I'm sorry that some people are mean in the comments. You bring joy to my day and I can only hope that one day those who judge and have nothing kind to say choose to keep it to themselves when it isn't constructive and is hurtful.
Self-care for me is sleeping. Sounds basic but as a widow parenting alone, working from home and taking care of household chores, sleeping nicely, decently early and to my heart's content is something that I really apreciate.
I can't imagine why anyone would be cruel to you when you offer nothing but joy and light. Forget them and remember the rest of us love and support you.
As a mom of two who homeschooled and a teacher for 14 years, for your own mental health you do need time to recharge ABSOLUTELY, and of course you love and miss your kids!❤️. Life is a balancing act. I admire that you do it with boldness and honesty in front of so many people. Enjoy your times alone, it will make you an even better mom❤️
I very much was thinking the same thing. This has been a very difficult holiday season for me as I lost my little Petunia (Toonie) VERY unexpectedly in early October. She was my little lady, my constant buddy especially being home so much due to Covid. The grief is still hard. Without a furry companion any longer, I find I get added joy by watching others with their little furry loves like Winnie. xo
Same here. I am 100% alone. Winnie always comforted me like in this sweet video. I had a Shih Tzu and then a small black miniature poodle who died shortly after getting fixed as he had giadardia (sp) and they demanded him to still be fixed. Broke my heart to loose my last puppy in my arms on way to vet. One day I pray for a puppy when God feels it is the right time. I know how you all feel. Me personally. I am not over either of my pups. Miss the love. Love back to you Larissa.
I have never felt like I related to you more than now. This is what life is like. It’s normal to be both empowered and saddened by our time away from our children. You are doing what is right for them, for Don AND FOR YOU- and all of that is exhausting! Such a powerful message to share, and I’m totally here with you!
I know that feeling of heartache when the little ones are with the other parent and it is so hard, but you are rocking this new chapter of your life and it is an inspiration to see❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing Jen, your awesome girl!!
My mom was a single mom of two for most her of her life. As an adult, she’s shared she felt the same way. She said when we were away, that she missed us terribly and wished she would’ve leaned into relaxing and caring for herself. Instead she spent the time feeling guilty for needing a moment to breathe. You’re a mom but also a human ❤️
I just wanted to say I can feel how much more at peace you are becoming. Your aura is glowing and I love seeing your personality. I’ve been co-parenting with my sons father since he was born. My son is about to be 8 and I still feel like a little piece of me is gone when he is, but learning to rejuvenate and take care of yourself while they are away is so important. Then when the kids come home, you are so ready to welcome them back and prepared emotionally. Also, crying is so therapeutic for me. Sometimes you just have to let it out rather than letting it build and pile up. Sending much love and I hope you have an amazing holiday.
I purchased my husband a peloton bike for Christmas, hidden at my parent's home, and I will certainly use this cde. Thank you! I do ballet and on point five hours, those toes spacers are a foot saver.
My heart aches for you when you talk about your custody arrangement. I did the same thing for 10 years and it is the absolute best for the child if you can make it work. Not everyone can and for them they do the absolute best in THEIR situation but looking at your time without them as essential “breathing room” is just self preservation. You have the best of both worlds now, freedom and motherhood. I learned to compartmentalise and it worked for me but I also received backlash online when explaining our 50/50 set up. It’s not about anyone but you, Don and your kids and hard as it is, you need to shut out all other opinions. You’re doing the right thing and you are putting it all out there in solidarity with all the other single parents struggling through their new normal 👏🏻
Of course you need time to yourself, it makes you a better mom. I love how you know to take care of yourself when you’re feeling tender from the loss. Good for you Jen!
You are so strong. I love how much effort you put into doing what’s best for your babies, even when it hurts. The makeup for your little is adorable!!!
I recently started teaching myself guitar again. I was learning when I was 8, but gave it up. Music is extremely important in my life as well. It's always been something that can soothe and comfort when needed, and these days, we all need something to make us feel better. Taking time for yourself makes you an even better mom. Hey, I also watch Chris' channel. He's great.
You are such a good mother. That said, you also need to recharge. It’s not in any way selfish. Self-care is so important! We understand what you are saying and I’m so glad you choose to share your story. 💛 Yay for vlogmas.
Girl, I just told my husband last night when they were driving me nuts that I needed these children of mine to GO TO SCHOOL!! lol I am unapologetic about needing time away from my kids to recharge. Enjoy your time to yourself. Yes you miss them while they’re gone but it’s totally ok to need and enjoy your time while they are with their dad.
Awwww I feel sad at the thought of trolls being mean to you when you are being vulnerable. On a happier note, maybe when the pandemic is over, you can volunteer at your kid's school (on the weeks when you don't have them) so you can eat lunch with them or help the teachers. I used to love to surprise my kiddos with a special lunch or snack for the classroom, just cuz.
My go to self care at the moment is watching ppl like you who inspire me to try different things & to do better. You are a natural on the guitar, Jen. Happy Wednesday! :)
Loving your vlogmas, even after the fact. That guitar strumming was so soothing. Both of my adult sons took up guitar in 2020. It truly is therapeutic and soul soothing.
I have a Morton’s Nuroma. Are your toes separating? They hurt so bad. Been living with it for 5+ years. Everyone says not to do the surgery. What is the tape? No one has suggested that. I would love some relief! I have watched you forever and you have always been a calming voice in my life.
I was a single Mom and even now that he's almost forty years old I treasured and still cherish every moment we spend together. I'm in our Manila condo living alone and as much as I love it I still miss him and my grand-kids.I know it's hard on you but they need this time with their father and you deserve a break.
I know exactly what you are going through, I have now been divorced for two years and I remember crying when my son would leave with his dad. The house felt so lonely but little by little I started my “self care journey “ and realized that this time away from my son was much needed time for me. I now go do my nails, and dinner with girlfriends, and dare I say go on a date once in a while. Don’t feel ashamed of taking time for yourself.You are not alone, a lot of us women are going through this. Love watching your content by the way💕
I honesty love the transformation in you since the earliest days watching you. Please I mean this in the most sincere fashion and mean no offense. I just see a really independent person, taking on home improvement jobs and doing so all by yourself. I saw the episode where you painted the large bookcases in your bedroom and have to give you loads of credit as it is something I wouldn't tackle on my own. I was even really impressed by your pantry slide in shelves that you installed, so much so, that you inspired me to do the same in my own kitchen cabinet. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Happy Christmas!
Lovely video, I am enjoying your vlogmas! I have never heated frozen soup up like that! Do you not use a microwave? With regard to your garland lights, its probably just one bulb that has blown and broken the circuit.
hi i just wanted to share that i think you are such a kind and genuine person. I started watching you since I was a teenager and I don't have much actual relation to you in regards to life (I'm 25 with no kids or home of my own). but i think i enjoy feeling like i'm in the presence of someone who is being truly themselves as well as truly trying to do and be good. you inspire me to take care of myself, my room (no house yet for me), as well as others. i hope you have a lovely day and that you impacted my life by showing me there are some good people in this world, even if i don't see them regularly.
If them spending time with their dad is so hard for you, pull them out of "school" on their days with you so you're not missing that time, particularly as you don't work and have no need to have them in professional care
Some people want their kids in school to develop friendships, learn to interact with others, social skills, and play time in a new and educational setting. Having a hard time when they are gone for over night visits tugs at many single moms heart strings. Keeping them home from their (short and limited) school days isnt the same thing.
I just ask for no bags at the grocery store then load my groceries into my reusable bags out by my car! It works well if you’re not buying too much, I’m just buying my husband and I. Great vid btw!
Omg "Better Man" is one of my all-time favorite songs, I listened to that song last night before bed. Eddie Vedder speaks to my soul like no other artist, love him! And I love you even more since you're a Pearl Jam fan! 💗
I just came across your 2011 Thanksgiving house tour. My, how you've changed, for the better. I like the more minimalist decor you have now much better. Your voice has changed too.
You Never need to explain needing alone time to take care of yourself. Being a single parent is 24/7 and while the kids are with you it is hard to take a shower let alone chill out for a few hours. As My mother use to say. "My Gas is low and I need a fill" In other words if My tank is low (self care) I am no good to anyone!
I absolutely love watching your videos. I am in a very similar situation with my daughter so your video tonight hit really close to my heart. Thank you for sharing with us. I know, it does me wonders knowing I’m not the only mama who struggles in that way.! *Hugs*
Love your vlogmas 🤗 especially enjoyed the guitar it reminded me when I taught myself guitar in my teen years I so need to pick it up again! Yeah for self care❣️
I really wish the best for you Jen, you always make me want to give you a big hug , I can feel your sadness sometimes. You deserve the best , your so sweet . Take care of yourself because your worth it xxxx🙋💕🤗
Hi Jen! I am a single mom too, have been for 7 years.....and I sit here and type this too you as my son is with his dad and family for the evening. Im sitting on the couch, eating chips and salsa and watching your video. It is OK to need that time alone....and to even want it. You dont have to feel guilty for that alone time. Your kids will be happy if their mom is happy and in a good place. 😊
You’re so awesome!! I’ve been watching you since the beginning and still love your videos today!! You’re so genuine and I love that about you! Great job on the guitar btw!!
I feel the same way about my Peloton! It's brought me so much joy and energy and got me back to feeling like "me" I just followed you the other day! Hope to take a ride with you! Also re: instructors not sweating. HOW DO THE INSTRUCTIONS TEACH WITH THEIR HAIR DOWN!?
I got mine in April and I’ve been so obsessed! I had to chill for a little bit and took a few weeks off. But back at it again and it makes me so happy!
Jen, I am sorry you feel like you have to hide your tears! I feel your pain! My son is 13 and I still have that pain when he spends his one night with his dad! I agree will all your feels! if you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you always! I always felt like people always try to invalidate my pain and heart ache while being away from my child!
I don’t know what the song is... but I’m so impressed with your guitar playing!! What a lovely hobby to have :) i hope your foot gets better, best wishes from U.K xx
Love that Little Martin guitar!! Definitely on my wish list, any guitar in general, need to step up from my ukulele! Love that song too, Better man. :)
Does anyone else think it’s odd to leave the tree lights on when not home? I feel like it’s dangerous but actually that’s probably ridiculous lol. Just never did that before.
Jen, we get it...we all need time. Our love for our childern is like nothing else, but moms need to recharge too to be the best mom we can be. I do the exact same thing when I kiss visit with their Dad....I take time for myself and recharge.
Don't feel you need to apologize for TAKING A BREATH. We all need that on a regular basis, especially as parents. I have a partner in the home helping me and I still need to decompress. You are doing it on your own for several days at a time. That is a long time to be in "Mom mode" without assistance. You are a Rockstar.
I think it is very different being a single parent. When the kids are with you, you are responsible for everything by yourself. Even in the best of times, it can be very draining. Needing to recharge says nothing about how your feel about your children or wanting to be with them. It is just taking care of yourself and in doing so makes you better prepared to be a better mom. We all deserve some moments to just be and unwind.
I have followed you from when you showed your walking pharmacy in the condo and absolutely love you and pray for you and your family. Moments of sadness are okay, you are human and it is perfectly fine (on camera)
I find myself commenting on your videos lately and I think it’s because I can absolutely relate to you. And I’m not sure if my comment will even make sense, but I guess what I’m trying to say is that I understand you. I’ve divorced, I’ve had to coparent, I’ve cried when my son gets picked up by his dad, and even though I’ve remarried, had more children and time has healed my wounds, it’s almost as if listening to you takes me back to the time where I had no choice but to get used to my son not being with me. A time where I was figuring myself out, figuring out being ok with being single, and I want to say that I commend you for choosing to live your life in the most positive way possible. Your kids see it, and they’re happier kids because you choose to have your time. Alone time is absolutely necessary to be the mom that your kids needs you to be. It’s something I think that one needs to go through to understand. Happy holidays and thank you for these videos :)
It does get easier, there will always be heartache but you will get into a routine with it. In the beginning I would literally cry all weekend they were gone, then after a long time I came to enjoy the time that I could do stuff that was impossible to do when they were with me, like a date night or shopping with friends. Of course I wouldn’t choose this life but you make it work. Don’t feel bad for feeling all the feelings!!💕💕💕💕💕
Hi Jen, I understand how difficult it is to be separated 😔 In Europe, when we are home; it is rare that we give our kids to daycare. Wouldn’t it be an option to reduce daycare there? When mandatory school starts, it will not be an option unless you homeschool. They grow up so quickly.
Thank you for sharing your lovely Pearl Jam practice, I know sharing the learning process can be vulnerable for some (including me) so I really appreciate it when others share. GREAT song. I started singing it as you played. Encore!
Love to hear the pearl jam-jam session 😉 I’ve got to say Jen, watching your videos, both during vlogmas and the rest of the year, is part of my self care ❤️
I had a neuroma between my big toe and second toe. I waited 6 months to go to the podiatrist for some reason but one trip, a shot between the toes, and a miracle it has totally fixed it (for now). It hurt so bad!! I feel for you!
Mama you are not alone in those feelings. Although my kids don’t go anywhere.. when I went to have my baby it was so hard to be away from my toddler. FF a few days later I was rushed to the ER alone bc of covid w bp issues... stroke level. I was so heartbroken and scared. I was alone. My newborn and toddler were home and well taken care of but being away from them doesn’t feel natural to me. It’s been 5 months now and I’m never away from them.. so I try to take some mornings in another room doing projects while my mom is here to give me recharging time but I miss them the whole time. ♥️
I divorced two years ago. My kids were pretty grown. I’ll say it wasn’t easy... the desperation. Everything is separate. Your kids are so blessed to have you. 🤗
Hey! I have 2 friends who said I can use their Pelaton bikes...if you are able to share what rides you’re planning ahead of time! 🦵🏻🚴🏾♂️🚴🏿🚴♀️🚵♂️🚵🏽🚵🏼♀️
I love watching your vlogs! I totally get you. I am a single mom of 3 boys and struggle with taking that time for self care but this motivates me to focus more on that!
Taking a deep breath is your chance to refuel. That way you can continue to be an amazing mommy to them babies. 🙏 and 🤗. If you put your straw through the hole in the ring on top of the can, it won't move as much. You're not sweating you're glistening! Speaking of OG I've been watching you since 2010. Cleaning and organizing is my self care.
I know art, cooking, baking and crafts with kids your age is hard but if you are not looking for perfection pintrest worthy stuff, then would be cool to watch . Also what traditions for Christmas are you starting for your little family? I love to watch christmas traditions of other families. Obviously , you put up the tree and the decorations and what else? Love your videos. your kindness is contagious .
Love today’s video, but I always enjoy your videos. I don’t comment often, but I’m going to make a point to comment more often. I too enjoy watching my favorite TH-cam channels on my tv. Yes I’m watching you on my tv. You’re such a kind, caring, humble and thoughtful person. And hilarious! I cracked up watching yesterday’s vlogmas when you talked about dating. I cannot figure out why people are so judgmental. Jealousy or issues with themselves possibly could lead people to be that way in my opinion. Glad you and the kids and Don are doing well. Somethings may not get easier, but we can definitely cope and manage things better. Seems like you’re doing pretty well managing and I pray that continues.
My daughter got a twisty pet for her birthday a couple of years ago, my son loves it just as much, however you will spend the rest of your days twisting it back into a pet from a bracelet 🤣 I wish you luck xxx
Don’t feel obligated to validate you’re feelings. I agree is mommas need to be with our babies always. And it doesn’t get easier to be away from our kids, as much as we deal with it. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing💚
Jen, I’ve been watching your vlogmas videos with no headphones over the last few days, and today my boyfriend just randomly looked at me during this video and said ‘’Jen gives me a good vibe’’ 😂 Just wanted you to know because not only was it funny, but also so true! Thank you for spreading so much positivity and light to all of us ❤️
It may be what you need. Having heartache is understandable staying in the heartache without change is actually a choice. It takes self-inquiry and work to change. But when you stay in heartache you are not in full presence. BTW, It doesn't mean you love any less if you don't have heartache being away from your children- love is love. It is an opportunity to look at the missing- hopefully you will realize it goes deeper than your children. I wish you well in the healing, it will benefit you, and your children.
I'm sorry that some people are mean in the comments. You bring joy to my day and I can only hope that one day those who judge and have nothing kind to say choose to keep it to themselves when it isn't constructive and is hurtful.
100%
Self-care for me is sleeping. Sounds basic but as a widow parenting alone, working from home and taking care of household chores, sleeping nicely, decently early and to my heart's content is something that I really apreciate.
Sleep is the best 😴
Needing and taking some time on your own doesn’t make you a bad mom, it makes you a better mom.
I couldn’t agree more!
I can't imagine why anyone would be cruel to you when you offer nothing but joy and light. Forget them and remember the rest of us love and support you.
My thoughts exactly! Jen is one of my favorite TH-camrs because of who she is. ♥️
As a mom of two who homeschooled and a teacher for 14 years, for your own mental health you do need time to recharge ABSOLUTELY, and of course you love and miss your kids!❤️. Life is a balancing act. I admire that you do it with boldness and honesty in front of so many people. Enjoy your times alone, it will make you an even better mom❤️
Winnie under the tree reminding everyone she is THE gift☺️
I love that we've been getting to see more of Winnie lately! 🐶❤
I very much was thinking the same thing. This has been a very difficult holiday season for me as I lost my little Petunia (Toonie) VERY unexpectedly in early October. She was my little lady, my constant buddy especially being home so much due to Covid. The grief is still hard. Without a furry companion any longer, I find I get added joy by watching others with their little furry loves like Winnie. xo
I am so sorry for your loss ❤️
Same here. I am 100% alone. Winnie always comforted me like in this sweet video. I had a Shih Tzu and then a small black miniature poodle who died shortly after getting fixed as he had giadardia (sp) and they demanded him to still be fixed. Broke my heart to loose my last puppy in my arms on way to vet. One day I pray for a puppy when God feels it is the right time. I know how you all feel. Me personally. I am not over either of my pups. Miss the love. Love back to you Larissa.
I have never felt like I related to you more than now. This is what life is like. It’s normal to be both empowered and saddened by our time away from our children. You are doing what is right for them, for Don AND FOR YOU- and all of that is exhausting! Such a powerful message to share, and I’m totally here with you!
You should get CC a caboodle for her makeup. It looks like they brought them back when AG came out with their 1986 doll who has one as an accessory.
such a good idea. you should also get her some water based nontoxic nail polish i think i saw some at whole foods
@@88lakeshore piggy paint is a good natural brand of non toxic kids nail polish!
I love this comment so much 🥰
I know that feeling of heartache when the little ones are with the other parent and it is so hard, but you are rocking this new chapter of your life and it is an inspiration to see❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing Jen, your awesome girl!!
My mom was a single mom of two for most her of her life. As an adult, she’s shared she felt the same way. She said when we were away, that she missed us terribly and wished she would’ve leaned into relaxing and caring for herself. Instead she spent the time feeling guilty for needing a moment to breathe. You’re a mom but also a human ❤️
I just wanted to say I can feel how much more at peace you are becoming. Your aura is glowing and I love seeing your personality. I’ve been co-parenting with my sons father since he was born. My son is about to be 8 and I still feel like a little piece of me is gone when he is, but learning to rejuvenate and take care of yourself while they are away is so important. Then when the kids come home, you are so ready to welcome them back and prepared emotionally. Also, crying is so therapeutic for me. Sometimes you just have to let it out rather than letting it build and pile up. Sending much love and I hope you have an amazing holiday.
Jen, I am right there with you on the introvert scale. My nights MUST end with some absolute quiet. Thanks for Vlogmas!
I purchased my husband a peloton bike for Christmas, hidden at my parent's home, and I will certainly use this cde. Thank you! I do ballet and on point five hours, those toes spacers are a foot saver.
I love how much you love being a Mom.
My heart aches for you when you talk about your custody arrangement. I did the same thing for 10 years and it is the absolute best for the child if you can make it work. Not everyone can and for them they do the absolute best in THEIR situation but looking at your time without them as essential “breathing room” is just self preservation. You have the best of both worlds now, freedom and motherhood. I learned to compartmentalise and it worked for me but I also received backlash online when explaining our 50/50 set up. It’s not about anyone but you, Don and your kids and hard as it is, you need to shut out all other opinions. You’re doing the right thing and you are putting it all out there in solidarity with all the other single parents struggling through their new normal 👏🏻
Of course you need time to yourself, it makes you a better mom. I love how you know to take care of yourself when you’re feeling tender from the loss. Good for you Jen!
You are just very normal about your kids! Mine are all grown and gone from home and I still miss them terribly bad.
"It's not really a cigar, don't smoke." 😂😂😂 You have the best personality. And I absolutely love seeing Winnie. ❤️
Check if there are fuses in the outlet plug part of the lights
You are so strong. I love how much effort you put into doing what’s best for your babies, even when it hurts.
The makeup for your little is adorable!!!
I recently started teaching myself guitar again. I was learning when I was 8, but gave it up. Music is extremely important in my life as well. It's always been something that can soothe and comfort when needed, and these days, we all need something to make us feel better. Taking time for yourself makes you an even better mom. Hey, I also watch Chris' channel. He's great.
You are such a good mother. That said, you also need to recharge. It’s not in any way selfish. Self-care is so important! We understand what you are saying and I’m so glad you choose to share your story. 💛 Yay for vlogmas.
I've coparented my four children on/off for the past 20 years. Its very painful and hard. Its okay to cry Jen :)
Girl, I just told my husband last night when they were driving me nuts that I needed these children of mine to GO TO SCHOOL!! lol I am unapologetic about needing time away from my kids to recharge. Enjoy your time to yourself. Yes you miss them while they’re gone but it’s totally ok to need and enjoy your time while they are with their dad.
Awwww I feel sad at the thought of trolls being mean to you when you are being vulnerable. On a happier note, maybe when the pandemic is over, you can volunteer at your kid's school (on the weeks when you don't have them) so you can eat lunch with them or help the teachers. I used to love to surprise my kiddos with a special lunch or snack for the classroom, just cuz.
"It's not really a cigar! Don't smoke kids!" 😄😆
I love your sense of humor.
we also call it a cigar when the pups get stick treats.... lol. makes them look like established little humans.
☺Winnie under the tree. Priceless. She stole your vlog moment ❤
She is always the star 🌟
My go to self care at the moment is watching ppl like you who inspire me to try different things & to do better. You are a natural on the guitar, Jen. Happy Wednesday! :)
You are amazing. Don’t let others bring you down for crying or taking a moment to breathe and have self care.
You sooooo got me hooked on Christopher. I've been binge watching him and eyeballing his gorgeous kitchen.
LOL, me as well!
I had to laugh out loud. As soon as you said the fire was foolproof, the logs collapsed. It was perfect timing.
Loving your vlogmas, even after the fact. That guitar strumming was so soothing. Both of my adult sons took up guitar in 2020. It truly is therapeutic and soul soothing.
I have a Morton’s Nuroma. Are your toes separating? They hurt so bad. Been living with it for 5+ years. Everyone says not to do the surgery. What is the tape? No one has suggested that. I would love some relief! I have watched you forever and you have always been a calming voice in my life.
If you put the smaller logs on first then add the larger ones it will catch easier
I was a single Mom and even now that he's almost forty years old I treasured and still cherish every moment we spend together. I'm in our Manila condo living alone and as much as I love it I still miss him and my grand-kids.I know it's hard on you but they need this time with their father and you deserve a break.
I know exactly what you are going through, I have now been divorced for two years and I remember crying when my son would leave with his dad. The house felt so lonely but little by little I started my “self care journey “ and realized that this time away from my son was much needed time for me. I now go do my nails, and dinner with girlfriends, and dare I say go on a date once in a while. Don’t feel ashamed of taking time for yourself.You are not alone, a lot of us women are going through this. Love watching your content by the way💕
I honesty love the transformation in you since the earliest days watching you. Please I mean this in the most sincere fashion and mean no offense. I just see a really independent person, taking on home improvement jobs and doing so all by yourself. I saw the episode where you painted the large bookcases in your bedroom and have to give you loads of credit as it is something I wouldn't tackle on my own. I was even really impressed by your pantry slide in shelves that you installed, so much so, that you inspired me to do the same in my own kitchen cabinet. Thank you for sharing your life with us. Happy Christmas!
Lovely video, I am enjoying your vlogmas! I have never heated frozen soup up like that! Do you not use a microwave?
With regard to your garland lights, its probably just one bulb that has blown and broken the circuit.
hi i just wanted to share that i think you are such a kind and genuine person. I started watching you since I was a teenager and I don't have much actual relation to you in regards to life (I'm 25 with no kids or home of my own). but i think i enjoy feeling like i'm in the presence of someone who is being truly themselves as well as truly trying to do and be good. you inspire me to take care of myself, my room (no house yet for me), as well as others. i hope you have a lovely day and that you impacted my life by showing me there are some good people in this world, even if i don't see them regularly.
If them spending time with their dad is so hard for you, pull them out of "school" on their days with you so you're not missing that time, particularly as you don't work and have no need to have them in professional care
Some people want their kids in school to develop friendships, learn to interact with others, social skills, and play time in a new and educational setting. Having a hard time when they are gone for over night visits tugs at many single moms heart strings. Keeping them home from their (short and limited) school days isnt the same thing.
No need to hide your tears! You are so real and that’s why we love you!
I just ask for no bags at the grocery store then load my groceries into my reusable bags out by my car! It works well if you’re not buying too much, I’m just buying my husband and I. Great vid btw!
That’s a good idea!
Came here to say just this! :)
Omg "Better Man" is one of my all-time favorite songs, I listened to that song last night before bed. Eddie Vedder speaks to my soul like no other artist, love him! And I love you even more since you're a Pearl Jam fan! 💗
I hope we get Yellow Ledbetter next!!!
I just came across your 2011 Thanksgiving house tour. My, how you've changed, for the better. I like the more minimalist decor you have now much better. Your voice has changed too.
You Never need to explain needing alone time to take care of yourself. Being a single parent is 24/7 and while the kids are with you it is hard to take a shower let alone chill out for a few hours. As My mother use to say. "My Gas is low and I need a fill" In other words if My tank is low (self care) I am no good to anyone!
I absolutely love watching your videos. I am in a very similar situation with my daughter so your video tonight hit really close to my heart. Thank you for sharing with us. I know, it does me wonders knowing I’m not the only mama who struggles in that way.! *Hugs*
I am loving your vlogs more than ever. I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts as you navigate this new time in your life. Love to your family.
Love your vlogmas 🤗 especially enjoyed the guitar it reminded me when I taught myself guitar in my teen years I so need to pick it up again! Yeah for self care❣️
Walking with a friend everyday lifts my spirits. We have been blessed with such good weather here in the midwest.
I really wish the best for you Jen, you always make me want to give you a big hug , I can feel your sadness sometimes. You deserve the best , your so sweet . Take care of yourself because your worth it xxxx🙋💕🤗
We put our groceries in the cart and then bag them when we get to the car.
Hi Jen! I am a single mom too, have been for 7 years.....and I sit here and type this too you as my son is with his dad and family for the evening. Im sitting on the couch, eating chips and salsa and watching your video. It is OK to need that time alone....and to even want it. You dont have to feel guilty for that alone time. Your kids will be happy if their mom is happy and in a good place. 😊
You’re so awesome!! I’ve been watching you since the beginning and still love your videos today!! You’re so genuine and I love that about you! Great job on the guitar btw!!
Amazon has Pearl light strands.
I bought some that are coming next week. They’re not exactly the same but hopefully close!
You’re doing a fantastic job. You are exactly where you need to be. Thank you for showing us this piece of your life
So happy to have the extra vlogs to sit down and watch at the end of the day! I love hearing your perspective on things
I feel the same way about my Peloton! It's brought me so much joy and energy and got me back to feeling like "me" I just followed you the other day! Hope to take a ride with you! Also re: instructors not sweating. HOW DO THE INSTRUCTIONS TEACH WITH THEIR HAIR DOWN!?
I got mine in April and I’ve been so obsessed! I had to chill for a little bit and took a few weeks off. But back at it again and it makes me so happy!
They are super human for sure 😅
I love a log fire, so relaxing, I love watching you, Jen
Jen, I am sorry you feel like you have to hide your tears! I feel your pain! My son is 13 and I still have that pain when he spends his one night with his dad! I agree will all your feels! if you ever need someone to talk to I am here for you always! I always felt like people always try to invalidate my pain and heart ache while being away from my child!
I don’t know what the song is... but I’m so impressed with your guitar playing!! What a lovely hobby to have :) i hope your foot gets better, best wishes from U.K xx
Love that Little Martin guitar!! Definitely on my wish list, any guitar in general, need to step up from my ukulele! Love that song too, Better man. :)
Jenn, I just wish I could give you a hug. I truly know what you are going through. You are so awesome. Thank you for sharing.
Does anyone else think it’s odd to leave the tree lights on when not home? I feel like it’s dangerous but actually that’s probably ridiculous lol. Just never did that before.
I used to think that too but the lights don't get warm (like in the old days), so it's probably no different than leaving a lamp on.
Jen, we get it...we all need time. Our love for our childern is like nothing else, but moms need to recharge too to be the best mom we can be. I do the exact same thing when I kiss visit with their Dad....I take time for myself and recharge.
Don't feel you need to apologize for TAKING A BREATH. We all need that on a regular basis, especially as parents. I have a partner in the home helping me and I still need to decompress. You are doing it on your own for several days at a time. That is a long time to be in "Mom mode" without assistance. You are a Rockstar.
I think it is very different being a single parent. When the kids are with you, you are responsible for everything by yourself. Even in the best of times, it can be very draining. Needing to recharge says nothing about how your feel about your children or wanting to be with them. It is just taking care of yourself and in doing so makes you better prepared to be a better mom. We all deserve some moments to just be and unwind.
I have followed you from when you showed your walking pharmacy in the condo and absolutely love you and pray for you and your family. Moments of sadness are okay, you are human and it is perfectly fine (on camera)
I find myself commenting on your videos lately and I think it’s because I can absolutely relate to you. And I’m not sure if my comment will even make sense, but I guess what I’m trying to say is that I understand you. I’ve divorced, I’ve had to coparent, I’ve cried when my son gets picked up by his dad, and even though I’ve remarried, had more children and time has healed my wounds, it’s almost as if listening to you takes me back to the time where I had no choice but to get used to my son not being with me. A time where I was figuring myself out, figuring out being ok with being single, and I want to say that I commend you for choosing to live your life in the most positive way possible. Your kids see it, and they’re happier kids because you choose to have your time. Alone time is absolutely necessary to be the mom that your kids needs you to be. It’s something I think that one needs to go through to understand. Happy holidays and thank you for these videos :)
It does get easier, there will always be heartache but you will get into a routine with it. In the beginning I would literally cry all weekend they were gone, then after a long time I came to enjoy the time that I could do stuff that was impossible to do when they were with me, like a date night or shopping with friends. Of course I wouldn’t choose this life but you make it work. Don’t feel bad for feeling all the feelings!!💕💕💕💕💕
Hi Jen, I understand how difficult it is to be separated 😔 In Europe, when we are home; it is rare that we give our kids to daycare. Wouldn’t it be an option to reduce daycare there? When mandatory school starts, it will not be an option unless you homeschool. They grow up so quickly.
Is the peloton only on the bike or the tread too
your skin looks amazing!!! we need an updated routine!!!
Thank you for sharing your lovely Pearl Jam practice, I know sharing the learning process can be vulnerable for some (including me) so I really appreciate it when others share. GREAT song. I started singing it as you played. Encore!
Love to hear the pearl jam-jam session 😉 I’ve got to say Jen, watching your videos, both during vlogmas and the rest of the year, is part of my self care ❤️
Self care: books I love to read
I had a neuroma between my big toe and second toe. I waited 6 months to go to the podiatrist for some reason but one trip, a shot between the toes, and a miracle it has totally fixed it (for now). It hurt so bad!! I feel for you!
Mama you are not alone in those feelings. Although my kids don’t go anywhere.. when I went to have my baby it was so hard to be away from my toddler. FF a few days later I was rushed to the ER alone bc of covid w bp issues... stroke level. I was so heartbroken and scared. I was alone. My newborn and toddler were home and well taken care of but being away from them doesn’t feel natural to me. It’s been 5 months now and I’m never away from them.. so I try to take some mornings in another room doing projects while my mom is here to give me recharging time but I miss them the whole time. ♥️
I divorced two years ago. My kids were pretty grown. I’ll say it wasn’t easy... the desperation. Everything is separate. Your kids are so blessed to have you. 🤗
Hey! I have 2 friends who said I can use their Pelaton bikes...if you are able to share what rides you’re planning ahead of time! 🦵🏻🚴🏾♂️🚴🏿🚴♀️🚵♂️🚵🏽🚵🏼♀️
I love watching your vlogs! I totally get you. I am a single mom of 3 boys and struggle with taking that time for self care but this motivates me to focus more on that!
Taking a deep breath is your chance to refuel. That way you can continue to be an amazing mommy to them babies. 🙏 and 🤗. If you put your straw through the hole in the ring on top of the can, it won't move as much. You're not sweating you're glistening! Speaking of OG I've been watching you since 2010. Cleaning and organizing is my self care.
I know art, cooking, baking and crafts with kids your age is hard but if you are not looking for perfection pintrest worthy stuff, then would be cool to watch . Also what traditions for Christmas are you starting for your little family? I love to watch christmas traditions of other families. Obviously , you put up the tree and the decorations and what else? Love your videos. your kindness is contagious .
Better Man!!! I recognized it right away. Loving Vlogmas so much and you are also making me want a Peloton!
One of my faves of all time 🎶
And you should definitely get a peloton 😉
@@WithWonder me too on the song and I think you are right on the bike! 😆
Love today’s video, but I always enjoy your videos. I don’t comment often, but I’m going to make a point to comment more often. I too enjoy watching my favorite TH-cam channels on my tv. Yes I’m watching you on my tv. You’re such a kind, caring, humble and thoughtful person. And hilarious! I cracked up watching yesterday’s vlogmas when you talked about dating. I cannot figure out why people are so judgmental. Jealousy or issues with themselves possibly could lead people to be that way in my opinion. Glad you and the kids and Don are doing well. Somethings may not get easier, but we can definitely cope and manage things better. Seems like you’re doing pretty well managing and I pray that continues.
Winnie under the Christmas tree is about the cutest thing ever :D
cute dog; How do you get those bows on her?
I recognize that song- better man by pearl jam. Takes me back to my youth!
My daughter got a twisty pet for her birthday a couple of years ago, my son loves it just as much, however you will spend the rest of your days twisting it back into a pet from a bracelet 🤣 I wish you luck xxx
Man, that song took me back! Could definitely recognize it! Can you share which videos/apps you are using with your guitar practice?
Don’t feel obligated to validate you’re feelings. I agree is mommas need to be with our babies always. And it doesn’t get easier to be away from our kids, as much as we deal with it. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing💚
You are beautiful when you cry!
Jen, I’ve been watching your vlogmas videos with no headphones over the last few days, and today my boyfriend just randomly looked at me during this video and said ‘’Jen gives me a good vibe’’ 😂 Just wanted you to know because not only was it funny, but also so true! Thank you for spreading so much positivity and light to all of us ❤️
You should try an outside fire in the winter! It’s seriously the best! 💖🌟 🔥 🇨🇦 ❄️
Glad you're enjoying Peloton. I've had my Bike+ since September, and I love it. See you on the leaderboard! :)
It may be what you need. Having heartache is understandable staying in the heartache without change is actually a choice. It takes self-inquiry and work to change. But when you stay in heartache you are not in full presence. BTW, It doesn't mean you love any less if you don't have heartache being away from your children- love is love. It is an opportunity to look at the missing- hopefully you will realize it goes deeper than your children. I wish you well in the healing, it will benefit you, and your children.
I have neuroma same spot as you. I did cortisone shots 3x and can never wear shoes with a heel again😞
My 16 year old taught herself how to play the ukulele this past year and she loves it!! TFS, Jen. Take care 🙂
I love listening to podcasts. Great way to learn about something outside of my normal interests.