YES! Get it all spelled out in writing BEFORE one of you move on to a new relationship. Especially the financial situation. That's Brex's future. It should be 50/50. Medical insurance, medical bills, education costs EVERY thing!!! You'll find happiness again. Hang in there!! Hugs ❤Glad you are living with Melinda she's been through a break up with a child so she should be a good mentor during this time. I'm really sorry this happened.
My heart breaks for you Lacey and I have so much respect for the way you and Eli are handling this situation, putting your daughter's best interest first and foremost.
Lacey, as a single mum to 3, beautiful children, let me say that in the kindest way possible, you do not owe anyone an explanation about your separation from Eli. Be kind to yourself always!! Your heart will heal in time & you'll find love when the time is right. Just love you for you & take all the time you need to heal. Xx
I love that you are setting boundaries and protecting your peace, and Bexley's peace. Nobody has the right to any information you don't want to share. Sending you love.
sobbing. lacey, i love you so much, you are not alone. ik your going through a lot but all your fans love you, and we care about you. im so sorry your going through, what your going through. but you are so beautiful in each and every way and such an amazing mom. we will always be here for you. i love the fact that you and eli are still communicating and continuing being amazing parents for bexley 💜. i love u lacey
You owe nobody any explanation of your break up it's nobody's business but yours your ex's and that's it as long as you guys co-parent good together that's all that matters
Good for you to keep things private and protect Bexley. Hang in there honey, it will get better. It will be great to have Melinda to support you and keep you active. ❤️
You are honestly both handling this way more maturely than many parents in their late 30s / early 40s. Big kudos to you both for keeping baby girl in the forefront of everything and not showing any bitterness publicly.
@@mogznwazare you being serious? She has every right too say and feels what she does if you don't like it get gone if not then get over it and continue to support her and Bex
I love how mature you are handling this Lacey . I'm proud of you and Eli for being adults over bexley. I missed seeing you and just super glad you guys are ok
It doesn't seem like it now, but everything happens for a reason, Bexley is blessed to have two amazing parents who love her very much. It will get better as time moves on. Much love to you all ❤
Youve grown into motherhood so beautifully Lacey! Youre either glowing or emotional when you talk about your Baby, & it just shows how much you love her 🤍 Keep the faith & keep going girl, you got this! I respect both you & Eli for keeping the peace for Bexley, all the very best 🙏🏽♥️
We all love you Lacey, and idk what happened but love Eli too! That being said please get a court agreement while you're getting along. It will make it so much easier later. ❤
As a single mother it took me a long time to accept any kind of help. So use it if it’s available and don’t feel bad or guilty. Trust me It’s there for a reason. Lean on those amazing people in your life. It takes a stronger person to ask for help then to struggle. And remember it’s ok to have those rough days or even weeks. It does get better. You got this darling. ❤
Sending much love and big hugs to you, Eli and Bexley. You are being so mature with this. Lacey, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Just keep Bexley in the forefront and it will work out. God bless you all. Melinda will be a big support. We are all here for you. Love you.
Always here to support you Lacey . I can’t believe your 21 now . Our daughter is just a few months younger and will be 21 in September . You will find yourself again . I’m proud of your for still supporting Eli and his channel and wish you both the best . Will be sending a little something to cheer you to your parents PO Box soon
My ex and I have shared custody of our daughter. She resides with me but visits him every other weekend and every other holiday. We basically take turns on holidays. I live in Florida and he just moved to Arizona. She is actually in Arizona right now visiting him for half the summer. Really you should do what works for you and Eli. Love you girlie. You got this! ❤❤❤❤❤
5:25 keep yourself busy, i know how hard it is that first weekend, those first couple months were so rough!!! Its been 9 years now!!! You got this girl!!!! Melinda is a great person to help keep your mind off of everything!!! Its hard... But you got this!!!
It's no one's business. Both of you do the best for Bexley. You both are great people. You have a great families behind you both. Take a deep breath honey. You are a great Mom and hes a great Dad. You both love Bexley. Your doing great. You don't need to tell any of us anything.
My heart really goes out to you Lacey. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I love how you're handling it and you're being so mature for Bexley. She's a very lucky little lady to have two parents who love her so much
You don’t need to apologize for crying because it’s just how you truly feeling at that time. So don’t worry. I hope that you’re having an amazing Tuesday with little Miss Bexley.
We did 2 -2-3 custody when my daughter was a baby. It was ideal because we were only separated for 3 nights at most and then it’s fair 50/50 and the weekends rotate. It does get “easier” but there are some moments where missing my daughter still brings me to tears, I’m sorry babes 💕 love you and Bex both
Breakups are never easy but as a former single mum I can say the fact that you two do t talk about it on the internet what and why you broke up is the best thing ever and my oldest have never ever heard me bad talk his dad it was not my space or place to put negativity about his dad in to his head. Co parenting can be amazing too
Big, big hugs to you, Eli & Bexley. 🤗 The most beautiful growth we have is during our hardships. I will be praying for continued healing, healthy coparenting, and allllllll the good things.
Can't imagine how hard this must be for you but the way you put Bex first and being considerate about each other's time with her is great. You'll figure this out and if you can keep this up she'll be a well-balanced kid :)
As a child of divorce, it’s all going to be okay. My parents also are still on good terms and the divorce doesn’t affect me. They got divorced when I was 10/11. Obviously Bexley is still very young so it’s different for her but just know you shouldn’t have to worry about her! I go to my dads on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday morning. I go to my moms on Wednesday midday (after school), Tuesday and Friday morning. Friday midday till Monday morning are one week at my dads and the next at my moms. All the love and support ❤
You are so strong for making this video. You did not owe anyone any explanation but you pushed through the tears to tell your audience what you are going through. You are an amazing woman.
You've got this Lacey, breakups are difficult especially when you have kids, but you and Eli are both great parents and you will get into a routine that will get easier for you all. Having Melinda and Scarlett their when Bex is with Eli will be a great distraction for you and you won't be on your own. ❤
Lacey, it's perfectly normal to be sad and hurt, and just know that you have your amazing, loving, family, friends and all of us right there for you and your little princess. Hold your head up high and never ever let anyone dull your sparkle. We all love you and your little princess Bex to bits. Sending you loads of love during this hard and difficult time.
1. Don’t apologize for being human and having feelings. 2. You are not in charge of anyone else’s emotions, so feel what you feel, no apologies needed. Lastly, you are amazing. This chapter maybe hard but I believe that you will rise up and meet any challenge that comes your way. You two have proven to be amazing parents and will no doubt continue to be. Sending love!!!
I’m so glad you and Melinda are living together. You have so much in common. Love all the channels all your family’s have created. Have been following for 2 years now. Sooo excited for your next chapter Melinda has your back❤❤❤❤
As a co parent myself I am sending you both so much encouragement and strength to get through this together, as a co parent it can be hard especially when going to having your little one every day and to every other week, it can definitely pull on your heart strings. May you both do amazing on working together , remember you both love your daughter so that's the most beautiful part. Always so much love to go around. Wishing you both the best in your lives. God has big plans for you both!! Hugs 😊
Lacey, you got this! I know it’s hard. I’ve been through this as well. I’m thinking of you and wishing you all the best. You do get a little more used to it but it is different. Just take one day at a time. Melinda and you will be good support for each other. ***hugs*** 💗💗
I’m super proud of you Lacey for not sharing 💞 Some things should be kept private. I hope everyone will respect and support your choice!! Hope your 21st birthday was a blast💞 You deserve the best! Right now co-parenting is going to be whatever Bex is and you guys are comfortable with!!
At the end of the day it isn’t anyone business but you and Eli. You both can let people know of how much you want to share. As I said on Eli’s channel “everyone comes into your life for a reason or a season”
Oh I’m so sorry you all are going through a tough time but I’m glad your still friends especially for Bexley. Please don’t apologize for crying or showing your emotions. It’s all still so new and it’s definitely an adjustment to get used to. I’m so glad that you and Melinda will be living together! You both can support each other and she can help you on those hard days because she’s gone through it as well. ❤
You’re being so graceful with this transition and I think you’re such a sweet and sincere person. and such an amazing mom. I love how you set your boundaries on sharing your life with the public. You will continue to have an amazingly beautiful life because you are a beautiful person.
You got this Lacey. It will be hard at first but you will get third this. I am glad that your co-parenting. I am also glad that you and Eli can be supportive to each other. Hugs to you.
You and Eli said almost the exact things 😄 It’s the best thing for the kids always if the parents can co-parent and get along. I think in the near future you guys should really get everything on paper .The beginning is hard for everyone and working it out is great but your lives will eventually go in different directions and issues will come up that someone is going to want to change things up and the others not going to agree with . Look forward to some videos and seeing that Lacy spark again💗😊
I’m so sorry you and Eli are going through this. Seems like you’ve got a decent handle on things. Keep Bea at the forefront and I’m sure you’ll both make 5he best decisions. 💕
The video part of you in your car: You look happier, and more relaxed..more confident and upbeat. You are even more focused and alot less anxious. Good for you! You are going to be just fine. You are a strong woman and just keep trusting yourself that you are going to knock down any roadblock that comes in your way. Youre in good hands with Melinda, that's for sure! Happy Summer! 🏖 🎉❤
My custody agreement is as follows: I have my child all week. Tues nights he goes to his father in the afternoon and he stays overnight and his father takes him to school the next morn and i get him from there. We also do alternating weekends where he picks him up on Fri from school and he comes back on Sunday 4pm. Since shes a baby, she wont mind the 50/50 agreement as much now but think ahead please especially while youre in a good civil place. That can change overnight trust me. Will it be fair to Bexley to have to say goodbye to 2 parents and move around every week? She needs stability, a stable schedule and a stable place to call home. Its ok if the other home is her home as well and she visits it but shell need 1 primary home and she really needs her mama most. You can make the agreement so that even though you have most of the physical custody, Eli can still come and see her whenever he wants, That would be really healthy for her. But the kid will need a primary stable home to come home to every day. I divorced when my baby was 15 months old and hes 5 now. Im your future lol. Good luck mama you got this!!!
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re all going through. 😢 I can’t imagine having to give my toddler up half the time. It’s okay to be devastated by it. That means you’re attached to your baby! I hope things can work out for all of you in the best way possible. I’m a single mom too so I know your heartache.
My heart aches for you both, having to be without Bex half of the time. I'm sending lots of love and hugs. You are so strong and have such a great support system. ❤ Both you and Eli are good, loving people. I wish all of the best to all 3 of you. ❤
The lonely feeling never goes away I’ve been a single mom for 15 years. Just keep your head up girl you got this. I would still go to court so you both have the 50-50 custody in place. Because as she grows and school starts and other things, things can change.
Big props to the two of you for laying positive groundwork & boundaries. No one on the internet is entitled to ANY of your business or an explanation. You are doing an awesome job of protecting your daughter in the future.
I commend you both for taking an adult approach co-parenting. My heart goes out to you both. Break ups are hard. I know in time life will become easier.
Awe, hunny. I'm sorry ❤ but keep your head up! You got this! And you and Melinda are going to have so much fun living together and having the girls there. It's gonna be really good for you, gals! You are a wonderful ❤️ mother, Lacey. And you are surrounded by people who truly love you and Bex. ❤❤❤
This just breaking my heart. Prayers out to you and everything you're going through right now. Thankful that Melinda took you in and you all can bond more together and your daughter has a cousin around to play with ❤️
Oh Lacey! :( As a single mum, you never get used to it. You feel so lost when they are not with you. Please be kind to yourself. One day at a time. xxx
As long as you are all happy in the long run that's all that matters. Also I personally agree with others neither of you have to explain anything to the public. Share what you want and don't worry about the rest. I actually do agree with getting something in writing regarding Bex. Maybe chat with a mediator just to get things on paper to protect You, Eli and Bex. (My Sister did this with her children.) Not meaning anything will go south but just in case. Hugs! Time heals all wounds.
omg! i’m so sorry!! i promise everything will be okayy! god will find you a right path where you go, i love you so much! have a great day! just remember too keep your head up and i know you are very brave and strong and you can do it!!
Hi Lacey, I am a 72 year old mom of one adult daughter (37). I have been married to my husband for 38 years and it’s been difficult to stay with someone who is often angry and is not always respectful towards me. I applaud you and Eli for making your decision to separate, before it get’s to a point where you are not being respected and are not being treated the way you should be. Melinda and Scarlet will be a loving and supportive family for you and Bexley. I think you two single moms will help each other and the girls will become like sisters and learn to play together. God bless you all!
You’re doing great and it’s amazing you guys are working things out amicably. Take the advice on doing it legally through the court though. It doesn’t mean you don’t trust each other it’s just a wise decision for Bexleys benefit. It may all seem fine now but things can change, especially if and when more people are added to the mix.
Lacey - I'm so happy you and Melinda are living together! Take this time to find yourself and your happiness while being the best mom EVER! Melinda is a bright light who always has a huge smile. This is great for BOTH of YOU! 2 GREAT MOMs
I'm so sorry Lacey but. I'm glad that you have support from your family and Melinda love you and Bexley and Melinda is your guardian angel and we love her and scarlett and it's no one else's business but yours and Eli I used to be a single parent with two kids and it was hard but there both in there 40s now and I am married but like I said it was really hard with just me and the kids when they were younger but you are strong and will get through it
I would definitely get a court ordered parenting plan in place. Visitation, child support etc. Things might be good now but that can change. Cover your butt and you will be fine. I did the single mom thing for a long time. Just focus on you and Bex and everything will fall into place. Good luck momma 💗
Hi Lacey. I was a single momma for a bit. Me and the father to my child had my child one week and I’d get her the next week. It’s hard for sure but you got this! Stay strong momma❤❤
Sending you a big hug! It is okay to pivot. We don’t know what we don’t know and when we do we are allowed to change our lives direction. I hope you are in therapy. Being a former foster youth, our past can really effect our relationships and family dynamics. This can’t be easy for you. Please speak with some to process all that this transition brings up. Eli is a great father and this will still be a beautiful adventure. You deserve to be happy and happy parents raise happy children. Remember, we are not the sum of what others think of us. Sending you love and light during this hard time.
Divorced momma (6 kids total 3 with my husband and 3 with my ex) best advice is to not take anything personal and always ask yourself what would your kid or kids want. Just did a co graduation party with our oldest child and being in a good place with your childs other parent makes a huge difference. Praying for all 3 of you!!!
It's not always necessary to involve the courts. You can write up a parenting plan that you both agree to, with custody/visitation schedule, and have it notarized, or you can run with what you've got going already. I went with the parenting plan because I know, in our situation, that a lot of different variables (and people) could upset the apple cart and I felt better knowing that it was all documented. We will definitely be praying for you and your family. Hang in there. ❤
I agree with this. It’s great that everything is peaceful and that two people are okay with a plan but it’s always best to put it in writing because you have no idea what the future will bring. We learned that with my husband’s ex.
Things will get better, I promise, it may not feel that way now but it will. Moving in with Melinda is great for both of you and your little ones will have each other to play with.
aww lacey, making me cry! I have a 3 year old daughter and it’s hard for me to be away from her for even a few hours so I can’t imagine a few days 😢 I hope everything works out for you guys❤
I’m so sorry you guys are going through this :( but it seems like you are handling this so well and very maturely. I’m very proud of you for setting your boundaries too with your privacy because you deserve to have that!
My situation is slightly different because me and my daughter's dad broke up before I found out I was pregnant, but we've always made it work and never gone through the courts. He sees her every couple of weeks, just due to distance and work, but that's what works for us. He also has her at his when he has a week booked off work so she can spend time with that side of the family. Him and his family just took her away on holiday as well. Honestly you might find it tough being away from Bex now, I did at first. But honestly you become so grateful for the break. When my daughters dad took her on holiday recently I got so much done. Housework, taking rubbish to the tip, clearing stuff out to the charity shop. Take time for self care and you time while she's with Eli. You're both handling this so well, and so similarly to how me and my ex handled co-parenting. It's worked so well for us and it's been good for our daughter because we've never had fights or arguments, we just all get along. We even used to take her on holiday together. Anyway I've waffled on long enough now 🤣
I love how supportive you both are being with each other. Very proud of you both. Putting your daughter first is a sign of fantastic parents. 👏🏻 Being a single parent is hard, but you have to look at it that you are doing what is right for Bex. You got this girl 🫶🏻 xx
Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable sharing with us! You owe us NOTHING more than you are happy to share. I am sorry you are going through this ... and I gotta say also super shocked. Anyways, I respect how you are both handling it (just watched Eli's vid) and your commitment to doing what is best for Bexley. You are being more mature than some much older people! Keep doing what you are doing. I am glad that Melinda opened up her home to you and Bexley. I have co-parented with my ex, (my daughter is now 23) and so I know firsthand the struggles and also the importance of not dissing the other parent ,... being a team for Bexley. Take care and thanks for being real.
Im so sorry to hear this love 💔 Just remember that you are blessed to have Bex, a BIG supportive family, you also have crazy pieces, your bio family and your youtube family. You truly are blessed in this situation. Bex can always enjoy you guys separately and that will be her normal going forward as she is still small, although it maybe tough for her at first. You know how some ppl need a break from having a kid and need space, alone time, wish they could be single again cos parenting can be overwhelming at times; well treat half of your week like that, and go out there and do as you please. You are blessed to be given that freedom again so make full use of it. Also remember that when you have Bex, Eli feels the same way as you do, he would be missing Bex too, so it’s ok to feel the way you do. Bex is blessed to be loved by two wonderful parents who want the best for her. Not every child gets that privilege. Furthermore, it is advisable to get a custody agreement written on paper and legalized. Circumstances may change in the future, and it would protect all three of your interests equally. Supposing you meet someone along the way that wants to move states, or Eli does, it’s better to have a legal backing. Think forward as well, and since you have Bex and are on your own, try and secure yourself a house so that you don’t have to be dependent on rent. God forbid something happens to you, and you can’t work, Bex will need a permanent home to stay at. It will obviously take sometime to get that kind of money, but work towards it as soon as possible while you can (sorry, i think a lot and of all possible scenarios 😬). Keep focusing on yourself and get distracted, it will help you a lot. Also, since you are in a vulnerable situation right now, you may invite ex friends into your life, or they will come to you, but just remember why you let them go in the first place, cos if they made a mistake once, they’d do it again cos that’s their personality. Stay happy and your beautiful bubbly self that we all love, lovely. 😘
Missing them when they are with dad you get used to but never get over. My daughter is now 17 and I still miss her when she is with her father after all of these years. She was younger than Bexley is now when I became a single parent. But there are many beautiful thing about my life with my beautiful daughter.
Lacey, you WILL find your new normal. There will be all the emotions along the way. Don’t be afraid to feel the feels, and, if you need help along the way, don’t be afraid to reach out. Having been where you are, I can tell you that you will get there! Much love to you, sweet girl ❤️
Lacey you are handling this so maturely and I’m so proud of you for that! Remember as long as it works for you three, it doesn’t have to make sense to others. I’m so glad you have another single mom to help you navigate this and I wish you all the best ❤
Lacy, of course your sad, break ups are always sad even if mutual. You will settle into a good routine and feel better about shared custody and Bexley will adjust in time. Take care of you❤ and let time work things out with your faith in God. Always know that God has this and will show you the way. Trust Him🙏
Lacey, lawyer here, get the custody agreement filed with the courts now while you guys are getting along. Trust me.
100% . No shade to Eli but things can turn really quick!
Yes. It is in Bexleys best interest. Protects all three of you.
I absolutely agree!
YES! Get it all spelled out in writing BEFORE one of you move on to a new relationship. Especially the financial situation. That's Brex's future. It should be 50/50. Medical insurance, medical bills, education costs EVERY thing!!! You'll find happiness again. Hang in there!! Hugs ❤Glad you are living with Melinda she's been through a break up with a child so she should be a good mentor during this time. I'm really sorry this happened.
I hope you will be able to read this. Great advice
Lacey Hun, you don't owe us all explanations about your break up. We are all here for you.
I agree
I do ❤❤❤
It’s better to have two happy parents that aren’t in a relationship than two unhappy parents in a relationship. Hope you are all doing okay! 🩵
100% agree as my childhood came from unhappy parent relationship.. it was awful
I agree
@@Debrasworldreviews Me too.
@@izabellerice-barnett1766 mine to not much has changed since regarding my mom
@@fresh.prince7472
The thing that got me most was them constantly arguing and point scoring (tit for tat)
My heart breaks for you Lacey and I have so much respect for the way you and Eli are handling this situation, putting your daughter's best interest first and foremost.
Lacey, as a single mum to 3, beautiful children, let me say that in the kindest way possible, you do not owe anyone an explanation about your separation from Eli. Be kind to yourself always!! Your heart will heal in time & you'll find love when the time is right. Just love you for you & take all the time you need to heal. Xx
❤
The best thing you can do for Bexley is co-parent with love and respect and never put her in the middle! Best wishes to you all. You will be ok! 🌸
I love that you are setting boundaries and protecting your peace, and Bexley's peace. Nobody has the right to any information you don't want to share. Sending you love.
❤
sobbing. lacey, i love you so much, you are not alone. ik your going through a lot but all your fans love you, and we care about you. im so sorry your going through, what your going through. but you are so beautiful in each and every way and such an amazing mom. we will always be here for you. i love the fact that you and eli are still communicating and continuing being amazing parents for bexley 💜. i love u lacey
Wishing you both the best, love you guys
You owe nobody any explanation of your break up it's nobody's business but yours your ex's and that's it as long as you guys co-parent good together that's all that matters
Good for you to keep things private and protect Bexley. Hang in there honey, it will get better. It will be great to have Melinda to support you and keep you active. ❤️
You are honestly both handling this way more maturely than many parents in their late 30s / early 40s. Big kudos to you both for keeping baby girl in the forefront of everything and not showing any bitterness publicly.
How is it mature to sit there and go on about your tats like a teenager?
Tattoos aren’t immature. Lots of people have and enjoy tattoos.
@@mogznwazare you being serious? She has every right too say and feels what she does if you don't like it get gone if not then get over it and continue to support her and Bex
I love how mature you are handling this Lacey . I'm proud of you and Eli for being adults over bexley. I missed seeing you and just super glad you guys are ok
It doesn't seem like it now, but everything happens for a reason, Bexley is blessed to have two amazing parents who love her very much. It will get better as time moves on. Much love to you all ❤
Youve grown into motherhood so beautifully Lacey! Youre either glowing or emotional when you talk about your Baby, & it just shows how much you love her 🤍 Keep the faith & keep going girl, you got this! I respect both you & Eli for keeping the peace for Bexley, all the very best 🙏🏽♥️
We all love you Lacey, and idk what happened but love Eli too! That being said please get a court agreement while you're getting along. It will make it so much easier later. ❤
Get a custody agreement ASAP. Just because things are good now doesn’t mean they always be. It’s in the best interest of all 3 of you ❤
As a single mother it took me a long time to accept any kind of help. So use it if it’s available and don’t feel bad or guilty. Trust me It’s there for a reason. Lean on those amazing people in your life. It takes a stronger person to ask for help then to struggle. And remember it’s ok to have those rough days or even weeks. It does get better. You got this darling. ❤
Sending much love and big hugs to you, Eli and Bexley. You are being so mature with this. Lacey, you don't owe anyone an explanation. Just keep Bexley in the forefront and it will work out. God bless you all. Melinda will be a big support. We are all here for you. Love you.
Aww how sweet is Melinda to offer you a room, and I'd say perfect situation as she can relate and help you in these hard times
Always here to support you Lacey . I can’t believe your 21 now . Our daughter is just a few months younger and will be 21 in September . You will find yourself again . I’m proud of your for still supporting Eli and his channel and wish you both the best . Will be sending a little something to cheer you to your parents PO Box soon
My ex and I have shared custody of our daughter. She resides with me but visits him every other weekend and every other holiday. We basically take turns on holidays. I live in Florida and he just moved to Arizona. She is actually in Arizona right now visiting him for half the summer. Really you should do what works for you and Eli. Love you girlie. You got this! ❤❤❤❤❤
5:25 keep yourself busy, i know how hard it is that first weekend, those first couple months were so rough!!! Its been 9 years now!!! You got this girl!!!! Melinda is a great person to help keep your mind off of everything!!! Its hard... But you got this!!!
It's no one's business. Both of you do the best for Bexley. You both are great people. You have a great families behind you both. Take a deep breath honey. You are a great Mom and hes a great Dad. You both love Bexley. Your doing great. You don't need to tell any of us anything.
My heart really goes out to you Lacey. I can't imagine what you're going through, but I love how you're handling it and you're being so mature for Bexley. She's a very lucky little lady to have two parents who love her so much
You don’t need to apologize for crying because it’s just how you truly feeling at that time. So don’t worry. I hope that you’re having an amazing Tuesday with little Miss Bexley.
Crying is ok... Life happens sweet lady. Sending prayers, love, & all of the positive vibes your way. You got this.
We did 2 -2-3 custody when my daughter was a baby. It was ideal because we were only separated for 3 nights at most and then it’s fair 50/50 and the weekends rotate. It does get “easier” but there are some moments where missing my daughter still brings me to tears, I’m sorry babes 💕 love you and Bex both
It will be OK Lacey. You got this girl! Best wishes to you sweetheart.
Breakups are never easy but as a former single mum I can say the fact that you two do t talk about it on the internet what and why you broke up is the best thing ever and my oldest have never ever heard me bad talk his dad it was not my space or place to put negativity about his dad in to his head. Co parenting can be amazing too
Big, big hugs to you, Eli & Bexley. 🤗 The most beautiful growth we have is during our hardships. I will be praying for continued healing, healthy coparenting, and allllllll the good things.
Can't imagine how hard this must be for you but the way you put Bex first and being considerate about each other's time with her is great. You'll figure this out and if you can keep this up she'll be a well-balanced kid :)
As a child of divorce, it’s all going to be okay. My parents also are still on good terms and the divorce doesn’t affect me. They got divorced when I was 10/11. Obviously Bexley is still very young so it’s different for her but just know you shouldn’t have to worry about her! I go to my dads on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday morning. I go to my moms on Wednesday midday (after school), Tuesday and Friday morning. Friday midday till Monday morning are one week at my dads and the next at my moms. All the love and support ❤
You are so strong for making this video. You did not owe anyone any explanation but you pushed through the tears to tell your audience what you are going through. You are an amazing woman.
WE ALL LOVE YOU LACEY!!! you will get through this, I know it will be hard but you can do it and we all are here to support you through it!
Stay strong Lacey! I’m glad that you and Eli are getting along and finding ways to coparent Bexley
You've got this Lacey, breakups are difficult especially when you have kids, but you and Eli are both great parents and you will get into a routine that will get easier for you all. Having Melinda and Scarlett their when Bex is with Eli will be a great distraction for you and you won't be on your own. ❤
❤❤❤
My parents did Monday Tuesday moms, Wednesday Thursday Friday. Alternating weekends for paydays
You handled your emotions 100% through the very emotional parts, better than many people.
Lacey, it's perfectly normal to be sad and hurt, and just know that you have your amazing, loving, family, friends and all of us right there for you and your little princess. Hold your head up high and never ever let anyone dull your sparkle. We all love you and your little princess Bex to bits. Sending you loads of love during this hard and difficult time.
I am with u in this.
1. Don’t apologize for being human and having feelings. 2. You are not in charge of anyone else’s emotions, so feel what you feel, no apologies needed. Lastly, you are amazing. This chapter maybe hard but I believe that you will rise up and meet any challenge that comes your way. You two have proven to be amazing parents and will no doubt continue to be. Sending love!!!
I’m so glad you and Melinda are living together. You have so much in common. Love all the channels all your family’s have created. Have been following for 2 years now. Sooo excited for your next chapter Melinda has your back❤❤❤❤
Family rocks!! They will have your back forever blood or not❤️❤️ LOVE THIS CRAZY FAMILY AND THE BOND
So thankful that you have Melinda to lean on. She has been such a rock. Sad for you and Eli but thankful you two can both be there for your daughter
As a co parent myself I am sending you both so much encouragement and strength to get through this together, as a co parent it can be hard especially when going to having your little one every day and to every other week, it can definitely pull on your heart strings. May you both do amazing on working together , remember you both love your daughter so that's the most beautiful part. Always so much love to go around. Wishing you both the best in your lives. God has big plans for you both!! Hugs 😊
Lacey, you got this! I know it’s hard. I’ve been through this as well. I’m thinking of you and wishing you all the best. You do get a little more used to it but it is different. Just take one day at a time. Melinda and you will be good support for each other. ***hugs*** 💗💗
It’s sad when you have to tell strangers your personal life and care what they say and think…….put your camera away and live for yourself.
Lacey I love you. You will get through this just hold your head up and put your love and energy into that sweet little girl.❤
I’m super proud of you Lacey for not sharing 💞 Some things should be kept private. I hope everyone will respect and support your choice!! Hope your 21st birthday was a blast💞 You deserve the best! Right now co-parenting is going to be whatever Bex is and you guys are comfortable with!!
I'm sorry you're going through this Lacey. Sending lots of love your way
At the end of the day it isn’t anyone business but you and Eli. You both can let people know of how much you want to share. As I said on Eli’s channel “everyone comes into your life for a reason or a season”
Oh I’m so sorry you all are going through a tough time but I’m glad your still friends especially for Bexley. Please don’t apologize for crying or showing your emotions. It’s all still so new and it’s definitely an adjustment to get used to. I’m so glad that you and Melinda will be living together! You both can support each other and she can help you on those hard days because she’s gone through it as well. ❤
We STILL GOT YOU NO MATTER WHAT 💓 TAKE YOUR TIME AND HEAL ♥️♥️
You’re being so graceful with this transition and I think you’re such a sweet and sincere person. and such an amazing mom. I love how you set your boundaries on sharing your life with the public. You will continue to have an amazingly beautiful life because you are a beautiful person.
Ps those bean and cheese taquitos are probably in my top 3 frozen foods ever lol.
Sorry this happened to you Lacey you got this prayers for you and Bexley and Eli
You got this Lacey. It will be hard at first but you will get third this. I am glad that your co-parenting. I am also glad that you and Eli can be supportive to each other. Hugs to you.
You and Eli said almost the exact things 😄 It’s the best thing for the kids always if the parents can co-parent and get along. I think in the near future you guys should really get everything on paper .The beginning is hard for everyone and working it out is great but your lives will eventually go in different directions and issues will come up that someone is going to want to change things up and the others not going to agree with . Look forward to some videos and seeing that Lacy spark again💗😊
Bad days help us recognise a good life and cherishing a good life helps us overcome bad days.
I’m so sorry you and Eli are going through this. Seems like you’ve got a decent handle on things. Keep Bea at the forefront and I’m sure you’ll both make 5he best decisions. 💕
The video part of you in your car:
You look happier, and more relaxed..more confident and upbeat.
You are even more focused and alot less anxious.
Good for you!
You are going to be just fine.
You are a strong woman and just keep trusting yourself that you are going to knock down any roadblock that comes in your way.
Youre in good hands with Melinda,
that's for sure!
Happy Summer! 🏖 🎉❤
You don’t owe anyone an explanation. It is your life. Thinking about the baby is the most important thing. Love you!
My custody agreement is as follows: I have my child all week. Tues nights he goes to his father in the afternoon and he stays overnight and his father takes him to school the next morn and i get him from there. We also do alternating weekends where he picks him up on Fri from school and he comes back on Sunday 4pm.
Since shes a baby, she wont mind the 50/50 agreement as much now but think ahead please especially while youre in a good civil place. That can change overnight trust me.
Will it be fair to Bexley to have to say goodbye to 2 parents and move around every week? She needs stability, a stable schedule and a stable place to call home. Its ok if the other home is her home as well and she visits it but shell need 1 primary home and she really needs her mama most. You can make the agreement so that even though you have most of the physical custody, Eli can still come and see her whenever he wants, That would be really healthy for her. But the kid will need a primary stable home to come home to every day. I divorced when my baby was 15 months old and hes 5 now. Im your future lol. Good luck mama you got this!!!
Love, prayers, light, healing, all of it y’all’s way! ♥️
I’m so sorry to hear what you’re all going through. 😢 I can’t imagine having to give my toddler up half the time. It’s okay to be devastated by it. That means you’re attached to your baby! I hope things can work out for all of you in the best way possible. I’m a single mom too so I know your heartache.
My heart aches for you both, having to be without Bex half of the time. I'm sending lots of love and hugs. You are so strong and have such a great support system. ❤ Both you and Eli are good, loving people. I wish all of the best to all 3 of you. ❤
The lonely feeling never goes away I’ve been a single mom for 15 years. Just keep your head up girl you got this. I would still go to court so you both have the 50-50 custody in place. Because as she grows and school starts and other things, things can change.
The most important thing is that Bexley is loved and cared for.
Big props to the two of you for laying positive groundwork & boundaries. No one on the internet is entitled to ANY of your business or an explanation. You are doing an awesome job of protecting your daughter in the future.
I commend you both for taking an adult approach co-parenting. My heart goes out to you both. Break ups are hard. I know in time life will become easier.
Awe, hunny. I'm sorry ❤ but keep your head up! You got this! And you and Melinda are going to have so much fun living together and having the girls there. It's gonna be really good for you, gals! You are a wonderful ❤️ mother, Lacey. And you are surrounded by people who truly love you and Bex. ❤❤❤
This just breaking my heart. Prayers out to you and everything you're going through right now. Thankful that Melinda took you in and you all can bond more together and your daughter has a cousin around to play with ❤️
Oh Lacey! :( As a single mum, you never get used to it. You feel so lost when they are not with you. Please be kind to yourself. One day at a time. xxx
I'm so sorry you're going through this but being a single mama will be the best job you've ever had!! You got this girl ❤
As long as you are all happy in the long run that's all that matters. Also I personally agree with others neither of you have to explain anything to the public. Share what you want and don't worry about the rest. I actually do agree with getting something in writing regarding Bex. Maybe chat with a mediator just to get things on paper to protect You, Eli and Bex. (My Sister did this with her children.) Not meaning anything will go south but just in case. Hugs! Time heals all wounds.
Sorry to hear you are going through a hard time. Happy you and Melinda can support each other as single moms. Praying for you.
❤
omg! i’m so sorry!! i promise everything will be okayy! god will find you a right path where you go, i love you so much! have a great day! just remember too keep your head up and i know you are very brave and strong and you can do it!!
I have major respect for how both you and Eli have handled this. You've got this!! And I bet Melinda knows exactly how you feel.
Hi Lacey, I am a 72 year old mom of one adult daughter (37). I have been married to my husband for 38 years and it’s been difficult to stay with someone who is often angry and is not always respectful towards me. I applaud you and Eli for making your decision to separate, before it get’s to a point where you are not being respected and are not being treated the way you should be. Melinda and Scarlet will be a loving and supportive family for you and Bexley. I think you two single moms will help each other and the girls will become like sisters and learn to play together. God bless you all!
You’re doing great and it’s amazing you guys are working things out amicably. Take the advice on doing it legally through the court though. It doesn’t mean you don’t trust each other it’s just a wise decision for Bexleys benefit. It may all seem fine now but things can change, especially if and when more people are added to the mix.
Lacey - I'm so happy you and Melinda are living together! Take this time to find yourself and your happiness while being the best mom EVER! Melinda is a bright light who always has a huge smile. This is great for BOTH of YOU! 2 GREAT MOMs
I'm so sorry Lacey but. I'm glad that you have support from your family and Melinda love you and Bexley and Melinda is your guardian angel and we love her and scarlett and it's no one else's business but yours and Eli I used to be a single parent with two kids and it was hard but there both in there 40s now and I am married but like I said it was really hard with just me and the kids when they were younger but you are strong and will get through it
I would definitely get a court ordered parenting plan in place. Visitation, child support etc. Things might be good now but that can change. Cover your butt and you will be fine. I did the single mom thing for a long time. Just focus on you and Bex and everything will fall into place. Good luck momma 💗
Hi Lacey. I was a single momma for a bit. Me and the father to my child had my child one week and I’d get her the next week. It’s hard for sure but you got this! Stay strong momma❤❤
Sending you a big hug! It is okay to pivot. We don’t know what we don’t know and when we do we are allowed to change our lives direction. I hope you are in therapy. Being a former foster youth, our past can really effect our relationships and family dynamics. This can’t be easy for you. Please speak with some to process all that this transition brings up. Eli is a great father and this will still be a beautiful adventure. You deserve to be happy and happy parents raise happy children. Remember, we are not the sum of what others think of us. Sending you love and light during this hard time.
Lacey you don’t owe anyone an explanation what’s happening with your separation
Sending Love and Hugs to you and your family ❤
Divorced momma (6 kids total 3 with my husband and 3 with my ex) best advice is to not take anything personal and always ask yourself what would your kid or kids want. Just did a co graduation party with our oldest child and being in a good place with your childs other parent makes a huge difference. Praying for all 3 of you!!!
It's not always necessary to involve the courts. You can write up a parenting plan that you both agree to, with custody/visitation schedule, and have it notarized, or you can run with what you've got going already. I went with the parenting plan because I know, in our situation, that a lot of different variables (and people) could upset the apple cart and I felt better knowing that it was all documented. We will definitely be praying for you and your family. Hang in there. ❤
I agree with this. It’s great that everything is peaceful and that two people are okay with a plan but it’s always best to put it in writing because you have no idea what the future will bring. We learned that with my husband’s ex.
Things will get better, I promise, it may not feel that way now but it will. Moving in with Melinda is great for both of you and your little ones will have each other to play with.
aww lacey, making me cry! I have a 3 year old daughter and it’s hard for me to be away from her for even a few hours so I can’t imagine a few days 😢
I hope everything works out for you guys❤
I’m so sorry you guys are going through this :( but it seems like you are handling this so well and very maturely. I’m very proud of you for setting your boundaries too with your privacy because you deserve to have that!
You’ll get through this ❤ we support and love you
My situation is slightly different because me and my daughter's dad broke up before I found out I was pregnant, but we've always made it work and never gone through the courts.
He sees her every couple of weeks, just due to distance and work, but that's what works for us. He also has her at his when he has a week booked off work so she can spend time with that side of the family. Him and his family just took her away on holiday as well.
Honestly you might find it tough being away from Bex now, I did at first. But honestly you become so grateful for the break. When my daughters dad took her on holiday recently I got so much done. Housework, taking rubbish to the tip, clearing stuff out to the charity shop. Take time for self care and you time while she's with Eli.
You're both handling this so well, and so similarly to how me and my ex handled co-parenting. It's worked so well for us and it's been good for our daughter because we've never had fights or arguments, we just all get along. We even used to take her on holiday together.
Anyway I've waffled on long enough now 🤣
I love how supportive you both are being with each other. Very proud of you both. Putting your daughter first is a sign of fantastic parents. 👏🏻
Being a single parent is hard, but you have to look at it that you are doing what is right for Bex. You got this girl 🫶🏻 xx
Completely agree I have a lot of respect for both Lacey and Eli for this.
Glad you have established healthy boundaries with what you have decided to share on the internet. I’m glad you found a safe place to land!
Lacey, yall are in my prayers. Love you All. 🙏🫂💕
Thank you for sharing what you feel comfortable sharing with us! You owe us NOTHING more than you are happy to share. I am sorry you are going through this ... and I gotta say also super shocked. Anyways, I respect how you are both handling it (just watched Eli's vid) and your commitment to doing what is best for Bexley. You are being more mature than some much older people! Keep doing what you are doing. I am glad that Melinda opened up her home to you and Bexley. I have co-parented with my ex, (my daughter is now 23) and so I know firsthand the struggles and also the importance of not dissing the other parent ,... being a team for Bexley. Take care and thanks for being real.
I'm sorry Lacey😢😢
Im so sorry to hear this love 💔 Just remember that you are blessed to have Bex, a BIG supportive family, you also have crazy pieces, your bio family and your youtube family. You truly are blessed in this situation. Bex can always enjoy you guys separately and that will be her normal going forward as she is still small, although it maybe tough for her at first. You know how some ppl need a break from having a kid and need space, alone time, wish they could be single again cos parenting can be overwhelming at times; well treat half of your week like that, and go out there and do as you please. You are blessed to be given that freedom again so make full use of it. Also remember that when you have Bex, Eli feels the same way as you do, he would be missing Bex too, so it’s ok to feel the way you do. Bex is blessed to be loved by two wonderful parents who want the best for her. Not every child gets that privilege. Furthermore, it is advisable to get a custody agreement written on paper and legalized. Circumstances may change in the future, and it would protect all three of your interests equally. Supposing you meet someone along the way that wants to move states, or Eli does, it’s better to have a legal backing. Think forward as well, and since you have Bex and are on your own, try and secure yourself a house so that you don’t have to be dependent on rent. God forbid something happens to you, and you can’t work, Bex will need a permanent home to stay at. It will obviously take sometime to get that kind of money, but work towards it as soon as possible while you can (sorry, i think a lot and of all possible scenarios 😬). Keep focusing on yourself and get distracted, it will help you a lot. Also, since you are in a vulnerable situation right now, you may invite ex friends into your life, or they will come to you, but just remember why you let them go in the first place, cos if they made a mistake once, they’d do it again cos that’s their personality. Stay happy and your beautiful bubbly self that we all love, lovely. 😘
So sad right now for all of you. Looking forward to seeing your new adventures. Wishing everyone happiness.
Missing them when they are with dad you get used to but never get over. My daughter is now 17 and I still miss her when she is with her father after all of these years. She was younger than Bexley is now when I became a single parent.
But there are many beautiful thing about my life with my beautiful daughter.
Here is a link youtube.com/@LOFILMS96
You hold your head up and remember you are a great mom and Bexley will be good!!
Lacey, you WILL find your new normal. There will be all the emotions along the way. Don’t be afraid to feel the feels, and, if you need help along the way, don’t be afraid to reach out. Having been where you are, I can tell you that you will get there! Much love to you, sweet girl ❤️
Like i told Eli.. pick out ONE toy that Bexley takes back and fourth between homes... will help with the transition ....
Lacey you are handling this so maturely and I’m so proud of you for that! Remember as long as it works for you three, it doesn’t have to make sense to others. I’m so glad you have another single mom to help you navigate this and I wish you all the best ❤
Lacy, of course your sad, break ups are always sad even if mutual. You will settle into a good routine and feel better about shared custody and Bexley will adjust in time. Take care of you❤ and let time work things out with your faith in God. Always know that God has this and will show you the way. Trust Him🙏