The "high value" concept is deeply rooted in classism. If you have a classy style, perfect nails/perfectly trimmed facial hair, can afford to be well-travelled and eat a good diet, there is no way in hell you come from a poor background. It was the same with the whole "quiet luxury" trend - the idea that if you aren't able to constantly consume high-end products and services, you have less "class" and therefore less worth
This right hereeee!! I love this comment and I never thought about it this way and you’re completely right! Everything associated with being high value all equates back to classism! There’s no way you can get your nails done every 2 weeks, or get a haircut regularly, afford gym memberships, eat organic and still have a lot of money left over if you don’t already have a lot of money. People need to understand that money does not equal value !
Hmm, maybe it's not a coincidence then that a lot of British youtubers contribute to this discourse and similar topics like "being ladylike" when by no means were they upper class initially (Antonia Higham is an excellent example of this, I recently scrolled back to her very first videos and it's astounding how different she was, she even changed her accent to sound posh)
❤Ladies.. I promise I am the example that you don’t believe in. I’ll never forget the moment that I found out about dental and vision appointments. I had 2 holes in my dollar store shoes. I refused to believe that life was for me . Poor or not, I was smarter than well off kids & trained myself to be 2-5 steps ahead and prepared for anything. Believe in yourself. My delusion eventually became my reality. I lost weight, fixed my skin, entered Dental school, GREW MY REAL HAIR (edges too lol) , & refined my etiquette skills and just stumbled into better circles. Just try it .
Organic costs more but I find eating healthy is otherwise cheaper. I asked someone how much they spend and it was double what I spent and I still had food left at the end of the week.
@@CGK0196 I think they mean how can you judge people you don't even know. People who label others or "high/low" are randos on the Internet judging someone's entire life and personality by 10 second tik toks.
It is tiring, because a large part of why women post, is for the validation of other women, and fomo. Instagram is for other people, the pictures are already on your phone.
agree. i also think ppl don’t understand the simple concept of letting others enjoy things, sometimes it’s just wholesome to share sweet random photos of ur life, the people u love, moments ur proud of, & cute selfies where u feel ur best on social media. nothing wrong w that… i only have real life ppl i know on my ig - family, friends, coworkers, classmates, mutuals i’ve met once at a concert or party (lol). not everyone posts for random strangers on the internet, first of all !!
absolutely!!♡ and i think that's what sucks is a lot of these channels that are about becoming high value have videos that say "enter your villian era" or stop being the nice girl. learning to stand up for ourselves, have boundaries, not fall into unhealthy people pleasing, and being assertive when we need to is all super important. but this isn't that anymore.
@@softlifesarahI believe you should treat everyone well. Which doesn't mean letting them disrespect you of course. If they have nothing to offer just walk away and that's it.
These "trends" (yeah because I think this high value content 100% is a trend like many other) are dehumanizing, creating a two-dimensional unattainable archetype.
As someone who is generation X, I pity todays youth, generation Z, probably. You are making yourself miserable and it's all made up! None of those things that make you miserable don't matter or even exist. All those stupid terms, like "high value" and "self care" and "soft life" crap... it's all marketing to sell you things, no more, no less. You are making yourself miserable for no reason. Having said that I agree with everything said in this video.
Girl your generation is the worst!!! Stop acting all holier thou😒 y’all are the generation of swiping incest, family SA under the rug. The generation of pickmeishas like taraji and Barbara the builders like Gabriel union
I always thought there was something off putting about this content because I would personally put it in the same category as like alpha male podcasts and such
@@Noahachi I know there not the same because of the misogyny but they have similarities. I ment it in the way that I would put them under the same umbrella of content and both toxic. But in this case I barely see anyone talk about how weird the high value women content, because it’s masked differently. Like empowerment ???
@@80dimebagzmovinlikealeciakeysthese contents are in response to men not wanting to change their behavior when it comes to relationships and women being powerless and just have to tolerate terrible behaviors from men just so you can have a relationship with them.
As a 25♀️ virgin that doesnt post myself on socials, never had romantic interaction with men, has an education and a generally good reputation amongst my peers I have certified & Divine..... *GOBLIN ENERGY* 🔪
Thank you so much for bringing this issue to light. I have been someone who used to watch a lot of "high value women" videos, and a lot of the concerns you brought up were exactly how I started to feel towards the end and ended up feeling very overwhelmed, and even depressed. The constant feeling of not being "good-enough" and always striving to be this "perfect" image of a high value, feminine woman became very unsustainable and inauthentic. Why are we always pushed this message that we must always improve? Why can't we just be good enough as we are now? Prioritize being the healthiest version of yourself versus fitting an aesthetic, "perfect" curated image. I am not a walking checklist of who I should be. I am a human being with flaws. Self-care and self-improvement is a lifelong journey and my journey alone. My motto is now striving for only health---in all aspects of my life---spiritually, mentally & physically.
I agree with you fully . I realize that focusing on my wellness and health and feeling good is the best thing for me . When I was watching these vids I didn’t feel good , I felt overwhelmed and had the feeling of lack .
As someone who was OBSESSED with these types of videos, I have to say that it did me more harm than good. For example, I was obsessed with being classy, dressing classy because I wanted a high value man to look at me soo bad!!The moment I stepped outside of this trend, I realized it was kind of like a cult. I used to listen to EVERYTHING these people were saying. Even when I did not agree with some points, I would discard my opinions bc to me, they MUST know what they're talking about, and I am the broken, low value teen because mind you I am only 16 and I've been obsessed with this high value BS and its predecessors since I was even younger. Anyway, I've stopped watching these videos and I've started to form my OWN opinions, dress like I want to...
In my honest opinon I think this "High Value" whatever the hell you want to call it is BS, especially since everyone has like their own "definition" for said term. I personally think that people should just stay away from that mumbo jumbo and live their lives.
Being high value depends on the person you are trying to attract If you are trying to attract men, then you need to be high value in their eyes So for example having good grades ain’t rly it, probably can’t hurt tho
PLS PLS PLS talk about the whole Manipulation and Dark Femininity trend that's been going around in ur next video.I feel like ppl need a sit down with that topic cuz it's a toxic trend that promotes heart break,lust and dark psychology(for ill intention than educational purposes) it's really cringe how ppl think they need to be mean to be loved which is not ideal for building relationships and self confidence 😅
There is an actual scientific study that proves that men love women you cause them stress based on scans the took of men’s brains. Men’s brains associate stress with love or desire. So blame men don’t blame the women who are responding to what men want.
@@soggycookie345 Pls reread the comment I didn't say I have anything to offer,I'm only making a suggestion that someone speaks about it and that person doesn't have to be me,is there anything wrong with that? Besides I'm recommending content for her😅 if she sees the comment that is and if not then that's fine too
the way that men address women as females is sad, its not the word female i have an issue with but the way they use it, you made a great point and i have noticed red pill men use that word to make their point in attacking women, thank you.
I’ve noticed women are so hateful they look for excuses to be sexist to men Like finding an issue with the word female If men talking makes you angry, you are the problem
Preach!! I had someone on my timeline recently post a video with Tate talking about what it means to be a high value women and this man that posted it captioned it with “pay attention ladies”. And it’s always the men who wouldn’t even fall under the fake “high value” umbrella themselves. It’s delusional. They can have their delusions. The only thing that frightens me is when the youth start actually taking this crazy advice.
Exactly!!!! Also being emotional= feminine Crying is not only emotion, anger is also emotion Also strength= masculinity 😭 But women are immunally stronger, physical strength is not ONLY strength
Also how most of these women call themselves to be independent and financially self-sufficient with these trips around the world, frequent shopping, salon days and yet they want a 'pRoViDeR' man 😂.
The idea, that "modern" young women only post for male gaze validation is more a reflection of the kind of content these dudes prefer to look at. They are existing in their own self-fulfilling bubble.
How to be a high value woman: - take care of your physical, mental and spiritual health - be kind and have integrity - only allow access to men (or women) who have similar values That’s it really. It’s easier said than done, but it’s an accessible change that’s self beneficial for anyone and everyone.
you posting this comment under a video like this that you clearly didn't watch only strengthening its original point about this community being a cult... the irony
Exactly, I see nothing wrong with this. There’s much worse things I can think of that’s not beneficial for anyone and that still gets encouraged in society.
@@AlinaProbably I do agree it’s a cult, but what makes it a cult is the obsession and tribalism around it, not the term “high value”. Everyone should aim to be high value, but the toxicity comes from how it’s defined in these cults and most of the bs they spout is just that, bs. I just simply stripped back the definition of “high value” from the tainted image painted by these cults.
@@zzzi222 My point is different though. And you don't have to agree with it. I personally can't for the life of me talk about myself in terms of being "high value" or "low value" regardless of what I do. I have value, full stop. I have it on my good days and on my bad days. I have it when I take care of myself and even when I don't: I don't become a garbage "low value" woman when I'm struggling with mental health issues and am not coping with them in the best way. I don't even become a low value woman when I'm around people who don't share my values: I'll just feel uncomfortable but it says nothing about me as a person. To me there is NOTHING empowering about the term high value. The journey of being a human is just that: a journey. Not a dichotomy of being a "low value" or a "high value" person in my own eyes. The patriarchy already does that to me as a woman and capitalism already does that to me as "human resource". Thanks but no thanks, I'm good
I personally think these low-high everything (value, visuals, class, old - new money, idk what else) are just trend ideas. Many people nowadays really obsessed with labeling. Once they see the patterns and characteristics, they're gonna put someone in the box. These classification could affect one's self-esteem, especially the ones that are still in the path of recognizing and exploring their self. Just the world "low" itself sounds degrading. Mine tho, the bearable and unbearable person to be around. I'm glad I wasn't exposed to these kind of contents when I was younger and vulnerable. I pray for those innocent and lost souls who look up to those "gurus" so they'll find better teachers at life.
It’s weird to base your value on this shitty advice because what’s value able Varys from person to person, some people value money and or wealth well others value kindness or certain qualities so it’s just weird for this community to say “OH YEAH THIS IS WHAT ALL THR BILLONS OF PEOPLE ON EARTH VALUE”
Hey girl! This is (the) Alina. So so so excited for this vid to finally be up and really hoping this starts a bigger conversation. Ngl really proud of myself for having chosen the right person to rant to about this ;) P.S. It's so cool you've incorporated the masculine/feminine energy stuff into this. I really find that the "high/low value" discourse has too much overlap with too many problematic and even outright harmful mindsets like the glorification of traditional femininity or the grind culture. These terms have to go. Let's normalize being ourselves, being average and striving first and foremost to be decent human beings, as decent as we can be, towards both ourselves and others. (Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.)
To me, this is the ultimate in being a pick me. These folks are literally going out of their way to change who they are to be PICKED. Yet the women who criticize these videos are called the pick me. Funny that.
You obviously haven’t listened to her content if you believe “you are changing who you are to be picked” is her goal. She doesn’t talk about male pleasing tactics. She talks about self pleasing tactics.
I read a comment before "she is a pick me on her terms" and that's the best you can get under patriarchy 🤦🏻♀️ I agree with you and let me add I think anyone who want to be in any relationship with will have to lose parts of his self and if don't then it will always come with the cost of the other partner ...
Thank you so much for making this video. These ''high-value'' coaches never sat well with me, but there are very few people who debunk their nonsense. It's scary and unsettling to see how many people support their ideals
This whole high value vs low value, relationship advice from randoms/any or everybody, red pill vs blue pill, alpha vs beta, traditional vs modern.. - allllll of it is so damn tiiiiiiiired at this point. I wish people would just 🤐 at this point lmao
The only question that really mattered of the 4 questions you asked at the beginning was the last one: are you happy? The rest is all social media BS that makes you believe how you should look and act! As a European I also see this "high value" as an Americans thing, together with the drive to always make more money and consume more no matter how it impacts the quality of your life.
Some folks waving around the 'High-Value' label might just be hiding their selfish, and honestly, somewhat sociopathic behaviors behind a slick facade. They're all about looking the part, with their wealth and looks on display and always in the spotlight (online), but you might catch that telltale dead-eyed look that shows something's off. They play this weird game where they're all over social media, showing off, while telling their partners to lay low and keep off social media because, to them, it's their partners who are the ones seeking validation, not themselves. It's a bit twisted when you think about it, using clever moves to cover up a real lack of warmth. And society, to a point, is kind of playing along, celebrating these shallow traits and overlooking what really matters, like genuine kindness and being a solid person. Though I will say, I don't believe these people outnumber actual genuine people; their online presence just reaches out more because of the attention-seeking.
"being a solid person" I love everything you wrote but damn what a line, I agree the hive mind is strong with the internet, very few people talk like that in person, have those beliefs yes, but all this "I need a high value man/woman" crap is pure social media talk, pure copy and paste words, that should already tell you that person doesn't have a mind of their own.
@@cosmiccrush22 Thank you, Soon as I hear it, i'm out. It's a huge red flag and I start planning my escape. These types talk on a script too. Like they've been trained on what to say as a reaction, wait for you to say something they can answer back to- like a gotcha moment. If you dont play their game, or respond with some substance, its silence.
I hate the term! I prefer just being an embodied woman. It's more self focused and centered on wanting to do my best daily. I don't care about perfection.. I care about respecting myself xo
I feel like content like ‘’being a high value woman or men’’ really contradicts one’s lack of self identity. It is so contradicting because they also make content on how to not depend on validation from others but doing things to receive the validation.
I love that you say that everyone has worth unless you really hurt someone because that is exactly my stance as well. Whenever I hear someone say, "Everyone has worth no matter what!" I cringe because that means you think serial killers, pedos, and all those other horrid people have worth? Nope, sorry, they do not--let's be realistic and aware of what you're saying because you could very well be saying that in a room with a victim/s, and how do THEY feel about that wording? Hint: not good at all.
this also applies to high class, middle class, and low class people. People like to say all these people are equal and have "worth" but clearly that isn't true because of different way these people are treated in society.
Girll you look so pretty again today❤❤ And i agree so much with the fact that everyone has value in this world Side note: could you maybe make a video on the differences on being hot vs cute
Yeah, I think it's silly when men believe that women posting online is always all about them...often we post because we like fashion and want to connect with like-minded women...but I feel like the female psychologist in the video is right on some level when she talks about how some women DO post all the time because no amount of validation will help them feel more secure in themselves and they want attention. Can you blame them though? Patriarchal structures and standards have a really negative impact on women's mental health. However, to say that someone has no value because they are struggling with mental health is really fucked up. I hope these girls learn to post for their own enjoyment and not for the male gaze and that those of us who post to connect with like-minded women (and people of other genders) keep having a good time online! Either way, everyone has value! Being insecure doesn't take away your value. It makes you human.
Actually, i’m a part of this community, and i just want to say, that i don’t take every videos or post too seriously, i don’t find myself struggling beczuse of these videos, i never make my nails, or whatever. This community for me, is just a way to feel better, to feel more confident, to know how to love myself in the right way. It’s just some interesting concepts and a way to live your life. Also, i want to add, that Liz rarely use the terms of "high value woman", it’s all about the way that you see urself, about how much you want to give yourself "value", in the sense of how you treat urself and how you will let other people treat you. This is just my opinion, btw.
Pretty much every woman I have seen talking about this on any podcast is CLEARY ´hypothetically' trying to covertly describe herself. It's so cringe and desperate.
Same with Tam, like ?? She is the sweetest girl in the word, she promotes self love and being kind, even in one of her dating videos she criticized people who give advice like be cold and don't show interest. She said detachment is good because you love other people even knowing they can leave anytime. Also she shows how to master emotional intelligence and even has videos to cheer you up when you're sad. Like all of these people in the comments know nothing about her and say things like people who make this type of content are selfish?? Why don't they use their brain to watch the videos before hating on them. Those videos had helped me so much, they have no idea.
@@nebulasofia she also has videos how to romanticise life realistically, she doens't post bs about classism , she has videos how to be financially independent in your 20s , she doens't post bs of traditional wives . Like she doens't deserves to be in the thumbnail
I think everyone is too obsessed with being healthy these days. It's giving orthorexia. As a recovering anorexic, I'm gonna eat what i want and i don't care what anyone thinks of my external appearance. If men find me unattractive, let them focus on the attractive women. No need to stress myself out to fit in to a culture i have never and will never fit into. 🤷🏾♀️
Idk you should be self-respectful and then you know why you are valuable it is never about money or status. Respect yourself never settle for a man, dating should be a fair trade only. That is what I mean. You can continue our population men can’t you go through period men don’t and last but not least we live in a patriarchic world as women! Know it! Don’t waste your energy on stupid dudes that don’t love/respect you. Nobody was born to struggle!
And the funniest thing about it all is that majority of these high value coaches be single AF & poor trying to keep up with a lifestyle they don't have .. with a bunch of credit card debt. these people are nothing but grifters
It's not about high and low y'all got it twisted There are high value people, the majority(peoplewho aren't concerned abt self improvement and just do what they have been taught to do or what they have always done ), and toxic people(the narcissists,etc)
Can you make a video taking about why everyone wants to be Hispanic? Bcuz this fetish hurts me mentally as a black girl. Being called “ghetto” while my Hispanic friend gets called “spicy” isn’t really sittin right with me
The idea of a woman who respects herself, takes care of herself, invests in herself, makes a priority of fulfilling her goals is positive and good. BUT, the cult wanna be leaders also push the idea that a woman, is high value only when men ran after her, when a woman is cherished like a precious princess by a man - this princess treatment gives me daddy issues vibes. My problem with it is that the push the idea that a woman is complete if her life is like a bs soap opera when men - rich and young and good looking men ran after her. The idea that a woman should be validated and taken care of by someone is is very concerning for me, because if you get into relationships, with that mindset you might get with toxic and manipulative men. When in reality, relationships and attraction do not work that way. If there is too much obsession involved the relationship is toxic and enmeshed, run baby if someone love bombs you.
Sadia Khan doesnt say anywhere that she's a psychologist. She describes herself as a 'therapist'. Which is an umbrella term that can be used from actual psychologists/psychiatrists to like, Reiki healers. Pls
High value influencers and trad wives content creators are getting rich by setting other people up for failure. They remind me of past snake-oil sellers.
@@NkirukasWrld Of course! I appreciate you putting so much work into your videos. I love being educated on these kinds of topics, and your words are extremely insightful!
Ashera, idk why she is in thumbnail!😭 She is not everyone’s cup of a tea! And you have to take time to process what she says… take the good, leave out the rest… she is blunt about life and she gives you the tools so you can work with as you wish… she is not a cult
I’m so glad more women are speaking up about the weird content going on . All this “ that girl “ “ high valued “ content is literally tiringggggg and it’s very much a scam
56k on TH-cam is a FARRR harder feat & you did that girl! Plus it’s a now loyal audience. Rather than scrolling by or spending a minute w/ you, we spend at least a half hour. I think you should feel at least equally as proud of what you’ve done on here, if not more. I love the topics & POV you bring. 💜
This is now called real quality content instead of just brain rot content that they keep showing us in the trending page or for you page. Like that is annoying and just so unoriginal bro. 😕🙄 This is why many content creators on this platform are quitting their jobs because of the weird algorithm. Mainly 3-7 year olds dominating and taking over the platform like THESE CHILDREN ARE BRAIN ROTTED & their brains are ROTTING BECAUSE OF TIKTOK. Ugh these people make me want to definitely remove the brain cells out of my ear canal.
11:03 , this is such double standards & a terrible take bc are women not allowed to post themselves? are we just supposed to disappear completely from social media since we apparently can’t post ourselves bc they think it’s only for a mans validation? it’s funny bc no one thinks this way when a man posts a selfie at all, i think it’s cute/wholesome actually bc it’s a photo where they feel their best, so i don’t see how it’s so attention seeking & wrong for a woman to do so.
It's actually not about looking like a specific person or looking perfect or acting perfect A high value woman or a man is mainly about having High standards and not letting anyone disrespecting you no matter who they are Immediately leaving a specific person whenever they cross your boundaries, having high morals and respectfull point of views for everyone is called a high value person And i guess this should be normal This behavior is way better than being casual and free-being and wacky honestly
I first heard the term “high value woman” from Matthew Hussey a few years ago. What he said about it was very refreshing because in his terms, high value is someone who is confident and knows what they want. And so they they will attract high value partners too. I know it sounds so dated but it helps me be a lot more confident in myself and what I want in my partner on my own terms that is realistic. The term has completely gone off the rails because of what all this dumb “alpha man” podcast are saying now. To me, as long as you put high value in your own realistic terms, it’s fine.
but like.. why do you have to refer to yourself as high or low value? can't you just be... you? it's a genuine question, i can't even imagine telling myself that i have low value or high value, i think of myself having value regardless. and it's a whole additional layer of douchebaggery when people talk about others this way
@@AlinaProbably apologies for the very late reply. I guess it’s more of a affirmation for myself? Even while I was dating, I have never referred to anyone that I thought was not a good match as low value. I just kept telling myself that I am high value to boost my confidence.
No one can tell you what your value is. Only you can. And you taking advice from random people on the internet… word for word… not thinking for yourself…. says you likely haven’t realized who you are yet. Content creators are just that … people giving opinions based on their own unique life experiences, observations, and perceptions. The key word there being unique…. which means their views may not be true for you but that does not mean they are not true for them. Their views may sound crazy to you but that does not mean it does not make sense to them. So tearing other creators down sounds pointless…. it’s up to the internet user to use discretion… only taking what resonates and leaving the rest.
I always thought this high value business was internet talk because I never hear about it offline 😂 it seems childish to me. We're on a mf floating rock. Humans are bored as a mf I tell u 🤧
The only reason someone posts something is validation. The question is: why do you need validation from foreign people in the internet when there is no added value in your posts (such as tips or hacks)? That is a question you can ask for the whole social media game. It’s all about feeling less or not good enough and that’s super sad.
Does your emotions or the choices you make in life and actions measure if you’re high value or not? Because not being happy all the time is not a determining factor of reality.
You define what high value is for you Being high value is how much value you bring to the table for yourself and others appart from your intrinsic value So high value - offers their intrinsic value and some Majority- more or less just their intrinsic value Toxic people - their intrinsic value and take away value eg peace of mind
Actually that girl was spot on about a 'high value woman' adding value to a man. I think that's exactly how men see it, which is apparent in the Andrew Tate quote. Even the woman he goes for is determined by what other men will think of him, everything in his life is dictated by it, from his appearance to his interests to who he sleeps with. It's kind of sad, these types of men will never even realize who they actually are and what they actually want out of life.
Empowerment doesn't mean that you become some unattainable version of yourself that you start believing nobody deserves you lol. Also wtf is wizardliz's content? How do people not cringe at it?
Omg yes! I love this video! I've been looking for something who also looks sideways at Sadia Psychology's rhetoric but your ethe first person. Thank you for your perspective 🙏🏾
these contents are in response to men not wanting to change their behavior when it comes to relationships and women being powerless and just have to tolerate terrible behaviors from men just so you can have a relationship with them. Being submissive to men doesn’t actually work so this gives women another option.
Maybe just don’t call it high value men/women. It is about knowing yourself, setting boundaries, knowing and working on your goals, recognizing how important your time is and not compromising yourself just to be liked. When to let people go if they cross your boundaries. Be comfortable being alone and enjoying your own company. Be healthy in the mind and in the body. It’s not easy. Also part of it is recognizing how some ideas of these influencers/motivational speakers go against your values. And Andrew Tate is someone you should never get advice from.
Thank you, I’m glad someone is shedding light on the tragedy that this ‘I’m better than you cause somehow I’m worth more’ movement I’ve been seeing in recent times. It’s just another form of classism to create further separation in society and needs to be stopped!
Sorry for pointing out something not really related to the theme of the video, but I literally burst out laughing when I saw the first meme that popped up at the beginning of the video. I'm Italian, and that man is the governor of Campania (a region of Italy), his presence took me off guard lol
I like how you pointed out that apperance doesnt have to do with it. Its about how you do things. This video outlines so many real issues and is outside the box.
TBH I just used watched few videos and used the tips to improve my presence a little bit, but that's all. When I've learned about it I was already in a long and stable relationship with the most caring man I know, so I didn't need more than just a little glow up for my own pleasure. Of course I was also watching "high value women content" for entertaining [some of the shoots in these girl videos were really appealing], but after some time they get boring. At the end of my comment I would like to add a fun fact - Carl Jung wrote about Anima and Animus, which is basically what they call feminine and masculine energy nowdays. Jung wrote we need to have and balance both ; ) [If you don't know, Carl Jung is a huge figure in analytical psychology.]
For anyone still wondering why the use of the word female specifically is offensive, when used in counterpart to the word man it just seems like an attempt to dehumanize women and refer to them as a set of biological characteristics rather than fully formed people with thoughts and emotions
And if a company only wants to hire me for my looks, I'm not interested. I just got hired for a great company and they took time to learn about my skills. I'm an "average at best" woman so glad to work with people who couldn't care.
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The "high value" concept is deeply rooted in classism. If you have a classy style, perfect nails/perfectly trimmed facial hair, can afford to be well-travelled and eat a good diet, there is no way in hell you come from a poor background. It was the same with the whole "quiet luxury" trend - the idea that if you aren't able to constantly consume high-end products and services, you have less "class" and therefore less worth
This right hereeee!! I love this comment and I never thought about it this way and you’re completely right! Everything associated with being high value all equates back to classism! There’s no way you can get your nails done every 2 weeks, or get a haircut regularly, afford gym memberships, eat organic and still have a lot of money left over if you don’t already have a lot of money. People need to understand that money does not equal value !
Hmm, maybe it's not a coincidence then that a lot of British youtubers contribute to this discourse and similar topics like "being ladylike" when by no means were they upper class initially (Antonia Higham is an excellent example of this, I recently scrolled back to her very first videos and it's astounding how different she was, she even changed her accent to sound posh)
Well duh…..you need money to attract money
❤Ladies.. I promise I am the example that you don’t believe in. I’ll never forget the moment that I found out about dental and vision appointments. I had 2 holes in my dollar store shoes. I refused to believe that life was for me . Poor or not, I was smarter than well off kids & trained myself to be 2-5 steps ahead and prepared for anything. Believe in yourself. My delusion eventually became my reality. I lost weight, fixed my skin, entered Dental school, GREW MY REAL HAIR (edges too lol) , & refined my etiquette skills and just stumbled into better circles. Just try it .
Organic costs more but I find eating healthy is otherwise cheaper. I asked someone how much they spend and it was double what I spent and I still had food left at the end of the week.
Anyone who refers to Humans as "high" or "low" value is an immediate red flag.
Exactly!
Because who the fuck do people think they are defining people’s value when they don’t know who they are really?
@@genk9118de i never understood this like what do you mean? I’m a object?
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@@CGK0196 I think they mean how can you judge people you don't even know. People who label others or "high/low" are randos on the Internet judging someone's entire life and personality by 10 second tik toks.
The idea that every woman exists for the male gaze and validation is tiring.
it wouldn't be tiring if you used it to your advantage
It is tiring, because a large part of why women post, is for the validation of other women, and fomo.
Instagram is for other people, the pictures are already on your phone.
agree. i also think ppl don’t understand the simple concept of letting others enjoy things, sometimes it’s just wholesome to share sweet random photos of ur life, the people u love, moments ur proud of, & cute selfies where u feel ur best on social media. nothing wrong w that… i only have real life ppl i know on my ig - family, friends, coworkers, classmates, mutuals i’ve met once at a concert or party (lol). not everyone posts for random strangers on the internet, first of all !!
@@soggycookie345 :/ thats a stupid mindset
But it’s a true concept. If you live in a patriarchy, subscribing to it in order to find ways to benefit you is best rather than hating on it.
Being a kind and compassionate person should matter more than being high value or high whatever.
absolutely!!♡ and i think that's what sucks is a lot of these channels that are about becoming high value have videos that say "enter your villian era" or stop being the nice girl. learning to stand up for ourselves, have boundaries, not fall into unhealthy people pleasing, and being assertive when we need to is all super important. but this isn't that anymore.
well it doesn't because thats not the real world. SHOULD and REALITY are DIFFERENT.
Women need to stop being Kind and compassionate to dusty guys w nothing to offer smh
@@soggycookie345and that means you have to be an asshole just because people are?
@@softlifesarahI believe you should treat everyone well. Which doesn't mean letting them disrespect you of course. If they have nothing to offer just walk away and that's it.
These "trends" (yeah because I think this high value content 100% is a trend like many other) are dehumanizing, creating a two-dimensional unattainable archetype.
It literally is the point and it is suppose to be dehumanizing and literally so uncanny valley…☹️🙁
Yes, all these are literally made-up concepts, creating made-up problems that didn't have to exist :(
As someone who is generation X, I pity todays youth, generation Z, probably. You are making yourself miserable and it's all made up! None of those things that make you miserable don't matter or even exist. All those stupid terms, like "high value" and "self care" and "soft life" crap... it's all marketing to sell you things, no more, no less. You are making yourself miserable for no reason. Having said that I agree with everything said in this video.
Girl your generation is the worst!!! Stop acting all holier thou😒 y’all are the generation of swiping incest, family SA under the rug. The generation of pickmeishas like taraji and Barbara the builders like Gabriel union
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@@unecamerresiliente why is Taraji a pickmeisha
I’m generation Z and it’s so true it’s all marketing
Your generation is the og pickmeisha/barbara the builder generation 😒you have no place to talk, hush 🤫 🤐 !!!!!please
I always thought there was something off putting about this content because I would personally put it in the same category as like alpha male podcasts and such
I thought that way too 😂😂
They're not these are actually helpful
@@divine_khemisame they always use those words “being a high value woman”
@@Noahachi I know there not the same because of the misogyny but they have similarities. I ment it in the way that I would put them under the same umbrella of content and both toxic. But in this case I barely see anyone talk about how weird the high value women content, because it’s masked differently. Like empowerment ???
@@80dimebagzmovinlikealeciakeysthese contents are in response to men not wanting to change their behavior when it comes to relationships and women being powerless and just have to tolerate terrible behaviors from men just so you can have a relationship with them.
As a 25♀️ virgin that doesnt post myself on socials, never had romantic interaction with men, has an education and a generally good reputation amongst my peers I have certified & Divine.....
*GOBLIN ENERGY* 🔪
Lol 😂
Underrated comment
Do you want a metal??? Like what 😂
I mean you’re just propping yourself up for being a virgin so how is that any better?
Yasssssss
Thank you so much for bringing this issue to light. I have been someone who used to watch a lot of "high value women" videos, and a lot of the concerns you brought up were exactly how I started to feel towards the end and ended up feeling very overwhelmed, and even depressed.
The constant feeling of not being "good-enough" and always striving to be this "perfect" image of a high value, feminine woman became very unsustainable and inauthentic. Why are we always pushed this message that we must always improve? Why can't we just be good enough as we are now? Prioritize being the healthiest version of yourself versus fitting an aesthetic, "perfect" curated image.
I am not a walking checklist of who I should be. I am a human being with flaws. Self-care and self-improvement is a lifelong journey and my journey alone. My motto is now striving for only health---in all aspects of my life---spiritually, mentally & physically.
I agree with you fully . I realize that focusing on my wellness and health and feeling good is the best thing for me . When I was watching these vids I didn’t feel good , I felt overwhelmed and had the feeling of lack .
No ones pushing you to be a certain person. That’s just you being dum.
I totally agree w you. I also had the same thoughts about these videos.
As someone who was OBSESSED with these types of videos, I have to say that it did me more harm than good. For example, I was obsessed with being classy, dressing classy because I wanted a high value man to look at me soo bad!!The moment I stepped outside of this trend, I realized it was kind of like a cult. I used to listen to EVERYTHING these people were saying. Even when I did not agree with some points, I would discard my opinions bc to me, they MUST know what they're talking about, and I am the broken, low value teen because mind you I am only 16 and I've been obsessed with this high value BS and its predecessors since I was even younger. Anyway, I've stopped watching these videos and I've started to form my OWN opinions, dress like I want to...
I experienced a very similar situation with this.
What do you bring to the table that makes you think a rich man will look ur way? I mean this is simple logic very sad indeed.
@@Joshua-eo5hrWhat are you talking about? The op said that she doesn't care about stuff like that anymore.
In my honest opinon I think this "High Value" whatever the hell you want to call it is BS, especially since everyone has like their own "definition" for said term. I personally think that people should just stay away from that mumbo jumbo and live their lives.
Being high value depends on the person you are trying to attract
If you are trying to attract men, then you need to be high value in their eyes
So for example having good grades ain’t rly it, probably can’t hurt tho
PLS PLS PLS talk about the whole Manipulation and Dark Femininity trend that's been going around in ur next video.I feel like ppl need a sit down with that topic cuz it's a toxic trend that promotes heart break,lust and dark psychology(for ill intention than educational purposes) it's really cringe how ppl think they need to be mean to be loved which is not ideal for building relationships and self confidence 😅
There is an actual scientific study that proves that men love women you cause them stress based on scans the took of men’s brains. Men’s brains associate stress with love or desire. So blame men don’t blame the women who are responding to what men want.
and why should we listen to you instead of them? what do you have to show?
@@soggycookie345 Pls reread the comment I didn't say I have anything to offer,I'm only making a suggestion that someone speaks about it and that person doesn't have to be me,is there anything wrong with that? Besides I'm recommending content for her😅 if she sees the comment that is and if not then that's fine too
Oooo yes an interesting video for sure. "DARK FEMINITY" "MAN EATER" and few more I forgot
Dark femininity itself is not bad tho it's just more like a sexy side of women I believe
the way that men address women as females is sad, its not the word female i have an issue with but the way they use it, you made a great point and i have noticed red pill men use that word to make their point in attacking women, thank you.
I ain't red pill woman but aren't we females? How about u be easily offended somewhere else 😭
I’ve noticed women are so hateful they look for excuses to be sexist to men
Like finding an issue with the word female
If men talking makes you angry, you are the problem
Preach!! I had someone on my timeline recently post a video with Tate talking about what it means to be a high value women and this man that posted it captioned it with “pay attention ladies”. And it’s always the men who wouldn’t even fall under the fake “high value” umbrella themselves. It’s delusional. They can have their delusions. The only thing that frightens me is when the youth start actually taking this crazy advice.
I thought being a high value women meant being nice getting good grades and having a lot of hobbies- bc thats what ive been doing 😭
Exactly! Me too
I believe being a high value woman should be about kindness and good work ethic however it’s clear this cult promote other wise
Getting a degree isn’t considered high value. But sex workers are considered high value. The world is shit.
@@Islamiciman yeah
@@SillyLittlePookie why are you disrespecting s*x workers? A majority of the time It’s you men who sell them!
Wizardliz mostly focuses on helping people better themselves.
Facts, I don’t think she deserved to be in the thumbnail 😢
Same with Tam Kaur
yeah this video was made for clout this youtuber has no idea what is talking about because shes only seen short clips on tiktok
not really. Liz has a toxic entitlement sugar baby attitude and she pretends to flaunt as some independent woman
@@careforjusticealways That’s your opinion but it doesn’t change the fact she helps people better their lives.
Funny how "high value women have their shit together and are productive" while actually "being action-oriented is masculine"... like wtf
Exactly!!!!
Also being emotional= feminine
Crying is not only emotion, anger is also emotion
Also strength= masculinity 😭
But women are immunally stronger, physical strength is not ONLY strength
lol TRUE😭,they compartmentalize traits as 'fem or masc' 💀-
Ya action Oriented is not masculine it's true
And hyper independent is masculine according to them what type of bullshit it is..
Also how most of these women call themselves to be independent and financially self-sufficient with these trips around the world, frequent shopping, salon days and yet they want a 'pRoViDeR' man 😂.
The idea, that "modern" young women only post for male gaze validation is more a reflection of the kind of content these dudes prefer to look at. They are existing in their own self-fulfilling bubble.
What else is w woman's purpose their bodies are designed for the male gaze.
How to be a high value woman:
- take care of your physical, mental and spiritual health
- be kind and have integrity
- only allow access to men (or women) who have similar values
That’s it really. It’s easier said than done, but it’s an accessible change that’s self beneficial for anyone and everyone.
you posting this comment under a video like this that you clearly didn't watch only strengthening its original point about this community being a cult... the irony
@@AlinaProbablytrue
Exactly, I see nothing wrong with this. There’s much worse things I can think of that’s not beneficial for anyone and that still gets encouraged in society.
@@AlinaProbably I do agree it’s a cult, but what makes it a cult is the obsession and tribalism around it, not the term “high value”. Everyone should aim to be high value, but the toxicity comes from how it’s defined in these cults and most of the bs they spout is just that, bs. I just simply stripped back the definition of “high value” from the tainted image painted by these cults.
@@zzzi222 My point is different though. And you don't have to agree with it. I personally can't for the life of me talk about myself in terms of being "high value" or "low value" regardless of what I do. I have value, full stop. I have it on my good days and on my bad days. I have it when I take care of myself and even when I don't: I don't become a garbage "low value" woman when I'm struggling with mental health issues and am not coping with them in the best way. I don't even become a low value woman when I'm around people who don't share my values: I'll just feel uncomfortable but it says nothing about me as a person.
To me there is NOTHING empowering about the term high value. The journey of being a human is just that: a journey. Not a dichotomy of being a "low value" or a "high value" person in my own eyes. The patriarchy already does that to me as a woman and capitalism already does that to me as "human resource". Thanks but no thanks, I'm good
I personally think these low-high everything (value, visuals, class, old - new money, idk what else) are just trend ideas. Many people nowadays really obsessed with labeling. Once they see the patterns and characteristics, they're gonna put someone in the box.
These classification could affect one's self-esteem, especially the ones that are still in the path of recognizing and exploring their self.
Just the world "low" itself sounds degrading.
Mine tho, the bearable and unbearable person to be around.
I'm glad I wasn't exposed to these kind of contents when I was younger and vulnerable.
I pray for those innocent and lost souls who look up to those "gurus" so they'll find better teachers at life.
It’s weird to base your value on this shitty advice because what’s value able Varys from person to person, some people value money and or wealth well others value kindness or certain qualities so it’s just weird for this community to say “OH YEAH THIS IS WHAT ALL THR BILLONS OF PEOPLE ON EARTH VALUE”
because society reacts a certain way to certain things be real
Hey girl! This is (the) Alina. So so so excited for this vid to finally be up and really hoping this starts a bigger conversation. Ngl really proud of myself for having chosen the right person to rant to about this ;)
P.S. It's so cool you've incorporated the masculine/feminine energy stuff into this. I really find that the "high/low value" discourse has too much overlap with too many problematic and even outright harmful mindsets like the glorification of traditional femininity or the grind culture. These terms have to go. Let's normalize being ourselves, being average and striving first and foremost to be decent human beings, as decent as we can be, towards both ourselves and others. (Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.)
u r very cool alina!!
@@kiwi288 omg that's so nice of you to say! thank you, you made me blush
@@AlinaProbably im glad lol :)))
To me, this is the ultimate in being a pick me. These folks are literally going out of their way to change who they are to be PICKED.
Yet the women who criticize these videos are called the pick me. Funny that.
You obviously haven’t listened to her content if you believe “you are changing who you are to be picked” is her goal. She doesn’t talk about male pleasing tactics. She talks about self pleasing tactics.
People do it for jobs what’s wrong with doing it for a lifestyle change? Hypocrite.
Tam Kaur never said stuff to change for being liked by others. NEVER.
I read a comment before "she is a pick me on her terms" and that's the best you can get under patriarchy 🤦🏻♀️ I agree with you and let me add I think anyone who want to be in any relationship with will have to lose parts of his self and if don't then it will always come with the cost of the other partner ...
Hence why most women are the pick me’s they hold so much disdain for.
Thank you so much for making this video. These ''high-value'' coaches never sat well with me, but there are very few people who debunk their nonsense. It's scary and unsettling to see how many people support their ideals
Needing some validation is natural, but if its obsessive and highly suggestive all the time then it can seem abit desperate.
This whole high value vs low value, relationship advice from randoms/any or everybody, red pill vs blue pill, alpha vs beta, traditional vs modern.. - allllll of it is so damn tiiiiiiiired at this point. I wish people would just 🤐 at this point lmao
Na for real because it's really getting out of hand.
Tam Kaur didn't deserve to be in the thumbnail.
Agreed.
The only question that really mattered of the 4 questions you asked at the beginning was the last one: are you happy? The rest is all social media BS that makes you believe how you should look and act!
As a European I also see this "high value" as an Americans thing, together with the drive to always make more money and consume more no matter how it impacts the quality of your life.
The irony of the guy posted online talking about the low value of women posting themselves online is insane.
Some folks waving around the 'High-Value' label might just be hiding their selfish, and honestly, somewhat sociopathic behaviors behind a slick facade. They're all about looking the part, with their wealth and looks on display and always in the spotlight (online), but you might catch that telltale dead-eyed look that shows something's off. They play this weird game where they're all over social media, showing off, while telling their partners to lay low and keep off social media because, to them, it's their partners who are the ones seeking validation, not themselves. It's a bit twisted when you think about it, using clever moves to cover up a real lack of warmth. And society, to a point, is kind of playing along, celebrating these shallow traits and overlooking what really matters, like genuine kindness and being a solid person. Though I will say, I don't believe these people outnumber actual genuine people; their online presence just reaches out more because of the attention-seeking.
"being a solid person" I love everything you wrote but damn what a line, I agree the hive mind is strong with the internet, very few people talk like that in person, have those beliefs yes, but all this "I need a high value man/woman" crap is pure social media talk, pure copy and paste words, that should already tell you that person doesn't have a mind of their own.
@@cosmiccrush22 Thank you, Soon as I hear it, i'm out. It's a huge red flag and I start planning my escape. These types talk on a script too. Like they've been trained on what to say as a reaction, wait for you to say something they can answer back to- like a gotcha moment. If you dont play their game, or respond with some substance, its silence.
I hate the term! I prefer just being an embodied woman. It's more self focused and centered on wanting to do my best daily. I don't care about perfection.. I care about respecting myself xo
I feel like content like ‘’being a high value woman or men’’ really contradicts one’s lack of self identity. It is so contradicting because they also make content on how to not depend on validation from others but doing things to receive the validation.
who are these ppl to tell me my value?
I love that you say that everyone has worth unless you really hurt someone because that is exactly my stance as well. Whenever I hear someone say, "Everyone has worth no matter what!" I cringe because that means you think serial killers, pedos, and all those other horrid people have worth? Nope, sorry, they do not--let's be realistic and aware of what you're saying because you could very well be saying that in a room with a victim/s, and how do THEY feel about that wording? Hint: not good at all.
this also applies to high class, middle class, and low class people. People like to say all these people are equal and have "worth" but clearly that isn't true because of different way these people are treated in society.
Girll you look so pretty again today❤❤ And i agree so much with the fact that everyone has value in this world
Side note: could you maybe make a video on the differences on being hot vs cute
thank youuu!!! you're so kind! I love that video idea, thanks for the suggestion!
Yeah, I think it's silly when men believe that women posting online is always all about them...often we post because we like fashion and want to connect with like-minded women...but I feel like the female psychologist in the video is right on some level when she talks about how some women DO post all the time because no amount of validation will help them feel more secure in themselves and they want attention. Can you blame them though? Patriarchal structures and standards have a really negative impact on women's mental health. However, to say that someone has no value because they are struggling with mental health is really fucked up. I hope these girls learn to post for their own enjoyment and not for the male gaze and that those of us who post to connect with like-minded women (and people of other genders) keep having a good time online! Either way, everyone has value! Being insecure doesn't take away your value. It makes you human.
Actually, i’m a part of this community, and i just want to say, that i don’t take every videos or post too seriously, i don’t find myself struggling beczuse of these videos, i never make my nails, or whatever. This community for me, is just a way to feel better, to feel more confident, to know how to love myself in the right way. It’s just some interesting concepts and a way to live your life.
Also, i want to add, that Liz rarely use the terms of "high value woman", it’s all about the way that you see urself, about how much you want to give yourself "value", in the sense of how you treat urself and how you will let other people treat you.
This is just my opinion, btw.
Pretty much every woman I have seen talking about this on any podcast is CLEARY ´hypothetically' trying to covertly describe herself. It's so cringe and desperate.
THANK YOU for pointing out how annoying and stupid it is calling women "females'!!! I hate it with a passion hard to match!
Females 😑
I was scared when I saw thewizardliz in the thumbnail😭😭💀
same with Tam 😭
Right like that was wild at first seeing Tam and Liz in the same pic with Tate on the thumbnail 😭
@@mei1568 THAT was the SCARIEST part😭😭😭💀
Same with Tam, like ?? She is the sweetest girl in the word, she promotes self love and being kind, even in one of her dating videos she criticized people who give advice like be cold and don't show interest. She said detachment is good because you love other people even knowing they can leave anytime. Also she shows how to master emotional intelligence and even has videos to cheer you up when you're sad. Like all of these people in the comments know nothing about her and say things like people who make this type of content are selfish?? Why don't they use their brain to watch the videos before hating on them. Those videos had helped me so much, they have no idea.
@@nebulasofia she also has videos how to romanticise life realistically, she doens't post bs about classism , she has videos how to be financially independent in your 20s , she doens't post bs of traditional wives . Like she doens't deserves to be in the thumbnail
True high value comes from having good character and you treating everyone with respect.
Cope
All humans are high value regardless of money or good looks.
I think everyone is too obsessed with being healthy these days. It's giving orthorexia. As a recovering anorexic, I'm gonna eat what i want and i don't care what anyone thinks of my external appearance. If men find me unattractive, let them focus on the attractive women. No need to stress myself out to fit in to a culture i have never and will never fit into. 🤷🏾♀️
Most of these women talking are just talking about being healthy in general. But if u wanna eat whatever u want and be unhealthy it’s your choice.
@@heqrts4naomi nah it is giving orthorexia like i said.
@@EbonyHoopGyal How.. being healthy is literally a positive thing to be
Idk you should be self-respectful and then you know why you are valuable it is never about money or status. Respect yourself never settle for a man, dating should be a fair trade only. That is what I mean. You can continue our population men can’t you go through period men don’t and last but not least we live in a patriarchic world as women! Know it! Don’t waste your energy on stupid dudes that don’t love/respect you. Nobody was born to struggle!
Couldn't agree more
And the funniest thing about it all is that majority of these high value coaches be single AF & poor trying to keep up with a lifestyle they don't have .. with a bunch of credit card debt. these people are nothing but grifters
No matter how high value you try to make yourself. There will always be a man that will say you're not high value
That man isn't the man you should believe. You have no time for him because you focus on your good options. ❤
What's the point of this comment?
@@ernestkhalimov748 This comment made my brain hurt logically speaking most people are not high value.
andrew taint has mommy issue which explains his issues with women in general
He probably has daddy issues as well. Just a whole closet of issues.
It's not about high and low y'all got it twisted
There are high value people, the majority(peoplewho aren't concerned abt self improvement and just do what they have been taught to do or what they have always done ), and toxic people(the narcissists,etc)
Can you make a video taking about why everyone wants to be Hispanic? Bcuz this fetish hurts me mentally as a black girl. Being called “ghetto” while my Hispanic friend gets called “spicy” isn’t really sittin right with me
i'd love to hear about this too, being a hispanic girl, especially bc the stereotypes likely to be mentioned i don't fit.
The idea of a woman who respects herself, takes care of herself, invests in herself, makes a priority of fulfilling her goals is positive and good. BUT, the cult wanna be leaders also push the idea that a woman, is high value only when men ran after her, when a woman is cherished like a precious princess by a man - this princess treatment gives me daddy issues vibes.
My problem with it is that the push the idea that a woman is complete if her life is like a bs soap opera when men - rich and young and good looking men ran after her. The idea that a woman should be validated and taken care of by someone is is very concerning for me, because if you get into relationships, with that mindset you might get with toxic and manipulative men.
When in reality, relationships and attraction do not work that way. If there is too much obsession involved the relationship is toxic and enmeshed, run baby if someone love bombs you.
yesss....100 percent rightt
Sadia Khan doesnt say anywhere that she's a psychologist. She describes herself as a 'therapist'. Which is an umbrella term that can be used from actual psychologists/psychiatrists to like, Reiki healers. Pls
Never this early.
yayyyyy!!
Im married and I will never stop posting photos of myself 😅 and I really don’t care what anyone thinks about that
Congrats?
High value influencers and trad wives content creators are getting rich by setting other people up for failure. They remind me of past snake-oil sellers.
You make amazing content! I love your videos.
Thank youuuu soooo much! I appreciate ittt a lottt🙏🏾🙏🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
@@NkirukasWrld Of course! I appreciate you putting so much work into your videos. I love being educated on these kinds of topics, and your words are extremely insightful!
Ashera, idk why she is in thumbnail!😭 She is not everyone’s cup of a tea! And you have to take time to process what she says… take the good, leave out the rest… she is blunt about life and she gives you the tools so you can work with as you wish… she is not a cult
I’m so glad more women are speaking up about the weird content going on . All this “ that girl “ “ high valued “ content is literally tiringggggg and it’s very much a scam
56k on TH-cam is a FARRR harder feat & you did that girl! Plus it’s a now loyal audience. Rather than scrolling by or spending a minute w/ you, we spend at least a half hour. I think you should feel at least equally as proud of what you’ve done on here, if not more. I love the topics & POV you bring. 💜
This is now called real quality content instead of just brain rot content that they keep showing us in the trending page or for you page. Like that is annoying and just so unoriginal bro. 😕🙄
This is why many content creators on this platform are quitting their jobs because of the weird algorithm. Mainly 3-7 year olds dominating and taking over the platform like THESE CHILDREN ARE BRAIN ROTTED & their brains are ROTTING BECAUSE OF TIKTOK.
Ugh these people make me want to definitely remove the brain cells out of my ear canal.
I feel like it's a scam directed mostly at black women, it's always selling some training programme
11:03 , this is such double standards & a terrible take bc are women not allowed to post themselves? are we just supposed to disappear completely from social media since we apparently can’t post ourselves bc they think it’s only for a mans validation? it’s funny bc no one thinks this way when a man posts a selfie at all, i think it’s cute/wholesome actually bc it’s a photo where they feel their best, so i don’t see how it’s so attention seeking & wrong for a woman to do so.
I’ve never done my nails 💀 like do people see me low women?! Like I am 16 💀
It's actually not about looking like a specific person or looking perfect or acting perfect
A high value woman or a man is mainly about having High standards and not letting anyone disrespecting you no matter who they are
Immediately leaving a specific person whenever they cross your boundaries, having high morals and respectfull point of views for everyone is called a high value person
And i guess this should be normal
This behavior is way better than being casual and free-being and wacky honestly
I first heard the term “high value woman” from Matthew Hussey a few years ago. What he said about it was very refreshing because in his terms, high value is someone who is confident and knows what they want. And so they they will attract high value partners too. I know it sounds so dated but it helps me be a lot more confident in myself and what I want in my partner on my own terms that is realistic.
The term has completely gone off the rails because of what all this dumb “alpha man” podcast are saying now. To me, as long as you put high value in your own realistic terms, it’s fine.
but like.. why do you have to refer to yourself as high or low value? can't you just be... you? it's a genuine question, i can't even imagine telling myself that i have low value or high value, i think of myself having value regardless. and it's a whole additional layer of douchebaggery when people talk about others this way
@@AlinaProbably apologies for the very late reply. I guess it’s more of a affirmation for myself? Even while I was dating, I have never referred to anyone that I thought was not a good match as low value. I just kept telling myself that I am high value to boost my confidence.
No one can tell you what your value is. Only you can.
And you taking advice from random people on the internet… word for word… not thinking for yourself…. says you likely haven’t realized who you are yet.
Content creators are just that … people giving opinions based on their own unique life experiences, observations, and perceptions.
The key word there being unique…. which means their views may not be true for you but that does not mean they are not true for them. Their views may sound crazy to you but that does not mean it does not make sense to them.
So tearing other creators down sounds pointless…. it’s up to the internet user to use discretion… only taking what resonates and leaving the rest.
I always thought this high value business was internet talk because I never hear about it offline 😂 it seems childish to me. We're on a mf floating rock. Humans are bored as a mf I tell u 🤧
Finally a video about this topic
The only reason someone posts something is validation. The question is: why do you need validation from foreign people in the internet when there is no added value in your posts (such as tips or hacks)? That is a question you can ask for the whole social media game. It’s all about feeling less or not good enough and that’s super sad.
i saw tam kaur in the thumbnail of ur video (someone i regularly watch) and i knew it was bad
Does your emotions or the choices you make in life and actions measure if you’re high value or not? Because not being happy all the time is not a determining factor of reality.
You define what high value is for you
Being high value is how much value you bring to the table for yourself and others appart from your intrinsic value
So high value - offers their intrinsic value and some
Majority- more or less just their intrinsic value
Toxic people - their intrinsic value and take away value eg peace of mind
"Don't listen to anything Andrew Tate says" Aaaaaaaand 'like' xD
I’m glad you mentioned Sadia - people eat it up, but she’s screams “pick me”. People need to analyze what they hear before they give praise.
People are so obsessed over unserious things 🙄 like guys there are bigger issues going in the real world like genocides, abuse, world hunger,...
Actually that girl was spot on about a 'high value woman' adding value to a man. I think that's exactly how men see it, which is apparent in the Andrew Tate quote. Even the woman he goes for is determined by what other men will think of him, everything in his life is dictated by it, from his appearance to his interests to who he sleeps with. It's kind of sad, these types of men will never even realize who they actually are and what they actually want out of life.
Like if i post a pic of a bird or rat or even trash I'm seeking the Male validation 💀‼️‼️
I LOVE THIS! You're SO no nonsense and rational. It's refreshing.
Empowerment doesn't mean that you become some unattainable version of yourself that you start believing nobody deserves you lol. Also wtf is wizardliz's content? How do people not cringe at it?
Omg yes! I love this video! I've been looking for something who also looks sideways at Sadia Psychology's rhetoric but your ethe first person. Thank you for your perspective 🙏🏾
these contents are in response to men not wanting to change their behavior when it comes to relationships and women being powerless and just have to tolerate terrible behaviors from men just so you can have a relationship with them. Being submissive to men doesn’t actually work so this gives women another option.
Maybe just don’t call it high value men/women. It is about knowing yourself, setting boundaries, knowing and working on your goals, recognizing how important your time is and not compromising yourself just to be liked. When to let people go if they cross your boundaries. Be comfortable being alone and enjoying your own company. Be healthy in the mind and in the body. It’s not easy.
Also part of it is recognizing how some ideas of these influencers/motivational speakers go against your values. And Andrew Tate is someone you should never get advice from.
Thank you, I’m glad someone is shedding light on the tragedy that this ‘I’m better than you cause somehow I’m worth more’ movement I’ve been seeing in recent times. It’s just another form of classism to create further separation in society and needs to be stopped!
It’s not a cult it’s a trend to get views, and income
I prefer to be balanced in my energies. I have been told I'm "too" fem/masc at varies points in my life.
Sorry for pointing out something not really related to the theme of the video, but I literally burst out laughing when I saw the first meme that popped up at the beginning of the video. I'm Italian, and that man is the governor of Campania (a region of Italy), his presence took me off guard lol
you made some amazing points in this video! loved it
What is high value to one is low value to another
I naturally speak with authority and so I was seen as masculine.
I like how you pointed out that apperance doesnt have to do with it. Its about how you do things. This video outlines so many real issues and is outside the box.
being perfect has nothing to do with being high value lmao
TBH I just used watched few videos and used the tips to improve my presence a little bit, but that's all. When I've learned about it I was already in a long and stable relationship with the most caring man I know, so I didn't need more than just a little glow up for my own pleasure. Of course I was also watching "high value women content" for entertaining [some of the shoots in these girl videos were really appealing], but after some time they get boring. At the end of my comment I would like to add a fun fact - Carl Jung wrote about Anima and Animus, which is basically what they call feminine and masculine energy nowdays. Jung wrote we need to have and balance both ; )
[If you don't know, Carl Jung is a huge figure in analytical psychology.]
thank you for talking about this!
Ur insecure
@@Noahachi whatever i am, you're probably worse 😄
@@cjork4999 thats what an insecure person would say
@@Noahachi bffr u know nothing about this person, stop tryna tell people what they are. it's disgusting.
@@diahoney_ insecuree
I'm young woman, I'm not a high value woman or feminist.
....? Not a feminist?
Has anyone else noticed that the vast, vast majority of people who do these types of videos are all less than 40?
Exactly! Janet has had a whole six pack and wasn't seen as masculine.
For anyone still wondering why the use of the word female specifically is offensive, when used in counterpart to the word man it just seems like an attempt to dehumanize women and refer to them as a set of biological characteristics rather than fully formed people with thoughts and emotions
Why do they use the term value instead of quality, wouldn't you want a high-quality man/woman as opposed to a high-value man/woman?
And if a company only wants to hire me for my looks, I'm not interested. I just got hired for a great company and they took time to learn about my skills. I'm an "average at best" woman so glad to work with people who couldn't care.
I think the people saying about posting for validation is when women are posting half naked and how they dress 👗
Wow, 13:40 cant believe shes POSTING HERSELF ON THE INTERNET???? Her stock value must be tanking