My team watched the vial video Mindy put out. To protect my peace they gave me the highlights in group chat and we laughed it off. If she wants to make up crazy shit and side with my abuser for views .. there’s nothing I can do about it. It’s hard to not defend myself and prove she’s lying esp bc I can 💯 I won’t bc when I said I cared her mental health and I meant it. Mine doesn’t seem to matter to her or the other women teaming up against me and that’s ok. I won’t let them change my heart. I know me. They don’t. Love you guys 💚
I thought you might would like to know that Mindy is still making videos trying to "explain" what went on and I don't understand why she just can't let anything go and move on! She really needs to grow tf up! People in recovery that are really in recovery and have been recovery learn to forgive and move on. Apparently she still using or forgot her principles in recovery!
Wow so sorry to hear this. I’ve been a subscriber to your channel not long after you started. If it makes you feel any better I have no idea who “Mindy” is. I bet the majority of your subscribers- true ride or dies- are like me.
Girl this is YOUR business if you want to share it. SHARE IT. You’re allowed. You are not responsible for the feelings/opinions/emotions of anyone else, these are all adults. I love your perspective, and your vulnerability. Please don’t change for anyone but yourself and those beautiful kiddos ♥️
If you don’t “over share”, someone will inevitably dig up your secrets and “share” them for you. Then tell you you’re not transparent. If you are transparent, you are “over sharing”. You cannot please everyone. You do what works for you and we’ll be here regardless.
On the topic of you oversharing, I am actually so grateful that you have shared as much as you have - I was recently in a similar situation to you, and it helped me heal in so many ways. I know it wasn't easy for you, but your strength and ability to talk so openly about it has helped me move forwards to get the help I need. I love and appreciate how open you are, as these are topics that as you mentioned, aren't spoken about much. Watching your videos (even ones that I don't relate to firsthand) still inspire me so much as no matter what I may go through, people are always going through things, and to keep on fighting.
When you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s not always clear to yourself that you’re in one. You can know all the signs, offer help to others but still not recognize being in one yourself. Being aware and talking about this. Helps others. Makes others feel like they are not alone, but also can give others insight to their loved one situations as well.
I was with my ex husband for almost 8 full year years, before I realized he was *that* kind of guy. We'd have conversations about how he was economically and otherwise abusive & he would say "😬 oh I'm not *that* guy-🥴 am I?" 🙄 well- if you have to ask? 😵💫 Narcissists are just masters at playing stupid to get their way...
your kitty is bored and wants to play or be entertained! when I got my kitten, these are things that worked really well for me as a grad student with little to no time: - window bird feeder (they will spend hours being entertained staring at the birds in the feeder. I got a clear one that suction cups to the window on Amazon for not that much money) - 8-12 hour youtube videos made for cats (some of them like to watch TV) - phone/tablet apps with games for cats (I would leave my tablet open with the game and let her play with it while I had to do something) - automatic toys (my cat loves the one that goes around in a circle with the cloth over it. it'll keep her entertained for hours. and if you get nice ones, they will go into sleep mode and save battery until they touch it again) also jackson galaxy here on TH-cam has a lot of videos to help people with understanding their cats. understanding cat body language is so important when having a cat because it's so different than dog body language (he helped me a lot because I had a dog for a long time before and forgot cat body language). you will pick it up fast, but it's important to get the basics. also having a new cat is hard because you are both trying to learn how to communicate with each other without words. give both of you space to learn each other.
Great advice. I also reccomend tunnels and treat dispensing toys. All you have to do is show them you are filling it with treats and then they will play with the toy. If you are having a hard time, just wait for your cat to come to you to pet and interact most of the time. And leave open spaces for them to lay and nap near you as you do your business, they love that. Preferably at some height.
@SwordLily oh yes, I forgot about tunnels! my kitty loves her tunnel! also, harness training is really useful for supervised and responsible outdoor play
Jessica I had to stop this video to comment. My adult daughter had a partner who did what you describe - would drive erratically and pretend he was going to hit things and jerk the wheel at the last minute. And then one night I got a phone call at 4 something in the morning by our local hospital telling me my daughter was in a car accident and was in the hospital because her boyfriend had driven her into a tree and she was in critical condition. It was the scariest day of my life. 5 broken bones, physical therapy, and PTSD - but alive. On behalf of your family and loved ones I'm SO glad no one had to get that call about you. Thank you for getting yourself safe. From one mom to another.
@@bratalie9227 Thank you so much, I'm grateful too. It has been a couple years and while she will never be the same, she's alive and away from that guy!
As a cat person, the most low maintenance cat is actually two cats! When they're friends they play together and entertain each other. Your cat sounds like she's bored and lonely when your daughter is away.
I was thinking the same thing! but also, would playing with the dogs be a good substitute? assuming the dogs are gentle and play well. I genuinely don't know and never thought about that dynamic until right now lol
Yeah, when you get 4 is when you're in for it, unless you have a rescue cat that has low expectations/ has become reclusive and are older. I had a singular cat that had been abused and all she needed was to be around me most of the time, that brought her joy. She was always in the double digits when I had her, too, so she didn't super love playing all the time, only sometimes. She was there for me as much as I was. I forgot the abuse meant she had problems with certain things like using her litter box but less physical neglect in a rescue cat would not produce that, but emotionally it wasn't hard to care for her, she just needed to know I was there if she wanted me.
@@melissamath totally depends - my kitten and my dog love each other so much and play/cuddle 24/7. But I know cats and dogs that just stay out of each other’s way. It really depends
So true. I got a kitten over the summer and then a month later a second kitten. They fought for 3 days and now they are bffs. When I got my first kitten I was thinking he came from a house with a bunch of cats it was a shelter. If he comes to my house he will never see a cat again for the rest of his life. So we got Wilma to be his friend. Worked out great.
I just want to say how much I relate to your situation and how much I appreciate you sharing your experience. You inspired me to leave my abusive husband and I am so much happier. I never thought I would be a whole ass person without him, but here I am! Thank you for being you. You have no idea how much you have helped me. You literally saved my life. Thank you, Jess. 🖤
Congratulations! You have a lot of people (whether they say so or not) supporting you, cheering you on, got your back! A lot of us have been through it, and we know how hard it is! You got this!!!
It's amazing how, after a dv relationship when you are past the early trauma and adjusting to living without him, how much you can reflect on how you were mistreated and the numerous warning signs that were there and you didn't see or notice. You tend to think with your heart rather than with your head in these circumstances, so it's interesting listening to you and how you are thinking and realising now, how much you were abused. You go girl!
People who haven't been in DV relationships don't understand. My ex stabbed me twice beat the crap out of me and my dumbass kept trying to make excuses for him when he was just a piece of shit of a man. I'm sooo glad I got on that stand that day and told my story. He's now serving his time and I hope he gets the help he needs.
I can't tell you how much I absolutely appreciate you sharing. I hope YOU don't feel you are oversharing, because your latest videos have helped me more than any other videos you've shared. I'm literally in the situation now, and getting a plan together to get out. I too am realizing the abuse I've put up with for the last 8 years. I appreciate you so much 💜 And I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the ways you've helped me and my kiddos as well. Can't wait to see what the future holds for you and the girls 💜🖤💜🖤
Just wanted to say that I appreciate you oversharing because it helps dispell the cloud of perfectness most parts of the internet creates, and it shows me how strong people can be manipulated and make mistakes without being looked at as weak in my eyes, like I look to myself when I do the same.
Girl, do overshare! So sick of everybody perpetrating their lives as "perfect". Show us the real struggles and problems, we all go through that. Personally, you have helped me so much, especially not to feel alone. You have all my respect and I wish you all the best! ♥️🙏
Please don’t question the impact that sharing your story can have on others. Since you posted your story it opened my eyes to the abuse I have been through. This on top of hitting a peak of abuse only 2 weeks ago gave me enough strength to leave and get our two children out of the situation. Because of you I have felt I had someone who understood me. Thank you for sharing.
Jess I’m wishing you all the strength in the world. We all struggle and have hardships in life. I’m praying for you and your kiddos. Please find the strength in yourself to continue/reflect on your sobriety path…I’m not an addict but I can only imagine it’s a struggle. I grew up with people in and out of recovery and watched their struggles. Take care of yourself, remove negative influences from your life, and shine as bright as you can. ✨ ❤
You keep it real and I think you’re helping a lot of people. Mental health has been hid and not accepted as a real problem by to many people. You do you because you’re doing great as a mom and a woman.
Jess, someone told me yesterday that when someone is giving you grief or being mean, it’s never about you. It’s ALWAYS ABOUT THEM. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it - my toxic relationship is with a family member so it’s not the same, but when I think about it, it’s so true!! You did nothing wrong, you just have a big heart and try to fix everyone, which is exactly how I am. Ignore these rude, idiot douchebags. Give yourself the love and support and grace you deserve - you put all of this love and care into a bank - withdraw! Let us support and care for you. You are so loved and I know you don’t feel it right now, but you are. You’re awesome, badass, and gentle all at once. Your crew is always here for you, me first in line ❤❤❤
Girl you can only be canceled if you let yourself be. Just keep doing what you’ve always done and what makes you happy, the real ones, we will be here. And if you need a break or anything else, for you and your health. Do it, we will still be here supporting you ❤
I have a lot of admiration and respect for you sharing your story always and being honest. Its clear to me you put a lot of thought into how you approached this situation, and unfortunately the overwhelming consensus when society sees someone come out about abuse isn't compassion but scrutiny and criticism. You don't deserve that. Hopefully one day abuse won't be so normalized ♥️ sending love and the affirmation that the entire internet definitely doesn't hate you
Thank you for always being so open and honest. I can empathize with always being so understanding when it comes to others but having that lack of understanding for myself. It's a struggle and I hope in time you'll learn to have that understanding for yourself. You're so amazing!
I say it’s not oversharing as long as you feel comfortable sharing it you know? Keep doing what you are doing Jess and the real ones will be here to listen and relate in one way or another. I know from all the comments I read on your videos that by you sharing your story you help so many people. ❤❤❤
You are so strong and I am blown away by your strength. I think the only person who can say what is over sharing is , is the person sharing. You share what your comfortable sharing. The more you share could help others or help get you more help from others going through the same thing. Do what feels best for you. You’ve made so much out of yourself and looking back I bet you never would have for-scene this. Keep going mamma you’re doing great for everything your going through. God will give you the strength to push you through it.
I think you are going through so much and I love how you share your journey. You deserve all the love, support, and kindness in the universe. I will always support you.
I always feel like I'm oversharing and I probably do. But I LOVE your channel and your openness and honesty. Listening to you makes me feel so good! You have such an intelligent and analytical way of talking about important things! Keep it up!
Hey there, Sis! It's always nice to see you, your smile, and be reminded just how tough you really are. It gives me SO MUCH ambition to look deeper inside of ME and find MY strengths, too. Thank you for sharing so much. You have HELPED so many. SO, so many people. I HOPE you don't fall for the younger generations and their 'cancel culture'. Honestly, that shit is toxic and is as ALSO I think it's as unreal as the internet itself. Love you, girl... really do.
@Metallica SHE AIN'T YOUR MOMMA KIDDO. YOU MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES. Not only are you OBVIOUSLY living a sad life, you take TH-cam AS Medical Advice???? I'm not wasting my time on you. Later gator!
I’m confused. Y’all both have screenshots that are “the truth” & neither one of y’all are sharing those. 😒 if you did relapse, be honest about it. As someone in recovery the first step to RECOVERY is admitting you’re powerless. You know this!! Still here for you! ❤
I'm sure she would admit to relapsing if she did but then she would be risking custody if her children. I don't blame her for keeping it private if she has due to this and I don't blame her or love her any less if she is struggling. She's only human and I have been baffled that she hasn't been strung out after all she's been through in such a short period of time.
From what I've seen from past comments your fans love your honesty and sharing. You are helping many people in similar situations. You are Overthinking a few critical comments. They don't matter at the end of the day. No more self doubt woman! You got this😁
Lash princess is so good but if you have any issues with smudging try the ilia limitless lash Mascara. Also you really do help people in so many ways so I hope you continue to share your life to whatever degree you feel comfortable. Screw anyone’s negative opinion. I grew up with a narcissist father & nothing is ever good enough for a guy like that. You make me feel less alone. You’ve taught me to be passionate about prison reform. You also gave me more compassion for those struggling with substance abuse in my life. You have truly made a positive impact with your content! Thank you
Please don't go anywhere! And continue to share as much as you feel comfortable. I enjoy your content and found you out of curiosity. Never been to jail or prison but was curious about the experience and you completely educated me. And I enjoyed the rest of your content. Since you've been going through the struggle within your family, it has absolutely open my eyes as to what I had experienced within my marriage. I've been divorced for more than 10 years but haven't been able to have a relationship since. Listening to you really opened my eyes to what I experienced in my marriage and never saw, until I heard you talk about. I never knew I was abused. I had some semblance of a hint but you just confirmed for me. Thank you for helping me to see this today! ❤️
@@metallica2500 why do you feel the need to comment on everybody's positive comments? You don't like her? Easy, don't watch. You are in control of your own destiny. No point in being miserable and being judgmental of people that resonate with her. You don't, that's cool, move on find someone that brings you happiness, makes you laugh or provides motivation. Life is short try to enjoy it. Just a thought but you do you.
@@metallica2500 @metallica2500 why the hell would you let your child watch her videos that are so open and honest? Not to mention, she says she's not supposed to drink with her medication. Quit spamming everyone's comment trying to be a pick me. Jesus.
“I don’t regret the things I did out of love” This is such a beautiful perspective to have and I’ll definitely be taking this into my life more. I have also experienced past domestic violence, abuse, manipulation, my own and a partners crippling addiction and mental health issues so I am forever on my healing journey. I agree giving yourself the same grace and forgiveness that you give to others is huge in moving forward, even if it’s just a little bit at a time. Your not perfect, but neither is anyone else and just because your sharing online doesn’t mean you have to be. I don’t think you over share Jess, your videos and sharing have been so helpful to me. It’s like having a friend that totally gets what I’ve gone through.
I feel like you've lost weight. Please take care of yourself. I say this while I'm in a similar situation you were but you were strong enough to get urself out of it while I sit here weak af. Much love.
I love you Jess. I used to watch you when I was in active addiction, and you actually inspired me and your videos helped me on my journey to recovery. I am now over three years clean from hard drugs, finishing up a bachelors degree in engineering. I still regularly watch your videos. People are going to try to hurt you because they are hurting, or try to put you down to make themselves feel or look better. As long as you know who you are and what you stand for, that’s all that matters. Your supporters are always behind you 100%. ❤
No one is trying to hurt or cancel her. These were loyal longtime supporters. You really need to see the other side. She allowed dealers sell her friend Crk, sx workers giving bjs To her man and friends while kids in the house And tried to destroy the Woman she was supposed to help. That woman never came for her she put out tik toks First to destroy her, made her sign an NDA so she couldn't respond. She did that to because she was Scared and wanted destroy the girls reputation first.
No I disagree you are not over sharing! You are REAL an going threw REAL issues that so so many of us are struggling with. I'm SO THANKFUL for you an you having the courage to be honest not so damn fake like so many others. I love your realness an honesty. Sadly you went threw a horrible situation many of us go threw an keep silent an it costs lives. It's heartbreaking you went threw all of the pain in your life an you made it out! That is EVERYTHING!!! You are a great momma an so smart,kind an funny an we're blessed to have you!!! ❤️🥰
If you ever feel you’re over sharing, that’s totally fine to pull back! But as a viewer and supporter of you I admire how open you have always been. It really makes us feel more connected to you and probably helps SO many people in similar situations. Sending love 🫶🏻
I love you Jess. Been around for years to watch your journey. I truly appreciate you and have a special place in my heart for you. As a woman going through a very similar situation with my children’s father at almost the same time as you, I understand things in your world. It’s ROUGH. Please please be careful in your journey to heal. Please be careful not to rest into going out, getting crazy with friends and the “usual” break up things. They do not heal you, they do not fill the void that’s been left. Reach out to the universe(you don’t have to call it God, just talk to the universe). Rest in karma and trusting that all evil will circle around to those who put it out. Surround yourself with the people you LOOK UP to ♥️ surround yourself with those who have the peace and joy you want. Make new healthy friends. Rebrand yourself(not online I mean internally). Be a new and better you. Continue to carry grace for yourself, but don’t forget your babies are watching. 💕All the love, healing and joy being sent to you. From another momma escaping an abusive partner. 💕
I'm *SO GRATEFUL* to see you, Jess! Way to go!! You are inspiring so many of us. The anxiety in the car thing and the cause of that... The memories. I get it. Keep going girl. I keep wanting to say please, like I need to beg you not to go. But!! I know I don't. You are strong and smart and you're not going anywhere. You wouldn't drop your dreams now. No way. Proud of you!! Go get 'em, girl!!! 💙All my love and prayers for you and yours, always 💙
As a DV survivor, I personally can say, your videos have helped me continue to overcome it. It’s helped me to forgive myself and open my eyes to many things. I enjoy your videos because when I was in the beginning stage of DV- your videos would have been so helpful then as they are now. Thanks for using your platform to educate
In the most respectful way, I have a question… Do you feel like you’ve made any mistakes in the past six months and if so, would you be able to admit to them?
I love love love the way u share the realness of your life! Most people pretend to have this unrelatable perfection and it's all lies. Thank you for your vulnerability! You have helped me so much in my own recovery ❤️ stay unapologetically you!!! Xo
Don’t think you’re undeserving, you are a messenger about life, real life, your life. It’s hard and we respect you for caring and sharing. I totally understand some of your pain. Hope the best for you whatever you decide to do wherever you decide to go. Hugs from IL ❤❤
No I don’t care about none of that. I don’t care what any of those people say and I’m still worried about you. Your behavior says you’re out of control and I’ve been with you since 2K! People are not worried because you’re Oversharing people are worried because your contact change dramatically and it feels very out of control, so Jess I just really hope you are OK
I support this comment. I have a genuine place in my heart for Jess. I’m worried from what I’ve seen not from the ranting and drama brought up by others.
She’s an addict and addicts are liars. She isn’t sober, she’s relapsed (and no I don’t mean weed or booze) and she’s allowing shady ass creeps into her home, and defending it.
I have the problem of oversharing and its difficult to know what to say, when to say it, and who to say it to or to say anything at all. There are so many rules. It's your life. Whatever you have shared has helped. It's weird because I don't even know you. Your channel has really helped me heal and understand what has happened in my life. Thank you for helping us through this journey of life. It can be tough sometimes.
I relate so much to you and I’m so glad you talk about all of this! You’ve mentioned things in this video that I have been through exactly. I really appreciate you talking about it and wish you would continue because it can help so many other women and young girls to see the signs of abuse!
I appreciate that you share your stories. My mom was a jail for some of my childhood and it sucked. Your channel helps people see the perception from the other side and teaches compassion. Thank you for always sharing. If you do stop, please still say hi to us all! 😭❤
I do not think you are over sharing. As long as you and your babies are safe, it’s fine. It’s your story so you choose how much and how little you share! I really think that someone is going to hear what you’ve said and find the bravery to leave an abusive relationship or see their relationship differently. There is no pressure to say anything, it’s your channel, your name and your business.
You should be proud of yourself for all you've gotten through. You are amazing. You deserve this. Seriously. You are doing the good work, destigmatizing so much. Go you, F the haters.
YES! You are no less worthy of the same amount of grace and kindness you’d offer to anyone else. Breath and take this all at your pace and slow down when you need to. You ARE enough. You have a right and duty to protect yourself & your girls and set clear boundaries with EVERYONE. And remember, NO is a complete sentence.
Jess, I’ve followed your main channel for years. You get to process how you want to process. For the people that say you over share, there will be someone who is grateful for the perspective and honesty. So, you do you. You’ve done what you’ve needed for yourself and children.
I think that only you can be the one to decide if you’re over sharing or not because it’s your story and your platform. I also think it was really strong and impressive for you to share what you have because people (understandably) don’t share what leaving an abusive relationship is like in the moment, but there’s a lot of power in that for people to know they aren’t alone in their circumstances and their grief and their hurt. Having used to work in sexual violence recovery, people just learning what leaving will feel and be like is really empowering especially when they are being isolated ❤ Keep on doing you and I wish you peace and healing!! Also, cats are incredibly needy brats lol but they worm their way into your heart. My cats follow me around all day because they really like to be in the same room - maybe a cat tower in your filming room would help to dissuade the cat from climbing the flower wall lol - but also cats r fuckin crazy lmfao
I know you say you like to overshare, just wish you’d have better addressed the Mindy situation as a whole. A lot of people feel guarded about trusting your word now. I’m a DV survivor myself, and I wish you nothing but the best. Hope you continue to thrive girl.
Gurl you are not over sharing. I do the same thing. I wanna tell everyone everything!! But for a reason?? To HELP OTHERS like I’m being brutally fckn honest no matter where I am in life …just to save a life. You are doing your best like give yourself a break babe. & give us some funny ole Jess comedy 😅Bc I love it. Always will. I know it’s hard hard hard to be funny when your so damn down but your naturally a funny person with a lot of info ℹ️ to share! Put it where it matters WE LOVE UUUU
There’s nothing anyone could say that would stop me from viewing your content, here and on the socials. The worst thing is that there are people who are growing their subscribers exponentially due to their lies about you. You’re making the very best out of a terrible situation. Lots of love
Jess, you started creating content to candidly reflect on your experiences and educate others about prison, addiction, abuse, motherhood, etc. I have learned so much from watching your videos and I have appreciated your perspective and honesty. You have this platform because your content is unique, captivating, and honest. I’m so glad you make the content you do, it has been a privilege to watch it all. As far as sharing the happenings in your life, share what you feel comfortable sharing. You are doing the best you can with the resources and information you have. Sending all the good thoughts to you and your family, I hope things get easier 💕
Watching your videos is so emotional for me. I relate to what your going through 100% and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you sharing your experience ❤ they could never cancel you lol 🙃
Thank you for sharing the hard things. Growing up in a hard things type family this would have been great to see going through it. For every person tearing you down there’s the ones who are benefiting from what you share. It’s your story and your kids. Only you can decide what’s too much to share for your family. If it’s too much for someone they can click off. People know what they get from your channel it’s not hidden or click bait. It’s not your job to change your story or shut down your voice because others don’t know that they don’t have to watch it if it’s too much for them. 🤷🏻♀️ ❤
Jess don’t worry about those ppl. You are doing amazing and are so honest and sweet. Things just happen all at one time. They want to bring u down. Be yourself sweety. U r the only person who talks to us about the hard stuff other ppl do not. Please do not change u. U r part of what keeps me going in life. It is your life. If they think u share too much it is because they are either scared to see the hard things and the honest things or they want to stay in denial about themselves or ppl they know. Please just let them talk and do not listen when they do. I promise you you are helping tons of us by being so open
Do not change a thing! Ignore those channels and don't stop. You've brought so much to light that is helping people. You're doing good work. Please don't stop
You sharing has helped me reflect on my own marriage. And it’s helping other see the signs in their relationships if they’re in those kinds of relationships. You are brave for sharing your story.
You’re so strong Jess, especially considering the cards you’ve been dealt. You are really walking through the storm and you’ll get to the other side of it real soon! Ps. Can’t wait for the prison recipe vid! I love those 💖
Don't change for anyone. If they don't like what you put on youtube then they don't have to watch you. You help so many people with your stories. I started to watch your channel because I know someone who is in recovery, I work with this great person. Your stories help me understand how hard it is for my friend to stay on the right path, when there so much out there that can derail him from his success. If you want to share, share. The only reason why they watch you is to get views. They probably wouldn't survive walking a mile in your shoes. You are a strong women who is raising 2 kids on your own. Stay strong and don't let them take your sunshine away.
I'm a Correctional Officer, but I'm subscribed to your channel. I don't agree with everything you say, but I respect you and your channel, and I have empathy for the trauma you have been through. I appreciate how open and honest you are. Fuck everyone who wants to cancel you! Just keep doing what you are doing! Hope you are doing well!
It's YOUR channel. You can share what you want. If people feel discomfort from your story and what you have to say about your life, that is a problem with THEM. I'm sending you so many hugs and yes being patient w yourself and giving grace is key. You're doing amazing on this journey love. Keep doing you
I'm with you all the way, and I see what you're going through. Just wanted to let you know that you are loved and your Ride or die crew is always here. Love from Amsterdam 🌷
As someone who raised a daughter (now 19) with a narcissistic father she no longer speaks to, I would recommend that, before you post anything online, picture your girls as adults like you, fully formed adult individuals, watching the video you’re posting and think about how they’ll feel. Because that will happen. It seems like it was a blink of an eye that my kid went from being a sweet little girl adoring her dad and not wanting me to make any waves by advocating for her when he did horrendously manipulative stuff to her, to her being a full grown, emotionally intelligent young woman who understands everything that just happened for the last 18 years and has now blocked him and won’t even speak to him. That’s just to say that your girls will be grown before you know it and they will see and read everything online. That just needs to come first.
Get your kitty it's own kitty lol. I know it sounds crazy but I promise they will play and entertain one another. And I'm so sorry about all this b.s. Jess. You're a good person and deserve better. 💗 Stay strong. You got this!
The people who say you share “too much” are saying that because it makes THEM uncomfortable to have to acknowledge real issues and not pretend everything is perfect like everyone else on the internet does. Your vulnerability makes them uncomfortable cause they have to deal with their own issues etc. that’s not a reflection on you. It’s a reflection on them. Also, best way to handle the cat problem is to get another cat lol. They always function best with a cat buddy in my experience. ❤. Sending you all love.
Jessica I'm so proud of you and so happy to see you back to yourself somewhat anyway! Just keep your head up and keep rocking it! Girl your a rock star. You been there for your mom's through a real hard time I know I been there but lost my mom. Your a rock star mom! Plus your career!
Cats are actually very sensitive and they need as much emotional support and reassurance as a dog, maybe more. Jackson Galaxy on TH-cam helped me a lot when I was figuring out how to care for my cat. I wasn’t a cat person before. Now I am. They’re very sweet and social. And they love to cuddle.
Jess, I think most people who are attacking you are just worried. We see the signs. We know this dance. We have all lied about relapse at some point or know someone who has. Maybe you're scared for your career sake, for your girls sake but we are worried. You HAVE been through so much and we all know the things you have been through would trigger most addicts to use. No we don't know your real life but girl we are seeing red flags everywhere... I'm so sad over this. TH-cam might not be your real life but we care about you as a real ass person, not a content creator. Ride or die doesn't mean going along with a person's bs. It's calling your ride or die out when they're fucking up cause that's what real mfs do.
Hey there sweet little lady...I love your quilt ❤️!! Your studio is really cute 🥰... don't let the as*holes get you down! What matters is how you feel about the content you put out. Share only what makes you comfortable! Jess, ppl suck. You know this! Stay strong and take care of yourself and your family.. everything else will fall into place.
I have a 12 year old cat and I’m fostering a 1 year old kitty… she’s SO energetic, I forgot how much play time they need. My older cat just likes to sleep all day 😹 definitely recommend some play time and interactive toys for the kitten!
To be honest Jess this is your home, we are your friends. And I would never tell my friends to stop sharing with me. And that it's just too much. You've helped me in ways, that I just can't thank you enough. So you are allowed to feel how ever, and share how much ever you want! People always want to rip people apart, over sharing I just think that is the stupidest shit ever. Don't watch her if you think she's over sharing!!! Because she helps multiple people on the daily, don't ruin that for her or for us. This is healing for Jess as well to share with us. Anyways I'm a ride or die Jess. I love you so much keep sharing and keep healing. I am here for all of it.
Literally I love your honesty and just how transparent and genuine you are, yes you talk about tough realistic shit that’s happened in your life but that’s why I watch you, I don’t want to watch all these fake TH-camrs who only do sponsored videos and don’t share anything personal or honest I’ll keep supporting your channel because you’re An amazing mumma and I love your videos, feels like im talking with a best friend ❤ so wholesome and just genuine Don’t let people like that get too you x you’re so strong and have so many people supporting and backing you up ❤
No one truly gets cancelled cause you'll see we all are still her. Also you have to do the things that are right for you and your baby's. WE ARE NOT GOING ANYWHERE JESS. WE ARE YOUR RIDER DIE CREW.
If they think you’re over sharing, I have great news for them! 🌈 You don’t have to watch ✨ 😮 Ultimately you decide. If you want to reel it back, do so. But I’m sure a majority of the people who watch, like how open you are. You’re not only educational, but relatable. Which is important for some people who are going through the same kind of situation, or have gone through. Or god forbid, will go through. If someone gets too attached or worried about you, that’s between them and their therapist if they have one.
My team watched the vial video Mindy put out. To protect my peace they gave me the highlights in group chat and we laughed it off. If she wants to make up crazy shit and side with my abuser for views .. there’s nothing I can do about it. It’s hard to not defend myself and prove she’s lying esp bc I can 💯 I won’t bc when I said I cared her mental health and I meant it. Mine doesn’t seem to matter to her or the other women teaming up against me and that’s ok. I won’t let them change my heart. I know me. They don’t. Love you guys 💚
Mindy person siding w R friggin heck
Once you put ur self out there to the public. Everyone’s going to have an opinion 😅
You're a good person, Jess 🥺
I thought you might would like to know that Mindy is still making videos trying to "explain" what went on and I don't understand why she just can't let anything go and move on! She really needs to grow tf up! People in recovery that are really in recovery and have been recovery learn to forgive and move on. Apparently she still using or forgot her principles in recovery!
Wow so sorry to hear this. I’ve been a subscriber to your channel not long after you started. If it makes you feel any better I have no idea who “Mindy” is. I bet the majority of your subscribers- true ride or dies- are like me.
Girl this is YOUR business if you want to share it. SHARE IT. You’re allowed. You are not responsible for the feelings/opinions/emotions of anyone else, these are all adults. I love your perspective, and your vulnerability. Please don’t change for anyone but yourself and those beautiful kiddos ♥️
Also: people are free to go to another channel if they don’t like your content. Don’t change yourself for other people.
I agree 1,000000%! She's such an inspiration and could very well be saving others with what she is sharing. We love her through everything!
@@ReisigSeeds I don't think she wants that.
Exactly !!! Her story has helped me more than she knows
Yes! I have never once thought you were over sharing.
If you don’t “over share”, someone will inevitably dig up your secrets and “share” them for you. Then tell you you’re not transparent. If you are transparent, you are “over sharing”. You cannot please everyone. You do what works for you and we’ll be here regardless.
On the topic of you oversharing, I am actually so grateful that you have shared as much as you have - I was recently in a similar situation to you, and it helped me heal in so many ways. I know it wasn't easy for you, but your strength and ability to talk so openly about it has helped me move forwards to get the help I need. I love and appreciate how open you are, as these are topics that as you mentioned, aren't spoken about much. Watching your videos (even ones that I don't relate to firsthand) still inspire me so much as no matter what I may go through, people are always going through things, and to keep on fighting.
When you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s not always clear to yourself that you’re in one. You can know all the signs, offer help to others but still not recognize being in one yourself.
Being aware and talking about this. Helps others. Makes others feel like they are not alone, but also can give others insight to their loved one situations as well.
This 👆👆
This is true!
I was with my ex husband for almost 8 full year years, before I realized he was *that* kind of guy. We'd have conversations about how he was economically and otherwise abusive & he would say "😬 oh I'm not *that* guy-🥴 am I?"
🙄 well- if you have to ask? 😵💫
Narcissists are just masters at playing stupid to get their way...
I 💯 agree with you!
Amen
your kitty is bored and wants to play or be entertained! when I got my kitten, these are things that worked really well for me as a grad student with little to no time:
- window bird feeder (they will spend hours being entertained staring at the birds in the feeder. I got a clear one that suction cups to the window on Amazon for not that much money)
- 8-12 hour youtube videos made for cats (some of them like to watch TV)
- phone/tablet apps with games for cats (I would leave my tablet open with the game and let her play with it while I had to do something)
- automatic toys (my cat loves the one that goes around in a circle with the cloth over it. it'll keep her entertained for hours. and if you get nice ones, they will go into sleep mode and save battery until they touch it again)
also jackson galaxy here on TH-cam has a lot of videos to help people with understanding their cats. understanding cat body language is so important when having a cat because it's so different than dog body language (he helped me a lot because I had a dog for a long time before and forgot cat body language). you will pick it up fast, but it's important to get the basics. also having a new cat is hard because you are both trying to learn how to communicate with each other without words. give both of you space to learn each other.
Great advice. I also reccomend tunnels and treat dispensing toys. All you have to do is show them you are filling it with treats and then they will play with the toy. If you are having a hard time, just wait for your cat to come to you to pet and interact most of the time.
And leave open spaces for them to lay and nap near you as you do your business, they love that. Preferably at some height.
@SwordLily oh yes, I forgot about tunnels! my kitty loves her tunnel! also, harness training is really useful for supervised and responsible outdoor play
Jessica I had to stop this video to comment. My adult daughter had a partner who did what you describe - would drive erratically and pretend he was going to hit things and jerk the wheel at the last minute. And then one night I got a phone call at 4 something in the morning by our local hospital telling me my daughter was in a car accident and was in the hospital because her boyfriend had driven her into a tree and she was in critical condition. It was the scariest day of my life. 5 broken bones, physical therapy, and PTSD - but alive. On behalf of your family and loved ones I'm SO glad no one had to get that call about you. Thank you for getting yourself safe. From one mom to another.
Wow! I’m sorry that happened to your daughter, but I’m grateful to hear she’s alive! Wishing her a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
@@bratalie9227 Thank you so much, I'm grateful too. It has been a couple years and while she will never be the same, she's alive and away from that guy!
🙏🏻
@@RealChatWithKat You’re very welcome ♥️
You could visualize mirrors around this fucker to return bad energy. He deserves to get of the planet.
Girl, there’s a lot of us that’s not giving up on you. You are loved!!!
As a cat person, the most low maintenance cat is actually two cats! When they're friends they play together and entertain each other. Your cat sounds like she's bored and lonely when your daughter is away.
I was thinking the same thing! but also, would playing with the dogs be a good substitute? assuming the dogs are gentle and play well. I genuinely don't know and never thought about that dynamic until right now lol
I'm so glad when I convinced my husband to let us get a kitten I convinced him to let us get 2. They definitely entertain each other.
Yeah, when you get 4 is when you're in for it, unless you have a rescue cat that has low expectations/ has become reclusive and are older.
I had a singular cat that had been abused and all she needed was to be around me most of the time, that brought her joy. She was always in the double digits when I had her, too, so she didn't super love playing all the time, only sometimes. She was there for me as much as I was.
I forgot the abuse meant she had problems with certain things like using her litter box but less physical neglect in a rescue cat would not produce that, but emotionally it wasn't hard to care for her, she just needed to know I was there if she wanted me.
@@melissamath totally depends - my kitten and my dog love each other so much and play/cuddle 24/7. But I know cats and dogs that just stay out of each other’s way. It really depends
So true. I got a kitten over the summer and then a month later a second kitten. They fought for 3 days and now they are bffs. When I got my first kitten I was thinking he came from a house with a bunch of cats it was a shelter. If he comes to my house he will never see a cat again for the rest of his life. So we got Wilma to be his friend. Worked out great.
I just want to say how much I relate to your situation and how much I appreciate you sharing your experience. You inspired me to leave my abusive husband and I am so much happier. I never thought I would be a whole ass person without him, but here I am! Thank you for being you. You have no idea how much you have helped me. You literally saved my life. Thank you, Jess. 🖤
Congratulations!! SO HAPPY for you!!
With love from another survivor ❤️
I'm so happy for you! Blessings! 💕
Aww, good for you! I promise you, each day gets better and better! Have a great weekend!
Way to take that big step!
Congratulations! You have a lot of people (whether they say so or not) supporting you, cheering you on, got your back! A lot of us have been through it, and we know how hard it is! You got this!!!
You give me chills. You are allowed to be transparent. I love you so much and I appreciate you giving us so much of yourself.
It's amazing how, after a dv relationship when you are past the early trauma and adjusting to living without him, how much you can reflect on how you were mistreated and the numerous warning signs that were there and you didn't see or notice. You tend to think with your heart rather than with your head in these circumstances, so it's interesting listening to you and how you are thinking and realising now, how much you were abused. You go girl!
People who haven't been in DV relationships don't understand. My ex stabbed me twice beat the crap out of me and my dumbass kept trying to make excuses for him when he was just a piece of shit of a man. I'm sooo glad I got on that stand that day and told my story. He's now serving his time and I hope he gets the help he needs.
Exactly! I'm sorry that happened to you but a great outcome!
I can't tell you how much I absolutely appreciate you sharing. I hope YOU don't feel you are oversharing, because your latest videos have helped me more than any other videos you've shared. I'm literally in the situation now, and getting a plan together to get out. I too am realizing the abuse I've put up with for the last 8 years. I appreciate you so much 💜 And I truly thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the ways you've helped me and my kiddos as well. Can't wait to see what the future holds for you and the girls 💜🖤💜🖤
Just wanted to say that I appreciate you oversharing because it helps dispell the cloud of perfectness most parts of the internet creates, and it shows me how strong people can be manipulated and make mistakes without being looked at as weak in my eyes, like I look to myself when I do the same.
Girl, do overshare! So sick of everybody perpetrating their lives as "perfect". Show us the real struggles and problems, we all go through that. Personally, you have helped me so much, especially not to feel alone. You have all my respect and I wish you all the best! ♥️🙏
Please don’t question the impact that sharing your story can have on others. Since you posted your story it opened my eyes to the abuse I have been through. This on top of hitting a peak of abuse only 2 weeks ago gave me enough strength to leave and get our two children out of the situation. Because of you I have felt I had someone who understood me. Thank you for sharing.
Jess I’m wishing you all the strength in the world. We all struggle and have hardships in life. I’m praying for you and your kiddos. Please find the strength in yourself to continue/reflect on your sobriety path…I’m not an addict but I can only imagine it’s a struggle. I grew up with people in and out of recovery and watched their struggles. Take care of yourself, remove negative influences from your life, and shine as bright as you can. ✨ ❤
Your willingness to be open and honest has helped me more than you will ever know. Thank you!
You keep it real and I think you’re helping a lot of people. Mental health has been hid and not accepted as a real problem by to many people. You do you because you’re doing great as a mom and a woman.
Jess, someone told me yesterday that when someone is giving you grief or being mean, it’s never about you. It’s ALWAYS ABOUT THEM. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it - my toxic relationship is with a family member so it’s not the same, but when I think about it, it’s so true!! You did nothing wrong, you just have a big heart and try to fix everyone, which is exactly how I am. Ignore these rude, idiot douchebags. Give yourself the love and support and grace you deserve - you put all of this love and care into a bank - withdraw! Let us support and care for you. You are so loved and I know you don’t feel it right now, but you are. You’re awesome, badass, and gentle all at once. Your crew is always here for you, me first in line ❤❤❤
Girl you can only be canceled if you let yourself be. Just keep doing what you’ve always done and what makes you happy, the real ones, we will be here. And if you need a break or anything else, for you and your health. Do it, we will still be here supporting you ❤
THISSSSSS YES
Omg Jess, I'm SO proud of you!! Came here just to write this message. You're still shining 🌟
I have a lot of admiration and respect for you sharing your story always and being honest. Its clear to me you put a lot of thought into how you approached this situation, and unfortunately the overwhelming consensus when society sees someone come out about abuse isn't compassion but scrutiny and criticism. You don't deserve that. Hopefully one day abuse won't be so normalized ♥️ sending love and the affirmation that the entire internet definitely doesn't hate you
Thank you for always being so open and honest. I can empathize with always being so understanding when it comes to others but having that lack of understanding for myself. It's a struggle and I hope in time you'll learn to have that understanding for yourself. You're so amazing!
I say it’s not oversharing as long as you feel comfortable sharing it you know? Keep doing what you are doing Jess and the real ones will be here to listen and relate in one way or another. I know from all the comments I read on your videos that by you sharing your story you help so many people. ❤❤❤
You are so strong and I am blown away by your strength. I think the only person who can say what is over sharing is , is the person sharing. You share what your comfortable sharing. The more you share could help others or help get you more help from others going through the same thing. Do what feels best for you. You’ve made so much out of yourself and looking back I bet you never would have for-scene this. Keep going mamma you’re doing great for everything your going through. God will give you the strength to push you through it.
I think you are going through so much and I love how you share your journey. You deserve all the love, support, and kindness in the universe. I will always support you.
“I don’t regret the things I did out of love” wow I didn’t know I needed to hear that!
I always feel like I'm oversharing and I probably do. But I LOVE your channel and your openness and honesty. Listening to you makes me feel so good! You have such an intelligent and analytical way of talking about important things! Keep it up!
Hey there, Sis! It's always nice to see you, your smile, and be reminded just how tough you really are. It gives me SO MUCH ambition to look deeper inside of ME and find MY strengths, too. Thank you for sharing so much. You have HELPED so many. SO, so many people. I HOPE you don't fall for the younger generations and their 'cancel culture'. Honestly, that shit is toxic and is as ALSO I think it's as unreal as the internet itself. Love you, girl... really do.
@Metallica SHE AIN'T YOUR MOMMA KIDDO. YOU MAKE YOUR OWN CHOICES. Not only are you OBVIOUSLY living a sad life, you take TH-cam AS Medical Advice???? I'm not wasting my time on you. Later gator!
CPS Getting involved in your life is no joke. I hope you are able to find some peace and stability for you and your children.
When did she mention CPS
@@JustMe-px9qy Last video she discussed CPS, being drug tested multiple times by them.
@@JustMe-px9qy she has failed multiple drug tests apparently. Mindy brought this up and Jessica hasn’t denied it.
@@Musicsports - got it. thanks
@@KatTheTruth - it’s hard to know what to believe
I’m confused. Y’all both have screenshots that are “the truth” & neither one of y’all are sharing those. 😒 if you did relapse, be honest about it. As someone in recovery the first step to RECOVERY is admitting you’re powerless. You know this!! Still here for you! ❤
I'm sure she would admit to relapsing if she did but then she would be risking custody if her children. I don't blame her for keeping it private if she has due to this and I don't blame her or love her any less if she is struggling. She's only human and I have been baffled that she hasn't been strung out after all she's been through in such a short period of time.
Mindy has shared a lot of screenshots
Mindy has posted screenshots and to say it has left 1000s of people speechless and upset is an understatement
She did relapse.
@@tayoriginal4067 are you talking about the video she posted yesterday?
From what I've seen from past comments your fans love your honesty and sharing. You are helping many people in similar situations. You are Overthinking a few critical comments. They don't matter at the end of the day. No more self doubt woman! You got this😁
Girl please do not stop being who you are!!! You give so many people hope in their own story❤
Lash princess is so good but if you have any issues with smudging try the ilia limitless lash Mascara. Also you really do help people in so many ways so I hope you continue to share your life to whatever degree you feel comfortable. Screw anyone’s negative opinion. I grew up with a narcissist father & nothing is ever good enough for a guy like that. You make me feel less alone. You’ve taught me to be passionate about prison reform. You also gave me more compassion for those struggling with substance abuse in my life. You have truly made a positive impact with your content! Thank you
Girl I am so sorry! I'm so happy for momma Kent!! You are so much better without him and I cant wait to see your main channel grow to a million ❤
Please don't go anywhere! And continue to share as much as you feel comfortable. I enjoy your content and found you out of curiosity. Never been to jail or prison but was curious about the experience and you completely educated me. And I enjoyed the rest of your content.
Since you've been going through the struggle within your family, it has absolutely open my eyes as to what I had experienced within my marriage. I've been divorced for more than 10 years but haven't been able to have a relationship since. Listening to you really opened my eyes to what I experienced in my marriage and never saw, until I heard you talk about. I never knew I was abused. I had some semblance of a hint but you just confirmed for me. Thank you for helping me to see this today! ❤️
Be unapologetically YOU. That is what I have always loved about you.
That you are REAL!!!
@@metallica2500 why do you feel the need to comment on everybody's positive comments? You don't like her? Easy, don't watch. You are in control of your own destiny. No point in being miserable and being judgmental of people that resonate with her. You don't, that's cool, move on find someone that brings you happiness, makes you laugh or provides motivation. Life is short try to enjoy it. Just a thought but you do you.
Is that a joke ??
You have the most gullible followers on earth
@@metallica2500 @metallica2500 why the hell would you let your child watch her videos that are so open and honest? Not to mention, she says she's not supposed to drink with her medication. Quit spamming everyone's comment trying to be a pick me. Jesus.
@@babyface45 yes! Thank you!
“I don’t regret the things I did out of love” This is such a beautiful perspective to have and I’ll definitely be taking this into my life more. I have also experienced past domestic violence, abuse, manipulation, my own and a partners crippling addiction and mental health issues so I am forever on my healing journey. I agree giving yourself the same grace and forgiveness that you give to others is huge in moving forward, even if it’s just a little bit at a time. Your not perfect, but neither is anyone else and just because your sharing online doesn’t mean you have to be. I don’t think you over share Jess, your videos and sharing have been so helpful to me. It’s like having a friend that totally gets what I’ve gone through.
I feel like you've lost weight. Please take care of yourself. I say this while I'm in a similar situation you were but you were strong enough to get urself out of it while I sit here weak af. Much love.
Jessica keep doing what you do. You are “real” on TH-cam and people respect and love you for the person you are.
I love you Jess. I used to watch you when I was in active addiction, and you actually inspired me and your videos helped me on my journey to recovery. I am now over three years clean from hard drugs, finishing up a bachelors degree in engineering. I still regularly watch your videos. People are going to try to hurt you because they are hurting, or try to put you down to make themselves feel or look better. As long as you know who you are and what you stand for, that’s all that matters. Your supporters are always behind you 100%. ❤
Sounds like life is going amazing, I'm glad! That's amazing, good luck with your degree 💛
No one is trying to hurt or cancel her. These were loyal longtime supporters. You really need to see the other side. She allowed dealers sell her friend Crk, sx workers giving bjs
To her man and friends while kids in the house
And tried to destroy the
Woman she was supposed to help. That woman never came for her she put out tik toks
First to destroy her, made her sign an NDA so she couldn't respond. She did that to because she was
Scared and wanted destroy the girls reputation first.
No I disagree you are not over sharing! You are REAL an going threw REAL issues that so so many of us are struggling with. I'm SO THANKFUL for you an you having the courage to be honest not so damn fake like so many others. I love your realness an honesty. Sadly you went threw a horrible situation many of us go threw an keep silent an it costs lives. It's heartbreaking you went threw all of the pain in your life an you made it out! That is EVERYTHING!!! You are a great momma an so smart,kind an funny an we're blessed to have you!!! ❤️🥰
If you ever feel you’re over sharing, that’s totally fine to pull back! But as a viewer and supporter of you I admire how open you have always been. It really makes us feel more connected to you and probably helps SO many people in similar situations. Sending love 🫶🏻
You, Jessica, are wise beyond your years. You do what you need to do to heal. Much love.
I love you Jess. Been around for years to watch your journey. I truly appreciate you and have a special place in my heart for you. As a woman going through a very similar situation with my children’s father at almost the same time as you, I understand things in your world. It’s ROUGH. Please please be careful in your journey to heal. Please be careful not to rest into going out, getting crazy with friends and the “usual” break up things. They do not heal you, they do not fill the void that’s been left. Reach out to the universe(you don’t have to call it God, just talk to the universe). Rest in karma and trusting that all evil will circle around to those who put it out. Surround yourself with the people you LOOK UP to ♥️ surround yourself with those who have the peace and joy you want. Make new healthy friends. Rebrand yourself(not online I mean internally). Be a new and better you. Continue to carry grace for yourself, but don’t forget your babies are watching.
💕All the love, healing and joy being sent to you. From another momma escaping an abusive partner. 💕
I'm *SO GRATEFUL* to see you, Jess! Way to go!! You are inspiring so many of us. The anxiety in the car thing and the cause of that... The memories. I get it. Keep going girl. I keep wanting to say please, like I need to beg you not to go. But!! I know I don't. You are strong and smart and you're not going anywhere. You wouldn't drop your dreams now. No way. Proud of you!! Go get 'em, girl!!! 💙All my love and prayers for you and yours, always 💙
Just concerned, we care about you! Worried you are opening yourself up to a repeat performance with different cast of characters.
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As a DV survivor, I personally can say, your videos have helped me continue to overcome it. It’s helped me to forgive myself and open my eyes to many things. I enjoy your videos because when I was in the beginning stage of DV- your videos would have been so helpful then as they are now. Thanks for using your platform to educate
In the most respectful way, I have a question… Do you feel like you’ve made any mistakes in the past six months and if so, would you be able to admit to them?
No.. she wouldn't!
Well it would really help if she could
I love love love the way u share the realness of your life! Most people pretend to have this unrelatable perfection and it's all lies. Thank you for your vulnerability! You have helped me so much in my own recovery ❤️ stay unapologetically you!!! Xo
Don’t think you’re undeserving, you are a messenger about life, real life, your life. It’s hard and we respect you for caring and sharing. I totally understand some of your pain. Hope the best for you whatever you decide to do wherever you decide to go. Hugs from IL ❤❤
Love you Jess ❤❤❤ I’m so glad you share your story. It lets me and others know we’re NOT ALONE
No I don’t care about none of that. I don’t care what any of those people say and I’m still worried about you. Your behavior says you’re out of control and I’ve been with you since 2K! People are not worried because you’re Oversharing people are worried because your contact change dramatically and it feels very out of control, so Jess I just really hope you are OK
I support this comment. I have a genuine place in my heart for Jess. I’m worried from what I’ve seen not from the ranting and drama brought up by others.
All this thru a screen 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm truly speechless after seeing the text conversation between Jessica and Mindy. I feel so duped
She’s an addict and addicts are liars. She isn’t sober, she’s relapsed (and no I don’t mean weed or booze) and she’s allowing shady ass creeps into her home, and defending it.
I have the problem of oversharing and its difficult to know what to say, when to say it, and who to say it to or to say anything at all. There are so many rules. It's your life. Whatever you have shared has helped. It's weird because I don't even know you. Your channel has really helped me heal and understand what has happened in my life. Thank you for helping us through this journey of life. It can be tough sometimes.
I relate so much to you and I’m so glad you talk about all of this! You’ve mentioned things in this video that I have been through exactly. I really appreciate you talking about it and wish you would continue because it can help so many other women and young girls to see the signs of abuse!
I appreciate that you share your stories. My mom was a jail for some of my childhood and it sucked. Your channel helps people see the perception from the other side and teaches compassion. Thank you for always sharing. If you do stop, please still say hi to us all! 😭❤
I do not think you are over sharing. As long as you and your babies are safe, it’s fine. It’s your story so you choose how much and how little you share! I really think that someone is going to hear what you’ve said and find the bravery to leave an abusive relationship or see their relationship differently. There is no pressure to say anything, it’s your channel, your name and your business.
Jessica u r not over sharing. The depression video. Helped my friends understand me . They now understand it's not them . U rock
You should be proud of yourself for all you've gotten through. You are amazing. You deserve this. Seriously. You are doing the good work, destigmatizing so much. Go you, F the haters.
YES! You are no less worthy of the same amount of grace and kindness you’d offer to anyone else. Breath and take this all at your pace and slow down when you need to. You ARE enough. You have a right and duty to protect yourself & your girls and set clear boundaries with EVERYONE. And remember, NO is a complete sentence.
Jess, I’ve followed your main channel for years. You get to process how you want to process. For the people that say you over share, there will be someone who is grateful for the perspective and honesty. So, you do you. You’ve done what you’ve needed for yourself and children.
I don’t think you over share at all. Your sharing and honesty helped build your channel and connect all of us together. You help!❤️
Thank you so much for sharing all your stories!and all the details.Praying for your peace of mind.and good health and blessings to your family
I think that only you can be the one to decide if you’re over sharing or not because it’s your story and your platform. I also think it was really strong and impressive for you to share what you have because people (understandably) don’t share what leaving an abusive relationship is like in the moment, but there’s a lot of power in that for people to know they aren’t alone in their circumstances and their grief and their hurt. Having used to work in sexual violence recovery, people just learning what leaving will feel and be like is really empowering especially when they are being isolated ❤ Keep on doing you and I wish you peace and healing!!
Also, cats are incredibly needy brats lol but they worm their way into your heart. My cats follow me around all day because they really like to be in the same room - maybe a cat tower in your filming room would help to dissuade the cat from climbing the flower wall lol - but also cats r fuckin crazy lmfao
I know you say you like to overshare, just wish you’d have better addressed the Mindy situation as a whole. A lot of people feel guarded about trusting your word now. I’m a DV survivor myself, and I wish you nothing but the best. Hope you continue to thrive girl.
Gurl you are not over sharing. I do the same thing. I wanna tell everyone everything!! But for a reason?? To HELP OTHERS like I’m being brutally fckn honest no matter where I am in life …just to save a life. You are doing your best like give yourself a break babe. & give us some funny ole Jess comedy 😅Bc I love it. Always will. I know it’s hard hard hard to be funny when your so damn down but your naturally a funny person with a lot of info ℹ️ to share! Put it where it matters WE LOVE UUUU
There’s nothing anyone could say that would stop me from viewing your content, here and on the socials. The worst thing is that there are people who are growing their subscribers exponentially due to their lies about you. You’re making the very best out of a terrible situation. Lots of love
Jess, you started creating content to candidly reflect on your experiences and educate others about prison, addiction, abuse, motherhood, etc. I have learned so much from watching your videos and I have appreciated your perspective and honesty. You have this platform because your content is unique, captivating, and honest. I’m so glad you make the content you do, it has been a privilege to watch it all. As far as sharing the happenings in your life, share what you feel comfortable sharing. You are doing the best you can with the resources and information you have. Sending all the good thoughts to you and your family, I hope things get easier 💕
Watching your videos is so emotional for me. I relate to what your going through 100% and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you sharing your experience ❤ they could never cancel you lol 🙃
Thank you for sharing the hard things. Growing up in a hard things type family this would have been great to see going through it. For every person tearing you down there’s the ones who are benefiting from what you share. It’s your story and your kids. Only you can decide what’s too much to share for your family. If it’s too much for someone they can click off. People know what they get from your channel it’s not hidden or click bait. It’s not your job to change your story or shut down your voice because others don’t know that they don’t have to watch it if it’s too much for them. 🤷🏻♀️ ❤
Jess don’t worry about those ppl. You are doing amazing and are so honest and sweet. Things just happen all at one time. They want to bring u down. Be yourself sweety. U r the only person who talks to us about the hard stuff other ppl do not. Please do not change u. U r part of what keeps me going in life. It is your life. If they think u share too much it is because they are either scared to see the hard things and the honest things or they want to stay in denial about themselves or ppl they know. Please just let them talk and do not listen when they do. I promise you you are helping tons of us by being so open
Do not change a thing! Ignore those channels and don't stop. You've brought so much to light that is helping people. You're doing good work. Please don't stop
You are beautiful, kind, and incredibly strong! Best wishes for you and your family!
You sharing has helped me reflect on my own marriage. And it’s helping other see the signs in their relationships if they’re in those kinds of relationships. You are brave for sharing your story.
You’re so strong Jess, especially considering the cards you’ve been dealt. You are really walking through the storm and you’ll get to the other side of it real soon!
Ps. Can’t wait for the prison recipe vid! I love those 💖
Don't change for anyone. If they don't like what you put on youtube then they don't have to watch you. You help so many people with your stories. I started to watch your channel because I know someone who is in recovery, I work with this great person. Your stories help me understand how hard it is for my friend to stay on the right path, when there so much out there that can derail him from his success. If you want to share, share. The only reason why they watch you is to get views. They probably wouldn't survive walking a mile in your shoes. You are a strong women who is raising 2 kids on your own. Stay strong and don't let them take your sunshine away.
I'm a Correctional Officer, but I'm subscribed to your channel. I don't agree with everything you say, but I respect you and your channel, and I have empathy for the trauma you have been through. I appreciate how open and honest you are. Fuck everyone who wants to cancel you! Just keep doing what you are doing! Hope you are doing well!
It's YOUR channel. You can share what you want. If people feel discomfort from your story and what you have to say about your life, that is a problem with THEM. I'm sending you so many hugs and yes being patient w yourself and giving grace is key. You're doing amazing on this journey love. Keep doing you
I'm with you all the way, and I see what you're going through. Just wanted to let you know that you are loved and your Ride or die crew is always here. Love from Amsterdam 🌷
Sharing is caring and I healing is never painless. I respect your honesty and passion. Congratulations and thank you
I hope you get the help you need.
I’m so grateful for your sharing. It helps me keep going and gives me hope. ❤ And it does help change the game.
As someone who raised a daughter (now 19) with a narcissistic father she no longer speaks to, I would recommend that, before you post anything online, picture your girls as adults like you, fully formed adult individuals, watching the video you’re posting and think about how they’ll feel. Because that will happen. It seems like it was a blink of an eye that my kid went from being a sweet little girl adoring her dad and not wanting me to make any waves by advocating for her when he did horrendously manipulative stuff to her, to her being a full grown, emotionally intelligent young woman who understands everything that just happened for the last 18 years and has now blocked him and won’t even speak to him. That’s just to say that your girls will be grown before you know it and they will see and read everything online. That just needs to come first.
Thank you for sharing this. A lot of women have been through this, or are going through it right now. We are not alone
Get your kitty it's own kitty lol. I know it sounds crazy but I promise they will play and entertain one another. And I'm so sorry about all this b.s. Jess. You're a good person and deserve better. 💗 Stay strong. You got this!
You are not over sharing, I enjoy watching your videos. You do you and the hell with the haters
The people who say you share “too much” are saying that because it makes THEM uncomfortable to have to acknowledge real issues and not pretend everything is perfect like everyone else on the internet does. Your vulnerability makes them uncomfortable cause they have to deal with their own issues etc. that’s not a reflection on you. It’s a reflection on them.
Also, best way to handle the cat problem is to get another cat lol. They always function best with a cat buddy in my experience. ❤. Sending you all love.
Jessica I'm so proud of you and so happy to see you back to yourself somewhat anyway! Just keep your head up and keep rocking it! Girl your a rock star. You been there for your mom's through a real hard time I know I been there but lost my mom. Your a rock star mom! Plus your career!
Cats are actually very sensitive and they need as much emotional support and reassurance as a dog, maybe more. Jackson Galaxy on TH-cam helped me a lot when I was figuring out how to care for my cat. I wasn’t a cat person before. Now I am. They’re very sweet and social. And they love to cuddle.
I just love your channel! Thanks for all your content, you help people by just being you and your honesty!
Jess, I think most people who are attacking you are just worried. We see the signs. We know this dance. We have all lied about relapse at some point or know someone who has. Maybe you're scared for your career sake, for your girls sake but we are worried. You HAVE been through so much and we all know the things you have been through would trigger most addicts to use. No we don't know your real life but girl we are seeing red flags everywhere... I'm so sad over this. TH-cam might not be your real life but we care about you as a real ass person, not a content creator. Ride or die doesn't mean going along with a person's bs. It's calling your ride or die out when they're fucking up cause that's what real mfs do.
💯 we were called ride or dies, not a damn hug box that's gonna let her be fugged up & trigger those who are in recovery cause she's SMACKED!!!
yes. I am so confused by her repeat comment "maybe over sharing is the problem"😳🤷🏻♀️ I wish her the best but total 🚩🚩
Hey there sweet little lady...I love your quilt ❤️!! Your studio is really cute 🥰... don't let the as*holes get you down! What matters is how you feel about the content you put out. Share only what makes you comfortable! Jess, ppl suck. You know this! Stay strong and take care of yourself and your family.. everything else will fall into place.
I have a 12 year old cat and I’m fostering a 1 year old kitty… she’s SO energetic, I forgot how much play time they need. My older cat just likes to sleep all day 😹 definitely recommend some play time and interactive toys for the kitten!
To be honest Jess this is your home, we are your friends. And I would never tell my friends to stop sharing with me. And that it's just too much. You've helped me in ways, that I just can't thank you enough. So you are allowed to feel how ever, and share how much ever you want! People always want to rip people apart, over sharing I just think that is the stupidest shit ever. Don't watch her if you think she's over sharing!!! Because she helps multiple people on the daily, don't ruin that for her or for us. This is healing for Jess as well to share with us. Anyways I'm a ride or die Jess. I love you so much keep sharing and keep healing. I am here for all of it.
Girl maybe you need to take a break from the internet and making videos and just take time to heal we will be here
Honestly, I'd fall off the darn grid for a while if I were her. Even if it's just for a week. Time to reset and hopefully destress.
Literally I love your honesty and just how transparent and genuine you are, yes you talk about tough realistic shit that’s happened in your life but that’s why I watch you, I don’t want to watch all these fake TH-camrs who only do sponsored videos and don’t share anything personal or honest
I’ll keep supporting your channel because you’re An amazing mumma and I love your videos, feels like im talking with a best friend ❤ so wholesome and just genuine
Don’t let people like that get too you x you’re so strong and have so many people supporting and backing you up ❤
No one truly gets cancelled cause you'll see we all are still her. Also you have to do the things that are right for you and your baby's. WE ARE NOT GOING ANYWHERE JESS. WE ARE YOUR RIDER DIE CREW.
You are not over sharing!!! Thank you for sharing your story!
If they think you’re over sharing, I have great news for them! 🌈 You don’t have to watch ✨ 😮 Ultimately you decide. If you want to reel it back, do so. But I’m sure a majority of the people who watch, like how open you are. You’re not only educational, but relatable. Which is important for some people who are going through the same kind of situation, or have gone through. Or god forbid, will go through.
If someone gets too attached or worried about you, that’s between them and their therapist if they have one.