Your woman is NOT SPECIAL
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- Your woman is not special.
The latest episode of PsycHacks is about why men get jealous of their women's past. I discuss cognitive dissonance, the right and wrong ways to go about solving dissonance, and why a woman is just a woman.
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Your woman is not special.
The latest episode of PsycHacks is about why men get jealous of their women's past. I discuss cognitive dissonance, the right and wrong ways to go about solving dissonance, and why a woman is just a woman.
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Well my girlfriend is vegan so statically yes she is the exception
@Rob Neeth - interesting idea, Rob. But if you have ever listened to veterans of WW1 or WW2 talk about their experiences, they will often say it was just blond luck as to who survived or who died. Sure, you could have quicker reactions than other guys and take cover immediately you hear the artillery coming in. But then a shell might fall right into your foxhole. Tough luck.
@kahlernygard809 that shit is the opposite of special.
So basically the answer to all of this is not commitment. Just stay as sexual partners or just 1night stand.
@senorp9869 the end game of eff in izm, set in motion a hundred years ago
Just know that someone is meeting your ex for the first-time and thinking she's special.
That’s so deep
@Quincy marry outside of social circle to avoid that. It'd more just not wanting to meet her past lovers than her being pure in past.
Deep...
Why the fuck would you say anything? Unless if it was while they were together, you can easily just say no. And why would they even be asking in the first place, weird. This seems contrived. This does not match how people act in real life, it sounds like a feverdream sitcom plot for wish fulfillment.
My recent ex wife has a boyfriend now (she calls him that now)…. it’s hilarious
Men are often in love with the "idea" of a particular woman, and not with the woman herself.
Could some men be in hate with an "idea" of a particular woman and not women themselves?
Well what is the “woman herself” anyways if people constantly change over time??
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People don't change...they just get tired of acting and pretending.
@@sal2975😮
@@user-qe7bt9dz1l The same applies to yourself.
That's why I have never understood people who thinks it soooo important that your spouse has the same political views as yourself instead of accepting that you are always going to be thinking differently about all kinds of things in life.
People who hate hearing this the most are divorce lawyers lol
Is it because it harms their business?
@@MACROPARTICLE precisely
No just the idiot ones.
Funnily there’s an interview with a divorce lawyer on the channel Soft White Underbelly, and his opinion on marriage is scathing. Maybe it’s cause he’s close to retiring or he’s just that forthcoming idk, but I recommend it
Yes..James Sexton...divorce Attourney in NY...he insists that his son is going to get a pre- nup...as an attorney he thinks it is Mandatory...@@noah-i4436
This is the most empathetic way I've heard of someone saying "don't get married".
That's not what he is saying. What he is saying is thay women will be women and men will be men. Men and women are different and will always do things that women and men are known to do. The issue is women don't understand men and men don't understand women all the way, so this is why people get caught up because they weren't taught these truths.
I've been happily married for 20 years. She's kind, supportive, tighter with money than I am, in decent shape, and a great mom.
But she had a Dad around to ground her hard in reality; she's devoutly and dedicatedly religious; she lived with her parents until the day we got married; and she always puts her family first.
And 20 years ago, most women still aspired to marriage, because social media and dating apps hadn't hit the market and started making womens' brains explode.
I recognize how blessed I am, and I pray for my younger brothers out there in this insane dating market.
And I put the metaphorical boot into my own kids when they need it. I refuse to raise my sons or daughters to be useless, entitled, dependent, vain little turds.
Good luck to all the young men out there!
It’s brutal out here. I hope I can find a rare woman like you did. I’m happy for you though, you sound like a great man and dad to your kids.
That's good to hear. It reinforces what I think that a good woman needs a hard-headed and responsible upbringing from both parents and from a masculine father.
The key, for anyone to be suitable for marriage, is to truly be given over to the Lordship of Jesus Christ.
Anything else is a gamble
@@roblane5699as a worship pastor, bible study leader and camp counselor, I can safely say that the woman you are describing is 1 in 1000. Sorry guys.
@@roblane5699 why?
That is why men, not women, are the romantic sex. Men marry a idea, women marry a vehicle. Took me into my early 60s to grasp this.
Yip, you and millions more of us every year.
Imagine going back to 21 with what we've learned now.
@Rob Neeth As in wdym
Part of the problem is that women present themselves as a fairytale maiden that will make you blissfully happy until you are in a committed relationship or married.
@@ArmyWolves ....and blow jobs become a thing of the past.
@@ArmyWolvesthey are great at advertising, but terrible at delivering.
Yes exactly this! And then i finally realized that she is not even a good human. Filed for divorce three weeks ago.
I'm fascinated. What did you feel she did to make you come to that conclusion?
@@thomasjefferson6334 I didn't "feel" it, she told me straight into my face...
@@philippangst ... Yip, they usually do.
Then backpedal when/if they put on the tears and let their spite dissolve temporarily.
@@thebesttheworst2277 yeah, exactly... she could tell me that i was the cause for her misery and her unfortunate life, and five minutes later it was all flowers and rainbows.. and when i finally told her that it's serious and that i will leave the country (i moved to her home country and took a huge risk, working my ass off), she went totally nuts....
@@philippangst Exactly, they're capable of ANYTHING from one minute to the next. The best part is, that ANYTHING can all be blamed on something you did or didn't do and told to anyone that will listen.
The game is rigged and it's best not to play it or at least not seriously.
You know damn well there is NOT enough left to justify that commitment. 😂
Your comment just speared its way through the last remnants of whatever hope i had😅
Facts
Divorce Inc. Is a Game Rigged against men....so....🤔
Selfishly, i dont want this channel to be discovered by everyone. This channel is pure gold. Doc you are changing lives and i pray you exceed your own expectation in your work and practice
This is so true. My ex wife was incredibly loyal for 26 years. But once she started getting attention from men she broke my trust.
Or did it take you 26 years to notice?
@William Mentink naw. She was fantastic in that regard. But she wasn't getting a ton of attention from men until the past year and it seems that she couldn't handle that attention with wanting even more.
Did you start ignoring her?
@Lisa Culton nope. If anything I was smoothering her by the end.
But the real problem was she couldn't help herself from getting caught up in talking with other men and breaking boundaries.
Um how about you were too insecure to recognize that attractive women don't really solicit the attention they receive but in order to move in society without too much discomfort tend to need to be relatively cordial to the people around them, even if not interested.
& if in social settings she has conversations with the people who are there, who might be men you can tell are attracted or attractive to her, or has to divert a man who wants her by being deflectingly, disinterestedly nice, she needs HER man to be willing to consider her difficult perspective & not be childishly naive, petulant, or judgmental.
Your trust wasn't broken, you have been unrealistic about human society & how women navigate it as best they can this whole time, as are most men. & you recently perhaps became jealous or felt insecure because you are older & perhaps less attractive yourself now or compared to some guy or other she was talking to in some work or social setting. Come on now.
"A woman is a woman" -- love that, lol..
"What is a woman?"
@@ZachAttack2Ufunnily enough no-one has said what is a man.
It's not that the woman herself is special. It's that she makes you feel special.
But doesn't either extreme end up hurting men? Putting women on a pedestal on one hand but thinking all women are trash does too.
In 23 years of marriage, not only is my husband a happy man, but he's never had to cook a meal, do a load of laundry, clean the house or go more than 3-4 days without you know what. My husband would be the first to tell you, I'm pretty darn special, lol. I think maybe what you're saying is don't default a woman to being special. She has to prove herself and it takes time to prove it.
I'm jealous of him....
Does he make a lot of money and that's why you treat him so well?
You nailed it. Women like you who are special wives and mothers need recognition, and you should really have pride in yourself and in all you have done.
❤
@@britttullos8119 thank you :)
@@thomasjefferson6334 He makes good money now. But when we met, we were both broke and struggling. We wanted the same things in life. He wanted to be successful and eventually work for himself. I wanted to be the woman behind the man. For the first 5 years of marriage I worked 40 hours a week and ran the house so he could focus on work. I was able to cut back to part time later. And by the time I was 37, I had my dream of being a stay at home wife and just taking care of him and our home. He became a 7 figure man in his late 40s.
We have a great life and a happy marriage. If I could give any bit of advice to a man is to find the woman willing to build with you. Stay focused on yourself and your career but only let a woman in who will build with you. And avoid women who want to compete with you.
My husband never has to worry if I only wanted him for his money. We can laugh about the fact that we drove my car everywhere when we started dating because I had a sporty nissan with air conditioning and he drove a 25 year old pickup truck. I wouldn't change our struggle years for the world. ☺
This is so true… growing up I would see the horrible things other men’s wife’s would do to them and always thought they just couldn’t see how selfish their women really were. Then my own wife completely flipped and started showing her narcissistic behaviours more and more until she divorced me 3 years after we had our son. She used me to get a baby then said she didn’t need me anymore.
Damn that’s messed up. I hope she’s doing horribly today.
I'm sorry bro. Reading all these comments makes me realize how lucky I am with my wife
No woman is EVER deserving of commitment because, regardless of what they may say or think, they will always be looking for better opportunities.
Except our Asian grandmothers but they are all dead now and they belonged to a different era when many men & women were of much higher character and wisdom although they didn't have technology and money.
This is true. I learned it the hard way. Don’t be fooled by believing that she “likes you“ because the day will come when she doesn’t. It could just be situational and you work through it or it could be over but either way you’ll be left saying to yourself “ But I thought she liked me!“. She only likes what she perceives you can provide her even if that isn’t the primary thing on her mind. Why else is she overlooking ALL your flaws? When you understand this you can set the relationship on your terms you may need to grow the hell up which I also learned the hard way. Still I wonder why this channel feels like a psyop…🤔
Well said!
Same. Gone at 58.
lol feel you on the psyop
What makes you think this channel might be a psyop?
@@erko78 Im not really serious about that. Time after time he hits the nail squarely on the head with such clarity it just pisses me off (why didn’t I see that! What was I thinking!! Uh oh I’m the problem here!!!) and it seems like he’s trying to stir up problems which is the psyop part. 😂 He’s really giving unmarried guys a much needed wake up call and married guys help understanding why they might have found theirselves in a miserable predicament which is usually completely their own doing. For years heck forever relationship advice has been geared toward the woman’s perspective as to how a guy ought to act in a relationship with the end result being guys kowtowing to more and more demands and here we are with women believing it’s their right to run roughshod over men for the sake of their own happiness. The result is bitter confused men and unhappy angry women drifting further apart. But correcting course is a very, very hard process requiring courage and perseverance. I suspect a lot of relationships blow up and it’s because women are not inclined to look up suddenly and say “”oh ha ha you caught on” and reorient their thinking. Things will get much worse before they start to get better unless the woman is an immediate full partner in the relationship reorientation and that’s highly unlikely to happen. The lifetime of programming is too complex. So it’s not really a psyop…..but sometimes I wonder…. 😆
She isn't different. She is only different in YOUR eyes. This is what makes her special to you. Looking at her in a romantic way isn't a rationalization. It is a feeling that comes up because she makes you FEEL something different from the others. If you have to rationalize to yourself in order to look at her in a romantic way, the reality is that you just are not interested in her.
It's true though that you have to take the feelings out for a moment and objectively look at what type of person she is.
True !
And how many females has most men met.. How is she special then?
You've got a better grasp on this topic than Doc Orion.
I think the point being made is that no individual woman is special. The vast majority of women all seem to have very similar qualities, with little quirks here and there that may separate them from other women. But these are just small, almost insignificant differences. The novelty of a new fling or relationship clouds a man’s ability to think rationally about his new romantic interest, and so he thinks that she’s unique in some way. He puts her on a pedestal and believes that she’s different than all the others.
This might be the greatest short of all time!
Men genuinely could take a note from women's mating strategy in taking a bit more of a pragmatic approach in doing what they find to be in their own best interest.
I do. It means I don't date.
Yeah....that won't work. I swear ladies can smell your intentions and emotions
don't try to understand them, just accept it and keep it moving
Sounds like what a lot of now divorced men did. lol.
100 % ! I agree .. My Woman seemed only Mine for 14 + years .. Treated me like the only one Man in her world but just when my Father passed away and I was broken (I was extremely attached with him) , she dumped me and moved on with another man ...
Initially she started manipulating me with lies ...
It's been 4 months now and I'm still in a state of shock ..
Gathering meself up and focusing on me to bring out the best of me...
Sorry to hear, man.
I have to ask, Did she see you cry when your Dad died ?
@@jagenau6334 Yes I think.. I cried and she must have seen
Talking about today..
All I can say is 'No Contact' works like Magic.
She is trying to contact me now in many different ways since I went No Contact with her over a month ago and concentrated on self Development (Meditation, Gym and Work) with no photos on social media.
But now I have changed :)
I just don't care about her now.
Am more focused with my goals and dreams...
Pain comes back sometimes but now it is well under control and in a way I'm happy it happened...
@@healsmindsimilar situation as you minus the death of your father (sorry for your loss) and we are together 7 years. Long story short her affair failed massively after she realized the married coworker she had an affair with is a whiny emotionally unstable cringelord. Now of course she wants me back but I’m trying to do this the smart and strategic way.
I’ll take any advice you have if you got any to give!
You probobly showed too much weakness and attachment so she lost interest.
So in summation, it's over. Copy that
It’s not over. God is still watching. Till there is one man left, God is still with us.
@@dominikpandur5131 I agree but I think he meant a relationship... given the context
True. However, some women are more emotionally mature than others. Can she apologize, empathize and respect boundaries? If so, I'd say she's a high quality woman. That doesn't make her unique, but it does make her dateable.
Apologize? 😂😂😂
Yep sooner you realize no gods nor angels walk on earth the better
This is exactly my problem right now.
I wanted a woman who is special.... my wife presented herself that way when we met but then I dug into her past. Now I'm so unhappy and jealous. I don't know what to do.
I tried to stay loyal to God, and deny myself, for the right woman.... and it kills me my wife didn't do the same for me. I'm so unhappy now. It makes me love and respect her SO much less. I even feel resentment now.
To be fair to her, she does have some "special" aspects to her. When I lost my job, she got one, picked up the slack and stuck by me. But her past is a knife in my heart. I don't know how to get past it and just.... Not Care.
How bad is it?. If you are young, don't marry. Get out there and experience everything you want sexually. Then when you're over 40 find your girl and swap with other couples. I bet she's done things like that already. She's tainted goods. Treat her like the slut she is, knock her off a pedestal.
She shouldn't be a stay at home woman. She and you both work, and don't marry her ....ever
@@thomasjefferson6334what is it about her past that is a deal breaker, only answer if you feel you can.
You need to listen to what he said in that short 3 times, no 10 times more and really hear what he is saying. It may resolve your unhappiness.
I used to be in that bracket, thinking my wife is an exception. Bro, I realised how wrong I was. She is a woman😅
it is difficult with a woman but without them it's impossible. 😅
This is one of the many lessons in life you can only learn by going through failure, like that hot iron that you were not supposed to touch as a kid.
No one is special, people are not special, we are just people. We just happen to view certain people special based on our own biases
Damn. That’s sad. It makes me think that renting long term house keepers in another country is the only option.
I'm with you on that . Best option
Thats why you should get a private investigator to verify her past
All you're going to find out is that she's had a few boyfriends. Nothing earth shattering.
if she knows how to cover her tracks you will find nothing
I had to do that with my narcissist ex, all my P.I. friend could find was her her relatives, past addresses, jobs and schools, foster homes, court records, I took over from there, I was able to link what others lived at those addresses around that time, find their current addresses and phone numbers, called them, and asked if they were involved with her and/or had any useful info. Found old data dumps with her social media content, etc etc... It took me keeping notes on her stories, audio recordings, and time piecing everything together... it took 2.5 years and daily effort, it felt good to know the truth and confront her, but it wasn't worth it in the end, I should have just walked away, but I was too trauma bonded to do that at the time... I eventually did tho. Never again.
@beeman7711 men like you are scary. And you wonder why we leave you and do not feel safe around you. What the hell did you go through all that?? She had already left you right? Or maybe she had showed you her true colors already. All you did was waste valuable time and money on someone who wasn't worth it.
If no woman is special then why bother with long term relationships then? How do you go about choosing a partner in this case?
You just answered your own question.
Don't get married and just live together.
You choose them for what they are. Is “special” the only requirement for marriage?
@@jeffzuess9149 Just not under one roof. Things go south awfully quick when people live together.
@@Hellthee Replace "special" with "different". She's a different person than your last gf/wife.
Once you realize this and see the true nature of women most men decide they can never fall in love with such a shallow and selfish person. And yes, they all are shallow and selfish. Some just hide it better for a while.
Women become sex toys and maybe just decent companionship for a short time.
Remember Gents: She wasn’t YOURS…she was just YOUR turn!
" Never be her retirement plan " my dad said this one thing and this is the only thing he said after I brought the idea of marriage . Women only love the idea of you being a fit for her. Women dont love men like men do .
That's good advice, pops.
@@psychacks Really love you content Sir . Continue the good work .
Idealisation is the WHOLE POINT of love and romance. You've lost that, that's why you can only have temporary, passionless, clinical "relationships". You don't fall in love, you have no romance.
bullseye 🎯. you hit the nail on the head!
@@thomasjefferson6334 Thank you. I've always thought you did the same.
If you're falling, you're going to get hurt. For most of human history, relationships persisted DESPITE love, not because of it. Face it, buddy. Someone duped you into buying this whole romantic love bullshit.
So, if she is the ideal, then will you take the time to continue and build the relationship? If she is perfect she'll love you forever, because that's how love works, right?
@William Mentink sure buddy.
It’s quite interesting that romance is actually delusional and that’s it’s a male tendency. Kinda levels the playing field.
Learned the hard way. Of course. Just because I thought the marriage was forever. And just because I thought she would never cheat or leave. Oh yes. That’s what I though. Now I’m in the late 50s divorce club. A more sober and wiser man.
Replace "special" with "another". She's just an another person. This will remove all the gold dust.
Here's a good litmus test to see if youre fond of that special someone or just fooling yourself:
Next time you find yourself about to "platonically" DM a girl or respond to her story, , ask yourself "Would I be messaging her this innocuous message if she was unattractive?" If the answer is no, then you are kinda being thinly disingenuous and aren't as "in love" with her as you claim to yourself you are.
Another quick one: Before you shoot that person a text or reply to their story, go jerk off, nut, let the clarity hit, and then reassess if you still wanna shoot them a text. If you no longer do, then you weren't really "into her as a person".
No one on the planet is special.
Corky from the show ' life goes on' is
Fantastic channel
Hey! This literally applies to men and women. We indeed think alike 😂
Why don’t they think it applies to them?
This guy is great, good, clean, objective, TRUTHFUL content 👌
Yup learned this the hard way. Thanks for what you do doc
The problem is when she sees herself special and different
Why would you want to be involved with a person who doesn't think that they're special in some way?
@@LisaCulton Yep. Unique absolutely. Entitled and ego driven? Hell no. I like some qualities people share and yes like smart nerdy brainy girls in general as they keep me on my toes and have something to talk about at dinner. That in my opinion doesn't make them special in any way. Just a unique quality mixed with bad ones as well
Which is every woman now, except they're way worse than ever
no women 2day is worth commitment. NO EXCEPTIONS.
This is why you should ALWAYS make a prenup, as much as you like to believe she's different, your belief will be shattered in a divorce court.
Sorry, man, but you are talking nonsense; although it may make sense from a coping perspective to conceive of a woman as, "no better, and no worse than any other woman," realistically, if a man truly believed that, he would have absolutely zero reason to invest anything exceptional in any particular woman. What's more, it's an inaccurate, gross generalization. As a therapist who works primarily with women, I have seen countless examples of "women who were different".
Do not get married, do not cohabitate. Rent or lease, don't buy.
We do a disservice when we don’t see people as they truly are. When we idealize our partner, we set them up for failure; they might succeed in living up to our dreams in the short term, but eventually they must return to their true selves. We all should believe people the first time when they show us who they are. That is the kind thing to do.
I agree w/ your point I just use diff semantics. I say it's good to be romantic but we need to have realistic dreams and realistic fantasies. I don't believe in being a 'hopeless romantic' as that leads to a cycle of repeated disappointments and heartbreak. I rather believe in cultivating a 'hopeFUL romance which is where we BALANCE the fun giddy parts w/ the sullen reality stuff.
We gotta learn what to accept and what not to tolerate but most ppl live in the upside-down Matrix instead of reality. But - you also can't get too red-pilled either b/c that zaps all the fun and romance out of it and if that happens, what's the point? You have a platonic friend then, not a romantic partner!
Ppl tend to tolerate abuse due to past abuse we suffered so we trauma-bond to overcome our post traumatic stress and we tend to kill a realistic, healthy romance by sabotaging something due to these same insecurities.
This also happens b/c we view someone as 'boring' b/c they're no longer new to us anymore so when the novelty wears off, we're done. Or b/c we're not radical enough as a 'go along to get along' fast-lane hipster trying too hard to be cool and relevant. In these wild wild West days, hipsters will dump you quick for the next new thing if you're not rad enough.
Some people have a general understanding of what discipline is and most have never heard of the word.
I mostly agree, but there are some rare females I have met where they don't seem to care how much I make, if I'm dressed in super fancy clothes, or if I have an Ivy League degree...they just want an honest caring man that can meet their basic needs.
(I'm not saying that they were perfect, but everything that most men could want in a woman 👍)
My Mom and grandmother WERE different. They knew Jesus.
No. Keep your magical thinking to yourself.
You give tremendous insight
😂. I did this and found out that I was actually in love and in a relationship with myself and that not only that my ex was a basic and average female, but she also wasn’t in a relationship with me in the sense that I was the doing living my own illusions about being in a loving and soulmate relationship with her. 😂. Listen guys, this level of rational processing will make you angry but will also free you and put you on a whole new journey. And you will not see women as you used to and that is crazily liberating. You will be able to sleep with a woman without giving her commitment no matter how good her box is and no matter how special she tries to make you see her. You will remain objective and rational. This is only for the strong at heart, not for the faint-hearted my friends. 😂. Even your mother and sisters will be affected by this rational process. But boy will you be forever free in your soul and mind. Hallelujah! 😂😂
Modern women are a waste of time. The juice is not worth the squeeze. They’re fine but the hoops a man has to jump through to get “that” is just not worth it anymore.
Truth bru.
This is 100% what I go through in this moment, you truly said it. You have to boil it down and see her as a human being and then ask yourself is there enough left, to be willed to commit to. Most of the time it isn't. I thought she is the love of my life, she was turns out just a canvas of my idealistic and delusional fairy tale thoughts. A projection. Now the magic is gone, she is still amazing in many ways, but our relationship as I knew it, is over. Unconditional love is for children, women and pets. Not for men.
Guys don't think their woman is special. They think ALL women are special. There is a difference
You’d need to be very sheltered to actually believe what he’s saying. If you’ve met more than 2 people in your life, you realize all humans are not the same. And that certain people (men and women) are “special” in that they are quite different from the norm.
Dad's need to teach this to their sons.
Please take note of the last sentence that was spoken, facts!
Dr. Taraban, would you recommend getting married considering this and all the other risks?
... Has ANY Man on TH-cam in this space recommended that course of action from, Oh I don't know ... 2016 onwards? 🤔🤷♂️
I think you have your answer.
@@thebesttheworst2277 What do you mean "this space" are you part of a hive mind?
@@JGphotoyt I don't think I'm part of any hive mind, are you?
'This space' was just the term I used to describe channels that have been offering advice to Men on relationships, improvement and understanding true female nature.
@@thebesttheworst2277why from 2016 onwards?
@@erko78 The birt of Me2 movement, red pill content going big on TH-cam, social media use getting out of hand, dating app usage rising, society and male female dynamics just really changed from that point on until we have what we have today.
Just my 2 cents, others may feel the timeline or circumstances changed at other points/year.
100% on point!
Straight facts
Damn I really needed to hear this say the right time thank you
I love this.
Preach
Yep, absolutely agree.
So accurate 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Are we - the men - special, Doc, or are we all equal?
I got lucky. My wife is definitely special. She wasnt special when i met her but i was able to train her and teach her and now her eyes are open
Come now sir. All women (or men) are not of the same moral fiber.
Is that what I said?
My colleague at my former employer (IT firm) thought his mrs was special because ’she was with him when he had nothing’. She was the model wife and mother, would practically sit or stand at his command. Then… he lost his job. Needless to say he found out real quick.
Last I heard he hadn’t had a home cooked meal in 3+ years and I presume the bedroom action equally dried up though it’s a topic I respectfully dare not ask. She also berates him daily and literally punched him in the mouth one time. He does Uber but she calls him a ‘bloody taxi driver’.
My man broke down in tears telling me the story. Never heard a 50+ year old man weeping that way before.
Wow. Man…
We’ll put
Even shorter version: "Accept that there's a 90% chance your woman is trash and plan accordingly."
Just love your woman. If she good to you…LOVE HER
So all women are 304s.
Correction. A WESTERN woman is a WESTERN WOMAN. Islamic women do not behave as you suggest in your video!
True. Western societies have drifted so far apart from other societies it's not even possible to fairly compare at this point
This is correct: The video entirely omits the reality that other cultures that develop higher values in people eg sanctity in Marriage, the roles of wife and mother in women to develop functional children.
The West promotes propaganda, toxic policy and greed-fuelled legality to promote division of family.
No wonder I have worked with so many children in the West from broken homes and seen the neurosis and lack of resources of split parents or baby mamas in their own children to such damaging effect.
Other cultures and traditions still develop their own people to hold higher values than base materialism or base biological behaviour. The West is far from being a good model of higher quality humans - see the damage of broken family structures on innocent children.
I blame Western governments for abuse of ill-gotten power and the consequences of this on societal decay.
Depending on the region correct? Women can still get beat, and must wear their burkas. I'm sure, since we are all human, they would be the same if the fear factor was removed. I know this from having being to the middle east. So, you might fool some but you won't fool all as the saying goes.
@@lillyCfields Where it breaks down is tribalism and literalism as opposed to the correct edicts in Islam. But no culture is immune from this deterioration process and in fact the so-called "liberal West" is far far worse in output with respect to family break-down compared to most Islamic nations. This could be quantified too.
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If he would had made your point then I would agree.
Said this to a pregnant woman about her husband who she kept saying was special. No body is special. Women are not equal to men and men are not equal to women. We all have our gifts and weaknesses. Equal according to ability.
A woman is a woman. Other than your love for her, there is nothing special about your woman. Not to say she is not a good woman. However, it is your love for her that makes her special, and vice versa.
True words from PsycHacks.
Yes, all women are the same quality in relationship behavior and character. Absurd. Another silly psychhacks video applauded by the lemmings.
This is so sick and twisted what you said! No offense, but why are you so off track? You're one of the guys he's trying to correct but I don't think you got it. His message may be muddied w/ his wrong language here b/c in context of his words 'special' or 'unique' he is saying basically not to expect your woman to be 'perfect'.
That is the subtext of his words and his overall message conveys this deeper meaning so maybe go back and listen to this again and also - see the entire vid instead of just going by an edited clip that is this short vid! We live in a space of short attention spans and one-shot soundbytes and that just dumbs us down all the more.
We need our partners to be diff and yes, 'special' or 'unique' b/c w/out that and w/out those qualities that set her apart from other women, why bother investing your time and emotions in the first place??
You need to find someone who doesn't copy what other women are doing, someone who has her own sense of self and style and is not a good little enslaved hipster who blindly follows every trend and beneath this mask, she is empty and insecure and looks to you to 'fix' her. Men love this too b/c most men want to be the hero but if you want to be the hero, I'd say your ego is too big b/c you shouldn't want to 'fix' someone.
That is asking for trouble and drama that men claim they don't want but you bring it on yourself when your goal is to fix her. You should want a balanced woman, not a fixer-upper. Fix up a house for her, fix the leaking sink or work on her car. Make her something w. your hands or something like that - be a hero in a diff way! You men gotta be 'different' and 'unique' too and stop acting like your boys' club fraternity bros and Masonic cult bros! The prob is our hipster culture where everyone wants to be like everyone else - clones - instead of being themselves in their own UNIQUE ways.
No - hipsters aren't special or unique and that is what this dr is actually trying to say. We need to understand language, context and subtext better b/c we can't communicate effectively w/out the right words & the right psychology of words. Pls take all this into consideration b4 you throw away a brilliant opportunity and lose out on the love of your life!
Yada, yada, yada. Blah, blah, blah. You use many words to say nothing. Make your point clearly and quickly please.
PS: I stand by everything I posted.@@kaitlynkarol4600
Don’t try to “Save a Hoe.”
Da TRUTH!!
Usually, the man ends up destroying what could have been real love by treating her the opposite instead of growing up a little & working through the imperfections in his soul & hers. But by then he's been such a monster & judged her unforgivably that she won't want to come back. Sometimes a good, true love relationship can be salvaged once you realize you're really into each other & really want it to work but have done some things you might regret or might even have thought were it but didn't work out & have learned from it. She's done that, you've done that. Especially when you're in your late 20s & 30s come on now, let it go, move past it & respect & love her for wanting to be with you. Have those hard conversations with yourself & her. That's the level up.
Facts
Exactly
lol cant even share this buts its very good content
No hymen no dymen.
Very true
This is so true, i thought i got the gem 😂
"enough left to justify your commitment". Wise.
I think people just use the word "special" very loosely lol
Similarly, this applies to women. To all women out there: your man isn't exceptional. He's just like anyone else-a human being. Consider this before tying the knot.
AWALT!
Your right
Awalt , oneitis will hurt you in the future
I have learnt one important thing. Women are mistresses of putting their best foot forward. Do not commit, until you have seen the other foot.
My ex was special. She was way crazier than most.