But what if you are in a terrible situation and getting out of it alone is impossible There are friends who geniunly care for us ,finding these friends requires luck ,but such friends are necessary
Absolutely true. I am a 74 year old writer, and have spent most of my life alone. I feel lonely in a crowd, but totally at home when alone. I don't regret my life at all.
Hi Sarah. I'm a year older and a writer. I also still work every day building websites and online training. I love working from my home office. Guess I'll keep doing that as long as I still find it stimulating and rewarding.
@@dagordon1041 Morning D. A, I've been a writer since I was 42, my four books covering a wide range of topics. The first took me 22 years to complete, and the manuscript I'm working on now has taken me 7 so far. Still have a long way to go. Reading, research, writing, and evening needlework while listening to the classics and walks in the woods are my world.
@@greensprout65 Hi Sarah. You appear to have lived and continue to live a very rich and meaningful life. As Viktor Frankl observed, the crisis of modern man (and woman) is a crisis of meaning, life in an existential vacuum or, as Thoreau put it "the majority of men of all times have lived lives of quiet desperation." I have mentioned here today Anthony Storr's book on Solitude which you might find interesting. Your needlework is probably a good exercise in mindfulness.
@@GordonSou Yes. I have read and reread Solitude. Somehow though it got lost in the move to this apartment. A book published twenty years ago is another favorite of mine - A Pelican in the Wilderness: Hermits, Solitaries, and Recluses. A grand collection of histories, writings, life experiences, poetry from solitaries all around the world, from the far East to Wordsworth, the Transcendentalists, and Thomas Merton. Just love this book. Each time I read it, new passages stand out. The first time, I knew nothing of Ivor Gurney, but now, after studying WW1 shell shock for the book I'm writing now, I understood him more. The opening quote from the Chinese hermit tradition sets the tone - My master went to gather herbs / He is still somewhere on the mountainside / So deep in the clouds I know not where.
Guess they seek comfort knowing we are laid back my mother always said misery loves company. But most people need to fix their problems. Not us. We can and do love them and help if it's a dire situation. Most get themselves in a mess and as someone said being stupid. We have a brain we need to use it. Some people I truly have very low tolerance for. Just plain stupid things they do.
I feel that when I socialize in a large setting, where tons of people are, I actually need time to recover from it afterward by being alone or with only one other person. this video resonates with me because I am comfortable with myself, which a lot of people I know aren’t. I have been told by people that they don’t like themselves, aren’t ok with their own thoughts, get bored easily etc. I can honestly say I don’t understand how anyone in this world who owns a smartphone could ever be bored. There’s always something to watch or read
I have to do the recovery time, too. It is physically and emotionally exhausting to spend time in larger group settings. I attribute it to tuning in to all the energy in the room.
I agree.. you can't mix low vibrations with high vibrations... They suck your energy to bring down your frequency. ENERGY VAMPIRES... even in crowded events, I find the quiet lonely place to protect my high vibrations. 🙏
I agree, but would not label myself as highly intelligent. I get so tired of inane conversations, people endlessly talking about themselves or others. I'd like conversations where I learn something new, not how their uncles brew beer. Every now and again I stay in the house for two or three days because I simply can't put up with people.
@@jeannetteviviers9851 yeah I don’t know if I would call myself highly intelligent either, but I’m also not low intelligence. I just agree with much of this
I've battled being alone since I was a child. I always felt - different. Awkward in social interactions and avoid them at all costs. I've made so many plans to do something with friends and ended up cancelling at the last minute as I just didn't want to go. The closer it got to go, the higher my anxiety. Now I'm retired and I love the fact that I don't have to go anywhere if I don't want to. I've lost friends because of this and it made me sad but I'm much more happier being alone working in the garden, taking care of my animals, reflecting on myself and mistakes I've made along the way so I can be a better person. I enjoy just sitting with a cup of coffee watching the flowers bloom and hearing the birds singing, this is my peace. I always thought that maybe I had a mental condition of sorts, a personality disorder of some kind. Thank you for this video! It made me realize that it's OK to be like this. I wouldn't say that I'm highly intelligent but it's nice to hear it! LOL
Hey, you are like my twin! I'm kinda socially awkward. Don't like groups and always have a different perspective and find few people that I can totally relate with. I have just retired and spend alot of time alone and gardening. When I still had my pets, they were everything to me. A highlight in my day is literally watching my plants and watching how the birds in my yard fly and play!
I completely agree. Social settings can be draining and pointless most of the time. Most of the times there's nothing objective to socialize about. I find that solitude recharges my energy more than any kind of socializing.
I loved working in groups when it came to managing IT projects. Very complex stuff. Lots of high IQ types involved with different areas of expertise. Those projects can be very difficult, but I was a natural at figuring things out and working with groups of different experts to solve tough problems. It was a lot of fun for me. These days I like to watch How the Universe Works videos. I love the topic and the passion that the scientists have for their work.
I have told family and friends in the past that I am not lonely, just because I am alone. I am content in my solitude. When I need to socialise I do, but don’t need other people around to be happy. As Jean-Paul Satre said “Hell is other people” and I have found that to be so true. Loving my own company keeps me sane.
It's hard to find common interest in conversation of science and intellectual topic's with family and friends as they are really not interested. The only things that we can discuss is normally sports. I love football and baseball and check out stats and facts everyday it's like I'm still in school for an hr. a day for sports. Then research another hour on my field of expertise and then work for seven hrs. sometimes more for our company. Then a couple of hours on entertainment TV. There are not enough hrs. in the day for me to meet all my objectives since I have aged. But I still know I love my family and took my grandson to his first MLB game and now giving him his first glove. Raising boys was fun and adventurist. I guess since I never had girls and now have a granddaughter I have to learn more. NEVER STOP LEARNING!!!
_"I have found little 'good' about human beings. In my experience, most of them are trash."_ -Sigmund Freud _“Earth is the insane asylum of the universe.”_ -Albert Einstein _"I love mankind; it's people I can't stand."_ -Charles Schulz
I've noticed, however, that more intelligent people also tend to deal with depression more often, but it's more existential. The state of the world, politics, human rights, and violence can cause more intelligent people to struggle with ways to solve these problems and/or cope with the issue, and if they cannot find a solution after what should be an acceptable amount of time, the anxiety and stress of the problem weighs on them and they have physical symptoms: insomnia, irritability, and often an inability to be tolerant of other people's bad behaviors.
They also have insight into how people and society as a whole are manipulated to look in the wrong direction when it comes to who to blame, and as to where the solution lies, which can strain relationships when what seems prima facie to them is invisible to others.
Oh my stars! No kidding! I could puke every time someone begins with “ so and so…”! I don’t care!! Talk about something real or don’t talk at all, simple!
It’s refreshing to hear that people who enjoy spending time alone are smart, rather than psychopathic! Society really gives loners a bad name and label.
I think it is because they are not smart enough to figure out that not everyone has to be like them. It is a very immature response to their own discomfort about the lifestyle.
@@gwens5093 Sounds like you not understanding that not everyone has to be like you and enjoy constant socializing and being immature about it. You insulted their intelligence then discredited and their way of living and feeling. You have plenty growing up to do yourself.
Same. I get so excited to go to family get togethers, then end up leaving a couple hours into it, when everyone else stays. It is draining to make small talk, keep fake smiling the whole time. I feel relieved and at peace when I get home.
We are high in introversion those of us like this. When you look for a mate, be sure to look for someone similar in this trait...extroverts will be frustrated leaving parties early etc they NEED that stimulation, we dont. I was with an extrovert who kept dragging me to things I didnt want to do. I love conversation, but only with intelligent thoughtful people and it is rare.
that s a wrong perspective you do not need validation from other you actually do not care.... the validation is within yourself and comes from the things you do!!!
When you’re alone you have a chance to listen to your higher self - your intuition - and that’s where ideas can come through like a light bulb turning on!
We are not better than others we just like our down time we need more than others. We don't like the hustle and bustle some others do..as one person posted we are tired of some annoying people. I also hate when I have to sit and listen to people who do not give one iota of care about me or my family or anything I go through and proof of this is as they say is in the pudding. Not one phone call no visits. And I've been at deaths door many times there is my answer .this is Why I love being a loner. My way to live my own life and be away and free from having to conform to their ways. Do as I please that's what I love about being a loner. Don't try to hurt others. Just answer for my self .love my time for my self. Most people do.too years out in the work field was accused of being on something was friendly happy .was not on drugs. Loved my job got a lot reward for it when others did not. I feel I've earned my.alone time. Working and longing so many years to be home. Love every minute of it. It's a jungle out there.
This felt like being seen for the first time in a while. Even as a child, I preferred being alone or with one good friend. That's my husband, now. I found lockdown to be so comfortable, and quiet. I know lots of people were anxious, bored, lonely, depressed and I couldn't relate. So much fullness in life comes from solitude and I can't imagine being bored, honestly.
Idk if your a believer but I truly believe a lot of people reconnected with GOD and some for the first time. It's much, much easier to hear the voice of I AM THAT I AM in a calm, peaceful, quite environment.
Same. Im an only child and have one child. I tend to attract social ppl tho and they dont understand my homebody nature because they met me out once. Smh im heavy on leave me alone
I agree. I always have preferred being alone and just despise large crowds. Ironically, for decades I’ve played guitar in bands in front of large crowds and that’s one of the most satisfying things I’ve done. But I was never into the after-parties. Once the show’s over, I’m gone. Back to my studio to work on more music until the wee hours. Alone. My “social life” is 8 hours with co-workers and that’s about all the social interaction I can tolerate every day. Maybe a few beers with a couple guys after work, but I secretly just want to go home and read a book or do my arts. Every sport I’ve been into was an individual sport. Surfing, fishing, hangliding, martial arts, hiking, camping, etc. Never been on any “team”. If I “win” at what I’m doing, I earned all the credit. If I “lose” at what I’m doing, I’m solely responsible for that. I’ve had a few surfing partners and fishing partners and partners who shared a common interest but we are still individuals in it. My idea of company, involves one other person. The old, “Two’s company, three’s a crowd” philosophy. My girlfriends have always liked my style in that all my attention is saved for them. I don’t get distracted by other people and don’t like social gatherings, so there’s nothing but eachother to share. I’m sure you’ve had friends call and ask what you’re doing, and you say “nothing” and they feel sorry for how bored you must be and want to come over. Nope. I’m never bored when I’m alone. I get bored of other people very quickly though.
@@Prez-s9d It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
@@Prez-s9d It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
I don't consider myself to be highly intelligent, but I relate to a lot of these points. I like my space, my quiet, time to do my own things and focus on my hobbies and needs. I can just get up and travel or go where ever when ever, and I love that freedom.
I can relate to this. As a mother Even when my children were younger at the end of the day I just had to have my quiet time to be by myself and connect with my true self.
Back in 1993 people flipped out that I went to Australia by myself. Believe me, I had a blast. I didn't have to argue with someone on what to do on a certain day.
@@jefffuller9918 I need my alone time, but don’t like traveling alone. I thinks it’s more of a security thing with me though; I don’t always feel safe alone. I imagine that might not be such an issue with men though.
I love being alone, it's so incredibly freeing. And when I'm with friends, while I enjoy their company, I look forward to coming home and enjoying my own time. I don't understand how people need to be in the company of others almost constantly, it's really weird to me, and honestly seems unhealthy. I'm incredibly grateful to enjoy my happy freedom to be alone whenever I want to, which is often.
Agreed. I find that I'm happiest with my own company and really only associate with people when absolutely necessary. I am rarely ever bored. I love to read alot too.
@@littleaussierippa Have you ever seen “When Harry Met Sally?” I’m the female version of Billy Crystal in bed having his leg touching the floor wondering how soon he can leave!
It’s cool you enjoy being alone but that doesn’t render another that likes companionship as unhealthy and weird. Introverts are more sensitive to dopamine. Extroverts have more dopamine receptors. When we engage with another human we release dopamine.
I’ve always fealt that if people saw how I did things they’d think I was odd! Simply because I’m a perfectionist and most people don’t think at that level
This speaks to my soul, I wish the overwhelming majority wouldn't let their insecurities harass, ridicule, and terrorized intelligent ppl and let them live a life of quiet dignity🙏🏽
Agree 100%. Intelligent people are usually less impulsive, thoughtful, weighing out the ramifications of their decisions/actions before coming to conclusions. And to do that, you need lots of “me time.“ I love my own thing, my own routines, and my own company. I’m comfortable in my solitude. Great video, thanks.
It's often mentioned that such individuals are more prone to depression from being able to work out clear solutions to world problems, but finding human incompetence or ego at every institution. The best thing you can do, which you've probably already done, is explore your own ego and crawl through broken glass to keep it from developing vain self-importance. Peace is just around the corner of self-deprecating humor.
But living with others is a skill; if you don’t practice it you can become irritable and more impulsive if they come around. I guess the key is to be with high quality people
Agreed. It's interesting to me that so many intellectuals are chess players, which requires a lot of thought to create a winning strategy and to implement it against a strong opponent.
Being alone allows you to make all the mistakes you need to make in order to fulfill your purpose well without anyone carping about them. It doesn’t matter what your purpose is; what is important is that you have one. Purpose allows you to overcome loss, sadness,, disappointment, even death. For an old person, just making your bed and watering your plants can be a purpose. Being alone allows you to fulfill that purpose at your own pace, to reflect upon what you are doing, and to learn who you really are if you are honest with yourself. There is no way you can buy this freedom. It is not for sale.
I agree, I live alone, cooking different types of food, I can experiment with seasoning of my food that I enjoy. I don't care for going out to restaurants like I use to. When I was in my 20s I depended others for cooking not now. Freedom is great!!
As humans we're not abandoned with the soul responsibility of making a purpose of life , the creator, the almighty God himself has already designed a purpose for us , and identifying such purpose and living on it is sufficient for maximum peace of mind . We're not just created for no reason. And the result of sticking to our purpose is way beyond this world we are living.
I’ve wondered for the longest time why I wasn’t like most of my friends. I’ve tried to be more involved with others, be more extroverted but ultimately it was too exhausting trying to be someone I’m not. These days, I’m just comfortable in my own company , doing things at my own pace and enjoying myself. Never been happier. ✌🏻
I fit into this category. My motto is "better to be alone than in bad company." I have friends but can only handle contact in moderation. Too many social commitments at a given time is a real drag for me.
When I was a boy, I once overheard my grandmother describe me as "always been a loner." She said it in a disparaging tone, as though it was a character flaw. I wish she could have seen this video.
My Gma used to tell everyone the same shit about me but she would say it in a bragging manner. She would say, “he likes to be alone leave him alone he doesn’t like a lot of noise.” It’s weird cuz that’s exactly how I am. Don’t feel bad, she just had trouble with communicating bro.
It’s definitely not a flaw ! People can get uncomfortable being around people who are sure of themselves . My own mother gripes about me wanting to be less social then most people . She would say some negative things about me . Which is not true . I’m just happier this way , I don’t need attention , I don’t care what people think of me . I’m sure of myself and that’s all that matters for me .
I love being alone because I get frustrated if I have to deal with people for too long especially if they keep interrupting my thoughts. I feel I'm at my best and get the most done when I'm alone especially at night. Great video, thanks!
I don't consider myself highly intelligent but this list describes myself. I like to socialize occasionally with just a few good friends or family members. I prefer to be by myself especially at work cause it's rare to find co-workers who are sincere and supportive.
Those who consider themselves highly intelligent , usually aren’t ; they are just trying to validate their importance. Those who belittle others, want to make themselves look superior. Intelligent people don’t feel the need to do that or boast . YOU show ALL the signs of someone with great intelligence and self worth.
@@kalintini yes, Elon musk does and so Bill gate , mark zuckerbergand zeff bezo , to name a few They think they are the smartest and they really are. When people are smart they know they are and proud of themselves. Some say it out some remain quiet
You are smart and so many others. That's the common traits of smart people. Smart doesn't need to have a degree. Any class in society can be smart without highly educated. It's in the brain and Gene
@@Hippy2021 Actually @krnvalentini is right.. There are people who do learn something new and insightful then think they're so smart but still ignorant the vastness of knowledge they don't know. It becomes very humbling the more you realize this. That's why people who "others" consider as smart just don't care enough about being smart to boast it because it's so childish. Sometimes "rich" people say smart things just to point out the faulty or difference in thinking of the other party, it depends on their political agenda regardless if they are truly smart or not. But Elon (for example) himself says he has to work hard just to not to be wrong. So he does have some credit albeit I think it's a bit overhyped.
In general, there's a correlation with how intelligent people are and how self-sufficient they are. This includes being emotionally self-sufficient, which is tied to being self-validating. Integrated into this makeup is their greater ability to govern their emotions, which keeps their intellect-led thinking elevated and decreases the probability of a decision being made based on emotion-led thinking.
you generally know. lol. reading all the time, reading LONG Novellas, making the most thoughtful objective replies and comments, early on grades, becoming the star within your work requirements, being able to hold a conversation with someone about objective matter such as law, politics, social or cultural problems. To name a few of the things that you can usually point out quite easily. but you are right, generally speaking, its hard to tell now a days, not much out there to allow us to prove or show this.
I enjoyed this, and laughed out loud at the sleep cycles one. I love staying up late and sleep in and also nap during the day. At night it is quiet and I can read and think and be undisturbed, uninterrupted. I think one thing the video was perhaps too polite to mention is that a lot of social interaction is simply not interesting, or mentally stimulating. People talk about their mundane lives, what they like and dislike, and a lot of it seems designed to enhance their ego. Also, you can have a very rich and active inner life that is largely non-verbal, and people talking talking talking can be a bit mind numbing and exhausting.
Definitely. A favorite past time of my Wife and myself may seem weird to some and not to others On some warm or slightly cool nights we like to take a blanket out into the back yard and place it by the lake. We'll stretch out and enjoy a close cuddle while talking about anything or nothing at all, or just enjoying the peaceful sounds of nature. And on occasion we will laugh at ourselves if we just happen to nod off and are awakened by the rising sun all covered in morning dew. That's what we call relaxation.
At work, i get criticized for trying to find a quiet place to read at lunchtime. But it is so draining to sit in a room of people talking about the latest episode of 'the Bachelor' or some other useless TV show, or gossiping about other coworkers.
I feel that a large percentage of the population uses about half or more of their brain filling it up with what I call social knowledge. Detail after detail of everyone in their lives and how they interact with them etc. etc. Rather than actually using their brains to learn useful information for actually accomplishing something, moving forward in their lives, educating themselves, becoming an expert in one or more things. Or just to be interesting people to talk to about subjects of substance. If I am around such people I get bored really quickly. Yes some social skills are necessary, but people of average or below average intelligence tend to stay in that frame since that is about all they can really process. I don't thumb my nose down at them like I am some superior human being, because being contemplative I am well aware of my flaws, but I am just on a different level and it is easier to cope being alone. On a few side notes, I don't like people making rash judgments about me just by looking at me or interacting with me, without them really having a clue what is going on inside of me, in my body in terms of health, in my mind, in my heart, in my soul. I am the result of a very unique set of experiences that have made me in some ways how I am, and they really don't have a clue. They don't have any past frame of reference to "figure me out" because they have never met anyone like me, not even close. I also absolutely don't like people telling me what to do. Or what to say or not. And yes, I do most of my best thinking late at night, and get up late and nap during the day, now that I am retired and don't have to keep a day job schedule. Was also that way in college.
It’s actually refreshing and revealing to see myself described so accurately in this video. I don’t feel any more or less “ intelligent” than anyone else, though. I just see the world a bit differently than others, I think. Maybe more than a bit, actually. And ironically, I don’t feel like a loner. I really do love people, just as this video describes. The reading part of this video had me laughing, as that is definitely “me”, also. Also, there’s zero ego in what I just wrote. I am just comfortable being me.
Love being alone. People have constant self-drama they create, and are in denial of that self-creation. Majority are not intelligent with repeating same situations and expecting a different result. They are exhausting. Prefer peace and serenity.
Absolutely. That and as the video said, it seems modern society is obsessed with social acceptance. Going out of their way to make everybody like them. Whereas, I truthfully could care less and I was like that as a kid. I’d much rather have a few good friends then a ton of drama from a bunch of them.
I have been alone pretty much all my life...parents that were best avoided, a workaholic husband who was rarely home, self employed, traveled solo for 5-7 months...I always had lots of projects, put myself through University rather than socializes with housewives. I qualified for Mensa but didn't join. I live in Mexico and have joined into groups to meet people but most just aren't worth spending much time with. I much prefer my own company; the internet offers unlimited research into everything. Being able to live alone is actually very productive.
"No man is an island." I sincerely believe so. I value the presence of my family,friends and "foe". Their presence "grind" me from my "callous" behaviour, I learn from them and with them. I value their presence. I try to live a harmonious life with them, specially my own personal family.
I think there are 2 things at play here. Intelligence and maturity. At my younger age, I liked to be with friends a lot. But in the last 1/3 of my life, I embrace solitude. I still enjoy others, but have solid boundaries where I did not when I was younger. So I guess there are two ways to view this. I don’t consider myself intelligent, just smart and mature.
I get your point, but in my opinion, maturity and intelligence are not two distinctive topics, as you suggest. I think they go hand in hand. Intelligence grows as you mature. It has to do with the connections in your brains. If you decide to give your mind good input, your brains will grow and that makes you both more mature and intelligent. On the other hand, if you feed your brains with mind numbing material such as soap series on tv, that will kill your brains and you start acting more and more like a baby, only responding on your circumstances without reflection, and your intelligence will drop overtime.
I couldn't have said it better myself! Maturity and boundaries bring security within yourself; I wish it hadn't taken me so many years of strife to reach that place of peace--God helped me get there!
It has taken me a lifetime to accept that I am different. When I was younger, I used to try to work with groups but it is frustrating to see that the group may not see all the issues of their action. I would then have to walk away. It has been useful to see other points of view and so long as I have highlighted the possible flaws in thinking it is easier to leave the group to learn from experience. Time is a great educator which has taught me to be confident in taking different courses of action.
I can relate to this very strongly. Even as a teenager I just preferred my own company. I found that my mates just were not thinking on the same level as myself and I don't intend for that to come off as condescending. My interests were always seeking KNOWLEDGE and soaking up as much information as possible. I'm a reader. I LOVE reading and Art, history etc.... I found that most people I've come across just don't seem to have nothing in terms of conversation that stimulates me. I only related to adults as a boy because they had a wealth of knowledge, experience and wisdom to impart. And now as a man I'm grateful for that. I never feel lonely because I'm quite fine with enjoying a good book and outdoor activities . Not anti social ( I have a lady friend) but very selective with whom I interact. And let's face it, in today's society a lot of people just bring too much negative vibes and baggage.
100% Accuracy and truth. You literally just perfectly explained me...I am so misunderstood by family, friends and co-workers and this video literally described every aspect of my being in 6 minutes. Wow.
@@leihejun844 Me too--... never bored ... i want be alone most times ... and early morning is best part of day... just nature, woods and birds,,, This is wonderful life,
Don't worry, 99% of the people in this world feel like you each time they watch this type of video. And most of them are stubburn, not very bright, boring and bored. If you have friends, it means that you are understood by someone. And family issues are extremely common on this planet...
The number 1 benefit of being a night owl is how quiet, calm, and relaxed you can be at your peak alertness time. The fact that you are not going to be bothered by anyone and the only ones who could potentially try to reach you are like minded people who are very likely to understand your methods is just incredible. Every other point on the list is spot on, just wanted to make a point about this particular mattter.
@@tans3015 it’s very easy to change that verb to highly sensitive people .. can anybody give me a definitive answer to what is intelligence . Having to lump myself into high intelligence to comment favourably on this video is a mistake .. but I’m sure it was done with intention .
@@OOICU812 sure, but early risers will be under pressure to get their productive day started, shower, get ready, so once the world is going they're ready to join. As a night owl your only concern is when you go to sleep.
I fit into all of these traits - I just wish that I could encounter more like me. Too many people that I come into contact with are dolts.....even my family members. Every one thought that I was weird (when I was a kid) because I would sit and read everything on the cereal box when I was eating breakfast - that is where it all started. I now read almost everything I encounter. Later, during my working years, I found the job as a long-haul trucker, gave me the quiet and solitude that suited me very well. Additionally, the adventure of being someplace different every day was good. I am now retired and live alone - in the country - away from people and noise.
I damn near chose the life of a rig-pig...I started out with long hauling horses 🐎 but then opportunity to set n live on rolling horse breeding farm pulled me another way, glad to hear ur life has been successful with what u mostly wanted...we r lucky few eh!?!!
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I am a loner by nature and at school i was called anti social because i was spending time alone ,plus that my parents were never pleased with my report cards because i wasn't an excellent student ,apart from the subjects i was really interested in. I have to admit that i relate to all those characteristics and this video changes the spectrum i look myself in . Thank you so much!
Ya I can relate to what you are saying. I was told the same thing about being anti-social in school. Hell even now I'm a huge anti-social person. But there are things influencing that now. I was called a "Hermit" or a "Loner" as a child and as a teen. Because I decided to take on friends I met some really horrible people in the process. These people interfered with everything from "what I planned to do" to physical activities. The reason they were horrible was that they were also the people ganging up on me and beating me down. So I grabbed on to the purpose of bulking up so everyone would leave me alone again. I can't say everyone was horrible because I met a family who treated me like one of their own. It taught me about real friendship, real respect and real brotherhood.
Same here! I have too many interests to care about things that don't interest me, and that was a big problem in school, and in a social life where people expect you to listen to endless chit-chat about nothing.
I was like that with classes in high school. I actually dropped out in 9th grade. I got my GED 3 months later, 5 years after that I had my BSN ( bachelor in nursing) and my BA in chemistry. I was labeled learning disabled. I actually have dyslexia. I'm not learning disabled, I just learn differently. I believe if you really want it, people will help you get there!
@@cassandramalvasia3629 It's not easy when you're younger. Adults and peers are so quick to tell you what's "wrong" with you, I think in reality you haven't figured yourself out yet and you think differently than most. I told my kids when they were growing up that's what made them exceptional!
So true on all of this, and also I would rather be alone than with most people because they are just not at the level of thinking as I am and it becomes very frustrating when you can't communicate with like minded people. When a topic is being talked about that you know very well and they just don't know much about, and you try to tell them the truth, they get offended. So most of the time I stay quiet when people are talking out their ass. it's very frustrating, ...I'd rather be alone and not have to deal with it.
I so wish I could stay quiet. It would have saved me a lot of grief. When people never get things that are absolutely obvious to me I get sooo annoyed. And, I get annoyed because this happens all the time. I don't know anyone who's on my so called "level of thinking" so I'm always frustrated. Makes me want to be alone so I don't have do deal with unnessessary drama. The endless dramas that people pull me into drains me of all energy and it's such a waste of precious time.
In Utah, there were actually people I could Talk to on the same level. I made a huge mistake and moved to southern Indiana. You can hear crickets in attempted conversations. I have to get out of here.
@@jonsobieralski6053 After all these years I still talk too much. People really don't care what I have to say for the most part. Because they like to stay in surface thinking and if I am trying to delve deeper into a subject they just get annoyed. Better to just shut up.
As a fairly intelligent person myself, who also actively engages with the world, perhaps I can add some perspective. Oftentimes intelligent people are extremely pedantic, and to others, your theoretical book knowledge doesn't hold much value. When you pontificate endlessly about a subject that you've "read everything there is to read" on the subject, but have never experienced the reality of that subject firsthand, you're really just a know-it-all, and that annoys people. Most people don't want to be corrected and instructed unless asked for . That's a fairly one-sided conversation. In short, a gathering of written things remembered does not constitute knowledge. Knowledge only truly come through experience.
I've chosen a life of quality over quantity...has been my saving grace thru out my life...n I was lucky to have successful career with animal husbandry...most of them r capable of unconditional love...once u experience that...u never go back to settling for anything less!?!!
I don't consider myself an intelligent person, but I did all the things mentioned. As I grew older, I realized that I am different from others. I studied subjects considered difficult by most people but to me it's easy and fascinating.
I don’t consider myself intelligent either…always felt out of step with everyone else but didn’t mind… so many things in this video describe me. Small circle friends, loves quiet and solitude, reading. Thanks for this
I prefer being alone because so many people are negative, self-absorbed drama queens that think nothing of dominating every conversation. What many people really want is someone to just listen to them talk. Usually, about things that are no where near as horrible as they make them out to be. I find it energizing talking with intelligent people that know how to have an actual two-way conversation, but it’s exhausting and frustrating being stuck in a situation having to listen to someone blather incessantly about insignificant drivel or problems that they likely created themselves that they have no intention of resolving. It sucks all the energy out of me and makes me sad to know that they care so little about me that they won’t allow me to say anything without interrupting and making everything about themselves. I don’t talk a lot, but if I am talking, it’s about something important to me. When the other person interrupts me to change the subject to themselves, it’s really hurtful.
I totally agree. I thought it was me but you made me realize that it's not. You made me realize that it does hurt. I kept feeling angry actually every time someone would just interrup t me never finish explaining anything to them. By the time that I was able to explain anything to conversation was so so long long to think that they were that they would tell me I have to go now. I felt like they could care less about what I have to say. Me learn so it made me learn made me learn so it made me learn that no matter what I talked about to somebody whether we had a problem or we had to talk about something else, they could give a rats ass about it. I thought it's too much energy I'd rather just ride to my damn letter and if they don't like it they can tell me or if they appreciate it they can tell me they don't, but I simply just got tired of trying to explain myself and not be listened to. It's nice to talk to share this with someone like you because nobody understands it because they're all like that. Thank you for helping me feel better God bless you. 🥰
This hits home on every account. I just wish more people would understand this..because I constantly feel like I have to defend myself to others..when I don't feel like interacting or basically participating in group activities. I am a loyal friend, but I resent having to explain myself, and being pressured to participate, when spending time alone is a part of who I am as a person, and literally something I need, like I need oxygen to breathe..being alone is freeing to my soul.
Exactly. I'm happier and have more peace in my life as never before was always worrying about what others.thought or feeling less approval am free now to do as I pretty much please those who made me feel like that are gone out of my life for good folks I call this sweet liberty. I am a night person in these my sunset years. And can sleep in as long as I like. Freedom sweet freedom. Wasn't always loved by many but am a free person now. Hope many others can find their peace too
I agree with almost everything mentioned here. Yes, I am a loner, and I thoroughly enjoy my life. I guess I am as intelligent as the next guy but my advice to people is to live in the moment, don't grasp and clutch at things in life, just be in the moment because that's all we have, this present moment!
I am Kenyan young man, I like being alone to the point other thinks I am crazy, but as you say I rarely don't care because I am validated by what I do in private like reading philosophy, watching documentaries, and seeking enlightenment like crazy!
This is me. I like to be alone because i can do things perfectly without distraction. For me, there is a time for socialization but for a limited time only. Going out with friends to shop is a no no for me. I can finish everything on time when i am alone. Time is very precious to me.
Oh my God that's exactly the way that I feel. I have a friend who likes to see me at every week and wants to go out and eat and shop and it's like hello I don't have enough money to be freaking eating all the time I got better things to do than going out shopping all the time and I've got a lot of things to accomplish. Man there's so many comments here that I so appreciate thank you so much. I thought I was the only one that felt this way. Boy this is such a relief thank you. 💖
I absolutely hate shopping with other people and unfortunately that seems to be what most women want to do. I even write out my grocery list from order encountered at the store so that I can get in and get out. I wish there were more women like me. I find most of them to be gossipy, shallow & materialistic.
I have always been the lone wolf, outsider, doing everything differently, especially thinking much differently, resisting being dragged down and back by the pack. I stay very busy and do the entire process of everything totally on my own. This video I found to be very soothing, reassuring, and comforting on many levels. It also gave me hope that there are others out there, similar to myself. A part of me does hope that many people might see this video and think of me. So that they can understand me more, and struggle to define me less. I am grateful for the opportunity to write about these things, not intending to be egotistical at all, because I do feel that I have a lot less ego or desire for self benefit than most. Together we make a balance, although I do feel outnumbered to be honest.
Great comment! The society tend to applaud people who loves being social at all times. No wonder we feel like an outsider when we love spending time alone.. Be proud of yourself 👍
@@sigrid3553 Thank You so much Sigrid😁 Self worth and pride are things I have always struggled to understand or achieve, but after reading your comment I really do feel that it's now time to embrace that. I will always remember your comment, above all my other memories of so many things, because it pushed a button I didn't know was there. Best Wishes to You😁
I agree totally Maturity is accepting yourself as you are be happy with yourself Praise from other people may boost your ego but real happiness comes from within The joy of challenging yourself and getting is done is indescribable
This nailed me on every point! Each point kept shocking me, and when the one about late nights came up, I could’ve been blown down. I always have done my most surprising work like between midnight and maybe 3 or 4 am. Many of my very best papers in grad school were filled with things I came up with not during an evening, but in the early morning hours while everyone else is sleeping.
When you are very intelligent, statistically there is a higher probability to be in the presence of less intelligent people. There is little reward in such company, better be alone. However intelligent people are eager to engage with other intelligent people.
Absolutely! All the so-called "friends" I had yakked too much, were less intelligent, and turned out to be users anyway. No wonder I cannot connect with most women. Both my husband and I met & married later in life, which is just fine; less pressure from others to have children (too much anymore). We pamper each other & our cat. Ideal situation for us...
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
It's not so much I want to be a loner, I have to be. I do not belong in this world. I'm an intelligent person who's forced to live in a stupid world. I've had the police called on me over innocent misunderstandings. I'm seen as a social misfit and people make fun of me. People do not understand my sense of humor. People are scared of me because I'm smarter than they are. Most of all, I cannot fit in with everybody else, because in various situations, nobody understands where I'm coming from or my ways of looking at things. Women shy away from me, too. My so-called father Herb was jealous of me, because I was smarter than he was. Teachers in school paddled me left and right
Spot on list! Bravo! Brava! 90% of everything is junk and 80% of people are NOT worth spending more than a few minutes with. The happy people are NOT running around with crowds filling up time because their heads are empty. Happy and intelligent people are doing, doing alone, and enjoying their own company, and not wasting their short lives with the nonsense with the majority of simple pedestrians.
I love your channel also, your video describes me to a tee. I'm not beating My Own Drum I'm just stating facts. As a child I read the whole science encyclopedia set, the dictionary, and many many other books. I would stay alone and read instead of hanging out with too many friends. I did have some friends when I was twelve but as I grew I came to be a loner. After I got out of the army which I was in radio repair in electronics, I got into electrical house wire installation, and then went into air conditioning and HVAC and apartment maintenance. I was better at my job then any of the others, I did not have a helper I took care of everything myself. I wasn't rich, but I was happy. I felt fulfilled and satisfied in what I did, I was providing a needed service and that I was appreciated. Now that I am retired, I do sleep most of the day and stay up most of the night till morning. It is my best hours for thinking and contemplating on life and God. Thank you for your video and God bless you and all others who read this.
Yes, I most certainly do like spending more time by myself! I find average people's perspective on things somewhat naive and incomplete. In addition, I was raised in hyper intelligent family and taught manners and respect. I go CRAZY with people who are crude and insensitive. Getting much older now, I find myself wanting to learn more as my mobility has decreased and spend lots of time reading news, viewing documentaries and things on TH-cam and other streaming media. I'm always thrilled when I do learn something new. It doesn't really matter what others think of what I do, only that I approve of it. As I've gotten older I'm far more compassionate than I used to be, but really get angry when someone is cruel and insensitive to others! Excellent video guys, it describes me perfectly!
Great Video! I found myself smiling at everything that was said and relating to it. One thing that wasn't mentioned, when you're alone, you're avoiding the massive amount of ignorance out there on this messed up planet.
I literally picked up the phone and called someone I have almost constant miscommunication with and was like "Oh I know what the problem is I'm an intelligent person!" They fell silent. Do you think he took as an insult? Its hard being intelligent AND HONEST 😔
sensory overload keeps me away from exploring the self. observer . seeing , learning. not able to ignore or hate someone/thing anymore. very often this is pretty hard work to do. i will learn to stay in love with beings i encounter. i need to reflect before i start to interact. i feel responsible. self responsible.
@@RealiTeaRewind If you have to ask that question then you aren't very intelligent. You just insulted your best friend with your arrogance, implying that he isn't as intelligent as you, and came off as a conceited jerk. You should call them back and apologize.
"Solitude helps them understand others" I am 100 percent in tune with all the 9 reasons you presented but this one really hits me hard and I believe it is one the most misunderstood traits of people who are loners, people on the other side tend to think that they are anti-social or something like that, but in reality they are loners not because they hate being in groups but because of the fact that " birds of the same feathers flock together " but they are rare species and vibrates in totally different frequency with the COMMONS.
Rare species indeed - I don't know ANYone else who appreciates my need for 'down time'. I've lost count of the many people who react to my revealing that to persistent 'visitors' with indignity. "Well then! I'll just cut you off completely," and they disappear. OK.
@@tans3015 he probly attracts people, for some it is difficult to get down time, without pissing off some of them for explaining it to them. Am i smart??
The hardest part is knowing you’re way more intelligent (in a incomprehensible way; a lot of it is intuition that can’t be explained) and in tune than others but can’t express that as the reason why. So, it’s like this common cycle of you being comfortable being you then since you’re so different you even began to question how intelligent you really are or are you just blowing smoke or crazy. It’s a crazy life.
I think you hit it on the head. It’s not so much that I like to be alone but more of the fact that I don’t find much in common with the average person. In grad school, I really enjoyed working with my equals to work out problems, I was always amazed how different life experiences allowed my peers to approach problems from different angles. Outside an environment where everyone had an IQ of at least 120, I feel like people think in slow motion and it quickly becomes let’s say less interesting.
This is so true. People with mediocre intellectual capacity can never handle being by themselves. I personally spend 95% of my time alone... by choice.
LOL, I see you consider yourself highly intelligent, even more so than others. Interesting. Intelligent people actually recognize the intelligence in others and respects that. Lack of knowledge isn't lack of intelligence.
I've arranged my life so that when I want to be around others, I can and when I want to be by myself (which is also 95% of the time), I can do that too. My own peace of mind is the most important thing to me. _"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."_ -Agnes Repplier
@@tans3015- Generally, I’ve found that the more I learn, the more I realize how little I know... That’s why being social is important, to a degree. Otherwise, the more one studies and learns, it can create feelings of agitation and frustration. The Duke of Talleyrand described it most eloquently: *”When I examine myself, I worry. When I compare myself... I am assured.”* *- Charles-Maurice de Talleyrand-Périgord*
I too have always been a loner. I don’t have a need for anyone so don’t bother with people. I would go as far as to say that the past few years of the pandemic haven’t affected me as much as most people. I am very strong without company.
I have found that loneliness is when I've had too much of my own company and crave the companionship of others. Then I end up working around a bunch of people I enjoy interacting with and come home at the end of the day to blissful solitude. I both want to be alone and to be able to meet the right kinds of people that I can talk to. The past two years of this pandemic have left me feeling as if I've forgotten how to have long conversations with other human beings.
The feeling you have about being with people again is very common. Lots of us are feeling we have forgotten how to be with people and are like shy children again. I’m assured it will pass and I hope you will recover from it soon too!
I have lived alone for 6 years now and I love it. On one side it makes me more sensitive/empathic to people I meet but it also relieves me from having to bear the stupidity of people on a daily basis, I have my refuge. I live in a huge mansion with my dog and thousands of books, no TV but a garden. I am not on social media either. Even as a child I was always alone, no friends. I spent my time exploring old estates, walking in the woods, sitting by the river watching the fish jump or lying in the garden studying the stars. I have never felt alone or lonely. When I worked I was head of a large department or in charge of setting up one and had many people to deal with and I don't miss that. I retired when I had one more idiot boss too many and didn't want my final working years to be in conflict.
@Nancy Hollo The only thing that could scare me is my lack of fear ! What's to be scared of ? Emptyness? The only times I've felt alone was in two relationships.
I totally agree. I taught school for 37 yrs and I often would see students who were very bright have many of these traits! It’s so important for other to understand and be informed with these characteristics to respect the quiet one.
did it work when you told a thicko to respect the quiet one reading a book? i suspect that within minutes the quiet one would be holding to two torn halves of a book, wondering 'what happened?'
I relate to this story. My classmate ( Valedictorian) in HS would answer why he didn't talk much as he had nothing of value to add to the conversation it's best to listen... when speaking your ears are closed. I understood what he meant as I really thought about that statement and it made sense.
you don't have to be the quiet one to be introverted and prefer solitude; it always irritates me a bit when people consider introverts as some shy & quiet wall flowers in the corner; it's more the matter of how much (or how little) social interaction i need and/or am willing to take at one go;)
This all makes a lot of sense. We are wired to be social creatures but, as I suspect is the case for many introverts like me, the key is balance. I can't be around people all the time any more than I want to be alone all the time. People and social situations can be mentally exhausting. While I was a painfully shy (and highly intelligent) kid, I was always lonely. Becoming an adult, I realized I needed to be more extroverted to get what I wanted out of life. Now, as an older adult, being alone much of the time does not bother me like it used to. I have recently befriended an introverted person. I quickly learned that she is not rejecting or avoiding me, as much as she needs and cherishes her alone time. So it seems the key to this relationship being successful is my respect for letting her have her personal space, even though I would like to spend more time with her. We both cherish the time we spend together, but we are developing the right balance.
I left work as an airline pilot to become a corporate pilot where I was the only one in the cockpit. Many of the points raised here sure apply to me. I'm not totally antisocial but I just work better on my own.
I appreciate that. I've not been considered for jobs because I've been a little too honest in interviews. I can be a 'team player' ( perhaps better than those that boast about the fact) but I've categorically stated I am far more effective, efficient and productive working in isolation. The hierarchy appear to perceive that as a character deficit in contemporary times.
I agree 100% with all being said. I don't miss being around friends and not afraid of being alone most of the time, I enjoy learning languages and reading in different languages, it's become my passion. Solitude has become my best friend and love the fact that I get to do things I wouldn't be able to do around friends.
Exactly others are the controllers we have to go with their plans. Love people love my family but love my home it's my hiding place. I get closer to God in these times. We get too busy for him at times. How can I hear that soft voice if I am in chaos at times.we need to be still at times. I think.
When I am alone I feel free to truly be myself. I don’t have to answer or adjust to anyone. I dance, paint, ponder, and exist. I find that I can experience the world more without the distraction of others. I see, hear, feel, taste, smell more, I can pay attention to the world around me and go deeper than the surface level existence. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends, family, and colleagues that I interact with and enjoy, but ultimately, I prefer to be alone.
I love solitude. When I bought my first house and lived on my own for the first time at 26 I realised just how much I hated noise and chatter!! I come from a very loud, chatty, argumentative family, and as I’ve got older I’ve got less and less able to be around them all for long periods. Just drains me. Love my dogs though❤️ They are perfect company
I absolutely agree and relate to this. For instance, I've never understood how people get "lonely". I've often found that this comes across as "odd" to most others. I've always preferred to be alone, as I enjoy contemplation. Yes, I do value family and friendships, but I've always been the sort to "love from a distance", in both cases.
Me to. Only one time when I mess up whith medication I feeled wery alone and dark skeard. If a Dr give me anything agen I dont take it. If it is not very importent and good for me for shore. Sorry about my bad English writing.
Most people don't read or think, so they get anxious by themselves. Me I have good music and a good book or creative project and I am content. I like spending time with my dog she is good company but I can also read and create with her around.
I love my alone time and always knew I was basically a genius, so this is just the confirmation I needed. I'm going to share this with all my friends and family so they can eliminate any doubt about exactly how smart I am. Super smart!!
This has answered a number of questions for me.I am so tired being around people.for the last twenty years I love just being on my own.lockdown was heaven in my eyes.😃
I didn’t mind the lockdowns either. I still went to work every day but I had an excuse for not socializing. I still can’t fly or travel on public transit but that’s okay
Same here, I had family members going nuts cause they wanted to get out and do stuff, I live alone and it was heaven for me as well. Retirement is going to suit me just fine.
When I was a little girl I was really quiet. While others were having conversation I listened and observed. I do believe that this is the reason that i was able to develop my intuition to the next level. During my childhood I didn't feel lonely but often had the feeling that "they" were "different". Like "aliens" to me. Weird thing.. now I have grown older I still hold that "perception".
@@michaelmcanally2406 Same. But here is the quirky one: Basically now and then you really need friends. Especially when *hit hits the fan and you need run to your old ones, the ones you grew up with and proved to be stayers or other stayers after years of trial. Those are friends you no need or want socialize with on the average day but only on occasions and now and then. Still you can pick up a conversation, despite it was years since last time, like it was yesterday. And they stand up and YOU stand up for them. They are hard to find but the key is whenever you meet someone, whoever it is, be NICE. It doesn't mean you mandatory need put them on your "daily bread". If you move around a lot, you're kinda doomed. If you stayed nuff time.. i.e. 5-10 years in one place, you can make one or three keepers. I have no time fluff shallow everyday life "social" blah-blah or interest in so. Am I a "highly intelligent person"? Neh.. Me score was 136 twice. Make me neither a true "eejit" or a MENSA candidate but smart nuff. I'm a lone wolf, maybe not so lone after all. And VERY happy as single. :)
The key is learning to accept and enjoy your own company. Being introverted and preferring to be alone but feeling overwhelming emptiness and restlessness as a side effective is something that needs to be overcame
I prefer being alone due to the fact that many people's everyday conversations bore me to death, I'm always in awe as to how people find the topics they choose to converse on interesting. It's mind boggling at best!!!
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After a few minutes of listening to the truly small talk others find so entertaining, I’m cringing inside and find an excuse to get away. Sometimes it actually feels mentally painful to listen.
Or just A-hole lol. Before you go all ballistic on me stop typing lol. I’m a choose solitude person and you correct in that I am not anti-social. I really don’t like large groups of people especially crowds. I have a minor panic attack. I feel like I’m drowning. And if the group or crowd is all bunched up and touching me then I do freak out. And I’m never sure whether I’m going to whimper and almost cry or blink rapidly and have a sort of siezure and pass out. Last time it happened I am told
@@prepperjonpnw6482 The condition you described for yourself is actually a medical condition. It is an anxiety disorder, in Psychiatric term known as “ Social Phobia”, which is actually quite manageable with proper medications. There is no need to suffer these panic attacks.
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IDK if I'm intelligent, but I love being alone. I totally agree with the 9 reasons 100%. Every reason you gave for being alone is why I love being alone. I love my family and friends but I need my alone time. It's a must. I also have just so many words to use in the day and once they are used up, I'm done talking. Nothing personal, just the way I am. I'm a thinker. I love to think and read and educate myself. Especially history and culture.
For many of us older introverts, we often find it frustrating/irritating watching the devolution of humanity. I was more extroverted as a young person, but now frustrated at the lack of respect humans give to themselves and others. It’s only recently that I taught myself how to draw and now I only venture out when needed. Dan would rather not even be bothered. ✌🏽🦋🧘🏽
it's funny, when I was younger I tended to be a MUCH more outgoing, loud, abrasive, YOLO type. Then I grew up. And I discovered the _real_ me: much more introverted, introspective, think a lot, read a lot, my life exists mostly between my ears. Sadly finding others of a like mindset/similar hobbies is next to impossible, plus I tend to be drawn toward extroverts or more livelier people (opposites attract?), so even most of my friends aren't like me. But I wholeheartedly agree about the devolution of humanity. Like a slow-mo train wreck from which you can't look away. Technology was supposed to expand our minds, make us reach for all that is excellent, and make us strive for the better good of all. Instead we've become small-minded, shrill, shrieking, sex-obsessed, hateful armchair quarterbacks about any and every issue. God help us all.
I am 62 and have always had the problem of "waking up as the sun goes down" no matter what time I got up in the morning. I am suddenly energized and accomplish a lot in just a few hours. Most of my life everyone told me all of the habits. You listed are bad, this is the first time I have heard them all listed in a positive light. Thank you.
I wouldn’t refer to myself as “highly intelligent,“ but rather just reasonably intelligent. Still, yes, I do agree with most of the points brought up in this video. When I’m reading, thinking, or bing creative, I tend to rather be left alone. But I’m fine with doing more ‘mindless’ tasks like cleaning, spackling/sanding, paintIng a wall, digging holes, etc., in a social setting where I can interact with other people. In fact, I prefer to have some kind of project to fiddle with while being social, because it eliminates pressure from not just me, but others trying to get to know me... it can be an icebreaker.
I can definitely agree with that. It feels the same with me. I can't just sit around and conversate with some drinks for too long. Productivity and activity is what really gets me engaged in good conversations.
agree, and seems to me there are time for both, and by interacting you support teams to get things done. Then in solitude you can collect and sort your thoughts into action without the distraction of idiots chiming away... a good leader does both to get results, while some are awkward in many skills and prefer to be left alone....
I’m so emotional I pick up people’s feelings and pain and i take it with me. Thank you for the video it reminds me that I’m not crazy it’s just people cannot see what’s around them or what’s happening or even read someone’s face. It’s really debilitating and I haven’t learned how to have their feelings bounce off back to them they just instantly overwhelm me and I feel like I’m in their situation. Super big empath I try to help everyone before myself and I am still considered weird and it’s OK because one day soon they will see that maybe I wasn’t so weird it worked to my advantage
Even as a toddler I enjoyed being alone. Mom told me she finally realized “go to your room” was not an effective punishment for me because I LIKED being alone, reading. Much more punishing to make me sit in the midst of lots of activity…it’s overwhelming for me. 😝
Yes! My mother also found it challenging to "punish" me, the rare times she found it necessary, and for the same reason. She could only punish me by talking me to death.😆
This answered so many questions about myself. It’s why I’m completely bored at parties and despise small talk. It explains why I’m a voracious reader, and why I stay up until 5am as my natural body clock. It’s why I will never work 9 to 5 and prefer being with only one person at a time. It’s why I’m a solo pianist, and not a fan of chamber music. Thank you for the validation. Why was I never told this before? I loved reading comments from those who are similar.
Guessing youre not keen on weddings and abba tribute bands? Am i the only one that found it slightly entertaining the first time, but painful for the 4023 times since? I find that the moment my mind focuses, an incessant chatterer is mobilized from out of nowhere, propelled to my vicinity and crashes into my field without invite. I also much prefer dealing with one person at a time. Decent behaviour is rare when Groupthink is involved.
@@nickfranklin6495 did you also handle the lockdowns better than most? I enjoyed much of it, although not being able to go to the gym took its toll. It was like a long snow day. I used to look forward to skipping school when we had snow storms. The feeling of not having to be anywhere at a given time was so refreshing.
@@danielgloverpiano7693 'It was like a long snow day' I hear that! You enjoyed it because you have a mind that ignores the nonsense and thinks 'How do i strengthen my foundations?' at a time where most are crumbling due to a complete lack of defences. Quite rightly, you looked to make a plus out of this fabricated crisis. Suddenly having time on your hands was, in part, a gift. For the mob, it was a curse, where they had time with their own self (aaaah!) and realised that their only two real friends are the media and the benevolent state. Spare time for them means boredom (ha ha) and the opportunity to work on their fears and baseness. Mentally, I was unphased by the plandemic as it was no surprise, even the coincidental social justice hysteria is not a new ploy, I'm sure you know your history. But after two years, I would say the psychopaths need to back off now, as the shutting down all aspects of life has gone way too far. Physically, the timing could have been better as two or three injuries (hips mainly, from alot of sport etc,) came home to roost around 2019. Can't complain as i have had alot of good fun (and a fair few warnings that trouble was coming!). Normally, I would have relished all that time to really get fit. A fair bit of research has led me to the subject of PRI, it may be one that cracks a complex problem, too early to tell at the moment.
I find great comfort in my own company. I consider it a super power…learning to be happy alone is one of the best things we can teach ourselves and our kids because you won’t fall for codependent relationships that plague our society. I dream best when I’m by myself and I love to dream.
I guess that if you are comfortable with your self you will have less problems being alone. That's not to say that you want to be lonely, that is different thing. We are perhaps not easily bored with our own minds and need others to the same extent to "help" us get through the day?
I thought everyone was like this. I keep forgetting they aren't. It doesn't make sense to be other than this way. I cherish my late in the day/night time to work things out, understand, settle, explore, and research something new. Its comforting... until my wife says I broke my promise and stayed up late again. So now I often have to go to bed, close my eyes, and spend time with myself undetected. My wife is very social and knows everyone's names, their kids names, and who had a cold 5 years ago. She thinks I don't care about other people, but it's not true. I do. I just don't want to spend time with that level of detail. Oh well.
Love it. I guess I made the list. I love Living alone, being single. Reading I tend to have a lot more energy at night, usually up till 2-3. While I love my family and friends. I do feel drained by too much interaction. I'm a retired as a Social Worker. I loved my work and it was gratifying to help others. I'm grateful to retire early to have more time to travel and read. Great video
I definitely fit this profile. I started reading novels at the age of 7 and 8. I have always been a night owl, even now at age 70. I am always up until 3 or 4 in the morning before I go to sleep. I am still a voracious reader. My husband is much more outgoing than I am; I tend to be an introvert. When people come to visit and sit around on our patio, I usually have to excuse myself after a while, while my husband can visit for hours. We are a good match, however, and have been happily married for almost 19 years.
I was a Social Worker with Schizophrenia patients for a few years. Most were intelligent people. Some college educated. That disorder made life difficult.
You nailed it! You have described me to a T! My sister is the same! Thanks for the confirmation that we are not crazy nor social outcasts. WE love people, but we also enjoy being alone, and we live together, and enjoy being in our own bedrooms, quiet and apart from each other for hours at time to think, to read, to watch different programs. I read like crazy!! I have a huge collection of books in every category, like a library! Now I better understand my crazy sleep schedule. When I was in college, my math instructor and mentor said: "math is not easy for you at all, you have to really work at it, but you have this gift to see PATTERNS, this is how you process, this is what helps you figure things out. I have never seen a more gifted student who notices such minute details before." I spent my entire working career in the medical field, and was well known for being able to spot minute details about my patients, and spotted early on, problems. I could see normal patterns in my patients every day functions, then immediately notice when something was off, when even the most gifted RN, or MD missed it. This frustrated the staff, but saved the lives of several patients. ONE time, working in the ER, I was the ONLY person there, due to an emergency CODE in the ICU. (small hospital) One of our doctors, had a heart attack in the ER, it was up to me, at that time, just a clerk, to do start CPR, call a code, and get people to come help. We were so short handed, I was directed to defibrillate the patient! This person lived, and when he found out what I had done, HE paid for me to go back to school to get my RN credentials, he thought I could have and should have been an MD--with my smarts and abilities! Thanks for the information on THAT--the sleep cycle--that has plagued me for years! I am a tried and true night owl. I even worked at nights as a teenager, and right into adulthood. Now that I no longer work, I am still the Night OWL Drives my family nuts. I always sleep better in the daytime! I am naturally wide awake at night! bless you and thanks! Oregon USA
Wow! That’s a good description of me. Now in my 70’s , I was an only child who loved to read and only had a few close friends. Not antisocial though,because I love to dance and compete at sports . Mostly individual sports like tennis, bowling, roller skating, track, etc where larger groups were not needed.,and you could meet girls. There’s never a day with enough hours to do all of the things I would like to do. I like to learn new things even late in life. I took up golf at 60, bass guitar at 65 and pool (billiards) now at 74. I guess you could say I have some unconventional ideas and observations also. Thanks for this article.
I agree with 95% of the video. It has me nailed. I always want to learn and I am 68 years old and the sleep cycles too. I like a quiet house when everyone is sleeping and I am busy doing things alone. I do socialize a little but it is mostly with people that operate like me and I can share the same ideas but I don't do projects with anyone. I rarely get lonely. I also enjoy reading the Bible too.
That has been the hardest part for me on working I always want to learn and as soon as I learn the job or activity and then perfect them I’m board with them and need something else. I’m 39 now but I can picture me being your age and struggling to find something new to learn but I guess the world is always evolving and creating new things to learn
@@the_alchemy_method Great comment! And I do believe people now days are so wrapped up in technology, that they never were taught/learned the simple manner of just stopping to "smell the roses". Glad I was brought up in a simpler time.
I think the sleep cycle is influenced by ones living arrangement. I am all of those thing except I am always naturally sleepy at around 9 pm and I live alone so I can learn and read and do activity whenever I want. I think a lot of people are night owls because that's when others are sleeping.
I love being alone because that's how I can really replenish myself spiritually and emotionally. Since I'm more of a giver, every interaction with people puts me in the natural position where I'm the one who gives. So to replenish myself, I need to be alone. As a musician and a writer, connexion with art and sound is mostly possible being alone. Writing, composing, creating correlate well with being alone. I guess I enjoy my own company, that's probably the best thing that could have happened to me. So thankful !
You must start demanding an energy transfer IN to your account. Otherwise, eventually your psyche will rebel, which could be detrimental to you. The good people in this world hugely undervalue themselves and need to stop giving to those who only take. It is tricky if youre a gentle soul, but you need to employ subtle force. I'm sure that you notice complaints as soon as you withdraw the goods - so, start 'charging' for it. The good people in this world are the gold.
@@nickfranklin6495 Thank you Nick ! I'm very lucky, surrounded by great people, friends and excellent family members. I give, but I'm also able to take - incommensurable joy, as you know. I love being alone, because I'm NEVER alone. I don't consider myself a gentle soul. Your last sentence could be the first and last song of love « The good people in this world are the gold. »
Every point on that list perfectly applied to me. I wish I could find a wife who had the same traits, but most people these days just seem like self-obsessed chaotic swarms of psychological problems. I'd rather be alone.
This video describes me so well, except for the sleeping part. I am 50 and still single because I refuse to settle. My philosophy is that I can do bad by myself so I don't need someone else to help me. I so much prefer to be by myself because most people I know are controlling freaks and I have zero desire to control someone's else's life...just too much work. Others are bitter, complaining and unthankful and always want to discuss the affairs of others, which is so boring and I can think of nothing more unproductive. When I try to change the subject to discuss ideas, I am being accused of not caring about others. Wow! How wrong of a conclusion. I rather find solutions and lift others up. Those who need to be around others to feel secure in themselves find me strange, but when I look at their lives, the relationships they have are parasitic and they aren't even perceptive enough to know this. Solitude is a blessing to me. I read a lot, take long walks on the beach to reflect and be better, and find ways to be creative.i rather have a dog 🐕 as my companion than a person who spews garbage all day...what a nightmare!
Most of the stress in life comes from other people so spending time on your own is the best way to reduce stress. Being a lone wolf is wonderful.
But what if you are in a terrible situation and getting out of it alone is impossible
There are friends who geniunly care for us ,finding these friends requires luck ,but such friends are necessary
Well - maybe, but most friendships have become transactional and non reciprocal
@@rahulverma8774 What if, what if?? C'mon.
@@granthill2980 So u hv never faced situations when help of friends or family is important ??
I could not have stated it better.
Absolutely true. I am a 74 year old writer, and have spent most of my life alone. I feel lonely in a crowd, but totally at home when alone. I don't regret my life at all.
Hi Sarah. I'm a year older and a writer. I also still work every day building websites and online training. I love working from my home office. Guess I'll keep doing that as long as I still find it stimulating and rewarding.
@@dagordon1041 Morning D. A, I've been a writer since I was 42, my four books covering a wide range of topics. The first took me 22 years to complete, and the manuscript I'm working on now has taken me 7 so far. Still have a long way to go. Reading, research, writing, and evening needlework while listening to the classics and walks in the woods are my world.
@@greensprout65 Hi Sarah. You appear to have lived and continue to live a very rich and meaningful life. As Viktor Frankl observed, the crisis of modern man (and woman) is a crisis of meaning, life in an existential vacuum or, as Thoreau put it "the majority of men of all times have lived lives of quiet desperation."
I have mentioned here today Anthony Storr's book on Solitude which you might find interesting. Your needlework is probably a good exercise in mindfulness.
@@GordonSou Yes. I have read and reread Solitude. Somehow though it got lost in the move to this apartment. A book published twenty years ago is another favorite of mine - A Pelican in the Wilderness: Hermits, Solitaries, and Recluses. A grand collection of histories, writings, life experiences, poetry from solitaries all around the world, from the far East to Wordsworth, the Transcendentalists, and Thomas Merton. Just love this book. Each time I read it, new passages stand out. The first time, I knew nothing of Ivor Gurney, but now, after studying WW1 shell shock for the book I'm writing now, I understood him more. The opening quote from the Chinese hermit tradition sets the tone - My master went to gather herbs / He is still somewhere on the mountainside / So deep in the clouds I know not where.
I love being alone I can exhale relax and actually get a little excited that I have my peace....
This is surprisingly accurate. I like a calm no drama life, most people have lots of drama. I find it tiresome
Welcome to the intelligent club 😃
Guess they seek comfort knowing we are laid back my mother always said misery loves company. But most people need to fix their problems. Not us. We can and do love them and help if it's a dire situation. Most get themselves in a mess and as someone said being stupid. We have a brain we need to use it. Some people I truly have very low tolerance for. Just plain stupid things they do.
Bravo … agree… people w drama are draining
many in the mob need drama (or pink hair) to convince them they have a personality
Agreed!!!! 100%
I feel that when I socialize in a large setting, where tons of people are, I actually need time to recover from it afterward by being alone or with only one other person.
this video resonates with me because I am comfortable with myself, which a lot of people I know aren’t. I have been told by people that they don’t like themselves, aren’t ok with their own thoughts, get bored easily etc.
I can honestly say I don’t understand how anyone in this world who owns a smartphone could ever be bored. There’s always something to watch or read
I have to do the recovery time, too.
It is physically and emotionally exhausting to spend time in larger group settings.
I attribute it to tuning in to all the energy in the room.
I agree.. you can't mix low vibrations with high vibrations... They suck your energy to bring down your frequency. ENERGY VAMPIRES... even in crowded events, I find the quiet lonely place to protect my high vibrations. 🙏
A Kayfabe, exactly!!!
I agree, but would not label myself as highly intelligent. I get so tired of inane conversations, people endlessly talking about themselves or others. I'd like conversations where I learn something new, not how their uncles brew beer. Every now and again I stay in the house for two or three days because I simply can't put up with people.
@@jeannetteviviers9851 yeah I don’t know if I would call myself highly intelligent either, but I’m also not low intelligence. I just agree with much of this
I've battled being alone since I was a child. I always felt - different. Awkward in social interactions and avoid them at all costs. I've made so many plans to do something with friends and ended up cancelling at the last minute as I just didn't want to go. The closer it got to go, the higher my anxiety. Now I'm retired and I love the fact that I don't have to go anywhere if I don't want to. I've lost friends because of this and it made me sad but I'm much more happier being alone working in the garden, taking care of my animals, reflecting on myself and mistakes I've made along the way so I can be a better person. I enjoy just sitting with a cup of coffee watching the flowers bloom and hearing the birds singing, this is my peace. I always thought that maybe I had a mental condition of sorts, a personality disorder of some kind. Thank you for this video! It made me realize that it's OK to be like this. I wouldn't say that I'm highly intelligent but it's nice to hear it! LOL
I am a clinical psychologist Mary and can say with authority it is your personality and that is all!
Thank you! I feel better now! lol
I was also a people pleaser, not anymore I feel free to do what I want for a change. It’s my life now.
all i can say there so many things to work on which cannot be done when you have company
Hey, you are like my twin! I'm kinda socially awkward. Don't like groups and always have a different perspective and find few people that I can totally relate with. I have just retired and spend alot of time alone and gardening. When I still had my pets, they were everything to me. A highlight in my day is literally watching my plants and watching how the birds in my yard fly and play!
I completely agree. Social settings can be draining and pointless most of the time. Most of the times there's nothing objective to socialize about. I find that solitude recharges my energy more than any kind of socializing.
I loath working in groups.....plz just let me do mine alone
This is cope. You're coping
I would love to work in a group, but they don’t get it. I end up having to do my work alone
I loved working in groups when it came to managing IT projects. Very complex stuff. Lots of high IQ types involved with different areas of expertise. Those projects can be very difficult, but I was a natural at figuring things out and working with groups of different experts to solve tough problems. It was a lot of fun for me. These days I like to watch How the Universe Works videos. I love the topic and the passion that the scientists have for their work.
Yes and what a lot of people (not all) call "socializing" is just gossip and I don't want any part of that
I have told family and friends in the past that I am not lonely, just because I am alone. I am content in my solitude. When I need to socialise I do, but don’t need other people around to be happy. As Jean-Paul Satre said “Hell is other people” and I have found that to be so true. Loving my own company keeps me sane.
It's hard to find common interest in conversation of science and intellectual topic's with family and friends as they are really not interested. The only things that we can discuss is normally sports. I love football and baseball and check out stats and facts everyday it's like I'm still in school for an hr. a day for sports. Then research another hour on my field of expertise and then work for seven hrs. sometimes more for our company. Then a couple of hours on entertainment TV. There are not enough hrs. in the day for me to meet all my objectives since I have aged. But I still know I love my family and took my grandson to his first MLB game and now giving him his first glove. Raising boys was fun and adventurist. I guess since I never had girls and now have a granddaughter I have to learn more. NEVER STOP LEARNING!!!
But Sartre so aptly coined it:
Hell Is Other People.
And no Time like Now...
This is the mantra my husband uses on a daily basis! I wish I could provide him with more. He’s still the best man, even when he ignores me.
_"I have found little 'good' about human beings. In my experience, most of them are trash."_
-Sigmund Freud
_“Earth is the insane asylum of the universe.”_
-Albert Einstein
_"I love mankind; it's people I can't stand."_
-Charles Schulz
@@emmabovary1228 I'm sure he's not ignoring you. Misunderstood.
I've noticed, however, that more intelligent people also tend to deal with depression more often, but it's more existential. The state of the world, politics, human rights, and violence can cause more intelligent people to struggle with ways to solve these problems and/or cope with the issue, and if they cannot find a solution after what should be an acceptable amount of time, the anxiety and stress of the problem weighs on them and they have physical symptoms: insomnia, irritability, and often an inability to be tolerant of other people's bad behaviors.
True. I experience this
Agreed! Insightful
really well said storm
Very true ...
They also have insight into how people and society as a whole are manipulated to look in the wrong direction when it comes to who to blame, and as to where the solution lies, which can strain relationships when what seems prima facie to them is invisible to others.
Yes! And there’s nothing worse than spending time with shallow superficial people
Oh my stars! No kidding! I could puke every time someone begins with “ so and so…”! I don’t care!! Talk about something real or don’t talk at all, simple!
The worst!!!
@Wilderness Music “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss other people
@Wilderness Music agreement!
All there drama and baggage and their dumbness. As they only believe what they see on T.V.
It’s refreshing to hear that people who enjoy spending time alone are smart, rather than psychopathic! Society really gives loners a bad name and label.
I think it is because they are not smart enough to figure out that not everyone has to be like them. It is a very immature response to their own discomfort about the lifestyle.
I'm positive that this idea was put out into our society for a reason, and not a good reason.
@Gary Browning They are basically ''Co-Dependant' on others to make them feel comfortable with themselves...
@@gwens5093
Sounds like you not understanding that not everyone has to be like you and enjoy constant socializing and being immature about it.
You insulted their intelligence then discredited and their way of living and feeling. You have plenty growing up to do yourself.
That is not what it said, you committed an obvious and common logical error in coming to that conclusion.
This explains so much for me. I prefer to be alone and feel drained after being with people
Same. I get so excited to go to family get togethers, then end up leaving a couple hours into it, when everyone else stays. It is draining to make small talk, keep fake smiling the whole time. I feel relieved and at peace when I get home.
Same hete
We are high in introversion those of us like this. When you look for a mate, be sure to look for someone similar in this trait...extroverts will be frustrated leaving parties early etc they NEED that stimulation, we dont. I was with an extrovert who kept dragging me to things I didnt want to do. I love conversation, but only with intelligent thoughtful people and it is rare.
@@latinaalma1947 You are so on point. Its very rare to find people with high IQ.
I get depressed around people and my brain shuts down. I only really function alone.
Thanks for this. People think I'm weird for wanting to be alone all of the time. A little validation puts a smile on my face. 🙂
I know my parents keep forcing me to see new people and it annoys the hell out of me
that s a wrong perspective you do not need validation from other you actually do not care.... the validation is within yourself and comes from the things you do!!!
When you’re alone you have a chance to listen to your higher self - your intuition - and that’s where ideas can come through like a light bulb turning on!
yes and eventually you and your higher self become You..no need to listen to it anymore because the gap between you and it closes
We are not better than others we just like our down time we need more than others. We don't like the hustle and bustle some others do..as one person posted we are tired of some annoying people. I also hate when I have to sit and listen to people who do not give one iota of care about me or my family or anything I go through and proof of this is as they say is in the pudding. Not one phone call no visits. And I've been at deaths door many times there is my answer .this is Why I love being a loner. My way to live my own life and be away and free from having to conform to their ways. Do as I please that's what I love about being a loner. Don't try to hurt others. Just answer for my self .love my time for my self. Most people do.too years out in the work field was accused of being on something was friendly happy .was not on drugs. Loved my job got a lot reward for it when others did not. I feel I've earned my.alone time. Working and longing so many years to be home. Love every minute of it. It's a jungle out there.
@@gayhutton2462 The biggest problem with going out in public is..... The public is there. 👍😎
Great to be alone living in own world iam gifted
This felt like being seen for the first time in a while. Even as a child, I preferred being alone or with one good friend. That's my husband, now. I found lockdown to be so comfortable, and quiet. I know lots of people were anxious, bored, lonely, depressed and I couldn't relate. So much fullness in life comes from solitude and I can't imagine being bored, honestly.
Idk if your a believer but I truly believe a lot of people reconnected with GOD and some for the first time.
It's much, much easier to hear the voice of I AM THAT I AM in a calm, peaceful, quite environment.
Relate to you 100%. People exhaust me and lockdown was a blessing.
Same. Im an only child and have one child. I tend to attract social ppl tho and they dont understand my homebody nature because they met me out once. Smh im heavy on leave me alone
My wife and I have always been solitary. This gave us a lot of time to read. It wasn't a change from our normal behavior.
I agree. I always have preferred being alone and just despise large crowds. Ironically, for decades I’ve played guitar in bands in front of large crowds and that’s one of the most satisfying things I’ve done. But I was never into the after-parties. Once the show’s over, I’m gone. Back to my studio to work on more music until the wee hours. Alone.
My “social life” is 8 hours with co-workers and that’s about all the social interaction I can tolerate every day. Maybe a few beers with a couple guys after work, but I secretly just want to go home and read a book or do my arts.
Every sport I’ve been into was an individual sport. Surfing, fishing, hangliding, martial arts, hiking, camping, etc. Never been on any “team”.
If I “win” at what I’m doing, I earned all the credit. If I “lose” at what I’m doing, I’m solely responsible for that.
I’ve had a few surfing partners and fishing partners and partners who shared a common interest but we are still individuals in it.
My idea of company, involves one other person. The old, “Two’s company, three’s a crowd” philosophy.
My girlfriends have always liked my style in that all my attention is saved for them. I don’t get distracted by other people and don’t like social gatherings, so there’s nothing but eachother to share.
I’m sure you’ve had friends call and ask what you’re doing, and you say “nothing” and they feel sorry for how bored you must be and want to come over. Nope. I’m never bored when I’m alone. I get bored of other people very quickly though.
There's a huge difference between being alone and being lonely: one does not always equate with the other.
Katherine, That is so true! Sadly, there are some who cannot grasp that basic concept.
I live alone but am not lonely i own 2 dogs who are always there for me
@@Prez-s9d It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
@@Prez-s9d It's a good time in your life to get involved in the community. You are needed! One thing that is missing in our modern age is a reverence for age and experience. We seem to value youth and beauty over the beauty of experience. I say it's time to change that dynamic. Volunteer, my friend. Your community, and the world at large, need your voice and wisdom.
@@derektaylor1527 I have 2 cats! And I've had enough "company" to last me 3 lifetimes. I value my solitude.
I don't consider myself to be highly intelligent, but I relate to a lot of these points. I like my space, my quiet, time to do my own things and focus on my hobbies and needs. I can just get up and travel or go where ever when ever, and I love that freedom.
I can relate to this. As a mother Even when my children were younger at the end of the day I just had to have my quiet time to be by myself and connect with my true self.
This is absolutely true. I've never needed to be with other people in order to feel "whole". I've always enjoyed my own company.
Back in 1993 people flipped out that I went to Australia by myself. Believe me, I had a blast. I didn't have to argue with someone on what to do on a certain day.
I've done a number of driving vacations by myself. With no one there to argue with or disrupt my plans, I had a very good time.
@@jefffuller9918
I need my alone time, but don’t like traveling alone. I thinks it’s more of a security thing with me though; I don’t always feel safe alone. I imagine that might not be such an issue with men though.
But do you feel highly intelligent
I am now 71. I have been this way all of my life.
I love being alone, it's so incredibly freeing. And when I'm with friends, while I enjoy their company, I look forward to coming home and enjoying my own time. I don't understand how people need to be in the company of others almost constantly, it's really weird to me, and honestly seems unhealthy. I'm incredibly grateful to enjoy my happy freedom to be alone whenever I want to, which is often.
Agreed. I find that I'm happiest with my own company and really only associate with people when absolutely necessary. I am rarely ever bored. I love to read alot too.
Ann: So nice when my male friends finally go home, especially the romantically inclined ones! I spend the whole time counting the minutes.
@@littleaussierippa Have you ever seen “When Harry Met Sally?” I’m the female version of Billy Crystal in bed having his leg touching the floor wondering how soon he can leave!
It’s cool you enjoy being alone but that doesn’t render another that likes companionship as unhealthy and weird. Introverts are more sensitive to dopamine. Extroverts have more dopamine receptors. When we engage with another human we release dopamine.
@@littleaussierippa fck.... Same here.
Being alone allows you to think objectively, without other people trying to influence you emotionally.
Exactly
Exactly! Explains why I get distracted easily when people are around
I’ve always fealt that if people saw how I did things they’d think I was odd! Simply because I’m a perfectionist and most people don’t think at that level
That’s right
Feel like an anomaly
This speaks to my soul, I wish the overwhelming majority wouldn't let their insecurities harass, ridicule, and terrorized intelligent ppl and let them live a life of quiet dignity🙏🏽
Agree 100%. Intelligent people are usually less impulsive, thoughtful, weighing out the ramifications of their decisions/actions before coming to conclusions. And to do that, you need lots of “me time.“ I love my own thing, my own routines, and my own company. I’m comfortable in my solitude. Great video, thanks.
It's often mentioned that such individuals are more prone to depression from being able to work out clear solutions to world problems, but finding human incompetence or ego at every institution.
The best thing you can do, which you've probably already done, is explore your own ego and crawl through broken glass to keep it from developing vain self-importance.
Peace is just around the corner of self-deprecating humor.
Dont agree with 'less impulsive". Creativity is nearly that.
But living with others is a skill; if you don’t practice it you can become irritable and more impulsive if they come around. I guess the key is to be with high quality people
Agreed. It's interesting to me that so many intellectuals are chess players, which requires
a lot of thought to create a winning strategy and to implement it against a strong opponent.
Not having to fit in to another person routine is WONDERFUL!!
Being alone allows you to make all the mistakes you need to make in order to fulfill your purpose well without anyone carping about them. It doesn’t matter what your purpose is; what is important is that you have one. Purpose allows you to overcome loss, sadness,, disappointment, even death. For an old person, just making your bed and watering your plants can be a purpose. Being alone allows you to fulfill that purpose at your own pace, to reflect upon what you are doing, and to learn who you really are if you are honest with yourself. There is no way you can buy this freedom. It is not for sale.
Well said; and true.
Beautifully said!
I love you for this… you get me so thank you
I agree, I live alone, cooking different types of food, I can experiment with seasoning of my food that I enjoy.
I don't care for going out to restaurants like I use to.
When I was in my 20s I depended others for cooking not now.
Freedom is great!!
As humans we're not abandoned with the soul responsibility of making a purpose of life , the creator, the almighty God himself has already designed a purpose for us , and identifying such purpose and living on it is sufficient for maximum peace of mind . We're not just created for no reason. And the result of sticking to our purpose is way beyond this world we are living.
I’ve wondered for the longest time why I wasn’t like most of my friends. I’ve tried to be more involved with others, be more extroverted but ultimately it was too exhausting trying to be someone I’m not. These days, I’m just comfortable in my own company , doing things at my own pace and enjoying myself. Never been happier. ✌🏻
Wow, this sounds amazing.
@@jamesweymouth652 reading you guys' comments is like receiving a big, warm hug.
Wauw! Yes exact same story here!
Same with me
Now I understood why the Lockdown from the Pandemics did not bother me at all.
Hooray!
I fit into this category. My motto is "better to be alone than in bad company." I have friends but can only handle contact in moderation. Too many social commitments at a given time is a real drag for me.
When I was a boy, I once overheard my grandmother describe me as "always been a loner." She said it in a disparaging tone, as though it was a character flaw. I wish she could have seen this video.
Don't feel bad bro
My Gma used to tell everyone the same shit about me but she would say it in a bragging manner. She would say, “he likes to be alone leave him alone he doesn’t like a lot of noise.” It’s weird cuz that’s exactly how I am. Don’t feel bad, she just had trouble with communicating bro.
A lot of creative geniuses in history are loners, which gives them the traits mentioned in this video.
My grandmother was troubled by my being alone.......If only she had known this.....
It’s definitely not a flaw ! People can get uncomfortable being around people who are sure of themselves . My own mother gripes about me wanting to be less social then most people . She would say some negative things about me . Which is not true . I’m just happier this way , I don’t need attention , I don’t care what people think of me . I’m sure of myself and that’s all that matters for me .
I love being alone because I get frustrated if I have to deal with people for too long especially if they keep interrupting my thoughts. I feel I'm at my best and get the most done when I'm alone especially at night. Great video, thanks!
I don't consider myself highly intelligent but this list describes myself. I like to socialize occasionally with just a few good friends or family members. I prefer to be by myself especially at work cause it's rare to find co-workers who are sincere and supportive.
Those who consider themselves highly intelligent , usually aren’t ; they are just trying to validate their importance. Those who belittle others, want to make themselves look superior. Intelligent people don’t feel the need to do that or boast . YOU show ALL the signs of someone with great intelligence and self worth.
@@kalintini yes, Elon musk does and so Bill gate , mark zuckerbergand zeff bezo , to name a few They think they are the smartest and they really are. When people are smart they know they are and proud of themselves. Some say it out some remain quiet
You are smart and so many others. That's the common traits of smart people. Smart doesn't need to have a degree. Any class in society can be smart without highly educated. It's in the brain and Gene
@@Hippy2021 Actually @krnvalentini is right.. There are people who do learn something new and insightful then think they're so smart but still ignorant the vastness of knowledge they don't know. It becomes very humbling the more you realize this. That's why people who "others" consider as smart just don't care enough about being smart to boast it because it's so childish. Sometimes "rich" people say smart things just to point out the faulty or difference in thinking of the other party, it depends on their political agenda regardless if they are truly smart or not. But Elon (for example) himself says he has to work hard just to not to be wrong. So he does have some credit albeit I think it's a bit overhyped.
Guess what you are highly intelligent
In general, there's a correlation with how intelligent people are and how self-sufficient they are. This includes being emotionally self-sufficient, which is tied to being self-validating. Integrated into this makeup is their greater ability to govern their emotions, which keeps their intellect-led thinking elevated and decreases the probability of a decision being made based on emotion-led thinking.
I don't know if I'm highly intelligent or not, but this video described me perfectly.
you generally know. lol. reading all the time, reading LONG Novellas, making the most thoughtful objective replies and comments, early on grades, becoming the star within your work requirements, being able to hold a conversation with someone about objective matter such as law, politics, social or cultural problems. To name a few of the things that you can usually point out quite easily. but you are right, generally speaking, its hard to tell now a days, not much out there to allow us to prove or show this.
YESSSSSS
You know. And from pretty young that you are thinking deeper and more complex than the rest.
not
I'm with you, don't know if I consider myself highly intelligent, but this list describes me to a tea.
I enjoyed this, and laughed out loud at the sleep cycles one. I love staying up late and sleep in and also nap during the day. At night it is quiet and I can read and think and be undisturbed, uninterrupted. I think one thing the video was perhaps too polite to mention is that a lot of social interaction is simply not interesting, or mentally stimulating. People talk about their mundane lives, what they like and dislike, and a lot of it seems designed to enhance their ego. Also, you can have a very rich and active inner life that is largely non-verbal, and people talking talking talking can be a bit mind numbing and exhausting.
Definitely.
A favorite past time of my Wife and myself may seem weird to some and not to others
On some warm or slightly cool nights we like to take a blanket out into the back yard and place it by the lake.
We'll stretch out and enjoy a close cuddle while talking about anything or nothing at all, or just enjoying the peaceful sounds of nature.
And on occasion we will laugh at ourselves if we just happen to nod off and are awakened by the rising sun all covered in morning dew.
That's what we call relaxation.
Lol
At work, i get criticized for trying to find a quiet place to read at lunchtime. But it is so draining to sit in a room of people talking about the latest episode of 'the Bachelor' or some other useless TV show, or gossiping about other coworkers.
Absolutely True. You said exactly the things I was thinking.
I feel that a large percentage of the population uses about half or more of their brain filling it up with what I call social knowledge. Detail after detail of everyone in their lives and how they interact with them etc. etc. Rather than actually using their brains to learn useful information for actually accomplishing something, moving forward in their lives, educating themselves, becoming an expert in one or more things. Or just to be interesting people to talk to about subjects of substance. If I am around such people I get bored really quickly. Yes some social skills are necessary, but people of average or below average intelligence tend to stay in that frame since that is about all they can really process. I don't thumb my nose down at them like I am some superior human being, because being contemplative I am well aware of my flaws, but I am just on a different level and it is easier to cope being alone.
On a few side notes, I don't like people making rash judgments about me just by looking at me or interacting with me, without them really having a clue what is going on inside of me, in my body in terms of health, in my mind, in my heart, in my soul. I am the result of a very unique set of experiences that have made me in some ways how I am, and they really don't have a clue. They don't have any past frame of reference to "figure me out" because they have never met anyone like me, not even close. I also absolutely don't like people telling me what to do. Or what to say or not. And yes, I do most of my best thinking late at night, and get up late and nap during the day, now that I am retired and don't have to keep a day job schedule. Was also that way in college.
Yes I’d rather be alone than to be with friends even when I was younger.
I can relate to what you wrote!
..Ditto....
@Biology Discussions Experienced similar situations myself!
We prefer to not be forced to converse with others so mercifully free from the ravages of intelligence.
@@justicegusting2476 Great way to put it!!
It’s actually refreshing and revealing to see myself described so accurately in this video. I don’t feel any more or less “ intelligent” than anyone else, though. I just see the world a bit differently than others, I think. Maybe more than a bit, actually. And ironically, I don’t feel like a loner. I really do love people, just as this video describes. The reading part of this video had me laughing, as that is definitely “me”, also. Also, there’s zero ego in what I just wrote. I am just comfortable being me.
I'm exactly the same to be honest with you.
Love being alone. People have constant self-drama they create, and are in denial of that self-creation. Majority are not intelligent with repeating same situations and expecting a different result. They are exhausting. Prefer peace and serenity.
there are alot of rude people in this world 🌎
So well said!
Did I ever tell you the definitiom of insanity? It's doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
@@ricardolozano5356 Lots of dumb people, too.
Absolutely. That and as the video said, it seems modern society is obsessed with social acceptance. Going out of their way to make everybody like them. Whereas, I truthfully could care less and I was like that as a kid. I’d much rather have a few good friends then a ton of drama from a bunch of them.
I have been alone pretty much all my life...parents that were best avoided, a workaholic husband who was rarely home, self employed, traveled solo for 5-7 months...I always had lots of projects, put myself through University rather than socializes with housewives. I qualified for Mensa but didn't join. I live in Mexico and have joined into groups to meet people but most just aren't worth spending much time with. I much prefer my own company; the internet offers unlimited research into everything. Being able to live alone is actually very productive.
How old are you ? And what do you do in your idle time ?
We are each other's treasured companion.
"No man is an island."
I sincerely believe so.
I value the presence of my family,friends and "foe".
Their presence "grind" me from my "callous"
behaviour, I learn from them and with them.
I value their presence.
I try to live a harmonious life with them, specially my own personal family.
I think there are 2 things at play here. Intelligence and maturity. At my younger age, I liked to be with friends a lot. But in the last 1/3 of my life, I embrace solitude. I still enjoy others, but have solid boundaries where I did not when I was younger. So I guess there are two ways to view this. I don’t consider myself intelligent, just smart and mature.
I get your point, but in my opinion, maturity and intelligence are not two distinctive topics, as you suggest. I think they go hand in hand. Intelligence grows as you mature. It has to do with the connections in your brains. If you decide to give your mind good input, your brains will grow and that makes you both more mature and intelligent. On the other hand, if you feed your brains with mind numbing material such as soap series on tv, that will kill your brains and you start acting more and more like a baby, only responding on your circumstances without reflection, and your intelligence will drop overtime.
I believe this video is talking about a select group of people who *always* value alone time despite age, maturity, etc.
I couldn't have said it better myself! Maturity and boundaries bring security within yourself; I wish it hadn't taken me so many years of strife to reach that place of peace--God helped me get there!
@@emkepeterson5984 Well said!
Very accurate I can relate to that
It has taken me a lifetime to accept that I am different. When I was younger, I used to try to work with groups but it is frustrating to see that the group may not see all the issues of their action. I would then have to walk away. It has been useful to see other points of view and so long as I have highlighted the possible flaws in thinking it is easier to leave the group to learn from experience. Time is a great educator which has taught me to be confident in taking different courses of action.
me too, and, Im very very different
Beautiful. I love everything in this message.
I can relate to this very strongly. Even as a teenager I just preferred my own company. I found that my mates just were not thinking on the same level as myself and I don't intend for that to come off as condescending. My interests were always seeking KNOWLEDGE and soaking up as much information as possible. I'm a reader. I LOVE reading and Art, history etc.... I found that most people I've come across just don't seem to have nothing in terms of conversation that stimulates me. I only related to adults as a boy because they had a wealth of knowledge, experience and wisdom to impart. And now as a man I'm grateful for that. I never feel lonely because I'm quite fine with enjoying a good book and outdoor activities . Not anti social ( I have a lady friend) but very selective with whom I interact. And let's face it, in today's society a lot of people just bring too much negative vibes and baggage.
Well said
A book lover? There's someone after my own heart.
The way you are, it is the way go. Your thoughts have also described me. Take care my friend!
JUST PERFECT 🥰 💞 👌
Indeed FA indeed!
100% Accuracy and truth. You literally just perfectly explained me...I am so misunderstood by family, friends and co-workers and this video literally described every aspect of my being in 6 minutes. Wow.
I thought they've been watching me, then they made this video. Even the hair dye matches
@@leihejun844 Me too--... never bored ... i want be alone most times ... and early morning is best part of day... just nature, woods and birds,,, This is wonderful life,
Don't worry, 99% of the people in this world feel like you each time they watch this type of video. And most of them are stubburn, not very bright, boring and bored. If you have friends, it means that you are understood by someone. And family issues are extremely common on this planet...
Awesome! Me too. It feels so good to be understood.
@@janjakolic3252 100%
The number 1 benefit of being a night owl is how quiet, calm, and relaxed you can be at your peak alertness time. The fact that you are not going to be bothered by anyone and the only ones who could potentially try to reach you are like minded people who are very likely to understand your methods is just incredible. Every other point on the list is spot on, just wanted to make a point about this particular mattter.
The same could be said of early risers.
I disagree. Early morning is best for me 4:30 - 8:00 am is my time when I contemplate and make my decisions
@@tans3015 it’s very easy to change that verb to highly sensitive people .. can anybody give me a definitive answer to what is intelligence . Having to lump myself into high intelligence to comment favourably on this video is a mistake .. but I’m sure it was done with intention .
I don't claim intelligence of any degree but I am most creative at night.... and busy.. I fall asleep about 4 -5 AM.
@@OOICU812 sure, but early risers will be under pressure to get their productive day started, shower, get ready, so once the world is going they're ready to join. As a night owl your only concern is when you go to sleep.
I fit into all of these traits - I just wish that I could encounter more like me. Too many people that I come into contact with are dolts.....even my family members.
Every one thought that I was weird (when I was a kid) because I would sit and read everything on the cereal box when I was eating breakfast - that is where it all
started. I now read almost everything I encounter. Later, during my working years, I found the job as a long-haul trucker, gave me the quiet and solitude that suited
me very well. Additionally, the adventure of being someplace different every day was good. I am now retired and live alone - in the country - away from people and noise.
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Thats funny about reading everything on a cereal box. I remember I used to do the same thing.
There has to be a balance. I prefer to be alone but occasionally with people, also as long as there's no drama.
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I am a loner by nature and at school i was called anti social because i was spending time alone ,plus that my parents were never pleased with my report cards because i wasn't an excellent student ,apart from the subjects i was really interested in.
I have to admit that i relate to all those characteristics and this video changes the spectrum i look myself in . Thank you so much!
Ya I can relate to what you are saying. I was told the same thing about being anti-social in school. Hell even now I'm a huge anti-social person. But there are things influencing that now. I was called a "Hermit" or a "Loner" as a child and as a teen. Because I decided to take on friends I met some really horrible people in the process. These people interfered with everything from "what I planned to do" to physical activities. The reason they were horrible was that they were also the people ganging up on me and beating me down. So I grabbed on to the purpose of bulking up so everyone would leave me alone again. I can't say everyone was horrible because I met a family who treated me like one of their own. It taught me about real friendship, real respect and real brotherhood.
Same here! I have too many interests to care about things that don't interest me, and that was a big problem in school, and in a social life where people expect you to listen to endless chit-chat about nothing.
I was like that with classes in high school. I actually dropped out in 9th grade. I got my GED 3 months later, 5 years after that I had my BSN ( bachelor in nursing) and my BA in chemistry. I was labeled learning disabled. I actually have dyslexia. I'm not learning disabled, I just learn differently. I believe if you really want it, people will help you get there!
@@angelaf5040 you are so right.
@@cassandramalvasia3629 It's not easy when you're younger. Adults and peers are so quick to tell you what's "wrong" with you, I think in reality you haven't figured yourself out yet and you think differently than most. I told my kids when they were growing up that's what made them exceptional!
So true on all of this, and also I would rather be alone than with most people because they are just not at the level of thinking as I am and it becomes very frustrating when you can't communicate with like minded people. When a topic is being talked about that you know very well and they just don't know much about, and you try to tell them the truth, they get offended. So most of the time I stay quiet when people are talking out their ass. it's very frustrating, ...I'd rather be alone and not have to deal with it.
I so wish I could stay quiet. It would have saved me a lot of grief. When people never get things that are absolutely obvious to me I get sooo annoyed. And, I get annoyed because this happens all the time. I don't know anyone who's on my so called "level of thinking" so I'm always frustrated. Makes me want to be alone so I don't have do deal with unnessessary drama. The endless dramas that people pull me into drains me of all energy and it's such a waste of precious time.
In Utah, there were actually people I could Talk to on the same level. I made a huge mistake and moved to southern Indiana. You can hear crickets in attempted conversations. I have to get out of here.
my thoughts exactly....
@@jonsobieralski6053 After all these years I still talk too much. People really don't care what I have to say for the most part. Because they like to stay in surface thinking and if I am trying to delve deeper into a subject they just get annoyed. Better to just shut up.
As a fairly intelligent person myself, who also actively engages with the world, perhaps I can add some perspective. Oftentimes intelligent people are extremely pedantic, and to others, your theoretical book knowledge doesn't hold much value. When you pontificate endlessly about a subject that you've "read everything there is to read" on the subject, but have never experienced the reality of that subject firsthand, you're really just a know-it-all, and that annoys people. Most people don't want to be corrected and instructed unless asked for . That's a fairly one-sided conversation. In short, a gathering of written things remembered does not constitute knowledge. Knowledge only truly come through experience.
This is a good list of why I prefer my solitude. I've always been different and had a small social circle. Thanks for making this video.
I've chosen a life of quality over quantity...has been my saving grace thru out my life...n I was lucky to have successful career with animal husbandry...most of them r capable of unconditional love...once u experience that...u never go back to settling for anything less!?!!
I don't consider myself an intelligent person, but I did all the things mentioned. As I grew older, I realized that I am different from others. I studied subjects considered difficult by most people but to me it's easy and fascinating.
you are wise and more intelligent
I don’t consider myself intelligent either…always felt out of step with everyone else but didn’t mind… so many things in this video describe me. Small circle friends, loves quiet and solitude, reading. Thanks for this
@@millylagat Wdym
I prefer being alone because so many people are negative, self-absorbed drama queens that think nothing of dominating every conversation. What many people really want is someone to just listen to them talk. Usually, about things that are no where near as horrible as they make them out to be. I find it energizing talking with intelligent people that know how to have an actual two-way conversation, but it’s exhausting and frustrating being stuck in a situation having to listen to someone blather incessantly about insignificant drivel or problems that they likely created themselves that they have no intention of resolving. It sucks all the energy out of me and makes me sad to know that they care so little about me that they won’t allow me to say anything without interrupting and making everything about themselves. I don’t talk a lot, but if I am talking, it’s about something important to me. When the other person interrupts me to change the subject to themselves, it’s really hurtful.
Drama queens 🤣🤣🤣so true
I feel the same way
Well said. I really relate to this x
I totally agree. I thought it was me but you made me realize that it's not. You made me realize that it does hurt. I kept feeling angry actually every time someone would just interrup t me never finish explaining anything to them. By the time that I was able to explain anything to conversation was so so long long to think that they were that they would tell me I have to go now. I felt like they could care less about what I have to say. Me learn so it made me learn made me learn so it made me learn that no matter what I talked about to somebody whether we had a problem or we had to talk about something else, they could give a rats ass about it. I thought it's too much energy I'd rather just ride to my damn letter and if they don't like it they can tell me or if they appreciate it they can tell me they don't, but I simply just got tired of trying to explain myself and not be listened to. It's nice to talk to share this with someone like you because nobody understands it because they're all like that. Thank you for helping me feel better God bless you. 🥰
@@SA-ud9nf ❤️
This hits home on every account. I just wish more people would understand this..because I constantly feel like I have to defend myself to others..when I don't feel like interacting or basically participating in group activities.
I am a loyal friend, but I
resent having to explain myself, and being pressured to participate, when spending time alone is a part of who I am as a person, and literally something I need, like I need oxygen to breathe..being alone is freeing to my soul.
I am a proud Introvert. I cherish my alone space. I fight for it. 😄
Me too! As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks.
I'm with you i know-how annoying it is.
I totally understand and don't want to be talked over by loud people.
Exactly. I'm happier and have more peace in my life as never before was always worrying about what others.thought or feeling less approval am free now to do as I pretty much please those who made me feel like that are gone out of my life for good folks I call this sweet liberty. I am a night person in these my sunset years. And can sleep in as long as I like. Freedom sweet freedom. Wasn't always loved by many but am a free person now. Hope many others can find their peace too
I agree with almost everything mentioned here. Yes, I am a loner, and I thoroughly enjoy my life. I guess I am as intelligent as the next guy but my advice to people is to live in the moment, don't grasp and clutch at things in life, just be in the moment because that's all we have, this present moment!
I am Kenyan young man, I like being alone to the point other thinks I am crazy, but as you say I rarely don't care because I am validated by what I do in private like reading philosophy, watching documentaries, and seeking enlightenment like crazy!
Pamoja.
@@machariagathanwa kabisa
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This is me. I like to be alone because i can do things perfectly without distraction. For me, there is a time for socialization but for a limited time only. Going out with friends to shop is a no no for me. I can finish everything on time when i am alone. Time is very precious to me.
Interesting. I thought girls prefer to be in groups. So do you shop alone ? And what about the beauty salon ? 🤔
Oh my God that's exactly the way that I feel. I have a friend who likes to see me at every week and wants to go out and eat and shop and it's like hello I don't have enough money to be freaking eating all the time I got better things to do than going out shopping all the time and I've got a lot of things to accomplish. Man there's so many comments here that I so appreciate thank you so much. I thought I was the only one that felt this way. Boy this is such a relief thank you. 💖
I absolutely hate shopping with other people and unfortunately that seems to be what most women want to do. I even write out my grocery list from order encountered at the store so that I can get in and get out. I wish there were more women like me. I find most of them to be gossipy, shallow & materialistic.
I have always been the lone wolf, outsider, doing everything differently, especially thinking much differently, resisting being dragged down and back by the pack.
I stay very busy and do the entire process of everything totally on my own.
This video I found to be very soothing, reassuring, and comforting on many levels.
It also gave me hope that there are others out there, similar to myself.
A part of me does hope that many people might see this video and think of me.
So that they can understand me more, and struggle to define me less.
I am grateful for the opportunity to write about these things, not intending to be egotistical at all, because I do feel that I have a lot less ego or desire for self benefit than most.
Together we make a balance, although I do feel outnumbered to be honest.
Great comment! The society tend to applaud people who loves being social at all times. No wonder we feel like an outsider when we love spending time alone.. Be proud of yourself 👍
@@sigrid3553 Thank You so much Sigrid😁 Self worth and pride are things I have always struggled to understand or achieve, but after reading your comment I really do feel that it's now time to embrace that. I will always remember your comment, above all my other memories of so many things, because it pushed a button I didn't know was there. Best Wishes to You😁
I agree totally
Maturity is accepting yourself as you are be happy with yourself
Praise from other people may boost your ego but real happiness comes from within
The joy of challenging yourself and getting is done is indescribable
Yup, you're like me. A Sigma male.
@@AvroBellow Nice to meet you Avro 😁
This nailed me on every point! Each point kept shocking me, and when the one about late nights came up, I could’ve been blown down. I always have done my most surprising work like between midnight and maybe 3 or 4 am. Many of my very best papers in grad school were filled with things I came up with not during an evening, but in the early morning hours while everyone else is sleeping.
Sadly, having alcoholic spouse requires early to bed and up at 4AM. Affords me 12 sanctuary hours per day.
The part about being up late at night. Hit me. The most as well. Thanks for your post.
It makes it a lot easier just to avoid certain people altogether
When you are very intelligent, statistically there is a higher probability to be in the presence of less intelligent people. There is little reward in such company, better be alone. However intelligent people are eager to engage with other intelligent people.
So true!! 👍🌹
Absolutely! All the so-called "friends" I had yakked too much, were less intelligent, and turned out to be users anyway. No wonder I cannot connect with most women. Both my husband and I met & married later in life, which is just fine; less pressure from others to have children (too much anymore). We pamper each other & our cat. Ideal situation for us...
Agreed !
@@christyviolet926 so how many true / good friends do you have ? And how many name sake ones ?
@@AYNTK9 Only a couple of them; my husband is the main one.
To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you :)
Thank you, Chancellor, for the reminder.
Thanks. 👌
Thank you, I needed that reminder. 💓💓
Thanks 🥺
It's not so much I want to be a loner, I have to be. I do not belong in this world. I'm an intelligent person who's forced to live in a stupid world. I've had the police called on me over innocent misunderstandings. I'm seen as a social misfit and people make fun of me. People do not understand my sense of humor. People are scared of me because I'm smarter than they are. Most of all, I cannot fit in with everybody else, because in various situations, nobody understands where I'm coming from or my ways of looking at things. Women shy away from me, too. My so-called father Herb was jealous of me, because I was smarter than he was. Teachers in school paddled me left and right
Better alone than in bad company. I don't want to hear other people's problems, but will help If I can.
Spot on list! Bravo! Brava! 90% of everything is junk and 80% of people are NOT worth spending more than a few minutes with. The happy people are NOT running around with crowds filling up time because their heads are empty. Happy and intelligent people are doing, doing alone, and enjoying their own company, and not wasting their short lives with the nonsense with the majority of simple pedestrians.
I love your channel also, your video describes me to a tee. I'm not beating My Own Drum I'm just stating facts. As a child I read the whole science encyclopedia set, the dictionary, and many many other books. I would stay alone and read instead of hanging out with too many friends. I did have some friends when I was twelve but as I grew I came to be a loner. After I got out of the army which I was in radio repair in electronics, I got into electrical house wire installation, and then went into air conditioning and HVAC and apartment maintenance. I was better at my job then any of the others, I did not have a helper I took care of everything myself. I wasn't rich, but I was happy. I felt fulfilled and satisfied in what I did, I was providing a needed service and that I was appreciated. Now that I am retired, I do sleep most of the day and stay up most of the night till morning. It is my best hours for thinking and contemplating on life and God. Thank you for your video and God bless you and all others who read this.
Yes, I most certainly do like spending more time by myself! I find average people's perspective on things somewhat naive and incomplete. In addition, I was raised in hyper intelligent family and taught manners and respect. I go CRAZY with people who are crude and insensitive. Getting much older now, I find myself wanting to learn more as my mobility has decreased and spend lots of time reading news, viewing documentaries and things on TH-cam and other streaming media. I'm always thrilled when I do learn something new. It doesn't really matter what others think of what I do, only that I approve of it. As I've gotten older I'm far more compassionate than I used to be, but really get angry when someone is cruel and insensitive to others! Excellent video guys, it describes me perfectly!
Great Video! I found myself smiling at everything that was said and relating to it. One thing that wasn't mentioned, when you're alone, you're avoiding the massive amount of ignorance out there on this messed up planet.
I literally picked up the phone and called someone I have almost constant miscommunication with and was like "Oh I know what the problem is I'm an intelligent person!" They fell silent. Do you think he took as an insult? Its hard being intelligent AND HONEST 😔
sensory overload keeps me away from exploring the self. observer . seeing , learning. not able to ignore or hate someone/thing anymore. very often this is pretty hard work to do. i will learn to stay in love with beings i encounter. i need to reflect before i start to interact. i feel responsible. self responsible.
Me too - smiling
@@RealiTeaRewind If you have to ask that question then you aren't very intelligent. You just insulted your best friend with your arrogance, implying that he isn't as intelligent as you, and came off as a conceited jerk. You should call them back and apologize.
@@RealiTeaRewind I will say the only emotion I did not receive from this thought-provoking video was arrogance.
"Solitude helps them understand others"
I am 100 percent in tune with all the 9 reasons you presented but this one really hits me hard and I believe it is one the most misunderstood traits of people who are loners, people on the other side tend to think that they are anti-social or something like that, but in reality they are loners not because they hate being in groups but because of the fact that " birds of the same feathers flock together " but they are rare species and vibrates in totally different frequency with the COMMONS.
Rare species indeed - I don't know ANYone else who appreciates my need for 'down time'. I've lost count of the many people who react to my revealing that to persistent 'visitors' with indignity. "Well then! I'll just cut you off completely," and they disappear. OK.
@@tans3015 he probly attracts people, for some it is difficult to get down time, without pissing off some of them for explaining it to them. Am i smart??
Can’t agree more!!
The hardest part is knowing you’re way more intelligent (in a incomprehensible way; a lot of it is intuition that can’t be explained) and in tune than others but can’t express that as the reason why. So, it’s like this common cycle of you being comfortable being you then since you’re so different you even began to question how intelligent you really are or are you just blowing smoke or crazy. It’s a crazy life.
I think you hit it on the head. It’s not so much that I like to be alone but more of the fact that I don’t find much in common with the average person. In grad school, I really enjoyed working with my equals to work out problems, I was always amazed how different life experiences allowed my peers to approach problems from different angles. Outside an environment where everyone had an IQ of at least 120, I feel like people think in slow motion and it quickly becomes let’s say less interesting.
This is so true. People with mediocre intellectual capacity can never handle being by themselves. I personally spend 95% of my time alone... by choice.
I WISH I could say the same. I've got persistent neighbors/friends who just. don't. get it.
LOL, I see you consider yourself highly intelligent, even more so than others. Interesting. Intelligent people actually recognize the intelligence in others and respects that. Lack of knowledge isn't lack of intelligence.
I've arranged my life so that when I want to be around others, I can and when I want to be by myself (which is also 95% of the time), I can do that too. My own peace of mind is the most important thing to me.
_"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."_
-Agnes Repplier
@@tans3015- Generally, I’ve found that the more I learn, the more I realize how little I know... That’s why being social is important, to a degree. Otherwise, the more one studies and learns, it can create feelings of agitation and frustration.
The Duke of Talleyrand described it most eloquently:
*”When I examine myself, I worry. When I compare myself... I am assured.”*
*- Charles-Maurice de Talleyrand-Périgord*
Me too!
I too have always been a loner. I don’t have a need for anyone so don’t bother with people.
I would go as far as to say that the past few years of the pandemic haven’t affected me as much as most people. I am very strong without company.
I have found that loneliness is when I've had too much of my own company and crave the companionship of others. Then I end up working around a bunch of people I enjoy interacting with and come home at the end of the day to blissful solitude. I both want to be alone and to be able to meet the right kinds of people that I can talk to. The past two years of this pandemic have left me feeling as if I've forgotten how to have long conversations with other human beings.
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I have to feel a connection with people who are not superficial.
The feeling you have about being with people again is very common. Lots of us are feeling we have forgotten how to be with people and are like shy children again. I’m assured it will pass and I hope you will recover from it soon too!
I chat with demons however
@@Hype360_ They are actually great company and can be excellent sources of knowledge.
I have lived alone for 6 years now and I love it. On one side it makes me more sensitive/empathic to people I meet but it also relieves me from having to bear the stupidity of people on a daily basis, I have my refuge. I live in a huge mansion with my dog and thousands of books, no TV but a garden. I am not on social media either. Even as a child I was always alone, no friends. I spent my time exploring old estates, walking in the woods, sitting by the river watching the fish jump or lying in the garden studying the stars. I have never felt alone or lonely. When I worked I was head of a large department or in charge of setting up one and had many people to deal with and I don't miss that. I retired when I had one more idiot boss too many and didn't want my final working years to be in conflict.
@Nancy Hollo The only thing that could scare me is my lack of fear ! What's to be scared of ? Emptyness? The only times I've felt alone was in two relationships.
I totally agree. I taught school for 37 yrs and I often would see students who were very bright have many of these traits! It’s so important for other to understand and be informed with these characteristics to respect the quiet one.
did it work when you told a thicko to respect the quiet one reading a book? i suspect that within minutes the quiet one would be holding to two torn halves of a book, wondering 'what happened?'
I relate to this story. My classmate ( Valedictorian) in HS would answer why he didn't talk much as he had nothing of value to add to the conversation it's best to listen... when speaking your ears are closed. I understood what he meant as I really thought about that statement and it made sense.
The “quiet one” is often stigmatized as creepy. It’s unfair but just a reality.
@@EmilyTienne 💯
you don't have to be the quiet one to be introverted and prefer solitude; it always irritates me a bit when people consider introverts as some shy & quiet wall flowers in the corner; it's more the matter of how much (or how little) social interaction i need and/or am willing to take at one go;)
Rarely does an individual come in to my life that benefits me. Its usually less happiness for me and more stress for me.
This all makes a lot of sense. We are wired to be social creatures but, as I suspect is the case for many introverts like me, the key is balance. I can't be around people all the time any more than I want to be alone all the time. People and social situations can be mentally exhausting. While I was a painfully shy (and highly intelligent) kid, I was always lonely. Becoming an adult, I realized I needed to be more extroverted to get what I wanted out of life. Now, as an older adult, being alone much of the time does not bother me like it used to. I have recently befriended an introverted person. I quickly learned that she is not rejecting or avoiding me, as much as she needs and cherishes her alone time. So it seems the key to this relationship being successful is my respect for letting her have her personal space, even though I would like to spend more time with her. We both cherish the time we spend together, but we are developing the right balance.
Should have stayed alone. You shouldn't have to develop a balance.
wow interesting yet i have a hard time trying to learn your concept of thinking!but yes alone time is crucial I believe!! all the best!!
wow. Thank you for putting that into words. I feel the same way about my own social evolution.
@@Robert-zp2rj Creating balance in life is important for health, well-being and happiness.
I left work as an airline pilot to become a corporate pilot where I was the only one in the cockpit. Many of the points raised here sure apply to me. I'm not totally antisocial but I just work better on my own.
I appreciate that. I've not been considered for jobs because I've been a little too honest in interviews. I can be a 'team player' ( perhaps better than those that boast about the fact) but I've categorically stated I am far more effective, efficient and productive working in isolation. The hierarchy appear to perceive that as a character deficit in contemporary times.
Ah yes! Agreed!!
I agree 100% with all being said. I don't miss being around friends and not afraid of being alone most of the time, I enjoy learning languages and reading in different languages, it's become my passion. Solitude has become my best friend and love the fact that I get to do things I wouldn't be able to do around friends.
Exactly others are the controllers we have to go with their plans. Love people love my family but love my home it's my hiding place. I get closer to God in these times. We get too busy for him at times. How can I hear that soft voice if I am in chaos at times.we need to be still at times. I think.
I enjoy company with others but also like my own space. Having control of your own space is paramount.
When I am alone I feel free to truly be myself. I don’t have to answer or adjust to anyone. I dance, paint, ponder, and exist. I find that I can experience the world more without the distraction of others. I see, hear, feel, taste, smell more, I can pay attention to the world around me and go deeper than the surface level existence. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends, family, and colleagues that I interact with and enjoy, but ultimately, I prefer to be alone.
I love solitude.
When I bought my first house and lived on my own for the first time at 26 I realised just how much I hated noise and chatter!!
I come from a very loud, chatty, argumentative family, and as I’ve got older I’ve got less and less able to be around them all for long periods.
Just drains me.
Love my dogs though❤️
They are perfect company
I absolutely agree and relate to this. For instance, I've never understood how people get "lonely". I've often found that this comes across as "odd" to most others. I've always preferred to be alone, as I enjoy contemplation. Yes, I do value family and friendships, but I've always been the sort to "love from a distance", in both cases.
Me to.
Only one time when I mess up whith medication I feeled wery alone and dark skeard.
If a Dr give me anything agen I dont take it. If it is not very importent and good for me for shore.
Sorry about my bad English writing.
Me too. I love spending time alone, never get bored or feel the need for company. As long as I've got books I'm happy. Being round people is draining
This video explains me to a tee, therefore I also agree and relate.
Yep. To many people alone and lonely are the same thing.
Most people don't read or think, so they get anxious by themselves. Me I have good music and a good book or creative project and I am content. I like spending time with my dog she is good company but I can also read and create with her around.
I love my alone time and always knew I was basically a genius, so this is just the confirmation I needed. I'm going to share this with all my friends and family so they can eliminate any doubt about exactly how smart I am. Super smart!!
This has answered a number of questions for me.I am so tired being around people.for the last twenty years I love just being on my own.lockdown was heaven in my eyes.😃
I didn’t mind the lockdowns either. I still went to work every day but I had an excuse for not socializing. I still can’t fly or travel on public transit but that’s okay
Sounds familiar... 😊
Same here, I had family members going nuts cause they wanted to get out and do stuff, I live alone and it was heaven for me as well. Retirement is going to suit me just fine.
Total heaven !!!
You're the first I've heard that actually enjoyed the lockdown 2 years ago.
When I was a little girl I was really quiet. While others were having conversation I listened and observed. I do believe that this is the reason that i was able to develop my intuition to the next level.
During my childhood I didn't feel lonely but often had the feeling that "they" were "different". Like "aliens" to me. Weird thing.. now I have grown older I still hold that "perception".
Sometimes I refer to them as "the humans".
Even my own family I felt quite estranged from, along with pretty much all groups of people.
I like being alone, but I’m not lonely. I identified with many of the points mentioned in this video.
There is a difference between being alone and lonely. Im often alone but never lonely
@@michaelmcanally2406 Same. But here is the quirky one: Basically now and then you really need friends. Especially when *hit hits the fan and you need run to your old ones, the ones you grew up with and proved to be stayers or other stayers after years of trial. Those are friends you no need or want socialize with on the average day but only on occasions and now and then. Still you can pick up a conversation, despite it was years since last time, like it was yesterday. And they stand up and YOU stand up for them. They are hard to find but the key is whenever you meet someone, whoever it is, be NICE. It doesn't mean you mandatory need put them on your "daily bread".
If you move around a lot, you're kinda doomed. If you stayed nuff time.. i.e. 5-10 years in one place, you can make one or three keepers.
I have no time fluff shallow everyday life "social" blah-blah or interest in so.
Am I a "highly intelligent person"? Neh.. Me score was 136 twice. Make me neither a true "eejit" or a MENSA candidate but smart nuff.
I'm a lone wolf, maybe not so lone after all. And VERY happy as single. :)
The key is learning to accept and enjoy your own company. Being introverted and preferring to be alone but feeling overwhelming emptiness and restlessness as a side effective is something that needs to be overcame
I prefer being alone due to the fact that many people's everyday conversations bore me to death, I'm always in awe as to how people find the topics they choose to converse on interesting. It's mind boggling at best!!!
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@@jerikao4659 yeah Jesus is coming backto rectify you!!!
U r a 1000000% right. I dont hv 2 tolerate others stupidity.
After a few minutes of listening to the truly small talk others find so entertaining, I’m cringing inside and find an excuse to get away. Sometimes it actually feels mentally painful to listen.
One of the best videos I have ever seen on YT.
BTW.......Those who choose solitude are not Antisocial, we are Asocial.
Or just A-hole lol. Before you go all ballistic on me stop typing lol. I’m a choose solitude person and you correct in that I am not anti-social. I really don’t like large groups of people especially crowds. I have a minor panic attack. I feel like I’m drowning. And if the group or crowd is all bunched up and touching me then I do freak out. And I’m never sure whether I’m going to whimper and almost cry or blink rapidly and have a sort of siezure
and pass out. Last time it happened I am told
@@prepperjonpnw6482 The condition you described for yourself is actually a medical condition. It is an anxiety disorder, in Psychiatric term known as “ Social Phobia”, which is actually quite manageable with proper medications. There is no need to suffer these panic attacks.
I'm not Anti-social only Anti-Society.
"I owe my solitude to other people." - Alan Watts
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IDK if I'm intelligent, but I love being alone. I totally agree with the 9 reasons 100%. Every reason you gave for being alone is why I love being alone. I love my family and friends but I need my alone time. It's a must. I also have just so many words to use in the day and once they are used up, I'm done talking. Nothing personal, just the way I am. I'm a thinker. I love to think and read and educate myself. Especially history and culture.
For many of us older introverts, we often find it frustrating/irritating watching the devolution of humanity. I was more extroverted as a young person, but now frustrated at the lack of respect humans give to themselves and others. It’s only recently that I taught myself how to draw and now I only venture out when needed. Dan would rather not even be bothered. ✌🏽🦋🧘🏽
Rather than "devolution of humanity" shouldn't it be the decline of humanity?
@@saintnash1 For me devolution has always meant "the movement of power or responsibility from one person or group to another:"
it's funny, when I was younger I tended to be a MUCH more outgoing, loud, abrasive, YOLO type. Then I grew up. And I discovered the _real_ me: much more introverted, introspective, think a lot, read a lot, my life exists mostly between my ears. Sadly finding others of a like mindset/similar hobbies is next to impossible, plus I tend to be drawn toward extroverts or more livelier people (opposites attract?), so even most of my friends aren't like me. But I wholeheartedly agree about the devolution of humanity. Like a slow-mo train wreck from which you can't look away. Technology was supposed to expand our minds, make us reach for all that is excellent, and make us strive for the better good of all. Instead we've become small-minded, shrill, shrieking, sex-obsessed, hateful armchair quarterbacks about any and every issue. God help us all.
@@saintnash1 I’m as dumb as they come and no one likes me. Does that mean I am intelligent in a different way?
I am 62 and have always had the problem of "waking up as the sun goes down" no matter what time I got up in the morning. I am suddenly energized and accomplish a lot in just a few hours. Most of my life everyone told me all of the habits. You listed are bad, this is the first time I have heard them all listed in a positive light. Thank you.
I wouldn’t refer to myself as “highly intelligent,“ but rather just reasonably intelligent. Still, yes, I do agree with most of the points brought up in this video. When I’m reading, thinking, or bing creative, I tend to rather be left alone.
But I’m fine with doing more ‘mindless’ tasks like cleaning, spackling/sanding, paintIng a wall, digging holes, etc., in a social setting where I can interact with other people.
In fact, I prefer to have some kind of project to fiddle with while being social, because it eliminates pressure from not just me, but others trying to get to know me... it can be an icebreaker.
I can relate to this. When I visit people, I'd rather visit them to work at something. I find sitting around talking exhausting.
I can definitely agree with that. It feels the same with me. I can't just sit around and conversate with some drinks for too long. Productivity and activity is what really gets me engaged in good conversations.
agree, and seems to me there are time for both, and by interacting you support teams to get things done. Then in solitude you can collect and sort your thoughts into action without the distraction of idiots chiming away... a good leader does both to get results, while some are awkward in many skills and prefer to be left alone....
Let's not confuse selfishness with intelligence now....... people already confuse lies with truth and now they confuse sex as gender......
I’m so emotional I pick up people’s feelings and pain and i take it with me.
Thank you for the video it reminds me that I’m not crazy it’s just people cannot see what’s around them or what’s happening or even read someone’s face. It’s really debilitating and I haven’t learned how to have their feelings bounce off back to them they just instantly overwhelm me and I feel like I’m in their situation. Super big empath I try to help everyone before myself and I am still considered weird and it’s OK because one day soon they will see that maybe I wasn’t so weird it worked to my advantage
Even as a toddler I enjoyed being alone. Mom told me she finally realized “go to your room” was not an effective punishment for me because I LIKED being alone, reading. Much more punishing to make me sit in the midst of lots of activity…it’s overwhelming for me. 😝
Yes! My mother also found it challenging to "punish" me, the rare times she found it necessary, and for the same reason. She could only punish me by talking me to death.😆
My daughter love being in her own room her own little space .she loves her alone time now but has so many friends. Can you.beiieve that?
This answered so many questions about myself. It’s why I’m completely bored at parties and despise small talk. It explains why I’m a voracious reader, and why I stay up until 5am as my natural body clock. It’s why I will never work 9 to 5 and prefer being with only one person at a time. It’s why I’m a solo pianist, and not a fan of chamber music. Thank you for the validation. Why was I never told this before? I loved reading comments from those who are similar.
Guessing youre not keen on weddings and abba tribute bands? Am i the only one that found it slightly entertaining the first time, but painful for the 4023 times since?
I find that the moment my mind focuses, an incessant chatterer is mobilized from out of nowhere, propelled to my vicinity and crashes into my field without invite.
I also much prefer dealing with one person at a time. Decent behaviour is rare when Groupthink is involved.
@@nickfranklin6495 yes, Nick! I totally relate to everything you said. I always thought it was just me. Nice to know there are lots of us out there.
@@nickfranklin6495 did you also handle the lockdowns better than most? I enjoyed much of it, although not being able to go to the gym took its toll. It was like a long snow day. I used to look forward to skipping school when we had snow storms. The feeling of not having to be anywhere at a given time was so refreshing.
@@danielgloverpiano7693 'It was like a long snow day' I hear that!
You enjoyed it because you have a mind that ignores the nonsense and thinks 'How do i strengthen my foundations?' at a time where most are crumbling due to a complete lack of defences. Quite rightly, you looked to make a plus out of this fabricated crisis. Suddenly having time on your hands was, in part, a gift. For the mob, it was a curse, where they had time with their own self (aaaah!) and realised that their only two real friends are the media and the benevolent state. Spare time for them means boredom (ha ha) and the opportunity to work on their fears and baseness.
Mentally, I was unphased by the plandemic as it was no surprise, even the coincidental social justice hysteria is not a new ploy, I'm sure you know your history. But after two years, I would say the psychopaths need to back off now, as the shutting down all aspects of life has gone way too far.
Physically, the timing could have been better as two or three injuries (hips mainly, from alot of sport etc,) came home to roost around 2019. Can't complain as i have had alot of good fun (and a fair few warnings that trouble was coming!). Normally, I would have relished all that time to really get fit. A fair bit of research has led me to the subject of PRI, it may be one that cracks a complex problem, too early to tell at the moment.
@@nickfranklin6495 thanks much! You’re spot on.
I find great comfort in my own company. I consider it a super power…learning to be happy alone is one of the best things we can teach ourselves and our kids because you won’t fall for codependent relationships that plague our society. I dream best when I’m by myself and I love to dream.
I guess that if you are comfortable with your self you will have less problems being alone. That's not to say that you want to be lonely, that is different thing.
We are perhaps not easily bored with our own minds and need others to the same extent to "help" us get through the day?
I thought everyone was like this. I keep forgetting they aren't. It doesn't make sense to be other than this way. I cherish my late in the day/night time to work things out, understand, settle, explore, and research something new. Its comforting... until my wife says I broke my promise and stayed up late again. So now I often have to go to bed, close my eyes, and spend time with myself undetected. My wife is very social and knows everyone's names, their kids names, and who had a cold 5 years ago. She thinks I don't care about other people, but it's not true. I do. I just don't want to spend time with that level of detail. Oh well.
Love it. I guess I made the list. I love Living alone, being single. Reading I tend to have a lot more energy at night, usually up till 2-3. While I love my family and friends. I do feel drained by too much interaction. I'm a retired as a Social Worker. I loved my work and it was gratifying to help others. I'm grateful to retire early to have more time to travel and read. Great video
I definitely fit this profile. I started reading novels at the age of 7 and 8. I have always been a night owl, even now at age 70. I am always up until 3 or 4 in the morning before I go to sleep. I am still a voracious reader. My husband is much more outgoing than I am; I tend to be an introvert. When people come to visit and sit around on our patio, I usually have to excuse myself after a while, while my husband can visit for hours. We are a good match, however, and have been happily married for almost 19 years.
U said social , ur fail.
I was a Social Worker with Schizophrenia patients for a few years. Most were intelligent people. Some college educated. That disorder made life difficult.
Yes that drained feeling. It's like as soon as i've said my hellos to everyone i dont have anything else to do but to plan my escape.
100% spot on.
You nailed it! You have described me to a T! My sister is the same! Thanks for the confirmation that we are not crazy nor social outcasts. WE love people, but we also enjoy being alone, and we live together, and enjoy being in our own bedrooms, quiet and apart from each other for hours at time to think, to read, to watch different programs. I read like crazy!! I have a huge collection of books in every category, like a library! Now I better understand my crazy sleep schedule.
When I was in college, my math instructor and mentor said: "math is not easy for you at all, you have to really work at it, but you have this gift to see PATTERNS, this is how you process, this is what helps you figure things out. I have never seen a more gifted student who notices such minute details before."
I spent my entire working career in the medical field, and was well known for being able to spot minute details about my patients, and spotted early on, problems. I could see normal patterns in my patients every day functions, then immediately notice when something was off, when even the most gifted RN, or MD missed it. This frustrated the staff, but saved the lives of several patients. ONE time, working in the ER, I was the ONLY person there, due to an emergency CODE in the ICU. (small hospital) One of our doctors, had a heart attack in the ER, it was up to me, at that time, just a clerk, to do start CPR, call a code, and get people to come help. We were so short handed, I was directed to defibrillate the patient! This person lived, and when he found out what I had done, HE paid for me to go back to school to get my RN credentials, he thought I could have and should have been an MD--with my smarts and abilities!
Thanks for the information on THAT--the sleep cycle--that has plagued me for years! I am a tried and true night owl. I even worked at nights as a teenager, and right into adulthood. Now that I no longer work, I am still the Night OWL Drives my family nuts. I always sleep better in the daytime! I am naturally wide awake at night! bless you and thanks! Oregon USA
This describes me and my sister as well
Wow! That’s a good description of me. Now in my 70’s , I was an only child who loved to read and only had a few close friends. Not antisocial though,because I love to dance and compete at sports . Mostly individual sports like tennis, bowling, roller skating, track, etc where larger groups were not needed.,and you could meet girls. There’s never a day with enough hours to do all of the things I would like to do. I like to learn new things even late in life. I took up golf at 60, bass guitar at 65 and pool (billiards) now at 74. I guess you could say I have some unconventional ideas and observations also. Thanks for this article.
Loved your comment! TY for sharing.
big hugs that you discovered pool 65 years later than the optimal age range, best damn game on the planet...
Someone who understands the struggle is real.... It is hard knowing everything and still being surrounded by idiots all the time.
I agree with 95% of the video. It has me nailed. I always want to learn and I am 68 years old and the sleep cycles too. I like a quiet house when everyone is sleeping and I am busy doing things alone. I do socialize a little but it is mostly with people that operate like me and I can share the same ideas but I don't do projects with anyone. I rarely get lonely. I also enjoy reading the Bible too.
That has been the hardest part for me on working I always want to learn and as soon as I learn the job or activity and then perfect them I’m board with them and need something else. I’m 39 now but I can picture me being your age and struggling to find something new to learn but I guess the world is always evolving and creating new things to learn
Same here Richard!
Jesus was often alone to meditate and pray so i think we’re ok 👌
@@the_alchemy_method Great comment! And I do believe people now days are so wrapped up in technology, that they never were taught/learned the simple manner of just stopping to "smell the roses". Glad I was brought up in a simpler time.
I think the sleep cycle is influenced by ones living arrangement. I am all of those thing except I am always naturally sleepy at around 9 pm and I live alone so I can learn and read and do activity whenever I want. I think a lot of people are night owls because that's when others are sleeping.
I love being alone because that's how I can really replenish myself spiritually and emotionally. Since I'm more of a giver, every interaction with people puts me in the natural position where I'm the one who gives. So to replenish myself, I need to be alone. As a musician and a writer, connexion with art and sound is mostly possible being alone. Writing, composing, creating correlate well with being alone. I guess I enjoy my own company, that's probably the best thing that could have happened to me. So thankful !
You must start demanding an energy transfer IN to your account. Otherwise, eventually your psyche will rebel, which could be detrimental to you.
The good people in this world hugely undervalue themselves and need to stop giving to those who only take. It is tricky if youre a gentle soul, but you need to employ subtle force.
I'm sure that you notice complaints as soon as you withdraw the goods - so, start 'charging' for it.
The good people in this world are the gold.
@@nickfranklin6495 Thank you Nick ! I'm very lucky, surrounded by great people, friends and excellent family members. I give, but I'm also able to take - incommensurable joy, as you know. I love being alone, because I'm NEVER alone. I don't consider myself a gentle soul. Your last sentence could be the first and last song of love « The good people in this world are the gold. »
Every point on that list perfectly applied to me. I wish I could find a wife who had the same traits, but most people these days just seem like self-obsessed chaotic swarms of psychological problems. I'd rather be alone.
Brilliantly stated. And true!
It is hard to find a person like that. I want a husband who’s an intellect too and he’s got to be a Christian as well, so it’s harder for me.
Yeah i want that too
I'm single and am introvert
This video describes me so well, except for the sleeping part. I am 50 and still single because I refuse to settle. My philosophy is that I can do bad by myself so I don't need someone else to help me.
I so much prefer to be by myself because most people I know are controlling freaks and I have zero desire to control someone's else's life...just too much work. Others are bitter, complaining and unthankful and always want to discuss the affairs of others, which is so boring and I can think of nothing more unproductive. When I try to change the subject to discuss ideas, I am being accused of not caring about others. Wow! How wrong of a conclusion. I rather find solutions and lift others up.
Those who need to be around others to feel secure in themselves find me strange, but when I look at their lives, the relationships they have are parasitic and they aren't even perceptive enough to know this. Solitude is a blessing to me. I read a lot, take long walks on the beach to reflect and be better, and find ways to be creative.i rather have a dog 🐕 as my companion than a person who spews garbage all day...what a nightmare!
We do not suffer fools lightly. I'll talk to myself when I want a intelligent conversation.