Why is there so much education materials for parents with autistic children? Why can't you make stuff for adults who have autism too? There are a lot of people like me who weren't diagnosed until adulthood because the dianostic criteria was too restrictive in the past.
It’s mostly because like she stated in the video that adults learn to mask their behaviors to the point that they themselves aren’t aware of them. It took me three decades of living to fully realize the lack of self awareness in how severe my tactile hypersensitivity affected my functioning and the years of therapists chasing a bipolar or MDD diagnosis that never seemed to be treated despite literally a dozen SSRIs and anticonvulsants later and my worsening mental health until I had to have several other adults on the spectrum ask me why am I unable to find stable Employment with a bachelors education and several years of work experience even in the positions that only require a high school diploma beside me being unable to physically function due to the immense amount of stress alone. Our society teaches us that we need to walk without a wheelchair using our own two feet or we’re lazy, entitled, and just not working hard enough despite literally being crippled from the inside just because those same hypocrites look at us and say, “well, they look fine to me.” It’s exhausting.
It has been suggested that I have NLVD, which is an autism spectrum disorder. I really love learning languages, it has been helping me in my career as well, which is in plant sciences. It's fun listening to foreign songs and singing along while doing some work.
My question is why people act like rrbi is a bad thing. An argument can be made to state that it leads to a lack of variety in life but that is non sequitur because it presupposes that variety is good, which is not only a matter of personal opinion but also a different discussion entirely.
Rrbi by itself is not inherently a bad thing, like autism itself. It's the repercussions that come from that autistic individual interacting with neurotypical people that make it 'bad' - this obviously varies in degree dependant on where an autistic individual lies on the spectrum and how volatile overwhelming experiences may be to them. Some autistic individuals may be so volatile when presented with adversity and challenge that they could be a danger to themselves and others. Repetitive interests aren't bad but unfortunately all autistic traits and behaviours are always measured by comparing and reviewing those behaviours against neurotypical behaviours and/or neurotypical interactions.
Nope. My YA son & I are HFA....and we don't have rigid social routines.... You KNOW the saying " if you've met someone with autism, then you've met someONE with autism"... In other words each one is unique...we cannot paint them all with the same stereotypical brush.❗ Caution caution❗
These behaviors are natural and a normal for the Nero type. Restricting these responses is interrupting the sympathetic nervous systems. Which can lead to dangerous and damaging out comes. Resulting in a whole host of psycho somatic diseases.
My little boy is 24mo. I've been pushing for an autism assessment because literally everything covered in this video describes him. Health visitor today is basically saying she isn't concerned but he does need support with speech and language which is so common what with the social fallout in kids from lockdown. It's so frustrating when you know but the 'professionals ' just aren't listening
I'd like to know if the following thought process is abnormal and possibly autistic: I walk into your office seeking therapy, and I see you are well-coiffed and wearing makeup. Generally, people of both genders dress well to follow social norms and present themselves in a way that will be positively received by other people. However, makeup is almost exclusive to women and is generally worn as a sexual signal and to enhance beauty and stand out from other females so that you are more likely to be sexually selected by men. Since you are signaling that you are competing sexually with other women by wearing makeup, I become instantly nervous in your presence because I feel that, at least on a subconscious level, we are competing. I too wear makeup and am of reproductive age. I become nervous because you are in a role of authority and even though it's literally your job to be my advocate in this setting and situation, oftentimes people behave in instinctive ways that run counter to their stated objectives. The unpleasant social interactions I experience almost exclusively happen with other women of reproductive age or men whose sexual advances I reject. There are few exceptions to this rule. Even when I become "friends" with other women, it feels as though we are still competing against each other on many levels, and oftentimes they have their own self-interest in mind rather than my own. So as a fellow makeup-wearing female of reproductive age walking into your office, I would be unwilling to trust you as a professional because I feel that on some level we are competing and that by not addressing it, you are not being open or honest about it. And by not being open or honest about your own self-interest, you will not seek to do what is in my own best interest either. These are typical of my private thoughts during social interactions with others. I've actually never heard another female openly voice such thoughts and so I assume I must be socially abnormal or on the autistic spectrum. Among the female friends I have trusted enough to open up to on this and share these thoughts, they typically respond by gaslighting or dismissing me as crazy.
This reminds me of when i switch on a news channel and i see the presenter wearing copious amounts of eyeliner and looking overly dolled up. I find it annoying and unprofessional to the point i dont listen to her and cant focus on what shes saying. My son got diagnosed a month ago with aspergers.. so who knows whether there was something genetic in me but definately was in paternal side.
I totally understand what you are saying. I stopped wearing makeup years ago for various reasons, but yours makes alot sense. I know you say you wear makeup, have you considered stopping? Being dressed well is relative.
@@turquoisemama33 yes, I've realized that the only time I should be wearing makeup is if I want to impress a male I am interested in. But I feel insecure about my features, and so the temptation is always there to wear a bit of makeup. Just the other day some younger women were commenting about my under eye circles and how I look so tired, and I felt ashamed. And so sometimes I wear the makeup just to avoid petty comments or judgment from other females.
@@waggawaggaful as a Christian woman, and not one that touts makeup is sinful, I personally have cut out the financial obligation among other things, but my point is to say that other women are an issue with me in this respect also as our society puts so much emphasis on appearance that we can't get the real work of life done (and more specifically as a Christian woman's perspective - the work of The Kingdom done). It used to be that a good Godly woman didn't wear makeup and the whores did, just saying. Not sure where you are in a relationship with Jesus Christ and I'm not saying its wrong to wear makeup and there's just as much judgement in the Christian realm against other women. Its all just stupid and I'm too old and exasperated to even care anymore. If another woman doesn't want to be near me because I'm not wearing makeup, fine, I'll pray for you from a distance or not at all, go have someone one else pray for you. There are plenty of people needing prayer and whatever else as Christians we are suppose to be doing. Be free sweetie and don't let other women dictate your choices.
There is no "recovery". It is just something we learn to live with, identify how it manifests within ourselves, and work to adapt around to the best of our ability and let those who care about us know what we cannot adapt to in hopes that they can adapt back or at least be understanding and accepting of what we cannot adapt.
There is no recovery or cure in mental illness. The best you get is remission. For Autism, it's just something you live with for the rest of your life. The key is finding healthy ways to deal with day to day life.
@@ingridc0ld it’s not mental illness. It’s neurodivergence. We need to stop telling our children that they are innately sick and that illness is bad when they cannot even process sensory input the same as the “neurotypical” ideal. All this will do is further isolate them from social interaction and inhibit their basic function such as hygiene that to be honest most NTs treat as a privilege rather than a necessity.
Why is there so much education materials for parents with autistic children? Why can't you make stuff for adults who have autism too? There are a lot of people like me who weren't diagnosed until adulthood because the dianostic criteria was too restrictive in the past.
It’s mostly because like she stated in the video that adults learn to mask their behaviors to the point that they themselves aren’t aware of them. It took me three decades of living to fully realize the lack of self awareness in how severe my tactile hypersensitivity affected my functioning and the years of therapists chasing a bipolar or MDD diagnosis that never seemed to be treated despite literally a dozen SSRIs and anticonvulsants later and my worsening mental health until I had to have several other adults on the spectrum ask me why am I unable to find stable Employment with a bachelors education and several years of work experience even in the positions that only require a high school diploma beside me being unable to physically function due to the immense amount of stress alone.
Our society teaches us that we need to walk without a wheelchair using our own two feet or we’re lazy, entitled, and just not working hard enough despite literally being crippled from the inside just because those same hypocrites look at us and say, “well, they look fine to me.” It’s exhausting.
YES I SECOND THIS!!!!!
I couldn't make it through the first 3 mins. Just paused the video and started reading the comments.
A lot of people still think we "outgrow" it.
It has been suggested that I have NLVD, which is an autism spectrum disorder. I really love learning languages, it has been helping me in my career as well, which is in plant sciences. It's fun listening to foreign songs and singing along while doing some work.
My question is why people act like rrbi is a bad thing. An argument can be made to state that it leads to a lack of variety in life but that is non sequitur because it presupposes that variety is good, which is not only a matter of personal opinion but also a different discussion entirely.
Rrbi by itself is not inherently a bad thing, like autism itself. It's the repercussions that come from that autistic individual interacting with neurotypical people that make it 'bad' - this obviously varies in degree dependant on where an autistic individual lies on the spectrum and how volatile overwhelming experiences may be to them.
Some autistic individuals may be so volatile when presented with adversity and challenge that they could be a danger to themselves and others.
Repetitive interests aren't bad but unfortunately all autistic traits and behaviours are always measured by comparing and reviewing those behaviours against neurotypical behaviours and/or neurotypical interactions.
Good presentation. Thank you.
Why do neurotypicals care whether our interests are varied or not?
I love your hair!
Also the information is interesting 😄
Nope. My YA son & I are HFA....and we don't have rigid social routines.... You KNOW the saying " if you've met someone with autism, then you've met someONE with autism"... In other words each one is unique...we cannot paint them all with the same stereotypical brush.❗ Caution caution❗
Being on the ASD I just can't stand this droning on. Just give me a minimum word listed infodump
1.5 works for me, with CCs
These behaviors are natural and a normal for the Nero type. Restricting these responses is interrupting the sympathetic nervous systems. Which can lead to dangerous and damaging out comes. Resulting in a whole host of psycho somatic diseases.
My little boy is 24mo. I've been pushing for an autism assessment because literally everything covered in this video describes him. Health visitor today is basically saying she isn't concerned but he does need support with speech and language which is so common what with the social fallout in kids from lockdown. It's so frustrating when you know but the 'professionals ' just aren't listening
Keep advocating, Mom! Unfortunately, individuals with better speech and language skills, but still impairing ASD symptoms, get diagnosed later.
Vernacular is still Asperger's. I've heard that it's still the preferred term everywhere DMS-5 is not used (Europe, Australia, etc.)
This is one of the main things I got diagnosed with
Very interesting. My 16.5yrs was diagnosed at age 4 with HFA. It true that HFA do become different at older age.
How is he doing now at 16.5 years of age.
Can you share your experiences?
🤨Repetitious❓🥴How about "repetitive❗"
i CCed and muted so i could watch while my bf is here scrolling youtube hehe
oh he's playing galaga hahahaha he just told me
I'd like to know if the following thought process is abnormal and possibly autistic: I walk into your office seeking therapy, and I see you are well-coiffed and wearing makeup. Generally, people of both genders dress well to follow social norms and present themselves in a way that will be positively received by other people. However, makeup is almost exclusive to women and is generally worn as a sexual signal and to enhance beauty and stand out from other females so that you are more likely to be sexually selected by men.
Since you are signaling that you are competing sexually with other women by wearing makeup, I become instantly nervous in your presence because I feel that, at least on a subconscious level, we are competing. I too wear makeup and am of reproductive age. I become nervous because you are in a role of authority and even though it's literally your job to be my advocate in this setting and situation, oftentimes people behave in instinctive ways that run counter to their stated objectives. The unpleasant social interactions I experience almost exclusively happen with other women of reproductive age or men whose sexual advances I reject. There are few exceptions to this rule. Even when I become "friends" with other women, it feels as though we are still competing against each other on many levels, and oftentimes they have their own self-interest in mind rather than my own.
So as a fellow makeup-wearing female of reproductive age walking into your office, I would be unwilling to trust you as a professional because I feel that on some level we are competing and that by not addressing it, you are not being open or honest about it. And by not being open or honest about your own self-interest, you will not seek to do what is in my own best interest either.
These are typical of my private thoughts during social interactions with others. I've actually never heard another female openly voice such thoughts and so I assume I must be socially abnormal or on the autistic spectrum. Among the female friends I have trusted enough to open up to on this and share these thoughts, they typically respond by gaslighting or dismissing me as crazy.
This reminds me of when i switch on a news channel and i see the presenter wearing copious amounts of eyeliner and looking overly dolled up. I find it annoying and unprofessional to the point i dont listen to her and cant focus on what shes saying. My son got diagnosed a month ago with aspergers.. so who knows whether there was something genetic in me but definately was in paternal side.
I totally understand what you are saying. I stopped wearing makeup years ago for various reasons, but yours makes alot sense. I know you say you wear makeup, have you considered stopping? Being dressed well is relative.
@@turquoisemama33 yes, I've realized that the only time I should be wearing makeup is if I want to impress a male I am interested in. But I feel insecure about my features, and so the temptation is always there to wear a bit of makeup. Just the other day some younger women were commenting about my under eye circles and how I look so tired, and I felt ashamed. And so sometimes I wear the makeup just to avoid petty comments or judgment from other females.
@@waggawaggaful as a Christian woman, and not one that touts makeup is sinful, I personally have cut out the financial obligation among other things, but my point is to say that other women are an issue with me in this respect also as our society puts so much emphasis on appearance that we can't get the real work of life done (and more specifically as a Christian woman's perspective - the work of The Kingdom done). It used to be that a good Godly woman didn't wear makeup and the whores did, just saying. Not sure where you are in a relationship with Jesus Christ and I'm not saying its wrong to wear makeup and there's just as much judgement in the Christian realm against other women. Its all just stupid and I'm too old and exasperated to even care anymore. If another woman doesn't want to be near me because I'm not wearing makeup, fine, I'll pray for you from a distance or not at all, go have someone one else pray for you. There are plenty of people needing prayer and whatever else as Christians we are suppose to be doing. Be free sweetie and don't let other women dictate your choices.
Actually, women wear makeup for themselves, no-one else. It’s an outward expression of their self esteem.
Which one is recoverable high functiong or low functioning?
There is no "recovery". It is just something we learn to live with, identify how it manifests within ourselves, and work to adapt around to the best of our ability and let those who care about us know what we cannot adapt to in hopes that they can adapt back or at least be understanding and accepting of what we cannot adapt.
There is no recovery or cure in mental illness. The best you get is remission. For Autism, it's just something you live with for the rest of your life. The key is finding healthy ways to deal with day to day life.
@@ingridc0ld it’s not mental illness. It’s neurodivergence. We need to stop telling our children that they are innately sick and that illness is bad when they cannot even process sensory input the same as the “neurotypical” ideal. All this will do is further isolate them from social interaction and inhibit their basic function such as hygiene that to be honest most NTs treat as a privilege rather than a necessity.
@@ingridc0ld There is recovery and sometimes cure in mental illness. Autism, however, is not a mental illness.
D. All of the above 😂