I think delusion is an important prerequisite for doing anything creative. Nobody learns how to play an instrument or write a book by reading an instruction manual. You just want to make something so you start banging around in your room and trying to make it, and you learn along the way.
this is the best way I've ever heard someone describe the process. And as a self taught drummer - I wholeheartedly agree! I'm going to share this with the creative kids I mentor at the youth centre
This was what i needed to hear at the moment. I used to post my art online, and the posts with low interaction rate would discourage me a lot, making me wanna quit. But watching your video, i started to not pay much attention to the likes anymore. Andddd it felt so great. Lately I have posted more regularly. Then one day, one post DID blow up and now there's more and more people see my art now, while I'm so happy making them. Thank you so much for this amazing video.
oh my gosh i love this for you!!! i'm so happy you KEPT going that is the magic, that is the sauce. And ALSO SO GREAT that your post did blow up. you're just ahead of the curve!!!! woo!!!
It's over for y'all. I'm giving into my delusions and I'm ascending to the GOD realm. My art is the greatest ever and you will not stop me from achieving my dreams. with your simpleton minds you cannot comprehend the levels of genius that I have GRAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH👹👹👹💀💀😭🤯🤨🥶🥶🥶🤡🤡
very inspiring, helped me realize i’m the one who is holding me back because it’s super easy for me to be delusional like you about my creative ambitions but i keep humbling myself. i need to just keep ignoring that voice because it’s literally stopping me from achieving literally all my goals.
this is such a beautiful way to put it; yes, stop humbling yourself!!! you need to shine and step into your power. keep ignoring that voice; or make the creative voice just a little louder :)
SAME. I’m delulu for a while then I get in my own way which doesn’t help at all. It’s better to be delulu. And it’s true it feels like a disease at times. We can’t help but want to write but we also kind of hate it??? Da heck. It’s like writing is addicted to ME.
I think the timing of this video is divine. I'm a graphic design student, and I did a small assignment on your brand, that's probably why the algorithm sent this video to me but I'm choosing to believe it was the universe. I've been doing the artist way (i'm going to check out your last podcast about it next). I feel so silly for wanting to be a content creator. My internal voice says I dont have anything unique to say and content creation isn't actually artistic or deserves my time. I remember growing up people made fun of content creators and saw them as self-absorbed and selfish. Some creators really are the worst but thats not because they are content creators. It's because they just suck in general. I have been posting on tiktok and it's been really fun. I stopped caring about views and just committing to the practice. I have always played with the idea of a youtube channel but today was the first day I said it out loud to someone. Right after that conversation, this video came up. This video really encouraged me. Thank you...
wait, what do you mean you did a small assignment ON MY BRAND?!? what brand, hahahah. pleeeease can i see it. you mean my little dopey website that I put together myself?! anyway this is about the most flattering thing I ever heard, or maybe you are talking about something else entirely and I am just cray. LOL. ok on a serious note - if you want to be a content creator, that is meaningful and the world needs to hear your voice. It is a practice, just like you said. You should go for it. There are no accidents! Also, the link is fixed, thank you so much.
@@careercoachmandy omg I just saw this! It was a small assignment from an advertising class where we had to dissect a brand's identity. It was pretty much a discussion post. Here's what my pdf will let me copy lol... Career Coach Mandy is the only career coach who creates interactive workbooks that are printed and bound in the USA; for people looking to take the next step in their career and who don’t know where to start. Consumers are located in the usa. They need direction and guidance during this time of economic unrest.
I'm really surprised this video doesn't have more views. I literally never leave comments on videos, like ever. But I wanted to say thank you for putting this out. I feel really inspired by you. I've felt like my dream is unrealistic, so I feel like I've almost shut myself down just by saying, "It's not practical and it's not going to work or make me a lot of money." But what I have to say is worth getting out there; maybe I should just be a little delusional, because with the delusion that it's going to work comes the courage to try.
Oh my gosh this means so much to me. First of all, thank you for leaving a comment! I am also a bit of a not-commenter on TH-cam so I know what this means!!! You should totally get a little more delusional, it will lead to beautiful things. Thanks for being here!
A video doesn’t need to go viral or have a ton of views to be important, useful, or helpful so I don’t know why you’re “surprised.” Just like a writer doesn’t need to be a best seller to be good.
Wow. I fully identify with your description of innately being a writer, I spent 2017-2022 mostly housebound, and yesterday I started my first non-health related group activity which was a writing workshop. I spent a lot of my time over the past several years reacquainting myself with my love of writing and developing my research muscle, and despite coming out of this somewhat socially stunted and mildly agoraphobic I feel like my writing is significantly better. I have rarely shared my writing with others and I am both eager for and terrified of the sharing of work expected in the workshop I've joined. I feel like this video was sent to me by the almighty algorhthym, and for once I'm not mad about it. 🤷
taking the workshop is such a gift to yourself, even if it means being confronted with all of your own internal tendencies, challenges, and walls. it is a gift to know yourself, and then to share that work with the world. thank you so much for leaving such a thoughtful comment. wow youtube is awesome!!!
Oh god same with me and art and around 27-28 it became so hard not to do it. Working some lame ass job at the till and knowing 3+ languages analytical brain tons of inspiration etc. It just made me bitter i felt strongly i was better than that and seeing other people succeed was painful as well because i felt like i could do better but was stuck in inaction. And i wasnt complete novice to art either i used to do it alot as a teen. Im working on rehauling my negative mindset and to be honest you have reminded me that even if success came to visit i dont have nearly enough artwork to sell xD so i need to go and work on my art. Im glad someone shares the amount of rejection it takes to succeed....
This is so interesting because your tiktoks definitely came off serious, as though you believed in yourself, and I didn't know that you were cringing while doing this whole process. I was only on tiktok in June of this year (it's really bad for me so I quit it again), but I saw a lot of your videos and enjoyed them!
Omg hi! Yes I was totally struggling lol every step of the way. Only recently did I start enjoying it. Thank you for being there and its so cool you took a break from tiktok yeah it can be so addicting and bad for mental health xo
Love you being candid about the difficulty. Too many of us think something has gone wrong when things get hard. I'm inspired. I really want to make an ADHD planner. Not writing of course but feeling drawn to do it.
It's crazy how videos and messages in your life come exactly when you need them. Today i posted something to my creative/art instagram and it got pretty much no response, despite me believing it was a really strong post that i had spent a lot of time on. I felt really deflated, not just because of the post not doing as well as I hoped, but worrying about the projects I had planned for the near future, and how I'd feel if they also got the same response. But then I realised it would be better to keep creating things you really believe in, and not receive the response you would like, than never create anything at all. And it would be even more silly to give up on your passion because it didn't receive praise. At the end of the day, I really believe in what I'm doing and my practice, and I'm sure that eventually others will see it too. I'm definitely taking all of this advice.
I love this. Thank you for sharing this adventure. I was feeling so sorry for myself because life gets in the way but your story highlights something I've always known but needed reminding: do your thing and it will attract something just as good or better. Thank you.
Hey girl, you're THE best. This is an older video but still EXACTLY what I needed to receive in this exact moment. Total divine timing - thank you and I love you!!!
Inspiring video and pertinent to my situation, I feel like loser posting to ~0 followers but I’ll def keep going and remind myself why I wanted to do it in the first place. Also the librarian story is soo cute 😂
I admire your strength to keep going and not giving up🥺 we all need it and it’s super difficult sometimes to feel confident or that ppl will care about our art
Thank you so much for making this video. I feel i've been going on a similar journey for quite a while now. It's been really difficult for me to be seen and deal with a lot of blocks that I have from things that happened to me in my childhood. I also really have a hard time being delusional, because I feel an amount of guilt to prove myself to people around me who might not be supporting me in a literal sense, but for the most part, they are allowing me to do my thing without much complaint, lol.
Everything from the way you talk, to the books you mentioned, to your passion for writing has me hooked because that all vibes with me too. Im trying to write a book about community gardens to sell on my other youtube channel (community garden content) now and every day is a struggle to belive in myself.
community gardens is the best thing ever. i was a part of a community garden back when I lived in NYC, it saved my life spiritually - just to have a little sanctuary. write the book that you want to read!!! write it for your past and future self.
I found this video by chance and I'm not a writer but i completely understood what you said. for me its especially hard maintaining the delusion when other people around you don't want you ti be you or think you should be a certain way. i don't have the support circle and its so easy to want to break the goals i make for myself. a lot of the time i do. but i think i understand a bit more about the creative process now and to have faith in yourself if you think something is good. thank you 🌻
I really appreciate this video. I've been struggling with motivation lately as an artist, and this video got me thinking about why I started drawing to begin with. I was honestly considering just throwing in the towel and settling for something else, it's been a long year. This has given me just a little bit of hope, a nudge to keep trying. Thank you.
i love this because it is all about going back to basics. remind yourself of why you draw in the first place. it's for you, not anyone else. don't give up!
Omg im so glad this video showed up in my recommendations 😭❤ I've always had a strong desire to share my art with other people and so it's sometimes hard to motivate myself to create when there's no audience. thank you for making this video!!
The channel and community you’ve built truly feels like a hidden gem. And of course, with the way monetization works, no TH-camr would prefer the word “hidden” but truly, your channel feels well-coordinated and driven by intention. :)
Just my thoughts - Words are important. Curation of words. The words that you say to yourself matter. So, when in personal thought or reflective. Think of synonyms to better your words you say to yourself. Switch words that don't serve a purpose for the task at hand and replace them with those that are more conductive to whatever you are working on. It leads to many great thoughts with better words.
LOVE your story and you are so funny, you have great distance to it all and that must help a lot. I'm defenietly delusional (but also lacking confidence big time, not great combination)
Girl love love love this video, I chuckled a couple of times with you lol! But please let me know when you come around to writing that dang vampire book! I'll eat it up bwahahahaha.
i’m so happy this video was recommended to me :D it was so real, easy to listen to and very inspiring! i felt like i was getting advice from a big sister. i’m always thinking i’m being delusional about being a creative when i should be intentionally delusional with my creativity instead hehe
being intentionally delusional should be our motto for 2024 and 2025!!! also love the big sis comment, people do sometimes tell me that! i have an older brother and always wanted a sister (my brother is great, but you know - i always just wanted to have that sleepover, sharing clothes, singing karaoke energy), so maybe this is me manifesting that LOL
Where have you been all my life? Your vibe is so funny yet entertaining, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. As a creative, I can relate. Never stop talking about your experience
Those sound effects at the beginning scared the crap out of me, but I fully agree to being delulu to negate the inner doubt which is a killer to creative output!
This is a great video because it’s really how it is. We are not just artists but also the general public and the audience members of other artists. We only see the end product re: other people’s art. However, the process is messy asf. The only thing we ever have at our disposal is the energy to just do it. Even if we fail 5 x times, it’s often after those failures that the dam starts to burst💥 That said, the messiness of the process and the internal messiness ourselves and the positivity/negativity of our self talk is really what determines whether we succeed or not. Hence, you just have to do the work and be your own biggest, delusional cheerleader. Also, establish a process for how you best create; location, choice of snacks, time of day, length of focus. It involves a lot of exploration and rabbit holes but you tease a framework out of that making it easier the next time. Eventually, you write with ease because you get yourself organised prior to beginning. That’s what I’m discovering through enacting my own practice. Whether I move the needle a millimetre or a mile, I always move it. Or I simply add another organisational tool to my process. Also, your process is simply what works for you in order to create. Sometimes it will result in some of your best work, other times perhaps it won’t land but you’ll from each failure. Then “Hey Presto”, you realise you are simply an artist and that’s the true win💯
I’am truly glad to have bump’d into you Coach Mandy!!! Many thanks for this here Episode. And it’s SO divinely-timed! I’am still at awe at how much our stories favor. The compliment really is all about the beautiful complexities within the journey itself. You rock!!!❤
Ghorl, I get you and more power to your writing to be honest, but you sound like me when I'm manic and usually I go into this whole realization and spiel about how I have the energy to write a book but then I crash out and then extreme depression. Please make sure you're okay and have a support system waiting, writing is a marathon, not a sprint. Keep going and you'll get there eventually. Peace!
THANK YOU babes, i see you and thank you for looking out for me, too. my support system is my family, my cats, and my bed, lol. and also, working out if that counts. and my best friend but she lives in europe but we leave each other voice notes almost every day. sending you love, and hoping for your great success as a writer as well. xo
I have no desire to write a book but listening to you talk about your experience was very entertaining. This may sound weird but i feel like you have one of those personalities where you could be doing anything and it would be entertaining.
I recognized you from TikTok! Love your attitude, vibes, and persistence here. So excited that you’re over here on TH-cam too! Felt so seen by your spreadsheet comment!
Loving this so much... you're such an engaging storyteller. I relate so much, although, I am at the beginning of the journey. I signed up for a writing class this fall and I'm excited to start, but I'm consumed with self doubt, wondering if I even deserve to do something like this for myself...
Thank you so much, we need to be delulu to create because at the end of the day, we are mortal right? So if everything will end anyways. follow your delusional dreams and go for it!
Aspiring fantasy light novel writer here. My intention is to write unique, deep, and inspiring stories, and to become as skilled as possible in writing. I also did my "homework" so I know what to pay attention to in my writing. If possible, I'd like to show you chapters of my current story before I upload them online (once they're written)
hello fantasy novel writer! i hope you are still writing. don't worry about sharing your work with pre-readers, just publish it, i am sure it is great and an expression of what you care about - and it will find its right audience!!
I haven't watched the video all the way through yet but that title actually means a lot. I have this insane crazy complicated story in my head that I've been trying to put down into words and i keep second guessing myself and thinking "this sucks, no one will want to read it" but Ive realized that doesn't matter, *I* want to tell this story, even to myself. This and Joel Haver are big helps for my own creativity. One of my favorite book series ever is Eragon. Eragon is very poorly written on a number of levels, and is viewed by a lot of ppl as the epitome of bad fantasy, but those books still mean so much to me because they let me escape into a different world, the journey of Eragon will always mean so much to me.
This was sooo helpful thank you Mandy 😊 can you please talk about habits or practices that help increasing creativity and how to discover our talents, i've already reflect on my childhood talents but still trying to figure out what it is, not feeling in the right path is this normal 😂😂
9:45 HAAAA I have so many spreadsheets. I love spreadsheets. I research crap all the time. I should... use them... man. I really need to actually implement all these plans I have, but they're scary. Maybe this is my sign to just... start.
I understand the journal is supossed to be crafty but maybe the book you wrote could be on amazon ? You can self publish there too! EDIT: just saw the part you said that you got a publisher!!! Congratz🎉 Also I listened this as an podcast and I just saw you dont even have 1k in youtube?? Subscribed!!!
I am wondering how welcome some constructive criticism is if it has not been asked for? I subscribed and love this video, it's just that as I am watching it, I find the message you are actually saying so valuable and important and exactly what I need to hear, but truth to be told, you say "like" so often that I don't find it's increasing the message but disrupting is. I feel what you want to say is so good and valuable itself that you could just allow yourself to go with the purest essence of the sentence in a concentrated form, just the actual words of what you want to say, without any fillers. That makes it much easier to follow the message and be less distracted as a listener. I feel sometimes when people use "like" so often, it's not just a generational or cultural/regional thing, but can also be a sign that the idea to bring forward one's thoughts straightforwardly and without hesitation requires boldness and confidence. The "like" seems to indicate a vagueness, as if the speaker her- or himself is not quite sure what to say or how to phrase it. It almost sounds like an apology. You can describe something if you are still finding the words by using words that aid the subject, or even better, allow for a moment of silence instead of "like". To me, this word is just like "em" or "ahm" filler sounds (which are difficult and I try very hard to get rid of, it's not easy!). These sounds are being used because of the fear of not being able to speak fluently in one go without interruption. There is an expectation that the listener will not be ok with silence, I think, so there is the compulsion to give the listener what they want and expect from me in this moment, which is sound with meaning. Because I have already started speaking, I think in the moment that sound without meaning is better than silence, but I think that's not true. It's ok to take time while we speak to collect our thoughts, and then say them once we know. It gives the impression of someone who chooses their words wisely. That is impressive and deserves respect, and I will want to listen to someone like this with way more attention because I know they are selective in their speech. The words they have finally decided to share are words they felt were valuable and important enough to do so. I will hang on their every words. Love you and the message, looking forward to exploring the other videos on your channel. There is so much bullshit out there, but you keep it straight and are vulnerable and allow us insight into your thought process and conclusions - thank you so much for this and have a wonderful weekend! 💖🌸☕🌞🍀
hi jane, omg, and i even have "like" in the title of the video bahahaha! in all seriousness, the truth is, i _am_ hunting for the words, trying to capture the inspiration as it flows through me -- so what you are watching is discovery in real time. that will naturally include fillers and ums and ahs and stumbles, and while i hear what you are saying -- I will also try to be my natural self because if I try to filter for the lens of optimal distillation, i may become too self conscious and stilted. it's all a learning! thank you for the comment. :)
@@careercoachmandy I am so grateful that you are taking it like this, I was so worried to hurt your feelings while I REALLY didn't mean it like this, haha! I think a lot of it could also be a regional thing. I am from Europe. I feel "like" is being used much more in Cali, for example. That is absolutely fair enough. :-) I am very bad with fillers, so to speak, and it is a challenge that I put on myself to try to talk a LITTLE more like I would write. Still differently, but you know. I find that watching the writing episodes on "Masterclass" helped me a lot. There is the odd "like", but it is very very rare. I figured, if these writers can do without it, so can I, and maybe I should. It is very difficult though. God bless and have a wonderful day.
My show sinikka show is something I recently started as an expansion to my visual art company and I am excited to see if you enjoy what I have produced so far.
it's not spam!!! i love big magic. it was so life changing for me. i read it before i really even knew i wanted to create and write. but foundationally, i love her approach to discipline and how important it is to show up for your creativity so that it feels safe to reveal itself. and that if you don't take time for your creativity, it will find someone else to be born through. that always stuck with me. what do you think?
@@careercoachmandy she does present the idea that all creativity exists in the shared humancloud and for me, personally speaking…it makes the act of showing up for the creative process a lot less daunting imo. And just her approach on how to view a creative life in general was really inspiring to me. I brought up big magic because i know of a lot of creatives who swear by it. Initially, the message of the book felt redundant but looking back, that persistent creative voice she grows throughout her book is really what’s needed to just show up and sit down to do the creative thing.
@@inhobiswinecellar9571I felt the same way. At first I was like, I dunno, eat pray love wasn't a masterpiece but then over the years, all of her little stories just STAYED with me and now I am a total fan and have deep respect for her approach
a) i am socially awkward, b) i was recording a podcast and so wanted the freedom to talk without looking at the camera. but probably more just socially awkward lol
I love your channel so so much ❤️ Thank u, you are a Gift to all of us who don’t have somebody to encourage them to follow their dreams and try in their personal life ❤️💫🫶🏻
I think delusion is an important prerequisite for doing anything creative. Nobody learns how to play an instrument or write a book by reading an instruction manual. You just want to make something so you start banging around in your room and trying to make it, and you learn along the way.
it's all about banging around in your room. that's so right.
this is the best way I've ever heard someone describe the process. And as a self taught drummer - I wholeheartedly agree! I'm going to share this with the creative kids I mentor at the youth centre
This was what i needed to hear at the moment. I used to post my art online, and the posts with low interaction rate would discourage me a lot, making me wanna quit. But watching your video, i started to not pay much attention to the likes anymore. Andddd it felt so great. Lately I have posted more regularly. Then one day, one post DID blow up and now there's more and more people see my art now, while I'm so happy making them. Thank you so much for this amazing video.
oh my gosh i love this for you!!! i'm so happy you KEPT going that is the magic, that is the sauce. And ALSO SO GREAT that your post did blow up. you're just ahead of the curve!!!! woo!!!
It's over for y'all. I'm giving into my delusions and I'm ascending to the GOD realm. My art is the greatest ever and you will not stop me from achieving my dreams. with your simpleton minds you cannot comprehend the levels of genius that I have GRAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH👹👹👹💀💀😭🤯🤨🥶🥶🥶🤡🤡
Bahahahahah yessss this is the energy we need....God realm activated!!! 😂😂😂🎉
very inspiring, helped me realize i’m the one who is holding me back because it’s super easy for me to be delusional like you about my creative ambitions but i keep humbling myself. i need to just keep ignoring that voice because it’s literally stopping me from achieving literally all my goals.
this is such a beautiful way to put it; yes, stop humbling yourself!!! you need to shine and step into your power. keep ignoring that voice; or make the creative voice just a little louder :)
SAME. I’m delulu for a while then I get in my own way which doesn’t help at all. It’s better to be delulu. And it’s true it feels like a disease at times. We can’t help but want to write but we also kind of hate it??? Da heck. It’s like writing is addicted to ME.
Omg I am choking, "it's like writing is addicted to me" is the best way I've ever heard it described!!! You are def a writer LOLLLLL @@happinesss2
I think the timing of this video is divine. I'm a graphic design student, and I did a small assignment on your brand, that's probably why the algorithm sent this video to me but I'm choosing to believe it was the universe. I've been doing the artist way (i'm going to check out your last podcast about it next). I feel so silly for wanting to be a content creator. My internal voice says I dont have anything unique to say and content creation isn't actually artistic or deserves my time. I remember growing up people made fun of content creators and saw them as self-absorbed and selfish. Some creators really are the worst but thats not because they are content creators. It's because they just suck in general. I have been posting on tiktok and it's been really fun. I stopped caring about views and just committing to the practice. I have always played with the idea of a youtube channel but today was the first day I said it out loud to someone. Right after that conversation, this video came up. This video really encouraged me. Thank you...
P.S. your google form link is broken :(
wait, what do you mean you did a small assignment ON MY BRAND?!? what brand, hahahah. pleeeease can i see it. you mean my little dopey website that I put together myself?! anyway this is about the most flattering thing I ever heard, or maybe you are talking about something else entirely and I am just cray. LOL. ok on a serious note - if you want to be a content creator, that is meaningful and the world needs to hear your voice. It is a practice, just like you said. You should go for it. There are no accidents! Also, the link is fixed, thank you so much.
@@careercoachmandy omg I just saw this! It was a small assignment from an advertising class where we had to dissect a brand's identity. It was pretty much a discussion post.
Here's what my pdf will let me copy lol... Career Coach Mandy is the only career coach who creates interactive workbooks that are printed and bound in the USA; for people looking to take the next step in their career and who don’t know where to start. Consumers are located in the usa. They need direction and guidance during this time of economic unrest.
I'm really surprised this video doesn't have more views. I literally never leave comments on videos, like ever. But I wanted to say thank you for putting this out. I feel really inspired by you. I've felt like my dream is unrealistic, so I feel like I've almost shut myself down just by saying, "It's not practical and it's not going to work or make me a lot of money." But what I have to say is worth getting out there; maybe I should just be a little delusional, because with the delusion that it's going to work comes the courage to try.
Oh my gosh this means so much to me. First of all, thank you for leaving a comment! I am also a bit of a not-commenter on TH-cam so I know what this means!!! You should totally get a little more delusional, it will lead to beautiful things. Thanks for being here!
A video doesn’t need to go viral or have a ton of views to be important, useful, or helpful so I don’t know why you’re “surprised.” Just like a writer doesn’t need to be a best seller to be good.
Woman, you Are a writer, my condolences and congratulations *hugs
my condolences to you, too, my dear. LOL!
Wow. I fully identify with your description of innately being a writer, I spent 2017-2022 mostly housebound, and yesterday I started my first non-health related group activity which was a writing workshop. I spent a lot of my time over the past several years reacquainting myself with my love of writing and developing my research muscle, and despite coming out of this somewhat socially stunted and mildly agoraphobic I feel like my writing is significantly better. I have rarely shared my writing with others and I am both eager for and terrified of the sharing of work expected in the workshop I've joined. I feel like this video was sent to me by the almighty algorhthym, and for once I'm not mad about it. 🤷
taking the workshop is such a gift to yourself, even if it means being confronted with all of your own internal tendencies, challenges, and walls. it is a gift to know yourself, and then to share that work with the world. thank you so much for leaving such a thoughtful comment. wow youtube is awesome!!!
The description of writing (as urge or act) as an affliction is so painfully on point 😪 Grateful to have heard this today, thank you
it is such an affliction, lol! thank you so much for watching and stopping by!
Oh god same with me and art and around 27-28 it became so hard not to do it. Working some lame ass job at the till and knowing 3+ languages analytical brain tons of inspiration etc. It just made me bitter i felt strongly i was better than that and seeing other people succeed was painful as well because i felt like i could do better but was stuck in inaction. And i wasnt complete novice to art either i used to do it alot as a teen. Im working on rehauling my negative mindset and to be honest you have reminded me that even if success came to visit i dont have nearly enough artwork to sell xD so i need to go and work on my art. Im glad someone shares the amount of rejection it takes to succeed....
i really resonate with the part about feeling bitter, became same!
This is so interesting because your tiktoks definitely came off serious, as though you believed in yourself, and I didn't know that you were cringing while doing this whole process. I was only on tiktok in June of this year (it's really bad for me so I quit it again), but I saw a lot of your videos and enjoyed them!
Omg hi! Yes I was totally struggling lol every step of the way. Only recently did I start enjoying it. Thank you for being there and its so cool you took a break from tiktok yeah it can be so addicting and bad for mental health xo
Love you being candid about the difficulty. Too many of us think something has gone wrong when things get hard. I'm inspired. I really want to make an ADHD planner. Not writing of course but feeling drawn to do it.
Hello Mande with an "e"! Your YT channel is lit! Please make the ADHD planner. It is so needed and you are the expert. The world needs it!
I for sure feel like this is relevant for all creatives, not just writers. Love your message!! ❤
thank you for the kind comment!
It's crazy how videos and messages in your life come exactly when you need them. Today i posted something to my creative/art instagram and it got pretty much no response, despite me believing it was a really strong post that i had spent a lot of time on. I felt really deflated, not just because of the post not doing as well as I hoped, but worrying about the projects I had planned for the near future, and how I'd feel if they also got the same response. But then I realised it would be better to keep creating things you really believe in, and not receive the response you would like, than never create anything at all. And it would be even more silly to give up on your passion because it didn't receive praise. At the end of the day, I really believe in what I'm doing and my practice, and I'm sure that eventually others will see it too. I'm definitely taking all of this advice.
this is so beautifully put. this is right! you can't give up on your passions. keep believing in yourself, you will make and create important things!
I love this. Thank you for sharing this adventure. I was feeling so sorry for myself because life gets in the way but your story highlights something I've always known but needed reminding: do your thing and it will attract something just as good or better. Thank you.
yes! just do your thing!!
Hey girl, you're THE best. This is an older video but still EXACTLY what I needed to receive in this exact moment. Total divine timing - thank you and I love you!!!
divine timing indeed, thank you so much!!! sending you good vibes!!
Inspiring video and pertinent to my situation, I feel like loser posting to ~0 followers but I’ll def keep going and remind myself why I wanted to do it in the first place. Also the librarian story is soo cute 😂
aww thank you! yes!! keep posting even with 0 followers. if you can do it with 0, that will give you strength when you're at 10k, 20k, and beyond!
I loved listening to you speak on this topic. It was refreshing to hear real talk and no b.s. I hope you make more of these. (Newly subscribed).
thank you so much!!! thank you for subscribing! i am blown away by the response. i was just yapping!!!
@@careercoachmandy of course! You have something! Keep going with it. I’m rooting for you (as a creative person, mother of 4, & writer).
I admire your strength to keep going and not giving up🥺 we all need it and it’s super difficult sometimes to feel confident or that ppl will care about our art
thank you!!
Thank you so much for making this video. I feel i've been going on a similar journey for quite a while now. It's been really difficult for me to be seen and deal with a lot of blocks that I have from things that happened to me in my childhood. I also really have a hard time being delusional, because I feel an amount of guilt to prove myself to people around me who might not be supporting me in a literal sense, but for the most part, they are allowing me to do my thing without much complaint, lol.
I know it's like guilt if you are delusional and actually do things without 100 percent rational backing. Thank you ❤
The silence was loud 🤣😭 story of my life thus far as well
Everything from the way you talk, to the books you mentioned, to your passion for writing has me hooked because that all vibes with me too. Im trying to write a book about community gardens to sell on my other youtube channel (community garden content) now and every day is a struggle to belive in myself.
community gardens is the best thing ever. i was a part of a community garden back when I lived in NYC, it saved my life spiritually - just to have a little sanctuary. write the book that you want to read!!! write it for your past and future self.
I found this video by chance and I'm not a writer but i completely understood what you said. for me its especially hard maintaining the delusion when other people around you don't want you ti be you or think you should be a certain way. i don't have the support circle and its so easy to want to break the goals i make for myself. a lot of the time i do. but i think i understand a bit more about the creative process now and to have faith in yourself if you think something is good. thank you 🌻
this is such a sweet note, thank you for watching.
Mandy, it is so lovely the way you speak about the happiness you find in your art. It brought me to tears to be honest. Thank you so much for sharing.
whaaaaat i love this comment, thank you so much!!
I really appreciate this video. I've been struggling with motivation lately as an artist, and this video got me thinking about why I started drawing to begin with. I was honestly considering just throwing in the towel and settling for something else, it's been a long year. This has given me just a little bit of hope, a nudge to keep trying. Thank you.
i love this because it is all about going back to basics. remind yourself of why you draw in the first place. it's for you, not anyone else. don't give up!
I relate with you so much. It feels so good to hear someone just get me and my struggles. Thank you Mandy :3
Omg im so glad this video showed up in my recommendations 😭❤
I've always had a strong desire to share my art with other people and so it's sometimes hard to motivate myself to create when there's no audience. thank you for making this video!!
i'm so glad you found it, thank you!!
The channel and community you’ve built truly feels like a hidden gem. And of course, with the way monetization works, no TH-camr would prefer the word “hidden” but truly, your channel feels well-coordinated and driven by intention. :)
hi again, thank you so much. i totally get what you mean, and i so appreciate this!! :)
This video resonated with me so much! I’m going to binge watch all of your uploads. Thanks so much for the amazing content! 😊
This was one the most entertaining stories ever! I absolutely loved it!
I'm so happy you liked it hehe
I had a great time hearing your framing of the “compulsion” to create and express. Definitely resonate with the double edged sword you expressed.
it is like a disease but i wouldn't have it any other way lol!
Just my thoughts - Words are important. Curation of words. The words that you say to yourself matter. So, when in personal thought or reflective. Think of synonyms to better your words you say to yourself. Switch words that don't serve a purpose for the task at hand and replace them with those that are more conductive to whatever you are working on. It leads to many great thoughts with better words.
that is such good advice, thank you so much! I copied your comment to make a note for myself for future reference
thank you
I just love how you pour yourself out in every video and when your done your like ..I hope all this came to good use. And it always does. Always!.
aw thank you so much! i feel so appreciated !!
Wow I am so glad to have found this.
i am so so glad you're here
I just found your videos yesterday and I absolutely love the way you talk and think. It's very relatable, like listening to a friend. Thanks :)
aw, i hope so! i am just trying to be myself and so glad it is landing. :)
Thank you for posting this Mandy❤
you're so welcome! xo
thank you so much for sharing this 🥹 your honesty and candor really helped me jump over a creative block today!
aw yay, thank you! so happy you got over the creative block. let the wild in.
LOVE your story and you are so funny, you have great distance to it all and that must help a lot. I'm defenietly delusional (but also lacking confidence big time, not great combination)
Girl love love love this video, I chuckled a couple of times with you lol! But please let me know when you come around to writing that dang vampire book! I'll eat it up bwahahahaha.
hahaha i already know we would be co-chucklers! omg people are wanting the vampire book. OK OK OK !!! i love it.
Honestly thank you so much for your videos, they are the only videos that are going into my brain and really touching my core atm ❤
omg i feel this comment, thank you!!
i’m so happy this video was recommended to me :D it was so real, easy to listen to and very inspiring! i felt like i was getting advice from a big sister. i’m always thinking i’m being delusional about being a creative when i should be intentionally delusional with my creativity instead hehe
being intentionally delusional should be our motto for 2024 and 2025!!! also love the big sis comment, people do sometimes tell me that! i have an older brother and always wanted a sister (my brother is great, but you know - i always just wanted to have that sleepover, sharing clothes, singing karaoke energy), so maybe this is me manifesting that LOL
Where have you been all my life? Your vibe is so funny yet entertaining, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us. As a creative, I can relate. Never stop talking about your experience
aw thank you so so much.
Those sound effects at the beginning scared the crap out of me, but I fully agree to being delulu to negate the inner doubt which is a killer to creative output!
hahaha omg i'm so sorry.
@@careercoachmandy it's okay! just unexpected haha. I'm stressed these days so I might just be extra jumpy in general
This is a great video because it’s really how it is. We are not just artists but also the general public and the audience members of other artists. We only see the end product re: other people’s art. However, the process is messy asf. The only thing we ever have at our disposal is the energy to just do it. Even if we fail 5 x times, it’s often after those failures that the dam starts to burst💥
That said, the messiness of the process and the internal messiness ourselves and the positivity/negativity of our self talk is really what determines whether we succeed or not.
Hence, you just have to do the work and be your own biggest, delusional cheerleader. Also, establish a process for how you best create; location, choice of snacks, time of day, length of focus. It involves a lot of exploration and rabbit holes but you tease a framework out of that making it easier the next time. Eventually, you write with ease because you get yourself organised prior to beginning.
That’s what I’m discovering through enacting my own practice. Whether I move the needle a millimetre or a mile, I always move it. Or I simply add another organisational tool to my process.
Also, your process is simply what works for you in order to create. Sometimes it will result in some of your best work, other times perhaps it won’t land but you’ll from each failure.
Then “Hey Presto”, you realise you are simply an artist and that’s the true win💯
yes the process is messy AF! preach!
I’am truly glad to have bump’d into you Coach Mandy!!! Many thanks for this here Episode. And it’s SO divinely-timed! I’am still at awe at how much our stories favor. The compliment really is all about the beautiful complexities within the journey itself. You rock!!!❤
thank you so much - so glad we bumped into each other, too!
Ghorl, I get you and more power to your writing to be honest, but you sound like me when I'm manic and usually I go into this whole realization and spiel about how I have the energy to write a book but then I crash out and then extreme depression. Please make sure you're okay and have a support system waiting, writing is a marathon, not a sprint. Keep going and you'll get there eventually. Peace!
THANK YOU babes, i see you and thank you for looking out for me, too. my support system is my family, my cats, and my bed, lol. and also, working out if that counts. and my best friend but she lives in europe but we leave each other voice notes almost every day. sending you love, and hoping for your great success as a writer as well. xo
I have no desire to write a book but listening to you talk about your experience was very entertaining. This may sound weird but i feel like you have one of those personalities where you could be doing anything and it would be entertaining.
LOL omg that is such a compliment!! haha i so appreciate it.
I recognized you from TikTok! Love your attitude, vibes, and persistence here. So excited that you’re over here on TH-cam too! Felt so seen by your spreadsheet comment!
omg hi! yes i'm all about vibes. youtube is great!! i am so glad i am here. thank you for hopping over!!
So inspiring and helped me visualize where I am in this journey finding and expressing my passion.
Thank you so much for watching!! These comments are giving me life
Loving this so much... you're such an engaging storyteller. I relate so much, although, I am at the beginning of the journey. I signed up for a writing class this fall and I'm excited to start, but I'm consumed with self doubt, wondering if I even deserve to do something like this for myself...
You deserve it and the whole world is conspiring for your success. Enjoy the writing class! Fall is such a wonderful time to be writing.
@@careercoachmandy Thank you 😊
video goes hard mandy
bahhahahaha! i only have one speed!
So glad I clicked on this video. Good advice. 😊 Thanks
aw yay thank you!
Thank you Mandy.
Off-topic, those glasses are so simple yet soooooooo delicate 🦢 They suit you so well 😻
oh my gosh thank you so much! they're silhouette brand, and sooo light. i love them too! :)
@@careercoachmandy should’ve figured out it was *the* silhouette. A worthwhile investment! P.S. I appreciated the video, too, got me off my sofa 😝
Thank you so much, we need to be delulu to create because at the end of the day, we are mortal right? So if everything will end anyways. follow your delusional dreams and go for it!
team delulu!!!
Aspiring fantasy light novel writer here. My intention is to write unique, deep, and inspiring stories, and to become as skilled as possible in writing. I also did my "homework" so I know what to pay attention to in my writing. If possible, I'd like to show you chapters of my current story before I upload them online (once they're written)
hello fantasy novel writer! i hope you are still writing. don't worry about sharing your work with pre-readers, just publish it, i am sure it is great and an expression of what you care about - and it will find its right audience!!
I haven't watched the video all the way through yet but that title actually means a lot. I have this insane crazy complicated story in my head that I've been trying to put down into words and i keep second guessing myself and thinking "this sucks, no one will want to read it" but Ive realized that doesn't matter, *I* want to tell this story, even to myself. This and Joel Haver are big helps for my own creativity.
One of my favorite book series ever is Eragon. Eragon is very poorly written on a number of levels, and is viewed by a lot of ppl as the epitome of bad fantasy, but those books still mean so much to me because they let me escape into a different world, the journey of Eragon will always mean so much to me.
we all want to read it!!! it is important. your story needs to be told! however "crazy" you think it is. i'm sure it is really, really good!
Thank you Thank you for the confirmation. I am a writer as well. I 💯 percent agree.🎉😂🎉😂😅
i'm so happy this resonated with you! 🎉
Very inspirational video, thank you, and I’m def looking forward to your vampire romance in the future! 💙
I AM DEAD thank you so much
This video was insanely inspiring. Thank you ❤
eep!! thank you!
You are wonderful. This video was so important to me.
This was sooo helpful thank you Mandy 😊 can you please talk about habits or practices that help increasing creativity and how to discover our talents, i've already reflect on my childhood talents but still trying to figure out what it is, not feeling in the right path is this normal 😂😂
9:45 HAAAA I have so many spreadsheets. I love spreadsheets. I research crap all the time. I should... use them... man. I really need to actually implement all these plans I have, but they're scary. Maybe this is my sign to just... start.
start implementing them little by little! you got this!!
I understand the journal is supossed to be crafty but maybe the book you wrote could be on amazon ? You can self publish there too!
EDIT: just saw the part you said that you got a publisher!!! Congratz🎉 Also I listened this as an podcast and I just saw you dont even have 1k in youtube?? Subscribed!!!
Thank you for subscribing!!!❤️❤️
please write your asian vampire fantasy i’m dying to read it
Bahahhahaha I love you thank you ❤
LOVE YOUR CONTENT 🖤✨
I am wondering how welcome some constructive criticism is if it has not been asked for? I subscribed and love this video, it's just that as I am watching it, I find the message you are actually saying so valuable and important and exactly what I need to hear, but truth to be told, you say "like" so often that I don't find it's increasing the message but disrupting is. I feel what you want to say is so good and valuable itself that you could just allow yourself to go with the purest essence of the sentence in a concentrated form, just the actual words of what you want to say, without any fillers. That makes it much easier to follow the message and be less distracted as a listener. I feel sometimes when people use "like" so often, it's not just a generational or cultural/regional thing, but can also be a sign that the idea to bring forward one's thoughts straightforwardly and without hesitation requires boldness and confidence. The "like" seems to indicate a vagueness, as if the speaker her- or himself is not quite sure what to say or how to phrase it. It almost sounds like an apology. You can describe something if you are still finding the words by using words that aid the subject, or even better, allow for a moment of silence instead of "like". To me, this word is just like "em" or "ahm" filler sounds (which are difficult and I try very hard to get rid of, it's not easy!). These sounds are being used because of the fear of not being able to speak fluently in one go without interruption. There is an expectation that the listener will not be ok with silence, I think, so there is the compulsion to give the listener what they want and expect from me in this moment, which is sound with meaning. Because I have already started speaking, I think in the moment that sound without meaning is better than silence, but I think that's not true. It's ok to take time while we speak to collect our thoughts, and then say them once we know. It gives the impression of someone who chooses their words wisely. That is impressive and deserves respect, and I will want to listen to someone like this with way more attention because I know they are selective in their speech. The words they have finally decided to share are words they felt were valuable and important enough to do so. I will hang on their every words. Love you and the message, looking forward to exploring the other videos on your channel. There is so much bullshit out there, but you keep it straight and are vulnerable and allow us insight into your thought process and conclusions - thank you so much for this and have a wonderful weekend! 💖🌸☕🌞🍀
P.s. sorry for the typos, my phone is broken, haha 😆
hi jane, omg, and i even have "like" in the title of the video bahahaha! in all seriousness, the truth is, i _am_ hunting for the words, trying to capture the inspiration as it flows through me -- so what you are watching is discovery in real time. that will naturally include fillers and ums and ahs and stumbles, and while i hear what you are saying -- I will also try to be my natural self because if I try to filter for the lens of optimal distillation, i may become too self conscious and stilted. it's all a learning! thank you for the comment. :)
@@careercoachmandy I am so grateful that you are taking it like this, I was so worried to hurt your feelings while I REALLY didn't mean it like this, haha! I think a lot of it could also be a regional thing. I am from Europe. I feel "like" is being used much more in Cali, for example. That is absolutely fair enough. :-) I am very bad with fillers, so to speak, and it is a challenge that I put on myself to try to talk a LITTLE more like I would write. Still differently, but you know. I find that watching the writing episodes on "Masterclass" helped me a lot. There is the odd "like", but it is very very rare. I figured, if these writers can do without it, so can I, and maybe I should. It is very difficult though. God bless and have a wonderful day.
Gave you a like for the title. I’ll listen in for the rest of the video
love that thank you!
Loved this video! So helpful!
yay, thank you!
Never stop making art for the sake of art
This!!!
I needed this
thank you soo much
Girl that sound gave me a scare jump lol
hahah girl i'm SORRY! it was early in my YT journey, i hadn't figured out how to not terrify people yet. lol lol
My show sinikka show is something I recently started as an expansion to my visual art company and I am excited to see if you enjoy what I have produced so far.
keep making your art! :)
Also, sorry for the spam, but what are your thoughts on Elizabeth Gilbert’s book, Big Magic?
it's not spam!!! i love big magic. it was so life changing for me. i read it before i really even knew i wanted to create and write. but foundationally, i love her approach to discipline and how important it is to show up for your creativity so that it feels safe to reveal itself. and that if you don't take time for your creativity, it will find someone else to be born through. that always stuck with me. what do you think?
@@careercoachmandy she does present the idea that all creativity exists in the shared humancloud and for me, personally speaking…it makes the act of showing up for the creative process a lot less daunting imo. And just her approach on how to view a creative life in general was really inspiring to me. I brought up big magic because i know of a lot of creatives who swear by it. Initially, the message of the book felt redundant but looking back, that persistent creative voice she grows throughout her book is really what’s needed to just show up and sit down to do the creative thing.
@@inhobiswinecellar9571I felt the same way. At first I was like, I dunno, eat pray love wasn't a masterpiece but then over the years, all of her little stories just STAYED with me and now I am a total fan and have deep respect for her approach
love this
i so appreciate you!
show up every day🎉💪❤
every. day!
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The way in which you talk without ever looking directly at the audience is odd to me. I wonder what it means.
a) i am socially awkward, b) i was recording a podcast and so wanted the freedom to talk without looking at the camera. but probably more just socially awkward lol
@@careercoachmandy oh I see. It was a great video and message regardless. Thank you.
I love your channel so so much ❤️ Thank u, you are a Gift to all of us who don’t have somebody to encourage them to follow their dreams and try in their personal life ❤️💫🫶🏻