I’m 26, my mom is a single mom of 4 boys, and I helped raise them with my abusive dad gone. She disowned me for being gay a few years back, but a couple months ago she told me she loves me no matter what. A big collective of my cousin almost dying which probably snapped her back into reality a bit and me taking a stand on who I am and not being afraid to be myself and love myself in the face of her/god/the world. We talked for hours to “lay everything on the table.” And she listened to me without judgement and I listened to her as well. She still has an issue with me being gay, but we are taking steps to repair our relationship. The biggest thing was realizing my parents are living life for the first time just like me. She came from a place where you’d be executed for being gay. It was hard to come to terms with accepting she may never love me, but that was what was needed for us to heal. Thanks for starting this conversation ❤
im 43, married with a kid. my mother drives me crazy, tells me what to wear, how to live, points out my 'mistakes', repeatedly insists doing THIS is better for me versus how i already do something. i dont know how to handle it. some days it upsets me and i want to crawl into a hole, some days i feel guilty for letting her get to me like this and convince myself that she's only doing it because she loves me and wants the best for me. ugh. then i feel guilty because she elderly and fragile... and has had a very difficult marriage to my dad, he is very controlling and she wasnt allowed much freedom, ugh.. i just DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL!!
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I’m 26, my mom is a single mom of 4 boys, and I helped raise them with my abusive dad gone. She disowned me for being gay a few years back, but a couple months ago she told me she loves me no matter what.
A big collective of my cousin almost dying which probably snapped her back into reality a bit and me taking a stand on who I am and not being afraid to be myself and love myself in the face of her/god/the world.
We talked for hours to “lay everything on the table.” And she listened to me without judgement and I listened to her as well.
She still has an issue with me being gay, but we are taking steps to repair our relationship.
The biggest thing was realizing my parents are living life for the first time just like me. She came from a place where you’d be executed for being gay. It was hard to come to terms with accepting she may never love me, but that was what was needed for us to heal.
Thanks for starting this conversation ❤
im 43, married with a kid. my mother drives me crazy, tells me what to wear, how to live, points out my 'mistakes', repeatedly insists doing THIS is better for me versus how i already do something. i dont know how to handle it. some days it upsets me and i want to crawl into a hole, some days i feel guilty for letting her get to me like this and convince myself that she's only doing it because she loves me and wants the best for me. ugh. then i feel guilty because she elderly and fragile... and has had a very difficult marriage to my dad, he is very controlling and she wasnt allowed much freedom, ugh.. i just DONT KNOW HOW TO DEAL!!