That's really not a good look for a woman to propose to a man. I don't care how much a woman wants to be married, if the man doesn't propose that's saying something, he either doesn't want to marry you in particular or maybe he doesn't want to get married at all to any woman. It's an act of desperation for a woman to propose to a man.
BAYBEEEEE!!!!!! Children will bring up your deepest insecurities/traumas with the quickness. This is why I wish people took more care of their mental/emotional stuff before having a child. You’re not having a baby, you’re creating a SOUL that will need guidance.
This is why kids are off the table for me. I was raised by someone who didn't heal their trauma and passed their unresolved curses to me and my brothers. I can't do that to a child who I'm supposed to love and protect.
Uhm, the best relationships are when the woman likes AND respects the man. This is because the woman in the relationship that demands more upkeep to remain in the relationship
I'd also say he's probably NOT the type to settle down. Joshua's EX GF wasted almost a DECADE with him & got married to another man after they broke up. It took her LONGGGG but better late than never.
I notice that most celebrity couples who share too much about their relationships never seem to stay together. It’s never a good thing for a mother to see her own insecurities in her child.
Right! Even big mouthed regular folk dont stay together. And yess, as someone who was born to a mother who didn’t face her trauma, it’s a huge burden for the child to carry and can be lifelong.
I wish my mom got help before she had kids. She was a victim of sexual and domestic abuse. Unfortunately she took out her trauma on me and my brothers. She was both physically and verbally abusive to me for years. I tried telling her to get help but she refused to get help. Now I no longer talk to her because she did not respect my boundaries and she continued to be verbally abusive to me even when I became an adult.
Selfhate person wanna live through their mixed children to feel better to them self as black man i have seen plenty black man who have the same mentality
@@uniquelyme3581 She stated it was a learning experience for her in terms of facing colorism. She said her focus was blackness. She’s decentered that focus because of her soon to be white ex husband, and her baby girl. The way colorism affects you as a black woman specifically a dark skinned black woman, is real.
@@aloveaffairwithself l don't doubt that it does effect darker skinned BW. My mother was darker skinned and l know how not being darker skinned in a dark skinned family effected me. Many will think we get the red carpet treatment when it can be the other way around, that's why that comment got to me lol some of us are abused for not being darker skinned, l know.... WHO CARES RIGHT? 👀
A relationship is going to fail if the foundation is jacked up. You should closely reevaluate your reasons to get married before you walk down the asile with your partner.
So he wasted 10 years of his ex partner and only him to get married and have a kid. This always happens. When they tell they don't want that and after years you break up with them, they do that in less a year
@hidiamahine9594 really? How sad she gave up 10 years. I remember how Nikii Bella waited years for John Cena to his mind and when when he didn't, he gave her the shut up ring, but she wanted kids too. She broke up with him. Now she is married with kids.
Her healing her trauma through her 'privileged' child, is a burden no child should carry. I don't think her husband would want that for their child either.
I think that marriage failure seems more prevalent now because its easier and more socially acceptable to get divorced, therefore more common. I don’t think we have ever really chosen spouses correctly within wider society. Think about how many ‘failure’ marriages we have seen in older generations yet they are still together. Staying together is hardly a sign of success unfortunately. Many times the length of a relationship indicates stagnancy, fear, manipulation, abuse, trauma bonds etc.
My mother proposed to my father they’ve been married for 25 years this year. However I HIGHLY DO NOT recommend women so this. It’s sets the tone for you to be the dominate figure pushing the relationship and that really should be the man’s role
Agreed. I think ‘dominance’ is shared. I’m good with money so I’m the lead on our investments , my husband’s very organized so he manages the bill paying. I’m an engineer and a writer, so I’m the one helping our son with his math and English schoolwork. My husband speaks 3 languages and studied computer science so he helps our son with Spanish and all IT things around the house. I hate ironing and he doesn’t like to cook, so we trade off on those things. I think rarely there is one person in a couple who’s ‘the best’ at everything, so whoever’s better at something should take the lead
@TeaWithTay My mother proposed to my father, as well. They were married for 65 years until she passed away a year ago. I strongly agree with you regarding women NOT proposing to men. My mom had a strong personality already but I do feel that her proposal definitely set the tone for their marriage which was challenging & strained at times.
@@Dyane629I feel the same. No doubt my father has love for my mother because they wouldn’t have lasted this long if that wasn’t the case. However, the power dynamics are extremely off. My mother takes on a more masculine, dominant role, and my dad takes on a more passive feminine role, and it just makes things complicated. Truthfully, I don’t think they would have lasted if she hadn’t done that.
Most of my guy friends have shared to me that they in fact do have a hard time telling a woman no. They also shared that one of the main reasons they are/were in a relationship was because the woman was the agressor/driver and they just followed suit, regretting it years later.
@ImAKangwithnokingdomSeems like alot of men do this shit all the time.they will just waste your time and their own. like dude YOU COULD OF SAID SOMETHING IF YOU KNEW THIS WASN'T WHAT YOU WANTED.
If he did not want marriage or a child, there are lots of responses he could have made to remedy the situation. Men abandon pregnant wives and girlfriends all the time. Also, when she asked, he could have just said no. Sometimes relationships run their course and it is better for all concern to just end them.
Lmfao when a BM does something bad it's BM but when a non BM does something bad it's "men are men" No one would be saying that uf jodie was white and joshua Black
I agree and have been thinking the very same thing since first reading her interview when it was published. I’ve followed Jodie on social media from the early days of her career and over the last few it’s occurred to me that she has many narcissistic traits which is very unfortunate especially in mother’s raising daughters.
I don’t like how some people continually keep bringing up how beautiful Jodie is, as if that erases the countless red flags she choose to ignore. Proposed to a man she was in situationship with and whom always spoke as if he was some sort of savior to her. It’s a small minority of people that actually works out for. Now everybody wants to change their narrative because she’s a fav in their book. She is not blameless, men will go with the flow of shit I’d it benefits them. I hate this for him, her, and their child.
Agreed she proposed to him and after a one night stand. He was clear and what he wanted. She kept at him. So no I'm not mad at him. He said his truth she chose not to hear it. Then she decided to have a baby with a man that did not want to have children. Then she has a biracial baby? I think she has color issues. I find it odd when people who are always talking about how proud they are of their color marrying someone opposite. Its like Priyanka Chopra who has a white baby girl, always talking about being proud of her roots but actions speak louder than words. It is so easy to have a black or brown i baby f you want one but I think they fibbin. Jodie HEAL yourself don't put that on your child!
He definitely benefited from being with her since she as the it girl on the scene. He became popular again and even seemed to get a little swag about his self.
Everything about this relationship just seemed embarrassing. She appeared to be more into him than he was into her. Every time he did an interview and mentioned her, it was always too much information on how obsessed she seemed over him. Jodie was moving like he was her white savïor.
@@jupiterskiss3473 Ummm no. That ignorant statement does not apply to all West Indians and Africans. Maybe the ones you know personally, but for myself and the ones I've come across just no.
Wow, I'm glad she was honest about how her daughter triggered childhood trauma of colorism. Along with a father who didn't want kids, this child got a bad deal 😢.
It's that one night stand... If she hadn't had sex with him before getting to know him, she would have been able to evaluate him better. They had casual sex and she caught feelings.
@@Patty-ys4pv no, many women wouldn't have done that. Women are biologically more picky than men and are more careful with having casual sex, because we can get pregnant.
I hope she doesn't think her child owes her something or wants to take out her traumas on the little girl. Like, you chose to procreate with a man that looks like that. It's not your daughter's fault.
Exactly! That was such a red flag admitting something like that publicly for your child to overhear when they grow up. I hope for the child sake she's not taking her insecurities out on that poor baby.
Jodie has alot of inner work to do before her daughter realizes and comprehends what Jodie said about her. Even if she did feel that way, which is valid, you don't say that stuff out loud and to the media. You say it with a therapist. I hope Jodie stays single for a while because she levels up any man that couples up with her. Joshua was irrelevant before her. She needs to be more strategic and realize the value she has.
He was certainly not irrelevant! ‘The Affair’ series was hugely successful with audiences and won Emmy’s and Golden Globes. This after is big success on Dawson’s Creek so not true at all. I’ve known about him for years in several movies too but has no idea who she was. She’ll fade away, he won’t imo. Oh and he just did another series on one of the streaming platforms, the sequel to that 80s movie with Glen Close and Michael Douglas.
As someone that refused to date black men in my teens and early 20, I had to reverse-engineer the idea of dating outside as a special because most men are the same( and feeling safe bc white will leave you fa dead 😂) Luckily for me I saw a long term white boyfriend go from what I saw as special to typical😅. It humanized the hell outta the dating pool 😂 which led me to revisit my standards. That led to me considering what type of mother I would be to a biracial child if I believed that white men were better. I’m the same complexion as Jodie and never really ingested the vomit of colorism; just didn’t internalized it but saw it. But I had to do some self reflection and it helped. Thank God I faced it before having a multi-racial child. Bc home girl is a whole activist, gets it, and understands privilege bc I never made it about us just the world and it’s systems. Ended up married to a black man 😊 after her dad. Men are the same folks do self work and face your traumas.
@@RAJOHN-ke7mc I did go and Jodie may have went to but the reality is sometimes you don’t know what needs to be healed until you’re faced with different situations. In a perfect world we would all be perfect while beings before having children but it doesn’t happen that way for everyone.
Omg yes! Thank you… this was the comment I was waiting for. Healing is a lifelong journey. Awareness of triggers or unresolved trauma doesn’t mean she’s burdening or harming her child. There are healthy ways of addressing those traumas such as going to therapy. It doesn’t make you a bad parent or spouse if you discover after having kids/entering a relationship that you still have more work to do. Everyone in this comment section is projecting and adding unto what she said. I wish the best for her and her baby girl. ❤
It seems like she wanted a mix baby. UNEQUALLY YOKED 🤷🏾♀️ we are not suppose too proposed to a man she asked for this. Giving that man power over her she’s crazy
People really need to take a step back and evaluate their life (especially mental and emotional health) before making a child. This isn't just some random creature you're bringing into your home, you need to fully devote your time and effort and emotions so they have the rearing they deserve. EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS REAL
Jodie needs time to heal because she has some trauma stemming from childhood in terms of being being good enough. I don’t know. From her tweets of her bullying in school due to her complexion to her proposing to a dude one can’t help but wonder her mental state. However, I know for sure I ain’t proposing to no man…
Her comments about her biracial daughter are so weird to me... Like 😐... Basically saying that she wanted her to be black ? Wtf. People really be saying anything these days, no media training, no filters.
Have Marriages Ever Been Built on Solid Foundations? I think people just have more freedom, more $, more options, than they had or didn’t know they had in the past ✨
I hope she gets healing before her daughter is able to understand the magnitude of what she said in that interview. Children are sponges. The impact a parent can have on their child can be lifelong; it should be handled with intention and very delicately. I think the selfishness behind the reasons ppl decide to have children can be dangerous in a sense; this is why self actualization and healing are crucial prior to creating life.
Both of them are grown and made grown choices. I’m not crazy about his cheating at all. Also I think it makes sense that she proposed if she wanted the child, who was Clearly on her way, in wedlock. No the baby didn’t gestate in 4 months. Numbers don’t lie. Let her be. Support her as she grows. Jodie and baby need their peace. Josh will do Josh and hopefully be a presence in his daughter’s life. Sometimes people get stronger through life experience. Not everyone shows up strong but they do have to show up.
For her to say that about her daughter, it’s kinda creepy . As if there a jealously, or realization her daughter is going to be favored more . But if it was my DAUGHTER I wouldn’t care I love her . And she new he was white when she had sex
Ok sister Jodie keep enjoying every moment of life. Your daughter is going to have the greatest life. Grow her to be aware of her as a blessing in your life , pour into her all that is good about you and she will decide at the right time the tools she needs to get live a full life.
Let’s not get it tangled and twisted up, Jodie was a flex for Joshua. I noticed how his career received a sudden pep up. I also think he may have been very conscientious about their racial dynamics and that may have influenced him choosing marriage and parentage with her (aka felt pressured by whyte guilt). I think Jodie is one of the most beautiful women in Hollywood, sorry she doesn’t share my sentiments.
@@theteleisewilliamsexperienceright and to be honest I didn't think about their relationship either way I didn't care I only wish them the best when I found out they were married😂
I think what she was was very honest and reflective. No shame on her at all. Very valid. Idk about men abandoning mixed kids tho bc they seem to abandon their single race kids too so idk about that one
7:28 this is why I can't have kids with a white woman. I'll struggle to relate and educate the child. They won't have the same life experience I would have as a darker skinned man.
As a dsbw, I respect Jodie's realness about this sensitive subject. I wonder when we say we only want Black babies, if perhaps what Jodie is talking about is lowkey what we mean.
I genuinely want celebrities, influencers, & everyone else to just BE QUIET! We shouldn’t know THIS much about their relationship…like please stop telling us these types of details! At least for the kid’s sake. 🤫🤐
My thought process of their relationship was similar to yours I hoped for the best but the marriage then baby seemed rushed and I wasn't for the over sharing by either of them. Lastly for us as women it's been great hearing many women who have mixed kids explaining this she's not the first and I think it's your job as a parent to do the work so you don't pass down trauma on to your babies. This isn't even as simple as swirling some people marry Africans and Hispanic men thinking it's not a big deal but culturally it can be. Yanie thanks for covering this I know you'd prefer other topics 💕
@@Patty-ys4pv Seems like he's was as well many men change their minds and have kids once they see all their friends happily married with kids. But I think their daughter deserved better than this.
@@Patty-ys4pv I understand that speration of parents is normal now but I meant she deserves to have a two parent household that she was born into. But yes I think both of them will try their best.
Jodi made the choice she felt she had to make; her biological clock was ticking, her celebrity crush showed interest in her and she moved fast. Many women would have done the same thing for their celebrity crush. Katie Homes did the same thing, she was engaged to Tom within weeks of meeting. I believe if Jodi did not propose, she would not have made it down the aisle and she would not be a mother . The relationship help both of their careers. I did not know who Jodi was before the marriage and I forgot about Joshua until I read that he was married to Jodi. Black men were not lined up to marry her she is dark skinned. If she did not propose she would probably be 40 single and crying about being childless. I applaud her for going after what she wanted. She is brave . As long as a black woman had her baby in wedlock , with a man worth more money than her and did not have a baby by a pookie , it's a win.
@@ghost99100 When women's biological clocks begin ticking in their mid to late 30s some women become desperate. There is no shame it it. She had a healthy pregnancy without expensive fertility treatments and that's what matters.
Yanie can we please talk about black women having kids who look like the same women they suffered colorism and disrespect from. Especially dark/ brown black women having mixed race kids
I grew up with her and she had been saying she was going to marry this man since she was 9 years old. She was determined. Hopefully she turn back to the most high and remember he she really is.
*The moment you step forward with your masculinity, you have to finish it that way. Women do not understand the laziness of men, if you are meeting most of his basic needs a man will not go anywhere and they know they're not in love with you!*
Hate to say it but I'm not really surprised, the first thing I ever heard about their relationship was that it started as a one night stand, so I was more so surprised hearing about their relationship being good
Celebrity relationships don’t last in general. I don’t know why the public always gets so invested in them. They marry and divorce all the time interracial or not. It’s actually shocking when they do last so there’s that.
I feel like he was the one that ended it but he didn't want her to be embarrassed in public for proposing to him and then in the end he leaves her so he just probably asked her to file for divorce.
@@Nashmirotic so she can not change. The way she thought in the beginning of the marriage is how she thinks now. Lol, did this happen to you. For you to reimagine this happening to her too.
Apparently he didn't know she was filing. He found out when we did lol same as what Jeezy did to Jeanie Mai smh. Maybe the conversations weren't leading anywhere and he didn't think it was that deep but she obviously thought it was very much so that deep.
Yeah idk why she rushed everything. And he too, is an adult and could have said no, I'm not ready for such a commitment. She should have just had fun without having a kid & marriage.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 It doesn’t matter how you feel, the only thing that counts is what women do. Women will no longer endure unhealthy relationships.
I don't think it's fair to say that relationships are not lasting just because we see many celebrity relationships ending and they do not represent humans as in entirety or the relationships that come from natural human connections.
I’m noticing all these BW talking about Jodie’s trauma and blaming her but not how cowardly this Brad was in accepting the proposal, marrying her and giving her baby just to turn her into a single mother. Pookie comes in all colors. If he was a BM y’all would be talking different, Y’all better learn how to scout talent regardless of what field you play on.
I hope this child is raised in a stable environment, this woman acts as if she didn’t realize she was married to a wyte man and having a biracial child- I knew this wouldn’t last when josh divulged that she proposed to him, ppl really need to work on themselves if they expect to have success in relationships/parenthood
If she was waiting on BM she wouldn't have a child AT ALL, as they do not go for DSBW no matter how beautiful they are, Jodie will be fine and I admire her for going after what she wants.
Both of y’all sound loud and wrong. DSBW get wifed every day & if you listen she did not say she wanted a mixed race child. She said the opposite but realized she was letting something she deemed silly hold her back from creating a family with the man she loved…
Yeah.. no, I’ll never propose to a man. At the end of the day, men do control marriage and not women. Yes, I can refuse a proposal, but Unless a man initiates the first step of choosing to commit and propose to me first, then I’m never getting married. I got to make sure our values align first and that I’m wifey material.
Wow! Never knew she was the one who proposed…..Sounds like she was into him more. I did wonder why he was kissing another woman and then suddenly they were engaged. Sounds like she was the man in the relationship…..
The big picture. Both people understood a possible outcome of having sex. Why is it necessary to assign blame regarding the end of the relationship w/o facts? Perhaps Jodie and her husband got exactly what they both wanted. Jodie is a WM’s preference and I am confident that men with more power and prestige than JJ will be attentive. Jodie will be fine.
I am under the impression that the child was born in April of 2020. Jodi was pregnant at best in August of 2019. I am sure she pressured the marriage due to wanting ( at the time) a family and I think all her issues surfaced to have the marriage break down if not before.
I think Jodie needs to heal first and focus on raising her baby. The whole situationship, not relationship, was doomed from the start so no wonder it didn't last. It's like she wanted to get certain checkmarks of her life done.
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When people say they don't want kids, believe them. Kids deserve parents who actually want them and won't resent them for existing.
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This is true. I don’t know if the baby was planned or unexpected , but they both knew the risk of having sex.
Even if the “with you” is silent, leave!
if he truly didn't want kids he would have made sure that he didn't; you see Leonardo Dicaprio still doesn't have any kids.
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Hell will freeze over before I ask a man to marry me 💅🏾
That's really not a good look for a woman to propose to a man. I don't care how much a woman wants to be married, if the man doesn't propose that's saying something, he either doesn't want to marry you in particular or maybe he doesn't want to get married at all to any woman. It's an act of desperation for a woman to propose to a man.
Girl I SWEAR! Like whaaa😮
@@bubblybubbles4023 Especially a White man. The optics look AWFUL!!!
I would rather count sand on the beach, or count the water in the ocean before I ever propose to a man 😂
Many women propose to men.
BAYBEEEEE!!!!!! Children will bring up your deepest insecurities/traumas with the quickness. This is why I wish people took more care of their mental/emotional stuff before having a child. You’re not having a baby, you’re creating a SOUL that will need guidance.
Deep creating a soul
This!!! The impact a parent can have on a child can be lifelong.
This is why kids are off the table for me. I was raised by someone who didn't heal their trauma and passed their unresolved curses to me and my brothers. I can't do that to a child who I'm supposed to love and protect.
@@Lqtech00 you can break the generational curse
I think bm abandon their biracial kids because they are jea
Proposing to a man doesn't work. Men have to have the desire to spend their life with you. Commitment doesn't just appear because the woman proposed.
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Exactly!
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THIS.
Man and woman, both need to be clear that they want to spend their life together. It;s something of two, not one person
A relationship never lasts when the woman likes the man more.
Facts
Exactly
Uhm, the best relationships are when the woman likes AND respects the man.
This is because the woman in the relationship that demands more upkeep to remain in the relationship
I'd also say he's probably NOT the type to settle down. Joshua's EX GF wasted almost a DECADE with him & got married to another man after they broke up. It took her LONGGGG but better late than never.
Yep
I notice that most celebrity couples who share too much about their relationships never seem to stay together. It’s never a good thing for a mother to see her own insecurities in her child.
Right! Even big mouthed regular folk dont stay together. And yess, as someone who was born to a mother who didn’t face her trauma, it’s a huge burden for the child to carry and can be lifelong.
I wish my mom got help before she had kids. She was a victim of sexual and domestic abuse. Unfortunately she took out her trauma on me and my brothers. She was both physically and verbally abusive to me for years. I tried telling her to get help but she refused to get help. Now I no longer talk to her because she did not respect my boundaries and she continued to be verbally abusive to me even when I became an adult.
@ImAKangwithnokingdomPERIOD. 😊👌🏽
You made the right decision sis but im sure it’s hard. Praying for you queen
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I'm sorry you had to go through that but I applaud you for having the strength to set boundaries. You did the right thing.
Her candid feedback about her mixed race daughter is poignant. Imagine all the folks gushing over how cute her daughter is, because she is mixed race.
Selfhate person wanna live through their mixed children to feel better to them self as black man i have seen plenty black man who have the same mentality
So why did she have one in the first place? She didn't know ppl were going to complement her child? I'm mean? 👀
@@uniquelyme3581 She stated it was a learning experience for her in terms of facing colorism. She said her focus was blackness. She’s decentered that focus because of her soon to be white ex husband, and her baby girl.
The way colorism affects you as a black woman specifically a dark skinned black woman, is real.
@@aloveaffairwithself l don't doubt that it does effect darker skinned BW. My mother was darker skinned and l know how not being darker skinned in a dark skinned family effected me. Many will think we get the red carpet treatment when it can be the other way around, that's why that comment got to me lol some of us are abused for not being darker skinned, l know.... WHO CARES RIGHT? 👀
@@uniquelyme3581exactly girl, nobody likes to see when it’s the reverse
A relationship is going to fail if the foundation is jacked up. You should closely reevaluate your reasons to get married before you walk down the asile with your partner.
He was her celebrity crush, most women don't need any other reason.
Foundation was built on xes and lies.
So he wasted 10 years of his ex partner and only him to get married and have a kid. This always happens. When they tell they don't want that and after years you break up with them, they do that in less a year
his ex didnt even want kids she said that multiple times in interviews
The “with you” is always silent
@lidiagizaw3828 may be, but I searched her, and she married now. I mean, she is 47 now. I really feel bad for her.
@@Balgees24and she has a 4 year old….
@hidiamahine9594 really? How sad she gave up 10 years. I remember how Nikii Bella waited years for John Cena to his mind and when when he didn't, he gave her the shut up ring, but she wanted kids too. She broke up with him. Now she is married with kids.
Her healing her trauma through her 'privileged' child, is a burden no child should carry. I don't think her husband would want that for their child either.
I think that marriage failure seems more prevalent now because its easier and more socially acceptable to get divorced, therefore more common. I don’t think we have ever really chosen spouses correctly within wider society. Think about how many ‘failure’ marriages we have seen in older generations yet they are still together. Staying together is hardly a sign of success unfortunately. Many times the length of a relationship indicates stagnancy, fear, manipulation, abuse, trauma bonds etc.
Agreed. Being married 65 years ain’t a flex.
And "grey divorces" (elder divorce) is on the rise.
My mother proposed to my father they’ve been married for 25 years this year. However I HIGHLY DO NOT recommend women so this. It’s sets the tone for you to be the dominate figure pushing the relationship and that really should be the man’s role
I thought men being the dominant in the relationship is what y'all called controlling
Agreed. I think ‘dominance’ is shared. I’m good with money so I’m the lead on our investments , my husband’s very organized so he manages the bill paying. I’m an engineer and a writer, so I’m the one helping our son with his math and English schoolwork. My husband speaks 3 languages and studied computer science so he helps our son with Spanish and all IT things around the house. I hate ironing and he doesn’t like to cook, so we trade off on those things. I think rarely there is one person in a couple who’s ‘the best’ at everything, so whoever’s better at something should take the lead
@TeaWithTay My mother proposed to my father, as well. They were married for 65 years until she passed away a year ago. I strongly agree with you regarding women NOT proposing to men. My mom had a strong personality already but I do feel that her proposal definitely set the tone for their marriage which was challenging & strained at times.
@@hippityhoppitusthe statement was clear, where did you come up with that 😂
@@Dyane629I feel the same. No doubt my father has love for my mother because they wouldn’t have lasted this long if that wasn’t the case. However, the power dynamics are extremely off. My mother takes on a more masculine, dominant role, and my dad takes on a more passive feminine role, and it just makes things complicated. Truthfully, I don’t think they would have lasted if she hadn’t done that.
Most of my guy friends have shared to me that they in fact do have a hard time telling a woman no. They also shared that one of the main reasons they are/were in a relationship was because the woman was the agressor/driver and they just followed suit, regretting it years later.
💯he liked her well enough has a hard time saying no he seems like the type to have yt guilt
@ImAKangwithnokingdomSeems like alot of men do this shit all the time.they will just waste your time and their own. like dude YOU COULD OF SAID SOMETHING IF YOU KNEW THIS WASN'T WHAT YOU WANTED.
I believe this 100%. Women can get obsessed or fear getting their feelings hurt from rejection so they force a situation. No one ends up happy
If he did not want marriage or a child, there are lots of responses he could have made to remedy the situation. Men abandon pregnant wives and girlfriends all the time. Also, when she asked, he could have just said no. Sometimes relationships run their course and it is better for all concern to just end them.
Jodi made it her mission to be with a white man.
Are u suggesting he abandon his wife and kid lmao
If SHE wanted a marriage she should have asked a man who wanted marriage and kids.
@@KinksgaloreBM do not want women who look like Jodie.
@@sassybull501WTF?
Men are all the same, it doesn't matter what color they are.
This is the one!! So true
I wish more women had this mindset. A lot of BW think that marrying a white man will save them.
Facts!
Lmfao when a BM does something bad it's BM but when a non BM does something bad it's "men are men"
No one would be saying that uf jodie was white and joshua Black
Im a man, sadly it's true we are all the same ):
Jodie brought her trauma baggage into her daughter’s life. Hopefully, I hope the daughter does not suffer from this.
I agree and have been thinking the very same thing since first reading her interview when it was published. I’ve followed Jodie on social media from the early days of her career and over the last few it’s occurred to me that she has many narcissistic traits which is very unfortunate especially in mother’s raising daughters.
@@Dyane629she definitely strikes me as a narcissist swirl ass👒 with her mentality.
I don’t like how some people continually keep bringing up how beautiful Jodie is, as if that erases the countless red flags she choose to ignore. Proposed to a man she was in situationship with and whom always spoke as if he was some sort of savior to her. It’s a small minority of people that actually works out for. Now everybody wants to change their narrative because she’s a fav in their book. She is not blameless, men will go with the flow of shit I’d it benefits them. I hate this for him, her, and their child.
Our sister thought so less than of herself she dropped to her knees and proposed to a White man🤮🤮 This was NOT MLK's dream!
She's striking but there's something really off putting about her....I find her a bit too arrogant and fake whilst he is more introverted and low key
I don't think she's as beautiful as people say not compared to someone like Lupita
Agreed she proposed to him and after a one night stand. He was clear and what he wanted. She kept at him. So no I'm not mad at him. He said his truth she chose not to hear it. Then she decided to have a baby with a man that did not want to have children. Then she has a biracial baby?
I think she has color issues. I find it odd when people who are always talking about how proud they are of their color marrying someone opposite. Its like Priyanka Chopra who has a white baby girl, always talking about being proud of her roots but actions speak louder than words.
It is so easy to have a black or brown i baby f you want one but I think they fibbin.
Jodie HEAL yourself don't put that on your child!
He definitely benefited from being with her since she as the it girl on the scene. He became popular again and even seemed to get a little swag about his self.
Playing hard to get them asking him to marry you is crazy lol
LMAO! Exactly 😂
Playing hard to get and then having a one night stand doesn’t mix.
Men also feel awkward when women act desperate cringe w them while pursuing them. He seems like he has yt guilt too
Everything about this relationship just seemed embarrassing. She appeared to be more into him than he was into her. Every time he did an interview and mentioned her, it was always too much information on how obsessed she seemed over him. Jodie was moving like he was her white savïor.
She's Jamaican, like other West Indians and Africans, they tend to put white people on a pedestal 🤷🏾♀️
@@jupiterskiss3473False
@@jupiterskiss3473We don’t
@@jupiterskiss3473 Ummm no. That ignorant statement does not apply to all West Indians and Africans. Maybe the ones you know personally, but for myself and the ones I've come across just no.
@@jupiterskiss3473💯💯👏🏾
Wow, I'm glad she was honest about how her daughter triggered childhood trauma of colorism. Along with a father who didn't want kids, this child got a bad deal 😢.
She should have been honest about it privately to a therapist, not in the press where her daughter could see it imo
This makes me think they were never compatible.
It's that one night stand... If she hadn't had sex with him before getting to know him, she would have been able to evaluate him better. They had casual sex and she caught feelings.
He was her celebrity crush. Many women would have done the same.
@@Patty-ys4pv no, many women wouldn't have done that. Women are biologically more picky than men and are more careful with having casual sex, because we can get pregnant.
She pedestalizes and worships him because hes white. Lets be real. BW are the least loyal race of women.
I hope she doesn't think her child owes her something or wants to take out her traumas on the little girl. Like, you chose to procreate with a man that looks like that. It's not your daughter's fault.
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Exactly! That was such a red flag admitting something like that publicly for your child to overhear when they grow up. I hope for the child sake she's not taking her insecurities out on that poor baby.
Jodie has alot of inner work to do before her daughter realizes and comprehends what Jodie said about her. Even if she did feel that way, which is valid, you don't say that stuff out loud and to the media. You say it with a therapist.
I hope Jodie stays single for a while because she levels up any man that couples up with her. Joshua was irrelevant before her. She needs to be more strategic and realize the value she has.
Yea… no he wasn’t. Just not in “your” world
He was certainly not irrelevant! ‘The Affair’ series was hugely successful with audiences and won Emmy’s and Golden Globes. This after is big success on Dawson’s Creek so not true at all. I’ve known about him for years in several movies too but has no idea who she was. She’ll fade away, he won’t imo. Oh and he just did another series on one of the streaming platforms, the sequel to that 80s movie with Glen Close and Michael Douglas.
She needs to go to therapy and do self work on herself. She placed her value in the relationship with Joshua Jackson
Also @petty, she told Joshua that she had a crush on him due to his role on Dawson’s Creek. So VERY relevant to her.
Shut up joshua is a great actor and was in so many shows before she even existed lmao.
As someone that refused to date black men in my teens and early 20, I had to reverse-engineer the idea of dating outside as a special because most men are the same( and feeling safe bc white will leave you fa dead 😂) Luckily for me I saw a long term white boyfriend go from what I saw as special to typical😅. It humanized the hell outta the dating pool 😂 which led me to revisit my standards. That led to me considering what type of mother I would be to a biracial child if I believed that white men were better. I’m the same complexion as Jodie and never really ingested the vomit of colorism; just didn’t internalized it but saw it. But I had to do some self reflection and it helped. Thank God I faced it before having a multi-racial child. Bc home girl is a whole activist, gets it, and understands privilege bc I never made it about us just the world and it’s systems. Ended up married to a black man 😊 after her dad. Men are the same folks do self work and face your traumas.
This is the one - thank you for sharing your perspective. Men are men. And it becomes very apparent when you date the rainbow.
@@l0111absofreakinlutely‼️
This is what I’m beginning to learn as well. Thank you for telling your story. A man is a man is a man. They all the same no shade 😂
So you got ran through by non BM then got some sucka ninja to marry you?
Major L to that guy
You have only been with 1 black male yet all men are the same?
Ugg I wish she would've kept her mouth shut on their relationships!
The only divorce I actually want to happen is Kenneth and Nicki🤭
Me too. But if she married him with all that garbage, Yea, she can tolerate anything.
@@bibaolaitan5189yikesssss this is facts 🫢
I have black daughters and I too feel that they helped me address my traumas and heal my inner child; how Jodie felt is not odd at all.
Jodie has a biracial daughter. No one should be healing themselves through their children. Go to therapy
@@RAJOHN-ke7mc I did go and Jodie may have went to but the reality is sometimes you don’t know what needs to be healed until you’re faced with different situations.
In a perfect world we would all be perfect while beings before having children but it doesn’t happen that way for everyone.
Omg yes! Thank you… this was the comment I was waiting for. Healing is a lifelong journey. Awareness of triggers or unresolved trauma doesn’t mean she’s burdening or harming her child. There are healthy ways of addressing those traumas such as going to therapy. It doesn’t make you a bad parent or spouse if you discover after having kids/entering a relationship that you still have more work to do. Everyone in this comment section is projecting and adding unto what she said. I wish the best for her and her baby girl. ❤
She said her daughter reminds her of her tormentors. That's scary.
It seems like she wanted a mix baby. UNEQUALLY YOKED 🤷🏾♀️ we are not suppose too proposed to a man she asked for this. Giving that man power over her she’s crazy
She literally said she didn’t . Are you projecting because YOU want a mixed baby????
This woman needed hella therapy sheesh
We all do,as we are a product of our environment 😮💨
People really need to take a step back and evaluate their life (especially mental and emotional health) before making a child. This isn't just some random creature you're bringing into your home, you need to fully devote your time and effort and emotions so they have the rearing they deserve. EMOTIONAL NEGLECT IS REAL
We need to stop 1. Centering men, 2. Pushing commitment on men, 3. Looking at relationships with rose coloured glasses 3.
Jodie needs time to heal because she has some trauma stemming from childhood in terms of being being good enough. I don’t know.
From her tweets of her bullying in school due to her complexion to her proposing to a dude one can’t help but wonder her mental state. However, I know for sure I ain’t proposing to no man…
How do you play hard to get AND have a one night stand? 🤔
When you delulu anything is possible 😂😂
Right, like actually be hard to get. That way you won’t have to play like you are.
He was her celebrity crush.
Maybe she found him sexually appealing. Perhaps she chose to act on her desire and he accommodated.
Her comments about her biracial daughter are so weird to me... Like 😐... Basically saying that she wanted her to be black ? Wtf. People really be saying anything these days, no media training, no filters.
Have Marriages Ever Been Built on Solid Foundations? I think people just have more freedom, more $, more options, than they had or didn’t know they had in the past ✨
Sounds like she made a decision she thought was logical. 🎉 Good for her
I hope she gets healing before her daughter is able to understand the magnitude of what she said in that interview. Children are sponges. The impact a parent can have on their child can be lifelong; it should be handled with intention and very delicately. I think the selfishness behind the reasons ppl decide to have children can be dangerous in a sense; this is why self actualization and healing are crucial prior to creating life.
YES!!!!!
Both of them are grown and made grown choices. I’m not crazy about his cheating at all. Also I think it makes sense that she proposed if she wanted the child, who was Clearly on her way, in wedlock. No the baby didn’t gestate in 4 months. Numbers don’t lie.
Let her be. Support her as she grows. Jodie and baby need their peace. Josh will do Josh and hopefully be a presence in his daughter’s life. Sometimes people get stronger through life experience. Not everyone shows up strong but they do have to show up.
Well said.
For her to say that about her daughter, it’s kinda creepy . As if there a jealously, or realization her daughter is going to be favored more . But if it was my DAUGHTER I wouldn’t care I love her . And she new he was white when she had sex
Ok sister Jodie keep enjoying every moment of life. Your daughter is going to have the greatest life. Grow her to be aware of her as a blessing in your life , pour into her all that is good about you and she will decide at the right time the tools she needs to get live a full life.
Let’s not get it tangled and twisted up, Jodie was a flex for Joshua. I noticed how his career received a sudden pep up. I also think he may have been very conscientious about their racial dynamics and that may have influenced him choosing marriage and parentage with her (aka felt pressured by whyte guilt). I think Jodie is one of the most beautiful women in Hollywood, sorry she doesn’t share my sentiments.
I do not think she was a flex for him, I believe it was the other way around. I know more about his career, than I know about hers.
Ooo I liked that last sentence. WOW! 😮
It did? I haven't seen him in anything since Dawson's Creek
@@j.m.edwards1183I know more about him as well and never watched Dawson's Creek.
@@theteleisewilliamsexperienceright and to be honest I didn't think about their relationship either way I didn't care I only wish them the best when I found out they were married😂
I think what she was was very honest and reflective. No shame on her at all. Very valid. Idk about men abandoning mixed kids tho bc they seem to abandon their single race kids too so idk about that one
7:28 this is why I can't have kids with a white woman. I'll struggle to relate and educate the child. They won't have the same life experience I would have as a darker skinned man.
Admirable honesty but exceptional closemindedness
As a dsbw, I respect Jodie's realness about this sensitive subject. I wonder when we say we only want Black babies, if perhaps what Jodie is talking about is lowkey what we mean.
I genuinely want celebrities, influencers, & everyone else to just BE QUIET! We shouldn’t know THIS much about their relationship…like please stop telling us these types of details! At least for the kid’s sake. 🤫🤐
Usually narcissists become celebrities. Being the center of attention is their way to face the trauma.
My thought process of their relationship was similar to yours I hoped for the best but the marriage then baby seemed rushed and I wasn't for the over sharing by either of them. Lastly for us as women it's been great hearing many women who have mixed kids explaining this she's not the first and I think it's your job as a parent to do the work so you don't pass down trauma on to your babies. This isn't even as simple as swirling some people marry Africans and Hispanic men thinking it's not a big deal but culturally it can be. Yanie thanks for covering this I know you'd prefer other topics 💕
Her biological clock was ticking.
@@Patty-ys4pv Seems like he's was as well many men change their minds and have kids once they see all their friends happily married with kids. But I think their daughter deserved better than this.
@@dominique2o06 Joshua seem to be a very involved father , the kid will be alright.
@@Patty-ys4pv I understand that speration of parents is normal now but I meant she deserves to have a two parent household that she was born into. But yes I think both of them will try their best.
He was caught kissing another woman when she was pregnant, so there's that.
Chrissy Tiegen and John Legend were a broom closet one night stand
It's pronounced "L" Magazine love. Also, they didn't seem that into each other & he was with someone for 10 yrs & never proposed. Like...c'mom
Jodi made the choice she felt she had to make; her biological clock was ticking, her celebrity crush showed interest in her and she moved fast. Many women would have done the same thing for their celebrity crush. Katie Homes did the same thing, she was engaged to Tom within weeks of meeting. I believe if Jodi did not propose, she would not have made it down the aisle and she would not be a mother . The relationship help both of their careers. I did not know who Jodi was before the marriage and I forgot about Joshua until I read that he was married to Jodi. Black men were not lined up to marry her she is dark skinned. If she did not propose she would probably be 40 single and crying about being childless. I applaud her for going after what she wanted. She is brave . As long as a black woman had her baby in wedlock , with a man worth more money than her and did not have a baby by a pookie , it's a win.
Good perspective
Very good point!
I totally agree.
so she was desprate?.
@@ghost99100 When women's biological clocks begin ticking in their mid to late 30s some women become desperate. There is no shame it it. She had a healthy pregnancy without expensive fertility treatments and that's what matters.
I don’t want marriage or kids either. HOWEVER, if Jodie’s asked for my hand in marriage I would reconsider. Look at her, how can you say no😂😂😂😂😂😂
She do look good 😂 like a ancient walking something idk just look like a Barbie doll
Yanie can we please talk about black women having kids who look like the same women they suffered colorism and disrespect from. Especially dark/ brown black women having mixed race kids
Yanie has spoken positively about swirling. Why would she have a problem with mixed kids? That’s one of the outcomes of interracial relationships.
@@nessparadis6948Right! I was confused about her comment too lol
@@nessparadis6948agree
@@ayanna439agree
Good request!
I grew up with her and she had been saying she was going to marry this man since she was 9 years old. She was determined. Hopefully she turn back to the most high and remember he she really is.
She closed her gestalt. Now she can live her life.
I didn't know he said he never wanted kids or to be married! Wow.
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Hate to say it but I'm not really surprised, the first thing I ever heard about their relationship was that it started as a one night stand, so I was more so surprised hearing about their relationship being good
OMG not the White King doing all this 😱
She has some serious personal issues. This is not her daughter's burden or responsibility. How sad. Poor child.
The marriage didn't last becuz she proposed, it's because there were issues in their relationship and they probably didn't know each other that well.
This is what happens when you force a relationship on a man
Celebrity relationships don’t last in general. I don’t know why the public always gets so invested in them. They marry and divorce all the time interracial or not. It’s actually shocking when they do last so there’s that.
I feel like he was the one that ended it but he didn't want her to be embarrassed in public for proposing to him and then in the end he leaves her so he just probably asked her to file for divorce.
I don't think so. Jodie is brave she goes after what she wants.
This is reaching. I don't think he filed it. I think she got tired and did that.
@@bibaolaitan5189 lol sure...to a man that never wanted marriage nor kids....sure lol who she put on the spot and proposed to...mmkay
@@Nashmirotic so she can not change. The way she thought in the beginning of the marriage is how she thinks now. Lol, did this happen to you. For you to reimagine this happening to her too.
Apparently he didn't know she was filing. He found out when we did lol same as what Jeezy did to Jeanie Mai smh. Maybe the conversations weren't leading anywhere and he didn't think it was that deep but she obviously thought it was very much so that deep.
Yeah idk why she rushed everything. And he too, is an adult and could have said no, I'm not ready for such a commitment. She should have just had fun without having a kid & marriage.
WOMEN NEVER PROPOSE TO A MAN NEVERRRRRR ❤
Long story short….get therapy! Problem solved. You’re welcome.
It's not like therapy is going to automatically solve all problems. 😂
She got her daughter, pass him to the next woman and move on. Get your divorce girl!
That's a terrible mindset.
@@absolutelyridiculous6743Could you please explain what's terrible about this way of thinking?
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 It doesn’t matter how you feel, the only thing that counts is what women do. Women will no longer endure unhealthy relationships.
A daughter she’s already feeling jealous about due to colorism. Horrible situation
It’s ok to divorce if it doesn’t work out than being trapped in a marriage you don’t want!!! It’s ok ppl need to accept this, it is so liberating
black women celebrated this relationship on the internet like she was dating jesus
It lasted as long as any other Hollywood couple. Their careers are going in different directions with no time to be a couple.
I don't think it's fair to say that relationships are not lasting just because we see many celebrity relationships ending and they do not represent humans as in entirety or the relationships that come from natural human connections.
50% of marriages end in divorce
Why would she say such thing about her daughter?
As usual,not shocked
I respect her for proposing. She knew what she wanted and went for it. I hope she finds the love she needs, I hope we all do ❤
This is one beautiful woman! ❤
She is the one who proposed, she then decided on the divorce. She got power!!! Her choice. It’s ok girl!!!
I just don’t care for Jody:
Her acting, her public personality, her moves…nothing.
Did y’all see her play Ann boylen - queen of England? Well let’s say she did fantastic 😂
No was it really good Fr Fr? And what was the name of the movie
@@copiouscat the character may have influenced her real life.. I think it’s on amc - definitely worth watching
Yes, she was excellent.
Yes! It was really good
Please STOP using children to heal your insecurities and traumas…. Just be a good parent and provider…
Great video and commentary! Nothing built on an unstable foundation will stand.
I love your approach to this relationship. It is from a racial point of view but more so from who they r as people not solely their race.
I believe Pink asked her husband to marry her.
Jodie is beautiful 😍
Anybody gonna talk about the new Amsterdam TV show where Max was in love with the fantasy of Helen🤔
4 years… lasted longer than some
I’m noticing all these BW talking about Jodie’s trauma and blaming her but not how cowardly this Brad was in accepting the proposal, marrying her and giving her baby just to turn her into a single mother. Pookie comes in all colors. If he was a BM y’all would be talking different, Y’all better learn how to scout talent regardless of what field you play on.
Ladies please stop proposing to men. I was raised by a woman that proposed to a man and my dad gave my mom hell.
I hope this child is raised in a stable environment, this woman acts as if she didn’t realize she was married to a wyte man and having a biracial child- I knew this wouldn’t last when josh divulged that she proposed to him, ppl really need to work on themselves if they expect to have success in relationships/parenthood
She got her Biracial baby... she's good!!! 😂😂😂
*Self hate is real
If she was waiting on BM she wouldn't have a child AT ALL, as they do not go for DSBW no matter how beautiful they are, Jodie will be fine and I admire her for going after what she wants.
Both of y’all sound loud and wrong. DSBW get wifed every day & if you listen she did not say she wanted a mixed race child. She said the opposite but realized she was letting something she deemed silly hold her back from creating a family with the man she loved…
Facts.
Her biracial baby she’s now jealous of due to colorism. Be careful what you wish for
@@angeld271Not many rich BM on her level marry DSBW, they go for high yellow and non BW....
She was desperate. That's all it was. It was just a fling
The male version of Jeannie Ma not wanting children…
Not all people want kids.
Yeah.. no, I’ll never propose to a man. At the end of the day, men do control marriage and not women. Yes, I can refuse a proposal, but Unless a man initiates the first step of choosing to commit and propose to me first, then I’m never getting married. I got to make sure our values align first and that I’m wifey material.
Wow! Never knew she was the one who proposed…..Sounds like she was into him more. I did wonder why he was kissing another woman and then suddenly they were engaged. Sounds like she was the man in the relationship…..
He was her celebrity crush. Many women would have done the same
The big picture. Both people understood a possible outcome of having sex. Why is it necessary to assign blame regarding the end of the relationship w/o facts? Perhaps Jodie and her husband got exactly what they both wanted. Jodie is a WM’s preference and I am confident that men with more power and prestige than JJ will be attentive. Jodie will be fine.
She is so beautiful…. Idk who
this dude is, and why did she propose to him!!!?!?!?!? 😭😭
I know!!! Her features are amazing wtf!🤦🏽♀️ Chasing a man??
The way this society is. You'd be surprised what people feel insecure about. It ain't always about looks.
@@speciosae Yea… I hate that! F society. 😔
I mean literally drop dead gorgeous
Joshua Jackson? Mighty Ducks, Pacey from DAWSONS CREEK, the Affair, Fringe... he's well known
I am under the impression that the child was born in April of 2020. Jodi was pregnant at best in August of 2019. I am sure she pressured the marriage due to wanting ( at the time) a family and I think all her issues surfaced to have the marriage break down if not before.
8:12 wooo that right there opens a can of worms 😳
I think Jodie needs to heal first and focus on raising her baby. The whole situationship, not relationship, was doomed from the start so no wonder it didn't last. It's like she wanted to get certain checkmarks of her life done.