Afraid To Sing: Dealing With An Unreliable Voice
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I'm terrified of singing loud because I'm scared people will hear me mess up
You're not alone.
Same
Watch the video "ignore everyone" by Elliott Hulse. He is not a singing coach, but the principle can be applied to singing. It is easier said that done, but give it a try. It is also useful to remember that, one day, everyone will be dead, along with their opinions haha.
No need to be afraid of that, I've fucked up live infront of hundreds. Just make it into a joke, no one cares if you mess up really.
Oh god everytime I'm alone and I sing I sing with so much confidence and I sound really good but then when people want me to sing for them I always hold back and I don't know why and it makes me look like I can't sing. I think I hold back because I don't want to look like a show off or something but it just makes me sound horrible I don't know what's wrong with me.
yup! me too. I'm afraid of looking like a show-off (and maybe that isn't even what people are thinking) so i sing sub-par, kind of on purpose...
humble people problems haha
My problem isn't that my voice has bad days when it counts, my problem is that my nerves get into my diaphram and this makes my voice shake (worst when belting).
I'm not sure how to deal with this, because it seems like more of a psychological problem than a "voice" problem, at its root. But it's annoying because it affects my live performances.
take propranolol. google it.
Get rock solid in breath control and relaxation into your breath. Your torso expands to support the diaphragm. The way I got past the "diaphragm shake" was to realize that my muscles all around my lower chest [abdomen actually] expand to support it! It's not just that lil' ol' diaphragm -- you have a "circle of support" in your abdominal/dorsal muscles! Knowing that really helped me. I hope it helps you. Expand ...:-). :
I find just getting on stage as much as possible and singing to as many people as possible always helps
Another gem statement "People who are ready have no confidence; people who have a lot of confidence aren't as ready as they think they are." SO true.....I really did not believe I sounded good at all singing...but I was randomly singing in an elevator at work and got caught...they told me I sounded great...I said, oh no....I can't sing at all...I just like to..in the shower and stuff. Well, this person really encouraged me....I started practicing in an empty stairwell...I was amazed at how powerful my voice was. I always thought I couldn't sing strongly or didn't have it in me to do more than falsetto. And boy did I surprise myself!! I am having fun learning more and more about vocals and singing. Despite some discouragement from someone who discredited people like you, who teach others about singing (that real singers don't have to be taught), I'm going to go ahead and still keep singing. I just do it for fun. It's not my goal to be big or to sing in public (although I have daydreamed of it). I just ENJOY it. it makes me happy. It relieves stress. It entertains me. So I'm going for it.
Don't just watch the video folks; READ the article (in the info box above)! There are some excellent tips on how to keep your voice strong, clear, and ready to impress at all times.
ERIC please respond. i've been writing to you on twitter and on your videos. I have the money for lessons but want to work with you specifically. how do i do that.
Thanks for everything.
Nothing more respectable than the fact you are doing this for free. Thanks a million.
This video made me think a.hec of a lot. I've been askes to sing, and in those moments, I've always thought I was ready. As I started, I couldnt make it through, I would sing for about 5 seconds, then quit right their. Truth is, when when someone asks me to sing. My heart starts racing and I can feel somethimg holding me back. And as I continue, my voice comes out shaky, and out of tune. Even when im videoin myself sing, its always never my best. Funny thing is, when no one is around, I would let the music come out. Ive been told, that I was just to shy sing, but I know it was much more than that. I always thought I was ready all those times, when I didnt have a clue what was going on. My voice improved, as if im singing alone, but when someone is near me, I cant do what I want to do. I started writing lyrics by the time I was 12. Its strange because when I sing my own lyrics, my voice becomes differant to, when im singing a song. And each song I sing, my voice dont sound the same to the last. In my opinion, I tell myself I can sing, but im not confident enough to let my voice be heard. I've got acouple videos up of me singing. And as I listened to them, its average. Ive never had singing leasons. I tell myself, "just sing" and my voice becomes stronger. I cant hit the high notes, as much as I want to. I'll keep watching your videos, I like them, and I can relate. Thanks!
Hey Eric, how can I get you as my vocal coach? I'm in Dallas,Tx it's not for anyone other than myself and my home recording I produce music just as a hobby but I use to be in a church choir so I always wanted to sing. can you help me?
i know that song and i need help on how to sing r&b thinks eric im going to try some of these tips
Maybe part of my unreliableness has to do with self confidence? I always get scared by my voice, especially when I go higher. Makes it hard for me to record my voice because I don't like to hear myself on a recording.
Chris Sparks guy yes I feel the same wayyyyyy 😭
Boy, that is sooo true! We are never in our best voice when singing before others...our best voice always seems to be when we're just singing around the house...totally relaxed, uninhibited. I guess the secret to singing at our best before the crowd would be to be able to do it just as we do it when we're folding the laundry! haha
omg.. how did you know..........
Lesson learned: *When you are asked to sing, SING.*
This has opened my eyes so much. Everytime im asked to sing i freak out and just say no. Now i know tht its dumb to be afraid to sing! This has showed me to actually go for it even if i may not sound as great as i do when I'm singing in my room or in the shower. Thanks so much. I never knew not singing could affect the way I could be viewed by others.
I feel I don't have the confidence and neither the training
omfg i was looking for this video! tbh, me becoming a singer is something i've envisioned myself becoming ever since i was 12, especially since it was music that got me through a suicidal phase in my life. my parents never encouraged me to become on, and hence never put me in any vocal training, but i feel the need to prove to them that i can become a renowned singer, something which i would enjoy. but, ive always had this terrible insecurity problem that reflects in my voice. i start breathing heavily when im in front of people, and so my voice doesn't come out the way it does when im humming to myself. there have been an endless number of instances when im humming to myself, and someone tells me i have a really nice voice. it motivates me, but then i listen to professional singers like christina aguilera, and then i automatically tense up and get all nervous and my subconscious mind starts telling me that you're not good enough, you're not a good singer, and then the rest of the day, i give into this and feel scared to sing to myself.
does anyone else have this issue? or is it just me lol
Me too
i have a karaoke competition sunday. Im the girl who hides behind the monitor, but I LOVE TO SING. I just get so damn nervous. Your videos have helped me tremendously...I may not win...but I feel confident that I'll at least do well...I can't thank you enough...
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sing it alot when the struggle becomes overwhelmingly real..
back in the days when i was young...
what's the name of the song you sing at the very beginning?
Eric you are a very inspirational artist, I am just a humble country guy from Alabama but you've helped me to build my confidence in not only my voice but my preparation to use that voice! I've been training myself up until now single handedly, and have taught myself how to play guitar and piano to a degree from scratch. I did this because I wanted a unique approach to performance(i didn't want to imitate another artists style because i hope to create my own genre of music), ill play something on an instrument that no one has heard before and ill recieve praise for my hard work but I have always lacked the courage to go out and perform in front of crowds of groups larger than 3 or 4 ppl. I can sing well but I will use some of your advice since I'm fairly new to the game of expanding and sustaining my range. My range is somewhere between a d-3 and d-5 with a thick vibrato and I have hearing problems that affect my sense of tone and pitch, so getting to where i am now was a nightmare to say the least. but Im here and I can really use the help, please reply soon, thank you and -Blessed be thy voice!-
Wow! 😂😂😂 you said "damn it! why cant i talk today" 😂😂
Sometimes my voice just goes away.. I know it sounds weird but one day my voice would be so pure and powerful and the next I can’t sing any notes without voice cracking up a storm.. I don’t understand why
Eric! This helps me sooo much! I stopped singing for over two years and with your videos and advise I am already starting to feel more confident and sound better!
Eric this is great. I have been searching the net for real vocal singing lessons and never got really satisfactory class till I found you. Thanks so much.
As soon as you said BACK IN THE DAY I was already starting to sing it before you started . Glad I wasn't the only one who couldn't resist singing that
I'm afraid to sing
thats the people that can really blow... try going to karaoke bars where no one knows u....
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Eric! Youre an amazing teacher, I Love you!
You've been a major inspiration to me in realizing what a the powerful portal of sound I can be, Thank you!!! XO
It is so true how easy it is, to choke up under the waves of fear of being judged, or hitting the wrong note, when there is nothing to be embarrassed about, ever.
I always loved to sing but now thanx to you I'm fearless! and it is my voice, the wave not the fear.
You have magic powers and are humble about it, so genuine! If I had a hat, I'd tip it to you! Hope you feel me on this.
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Your videos are so helpful! A professor of mine showed my vocal pedagogy class your video on opening up the voice, and now that I will be teaching lessons in the Maryland/DC area, I have been watching more of your videos for tips! Thank you!
Thank you so much for being real, open, sincere and a huge help!
Reliable voice also means reliable musical ears (hearing tones correctly) and voice them out exactly what tones are heard. You're amazing!
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Love your lessons. Have been singing for 20 years but your lessons will ensure my voice lasts for another 20. Thank you so much from Nashville, TN. 🙏🙏
This made my confidence rise up to the highest level. Thanks Eric!
Preparation meets opportunity ! Good work Eric. Love it
Thank you, thank you and thank you. Your videos are incredibly helpful and really helping me out. From the very bottom of my Peruvian heart, thank you Eric.
Such a great video! Thank you, Eric!
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Great motivational video!! Love it. Your warm ups are really helpful as well!
I LOVE getting good advice. Your information will be retained and it will help guide me to reaching certain goals
I've been playing guitar for 12 years now and it's exactly like that. When I'm at my best, it's a random thursday night. But at my absolute worst, I once sat in with a band on the fly, playing songs I had never played, on a guitar that wasn't mine, in an alternate tuning. I made mistakes of course, but no one could tell.
However I can't sing whatsoever. And I'm trying to use quarantine time to learn to sing. My voice is incredibly unreliable. Usually there are a couple hours, once a month, that my voice is tolerable.
This really is my goal though. I want to be able to sing on the fly, just like I can play guitar on the fly.
I have been following you for years and I want you to know that this is probably your best video ever and the reason being is that every singer needs to know this and I am guilty of this 100% to this day I will still react that way when someone asks me to sing. If you want it...you will definitely be prepared for each and every opportunity. That should be the number rule to being a professional singer. SERIOUSLY.
Thanks Eric!!! You have been a real inspiration to me. l love your humble ness and very professional approach... Can't say enough good stuff about you...but again, thank you!!!
Thank you so much for everything you do and everything you share. It really speaks to your professional skill and your kind character that you are willing to assist aspiring vocalists through these videos. I've purchased your breathing technique series on Udemy because I value what I get out of everything you do!
I love you so much! You're a great person. Confidence is everything, and I know that, but I ALWAYS make excuses when people ask me to sing. This video gave me so motivation. Soon I WILL ask people to hear me sing, ahah. Take care, and come to Charlotte NC soon if possible!
Great advice and you are so funny ! Such a likeable guy , glad I stumbled on your videos
You are a great vocal coach! I needed to hear this, because often times I become afraid to use my voice in front of people. God bless you!
I would like to thank you! I've been dealing with a very rough time trying to get my voice under control after puberty, and I'm not exactly up to par with my singing. Your videos are really helping me a lot!! I was able to get a part in my schools musical after watching your videos and practicing with the techniques you've taught!!
Always solid advice. Hit me up when you come thru NYC again.Happy New Year
This is amazing content. thank you so much for caring about aspiring vocalists! got a LOT of work to do. But I'm glad I have a place to start! :)
Eric you're great man thanks for being one of the best vocal teachers ever. You've helped a lot of people. This advice is awesome. I wish I could do the one-on-one lessons!
Thanks dude! You totally can work with me. Check out the info box :D
Im loving your videos. Im an actrees from Ecuador, I have been afraid to sing since forever and are just loosing that fear. thank you for your videos!
wow, an actress, congrats that's an achievement!
your videos really help a lot. in my country there aren't really a lot of music lessons/schools to go to, or they are really far away. so thank you for your helpfull videos! :)
Awesome video, Eric! Really helped me a lot.
I love your videos ! They have really helped me a lot .. Thank you so much ! 💙
I watched this video YEARS ago but wasn’t really ready to hear this until now 😍 literally no escaping the daily grind and it’s come to be my fav part of the day (even the tedious breathing at the beginning). Part of my rly wishes I could have been in this place 5 years ago LOL :( but here now :) thanks 2 your dedication and also bringing us the lovely Tina B😍😍😍😍😍 my coach
you are incredibly funny ;) in a good sense of this word of course! I'm fond of your vocal prep tips - they are smooth and make me even feel better each time I warm up. Thnx a lot
You r the best Vocal Coach on You Tube!!! I m learning so mich tru your Video Teachings ! Thank You so much ! I would not be where i am now ,vocaly, without u and your Video teachings ,God Bless u for sharing your wisdom and your Knowledge with us all .❤️🙏
I love this:-) Your videos are always very helpful!
Thank you Eric ,I love your channel.Great advice.
Love from the UK:)
I love your videos so much! Your funny and a great teacher...helped a lot thank God i founded you! Thank you so much! xoxo
hey I just stumbled upon your videos and i wanna thank you. im really trying this thing of singing every day since people keep telling me to. so ima try my best to keep this up and hopefully get to the point of where i know i can keep accomplishing more. thank you!
Fantastic video, I hope you have a wonderful Christmas :-)
I feel as if nothing can help me develop a stronger voice... Until I found Eric's vids! They are AMAZING!!! Thank you Eric :)
Great video! Confidence is definitely something I need to work at!. I'm sharing this video!!!
Yep! You know I know the song. (showing my age....LOL)
I am so blessed to know you personally. You are a hugely brilliant "mad voice scientist," and a wonderful human being. Thank you for all of your help, advice, coaching, videos, etc.
This is the best gawd damn advice I've ever heard. I will not hesitate ever again and keep practising.
Maaan...you described me when you we're talking about how singers act when they're asked to sing. It's something about actually seeing how I am...but, I will take your advice. Thank you for making this video!
Ahmad- Back in the Day, I didnt see anyone comment what the song was that you sung in the beginning
I was surprised to hear you sing it cause thats what popped up in my head as well!
Great video. I'm 51 and have always enjoyed singing, but am just now really trying to improve. Your breathing videos have been a big help. and I love the attitude adjustment in this video. I also have 4 children that I enjoy singing with. My youngest daughter and I just sang in a Christmas Cantata. I sang, "A Strange Way to Save the World" solo, and my daughter impressed the choir director who would like her to sing a solo next time! I may have exceeded your rambling, but I really appreciate you.
Your tips are helping me so much, thanks
very encouraging video Eric
Both ridiculously to the point and hilarious! Eric, you are the greatest, good sir;)
Damn i think I'm gonna save up and buy your online lessons! I've been watching most of your videos and you provide lots of information and really good advice! Thank you!
Thank you so much. I needed this!!!
SUCH GOOD WORD! biggest fear is not having a reliable voice when its time to sing on the spot..
Now, on my way to read the article. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for sharing your God given talent , i enjoy viewing, practicing and performing every vocal exercises phase of your video,,,, i love singing but am afraid and a shame to sing because my voice is not conducive for singing ,,,, i am a frustrated singer ,,,, i really admire and appreciate people with a gifted voice just like you ,,, i salute you Eric Arceneaux ,,, kudos !!!
Eric, you're a fly brotha - thanks for your rad perspective!
i love this guy! he makes it interesting and fun :) also he explain things really easy
Dude, I think I'm in love. You're the coolest!
Love your video have helped me ao much! Your a great guy
im actually in love with you. Great stuff!
*Bookmarked*
I have all of your videos like this bookmarked because I RARELY sing in front of anyone and these pick me up every time. One day I'll have that preparedness that you're talking about. I don't want to sing for a living, I just like singing in general, but I'm petrified to sing in front of anyone.
Just be confident, be prepared. thanks for the advice!
Thank you so much for these videos!!!!
Magnificent info, period.
You are hilarious. Love your advice and singing!
Love love your video's they help me sooo much.
Needed to hear this!!! Thank u!!!
man you are more than inspiring thanks a lot. And i wish one day i'll meet you
Great video and u have gifted singing voice God bless I'm interesting in singing and working to improve my vocals cause sometimes my voice sounds but rough this video is helpful thanks for the tips
Wow!!! You have the most amazing voice ever! :O
Thank you so very much, Eric.
excellent advice! this is definitely advice i needed to hear... "Your voice is never your best when you need it." i do find i sing my best in random times when there is no one around to hear me! dang it. :D
Man... just thanks and greetings from colombia :D
i love this video
If I'm ever in D.C., I'll swing over for a lesson! Very enlightening listen to you, man
You really nailed it with the "be prepared" comment. Good stuff, man.
i need it this so much! thank you Eric
Great video! I definitely learned a lot.
Wish u could be my vocal coach! U are so inspiring and good personality, positive and really really good to give advice and smart!
That's very kind of you to say, Angelica. My humble thanks to you. In the info box below the video, there's a link with information on how you can schedule a lesson with me. Thanks to Skype, I work with singers from around the world (all you need is an internet connection).
That's great!
you're talking aboooout denise graaaves my faaave.. her workshop helped me so much on my classical singing
I watch your videos frequently. very passionate about singing but not very good at it, so to speak. Praying for a break through as i really do try
So the point you're basically trying to make is be prepared at all times. If your serious about your craft be ready! Thanks for the advice
Thanx for the advice, I`ve been singing for years and I being confident helped me getting gigs over the years even though
I don`t have a great voice.
I'll b singing at a festival next month I'm nervous as hell but I found your vids and they have helped so thank you so much
thank you soo much for your advice man! it really helped me a lot
Thank you I fall into not prepared, I have to prepare I want it to be reliable like yours. Your so helpful Xoxo
My god, u r so damn incredible! I love your lessons and videos soo much!! Thank u for all ur advices and lectures!!!!!)) This video helped me to stop being afraid of singing when smb asks to.... Vote of thanks!)
THAT IS SO GREAT!!!! Kudos to you! Messages, like yours, make this whole thing worth it. Thanks for sharing!