@@JoshHitti Enlightenment. Is that not the subject? The experience of enlightenment is only for the person in AP state. In AP state you can choose to do only bad things to the real world. Every choice you make to affect the real world does so only in a negative way. In AP, experiencing enlightenment, you choose what you want to do, to those you do not like. Because everyone else you would not want to do a bad thing to. Enlightenment.
@@rafaelgonzalez4175is English your first language cause whatever you are saying doesn’t make sense within the context or even grammatically???? :////
This person's topics are distinct from the rest.. I am an Arab person who does not know English, but TH-cam's automatic translator provides me with a great service ❤️
Yeah, translations are awesome. Is TH-cam/Google actually good at translating Arabic/English now? It always seemed to be one of the worst out of the languages I've seen. Chinese usually ain't pretty either.
I think I’ve naturally come across “living in the present” over the last few months and it is blissful. I picked up tech repair as a hobby and when working on such small and complex things it must have your full attention and the mental benefit I noticed was incredible… that’s when i realized real happiness or peace isn’t from the people we know, the things we accomplish or the materials or objects we own, it’s the ability to think outside of one’s self for stretches of time. Keeping my mind occupied in healthy ways has changed my view on so many things I used to view as pure negatives and is helping me think things through differently since I’m more used to removing myself from the Center of my thinking
@@lakshaykochhar6799 It feels like you are really connected to the current moment, like everything just feels right. Time passes by really fast and I know I feel a lot lighter physically when I’m in a flow state
@@lakshaykochhar6799 it’s just when you’re not thinking about anything else but what is in front of you. For me it may be trying to fanaggle a wire in a difficult spot but magically you’ll look up and hours have gone by and it’s almost like this electric feeling that you feel completely in control and connected to whatever you’re doing… sorry if this is vague it’s kinda abstract to describe
After trying so many things, enlightenment is the only thing that has genuinely helped me overcome a lifetime of depression. Thank you for covering this topic.
@@sweepingpage1845 dude i read the book and it seemed interesting, it makes sense to me (i guess a little counter productive if im validating it through logical thinking when the idea is to get to a place beyond thought). Despite it somewhat clicking i just can't make any use of it. It's like someone saying videogames arent good in excess, explaining their reasoning and you're like oh yeah ur kinda right, but then you go play them anyway. Have you or anyone else reading this thread experienced this before where all these concepts are agreeable but you havent changed despite it? what things can i try?
@@VeritableVagabond Mostly just embracing the concepts in the book as fully as I can. I've listened to the audio book 3 times now, and I'm working through his follow up book, A New Earth. I wouldn't say I'm "cured." I'm still dealing with apathy and established bad habits, but the misery is practically gone. It shows back up from time to time, but quickly leaves again. It doesn't have a home to stick around in my mind and my heart. I was led to this book by Nate Muri, Thrive Like a Viking here on TH-cam. He's big on practices and resilience. I think he prepared me to resonate so much with the book.
I would argue that one is able to think about a good future outcome and feel the pleasure from it the same way as the negative thought. I sometimes create fake futures where I imagine myself succeeding in any way possible and I get a rush of dopamine and chills and motivation from it. It can even be things that may not even be physically possible for me for things that will never happen, but it’s the thought of succeeding that gives me motivation and drive.
I agree to a point, i've also learned from andrew hubermans podcast, that to have motivation to do difficult things that would lead you to a better life, you need to learn to activate the motivation (dopamine) during the difficult thing, not after or before. So during the thing you might start dreaming about a good future. I've had some success with this, but its too early to tell. (Imagining a good outcome, getting motivated to make it happen and making it happen)
Well i agree, but for me its not like the actual thing, idk if we release the dopamine, maybe we can feel a little more happy imagining a future, but idk if that is the chemical acting...
There's something in this video that I needed to hear. "You can move in the right direction, but ultimately, the end result is out of your control. People can dislike you or you can get fired from your job...". And that's what I've been struggling with a lot lately. I think I'm doing the right things, I'm trying to improve my life and myself as much as I can, but often times I see no improvement. And I think that just need to accept it - what is important is that I'm doing my best, everything else is ultimately irrelevant. Like, I can be the best version of myself, and try and try, but still never find a partner that would suit me, because that's up to chance. And I need to learn to live with what I have instead of mourning for something I don't
If you believe in the concept of Karma, have faith and keep going No action goes unaccounted for Your points are accumulating like water in a dam - and at some point, the dam releases and it's going to give you returns gushing with force And it does work with just trying your best without only caring for the fruits of your effort. Because even if it doesn't "work out", that's only based on our perception of what a working out situation is supposed to look - there's no absolute truth to what that situation is
My explanation would be the world around you. As many try to be better the result becomes the world around them. How can I be the only one? It doesn't make sense anymore. Then the realization hits. I can only be as better of a person in comparison to others. You are the only one. Until you find another that is doing the same. Compatibility. People are always going to be a box checked off. Am I this type of person, or maybe that type of person. Do I socialize with only those that think like me? The majority rules, YES.
@@iluxa-4000 Google" I am that". Ramana Maharshi. They both explain how you are not the doer. Your just a witness so .....relax. alternative is the scientific proof. Google RR free will debunked. Not many accept it easily
Alternative title: "man meditated under a tree for 30 days, this is what happened to his brain" (This is a joke, you need more than just meditation to become emlightened) Edit: If i knew so many people would see this i would have made it better lmao Heres a better version (Inspired by replies): "Local man sat under a tree for 30 days and ate some porridge, this is what happened to his brain"
One of the things I learned in the addiction recovery center couple of years ago is something that I love suggesting to ppl when I see them struggling for the future and it is "Be here and now". There is also a quote that says: "Tomorrow doesn't exist bc it still haven't happened, yesterday has already been, so it stays in history. There is only one real day in the entire year and that's today".
When you’re actually going through withdrawal,, and post withdrawal these word games dont really mean much 1) you have to really want to get clean 2) you have to be willing to suffer 3) with no promise of “faith” or that god will save you; only that you’ve abused enough so that you finally understand that getting high (in whatsoever way you choose) is always the worse choice (its not wrong, but you deep down know you’re squandering your potential) Main point being; you’re going to have to suffer to get clean: physically; but whats worse is that psychological demons will haunt and chase you (the ones youve been hiding/escaping from) once you are sober…they will come screaming at you. So then your battle begins because you will face mental anguish like no other as the demons arise… but you must accept them and let them ride through you (without getting carried away in anger and resentment, depression) and experience all that pain and cleansing while holding onto your commitment to stay sober and hope to move on to a better life. For a real addict cliches are only so useful…you need practical advice so I hope this helps anyone struggling cus ive been there. A cheat code for cravings is just take deep breaths for as long as it takes for your craving to chill… + the extreme desire to get clean ✌️
Exactly. It's the thoughts, the ideas of the future or the past that haunt and hurt you. In the moment you are doing just fine. In my case - often times I think "man, I'll never find love, and will die alone without even knowing how it feels", and it hurts really bad. Awful pain. But if I stop and think for a minute - am I doing ok now? Yeah, I'm sitting in my office, chilling, enjoying the cool summer day. It's enough to be happy. And if I think further - even if indeed I never find love, and I'll be sitting on my bed in my 70s, and think "hm, I indeed never met anyone" - I am certain that it wouldn't hurt much. Maybe a tingle, sure, but not the crushing feeling I have when I think about it now. That's the paradoxial nature of our brains - the projection, the mere thought we make for ourselves, the future that we make up entirely or the past that is already gone, hurts so much more than the actual life does
@@rememberDay1 Facts. Besides, telling someone to be in the present moment is literally the last place they want to be when going through withdrawal. It's liking inviting someone to pull up a chair in hell. Maybe it's best to get comfortable, but you're not really going to, and all you want is to be before or after the anguish.
I agree with @rememberDay1's response to you, but I do also really like the "Be Here Now" quote in general. It also happens to be the name of the documentary that was made about the late actor Andy Whitfield (the first guy who played Spartacus in the STARZ series from 2009-2013) and the battle he unfortunately lost to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma I believe it was. Very good, very sad. But I digress.
Thank you so much Dr K. I’ve been meditating at least once if not twice a day and it’s really helped me unleash so many deeply trapped emotions. I’ve suffered from such internalised feelings of low self worth and chronic low mood and anxiety. Can’t thank you enough, your insight which you offer for free is such a great guide for my life. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really hope my thanks reaches you some day 🙏
Any progress I seem to make with meditation, which looks like feeling more relaxed and more comfortable with myself, is immediately disrupted by my living situation; walking out into the kitchen when my father who has bipolar disorder is out there immediately will pull me back into anxiety and raise my heartrate and increase my stress response. I just wanna know how exactly I’m creating my own suffering when I have to live with someone who’s had multiple episodes and despite my best efforts my feelings come back. No, security does not bring happiness, but it is the prerequisite for if you want to achieve it. You need a good base point.
Hey, Im in a similar situation and I feel for you. A big thing that has helped me is the cognitive reframe of "I have the equivalent of Mike Tyson in my kitchen, and I can spar with him whenever I want". Going into it not expecting to win, but to know you're going to not only get thrashed, but also collect the best XP/hr at the same time, made me kind of appreciate the situation from another light
Use the sensations you feel in your father's presence as the meditation object. Don't try to aim for equanimity or use the meditation as a band-aid to feel more relaxed. Instead, accept the feelings so that you can process them. Better yet, practice metta / loving-kindness meditation, send love to your father. You create your suffering by your internal reactions to your father's behavior, this reaction comes about because you have subconsciously, in your childhood, created a narrative about his role and your role. Granted this is extremely hard to break out of -- families are some of the most heavy karmic relationships we can have in this life. I grew up with a narcissist father and took me years of deep meditation and inner work to get to a point where I'm not affected anymore. All the best
I think being able to be calm in this situation would require the meditation skill of a master. However, just the fact that you are able to calm yourself at all is good - you may not be able to remain calm in all situations, but learning to be in control of yourself when away from the stressor is extremely important for mental health. People who can't get out of fight-or-flight mode will end up with chronic illnesses, and you are teaching yourself to return to calmness when you are away from your stressors. Good job, keep doing it!
You’re on the right path, the goal is not to be calm and relaxed, the goal is to not react. When you feel those feelings just observe them. Don’t feed into the feelings or thoughts. It’s very difficult but over time the more you practice the easier it becomes to be able to stay clear headed even when faced with a threat.
I think the idea that luck determines your happiness has affected me a whole lot. Sometimes I think that everything I hold is unstable and might break due to inevitable RNG. But this channel has helped me take a different approach
14:05 "This doesn't work for pleasure ... You can't think about playing video games and get that rush of dopamine." One of the most intense sources of happiness I have ever experienced was the anticipation of playing a video game. I feel good when I think of positive things I might do. Food for thought.
That’s excitement, but that’s different than the actual dopamine hit. A better example might be eating dessert or an orgasm. You cannot simply think about an orgasm and experience the dopamine hit from an orgasm, but you can experience the anticipation of it which is also rewarding.
@@peterrosqvist2480 Comparing apples to oranges. No, you can't experience future dessert or orgasms, but you can also not experience future pain from cutting your hand off. You CAN experience future positive social experiences and any other future pleasure not caused by something "physical" like eating food. I'm not buying the whole claim that you can't experience future pleasure, but you can experience future pain. I'm open to evidence though
Actually, as Dr Robert Sapolsky explained, dopamine isn't actually the reward/pleasure neurotransmitter. The real dopamine "hit" comes with the anticipation of pleasure. Especially in case the reward/pleasure isn't guaranteed, the "hit" is stronger. This is the actual mechanism gambling and casinos work with.
@@conscientunit1157 Yup. It also explains why a lot of people keep chasing "the next thing" (job, wage, partner, car, shoes, vacation..). It's never ever enough, and it never will be..!
It is scary that you need to grind in med school with loans and academic pressure , and decades of medical experience only to realise what a villager in a rural small town setting in india was saying about human physiology and happiness was right all along . This is such a table turned moment .😮😅
@@guaranagaucho3071 also read story of nachiketa, Yamaraj offered him everything materialistic but he choose to understand reality of being bcoz he knew material things cannot satisfy him.
The point is , never look down on age old advices or practices that were believed for millennia by certain people , because you don't understand it. People in the west often suffer from the mental disease called superiority complex and they have plundered much of the world proving that .
1. Not chasing the dopamine or pleasure 2. Disable the ego ( dmn network sent on vacation ) 3. Focus or live in the present 4. One pointed with ur mind
Before, I was in the loop of negativity & depression. Later, I found this channel and I feel like got out of this loop. Now, I understand the true value of life. Thank you Dr. K.
Here’s the way I think about the relationship between the future and suffering: Pretend for a second that you’re, for some reason, incapable of conceiving of anything but the present. Suffering is essentially a dissatisfaction with the present, and requires that you’re able to conceive of circumstances other than what you’re experiencing. But, if you couldn’t conceive of anything but the present, you couldn’t conceive of better circumstances. Therefore you wouldn’t be able to suffer. You’d automatically accept the present in its entirety. That’s why achieving one pointedness of the mind leads to happiness. Suffering is just literally impossible in that state.
It doesn't work like that, at least not across the whole board. We have natural needs. Those not being met causes immediate suffering that doesn't require conceptualisation. The easiest example for this is pain caused by injuries or sickness, or hunger. You know without even thinking about the future that your present state must change. Your idea comes into play only when the basic needs are more or less covered. When you are thinking about life in terms of more, better, improvement. But once you slip below a baseline, you'll feel that your life is shit, right then and there, and not because you'd rather have a nice car instead of a bicycle.
@@Volkbrecht That’s not true, even when I feel sick or am lacking in food you can still have such a one pointed focus that I can ignore those negative feelings. I haven’t mastered it but I’ve had moments where things were going to sh*t and I was still able to shift my focus on what’s in the moment and even on positive perspectives. It’s very difficult and takes years of practice but I believe it’s possible to be blissful and happy even on the verge of death if you have mastered your ability to focus.
I've had similar thoughts just last evening. I like things to be easy and i prefer to make it easy for myself. Meaning: Stopping to think and just doing or not doing it without further thought. It feels very liberating and relaxing. Because i am constantly overthinking. It's my second oxygen. And it's hell. Always has been.
I agree with you!! Money actually grow on trees but only on trees that was planted by you!! These tress are referred to as investments. How you diversify your investment portfolio matters
Diversification is the key. My portfolio is well diversified with the help of a financial adviser. This helps me make more than +400% monthly on my investments.
I'm intrigued by this. I've searched for financial advisers online but it's kind of hard to get in touch with one. Okay if I ask you for a recommendation?
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Angela Lynn Schilling” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
Rupert Spira has the most sophisticated understanding of enlightenment, god, happiness and life in general that i have ever witnessed. For anyone who really wants to know more about these matters, i can only recommend to watch an introductory video on his channel or website. Spoiler: All the things listed above are actually one and the same.....
Anticipation of a pleasurable event leads to a surge of dopamine, creating a feeling of excitement and motivation. This contradicts the notion he mentioned that we cannot experience future pleasure. We can, but is not as potent as cortisol release, the anticipation of pain
Staying happy always is from the Self because we are that happiness and we just forgot that we are eternally at peace because we are eternal life itself
I don't really need this advice anymore, because I have pulled myself out of a pit of despair. However, the eloquence of which you explain things I have realized but don't have words for, is remarkable. If you are a lost, depressed person, listen to this man
Mindfulness is a great tool for everyone, depressed or otherwise. I've never been depressed in my life, but taking up a journey in mindfulness has still been the most powerful thing in my life
Yes!!! I send his videos to everyone because apparently when I tell people that the reason I am how I am is because I am genuinely happy being myself. It’s a recipe of Being grateful to be alive. Being thankful of your existence. Knowing yourself. Acknowledging your bad and working to improve it without letting it define you. Embracing change in all forms Being open Get in touch with your body and your emotions. A positive attitude goes along way. Manifestation, fake it till you make it. It works. Sure I am not happy 24/7 but I am never unhappy to be alive. I may be temporarily sad but FUCK I AM FUCKING ALIVE and it feels so incredible every time.
To me it seems very obvious to fix your outlook to make yourself happier, but to most people I try and share this with when they are unhappy, they refused it and tell me that they are so sure they know what's best while not really getting any positive results.
For those who want to get more information on "Enlightment", you must read Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. He has explained all his experiences and was in a state of perennial bliss (sustained joy).
Looking forward to hearing what you have to say. I had minor brain damage as a baby (teen parents?) and was drugs by 5 that sent me into the Void. At the same time I had a Healer Grandmother who taught me how to use my mind to heal. Then in 80' I ran into Larry who was extremely telepathic so I had to learn to completely shut down my brain so he couldn't invade my thoughts. I'm 72 now and guess how my world goes... LOL
I highly doubt you will see this Dr. K but you should really check out Todd Murphy’s research on enlightenment in the brain it is INCREDIBLE. Thank you for the video.
I had an NDE 6 years ago, and it DEFINITELY changed the way I think and behave. I used to be suicidal... was for about 23 years.... I would look for the things to be unhappy about, because when things were going good, I would always be anxious that it was all about to fall apart. Since the NDE, I'm more often happy than not. I seek to help others attain it... I'm generally a LOT less selfish.
Great summary of some of the most important things this channel has taught me. Used to suffer for years from depression and anxiety on a constant basis, and so many different "goals" or solutions I was given or set for myself failed to make me happy. In the end, simply through learning this stuff and practicing it through meditation, therapy, self-inquiry and journaling - Life ended up becoming infinitely more enjoyable and less stressful, without anything external changing at first. Until it becomes common consensus that our internal wiring affects our happiness and suffering more than our circumstance (Beyond the baseline of survival and security), and that we CAN change the internal in so many different ways - the mental health epidemic will continue.
Have you become goal-less? Because I have. And absolutely nothing interests me anymore. Maybe it’s just a phase but I can’t be bothered to invest any energy into anything.
@@kymbbmI’ve heard some non duality speakers mention it, but not enough to cure my doubts of what you’re saying. Dr. K doesn’t seem like he’s in a “no self” state. So I’m not sure if he’d know what I’m referencing. Has your self dropped away?
@@peeteri95 *What impacted the most, In order:* 0. Purpose / Values Inquiries - For me, the biggest hurdle to overcome after over a decade of misery was Self-hatred and apathy. Very difficult to even want to try to change things when you're your worst enemy... But too bad, we're stuck with us for life! What helped motivate me a bit was Dr. K's journaling prompts for "Dharma / Duty", what and who I truly valued and had a Duty to get better for, even if I didn't feel that Duty towards myself at first. As well as basic stuff like Action-oriented thinking rather than Results-oriented. Gotta realize that the mind is wired to self-sabotage, and figure out ways to circumvent that. 1. Journaling - every single thing that lead to suffering, no longer letting it just be in my head. Every "problem" I've had with myself and my life (Even without fixing most of them, ended up becoming way happier in life), every issue, every repeating emotion, putting it to the page, exploring it. Take it out of the black box and see how much gets hidden by the top-layers and the avoidance. 2. Meditation - Both sitting with that discomfort and emotion that surfaces and isn't as suppressed by distraction as it used to be anymore, but also sitting in PEACE, disentangling from it at times, finding ways to relax from it instead of always pushing and pulling on it. Not reacting as much. Takes a lot of practice, Dr. K's scientifically validated "20 minutes a day for 8 weeks" was a challenge for me at first, but after a few months of having that be my main "goal", started getting close and noticing improvement. 3. Research - Had to stop pretending I know how emotions and thoughts work best anymore, despite being over 20 years old! Or that I was a special snowflake who discovered "true, unsolvable misery" and all the other 8 billion people (or 100 billion throughout history) are wrong or lucky. Started researching my issues more thoroughly, seeing different approaches to anxiety, depression, shame, etc online. So much is available, so much to consider and try to apply. Philosophy (Stoicism, Buddhism, Sartre, whatever interests you), Psychology, Neurology, etc. Dr. K content and suggestions helped a lot. Claire Weekes was a very eye-opening perspective on Anxiety for me. 4. Therapy / Coaching - Then, started bringing up all the shit I wrote with a professional. Didn't find the perfect fit instantly, but eventually found someone I can "use" - the therapist itself doesn't matter as much as how willing you are to engage, IMO. Every session where we dug deep enough to bring up intense, stuck emotions, felt so rewarding, so relieving afterwards, even when we didn't find "the solution". Simply sitting with it, knowing that's okay. Sometimes we DID find actionable steps that helped, started exercising more and finding ways to enjoy nature. By this point, a year after starting, life was pretty relaxed and enjoyable despite not having made many big changes. Kept getting better though! I don't know what path or support works perfectly (or even just well enough) for you, but I hope you keep looking and trying. It's worth it, it's doable.
Haha, what a great video man. You surely were one with the presence when making this, even the Indian spirit came out of you in the end 😂! Jokes aside, you explained it brilliantly, all yogis would be proud. After having lived the choiceless path of meditation for over 12 years, it’s become part of me and I no longer meditate. I am one with all things and all things are one with me. Being is beautiful. And consciousness is the forever unfolding wonder that is registering sense perception. Infinite bodies to register sense perception from, yet always a wonder when one wakes up and knows it is I, who registers it all. I as life, that is, not al of Norway.
One thing I keep in mind at all times is that I have to observe and consciously respond to situations instead of reacting because reacting to things/people/needs is making us to be enslaved to the circumstances and that I avoid. "You are not the body, not even the mind" - Sadhguru. So let yourself to become what you want.🙂
He’s got a point tho, I was depressed before it was an option and I’m still depressed with it as an option, gotta cultivate the gardens of the mind before we get to that next stage of our life that we’re trying to get to
A segment from 'Saved by the Light of the Buddha Within'... My new understandings of what many call 'God -The Holy Spirit' - resulting from some of the extraordinary ongoing after-effects relating to my NDE... Myoho-Renge-Kyo (Lotus Sutra) represents the identity of what some scientists are now referring to as the unified field of consciousnesses. In other words, it’s the essence of all existence and non-existence - the ultimate creative force behind planets, stars, nebulae, people, animals, trees, fish, birds, and all phenomena, manifest or latent. All matter and intelligence are simply waves or ripples manifesting to and from this core source. Consciousness (enlightenment) is itself the actual creator of everything that exists now, ever existed in the past, or will exist in the future - right down to the minutest particles of dust - each being an individual ripple or wave. The big difference between chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo and most other conventional prayers is that instead of depending on a ‘middleman’ to connect us to our state of inner enlightenment, we’re able to do it ourselves. That’s because chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo allows us to tap directly into our enlightened state by way of this self-produced sound vibration. ‘Who or What Is God?’ If we compare the concept of God being a separate entity that is forever watching down on us, to the teachings of Nichiren, it makes more sense to me that the true omnipotence, omniscience and omnipresence of what most people perceive to be God, is the fantastic state of enlightenment that exists within each of us. Some say that God is an entity that’s beyond physical matter - I think that the vast amount of information continuously being conveyed via electromagnetic waves in today’s world gives us proof of how an invisible state of God could indeed exist. For example, it’s now widely known that specific data relayed by way of electromagnetic waves has the potential to help bring about extraordinary and powerful effects - including an instant global awareness of something or a mass emotional reaction. It’s also common knowledge that these invisible waves can easily be used to detonate a bomb or to enable NASA to control the movements of a robot as far away as the Moon or Mars - none of which is possible without a receiver to decode the information that’s being transmitted. Without the receiver, the data would remain impotent. In a very similar way, we need to have our own ‘receiver’ switched on so that we can activate a clear and precise understanding of our own life, all other life and what everything else in existence is. Chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo each day helps us to achieve this because it allows us to reach the core of our enlightenment and keep it switched on. That’s because Myoho-Renge-Kyo represents the identity of what scientists now refer to as the unified field of consciousnesses. To break it down - Myoho represents the Law of manifestation and latency (Nature) and consists of two alternating states. For example, the state of Myo is where everything in life that’s not obvious to us exists - including our stored memories when we’re not thinking about them - our hidden potential and inner emotions whenever they’re dormant - our desires, our fears, our wisdom, happiness, karma - and more importantly, our enlightenment. The other state, ho, is where everything in Life exists whenever it becomes evident to us, such as when a thought pops up from within our memory - whenever we experience or express our emotions - or whenever a good or bad cause manifests as an effect from our karma. When anything becomes apparent, it merely means that it’s come out of the state of Myo (dormancy/latency) and into a state of ho (manifestation). It’s the difference between consciousness and unconsciousness, being awake or asleep, or knowing and not knowing. The second law - Renge - Ren meaning cause and ge meaning effect, governs and controls the functions of Myoho - these two laws of Myoho and Renge, not only function together simultaneously but also underlies all spiritual and physical existence. The final and third part of the tri-combination - Kyo, is the Law that allows Myoho to integrate with Renge - or vice versa. It’s the great, invisible thread of energy that fuses and connects all Life and matter - as well as the past, present and future. It’s also sometimes termed the Universal Law of Communication - perhaps it could even be compared with the string theory that many scientists now suspect exists. Just as the cells in our body, our thoughts, feelings and everything else is continually fluctuating within us - all that exists in the world around us and beyond is also in a constant state of flux - constantly controlled by these three fundamental laws. In fact, more things are going back and forth between the two states of Myo and ho in a single moment than it would ever be possible to calculate or describe. And it doesn’t matter how big or small, famous or trivial anything or anyone may appear to be, everything that’s ever existed in the past, exists now or will exist in the future, exists only because of the workings of the Laws ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’ - the basis of the four fundamental forces, and if they didn’t function, neither we nor anything else could go on existing. That’s because all forms of existence, including the seasons, day, night, birth, death and so on, are moving forward in an ongoing flow of continuation - rhythmically reverting back and forth between the two fundamental states of Myo and ho in absolute accordance with Renge - and by way of Kyo. Even stars are dying and being reborn under the workings of what the combination ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’ represents. Nam, or Namu - which mean the same thing, are vibrational passwords or keys that allow us to reach deep into our life and fuse with or become one with ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’. On a more personal level, nothing ever happens by chance or coincidence, it’s the causes that we’ve made in our past, or are presently making, that determine how these laws function uniquely in each of our lives - as well as the environment from moment to moment. By facing east, in harmony with the direction that the Earth is spinning, and chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo for a minimum of, let’s say, ten minutes daily to start with, any of us can experience actual proof of its positive effects in our lives - even if it only makes us feel good on the inside, there will be a definite positive effect. That’s because we’re able to pierce through the thickest layers of our karma and activate our inherent Buddha Nature (our enlightened state). By so doing, we’re then able to bring forth the wisdom and good fortune that we need to challenge, overcome and change our adverse circumstances - turn them into positive ones - or manifest and gain even greater fulfilment in our daily lives from our accumulated good karma. This also allows us to bring forth the wisdom that can free us from the ignorance and stupidity that’s preventing us from accepting and being proud of the person that we indeed are - regardless of our race, colour, gender or sexuality. We’re also able to see and understand our circumstances and the environment far more clearly, as well as attract and connect with any needed external beneficial forces and situations. As I’ve already mentioned, everything is subject to the law of Cause and Effect - the ‘actual-proof-strength’ resulting from chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo always depends on our determination, sincerity and dedication. For example, the levels of difference could be compared to making a sound on a piano, creating a melody, producing a great song, and so on. Something else that’s very important to always respect and acknowledge is that the Law (or if you prefer God) is in everyone and everything. NB: There are frightening and disturbing sounds, and there are tranquil and relaxing sounds. It’s the emotional result of any noise or sound that can trigger off a mood or even instantly change one. When chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo each day, we are producing a sound vibration that’s the password to our true inner-self - this soon becomes apparent when you start reassessing your views on various things - such as your fears and desires etc. The best way to get the desired result when chanting is not to view things conventionally - rather than reaching out to an external source, we need to reach into our own lives and bring our needs and desires to fruition from within - including the good fortune and strength to achieve any help that we may need. Chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo also reaches out externally and draws us towards, or draws towards us, what we need to make us happy from our environment. For example, it helps us to be in the right place at the right time - to make better choices and decisions and so forth. We need to think of it as a seed within us that we’re watering and bringing sunshine to for it to grow, blossom and bring forth fruit or flowers. It’s also important to understand that everything we need in life, including the answer to every question and the potential to achieve every dream, already exists within us.
I still don't understand why so little people practice meditation. The world is so chaotic, yet the solution is so simple. I mean sure, without desire there would be no progress, no inventions, no development. Progress happens because humans aren't satisfied with what they have right now and want more. So I don't think that leaving your family, becoming enlightened and just simply enjoying the blissful experience is the most optimal solution for every human out there, but I think that every human would be a lot happier if he wasn't dependent on external events, and even if things didn't go according to plan, he would accept it, because there was no other way, that's what happened and that is *the way*. No ruminating over what could be, or what can be, but simply appreciating what *is*. That doesn't mean everyone should just drop everything and be happy doing nothing, but do the work, and not get lost in one's mind entering the cycle of suffering.
Hey Doc, you should interview Jamie from Casually Explained. He experienced self-realization, so this TH-cam crossover will be fire! He explains all the mechanics of "enlightenment" in a very logical, secular way.
In one of the episodes of the Your Undivided Attention podcast, Tristian Harris said that there is a lab run by a casino where major tech companies study neuroeconomics and behavioral science and apply it to influence user behavior.
The two track mind is really on point for me. Often when im talking with people theres a second voice judging the conversation because it feels it needs to go perfect but in the end it makes me come off as weird. When i let go of the expectations is when i make real connections.
I have heard these conclusions about dopamine chasing, ego, mindfulness, flow, living in the present... so many times in the past. And it all makes perfect sense. I have just one question: HOW?
One of the hardest lessons I've learned is what you speak on in regards to self perception. I fixed all problems. I was 550+ lbs. Depressed. Binge eating disorder. Weed abuse. No job. No degree. In the last three years I've lost all that weight. I got a job. I'm in my last year of a CS degree. Survived a breakup and have a new girlfriend. But I was still miserable. I thought losing all the weight would fix me. I felt like it was causing me all this pain. And then I finally lost it all and I was kinda whatever about it. I had just moved on to judging myself about the next thing.
A piece of advice I saw for happiness is to plan stuff to look forward to in the future As the anticipation and excitement of something good happening is almost as good as loving it. How can that be if you can’t experience future pleasure but only future pain
I recently got into a practice of mantra, to help train my mind to single pointedness! Just repeating "i am" for at least 10 mins a day helps immensely with my overall happiness and calm, leaving me with a sense of mental spaciousness. Also, I'm not sure I would consider this enlightenment, I would consider these methods some of the necessary mental tools to start awakening, which will ultimately lead to enlightenment.
You might get more out of it by adding "That" (I Am That), and gently putting your attention on the mantra when thoughts crowd your mind, instead of rapid repetition. The prize lies in getting what That is.
@@kenjones102 the goal of repeating "I am" as a mantra is not to focus on getting anything at all, but returning to the ground of being the 'i am-ness' that is underneath all thought.
3rd video of watching you mate and kinda makes sense for myself in the sense of the the point system you explained at the beginning. Thinking to myself that possibly why I moved around so much cause it gave me that hit.
Dear Alok! I really can‘t thank you enough for your passionate work, your warmhearted charm and your healthy and inspiring sense of humor! As a diamondway buddhist practitioner with a history of polytoxic substance abuse since i was 11 years old, combined with Videogame-addiction, and now 18 Years of Experience in (buddhist) meditation and a recently diagnosed ADHD in my 40‘s, i can‘t tell you how much value, insights and encouragement i receive through your content and you as a person and example! I consider you a true Boddhisattva and a friend on the way although we’ve never met in Person. May you live a healthy and enjoyable life for as long as possible and benfit as many beeings by enabling them to understand and work with their minds! Thank you from the depth of my heart!🙏🏻 Om ma ni pe me hung
19:22 I totally have a two track mind but I believe that the one track isn't always necessarily bad. It definitely is the where the anxiety can come from, I am not arguing that. But I think sometimes it is helpful to have one brain focused on a physical task and another brain focused on other things at the same time
It's not for me to claim that I reached enlightenment, but I think I did. But it costed me severe suffering before reaching that. Yes doc is right. Permanent happiness does not mean all the time. It's a sense of "contentment" or "fulfillment" without even achieving anything - without even doing anything.
I suffered with chronic anxiety attacks, OCD, depersonalization and depression on and off in my life. I slipped into a five year non stop fight or flight coupled with OCD, depersonalization. I started meditating and now I don’t have any of that but I also lost excitement in life which is weird as hell. I don’t feel depressed I just feel like sitting by a river all day alone
I have a case of mild mental disability and it happened that I had some bad experiences and went into psychotic episode. During one of them, something clicked and during like 2 days I started thinking differently. The ecstasy of realising you just are is something irreplaceable and actually got me interested into Buddhism and Doctor K channel.
I did experience that. As I looked at reality I was the only one there. The people all around me were not aware at what seemed to be a distance, But I was aware that I am somewhere no one else is.
Also, I'm not sure I fully agree on not being able to experience happiness from imagining the future, I get giggly and happy when I make something for my friends and imagine their reactions to it - their reaction isn't here in the present, it doesn't exist in the reality, it might not exist when I get to that point in time, but the happy feeling is here right now. Occasionally my entire body would warm up just from me thinking about meeting people I like in the future and the things we could do together.
Now we're developing the ability to do something with this knowledge by altering the brain's function with great specificity, using focused ultrasound as a non-invasive technology. It is being researched for many conditions, including OCD, depression, anxiety, addiction, Parkinson's, essential tremor etc., with extraordinary results. At the University of Arizona, research is also proceeding on how to use focused ultrasound to rapidly accelerate the process of attaining enlightenment, which otherwise generally takes decades of seriously hardcore meditation practice. One 50-year meditator who had focused ultrasound on his basal ganglia said that it produced "the deepest state of mental quiet I have ever experienced". If we can deliver enlightenment to the masses in the next few generations, it may be what saves our asses as a species.
21:21 War, the card game is the most fun card game in my opinion, it actually keeps me in the present moment. It's fun, idk how you think it's boring lol
5:29 Outer Wilds is in a heartbeat THE game I'd want to experience again for the first time, I'll recommend it for any gamer enjoying meaningfull for the playthrough logic puzzles and learning story through experiences - best played with minimal to no spoilers for planets included! Doc with another great video and as always whit topic that is relevant and interesting; shout to Dr K Team!
Its so frustrating, as a kid you learn that the more you can change from living in the present to the future the better, you can create long term plans and ultimately have a better life, in essence, you get called a good boy every time you show that you can do that. Then as an adult suddently youre meant to be in the present, and all that trained forward thinking is suddently a flaw that causes shame instead of pride
At 15:40 I played along but I didn't experience the pain. I would have chosen the 50% chance because the risk gets me excited and losing it all would be comical in a way. I'm sitting here pondering what this could even mean... I'm a business owner and I always feel like I've "gambled" my life away in choices that I've made relocating, changing careers, and trying to get better jobs without a regard that it would "work out". I have no net to fall on, and even still it never felt like I was daunted...
I used to be enlightened but I lost it... It's so easy to lose but so difficult to aquire. I should have appreciated it more. Now trying to get it back
As the buddha said, all fabrications fail and fade so practice diligently to achieve enlightenment. If you truly achieved it, you are on the path of awakening within 7 lifetimes, guaranteed. If you've actually achieved stream entry and thrown off the first 3 fetters, you can get it back. If you haven't, well, you should still endeavor to do so.
I'm on a similar path right now. I wish you all the luck there is in your journey bro. Don't forget a saying by many enlightened people of the past: The harder you try, the harder to attain. And the less you try, the less you attain. ❤
Is the highest ideal happiness though? Like pain exists for a reason. Becoming enlightened like one of those monks is great for the monks, but not for anyone else. Like happiness becomes its own paperclip maximiser in that sense.
Extremely helpful as always Dr. K. I have autism and anxiety, but I no longer have dysthymia and I am on a path to awakening, I hope. It's certainly not for everyone, but Lucy saved my life and shut down my default mode network for the first time in my life. A true ego death. I've found Buddhism to be the most comprehensive philosophy and psychological model to explain that intuitive awareness and disattachment to any identity "I" felt that day. My goal is to overcome my addictions, keep meditating, and taking up the monastic life when I can sustain a constant practice. Jhana is the key! May all sentient beings achieve liberation, and may all my fellow autists get some ketamine infusions :)
I was wondering if someone can help me with a little dilemma I have. So I agree with everything in this video and have personal experience with these things being true. I noticed a big one I’m lacking is living in the present moment and constantly thinking about the future or past. But I was wondering if there is a way to train my mind to still think about the future when necessary while also staying grounded majority of the time. How do I know when one is more beneficial than the other without constantly ruminating?
For the last 2 years what ive been chasing is not suffering fron 24 7 widespread pain, neurological symptoms and fatigue. Pretty sure that would make me pretty happy. Knowing youll never have a pain free moment again kinda destroys you
This two-track mind shit is the realest thing I've heard in a long time. Like, you wanna tell me that people DON'T constantly analyze every detail of every moment while talking to others? Sometimes it happens, sure, but it might as well never. You know how Telltale games have those dialogues you have to pick? That's how I often feel when talking to someone. Like, I can imagine those dialogue options, pretty much. And then I take a note of a person's reaction. Not subconsciously, it's quite literally like a narrator in my head. And then, obviously, I have to think about that conversation for the next hour. And that anxiety part, ooh baby. Yeah man, I can create infinite universes, and seemingly none of them have a positive outcome. "If I can't pass this test, I'll have to retake, it'll make me feel like an idiot, everybody will know, I won't then get a chance to apply to this other thing on time so I'll have to do something else, but I don't know what and even if I find something, how will I know it won't suck" and so on and so forth. Also, the "be in the present because you can't afford to think about the future" bit got me. I play fighting games a lot and oftentimes the reason I give is literally "because there's no time for me to think." Things are happening lightning fast, this ain't no chess. Like yeah, I react and have a gameplan, but my great strategy doesn't go further than like, three seconds. And while it doesn't necessarily make me happy per se all the time (like, it's hard to feel happy when I got my ass kicked 7th set in a row, but that's a different issue), I am definitely in the moment. And while I might be sad because I suck at the game, I'm not sad because of everything else. And that's a net positive, for sure. ...until that spills over and my mind goes "well if i can't even win at a video game, what the fuck can i do bro, what's the point" so i just have to quit before that happens and we good
If you're thinking like that about your next response to someone you're talking to, and taking notes of how they are reacting every time, isn't your conversation happening noticeably slow?
@@EyeOfTheTiger777 That's not really how that works. Not in a literal sense. Granted, I also didn't describe it the best. It's hard to explain, it's more like "if you know you know" type thing.
I, as someone who is the personification of a random ass dude in the internet, can say, enlightenment is permanent because it is not an emotion. It is rather the absence of the weird ass bad shit your brain does 😂 also I think the description of "permanent happiness" is kinda misleading, because, as I said, it is NOT an emotion. It is more like enjoying existing or something, it's kinda weird to explain 😂
If I remember well, an explanation that I liked about the permanence of enlightment is that it is a way of seeing the world and yourself, that once you can see it you can't unsee afterwards. Another analogy is that losing enlightment would be like forgetting how to walk or how to speak your native language. The enlightment would not be a state of mind in this sense, but how you will relate with the states of mind you will have afterwards.
Nah... that would defeat the purpose. The rock inside which no external wind or waves can stir... that's enlightenment. If it can be stirred and we can go back into our petty and shitty lives, then it is meaningless. It's as meaningful as playing League of Legends
"You can't think of something pleasurable in the future and get a kick of dopamine." My 13 year old past self running home from school ready to turn on their Xbox would like to object.
That’s the craving for the pleasure that the Xbox games would give, not pleasure. You were super hungry to play so u ran home, there’s no pleasure there.
You don’t get dopamine from thinking about it, it sounds pleasurable but actually feeling the dopamine won’t come until you actually turn on the console and play the game.
@@prismatic1239in germany we have the saying that "vorfreude"/excitement is the biggest "freude"/fun xD well it just seem that it´s impossible is not true. it rather depends on how much you can go into your imagination to feel it. for example if you dream there is no problem to feel pleasure from imagination but i gess thats a bit diffrent. maybe we are taking more about satisfaction than pure pleasure here. and don´t get me wrong here i agree more with what the video sayed then not. but impossible ? i doubt that
Enlightenment is the removal of self inflicted burden. It is not a constant state of happiness. The experience itself is ineffable, you can't just go by how they look. It must be experienced by the self. Neo Advaita or "the satsang movement" offers something called the invitation which is a guided meditation that reveals the self. Once found, one can spend time in it to remove their self inflicted burden. Originally this was found through meditation but the exercise that has been developed is much more direct.
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“They don’t experience the pain of one bad outcome, they experience the pain of 100 bad outcomes”. Oof, that one hit hard
That is false. You can make the choice to do 100 bad outcomes. out of 100 bad outcomes.
@@rafaelgonzalez4175 wut
@@JoshHitti Enlightenment. Is that not the subject? The experience of enlightenment is only for the person in AP state. In AP state you can choose to do only bad things to the real world. Every choice you make to affect the real world does so only in a negative way. In AP, experiencing enlightenment, you choose what you want to do, to those you do not like. Because everyone else you would not want to do a bad thing to. Enlightenment.
A hero dies one death but a coward dies many deaths
@@rafaelgonzalez4175is English your first language cause whatever you are saying doesn’t make sense within the context or even grammatically???? :////
This person's topics are distinct from the rest.. I am an Arab person who does not know English, but TH-cam's automatic translator provides me with a great service ❤️
Yeah, translations are awesome. Is TH-cam/Google actually good at translating Arabic/English now? It always seemed to be one of the worst out of the languages I've seen. Chinese usually ain't pretty either.
@@Taima Excellent, you can understand the meaning in Arabic
Much love from America, I love Dr. K's content. Very well educated from both the Eastern, and the Western part of the world.
@@Taima AI has changed this drastically.
1. Stop chasing dopamine 2:31
2. Dissolve your ego 8:09
3. Live in the present 12:53
4. Developed a one-pointed mind 19:02
lol thank u , I was so confused.
"just be happy 4head"
Yogis: "yep"
👍👍
5. Dissing incels 22:00
@CursedZorthan 😂
I think I’ve naturally come across “living in the present” over the last few months and it is blissful. I picked up tech repair as a hobby and when working on such small and complex things it must have your full attention and the mental benefit I noticed was incredible… that’s when i realized real happiness or peace isn’t from the people we know, the things we accomplish or the materials or objects we own, it’s the ability to think outside of one’s self for stretches of time. Keeping my mind occupied in healthy ways has changed my view on so many things I used to view as pure negatives and is helping me think things through differently since I’m more used to removing myself from the Center of my thinking
flow state is the hardest drug I’ve ever experienced and it’s truly so rad
So, how does this flow thing feels? I'm kinda curious.
@@lakshaykochhar6799 It feels like you are really connected to the current moment, like everything just feels right. Time passes by really fast and I know I feel a lot lighter physically when I’m in a flow state
@@lakshaykochhar6799 it’s just when you’re not thinking about anything else but what is in front of you. For me it may be trying to fanaggle a wire in a difficult spot but magically you’ll look up and hours have gone by and it’s almost like this electric feeling that you feel completely in control and connected to whatever you’re doing… sorry if this is vague it’s kinda abstract to describe
To clarify it’s not quite the same as hyperfocus but hyperfocus can definitely make the feeling more intense I think
After trying so many things, enlightenment is the only thing that has genuinely helped me overcome a lifetime of depression. Thank you for covering this topic.
How did it happen for you?
@@VeritableVagabond A book called The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
@@sweepingpage1845 what practice did you do in that book? How long did it take you? Were you practicing hours a day before waking up?
@@sweepingpage1845 dude i read the book and it seemed interesting, it makes sense to me (i guess a little counter productive if im validating it through logical thinking when the idea is to get to a place beyond thought). Despite it somewhat clicking i just can't make any use of it. It's like someone saying videogames arent good in excess, explaining their reasoning and you're like oh yeah ur kinda right, but then you go play them anyway. Have you or anyone else reading this thread experienced this before where all these concepts are agreeable but you havent changed despite it? what things can i try?
@@VeritableVagabond Mostly just embracing the concepts in the book as fully as I can. I've listened to the audio book 3 times now, and I'm working through his follow up book, A New Earth. I wouldn't say I'm "cured." I'm still dealing with apathy and established bad habits, but the misery is practically gone. It shows back up from time to time, but quickly leaves again. It doesn't have a home to stick around in my mind and my heart. I was led to this book by Nate Muri, Thrive Like a Viking here on TH-cam. He's big on practices and resilience. I think he prepared me to resonate so much with the book.
I would argue that one is able to think about a good future outcome and feel the pleasure from it the same way as the negative thought. I sometimes create fake futures where I imagine myself succeeding in any way possible and I get a rush of dopamine and chills and motivation from it. It can even be things that may not even be physically possible for me for things that will never happen, but it’s the thought of succeeding that gives me motivation and drive.
I agree to a point, i've also learned from andrew hubermans podcast, that to have motivation to do difficult things that would lead you to a better life, you need to learn to activate the motivation (dopamine) during the difficult thing, not after or before. So during the thing you might start dreaming about a good future. I've had some success with this, but its too early to tell. (Imagining a good outcome, getting motivated to make it happen and making it happen)
Whoa, genius
Well i agree, but for me its not like the actual thing, idk if we release the dopamine, maybe we can feel a little more happy imagining a future, but idk if that is the chemical acting...
There's something in this video that I needed to hear. "You can move in the right direction, but ultimately, the end result is out of your control. People can dislike you or you can get fired from your job...". And that's what I've been struggling with a lot lately. I think I'm doing the right things, I'm trying to improve my life and myself as much as I can, but often times I see no improvement. And I think that just need to accept it - what is important is that I'm doing my best, everything else is ultimately irrelevant. Like, I can be the best version of myself, and try and try, but still never find a partner that would suit me, because that's up to chance. And I need to learn to live with what I have instead of mourning for something I don't
If you believe in the concept of Karma, have faith and keep going
No action goes unaccounted for
Your points are accumulating like water in a dam - and at some point, the dam releases and it's going to give you returns gushing with force
And it does work with just trying your best without only caring for the fruits of your effort.
Because even if it doesn't "work out", that's only based on our perception of what a working out situation is supposed to look - there's no absolute truth to what that situation is
My explanation would be the world around you. As many try to be better the result becomes the world around them. How can I be the only one? It doesn't make sense anymore. Then the realization hits. I can only be as better of a person in comparison to others. You are the only one. Until you find another that is doing the same. Compatibility. People are always going to be a box checked off. Am I this type of person, or maybe that type of person. Do I socialize with only those that think like me? The majority rules, YES.
welcome to the world of serendipity my friend
Welcome to the world of serendipity my friend
@@iluxa-4000 Google" I am that".
Ramana Maharshi. They both explain how you are not the doer. Your just a witness so .....relax. alternative is the scientific proof. Google RR free will debunked.
Not many accept it easily
Alternative title: "man meditated under a tree for 30 days, this is what happened to his brain"
(This is a joke, you need more than just meditation to become emlightened)
Edit: If i knew so many people would see this i would have made it better lmao
Heres a better version (Inspired by replies):
"Local man sat under a tree for 30 days and ate some porridge, this is what happened to his brain"
"... after getting dispatched, he was able to make a full recovery."
@@HeyHereTer ☝🏻..where we are now.
Local man
B Presented to the emergency room feeling peaceful
I love you for saying this combination of words
One of the things I learned in the addiction recovery center couple of years ago is something that I love suggesting to ppl when I see them struggling for the future and it is "Be here and now". There is also a quote that says: "Tomorrow doesn't exist bc it still haven't happened, yesterday has already been, so it stays in history. There is only one real day in the entire year and that's today".
When you’re actually going through withdrawal,, and post withdrawal these word games dont really mean much
1) you have to really want to get clean 2) you have to be willing to suffer 3) with no promise of “faith” or that god will save you; only that you’ve abused enough so that you finally understand that getting high (in whatsoever way you choose) is always the worse choice (its not wrong, but you deep down know you’re squandering your potential)
Main point being; you’re going to have to suffer to get clean: physically; but whats worse is that psychological demons will haunt and chase you (the ones youve been hiding/escaping from) once you are sober…they will come screaming at you.
So then your battle begins because you will face mental anguish like no other as the demons arise… but you must accept them and let them ride through you (without getting carried away in anger and resentment, depression) and experience all that pain and cleansing while holding onto your commitment to stay sober and hope to move on to a better life.
For a real addict cliches are only so useful…you need practical advice so I hope this helps anyone struggling cus ive been there.
A cheat code for cravings is just take deep breaths for as long as it takes for your craving to chill… + the extreme desire to get clean
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Exactly. It's the thoughts, the ideas of the future or the past that haunt and hurt you. In the moment you are doing just fine. In my case - often times I think "man, I'll never find love, and will die alone without even knowing how it feels", and it hurts really bad. Awful pain. But if I stop and think for a minute - am I doing ok now? Yeah, I'm sitting in my office, chilling, enjoying the cool summer day. It's enough to be happy. And if I think further - even if indeed I never find love, and I'll be sitting on my bed in my 70s, and think "hm, I indeed never met anyone" - I am certain that it wouldn't hurt much. Maybe a tingle, sure, but not the crushing feeling I have when I think about it now. That's the paradoxial nature of our brains - the projection, the mere thought we make for ourselves, the future that we make up entirely or the past that is already gone, hurts so much more than the actual life does
My favorite "every day's doomsday"
@@rememberDay1 Facts. Besides, telling someone to be in the present moment is literally the last place they want to be when going through withdrawal. It's liking inviting someone to pull up a chair in hell. Maybe it's best to get comfortable, but you're not really going to, and all you want is to be before or after the anguish.
I agree with @rememberDay1's response to you, but I do also really like the "Be Here Now" quote in general. It also happens to be the name of the documentary that was made about the late actor Andy Whitfield (the first guy who played Spartacus in the STARZ series from 2009-2013) and the battle he unfortunately lost to Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma I believe it was. Very good, very sad. But I digress.
Thank you so much Dr K. I’ve been meditating at least once if not twice a day and it’s really helped me unleash so many deeply trapped emotions.
I’ve suffered from such internalised feelings of low self worth and chronic low mood and anxiety.
Can’t thank you enough, your insight which you offer for free is such a great guide for my life.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I really hope my thanks reaches you some day 🙏
Any progress I seem to make with meditation, which looks like feeling more relaxed and more comfortable with myself, is immediately disrupted by my living situation; walking out into the kitchen when my father who has bipolar disorder is out there immediately will pull me back into anxiety and raise my
heartrate and increase my stress response. I just wanna know how exactly I’m creating my own suffering when I have to live with someone who’s had multiple episodes and despite my best efforts my feelings come
back. No, security does not bring happiness, but it is the prerequisite for if you want to achieve it. You need a good base point.
Hey, Im in a similar situation and I feel for you. A big thing that has helped me is the cognitive reframe of "I have the equivalent of Mike Tyson in my kitchen, and I can spar with him whenever I want". Going into it not expecting to win, but to know you're going to not only get thrashed, but also collect the best XP/hr at the same time, made me kind of appreciate the situation from another light
Use the sensations you feel in your father's presence as the meditation object. Don't try to aim for equanimity or use the meditation as a band-aid to feel more relaxed. Instead, accept the feelings so that you can process them. Better yet, practice metta / loving-kindness meditation, send love to your father. You create your suffering by your internal reactions to your father's behavior, this reaction comes about because you have subconsciously, in your childhood, created a narrative about his role and your role. Granted this is extremely hard to break out of -- families are some of the most heavy karmic relationships we can have in this life. I grew up with a narcissist father and took me years of deep meditation and inner work to get to a point where I'm not affected anymore. All the best
I think being able to be calm in this situation would require the meditation skill of a master. However, just the fact that you are able to calm yourself at all is good - you may not be able to remain calm in all situations, but learning to be in control of yourself when away from the stressor is extremely important for mental health. People who can't get out of fight-or-flight mode will end up with chronic illnesses, and you are teaching yourself to return to calmness when you are away from your stressors. Good job, keep doing it!
You’re on the right path, the goal is not to be calm and relaxed, the goal is to not react. When you feel those feelings just observe them. Don’t feed into the feelings or thoughts. It’s very difficult but over time the more you practice the easier it becomes to be able to stay clear headed even when faced with a threat.
@@cliffordgoh Doesn't acceptance of a bad situation just give way to it appearing more often?
I think the idea that luck determines your happiness has affected me a whole lot. Sometimes I think that everything I hold is unstable and might break due to inevitable RNG. But this channel has helped me take a different approach
14:05 "This doesn't work for pleasure ... You can't think about playing video games and get that rush of dopamine."
One of the most intense sources of happiness I have ever experienced was the anticipation of playing a video game. I feel good when I think of positive things I might do. Food for thought.
That’s excitement, but that’s different than the actual dopamine hit. A better example might be eating dessert or an orgasm. You cannot simply think about an orgasm and experience the dopamine hit from an orgasm, but you can experience the anticipation of it which is also rewarding.
@@peterrosqvist2480 Comparing apples to oranges. No, you can't experience future dessert or orgasms, but you can also not experience future pain from cutting your hand off. You CAN experience future positive social experiences and any other future pleasure not caused by something "physical" like eating food. I'm not buying the whole claim that you can't experience future pleasure, but you can experience future pain. I'm open to evidence though
Actually, as Dr Robert Sapolsky explained, dopamine isn't actually the reward/pleasure neurotransmitter. The real dopamine "hit" comes with the anticipation of pleasure. Especially in case the reward/pleasure isn't guaranteed, the "hit" is stronger. This is the actual mechanism gambling and casinos work with.
@@igotbluesdevils well, that kinda explains why dopamine doesnt lead to happiness
@@conscientunit1157 Yup. It also explains why a lot of people keep chasing "the next thing" (job, wage, partner, car, shoes, vacation..). It's never ever enough, and it never will be..!
I don't know how Dr. K always has a relevant video made right when I start having problems.
Maybe your brain starts adapting to Dr. Ks upload schedule 🤔
Does getting here early mean I’m on the right path or avoiding the path through jumping into TH-cam for distraction?
Depends. Did your journey here start with curiosity or avoidance?
Yes
Seeing as I was 4 minutes ahead of you and my life has never been better, I'd say you're on the right track 👍
@@JakeIsLearning I’d say 60/40 but I wont say which way it’s split in case my subconscious is watching
It means absolutely nothing lmao
It is scary that you need to grind in med school with loans and academic pressure , and decades of medical experience only to realise what a villager in a rural small town setting in india was saying about human physiology and happiness was right all along . This is such a table turned moment .😮😅
@@KrishnaRama-kn5bc add to that like super a lot of centuries ago a villager knew … but it was because of the vedas
Gautama came from a very rich family. Shows even more that money does not satisfy desire.
@@guaranagaucho3071 also read story of nachiketa, Yamaraj offered him everything materialistic but he choose to understand reality of being bcoz he knew material things cannot satisfy him.
The point is , never look down on age old advices or practices that were believed for millennia by certain people , because you don't understand it.
People in the west often suffer from the mental disease called superiority complex and they have plundered much of the world proving that .
@@guaranagaucho3071Gautama is a fictional character
1. Not chasing the dopamine or pleasure
2. Disable the ego ( dmn network sent on vacation )
3. Focus or live in the present
4. One pointed with ur mind
Before, I was in the loop of negativity & depression. Later, I found this channel and I feel like got out of this loop. Now, I understand the true value of life. Thank you Dr. K.
Visited a moksha temple on my trip to Nepal.. absolute peace
you say peace, but the irony is it can be that way due to the suffering of other people.
@@JohnSmith-fo5cx lay off the shrooms bro.. drugs are bad
@@senpailucy22 just using logic and reasoning. Meditate on it...youll understand why....probably.
You are the happiness you seek. ⚪️
🙏 Namaskar 🧘♂️
Here’s the way I think about the relationship between the future and suffering:
Pretend for a second that you’re, for some reason, incapable of conceiving of anything but the present. Suffering is essentially a dissatisfaction with the present, and requires that you’re able to conceive of circumstances other than what you’re experiencing. But, if you couldn’t conceive of anything but the present, you couldn’t conceive of better circumstances. Therefore you wouldn’t be able to suffer. You’d automatically accept the present in its entirety.
That’s why achieving one pointedness of the mind leads to happiness. Suffering is just literally impossible in that state.
It doesn't work like that, at least not across the whole board. We have natural needs. Those not being met causes immediate suffering that doesn't require conceptualisation. The easiest example for this is pain caused by injuries or sickness, or hunger. You know without even thinking about the future that your present state must change.
Your idea comes into play only when the basic needs are more or less covered. When you are thinking about life in terms of more, better, improvement. But once you slip below a baseline, you'll feel that your life is shit, right then and there, and not because you'd rather have a nice car instead of a bicycle.
@@Volkbrecht That’s not true, even when I feel sick or am lacking in food you can still have such a one pointed focus that I can ignore those negative feelings. I haven’t mastered it but I’ve had moments where things were going to sh*t and I was still able to shift my focus on what’s in the moment and even on positive perspectives. It’s very difficult and takes years of practice but I believe it’s possible to be blissful and happy even on the verge of death if you have mastered your ability to focus.
@@Volkbrecht I think you are confusing pain with suffering, you can be in pain but that doesn't necessarily cause suffering
Improvement is also impossible. If you can't be dissatisfied with your circumstances, you can't make them better.
@@baronvonkek8467 Improvement requires comparison and the abstract concepts of "good" and "bad, or "better" or "worse"
There is a good quote I love from Jim kwik. There is no good or bad memory, only an untrained mind
8:03 i always love the cut from the put together smiling Dr K in the ad read then hairs a mess button down not happy Dr K
I've had similar thoughts just last evening.
I like things to be easy and i prefer to make it easy for myself.
Meaning:
Stopping to think and just doing or not doing it without further thought.
It feels very liberating and relaxing.
Because i am constantly overthinking. It's my second oxygen. And it's hell. Always has been.
The BIGGEST LIE You've Been Told About Money is that it doesn't grow on TREES!! 😆
I agree with you!! Money actually grow on trees but only on trees that was planted by you!! These tress are referred to as investments. How you diversify your investment portfolio matters
Diversification is the key. My portfolio is well diversified with the help of a financial adviser. This helps me make more than +400% monthly on my investments.
I'm intrigued by this. I've searched for financial advisers online but it's kind of hard to get in touch with one. Okay if I ask you for a recommendation?
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Angela Lynn Schilling” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
Wow, her track record looks really good from what I found online. I'll take a chance and see how it goes. Thanks for the info
Rupert Spira has the most sophisticated understanding of enlightenment, god, happiness and life in general that i have ever witnessed. For anyone who really wants to know more about these matters, i can only recommend to watch an introductory video on his channel or website.
Spoiler: All the things listed above are actually one and the same.....
Last time I got enlightened I ate 10 mcdoubles fell asleep and got kicked outt of mcdonalds
Sounds like a good time actually
After ten mcdoubles you're definitely the opposite of enLIGHTENED. 😂
My friend you got mclightened.
Sounds like a regular Tuesday
@@diecar128 ohhhhhhhh
Anticipation of a pleasurable event leads to a surge of dopamine, creating a feeling of excitement and motivation. This contradicts the notion he mentioned that we cannot experience future pleasure. We can, but is not as potent as cortisol release, the anticipation of pain
"before enlightenment: chop wood and carry water
after enlightenment: chop wood and carry water"
Staying happy always is from the Self because we are that happiness and we just forgot that we are eternally at peace because we are eternal life itself
As a recovering alcoholic and poly addict who’s been practicing Buddhism for the past year or so this really resonated with me.
I like your name
понимаю
What do you mean by poly addict?
@@vodkacannon not exclusively addicted to one substance.
18:50 that's possibly the best analogy of social anxiety I've ever heard.
I don't really need this advice anymore, because I have pulled myself out of a pit of despair. However, the eloquence of which you explain things I have realized but don't have words for, is remarkable. If you are a lost, depressed person, listen to this man
Mindfulness is a great tool for everyone, depressed or otherwise. I've never been depressed in my life, but taking up a journey in mindfulness has still been the most powerful thing in my life
Mate have you realised?
No?
@@brovoker34 he’s different bro it’s like he’s saying what I’m thinking
Did you do it without the therapist or meds. I think I can pull myself up but then I start doubting myself. It's an vicious cycle.
Yes!!! I send his videos to everyone because apparently when I tell people that the reason I am how I am is because I am genuinely happy being myself.
It’s a recipe of
Being grateful to be alive. Being thankful of your existence.
Knowing yourself. Acknowledging your bad and working to improve it without letting it define you.
Embracing change in all forms
Being open
Get in touch with your body and your emotions.
A positive attitude goes along way. Manifestation, fake it till you make it. It works.
Sure I am not happy 24/7 but I am never unhappy to be alive. I may be temporarily sad but FUCK I AM FUCKING ALIVE and it feels so incredible every time.
To me it seems very obvious to fix your outlook to make yourself happier, but to most people I try and share this with when they are unhappy, they refused it and tell me that they are so sure they know what's best while not really getting any positive results.
For those who want to get more information on "Enlightment", you must read Autobiography of a Yogi by Paramahansa Yogananda. He has explained all his experiences and was in a state of perennial bliss (sustained joy).
Looking forward to hearing what you have to say. I had minor brain damage as a baby (teen parents?) and was drugs by 5 that sent me into the Void. At the same time I had a Healer Grandmother who taught me how to use my mind to heal. Then in 80' I ran into Larry who was extremely telepathic so I had to learn to completely shut down my brain so he couldn't invade my thoughts. I'm 72 now and guess how my world goes... LOL
Yeeeee this is the kind of video I was waiting for
That's why i love the symbolism of the Nandi; one pointed focus. ✨️🕉✨️
I cant imagine how important this channel is to the evolution of modern society
getting in shape absolutely will make someone happier but otherwise good point
Wow, the last time i was this early to something someone had to cut my umbilical. Thanks for posting, this is my favorite subject :)
I highly doubt you will see this Dr. K but you should really check out Todd Murphy’s research on enlightenment in the brain it is INCREDIBLE. Thank you for the video.
I had an NDE 6 years ago, and it DEFINITELY changed the way I think and behave.
I used to be suicidal... was for about 23 years....
I would look for the things to be unhappy about, because when things were going good, I would always be anxious that it was all about to fall apart.
Since the NDE, I'm more often happy than not. I seek to help others attain it... I'm generally a LOT less selfish.
@@s0cializedpsych0path do you mind telling what the experience was like?
Great summary of some of the most important things this channel has taught me.
Used to suffer for years from depression and anxiety on a constant basis, and so many different "goals" or solutions I was given or set for myself failed to make me happy. In the end, simply through learning this stuff and practicing it through meditation, therapy, self-inquiry and journaling - Life ended up becoming infinitely more enjoyable and less stressful, without anything external changing at first.
Until it becomes common consensus that our internal wiring affects our happiness and suffering more than our circumstance (Beyond the baseline of survival and security), and that we CAN change the internal in so many different ways - the mental health epidemic will continue.
Do you have any general advice? What impacted you the most?
Have you become goal-less? Because I have. And absolutely nothing interests me anymore. Maybe it’s just a phase but I can’t be bothered to invest any energy into anything.
@@KK-sg5glthats just apathy and giving up, its not a good thing.
@@kymbbmI’ve heard some non duality speakers mention it, but not enough to cure my doubts of what you’re saying.
Dr. K doesn’t seem like he’s in a “no self” state. So I’m not sure if he’d know what I’m referencing.
Has your self dropped away?
@@peeteri95
*What impacted the most, In order:*
0. Purpose / Values Inquiries - For me, the biggest hurdle to overcome after over a decade of misery was Self-hatred and apathy. Very difficult to even want to try to change things when you're your worst enemy... But too bad, we're stuck with us for life!
What helped motivate me a bit was Dr. K's journaling prompts for "Dharma / Duty", what and who I truly valued and had a Duty to get better for, even if I didn't feel that Duty towards myself at first.
As well as basic stuff like Action-oriented thinking rather than Results-oriented. Gotta realize that the mind is wired to self-sabotage, and figure out ways to circumvent that.
1. Journaling - every single thing that lead to suffering, no longer letting it just be in my head. Every "problem" I've had with myself and my life (Even without fixing most of them, ended up becoming way happier in life), every issue, every repeating emotion, putting it to the page, exploring it. Take it out of the black box and see how much gets hidden by the top-layers and the avoidance.
2. Meditation - Both sitting with that discomfort and emotion that surfaces and isn't as suppressed by distraction as it used to be anymore, but also sitting in PEACE, disentangling from it at times, finding ways to relax from it instead of always pushing and pulling on it. Not reacting as much.
Takes a lot of practice, Dr. K's scientifically validated "20 minutes a day for 8 weeks" was a challenge for me at first, but after a few months of having that be my main "goal", started getting close and noticing improvement.
3. Research - Had to stop pretending I know how emotions and thoughts work best anymore, despite being over 20 years old!
Or that I was a special snowflake who discovered "true, unsolvable misery" and all the other 8 billion people (or 100 billion throughout history) are wrong or lucky. Started researching my issues more thoroughly, seeing different approaches to anxiety, depression, shame, etc online. So much is available, so much to consider and try to apply. Philosophy (Stoicism, Buddhism, Sartre, whatever interests you), Psychology, Neurology, etc.
Dr. K content and suggestions helped a lot. Claire Weekes was a very eye-opening perspective on Anxiety for me.
4. Therapy / Coaching - Then, started bringing up all the shit I wrote with a professional. Didn't find the perfect fit instantly, but eventually found someone I can "use" - the therapist itself doesn't matter as much as how willing you are to engage, IMO. Every session where we dug deep enough to bring up intense, stuck emotions, felt so rewarding, so relieving afterwards, even when we didn't find "the solution". Simply sitting with it, knowing that's okay. Sometimes we DID find actionable steps that helped, started exercising more and finding ways to enjoy nature.
By this point, a year after starting, life was pretty relaxed and enjoyable despite not having made many big changes. Kept getting better though!
I don't know what path or support works perfectly (or even just well enough) for you, but I hope you keep looking and trying. It's worth it, it's doable.
Haha, what a great video man. You surely were one with the presence when making this, even the Indian spirit came out of you in the end 😂! Jokes aside, you explained it brilliantly, all yogis would be proud. After having lived the choiceless path of meditation for over 12 years, it’s become part of me and I no longer meditate. I am one with all things and all things are one with me. Being is beautiful. And consciousness is the forever unfolding wonder that is registering sense perception. Infinite bodies to register sense perception from, yet always a wonder when one wakes up and knows it is I, who registers it all. I as life, that is, not al of Norway.
So no levitating? D:
Haha nice
😂
I am levitating right now
I mean, why not? Try and find out :D
If anyone does know how, please let me know.
One thing I keep in mind at all times is that I have to observe and consciously respond to situations instead of reacting because reacting to things/people/needs is making us to be enslaved to the circumstances and that I avoid. "You are not the body, not even the mind" - Sadhguru. So let yourself to become what you want.🙂
22:05 fucking sent me dude, audibly laughed lmao
Same here, this whole video is priceless
That was SAVAGE lmao
He’s got a point tho, I was depressed before it was an option and I’m still depressed with it as an option, gotta cultivate the gardens of the mind before we get to that next stage of our life that we’re trying to get to
Same lol
A segment from 'Saved by the Light of the Buddha Within'...
My new understandings of what many call 'God -The Holy Spirit' - resulting from some of the extraordinary ongoing after-effects relating to my NDE...
Myoho-Renge-Kyo (Lotus Sutra) represents the identity of what some scientists are now referring to as the unified field of consciousnesses. In other words, it’s the essence of all existence and non-existence - the ultimate creative force behind planets, stars, nebulae, people, animals, trees, fish, birds, and all phenomena, manifest or latent. All matter and intelligence are simply waves or ripples manifesting to and from this core source. Consciousness (enlightenment) is itself the actual creator of everything that exists now, ever existed in the past, or will exist in the future - right down to the minutest particles of dust - each being an individual ripple or wave.
The big difference between chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo and most other conventional prayers is that instead of depending on a ‘middleman’ to connect us to our state of inner enlightenment, we’re able to do it ourselves. That’s because chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo allows us to tap directly into our enlightened state by way of this self-produced sound vibration. ‘Who or What Is God?’ If we compare the concept of God being a separate entity that is forever watching down on us, to the teachings of Nichiren, it makes more sense to me that the true omnipotence, omniscience and omnipresence of what most people perceive to be God, is the fantastic state of enlightenment that exists within each of us. Some say that God is an entity that’s beyond physical matter - I think that the vast amount of information continuously being conveyed via electromagnetic waves in today’s world gives us proof of how an invisible state of God could indeed exist.
For example, it’s now widely known that specific data relayed by way of electromagnetic waves has the potential to help bring about extraordinary and powerful effects - including an instant global awareness of something or a mass emotional reaction. It’s also common knowledge that these invisible waves can easily be used to detonate a bomb or to enable NASA to control the movements of a robot as far away as the Moon or Mars - none of which is possible without a receiver to decode the information that’s being transmitted. Without the receiver, the data would remain impotent. In a very similar way, we need to have our own ‘receiver’ switched on so that we can activate a clear and precise understanding of our own life, all other life and what everything else in existence is.
Chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo each day helps us to achieve this because it allows us to reach the core of our enlightenment and keep it switched on. That’s because Myoho-Renge-Kyo represents the identity of what scientists now refer to as the unified field of consciousnesses. To break it down - Myoho represents the Law of manifestation and latency (Nature) and consists of two alternating states. For example, the state of Myo is where everything in life that’s not obvious to us exists - including our stored memories when we’re not thinking about them - our hidden potential and inner emotions whenever they’re dormant - our desires, our fears, our wisdom, happiness, karma - and more importantly, our enlightenment.
The other state, ho, is where everything in Life exists whenever it becomes evident to us, such as when a thought pops up from within our memory - whenever we experience or express our emotions - or whenever a good or bad cause manifests as an effect from our karma. When anything becomes apparent, it merely means that it’s come out of the state of Myo (dormancy/latency) and into a state of ho (manifestation). It’s the difference between consciousness and unconsciousness, being awake or asleep, or knowing and not knowing.
The second law - Renge - Ren meaning cause and ge meaning effect, governs and controls the functions of Myoho - these two laws of Myoho and Renge, not only function together simultaneously but also underlies all spiritual and physical existence.
The final and third part of the tri-combination - Kyo, is the Law that allows Myoho to integrate with Renge - or vice versa. It’s the great, invisible thread of energy that fuses and connects all Life and matter - as well as the past, present and future. It’s also sometimes termed the Universal Law of Communication - perhaps it could even be compared with the string theory that many scientists now suspect exists.
Just as the cells in our body, our thoughts, feelings and everything else is continually fluctuating within us - all that exists in the world around us and beyond is also in a constant state of flux - constantly controlled by these three fundamental laws. In fact, more things are going back and forth between the two states of Myo and ho in a single moment than it would ever be possible to calculate or describe. And it doesn’t matter how big or small, famous or trivial anything or anyone may appear to be, everything that’s ever existed in the past, exists now or will exist in the future, exists only because of the workings of the Laws ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’ - the basis of the four fundamental forces, and if they didn’t function, neither we nor anything else could go on existing. That’s because all forms of existence, including the seasons, day, night, birth, death and so on, are moving forward in an ongoing flow of continuation - rhythmically reverting back and forth between the two fundamental states of Myo and ho in absolute accordance with Renge - and by way of Kyo. Even stars are dying and being reborn under the workings of what the combination ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’ represents. Nam, or Namu - which mean the same thing, are vibrational passwords or keys that allow us to reach deep into our life and fuse with or become one with ‘Myoho-Renge-Kyo’.
On a more personal level, nothing ever happens by chance or coincidence, it’s the causes that we’ve made in our past, or are presently making, that determine how these laws function uniquely in each of our lives - as well as the environment from moment to moment. By facing east, in harmony with the direction that the Earth is spinning, and chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo for a minimum of, let’s say, ten minutes daily to start with, any of us can experience actual proof of its positive effects in our lives - even if it only makes us feel good on the inside, there will be a definite positive effect. That’s because we’re able to pierce through the thickest layers of our karma and activate our inherent Buddha Nature (our enlightened state). By so doing, we’re then able to bring forth the wisdom and good fortune that we need to challenge, overcome and change our adverse circumstances - turn them into positive ones - or manifest and gain even greater fulfilment in our daily lives from our accumulated good karma. This also allows us to bring forth the wisdom that can free us from the ignorance and stupidity that’s preventing us from accepting and being proud of the person that we indeed are - regardless of our race, colour, gender or sexuality. We’re also able to see and understand our circumstances and the environment far more clearly, as well as attract and connect with any needed external beneficial forces and situations. As I’ve already mentioned, everything is subject to the law of Cause and Effect - the ‘actual-proof-strength’ resulting from chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo always depends on our determination, sincerity and dedication.
For example, the levels of difference could be compared to making a sound on a piano, creating a melody, producing a great song, and so on. Something else that’s very important to always respect and acknowledge is that the Law (or if you prefer God) is in everyone and everything.
NB: There are frightening and disturbing sounds, and there are tranquil and relaxing sounds. It’s the emotional result of any noise or sound that can trigger off a mood or even instantly change one. When chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo each day, we are producing a sound vibration that’s the password to our true inner-self - this soon becomes apparent when you start reassessing your views on various things - such as your fears and desires etc. The best way to get the desired result when chanting is not to view things conventionally - rather than reaching out to an external source, we need to reach into our own lives and bring our needs and desires to fruition from within - including the good fortune and strength to achieve any help that we may need. Chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo also reaches out externally and draws us towards, or draws towards us, what we need to make us happy from our environment. For example, it helps us to be in the right place at the right time - to make better choices and decisions and so forth. We need to think of it as a seed within us that we’re watering and bringing sunshine to for it to grow, blossom and bring forth fruit or flowers. It’s also important to understand that everything we need in life, including the answer to every question and the potential to achieve every dream, already exists within us.
I still don't understand why so little people practice meditation. The world is so chaotic, yet the solution is so simple. I mean sure, without desire there would be no progress, no inventions, no development. Progress happens because humans aren't satisfied with what they have right now and want more. So I don't think that leaving your family, becoming enlightened and just simply enjoying the blissful experience is the most optimal solution for every human out there, but I think that every human would be a lot happier if he wasn't dependent on external events, and even if things didn't go according to plan, he would accept it, because there was no other way, that's what happened and that is *the way*. No ruminating over what could be, or what can be, but simply appreciating what *is*. That doesn't mean everyone should just drop everything and be happy doing nothing, but do the work, and not get lost in one's mind entering the cycle of suffering.
very very well put!! Thanks a lot!!
Hey Doc, you should interview Jamie from Casually Explained. He experienced self-realization, so this TH-cam crossover will be fire! He explains all the mechanics of "enlightenment" in a very logical, secular way.
Thanks! Going to think about these things while I try to adjust to my recent move
Dr. K changing the world one TH-cam video at a time
I had time so i watch a twitch vod of his, and it connected points that ive ignored in myself. A lot to think about
In one of the episodes of the Your Undivided Attention podcast, Tristian Harris said that there is a lab run by a casino where major tech companies study neuroeconomics and behavioral science and apply it to influence user behavior.
The two track mind is really on point for me. Often when im talking with people theres a second voice judging the conversation because it feels it needs to go perfect but in the end it makes me come off as weird. When i let go of the expectations is when i make real connections.
Best video so far! Thanks Dr. k
Not only am I extremely early on watching this episode but it speaks directly to me and what I've been going through. Thank you for your insight Dr. K
I have heard these conclusions about dopamine chasing, ego, mindfulness, flow, living in the present... so many times in the past. And it all makes perfect sense.
I have just one question: HOW?
One of the hardest lessons I've learned is what you speak on in regards to self perception.
I fixed all problems. I was 550+ lbs. Depressed. Binge eating disorder. Weed abuse. No job. No degree.
In the last three years I've lost all that weight. I got a job. I'm in my last year of a CS degree. Survived a breakup and have a new girlfriend.
But I was still miserable. I thought losing all the weight would fix me. I felt like it was causing me all this pain. And then I finally lost it all and I was kinda whatever about it. I had just moved on to judging myself about the next thing.
Dr k is out there communicating the solution to human life for free.
Enlightenment makes a sagittal section of your brain and turns it yellow
Yeah, I noticed that too. Not sure I want yellow brainitis.
Whaat?
A piece of advice I saw for happiness is to plan stuff to look forward to in the future
As the anticipation and excitement of something good happening is almost as good as loving it. How can that be if you can’t experience future pleasure but only future pain
I recently got into a practice of mantra, to help train my mind to single pointedness!
Just repeating "i am" for at least 10 mins a day helps immensely with my overall happiness and calm, leaving me with a sense of mental spaciousness.
Also, I'm not sure I would consider this enlightenment, I would consider these methods some of the necessary mental tools to start awakening, which will ultimately lead to enlightenment.
You might get more out of it by adding "That" (I Am That), and gently putting your attention on the mantra when thoughts crowd your mind, instead of rapid repetition. The prize lies in getting what That is.
@@kenjones102 the goal of repeating "I am" as a mantra is not to focus on getting anything at all, but returning to the ground of being the 'i am-ness' that is underneath all thought.
@@Kylie-wc4gx Well, I suppose that's one way of resting in awareness.
3rd video of watching you mate and kinda makes sense for myself in the sense of the the point system you explained at the beginning. Thinking to myself that possibly why I moved around so much cause it gave me that hit.
I cannot be enlightened if I take stimulants everyday.
i feel like at my most enlgithened when ive done a good day of work + workout + chores, ultimamte paece in the following present moment
Dear Alok! I really can‘t thank you enough for your passionate work, your warmhearted charm and your healthy and inspiring sense of humor! As a diamondway buddhist practitioner with a history of polytoxic substance abuse since i was 11 years old, combined with Videogame-addiction, and now 18 Years of Experience in (buddhist) meditation and a recently diagnosed ADHD in my 40‘s, i can‘t tell you how much value, insights and encouragement i receive through your content and you as a person and example!
I consider you a true Boddhisattva and a friend on the way although we’ve never met in Person. May you live a healthy and enjoyable life for as long as possible and benfit as many beeings by enabling them to understand and work with their minds! Thank you from the depth of my heart!🙏🏻 Om ma ni pe me hung
19:22 I totally have a two track mind but I believe that the one track isn't always necessarily bad. It definitely is the where the anxiety can come from, I am not arguing that. But I think sometimes it is helpful to have one brain focused on a physical task and another brain focused on other things at the same time
It's not for me to claim that I reached enlightenment, but I think I did. But it costed me severe suffering before reaching that.
Yes doc is right. Permanent happiness does not mean all the time. It's a sense of "contentment" or "fulfillment" without even achieving anything - without even doing anything.
it's not enlightenment if there's doubt. Check out the channel Simply Always Awake or Frank Yang
Amazing. Your work moves me in the best direction.
I suffered with chronic anxiety attacks, OCD, depersonalization and depression on and off in my life. I slipped into a five year non stop fight or flight coupled with OCD, depersonalization. I started meditating and now I don’t have any of that but I also lost excitement in life which is weird as hell. I don’t feel depressed I just feel like sitting by a river all day alone
What is more important happiness or money? Meditate on it.
@@JagdeepSandhuSJC I definitely don’t care about money or material things but thanks for the response
What about excitement? I can be excited about something in the future and I will feel the happiness of this excitement right now.
I have a case of mild mental disability and it happened that I had some bad experiences and went into psychotic episode. During one of them, something clicked and during like 2 days I started thinking differently. The ecstasy of realising you just are is something irreplaceable and actually got me interested into Buddhism and Doctor K channel.
Type shit
Don't chase your psychosis. Please, be safe.
@@Jack-fw7wdnah cuz what do these dudes be talking about fr ☠️😭
@@themudpit621 do not worry, it just appears when I am stressed out of my mind. I didn't have one since then
I did experience that. As I looked at reality I was the only one there. The people all around me were not aware at what seemed to be a distance, But I was aware that I am somewhere no one else is.
Also, I'm not sure I fully agree on not being able to experience happiness from imagining the future, I get giggly and happy when I make something for my friends and imagine their reactions to it - their reaction isn't here in the present, it doesn't exist in the reality, it might not exist when I get to that point in time, but the happy feeling is here right now.
Occasionally my entire body would warm up just from me thinking about meeting people I like in the future and the things we could do together.
Can’t wait to laugh when I’m enlightened
If you try to chase enlightenment, you will never get it. Instead, look to the present.
watch a funny movie?
Yeah man. People who get's enlightenment usually laughs because they see suffering as a joke
THIS WAS INTERESTING, thank you :D
Sometimes I do feel pleasure thinking about the future, like when I'm thinking about ending my studying and having some free time
I think that has to do more so with anticipation, as Dr. K described
Now we're developing the ability to do something with this knowledge by altering the brain's function with great specificity, using focused ultrasound as a non-invasive technology. It is being researched for many conditions, including OCD, depression, anxiety, addiction, Parkinson's, essential tremor etc., with extraordinary results.
At the University of Arizona, research is also proceeding on how to use focused ultrasound to rapidly accelerate the process of attaining enlightenment, which otherwise generally takes decades of seriously hardcore meditation practice. One 50-year meditator who had focused ultrasound on his basal ganglia said that it produced "the deepest state of mental quiet I have ever experienced".
If we can deliver enlightenment to the masses in the next few generations, it may be what saves our asses as a species.
21:21 War, the card game is the most fun card game in my opinion, it actually keeps me in the present moment. It's fun, idk how you think it's boring lol
Dude downloaded thousands of years of monastic wisdom on us in a few minutes and threw in some enthusiastic butt clenchers .😂
Man i read that as entitlement and thought we were gonna get some hard hitting facts for all the influences, maybe in an upcoming video.
5:29 Outer Wilds is in a heartbeat THE game I'd want to experience again for the first time, I'll recommend it for any gamer enjoying meaningfull for the playthrough logic puzzles and learning story through experiences - best played with minimal to no spoilers for planets included!
Doc with another great video and as always whit topic that is relevant and interesting; shout to Dr K Team!
Its so frustrating, as a kid you learn that the more you can change from living in the present to the future the better, you can create long term plans and ultimately have a better life, in essence, you get called a good boy every time you show that you can do that.
Then as an adult suddently youre meant to be in the present, and all that trained forward thinking is suddently a flaw that causes shame instead of pride
22:05 - You don't gotta call me out like that
At 15:40 I played along but I didn't experience the pain. I would have chosen the 50% chance because the risk gets me excited and losing it all would be comical in a way. I'm sitting here pondering what this could even mean... I'm a business owner and I always feel like I've "gambled" my life away in choices that I've made relocating, changing careers, and trying to get better jobs without a regard that it would "work out". I have no net to fall on, and even still it never felt like I was daunted...
Im going on a meditation retreat in Nepal for 2 months. Do you have any tips for me?
Very useful info! Today I discovered something new about psychology
I used to be enlightened but I lost it... It's so easy to lose but so difficult to aquire. I should have appreciated it more. Now trying to get it back
Watch Matt Kahn...
As the buddha said, all fabrications fail and fade so practice diligently to achieve enlightenment. If you truly achieved it, you are on the path of awakening within 7 lifetimes, guaranteed. If you've actually achieved stream entry and thrown off the first 3 fetters, you can get it back. If you haven't, well, you should still endeavor to do so.
I'm on a similar path right now. I wish you all the luck there is in your journey bro. Don't forget a saying by many enlightened people of the past: The harder you try, the harder to attain. And the less you try, the less you attain. ❤
why don't you just enjoy life as it is and stop wasting time messing with yourself and inducing psychosis?
All these "wise" people trying to sell us permanent happiness think we're morons. Ain't nothing permanent.
Is the highest ideal happiness though? Like pain exists for a reason. Becoming enlightened like one of those monks is great for the monks, but not for anyone else. Like happiness becomes its own paperclip maximiser in that sense.
Extremely helpful as always Dr. K. I have autism and anxiety, but I no longer have dysthymia and I am on a path to awakening, I hope. It's certainly not for everyone, but Lucy saved my life and shut down my default mode network for the first time in my life. A true ego death. I've found Buddhism to be the most comprehensive philosophy and psychological model to explain that intuitive awareness and disattachment to any identity "I" felt that day. My goal is to overcome my addictions, keep meditating, and taking up the monastic life when I can sustain a constant practice. Jhana is the key! May all sentient beings achieve liberation, and may all my fellow autists get some ketamine infusions :)
I was wondering if someone can help me with a little dilemma I have. So I agree with everything in this video and have personal experience with these things being true. I noticed a big one I’m lacking is living in the present moment and constantly thinking about the future or past. But I was wondering if there is a way to train my mind to still think about the future when necessary while also staying grounded majority of the time. How do I know when one is more beneficial than the other without constantly ruminating?
I needed this reminder. Going back to review your analysis paralysis video 👍
I'm glad that we can all think together and share ❤
For the last 2 years what ive been chasing is not suffering fron 24 7 widespread pain, neurological symptoms and fatigue. Pretty sure that would make me pretty happy.
Knowing youll never have a pain free moment again kinda destroys you
This two-track mind shit is the realest thing I've heard in a long time. Like, you wanna tell me that people DON'T constantly analyze every detail of every moment while talking to others? Sometimes it happens, sure, but it might as well never. You know how Telltale games have those dialogues you have to pick? That's how I often feel when talking to someone. Like, I can imagine those dialogue options, pretty much. And then I take a note of a person's reaction. Not subconsciously, it's quite literally like a narrator in my head. And then, obviously, I have to think about that conversation for the next hour.
And that anxiety part, ooh baby. Yeah man, I can create infinite universes, and seemingly none of them have a positive outcome. "If I can't pass this test, I'll have to retake, it'll make me feel like an idiot, everybody will know, I won't then get a chance to apply to this other thing on time so I'll have to do something else, but I don't know what and even if I find something, how will I know it won't suck" and so on and so forth.
Also, the "be in the present because you can't afford to think about the future" bit got me. I play fighting games a lot and oftentimes the reason I give is literally "because there's no time for me to think." Things are happening lightning fast, this ain't no chess. Like yeah, I react and have a gameplan, but my great strategy doesn't go further than like, three seconds. And while it doesn't necessarily make me happy per se all the time (like, it's hard to feel happy when I got my ass kicked 7th set in a row, but that's a different issue), I am definitely in the moment. And while I might be sad because I suck at the game, I'm not sad because of everything else. And that's a net positive, for sure.
...until that spills over and my mind goes "well if i can't even win at a video game, what the fuck can i do bro, what's the point"
so i just have to quit before that happens and we good
I’m like that 24/7
If you're thinking like that about your next response to someone you're talking to, and taking notes of how they are reacting every time, isn't your conversation happening noticeably slow?
@@EyeOfTheTiger777 That's not really how that works. Not in a literal sense. Granted, I also didn't describe it the best.
It's hard to explain, it's more like "if you know you know" type thing.
Dr. K please teach us tummo meditation for depression
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I never thought enlightenment was permanent, it seems to be something you can get to once in a while
I, as someone who is the personification of a random ass dude in the internet, can say, enlightenment is permanent because it is not an emotion. It is rather the absence of the weird ass bad shit your brain does 😂 also I think the description of "permanent happiness" is kinda misleading, because, as I said, it is NOT an emotion. It is more like enjoying existing or something, it's kinda weird to explain 😂
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If I remember well, an explanation that I liked about the permanence of enlightment is that it is a way of seeing the world and yourself, that once you can see it you can't unsee afterwards. Another analogy is that losing enlightment would be like forgetting how to walk or how to speak your native language. The enlightment would not be a state of mind in this sense, but how you will relate with the states of mind you will have afterwards.
It’s growing and always evolving
Nah... that would defeat the purpose. The rock inside which no external wind or waves can stir... that's enlightenment. If it can be stirred and we can go back into our petty and shitty lives, then it is meaningless. It's as meaningful as playing League of Legends
I've experienced joy in the future through my faith in God.
"You can't think of something pleasurable in the future and get a kick of dopamine."
My 13 year old past self running home from school ready to turn on their Xbox would like to object.
yeah that part of the video seemed off.....
That’s the craving for the pleasure that the Xbox games would give, not pleasure. You were super hungry to play so u ran home, there’s no pleasure there.
@@cypider2274it's like saying the hunger for your fave food is the same as eating it
You don’t get dopamine from thinking about it, it sounds pleasurable but actually feeling the dopamine won’t come until you actually turn on the console and play the game.
@@prismatic1239in germany we have the saying that "vorfreude"/excitement is the biggest "freude"/fun xD
well it just seem that it´s impossible is not true. it rather depends on how much you can go into your imagination to feel it.
for example if you dream there is no problem to feel pleasure from imagination but i gess thats a bit diffrent.
maybe we are taking more about satisfaction than pure pleasure here.
and don´t get me wrong here i agree more with what the video sayed then not.
but impossible ? i doubt that
Enlightenment is the removal of self inflicted burden. It is not a constant state of happiness. The experience itself is ineffable, you can't just go by how they look. It must be experienced by the self.
Neo Advaita or "the satsang movement" offers something called the invitation which is a guided meditation that reveals the self. Once found, one can spend time in it to remove their self inflicted burden.
Originally this was found through meditation but the exercise that has been developed is much more direct.