fostering in your partners mind long before the deed takes place.
Do not accept the gaslighting and minimisation or victim blaming of cheating and betrayal. The words “sorry I made a mistake” or “you neglected me, you are partly to blame” just don’t cut it. When trust and respect are gone in a relationship, you can not get it back. I’ve never re-respected anyone in my life. Even if you take them back you will forever be sleeping with one eye open and watching your back.
The minute you feel the need to even check your partners phones, you can’t be with that person. Deep down already you have no trust for them. That may be a personal issue and either you shouldn’t be with anyone until you can trust or it’s just them that can’t be trusted. Either way.. it’s over. Let them go.
Absolutely fucking right !
Thank you for this. I needed this.
“I never re-respected anyone in my life”
I’m going to carry that deeply, it came to me at the right time
Perfect...Zoe!!!
@@dragonslayer7199 glad my words help at least one person. If you are going through this right now I send you strength, self love and healing. He/she is not for you and this is the universe’s/god/alláh (or whoever you pray to) way of showing you their true colours and removing them from your life. It’s a blessing in disguise. Live well ✌🏽🌟
Thank you for this I needed so badly
Being cheated on was the best thing that ever happened to me. I realized that the right girl would never do something like that.
Yes! No doubt, you discovered what you don’t want in a woman💯
LMAO u must be a genius
100%
Every girl will in some way…just accept it
Most underrated comment here☝🏾
This brings a new pov for me. I cheated at the time I was so detached from everything I didn’t think twice about what I was doing not even in a sense of I didn’t care just totally unattached to everything. I eventually told my partner and my god the tears and cries I heard that night where heart breaking. This girl stayed and gave me a chance to prove myself to prove I’m worth the investment and risk and chance and time. I can genuinely say this girl showed me love and care when she should have ran away and for me she gave me a new outlook on things if she could stay with me after what I did then I can be a better person. I had many insecure reasons for doing what I did I won’t mention them here but she genuinely showed me love care empathy and pureness and it changed me from the inside out. I’d do what ever it took to see this girl smile. And I know I should have always known that my girl was a queen and it should never have happened but I can’t take back the past I can only show her the future. I wish people didn’t cheat I genuinely wish things where more simple and everyone was loyal and caring from the start. All I can say is I’ve changed and for the better. Could I cheat again ? Possibly who knows I guess so … but that comes down to my choices I know I’d make the right choice if ever even close to those scenarios again. Love is a choice you wake up day in day out and choose to remain in love we don’t pick when we fall in love but we do pick when we stay in love. I used the same terminology it was a mistake I’m sorry I love her etc I just don’t think there is a better way to explain things. For me my mistake was because I hurt her and I genuinely didn’t attach the two together once I saw the hurt I caused my god it hit home. We’re together but it’s not easy I made it so much harder now for selfish and scared reasons. If I just fixed things with her I’d never have went outside for help that’s on me and it’s my fault. There was issues from both ends but she stayed loyal I’m the idiot who made the choice to do what I did regardless of reason. Just don’t do it guys and girls it’s not worth it. Fix what you have or leave and no one gets hurt. I still see the damage I caused 2 years on it sucks that I’ve did this to her so please be better and don’t do what I did. If I eventually lose her then I know it’s my own fault she deserves happiness and I stole it from her. I just hope she can find it in me once more because I know I won’t let her down again
This is the most honest comment I have ever seen. I'm happy you are fixing it. She stayed because she loves you. To hear there's no end, she sees you as the one. If you really love her, you'll stop thinking about cheating on her or breaking up. Can't you see, she stayed, she wants you. Understand this and take care of her. If you are truly considering a break up in the future then stop wasting her time. If you cheat on her, you'll break her God you'll hurt her worse
@@joymbiu7917 I would never ever hurt her again my friend. I have seen what it does to innocent people and they don’t deserve it. Now is my chance to show her I am the man she dreamt I was when she met me
@@shiro9950 alright, that's very good. She might never forget what happened. But your actions will either cover her insecurities or make them worse. Love her back, pamper her, treat her well.
And are you still not married to her? Then you are still living in sin...
@@TeaCup1940 can’t afford marriage right now my friend have kids and a house to pay for whole the cost of living is increasing
She deserved better also. It took him 4 years to ask that question hmm they both needed to break up b4 this anyway.
Hey ma’am I’ll like you to get you match with my uncle he’s trying it so hard to be in a good relationship. He’s kind of calm and cool person it would be nice for you to know him..
❤❤❤❤
Hello
Hi
I’m looking for a serious relationship
The only question I’d be asking her is ,”you need help packing”?
Indeed... LMAO
Lol I wouldn't even do that
@@josephfreisinger1488 I meaaaan you wouldn’t burn her clothes?? It’s a free trip to hell for her
No help, just send her away
🤣🤣
A marriage counsellor once told me that cheaters find it easier and easier to cheat. He was right. I divorced my cheating first wife and have been with my second (faithful) wife for 27 years.
Good for you
How long was you married for at first? If you don’t mind me asking. Just as I’ve been married for a few years and don’t have the strength to walk away
@@addya4011 I was with my ex for 20 years. She is an alcoholic who progressed to cheating. Our 2 sons have had nothing to do with her for 17 years. They are in their 30s and doing very well.
But in the Bible God condemns divorce. You can remarry when he or she passed away. That's the Bible.
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"it's either the beginning of the end or the end of the beginning"
*"Well yeah duh but what do I do"*
Just heal first and be true to yourself
In 3 or 4 years his ex will be asking, "where are all the good guys at?"
When infidelity happens, leave.
There is no way back to the top.
Spot on
That's why I'll never be in another relationship. Men seemingly cannot be w just one woman. They gotta try em all! So nah, I'm out
@@HeyIwasaValedictorian How does that make sense?
@@HeyIwasaValedictorian your gay men cheat half the amount women do
@@HeyIwasaValedictorian see you later then
Bro, that’s the best thing that EVER happened to you! You dodged a marriage, kids, shared bank accounts, and splitting a home / family with this unfaithful chick! You dodged a bullet! Buy her some roses and say THANKS & now GO!
Couldn't say it any better 🎤
Yeah but still 4 years wasted
@sam quite unfortunate but yeah still dodged a big bullet. 4 years is nothing if it means that you find someone loyal true love bro. GGs
@@sam-wm2dd Those years are not wasted if he learned valuable lessons.
@@sam-wm2dd time is not wasted. Think of the lifetime he saved by NOT marrying a cheater.
When people think like you they stay in relationships that are going nowhere.
"Oh sorry dear, it's a mistake..."
Naah bruh. She actually admitted that it was a MISTAKE that you found out that she cheated on you. Sorry bruh. There are tons of gals out there who are far more better than her.
Like there's an old saying, "to find a girlfriend is easy, but to find a 'wife-to-be is difficult".
Good luck bruh.
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Hello
Its easy to say someone who already been through this situation.
But tough for someone who is going through all this . It takes time, and time heals everything
Hello dear 😊
I can see a lot of pain in his eyes, hope he finds someone loyal
He won’t as he’s clearly a pushover
He better find himself the gym and the redpill b4 he gets burned again
@@aaronharman5431 wow a mentalist. Care to back up any of the bs you spouted?
@@aaronharman5431 How do you know, Have you met him?
It’s over
Happened once, happening again.
Nah not always dude
@@mobiloyuncu9398 But it was one time too many.
@@mobiloyuncu9398 well If dont think U will get caught, there is a good chance that it will happen again
@@mobiloyuncu9398 always, it should never happen to begin with and you are naive if you think otherwise.
@@mobiloyuncu9398 thats exactly what a cheater would say. there are billions of women out there and a decent portion of them are loyal. why piss your life away with someone who cant even keep her legs closed to other guys while in a relationship with you? no man or woman that respects themselves and values their time are going to give a cheater a 2nd chance
When he asked 'any advice?', the doormat aura on him exploded.
Getting life advice from Steve Harvey is like getting cooking advice from Jeffrey Dahmer
I think what everyone needs to understand is cheating is NEVER a “mistake”.
It’s not an isolated occurrence; it isn’t accidental, it’s a SERIES of CHOICES.
A choice to hide, a choice to lie, a choice to lie about hiding, a choice to hide texts & calls over a period of time… & how often are those choices being made, leading up to the physical act of meeting up, buying condoms, getting a hotel room, getting undressed with the person & exchanging bodily fluids, etc. etc. those are all individual CHOICES.
it wasn’t just cheating & “that’s it”… you didn’t “just” meet someone & hop into bed with them; you made conscious decisions along the way leading up to the act.
People need to not be afraid to speak their truth when it comes to their boundaries within a relationship.
If your boundaries don’t work for that one person, then don’t get caught up in lowering them for that person. Go find someone who will respect them & have complementary boundaries themselves, where you can feel safe in trusting this person with your mind & your heart.
Cheating should be nonnegotiable in every relationship, because regardless of whether it’s a committed relationship or a marriage, you’re still committing your time, your energy & your body to that ONE person & trusting them with it. Not including your mental & emotional well-being, as someone who truly & genuinely loves & cares about you, will NOT jeopardize those things for anything or anyone. If for some reason the relationship doesn’t end up working, you just be honest with each other and go your separate ways if you’re no longer compatible. Breaking up may be hard to do as the song goes, but it’s a lot better to end something that’s already heading towards a dead end, instead of trying to drag a dead horse to water. You know there’s no amount of shoveling water into the horses’ mouth, that’s going to revive it.
So If you don’t want to be commuted, then be single.
This isn’t complicated.
If y’all don’t have honesty between each other & the ability to have MATURE communication, conflict/resolution, then MOVE ON.
I think he needs to get a refund on that engagement ring, if he hasn’t already & realize he dodged a bullet. He’s a good looking guy, obviously values lifelong commitment & seems like a really sweet, good hearted guy too.
He’ll find a good girl.
👍🏾👍🏾🥰🥰 I love the way u worded it
WOW!! Write a Whole Book PERIOD!! BLESSINGS TO YOU 💯
this brought me to tears. you put it exactly how it is. i’m trapped in a relationship where he constantly cheated on me and he now swears he will never do it again. i just can’t forgive him for lieing to me for years and watching me be pregnant and still blaming me for his infidelity. i hate him but i love him. when he says he loves me i can’t help but say i love you back.
@@mindless143dl wow ,that's really rough...but if you stay..it's just guarantees more rough roads ahead...best to find a new path..and maybe at least have a chance to find your destiny..
This is best relationship advice I have ever read! Thank you!!!
Its crazy that this is even a question. Damm value yourself man!!!
But thats hard 😅
I bet he married her too. Guys who have to ask are already doomed
@@stevenrandall8300 yes, exactly. He making every excuse for her. That boy convincing himself of making bad life choices.
That my friend is what you call a beta make cuck so unsure of himself, with such low self respect he’s out there to destroy his own damn self
He is a total simp. If she cheats then she is back on the streets that same day. She came from the streets and to the streets she will always return.
Harvey would know, all about cheating on his “wives”
It’s funny because the men who seem the most aware and different like Steve Harvey tend to have the worst secrets hidden.
I was thinking about the same thing. No wonder they left him. But he also preached in one of his own programs that men change. What made him change for Marjorie and be loyal to her that his previous 2 wives couldn't do??
I'm curious
I did this to my wife. She forgave me and I’m so grateful she did. We went on to have a great marriage for 29 years. She was my best friend.
People have problems in their life
Americans: Let's go to a talk show
LMAO best comment here
Yea Steve is a great therapist
Ahahahahahah 😂😂
@@elsablue3646 nope
@@scottiegang2236 I was being sarcastic 🌝
Love this comment section, everyone's giving solid advice and being respectful without any aggresive or hate comments 👏👏
Until I entered the comment section 👀 "F°CK THAT CHEATING HOOOOOOOOOOE" 😂😂😂
A relationship with no trust is like a car with no gas; it won't go anywhere
"this is either beginning of the end or the end of the beginning"
Millennials: wow, so deep
Because what?! 👁👄👁
Yeah that quote was super shit.
😂
Yes I had to think about it and still don’t understand lol 😂😱🤪
She not the one
It's hard to tell your self that when your in love man but your 100% right
The thing is that Steve told a woman to forgive her man for cheating in another clip. He told her to forgive his mistake and that men can change. 🙄
"She's for the streets"
@@plamoretti673 well he isnt the smartest guy...
When it comes to cheating NEVER get back with them, the gender of the persons dosent matter
Just walk, I wasted 4 years of my 20’s on a girl that was cheating on me the whole time. Wish I walked after the first red flag
Very common unfortunately
What was the first red flag?
What was the the red flag?
@@CreatedByNoriElan Probably gradually easing into cheating in some way.
5 years for me
CHEATING IS NOT A MISTAKE IT'S A CHOICE AND LOYALTY IS NOT A CHOICE IT'S RESPONSIBILITY!
Even if it was a one time thing and it never happens again, it will forever change the relationship
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My grand uncle on my father’s side always gave me solid advice growing up, however at times they came from a period of uncertainty, i.e. world war 2 era, like you have to eat fast or else the enemy will attack you during your meal. But one piece of advice that always stuck out was that when you’re dating, you have to show the other person the front door and the back door.
The implications of such is the other person has to know that just as easily you welcomed them to your home, which also is your heart, that there’s an exit if they choose to leave or if they are unfaithful you can escort them out.
Life is too short wasting it on people who don’t genuinely care and I’ve learned(the hard way) that love should be free from constraints, but intimacy has a price.
He was a great man and an actual captain of the high seas in the Mariana’s. Rest In Peace Capt
Needed to hear this..
Wowq..great advice
If he advised you to show someone the back door, I'm guessing he was in the Navy.
@@thedalillama boom roasted 🤣🤣
Intimacy has a price. That alone captures the essence of everything stated.
i dont get cheating, you have the free will to end the relationship and then do whatever and it's not cheating, it tells me they dont really care they just want to be with you for ur stuff
Yea, cheating is really as low as it gets.
It’s the fear of being alone. People that cheat usually are narcissist wanting validation but are afraid to end current relationship because they fear the ability to be alone.
Well 25% do it. Ask them
Well it’s more to it . It could be a abundance of things.. I’m not saying it’s right, because it’s most certainly NOT.
But people cheat rather than break up.. because they either still may want you, but are testing the waters. And are not sure .
2. They are CHEATERS.. Meaning that’s what they do and think it’s ok. Or just don’t care.
3 have been in the relationship or marriage for an extended time- and don’t know how to end it / or are scared to end it.
4 may be other reasons … ALTHOUGH cheating is wrong either way!
Does anybody ever gonna talk about this guy being one of Jay Shetty's studio actor? lol
Getting advice here is very sweet, he’s very good at it
Hey I’m looking for a serious relationship
Better to "waste" 4 years than the rest of your life!!!
Trust is gone, and so will your peace of mind if you stay. Good luck!
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My dad told me and my brother when we were teenagers and I got my heart broken due to similar circumstances, that “If a person you care about can hurt you like that once, they can definitely do it again. It’s up to you to decide whether you feel like taking a risk and being content with being hurt again”.
It sit with me and my brother to this day.
And he was telling you truth from his heart!!
Awwwww I wish I had my dad to tell me how to cope with heart break
The multiverse just told you “not this one bro”
You were SAVED my friend !!
Damn everyone sharing their stories of being cheated makes me feel at ease after being cheated on. 😞
It's like you are not alone.
How are you now?
That's why I nail em and leave. Most of the women I nail are in relationships. The best kind, no strings attached, hit and run.
Different energy when it’s the man that cheats 🤣
To be fucking honest !!! They’ll be hyping each other up for being a dog but let a woman do it and she’s shunned 😂 hypocrisy
Indeed. This comment section would have been filled with « forgive him, or you’ll go to another cheater etc… » it’s just once, chill etc…. The hypocrisy is even reflected in the number of likes your comment has received compared to the other ones.
You are right, they crucify him
Dafuq? I've never seen this happening but seen majority of y'all women on tiktoks admitting cheating and other women in the comments be like "You go queen", " You deserve better ", etc if you're misandrist just say that!
I’m a guy and I agree! Dudes do it and want women to forgive them but if a female does it it’s the end of the world
The first speaker gives an extra ordinary opinion really helpful.
I just got confused with that " beginning to the end" thing.. hows that make any fucking difference 🙃🙃🙃
Means she started being faithful and never cheat again.
Or
She might remain as cheater throughout the relationship and there's no end of cheating.
I can’t imagine the pain he is in, how will he trust someone again with a full heart, I am sorry for him, please don’t break hearts because it’s the only place if clean and pure, where The Almighty God lives within us, just be loyal , loving and always be part of the soul of your significant other, life is too short to fulfill the wishes, so why not live by being humble and honest with the loved ones, what else or more can we ask for?
Just for a second imagine when women have to go through when alot of men these days are involved in extra marital relationships. You can deny the fact that percentage of men cheating on their wives is far more than vice versa. I am not justifying cheating by that girl but i am just saying men have to have taste of their own medication.
@@javeriamasood3328 You seem biased, if you read above carefully than you might understand the fact that I am not defending any gender in such situation , just sympathizing for that man, ,and I would have done the same for a woman, and you definitely need to see the percentage of women cheating on men these days, 80% of the women are chasing men with money but not for their loyalty and humanity, than how can you expect positive results when your own intentions are not right, you have no idea that what kind of mental pressure do men have to bear these days.
Very true words said but someone that” women and children are loved unconditionally but a man is loved for being a provider”
@@javeriamasood3328 so we're all Pakistanis here discussing Gora's problem.
Let me tell you something, girls cheat more than men and this is a fact, even if you take the example of Pakistan you'll see men who get a lot of girls and tell every girl that he's with her but everyone knows he's just screwing around with them, yeah in this case boys outnumber the girls.
But when it comes to cheating in a stable, working relationship or marriage it's the girl who outnumber men by a mile and funny thing is that most of them doesn't even regret it.
Note : Pakistan I'm talking about is cities like Karachi, Lahore, Islamabad, Gujranwala and etc.
@@farhadmalik5593 It's perfectly okay for a girl to chase a man with money, it's built in our (human) evolution. Evolution has made sure that girl would pick a man who can take care of their offsprings in the future.
Problem arises when we can't control our instinct.
I totally agree he should let her go but this comment section has taught me men don’t forgive cheating as women do so lesson to self never forgive a man’s cheating.
Im honestly surprised a lot of women forgive cheating, a man will only forgive cheating in two situations: 1. He's extremely gullible or 2. They're married with kids and he *has* to stay to protect the kids. Don't get me wrong, you can forgive if that's what you want but cut him/her loose and save yourself the trouble & time
@@chrissosa3723 3rd: He doesn't think he can do better.
4th: he is cheating too
Never forgive a cheater in general. Cheaters will cheat again. They don't change.
Gender has nothing to do with it
Well, the comment section sees the man heartbroken, not a women. It's not all about yall hun
Women only forgive cheating after they’ve went out and equalized it.
Cheating is a mistake if:
1) you got caught
2) you didn't get what you had hoped from cheating
That's a big shiny flashing diamond sign screaming..... "RUNNN!!!!"
You seem to be a very honest respectful person move on the right woman will come
Based on what … wasting 4 yrs of her life and being shocked that she was moving on
@@cecea665
Once a cheater..always a cheater. Hes lucky he found out before he married her.
Not always, God can change someone’s heart. Look up Joe Beam, he once did a lot of bad things but he repented and now him and his wife have been remarried for a longgg time and have a non profit to save marriages in trouble
No there is not once a cheater always a cheater people can change their behaviour
@@mobiloyuncu9398 very rare tho!
@@vynongaming553 very
If you know what are you doing then its not a mistake😤
Absolutely right Mr. Harvey. My man.
I was given this advice 12 yrs ago, and didn't listen. Now I learned the hardest lesson, and 44 yrs old, and soon to be alone. The worst of it is he is 57 yrs old.
I am heartbroken, and now desire to remain single for the remainder of my life.
To be cheated on is horrible, and even worse when your husband is 13 yrs older. 😪
Hello can I ask you a question if you don't mind
Hello pretty lady when there's life there hope there is still real love out there with faith and believe you can find it... please can we write to know more about each other? Greetings 👋👋👋👋👋👋👋
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Can we write to know more about each other?
This ain't the first time she cheated, it's the first time you caught her.
Let her go once a cheater always a cheater, that come from my experience and God bless you!!
It's the B if the E.✊🏿❤
That bird is for the STREETS 💯
The fact that he didn't leave her and instead asked what he should do says it all...that he loves soymilk. C'mon maaaaan!!!
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"Its her choice."
~Neha Dhupia
Aare bhai bhai bhai...😂
Harvey told the best thing.
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4 years and you’re barely about to propose? Bruh you knew she wasn’t the one ANYWAY!
@The Better than you Crew lmao do you need a life time ? 🤣
He was probs gonna settle for her before he found out she was cheating. Feel bad for him but I believe he knew she wasn’t the one
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
That trust is so hard to regain. People get through it and how that happens is what defines your relationship.
The trust is never regained. When the unfaithful cheat they have the ability, and does not go away
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
He seems like a really sweet man
Hello I’m looking for a serious relationship
Me to 😢
It’s odd he advises men to leave when their partner cheats but tells women to forgive and he can change…
Women seek men for different reasons than men seek women. I've never met a woman who respects her partner and cheats on him.
He himself has cheated a bunch 🙄
@@mtell620 no one who cheats on their partner respects them.
@@mtell620 stop feeding people this bs, its just as bad if a man cheats no matter the reason 🤨
@@mtell620 if you cheat on your partner, regardless of gender you do not respect them. Stop trying to convince yourself and others that it is appropriate to cheat on and harm women. That’s wrong. If a man cheats, breakup/divorce him. Do not forgive and forget. You will never be able to trust him again.
It wasn’t the first or only time it was the first time you caught her if I was truly in love I couldn’t cheat leave man don’t be dumb they don’t change we just wanna believe
If he needs to go to live TV asking Steven for advice, he's already in scarcity mindset
@@stefbaws seriously it’s so sad men let wonder do this to them embarrassing himself when it’s so obvious 🤦♂️ I feel bad not even making fun of buddu
Cheating is never a mistake. It’s a conscious choice they made with no love for you
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I admit I agree with Steve. You just can't ever forget it happened
Lol Steve Harvey's talking big when he was the one cheating
But he changed his ways. So who cares
Lol! I know.. u can change tho. Unfortunately you already have this stigma on yourself that follow you for decades.. consistency is the key never detour again and practice that pattern on someone who don’t know your past. That’s how you start over the right way.
@@ltcam2500 he didn’t say ppl can change he said trash her
He might have been doing the same thing, but he’s advice on the matter is dead right.
@@danutahavercroft2850 What? 😂So if Steve Harvey can change then maybe this guys girlfriend can change too. So it would have been nice for him to say that people can change. Not just saying leave her.
So sad when decent men ( which are rare) waste time on a woman who is cheating how sad
It is a great blessing for me to recover my broken marriage. marriage to normal and return happiness again many thanks to you #dralieaotor
What about him told you he was a decent man? his sad face?
@@marethahoneyb1541 what tells you the opposite?
Cheating is a CHOICE NOT A MISTAKE. Just move on don't look back. This too shall pass and you have options remember how many ppl you past on a daily.
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Cheating is really the only thing that cannot be tolerated. Period.
Duh cheating is a choice.
Mistake?nah it ddnt happen like your just walking outside and it's just happen.
Together for 16 year's with my hubby, but if either one of us would cheat.. Game over.. Trust would be gone.. You just can't say, I love you to your partner, after you cheated. your love is just BS than.
Well said.👏🏽👏🏽
You are married, they were dating. Not certain it’s quite the same.
A committed relationship is committed relationship. married or not and cheating is cheating.
@@m.s9146 what you’ve just said is
-It makes more sense to lie in this committed relationship
-just because you haven’t been before a priest it makes it more okay
@@m.s9146 They weren’t just casually dating for a few days/weeks. It got serious enough that he was ready to propose. She is a cheater.
my dad said it with the first marriage he said it with the third marriage and with the forth marriage. he kept repeating what he called " a mistake " and left a lot of people damaged for life. don't give second chances
Whoever cheats once, it would do it twice, thrice , and a thousand times!
“I’d get another chic” Yeah💯.
He’s so cute and looks sweet :( why are people so evil
He could’ve been horrible af to her but if he was good and treated her good, respected her, spent time w her, offered her emotional safety and she still cheated then that’s fucked up but if he was trash and now he’s playing victim well…. Cry ab it lol
@@SA-ju5rn you even know what 'cheating' is? That's different from breaking off with someone who might've been horrible to you
@@Pagalchhagal people tend to merge the two together. A dude will know he’s being horrible to a woman and act shocked when she breaks it off to either spend time alone or she eventually find someone some guys will still call it cheating. In a beautiful relationship where there’s no problems and someone cheats.. I think that’s a bit more cold hearted
@@SA-ju5rn a woman can be horrible to the man as well and that's what compels her to cheat as part of her abusive behaviour. You're obviously imposing your own made up idea on this particular video. It says the woman still wants to apologize and work things out, not break it off for whatever reason
@@Pagalchhagal regardless I feel men are so used to being able to do whatever they want and expect to be forgiven. When women match their energy they cry ab it lol
I don’t believe he was getting ready to propose. I think after 4 years, you would have gave some direction. Men in love, move mountains. She may love you but couldn’t get you to move forward. I would question his love for her.
Hi 👋
Things happen for a reason. Even when you wonder why?
Find someone for you who will Love you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Once a cheater, always a cheater. There’s no “mistake” that big that can be fixed within a relationship. There’s no more trust at that point
I agree
It’s a lose lose for you stay and lose her respect leave and watch her play victim to anyone who cares to listen and believe. Your sanity is at the line at this point
If she cheats and you forgive her and accept it , surely she will do it again .
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
I divorced my husband some years ago because he was cheating on me and I don’t ever cheat on him anymore for many years we’ve been together
NO CHANCES! LEAVE HER OR HIM... IT IS THE END!
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I'm really happy for this guy, he doesn't know it right now but he's one of the lucky ones.
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
I have a feeling he will find out the hard way
Trust is the easiest thing too lose and the hardest thing to gain
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
If you really love someone, no matter how angry or bored you are, you wouldn’t think to cheat.
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He said “she was cheating”… meaning more than once. Get rid of her… now.
Am single looking far a serious relationship with a honest person ❤
Dump her and don’t look back. This is a blessing in disguise. Imagine her cheating on him if they were married with kids…
This hit me somehow
He always has the coolest of the answers 🤣
RUNNNNNNNNNN
SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU !!!!!
My church counselors told me “you can stay and accept him, but he won’t stop cheating. He will just realize that won’t make you leave. And he will keep doing it more. They don’t stop”.
Every counselor has pretty much said the same. I. Their experience they won’t stop cheating. You allow the line to be drawn there and they will gladly stay and keep stepping on it.
Steviee makes it to the end he already knows the outcome.
😊😊 steve Harvey never dissapoint me
"Dont trip on your way out." LET HER GO!
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