I love that they portray a male. Being uncomfortable and feeling dysmorphic of your body is not just a female thing. Men go through it too, and hypermasculine societal standards sure as hell don't help. Every man doesn't look like Captain America. But the pressure is up there. Anyone can suffer from dysmorphia, and bullying someone for how they look only raises the chances. Women suffer, men suffer, everyone suffers when society gets to choose 1 standard of beauty among thousands.
everyone knows also males have problems. Everyone do, the subject in this case is just random, so many people get bullied, I don't get why making it a big thing whether its a female or a male.
I'm sorry but i don't think this a bad thing you are getting healthy it's not the work it the time I can ensure I have it but it, not a negative it makes you more confident in daily life
Yea I was underweight for a bit of time when I first hit puberty. I thought I looked alright but I was kinda unhealthy and suffering from depression because of how my face looked. Didn’t help when everybody liked to poke fun at not only my massively long nose but also extremely small biceps. I was gangly and weak. I weighed in at about 110 pounds and i was 5 ft 9. Now I’m 6 ft and 140 pounds. Working out at home and have invested about three hundred dollars in dumbbells, pull up bar, and a bench.
Pingsum FACTSSSSSS like people always invalidate attractive ppl just because they’re attractive. attractive ppl struggle to be attractive and it hurts just the same for them.
Lol. And Robin Williams also looked so happy in his movies, didn't he? ... What people "look like" and their state of mind are too completly different things.
Compliments are sweet and all but when you have body insecurities it’s hard to see the good in it. It doesn’t matter how many compliments you get, if you still feel insecure then you can’t really change it unless you work to change it
That's essentially me except being depressed and having anxiety, people saying they'll help me and support me but feels like they're not being genuine or something else
Afroswine Hoggintons you clearly don’t have an optimistic outlook on life😂 your just going to spiral and spiral but yes I would love one can u send it to me pls
When I tell my friends I’m insecure about my body they just say “you have nothing to worry about you’re normal size and short. You’re not fat” but people often jump to conclusions that only bigger people are insecure, but it’s not that. All sizes can be insecure about their body.
Gabbo I was as unhappy with my body at 130 lbs as I am now at 170 lbs. I’ve decided to just ignore insecurities and just listen to the uni nurse that does body fat percentages.
omg I was hoping to find a comment like this. I'm 5'1 and 93 pounds, and yes I'm still insecure. ppl don't understand that being uncomfortable with your appearance and body doesn't only happen when you're overweight.
Brielle bernard who tf remembers every characters name? He was a white dude, she was a black girl. No ones staying anything racist just harmless facts. Wtf?
Anyone can be fit. Anyone can be fit and miserable (feeling like you're "not good enough"). Anyone can pursue life goals (& achieve them) and still be miserable. Anyone can be in a state of self-acceptance. Anyone can be in a state of self-acceptance temporarily. Live your life. Do your thing. Take the lumps when and however they happen. Then keep moving. Keep living. Being human and mental health: It's a multi-faceted, complex thing.
Abigail O it happens to some of us, even if we already look as good as this guy looks now or better, while you can have way less good looking guys popular and that have hooked up with so many girls and then there’s the insecure who barely even kissed a girl
*straight men. gay/bi/trans men deal with this healthily and have been openly for generations; neat to see our cis/straight counterparts catching up though.
Ishan Ali you don’t tell anyone if you are getting bullied because then people find out and that is more reason to get bullied. You go along with it until it passes over or you just change things about you
this rings so dull and false for so many people in so many situations. quotes and anecdotes are not universal truths. If I have to cite examples, then you have a problem with sociopathy.
It's very true, it sucks when any problem there is in the world is usually just hijacked by feminism, especially on buzzfeed when everyone can have the problem
This was beautiful and it was even more beautiful bc it was in a guy's perspective. Girls aren't the only ones with body issues people ! But like this is a very accurate description of body dysmorphia and its a horrible thing to live with. I hope everyone who suffers from it learns to love themselves one day. I myself am on my journey so we can learn to love ourselves together
“He’s so hot, how can he be insecure??” No one should feel insecure just because of their weight, nose, skin, etc. It’s sad that people do. But just because he has muscles it doesn’t mean he isn’t insecure, anyone can have issues with their body. We have to learn to love as we come, nothing is wrong with the way we are. It’s just in our heads. It’s a struggle but don’t be hard on your stomach, legs, nose, etc. Be thankful for your body.
There is a reason for him to be insecure. Newsweek recently published an article headlined "Men With Muscles and Money Are More Attractive to Straight Women and Gay Men-Showing Gender Roles Aren’t Progressing". Check it out.
I really apreciate that they made a video about guys having body insecurities. I am a girl who has body insecurities and as you can tell, in the recent years you can see a lot of videos about girls and accepting all kinds of bodies, but not so much about guys. They can have body insecurities too, and that’s ok. With time we will accept ourselves because everybody is beautiful in their own way.
Especially because women make fun of short guys while people make fun of fat girls. A man can not change his height while anyone can change their weight. This is really bad when a girl is like I don't want to date you because you are short, but then she is not ok with you telling her she is fat.
I've had body insecurities for years, coincidentally, since around the same time when young girls start to develop them. Something I've learned relatively recently is that both men and women need to love their bodies while actively trying to improve them through SAFE HEALTHY AND NATURAL ways like exercising (without working yourself to exhaustion) and eating right (without starving yourself).,
"Something I've learned relatively recently is that both men and women need to love their bodies while actively trying to improve them through SAFE HEALTHY AND NATURAL ways like exercising (without working yourself to exhaustion) and eating right (without starving yourself).," OMG THIS EXACTLY. There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but do it at your own pace and do it safely. And its ok to not want to improve yourself, but obviously to others you won't be the most attractive. This does not mean you aren't attractive or that you shouldn't love yourself. It is just when someone spends hours of their life making their body better you should expect to see them look good.
Siddhant. I actually don't understand it. I mean the message is great at all but I think they could have done it way better with another actor I mean this guy looks normal to pumped wtf I can't understand why he would be insecure about himself. I am kind of a skinny guy and I think it would be way more authentic with someone more slim Edit: that was my only problem with the video. The hole thing about not being ready for sex and the other stuff was very authentic
Joel Meixner Most people who look like that are really insecure or were insecure during their transition. That's what gives them the drive to do those outrageous things.
Joel Meixner maybe you missed the message a bit, he is pumped because he is compensating for his insecurities, he is insecure because of being bullied which leads to long term psychological damage that outlast the reasons he was bullied
No they arent, it's your problem you derrived it. They are making it seem like the things he went through when he was younger made him obssessive with perfecting his body, which on it's own isn't necessarily unhealthy if not the opposite.
That ending was so sweet As someone struggling with an eating disorder/body insecurity this does represent it well But I do enjoy the fact that he wants to recover and be happy I can’t wait till I’m able to do that
Tiler Durpen believe me In some moments I really want to and almost try But I always stop myself Not yet....I can’t...it’s hard to explain but to put it simply I’m not thin enough, I don’t deserve/need recovery yet in some sort of sick disordered mindset I want to But I cant
Reagan Smith YES YOU CAN. THE ONLY THING STOPING YOU IS yourself. Belive me when I say that he most beautiful things or over that wall of fear and anxiety. You will do great.
Absolutely everyone who has recovered felt the exact same as you when they started. You don't wait until it's easy. Because that will never happen. You force yourself. Millions of people before you felt what you feel, and they still did it. I bet you know different and that it's still too hard for you, but truly you are no different. Its a strength born into us. Everyone who got better forced themselves.
Reagan Smith I hope you can start feeling that you CAN recover and DESERVE to recover because you do. I don't even need to know you personally to know that you deserve to be healthy and happy because everyone does no matter what. I believe in you. I believe you can and will recover. You are absolutely beautiful. All bodies are beautiful no matter what size or shape or anything they are. You are gorgeous. Please believe in yourself. You can do it. You DESERVE to recover. I hope you have someone supportive you can lean on. If not, maybe a therapist. Idk, each person is different. All i know is you are wonderful and gorgeous and deserve to be healthy and happy. This might not mean much from someone coming from some person on the internet, but I believe in you. I hooe and pray you will get through this soon.💜💜💜💜💜
I kinda like to think of crab dude as an important figure. He’s the dude that seems to be around all the girls and is succeeding while chode is trying so hard to be accepted. In the end though crab dude shows up again empty handed, I promise you a lot of guys have a crab dude they see when they go out and him walking by alone was a powerful message
I love this so much.This goes to show that even if someone is bullied back in high school, their insecurity can stick with them for years after. Even when they might be in a good place physically, they may still be in a bad place mentally. Very important topic.
aboalmlk aboalrhman dude follow proper diet even if u r working out less, bcoz diet plays 90% role in your fitness, take more protein- either natural (egg whites) or whey.. Good luck
I agree, but at the same time, the girl in the nurse costume kinda had a point. Him getting mad at her in the present isn't going to change what happened in the past.
Regret? She showed no sympathy at all and didn't even apologize. All she did was tell him to get over it cause he looks great now, because of the changes he went through because of the things she said.
Kayla it’s not healthy for him to cover up his emotions. He should cry and scream and just let it all out. It’s not good to turn to eating (little or much) food to feel comfort
This hit home. I'll be coming back to watch this again and again. His routine is my routine. I was literally doing push-ups in the bathroom before watching this. All the pills. All the protein shakes. Damn.
I don't know why people are being so negative about this video. I can relate to this. Fitness becomes and obsession when you're shitted on for being fat. I lost over 50 pounds in the span of a month pushing my body to places it shouldn't have been. This video is here for you to realize that you can get over these things and become contempt with your body.
This is the video I have been waiting years for. I am literally this guy. I’ve been working out ever since I graduated high school. I spend all my money on supplements and food. I constantly am taking physique photos. This summer I got down to 6% body fat and weighed 155 pounds and I still wasn’t happy. This video is so important.
Mike Hunt maybe lift the body fat up a little bit? Six percent seems a bit excessive. But it’s good to work on yourself, I started doing the same thing a year ago and am looking pretty decent these days but I’m never fully content, that’s the reality with working out.
To all those people who bully others based on physical attributes (or lack thereof), please have a heart. You don't know the amount of emotional damage you're causing.
Buzzfeed gets a bad rap, but this is one of the greatest short films I’ve ever seen. It’s downright reality. That bully was so real to witness that it honestly made my heart heavy. True bullies are apathetic and oblivious, just like her. They try to justify their actions, or tell you not to be so sensitive. It’s always a you-problem. I would describe it as gaslighting.
Anon Ymous I’ve currently been going to the gym for a while 1-2 years of intense training my muscle has doubled and I’m starting to look rlly good the gym has changed my life
The SMKproject That's great man. I've started going to this gym at the beginning of this year, it was my New year's resolution. Before I was scrawny and hunchbacked now I look more define, ripped and my back is straight after putting on 7 kgs of muscle. Gym has changed my life for the better as it has helped me boost my confidence too before I was really shy and always looked at the ground when out in public hence the hunched back.
I went from 305 to 185. It didn't help my self-esteem. I'm back at 240, but I feel comfortable. I still exercise, but I refuse to obsess about my body and let other people make me feel bad about it. I can bench press 225 and spend an hour on the stairmaster. My mother, who is overweight and rarely exercises often makes unsolicited comments about my healthy appetite. She has more of a problem with my weight than I ever did. When she pries into my dietary lifestyle, I just let her vacuous words roll off my back.
I saw some comments about why put fit and good looking guy as the actor for body insecure issues like it doesn't make any sense. I tell you, that is actually how dangerous body insecure affect people. Eventhou you have a good body you still can't see it, even when people telling you have good body, you are beautiful, etc, you just can't see it
I don't know any male who's 5'10/6ft tall like this guy with insecurities as severe as this, and if they did, they need help. I get what they were going for, but it's *so* purposely over the top that it isn't believable. This is more like body dysmorphia, not body insecurity. But then again, nothing else in this video suggests the male has anxiety issues, substence abuse, low-self esteem, career issues, intellectual inferiority, an eating disorder, domestic or sexual abuse etc. that would be a cause factor...the *only* thing we are told that he was bullied. They missed the mark here. I'll stick with Buzzfeed Unsolved, as usual, the only thing worth subscribing to.
yes they are. the only people who say they can’t are the toxic masculine men who say that boys can’t have emotions and the horrible girls who think that guys can’t be insecure
@Mr. JoJo i don't really care lmao and you shouldn't dislike someone because their gay??What if you've had a childhood friend who comes out to you would you hate them then??
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I like how she didn't apologize or show any sympathy. Bullies may not change and the bullied need to learn to move on without the bullies apologies. Pretty powerful.
the guy keeps on looking at her in a creepy way, with a deep emotion of personal baggage. of course if she notice she wouldnt feel confortable talking to the guy. its ok "yes, ok, wat? go away"
I don’t understand why so many people hate this video so much, I actually really liked the story and the inside into what some people go through trying to better themselves but also not letting things get to them. And I love this guy haha I remember him from other Buzzfeed videos and he is adorably funny
This video just got recommended to me and it’s scarily accurate. Being bullied and feeling unwanted because your weight is hard to get through. Starting a weigh loss journey and going through these situations and memories is tough. Good video.
I can actually relate to this one, all my life people have teased me about every possible thing, my looks, my size, my weight, but recently someone who made fun of me on my attitude. Thats when it came to me. None of the bull crap people say should affect my life. I am now going to head into the marines (if things go as planned) despite what people have said, I'm human. So words will affect my feelings, but i wont let them affect my life.
Pinkomoco I don't think that's an excuse though... Even though one may have been bullied or been brought up in a bad environment, that doesn't mean they don't have a choice. Because becoming a bully is a choice. As a person who has been bullied myself, I'd never bully another person, as I'd never want to cause them the pain that I've suffered. I guess it depends on one's personality as well. Nevertheless, I've met bullies who had actually never been bullied and were just mean, sadistic people who enjoyed causing suffering.
I'm sorry you had to go through bullying. I was bullied for four years and I still now and then cry thinking about it(literally tearing up now, what is life argh) even though it ended almost three years ago; bullying leaves scars. I agree wholeheartedly about bullying being a choice, I mean there's no excuse for tormenting someone continuously to have an "outlet" or a target to take swings at, there are other ways to ease one's mind that doesn't have to include others feeling bad about themselves...
Literally me rn sadly. Got picked on in high school for being “fat” and would call me fatty. I got tired of it and my body lost around 100 pounds or so and still not satisfy with my body and just wear big oh hoodies to hide my body.
I love this video. It really shows how body insecurities affect people that look completely fine. This is a video I wish I could show to people to explain how and why I have body insecurities even if I look “healthy”
Through this entire video i just wanted to give him a hug. Oh, WOW! Thanks for likes guys! I am sure if he had these 1700 hugs it would make him feel better. 😊
True. The more in shape and better looking I am the more I criticize myself. It’s a never ending art project and honestly it’s not so bad having something to work on all the time.
Any of the comments saying that people with body image issues are lazy, please research body dysmorphia first and educate yourselves. I was chubby a little over a year ago. Not at all overweight but chubby. I worked out like crazy, dieted, and now have a pretty good body. Decent set of abs, pecs, flat belly etc. I know that deep down but it still eats away at me. I used to get banter from my friendship group that really hurt me deep down but I couldn’t really show it without looking over sensitive. Now that I’m in good shape the comments have mainly tuned into compliments, but I still get the occasional bit of banter from somebody who hasn’t let the joke go from all that time ago which really kills my confidence for that specific day. It’s a horrible thing because you are never happy with yourself, even once you have reached your goals.
I totally understand. I dropped 80 pounds, got in shape, abs looking pretty good. A comment about my appearance can still devastate me. Doesn't matter that I get hit on now when at parties or how many compliments I get. I keep hoping someday I will get comfortable with myself.
Kevin H Wow it sounds so much like me! And 80 pounds?!I was lucky I only had to loose 28 otherwise I wouldn’t of been able to stick to it! Kudos to you for staying devoted to it! It’s weird isn’t it? I know deep down I’m in better shape than a lot of people in my school, some of them have no body fat and my abs are still better. But it’s the constant voice in your head saying that you actually look bad. I found out some girl was into me and I was into her as well before I knew, so I was pretty happy, but even that won’t boost my confidence. Oh well, out of high school soon and into college, hope the paranoia goes away when I do that! Plus I should be in even better shape by then. And you’ll eventually stop worrying so much, tbh me and my mates have all gone from working out for an hour a day, to just not doing it barely ever. We are all pretty supportive of each other with it. I probably will before the summer just for a confidence boost but I don’t care as much as I used to because I have reached my body goals. Doesn’t mean I’m still not paranoid but I know deep down that I have reached them. It’s a weird disorder.
I love how this was made with a guy even though I am a girl with body insecurities I feel like peoplw misunderstand and think that guys don't have insecurities and that is not true at all. I love these kinds of videos so much because they really inspire me.
Miss_christie1217 it’s not an old video you can see with the decorations around like in the other video there’s a new iPhone poster and Allison’s hair is different
This opened my eyes on how I act, I never really thought about it until now, this really helped me to understand that my body is OK . This video really accurately depicts us people who are really insecure about our body.
Wow this is incredible. Everything about this reminded me so much of myself, from the constant working out, obsessive teeth cleaning, keeping clothes on for sex. The only thing different was I’m a heavy drinker. I honestly wish everyone suffering from this the best of luck❤️❤️
I love this, so often eating disorders/body issues are shown as something that only impacts women. Only thing that annoyed me was the cliche "bullying started it" part
User Name I think that it's reinforcing the fact that the bullying is not seen as bullying. It's only "playful teasing" or whatever but it gets under a lot of people's skin. You can learn to shrug it off but when it's like that for years it really can affect your self confidence in the long run. (At least this is my interpretation, thank u for reading)
At least for me this is how it started, I really didn't have many insecurities before loads of people in school started making fun of me. It's hard to put it behind yourself because you get so conditioned to thinking that people are always judging you (like they did in school) and tbh I don't really know how to "put it behind" myself or to "get over it".
I just remembered now being teased "fat boy" when I was younger. Developed an eating disorder in high school / college and still is very much body conscious until today although with healthier more stable habits now relatively
I love that they portray a male. Being uncomfortable and feeling dysmorphic of your body is not just a female thing. Men go through it too, and hypermasculine societal standards sure as hell don't help. Every man doesn't look like Captain America. But the pressure is up there. Anyone can suffer from dysmorphia, and bullying someone for how they look only raises the chances. Women suffer, men suffer, everyone suffers when society gets to choose 1 standard of beauty among thousands.
everyone knows also males have problems. Everyone do, the subject in this case is just random, so many people get bullied, I don't get why making it a big thing whether its a female or a male.
Well said. that is so true.
I'm sorry but i don't think this a bad thing you are getting healthy it's not the work it the time I can ensure I have it but it, not a negative it makes you more confident in daily life
Yea I was underweight for a bit of time when I first hit puberty. I thought I looked alright but I was kinda unhealthy and suffering from depression because of how my face looked. Didn’t help when everybody liked to poke fun at not only my massively long nose but also extremely small biceps. I was gangly and weak. I weighed in at about 110 pounds and i was 5 ft 9. Now I’m 6 ft and 140 pounds. Working out at home and have invested about three hundred dollars in dumbbells, pull up bar, and a bench.
Masculine social standards are a good thing.
Perfect example of how a very attractive person can still have insane insecurities. It's not just unattractive people.
Claudia Vlahović thx?
@Claudia Vlahović ooof...tf is wrong with you?
Adarsh Singh right
Pingsum FACTSSSSSS like people always invalidate attractive ppl just because they’re attractive. attractive ppl struggle to be attractive and it hurts just the same for them.
Blame women for that as us men have to be perfect for women to accept us. Women demand perfection from men as anything less simply isn't good enough.
Am I the skinniest? No. Do I have the biggest butt? Not at all. But do I wake up in the morning ready to be a good person? Also no.
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Xd that got me :D I was expecting "yes" so much that I laughed loudly when I read the "also no" :D
Lmfao
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Love the casual mention that she's "running late for therapy," it's so good to normalize mental health like that
That’s so painful that she treats it like it was just a joke when it ruined his body image for ten years...
i hate when ppl do that. than its ur fault when you get upset about.
10:17 He's not innocent either. Acts like a sociopath
xLe-Mort-Vivantx thought u had 666 likes but it’s 566.
@@walida8885 well it might be their fualt for doing taht thing but its your fualt for being sad
dogmaster1551 how tf you control emotions
The only six pack I got is the six packs of toilet paper that I have after eating too much chipotle.
Iss Gr8 yeah I keep mine in the fridge
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@1000 Subscribers With No Videos lmfaooo as i am writing this very comment my mom is bringing me home chipotle
john black have fun being fat lol
Its weird to see this actor in such a serious role. He’s always so happy in buzzfeed videos.
He did a great job though!
Lol. And Robin Williams also looked so happy in his movies, didn't he?
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What people "look like" and their state of mind are too completly different things.
AfroBit I definitely agree. I myself have battled mental illness without most people knowing.
AfroBit so true he played as the "happy" doctor in that one movie...
ben right?
I'm glad they talk about guy insecurities for once.
DaJoesh but she said she was late for therapy so maybe buzzfeed can make a video on Erica too.
DaJoesh exactly
I know! it's like people think women are the only ones who can be insecure with their own looks. Not true
YES! Guys can feel insecure too and that is absolutely, 100% okay. Needs to be talked about more.
DaJoesh ikr
The fact that he is hot makes me even more insecure.
Dont be mate.
yeah, this doesn’t really help
*"OH NO HES HOT"*
6 months has passed; I've lost 20 pounds and I'm feeling a bit better about myself.
You go Diane.
Compliments are sweet and all but when you have body insecurities it’s hard to see the good in it. It doesn’t matter how many compliments you get, if you still feel insecure then you can’t really change it unless you work to change it
Royal Queen so work to change it. Everyone’s insecure
@@Elm98 thanks you just cured all my mental illnesses would you like an award
That's essentially me except being depressed and having anxiety, people saying they'll help me and support me but feels like they're not being genuine or something else
Afroswine Hoggintons you clearly don’t have an optimistic outlook on life😂 your just going to spiral and spiral but yes I would love one can u send it to me pls
@@Elm98 i learned the hard way so i agree with you
When I tell my friends I’m insecure about my body they just say “you have nothing to worry about you’re normal size and short. You’re not fat” but people often jump to conclusions that only bigger people are insecure, but it’s not that. All sizes can be insecure about their body.
Gabbo finally
Gabbo I was as unhappy with my body at 130 lbs as I am now at 170 lbs. I’ve decided to just ignore insecurities and just listen to the uni nurse that does body fat percentages.
omg I was hoping to find a comment like this. I'm 5'1 and 93 pounds, and yes I'm still insecure. ppl don't understand that being uncomfortable with your appearance and body doesn't only happen when you're overweight.
Gabbo i’m insecure about every single thing about myself :/
I’m 12 all my friends are really tall and all the girls makes me feel VERY insecure
It is really sweet how the girl (catgirl) asked for his consent and wanted to make him comfortable.
LadyStarkgaryen or just a normal thing to do 😂
Yeah you just do not often see it with men in media
They are often presented as hormon driven sex monsters
When did she ask for consent?
uhh pretty normal.. if someone isnt feeling it its pretty easy to pick up on if youre not wasted. noone wants to have awkward sex.
Ápo.
A bunch of times 😂 she was like “You sure?”
y'all the black chick was so nice tho when she was like "no its fine take ur time"
Just say the chick
Her name was erica
Brielle bernard who tf remembers every characters name? He was a white dude, she was a black girl. No ones staying anything racist just harmless facts. Wtf?
Lol it’s not nice it’s consent, he has to be ready to wanna have sex
It's not wrong to acknowledge that she's black. They're not making it a big deal.
Anyone can be fit.
Anyone can be fit and miserable (feeling like you're "not good enough").
Anyone can pursue life goals (& achieve them) and still be miserable.
Anyone can be in a state of self-acceptance.
Anyone can be in a state of self-acceptance temporarily.
Live your life. Do your thing. Take the lumps when and however they happen.
Then keep moving. Keep living.
Being human and mental health: It's a multi-faceted, complex thing.
1128ca Mbq That is so true. Well said.
"Anyone can be fit and miserable" is the truest thing ever. Well said.
1128ca Mbq What does being fit have to do with being miserable?
First I’ve ever seen a video about men’s struggle with body positivity. I LOVE IT!!!
Abigail O it happens to some of us, even if we already look as good as this guy looks now or better, while you can have way less good looking guys popular and that have hooked up with so many girls and then there’s the insecure who barely even kissed a girl
*straight men. gay/bi/trans men deal with this healthily and have been openly for generations; neat to see our cis/straight counterparts catching up though.
to anyone getting bullied right now remember that school is just one tiny little part in the rest of your life...stay strong and tell someone
Ishan Ali- I just saw you on the worth it video..
or get fit
unless you want to be a doctor
actually its like 1/6
Ishan Ali you don’t tell anyone if you are getting bullied because then people find out and that is more reason to get bullied. You go along with it until it passes over or you just change things about you
The conversations are too realistically awkward.
Omg dude frrrrre
wait isnt that the point lol
eenin IKR
eenin I think you meant awkwardly realistic.
"I hated every minute of training, but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'" - Muhammad Ali
Oh man
This is such a bad quote to put in a video of a person with an addiction to working out and body dysphoria.
What does this quote have anything to do with the subject of exercise addiction and body dysmorphia? lmao
this rings so dull and false for so many people in so many situations. quotes and anecdotes are not universal truths. If I have to cite examples, then you have a problem with sociopathy.
@@ES11777 exactly, he missed the point entirely, he was probably one of the bullies in HS
Thank you for making this! My boyfriend struggled for years with his appearance and it's 100% an invisible disease that affects so many men!
It's very true, it sucks when any problem there is in the world is usually just hijacked by feminism, especially on buzzfeed when everyone can have the problem
The whole time I thought he was gonna show up to the party and it wasnt a costume party 😂 i swear i was holding my breath
Procrasti Nation sameee
Saaaaaaame
Same.
Rt
Same !! XD
This was beautiful and it was even more beautiful bc it was in a guy's perspective. Girls aren't the only ones with body issues people ! But like this is a very accurate description of body dysmorphia and its a horrible thing to live with. I hope everyone who suffers from it learns to love themselves one day. I myself am on my journey so we can learn to love ourselves together
I clicked because of the thumbnail. I have sinned
Me too
Ah same
me too and i'm a straight male
SEXIST
yassss hunney
“He’s so hot, how can he be insecure??” No one should feel insecure just because of their weight, nose, skin, etc. It’s sad that people do. But just because he has muscles it doesn’t mean he isn’t insecure, anyone can have issues with their body. We have to learn to love as we come, nothing is wrong with the way we are. It’s just in our heads. It’s a struggle but don’t be hard on your stomach, legs, nose, etc. Be thankful for your body.
Damn one of the few people that realize this..
There is a reason for him to be insecure. Newsweek recently published an article headlined "Men With Muscles and Money Are More Attractive to Straight Women and Gay Men-Showing Gender Roles Aren’t Progressing". Check it out.
Ruby Your body isn’t something you can’t change. It’s not given to you in a specific form, it’s made to be altered. Don’t sympathize for lazy people
Ruby yeah
Ruby “nose” HAHAHAHA
The black girl is 🔥
TheBullionEra which one
Foxy Moxi erica i think
BoomMoob rly
FINALLY SOMEONE SAYS ITTTT
FACTS. Like sis is too hot
I really apreciate that they made a video about guys having body insecurities. I am a girl who has body insecurities and as you can tell, in the recent years you can see a lot of videos about girls and accepting all kinds of bodies, but not so much about guys. They can have body insecurities too, and that’s ok. With time we will accept ourselves because everybody is beautiful in their own way.
Especially because women make fun of short guys while people make fun of fat girls. A man can not change his height while anyone can change their weight. This is really bad when a girl is like I don't want to date you because you are short, but then she is not ok with you telling her she is fat.
KamiltheCamel yeah, true.
I've had body insecurities for years, coincidentally, since around the same time when young girls start to develop them. Something I've learned relatively recently is that both men and women need to love their bodies while actively trying to improve them through SAFE HEALTHY AND NATURAL ways like exercising (without working yourself to exhaustion) and eating right (without starving yourself).,
"Something I've learned relatively recently is that both men and women need to love their bodies while actively trying to improve them through SAFE HEALTHY AND NATURAL ways like exercising (without working yourself to exhaustion) and eating right (without starving yourself).,"
OMG THIS EXACTLY. There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but do it at your own pace and do it safely. And its ok to not want to improve yourself, but obviously to others you won't be the most attractive. This does not mean you aren't attractive or that you shouldn't love yourself. It is just when someone spends hours of their life making their body better you should expect to see them look good.
I was going to comment this and i agree although, one way or another we have a long ways to go its true
Okay this was actually really good BuzzFeed.
Siddhant. I actually don't understand it. I mean the message is great at all but I think they could have done it way better with another actor I mean this guy looks normal to pumped wtf I can't understand why he would be insecure about himself. I am kind of a skinny guy and I think it would be way more authentic with someone more slim
Edit: that was my only problem with the video. The hole thing about not being ready for sex and the other stuff was very authentic
Joel Meixner Most people who look like that are really insecure or were insecure during their transition. That's what gives them the drive to do those outrageous things.
Joel Meixner just because someone has muscles doesn’t mean they aren’t or shouldn’t be insecure about their body
Joel Meixner maybe you missed the message a bit, he is pumped because he is compensating for his insecurities, he is insecure because of being bullied which leads to long term psychological damage that outlast the reasons he was bullied
Im your 3,100 🖒
why ya'll making it seem like flossing on a regular basis is an unhealthy habit ?
i be flossin
I think they're trying to show insecurities can manifest in things that were once healthy. Losing moderation is harmful to the body and mind.
It's not on the regular, it's obsessively
No they arent, it's your problem you derrived it. They are making it seem like the things he went through when he was younger made him obssessive with perfecting his body, which on it's own isn't necessarily unhealthy if not the opposite.
I bE FloSsinnnnnggg innng
That ending was so sweet
As someone struggling with an eating disorder/body insecurity this does represent it well
But I do enjoy the fact that he wants to recover and be happy
I can’t wait till I’m able to do that
you can start now
Tiler Durpen believe me
In some moments I really want to and almost try
But I always stop myself
Not yet....I can’t...it’s hard to explain but to put it simply I’m not thin enough, I don’t deserve/need recovery yet in some sort of sick disordered mindset
I want to
But I cant
Reagan Smith YES YOU CAN. THE ONLY THING STOPING YOU IS yourself. Belive me when I say that he most beautiful things or over that wall of fear and anxiety. You will do great.
Absolutely everyone who has recovered felt the exact same as you when they started. You don't wait until it's easy. Because that will never happen. You force yourself. Millions of people before you felt what you feel, and they still did it. I bet you know different and that it's still too hard for you, but truly you are no different. Its a strength born into us. Everyone who got better forced themselves.
Reagan Smith I hope you can start feeling that you CAN recover and DESERVE to recover because you do. I don't even need to know you personally to know that you deserve to be healthy and happy because everyone does no matter what. I believe in you. I believe you can and will recover. You are absolutely beautiful. All bodies are beautiful no matter what size or shape or anything they are. You are gorgeous. Please believe in yourself. You can do it. You DESERVE to recover. I hope you have someone supportive you can lean on. If not, maybe a therapist. Idk, each person is different. All i know is you are wonderful and gorgeous and deserve to be healthy and happy. This might not mean much from someone coming from some person on the internet, but I believe in you. I hooe and pray you will get through this soon.💜💜💜💜💜
3:31 "Oh! Hi, hahaha. I still don't know who you are but hehehe." Allison kills me
Rea Keebz wait why allison there tho? didn't she quit? I'm confused sorry
she's there as a guest
SAME AHHAHAHAHA
That black girl Erica at the start was bad affffff😍😍😍
GENERAL WIPE faaacts
I love how all the girls were surrounding the crab guy
Lyss L who wouldn't am I right
we all love daddy krabbs
They wanted crabs lol
Lmao i loved the part when he past by while the guy was eating junk food
I kinda like to think of crab dude as an important figure. He’s the dude that seems to be around all the girls and is succeeding while chode is trying so hard to be accepted. In the end though crab dude shows up again empty handed, I promise you a lot of guys have a crab dude they see when they go out and him walking by alone was a powerful message
I love this so much.This goes to show that even if someone is bullied back in high school, their insecurity can stick with them for years after. Even when they might be in a good place physically, they may still be in a bad place mentally. Very important topic.
I agree, i was a fatso at high school but I'm really good looking, but still after loosing weight I didn't get that confidence :(
Akash Vashishtha what is the solution?
aboalmlk aboalrhman dude follow proper diet even if u r working out less, bcoz diet plays 90% role in your fitness, take more protein- either natural (egg whites) or whey.. Good luck
Akash Vashishtha sorry to break your bubble but you're probably a 6/10 at best
CodedCuber thats totally fine, inner beauty matters to me :) ✌
Can relate, all the high school bullies now coming with “oh you look good we should do something sometime”
Hell no
elvisbefit
Can't relate. I haven't talked to anyone from high school other than the principal in the last 20 years.
To the no no no
Agree! It's a total hard pass for me.
Watching him confront the girl in the nurse costume was depressing.
HonestToStrangers yeah it’s sad:(
His character needed to do it though- closer
I agree. It gave him closure.
People don't realize that even if the teasing makes the weight go away, it can leave a lot of awful mental damage
I agree, but at the same time, the girl in the nurse costume kinda had a point. Him getting mad at her in the present isn't going to change what happened in the past.
Regret? She showed no sympathy at all and didn't even apologize. All she did was tell him to get over it cause he looks great now, because of the changes he went through because of the things she said.
It’s great that he turns to exercise for an escape tho, I turn to bingeing.
Kayla it’s not healthy for him to cover up his emotions. He should cry and scream and just let it all out. It’s not good to turn to eating (little or much) food to feel comfort
Kayla haha same thing here
I went to weed
Alcohol lol
@@redguccishoes6999 If everybody would do that each time they feel that way, world would go crazy.
2:04 "I'm running late for therapy" - just a casual reference apparently to a fairly private matter
That's true but we can also see later on in the video talking about her mum and sex that she's an oversharer (ha ha yes sometimes i can be too)
Jeremy Nunns doesn’t have to be private.
Some people r open about that stuff and that’s good if they want to.
Jeremy Nunns going to therapy isn't a bad thing. There's shouldn't be a stigma issue with telling people you have some personal issues.
Pedro García right
This hit home. I'll be coming back to watch this again and again. His routine is my routine. I was literally doing push-ups in the bathroom before watching this. All the pills. All the protein shakes. Damn.
Danilo Castro niño... hay cosas más importantes que la imagen, lo que sientes, lo que piensas, como actúas.... ánimo:)
Evelyn Revolorio muchas gracias :)
Danilo Castro hope things improve for you :(((
same m8, same. Not the pills tho, if it aint natty it aint idk.
Same bro. Everything in this video is like a reflection of me. I guess that insecurity affects more guys i imagen.
Men have body image issues too, I'm glad that it is being recognized
I don't know why people are being so negative about this video. I can relate to this. Fitness becomes and obsession when you're shitted on for being fat. I lost over 50 pounds in the span of a month pushing my body to places it shouldn't have been. This video is here for you to realize that you can get over these things and become contempt with your body.
Content
woah 50 pounds in a month???! hope ur doing better now ❤️ and yeah I can relate
I can relate
can't relate, still overweight
i wish i had the drive to be that obsessed
This is the video I have been waiting years for. I am literally this guy. I’ve been working out ever since I graduated high school. I spend all my money on supplements and food. I constantly am taking physique photos. This summer I got down to 6% body fat and weighed 155 pounds and I still wasn’t happy. This video is so important.
155lbs? Christ dude. Ever tried Powerlifting?
@@HurricaneGaming509 I weighed 140-145 in highschool. Baby steps.
Mike Hunt maybe lift the body fat up a little bit? Six percent seems a bit excessive. But it’s good to work on yourself, I started doing the same thing a year ago and am looking pretty decent these days but I’m never fully content, that’s the reality with working out.
Mike Hunt 6% fuark dude you should be proud that’s hard af
Too much is too much man. You'll never be satisfied, that's the worst.
I like how the girl is bullying the guy, it's a bit unusual to see that portrayed in media
Yet it’s so common irl
Pretty common irl, it’s so sad and I hate it 😒 idc if I’m a girl
You like it?
Fiji water They like how there is a change from normal things we see online
Unusual in the media, extremely common in reality
Moral of the story is to find the perfect balance between mind and body.
To all those people who bully others based on physical attributes (or lack thereof), please have a heart. You don't know the amount of emotional damage you're causing.
Lol
Those who are bullying also have depression and problems but the things is to do smt when it hurts you
Buzzfeed gets a bad rap, but this is one of the greatest short films I’ve ever seen. It’s downright reality. That bully was so real to witness that it honestly made my heart heavy. True bullies are apathetic and oblivious, just like her. They try to justify their actions, or tell you not to be so sensitive. It’s always a you-problem. I would describe it as gaslighting.
Even if someone used to be insecure about their body and is no longer not, the mentality still lingers.
“ohhh ha ha ..... yeah i still dont know who you are, but yay”
When he did push-ups after nurse lady blew him off, that hit me pretty deep.
Erika: John!!!
Allison: I still don't know who you are but cool!!
What a m ood
The day you start lifting, is the day youre never big enough
That's true
Yup
Yup, people are like “you look fit” im just like I don’t see it lol
This hit me hard, it gave me the chills
Very true
3:28 "Hiii... Oh hi! I still dont know who you are but"
Boo nurse lady...boooo
donteven startwithme LOL
Hahaha
Boo
Booooooooooo
am I the only one who hears this in benders voice?
This actually was a little too relatable....
xPorsum yeah I’m depressed now, i really thought I could get over all of the issues but I always look in the mirror unsatisfied
@@Theblackmika get yourself up you can just trust me you can
Mik Why not hit the gym and build the body you're satisfied with
Anon Ymous I’ve currently been going to the gym for a while 1-2 years of intense training my muscle has doubled and I’m starting to look rlly good the gym has changed my life
The SMKproject That's great man. I've started going to this gym at the beginning of this year, it was my New year's resolution. Before I was scrawny and hunchbacked now I look more define, ripped and my back is straight after putting on 7 kgs of muscle. Gym has changed my life for the better as it has helped me boost my confidence too before I was really shy and always looked at the ground when out in public hence the hunched back.
All that working out and no sweat. Ever. Now that is something to be proud of my friend.
That, or he just has issues with his glands. :D
I always thought Will was such a gorgeous guy
Really, do you not even understand what this video is about?
Yes, I do. So?
Canadian Ninja lol chill, it was a comment not related to the story of this video. It was just a compliment to the actor...
Sarah N. Me too!
Did no one else find it funny that he was running around in a ninja costume in the middle of the night😂
J. Savage Nobody's afraid that he might start serving Justice anytime soon🤣
That is my preferred time for running around in a ninja costume. Are you saying you do not do that?
He should have ran with his arms back
@@Hiiiiiiiiii12345 With a few kunai to boot.
And the police sirens in the background😂😂😂😂
I went from 305 to 185. It didn't help my self-esteem. I'm back at 240, but I feel comfortable. I still exercise, but I refuse to obsess about my body and let other people make me feel bad about it. I can bench press 225 and spend an hour on the stairmaster. My mother, who is overweight and rarely exercises often makes unsolicited comments about my healthy appetite. She has more of a problem with my weight than I ever did. When she pries into my dietary lifestyle, I just let her vacuous words roll off my back.
Best video on BuzzFeed in a long time. (Minus the unsolved series)
FACTTTSSS
Agreed
YES
The Vegetarian Baker true
Yeeeeeah but pretty sure it was filmed forever ago cuz Will Neff and Allison don't work for them anymore and haven't for a looooong time
I saw some comments about why put fit and good looking guy as the actor for body insecure issues like it doesn't make any sense. I tell you, that is actually how dangerous body insecure affect people. Eventhou you have a good body you still can't see it, even when people telling you have good body, you are beautiful, etc, you just can't see it
Roovyjack exactly!
You’re missing the point champ
Legitimately what I'm going through and I hate it. No matter what people say, I'm convinced they are lying just because I can't believe them.
I don't know any male who's 5'10/6ft tall like this guy with insecurities as severe as this, and if they did, they need help. I get what they were going for, but it's *so* purposely over the top that it isn't believable. This is more like body dysmorphia, not body insecurity. But then again, nothing else in this video suggests the male has anxiety issues, substence abuse, low-self esteem, career issues, intellectual inferiority, an eating disorder, domestic or sexual abuse etc. that would be a cause factor...the *only* thing we are told that he was bullied.
They missed the mark here. I'll stick with Buzzfeed Unsolved, as usual, the only thing worth subscribing to.
Yeah that's literally the whole point of the video
sounds like guys aren't allowed to be upset with girls when they call them fat. Double standards.
yes they are. the only people who say they can’t are the toxic masculine men who say that boys can’t have emotions and the horrible girls who think that guys can’t be insecure
anonymous human nobody’s horrible. people make mistakes
You done playing the victim card?
@@karin9870 not sure how exposing a double standard is "the victim card"
??? The girl who said that to him is the villain of the story, so not sure where you are getting the idea that was supposed to be a good thing.
when people cant apologize, my God.
Dongy Sakura
But he also did overreact and took it too seriously
her bullying ended up negatively affecting his mental health, social life, and well being. To tell you the truth I think he "under-reacted".
Boe Man, so that makes it fine? You sound just like her.
Dongy Sakura ikr, just shows how weak you are for not saying the 2 words
Dongy Sakura for a different reason, but I so feel this. It's just a sorry that we need
how did Buzzfeed go from "When You Get Stabbed By a Pencil" one day, to THIS?? This was great!
JJGalz ikr
This guy is hot AF.
Someone's crushing
Gay
._.
@@tonis1167 and what about it? 👀
@Mr. JoJo i don't really care lmao and you shouldn't dislike someone because their gay??What if you've had a childhood friend who comes out to you would you hate them then??
If anyone noticed : this connects to their video "commitment issues"
Steve the man hj
great, now I have to go back and watch it
Steve the man OMG! I just relised!
Yeah I think this is gonna be a series
Steve the man I
This was nicely done
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Kinda crazy I got an ad telling me to get in Shape?!
Same
Lol same
Same
Sameeee
Same 😂😂😂
Why is buzzfeed putting out good content?
Exactly.
Allison Raskin was involved
ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ It just is
Because allison raskin wrote it
ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ ᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟᅟ omg yes
I can only relate to the part where he is eating, alone, in a car
Cassandra i can’t even to that because i have no car
I like how she didn't apologize or show any sympathy. Bullies may not change and the bullied need to learn to move on without the bullies apologies. Pretty powerful.
In the end, the bullies can go eff themselves. The pain of being mocked by others is still there but it fades as time passes by.
Does the nurse not know how to have a conversation or is it just me???
I also like Erica! She's awesome!
She weirdly reminds her of me
Edit: nvm I just watched the thing, she aint me at all
the guy keeps on looking at her in a creepy way, with a deep emotion of personal baggage. of course if she notice she wouldnt feel confortable talking to the guy. its ok "yes, ok, wat? go away"
She reacts just like her character should. She's a bully who wants to blame her victim and then feels uncomfortable when he confronts her about it.
thank you buzzfeed for this short film. you're giving a voice to people who have been told to keep quiet throughout their lives.
Man youtubers need to make more short movies like this. Loved it!
Erica was awesome, wishing they ended up together.
yo Same
i want a part 2! With him and Erica in a relationship and them dealing with his issues
I don’t understand why so many people hate this video so much, I actually really liked the story and the inside into what some people go through trying to better themselves but also not letting things get to them. And I love this guy haha I remember him from other Buzzfeed videos and he is adorably funny
i totally agree, i think some ppl just don’t get it
People have trouble empathizing because the dude has a good body, even if he was bullied and has insecurities because of that.
Cinthya there is barley any hate comments..
This video just got recommended to me and it’s scarily accurate. Being bullied and feeling unwanted because your weight is hard to get through. Starting a weigh loss journey and going through these situations and memories is tough. Good video.
He kinda looks like cristoff from frozen
Marilyn Delapaz omg
Marilyn Delapaz Lol😂😂
What have you done
kristoff has body image issues... hmm ;)
HAHAHAHAHAHA
I can actually relate to this one, all my life people have teased me about every possible thing, my looks, my size, my weight, but recently someone who made fun of me on my attitude. Thats when it came to me. None of the bull crap people say should affect my life. I am now going to head into the marines (if things go as planned) despite what people have said, I'm human. So words will affect my feelings, but i wont let them affect my life.
MO JOE I believe in you. Just roll with it. Waves go where the current sends them. Don't get trapped in the undertow.
I'm doing nearly the same thing bro, except I might go Air Force or college for I dunno what yet. Good luck on your journey bro.
I hope you'll make it into the Marines Corps dude. Semper Fi
MO JOELOL i don’t know you, but you are a beautiful human being and your looks doesn’t define your self worth
Good luck brother, stay strong man things are gonna get better. I'm going into the Navy I hope you do well with your future.
The only 6 packs I have are chicken nuggets 😂
Am I the only one who thought this was well done?
Mary-Scarlett Owens No...I also thought it was too...
Mary-Scarlett Owens i loved it
I think everyone loves it when buzzfeed takes a break from extreme feminism.
Mary-Scarlett Owens
No, I thought the same
U kidding me they fucked it(in an awesome way)
People who bully others shouldn't even exist on this world. They're the reason good people with good souls have their lives destroyed.
Honestly
NASA needs to take me to one of the newly discovered planets tbh.
People who bully probably got bullied themselves or got raised in a rough environment.
Although I see where you're coming from.
Pinkomoco I don't think that's an excuse though...
Even though one may have been bullied or been brought up in a bad environment, that doesn't mean they don't have a choice. Because becoming a bully is a choice.
As a person who has been bullied myself, I'd never bully another person, as I'd never want to cause them the pain that I've suffered.
I guess it depends on one's personality as well.
Nevertheless, I've met bullies who had actually never been bullied and were just mean, sadistic people who enjoyed causing suffering.
I'm sorry you had to go through bullying. I was bullied for four years and I still now and then cry thinking about it(literally tearing up now, what is life argh) even though it ended almost three years ago; bullying leaves scars. I agree wholeheartedly about bullying being a choice, I mean there's no excuse for tormenting someone continuously to have an "outlet" or a target to take swings at, there are other ways to ease one's mind that doesn't have to include others feeling bad about themselves...
Literally me rn sadly. Got picked on in high school for being “fat” and would call me fatty. I got tired of it and my body lost around 100 pounds or so and still not satisfy with my body and just wear big oh hoodies to hide my body.
Isaiah aesthetics you can get trough this girl❤️
You are beautyfull
Same here man :(
Ironically, those hoodies probably just make you look chubbier than you actually are tho.
Erica is so sweet, i wish i had a girlfriend like her.
She is literally my type to a T. That bed scene got me hot.
I hate bullies they can ruin lives, self esteem ruined for such a long time.
Yeah there the worst
I love this video. It really shows how body insecurities affect people that look completely fine. This is a video I wish I could show to people to explain how and why I have body insecurities even if I look “healthy”
Through this entire video i just wanted to give him a hug.
Oh, WOW! Thanks for likes guys! I am sure if he had these 1700 hugs it would make him feel better. 😊
Emily Che just a hug? 😉😉
Sunny Khan Just a hug i swear.😊
He's a cutie 💙
give him a hrug
Emily Che I trust u😉😘💝
True. The more in shape and better looking I am the more I criticize myself. It’s a never ending art project and honestly it’s not so bad having something to work on all the time.
The teenage Casual, that just means you need to lift harder until you are a beast.
And if you hit that natty plateau... time to get some juice.
Das it mane
So true!!!!
Foomanlol but once he’s huge he will find something else to worry about. It’s how this condition works.
Any of the comments saying that people with body image issues are lazy, please research body dysmorphia first and educate yourselves. I was chubby a little over a year ago. Not at all overweight but chubby. I worked out like crazy, dieted, and now have a pretty good body. Decent set of abs, pecs, flat belly etc. I know that deep down but it still eats away at me. I used to get banter from my friendship group that really hurt me deep down but I couldn’t really show it without looking over sensitive. Now that I’m in good shape the comments have mainly tuned into compliments, but I still get the occasional bit of banter from somebody who hasn’t let the joke go from all that time ago which really kills my confidence for that specific day. It’s a horrible thing because you are never happy with yourself, even once you have reached your goals.
I totally understand. I dropped 80 pounds, got in shape, abs looking pretty good. A comment about my appearance can still devastate me. Doesn't matter that I get hit on now when at parties or how many compliments I get. I keep hoping someday I will get comfortable with myself.
Kevin H Wow it sounds so much like me! And 80 pounds?!I was lucky I only had to loose 28 otherwise I wouldn’t of been able to stick to it! Kudos to you for staying devoted to it! It’s weird isn’t it? I know deep down I’m in better shape than a lot of people in my school, some of them have no body fat and my abs are still better. But it’s the constant voice in your head saying that you actually look bad. I found out some girl was into me and I was into her as well before I knew, so I was pretty happy, but even that won’t boost my confidence. Oh well, out of high school soon and into college, hope the paranoia goes away when I do that! Plus I should be in even better shape by then.
And you’ll eventually stop worrying so much, tbh me and my mates have all gone from working out for an hour a day, to just not doing it barely ever. We are all pretty supportive of each other with it. I probably will before the summer just for a confidence boost but I don’t care as much as I used to because I have reached my body goals. Doesn’t mean I’m still not paranoid but I know deep down that I have reached them. It’s a weird disorder.
Here I am with my 6 pack of jelly roles
Adrian :/ 6 pack i got one massive pack
Adrian :/ same
Armyyy
Throw those away and go to the gym !!! WTF dude ?! BTW, don't take this as a rough comment even if it seems like one.
@@Kevin-cr6lw I've got a three pack. Change a couple of things and I could pass for a woman. Lol
*takes off ninja mask* girl in the yellow NASA costume “hiii! I still don’t know who you are
_identity theft is not a joke, jim_
*millions of families suffer every year*
Like I never rlly knew that guys had as much insecurities about their body as girls because it’s never rlly shown to us.
I love how this was made with a guy even though I am a girl with body insecurities I feel like peoplw misunderstand and think that guys don't have insecurities and that is not true at all. I love these kinds of videos so much because they really inspire me.
Only some people will understand this.
Toxic Legend i think its quite clear
Maia Marmour yes I’m not saying it can’t be.
True
I honestly relate to this very much even though I’m a girl
I think most can
3:32 "I still don't know who you are" 😂😂
Ok so this is an interconnected series, hmm I like it, a collab between Allison and buzzfeed
Can't wait for the next one.
I don't think it's a collab cause it's an old video
Miss_christie1217 it’s not an old video you can see with the decorations around like in the other video there’s a new iPhone poster and Allison’s hair is different
I noticed. I was just about to comment that
Yeah I'm expecting a vid about the tentacle guy and erika next!
that dude is hot
I agree. Who is he? I can't seem to find him anywhere.
Eddie Brewster you forgot to say no homo
@@omarleos259 his name is Willard Nef. You're welcome ;)
Eddie Brewster gayyyyyyyyyyy
Mia I agree, he’s like bland oatmeal
This opened my eyes on how I act, I never really thought about it until now, this really helped me to understand that my body is OK . This video really accurately depicts us people who are really insecure about our body.
Wow this is incredible. Everything about this reminded me so much of myself, from the constant working out, obsessive teeth cleaning, keeping clothes on for sex.
The only thing different was I’m a heavy drinker.
I honestly wish everyone suffering from this the best of luck❤️❤️
Oh yeah yeah
How are you doing so far bro?
This was so true. I loved how they showed how a man is insecure as well.
Anyone else like me the complete opposite of him, lazy and more laziness😂
Dfdjdjdj Lelelle thats not a good thing
Maybe you're lazy; maybe you're just lazy in certain aspects of your life but not others.
SPACE doG no one said it was
Dfdjdjdj Lelelle your not alone 😂
Dfdjdjdj Lelelle yeah I do
I love this, so often eating disorders/body issues are shown as something that only impacts women.
Only thing that annoyed me was the cliche "bullying started it" part
thats because a lot of times, bullying does start insecurities :)
User Name ye I don’t like that either
User Name I think that it's reinforcing the fact that the bullying is not seen as bullying. It's only "playful teasing" or whatever but it gets under a lot of people's skin. You can learn to shrug it off but when it's like that for years it really can affect your self confidence in the long run. (At least this is my interpretation, thank u for reading)
At least for me this is how it started, I really didn't have many insecurities before loads of people in school started making fun of me. It's hard to put it behind yourself because you get so conditioned to thinking that people are always judging you (like they did in school) and tbh I don't really know how to "put it behind" myself or to "get over it".
I just remembered now being teased "fat boy" when I was younger. Developed an eating disorder in high school / college and still is very much body conscious until today although with healthier more stable habits now relatively