"How do I know what's really me versus what's my mental illness?"
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.พ. 2025
- This week licensed therapist Kati Morton talks about distinguishing between our core personality and trauma response, how to figure out what our identity is without our mental illness, and dealing with SA online. She then explains how we can know if we are being lazy, how to ask questions in therapy, and if there are any reasons a therapist would lie to a patient.
Ask Kati Anything, your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT ep. 235
Audience questions:
1. How do you help clients distinguish between behaviors or reactions that are a direct result of their trauma versus those that are part of their core personality? 01:39
2. What do you tell clients who have been depressed/anxious for so long that they don't really have an identity that excludes their illness? If your illness is part of who you are, how do you grow away from it? Edit for clarification: I'm specifically referring to childhood mental illness that lasts into adulthood 17:18
3. Hi Kati, I hope you are well, I'm feeling really confused,scared and Frankly just sh!t. I've started college this year and we have just had an online safety class as an introduction. This led to me having a panic attack and with pressure from my tutor continuing to ask what's wrong I ended up telling her something now I wish I hadn't. For context earlier this year just before leaving high school I started chatting to a boy online (stupid I know.) I was under the impression that he was just 2 years older than me... 22:52
4. How to know when you're lazy . After therapy, depression might be gone but one is used to doing nothing and getting back on track. 27:48
5. Why am I worried about asking questions in therapy? I have an incredible relationship with my long term therapist, but I cannot bring myself to ask questions. It's not just about her, but about what she thinks about why I do things, her thoughts on my current diagnosis, her advice on what to do etc. I don't have this issue with any other relationship. I suspect I am worried about rejection or maybe her answer not being what I want to hear. I have BPD, OCD, ED and CPTSD - all of which are very well managed and I am high functioning again. 29:48
6. Could you explain if there are any reasons a therapist would lie to a client? Are there any situations that would be acceptable/unacceptable? I recently found out that mine has and its shattered my trust on an emotional level but on a logical level I can understand why they may have lied (would like to think they had my best interest at the forefront and not intentionally want to upset me) - for context we planned a break from therapy for a period of time and the lie meant we ended earlier than expected, very abruptly when I was going through THE worst few months of my life. I now feel so let down and unsupported, and find myself questioning other things. I would love to know your thoughts! 34:16
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Love to everyone here , going through Mental illness , and struggling , you are worthy and deserve love 💗
I had a therapist who told me that we want to stay with what we know, because the unknown is inherently scary to us. So, even if it means choosing abusive partners, if that's what's familiar, that's what we will do. We have to get the courage up to try to do the scary unknown thing.
Kati, would you consider ending your videos with a journal prompt for those of us that struggle to know what to write about?
Love this idea!!❤
She offers journal prompts for people who donate $5 per month via Patreon
As someone who can trace their anxieties back to kindergarten, I am so glad to see this covered.
I've failed at every medication that's been given to me for anxiety (variety of nasty side effects) so I've begun to wonder if I just shouldn't accept it vs trying to medicate that out of me.
Can't wait to watch!
Katie I love your approach and just plainly being real!! I find myself having the same as you!
To the last question I feel as a future therapist would you not hold out info if safety to you a therapist? Esp if the client is possible a risk. But not being honest about core things.
I recently got out of a very abusive relationship and was pretty much rescued from that by someone else. Yes, it was boring and I wasn't really attracted to them but it seemed like a safe and wise decision to make.
They actually turned out to be more abusive than the original! How can i trust anyone?!
I find I'm attracted to other scapegoats and trauma survivors, and triggered by those who the world deems "normal" but who I see as narcissists, bullies and abusers. The kind of people who will throw out an insult "as a joke" when they first meet me. I find it extremely difficult to form any relationships. I try to hold respect for myself and look for friendships and connections with people who are as mature as I am, but I am constantly rejected for not living up to people's standards: job, housing, past, family, children, etc. Even middle-aged adults struggle to understand and show empathy for my congenital visual impairment. And, it seems like the only people who take an interest in me are predators and users.
Ok …. Non premium user and this is a video that background plays on mobile 🤷♂️
I wanna take a moment to recognize TH-cam for doing such things because it is freaking awesome. I have noticed that it only seems to happen for myself on videos that are relative to mental health due to my condition I have had someone verify that I am not tripping out.
The last video was another one that sung in that moment to my personal journey.
If not some TH-cam intervention/bonus/feature to boost creators for users with niche interests, then I wonder whom/what has intervened?
Has anyone else experienced this? Either way, it got my attention.
Checked a couple others and came back to finish watching 😊 not working on other videos so not a birthday feature or anything
Thought you might like to know how “TH-cam” may be helping your channel ❤
Yes!!! I couldn't work out how I was doing it. It's only Katie's videos that do it though!
Did I miss something? Are these no longer being posted on the main channel?
We’re running an experiment and suspect that it is better to post long form here.
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Are you starting to post the Thursday videos on this channel again?
I hope the person who sent the grooming story hears you, Katie. Honey, if you're reading this, me too. So many people too! You did nothing wrong. You were taken advantage of and abused. Please see a therapist because they will help you see the truth. Parents don't always understand. Tutors don't always understand. Many people do. You're so cherished and strong.
How can I find your work book.
You are who you are.
I agree. To hold confidentiality.
there is a figure in my mind in all the things and i dont know what to do...
I always fall for the bad guys know i stay away from them
And the ather reason is because I'm sick and don't want to be a burden to anyone
The ather reason is i can't stand anyone to thatch me so it will not be fair for me to be in a relationship because i would not treat them fairly
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i have given up care of veiled threats and consequences.