I just want to say this is one of my favorite videos that you've ever done? I would really love to see you analyze more internet trends with your psychology degree and background. It could be really cool and I think your ability to see things for how they are and you're true to form real quirkiness I think it's an intense juxtaposition and it makes for an interesting video. Good job. Please do more🎉🎉🎉
I think one of the most interesting things about these viral tradwives that isn’t touched on here is their extreme financial privilege and how it allows them to embody these “traditional” gender roles. Ballerina Farm is married to the son of the founder of Jet Blue. Nara Smith is consistently wearing luxury designer brands. The financial stress that more and more families find themselves dealing with isn’t an issue, so of course they can romanticize their stay at home lives. Hell I’d stay at home too if I lived in a huge paid off house and could float around in Givenchy gowns, and almost all of my beliefs are in opposition to theirs.
yeah I took out a part explaining that their presentation of a modest lifestyle is juxtaposed from the reality that they're actually financially thriving. their presentation and performance of domestic labor is controversial as that is a world in which people actually work to financially support themselves. you can argue that there is a disconnect between their romanticized version of this lifestyle and real people's actual lived experiences and struggles in this line of work. another reason why media literacy and a genuine curiosity about the content we consume is so important.
@@itsgrace Definitely! And also content creation *is* a job, and by all definitions prepping, filming, editing, and posting these videos is working (you of course know that better than almost anyone). Presenting as women who don't work and instead stay at home to tend to their children and make organic faux oeros undercuts the reality that they're full time content creators who earn an income.
yes, financial privilege is a big part of the conversation. Also race- there's something to be said about how it's mainly pretty white women who go viral in romanticizing the trend when historically, much of the manual labor they refer to was once done by black people and slaves in service to a white family. I'm not a POC, so I can't overly speak to it but it's certainly a factor to the larger dichotomy.
I've been watching your videos probably since you started making them (daily grace era) and I think this has been the most realist insight in to your thought process and it was absolutely fascinating to watch. You are so gentle in your thought process and how you articulate each side without shame. I think the world needs more of your thoughts and the concept of don't hate just because someone is doing things differently than me; which I feel like as society we have become. If someone is religious, and wants to live out that role, good for you, that doesn't make you any better or worse than someone who chose something else and respect goes both ways.
I had a guy friend ask me how the “trad life” was going as a joke because I started crocheting as a hobby and immediately got the ick because I too am a wet fart. I’m all for cooking & gardening etc, & I’ve noticed people moving away from consumerism but trad life gives me cult vibes & reminds me of how ultra rich people take being poor and make it “trendy & aesthetic” when there are people genuinely struggling to get by.
Oh yeah, I'm here for social commentary Grace! I really appreciate your point about the sense of purpose, I think that's why these personalities are oddly compelling for me, a non-white, non-christian, childless queer woman. I don't envy their lives, subscribe to their beliefs, or even want what they have (or what they tell the internet they have), but I don't think I realized until this video that what I DO wish I had is their (apparent) clarity of purpose.
I LOVED this video! Stream of consciousness videos of yours were always among my favorite! Such smart, honest, and funny ways to conceptualize and better understand whats going on or like very human oddities lol Please more of this!
I think in 2015 or 16 I came across a lot of those bushcraft videos of guys digging holes and turning them into pools, or building huts. That led to finding this absolutely blissful channel for Li Ziqi, which was kinda bushcraft/tradwife, someplace in like Mongolia. Gorgeous stuff. That's how I got into it. And honestly, since that's what I discovered first, I always found it relaxing. No blinking lights or horns honking in the background, just the sounds of like.... some lady threshing wheat while her grandma sits nearby, or real peaceful like, Hayao Miyazaki stuff 😂 It helped me figure out that my purpose isn't just woman, wife, mom, worker, etc. I had quit my job already to be a SAHM because our living circumstances and extended family needs required it, plus i was happy to stay home with my girl. But in 2015 after discovering these channels, I started gardening and buying houseplants, I learned to use power tools and built my own chicken coop with my husband and, and I've been hatching and raising birds since 2020. But all of the activities and hobbies I've developed since require the same two things - slowing down, and patience. That's what I took away from tradwife and bushcraft stuff. It's what some people have the luxury to do, and a thing a lot of us wish we could do but often can't, which is slow down and quiet our minds.
@@dillishca I don't know! I suspect it's the chinese propaganda that tried to be in it, and she prefered to remain free, and stopped posting videos. There are now similar channels, that you can see, are supervised in order to make China look perfect... Li Ziqi still did something unique, and magnificent!
Does this give you a sense that you've done the thing that you just watched the tradwife do? I think that's what I get from cleaning videos. That little hit of dopamine even though I didn't do the thing.
it took almost 2 decades but we eventually got punk rock hair Grace, non breakdown bangs Grace, short hair Grace and trad wife Grace. my collection is complete
I've been following for years and years and this is one of my favorite types of videos from you now. The amount of insight while still being funny-please do more of these!
Grace's perspective on this is very different (and much more humanizing) from most of the other commentary I've heard on trad wives. I really appreciate what her career and life experience and education adds to the conversation. I feel like thats something a lot of the commentary channels i watch are lacking.
I really enjoyed this video, definitely thought provoking. I've never really thought about the fact that its media literacy is applied to social media but it absolutely is! On a similar note, it would be cool to see a video about those blatant AI images that get posted on Facebook and the people in the comments who seem to believe them wholeheartedly 😂 Also Nara Smith feels like the opposite side of the coin as Boxxy. They both feel like they HAVE to be trolling, but they've commited so much that there's just a chance they could be real.
I’m 42 and I’ve struggled with purpose my whole dumb life because just when I feel like I’ve got it figured out and have established some kind of trajectory life throws me a curve ball. So I have just kinda learned to make my main goal surviving the day and be flexible with literally everything else.
First. I love you for bringing attention to this. I dislike the deeply contrived and highly polished instagram/youtube/influencer content and culture. It's dangerous the same way beauty magazines are dangerous. The Trad Wife brand is a slick marketing campaign with a very obvious agenda. All I can ever thing about when I see these people are the scenes in Iron Jawed Angels where the fictional character of Emily Leighton is gradually enlightened. One of the better quotes is "You women are worse than the anti-suffragists. You perpetuate the lie everyday at breakfast.” These people are perpetuating the lie while making money off of it. Creating a false nostalgia for the good old days when women were property. Advocating for a deeply dangerous ideology while not so cleverly disguised as folksy chic mavens or retro-fashionistas.
Growing along with Grace in these 15+ years feels so rewarding watching this new-ish type of content. I loved the younger, comedy-centered Grace, but this older, wiser, eloquent and reflexive Grace (who’s still funny) is insanely interesting and fulfilling. She makes me want to mature in my train of thought.
I absolutely loved this video! The opening sketch was funny and a great way to intro the topic. I love how this wasn't just a hot take that ripped apart the concept of trad wives but examined it in way that was reflective of yourself and society. I liked that you questioned the authenticity of their very polished videos based on your experience behind the camera, and as a woman how you recognized even though this was not at all how you saw your life, you could see how easily it could be if you chose to. Your fascination leading you to purpose really stood out! As someone who's single and childless and not looking to have kids, I guess I always found my purpose in my creative endeavors (music, writing, editing), and also in the relationships I've built among friends and family. I care about having deep meaningful bonds with others so that's always where I found my purpose - in the positive impact i leave on those around me by being myself and expressing myself (fighting the insecurities always makes this harder as i'm also awkward, indecisive, etc, but i try more everyday!) I would love to see you examine more topics like this, it was so open-minded, refreshing, and thought-provoking!
As a more traditional/conservative leaning human myself, when I saw this video I (1) was super excited! Love your videos always, have been an avid fan since back in your NY apartment days. (2) Oh fuck. Please we in scary territory now. (3) well hell, it is Grace. I actually do trust that she won’t go batshit crazy about a viewpoint. And you explained and talked about your thoughts and views and beliefs in such an inviting, friendly way. The skit was hilarious. The discourse wonderfully done. Loved this take. Loved hearing your breakdown your thoughts on current internet happenings. I appreciate all of this. ❤️
I totally get the admiration of the simplicity and clarity of trad wives purpose. I feel that way when I hear "I Believe" from The Book of Mormon musical. (Which I know is satire, but it's also seeded in truth). I find such deep blind faith moving and beautiful and terrifying all at the same time.
Grace! I have to admit I have watched hours of videos on tradwives (mostly satirical, ironic, and often cynical) but in all that burrowing down the rabbit hole this video is the most interesting and thoughtful on the subject I’ve seen. It’s such an interesting take to, rather than just immediately reacting with an eye roll for their constant pushing of outdated gender norms, to use that as an opportunity to examine what femininity means to oneself individually. Like man it’s a refreshing way to view the unending slew of tradwife content being pushed out there. Thank you for the introspection! So glad to see you back to making videos.
Oh gosh my heart is so happy that you’re back and making videos again!! As someone who has been watching/listening to your content online for over 12 years (since I was in high school?!!!) you’ve kind of just been a constant in my life! And you still never fail to make me laugh.
The whole trad wife thing just gives me the ick. It’s giving amphetamines as a diet, shock therapy and lithium for hysteria, complete financial dependence. It feels like a giant step back for women. But I guess the pinnacle of feminism is the freedom to do and live as they please, assuming any of this is real to begin with.
This wasn’t commentary on the tradwives themselves, but something we don’t usually get as much if, which is that exploration of what interest in something says about the person doing the looking. And that is very interesting to me.
Love love love this style of video on you - the Grace style of a video essay with your humor and sketches kinda mixed it works so well, i could watch hourssss of this
This was great, wonderfully balanced and thought through. I also appreciate the comments here, very interesting and pleasantly less polarized than most comment sections online. Which reflects the nuanced way you approach this subject in the video. Can't wait for the next time you do something like this 🥰
When “Don’t Worry Darling” came out, Vulture ran a Sims experiment with the characters to see whether underpinning those characters with the actors’ public drama would change the arc of the story. Now I badly want to see Trad Wife Grace with her Wolverine knives, stalking the ghost of Rod Roddy in her red floral dress. Would she crack eggs in the emptiness with Florence Pugh? *We don’t know.* (Vulture’s Sims projects comprise one of my favorite series on the site! Highly recommended :). You can find it searching keywords; the standout is probably “Which lead character would actually win ‘Succession’?”)
The clarity of purpose when it comes to “god and family” always feels like a cop-out to me, like it’s easy to choose that, to choose outside of “family and god” is actually difficult and takes real introspection into who you are and what you want rather than just being a sheeple to what a conservative religious extremist society feeds you. Some of us have horribly abusive family’s, so choosing family as a purpose isn’t super obtainable, or do we choose to chase the family we didn’t have by trying to manufacture it ourselves which just puts pressure on our bodies (if we can’t have kids) and our chosen partners (who may not want kids or could have them or could turn out to abuse family built etc etc). It can just feel like the clarity they seemingly have is just them giving up on actually living for what their best self could be to just be in constant service to other people and to a mentality built on fairytales that for seemingly most veers into a demand for submission and control in the worst ways. But I agree, if they aren’t harming anyone (but perhaps themselves) then wte, but when it becomes something that is demanded of others, that does create harm.
Grace!! What an amazing and insightful video!! Apart from silliness you are a source of wisdom. You raise really good questions and left me and my gf really having a chat about these points you raised, which made us stronger. Love the comeback and your bangs!!
Cue James Van Der Beek in Varsity Blues: "I don't want your life!" Also a childless dog lady here. Woo! Seriously though, I had no clue that this Trad Wife trend was a thing, and I am THANKFUL for that! I bet your absolute gold of an impression of the trend is closer to the reality of their lives than they would ever admit. PLEASE start incorporating more of your recently acquired Masters education in ways like this. You have always been incredible at putting your spin on internet trends and such, and it would be fascinating to hear more of a psychological take on just about anything.
Silly yet serious videos are my fav and you do them so well, also I genuinely think you have something to add to the conversation that deepens and expands it so thank you! I love that you touched on the idea of purpose and the question whether it should be straightforward or more dynamic. I think it's the latter. I would love more "not hot takes" of yours (but also honestly anything you'd like to make is awesome, since I didn't know about neither trend- trad wives nor cottage cheese, yet thoroughly enjoyed the videos)❤️
I’m not sure it’s actually their clear purpose but they pretend it is both because it’s what expected of them from their religion and it gets the views
That got me, the whole “sense of purpose” thing. Lately, as a freshly 40 year old I’ve been grappling with my sense of purpose. I’ve been struggling to get my cake business off the ground for years, I thought I never wanted kids until I had found the right guy and now we are struggling to conceive after a miscarriage. So yeah I just find myself spiraling lately about what I’m “supposed” to be doing on this earth. Sometimes I think it might have been simpler to just have gone the traditional route, gotten married early etc. But I traveled, and lived in different places, got out of a five year relationship that was going no where and never settled in jobs I don’t like. I’ve always been a late bloomer so maybe I have yet to fully bloom.
Firstly, I love that you've done a video in the format. I think the opening skit to set the tone is a really nice way to intro to a more serious and thoughtful conversation. I think videos like this also acknowledge that you, and your audience, have matured in so many ways and are ready to engage in new ways. I did not expect this video when I clicked on it, but I was so grateful for it. Also, I definitely have seen cottage cheese having its golden hour on the internet, you were not my first cottage cheese click, just saying. I found this topic very interesting, and I had a lot of thoughts about it. None of which are about to be articulated concisely or entirely, but perhaps it will be something to add to the ongoing conversation. I come at this conversation from this perspective: I am a transgender man who lives my life "stealth". The general public, my employer, even my in-laws do not know that I am transgender. My wife is a cis woman. I work for a civil engineering consultant and my wife is an industrial electrician with her own business. We both work in fields where conservatism and "traditional" values and gender roles are not only the norm, but the expectation. People speak freely to me because they think that I am a straight white male working in a conservative dominated field, I must be one of them. And in many ways I am. I love to fish, I love to hunt, I love my truck, I love my little homestead and my rural lifestyle. I hear the term "traditional values" used constantly in juxtaposition to people like me as though we are at two ends of a spectrum. So, I think well... which values? Which values belong to " traditional" people that don't belong to me? Honesty? Responsibility? Love for family? Investment in community? The list goes on but the point is that these things are basic social tenants that we all have to agree on to survive as a species and which come naturally to us... Those things aren't some secular value system that the rest of us simply can't understand and appreciate. They're important to me too, so why am I non-traditional? The answer is that I am am non traditional because I am not heterosexual and I am not Christian. Which to me, is the read between the lines for what traditional values means- it is a specific type of Christian lifestyle. At least it seems to me that this is where the structure and governing body for "traditional values" comes from. I'd like to add as well that being a heterosexual isn't a value and neither is being a Christian. It is a regular occurrence for me to have someone tell me what a great guy I am and later hear the same person tell me all the horrible things they think deserve to happen to people like me. They have no idea that I, this great huntin', fishin', truck drivin' guy, am actually that terrible person that they'd rather kill than share a room with. BUT the Uno reverse to this is the number of liberal people I know who praise their daughters for "traditionally" male preferences and choices while condemning them for "traditional" female preferences and choices. People who's values say that they believe in a woman's right to choose her destiny- so long as that destiny isn't to be " trad wife". These trad wives present us with a kaleidoscope lens of realities. It is easy to get caught up in which parts are real and which are fake, but regardless they combine to create this piece of performance art that forces us to look at our own hypocrisy. Most of these women are already very wealthy, and the fact that they spend so much time performing and presenting their stories informs us that they aren't demure little house doves happy to bake, pray, and breastfeed to their lives' contentment. They're building their own little internet empires - a full time job and one which subjects them and their families to constant scrutiny. So are we mad at them because they're lying about being " traditional" when they are actually strong pioneering business women who found a market to exploit? Are we mad at them because they DO actually have the resources to choose their destiny and this is the one they picked? Are we mad because they claim to put family and faith first, and then exploit their children and God for profit and attention? It sounds like to me the controversy of the trad wife is that they don't fit neatly in to either box of " quiet, obedient house wife" nor " strong, independent woman" and their lack of shame for it is hard for us to share space with because we want a clear and singular narrative so that we can feel a clear and singular way. We want them to be good or bad, we want them to be one of us or one of them. It's easier to be flash in the pan mad at them than it is to sit with our discomfort and to have to consider the ways that WE don't represent what we declare to be our own values.
You said you wouldn't articulate yourself well but damn that's really well written. You're absolutely right, and even if you take out the hatred that many trad people feel towards us queer folks, even if you remove the part where we're abominations, there still simply isn't any room for us to exist in their worldview. If men have to live a certain way and women have to live another, and that's the only way to be righteous, then the formula which equals virtue returns a big fat -1 for queer couples by definition.
Loved this so much! The intro was hilarious. Your insight into the tradwife backlash and sense of purpose was fascinating!! Keep up the great work Grace!
That got deep, and also thanks for helping me know I'm not insane when it comes to media literacy. As for the purpose piece, wanting to entertain people and make them laugh - you do it everyday all over the world with your work, books, and podcast, so don't lose sight of that! I FINALLY read your fashion book (I bought it when it initially came out but my gf at the time took it bc she thought I bought it for her 🙄) and the "Miss Mess" portion had me literally doing this emoji 😂 it was so funny! I think you'd do a really great job talking self-care with your perspective.
I love what you say about clarity of purpose because i watch trad wife content and I really do brainwash myself sometimes thinking if i want that life. Theres something appealing about it that I couldnt quite get because I dont really see myself as a "traditional" woman. But its the clarity of purpose that seems so peaceful and assured. Its important to remind myself that everybody has doubts, and following the rules of the bible or quran, or prescripted roles in a marriage does not mean you wont have internal doubts. Just do you boo!!
I'm loving the cold leftovers, this is a niche that needs to be filled. But in all honesty, I think what you said was hot takes. To not dismiss these women as crazy or outdated, but rather to think critically about the way they present themselves in a social media landscape is a hot take. Or how our own feelings in reaction to them may be in part because feminism has created more options for a woman's role in the world (her purpose(s)), which inevitably leads to feeling more lost and having to take more time to discover oneself, leading to some amount of fascination with women who seem to have it "figured out" even if their lifestyle is deeply undesirable and problematic to most of us. These are deep, fascinating thoughts that I haven't heard anyone bring up in this trad wives discourse before. Your videos connect with people, and I don't think that's your entire purpose, Grace, but it's part of it. Thanks for sharing
I can't say I have ever had life figured out, but I do know for certain it's anti-trad wife and always has been. That makes me want to get sterilized 100 more times if it was possible. I was around a legit trad wife (9 or 10 kids, all homeschooled, and she also worked/volunteered on the side. I don't know how the woman ever slept!) & her family and everything about that lifestyle made me cringe, even as a young teen. I agree that I think with me it's always been "you have so many more options now, why are you stuck in the past?"
lmao I miss these silly clips. I know its just the intro but love it!!! Also, love youre talking about things that fascinate you cause they typically line up with mine.
As someone who has watched you for the majority of the years you’ve been internetting, this is such a fresh, intelligent, funny, and thought-provoking video. I’m so proud of us for the intellectual and emotional growth we’ve experienced collectively. Keep up this amazing work and we will continue to prove that millennial and gen x women are consistent, worthwhile target audience members! So much love to you! ❤
You had me from the delivery of 'I make sure the ghost of Rod Roddy is not in my house,' but Maureen + Wolf = Molf took me out xD ty for another banger, and some refreshing and thoughtful discussion for a Friday afternoon!
I didn't know Trad Wife content included Wolverine knife play. I've surely been missing out! That said, I loved this take on them that shows both the expert eye you have with social media literacy and the respect you have for the creators, even when their content is so different. Hopefully we'll get your comments on other trends like this!
Love this format. I also love that I’ve been watching you since I was 19 and were the same age, and both went back for our masters at the same time. Now I’m a licensed therapist and you’re a brain god and we’re medium thriving.
I think some people are drawn to lifestyles like "trad wife" because it sort of hands you a pre-formed set of answers to all of those questions about purposed and means you don't necessarily have to check back in as you grow through life or things change. There's one answer, forever. Lots of people appreciate that simplicity and that it removes a lot of uncertainty. But I think there are risks to that, because things often do change and it can leave people really struggling if the one set of answers they have stop fitting or working with who they are or what their circumstances are. For example, if one of these women was to get seriously ill or become disabled, and therefore could not do the work they're used to doing and serve in the way they've been expected to, they could end up feeling like they don't have a purpose any more, or are failing/a burden, etc. In the same way there's a risk to making your purpose identities like wife or mother, because those are things that very well may not last forever (women tend to live longer than men), or will definitely look very different at different points in your life (parents are parents for the rest of their lives of course, but being a parent to adult children who don't live with you is a very different task with a lot more free time than the many-kids-under-10 kind of lives many of these folks currently have).
I didn't know about the Trad Wifes on the Internet trend at all! About the sense of purpose, for me it's to create things that I'm inspired or excited about. It comes naturally, maybe like your ideas come to you, and I think that producing them is good enough of a purpose for at least a lifetime!
Highly enjoyable video. Love the sketch at the beginning and the callbacks to it. You're feeling more and more like classic Grace with each video in the best of ways.
This was awesome. Thank you, Grace! The nicest thing about TH-cam is that I can skip any content that doesn’t work for me. No one will notice. 😂 As someone who worked in the TV industry for a number of different studios, TH-cam is just like everything else on a screen, it’s all for entertainment and ad revenue. TH-cam Trad wives ARE WORKING MOM’s like most women, whether they call it that or not. Even more interesting, is that most of them seem to be the breadwinners. So now, they’re not only responsible for everything in the home but their face/presence is responsible for the income as well and there is no safety net. That’s a mighty lot of pressure when you have a lot of kids to feed. I can’t even imagine rearing 5 kids, while homeschooling, cooking, baking, cleaning, sewing and mending, doing all of the errands it takes to do all of those things in a way that is visually pleasing, while filming yourself doing it, with multiple camera angles, and then editing until you think it’s perfect, dealing with TH-cam’s rules and regs, the contract negotiations for sponsors, sponsorship realities, dealing with taxes, hiring if you need help, personnel management, accounting, plus all of the other things these women are doing that’s not on camera, is more work than I’ve ever been willing to do - and I worked at a start up network where we worked 12-14 hours a day for 5 years strait and my boss got mad if I took more than 2 days off in a row. 🤣 Bravo to them for finding a way of making a living that works for them, but there isn’t much traditional about it.
Grace, I used to follow you back when I was in high school. I thought you were hilarious and amazing. I ended up taking a YEWGE break from TH-cam for several years and lost track of my fav accounts. and here you are, still making videos 12 years later, and I'm so glad to have found you again!!! this video was AMAZING.
LOVE THIS!!! Feels like Peak Grace! The newfound psychologcal insight mixed with top tier comedy. This energy was so much fun!I get it, totally not a commentary channel/video, however I would love to see more of it. And the skits! And perhaps some crafts. 😅🤣
Grace, I've been following you for a long time, since the Daily Grace/New York days. This is one of your best videos ever. Love that I can see you using your psychology degree and breaking things down in an easy to follow way. I appreciate you have no judgment about how trad wives live their lives, which is very refreshing coming from a TH-camr lol. Would love to see more videos like this!
“Like zucchini I spiral very easily” I laughed coffee up my nose!!! What is our purpose is a fantastic question on soo many levels. I give this video 5 Grace faces!
Grace, this is one of the best videos you've ever done and I've been following you since 2013. I absolutely love your questions about where we find purpose, your analysis of the authenticity of the women who are posting such absurd content, and your willingness to include yourself and your lifestyle as a juxtaposition on being a woman in the 2020s. Well done! I would LOVE to see similar content from you! Big love from the PNW!
Open minded, goth religious person here, that is not conservative, does NOT want kids either, and does not agree with their closed minded ways in general/never will, reminding people: IT’S OKAY TO BE BOTH RELIGIOUS, AND OPEN MINDED, AND NOT BE A SO CALLED “Traditional” partner. IT’S OKAY TO SUPPORT ALL HUMAN BEINGS/RESPECT ALL HUMANS, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE RELIGIOUS OR NOT, HOW THEY LIVE THEIR LIVES, ETC. It’s also okay to NOT have or want kids. There is NOTHING wrong with that. Each person’s purpose on earth is different, and that’s okay. If some people don’t believe that stuff, but are also just curious about that stuff: That’s okay too. Some people should let other people be, mind their own business, and not worry about what other humans do or don’t do. Grace, I’ve been watching you for years now, and I honestly love the fact that you are also not afraid to speak your mind/get straight to the point, instead of sugar coating everything. Keep being your amazing self ❤
Your point about media literacy is so valid and important 👌🏼 Media studies, and critical analysis of all types of media, should be a priority in school curriculums. Unfortunately it isn’t really a “mainstream” subject and instead maths, english, and sciences are still the priorities. All valid - but without a strong understanding of media and false realities each is undermined too easily!
Truly, I feel only Americans are concerned with purpose. I feel like in Europe ... we just have coffee, wine or whatever local variation of that and ... hang out. Trad wifes scare me, they make me feel like we are going backwards.
This was fascinating, Grace! Thank you for this video. I think so many of us can relate to not knowing our purpose or feeling unsure about why we’re here. I would guess that even these Trad wives struggle with it in some capacity. Your video gave me a lot to think about.
Amazing video Grace, I loved hearing you explore this topic in a deep and sincere way. 31yo childless woman as well wondering every 6 to 12 h what my purpose is while working an exhausting 9 to 5. Glad to know this is something bothering most people's minds! I find peace and purpose in volunteering, I've been doing that since I was 17 and from time to time I need to force myself to "feel it" though
I liked your take. I grew up very religious, and after leaving, the loss of community and purpose was so real. That said I'm so grateful to have regained connection with myself and to find other ways to connect with the world around me (nature, art, learning, curiosity, just happening to be making bad pancakes while watching Grace Helbig dabble in tradwifery 😂)
some people question themselves too much, and some people don't question themselves enough! Also: there are two people who loudly speak their minds: those with a clear conscience, and those with no conscience.
Enjoyed this vid a lot. I know you have an interest in cults, tik tok trad life seems almost like an extension of it (maybe that’s totally wrong lol). As a Muslim, my purpose definitely comes from my beliefs and values. BUT, I get a lot of my value from the connection I make with those around me. Keep making vids you like to make, it is so fun.
I loved everything about this video. Wolverine hands ...genius! What a great convo about media and how it affects us. I think we watch certain videos and compare ourselves to what we are watching. How we let it affect us is a great insight. I would enjoy more videos like this.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence
As for purpose, I decided a long time ago that I had to reduce the scope of my life to be happy. Like, I don't need huge numbers of friends, social media followers or people I follow, or even social engagements, and I don't need to push to reach the peak of my career. I just need to do what's needed to get the job done, maintain my relationships, and maintain my life. And if I wake up tomorrow, that's a win. Yeah, that doesn't sound great, but if you had my health problems, you'd understand. TLDR: Live for today, and maybe tomorrow, but much more than that and you're starting to get into the whole "unforeseeable future" territory.
Yesssss! Thank you for calling out media literacy! It needs to be called out more often. Media is so much more useful and entertaining when you are in on the joke and can trust yourself to know when you're being lied to
I just want to say this is one of my favorite videos that you've ever done? I would really love to see you analyze more internet trends with your psychology degree and background. It could be really cool and I think your ability to see things for how they are and you're true to form real quirkiness I think it's an intense juxtaposition and it makes for an interesting video. Good job. Please do more🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for the kind words!
Bro calm down it’s only and hour old 😂.
Plus Grace has a pretty deep back catalog, this better then _all_ of them? Come on now.
@@OvSpPcan this not be someone’s favorite video of hers…? Why does it matter to you?
@@OvSpPthey didn’t even say it’s better than all her videos. They just said it’s their personal favorite.
I second this! Was not expecting it, and her unique pov and expertise really adds something new to the convo. Love love love.
I think one of the most interesting things about these viral tradwives that isn’t touched on here is their extreme financial privilege and how it allows them to embody these “traditional” gender roles.
Ballerina Farm is married to the son of the founder of Jet Blue. Nara Smith is consistently wearing luxury designer brands. The financial stress that more and more families find themselves dealing with isn’t an issue, so of course they can romanticize their stay at home lives. Hell I’d stay at home too if I lived in a huge paid off house and could float around in Givenchy gowns, and almost all of my beliefs are in opposition to theirs.
yeah I took out a part explaining that their presentation of a modest lifestyle is juxtaposed from the reality that they're actually financially thriving. their presentation and performance of domestic labor is controversial as that is a world in which people actually work to financially support themselves. you can argue that there is a disconnect between their romanticized version of this lifestyle and real people's actual lived experiences and struggles in this line of work. another reason why media literacy and a genuine curiosity about the content we consume is so important.
thank you for pointing this out!
@@itsgrace Definitely! And also content creation *is* a job, and by all definitions prepping, filming, editing, and posting these videos is working (you of course know that better than almost anyone). Presenting as women who don't work and instead stay at home to tend to their children and make organic faux oeros undercuts the reality that they're full time content creators who earn an income.
@@holliewhitehead7132great point!
yes, financial privilege is a big part of the conversation. Also race- there's something to be said about how it's mainly pretty white women who go viral in romanticizing the trend when historically, much of the manual labor they refer to was once done by black people and slaves in service to a white family. I'm not a POC, so I can't overly speak to it but it's certainly a factor to the larger dichotomy.
I officially petition for "Cold Leftovers" to be a re-occurring segment either here or on the podcast, please and thank you.
cold foods >
"Hello, childless woman out in the internet speaking her mind. Someone better come get me!" LMAOO
"Like zucchini, I spiral very easily." SAME. SAME...
I've been watching your videos probably since you started making them (daily grace era) and I think this has been the most realist insight in to your thought process and it was absolutely fascinating to watch. You are so gentle in your thought process and how you articulate each side without shame. I think the world needs more of your thoughts and the concept of don't hate just because someone is doing things differently than me; which I feel like as society we have become. If someone is religious, and wants to live out that role, good for you, that doesn't make you any better or worse than someone who chose something else and respect goes both ways.
Yes! This!
Way to post the video!! Don't get me started on consciousness 😮💨
"You are so gentle in your thought process and how you articulate each side without shame" -i SOOO appreciate this about grace's work
That sketch at the start killed me, much like a woman named -Molf- Wolverine would once she found her knives. Glad to have you back, Grace. 💖
I had a guy friend ask me how the “trad life” was going as a joke because I started crocheting as a hobby and immediately got the ick because I too am a wet fart. I’m all for cooking & gardening etc, & I’ve noticed people moving away from consumerism but trad life gives me cult vibes & reminds me of how ultra rich people take being poor and make it “trendy & aesthetic” when there are people genuinely struggling to get by.
"i too am a wet fart" lololol
@@itsgrace time to add a wet fart tier to the patreon
Oh yeah, I'm here for social commentary Grace! I really appreciate your point about the sense of purpose, I think that's why these personalities are oddly compelling for me, a non-white, non-christian, childless queer woman. I don't envy their lives, subscribe to their beliefs, or even want what they have (or what they tell the internet they have), but I don't think I realized until this video that what I DO wish I had is their (apparent) clarity of purpose.
holy shit the intro is so FUN lmao I hope Grace had an amazing time filming and being goofy, this girl deserves joy!
I LOVED this video! Stream of consciousness videos of yours were always among my favorite! Such smart, honest, and funny ways to conceptualize and better understand whats going on or like very human oddities lol Please more of this!
I think in 2015 or 16 I came across a lot of those bushcraft videos of guys digging holes and turning them into pools, or building huts. That led to finding this absolutely blissful channel for Li Ziqi, which was kinda bushcraft/tradwife, someplace in like Mongolia. Gorgeous stuff. That's how I got into it. And honestly, since that's what I discovered first, I always found it relaxing. No blinking lights or horns honking in the background, just the sounds of like.... some lady threshing wheat while her grandma sits nearby, or real peaceful like, Hayao Miyazaki stuff 😂
It helped me figure out that my purpose isn't just woman, wife, mom, worker, etc. I had quit my job already to be a SAHM because our living circumstances and extended family needs required it, plus i was happy to stay home with my girl. But in 2015 after discovering these channels, I started gardening and buying houseplants, I learned to use power tools and built my own chicken coop with my husband and, and I've been hatching and raising birds since 2020. But all of the activities and hobbies I've developed since require the same two things - slowing down, and patience. That's what I took away from tradwife and bushcraft stuff. It's what some people have the luxury to do, and a thing a lot of us wish we could do but often can't, which is slow down and quiet our minds.
wonderfully said
Li Ziqi ❤❤❤
@alifetomake right?!?! And WHERE DID SHE GOOOOO. I have no idea if the mystery has been solved or not!!
@@dillishca I don't know! I suspect it's the chinese propaganda that tried to be in it, and she prefered to remain free, and stopped posting videos. There are now similar channels, that you can see, are supervised in order to make China look perfect... Li Ziqi still did something unique, and magnificent!
Does this give you a sense that you've done the thing that you just watched the tradwife do? I think that's what I get from cleaning videos. That little hit of dopamine even though I didn't do the thing.
it took almost 2 decades but we eventually got punk rock hair Grace, non breakdown bangs Grace, short hair Grace and trad wife Grace. my collection is complete
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I've been following for years and years and this is one of my favorite types of videos from you now. The amount of insight while still being funny-please do more of these!
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Grace's perspective on this is very different (and much more humanizing) from most of the other commentary I've heard on trad wives. I really appreciate what her career and life experience and education adds to the conversation. I feel like thats something a lot of the commentary channels i watch are lacking.
Nina West, the ultimate Trad Wife
Who is she ???
@@justinmartin1666A queen from Drag race😅
@@leahwestendorf4200 oh ok no wonder I don’t know who that is I really hate that show more than friends 😅
I know she said Nina west but in my head I was picturing Nina bonina brown 😂
I wish.
I like this video cuz it approaches the whole concept of trad wives with curiosity instead of hate. Refreshing!
Same
I really enjoyed this video, definitely thought provoking. I've never really thought about the fact that its media literacy is applied to social media but it absolutely is! On a similar note, it would be cool to see a video about those blatant AI images that get posted on Facebook and the people in the comments who seem to believe them wholeheartedly 😂
Also Nara Smith feels like the opposite side of the coin as Boxxy. They both feel like they HAVE to be trolling, but they've commited so much that there's just a chance they could be real.
I’m 42 and I’ve struggled with purpose my whole dumb life because just when I feel like I’ve got it figured out and have established some kind of trajectory life throws me a curve ball. So I have just kinda learned to make my main goal surviving the day and be flexible with literally everything else.
I feel this in my bones.
First. I love you for bringing attention to this.
I dislike the deeply contrived and highly polished instagram/youtube/influencer content and culture. It's dangerous the same way beauty magazines are dangerous.
The Trad Wife brand is a slick marketing campaign with a very obvious agenda.
All I can ever thing about when I see these people are the scenes in Iron Jawed Angels where the fictional character of Emily Leighton is gradually enlightened. One of the better quotes is "You women are worse than the anti-suffragists. You perpetuate the lie everyday at breakfast.”
These people are perpetuating the lie while making money off of it. Creating a false nostalgia for the good old days when women were property. Advocating for a deeply dangerous ideology while not so cleverly disguised as folksy chic mavens or retro-fashionistas.
Growing along with Grace in these 15+ years feels so rewarding watching this new-ish type of content. I loved the younger, comedy-centered Grace, but this older, wiser, eloquent and reflexive Grace (who’s still funny) is insanely interesting and fulfilling. She makes me want to mature in my train of thought.
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Daaaamn this is such a great video Grace. The mix of comedy, social critique and psychoanalysis fits you and your brand so well idk.
I absolutely loved this video! The opening sketch was funny and a great way to intro the topic. I love how this wasn't just a hot take that ripped apart the concept of trad wives but examined it in way that was reflective of yourself and society. I liked that you questioned the authenticity of their very polished videos based on your experience behind the camera, and as a woman how you recognized even though this was not at all how you saw your life, you could see how easily it could be if you chose to.
Your fascination leading you to purpose really stood out! As someone who's single and childless and not looking to have kids, I guess I always found my purpose in my creative endeavors (music, writing, editing), and also in the relationships I've built among friends and family. I care about having deep meaningful bonds with others so that's always where I found my purpose - in the positive impact i leave on those around me by being myself and expressing myself (fighting the insecurities always makes this harder as i'm also awkward, indecisive, etc, but i try more everyday!)
I would love to see you examine more topics like this, it was so open-minded, refreshing, and thought-provoking!
thanks for a wonderful comment
I think purpose is something that a lot of us don't have a strong sense of. Definitely a topic worth exploring more.
You did it, Grace! You completed the tasks of creating and uploading this! And I for one loved this. TGIF!
As a more traditional/conservative leaning human myself, when I saw this video I (1) was super excited! Love your videos always, have been an avid fan since back in your NY apartment days. (2) Oh fuck. Please we in scary territory now. (3) well hell, it is Grace. I actually do trust that she won’t go batshit crazy about a viewpoint.
And you explained and talked about your thoughts and views and beliefs in such an inviting, friendly way. The skit was hilarious. The discourse wonderfully done.
Loved this take. Loved hearing your breakdown your thoughts on current internet happenings.
I appreciate all of this. ❤️
thank you for your feedback and open mindedness!
a grace-style video essay is so interesting to me, ily
I totally get the admiration of the simplicity and clarity of trad wives purpose. I feel that way when I hear "I Believe" from The Book of Mormon musical. (Which I know is satire, but it's also seeded in truth). I find such deep blind faith moving and beautiful and terrifying all at the same time.
Grace! I have to admit I have watched hours of videos on tradwives (mostly satirical, ironic, and often cynical) but in all that burrowing down the rabbit hole this video is the most interesting and thoughtful on the subject I’ve seen. It’s such an interesting take to, rather than just immediately reacting with an eye roll for their constant pushing of outdated gender norms, to use that as an opportunity to examine what femininity means to oneself individually. Like man it’s a refreshing way to view the unending slew of tradwife content being pushed out there. Thank you for the introspection! So glad to see you back to making videos.
Thanks for the sweet comment!
Oh gosh my heart is so happy that you’re back and making videos again!! As someone who has been watching/listening to your content online for over 12 years (since I was in high school?!!!) you’ve kind of just been a constant in my life! And you still never fail to make me laugh.
The whole trad wife thing just gives me the ick. It’s giving amphetamines as a diet, shock therapy and lithium for hysteria, complete financial dependence. It feels like a giant step back for women. But I guess the pinnacle of feminism is the freedom to do and live as they please, assuming any of this is real to begin with.
yeah it's definitely a charged topic/lifestyle
This wasn’t commentary on the tradwives themselves, but something we don’t usually get as much if, which is that exploration of what interest in something says about the person doing the looking. And that is very interesting to me.
Love love love this style of video on you - the Grace style of a video essay with your humor and sketches kinda mixed it works so well, i could watch hourssss of this
The "intro" (right word?) was less than 2 minutes and I thought it was the whole video. So much happened and I love it. I'm sending this to everyone.
This was great, wonderfully balanced and thought through. I also appreciate the comments here, very interesting and pleasantly less polarized than most comment sections online. Which reflects the nuanced way you approach this subject in the video. Can't wait for the next time you do something like this 🥰
thank you for the sweet words!
I appreciate this video because it explores the concept of trad wives with curiosity rather than criticism. It's refreshing!
Hair regrowth is looking so good!! Bangs was totally the move while the new hairs get to know everyone else.
When “Don’t Worry Darling” came out, Vulture ran a Sims experiment with the characters to see whether underpinning those characters with the actors’ public drama would change the arc of the story. Now I badly want to see Trad Wife Grace with her Wolverine knives, stalking the ghost of Rod Roddy in her red floral dress. Would she crack eggs in the emptiness with Florence Pugh? *We don’t know.*
(Vulture’s Sims projects comprise one of my favorite series on the site! Highly recommended :). You can find it searching keywords; the standout is probably “Which lead character would actually win ‘Succession’?”)
The clarity of purpose when it comes to “god and family” always feels like a cop-out to me, like it’s easy to choose that, to choose outside of “family and god” is actually difficult and takes real introspection into who you are and what you want rather than just being a sheeple to what a conservative religious extremist society feeds you. Some of us have horribly abusive family’s, so choosing family as a purpose isn’t super obtainable, or do we choose to chase the family we didn’t have by trying to manufacture it ourselves which just puts pressure on our bodies (if we can’t have kids) and our chosen partners (who may not want kids or could have them or could turn out to abuse family built etc etc). It can just feel like the clarity they seemingly have is just them giving up on actually living for what their best self could be to just be in constant service to other people and to a mentality built on fairytales that for seemingly most veers into a demand for submission and control in the worst ways. But I agree, if they aren’t harming anyone (but perhaps themselves) then wte, but when it becomes something that is demanded of others, that does create harm.
thanks for this perspective
I need a million more videos of you analyzing the internet with your brain and degree and experience!!!!!! this is so cool and I love it!!!!!
Grace!! What an amazing and insightful video!! Apart from silliness you are a source of wisdom. You raise really good questions and left me and my gf really having a chat about these points you raised, which made us stronger. Love the comeback and your bangs!!
Grace I've been watching your videos for years, this is one of my favorite videos you ever posted. I LOVE this
Cue James Van Der Beek in Varsity Blues: "I don't want your life!" Also a childless dog lady here. Woo!
Seriously though, I had no clue that this Trad Wife trend was a thing, and I am THANKFUL for that! I bet your absolute gold of an impression of the trend is closer to the reality of their lives than they would ever admit.
PLEASE start incorporating more of your recently acquired Masters education in ways like this. You have always been incredible at putting your spin on internet trends and such, and it would be fascinating to hear more of a psychological take on just about anything.
Silly yet serious videos are my fav and you do them so well, also I genuinely think you have something to add to the conversation that deepens and expands it so thank you! I love that you touched on the idea of purpose and the question whether it should be straightforward or more dynamic. I think it's the latter. I would love more "not hot takes" of yours (but also honestly anything you'd like to make is awesome, since I didn't know about neither trend- trad wives nor cottage cheese, yet thoroughly enjoyed the videos)❤️
I’m not sure it’s actually their clear purpose but they pretend it is both because it’s what expected of them from their religion and it gets the views
Here to confirm I was unaware of the cottage cheese “trend” but have heard people reference trad wives.
I absolutely love and adore the combination of respect and humor in this video! What an interesting topic! You handled it…with…GRACE!
That got me, the whole “sense of purpose” thing. Lately, as a freshly 40 year old I’ve been grappling with my sense of purpose. I’ve been struggling to get my cake business off the ground for years, I thought I never wanted kids until I had found the right guy and now we are struggling to conceive after a miscarriage. So yeah I just find myself spiraling lately about what I’m “supposed” to be doing on this earth. Sometimes I think it might have been simpler to just have gone the traditional route, gotten married early etc. But I traveled, and lived in different places, got out of a five year relationship that was going no where and never settled in jobs I don’t like. I’ve always been a late bloomer so maybe I have yet to fully bloom.
Yes don’t forget to give yourself some errrr grace!
Firstly, I love that you've done a video in the format. I think the opening skit to set the tone is a really nice way to intro to a more serious and thoughtful conversation. I think videos like this also acknowledge that you, and your audience, have matured in so many ways and are ready to engage in new ways. I did not expect this video when I clicked on it, but I was so grateful for it. Also, I definitely have seen cottage cheese having its golden hour on the internet, you were not my first cottage cheese click, just saying.
I found this topic very interesting, and I had a lot of thoughts about it. None of which are about to be articulated concisely or entirely, but perhaps it will be something to add to the ongoing conversation.
I come at this conversation from this perspective: I am a transgender man who lives my life "stealth". The general public, my employer, even my in-laws do not know that I am transgender. My wife is a cis woman. I work for a civil engineering consultant and my wife is an industrial electrician with her own business. We both work in fields where conservatism and "traditional" values and gender roles are not only the norm, but the expectation. People speak freely to me because they think that I am a straight white male working in a conservative dominated field, I must be one of them. And in many ways I am. I love to fish, I love to hunt, I love my truck, I love my little homestead and my rural lifestyle.
I hear the term "traditional values" used constantly in juxtaposition to people like me as though we are at two ends of a spectrum. So, I think well... which values? Which values belong to " traditional" people that don't belong to me? Honesty? Responsibility? Love for family? Investment in community? The list goes on but the point is that these things are basic social tenants that we all have to agree on to survive as a species and which come naturally to us... Those things aren't some secular value system that the rest of us simply can't understand and appreciate. They're important to me too, so why am I non-traditional? The answer is that I am am non traditional because I am not heterosexual and I am not Christian. Which to me, is the read between the lines for what traditional values means- it is a specific type of Christian lifestyle. At least it seems to me that this is where the structure and governing body for "traditional values" comes from. I'd like to add as well that being a heterosexual isn't a value and neither is being a Christian.
It is a regular occurrence for me to have someone tell me what a great guy I am and later hear the same person tell me all the horrible things they think deserve to happen to people like me. They have no idea that I, this great huntin', fishin', truck drivin' guy, am actually that terrible person that they'd rather kill than share a room with. BUT the Uno reverse to this is the number of liberal people I know who praise their daughters for "traditionally" male preferences and choices while condemning them for "traditional" female preferences and choices. People who's values say that they believe in a woman's right to choose her destiny- so long as that destiny isn't to be " trad wife".
These trad wives present us with a kaleidoscope lens of realities. It is easy to get caught up in which parts are real and which are fake, but regardless they combine to create this piece of performance art that forces us to look at our own hypocrisy. Most of these women are already very wealthy, and the fact that they spend so much time performing and presenting their stories informs us that they aren't demure little house doves happy to bake, pray, and breastfeed to their lives' contentment. They're building their own little internet empires - a full time job and one which subjects them and their families to constant scrutiny. So are we mad at them because they're lying about being " traditional" when they are actually strong pioneering business women who found a market to exploit? Are we mad at them because they DO actually have the resources to choose their destiny and this is the one they picked? Are we mad because they claim to put family and faith first, and then exploit their children and God for profit and attention? It sounds like to me the controversy of the trad wife is that they don't fit neatly in to either box of " quiet, obedient house wife" nor " strong, independent woman" and their lack of shame for it is hard for us to share space with because we want a clear and singular narrative so that we can feel a clear and singular way. We want them to be good or bad, we want them to be one of us or one of them. It's easier to be flash in the pan mad at them than it is to sit with our discomfort and to have to consider the ways that WE don't represent what we declare to be our own values.
You said you wouldn't articulate yourself well but damn that's really well written. You're absolutely right, and even if you take out the hatred that many trad people feel towards us queer folks, even if you remove the part where we're abominations, there still simply isn't any room for us to exist in their worldview. If men have to live a certain way and women have to live another, and that's the only way to be righteous, then the formula which equals virtue returns a big fat -1 for queer couples by definition.
more like this please! i loved the calm chaos of the sketch and the editing style of the think piece/ chat section!
Loved this so much! The intro was hilarious. Your insight into the tradwife backlash and sense of purpose was fascinating!! Keep up the great work Grace!
That got deep, and also thanks for helping me know I'm not insane when it comes to media literacy. As for the purpose piece, wanting to entertain people and make them laugh - you do it everyday all over the world with your work, books, and podcast, so don't lose sight of that! I FINALLY read your fashion book (I bought it when it initially came out but my gf at the time took it bc she thought I bought it for her 🙄) and the "Miss Mess" portion had me literally doing this emoji 😂 it was so funny! I think you'd do a really great job talking self-care with your perspective.
Yes Grace randomsplaining Trad Wives is the only valid explanation.
I love what you say about clarity of purpose because i watch trad wife content and I really do brainwash myself sometimes thinking if i want that life. Theres something appealing about it that I couldnt quite get because I dont really see myself as a "traditional" woman. But its the clarity of purpose that seems so peaceful and assured. Its important to remind myself that everybody has doubts, and following the rules of the bible or quran, or prescripted roles in a marriage does not mean you wont have internal doubts. Just do you boo!!
Grace, I can’t express enough how much I appreciated this video! And the talk about purpose is so important, thank you for inspiring thoughts!
I'm loving the cold leftovers, this is a niche that needs to be filled. But in all honesty, I think what you said was hot takes. To not dismiss these women as crazy or outdated, but rather to think critically about the way they present themselves in a social media landscape is a hot take. Or how our own feelings in reaction to them may be in part because feminism has created more options for a woman's role in the world (her purpose(s)), which inevitably leads to feeling more lost and having to take more time to discover oneself, leading to some amount of fascination with women who seem to have it "figured out" even if their lifestyle is deeply undesirable and problematic to most of us. These are deep, fascinating thoughts that I haven't heard anyone bring up in this trad wives discourse before. Your videos connect with people, and I don't think that's your entire purpose, Grace, but it's part of it. Thanks for sharing
I can't say I have ever had life figured out, but I do know for certain it's anti-trad wife and always has been. That makes me want to get sterilized 100 more times if it was possible. I was around a legit trad wife (9 or 10 kids, all homeschooled, and she also worked/volunteered on the side. I don't know how the woman ever slept!) & her family and everything about that lifestyle made me cringe, even as a young teen. I agree that I think with me it's always been "you have so many more options now, why are you stuck in the past?"
lmao I miss these silly clips. I know its just the intro but love it!!! Also, love youre talking about things that fascinate you cause they typically line up with mine.
As someone who has watched you for the majority of the years you’ve been internetting, this is such a fresh, intelligent, funny, and thought-provoking video. I’m so proud of us for the intellectual and emotional growth we’ve experienced collectively. Keep up this amazing work and we will continue to prove that millennial and gen x women are consistent, worthwhile target audience members! So much love to you! ❤
look at us!
You had me from the delivery of 'I make sure the ghost of Rod Roddy is not in my house,' but Maureen + Wolf = Molf took me out xD ty for another banger, and some refreshing and thoughtful discussion for a Friday afternoon!
This is so much more insightful than I expected it to be. Thanks for posting Grace.
I didn't know Trad Wife content included Wolverine knife play. I've surely been missing out!
That said, I loved this take on them that shows both the expert eye you have with social media literacy and the respect you have for the creators, even when their content is so different. Hopefully we'll get your comments on other trends like this!
God DAMN I'm happy Grace is back
This has “very start of new chapter”energy . And I got my AC cranked but I got chills at the end 😂
Love this format. I also love that I’ve been watching you since I was 19 and were the same age, and both went back for our masters at the same time. Now I’m a licensed therapist and you’re a brain god and we’re medium thriving.
A lot of us crave structure, but we secretly won't relinquish the hope that we're better without it
I feel that
Well said.
I love your Stepford Wives character 😂❤
I love this new angel of content grace, like seriously you really poppped off on this video and i am here for this kind of content from you ❤
I think some people are drawn to lifestyles like "trad wife" because it sort of hands you a pre-formed set of answers to all of those questions about purposed and means you don't necessarily have to check back in as you grow through life or things change. There's one answer, forever. Lots of people appreciate that simplicity and that it removes a lot of uncertainty. But I think there are risks to that, because things often do change and it can leave people really struggling if the one set of answers they have stop fitting or working with who they are or what their circumstances are. For example, if one of these women was to get seriously ill or become disabled, and therefore could not do the work they're used to doing and serve in the way they've been expected to, they could end up feeling like they don't have a purpose any more, or are failing/a burden, etc. In the same way there's a risk to making your purpose identities like wife or mother, because those are things that very well may not last forever (women tend to live longer than men), or will definitely look very different at different points in your life (parents are parents for the rest of their lives of course, but being a parent to adult children who don't live with you is a very different task with a lot more free time than the many-kids-under-10 kind of lives many of these folks currently have).
good points
I didn't know about the Trad Wifes on the Internet trend at all! About the sense of purpose, for me it's to create things that I'm inspired or excited about. It comes naturally, maybe like your ideas come to you, and I think that producing them is good enough of a purpose for at least a lifetime!
i loooved the skit at the beginning. so glad my algorithm reminded me about you via this video, subscribed again on this newer channel !!
okay this video is great but also GRACE YOUR HAIR IS SO CUTE OMG!!!!!
thank you thank you thank you
Highly enjoyable video. Love the sketch at the beginning and the callbacks to it. You're feeling more and more like classic Grace with each video in the best of ways.
This was awesome. Thank you, Grace! The nicest thing about TH-cam is that I can skip any content that doesn’t work for me. No one will notice. 😂 As someone who worked in the TV industry for a number of different studios, TH-cam is just like everything else on a screen, it’s all for entertainment and ad revenue. TH-cam Trad wives ARE WORKING MOM’s like most women, whether they call it that or not. Even more interesting, is that most of them seem to be the breadwinners. So now, they’re not only responsible for everything in the home but their face/presence is responsible for the income as well and there is no safety net. That’s a mighty lot of pressure when you have a lot of kids to feed. I can’t even imagine rearing 5 kids, while homeschooling, cooking, baking, cleaning, sewing and mending, doing all of the errands it takes to do all of those things in a way that is visually pleasing, while filming yourself doing it, with multiple camera angles, and then editing until you think it’s perfect, dealing with TH-cam’s rules and regs, the contract negotiations for sponsors, sponsorship realities, dealing with taxes, hiring if you need help, personnel management, accounting, plus all of the other things these women are doing that’s not on camera, is more work than I’ve ever been willing to do - and I worked at a start up network where we worked 12-14 hours a day for 5 years strait and my boss got mad if I took more than 2 days off in a row. 🤣 Bravo to them for finding a way of making a living that works for them, but there isn’t much traditional about it.
wow well said!
@@itsgraceThank you!!!
i really like this type of content, grace! i love hearing your opinions on things
Grace, I used to follow you back when I was in high school. I thought you were hilarious and amazing. I ended up taking a YEWGE break from TH-cam for several years and lost track of my fav accounts. and here you are, still making videos 12 years later, and I'm so glad to have found you again!!! this video was AMAZING.
LOVE THIS!!! Feels like Peak Grace! The newfound psychologcal insight mixed with top tier comedy. This energy was so much fun!I get it, totally not a commentary channel/video, however I would love to see more of it. And the skits! And perhaps some crafts. 😅🤣
Grace, I've been following you for a long time, since the Daily Grace/New York days.
This is one of your best videos ever. Love that I can see you using your psychology degree and breaking things down in an easy to follow way. I appreciate you have no judgment about how trad wives live their lives, which is very refreshing coming from a TH-camr lol. Would love to see more videos like this!
“Like zucchini I spiral very easily” I laughed coffee up my nose!!! What is our purpose is a fantastic question on soo many levels. I give this video 5 Grace faces!
Grace, this is one of the best videos you've ever done and I've been following you since 2013. I absolutely love your questions about where we find purpose, your analysis of the authenticity of the women who are posting such absurd content, and your willingness to include yourself and your lifestyle as a juxtaposition on being a woman in the 2020s. Well done! I would LOVE to see similar content from you! Big love from the PNW!
Open minded, goth religious person here, that is not conservative, does NOT want kids either, and does not agree with their closed minded ways in general/never will, reminding people:
IT’S OKAY TO BE BOTH RELIGIOUS, AND OPEN MINDED, AND NOT BE A SO CALLED “Traditional” partner. IT’S OKAY TO SUPPORT ALL HUMAN BEINGS/RESPECT ALL HUMANS, REGARDLESS OF WHETHER THEY ARE RELIGIOUS OR NOT, HOW THEY LIVE THEIR LIVES, ETC. It’s also okay to NOT have or want kids. There is NOTHING wrong with that. Each person’s purpose on earth is different, and that’s okay. If some people don’t believe that stuff, but are also just curious about that stuff: That’s okay too. Some people should let other people be, mind their own business, and not worry about what other humans do or don’t do. Grace, I’ve been watching you for years now, and I honestly love the fact that you are also not afraid to speak your mind/get straight to the point, instead of sugar coating everything. Keep being your amazing self ❤
Your point about media literacy is so valid and important 👌🏼 Media studies, and critical analysis of all types of media, should be a priority in school curriculums. Unfortunately it isn’t really a “mainstream” subject and instead maths, english, and sciences are still the priorities. All valid - but without a strong understanding of media and false realities each is undermined too easily!
This is the first video of yours I've watched in years and I'm locked in
The skit at the start was EXCELLENT
Truly, I feel only Americans are concerned with purpose. I feel like in Europe ... we just have coffee, wine or whatever local variation of that and ... hang out. Trad wifes scare me, they make me feel like we are going backwards.
This was fascinating, Grace! Thank you for this video. I think so many of us can relate to not knowing our purpose or feeling unsure about why we’re here. I would guess that even these Trad wives struggle with it in some capacity. Your video gave me a lot to think about.
Thanks, Grace. Insightful af and insanely relatable
Amazing video Grace, I loved hearing you explore this topic in a deep and sincere way.
31yo childless woman as well wondering every 6 to 12 h what my purpose is while working an exhausting 9 to 5. Glad to know this is something bothering most people's minds! I find peace and purpose in volunteering, I've been doing that since I was 17 and from time to time I need to force myself to "feel it" though
I liked your take. I grew up very religious, and after leaving, the loss of community and purpose was so real. That said I'm so grateful to have regained connection with myself and to find other ways to connect with the world around me (nature, art, learning, curiosity, just happening to be making bad pancakes while watching Grace Helbig dabble in tradwifery 😂)
some people question themselves too much, and some people don't question themselves enough! Also: there are two people who loudly speak their minds: those with a clear conscience, and those with no conscience.
whoa nice
Damn Grace this was fantastic! Love that you’re back to making weekly videos
Enjoyed this vid a lot. I know you have an interest in cults, tik tok trad life seems almost like an extension of it (maybe that’s totally wrong lol). As a Muslim, my purpose definitely comes from my beliefs and values. BUT, I get a lot of my value from the connection I make with those around me. Keep making vids you like to make, it is so fun.
I loved everything about this video. Wolverine hands ...genius! What a great convo about media and how it affects us. I think we watch certain videos and compare ourselves to what we are watching. How we let it affect us is a great insight. I would enjoy more videos like this.
Thanks!
i'm so glad you're back i hope you're doing good
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss.
I love this video- so fun to watch!! The shirt is sooo cute on grace!
As for purpose, I decided a long time ago that I had to reduce the scope of my life to be happy. Like, I don't need huge numbers of friends, social media followers or people I follow, or even social engagements, and I don't need to push to reach the peak of my career. I just need to do what's needed to get the job done, maintain my relationships, and maintain my life. And if I wake up tomorrow, that's a win. Yeah, that doesn't sound great, but if you had my health problems, you'd understand.
TLDR: Live for today, and maybe tomorrow, but much more than that and you're starting to get into the whole "unforeseeable future" territory.
Hi Grace! I've always loved you and your videos but this one is particularly special! Really loved it❤
Yesssss! Thank you for calling out media literacy! It needs to be called out more often. Media is so much more useful and entertaining when you are in on the joke and can trust yourself to know when you're being lied to
I really loved this video and the conversation around it, would love to see more like this
Thank you so much for this lovely existential stream of consciousness!