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I think her sister Jackie is afraid that she's not going to be the "thin, pretty one" anymore. That's why she has spent her entire life sabotaging her.
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@@stoheha That maybe the reason, but Kiana also has brought up many times how when one person tries to improve their life, sometimes someone close to that person starts distancing themselves or starts sabotaging because the dynamics of that relationship changes.
@@ZomboCed her kid's health and her health because she was concerned with her son copying her behaviors and she was realizing she wasn't healthy either
@@flibbityjibbityjibberjabber413 yeah i agree. But without her son around. She might have never changed tho. So she really at the end of the day did it for him
Since it's TLC don't know how much is staged etcetc, however the sisters' sabotaging, words and anger is because Vanessa's size makes her feel superior, her wins are predicated on her siblings presumed failures. That's why she went after the son. He's a reflection of his mother. So if he stays big and unhealthy, then Vanessa in her reasoning is still failing. Hence there's so many people sharing experiences how they've lost friends, family, partners, loved ones etc. when they started their WL journey.
@@mahogarashe probably likes to eat but doesn't want to get fat herself, so she lives vicariously through her sister by shoving that food down her throat. It probably gives her the satisfaction of eating without doing it. Now she doesn't have that in front of her, so she lashes out. Her showing back up with fast food again is so fucking gross
It's crazy how comfortable people are with sabotaging others' success. Not even in as blatant a way as Jackie, but I've come back from break at work to find someone left candy on my desk or my mom has sent me "just thinking of you" cookies. Jackie knows what she's doing -- she flat-out says she thinks Vanessa should just eat a donut and get over it -- but so many people wrap up showing how they care about you with gifts of food, and when you reject the food, you're rejecting them. Trying to be healthier for yourself triggers a lot of people you wouldn't necessarily expect and in ways you don't always anticipate.
I'm so jaded by YT cynicism that I assumed the title was sarcastic. It was great / refreshing to see that it wasn't, and in fact a very positive helpful story for people. Thanks Kiana!
@@ParkJiminFTLFFProductionsI watch her for the same reasons. Even though delusional BoPo annoys the f outta me, I still can't stand the mean girl bullying and behaviour so many snark channels have and foster within their community.
As someone who's lost 200 lbs. over the last 5 years I can say with confidence that living in victimhood and self-hatred is just as addictive as food. I used to love to hate myself and "Why me?" lived in my head like a squatter. Finding value in myself, learning that I can have worth and NOT CARING what other people think were keys that unlocked the door to weight loss for me.
@@boosqueezy2418 I feel social media has been great for me in regards to being able to teach myself all sorts of different forms of art and explore other cultures and the way other people live but yes, the drawbacks can be profound and normalizing victimhood I personally, my opinion, don't think will ever lead to positive outcomes.
Body positivity is at its core about self love. And when ya love yourself you realize you deserve the best you are capable of, feeling your best mind and body. And when ya do have the confidence of self love it just happens to be a byproduct that you support others. No need to tear anyone down and elevate yourself when ya already feel on top of the world.
@@KianaDochertyalso commitment devices are super effective in a wide range of situations. Be it dieting or substance/drug abuse or self damaging behaviour in general. I mean I use 2 major commitment devices to avoid a Benzoate relapse and can say they have proven effective for nearly a decade now. One, I simply avoid social circles where illegal access to my past drug of choice is made all too easy. Two, I self disclose to all medical professionals and exercise my right to deny care in regards to prescriptions for benzoate based anxiety meds. I mean saying no to a doc and avoiding places seem like small actions yet they prevent a large and damaging choice very effectively
Vanessa's interactions with her sister are something that most people would think are just exaggerations or excuses. I'm so glad they got it all on video for the world to see. The way her sister actively tried to sabotage her is actually so shocking and disturbing. Her packing her bags and getting away from her was the smartest thing she could've done to set herself up for success
Right I had to rewatch that 2 times, such a brilliant response, the best she could give really! Absolutely awesome trainer right there, a rarity from my experience!
When my twins turned 18 recently, I made the meal they requested: teriyaki chicken and tofu, sushi rice, and roasted broccoli. As we gathered to eat, I noticed my husband had no broccoli and commented on it. He replied that he despised broccoli but ate it because he wanted to set a good example for his children so they’d adopted healthy eating habits. But now that they are legal adults, his job is over and he will never eat broccoli again. This is that same love and devotion, just writ large. We do things for our children that we’d never do for ourselves, and that’s a beautiful thing indeed.
you didn’t know your husband ‘despised’ a food for at least 18 years? that seems a bit strange .. and setting a good example doesn’t stop the moment your children turn 18 lmao
I have diagnosed sever social phobia but I still took my daughter to her friends birthday party full of people I don't know. Your kids really do make you push your limits for the greater good. 😂😂😂
@@happydayshappydazeWe’ve been married for over 30 years, and I’m still learning about him. We’ve been through so many serious events that either destroy a marriage or make it stronger. Ours is a forever partnership. And for heaven’s sake, we all know parenting doesn’t stop at 18, my husband was making light teasing of the broccoli ban, not declaring he’s out of the parenting business.
Vanessa's joy and confidence is positively inspiring. Proof? When I started this video, I was feeling down about myself. I just got back from a trip a few days ago where I didn't eat very well or exercise much. I had thoughts like "Why should I even bother to work out today? I'm so tired and I look terrible after letting myself go..." But after watching just a few clips of Vanessa, her attitude really inspired me to get up and do a home workout as I watched the rest of this video. Feeling better about myself now because of it. Go Vanessa!
@@Star2Be5394 Hey Megan! I relate to how you feel and I was also encouraged and lifted up by Vanessa! I just wanted to make your day a little bit better and say that I find you to be so gorgeous! Like a 50's Hollywood movie star 🎀👗💄💖
Go you! ❤ Sometimes it's the little things. I'm not on a weight loss journey, but I'm a recovering drug addict who has been using exercise as one healthy substitute. I've usually been thin (even underweight) but unhealthy, and I crave nothing more than an overall healthy lifestyle. But if a couple of weeks go by without me working out, or I'm a little bloated because I smoked weed and got major munchies, I tend to feel like a failure. Funny enough, it's not actual failures but rather FEELING like a failure, that can lead me down a downward spiral because I think I'm not cut out for this, I suck, so nothing matters and I might as well start using because it's all the same. I have relapsed like that before. So more than anything, I basically force myself to be positive and believe in myself - faking it till I make it. Sure, at first I feel like a fraud, it seems ridiculous to be making bad choices and still be thinking "I know I can do this, the future is bright, I'm on the right path, I'm a kickass person". On the surface, that may seem even problematic for your recovery, but it really is not. As long as you aren't pretending like you didn't mess up, it's much better than beating yourself up, because every addict who is past the denial stage already has done that so you aren't adding anything to it. In contrast, being understanding and kind to yourself will do wonders to your confidence.
That's totally true: nothing can inspire change like the wellbeing of your kids. I was never as heavy as Vanessa but I was certainly heavier than was healthy (and a smoker to boot). My husband died suddenly when I was 35 and I realized our 5 year old son now only had me. I was dedicated like I'd never been before! I've lost 100 lbs (and counting) AND I'm also cigarette free - it's been 4 years now! I live a much MUCH healthier lifestyle now which my son understands too so it's doubly beneficial. Great job, Vanessa! So inspirational ❤
How beautiful. I love parents that have their commitment to their kids. I told my mom for my highschool graduation gift I wanted her to quit smoking. And she did and hasn't picked it back up. You mamas are so awe-inspiring. I hope you and your son are dealing well with the loss. You're so strong and amazing for this 😭
omg seeing her in that bikini gives me life! Im 269 and I could never imagine myself wearing anything that shows my stretch-marked stomach! Im so glad to see her have so much confidence and doing amazing on her weight loss!
I know! That panover from Megan fully covered talking about how insecure she feels to Vanessa just spread out in that string bikini giving no shits - it was so perfect.
I lost a lot of weight and would never wear a two piece thanks to my belly that looks like punched down bread dough. Wish I could have her confidence too 😂
i remember when i started trying to lose weight again, i put my foot down when my mother kept buying cakes, cookies, etc. she normally didnt even buy that many but once i started dieting she started buying more and saying things like "well its fine in moderation" and well that is true, part of my issues were those foods i didnt feel i could control myself enough around to have moderation. It's a struggle to have to fight for yourself when people claim to be doing it with good intentions, especially family. but i knew i would sit and eat the entire cake loaf she bought within an hour if i let myself even have a bite of it. So i refused to eat cakes for the month, let them all rot and she stopped buying them. Since then i've lost 55lbs and kept it off for over 2 years. I feel the reason i could get through that is because of how confident i've gotten in myself over the years, i didn't want to let myself lose again so I didn't, i wanted better for myself. Stay strong everyone, good luck with your goals.
She so right about saying she has to learn how to “give up her joy” in leaving her unhealthy food choices behind. I can totally relate to this feeling.
Me too! When I found out I had to give up gluten and dairy for my medical condition, I legit had meltdowns because I felt like I was "giving up my joy". Food was my coping mechanism and my escape. Giving that up has been the hardest challenge for me so far, and I have still not 100% achieved it. But I am proud to say food is no longer my "source of joy" and my escape. A few months ago, this would have felt impossible - now it's my reality!❤
@@myfirstvegancookbook1409yes, totally agree. It is important to find healthy coping mechanisms to replace those destructive habits. I am trying to do this with my sneak eating, and it's a long journey. When I'm stressed and overwhelmed is when I'm at biggest risk to just want to eat my feelings. 😵💫
I know skinny women who don't have half the confidence of Vanessa. It's such an attractive quality in all people. It's beautiful and I wish we all could feel that way about ourselves! I find it with age for sure and try to relay the importance of it to my son who's on the edge of his pre-teen years.
I can’t believe her sister enabled so hard! I appreciate my siblings.. kept me from doing a lot of stupid things edit* and Vanessa is SO strong through resisting her sister temptations and also keeping her mindset through the phone call. Sometimes you gotta just say, I love you but I gotta say goodbye right now. That’s INCREDIBLY tough.
So I'm at such a massive turning point (finally hitting just under 200lb which is something I've struggled with for a while. I lost weight but then it got stagnant) and it's videos like this that continue to motivate, inspire, and push me to hit the next mark. ❤
17:00 you are so right, i remember the first time i tried to get clean (been clean now for 4 years!) My dad & i were talking & he asked if i saw myself as a winner or a loser. I didnt answer, just started crying & he told me that i have to see myself as a winner or else ill never do better for myself. & He was right!
I really appreciate how you use popular media as a way to disseminate scientific information. Like at the core of it, this video was primarily about self schema and its impact on behaviour but it felt so tangible because you used familiar faces and stories to explain that. I’ve been following your channel since its inception and I don’t comment on videos usually but I just had to let you know how much I appreciate the work you put into your content. Haven’t missed a single one of your videos and gonna continue too to so! Great work Kiana!! PS: also girl you’re literally so stunning what’s your secret please tell cause omg
My take is that body positivity isn't accepting an unhealthy body. It's loving yourself enough to acknowledge when you're in good or bad shape and doing whatever you can to protect yourself. Especially if you start to feel that this body you love and respect might fail due to health reasons. So what if you're not the standard of beauty? As long as you take good care of yourself and take steps to make sure you protect it from harm, you're being body positive.
I LOVE Vanessa! I bought a cameo from her for christmas for my best friend, and it was the sweetest message for her, and so encouraging and genuine. She's the greatest lmao.
Probably one of your best videos yet. Ambivalent is exactly how I feel about drinking less/not at all. I'm tired of feeling so awful, the extra calories, the embarrassing things I say or do. It's not worth the warm feeling being drunk gives
I’ve been obese throughout my 20s and it has been a major cause to a lot of my battles with depression. Building self-respect has been one of my biggest life goals. A big part of it is teaching myself that I’m worthy of the space I take, that I deserve to be here, to make myself healthy to live a longer and more fulfilling life. Vanessa’s confidence in her self-identity is what I aspire for. She’s bold, honest and loving to herself in a genuine way. She has good days and bad days but I can see for her, it’s not so much about how she looks in her body but how she feels. That connection with yourself is powerful and I think she is a truly body positive person.
You nailed it on a lot of points. What motivated me, like you said, was thinking about my life without all the things I loved and wanted to do. I rode horses as a kid, and hiked up mountains. Something I could no longer do at 291lbs. I thought about how absurd it sounded to give up anything I love in favor of being unhealthy and not living the life I knew I wanted. I had the Gastric Sleeve done May 1st, 2023. As of today I'm 183lbs and only have 20lbs till I hit my goal weight. I also decided to push myself even further, and am going to hike the entire length of the Appalachian Trail, about 2,200 miles. This time last year I couldn't even fathom being where I am now, preparing for what I am. Vannessa was also a huge motivation the whole time. Watching her weight loss, confidence and self love grow was so empowering. She's a goddess and a queen and I am so excited to watch her progress even further (and getting Betsy May Cross cut off!)
The part about Ambivalence is so true. It's always a battle. "Is succumbing to my addiction and getting my temporary fix and its consequences worth more than my health, my goals, my progress?"
And sometimes your answer is no and so.etimes it's yes and that's why it's so hard. Sometimes you give in be auze the world is unfair and others you try extra hard because the world is unfair.
Her sister is not a nice person 😭 Anyone who loves thier sister would 💯 support her & try to help her in this journey. Good for Vanessa ❤ She's absolutely amazing 😻
as much as i relate to megan, i aspire to be as strong and confident as vanessa! i’m currently 218lbs but i used to be 254lb. when im sad i remember how far ive come from that weight and realize the people around me love me no matter the size. losing weight doesn’t = becoming more beautiful. its ur mindset and personality that drives you that are. ily girl as a new viewer im so happy ur channel is here
I can feel the slight change of tone in this video after your recent video saying you had lost your narrative. Going back to exemplifying theory on behavioral changes with real-life examples. I love your videos!!! I was literally searching for you yesterday wondering when would you upload again! So excited to see this one :)
The positive attitude applies to everything in life, not just losing weight. Which is another thing i learned from this video. Having a can do attitude in life is so important. So inspiring.
i remember seeing a youtube video on her about a year ago, and at 0:43 i literally gasped. she's done so beyond incredible for herself, i am so proud of this lady
What I really like about your videos is you can definitely see that a lot of research, script writing and thought process is involved in the making of it and as your subscriber I absolutely appreciate that!
What a strong woman. I have nothing but respect for her and her commitment to improving her health. Especially with such obstacles along the way like her inconsiderate sister.
Okay so first I agree. That is body positivity at its core. She chose health but also loves herself no matter what. Second I am not in their weight situation but I workout and compete. What you said about self fulfilling prophecy is beyond relatable. Thinking I am not capable to doing what the people I aspire to be has held me back for my entire sport career. It is a full circle of self doubt to proving it because my mind believes it. This is a great video!
Kiana, hearing you talk about your own struggles with poor self identity I will say this - I've been subscribed to you as early as one of your first videos and my first impressions of you were about how gorgeous, intellectual and kind spirited you were. I want you to see those things in yourself, because they most definitely shine through! Keep pushing forward, I will continue to support your journey! In a world where people like you are a rarity, believe me, you are a gem!
I hope Vanessa knows she has fans. I’ve never seen someone in a situation determined to bring her down, thrive the way she is. We can now see the physical manifestation of joy she expresses in her voice. I’m a rando younish normal weight Asian dude on the Canadian west coast being inspired by a Southern American middle-aged lady’s physical and mental attitude in awe of her unrelenting joy.
I love this! I knew about her but hadn’t considered seeing her as a role model. You’re so right! She’s fantastic both before and after losing weight! This is seriously the video I needed today. Even when you don’t post often absolutely no one on TH-cam inspires the kind of excitement in me that your videos do. You have a gift. Please keep going!
I relate to Megan so hard. I got myself to a healthy weight and have been here several years now, and well I do feel proud of my accomplishment to a degree, I haven't lost any of the insecurity I had as an obese young adult. I still feel an immense amount of shame and regret, and those feelings are incredibly hard to shake. It's a big part of why I'm in therapy and have been for quite a while now.
Man, I stumbled across your content a while ago, and the message you have always driven at about how to change and how self-perception drives us to improve has been huge. Thank you for being such a positive voice in this space.
You’ve got me hooked on watching 1,000-lb sisters and now this. Not only are they entertaining and informative (mainly due to your insight into these shows), but they inspire me to diet and get off the couch to exercise. I can’t thank you enough!
My favorite thing about this video is seeing how much inspiration and joy you are clearly getting from Vanessa's positive attitude and spirit. With so many TH-camrs focusing on tearing others down, this is such a refreshing change of pace.
i like that she acknowledges that her sons weight is because of him emulating her eating habits. and that she want to change for him to change too. my mom is obese (over 300) and i’m a teen who is over 200 pounds. last year so started to try to lose weight but since my mothers eating habits only ever change for short periods of time and she’s always talking about diets, it’s now spiraled and i have ednos but more leaning towards [atypical?] ana. i wish my mom had healthy eating habits so that i would have never been overweight because i always think now about how my life will be when i do eventually get to the weight i want to be at. i’ve always heard that people with eds might get to the weight they wanted to be at before but by the time they’re there, they want more. i always tell myself it won’t happen to me but i’ve notice when i lose i’m only happy for a short period of time before i think “it’s not enough; keep going” i really hope i don’t have any health issues from this ed. i do actually think i want to have children but if it gets out of control i might not be able to. if you see this- maybe wish me luck. (you don’t have to of course) or if you’re religious keep me in your prayers idk 🙃
my biggest change happened when I stopped thinking like a victim and instead I take responsibility for everything I made my body go through and I sincerely apologize to my body, now I am working out and working on my diet to be a little bit better pray for me guys
I’ve been rooting for her ever since she actually started her weight loss journey! I love seeing how she tries to encourage her friends to get healthy as well
Legit was thinking, only yesterday, “I wonder what Kiana’s been up to - if she has any new content?” And here you are, with new content, a day later. Ask and you shall receive. Thanks, doll.
I truly think you can't hate yourself skinny in a healthy or sustainable way. Vanessa's positivity and self love is inspiring and so important, because isn't losing weight an extension of loving yourself and treating your body right?
I gotta say I'm a meghan, I never thought of it like that but I have seen myself as a loser and a failure. But over the years I've learned that I am because I'm choosing to be, fixing that programming is extremely difficult. The times ive been the proudest of myself is when ive.made positive actions to go the other direction. My biggest fault is that when things go bad, I find a way to make them worse, I'm a self sabotager to the fullest. Thanks for the content, hope you do make a video on that topic, there's many meghans out there and we can definitely use the help.
You have to believe you deserve it. You deserve to feel healthy and show up for life in your best body and mind. You have to believe you matter and you’re worth it.
I’ve been working out for 2 years and now my friends and strangers talk to me as if I am a mountain of muscle, and I’m proud of that “People might judge my body, but no one has to come home with me” besides all of what I said earlier, that hit like a truck
Wow. What a drastic change. Things like these really put a smile on my face. Same as when people that I've known me as a chubby lad tell me how good I look after loosing 50 pounds.
What I like about Vanessa is that she's older in age and like Melissa Neill and the iconic Ernestine Sheppard, is showing people you can do it at any age, it's never too late. ♥️♥️
Honestly its so much easier to change for other people than yourself i think at least. Ive only been able to lose weight is because of my nephew. I got so tired of not being able to play with him. Ive lost around 70 pounds and can run with him now. I have at least 100 more pounds to go but its so worth it being able to be with him especially since hes at the age where he is playing sports.
I have seen and heard a certain quote many times lately and thought it would be quite fitting here when you look at Meghan versus Vanessa: "whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right". I have been so interested in affirmations lately as well, and this keeps coming up. Your mind will look for evidence of whatever you think is true about you. When you want to change, you need to indeed see yourself as a different person, and here you can see the difference with what is possible if you do or if you don't. Great video!
- [00:00] 🌱 Vannessa Cross, initially resistant to change despite health concerns, transforms into a body positivity icon, losing over 200 pounds and inspiring others. - [01:29] 🔄 Vannessa's confidence and self-acceptance play a crucial role in her successful journey from denial to determination in body transformation. - [06:18]🚀 Vannessa's shift from ambivalence to commitment happens when she realizes the impact of her lifestyle on her son's health, sparking a newfound motivation for change. - [10:43] 🛑 Identifying her sister Jakie as an enabler and saboteur, Vannessa makes the commitment to move out, creating a vital commitment device for her weight loss goals. - [11:42]💪 Commitment devices, like Vannessa's decision to live separately from Jakie, reduce exposure to temptations and increase the likelihood of successful behavior change. - [13:41] 😃 Vannessa's positive attitude and confidence contribute significantly to her success in maintaining her weight loss journey and embracing a healthier lifestyle. - [16:39] 💖 Vannessa Cross embodies true body positivity by loving and accepting herself unconditionally, irrespective of her body weight, acting as inspiration for others. - [17:36] 🔄 Confidence in one's identity can drive positive behavior change, as seen in Vannessa's journey, while self-sabotage often stems from a negative self-perception, hindering progress. - [18:33] 📌 The impact of self-identity on behavior is a crucial factor, influencing success and struggles in personal development, and Vannessa's traits of courage, honesty, and self-awareness contribute to her success.
I think Vanessa’s positivity is so refreshing. I’ve gained a lot of weight over the past few years and my clothes stopped fitting and I started to completely hate my body because I didn’t feel like myself anymore. It’s really refreshing to see someone that’s the embodiment of “you can’t hate yourself into losing weight”. I never really understood it until now. I want to lose weight and yeah I want to look attractive but I also realize now that telling myself that I’m hideous right now will do nothing but make me want to avoid the gym and give up on even trying to eat healthy which will just make me gain more weight. I want to be skinnier and feel pretty but I mostly just want to feel free in my body again and feel like I’m able to do active things again.
OMG look at Vanessa, what an inspiration WOW!! I cant believe what she achieved! Yes she had WLS but I watched some scenes on TLC, she had disciplin, good for her, she is so incredible!
Vanessa is my favorite person to ever appear on tlc. She’s so down to earth, and watching her succeed has been so incredibly inspiring! I adore her! I want more Vanessa too!
A new video?! It’s been so long! We need a video on the weight loss medication craze! Ozempic, Wegovy, saxenda, zepbound, the list goes on! Would love love love to a video about these! LOVE your content!
I am so used to TH-cam's regular feed of cynical and nihilistic content that I thought the title of this video was a piss-take on it's subject matter until I saw who the video was from that I realized it was an entirely wholesome video. Thank you Kiana, you have left enough of an impact on me that just by seeing your name in my recommended videos I know I am going to get a positive but realistic video to watch.
I have anxiety and depression so I relate to Megan with feeling like a failure, focusing on the negatives, etc. Along with my therapist, my gynecologist (who I just got established with last Spring) has been helping me on my health journey and has to sometimes remind me to try to focus on the positives and take things one step at a time.
This was a really inspiring video. I don’t have a weight problem, but I certainly do have bad habits I need to be more motivated to change, and my self-confidence (or lack thereof) probably doesn’t help me. I’m so happy for Vanessa, and proud of her!
Kiana, you have the most beautiful green eyes I've ever seen ! And Vannessa is indeed a role model for body positivity ! She looks great and has a great mindset.
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I think her sister Jackie is afraid that she's not going to be the "thin, pretty one" anymore. That's why she has spent her entire life sabotaging her.
So excited for your course! You've been a huge inspiration to me since I found your channel last year. I've been making small changes in my life because of you that have been adding up. I cannot express how grateful I am.
Can you make a book? Thanks
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I’d love to hear your thoughts on the carnivore diet.
I think Jackie is so used to being the “skinny” sister, that Vanessa attempting to change her life for the better is seen as a threat.
How embarrassing for her
Something to keep in mind is that it can all be staged for the show. I say this as a person that used to work on a reality television series.
That’s what I was thinking
That's what got me. I get an obese person sabotaging a diet but a thin person? That's another level of heinous
@@stoheha That maybe the reason, but Kiana also has brought up many times how when one person tries to improve their life, sometimes someone close to that person starts distancing themselves or starts sabotaging because the dynamics of that relationship changes.
She lost weight for her health, and only her health. She was never concerned with how people looked at her. That’s super inspiring.
She did it for her kid tho
@@ZomboCed her kid's health and her health because she was concerned with her son copying her behaviors and she was realizing she wasn't healthy either
@@flibbityjibbityjibberjabber413 yeah i agree. But without her son around. She might have never changed tho. So she really at the end of the day did it for him
Health should be the main priority 🙌🏻
The thing with Vanessa’s sister is wild. I just can’t imagine my sister showing up with a bakers dozen while I was actively losing weight
Her sister is just mean, you can read it on her face. Mean and unhappy. Imagine the courage needed for Vanessa to achieve her goal !
It's so scary. I really hope her sister gets some help with whatever issue she has, because she definitely isn't ok.
Since it's TLC don't know how much is staged etcetc, however the sisters' sabotaging, words and anger is because Vanessa's size makes her feel superior, her wins are predicated on her siblings presumed failures. That's why she went after the son. He's a reflection of his mother. So if he stays big and unhealthy, then Vanessa in her reasoning is still failing. Hence there's so many people sharing experiences how they've lost friends, family, partners, loved ones etc. when they started their WL journey.
@@mahogarashe probably likes to eat but doesn't want to get fat herself, so she lives vicariously through her sister by shoving that food down her throat. It probably gives her the satisfaction of eating without doing it. Now she doesn't have that in front of her, so she lashes out. Her showing back up with fast food again is so fucking gross
It's crazy how comfortable people are with sabotaging others' success. Not even in as blatant a way as Jackie, but I've come back from break at work to find someone left candy on my desk or my mom has sent me "just thinking of you" cookies. Jackie knows what she's doing -- she flat-out says she thinks Vanessa should just eat a donut and get over it -- but so many people wrap up showing how they care about you with gifts of food, and when you reject the food, you're rejecting them. Trying to be healthier for yourself triggers a lot of people you wouldn't necessarily expect and in ways you don't always anticipate.
I'm so jaded by YT cynicism that I assumed the title was sarcastic.
It was great / refreshing to see that it wasn't, and in fact a very positive helpful story for people.
Thanks Kiana!
Same
Yes! I want 2024 to be the year of youtubers lifting people up
Same 😊
That's why I love Kiana 😊 she's super insightful, informative and entertaining ❤
@@ParkJiminFTLFFProductionsI watch her for the same reasons. Even though delusional BoPo annoys the f outta me, I still can't stand the mean girl bullying and behaviour so many snark channels have and foster within their community.
That’s Vanessa???? I didn’t even recognize her, she looks fantastic! Good for her!
she absolutely crushed it lol 🙌🙌
I gasped 😊
As someone who's lost 200 lbs. over the last 5 years I can say with confidence that living in victimhood and self-hatred is just as addictive as food. I used to love to hate myself and "Why me?" lived in my head like a squatter. Finding value in myself, learning that I can have worth and NOT CARING what other people think were keys that unlocked the door to weight loss for me.
"lived in my head like a squatter" is a total gutpunch of a line
esp nowadays when victimhood gives you clout
@@katharineeavan9705 Felt exactly like that though, to me. Had to do some eviction.
@@boosqueezy2418 I feel social media has been great for me in regards to being able to teach myself all sorts of different forms of art and explore other cultures and the way other people live but yes, the drawbacks can be profound and normalizing victimhood I personally, my opinion, don't think will ever lead to positive outcomes.
Thank you
Body positivity is at its core about self love. And when ya love yourself you realize you deserve the best you are capable of, feeling your best mind and body. And when ya do have the confidence of self love it just happens to be a byproduct that you support others. No need to tear anyone down and elevate yourself when ya already feel on top of the world.
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@@KianaDochertyalso commitment devices are super effective in a wide range of situations. Be it dieting or substance/drug abuse or self damaging behaviour in general. I mean I use 2 major commitment devices to avoid a Benzoate relapse and can say they have proven effective for nearly a decade now. One, I simply avoid social circles where illegal access to my past drug of choice is made all too easy. Two, I self disclose to all medical professionals and exercise my right to deny care in regards to prescriptions for benzoate based anxiety meds. I mean saying no to a doc and avoiding places seem like small actions yet they prevent a large and damaging choice very effectively
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100%, im proud of her💪
That first sentence is the epitome, well said ❤
Vanessa's interactions with her sister are something that most people would think are just exaggerations or excuses. I'm so glad they got it all on video for the world to see. The way her sister actively tried to sabotage her is actually so shocking and disturbing. Her packing her bags and getting away from her was the smartest thing she could've done to set herself up for success
"When will I look like you?"
"Just come to me every day, we'll take care of that"
BEST ANSWER EVER!!!!!!
Right I had to rewatch that 2 times, such a brilliant response, the best she could give really! Absolutely awesome trainer right there, a rarity from my experience!
And a good doctor for that fake rack
When my twins turned 18 recently, I made the meal they requested: teriyaki chicken and tofu, sushi rice, and roasted broccoli. As we gathered to eat, I noticed my husband had no broccoli and commented on it. He replied that he despised broccoli but ate it because he wanted to set a good example for his children so they’d adopted healthy eating habits. But now that they are legal adults, his job is over and he will never eat broccoli again. This is that same love and devotion, just writ large. We do things for our children that we’d never do for ourselves, and that’s a beautiful thing indeed.
I got a bit emotional reading that what a awesome husband
That’s what being a parent means Those small things are so important
you didn’t know your husband ‘despised’ a food for at least 18 years? that seems a bit strange .. and setting a good example doesn’t stop the moment your children turn 18 lmao
I have diagnosed sever social phobia but I still took my daughter to her friends birthday party full of people I don't know. Your kids really do make you push your limits for the greater good. 😂😂😂
@@happydayshappydazeWe’ve been married for over 30 years, and I’m still learning about him. We’ve been through so many serious events that either destroy a marriage or make it stronger. Ours is a forever partnership. And for heaven’s sake, we all know parenting doesn’t stop at 18, my husband was making light teasing of the broccoli ban, not declaring he’s out of the parenting business.
Vanessa's joy and confidence is positively inspiring. Proof? When I started this video, I was feeling down about myself. I just got back from a trip a few days ago where I didn't eat very well or exercise much. I had thoughts like "Why should I even bother to work out today? I'm so tired and I look terrible after letting myself go..." But after watching just a few clips of Vanessa, her attitude really inspired me to get up and do a home workout as I watched the rest of this video. Feeling better about myself now because of it. Go Vanessa!
good job!!!❤
Thanks!@@lynneatsrocks
@@Star2Be5394 Hey Megan! I relate to how you feel and I was also encouraged and lifted up by Vanessa! I just wanted to make your day a little bit better and say that I find you to be so gorgeous! Like a 50's Hollywood movie star 🎀👗💄💖
Yessss way to go!
Go you! ❤ Sometimes it's the little things. I'm not on a weight loss journey, but I'm a recovering drug addict who has been using exercise as one healthy substitute. I've usually been thin (even underweight) but unhealthy, and I crave nothing more than an overall healthy lifestyle. But if a couple of weeks go by without me working out, or I'm a little bloated because I smoked weed and got major munchies, I tend to feel like a failure. Funny enough, it's not actual failures but rather FEELING like a failure, that can lead me down a downward spiral because I think I'm not cut out for this, I suck, so nothing matters and I might as well start using because it's all the same. I have relapsed like that before. So more than anything, I basically force myself to be positive and believe in myself - faking it till I make it. Sure, at first I feel like a fraud, it seems ridiculous to be making bad choices and still be thinking "I know I can do this, the future is bright, I'm on the right path, I'm a kickass person". On the surface, that may seem even problematic for your recovery, but it really is not. As long as you aren't pretending like you didn't mess up, it's much better than beating yourself up, because every addict who is past the denial stage already has done that so you aren't adding anything to it. In contrast, being understanding and kind to yourself will do wonders to your confidence.
That's totally true: nothing can inspire change like the wellbeing of your kids. I was never as heavy as Vanessa but I was certainly heavier than was healthy (and a smoker to boot). My husband died suddenly when I was 35 and I realized our 5 year old son now only had me. I was dedicated like I'd never been before! I've lost 100 lbs (and counting) AND I'm also cigarette free - it's been 4 years now! I live a much MUCH healthier lifestyle now which my son understands too so it's doubly beneficial. Great job, Vanessa! So inspirational ❤
Omg girl you killed it!
And great job, you!! 👏🔥 I hope you're really proud of yourself, because you should be! Your boy is lucky to have you. All the best to you both!
@@efoxkitsune9493 thankyou ❤
How beautiful. I love parents that have their commitment to their kids. I told my mom for my highschool graduation gift I wanted her to quit smoking. And she did and hasn't picked it back up.
You mamas are so awe-inspiring. I hope you and your son are dealing well with the loss. You're so strong and amazing for this 😭
That is great!! I am sure your son will appreciate it a whole lot :)
omg seeing her in that bikini gives me life! Im 269 and I could never imagine myself wearing anything that shows my stretch-marked stomach! Im so glad to see her have so much confidence and doing amazing on her weight loss!
I know! That panover from Megan fully covered talking about how insecure she feels to Vanessa just spread out in that string bikini giving no shits - it was so perfect.
I lost a lot of weight and would never wear a two piece thanks to my belly that looks like punched down bread dough. Wish I could have her confidence too 😂
i remember when i started trying to lose weight again, i put my foot down when my mother kept buying cakes, cookies, etc. she normally didnt even buy that many but once i started dieting she started buying more and saying things like "well its fine in moderation" and well that is true, part of my issues were those foods i didnt feel i could control myself enough around to have moderation. It's a struggle to have to fight for yourself when people claim to be doing it with good intentions, especially family. but i knew i would sit and eat the entire cake loaf she bought within an hour if i let myself even have a bite of it. So i refused to eat cakes for the month, let them all rot and she stopped buying them. Since then i've lost 55lbs and kept it off for over 2 years. I feel the reason i could get through that is because of how confident i've gotten in myself over the years, i didn't want to let myself lose again so I didn't, i wanted better for myself.
Stay strong everyone, good luck with your goals.
i’m now thin but there are still certain foods i know i can’t control myself around. i just refuse to buy them
She so right about saying she has to learn how to “give up her joy” in leaving her unhealthy food choices behind. I can totally relate to this feeling.
Me too! When I found out I had to give up gluten and dairy for my medical condition, I legit had meltdowns because I felt like I was "giving up my joy". Food was my coping mechanism and my escape. Giving that up has been the hardest challenge for me so far, and I have still not 100% achieved it. But I am proud to say food is no longer my "source of joy" and my escape. A few months ago, this would have felt impossible - now it's my reality!❤
It's so difficult. You have to find joy in other places.
@@StutiRajgurugood for you! You must be really proud of how far you've come. 💪💪💪
@@myfirstvegancookbook1409yes, totally agree. It is important to find healthy coping mechanisms to replace those destructive habits. I am trying to do this with my sneak eating, and it's a long journey. When I'm stressed and overwhelmed is when I'm at biggest risk to just want to eat my feelings. 😵💫
@@myfirstvegancookbook1409 For me it was the realization that it's not an actual joy, but addiction which causes me misery.
My PMS is on overdrive and I'm crying right now. I hope she has the strength to keep it up and stay awesome.
Get well soon! I'm sure she'll somehow feel your positive wishes and energy towards her and keep going 🔥
I'm so sorry. I have fibroid tumors, so believe me, I get it. Please feel better soon 💜
Hearing "you have to want to change more than you want to stay the same" while I'm on my way to the grocery store is a real gut punch, thank you 😊
I lost 25 kilos years ago and my BMI is fine since then. It takes effort to stay that way but it's well worth it!
I know skinny women who don't have half the confidence of Vanessa. It's such an attractive quality in all people. It's beautiful and I wish we all could feel that way about ourselves! I find it with age for sure and try to relay the importance of it to my son who's on the edge of his pre-teen years.
Yes! Give her center stage, people deserve to get inspired by her 🙏
I ABSOLUTELY adore Vanessa. Her dedication and motivation is inspiring, but i especially love her bubbly, funny and sweet personality 💞
I can’t believe her sister enabled so hard! I appreciate my siblings.. kept me from doing a lot of stupid things edit* and Vanessa is SO strong through resisting her sister temptations and also keeping her mindset through the phone call. Sometimes you gotta just say, I love you but I gotta say goodbye right now. That’s INCREDIBLY tough.
So I'm at such a massive turning point (finally hitting just under 200lb which is something I've struggled with for a while. I lost weight but then it got stagnant) and it's videos like this that continue to motivate, inspire, and push me to hit the next mark. ❤
Plateauing is so frustrating! But you got this. Keep going! 🎉
17:00 you are so right, i remember the first time i tried to get clean (been clean now for 4 years!) My dad & i were talking & he asked if i saw myself as a winner or a loser. I didnt answer, just started crying & he told me that i have to see myself as a winner or else ill never do better for myself. & He was right!
My jaw fucking DROPPED when I saw her on the treadmill. WOW. Wow. She's amazing!!!
I clicked the video SO fast.
NO SAME 😭
Right?! Same 😂🫶🏽
Haha same! A video from Kiana is a treat
I only have a handful of videos... I click on immediately too. She's one of them! 👍
Same here!
I really appreciate how you use popular media as a way to disseminate scientific information. Like at the core of it, this video was primarily about self schema and its impact on behaviour but it felt so tangible because you used familiar faces and stories to explain that. I’ve been following your channel since its inception and I don’t comment on videos usually but I just had to let you know how much I appreciate the work you put into your content. Haven’t missed a single one of your videos and gonna continue too to so! Great work Kiana!!
PS: also girl you’re literally so stunning what’s your secret please tell cause omg
Nailed it ❤
My take is that body positivity isn't accepting an unhealthy body. It's loving yourself enough to acknowledge when you're in good or bad shape and doing whatever you can to protect yourself. Especially if you start to feel that this body you love and respect might fail due to health reasons. So what if you're not the standard of beauty? As long as you take good care of yourself and take steps to make sure you protect it from harm, you're being body positive.
OUR QUEEN 👸🏻 someone that not only REALLY loves herself but is capable of actually loving and helping others.
I LOVE Vanessa! I bought a cameo from her for christmas for my best friend, and it was the sweetest message for her, and so encouraging and genuine. She's the greatest lmao.
lmao thats so fun!
Probably one of your best videos yet. Ambivalent is exactly how I feel about drinking less/not at all. I'm tired of feeling so awful, the extra calories, the embarrassing things I say or do. It's not worth the warm feeling being drunk gives
I’ve been obese throughout my 20s and it has been a major cause to a lot of my battles with depression. Building self-respect has been one of my biggest life goals. A big part of it is teaching myself that I’m worthy of the space I take, that I deserve to be here, to make myself healthy to live a longer and more fulfilling life. Vanessa’s confidence in her self-identity is what I aspire for. She’s bold, honest and loving to herself in a genuine way. She has good days and bad days but I can see for her, it’s not so much about how she looks in her body but how she feels. That connection with yourself is powerful and I think she is a truly body positive person.
You nailed it on a lot of points. What motivated me, like you said, was thinking about my life without all the things I loved and wanted to do. I rode horses as a kid, and hiked up mountains. Something I could no longer do at 291lbs. I thought about how absurd it sounded to give up anything I love in favor of being unhealthy and not living the life I knew I wanted.
I had the Gastric Sleeve done May 1st, 2023. As of today I'm 183lbs and only have 20lbs till I hit my goal weight. I also decided to push myself even further, and am going to hike the entire length of the Appalachian Trail, about 2,200 miles. This time last year I couldn't even fathom being where I am now, preparing for what I am.
Vannessa was also a huge motivation the whole time. Watching her weight loss, confidence and self love grow was so empowering. She's a goddess and a queen and I am so excited to watch her progress even further (and getting Betsy May Cross cut off!)
The part about Ambivalence is so true. It's always a battle. "Is succumbing to my addiction and getting my temporary fix and its consequences worth more than my health, my goals, my progress?"
And sometimes your answer is no and so.etimes it's yes and that's why it's so hard. Sometimes you give in be auze the world is unfair and others you try extra hard because the world is unfair.
Her sister is not a nice person 😭 Anyone who loves thier sister would 💯 support her & try to help her in this journey.
Good for Vanessa ❤
She's absolutely amazing 😻
I just cant help but smile when she talks, such an inspiring story!😅
I’ve lost 120 lbs and have at least another 100 to lose. Vanessa makes me so emotional bc I see so much of myself in her.
Wow! Don’t follow the show but so happy for Vanessa. Her change came from loving herself and not hating herself, that probably helped her succeed.
as much as i relate to megan, i aspire to be as strong and confident as vanessa! i’m currently 218lbs but i used to be 254lb. when im sad i remember how far ive come from that weight and realize the people around me love me no matter the size. losing weight doesn’t = becoming more beautiful. its ur mindset and personality that drives you that are. ily girl as a new viewer im so happy ur channel is here
Great job!!
Wow! That is amazing. If you can get that far, you can achieve whatever goals (weightloss or otherwise) you set your mind to. How incredible ❤.
@@ErinIrwin tysm ^_^🤍🤍
@@lauren8627 it was hard at first but when i got started i can’t stop
@@lauren8627 tysm
I can feel the slight change of tone in this video after your recent video saying you had lost your narrative. Going back to exemplifying theory on behavioral changes with real-life examples. I love your videos!!! I was literally searching for you yesterday wondering when would you upload again! So excited to see this one :)
0:11 its CRAZY how this dynamic would switch around in time
The positive attitude applies to everything in life, not just losing weight. Which is another thing i learned from this video. Having a can do attitude in life is so important. So inspiring.
i remember seeing a youtube video on her about a year ago, and at 0:43 i literally gasped. she's done so beyond incredible for herself, i am so proud of this lady
What I really like about your videos is you can definitely see that a lot of research, script writing and thought process is involved in the making of it and as your subscriber I absolutely appreciate that!
What a strong woman. I have nothing but respect for her and her commitment to improving her health. Especially with such obstacles along the way like her inconsiderate sister.
I had never heard about this woman but I love her. What a gem. Losing weight for the sake of her son
Hi Kiana, love your videos, our channels are from very different subjects but your editing is an inspiration to me. Have a nice week!
ahh thank you!!! 😄
Just when I was thinking 'would be cool if another Kiana video dropped', you delivered! So excited!
Okay so first I agree. That is body positivity at its core. She chose health but also loves herself no matter what. Second I am not in their weight situation but I workout and compete. What you said about self fulfilling prophecy is beyond relatable. Thinking I am not capable to doing what the people I aspire to be has held me back for my entire sport career. It is a full circle of self doubt to proving it because my mind believes it. This is a great video!
Kiana, hearing you talk about your own struggles with poor self identity I will say this - I've been subscribed to you as early as one of your first videos and my first impressions of you were about how gorgeous, intellectual and kind spirited you were. I want you to see those things in yourself, because they most definitely shine through! Keep pushing forward, I will continue to support your journey! In a world where people like you are a rarity, believe me, you are a gem!
I hope Vanessa knows she has fans. I’ve never seen someone in a situation determined to bring her down, thrive the way she is. We can now see the physical manifestation of joy she expresses in her voice.
I’m a rando younish normal weight Asian dude on the Canadian west coast being inspired by a Southern American middle-aged lady’s physical and mental attitude in awe of her unrelenting joy.
When I changed my attitude from how people experience me to how I experience the world my life improved instantly.
It's not over!! Dr. Proctor was sharing on Instagram about filming happening recently for the new season!!
I love this! I knew about her but hadn’t considered seeing her as a role model. You’re so right! She’s fantastic both before and after losing weight!
This is seriously the video I needed today. Even when you don’t post often absolutely no one on TH-cam inspires the kind of excitement in me that your videos do. You have a gift. Please keep going!
Been following her since her journey. So glad she’s getting recognition because she’s what socials need! Not that garbage
I relate to Megan so hard. I got myself to a healthy weight and have been here several years now, and well I do feel proud of my accomplishment to a degree, I haven't lost any of the insecurity I had as an obese young adult. I still feel an immense amount of shame and regret, and those feelings are incredibly hard to shake. It's a big part of why I'm in therapy and have been for quite a while now.
Man, I stumbled across your content a while ago, and the message you have always driven at about how to change and how self-perception drives us to improve has been huge. Thank you for being such a positive voice in this space.
You’ve got me hooked on watching 1,000-lb sisters and now this. Not only are they entertaining and informative (mainly due to your insight into these shows), but they inspire me to diet and get off the couch to exercise. I can’t thank you enough!
My favorite thing about this video is seeing how much inspiration and joy you are clearly getting from Vanessa's positive attitude and spirit. With so many TH-camrs focusing on tearing others down, this is such a refreshing change of pace.
i like that she acknowledges that her sons weight is because of him emulating her eating habits. and that she want to change for him to change too. my mom is obese (over 300) and i’m a teen who is over 200 pounds. last year so started to try to lose weight but since my mothers eating habits only ever change for short periods of time and she’s always talking about diets, it’s now spiraled and i have ednos but more leaning towards [atypical?] ana. i wish my mom had healthy eating habits so that i would have never been overweight because i always think now about how my life will be when i do eventually get to the weight i want to be at. i’ve always heard that people with eds might get to the weight they wanted to be at before but by the time they’re there, they want more. i always tell myself it won’t happen to me but i’ve notice when i lose i’m only happy for a short period of time before i think “it’s not enough; keep going” i really hope i don’t have any health issues from this ed. i do actually think i want to have children but if it gets out of control i might not be able to. if you see this- maybe wish me luck. (you don’t have to of course) or if you’re religious keep me in your prayers idk 🙃
my biggest change happened when I stopped thinking like a victim and instead I take responsibility for everything I made my body go through and I sincerely apologize to my body, now I am working out and working on my diet to be a little bit better pray for me guys
its just sad how the body positive community will tear her down for loosing weight, but she is a new icon.
That is just one tiny misguided section of body positive people online. It's not everyone. They even use body positivity in eating disorder treatment.
I’ve been rooting for her ever since she actually started her weight loss journey! I love seeing how she tries to encourage her friends to get healthy as well
Legit was thinking, only yesterday, “I wonder what Kiana’s been up to - if she has any new content?”
And here you are, with new content, a day later.
Ask and you shall receive.
Thanks, doll.
Mums...they can always do for their children what they cannot do for themselves. Good for her!
I love Vanessa. She loves herself so much and it shines through her positive attitude.
Vanessa and these women are adding quality years to their lives and are such inspirations.
I truly think you can't hate yourself skinny in a healthy or sustainable way. Vanessa's positivity and self love is inspiring and so important, because isn't losing weight an extension of loving yourself and treating your body right?
I gotta say I'm a meghan, I never thought of it like that but I have seen myself as a loser and a failure. But over the years I've learned that I am because I'm choosing to be, fixing that programming is extremely difficult. The times ive been the proudest of myself is when ive.made positive actions to go the other direction. My biggest fault is that when things go bad, I find a way to make them worse, I'm a self sabotager to the fullest. Thanks for the content, hope you do make a video on that topic, there's many meghans out there and we can definitely use the help.
Vanessa literally crushed it and turned her life around for the better! Proud of her! ✨☺️
I love her! She is such a character, and it's a joy to watch her!
You have to believe you deserve it. You deserve to feel healthy and show up for life in your best body and mind.
You have to believe you matter and you’re worth it.
I love Vanessa and she’s radiant with positivity. I wish I could be more like her, she’s such a lovely light
I’ve been working out for 2 years and now my friends and strangers talk to me as if I am a mountain of muscle, and I’m proud of that
“People might judge my body, but no one has to come home with me” besides all of what I said earlier, that hit like a truck
HOLLLLLY SHEET!! I didn't even recognize her🤯💪🏽❤️ WAY TO GO!!❤
Wow. What a drastic change. Things like these really put a smile on my face. Same as when people that I've known me as a chubby lad tell me how good I look after loosing 50 pounds.
What I like about Vanessa is that she's older in age and like Melissa Neill and the iconic Ernestine Sheppard, is showing people you can do it at any age, it's never too late. ♥️♥️
Honestly its so much easier to change for other people than yourself i think at least. Ive only been able to lose weight is because of my nephew. I got so tired of not being able to play with him. Ive lost around 70 pounds and can run with him now. I have at least 100 more pounds to go but its so worth it being able to be with him especially since hes at the age where he is playing sports.
This woman!! Is true body positivity! She is an inspiration!
I have seen and heard a certain quote many times lately and thought it would be quite fitting here when you look at Meghan versus Vanessa: "whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right". I have been so interested in affirmations lately as well, and this keeps coming up. Your mind will look for evidence of whatever you think is true about you. When you want to change, you need to indeed see yourself as a different person, and here you can see the difference with what is possible if you do or if you don't. Great video!
- [00:00] 🌱 Vannessa Cross, initially resistant to change despite health concerns, transforms into a body positivity icon, losing over 200 pounds and inspiring others.
- [01:29] 🔄 Vannessa's confidence and self-acceptance play a crucial role in her successful journey from denial to determination in body transformation.
- [06:18]🚀 Vannessa's shift from ambivalence to commitment happens when she realizes the impact of her lifestyle on her son's health, sparking a newfound motivation for change.
- [10:43] 🛑 Identifying her sister Jakie as an enabler and saboteur, Vannessa makes the commitment to move out, creating a vital commitment device for her weight loss goals.
- [11:42]💪 Commitment devices, like Vannessa's decision to live separately from Jakie, reduce exposure to temptations and increase the likelihood of successful behavior change.
- [13:41] 😃 Vannessa's positive attitude and confidence contribute significantly to her success in maintaining her weight loss journey and embracing a healthier lifestyle.
- [16:39] 💖 Vannessa Cross embodies true body positivity by loving and accepting herself unconditionally, irrespective of her body weight, acting as inspiration for others.
- [17:36] 🔄 Confidence in one's identity can drive positive behavior change, as seen in Vannessa's journey, while self-sabotage often stems from a negative self-perception, hindering progress.
- [18:33] 📌 The impact of self-identity on behavior is a crucial factor, influencing success and struggles in personal development, and Vannessa's traits of courage, honesty, and self-awareness contribute to her success.
This really shows how much you need to be willing to fight for yourself to get out of a bad situation you've dug yourself into...
Vanessa has the confidence and attitude we all deserve to have. She is amazing!
I love these type of videos it's never to late to make a change
Another slam dunk Kiana. I love the positivity and motivation that you inspire in me and in others. You’re the best!
Wow. This made me bawl my eyes out. So proud of her. She literally embodied the change she wanted to be.
I think Vanessa’s positivity is so refreshing. I’ve gained a lot of weight over the past few years and my clothes stopped fitting and I started to completely hate my body because I didn’t feel like myself anymore. It’s really refreshing to see someone that’s the embodiment of “you can’t hate yourself into losing weight”. I never really understood it until now. I want to lose weight and yeah I want to look attractive but I also realize now that telling myself that I’m hideous right now will do nothing but make me want to avoid the gym and give up on even trying to eat healthy which will just make me gain more weight. I want to be skinnier and feel pretty but I mostly just want to feel free in my body again and feel like I’m able to do active things again.
OMG look at Vanessa, what an inspiration WOW!! I cant believe what she achieved! Yes she had WLS but I watched some scenes on TLC, she had disciplin, good for her, she is so incredible!
YESS i absolutely LOVE HER SM she is such a positive person
Same lol. I loveee her. She better get a spin off 😩
Vanessa is my favorite person to ever appear on tlc. She’s so down to earth, and watching her succeed has been so incredibly inspiring!
I adore her! I want more Vanessa too!
A new video?! It’s been so long! We need a video on the weight loss medication craze! Ozempic, Wegovy, saxenda, zepbound, the list goes on! Would love love love to a video about these! LOVE your content!
Vanessa is an absolute Queen. She’s an absolute inspiration. 🎊 🎉 Practically crying here ❤😂
I am so used to TH-cam's regular feed of cynical and nihilistic content that I thought the title of this video was a piss-take on it's subject matter until I saw who the video was from that I realized it was an entirely wholesome video.
Thank you Kiana, you have left enough of an impact on me that just by seeing your name in my recommended videos I know I am going to get a positive but realistic video to watch.
I can't wait for your future content that you mentioned on how the way we perceive ourselves causes us to struggle unnecessarily.
Your channel is top 5 for me! You are such an inspiring person yourself and educating people is thebway 🎉
I have anxiety and depression so I relate to Megan with feeling like a failure, focusing on the negatives, etc. Along with my therapist, my gynecologist (who I just got established with last Spring) has been helping me on my health journey and has to sometimes remind me to try to focus on the positives and take things one step at a time.
Bro I need Vanessa’s confidence, God bless that woman.
This was a really inspiring video. I don’t have a weight problem, but I certainly do have bad habits I need to be more motivated to change, and my self-confidence (or lack thereof) probably doesn’t help me.
I’m so happy for Vanessa, and proud of her!
Kiana, you have the most beautiful green eyes I've ever seen ! And Vannessa is indeed a role model for body positivity ! She looks great and has a great mindset.