I have studied Narcissists for several years; study is a bit of a stretch - I read books and watched many videos on the subject. This is because I wanted to understand what happened in a past relationship and the continued (worsened) abuse that both I and my new girlfriend received following that relationship. This was all done in my attempt to fix myself and climb out of the living hell I had been put in. I had noticed the child-like argumentative approach and extremely embarrassing exaggerations (child-like lies and made-up stories that you would expect from a 6-year-old) from my ex; I had never thought about it in the way it has been put in this video. This makes so much sense, thank you.
Too many times I'll be contemplating something about narcissists and then it will pop up a day or so later sometimes sooner , without me even talking about or looking that particular topic up , then I see it in my feed. Proves to me this is a spiritual situation as all is anyways.
They're stuck in the Trauma they experienced as children, and were abandoned to it. There was no one there for them, to validate their trauma, or them for that matter. So they disassociated from themselves and adopted a false self to survive. How can you mature when you don't have a safe and secure environment to grow up in? You can't and that's the truth.
I love how you analyze the narcissist’s sense of time. It’s as if time itself doesn’t exist and it’s so interesting to hear about the changeless nature of their world and character. A tear in the space-time continuum.
Thank you, Dr. B, and yes there is a fourth option which is NO CONTACT! This of course is the last resort when all else had been tried and failed and sadly to save one's sanity, livelihood and quality of life may be the only solution.
This makes so much sense to me I’m with I don’t know if he’s the narcissist but he’s a pathological, liar and then abuser and I’ve been a year clean off of fentanyl and I’ve changed my whole outlook have changed I have boundaries and he’s trying break those boundaries and I’m so stuck in them that he’s willing to give it at all cost. He’s willing to scare me and he’s willing to say hurtful things and I know I have to completely leave this relationship and it’s sad. There’s a child involved that’s the whole reason I’ve been involved in the band life, the whole family I know it’s gonna come after me too that’s the shitty thing was I don’t want to say that all narcissist, but they all gang up they all grandiose things they all live in the past and what I’ve done but they don’t look at themselves I hold 100% accountability for every action I’ve done I actually feel really bad for these people. I wish I could help them but I can’t. I’ve stayed here for 10 years in this life and it’s time to move along because I know God has my back and I know my my 12 steps have my back and my Sponsor has my back
A new term to my ears but absolutely accurate. It must be part of the idealization...to obtain a new brain chemical boost, devaluation...as things of commitment arise, devaluation to reset the clock...frozen in time. Excellent vlog.
Wow- very interesting insights! You’ve presented a hard, cold fact re their inability to change; it aligns, in a strange way, with the receiver’s inability to give up hope that the narcissist might change, until that hope is, year after year after year, destroyed. And then, closeness is impossible for the sake of self-preservation. The relationship, if there is one left at all, is like looking thru binoculars, while remembering the minefield. ☮️
Pass it on if you like info please. Most view my substance abuse stuff and get lots of views but appreciate spreading my greater content as it should be just as spot on as substance abuse.🙏👍
Hey Dr B! You are my fav doctor first off ! You work the opposite way that my doctor do. He say 8 mg is enough but the 2:nd doctor raised me to 12 mg...I feel like i'm always being judged by doctors...I wish u where my doctor. I do need like 16 but its not funny to go to him when he always judge and push you down, calls me "over medicated" I was on grams of H and 10-15 80 mg oxy a day. I hope you can make a video on this stuff. Like why doctors work with addicts if they dont like it and judge the addicts. Be well DR.B
This video has rather scared me. Not that anyone has ever seen me as a narcissist and I cannot even stand to look at myself. Rather the self repeating mistakes and a feeling of being locked in a teenage mindset from ever since making bad lifestyle choices makes me wonder if that despite being someone who people like and family included, I’ve always been terrible at accepting sound advice and particularly around my addiction. To think that I would make people question wether they want to know me anymore is a terrible thought. After a 30 year heroin and methadone addiction though a very recent traumatic change over to Buprenorphine is hopefully a sign that I can change. Your videos are sometimes brutal in their honesty Dr B but valued nonetheless
Well having made some bad choices from leaving school in 1992 and trying what I think was an unrealistic detox and rehab attempt in 2005 in trying to enter a detox clinic to wean down from a 100mls of methadone and alongside a heroin habit. After the two weeks I was released to a 3 week holiday with parents while in the midst of a full on methadone withdrawal and wether agreed upon after finding an old fashioned Dr in a Cornwall village who prescribed me Diazepam for the anxiety during the day and Mogadon for help with sleep at night alongside clonadine and something else that lowers blood pressure. So five weeks after entering the detox and holiday I was dropped off at the rehab who I had already told my urine would have benzos in and they presumed I must have been using still as I was still shaking and and a nervous wreck. After a month and half later in the rehab people don’t believe me that I tell them I didn’t have even five minutes of sleep? After starting to hallucinate and showing signs of madness they took an unprecedented step of taking me to a doctor who gave me zopiclone to take only in my bed away from the other recovering patients who wether in for alcoholism or drugs had all been through withdrawals and were fine. The reason I highlighted this story in 2005 is because after what I thought was a mild virus whilst in rehab and after being sent home after five months, the very same day I arrived home at just 29 years old I had chest pains, pins Nd needles in left arm and nausea and my mom in taking me to hospital and after the ECG it revealed I had something called pericarditis and cardiomyopathy. Being signed off from my plans of getting back into work for six months just left me vulnerable to going back to using again. I apologise for the long story but so many people have tried to tell me that the heart issues were merely coincidental but after researching the effects of the now lesser used rapid detox treatment under heavy sedation and a correlation to potential heart issues and deaths? I’m now convinced that my brutal detox and months of sleep deprivation was the cause of my pericarditis and cardiomyopathy so just something to think about and my reasoning for it taking so long since 2005 into finally trying to get clean from heroin and methadone again by Buprenorphine
This such a validation for my perception of my family members (yes, sadly, ALL of them!). Too bad those in the mental health fields aren’t given more in-depth education on this topic. Excellent video!!!! Thank you for keeping the dysfunctional criteria of these hurt empty shell people, easy to understand. Best wishes everyone!
No one is ever stuck. Even if you have to chew your own leg off, you can get away. I hate having yo deal with my mother. I have no expectations of her. I still ache when I hang up the phone. Like talking to a ghost.
I would advocate creating as much distance as possible between you and this potentially dangerous “creature”. It is very easy to be consumed by your needs and their needs intertwining. They can be god-like manipulators. You generally don’t realize how deep you’re entwined with a narcissist until it’s too late. You now have to create an escape plan which can be extremely difficult.
My experience with homelessness brought out the vindictiveness in so many narcissist. They wanted me to be their slave
I have studied Narcissists for several years; study is a bit of a stretch - I read books and watched many videos on the subject. This is because I wanted to understand what happened in a past relationship and the continued (worsened) abuse that both I and my new girlfriend received following that relationship. This was all done in my attempt to fix myself and climb out of the living hell I had been put in. I had noticed the child-like argumentative approach and extremely embarrassing exaggerations (child-like lies and made-up stories that you would expect from a 6-year-old) from my ex; I had never thought about it in the way it has been put in this video. This makes so much sense, thank you.
Just trying facilitate understanding and give clarity. 🙏
Similar here. Quality comment.
Too many times I'll be contemplating something about narcissists and then it will pop up a day or so later sometimes sooner , without me even talking about or looking that particular topic up , then I see it in my feed. Proves to me this is a spiritual situation as all is anyways.
That was terrifying. But necessary.
They're stuck in the Trauma they experienced as children, and were abandoned to it. There was no one there for them, to validate their trauma, or them for that matter. So they disassociated from themselves and adopted a false self to survive. How can you mature when you don't have a safe and secure environment to grow up in? You can't and that's the truth.
❤awesome analogy 😊
I love how you analyze the narcissist’s sense of time. It’s as if time itself doesn’t exist and it’s so interesting to hear about the changeless nature of their world and character. A tear in the space-time continuum.
yes I've noticed this their frozen in time
The girl in "Interview with a Vampire" was the opposite. Her body stopped maturing, but mentally and emotionally she was a grown woman.
Got it, but you get my point I hope
@@DrBAddictionRecovery Yes. She's my older sister! 😬 I think she hates me because I was BORN. True insanity.
Thank you, Dr. B, and yes there is a fourth option which is NO CONTACT! This of course is the last resort when all else had been tried and failed and sadly to save one's sanity, livelihood and quality of life may be the only solution.
Yes yes that is first actually. My options are for those that have no choice but maintain contact. Thanks for pointing that out
This makes so much sense to me I’m with I don’t know if he’s the narcissist but he’s a pathological, liar and then abuser and I’ve been a year clean off of fentanyl and I’ve changed my whole outlook have changed I have boundaries and he’s trying break those boundaries and I’m so stuck in them that he’s willing to give it at all cost. He’s willing to scare me and he’s willing to say hurtful things and I know I have to completely leave this relationship and it’s sad. There’s a child involved that’s the whole reason I’ve been involved in the band life, the whole family I know it’s gonna come after me too that’s the shitty thing was I don’t want to say that all narcissist, but they all gang up they all grandiose things they all live in the past and what I’ve done but they don’t look at themselves I hold 100% accountability for every action I’ve done I actually feel really bad for these people. I wish I could help them but I can’t. I’ve stayed here for 10 years in this life and it’s time to move along because I know God has my back and I know my my 12 steps have my back and my Sponsor has my back
Well said!! I needed this!!
A new term to my ears but absolutely accurate. It must be part of the idealization...to obtain a new brain chemical boost, devaluation...as things of commitment arise, devaluation to reset the clock...frozen in time. Excellent vlog.
Thank you. Please share if you thought it was helpful
This is Excellent! 🎓
Wow- very interesting insights! You’ve presented a hard, cold fact re their inability to change; it aligns, in a strange way, with the receiver’s inability to give up hope that the narcissist might change, until that hope is, year after year after year, destroyed. And then, closeness is impossible for the sake of self-preservation. The relationship, if there is one left at all, is like looking thru binoculars, while remembering the minefield. ☮️
Love it. And appreciate your insight
This Dr is 💯 absolutely true
Pass it on if you like info please. Most view my substance abuse stuff and get lots of views but appreciate spreading my greater content as it should be just as spot on as substance abuse.🙏👍
The name of the movie is , “ Interview with a vampire “
I need to walk away as soon as possible. I'm tapering a benzodiazepine and depend on it to take care of me until I can walk out the door.
Stay strong. Don’t assume you need anything but you. Still, taper safe and monitored
Thank you very much. This gives me hope.
Hey Dr B! You are my fav doctor first off ! You work the opposite way that my doctor do. He say 8 mg is enough but the 2:nd doctor raised me to 12 mg...I feel like i'm always being judged by doctors...I wish u where my doctor. I do need like 16 but its not funny to go to him when he always judge and push you down, calls me "over medicated" I was on grams of H and 10-15 80 mg oxy a day. I hope you can make a video on this stuff. Like why doctors work with addicts if they dont like it and judge the addicts. Be well DR.B
Thanks for feedback. My video before this one deals with this in some ways but I’ll try and address your specific question if I can in future video
This is all so true Dr B always on point 💯♥️
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This video has rather scared me. Not that anyone has ever seen me as a narcissist and I cannot even stand to look at myself. Rather the self repeating mistakes and a feeling of being locked in a teenage mindset from ever since making bad lifestyle choices makes me wonder if that despite being someone who people like and family included, I’ve always been terrible at accepting sound advice and particularly around my addiction. To think that I would make people question wether they want to know me anymore is a terrible thought. After a 30 year heroin and methadone addiction though a very recent traumatic change over to Buprenorphine is hopefully a sign that I can change. Your videos are sometimes brutal in their honesty Dr B but valued nonetheless
🙏stay strong💪
Well having made some bad choices from leaving school in 1992 and trying what I think was an unrealistic detox and rehab attempt in 2005 in trying to enter a detox clinic to wean down from a 100mls of methadone and alongside a heroin habit. After the two weeks I was released to a 3 week holiday with parents while in the midst of a full on methadone withdrawal and wether agreed upon after finding an old fashioned Dr in a Cornwall village who prescribed me Diazepam for the anxiety during the day and Mogadon for help with sleep at night alongside clonadine and something else that lowers blood pressure. So five weeks after entering the detox and holiday I was dropped off at the rehab who I had already told my urine would have benzos in and they presumed I must have been using still as I was still shaking and and a nervous wreck. After a month and half later in the rehab people don’t believe me that I tell them I didn’t have even five minutes of sleep? After starting to hallucinate and showing signs of madness they took an unprecedented step of taking me to a doctor who gave me zopiclone to take only in my bed away from the other recovering patients who wether in for alcoholism or drugs had all been through withdrawals and were fine. The reason I highlighted this story in 2005 is because after what I thought was a mild virus whilst in rehab and after being sent home after five months, the very same day I arrived home at just 29 years old I had chest pains, pins Nd needles in left arm and nausea and my mom in taking me to hospital and after the ECG it revealed I had something called pericarditis and cardiomyopathy. Being signed off from my plans of getting back into work for six months just left me vulnerable to going back to using again. I apologise for the long story but so many people have tried to tell me that the heart issues were merely coincidental but after researching the effects of the now lesser used rapid detox treatment under heavy sedation and a correlation to potential heart issues and deaths? I’m now convinced that my brutal detox and months of sleep deprivation was the cause of my pericarditis and cardiomyopathy so just something to think about and my reasoning for it taking so long since 2005 into finally trying to get clean from heroin and methadone again by Buprenorphine
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Thank You.
This such a validation for my perception of my family members (yes, sadly, ALL of them!).
Too bad those in the mental health fields aren’t given more in-depth education on this topic.
Excellent video!!!! Thank you for keeping the dysfunctional criteria of these hurt empty shell people, easy to understand. Best wishes everyone!
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No one is ever stuck. Even if you have to chew your own leg off, you can get away.
I hate having yo deal with my mother. I have no expectations of her. I still ache when I hang up the phone. Like talking to a ghost.
Oh the facts of it all Doc! 😂
Wow. Thank you for this Dr. B. 🙏💞
You are so welcome
@@DrBAddictionRecovery 🙏💐
Holy shit. I could never put it to words. Thank you.
Finally! that makes alot of sense
What with the goofy pic of the monster child? Lmao
They can be like vicious dogs with rabies.
Wow.., your understanding is..well..wow
Curious to know how many people you think have narcissism personality disorder in the US. Like what % of the population?
2-6 percent on the high end
I would advocate creating as much distance as possible between you and this potentially dangerous “creature”. It is very easy to be consumed by your needs and their needs intertwining. They can be god-like manipulators. You generally don’t realize how deep you’re entwined with a narcissist until it’s too late. You now have to create an escape plan which can be extremely difficult.
Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt, Interview with a Vampire
Great analogy. Thanks for the video.
Intreview with a Vampire
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damn narzis
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