How to Have Difficult Conversations, with David Harris | A Bit of Optimism (Podcast): Episode 3
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 มิ.ย. 2020
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I have a desire to have necessary and difficult conversations. But I don’t always know how to start them. My brilliant friend and colleague David Harris helped and guided me. My goal is that this podcast helps others start those uncomfortable conversations that need to be had right now for us all to move forward.
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Simon is an unshakable optimist who believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together. Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon teaches leaders and organizations how to inspire people. With a bold goal to help build a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single day feeling inspired, feel safe at work, and feel fulfilled at the end of the day, Simon is leading a movement to inspire people to do the things that inspire them. Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, Find Your Why, and his newest book, The Infinite Game.
Simon’s WHY: To inspire people to do the things that inspire them so that, together, each of us can change our world for the better.
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“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
― Stephen R. Covey
Hehe 😅 as you rush to be the first comment
I’m third😅👆🏽
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”
― George Bernard Shaw
This is such a needed conversation right now; it’s always been needed. I appreciate how David draws such a clear parallel between living a life where he’s been exposed to so much that’s different and uncomfortable for him, and his ability to genuinely listen to others. I also enjoy how Simon pointed out that genuinely listening is a much needed skill and discomfort has a way of building it-getting us to notice how much we don’t know, reducing our ego, and really catapulting us into attempts to seek knowledge, listen, and learn. This must have been a difficult conversation but it is so necessary and appreciated. Thanks to both of you for doing this!
“Creating a space.” Love this simple yet very powerful request to start the conversation here. Thank you for these insights both of you.
We study History and look at the past to learn how can we as individuals and society improve our world. Yes these are hot button topics and loaded with History. We must be aware and have knowledge to speak to, against and for to articulate our views. Difficult and uncomfortable situations make us uneasy yet we need to express ourselves and sometimes it's just hugging a person and sharing the tears, pain and loss. There are times no words but shared emotions cut across from one soul to another. 🙏Thank you Mr Sinek and Harris for sharing this ❗
Ruth you are right. I appreciate you.
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Thank you dearly Simon you a blessing to this world, and I’m your grandma
This reminds me of Álvaro González-Alorda's book: "The Talking Manager" and the idea around inspiring conversations. I used to procrastinate my difficult conversations but I realize the worst thing you can do is to avoid conflict, we must embrace it.
History should be a lesson for everyone so we will avoide the same mistakes in the future .
That what is history about and for .
That's why is so important to know your history .
Who know the past can predict the future .
When you know where you were you know where you are going .
This is a great, genuinely open, honest and intimate talk about an issue facing all of us today. Thanks to the both of you for jumping into the arena and being willing to be vulnerable. The hard part is there are no truly right or wrong answers here, just better or worse (meaning our responses). It’s almost embarrassing that we have to have a conversation, about how to have a conversation. It’s like going to the gym for the first time and the trainer explaining to a new client, “Ok, this is a dumb bell, you raise and lower it repeatedly…” If anything, it only shows us how much we haven’t used this muscle. No wonder we aren’t good at it. Yet… I agree with Simon, it is a start though. I would also add that the divisions we all hate are the same divisions we all create (or at the very least perpetuate). Why is it (blank) American? Why isn’t it just American? Saying (blank) American is almost like a corporation advertising a product. If it is something I decide I want, I don’t care about how it’s marketed, I just want the product. I also believe that if a group wants to be included, they may have to become a little more inclusive (probably not a popular stance right now). It’s like Mr. Harris said, it’s not black history month, it’s amercian history month (which is a whole other subject). Another topic Mr. Harris brings up: what is our education system teaching? I remember the first time I wasn’t introduced as simply “my friend”, but as “my (blank) friend…” It was at school, in the fifth grade. And I’m mixed!
Very inspiring and profound! Love this one.
Agree - we understand ourselves, our culture by understanding the past ... our history - so we should not ignore or remove "painful" times or memories but confront them and discuss them ... like the German Museum Simon told about displaying their 2nd WW story and the role of Nazism. Great talk
Thank you Simon. 😭
This is excellent insight for all us, I believe we need to practice every day when will to talk we our team... Great opportunity listen them...
I hope that one day everyone will see each other as human beings. That we will look at our past and say "look...we did not see any difference as humans if we had different eye or hair color, but we used to think that we were different because we had different skin color"...I do hope that in the future people would be baffled by that. I do agree that we have to look to the past for context and understanding, and also people of all collors should start looking inside and ask why do we still classify humans as races...why we if see a person with a different skin color we see them as a different type of human and not as an equal human being...I keep wondering...
I always love your work Simon, never stop!
However, this episode would be so much better if I knew what the story was, with that woman and the police...
Any chance you could include a link?
PS - I'm from Australia, we don't always get the same news...
A year later that the full video is out, do you have any follow up Comments ?
Hi Simon, I have a question. Jayaraj and Fenix (father and son) were custodial death in Tamil Nadu, India. Some of the alibis say that's "the police came to their neighbourhood shops before day and says something illegal and when jayaraj heard that he said, we had to ask him if he is also policeman no matter we need to ask for our rights, which was eavesdrops by a writer in that police station informed it that policeman and now it spares two lives " it is just a recommendation or motivation to ask when something went wrong. Vulnerability or power made those policemen harm to innocence."
Here my questions are, how to deal with such persons who has pride and power of what they have. Just a recommendation or motivation to ASK puts heat on their power spares two lives.
How to have an uncomfortable conversation with these people?
If the scenario is not clear you can find them on internet for past one week. Trending in India.
I'm one of your great followers. Following you for the last one and half years found many solutions to the problem I have it in my life using our "Start with Why" to till now "a bit of optimism". I hope you can help me in this scenario, I can hear lot of voices against the policemen but not the right solution.
Didn’t think it’d be about race when I click into the video
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